Thanks for posting this!    Reading Stormfront, I've felt like a bad WN because I don't perform my gender role very well. I've had male jobs (selling electronics and then car parts, and I now work in STEM), I wear boots and pants and minimal makeup, though I have long hair. My s/o and I aren't hierarchical, either: we both cook and clean, we like to come to agreement on important things and don't try to micromanage each other, I ask him for advice and he asks me for advice, he is a passenger in my car and I'm a passenger in his car (I've noticed with older people, the wife is a passenger in her own car if she and her husband are going somewhere in it). Currently, I make more money than he does - but we're both starting out so that may change, but my self-worth doesn't depend on it.    At the point where we decide to have kids, if I can stay home, great, but if I continue working at least I know he can do reasonably everything I can (will need help with milk but that's better than help with everything). Having children is less intimidating if I know I won't have to take care of an adult that counts as 1/2 a child in addition to.