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I'm coach black your internet

relationship and breakup coach today's

topic if no contact didn't work

what else can you do to get your ex back

or to get their attention to make them

come to you

now a very popular comment that I see in

the comment section and thank you all

for commenting by the way I definitely

can't get back to everyone else

in the comments but I hope this video

gives you answers on what to do next if

you've been doing no contact for a long

time and you're starting to lose hope

that you'll ever attract your ex back

you'll ever get their attention

this video will give you the clarity

that you need on potential next steps

that you can do as you move forward in

your no contact Journey

now first and foremost let's let's get

this out of the way because it's

important you understand this

breakups do not happen in the binary

okay so what does that mean typically

when your ex is deciding to leave a

relate relationship it's not a yes or no

question it's usually on a sliding scale

and what I mean is your ex is typically

not a hundred percent sure that they

don't want to be with you all right they

might be 55 sure they might be 70 sure

okay they're only pretty sure that their

options or their opportunities or their

life would be better without you and so

the fact that they're deciding to leave

is not based on practical knowledge it's

based on a feeling it's an emotional

decision and that's why it's never 100

certain they just have a

you know estimation that their life is

going to be better off and so once they

get above that 50 to 60 threshold they

decide to pull the trigger

and so when you understand that that one

this decision is based on emotions and

you know that emotions change they vary

a lot and two it is not a binary it's

not a yes or no decision and so all we

need to do is slide that scale back in

your favor so truthfully understand this

and also if your ex is saying things

like they are definitely sure it's over

especially when the breakup first

happened essentially the more emotional

the more conviction that your ex has

around the breakup that's probably a

good thing because they can't be that

sure and if they are it's an emotional

decision and if your ex is making an

emotional decision today in the favor of

the breakup then they can also make a

future emotional decision in favor of

getting back together I've seen this

time and time again with other clients

now here's the second thi