TASK DEFINITION: Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.
PROBLEM: Every year of my life i've celebrated thanksgiving with my family (I'm 19). This year is a little different because it's being celebrated at my aunts house, i'm not particularly fond of her because she can be loud and me being an anxious introvert  I am, I find it hard to partake or enjoy conversation with her and some of the family that will be there, not that I don't love them, because that isn't the case at all.   
This year my best friends older sister and her boyfriend are visiting and I havent seen them in a while and I wanna make sure I don't miss there visit. On top of that some of my friends are gonna be hanging out and they want me to tag along, I've never celebrated thanksgiving with friends before so I figured it'd be fun to switch it up for once. My family is also moving to Europe next year and I'm unsure of if I'll be going with them or not, so I want to take this chance to spend my favorite holiday with my friends before I possibly go away to another country and am unable to be around them next year. My mom thinks I'm only doing this because I only care about myself (which I dont blame her for, I can be an a-hole and I'm glad she puts up with me). She thinks I don't want to go because of me not liking my aunt, or being an anxious hermit, that isn't the case though, I wouldn't mind being around them at all and I really looked forward to eating a bunch of food at my aunts because we haven't celebrated there since I was a little kid and I know it'll bring a bunch of nostalgia and make me feel happy, I just want to show my friends that I'm grateful for them and everything they do for me, because my anxiety gets to me a lot, causing me to bail or avoid plans with them or anyone.  
I'm really grateful for my group of friends because me being the very depressed person I am, its hard to keep going sometimes, but they always find a way to cheer me up or get me to keep going without trying or even knowing. I've never fit in growing up and going through school, but somehow my group of friends just formed out of no where and I always am grateful for everything they do for me because they're the kindest and chillest people I've ever met, I genuinely love all of them like a family. Which is why I want to just spend time with them and just hangout and chill like we normally do, we aren't even doing any celebration as far as i'm aware.  
(Sorry for the poor quality writing, i'm just waking up as i'm dealing with my mom being mad at me and telling me to talk to her when "I want to be her son again", so im kinda stressed and my brain is frazzled)

SOLUTION: missing thanksgiving to be with friends

PROBLEM: A little background info:

I maker roughly twice as much as my GF does in terms of take home pay. As a result I decided to pay a reasonable amount of her expenses - including 25% of her rent (I have a separate apartment which I pay for but we spend most of our time at her apartment) , her monthly phone bill, and ALL of our grocery shopping. I also take her to and from work every day, which naturally incurs some gas costs which she doesn't contribute to. Outside of her rent and occasional taxi fare ( once per week, which happens when i am working can't pick up/drop her off) she has no major obligations. I have also bought her small things on a semi- regular (almost weekly)  basis, e.g. lunch, money for going out, etc.  These costs usually add up to another 30/40 per week, .

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She has a trip coming up next month that she's been planning for at least 4 months. Last week she asked me to pay 75% (instead of 25%) of the rent, as she is "broke" and can't afford to pay her rent and the ticket. Her ticket price is only slightly more than the money she'd be saving on the rent (roughly $800) which indicates that she hasn't saved up much towards her trip. She also says that she will pay me back within a month or two. 

  
While I can easily cover this, I am a bit nonplussed as to why she can't afford her trip. WIBTA for asking her what happened to her money and why I need to chip in? 

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SOLUTION: asking my gf to tell me what happened to her money before I lend her any

PROBLEM: This Christmas season I(23NB) have been visiting the family home, and so has all my siblings. This year we were a lot of people in a very small space. It has been very stressful for everyone, and I have wanted to help out my fair share around the house and with cooking, but I have not been able to do much at all.
I suffer from avoidant personality disorder, deep depression, suicidal ideation, and some complex ptsd that is connected to my mom who was present.

In the little time I've been here I have had several bouts of depressive and suicidal moods, and had non-stop anxiety, resulting in many anxiety- and panic attacks, which I did my best to shield my family from, as to not make them worry about me.
I did try to make it known to my family that I wasn't doing very well mentally, and couldn't contribute as much as I wanted to, which they seemed to accept.

I felt like a terrible burden all the way through Christmas and new years. Everyone else went all out with amazing cooking and baking and kept the house nice, while I was stuck to my bed or the couch most of the time, debilitatingly miserable for no good reason, doing nothing of value. 
I tried to let everybody know, verbally, how much I appreciated them and their effort, because I really do, and I didn't want them to think I took it for granted.

I tried to not let my feelings and thoughts of uselessness and helplessness get to me though, as I learned in therapy that that kind of thinking rarely helps.
But today I was let known that everyone in family felt strongly that I wasn't pulling my weight. My siblings had put in all this effort to make an amazing Christmas, but felt exhausted and unappreciated, and I didn't even offer to help. They had been afraid to call me out on my inactivity or to ask anything of me, as they know that any sort of responsibility can make me feel extremely anxious and upset, because of my many deepseated insecurities.

Today, my mother finally confronted me about it. She insisted I should have been able to do more, but I honestly don't think I was able to. It turned into a nasty fight with no resolution.

I want to let them all know how incredibly shitty I feel about this. I feel like a monster. I wanna die. I wanna run away. I don't want to come back next year to be a burden again. I feel so guilty, even though I know I can't do much better yet.

But I am afraid that telling them this could end up being manipulative of me, hurt their feelings and force them to not confront me about my flaws in the future either. 
I am also afraid of making any promises I cannot keep about helping out a lot more.

I've considered leaving for my own home early, or going to a hotel, but I can't afford it.

I feel so terrible and I need to know if I really am. Sorry that I write bad.

SOLUTION:

Show your work and conclude with the exact phrasing "Therefore, the final answer is [answer]." where [answer] is just the final number or expression that solves the problem.
user
letting my mental health issues make me a burden

