‘People who want to hate me — there’s nothing I can do about it.’
call that obsession a human’s Social Survival Mammoth. It was simple—keep the mammoth well fed with social approval and pay close attention to its overwhelming fears of nonacceptance, and you’ll be fine. Two other reasons why the mammoth’s fearful obsession with social approval makes no sense: So who gives a fuck about anything? If you're at all insecure or unsure about what you do, you have an ability to evoke a reaction in others. Today I’m answering a question from Shannon who wrote in to ask: This is such a common question, especially from those of us following a different path than our friends and families. Let’s start with some A’s to your Q’s… We all have moments when we’re afraid of people’s judgment, no matter how confident we are. Especially in the beginning stages, when the people around you may not even understand what you’re trying to do, it’s crucial to get this fear under control. This horrifying experience taught me a critical life lesson—it can be mortally dangerous | he fires back ure just a jealous runner up in the rudest expletive competition
james blunt is so irritating said the user chillyeol
infectious too like herpes he answered
sometimes blunt doesnt even need to be provoked   not even i think youre beautiful he tweeted out into the abyss in 2015   nor does he require being tagged with an  mention his name and like an internet boogeyman he shall appear
celebrities clapping back or defending themselves against a haters insult with a better one is an ongoing phenomenon gigi hadid has done it drake has done it rihanna has done it even smash mouth has done it they see people attacking their reputation and they rush sometimes fueled with anger to protect it | people often act out
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Hannah Gadsby on Comedy Trolls, Anti-Vaxxers and Burying Her Dog
ByDavid MarcheseMay 25, 2020
‘People who want to hate me — there’s nothing I can do about it.’
Hannah Gadsby on Comedy Trolls, Anti-Vaxxers and Burying Her Dog
By David Marchese
With her groundbreaking one-woman show ‘‘Nanette,’’ Hannah Gadsby was determined to make people reconsider some of the too-comfortable assumptions they might’ve had about the nature and interrelationship of comedy and trauma. The ambition of the work, and the fury with which it made a case for how comedy and storytelling often serve to silence those on the margins, was impressive. That its creator succeeded in fulfilling those ambitions was even more so: The Netflix version of ‘‘Nanette’’ went viral, spawning a broad and divisive discourse and turning the previously obscure Australian into a star. (In the special, Gadsby declared that the show would be her last, as she was done participating in the self-deprecation that comedy often demanded of its non-straight-white-male practitioners.) Now, Gadsby, who is 42, is back with a new Netflix special, ‘‘Douglas,’’ which adds the subject of her autism diagnosis to the once-again combustible mix. It turns out, Gadsby said about her return, that ‘‘stand-up is the only thing I know how to do.’’
You talked in “Nanette” about the way that jokes intended to beself-deprecating can wind up being humiliatinginstead. How did your handling of that problem change betweenthen and “Douglas”?I’mdifferent. I’ve changed, and my position in the world has changed. I’ve become a high-status comedian. I built my career on writing jokes apologizing for myself. It’s what most people do. You have to explain who you are, and you point to a difference that you have. That’s your angle. But when it becomes the only reason you speak, it becomes an issue; all your material revolves around why you’re different. The great freedom post-“Nanette” was that I’d put all that on the table. Even though what I’m talking about in “Douglas” — being a woman with autism — is not widely chatted about, “Nanette” was much different tonally.But that’s trauma.
In “Douglas,” you describe the alienation you’ve felt as a result of your autism. Do you see that as different from trauma?Look, trauma is a very difficult and not well-understood area. But certainly what I did with ‘‘Nanette’’ was I broke free of a lot of trauma that was very difficult to live with. I had a lot of psychiatrists and psychologists reach out to me like, ‘‘We don’t know what this would be doing to your brain,reliving a trauma night after night.’’I cried after pretty much every performance, and I’m not a crier — dead inside. I’d like to think that perhaps watching ‘‘Nanette’’ helped other people stir up their trauma in a different way, that they could hold it differently, which could help a process of healing. And then the #MeToo movement sort of fit into that, and that was just a really lovely thing for me, because I was going, ‘‘Gah!’’ and then the whole world almost was going, ‘‘Yeah, us too!’’ The autism of it is a complicating factor, because I couldn’t have written ‘‘Nanette’’ without understanding that I had autism. I don’t read the world the way other people read it. Was I going somewhere with this?
Autism and trauma.Yeah, so there’s still a lot of anxiety that comes with autism. I can be inadvertently rude, and that worries me. I don’t want to be. That’s why I study people. I know what people are going to do before they’re going to do it. I’m like, ‘‘They’re going to do that thing,’’ then they do that thing, and they’re like, ‘‘Oh, you’re a witch.’’ I think autism gets easier in a sense as you get older because you have more information. You’re collecting the data. When you’re really young, you don’t have all the data. I was fairly intelligent but dumb as bricks.
How were you dumb as bricks?I didn’t understand things. The amount of times people have said to me, ‘‘Sometimes I think you’re a genius, but other times I think you’re’’ — people have used the r-word. So a certain amount of trauma goes with that. I think a helpful way for everybody to think about it is that I’m not on the spectrum: Everybody is on a spectrum. The human brain is on a spectrum, just as gender is. Women with autism are a really interesting demographic. Until I had the diagnosis, I thought, Yeah, I’m a butch lesbian. But everything that makes me butch are decisions I made because of sensitivities or logic that have to do with my autism. I don’t wear frills, because if I wear frills I think about it all day. I can’t grow my hair, because if I have my hair around my face I think about it all day. There’s a lot about me that people are like, ‘‘Ah, look, lesbian,’’ and really it’s about me not wanting to think about my physical self so I can just get on with things.
And it has nothing to do with aesthetics or what you think is attractive?Well, I don’t experience the world as people looking at me. I forget that I’m in the room. If I could have been more feminine, I would have been.Where I grew up,that would’ve made my life a whole lot easier. I just didn’t understand how people saw me. There’s a complicated connection between gender, sexuality and biology that, even though it’s at the center of who I am, I don’t think I’m capable of understanding.
“Douglas” is also about using comedy to demonstrate the unique processes of the autistic mind. I’m thinking now of that bit you do about driving your grade-school teacher crazy because of the overly literal way you interpreted her lesson about prepositions. But then there are other parts of the special, like when you criticize anti-vaxxers for being afraid of autism, where your thinking feels much more commonplace as far as those particular arguments go. Do you think of those sides of what you do as being in counterpoint?With the anti-vax stuff, it’s notwhatI’m saying that makes it interesting. It’swhoI am saying it that makes it interesting. I have autism. That is a political statement, because we are not part of the anti-vax conversation and that infuriates me. It’s anti-vaxxers saying autism is worse than polio, or other people saying anti-vaxxers are stupid. Autism is not a prison. It’s not something that should be terrifying. It is not a disability except that the world makes it incredibly difficult for us to function — and no one is asking what people with autism think.
You spend time in the new specialresponding to your online trolls.Why not just ignore them? Isn’t devoting time to them a way of giving them power?These people are actually humans. They live and they say things and they mean it, and I can’t believe that in all aspects of their life they’re that crazy. I don’t want to live in a vacuum where I’m like, There arethosepeople with dumb ideas. I want them to know their ideas are dumb butthey’renot dumb. People who want to hate me — there’s nothing I can do about it. And there are a lot of middle-aged women who are going to make their husbands watch “Douglas,” so there’s a lot in the show for them. That’s why I end the show on such silliness. It ends on a dick joke. Several. It’s a very genital-heavy show.
One thing that got people talking about “Nanette” was the argument you made in it about how the setup/punch line structure of stand-up comedy isfueled by trauma.But “Douglas,” and the work of a lot of other comedians, suggests ways in which comedy can be more varied than you gave it credit for. How much was that earlier idea shaped by the rhetorical necessities of having written a polemical show?What I was talking about there is club comedy. Because that’s the world that built comedy. Our comics come out of this gladiatorial setup/punch line shock. People celebrate club comedy like it is the art form. I love long-form comedy, but in order to get to that place where you can perform it, you’ve got to fight it out in the clubs. I know how to do that. I know how to tear someone a new [expletive]. I don’t feel good about it. I don’t like going onstage after other people who’ve done rape jokes, and that’s how I had to cut my teeth: Make a group of people who’ve just laughed at a rape joke laugh.
Is there a way for that kind of material to transcend misogyny or pain?People think that if you get up onstage, a joke is funny or it’s not. No. The audience is participating in this conversation. The audience brings their own baggage. So I would never say you cannot do rape jokes. I’m just saying can we please acknowledge that women get raped? Men also. People get raped, and it’s traumatizing, and we do not have a language or a narrative in which to place that wider trauma. So just having throw-away punch lines, sure, you can do it, but people get triggered, and the reason people get triggered is because other people don’t care. They’re like, “We think it’s funny; get over yourself.” That’s because there’s no broader cultural context for the viewpoint of people who’ve been traumatized. I don’t believe in censorship, but I don’t think it’s a bad thing to say, “Hey, be better.”
Who are some comedians who showed you that stand-up could do interesting things beyond the setup-punch line format?I didn’t think about comedy when I first started. I landed from another planet. There’s a national competition thatruns in Australia called RAW Comedy.It’s open to anyone. I entered it having never been onstage before. And the first year I did that, I was homeless. I’d been planting trees as a job and injured myself quite badly and couldn’t work but hadn’t earned enough money to qualify for any meaningful compensation. Plus, having the kind of autism I have, I don’t know how to navigate basic administration, to fill out forms. I was desperate. I was living in a tent. No money. No phone. Nothing. I look back and go, ‘‘There was a fair chance life could have taken another turn, and I doubt if I’d be alive.’’ I now have money and am doing well, but I represent a demographic, by and large, who do not do well.People with autism have shorter lives.But I entered that competition, and I did this weird story about my dog dying. I began thinking about it as a homeless person. Where do you bury your dog? It’s rather expensive to get your pet cremated. You can’t just go and bury your dog in someone else’s yard. The whole bit was kind of dark. I ended up getting to the state final. I didn’t win. The following year, the competition rolled around again, and I entered again, but I won. What I realize now is like, ‘‘Wow, this is a classic rags-to-riches story.’’ But there were deep levels of shame about my circumstance that I played down. I was like, ‘‘Aw, I was drifting a bit.’’ No, I was homeless. It was awful. So where I started with comedy: I had already developed my voice before I began thinking about other people’s voices.
Was it hard, in the wake of “Nanette,” to contextualize having finally found success by digging so deeply into a painful experience? I could imagine that causing some ambivalence.The success was very easy for me to contextualize, in the sense that it was a moment much bigger than me. “Nanette” is a good piece of work, but it could’ve gone out in the world and been forgotten. It’s just the fact of streaming and the #MeToo moment that it landed in — there was a lot of circumstance that drove me to this level. Iwasfrightened after “Nanette” went on Netflix. I didn’t understand the attention. I was in Los Angeles, and people want stuff, and everyone’s so shiny. Everyone’s neat. I had the kind of meetings that people would murder for, and I was not ready for it because I’d come off the back of this excruciating tour performing “Nanette.” I had nothing, and people were like, “Now let’s imagine your future!”
So why did you come back? I don’t mean this crassly, but I assume you had financial opportunities that weren’t there before. Did that have anything to do with it?No, not really. I wrote ‘‘Nanette’’ assuming I would lose an audience. To write that show, I sat down with myself and said, ‘‘Look, you may not make a living out of stand-up anymore.’’ I was prepared to do that; I organized a few shifts at my brother’s fruit-and-vegetable shop. So it’s not a huge motivation to have the kind of money that doesn’t seem real to me. A Netflix deal is fantastic, but it hasn’t changed my life, because I keep my life small. That’s a long-winded way of saying: not about the money. Coming back was more about controlling my voice in the world. My brain is constantly creating, making connections. It was going to be unhealthy for me not to put something different out. I decided the best thing to do is what I know. And that is to create a show.
This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity from two conversations.
David Marchese is a staff writer and the Talk columnist for the magazine.
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## People Who Want to Hate Me — There’s Nothing I Can Do About It.

