I'm afraid of retaliation from black people interpreting something I do as racist. BUT that's probably why they do some of the things they do.    Beep your car when a black person walks across the street wherever they feel like? Racist.    Snark or give a dirty look to a black catcaller? Racist.    Call out a black person on rude behavior? Racist.    Coming back with You're just saying/doing that 'cause I'm black stops most people directly in their tracks. But really, I would still beep my car at white person who walked casually out in front. But how often does that happen? I would snark to a white catcaller. But that's not how most white men hit on women (in America). I would still call out a white person acting rude. But that happens less often.    It's difficult as a woman to stand up for myself because the offending party is much bigger and stronger and isn't at risk of committing a hate crime