  It just sucks that women would lie about their racial views - because I have always been VERY upfront about what I believed. I considered hiding it before, but I thought,Why lie about it?  I mean.... if she can't handle it now, the odds are that she surely won't be able to handle my views later, that's for sure.  I'm sure a lot of guys hide their racist views, but for me it is not worth it - it is like living a lie. So I'm back in school in a month to finish my degree, then I've got to figure out if I'm still going to move to Upstate New York. I just went through there a few weeks ago, and I really liked the lay of the land.  Sure, there are things that people bug the heck out of each other.  For example: My pet peeve is: Don't yell at me. If you have an issue with me regarding something I do or have done, let's sit down and talk about it like two adults. If you want me to shut you out, just start yelling. I don't play the yelling game.  I agree with you. It's important to let the other person know up front. It isn't worth it to pretend to be someone you are not. That's one of my pet peeves as well.