Where did he say the father isn't the head of the household? He can still be the head without having a spineless pushover for a wife.  I really have to question the emotional and mental stability of a man who wants a submissisve wife. Don't they want someone strong enough to keep their children safe, fed, and educated should anything happen to them, or are they so weak in their own character that they can't handle the thought of a woman having her own mind? Yes for sure they want strength. But they also want someone devoted to them, and someone who will stand by them and their decisions for the family.     In a traditional family, the Father is the head of the household, so he is the final arbiter and decision maker. Having a strong wife is fine, but having a wife that divorces you the minute she doesn't get her way in an argument is not fine. I think this is why men are drawn to submissive women. Because they get to be what they're meant to be.    You make a good point though, a strong wife would be great. Just as long as she's devoted and doesn't try to wear the pants.