Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and an associated claim about its type, verify if the claim is true or not. The claim asks if the posts are historical or hypothetical. The posts are "HISTORICAL" when the author has already done something and they are "HYPOTHETICAL" when the author is considering doing something in the future. Say 'yes' if the claim is true otherwise say 'no'

CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : Long story, TL;DR at bottom. 

Background:
My parents split-up when I was 7, my mom remarried when I was 12 and my childhood was been spent on an every other weekend visitation schedule with my father until I was a teenager and could decide when I wanted to go. 

My father has no job, no car, and struggles with mental-illness and drug abuse. When it was time for college, I moved to a city about an hour away and would only come home a few days for school breaks, summer, and holidays. During this time the only contact I would have with my father is text messages, as he has no internet connection either. This continued on to my current life. I’m 24, work full time and am expecting my first child. Throughout my pregnancy so far my father has contact me through text message once or twice. 

In an effort to try to have a better relationship with my father before my son is born, my husband and I have been driving to visit him when we have the same days off, which happens only once a month. Each time we’ve gone to visit, my father makes a big deal about my husband being there and how it gives him anxiety to have us in his apartment. To better accommodate his anxiety we’ve asked him to meet us for coffee or lunch and paid for everything since he has no job. This seemed to be going well until the last few times he ordered his food to go and asked us to take him home. I started worrying his strange behaviour was because of him not taking his medication (this has happened numerous times), or him being on drugs again. When we dropped him off I asked about it and he told me he was fine, so I dropped it. 

This brings us to Christmas. On Christmas Day, my husband, sister and I all brought gifts to my dads apartment. The moment we walked into the house my dad said he needed to talk to me privately and angrily asked me why I confronted him the last time I was there. I told him that I didn’t want to talk about this, it’s Christmas and this is supposed to be a happy time. This understandably made me upset but we went back out to the living room and he opened his gifts and then said “This is awkward, can we do this another time?” 

I got extremely upset, started crying and left, but as I was leaving I did raise my voice at him and tell him he was an asshole for asking us to leave as he was the one who made things awkward, and I rarely get to see him. I also told him I wouldn’t be coming back. 

When we all got back to my parents house my sister was upset with me and told me I was being an asshole for ruining my fathers Christmas. I began to feel bad, so I texted him an apology but told him that what he said was extremely hurtful to me. I got no reply. 

I’ve discussed this at length with my husband, and have come to the decision that I will no longer be reaching out to my father, or trying to force a relationship with him because I don’t want my son to be hurt by him the way I have. My sister is extremely angry at me for doing this because I’m no longer accommodating my fathers mental health. AITA? 

TL;DR 
Father struggles with mental health and addiction. Has no way to contact me other than text messages. Makes minimal effort to maintain relationship with me (potentially because of mental illness), we get into a fight on Christmas, I decide to not let him have a relationship with my son. 
no

CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : So in my Chem class, I'm kinda considered one of the big boys when it comes to getting answers. And most of the people, it's fine because I actually talk to them. But one girl, she doesn't even extend the common courtesy of a hi. So I stopped giving her the answers on labs and stuff, because she never even acknowledges me unless she needs something.

So, Am I the asshole?
yes

CLAIM : The following post is HYPOTHETICAL. POST : Context: I (24f) got out of a 4 year relationship a year and a half ago. It was a bad relationship, I won't get into all of it, but my ex was bipolar and an alcoholic and dealt with a lot of legal troubles throughout the relationship (4 months in prison and then another 2 or 3 years of supervised probation.) I had to help him with more than I was ever comfortable with. It caused almost constant stress in my life.

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Shortly after I ended that relationship, I started seeing this guy, "M" (24.) I told him right away that I didn't want anything serious, but we've been hooking up/hanging out for over a year now. I know that M likes me a lot and might want something more serious. I should also note that at this point we are more than just "fuck buddies," I really like him as a person, we text throughout the week and he's someone I feel comfortable being around when I'm upset/stressed/whatever.

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Lately M has been going through a lot. He broke down crying in front of me last week. He got a DUI years ago and is still dealing with the repercussions, and a lot of his behavior reminds me of my ex (avoiding and ignoring problems but constantly worrying about what will happen when those problems catch up with him. Not taking the appropriate actions to fix things.) He said he's at risk of going to jail. I helped him with some things, helped him buy a new battery for his car, let him use my phone, bought him food, gave him some rides.

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I'm starting to feel like it's too much. I don't want to hear about his issues; it's in my nature to want to help in whatever way I can but I don't want to put myself in that situation. I REALLY care about this guy, genuinely want to see him be ok. So I feel awful for not wanting anything to do with him if he's going to be going through all of this. I also think it's important to note that the biggest thing I have an issue with is him relying on me emotionally. When he was crying I felt exactly like I did in my last relationship. I felt awful for him but helpless and sort of resentful.

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I think I'll just gradually back off and if he asks, tell him I've been busy with work (which is true) and focusing on myself. I don't know if it would be better to be honest in this situation and tell him I can't be a part of his life while he's dealing with so much. I know I get to choose who I want in my life but I feel like a huge asshole for wanting to be done with this friendship/relationship at the exact moment M probably needs me most. It's not like I'm his girlfriend, it doesn't directly impact my day to day life, so should I just suck it up, be a good friend and help him through it even though it makes me uncomfortable?

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Tl;dr I want to cut contact with a guy I've been seeing for awhile because he's been dealing with legal troubles, money troubles etc. and leaning on me for emotional support and it reminds me of a shitty past relationship. AITA?

Show your work and conclude with the exact phrasing "Therefore, the final answer is [answer]." where [answer] is just the final number or expression that solves the problem.
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