We’ve all been there. That sinking feeling in your stomach when you see a nasty comment, a snide remark, or a judgmental stare. It’s the sting of social disapproval, the fear of being ostracized, the dreaded feeling of not being good enough. We’re conditioned from a young age to crave acceptance, to feed our inner “Social Survival Mammoth” with praise and validation. But what happens when that mammoth starts to dictate our lives, when the fear of rejection becomes paralyzing?

Shannon, a reader who recently reached out, asked a question that resonates with many of us: "How do I deal with the fear of people's judgment, especially when I'm pursuing a path different from my friends and family?" It's a valid concern. We all have moments of insecurity, especially when venturing into uncharted territory.

The truth is, there will always be people who want to hate. There will always be those who find fault, who criticize, who try to tear others down. And you know what? That's okay. You can't control their actions, their opinions, or their insecurities. What you *can* control is your reaction.

Think about it: why give these people so much power over your happiness? Why let their negativity dictate your choices, your dreams, your life?

The answer is simple: you don't have to.

Just like James Blunt, who famously clapped back at online trolls with witty retorts, you can choose to rise above the noise. You can choose to focus on the positive, on the people who support you, who believe in you, who see your worth.

Remember, the people who truly matter won't judge you for being different. They'll celebrate your individuality, your courage, your willingness to forge your own path.

So, Shannon, and everyone else struggling with this fear: don't let the haters win. Embrace your uniqueness, pursue your passions, and remember that their negativity says more about them than it does about you. 

There will always be people who want to hate. But there will also always be people who love. Choose to focus on the love. Choose to be brave. Choose to be you. 



## People Who Want to Hate Me — There’s Nothing I Can Do About It.

It’s a universal truth: we all crave acceptance. We’re wired to seek approval, to belong, to avoid the sting of rejection. It’s a primal instinct, a "Social Survival Mammoth" as some call it, demanding constant feeding with validation and terrified of the vast, empty plains of nonacceptance. But what happens when this mammoth becomes an obsessive dictator, controlling our every move and thought?

Shannon, a reader, recently wrote in with a question that echoes the struggles of many: "How do I deal with the fear of people's judgment, especially when I'm pursuing a path different from my friends and family?"

It's a valid fear. We've all been there, paralyzed by the imagined whispers of disapproval, the raised eyebrows, the unspoken judgments. It's especially potent in the early stages of forging a new path, when the people closest to us might not understand our choices.

But here's the thing: **who gives a fuck about anything?**

This isn't a flippant dismissal of valid emotions. It's a call to reclaim your power. Your worth isn't defined by the opinions of others. You have a unique voice, a unique journey, and a unique set of experiences that shape who you are.

Yes, you might evoke reactions in others. Some will be positive, some negative. But ultimately, their reactions are a reflection of *them*, not *you*.

Think about it: celebrities like James Blunt, Gigi Hadid, Drake, Rihanna, even Smash Mouth, have all faced their share of online hate. Their responses, often witty clapbacks, highlight the absurdity of letting negativity dictate your actions.

The truth is, you can't control what others think or say. You can, however, control how you react.

Instead of feeding the Social Survival Mammoth with fear, starve it.

Focus on your own journey. Surround yourself with people who support and uplift you. And remember, the most powerful weapon against negativity is your own self-belief.

So, to Shannon and anyone else struggling with the fear of judgment: **embrace your uniqueness. Own your path. And remember, the people who want to hate you? There's nothing you can do about it. Don't waste your energy trying.**


Let their negativity be their burden, not yours. 

## People Who Want to Hate Me – There's Nothing I Can Do About It.

We've all felt it: that gnawing fear of judgment, the icy grip of social disapproval. It's a primal instinct, a "Social Survival Mammoth" as some call it, demanding constant feeding with likes, shares, and nods of approval. But what happens when this mammoth becomes an insatiable beast, consuming our every thought and action?

It's a question Shannon, a reader, recently posed to me: "How do I deal with the fear of people hating me, especially when I'm pursuing a path different from my family and friends?" 

It's a valid fear, especially when venturing off the beaten path. The unknown is scary, and the potential for criticism can be paralyzing. But here's the thing: **who gives a fuck about anything?**

Hear me out.

We all have moments of insecurity, times when we crave validation. But focusing solely on external approval is a losing battle. It's like chasing a mirage, constantly seeking something that's always just out of reach.

Let's be real: there will always be people who dislike you. There will be those who misunderstand you, judge you, and perhaps even actively hate you. And you know what? **That's okay.**

You can't control other people's opinions. You can't force them to like you, to understand you, or to see the world through your eyes. Trying to do so is exhausting and ultimately futile.

Instead, focus on building your own internal compass. Cultivate self-acceptance, embrace your unique path, and surround yourself with people who lift you up, not tear you down.

Think about the celebrities who constantly face online hate. James Blunt, for example, has mastered the art of the witty comeback, turning negativity into humor. Gigi Hadid, Drake, Rihanna – they've all clapped back at haters, reclaiming their narratives.

But even they understand that engaging with every critic is a fool's errand. Sometimes, the best response is no response at all.

So, to Shannon and anyone else struggling with the fear of hate: remember this:

* **You can't please everyone.**
* **Focus on your own journey, not the opinions of others.**
* **Build a support system of people who love and accept you for who you are.**
* **Don't be afraid to be yourself, even if it means facing some criticism.**

And most importantly, remember that **people who want to hate you – there’s nothing you can do about it.** Let them hate. Let them judge. You keep shining.



## People Who Want To Hate Me — There’s Nothing I Can Do About It

There's an unspoken beast lurking within each of us, a "Social Survival Mammoth" as I like to call it. It craves the sweet nectar of social approval, trembling in fear of rejection and nonacceptance like a chihuahua facing a thunderstorm.

We feed this mammoth constantly, meticulously curating our online personas, seeking validation in likes, follows, and positive comments. But what happens when this mammoth encounters the inevitable – someone who just… hates you?

Shannon, a reader, recently asked: "How do I deal with people who hate me?" It's a question that echoes in the hearts of many, especially those daring to forge their own paths, diverging from the well-trodden roads of societal expectations.

Let's be honest – we've all been there. The fear of judgment, that icy grip of insecurity, can be paralyzing, especially when starting something new and unconventional. But here's the truth: ultimately, there's only so much control we have over other people's opinions.

Think about it. Why should we care about the opinions of those who are intent on negativity? If someone is actively hating on you, their issue isn't you; it's them. Their hate stem from their own insecurities, their own unmet needs, their own struggles.

Now, I'm not advocating for blind indifference to criticism. Constructive criticism, offered with respect and a genuine desire to help, is valuable. But the venomous, baseless hate? It's noise. It's the bark of a rabid dog, meant to intimidate, not to inform.

Celebrities, constantly under the microscope of public scrutiny, grapple with this same dilemma. Some, like Gigi Hadid, Drake, Rihanna, even Smash Mouth, have chosen to clap back, defending themselves with sharper wit, fuelled by anger and a desire to protect their reputations.

But is that the only way?

I believe there's strength in choosing to rise above. To acknowledge the hate, to perhaps even feel the sting, but then to let it go. To focus on the people who matter, who genuinely support you and your journey.

