Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, identify who is wrong here. Classify each post into the following categories : AUTHOR (if the author of the post is wrong in the situation), OTHER (if any of the others mentioned in the paragraph is wrong), EVERYBODY (if everyone mentioned is wrong) and NOBODY (if no one is wrong in the situation).
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Question: About two yeas ago I rented a small workshop space for my friend and me to do some woodworking.

It was in the same house as his apartment and about 200$ per month. We agreed that each of us will pay 100$ and split the money we need to set up everything.

A few days after he signed the contract in his name I asked him for his bank information so I can set up a standing order for 100€ each month.

He said no it's ok, since he's already renting an apartment in the same house he will manage it over his existing contract.

Then we never lost a word about rent again.

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Now after two years he's moving in a house an hour away, so we dissolved the workspace.

He then wrote me a text saying I need to pay him 2500$ because I never payed him the monthly rent.

I was kinda shocked and asked him what was going on and why did he tell me that "it's ok" when I asked him for his bank information two years ago and NEVER said anything about me not paying him (we saw us at least 3 days a week).

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I would not have cared paying him 100$ each month while using that space. But 2.5k afterwards is a ton of money.

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Am I the asshole for not paying him that money?

Answer: EVERYBODY


Question: This happened over a year ago while I was driving with an Ex-girlfriend. This scenario still nags on me and so I decided to share it here.

Karen (Ex's name for the story), my dog, and I were driving early in the morning to a hiking trail in Pasadena, California. It was early Saturday morning so traffic wasn't bad at any part of our hour drive. We get off the highway into a nice suburban neighborhood where the roads are wide, empty. and pretty straight.

As I stop at a red light, I can see far ahead of me the next light, which just turned green. There were also 2 cars waiting in the same line at that light. These two cars were all alone at that cross section. The light was green and yet these two cars were patiently waiting and going nowhere. There was no honking.

My light finally turned green and I grew more curious as I drove towards the two cars. At least a good minute passed since their light turned green, so I couldn't help but see who the two drivers were. I slowly drove on the other line to their left. The car at front was a black BMW and the driver was looking at his phone instead of at the light. The vehicle behind him was an old white truck that needed a good wash. It was carrying all kinds of construction equipment. The truck's driver was a Hispanic man. Mid 40s. His jeans and jean jacket was splashed with white crusted paint and his face was certainly one that has been in the sun for too long. And the expression of that face...was tired calmness.

And that fact baffled me. Here was a moment that justified confronting another person and calling him out. This call to action transcends cultures and generations. No one can defend wasting your time while endangering others by looking at your phone while driving. You are universally the asshole in that case.

As I drove past both motionless cars, I turned to Karen and said something similar to: "I think that Hispanic guy is an illegal immigrant."

Karen was aghast and asked me how I could say such a racist thing. I calmly told her that I did not attack the man's character or say anything negative about his situation in life. If he has to find work in America to survive or support his family, I have nothing but respect for that. I come from an immigrant family myself (Korean), and I still remember the hardships my parents went through while pursuing their education.

After defending my statement, I laid out the clues that led me to my conclusion.

1. The Hispanic man did not honk even though he rightfully could. Suggesting that he didn't want to bring attention to himself.

2, It's possible the car horn didn't work. He still could have switched lanes and drive pass the BMW. Yet he didn't. Suggesting his absolute, almost paranoid, need to avoid possible accidents.

3. It was early morning and he had the clothes and equipment for a working day. It's safe to assume that he didn't have all the time in the world to wait for an irresponsible driver. Yet his honk hand was steady.

4. His age and clothes suggested that of lower economic class with little or no education, or more specifically, no education from the United States. I can easily imagine my dad having done the same sort of work when he first came to the U.S. but he was also young and pursuing his PhD as well. If the Hispanic man was in the U.S. with a Visa, he likely would not be doing this sort of work at his older age. Men at that age doing minimum wage or less is a no-other-choice scenario.

Maybe he is an American citizen or is here legally, but it always goes back to why doesn't he honk then?

Throughout the argument, I kept saying that it was possible that I'm not right, but I felt pretty sure. What irked me was her saying that it was impossible that he's an illegal immigrant because...I don't know.

Anyways we went hiking and only my dog enjoyed everyone's company that day.

So what do you think? Am I the asshole here?

Answer: AUTHOR


Question: My ex wife is a perennial fuck up. She’s been to jail on numerous occasions, had several affairs, lost more jobs than I’ve ever had, and currently lives with her mother. I was a single dad for three years to three children, years where I learned to braid hair so I could care for my daughter. I’ve remarried, and my wife and I provide the children with everything. We pay for their healthcare. We help them with their school work. We sign them up for activities they are interested in and take them to those activities. We pay for those activities. We help them with their school projects. My son is almost 16, and we will buy his car. My eight year old daughter needs braces, and we will pay for them. I ask their mother for no child support because she can’t even support herself. I don’t wish to hurt her. In fact, I’ve forgiven her for who she is and what she’s done. 
Fast forward to tonight: my daughter is entering a pageant. We’ve paid for the dress. We’ve paid the entrance fee. She gets me ask her questions she might be asked at the pageant. One was, “Who is your hero and why?” 
My daughter says, “Do you think I should say, ‘my mom?’”
I said, “ You realize you have family here? We provide for you. We registered you for this pageant. We attended the meeting. You live here full time. We care for you and love you. I know that you get to go to your mom’s every other weekend, and you have no chores there. You eat whatever you like (mom has food stamps), but it’s easy to be a parent two weekends a month. It’s harder to be a parent all the time.” 

I’ve never derogated their mother. I don’t want to cripple their image of her, but it’s frustrating as hell that they see her as this angel and don’t appreciate everything their stepmother and I do for them. 

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Show your work and conclude with the exact phrasing "Therefore, the final answer is [answer]." where [answer] is just the final number or expression that solves the problem.
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