I have no formal degree as a counsellor or a psychologist nor any pastoral degree.
I write from my own life experiences, including the pain and heartache endured from abuse, adultery, separation and divorce from a marriage of 9 years.
Accompanied by this is the experience of abuse and separation from my natural parents; all this happened through my walk with Christ. I have been a Christian since I was very young.
My story shared with you includes my opinion from these experiences, and although it should never be seen as counsel for your personal situation, my experiences and decisions may be of help to you in some way. I was able to move ahead through the pain of this journey with the help of others who had travelled a similar road. Always remember, the circumstances and choices will be different even if the pain is very similar.
I will always support and remain faithful to marriage; I believe God designed it and with His blessing it can most definitely be a successful option.
I can offer you this: If you are travelling through a challenging relationship, please surround yourself with prayer, support and wisdom. Share with those whom you know can support and honour you as the WORTHY person you are. This relationship although a major part of your life, is not who you are, you are not defined by what is happening to you. Most of all, pour yourself out to God and allow Him to provide all the guidance you need. Be confident in knowing that He will provide others to come alongside you in this journey, but as He loves you more than anyone else, He wants YOU to want Him.
Everything in life will pass, be it good or bad. It is through life’s experiences that we become all that we are destined to be.
What we do or experience is not us, it is a part of who we are which is Valued, Worthy, Unique and Loved.