`` Now , that 's crazy ! '' When we were creating this survey , we imagined a giant pillow fight , with moms on one side of the bed yelling `` Safety ! '' and a posse on the other shouting `` Bonding ! '' And we did hear those battle cries : Nearly half of all crib-sleepers admitted that they think co-sleepers are `` irresponsible '' and that parents who share a family bed are `` putting their baby 's life at risk . '' Parenting.com : Guide to baby sleep Another 39 percent think that co-sleeping parents are spoiling their baby . `` I know people who still have a three-year-old in bed with them because the kid wo n't sleep alone . Now , that 's crazy ! '' exclaims Patty Queen , a mom of two in Marion , North Carolina . `` Come on , people , you are only making it hard on the kids by keeping them in the bed with you . '' Another crib proponent , Esther Tune of Henderson , Nevada , considers co-sleeping to be `` the easy option . '' `` I never brought my kids into
The second most-dreaded question for new parents after `` Is your baby sleeping ? '' -LRB- Answer : `` Well , yes , for forty-five-minute stretches , but not during the night , and only after I conduct a two-hour-long routine including feeding , swaddling , singing , rocking , and an ancient tribal sleep dance '' -RRB- is `` Where does he sleep ? '' Some say a baby should never sleep in the same bed as you , while others say it 's the only way to go . That 's because the response is usually just as complicated and the people who ask are often ready to pass judgment on it . At least , that 's what more than 6,000 of you told us in our national survey about sleep habits , in which we set out to determine the differences between parents who put their babies down to sleep at night in a crib -LRB- for convenience 's sake , we 're calling them `` crib-sleepers '' -RRB- and those who share a family bed with their children -LRB- co-sleepers -RRB- . Here , an illuminating peek into the night lives of new families :