Me (24M) and my partner (23F) are both inexperienced when it comes to sex. She has never attempted it before and I have attempted it 5-6 times with my ex but with no.. successful ending.

When we initially started dating, I was very much looking forward to attempting sex again and trying to figure it out this time. When we first started getting naked, she was very relunctant, wanted us to just see each other first, only touch, etc. and I was very excited and "in the mood" all the times but without a proper.. ending.. I always ended up frustrated and with blue balls (it actually hurt).

After some more dating and less attempts, she finally said she was ready to try sex. But this time, it was me who couldn't "stay in the mood". I would get hard from forplay but as soon as clothes were off and she lied down, waiting for it to happen, for me to.. perform.. I suddenly lost all the "mood". Having dealt with this 2-3 times out of my last 5-6, I was like "Ok.. no biggy, it's clearly performance anxiety. You re clearly nervous to live up to her expectations and that overshadows any excitement which is necessary for sex. You just need to try again, when you are relaxed and more excited for it".

And it probably was. But we have tried again some times, where I wouldn't really say that I felt anxiety of meeting her expecations or something, but still I could not maintain "the mood". So for the last attemptless weeks, I have been wrapping my head around it, looking for possible causes and solutions, before I add more failed