The protective order is very specific in as far as what the abuser can and canât do. 1  The abuser can be ordered not to have any contact with you, in person or by phone, at home, work, or almost anywhere you ask the court to put in the order. The order against contact may also protect other people in your family. The court can order the abuser to leave the house or apartment that you and the abuser share; even if it is in the abuser's name. Except in unusual situations, the court will grant you custody of your minor children.