Now, say more about that practically, because I mean if you're depressed, you may feel too depressed to go to a  a professional, you may have great difficulty getting there for whatever reason because you're ashamed as someone mentioned, you're embarrassed, you don't want to admit you can't cope, which is a syndrome  once you get there how do you pluck up the courage to say well actually what your offering me isn't good enough, I've heard on on  television there is something better  and I want it?