I was actually thinking about telling my wife about one fantasy that I've had which is to watch an erotic video or porn with her together. To masturbate ourselves and each other while watching it. I believe that she has probably never watched porn before. We could find something that was ethical and watch it together. I think this would help her to see the value and excitement in doing this sometimes.

I want to send her a message. Please help me write an example message that does the following:
expresses my desire to watch an ethical erotic video with her
my belief that I think this would be an exciting deviation for us
the benefits of doing this for our relationship
the differences of ethical erotica vs mainstream porn
Also, that I understand that she may not be open to doing this, and I won't be upset if she doesn't want to and I'll respect her and love her whatever her choice is.