Now, why someone would want a submissive woman is beyond me.  I expect from my dog to be submissive, but from my wife... no, I find that to be weak. And frankly, if a woman is submissive in this day and age, I always start to suspect that either she has mental issues, or that her submissiveness is a result of decades of parental abuse. Either way, only a broken person could be that obedient and passive.  Being able to seek compromise and being able of listening and understanding what your husband wants to happen is not the same as being meek and compliant. Also, having strong opinions and principles is not the same as being a princess, let alone a high maintenance whore. Usually, it is the arrogance, the dishonesty, and the egotism that separate the strong-willed woman from the manipulative tramp.   The relationship, the marriage, it should be a partnership based on love and mutual respect, not on control and forceful assertiveness. So you don't think the Father should be the head of the household? This is how traditional families operate.