Lets see, if you look back to the first post I posted all these truths about myself -Christian faith -German descent -Very cute -Work hard in school -Determined -Have goals and ambitions -Motivated -Driven -Dominant/leader -Physically strong and athletic -Due to being physically active -Good hygiene,personal care -Muscular -Stubborn -Decent -Mature  -Gentleman behavior  &lt;-------RED FLAG!!!! BAD!!!! -God fearing -Right wing (not racist or nazi)  -Traditional -Protective -Caring -Respectful -Not judgemental -Moral  I really do meet the shallow superficial desires of most women.   But really, a man shouldn't have to earn a woman. That just doesn't seem scriptual, love is not earned. Such love is superficial, shallow love. You love someone for who they are, not what they have or have done (not that I haven't done a lot of good things)You don't have to earn God's love.      Well then, why are all 20 something guys and girls in a relationship? Why are there so many married people. Why are there so many, come to think of it.......people who  exist! Are you saying that the statistical norm has something that is not easy to find? Do billions of people (don't know the statistic) come from something that was uncommon? People start relationships, and relationships start people.   For over a year I have been depressed about my inability to find a girl who actually will respect me. Before I took an interest in dating and having a beautiful white girl, I really thought I was physically attractive and that girls liked me because I was cute even though I never talked to them.  So my first crush was this girl who worked at a bar at a golf course who I thought was cute, so I started talking to her whenever I would see her. She was friendly at first, then when we both went back to school and I stopped golving I would send her an email, hoping she would respond. She did not respond, that made me very upset, because I liked her. I ran into her a few months later and was talking to her and she mentioned she had a boyfriend and that was her reason for not responding to my emails, but I still think that was rude, anyone who emails you deserves a reply.   I have asked a lot of girls out at school, but it lead to no dates, either they had a boyfriend, said no, or had made up some excuse not to come.  I have tried online dating, I posted several pictures of myself on the dating sites, and when I see a girl who I find to be cute I will send her an email, just saying something real light hearted at first, like hi, or what are you interested in, would you like to chat sometime? I don't think girls want to be asked out right away, the ones I talked to didn't feel comfortable about meeting right away and wanted to spend a bit more time talking online. Even if I'm ready for a date, most of the time they're not. And I have been told by other women (family, therapist) that girls don't like to do things 1 on 1 with a guy they don't know, they usually prefer to hang out in groups when meeting someone new.  And I have tried being in social situations, doing things in groups, joining clubs, etc. And interacting with girls at school without asking them out on a date right away.   I have not been able to have much time to try to fish for girls due to school and studying I'm working hard in school to do well (something that also sholud be attracting conditional girls). I know it is hard and takes strength, but it does not feel good to be rejected. I like the feeling like I'm appreciated, respected, needed, and people enjoying me prescence.    I don't need to improve myself any more than anyone else. There is nothing wrong with me. There are a lot of things that are about me the way God made me to be, I was created with the glory of God and so were you. I have thought about dying my dark hair blonde or light because the women I'm attracted to dont like dark hair, and it tells me something that all the dark hair guys are single...but I think that I shouldn't have to and its sad that I have to modify something about myself just to get what God desires of me (a relationship). A man's character is most important.   I just believe that there should be some girl out there who does appreciate my character and other things about me. I didn't think it would be too hard to find, I thought there would be many of them and that I was the poster child for what all collegiate women want in their man.   And to be honest, physically I don't look that bad. It just feels empty and depressing to be missing something that everyone else has Yeah physically you don't look that bad. So then...what's the problem? Obviously it's the way you're approaching the situation. You aren't giving these girls what they want, you aren't putting out the right signals. You're acting like a beta and it's turning them off.    Wanting to commit suicide over a girl you had 1 date with???     https://i.imgur.com/S5CsSee.jpg    I think that says it all.