Im a divorced, bi-sexual, Buddhist, recovering alcoholic who really enjoys my life.  With a great job, a lovely home, three sweet cats, and a healthy relationship with a man who shares many of my interests, and also introduces me to new ones, I have a lot to be grateful for.  My reason for joining the forum is to meet other INTJ women specifically, and learning how they do romantic relationships with men who are more emotional than we are.  I am in a long distance relationship with a man (probably an INFP?) who is having difficulty with the fact that I don't need nearly as much interaction or validation as he does.  Since we generally only see each other two weekends per month, he wants to spend all of that time fully engaged, and I have trouble meeting him with that degree of intensity.  He often looks at me and just says, Now what? which indicates that he wants me to initiate a conversation, but that feels to artificial that I end up just staring at him wondering what to say. He isnt comfortable with my long silences, and reads into them that we are having some sort of disconnect, while I am in reality just happily thinking about something or reading, or enjoying the scenery on a long drive.  Consequently, his anger or hurt feelings come as a surprise to me.  I find myself having to remind myself to communicate, to text or call when we are apart, or to talk when we are together, and I still come up short in terms of making him feel as loved as he wants to feel. He is an amazing man, we are very compatible in many other ways, and our relationship has more positive potential than any other I have experienced, so I want to learn some tools to be able to make this work.
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