The debate and speculation about the betrothal and nuptials of Prince William and commoner Kate Middleton continue throughout Britain and the world. What is less discussed, however, is whether the relationship between Prince William and his long time girlfriend is healthy or sick, and what this might mean for their long term happiness. There is plenty of evidence to suggest that there likely will be trouble in Camelot.
For more than seven years, William has been calling the shots in this relationship. Understandably, his privileged position dictates that certain protocols be followed. He is obliged, for example, to uphold appearances: not to flaunt his cohabitation with Kate; not to bring her along to many public engagements; not to commit "PDAs" (especially in the presence of the Queen.) However, the indignities he has showered on her go beyond these understandable transgressions.
Kate Middleton has been subject to increasing ridicule as the years have gone by without a royal engagement. She has been dubbed "Waity Katie" by the British tabloids. She has suffered the indignity of public scrutiny while she waits - and waits - and waits - for her man. The British public debates in conversation as well as in the press as to whether William intends to ever marry her. Meanwhile, she dodges paparazzi, tries to live life pristinely, doesn't pursue a serious career nor dump William for someone else, and waits. All of which bring on more public ridicule.
While all this goes on, William seems perfectly content to let his lady love continue to be subject to this humiliation. Is this not a sign of classic male abuse? He lets her suffer while enjoying his way. All the excuses for not marrying are there: "not ready to marry;" "needs to finish training" (for what, really?); "needs to live at the RAF barracks;" etc. Meanwhile, she becomes the subject of public ridicule. What kind of man can live with himself while making the woman he "loves" miserable? Most people call that kind of man a sadist.
Prince William and Kate Middleton will make some important decisions over the coming weeks. While Kate will be hoping for Prince Charming to "put a ring on it," it remains to be seen whether this will be good for her in the long term. It is very difficult for couples to break out of sado-masochistic patterns, and the foundation on which William and Kate are building is flawed. Stay tuned.