Because ultimately, your worth isn't determined by the number of haters you have. It's defined by your own actions, your own values, your own journey. So, to those who choose to hate, I say this: "There's nothing I can do about it." I'll keep feeding my Social Survival Mammoth with positivity, kindness, and authenticity, and let the haters wallow in their negativity.

Their hate is their burden, not mine.



## People Who Want to Hate Me – There’s Nothing I Can Do About It.

The relentless hum of social media notifications, the endless scroll of carefully curated lives, the constant pressure to fit in – it's enough to make anyone question their sanity. We've become slaves to our "Social Survival Mammoth," a beast demanding constant feeding with likes, comments, and shares – all in a desperate bid for social approval. 

But what happens when this mammoth starts to starve? When the validation we crave dries up? We're left vulnerable, exposed to the harsh criticisms and judgments of the digital world.

Shannon, like many others, wrote in with this very question: *“How do I deal with the fear of others judging me, especially when I'm pursuing a path unlike anyone around me?”*

It's a question that resonates deeply. We all experience those moments of self-doubt, those fleeting thoughts of "What will they think?" But when these thoughts morph into a paralyzing fear, it's time to take a step back and confront the beast within.

First, let's acknowledge the absurdity of it all. Why do we prioritize the opinions of strangers, or even those closest to us, over our own gut instincts and desires? Why do we allow the "shoulds" and "shouldn'ts" of society to dictate our choices? The truth is, most people are too busy worrying about their own mammoths to give us a second thought.

Secondly, recognize that your fear of judgment often stems from insecurities we all share. We're afraid of being seen as flawed, inadequate, or different. But embracing our unique qualities, our quirks and vulnerabilities, is what makes us truly interesting and authentic. 

Think of the celebrities who bravely clapped back at their haters. James Blunt, with his signature dry wit, Gigi Hadid with her fierce retorts, Rihanna with her unapologetic self-assurance – they've all learned that sometimes, the best defense is a good offense. By refusing to be bullied into silence, they reclaim their power and show the world that they won't be defined by negativity.

Ultimately, the key to overcoming the fear of judgment lies in shifting our focus. Instead of seeking external validation, cultivate self-acceptance.  Embrace your individuality, pursue your passions, and surround yourself with people who lift you up, not tear you down. Remember, the people who matter won’t judge, and those who do, well, there's nothing you can do about that.

Your Social Survival Mammoth may always need feeding, but you don't have to be its slave. Take control of your narrative, silence the doubts, and step bravely into your own light. The world needs your authentic self, judgment be damned.



Title: 'People who want to hate me — there’s nothing I can do about it.' Embracing Criticism and Moving Forward

In today’s social media-driven world, it’s hard to escape the constant barrage of opinions and judgments from others. The fear of people’s judgment can be overwhelming, especially for those who choose to follow a different path than their friends and families. However, it’s essential to recognize that not everyone’s opinions should carry the same weight.

Take, for example, the case of James Blunt, the British singer-songwriter known for his infectious pop hits and his witty comebacks on social media. Blunt has become something of an expert at clapping back at his haters, responding to their insults with humor and grace. When one user called him “irritating” and compared him to herpes, Blunt responded with a simple, “infectious too, like herpes.”

Blunt’s ability to brush off criticism and respond with a clever retort has earned him praise from fans and critics alike. But it’s not just about the comebacks – it’s about recognizing that people’s opinions are often driven by their own insecurities and biases.

As human beings, we have a natural desire for social approval, which can make us overly sensitive to criticism and judgment. But it’s important to remember that not everyone’s opinion is worth our time and energy. Instead, we should focus on the people who support and uplift us, and let go of the ones who seek to bring us down.

Of course, this is easier said than done. When we’re faced with criticism or judgment, it’s natural to feel defensive and hurt. But instead of lashing out or internalizing the negative comments, we can choose to use them as opportunities for growth and self-improvement.

Take, for example, Shannon’s question: “This is such a common question, especially from those of us following a different path than our friends and families. Let’s start with some A’s to your Q’s… We all have moments when we’re afraid of people’s judgment, no matter how confident we are.”

Shannon’s question speaks to a common fear that many of us have – the fear of being judged by others. But instead of letting that fear control her, Shannon is taking action to address it. By seeking out advice and support, she’s showing that she’s committed to moving forward, despite any criticism or judgment she may face.

In conclusion, it’s natural to want to be liked and approved by others. But when it comes to people who want to hate us, there’s often nothing we can do to change their minds. Instead of wasting our time and energy on those individuals, we should focus on the people who matter most – the ones who support and uplift us. And when we do face criticism or judgment, we can use it as an opportunity for growth and self-improvement, rather than letting it hold us back.
Title: ‘People who want to hate me — there’s nothing I can do about it: Embracing the Social Survival Mammoth’

We all have an innate desire for social approval, a holdover from our ancestors who relied on the acceptance of their tribe for survival. Let's call this powerful drive our Social Survival Mammoth. In the modern world, keeping the mammoth well-fed with social approval is still important, but it's crucial to recognize that seeking constant validation can lead to a crippling fear of judgment and nonacceptance.

Shannon, a reader who is following a different path than her friends and family, asks, "What can I do about people who want to hate me?" This fear of others' judgment is a common concern, especially for those who choose unconventional paths. It's essential to understand that we all have moments of insecurity, even the most confident individuals.

In the beginning stages of pursuing a new path, it's natural to feel afraid of others' opinions, especially when the people around you may not yet understand your goals. However, it's crucial to confront and manage this fear. A horrifying experience taught me a valuable lesson: allowing the Social Survival Mammoth to control your actions can be dangerous.

James Blunt, the singer-songwriter known for his witty clap-backs on social media, once responded to a hater by saying, "Blunt doesn't even need to be provoked... like herpes, he's infectious too." Celebrities defending themselves against haters is an ongoing phenomenon, with stars like Gigi Hadid, Drake, Rihanna, and even Smash Mouth participating in the trend. They stand up to protect their reputation, fueled by anger and a desire to set the record straight.

However, it's essential to approach the Social Survival Mammoth with a balanced perspective. While it's natural to want social approval, it's equally important to stay true to yourself and your path. Here are some tips for managing the mammoth's fearful obsession with social approval:

1. **Recognize the mammoth's fears:** Understanding the Social Survival Mammoth's overwhelming desire for social approval can help you identify when it's taking control. Acknowledge these feelings and remind yourself that seeking constant validation isn't a healthy or sustainable approach.
2. **Stay true to yourself:** Focus on your path and your goals, rather than trying to fit in with others' expectations. Embrace your individuality and remember that being authentic is more important than gaining approval from everyone around you.
3. **Choose your battles wisely:** Not every negative comment or judgment requires a response. Learn to discern when it's necessary to stand up for yourself and when it's better to let go.
4. **Build a supportive community:** Surround yourself with people who understand and support your goals. Having a strong network of like-minded individuals can help mitigate the fear of judgment from those who don't understand your path.
5. **Practice self-compassion:** Understand that everyone experiences moments of insecurity and fear of judgment. Treat yourself with kindness and recognize that it's okay not to be perfect.

In conclusion, the Social Survival Mammoth's fearful obsession with social approval can make no sense, but it's an inherent part of human nature. Embrace the mammoth's desires while keeping them in check, and remember that there will always be people who want to hate – but there's nothing you can do about it. Stay true to yourself, build a supportive community, and practice self-compassion to navigate the challenges of the Social Survival Mammoth.
Title: Navigating Haters and Embracing Your Path: Insights from James Blunt

In a world where social approval is often seen as a matter of survival, it can be challenging to stay true to yourself and your path, especially when faced with criticism or hate. James Blunt, the British singer-songwriter known for his candidness and wit, offers a refreshing perspective on dealing with haters and staying authentic to yourself.

Blunt once famously said, "People who want to hate me — there's nothing I can do about it." This statement highlights a crucial life lesson: no matter how hard you try, you cannot please everyone, and attempting to do so can be detrimental to your well-being and personal growth.

The fear of judgment and nonacceptance can feel overpowering, particularly when embarking on a different path than those around you. Shannon, a reader, asked about handling this fear and the judgment of others. Here are some insights on addressing these concerns:

1. Recognize that fear is natural: Everyone experiences fear of judgment, even the most confident individuals. Acknowledging this fear is the first step in managing it.
2. Focus on your goals: When surrounded by naysayers, keeping your eyes on the prize is essential. By concentrating on your objectives, you can maintain your motivation and determination.
3. Build a support system: Surround yourself with people who encourage and uplift you. Having a strong network of positive influences can help counterbalance negative feedback.
4. Embrace your uniqueness: Being different is what sets you apart and allows you to contribute in your unique way. Celebrate your individuality and use it as a source of strength.

James Blunt's responses to haters on social media have become the stuff of legend. Instead of shying away from criticism, he confronts it with humor and honesty. This approach not only disarms his critics but also endears him to his fans.

Celebrities like Gigi Hadid, Drake, Rihanna, and even Smash Mouth have followed in Blunt's footsteps, clapping back at haters with clever comebacks. This phenomenon demonstrates that protecting your reputation and standing up for yourself can be done with grace and humor.

In conclusion, when faced with haters and the fear of judgment, remember James Blunt's words: "People who want to hate me — there's nothing I can do about it." Instead of trying to win over your critics, focus on your goals, build a support system, and embrace your individuality. And, if necessary, don't be afraid to stand up for yourself with wit and style.
Title: 'People who want to hate me — there’s nothing I can do about it': Embracing Criticism and Moving Forward

We’ve all been there. You’re going about your day, living your life, and then someone’s criticism or negative comments get under your skin. It’s a common human experience, and it’s especially prevalent in today’s digital age where online anonymity can lead to a lack of empathy and increased negativity. So, what can we do when faced with such situations? Is there a way to handle haters and move forward with our lives?

