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Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.
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TLDR at end

Background: currently in New York with for spring break. I transferred to a college in LA for this past year; previously I went to one an hour away from home for two years. 

So my 21st birthday is coming up, and I’m planning on spending with Thursday night to Saturday morning with my friends over at my old college. 

My family’s pretty upset at me - they already don’t like it when I spend time away from home over breaks. It’s worse because it’s also my birthday. My mom and sister really wanted to take me out in the evening for dinner and spend time together. 

The thing is that I do spend a lot of time with my family and I do care about them a lot. I do feel that it’s somewhat disrespectful that they paid for my flight and they are my family and I’m choosing to spend my 21st with other people. However, we also do have a pretty complicated relationship (family is both the reason I stayed closed for two years and then moved acrossed the country).

I also really want to spend time with my friends in New York (we’ve stayed very closed even with the distance). With one of them graduating this year and me gone, we don’t have much time to spend as a group. Also, my family doesn’t drink, and I do want to celebrate my 21st in a pretty typical fashion with my closest friends. 

I brought it up to my mom before I came home multiple times and she brushed me off every time. Eventually, I decided to go without her input and she’s not stopping me, but she’s pretty passive aggressive about it and obviously hurt. 

I’ve always struggled with knowing how much of my time I should give to my family and how much I owe to myself, but I really can’t tell here. So am I the asshole?

TLDR; my non drinking family wants me to spend my 21st with them; I’m planning on spending it with my college friends instead. 
answer:
ditching my family's plans for my birthday


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So first things first, I'm married. So there was no chance at all I ever entertained the idea of talking to someone else, this also isn't a super serious post like all the other relationship ending ones. Ok, on to the story.  

This past weekend a friend of mine invited my wife and I to go eat out with him and his wife and another couple, the have drinks at a local bar after dinner.  

The night is going amazing until we're at the bar when a big group of girls recognizes my friend and to say hi. He introduces everyone in our group, including our wives and who is married to whom.   

One of the girls however decided that she wanted to try her luck I guess, idk? She was fairly intoxicated and kept trying to talk to me, ignoring the fact that my wife was five feet away talking to my friends wife. I was trying to be nice and slowly remove myself from the situation without being rude, but she was being persistent and my patience was wearing out having already emphasized that my wife was right behind us.    

Also, I'm 28, this girl was roughly 22-24. Which I seized on when she made her move and asked "do you have a snapchat?" To which I replied, "Isn't that for children?" Nobody else heard it so the embarrassment was strictly between her and I, but it was enough to get her to leave me alone. I didn't think anything of it because I'm likely never going to see her again.  

I told my wife about the incident the next day and she laughed about it but said "You didn't have to be mean."  I'm not torn up about it, but I love reading comments on this sub, So I figured I'd leave it open to the court of public opinion.
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turning down a Drunk girl


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Maybe this should be in r/relationshipadvice sorry in advanced 

Anyways, I’ve been with my SO for a while, we’ve had ups and downs, nothing any normal couples wouldn’t experience. We’re both in our late 20s and have been living together for a couple of months. 

I’ve always imaged having a dog once I’ve had my own place, that’s always been my plan. I had a dog as a child/ teen and loved it to death. I haven’t been able to have a dog because of space/ time/ financial reasons. But in the near future I really want to adopt. My point is, this is very important to me.

My SO however does not want a dog. Ever. They have been wish-y wash-y about the idea since we started dating. But I figured “who could hate dogs? I’ll convince them”. Nope. We pet sat a mutual friends dog this weekend and my SO was not having it. Definitely confirmed they never want a dog. And I was honestly really turned off at how my SO even didn’t want to even pet it.

I know this seems petty, and I probably shouldn’t have assumed that I could change my SO’s mind about dogs. But I just can’t imagine my future without a dog. Is this dramatic?

TL;DR I love dogs and want one in the future. SO hates dogs and refused to ever have one. AITA for potentially breaking up with them because of this?
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Show your work and conclude with the exact phrasing "Therefore, the final answer is [answer]." where [answer] is just the final number or expression that solves the problem.
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breakupping with my so because they don't like dogs


