Given a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation, generate a suitable title that describes the main event/root cause of the situation. Imagine that the given text is a social media post, and you have to write the title of the post, so the users can decide to read the main text or not.
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Question: Hey first time posting.

This happened 2 days ago figured id give this a shot.

So i was driving and decided to stop and grab a drink at starbucks. I pull in behind this SUV, the SUV drives around a White Caddie thats parked in the drive thru lane but also next to the door. The Suv drove around the Caddie figure it was waiting for someone grabbing a coffee.

The SUV i assumed went into the drive thru so i thought okay ill drive around and get in line. I drove around the car and saw an SUV. Oh! I was right okay nbd. i was positioned poorly because the car was blocking the proper direction i should be in.

Next thing i know the guy in the white car is honking at me guy rolls down his window and starts yelling at me. Typical douche looking white guy with his bangs spiked up. I apologize, and explain to him what was happening. Honest mistake. He’s aggressive and yelling typical hey asshole, yada yada, going on about how he wasnt going into the cross walk i was on(its a cross walk to a dumpster cage in a private parking lot. I frequent this place often its common when theres a line for a car to be there).

He then yells at me to back up which i did im not a dick if that was his spot its his. Then he doesnt apologize to me he apologizes to the drive through lady for honking while he ordering his stupidly complicated regular coffee. 

So the question is Am i the asshole for driving around him or is he the asshole for going agro on me? 

Answer: driving around this guy at starbucks


Question: I've known the friend for 21 years. After university I worked, got some more qualifications and saved up and got my first place. She's travelled the world coming back periodically.

Over the last 10 years she's become increasingly negative about me, saying I'm boring, flat is not very nice etc and about other people around her. This weekend I'd arranged for us to go out because she'd gotten upset about not being thin at the gym. On the way out I asked her if she would mind if I dropped her off at the train station because I had to pop and see another friend.  I'd pay for the train ticket etc. She then refused to to talk to me for the rest of the journey. When we arrived she told me that I was selfish and make every about me and she's always the one that makes effort in the friendship.

I'm really hurt by this and feel it's really unfair. I've spent the last few years fielding her calls etc when she's down, organising days out and I've joined the gym with her so she didn't.  In the last year she's rarely been free at the weekend, she's busy with work friends etc.  So I've started to go out more with other friends and picked up a few  hobbies. I've had to rearrange some stuff recently with her due to illness and work stress but thought she understood why. She also didn't come to birthday (at weekend) because while she read the text I sent she didn't reply for a day and a half and I needed to book ASAP. I didn't think it would be a big ask for her to get the train as she'd previously said that's how she was going to travel that day. I feel the outburst is just the latest in a long line of emotionally draining interactions. I don't want to throw the friendship away but equally I've spent the rest of the weekend feeling so down and this isn't the first time. If I called time, am I the asshole?

Answer: being not sure I want to spend time with an old friend any more


Question: There's a little bit of context to this I guess. I was in a relationship with a guy for the last year and we lived together (cheaper and he had to move cross state for schooling that he ended up not doing), and our relationship was an absolute dumpster fire. We were the kind of couple that was clearly never compatible but neither of us was mature enough to end it or maybe we were both just too hopeful I guess(?), and shit sorta detonated recently. We were spending time apart, he in a city a couple hours away and me here because I had nowhere else to go.

There were a couple of things he's done in this relationship that were really bad (**anyone with trauma or anxieties surrounding sexual/physical abuse please don't read further**); 

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A couple of months into our relationship he'd sorta violated my consent by initiating sex with me in the middle of the night while I was asleep, and when I say asleep *I mean asleep* like "I wake up and we're already doing things apparently" asleep. He's also been physically abusive, hit me a couple of times, and been extremely verbally abusive in the past and it reached a point where him being around caused me active anxiety and a fear for my safety. If I was being 100% truthful which I hope to god I am, I've done abusive things too. I always put my all into rectifying that behaviour whenever it's brought up to me but *I've been guilty of bad behaviour as well*. I've reacted super poorly, if he hits me occasionally I hit back, he's triggered actual post-traumatic episodes in me where I've blacked out and apparently done a couple of really mean things, I've always felt bad afterwards but I don't think that that's an excuse or a remedy. Recently we officially broke things off entirely with a big argument, one where I contributed nearly as much to the bad situation as he did, admittedly. 

He yelled at me, insulted me and repeatedly brought up things that our kind of beyond the scope of my control. But "two wrongs don't make a right" obviously, I reacted by yelling back and insulting him too. I called him a piece of shit, a dick, a bunch of expletives that honestly did nothing. Very soon afterwards I felt like shit because I really try to have better control over my temper, and whether someone's mocking me for being disabled or not I felt like a personal failure for helping escalate a bad situation. I made an already bad situation worse by participating in it and having too much pride to back down and I feel really guilty.

Flash forward to a couple of days later (today, he left two days ago) and he comes by to grab his things, which I'm obviously fine with. But I sleep in that room, I live in that room and don't get to go out much, and on top of that when he left he'd already stolen something from it that didn't belong to him. So when I found out that he was coming over to get his things I decided to draw a very broad line in the sand and said that I didn't want him in what is now my room. I said he could have a mutually trusted, neutral third party present at all times to grab his things, I said I could go with that person or I could be in the other room with him if he didn't trust me, and I said the only way he would step foot in that room would be to talk to me about our interactions beforehand.  

I made it very clear that no matter what he would get his things but I didn't budge and made it nonnegotiable that he wouldn't go into that room because I didn't feel safe even being in the same room as him let alone having him where I slept.

If *I was describing this situation to myself* I'd think "oh not the asshole right" but I have some moral confounding about the situation. This was still his apartment as well as mine at one point, we both paid rent, we both lived and slept in this room for months and his things were in here. He had concerns about the safety of his belongings which I respect, and I agreed  to not touch anything of his without him being present. He brought by a friend and I ended up letting him in the room but following him and keeping a close eye on him. Wounds being fresh I'm obviously tempted to bitch about his behaviour being insulting and hostile while he was here but I don't think that's productive and I don't want to try and imbalance the scales. 

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So I guess the **tl;dr** is; Am I the asshole for not wanting this person in the room that I sleep in when they've violated my consent, was that boundary an immature one? I don't always have the best judgement and I can't tell if I did the right thing or if I was just being childish and petulant. 

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Show your work and conclude with the exact phrasing "Therefore, the final answer is [answer]." where [answer] is just the final number or expression that solves the problem.
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not letting someone in the room we used to share, but no longer do