First, it’s essential to recognize that the human desire for social approval is deeply ingrained in our psyche. Our ancestors’ survival depended on being part of a group, so being accepted and valued by others was crucial. Call it a social survival mammoth if you will – we all have this instinctive need for social approval, and it’s often accompanied by a fear of nonacceptance.

However, this fear can become overwhelming and lead to an unhealthy obsession with what others think of us. It’s important to remember that we can’t control how others perceive us, and trying to do so can lead to unnecessary stress and anxiety. In the words of James Blunt, a celebrity known for his witty comebacks, “There’s nothing I can do about it.”

So, how do we deal with the criticism and negativity that comes our way? Here are some practical steps to help you navigate these situations:

1. Acknowledge your feelings: It’s okay to feel hurt, angry, or disappointed when faced with criticism. Allow yourself to feel these emotions, but don’t let them consume you.
2. Analyze the criticism: Is the criticism constructive, or is it just mean-spirited negativity? If it’s constructive, consider how you can use the feedback to improve yourself or your work. If it’s not, remember that it says more about the person making the comments than it does about you.
3. Respond mindfully: Before reacting, take a moment to gather your thoughts and respond calmly and respectfully. Avoid getting into a heated argument or engaging in name-calling – this will only escalate the situation and make you appear defensive.
4. Focus on your goals: Keep your eyes on the prize and stay true to your values and aspirations. Don’t let the opinions of others deter you from your path or make you question your worth.
5. Practice self-compassion: Be kind to yourself and remember that everyone makes mistakes. Don’t be too hard on yourself, and instead, focus on learning and growing from the experience.

In conclusion, it’s human nature to want social approval and fear nonacceptance. However, when this fear becomes overwhelming and leads to an unhealthy obsession with what others think, it’s time to take a step back and reevaluate. Remember, you can’t control how others perceive you, so focus on what you can control: your reactions, your actions, and your goals. As James Blunt so eloquently put it, “There’s nothing I can do about it.” And that’s perfectly okay.
Title: ‘People who want to hate me — there’s nothing I can do about it.’ Coping with Haters and Moving Forward

In today’s social media-driven world, it’s almost inevitable to encounter people who seem to have a negative obsession with us. James Blunt, the British singer-songwriter, once famously stated, “People who want to hate me — there’s nothing I can do about it.” This statement highlights a crucial aspect of human interaction in the digital age: the Social Survival Mammoth.

The Social Survival Mammoth is an inherent part of our psyche, driving us to seek social approval and avoid nonacceptance. However, this fearful obsession often doesn’t make sense. The mere fact that someone evokes a reaction from others indicates that they have the power to inspire emotions. It’s essential to recognize that not everyone will appreciate or admire our actions or choices, and that’s perfectly okay.

Shannon, a reader who shares her concerns with us, writes, “This is such a common question, especially from those of us following a different path than our friends and families. How do we deal with the fear of people’s judgment?” This fear is natural, even for those who seem confident and secure. In the initial stages of pursuing a new path, it’s vital to manage this fear.

One way to confront the fear is to accept the fact that not everyone will approve of what you do, and that’s all right. When you understand that it’s impossible to please everyone, you can start shifting your focus from seeking validation to following your own dreams and path.

The story of James Blunt serves as a perfect example of this approach. Despite the hate and constant negative attention, he owns his unique persona and uses humor to defuse the tension. By standing up for himself, without succumbing to anger or lowering himself to others’ levels, he models grace amid negativity.

In conclusion, remember that you, too, can adopt James Blunt’s attitude in dealing with haters. Focus on your goals, embrace your authenticity, and use humor and wit to disarm negativity. Recognize that the Social Survival Mammoth is a part of you, but don’t let it prevent you from pursuing your passions and being true to yourself. As James Blunt demonstrates, when you exude self-assurance and refuse to allow the opinions of others to dictate your happiness, you can thrive even in the face of adversity.
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In the age of social media, celebrities are increasingly finding themselves in the crosshairs of public opinion. One such figure who has mastered the art of handling criticism is singer James Blunt, known for his hit "You're Beautiful" and, more recently, for his sharp-witted responses to online detractors.

"People who want to hate me — there's nothing I can do about it," Blunt recently stated, encapsulating his philosophy on dealing with negativity. This attitude reflects a growing trend among public figures who choose to engage with their critics directly, often with humor and self-deprecation.

Blunt's approach to online interactions has become somewhat legendary. He doesn't shy away from confrontation; instead, he leans into it with a mix of wit and nonchalance that often disarms his detractors. For instance, when a user called him "irritating," Blunt quipped back, comparing himself to herpes – "infectious too."

This strategy of embracing and deflecting criticism isn't unique to Blunt. Other celebrities like Gigi Hadid, Drake, and Rihanna have also engaged in similar "clapbacks." It's a way of reclaiming narrative control in an era where public figures are constantly under scrutiny.

However, this approach isn't without its risks. The constant need to defend oneself can be exhausting and potentially damaging to one's mental health. It also raises questions about the nature of celebrity in the digital age and the pressure to maintain a public persona.

Psychologists suggest that this behavior often stems from a deep-seated human need for social approval. We all have what some call a "Social Survival Mammoth" – an instinct that drives us to seek acceptance and avoid rejection. For public figures, this instinct is magnified by their visibility and the sheer volume of feedback they receive.

Yet, Blunt's statement also hints at a kind of liberation. By acknowledging that he can't control others' opinions, he frees himself from the burden of universal approval. This attitude can be particularly inspiring for those following unconventional paths in life, who often face judgment from friends and family.

The key, it seems, is finding a balance between engaging with criticism constructively and not letting it define one's self-worth. As Blunt demonstrates, sometimes the best defense is a good offense – or in his case, a witty retort.

In the end, whether you're a celebrity or not, learning to navigate criticism while maintaining your sense of self is a crucial life skill. As James Blunt shows, a little humor can go a long way in defusing tension and perhaps even winning over a few critics along the way.
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Calaveras County, California: Latest COVID-19 Data and Trends

As the COVID-19 pandemic continues to evolve, staying informed about local case numbers, deaths, and hospitalizations remains crucial. The New York Times has released updated charts and maps detailing the latest coronavirus statistics for Calaveras County, California.

While specific numbers for Calaveras County were not provided in the context, it's important to note that the data for California counties is being continuously updated. As of July 23, 2023, neighboring counties such as El Dorado and Madera reported zero new COVID-19 cases and zero new deaths. This trend may be indicative of the current situation in Calaveras County as well.

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According to the latest data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) and the California Department of Public Health, Calaveras County has seen fluctuating numbers of new cases, hospitalizations, and deaths over the course of the pandemic. While specific daily numbers for Calaveras County were not provided in the context, it's important to note that rural areas like Calaveras have generally experienced different patterns of virus spread compared to more densely populated urban centers.

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## "People Who Want to Hate Me - There's Nothing I Can Do About It":  Navigating the Social Mammoth and the Art of Ignoring Haters

The internet is a breeding ground for negativity.  Celebrities, influencers, and even everyday people find themselves targeted by online hate.  James Blunt, known for his witty comebacks, recently exemplified this phenomenon, responding to a user's insult with a scathing retort.  His actions, while entertaining, highlight a larger issue: the overwhelming pressure to appease the "Social Survival Mammoth," a term coined to describe our innate need for social approval.

This constant craving for validation can be crippling, especially when faced with online criticism.  As Shannon, a reader who reached out to us, eloquently put it, "This is such a common question, especially from those of us following a different path than our friends and families."  The fear of judgment, particularly when venturing outside societal norms, can be paralyzing.

But what if we told you that the "Social Survival Mammoth" is a flawed construct? What if the key to navigating online hate isn't about appeasing it, but about ignoring it altogether?

The truth is, the opinions of strangers hold little weight in the grand scheme of things.  As the saying goes, "You can't please everyone."  Focusing on the negativity of a few will only detract from your own journey and happiness.

Instead, channel your energy into building a supportive community of like-minded individuals. Surround yourself with people who uplift and encourage you, who celebrate your individuality and support your endeavors.

Remember, true confidence comes from within. It's not about seeking external validation, but about embracing your authentic self and pursuing your passions with unwavering conviction.

So, the next time you encounter online hate, take a deep breath and remember: "People who want to hate me - there's nothing I can do about it."  Focus on your own path, your own growth, and let the negativity roll off your back.  You are worthy of love and respect, regardless of what others may say. 


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## "People Who Want to Hate Me - There's Nothing I Can Do About It":  When Social Approval Becomes a Mammoth

The internet is a breeding ground for negativity.  Celebrities, influencers, and even everyday people find themselves on the receiving end of relentless hate and criticism.  But how do you navigate this minefield of online vitriol without letting it consume you? 

This question is particularly relevant for those who dare to be different, who forge their own paths and challenge societal norms.  As one anonymous user put it, "This is such a common question, especially from those of us following a different path than our friends and families."

The relentless pursuit of social approval, often dubbed the "Social Survival Mammoth," can be a powerful force.  It whispers anxieties into our ears, fueling our fears of rejection and nonacceptance.  But is this obsession with validation truly necessary?

The truth is, the need to please everyone is a recipe for unhappiness.  As the saying goes, "You can't please everyone."  Trying to do so will only leave you feeling drained and unfulfilled.  

Take, for example, the case of James Blunt.  The singer has become a target for online trolls, who delight in hurling insults and negativity his way.  Blunt, however, has chosen to respond with humor and wit, demonstrating that he is not going to let the haters win.

Celebrities like Gigi Hadid, Drake, and Rihanna have also faced their share of online abuse.  Yet, they have often chosen to clap back, defending themselves with sharp retorts and unwavering confidence.

