grow . '' Oprah believes this story can be a teaching moment for every teen and parent . `` Love does n't hurt , '' she says . `` And if a man hits you once , he will hit you again . '' Oprah.com : 10 questions to ask your teens Over the past few years , talk show host Tyra Banks has interviewed both Brown and Rihanna . `` Rihanna told me her parents used to argue so intensely , she used to get these headaches , these migraines that were almost not even treatable with medicine , '' Banks says . `` The moment her parents separated , her migraines went away . '' In his appearance on The Tyra Banks Show , Brown said he watched his mother suffer abuse from the time he was 7 years old until he was 13 . The abuser was not his biological father . `` I treat -LSB- women -RSB- differently because I know I never want to go through the same thing or put a woman through the same thing that the person put my mom through , '' Brown told Banks . When Banks first heard about
-LRB- OPRAH.com -RRB- -- It 's the story that has brought dating violence into the national spotlight . Police responded to a 911 call alleging domestic violence between singers Chris Brown and Rihanna last month . Tyra Banks tells Oprah Winfrey about how abuse affected her . Later that day , both pulled out of planned appearances at the Grammy Awards , and Brown turned himself into police . He was arrested on the suspicion of making criminal threats and was released on bail . Weeks later , rumors of their reconciliation were reported . On March 5 , 2009 , Brown appeared in court , charged with two counts of felony assault . His arraignment has been postponed until April 2009 while he remains free on bail . Statistics say about one in three high school students have been -- or will be -- involved in an abusive relationship . `` The message this story sends to teen girls and boys everywhere is disturbing , and it is also dangerous , '' Oprah Winfrey says . `` We need to try to evolve from this moment ... use this as a moment to allow our society to begin to