summarize this "Welcome back ladies. Sorry I had to ignore you in Chapter Seven,
but again, there are just really not any males who exhibit the behavior
of a Pretender. If a man is interested in having casual sex with a
woman, and he knows that a woman he is attracted to is interested in
the same thing, that man is not going to pretend not to be interested.
On the other hand, men surely know how to pretend to have the same
interests as a woman, when they really do not. This is exactly what a
Timewaster is. Anytime you meet a man or woman, and that person
is initially behaving as though they have the same exact romantic
and/or sexual desires and interests as you, but in reality, they have a
totally different, underlying agenda l that is representative of a
Timewasterks behavior. This is their eM.O.f
Timewasters are many times mistaken for and confused with
Reciprocators because they will almost always respond to you
initially in an enthusiastic, friendly, reciprocal manner. The reality is,
Timewasters are more similar to a Rejecter. A Pretender is nothing
more than the manipulative version of a Reciprocator, and a
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Timewaster is nothing more than the manipulative version of a
Rejecter. Pretenders and Timewasters love to play head games.
The typical female Timewaster is a woman who temporarily or
indefinitely pretends to have some sort of romantic and/or sexual
attraction to you, but deep-down, they see you as nothing beyond
someone to receive financial favors from, flattering attention from,
entertaining companionship from, or if nothing else, simply a
listening ear when they want to vent.
The most common form of male Timewasters are those men who
temporarily or indefinitely pretend as though they have an interest in
the same sort of long-term monogamous relationship that you have
already expressed an interest in, but in reality, they just want shortterm monogamous sex, short-term non-monogamous sex, or longterm non-monogamous sex.
Another variation of a male Timewaster would be a man who
indefinitely pretends to behave like your eplay brotherf or efriendly
neighbor or co-worker,f but in reality, he wants to get in a womanks
pants. As I mentioned on page 45, this is what I commonly refer to as
the art of eFunClubbing.f A good friend and fraternity brother of
mine created that term when I was in college. He said, eAlan l
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make sure you never join a womanks mFun Club.k You will only end
up frustrated at the end.f
My friend went on to say that a womanks eFun Clubf is her stable of
male platonic friends who keep her entertained, flatter her ego and
give a boost to her confidence and self-esteem when needed, and
listen to her vent about ex-boyfriends and ex-lovers who have caused
her pain and frustration. The problem is, all of these eplatonic
friendsf really want to date this woman or have [casual] sex with her.
In Chapter Seven, I described the main two types of Pretenders (both
female) which are eErotic Hypocritesf and eWholesome Pretenders.f
Now I am going to describe the various types of Timewasters.
General Types of Women who tend to be Timewasters
Attention Whores, Dick Teasers, Exploiters and Users
If there is one thing you will very rarely see a man do, it is dress
msexyk or behave in a sexually provocative manner towards a woman
just to get flattering attention. Women, trust me on this: If a man
exhibits erotic or sexually provocative behavior towards a woman,
nine times out of ten, he wants to exchange orgasms with that woman.
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Women are a different breed in this respect. Many women will wear
sexy clothes and behave in a flirtatious, sexually provocative manner
just to receive flattering attention. Speaking for the vast majority of
men, we cannot relate to that. The average man would rather have a
blowjob than a flattering compliment any day. I once had a woman
tell me that she wanted to be a centerfold selection in Playboy
magazine simply so she could feel desired and receive more
compliments from men. Again, as a man, I cannot relate to that.
Women who use their feminine charms and sex appeal for the
primary purpose of receiving flattering attention and compliments are
generally known as eAttention Whoresf and/or eDick Teasers.f
Attention Whores and Dick Teasers motivate men to give them
attention by giving these men the subtle impression of, eIf you flatter
me and give me the type of attention I want, I might just let you sleep
with me one day soonlf And I have a bridge to nowhere to sell you
in Alaska. The Governor will approve it. Wink, wink, smirk, smirk.
Another variation of a female Timewaster is the eExploiterf and/or
eUser.f These manipulative game players donkt want flattering
attention or entertaining companionship as much as they want
monetary favors, materialistic gifts, employment offers, and other
benefits which are more tangible in nature. "