How to Overcome Your Fear of Public Speaking
To overcome your fear of public speaking, try practicing a speech in front of a mirror to get yourself used to speaking aloud. You can also practice giving it to your friends or family to build your confidence in front of an audience. When you feel more confident speaking to yourself and your friends, try searching online for a public speaking class in your area, since this will help you learn what makes a great speech. You can also attend Toastmasters, which is a nonprofit organization which provides a safe space to practice your public speaking. If you find yourself being overwhelmed by anxiety about public speaking, consider working with a therapist to help ease your stress.
Know your topic really well. It's normal to be afraid that you'll forget something or say something wrong. Being prepared is the best way to handle this fear. Read about your topic so that you understand it well. If you have time, look for documentaries or online videos to help you deepen your understanding. When you choose a speech topic, try to pick a subject that you already know about. If you're short on time, do an Internet search and read the first few sources that come up. However, make sure these sources are reliable. Write your speech so you have a plan for what you want to say. While you don't need to recite your speech word-for-word, it's helpful to write out what you want to say. Include a brief introduction of yourself and your topic. Then, write out paragraphs explaining your main points and support for them. End with a conclusion that tells audience members what to take from your speech. Your speech doesn't have to be perfect. You can make revisions while you practice it. Prepare an outline or note card to guide you through your speech. It's helpful to have notes when you're giving your speech to help jog your memory when you forget what to say. However, you don't want your notes to be too long because that makes it easy to get tripped up. Instead, include the basic elements of your speech on an outline or note card. This way, you can quickly look down and see a key term to remind you what to say. An outline for a speech about recycling might look like this: I. Keeps trash out of landfills A. Less trash B. Landfills last longer II. Saves resources A. Used for new products B. Cuts use of raw materials III. Gives consumers a voice A. Can choose recycled B. Brands meet consumer wants Practice your speech before you give it. You've likely heard the saying, “Practice makes perfect,” and it's true. While you might not give a perfect speech, practicing will help you feel confident when you step in front of the audience. Start by reading your speech aloud to yourself. When you feel ready, perform your speech in front of a mirror. If you have a time limit for your speech, time yourself when you're practicing. Then, make adjustments if you need to increase the length or cut it down. Just listen to your voice at first. Get a feel for the sound of your speech and make adjustments as necessary. When you're in front of the mirror, practice making gestures or facial expressions. See what feels right to you. Film yourself to help you improve your performance. Use a video camera or your phone to film yourself doing your speech. Act like your phone is the audience, so use gestures and facial expressions. Then, watch the speech and look for areas you can improve. Do this several times to build your confidence. Don't worry about the quality of the video or about anyone else seeing it. This video is just for you. Give your speech to family and friends before doing it in public. Pick people who will be honest about things that need improvement but are still really supportive of you. Then, perform your speech like you would for an audience. Ask them what they liked about the speech, as well as if you could improve on anything. If you're really nervous, start with just 1 person. Then, gradually increase the number of people in your audience. Smile to quickly release feel-good endorphins. The easiest way to calm down is to smile, even if it's fake. When you smile, your body naturally releases endorphins, which makes you feel better. Fake a smile or think of something funny to help you feel better fast. Try thinking of a scene from your favorite comedy. As another option, recite a joke you enjoy. If you can, look at your favorite memes on your phone to help you smile naturally. Breathe deeply to help your body relax. Slowly inhale through your nose as you count to 5. Then, hold your breath for a 5 count. Finally, exhale slowly as you count to 5. Do a set of 5 slow breaths to help yourself calm down. If you're about to go on stage, simply breathe deeply, drawing the air down into your stomach. Then, release out of your mouth. Breathing deeply can release the tension in your body and help you calm down quickly. Place your hand on your forehead to relax your fight-or-flight response. Performance anxiety can trigger your fight-or-flight response, which naturally sends your blood to your arms and legs. However, you can bring the blood back to your head by placing your hand on your forehead. Your hand will signal to your body to send your blood upward. This will help you center your thoughts for your speech. Your blood goes to your limbs during a fight or flight response because your body is anticipating needing to get physical. You should start to feel calmer after a few minutes. Visualize yourself giving a great speech. Visualization can make you feel like you actually experienced the thing you're imagining. Close your eyes, then picture yourself giving your speech. Imagine that you're doing an excellent job and everyone is excited to hear you. Then, picture yourself concluding your speech and walking away to applause. This can help you relax because it makes you feel like you can be successful. Use positive self-talk to replace negative thoughts. It's normal to have negative thoughts about yourself before a speech, but they likely aren't true. When you notice a negative thought, stop and acknowledge it. Then, challenge its credibility. Finally, replace it with a positive thought. For