[speaker001:] um
[speaker002:] so you have a son
[speaker001:] I have a an older son yeah he doesn't have any children yet though
[speaker002:] uh-huh
[speaker001:] uh he's thirty seven and I don't know if he's ever going to have any or not but I do have some neighbor kids lots of little neighbor kids
[speaker002:] um-hum
[speaker001:] that I go out and uh I play ball with them you know it's because like this one that lives right next door her mother does some work at home on computers and it just seems like she doesn't have any time for them
[speaker002:] um-hum uh-huh
[speaker001:] which is kind of sad you know
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] so the kids are kind of hungry for someone to play with them so I will go out and play catch with them or you know we have let the dogs outside and they will roll around on the ground and play with the dogs but uh actually I do think that the parents should have you know a little bit more time to spend with their kids
[speaker002:] I would think so when you when when your son was at home did you um working did you work or were you able to stay at home with him
[speaker001:] no when my son was at home I I did work and then he went to a baby sitter that this lady had about uh five other kids that she baby sat you know but we always had our days off together and we went camping on vacations so we had a lot of time together that way you know
[speaker002:] uh-huh yeah well when my mom uh when I was growing up my mom worked too but she worked nights
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] and uh as a nurse and so she was always home for us
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] and I always I really appreciated that having her there when I was you know when I came home from school and when I worked but now when I look back at it it must have been a really difficult thing that she did for us
[speaker001:] oh yeah well I am sure it was you know but uh I don't know what the families are really going to come to nowadays because they just there just doesn't seem like they do have time for their kids because most most of them the father and the mother both work you know
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] so it's really rough um I have one neighbor that's uh the father is a fireman and he works like four days on and it seems like he is suppose to come home for like three or four days but he can't make enough as a fireman to support his family you know so he's got a second job
[speaker002:] um
[speaker001:] so he's you know he's not home very often
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] and that's you know the kids I know miss that you know
[speaker002:] they really do uh a family without a father is it's a it's a really hard thing
[speaker001:] yeah you know and I don't know I I suppose they are trying to get through to them that well daddy is not home because you know he is out working trying to make some money for you know we can buy you this bike and that toy and so forth you know
[speaker002:] uh-huh
[speaker001:] but uh
[speaker002:] kids I think would much rather have dad there than the toy anyway
[speaker001:] oh I'm sure they would you know so are you planning on to having any children or
[speaker002:] oh yeah oh yeah our uh-huh but we're um we just got married like like December so we're going to wait a year and then we will try
[speaker001:] um-hum um yeah well that's good yeah that's that's what my uh daughter-in-law had told me that they were going to have kids probably after two years of marriage
[speaker002:] uh-huh
[speaker001:] and they will be married nine years this year so I don't know she's a nurse you know and uh she has brothers and sisters that has got lots of little kids so maybe they just decided that uh if they wanted to have kids around the house they would just you know call one of their sisters or brothers up and tell them to send the kids over for the night
[speaker002:] yeah that's a possibility yeah well we really want to have a family we feel like that that couple you know
[speaker001:] you know but uh
[speaker002:] you're not giving enough of yourself and you should you should be sharing your family
[speaker001:] uh-huh uh-huh so
[speaker002:] and giving your values to you know making something better of the world by raising up good kids and letting them know they're loved and stuff give them give them an edge but
[speaker001:] right right right
[speaker002:] we feel like like the first year needs to be devoted to uh making the the family the couple strong and secure in their love for each other
[speaker001:] uh-huh right right
[speaker002:] but then a family is is definitely a high priority
[speaker001:] yeah uh do you plan on staying home after you have your children or do you do you work or what
[speaker002:] well I um I'm in a different situation I am a missionary
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] and I'm home on on furlough it's called like I've worked for four years in Africa and I come home for a year
[speaker001:] um-hum um-hum
[speaker002:] and then we go back for four years but my husband and I will do the same job and we'll be living in in Africa and we'll be working together
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] so uh we will we will share the job of raising the family I mean as a mother I'll have certain responsibilities that he might not necessarily have but still we'll share that job
[speaker001:] um-hum um-hum
[speaker002:] but we have then we have decisions that we have to make that are hard about schooling like do you want to home school your kids on a computer program
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] you know that kind of thing
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] or do you send them away to boarding school and if you do that when do you do it and that's a