[speaker001:] okay um well why don't you go ahead and start because you have more experience it sounds like
[speaker002:] well I've got two kids one of them 's a year old and one of them 's going on three
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] and in California anyways where I'm located my husband's in the Navy it's really hard to find child care around here because most people that are around here
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] they're either Mexican or Filipino and they don't speak English so it's like my kids pick up really funny words and they come home and say something to me and I don't understand what they're saying
[speaker001:] oh
[speaker002:] and it's like I mean day care is really expensive it costs like three hundred dollars
[speaker001:] oh goodness
[speaker002:] for day care for two kids for a month and when they come home I don't even understand half the stuff they're saying
[speaker001:] uh-huh oh goodness so do they know what they're saying though do they seem to know the words that they're saying
[speaker002:] um sometimes
[speaker001:] because they're they're real young
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] yeah because that could be a blessing further down the road but it can also be a problem now
[speaker002:] like one day he came home and said something and I asked him what he was saying I told him to point to it so I could understand what he was saying and he was talking about the cartoon you know Peter Pan
[speaker001:] uh-huh oh uh-huh
[speaker002:] but he said it you know in I I don't even remember I don't I don't even know which one it was it was either Spanish or Filipino I'm not even sure which language it was
[speaker001:] oh goodness
[speaker002:] but he knew it was Peter Pan it's just he didn't say Peter Pan
[speaker001:] hm
[speaker002:] and so it's kind of hard to understand what they're saying
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] but I don't wanna tell him not to say it because there's nothing wrong with it
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] it's just makes it hard to understand
[speaker001:] yeah yeah they'll be because at this age they're real real young and they could pick up any kind of language it it's amazing how easy they can learn
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] well I've uh I got two children as well my oldest is eight and my youngest is four and I used to teach and when my first one was born I was lucky enough to be able to choose whether I wanted to work or not and even though I had just gotten my Master's degree I chose to stay home just because I worried a lot about child care and really wanted to be able to be that person that raised my children and
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] I like you're feeling the frustration of what they're picking up on that's exactly the worries that I had is that I worried about what kind of things they might be exposed to or pick up on and I was just really paranoid and I guess just decided to be my own child's caregiver and at times I've regretted it just because I miss working with adults and uh you know speaking regular language more than the the children's you know kind of language
[speaker002:] yeah and actually having conversations instead of one line sentences
[speaker001:] right right and as a cartoon once said I would like to have dinner with someone who can cut their own meat and that kind of thing um
[speaker002:] really
[speaker001:] but now I'm getting up at the at the stage where I will need to go back to work and so I'm looking at this issue and my four year old is just at the point where she'll be starting kindergarten next year which is still only half day so we'll still have to look at that kind of of set up for her so
[speaker002:] yeah my husband and I made a deal when our second son was born because we had I had to work
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] there was after our second son was born there wasn't any choice I had to work
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] so we made a deal he's in the Navy and six months out of the year he's gone on a ship
[speaker001:] oh
[speaker002:] so for those six months I don't work I stay home with the kids
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] but while he's in dock and he's you know on shore duty for six months then I work in the daytime
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] and we have child care for them it's only six months out of the year but still it it's just it's kind of weird because the quality of day care is different than what I'm used to because I'm I'm originally from Arizona yeah really
[speaker001:] oh are you so am I yeah what part oh okay I was in the Phoenix uh Mesa area
[speaker002:] Mayer yeah a little tiny dinky town up by Prescott
[speaker001:] oh okay
[speaker002:] but um it's really strange because I'm used to just going to my next door neighbor and she babysat me and you know when I first had when we first had our first son she babysat him until we moved and
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] it's really different here
[speaker001:] oh yeah because now you're depending on other people that you don't know
[speaker002:] yeah moneywise and you don't know them and you're worried you know
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] I mean I know a lot of people say well it never happens to you it just happens to other people when children disappear but it's still scary when you have to look for day care
[speaker001:] yeah yeah
[speaker002:] you know you always have that fear
[speaker001:] yeah
[speaker002:] I got to find somebody really you know really that I can depend on
[speaker001:] that's right yeah and even if you have someone there right at your own house doing that kind of day care you still always have that little worry I'm sure
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] so that's that is a problem what kind of criteria do you look for when you are shopping around
[speaker002:] well I have a notebook and in it I have the top thirty questions and that may sound kind of strange but
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] it's I'm just kind of paranoid as a mother it's like I want my child safe