Influence of parental attitudes on children’s personality development
The influence of parental attitudes on children’s personality development
Mental life is extremely difficult, because the mind is composed of two mutually determinant components: conscious and unconscious — conscious and subconscious.
In the sphere of the unconscious is important fixed relationship to ourselves, to others and to life in General. Define this set and psychological protection. Parents are especially important to understand the role in the emotional and personal development of the child playing parental attitudes.
Install arise on a daily basis. Some random, weak, other principled, consistent and strong, are formed from early childhood, and the earlier they learned, their effect is stronger. Once emerged, the installation does not disappear at a favorable moment of a child’s life affects his behavior and feelings. Weapon against negative attitudes is kontrastnosti, and constantly supported by the positive manifestations on the part of parents and others. For example, kontrastnosti “You can!” wins setting “Helpless, nothing you can’t do it!”, but only if the child will actually receive confirmation of their abilities in real-life activities (teaching, drawing, modeling, singing, etc.).
Sure, most of the parent plants is positive and contributes to the favorable development of the personal journey of the child. And if they help or hinder, and realize that they are optional. This is a kind of psychological protection tools that help a child to save themselves and survive in the world. An example of a historically developed and transmitted from generation to generation positive attitudes guarding the person, are Proverbs, tales and fables with wise adaptive sense, where good triumphs over evil, and wisdom — stupidity, which is important for persistence, belief in yourself and your strength.
Look carefully at the table of the common negative parental attitudes, pay attention to the impact they may have on the child’s personality, and learn how to nominate contrastanti.
Establish a comprehensive set of directives, evaluation, and installation, you give your children. Make it so that the negative was very small, and learn to transform them into positive, develops a child’s faith in himself, the richness and vividness of the emotional world.
Think about the consequences
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“You will not obey, no one will be friends. ”
Isolation, alienation, passivity, potcinjenost, willingness, commitment stereotypical behavior.
“Be yourself, everyone in life has friends!”
“Oh, poor girl!”
Feelings of guilt, low self-esteem, hostility towards others, alienation, conflicts with parents.
“My happiness, my joy!”
Containment of emotion, inner anger, anxiety, deep experience even minor problems, increased emotional stress, fears.
“Go ahead and cry, it will be easier. ”
“That’s silly, all ready to hand out. ”
Low self-esteem, greed, hoarding, difficulty in communicating with peers, selfishness.
“Well done, share with others!”
“None of your business. ”
Low self-esteem, delays in mental development, lack of my opinion, shyness, alienation, conflicts with parents.
“What do you think. ”
“You’re just like your father (mother). ”
Difficulties in communicating with parents, identification with the parent behavior, lack of self-esteem, stubbornness, repetition of conduct of the parent.
“Dad we have a wonderful person!”
“Mom we clever!”
“Nothing I can do, NewMake!”
Without self-confidence, low self-esteem, fears, mental retardation, lack of initiative, low motivation to achieve.
“Try again, you will definitely succeed!”
“Don’t shout, gonna go deaf!”
Covert aggression, increased emotional stress, diseases of the throat and ears, conflict.
“Tell me in your ear, let’s posiphase. ”
“Brat, all of them are capricious!” (boy on girl).
“Bugger, all the boys are bullies and bullies!” (girl boy).
Disturbances in emotional development, intersexual complications in communication, difficulties in choosing a friend of the opposite sex.
“All people are equal, but at the same time, not one is like another.”
Guilt, fear, confusion, lack of attention to itself and its appearance, promiscuity in the choice of friends.
“How nice you look when you’re clean and neat!”
“You’re bad, hurt my mom, I’m going to leave to another child. ”
Guilt, fear, anxiety, loneliness, sleep disorders, alienation from parents, “care” or “care” from their parents.
“I’ll never leave you, you’re the favorite!”
“Life is very difficult: we’ll find out. ”
Distrust, cowardice, apathy, resignation, inability to overcome obstacles, proneness to accidents, suspicion, pessimism.
“Life is interesting and beautiful! All will be well!”
“Get out of my face, stand in the corner!”
Violation of the relationship with parents, “care” from them, secrecy, mistrust, anger, aggression.
“Come on, let’s figure it out together!”
“All around liars, listen to yourself!”
Difficulties in communication, suspicion, high self-esteem, fears, problems of Surhandarya, loneliness and anxiety.
“There’s a lot of good people willing to help you. ”
“Oh, you ugly duckling! Did you get so ugly!”
Dissatisfaction with their appearance, shyness, disturbances in communication, the sense of insecurity, problems with parents, low self-esteem, lack of confidence in their abilities and capabilities.
“How I like you!”
“Nothing to do, ask permission from your elders!”
Shyness, fears, insecurities, lack of initiative, fear of elders, indecisiveness, indecision, dependence on the opinion of others, anxiety.
“Courage, you can do everything myself!”
“You’re not always on time, wait. ”
Alienation, secrecy, excessive independence, a sense of vulnerability, uselessness and “care” in itself, increased emotional stress.
“Let me help you!”
“Don’t you fear, don’t give anyone, let’s all change!”
The lack of self-control, aggressiveness, lack of behavioral flexibility, communication difficulties, problems with peers, a sense of permissiveness.
“Behave yourself, respect people!”
Naturally, the list of installations can be much more. Make your own and try to find contrastanti, this is a very useful exercise, because it is written seemingly by chance and not out of malice, can “float” in the future and negatively affect the emotional welfare of the child, his behavior, and often in his life script.How often do you tell the kids?…