I love being a parent my kids is my life.
Some people think it's just physically parenting your child but it involves emotional, social, and intellectual child rearing you know?
I totally agree your kids is a reflection of you and just like you said you have to make sure you are always involved in all aspects. 
Yes people think from a biological perspective, but there are intricacies besides that.
The intricacies  is important because your kids go through alot and most parents don't know or realize it sometimes. 
Yes especially with gender, some children have difficulty with their masculinity or femininity and it can be confusing.