conversation: User (MichaelBat): "Hey guys! I'm starting to get in a bit of a pickle here now. It's a long story but i'll try to shorten it.\n\nI'm a 21 year old male from Norway. A year ago my brother got in some trouble for submitting wrong details about his financial situation when he was applying for financial aid. needless to say, he got caught and was facing jail-time. he got fined 100k NOK (about 15k USD) and had no means to pay it. Now, I have worked since I was 15, so I had some money, plus I also took up a student loan (not sure what the english word is). So I paid the whole bill, to strenghten his case. He didn't go to jail and the charges were dropped as soon as "he" paid his debt that quickly. He didn't even thank me. Imagine that. \n\nAbout 6 months ago my mother was diagnosed with cancer for the second time. Now my mother hasn't worked any job in my whole life, because of a cronic infection which causes her to have alot of back pain.   \nSo she doesn't have alot of money. So que new loan for me, and alot of extra hours at work. Recently my job had to let me go because of financial reasons, so i landed a shit job at grocery story, which i only work one day a week (saturday). Soon after my mother started chemo, they found even more cancer, so she had to have two surgeries. Now i'm in so much debt, I have no reliable job and I feel like I really need some help. I already have a strict budget, obviously. But is there anywhere I can go to help me manage the situation? Maybe some sort of support programme?\n\n\nTL;DR : I have alot of debt because of money i have lent to family, need help.\n\n\nEDIT: words\n\nEDIT 2: Thanks for all the responses! I see there are some people that don't think this is real and that i'm making it up. This is not true. And I also don't know much about the welfare bit that conserns my mother. But the point is I need to talk to someome, because I don't have a clue where to go. My brother wasn't completley at fault either, I'm leaving some of the information out because it isn't relevant to what I'm asking"
  Self: "Why did you pay your brother's debt? It seems from your story that he is not grateful at all. It would have taught him a lesson. It's too late now.\n\nAs for advice, I don't know what else to tell you, since you are not asking a very specific question. Get a second job? Don't give out loans? \n\nI am really not trying to be dick. Sorry if I come off that way."
  