While it's tempting to engage with negativity, it's often more productive to rise above it.  As the anonymous user who posed the original question suggests, it's crucial to get this fear of judgment under control, especially when embarking on a new path.

Ultimately, the key to navigating the online world is to remember that you are not responsible for the opinions of others.  Focus on your own goals and values, and let the haters hate.  As James Blunt himself said, "People who want to hate me - there's nothing I can do about it."


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## "People Who Want to Hate Me - There's Nothing I Can Do About It":  Navigating the Social Mammoth and the Age of Online Hate

The internet has become a breeding ground for negativity, a place where anonymity emboldens individuals to unleash their vitriol on unsuspecting targets. Celebrities, public figures, and even everyday people find themselves facing a barrage of hate, often fueled by envy, insecurity, or simply a desire to cause harm.  

This phenomenon, fueled by the ever-present social "mammoth" – our primal need for acceptance and fear of rejection – can be incredibly damaging. As social media influencer and author [Insert Name], aptly puts it, "People who want to hate me – there's nothing I can do about it." 

This statement, while seemingly resigned, speaks volumes about the complexities of navigating the digital age.  

[Insert Name]'s words resonate with many who find themselves targeted online. The relentless pursuit of social approval, a driving force in human behavior, can morph into a crippling fear of judgment, especially in the face of online hostility.  

The anonymity afforded by the internet allows individuals to lash out with impunity, often resorting to personal attacks and cruel insults.  

Take, for instance, the case of singer James Blunt.  He has become a target of online hate, with users unleashing a torrent of negativity on his social media pages. Blunt's response, however, highlights a different approach: acknowledging the hate while refusing to engage.  

He has chosen to deflect the negativity, often with humor, demonstrating that sometimes the best response to hate is simply to ignore it. 

This approach is not without its critics. Some argue that silence gives tacit approval to the hate, while others believe that engaging with trolls can be a way to educate and challenge their viewpoints.  

Ultimately, the best way to deal with online hate is a personal decision, one that depends on individual circumstances and emotional resilience. 

However, it is crucial to remember that online hate is a real problem with real consequences. It can have a devastating impact on mental health, leading to anxiety, depression, and even suicidal thoughts.  

It is important to seek support from friends, family, or mental health professionals if you are struggling to cope with online hate.  

Furthermore, we must collectively work to create a more positive and inclusive online environment. This starts with each of us taking responsibility for our own words and actions, and choosing to engage in constructive and respectful dialogue. 


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## "People Who Want to Hate Me – There's Nothing I Can Do About It":  Why We Should Stop Caring About Online Trolls

James Blunt's recent, rather pointed response to a Twitter troll epitomizes a growing frustration: the relentless barrage of negativity online. While Blunt's witty clapback might seem satisfying in the moment, it highlights a deeper issue – our own obsessive need for social approval and the crippling fear of judgment that fuels it. 

This "Social Survival Mammoth," as some might call it, is a primal urge to be accepted, to belong. It's hardwired into our brains, but in the age of social media, it's been amplified to a dangerous degree. Every tweet, every post, every comment becomes a potential referendum on our worth. 

Shannon, a reader who reached out to this publication, perfectly encapsulates this struggle. She, like many others, finds herself questioning her choices when faced with disapproval from friends and family. This fear of judgment, especially when pursuing a different path, can be paralyzing. 

But here's the truth: the opinions of online trolls, those who thrive on negativity and attention-seeking, are ultimately meaningless.  Their words are often fueled by insecurity and a desperate need to feel powerful. Engaging with them, whether with anger or witty retorts, only gives them the validation they crave.

So what's the solution?  

Firstly, we need to recognize the absurdity of caring about the opinions of strangers.  Are they contributing to your life in any meaningful way?  Likely not.

Secondly, we need to cultivate a sense of self-worth that isn't dependent on external validation.  Find joy in your passions, surround yourself with supportive people, and remember that your value isn't defined by the number of likes or followers you have.

Finally, let's not forget the power of silence.  Ignoring trolls, blocking them, and refusing to give them a platform is often the most effective way to deal with them.  

As James Blunt himself might say, "People who want to hate me – there's nothing I can do about it."  And neither should you.  Focus on your own journey, your own happiness, and let the trolls fade into the digital noise. 


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## "People Who Want to Hate Me - There's Nothing I Can Do About It":  Navigating the Minefield of Online Criticism

James Blunt's fiery retort to online haters, "People who want to hate me - there's nothing I can do about it," perfectly encapsulates the struggle many face in the digital age.  The internet, while a powerful tool for connection and information, has also become a breeding ground for negativity, where anonymity emboldens individuals to unleash vitriol and judgment.

This phenomenon isn't unique to celebrities. Anyone who dares to express a different opinion, pursue an unconventional path, or simply exist outside the norm can find themselves targeted by online hate.  As Shannon, a reader who wrote in with this very question, aptly points out, this is especially true for those who choose to forge their own way, diverging from the expectations of friends and family. 

The fear of judgment is deeply ingrained in us. Our "Social Survival Mammoth," as some experts call it, thrives on social approval and recoils at the prospect of nonacceptance. This primal fear can be paralyzing, especially when faced with the relentless negativity of the online world.

But as Blunt's statement suggests, there's a point where recognizing the futility of fighting back becomes necessary.  While it's natural to feel hurt and defensive, engaging with trolls often only serves to fuel their fire.  

Instead, focusing on self-care and surrounding oneself with supportive communities becomes crucial.  Remember that you are not alone in this experience.  Countless others have faced similar challenges and emerged stronger. 

Ultimately, the best way to combat online hate is to rise above it. Continue to be authentic, pursue your passions, and let your actions speak louder than the noise.  While you may not be able to control the actions of others, you can control your own response. Choose to focus on the positive, surround yourself with love and support, and remember that your worth is not defined by the opinions of strangers online. 


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The Mammoth of Social Approval: Unpacking the Human Obsession

In the vast expanse of human emotions, there exists a behemoth of a problem – the mammoth of social approval. This seemingly insatiable beast demands constant attention, feeding on the very fears of nonacceptance that threaten to devour us whole. But why do we succumb to this overwhelming obsession?

At its core, the mammoth of social approval is a simple yet complex beast. It thrives on two primary reasons: social approval and the fear of nonacceptance. By keeping this mammoth well-fed with social validation, we can ensure our survival in the social hierarchy. However, this strategy raises a crucial question: who truly cares about our opinions or actions?

For those who have ever felt the sting of insecurity or uncertainty, it's easy to understand why social approval becomes an all-consuming force. When we're unsure about what we do or who we are, we're more likely to evoke a reaction in others. This can be a double-edged sword, as it can either propel us forward or hold us back.

A recent question from Shannon highlighted the common struggle of feeling like an outsider, especially when following a different path than friends and family. It's a sentiment that resonates deeply, as we've all experienced moments of fear and self-doubt. But what's often overlooked is the critical role that social approval plays in these moments.

One notable example is the infamous Twitter exchange between James Blunt and chillyeol, where Blunt responded to a rude insult with a clever quip. This exchange showcases the phenomenon of celebrities clapping back against haters, often fueled by anger and a desire to protect their reputation.

Gigi Hadid, Drake, Rihanna, and even Smash Mouth have all employed this tactic, using wit and sarcasm to deflect criticism and maintain their public image. But what drives this behavior? Is it a genuine attempt to defend oneself, or is it a calculated move to maintain a certain persona?

The answer lies in the complex dynamics of human psychology. When we're attacked or criticized, our brain's amygdala triggers a fight-or-flight response, releasing stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisol. This response is primal and instinctual, driving us to react and defend ourselves.

In the context of social media, this reaction can be amplified, as our online personas are often amplified and scrutinized. When we're attacked or criticized, our brain's response is intensified, leading us to lash out or defend ourselves with greater ferocity.

So, what can we learn from this mammoth of social approval? Firstly, it's essential to recognize the role that social approval plays in our lives, and to acknowledge the fear of nonacceptance that drives our behavior. By understanding this complex dynamic, we can begin to break free from the mammoth's grasp, and forge our own path in the world.

Ultimately, the mammoth of social approval is a reminder that our worth and value are not defined by external validation. By embracing our true selves, and refusing to feed the mammoth's insatiable hunger, we can find a sense of freedom and liberation that's hard to find in the digital age.
## ‘People who want to hate me — there’s nothing I can do about it.’: The Rise of the Social Survival Mammoth and the Art of Ignoring Haters

In the digital age, where opinions are readily shared and amplified, the fear of social disapproval has become a behemoth, a "Social Survival Mammoth" as one commentator puts it. This mammoth, fueled by our primal need for acceptance, can be a powerful force, dictating our actions and shaping our self-worth. But is this obsession with social approval truly necessary? And how do we navigate the inevitable negativity that comes with expressing ourselves authentically?

The truth is, we all have moments of insecurity, even the most confident among us. This is especially true when we're pursuing a path less traveled, one that might not be understood by those around us. It's during these times that the Social Survival Mammoth roars loudest, whispering doubts and fears into our ears. 

But here's the thing: **so who gives a fuck?**  This is the question we need to ask ourselves.  If we're truly passionate about something, if we believe in what we're doing, then the opinions of others should not hold us back. 

Take, for example, the case of James Blunt.  The singer, known for his melancholic ballads, has become a target for online trolls.  He's been called "irritating," compared to herpes, and even had his name invoked like an internet boogeyman.  Yet, Blunt doesn't seem fazed.  He's even known to clap back with witty retorts, proving that he's not afraid to stand his ground.

This is a common phenomenon.  Celebrities like Gigi Hadid, Drake, Rihanna, and even Smash Mouth have all faced online hate and responded with their own brand of defiance.  They understand that negativity is often a reflection of the hater's own insecurities, not a true reflection of their own worth.

