How to Deal With a Bragging Friend
It's annoying when your friend won't stop bragging, but if you learn how to steer clear of the behavior, you'll be much happier. Sometimes the easiest way to avoid bragging is to change the subject. If your friend is competitive, you'll probably also want to avoid bringing up your own accomplishments, which might trigger their bragging reflex. Your friend may brag because they're insecure, so let them know you care about them no matter what. If nothing works to stop their bragging, try addressing the bragging head-on. You could say, "Hey, it hurts my feelings when you try to one-up me. Can you try not to do that so much?" If talking to them doesn't work, you may need to take a step back from the friendship. It may be hard, but your happiness is most important.
Change the subject. Sometimes redirecting the conversation can curb bragging behavior. If your friend starts bragging, change the subject to something you both find interesting. Maybe you could talk about a class you're both in or a book you both love. You could even compliment a mutual friend and encourage the bragging friend to praise others. If your friend continually turns the conversation back to themselves, politely tell them you don't want to talk about that right now. You don't have to tell them why. You might say, "Very cool, Jacob! Hey, have you seen the trailer for that new superhero movie yet? It looks pretty awesome. What kinds of movies do you like?" Avoid competing with them. If your friend is always one-upping you, you may feel the urge to brag back. This will only worsen the problem: your friend will want to best you and you will feel even more angry. When you feel the urge, hold your tongue. Stooping to their level will not help. Never lie about your accomplishments in an attempt to best them. Even if they don't find out, you will likely feel bad for lying. Set an example for your friend. If you notice yourself bragging, correct yourself out loud and avoid bragging in the future. Apologize to your friend and say something like, "I didn't realize I had been bragging. I'll try not to do that in the future. I know it makes people feel bad." If you make an effort to stop, your friend might follow suit. Even if your friend knows they have a problem, they might feel too embarrassed to change their behavior. Knowing that other people struggle with it, too, can push them towards improvement. Do not brag on purpose just to self-correct yourself. This is passive-aggressive. Your friend may not necessarily pick up on the hint, but they may pick up on your anger. Instead, become self-aware of your own bragging habits. Don't insult your friend. People often don't realize how their bragging hurts others. Your friend might not mean to hurt your feelings. Treat them kindly and with respect. Ganging up against them will not solve the problem. If your friend only brags on occasion, try your best to just be understanding. Everyone wants to brag from time to time. We all want to share our accomplishments and our life's high points with friends and family. If your friend is emphasizing the point that they have achieved or received something that you clearly cannot have or do, that is not okay. In that case, have an appropriate conversation to tell your friend how you feel. Change the way you compliment them. How you praise them can either reinforce or curb their bragging behavior. Complement their actions rather than them. Saying, "You're so amazing!" may give them incentive for bragging in the future. Instead, say, "You did a good job!" It puts emphasis on the action, not them, and encourages them to work hard. If your friend is fishing for praise, you do not have to compliment them. Treat them kindly, but put attention on something else besides their actions. You might say, for example, "I appreciate how much effort you put into the group project, Becca. We couldn't have done it without your persistence." Tell them you love them for themselves. Some people brag because they feel insecure and feel that others will only love them if they are amazing. Tell your friend that you care about them no matter what. Explain that you are not the kind of person to judge someone for their successes or possessions, and that what matters to you is their heart. Make an effort to tell your friend how much you care, and compliment them on little things. You could tell your friend, for example, "Dakota, I really loved spending time with you today. You're great to talk with." Once they know that you are not impressed by their bragging, they may feel uncomfortable bragging around you in the future. Foster a safe atmosphere when you talk to them. Often, people who brag are less self-confident than they appear. Your friend might brag because they feel insecure around you. Build a safe space in your conversations where you and your friend can express themselves authentically. Creating this safe space depends on your attitude. If you approach them compassionately, this will show and your friend will feel comfortable. If you feel angry around them, they will sense this, too, and become more nervous. Approach your friend about their bragging. If nothing else works, talk to them about how their behavior hurts. Tell them that you feel alienated when they one-up you or that you feel like they don't care about you. Ask them if they could be more conscious of their behavior. Avoid seeming confrontational. Instead of putting the blame on them (e.g.: "You brag too much!"), put the emphasis on your feelings (e.g.: "I feel hurt when you one-up what I say.") Speak clearly about your concern. While you might feel tempted to vaguely mention how much you hate bragging, your friend might not take the hint. Say something like, "Hey, Henry, can we talk? I'm not sure if you're aware of this, but I felt hurt when you started talking about your dog after I told you my dog just died. It made me feel like you aren't paying attention to me. I feel like I listen to you when we talk. Can you please listen to me?" Another approach is to start a conversation with your friend about how they feel when they are around others who are bragging. For example, say, “How did you feel the other day when all Jack could talk about the other night was his new red car.” If your friend says, “frustrated,” or “annoyed,” talk to them about how you have had similar experiences with them and provide examples. Ask yourself if the relationship is healthy. If nothing else works, you may consider limiting or ending your friendship. Letting go of a friendship is a serious decision. Think carefully about your friendship and whether it is worth holding onto, or if you need time away from them. You and your friend might just be going through a rough patch. Has your friend always been the one-upping type? If not, they might be struggling in their personal life. Postpone ending the friendship until you know what's going on. Face the tough questions. How do you feel when you're around them? Does this person bring out your best, or your worst? Do you care about them, and do they care about you? Give yourself space. If you don't want to be friends anymore, temporarily separate yourself from them.Think about how you feel. Do you feel better or worse? Do you miss them? How do you want to proceed? Let your friend know. Tell them the purpose and duration of your break, and answer any questions they have. If you ignore them for seemingly no reason, they may feel confused. Say something like, "Kelsie, I appreciate our friendship but think we might need some space. I need time to cool down and think about our friendship. Could we take a break from each other for a few days? If you have questions, I'd be happy to answer them." End the friendship, if needed. After your break, return to the decision with a clear head. If you felt happier during your separation, ending the friendship might be best. Don't ignore the person. You don't have to engage with them, but they still deserve basic respect. Tell them your decision. If you avoid them with seemingly no reason, they may feel hurt. Keep their feelings in mind, and avoid insulting them. You might say, "Robin, I've appreciated your friendship but think it might be best if we spend less time together. When you brag, I feel like you don't care about me. I know we talked about this in the past, but I don't think either of us changed after we talked. You are a great person, but I think we might not work well together. I think it would be a good idea if we spend less time around each other. Is that alright?" Move on. When you've been hurt by a friend, painful feelings might linger. You may feel anger, grief, or a deep sense of loss. In the case of painful relationships, distance is the best medicine. Do whatever you must to move on. Block their number and avoid spending time around them. If your old friend persistently contacts you, do not respond more than necessary. Be polite, but avoid falling into old habits. Do not react if they insult you in-person or through social media. Instead, let a close friend know, and tell a trusted adult if you are underage. They can help you deal with the situation. Your friend might realize how their behavior affects others and apologize later. It's up to you whether you want to rekindle the relationship: don't let them pressure you into it if you're not ready. 
Change the subject. Avoid competing with them. Set an example for your friend. Don't insult your friend. Change the way you compliment them. Tell them you love them for themselves. Foster a safe atmosphere when you talk to them. Approach your friend about their bragging. Speak clearly about your concern. Ask yourself if the relationship is healthy. Give yourself space. End the friendship, if needed. Move on. 