5. Playing volleyball gave Gabrielle a way to channel her energy and attention. She says being in a team is incredibly helpful and her teams became like her family or 'tribe'. What do you feel when you are with others, on a team or in another group activity? 6. Through her experience, Gabrielle advises that it is important to take a proactive stance, meaning when youâre ready, to talk about what youâre going through and how you can find ways to feel better. How did you know you were ready to talk to others about the death in your family? Describe who you talked to and how you felt at that time. 7. Gabrielle encourages people to âfeel whatever you want to feel.â What does that mean to you? 8. Gabrielle said that living through such a loss makes you stronger.