  While it is true that lots of non white males are seeking white women, and our culture rewards that with the term tolerance, I have to be honest - a lot of young white men just aren't aggressive enough or knowledgeable when it comes to how to catch a woman. I am not pointing fingers at anyone, I don't know most of you, but looking at young men today and young men when I was young, lots of young men today do not have a clue. They are still too tied up in their video games and such. It seems that for many certain social skills, such as the little secrets for attracting the opposite sex, were not handed down. Sometimes you have to work it a little. Try a little charm. Try a little sweetness. When I was young, men would buy us flowers, chase us, flirt with us. It was a lot of fun. And eventually everyone gets caught. Didn't any of you every give a special girl a Valentine? My daughter married the boy who gave her her first Valentine in the 2nd grade and told her she wsa the prettiest girl in the whole school. SMART LITTLE BOY. Remember, we are the reason. It never ceases to amaze me that men who are willing to die for us won't drop their hardened shells to show us what's really in their hearts. We need to see that vulnerableness too. You may be the baddest, toughest guy you know, but if you can't do that, what good is it? Non white men understand the importance of romance and that is one reason they catch some women. You will get rejected, but if some girl humiliates you, just realize you dodged a bullet and move on.   I also think that some (not all) men need to rethink their standards. Just because you're a white guy does not mean that you are entitled to a super model with a scary smart IQ. Just make sure your standards aren't simply a way to reject perfectly attractive and intelligent women for whatever reason.   If you're are an activist you would be better off seeking a woman among those who think as you do. If you're just a white guy who wants to do the right thing, don't make a big deal about race right off the bat. Wait a while. Most women are not on board with diversity and tolerance, you just need to subtly give them permission to be honest. It is sad that things have come to such a sorry state of affairs, but if you have to be sneaky, you have to be sneaky. After all, all is fair in love and war, and this is both.  Well said. :clink