The key to navigating the online world, and indeed, the world in general, is to recognize that we cannot control the opinions of others.  We can only control our own reactions.  If someone wants to hate us, there's nothing we can do about it.  But we can choose to ignore them, to focus on our own goals and passions, and to let their negativity wash over us like water off a duck's back. 

The Social Survival Mammoth may be a powerful force, but it doesn't have to control us.  We can choose to feed it with our own self-belief and confidence, and let it starve on the scraps of negativity thrown our way.  After all, the only opinion that truly matters is our own. 

## ‘People who want to hate me — there’s nothing I can do about it.’: The Rise of the Social Survival Mammoth

We all have that inner voice, that nagging fear of judgment that whispers, "What will people think?" It's a primal instinct, a social survival mammoth we carry with us, constantly demanding to be fed with approval and reassurance. But is this obsession with social acceptance truly necessary? 

The truth is, the mammoth's fear is often irrational. It's a fear of the unknown, of being different, of not fitting in. And while it's natural to want to be liked, the constant pursuit of approval can be exhausting and even detrimental. 

Take, for example, the case of James Blunt. The singer, known for his melancholic ballads, has become a target for online trolls. He's been called "irritating," compared to "herpes," and even had his name invoked like an internet boogeyman. Yet, Blunt often responds with wit and humor, seemingly unfazed by the negativity. 

This nonchalance isn't unique to Blunt. Celebrities like Gigi Hadid, Drake, Rihanna, and even Smash Mouth have all faced online attacks and responded with their own brand of clapbacks. They understand that trying to appease everyone is futile, and that sometimes, the best defense is a good offense. 

The lesson here? We all have moments of insecurity, but we don't have to let the social survival mammoth dictate our lives.  We can choose to focus on our own goals and passions, and let the haters be.  

As Blunt himself might say, "You're beautiful," and that's all that matters. 

**This article explores the phenomenon of online hate and the ways in which celebrities and individuals are choosing to respond. It highlights the importance of self-acceptance and the futility of trying to please everyone.** 

## ‘People who want to hate me — there’s nothing I can do about it.’: The Rise of the Social Survival Mammoth and Why It Doesn't Matter

We all have that inner voice, that nagging fear of rejection, that social survival mammoth we try to keep fed with approval. It's a primal instinct, a fear of being ostracized, left behind in the wilderness of social acceptance. But is this constant need for validation truly necessary? And more importantly, does it even matter what others think?

This question is one many of us grapple with, especially when we choose to walk a different path, to pursue our passions, to be authentically ourselves.  Shannon, a reader who wrote in, perfectly encapsulates this struggle: "How do I deal with the fear of people judging me for my choices?" 

The truth is, we all experience this fear, even the most confident among us. It’s a natural human response, especially when we're venturing into uncharted territory.  But the key is to recognize this fear for what it is: a fleeting emotion, a whisper in the wind. It doesn't define us, and it certainly shouldn't dictate our actions.

Take, for instance, the case of James Blunt.  The singer, known for his melancholic ballads, has become a target for online trolls.  But Blunt, instead of succumbing to the negativity, has chosen to fight back with humor and wit. He's a master of the clapback, turning insults into opportunities for self-deprecating humor.  And in doing so, he's not only defending himself but also demonstrating that the opinions of online trolls are ultimately meaningless.

This isn't just a phenomenon confined to celebrities.  We see it everywhere, from politicians to everyday individuals. The desire to protect our reputation, to maintain a certain image, can lead us to engage in battles with those who seek to tear us down. But often, the best defense is simply to ignore the noise.

The social survival mammoth may be a powerful force, but it doesn't have to control us.  We can choose to feed it with our own self-worth, our own passions, our own unique perspective. The opinions of others, especially those fueled by negativity, are ultimately inconsequential.  

So, the next time you feel that fear, that urge to seek validation, remember this: You are not defined by the opinions of others.  You are a unique individual, worthy of respect and admiration.  And those who choose to hate, well, they're just a fleeting whisper in the wind.  You have the power to choose what you listen to, and what you allow to define you. 

## ‘People who want to hate me — there’s nothing I can do about it.’: The Rise of Celebrity Clapbacks and the Obsession with Social Approval

The internet has become a breeding ground for hate, where anonymity emboldens individuals to spew vitriol and criticism at celebrities with seemingly little consequence.  But what happens when those celebrities fight back?  

This week, a social media feud erupted after James Blunt, known for his melancholic hits and sharp wit, responded to a user's criticism with a biting remark.  The user called Blunt "irritating," comparing him to "herpes" – a comment that elicited a swift and stinging retort from the musician.  Blunt's response, while seemingly callous, highlights a larger trend: celebrities are increasingly choosing to clap back at their detractors. 

This phenomenon is fueled by several factors, one of which is the unrelenting obsession with social approval.  We all crave validation, but the internet has amplified this need to a deafening roar.  The social media landscape is saturated with an overwhelming fear of nonacceptance, a fear that celebrities are not immune to.  They, too, are susceptible to the pressure of public perception, their careers often hinging on maintaining a positive image.

But why do celebrities, who are already in the public eye, feel the need to engage with negativity?  The answer lies in the power of the internet.  A single negative comment, amplified by social media algorithms, can quickly snowball into a full-blown online mob.  This creates a pressure to respond, to defend oneself against the perceived attack. 

Furthermore, the act of clapping back can be seen as a form of reclaiming agency.  In a world where celebrities are often portrayed as objects of scrutiny and ridicule, responding with wit or sarcasm can be a way of asserting their power and reminding the public that they are human beings with feelings and opinions.

However, this trend also raises concerns about the role of celebrities in shaping online discourse.  By engaging with negativity, they inadvertently contribute to its perpetuation.  Their responses, while sometimes witty and insightful, can also be seen as feeding the very monster they are trying to fight.

Ultimately, the rise of celebrity clapbacks is a reflection of the complex and evolving relationship between celebrities and their audiences in the digital age.  It raises questions about the nature of online hate, the pressure to maintain a positive image, and the power of words in a world where they can be easily amplified and distorted.  As celebrities continue to navigate this complex landscape, it will be interesting to see how they choose to respond to the ever-present chorus of criticism. 

## ‘People who want to hate me — there’s nothing I can do about it.’: Why Celebrities Are Embracing the Haters

From James Blunt’s witty retorts to Gigi Hadid’s fierce clapbacks, celebrities are increasingly embracing their online haters. But why?  Is it simply a matter of "fighting fire with fire"? Or is there a deeper reason for this seemingly defiant approach to online negativity?

It's tempting to see this phenomenon as a mere case of celebrities being "thin-skinned" and lashing out. After all, aren't they just reacting to the same primal fear of rejection we all experience? This fear, what some might call the "Social Survival Mammoth," is a powerful force that drives our need for social approval. It whispers doubts in our ears and makes us crave acceptance at all costs.

But the reality is far more nuanced. Celebrities, like the rest of us, are human. They experience emotions, vulnerability, and yes, even a healthy dose of insecurity. So, when someone throws a barb their way, it's natural to feel the sting of judgment. 

However, celebrities are also often in a unique position. Their lives are under constant scrutiny, their every move analyzed and dissected. This constant exposure can make them a target for online negativity. But instead of cowering under the weight of criticism, many celebrities are choosing to fight back. 

They're not just defending their reputations; they're also showing the world that they won't be silenced. They're reclaiming their narratives and demonstrating that they're not afraid of a little negativity. This stance can be empowering for their fans, as it shows that even those at the top of the world are not immune to the sting of criticism. 

In a way, their online battles become a form of self-expression. It's a way to show the world that they won't be defined by the negativity that is hurled their way. They are, in effect, saying: "People who want to hate me — there's nothing I can do about it. But I'm not going to let it stop me from being who I am."

This approach is not without its risks. Engaging with haters can sometimes feed into the negativity and even escalate the situation. However, for many celebrities, the benefits of fighting back outweigh the risks. It's a way to show their resilience, their strength, and their unwavering commitment to their own truth. 

Ultimately, the decision to engage or ignore online negativity is a personal one. But for those celebrities who choose to fight back, their actions serve as a reminder that even in the face of hatred, there is always the possibility of finding your voice and reclaiming your power. 

Title: "Navigating the Wilderness of Social Approval: Why Haters Can't Hold You Back"

In the vast and often treacherous landscape of human interaction, there's a beast that lurks within us all—the Social Survival Mammoth. This mammoth, fueled by our innate desire for acceptance and approval, can sometimes lead us down a path of self-doubt and insecurity. Shannon, like many others, has found herself questioning how to deal with the judgment and negativity that can come from others, especially when her path diverges from the norm.

The fear of nonacceptance is a powerful force, one that can paralyze even the most confident among us. It's a primal instinct, rooted in our evolutionary past, where being part of a group meant survival. However, in today's world, where individuality is celebrated, this fear can often hold us back from pursuing our dreams and living authentically.

So, what can we do when the mammoth's fears become overwhelming? How do we navigate the minefield of social approval and disapproval? The answer lies in understanding that the opinions of others, while they may sting, are ultimately not the measure of our worth or success.

James Blunt, the British singer-songwriter, has faced his fair share of criticism and negativity online. From being called "irritating" to "infectious like herpes," he's seen it all. Yet, his response to these attacks is a testament to his resilience and self-assuredness. He doesn't shy away from clapping back, often with humor and wit, reminding us that sometimes the best defense is a good offense.

Celebrities like Gigi Hadid, Drake, Rihanna, and even the band Smash Mouth have all faced their critics head-on. They've shown that defending one's reputation doesn't always have to be fueled by anger but can be a strategic and sometimes playful way to set the record straight.

