My boyfriend of 15 months has an obsession with porn (but he recently got rid of the channel) but he cant help looking at womens bums and breasts. The scary thing is that he constantly denies it; even when caught red-handed. It has put a huge wedge in our relationship. He is 63; I am 51. I am a fitness buff (really good shape); he is very overweight and Im sure has self-esteem issues. Plus he has 2 divorces behind him. Im not sure what to do about this. The women he looks at doesnt have to be beauties. Ive seen him look at young girls bums and older women as well. It seems like he dont see women for what they are; he has to scan them over.  I really find his stealing glances a real insult and disrespect to me. He assures me he loves me and wouldnt do anything to hurt me; yet we argue over this all the time. I think Im losing my mind. He argues constantly that Im seeing things. Im beginning to believe it; except I see it all the time and he tries to be sneaky about it. What can I do to get over this?
Hi. He only few things can help is either you change your thinking or seek a consultation with a psychologist or psychiatrist for your boyfriend. As he is 63, it may be very difficult to overcome the problem he is facing. Accept as it is, or you may be more wise, and you know the answer better than anyone else.