I don't know how you come across in person, but on-line you sound like a jerk who'll kidnap me and make me do this stuff without any reward.\n\nI belive you're just desparate to find you dream though so I'll share ways to get this information without looking like a serial killing jerk:\n\n1.  Don't point blank ask, "Can you cook clean and sew." Instead, re-phrase this as:  "It's been so long since I've had a good home cooked meal."  If she's good at cooking, she'll want to show off for you, and she'll offer to cook you that meal.  If you get her to cook that meal for you, then acidently <wink-wink> pop a button from your shirt.  If she's good and caring, again, she'll lovingly offer to help you repair it.\n\n2.  Don't demand this.  Remember, not all woman have these talents.  In fact, with the high divorse rates, many woman were raised by men, or working mom's.  Many of us feel inadequite because we don't have these skills < like how a man feels without an income or how he feels if he has small male genetiles >...it's a hurtful subject to certain people, so be respectful <thx>.  Plus, our educational system does not provide training for this anymore.  Be kind and respectful to the woman who arn't skilled in this.  Maybe you'll get a lawyer/accountant/CEO FRIEND who'll help in in the future.  I belive you can never have enough friends.\n\nGood luck and best wishes.