+1 April hit the nail on the head. Go out and get your woman.     You are letting yourself fall into the familiar trap of thinking that somehow being racially aware is something odd or unreasonable. Honestly I think that unless you act like a foaming at the mouth madman, any normal woman wont be bothered by your beliefs unless she is already an antiracist liberal freak.  Most women could care less about politics and they just want to be treated well and have a nice home and family. Just dont make the mistake of going so hard core on her that you scare her away, teach her and lead her along gently and if she doesnt want to become an activist but still loves you and is a good partner, that should be enough.  Remember what Ed STeele says, Dare to be normal, there is nothing wrong with us or the way we think. Dont let anyone tell you any different.