<human>: Hi there! My mum is very obsessive when it comes to cleaning and being very judgemental. Everyday she is moaning about cleaning whether I have done this or not, even at about 6:30 every morning she is constantly asking me to do something which has cleaning involved she will even finish work earlier just so she can do extra cleaning or preparing food. She was raised in a very strict home with parents who are strict, my mother is a bit like my grandmother who believes the women should do all the cleaning and cooking while men just do nothing. However this cleaning disorder has been having a huge effect on me as she thinks I have not been doing enough every day and therefore she is constantly having arguements with me. I have tried not to be at home so often because of this and when I am she never asks me how have I been or how my day has been the first thing is an arguement about cleaning yet again. At home I try my best to help by washing dishes, moping, hoovering, cleaning the garden, maintaing a clean bedroom, dusting and etc... What more could I do? I am to the point where I can t deal with this anymore and I am only 19, my mother doesn t spend any time with me even though I ask to go to the cinema or come out for dinner with me (my treat)... but chooses to clean. Since starting my new job at a Bank I haven t been able to do as much cleaning as I could before, but I still help and because I am finding it quite difficult I have brought up the subject of getting a cleaner and I would pay, however I got laughed at. My dad who isn t together with my mum said that she went to his house and started inspecting it to see if his cleaner had done a good job. I know my mum so well that if I was to get a cleaner to come home she would just do it herself again as she does the same to me after I cleaned the day after or 2 she will go back to cleaning the same spot again. My step dad has not even bothered saying anything as in my view I think he enjoys that she does all the work... and says we do not need a cleaner, but basically my main question is do you think she has a disorder? I have even offered kindly to pay for therapy and she declined saying she does not need it. Not to mention my mum has been on anti depresants before and now I am having to suffer with her cleaning habit and on going arguements with me. Help please?????!!!!
<bot>: Degree understand your concerns went through your details. I understand your emotions. In my opinion naming a disorder for your mothers behavior or obsession is quite easy. It can be called OCD. But is there any requirement to name it? Who is not obsessed? Everyone is with something of others. As long as the obsessions go out of hand and become a behavioral hazard, better not to ad Chat Doctor.  Your mother is doing well and finding her own satisfaction level with her current behavior. Let her enjoy. You can pacify her when she gets enraged. Please understand. Starting a psychiatric treatment for OCD may cripple her self-confidence and self-esteem. She does a good job, enjoys it, and never negative about it and is satisfied. What else do you want? Put her in trouble of psychiatric treatment? I shall oppose. Do according to your conscience. God bless you. If you require more of my services, please post a direct query with every Possible details. Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications. Good luck.