worrying about offending men who would 've had no problem offending me if the situation were reversed . So I was thrilled when a copy of the hilarious book , `` The Power of NO : How to Keep Blowhards and Bozos at Bay '' landed on my doorstep . As the title suggests , TPON is about learning to not only say no , but to embrace no , something women seem to have an inexplicably harder time doing than men . I shot off an email to author Beth Wareham asking her why we womenfolk find it so painful to blow-off a troll . `` The psycho-sexual-societal bulls -- t that makes women be such wimps in the face of an odious man is in our DNA . And young women often make the dreadful mistake of thinking everyone has to like them , '' she fired back . The Frisky : 13 Woman you 're dating is a loser `` I believe that some dumb guy bugging you is a great moment to really march out a lie , '' she continues . `` I mean , really , who goes around harassing strangers ? Say ,
-LRB- The Frisky -RRB- -- Last weekend at a party , I noticed a toad-like man attaching himself to a beautiful , talented friend of mine . Not only was she way out of his league , looks-wise , but as I eavesdropped I discovered he was one of those dudes who delivers endless monologues instead of engaging in actual conversations . Too many women are afraid to say , `` No , '' says author . Ladies , I think we 've all been stuck with that guy . Now it was my friend 's turn . I could tell by her stunned look of horror that she wanted nothing to do with him , but she seemed frozen . My pal Ivan and I tried to intervene . `` Let 's go get some cake , '' we suggested , physically pulling her from his side . Her relief was short-lived as he tracked her down and reattached himself to her hip . Watching her go through this made me think back on how many times I 've been afraid to say no . Maybe `` afraid '' is the wrong word , but I 've spent hours