so harshly . I think women in their 20s do . You 're hard on your body , you 're hard on yourself . But you start to realize that none of it is really all that important . As long as you 're comfortable , the best parts of yourself come through no matter what . Your mother can tell you that a million times , but you do n't understand it until you live it ! On if she likes to cook ... I do . And Jake is a great cook , he does a lot . We spend the weekends outside L.A , in Ojai , where I have a farmhouse . We have chickens and we grow cucumbers and tomatoes . I love it . It reminds me of where I grew up in Tennessee . On working out ... I try to exercise every day . I like to run for about an hour , and I 'm big into working out with girlfriends . It 's an acquired skill , being able to discuss your love life , children and friends , all while you 're running ! But we have mastered it
-LRB- InStyle.com -RRB- -- She refuses to dwell on the past and accepts that she ca n't control the future . Reese Witherspoon juggles her career , family and love life , yet still is able find time for herself For Reese Witherspoon , it 's all about living in the moment . And with a thriving career , two children , and a handsome boyfriend -- Jake Gyllenhaal -- who can blame her ? On her divorce from Ryan Phillippe ... You have to keep it together for your kids and for yourself too . I 'm trying to learn from the things that have happened in my life , live more in the moment , and have more fun . Someone told me recently to live in the present but make plans and take pictures . And I am . I 'm writing more , I 'm reading more . Going to more concerts . Jake and I went to Coachella this year . On being confident ... As you get older , you know what you like and what you do n't like , and you 're not apologetic about it ... I used to judge myself