I love this cross. It can work for a male or female. It is substancial but not so heavy that you notice its on (3/4"x1 3/8"). I never take it off even shower in it and it looks like new. The chain that comes with it is nice but maybe to dainty for a guy. I wore it for several months and chain broke, now i have it on a box link. I have worn it for a year now and get compliments on it all the time.