instance, let's say you catch yourself thinking, “I'm going to look stupid up there.” Challenge this by asking yourself, “Why do I think this?” and “What could go right?” Then, tell yourself, “I'm well-prepared for this speech, so I know I'll look knowledgeable.” Look for opportunities to practice public speaking in low-stress situations. The best way to relieve your anxiety is to get more practice, but that's hard to do when you're afraid. Start small by speaking in front of your friends, volunteering to speak to local clubs, or speaking to small groups in class or at work. For instance, you might look for public speaking groups on Meetup.com to find opportunities. Offer to give a short presentation to a local Boy Scout, Girl Scout, or Cub Scout troop. List off the specific worries that are causing your fear. Write it down or speak it aloud to help you process your worries. For instance, you might be afraid of saying the wrong thing or looking silly. Be as specific as possible about what's making you nervous. Common worries include being judged, making a mistake, not measuring up, or making a bad impression. Challenge your worries by listing the probable outcomes. Ask yourself how likely your fear is to come true. Then, imagine how your speech is likely to go. Think of the positive things that could happen. This should help you realize that your worries are unlikely to come true. For example, let's say you're worried that you will forget what you have to say. You could remind yourself that you know your topic well and will have your note card with you to refresh your memory, if you need it. Then, picture yourself using the note card during your speech. If the thing you're afraid of has actually happened to you, ease your fear by thinking about what you've done to prevent it from happening again. For instance, remind yourself that you've been thoroughly preparing for the speech and that you've practiced. Remind yourself that the audience wants you to succeed. It may feel like the audience is there to judge you, but this isn't true. Your audience is there to hear what you have to say and learn something they can use. They want you to do a good job, so they're on your side. Think of them as supporters. Think about how you feel when you go to see someone speak. Are you hoping they'll do a bad job? Do you look for mistakes or judge how nervous they look? Probably not. Mingle with your audience before your speech to reduce your fear. Walk through the room and introduce yourself to people. Try to meet as many people as you can. This will help you feel like one of the group, which will make you feel less worried. You might stand by the door as people come in to greet them. Don't worry if you don't meet everyone. You may feel more confident during your speech if you make eye contact with the people you met beforehand. However, this isn't necessary. Take a public speaking class to learn how to give a good speech. Public speaking is a skill that most people have to learn. Look for a class online or at your local library, community center, or community college. You'll learn how to prepare for a speech, how to give a good delivery, and tips for engaging your audience. If you're trying to improve your skills for work, look for a class that's designed for business or professional public speaking. You might even be able to get your employer to send you to a professional workshop. Work with a therapist to overcome extreme public speaking anxiety. It's okay to need additional help, and performance anxiety can be treated. Your therapist can teach you cognitive-behavioral strategies for confronting your anxiety and working through it. This will help you learn to identify thought and behavior patterns that are causing your performance anxiety. Then, you'll learn what to do differently to help you overcome your fear. Additionally, they'll help you learn new ways to relax before a speech. Look for a therapist online or ask for a referral from your doctor. Check with your insurance company to find out if they will pay for your treatment. Ask your doctor about a calming medication if nothing else helps you. Although you likely don't need medication, sometimes it's useful for helping you cope with performance anxiety. Talk to your doctor to find out if medication is a good choice for you. Then, take it before you give a speech to help you stay relaxed. The first time you take the medication should be when you're at home and don't have any plans. This will help you see how it affects you. You might decide to use calming medication if you need to do public speaking for your job but are struggling to do it. Attend Toastmasters to practice public speaking in a supportive setting. Toastmasters is a nonprofit organization that has branches in many communities. They'll help you build your public speaking skills and give you a safe place to practice. Look for a chapter in your area and attend their meetings. You may have to join your local Toastmasters chapter to take advantage of their services. 
Know your topic really well. Write your speech so you have a plan for what you want to say. Prepare an outline or note card to guide you through your speech. Practice your speech before you give it. Film yourself to help you improve your performance. Give your speech to family and friends before doing it in public. Smile to quickly release feel-good endorphins. Breathe deeply to help your body relax. Place your hand on your forehead to relax your fight-or-flight response. Visualize yourself giving a great speech. Use positive self-talk to replace negative thoughts. Look for opportunities to practice public speaking in low-stress situations. List off the specific worries that are causing your fear. Challenge your worries by listing the probable outcomes. Remind yourself that the audience wants you to succeed. Mingle with your audience before your speech to reduce your fear. Take a public speaking class to learn how to give a good speech. Work with a therapist to overcome extreme public speaking anxiety. Ask your doctor about a calming medication if nothing else helps you. Attend Toastmasters to practice public speaking in a supportive setting. 