September 22 – October 21
What’s Your Relationship Style?
by Barry Kerr, evolutionary astrologer
Each month, Barry explains the sign for that month and then lists all 12 signs and how each interacts with this month’s sign. Look for your birth sign below. (These can also hold true if you have your Moon, Ascendent and/or a number of planets in the sign.)
Libra wants to relate. As we leave the first half of the zodiac, which was focused on developing and strengthening our ego personality, now Libra calls our attention to our relationships to other egos. Unlike in earthy Taurus, where our inner Venus primarily valued what met our own material needs of survival and comfort, now in airy Libra, Venus values people. It was in Cancer that our watery emotional and mostly subliminal awareness of soul connections was aroused, causing us to now value the frequency of love. And if we were paying attention during the Virgo phase of practical analysis and critical feedback, we are now poised to apply relevant lessons to how we create and sustain relationships and discernment toward choosing our people. To have a fulfilling relationship, we must learn to relax our own ego and give more attention to the desires, perspectives, and fears of an other, then apply that information to our decisions and actions in support of the other. In this way, we develop qualities of harmony, cooperation, fairness and balance. We become thoughtful of others, the consequences of our actions on them, and make different choices.
In our soul’s zodiac journey, Libra is the awakening of our longing to return to the wholeness of our existence as a spiritual soul, connected to all other beings in unconditional loving oneness. We bring that deeper longing to our attempts at creating personal love relationships in our lives. Our mature Libra self will welcome the opportunities to blend our will with others by lending support, compromising , cooperating, and even sacrificing at appropriate times. Our less evolved Libra self might resist all that, fearing the loss of self will, or fearing aloneness, it might go overboard the other direction by sacrificing self too much, too often. In Libra’s quest to apply balance and fairness, relationship to self remains part of the equation.
Aries (Mar 20 – Apr 20)
Libra is opposite your sign, Aries. This polarity represents the challenge of integrating self and other. Your natural tendencies to look to yourself and go your own way are challenged this month. Use this an as opportunity to become more aware of how you might resist in relationship. If listening, cooperating and freely giving feel threatening to your sense of strength, see how you can support others’ strength so they become more worthy of partnership with you.
Taurus (Apr 20 – May 20)
Taurus, your experience of relationships can be colored by your need for loyalty and commitment. During this Libra month, tap into the principles of negotiation and cooperation to enhance your sense of stability and comfort. We don’t ever own someone, but we can own our feelings about them. Trust the laws of give and take. Relationship requires letting go, sometimes; things or people. What’s stable is inside.
Gemini (May 20 – June 20)
Libra and Gemini are both air signs, able to consider many sides of an issue, so, Gemini, during this month direct your natural gifts of curiosity and talk toward enhancing mutual understanding in your relationships. Polarized conflicts are typically not about lack of love, but how we interpret behaviors. If you’re feeling restless, go deeper.
Cancer (Jun 20 – Jul 20)
OK Cancer, here’s your chance to smother your loved ones with love and care. Just be sure you aren’t actually smothering them. If in doubt, ask. It’s amazing how talking about feelings with others can actually deepen bonds of affection in a positive way. During this Libra month is a good time to be aware of emotional security issues. We all want and need to be loved by others, but it starts within. We can’t expect others to do that for us.
Leo (Jul 20 – Aug 20)
Even if you are not the kind of Leo who commands the stage before an audience, you do love to be adored. Your one-on-one relationships may be your favorite audience, so this would be a good month to pay attention to that. Is there a balance? Use your natural qualities of enthusiasm and generosity to draw out the fun and romance in your significant other(s). What would feel supportive and loving to them? How are they special, like you.
Virgo (Aug 20 – Sep 20)
Virgo, relationships can often be a challenge for you because you are generally focused on making them better. That’s a good intention that generally goes unappreciated. During this Libra month, it is good to remember that two people can both have the best of intentions and still see things differently. And yes, sometimes you can be right. But what do you want most? To feel right? Or to feel love? If you want to bring order to your relationship, start by prioritizing a few bottom lines and then be willing to negotiate the rest.
Libra (Sep 20 – Oct 20)
This is your month, Libra, so welcome all the possibilities that your close relationships may promise. Others will be more tuned in to the balance and fairness you always value. Exercise all the attributes you possess around creating, sustaining and growing intimate relationship, but be mindful that in your quest for peace and harmony, you may compromise too much, or fail to commit yourself. Be strong in yourself and see conflict as a natural doorway to intimacy.
Scorpio (Oct 20 – Nov 20)
For you, Scorpio, relationships are the necessary platform for the intensity you attract in life. So, this time of Libra is a good one to be aware of your relationship commitments. Are you committed merely to loyalty and longevity or is there a deeper commitment to personal growth and evolvement. The first allows you to stay fixed in the illusionary fear that your ego will not survive, and thus you will experience more drama and negative emotions. The second invites naked vulnerability and the promise of spiritual transcendence beyond the ego.
Sagittarius (Nov 20 – Dec 20)
During this Libra cycle, Sag, pay attention to how much sense of adventure, exploration and expanded perspective you are experiencing in your special relationships. Do you have a partner who is an equal and can enjoy the spaciousness of your inner and outer worlds. You need freedom, Sag, but be careful you don’t drift too far over the horizon and lose touch with your special one(s). Sustained relationships require you return and share your adventurous stories. Better yet, travel with a partner.
Capricorn (Dec 20 – Jan 20)
Respect is bottom line for you, Capricorn, and this is even more true in your most personal relationships. During this Libra time, notice how much respect you are getting and giving. If you find yourself trying to control the other person, you may not be feeling respected. Or perhaps you don’t respect him or her. Better to talk about that than turn bossy. Also, this is a good time to welcome some recognition from your loved-ones for your achievements in life. Share what you are proud of and invite others to do the same.
Aquarius (Jan 20 – Feb 20)
As the third air sign, Aquarius, this time of Libra invites thoughtful and stimulating connections with loved-ones. You have a need for freedom to be an individual in your relationships and this can make it difficult for you to commit to just one person. Now is a good time to do your best to communicate your unique needs and desires around relating. The right person will totally “get” you and value your need for independence. Your lover must be a friend first.
Pisces (Feb 20 – Mar 20)
Pisces, merging into relationship can feel as easy as breathing to you. Your natural empathy draws you into other people’s feelings, yet that is also a danger for you. During this Libra month, be aware of any tendencies toward being a “savior” in primary relationships. Set some boundaries. Can your special someone allow you to be remain sensitive without taking advantage? You need a spiritual partner, not a patient.
Barry Kerr, a certified soul-based astrologer, has 36 years of experience with an international clientele, including many medical professionals and alternative healers. He and Kristine Gay, a licensed psychotherapist, are owners/practitioners at Inner Essence Center in Madison. Both have extensive training in soul-guided healing of mind, body, heart and spiritual systems. Barry offers astrology, energy healing and transformational coaching by phone, Skype or in person in Madison, WI. Inquiries are welcome – free 15 minute consultation to explore if this is for you. Visit www.ChooseConsciousLiving.com for more information or email Barry at Barry@ChooseConsciousLiving.com. Call Barry at 608-345-2470.