[speaker001:] hi um the most experience I know about that is just when we had my grandma and she lived with us when I was a little girl for about three or four years and then we had to put her in a rest home and
[speaker002:] uh-huh uh-huh because you couldn't take care of her anymore huh
[speaker001:] yeah she had to have nurses care
[speaker002:] yeah that's rough isn't it
[speaker001:] and yeah it was a really hard decision because I she had nine kids and they had all decided that between the nine of them they could keep her at their home
[speaker002:] uh-huh wow
[speaker001:] but uh her health just failed so much that they couldn't do that she needed an IV and things
[speaker002:] yeah that's really hard my grandma is uh just turned ninety
[speaker001:] oh wow
[speaker002:] and she's still on her own
[speaker001:] oh my goodness
[speaker002:] and she's down in Phoenix and I don't know what we'll do when she can't take care of herself her her son my dad is dead
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] and she has a daughter my aunt uh who lives in another state but uh she has
[speaker001:] and then there's just the grandkids
[speaker002:] uh well I'm like the uh yeah I'm my sister and I are the grandkids are her only grandkids
[speaker001:] oh wow
[speaker002:] so I don't I don't know what's going to happen with her but she's amazingly strong uh
[speaker001:] yeah that's what's neat is when they don't have to go into a rest home or anything
[speaker002:] yeah but I don't know I guess uh most of us uh probably end up there sooner or sooner or later
[speaker001:] yeah my grandpa lived to be ninety four and
[speaker002:] oh my gosh
[speaker001:] his grandma or his wife was uh ten years younger than him and she kept him at home his uh about the last two years of his life she had him in a hospital bed
[speaker002:] uh-huh
[speaker001:] and you know the port a potty and stuff she he couldn't get up or anything but she threatened that she'd never put that man in a rest home and she never did
[speaker002:] boy that's amazing that's a lot of stress
[speaker001:] oh yeah uh she has osteoporosis I don't know how to say it anyway where their back bends and stuff and the bones deteriorate and it really did a toll on her lifting him and stuff but she
[speaker002:] uh-huh hm
[speaker001:] she would have died before she let anyone put him in there in a rest home
[speaker002:] amazing
[speaker001:] but when my grand when my one grandma that did go in the rest home we found a really nice one the you know we'd go visit every night
[speaker002:] uh-huh every night wow that's dedicated
[speaker001:] and she only well she was only there for about a month and she was really bad we you know we knew it was coming
[speaker002:] oh I see
[speaker001:] and I you know we felt really bad for putting her there and stuff she was unconscious and so I don't know a lot of people say she didn't even know she was there but still it was nice to be with her and stuff
[speaker002:] yeah it's a tough emotional uh issue
[speaker001:] well nowadays the expense is going so crazy I mean some people they need it but they can't afford it and those are the families I feel so bad for
[speaker002:] yep yeah that's tough
[speaker001:] you could lose your whole retirement or whatever just
[speaker002:] uh-huh
[speaker001:] taking and you know nowadays a lot of kids are taking care of their parents you know because they can't afford a rest home or whatever and that does a double toll on the kids
[speaker002:] uh-huh
[speaker001:] I don't know if I could ever put my parents in a rest home but I don't know how we would afford it either
[speaker002:] I remember one time I was uh I was in a Mexican restaurant here in Seattle
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] and uh I I was sitting alone in this booth reading and eating and I overheard some folks in the next booth who I think some of them worked at the restaurant they were a little younger than me and they were talking about the differences between I don't know whether they were from Mexico or or but they were you know definitely Latin American
[speaker001:] uh-huh uh-huh
[speaker002:] they were talking about the differences between uh how uh our country cares for old people and what it was like back home and they were just appalled that anybody could put somebody in a you know in a rest home
[speaker001:] oh really
[speaker002:] yeah they weren't course they weren't talking about uh where you know you're absolutely unable to care for them but it was it you know they would come from large extended families
[speaker001:] right
[speaker002:] where you know the the old people were uh were at home
[speaker001:] living all together weren't they
[speaker002:] yeah and uh most people don't want to live that way today in this country
[speaker001:] yeah I don't even know if I can handle living with my parents let alone three generations
[speaker002:] yeah God yeah I don't know I and I've been single so long I don't even know if I could handle living with a wife
[speaker001:] that is a challenge
[speaker002:] I'm probably incorrigible you know
[speaker001:] that and you know a lot of people say it's good for the elderly because they can be with you know people with their same interest and their same age and stuff but I don't know I I would never want to be in a rest home
[speaker002:] yeah uh-huh
[speaker001:] I really don't think I'd want to
[speaker002:] well my grandma's in a retirement community now and uh seems to like it there a lot and stays really active and
[speaker001:] does she have a home or an apartment