summarize this "Imagine if a certain percentage of airplane pilots were pretending to
be pilots, when it actuality, they were bus drivers. If you had prior
knowledge to this phenomenon before boarding a plane, would you
feel comfortable knowing your pilot could be a fake?
Imagine if a certain percentage of physicians were pretending to be
physicians, when in actuality, they were veterinarians. If you had
prior knowledge of this widespread fraud before being admitted into a
hospital, would you feel comfortable knowing your physician could
be a doctor who specializes in animals?
Imagine if a certain percentage of automotive mechanics were
pretending to be auto mechanics, when in actuality they were
computer information technology professionals. If you had prior
knowledge of this prior to taking your car to the shop for a tune-up
and some repairs, would you feel comfortable driving your car
afterwards?
If very few of us would feel comfortable sitting on a plane with a
suspect pilot, going into surgery with a suspect doctor or driving a car
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that had been worked on by a suspect mechanic, why should we feel
comfortable having intimate sexual relations with someone who
might not be who he or she claims to be?
If a man thinks he married an erotically conservative, very prudish
egood girl,f only later to find out that his wife is a promiscuous
whore who has had sex with all of his friends, co-workers and
neighbors, do you think he is going to have an easy time getting over
being duped? Doubtful. That mutha fu**a might just go out and
shoot somebody just for the hell of it.
If a woman thinks she married a good Christian man with good
Christian values, only to find out later that he is a pathological liar
and a bi-sexual edown lowf husband who solicits other men for
unprotected sex, do you think she will just forgive him quickly? She
might just take a knife and cut his testicles off.
You cannot go around thinking you can play with peopleks emotions
and ego, and that no consequences and/or repercussions are going to
come of it. Karma is a bitch. Ikm not preaching, Ikm just being as
real with my knowledge, wisdom and advice as I know how to be.
If you are into casual sex with multiple partners, then you need to be
hooking up with men or women who are into the same thing. If you
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are into crack cocaine, then you need to hook up with members of the
opposite sex who are into crack cocaine as well.
The HIV / AIDS virus has not had nearly the negative effect on the
dating and relationships arena as frequent lies, deception and
manipulative head games have. All of this epretendingf has made
some men and women bitter and vindictive, others cynical and wary,
and even others mentally ill and emotionally stressed.
Only cowards need to lie about their true desires, interests and
intentions. Only those with absolutely no values or principles need to
go around misleading people and manipulating people for self-serving
motivations. It is time to wake up people.
Forget about the pain and frustration you might be causing others l
what about you? If you are busy lying to folk, how do you know you
are not dealing with someone more deceptive and manipulative than
yourself? You think you are playing her, and in reality, she is playing
you. Remember: Manipulation is always a two-way street.
When you do right by people, men and women tend to remember you
as someone who had a profound impact on their life. When you
constantly do wrong by people, you will ultimately lead a lonely and
frustrating life. It all catches up to you in the end.
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Donkt ever think for a moment that reading a dating and relationships
book is somehow etrivial.f No sir, no mam. Most of us, if not all of
us, want someone to spend time with in a romantic and/or sexual
manner. Trust me on this. Companionship is always desired.
The desire to hug, kiss and exchange orgasms is just as natural as the
desire to sleep, eat food, and drink water or other thirst-quenching
liquids. Never allow someone to make you feel guilty for having
erotic desires, even if they are ekinkyf or unconventional.
As long as you are not a thirty-five year old man trying to have sex
with a thirteen or fourteen year old girl, I have no problems with you.
As long as you are not a woman having sex with your neighborks
Rottweiler, I have no moral judgments against you.
Kinkiness is highly subjective. My ekinkyf could be your enormalf
and vice versa. As long as what you are doing in the bedroom (or
outside the bedroom) is not illegal, an invasion of someoneks physical
space, and you are not deceiving them or misleading them in any sort
of way, you are good in my book. Live out your lustful desires.
I say, drinks for all of the women l and blowjobs for all of the men.
Okay, maybe not that drunk, fat stinky mutha fu**a over there in the
corner talking to himself. If you are looking for marriage and eMr. Rightf or eMs. Right,f donkt
try to rush into anything. Take your time. Ask good, straightforward
questions. Find out about this personks desires, fears, morals, values,
principles and past relationship experiences. Finding out key
information is representative of eold schoolf dating and will do
nothing but help you in the long run.
If you are looking for just a one-night stand, weekend fling or other
variation of casual sex l have the cojones to be bold, upfront and
straightforward in letting a woman know that. Same goes for the
women. In the long-run, you will feel better about yourself and your
sense of character and integrity. You will be surprised at the
responses you receive.
People come down hard on adult film actors and actresses. Some say
porno stars are the scum of the earth. Not hardly. Adult film stars put
it all out there. They are not sexually duplicitous and erotically
hypocritical like over half of the men and women walking around in
society eplaying innocent.f I respect anyone who puts their sexuality
out there for all to see. Who cares what YOU think about MY sex
life. As far as I know, I am the only one being buried in the coffin.
I hope the contents of these pages help you improve your love life,
sex life and overall social life. Everyone deserves to be happy. "