I got these for my pole dancing class and was told you want it to feel tight because it'll help with climbing and other tricks. You want your toes to come to the front and create "stripper toes" (when your toes are sticking out in the front - not pretty). The plastic around your feel will also stretch over time, because the heat from your feet/toes helps stretch it so it doesn't hurt later on.

It looks really pretty and yes they look like stripper shoes but they look pretty on dancing. I got used to the feeling of these shoes on my feet.

Don't wear them when you're learning to pole dance, especially doing inverts... They are heavy so you want to get use to flipping yourself over before adding the shoes.