[speaker002:] what is it about nursing homes
[speaker001:] um well about nursing homes and and older people uh my husband has a grandmother that lives with his mother
[speaker002:] yeah um-hum
[speaker001:] and they're just really close here and his mother has bad health too and so I go over sometimes in the day when he's at work and I um help with her and bathe her and feed her
[speaker002:] right
[speaker001:] and um and I I it's hard to be a caretaker I really believe it's really difficult to be a caretaker twenty four hours a day
[speaker002:] oh it's very difficult I know
[speaker001:] uh it she has Alzheimer's and does not remember uh a lot if anything and so she asks the same questions over and over again
[speaker002:] um-hum um-hum
[speaker001:] which is not unrealistic you know unrealistic um and so you just have to try and be patient and answer them again or just answer another question
[speaker002:] right yeam
[speaker001:] uh I I some nights his mother calls me and says can your family and just bring the kids in the family and just come over and and visit grandma because she gets very disoriented
[speaker002:] yeah how old is she
[speaker001:] she's ninety two
[speaker002:] uh my see my father is ninety two and still uh he and mother still live at the house and drive and
[speaker001:] oh well I think that's wonderful
[speaker002:] and do the whole thing but you know if something would uh whenever something happens to one of them then I don't know what I'll do up there I I just know that too many horror stories about nursing homes and so
[speaker001:] well um-hum yeah I was just gonna say
[speaker002:] they're in Missouri and I could I I know I know stories for sure that they just they they just well they can't take the proper care of them most of them
[speaker001:] yeah um
[speaker002:] and uh it's it's tragic that you know when people live so long that they uh don't have a place really don't have a place to go
[speaker001:] yes uh I think it's wonderful these these places that aren't nursing homes necessarily but they can and reside there like little apartment places in between places
[speaker002:] so right
[speaker001:] and I like that idea if they can handle it themselves um
[speaker002:] yeah there's one very close to where my parents are but uh I think it would be nice but my dad's the type he wouldn't wanna spend the money on anything so uh I mean he's from that old depression era and uh you know it's oh it's just blissful that they're both able to do everything for themselves
[speaker001:] yeah yeah yeah
[speaker002:] I would imagine that I'll uh if something happens I'll move one of them or both you know in in with me
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] so uh but I know a lot of people have said that and then find out how tough it is and but I think you'd have to really they also wanted us to talk about you'd have to really check on the uh
[speaker001:] yeah nursing homes
[speaker002:] on this this homes but I just don't know how much you can see when you go for a I think you just have to drop in all uh unexpectedly a lot
[speaker001:] visit uh-huh
[speaker002:] and so many people when they put people in a nurses home they never see them
[speaker001:] they don't go and see them that's right that's right
[speaker002:] they never go to see them I've talked to many uh owners of places and say that nobody even maybe maybe Christmas
[speaker001:] you know um I I think nursing homes are our um some are good I have to say that but for the most part I truly believe that the parents would be better if they were with the children
[speaker002:] um-hum right oh I do too
[speaker001:] um
[speaker002:] or if if they could be real real nearby where they could see them everyday or so
[speaker001:] right right
[speaker002:] uh because I know Governor Richards is really upset about what she's finding in the nursing homes homes uh regulation in Texas so maybe we'll get it improved
[speaker001:] um-hum I hope so you know it's I think it's very difficult in the first place to make that choice
[speaker002:] so anyway right
[speaker001:] to have them go there and then if you find out that they are not having good care you know I'm sure that it is just you know you'd pull them out of there so fast
[speaker002:] oh it's tough I'm sure oh right it'd be devastating I'm sure so
[speaker001:] and uh and yet if you didn't feel like you could be a good caretaker I don't it's a very very hard decision I think
[speaker002:] it is a tough decision and it's one that needs a great deal of thought and prior probably
[speaker001:] um-hum I think that's right and especially if you're not a person that is like a medical person maybe or something that the person needs medical treatment
[speaker002:] yeah right
[speaker001:] now I know a friend of mine who had a father um she brought to her home um to live there but he needed the medical treatment and she had a nursing person come in like three times a week to to help him out
[speaker002:] um-hum
[speaker001:] and that might be a partial solution or something but um
[speaker002:] right
[speaker001:] I personally am for the trying it at home caretaker part before I think I'd ever
[speaker002:] I would hope we could do that and then go from there
[speaker001:] yeah
[speaker002:] well anyway
[speaker001:] well I I think we kind of are along the same lines
[speaker002:] we've covered a little bit and uh it's good to hear from you and
[speaker001:] good to hear from you have a lovely day
[speaker002:] have a good have a good life