Concentrate on your studies, continue to pursue your interests and realize that many quality white women do not want/need their bf/husband's 'setting rules/guidelines' for them or 'controlling' them. Not wanting those things does not mean there is something wrong with them. THIS is exactly the problem. EXACTLY the wrong attitude! The reason birth rates are so low is because so many women are trying to start careers, they don't have time to be a mom.    The problem is, who's going to raise the kids? Think about it, for proper brain development, a child must be breast fed for at least a year, or maybe even longer. Then they must be constantly looked after, mothered, supported...etc. Raising a child properly is a full time job, that takes at least 5 or 6 years. Even after that it's a part time job, because the school only takes them for 6 hours a day. And do you really want to leave your 6 year old at home alone for hours at a time? I don't think so.    Offloading the responsibility on men is not the answer. Men aren't equipped with the right emotional responses to properly react to a child's needs. They don't have the right hormones pumping through their veins. There's a reason why women are so affected by cuteness, it's because they're natures caregivers. There's something special and irreplaceable about mom, dad can't fill that void.    And shoving the job onto a nanny isn't correct either. Because a nanny is just another woman, one without the same deep emotional bond with the child that the mother has. You want a child that grows up aloof and distant and depressed? Go for a nanny.    --------------------------------------    It hurts me to see women pursuing engineering, physics, management...etc. These are full time, high demanding careers. If you major these, you'll never have time to be a mom.     I'm not sure if you're into the religious argument, but think about it this way: God made men for a reason. They are there to struggle and work and bring home the bacon. They are there to defend and protect and provide. This is why they are here on this Earth. Let them be men for you.     There's no need to try to prove something, that women can do just as good. This isn't a contest. Let men do what they do best, let them be men. There's no reason to try to outdo them and show them up, and make them feel inferior to the almighty womyn. Just let them be what they've always dreamed of being: a father with a devoted wife and a bundle of happy kids.     When men don't work, they feel depressed. They feel hopeless, they feel empty. Likewise, career women feel depressed, beaten down, and regretful. It's because neither is doing what they were BORN to do. Why must things be like this? Why can't we have normal, traditional families, the way it's been for millions of years?