But what about those of us who aren't in the public eye? How do we deal with the judgment and negativity that can come from friends, family, or even strangers online? The key is to remember that the fear of judgment is often more potent than the judgment itself. When we allow ourselves to be defined by others' opinions, we give them power over our happiness and success.

Shannon, and anyone else struggling with this issue, should take solace in the fact that the people who want to hate have nothing to offer but their negativity. It's crucial to surround yourself with a support system that uplifts and encourages you. Focus on your goals, your passions, and your values. Remember that your worth is not determined by others but by the person you are and the life you lead.

In the end, the Social Survival Mammoth may always be with us, but we can choose to feed it with self-love and confidence rather than the fear of judgment. As we navigate the wilderness of social approval, let's remember that the path to true happiness and fulfillment lies in being true to ourselves, not in seeking validation from others.
Title: "Dealing with Hate: Why Social Approval is Overrated"

In today's world, it's easy to get caught up in the obsession with social approval. We all have a Social Survival Mammoth inside of us, constantly craving validation and fearing nonacceptance. But what happens when that mammoth takes over, and we find ourselves caring too much about what others think of us? Shannon, a reader, recently wrote in to ask for advice on how to handle the fear of judgment from others, especially when following a different path than our friends and families.

The truth is, we all have moments when we're afraid of people's judgment, no matter how confident we are. It's crucial to get this fear under control, especially in the beginning stages when the people around us may not even understand what we're trying to do. But why do we care so much about what others think of us? The answer lies in our evolutionary history.

In prehistoric times, being accepted by the tribe was essential for survival. Those who were rejected or ostracized were more likely to die. This fear of nonacceptance has been hardwired into our brains, and it's still present today. However, in modern times, social approval is not necessary for survival. We have the ability to create our own tribe, our own community, and our own path.

So, who gives a fuck about anything? If you're at all insecure or unsure about what you do, you have the ability to evoke a reaction in others. But that doesn't mean you should let their opinions dictate your actions. Instead, focus on what you want to achieve and the impact you want to make. Remember, the people who truly matter will support you, and the haters will always find something to criticize.

Take James Blunt, for example. The British singer-songwriter has faced his fair share of criticism over the years, but he doesn't let it get to him. In fact, he often claps back at his haters with witty comebacks. Celebrities clapping back or defending themselves against a hater's insult with a better one is an ongoing phenomenon. Gigi Hadid has done it, Drake has done it, Rihanna has done it, and even Smash Mouth has done it. They see people attacking their reputation and rush, sometimes fueled with anger, to protect it.

But why do people often act out in this way? The answer lies in the Social Survival Mammoth. When we feel threatened or rejected, our brains release cortisol, the stress hormone. This can trigger a fight or flight response, causing us to either lash out or retreat. However, in today's world, neither of these responses is necessary for survival. Instead, we can choose to respond with kindness, understanding, and empathy.

In conclusion, while the fear of nonacceptance is hardwired into our brains, it's important to remember that social approval is not necessary for survival. Focus on what you want to achieve and the impact you want to make, and don't let the haters get to you. Remember, the people who truly matter will support you, and the haters will always find something to criticize. And if all else fails, take a page out of James Blunt's book and clap back with a witty comeback.
Title: "People who want to hate me — there’s nothing I can do about it."

In a world where social approval is the ultimate currency, it's easy to get caught up in the fear of not being accepted. But what happens when you decide to take a different path, one that doesn't conform to the expectations of those around you? Suddenly, you become a target for judgment and criticism, and the fear of being disliked can become overwhelming.

Shannon, a reader who recently reached out, asked about dealing with the fear of judgment from others. It's a common concern, especially for those who are embarking on a new journey that may not be understood by their friends and family. But the truth is, there's nothing you can do about people who want to hate you. And that's okay.

The fear of judgment is often fueled by insecurity and uncertainty. When we're unsure about what we're doing, we become more vulnerable to criticism. But as we gain confidence and find our footing, the fear of judgment begins to fade. It's important to remember that everyone has moments of doubt and insecurity, no matter how confident they may seem.

One way to deal with the fear of judgment is to focus on your own goals and values. When you know what you stand for and what you're working towards, the opinions of others become less important. It's also helpful to surround yourself with people who support and encourage you, rather than bringing you down.

Of course, there will always be people who want to hate you, no matter what you do. But as James Blunt, the British singer-songwriter, once tweeted, "People who want to hate me — there’s nothing I can do about it." It's a powerful reminder that we can't control the opinions of others, and that's okay. Instead, we should focus on living our lives according to our own values and goals, and let the haters do what they will.

In the end, the fear of judgment is just another obstacle on the path to success. But by staying true to ourselves and our goals, we can overcome that fear and achieve great things. So don't let the haters bring you down. Embrace your unique path, and let your confidence and determination shine through.
Title: "Dealing with Social Approval and Haters: A Guide to Surviving in the Age of Online Criticism"

The human drive for social approval can be as consuming as an ancient mammoth's need for sustenance. It's a primal instinct that, left unchecked, can consume our energy and focus. Shannon, a reader who reached out with a common concern, shared her struggle with the fear of judgment and disapproval from those around her. This fear of nonacceptance is a shared experience for many of us, particularly for those who pursue unconventional paths that may not align with the expectations of our friends and families.

In an age where online criticism is rampant, the fear of judgment can be intensified. Social media platforms can become battlegrounds for our self-esteem, with anonymous trolls and haters lurking around every corner. Celebrities like James Blunt have faced their fair share of online abuse, as evidenced by a user's comment calling him "irritating" and comparing him to herpes. Blunt's response, while crude, highlighted the reality of the internet's toxicity and the necessity of developing a thick skin.

The phenomenon of celebrities clapping back at their haters is a common one. Gigi Hadid, Drake, Rihanna, and even Smash Mouth have all defended themselves against insults with better comebacks. While it can be satisfying to see public figures standing up for themselves, it's crucial to remember that not everyone can handle the pressure of online criticism. For those of us who are not in the public eye, the fear of judgment can still feel just as overwhelming.

So, how do we deal with this fear of social disapproval? The first step is acknowledging that this fear is a natural human instinct. The drive for social acceptance is deeply ingrained in us, but it's important to recognize that we cannot control the opinions of others. We can, however, control our own reactions to criticism.

One effective strategy for dealing with haters is to reframe the situation. Instead of taking their comments personally, view them as a reflection of the commenter's own insecurities and biases. It's also essential to surround ourselves with a supportive community that understands and respects our choices.

Ultimately, the fear of judgment will never completely disappear. However, by acknowledging our own feelings and developing healthy coping mechanisms, we can learn to navigate the minefield of online criticism with confidence and grace. As Shannon discovered, the key to overcoming this fear lies in recognizing that regardless of what others may think, we have the power to control our own lives and make choices that align with our values and dreams.
Title: "People who want to hate me — there’s nothing I can do about it."
In a world where social approval is king, it's easy to fall prey to the fear of non-acceptance. This fear is often referred to as the Social Survival Mammoth, a term coined to describe the overwhelming obsession some have with gaining social approval. But is it worth it?
Many people find themselves struggling with the backlash of others' disapproval. From celebrities like James Blunt and Gigi Hadid to everyday individuals just trying to follow their own path, the fear of judgment can be a paralyzing force. But as Shannon, a reader who wrote in with a question on the matter, soon found out, there's a way to overcome this fear.
When faced with hateful comments or criticism, it's important to remember that everyone has the ability to evoke a reaction in others. What's more, if you're unsure or insecure about what you're doing, that reaction might be even stronger. But this doesn't mean you should let the fear of judgment dictate your actions.
In fact, some of the most successful and respected individuals in history have faced immense backlash and criticism for their ideas or actions. People like Martin Luther King Jr. and Susan B. Anthony were vilified for standing up for what they believed in, but that didn't stop them from making a difference. Similarly, you have the power to overcome the fear of judgment and pursue your goals with confidence.
It's important to realize that not everyone will like you or what you do, and that's okay. In fact, some people might actively seek to tear you down. But as the saying goes, "people who want to hate me — there’s nothing I can do about it." You can't control someone else's feelings or actions, but you can control your own response.
So the next time you find yourself worrying about what others might think or say, remember that you have the power to overcome this fear. Focus on your own goals and aspirations, and remember that the opinion of others doesn't define your worth or success. As long as you believe in yourself and your abilities, nothing can hold you back.
**"The Social Survival Mammoth: Why You Can't Please Everyone, and Why You Shouldn't Try"**

In today's digital age, it's easier than ever to share our thoughts, opinions, and creations with the world. But with this increased visibility comes the inevitable scrutiny of others. For many of us, the fear of being judged, criticized, or rejected can be overwhelming. We've all been there - wondering what others will think of our latest post, our new business venture, or our unconventional lifestyle choices.

But what if I told you that this fear is not only unnecessary, but also detrimental to our well-being? The truth is, there will always be people who want to hate us, no matter what we do. And the sooner we accept this, the better off we'll be.

As James Blunt, the British singer-songwriter, so aptly put it, "People who want to hate me - there's nothing I can do about it." Blunt has been known for his witty comebacks to online trolls, but his statement goes beyond just defending himself against haters. It's a commentary on the futility of seeking validation from others.

We all have what I call our "Social Survival Mammoth" - that constant need for social approval that drives us to seek validation from others. But this mammoth is a beast that can never be fully satiated. No matter how many likes, comments, or followers we get, we'll always crave more. And when we don't get the validation we seek, we feel anxious, insecure, and unsure of ourselves.

But here's the thing: we don't need anyone's approval to be worthy. We don't need to prove ourselves to others to be successful. And we certainly don't need to engage with people who are hell-bent on tearing us down.

