Given a post that is a real-life anecdote of a complex ethical situation and an associated claim about its type, verify if the claim is true or not. The claim asks if the posts are historical or hypothetical. The posts are "HISTORICAL" when the author has already done something and they are "HYPOTHETICAL" when the author is considering doing something in the future. Say 'yes' if the claim is true otherwise say 'no'

[EX Q]: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : Ok, first time poster here and posting via mobile

Here's the deal. I get cold sores aka I have herpes. I'm 28. I've had it my whole life ever since I can remember ( I didn't make a bad decision or recklessly get one). I've been in many long term relationships (3+ years in length) and NEVER have I given it to any of my partners. I go to extreme lengths to make sure I don't pass it on, including waiting many extra days after I'm positive the cold sores have healed before I'm willing to let myself kiss anyone. 

Typically it's at least 2.5 weeks from when I get one until I would do anything physical( general rule of thumb is 2 weeks to heal without acyclovir, lysine, or abreva to help speed the healing process). FTR I use all three. My boyfriend is so scared of getting one, which I understand completely considering I've never had the option to not have them, and I get fairly large and painful ones. After I'm 100% sure it's gone, he still makes me wait additional time before he'll let me kiss him. Anywhere from 4-5 days or at the longest an extra week or two. The amount of time seems completely arbitrary based purely on how fearful he feels at the moment. If it was always the same amount of time, maybe I'd be able to cope better, I dunno.

I struggle with self image issues and feel like a downright ugly unlovable monster when I have cold sores, somewhat exacerbated by the fact that whenever I see my boyfriend remember I have one, he flinches away from me and has a look of intense fear on his face. So, the 2.5 weeks minimum is torture, and then the extra who knows how many days feels even worse (when I know the sore is gone and he treats me as diseased anyways)

We've talked about it and all he ever tells me is that a few extra days isn't anything in comparison to a lifetime - which I understand. I told him it makes me feel pretty crummy to wait even longer and that it sucks he doesn't trust me and believe me when I tell him it's ok. I would NEVER rush a recovery and put ANYONE at risk. I've had a perfect track record for 28 years and don't intend on that changing ever.

Anytime I bring this up, I'm told I just can't possibly understand and why would I make him feel bad because he just wants to protect himself. Which I do understand, but he seems to not care at all that it makes me feel like complete garbage for as long as he's unwilling to kiss me. 

AITH for wanting him to trust me more because of my experience with the disease and compromise on the excessive amount of extra wait time? Any time I bring that up, I get told I'm horrible for making him feel bad, but he doesn't seem to care at all that he's making me feel like I'm less than a person. And he tells me I'm overly emotional for feeling that way. 
[EX A]: yes

[EX Q]: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : Basically a social-based question.


Is it considered offensive to give your negative opinions on someone? For example I've given negative but constructive opinions to others but they took this offensively. Yet when I took offensively another person giving me a negative opinion without reasoning, they said "oh it's an opinion blah blah". What is the verdict?
[EX A]: yes

[EX Q]: CLAIM : The following post is HISTORICAL. POST : I love my MIL (and SIL who is also super into horses) to death, but this issue is really starting to bug me and my fiancé. 

We live in an area where a lot of people (mostly women) are OBSESSED with horses and riding horses and owning horses just to say they have horses and just.... horses. 

I have never been interested in that kind of thing. I can recognize that horses are a beautiful, elegant creature but I just have never gotten into it. Neither has my fiancé. He has dated girls who had horses and he just couldn’t deal with it.

We have a 13 month old daughter and my MIL is constantly talking about how she is going to get her crazy about horses and riding them and all of that. We don’t want her to. We want our daughter to be involved in more extra curricular activities like karate and baseball and soccer and the like. 

I understand that it’s a hobby. I understand that it’s loved by a lot of people, and that it isn’t hurting anybody. But what this mostly comes down to is that my MIL expects us to pay for it, and I know that is an expensive hobby because she can barely afford for her daughter to do it. I don’t want to pay for something she is insisting our daughter gets into, especially when our daughter isn’t even old enough to tell us what she wants to do. We don’t have a lot of money, just like MIL, so I would rather put this on the back burner and wait until our daughter is way older to even consider her doing it. When I told MIL this, she said we were being unfair and inconsiderate of our daughter.

AITA for telling my MIL we don’t want our daughter to get into horse riding and for expecting her to pay for it if she wants it so bad? 
[EX A]:

Show your work and conclude with the exact phrasing "Therefore, the final answer is [answer]." where [answer] is just the final number or expression that solves the problem.
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