I'm pretty sure it was because I called my own step-daughters bastards, yet they are technically bastards and that was the whole point on my post. My husband learned how kids can be hurt if they are not born into commited relationships and that is the foundation of our marriage...giving our children the best.     I was banned (pretty darn certain) by someone who is now expecting a child with someone who is not their spouse so I'm sure that ruffled some feathers. Honestly, I used the word by its definition. Even my own brother is a bastard...and if my parents weren't married, I too would be one.     The same as if I got paid to have sex, I would be a whore....no matter how insulting the word is, a fact is a fact. Most of the people who either do not have children yet or have them within marriage agreed with me. When I refered to other people's kids, I said illigitimate. (Unless it was a long time ago and I of course shouldn't be banned for something a long time ago.)    Besides that, if it was anything else from my opinionated (extremely, I admit) posts about marriage then I don't mind the ban. This is just how I feel about marriage and having a family.    Thanks.  Jessi    16