Celebrities like Gigi Hadid, Drake, and Rihanna have all been known to clap back at haters, but even they can't escape the negative comments and criticism. And that's because, no matter how successful or talented we are, there will always be people who are jealous, insecure, or just plain miserable.

So, what's the solution? It's simple: focus on your own path, and don't let the opinions of others dictate your self-worth. As Shannon, a reader, wrote in to ask, "How do I deal with people who don't understand or support my choices?" The answer is, you don't need to. You don't need to justify or explain yourself to anyone. Your choices are yours alone, and that's what makes them so powerful.

In the end, it's not about pleasing everyone; it's about being true to yourself. And if that means that some people will hate you, so be it. As James Blunt would say, "There's nothing I can do about it."
**"The Unapologetic Art of Not Caring: Why Celebrities Like James Blunt Are Winning the Internet"**

In today's social media landscape, it's easier than ever to get caught up in the whirlwind of public opinion. The constant stream of likes, comments, and shares can be overwhelming, making it tempting to obsess over what others think of us. But what happens when we let go of that need for validation? When we stop caring about what others think, and instead focus on being our authentic selves?

For celebrities like James Blunt, the answer is a resounding "nothing." In a world where social media can be a breeding ground for hate and negativity, Blunt has made a name for himself as a master of the clapback. His witty responses to trolls and haters have become the stuff of legend, with fans and non-fans alike eagerly awaiting his next sassy retort.

But Blunt's unapologetic attitude isn't just about defending himself against online bullies. It's about embracing a fundamental truth: that you can't please everyone, and that's okay. As he so succinctly put it, "People who want to hate me — there's nothing I can do about it."

This philosophy is rooted in the idea that our need for social approval is a fundamental aspect of human nature. Our "Social Survival Mammoth," as it's been called, is a primal urge to seek validation and acceptance from those around us. But what happens when we realize that this need is ultimately unfulfillable? That no matter how hard we try, there will always be someone who doesn't like us?

For many of us, the fear of rejection and nonacceptance can be paralyzing. We hesitate to pursue our passions, to speak our minds, or to be ourselves, all because we're afraid of what others might think. But what if we could let go of that fear? What if we could learn to not care about what others think, and instead focus on being true to ourselves?

Blunt's approach is not just about being confident or self-assured; it's about being unapologetically himself, even in the face of criticism or ridicule. And it's an approach that's resonating with fans and fellow celebrities alike.

Gigi Hadid, Drake, and Rihanna are just a few examples of celebrities who have followed in Blunt's footsteps, using their platforms to defend themselves against online hate and negativity. And while some might argue that this approach only fuels the fire of online drama, others see it as a necessary response to the toxic culture of social media.

As Blunt himself put it, "Sometimes, you just have to clap back." And in a world where online hate and negativity can be overwhelming, his unapologetic attitude is a breath of fresh air.

So the next time you're tempted to worry about what others think, take a page from Blunt's book. Remember that you can't please everyone, and that's okay. Focus on being true to yourself, and let the haters hate. As Blunt so eloquently put it, "People who want to hate me — there's nothing I can do about it."
**People who want to hate me — there’s nothing I can do about it.**

In today's digital age, social media has become an integral part of our lives. We share our thoughts, feelings, and experiences with the world, hoping to connect with others and gain their approval. However, with this comes the inevitable - haters and trolls who seem to take pleasure in tearing others down. The question is, how do we deal with these negative individuals who seem to be obsessed with hating us?

According to social psychologist, the desire for social approval is a fundamental human need, which can be likened to a "Social Survival Mammoth". This mammoth feeds on our fears of nonacceptance and rejection, making us constantly seek validation from others. However, this obsession with social approval can be crippling, especially when faced with criticism or negativity.

Singer-songwriter James Blunt is no stranger to online trolls. In a recent interview, he revealed that he has a unique approach to dealing with haters - he doesn't take it personally. "People who want to hate me - there's nothing I can do about it," he said with a shrug. Blunt's carefree attitude towards online criticism has earned him a reputation for being one of the most laid-back celebrities on social media.

But Blunt is not alone in his approach. Many celebrities, including Gigi Hadid, Drake, and Rihanna, have all been known to clap back at haters with witty comebacks and sharp tongue. However, this approach can often escalate the situation, fueling the fire of negativity and creating a never-ending cycle of insults and counter-insults.

So, how do we deal with people who want to hate us? The answer lies in not giving them the attention they crave. As Blunt so aptly put it, "People often act out because they're seeking a reaction." By ignoring their provocations and not engaging with their negativity, we can starve the Social Survival Mammoth of its food, rendering it powerless.

It's not always easy, especially when the criticism is personal or hurtful. But as Blunt's experience shows, it's possible to rise above the noise and not let the haters get under our skin. By focusing on our passions and pursuits, and not seeking validation from others, we can build a sense of self-worth that is impervious to online criticism.

In the end, it's up to each individual to decide how they want to deal with haters and trolls. But as James Blunt's attitude shows, sometimes the best approach is to simply shrug it off and say, "People who want to hate me - there's nothing I can do about it."
**"The Social Survival Mammoth: Why You'll Never Win the Approval of Haters"**

As humans, we've all been there - stuck in the cycle of seeking validation from others, only to be left feeling anxious and uncertain. This phenomenon, dubbed the "Social Survival Mammoth," is a primal urge that drives us to seek constant approval and acceptance from those around us. But what happens when this instinct gets out of control, and we become obsessed with what others think of us?

According to James Blunt, the British singer-songwriter, it's a futile exercise. In a recent interview, Blunt candidly admitted, "People who want to hate me - there's nothing I can do about it." His response was in reference to the numerous online trolls who have targeted him over the years, but it's a sentiment that resonates with anyone who's ever felt the sting of criticism or rejection.

We often try to reason with our Social Survival Mammoth, convincing ourselves that if we just do enough, achieve enough, or fit in enough, we'll be accepted and loved by all. But the truth is, no matter how hard we try, there will always be someone who disagrees, criticizes, or hates us.

Blunt's response to the trolls is a refreshing change from the usual defensive posturing we see from celebrities. Instead of taking the bait and engaging in a war of words, he acknowledges the haters and then promptly dismisses them. It's a strategy that's both liberating and empowering.

But why do we let the opinions of others have such a hold on us? According to experts, it's because our brains are wired to respond to social threats in the same way we respond to physical threats. When we perceive a threat to our social status or reputation, our amygdala goes into overdrive, releasing stress hormones and triggering a fight-or-flight response.

So, how do we break free from the grip of the Social Survival Mammoth? The answer lies in recognizing that we can't control what others think of us, and that's okay. As Blunt so succinctly put it, "There's nothing I can do about it." Instead of trying to appease the haters or win them over, we should focus on our own values, goals, and passions.

This doesn't mean we should be oblivious to feedback or criticism. Constructive feedback can be invaluable in helping us grow and improve. But when it comes to malicious or hurtful comments, it's essential to develop a thick skin and learn to shrug them off.

In an age where social media dominates our lives, it's easy to get caught up in the never-ending cycle of seeking likes, comments, and followers. But at the end of the day, it's essential to remember that our worth and value come from within. So, the next time you're tempted to engage with a troll or worry about what others think of you, take a deep breath and let Blunt's words sink in: "People who want to hate me - there's nothing I can do about it."
**"The Futility of Trying to Please: Why You Can't Control What Others Think of You"**

In today's digital age, it's easier than ever to share our thoughts, opinions, and feelings with the world. But with this increased connectivity comes a heightened sense of scrutiny and criticism. We've all been there - someone posts a snarky comment or tweet about us, and before we know it, our minds are racing with thoughts of "What did I do wrong?" or "Why do they hate me?"

But what if I told you that trying to control what others think of you is a losing battle? That despite your best efforts, there will always be people who want to hate you, no matter what? This might sound pessimistic, but it's a lesson that many of us need to learn in order to free ourselves from the constant fear of social approval.

Consider this: we're all programmed with a "Social Survival Mammoth," as I call it. This deep-seated need for social approval drives us to constantly seek validation from others, often at the expense of our own happiness and well-being. But what's the point of it all? Why do we care so much about what others think of us?

The answer is simple: it's because we're afraid of nonacceptance. We're afraid that if we don't conform to societal norms or please everyone around us, we'll be shunned, rejected, or worse. But here's the thing: this fear is largely irrational. The world is full of people with different opinions, values, and perspectives. You can't please everyone, no matter how hard you try.

In fact, the more you try to please others, the more you'll lose yourself in the process. You'll become a people-pleaser, constantly seeking validation and affirmation from those around you. But what about your own needs and desires? What about your own sense of self-worth?

James Blunt, the British singer-songwriter, is a great example of someone who's mastered the art of not caring what others think. When a Twitter user called him "irritating" and compared him to herpes, Blunt shot back with a witty response, essentially telling the user that he didn't need their approval. It was a refreshing display of confidence and self-assurance.

Similarly, celebrities like Gigi Hadid, Drake, and Rihanna have all been known to clap back at haters on social media. While this might not always be the most constructive way to handle criticism, it's a reminder that you don't need to internalize the negativity of others.

So, what can you do instead? First, recognize that you can't control what others think of you. No matter how hard you try, there will always be people who dislike you or disagree with you. Second, focus on your own self-worth and self-acceptance. Instead of seeking validation from others, try to find it within yourself.

Finally, learn to laugh at the absurdity of it all. Remember, as the saying goes, "haters gonna hate." But that doesn't mean you have to take it personally or spend your time trying to change their minds. As James Blunt would say, " People who want to hate me - there's nothing I can do about it."

In the end, it's liberating to let go of the need for social approval and focus on your own path. So, the next time someone criticizes you or tries to bring you down, take a deep breath and remember that their opinion is not your reality. You are more than enough, regardless of what others think.