[speaker001:] one of the hardest things in finding child care is deciding to let go what do you think
[speaker002:] now what do you mean by letting go
[speaker001:] well like going back to work and uh it seems like parents have a very difficult time especially mothers have a very difficult time in uh finding someone well first off in going back to work they uh with the little babies and then then finding someone that satisfies them
[speaker002:] um-hum right right well um gosh my kids are older now so I feel like that that my uh choices are are different now when I first
[speaker001:] um-hum yes
[speaker002:] when I first went back to work uh you're right I I wanted to have somebody who came into the house and who performed you know certain functions and that closeness and I noticed that as the older they got
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] you know the less and less picky I got about that um uh that criteria
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] uh but you know now uh you know I wish there was somebody not so much to babysit the kids but tutor them in homework really really so but
[speaker001:] oh yeah and help help with the housework a little bit the the best one I ever had was uh when I had only one child and uh was an infant and it was an older woman and she came to the house and uh she had noon meal cooked and my husband and I came home and ate and everything
[speaker002:] um-hum oh see that would've been wonderful
[speaker001:] well of course it was extra special for us because he was a student and I had to work so uh that really helped
[speaker002:] um-hum uh-huh uh-huh oh yeah yeah yeah those uh those people who can uh stay you know home and and take care of the kids and uh you know do that I think are really special people
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] um so you just don't find that anymore um even now the the day cares though are so expensive
[speaker001:] oh yes
[speaker002:] that um I don't know how parents afford them uh
[speaker001:] I don't either well a lot of mothers have had to quit work because of that
[speaker002:] right right
[speaker001:] you get one or two children one child and could be fifty to seventy five dollars a week
[speaker002:] oh yeah I
[speaker001:] and then you get two and it just multiplies
[speaker002:] um-hum yeah I I think it's gone up to like a hundred dollars a week and depending on on what age they are
[speaker001:] oh yeah
[speaker002:] and uh you know if you want quality day care to where they have uh not only just their meals taken care of those basic necessities but also uh their education too
[speaker001:] that's true study time and uh if they watch television it's educational only or you know monitor that don't just turn them loose on it
[speaker002:] um-hum because um-hum oh yeah oh yeah so it's a I I think it's changed over the years um but you know I found uh like I said they at least when my kids were growing up that uh it was harder especially companies didn't have programs to where they would help you find babysitters yeah
[speaker001:] oh no huh-uh you found someone in the neighborhood if you were lucky yeah
[speaker002:] um-hum that's right that's right and um-hum
[speaker001:] it have you had any experience with people who have chosen nannies
[speaker002:] no no but you know I've read um you know some stories uh about that and uh so now now I don't do you know of anybody
[speaker001:] um-hum well I'm I do the kind kind of work we we do medical checkups on some who are going to be nannies and the criteria they're using are they want they they require them to have certain blood tests and
[speaker002:] um-hum um-hum
[speaker001:] as well as their educational requirements and
[speaker002:] um-hum
[speaker001:] the one nannies I've talked to who bring the children in are very very uh oh enthusiastic about what they're doing with them and
[speaker002:] um-hum um-hum
[speaker001:] um they present themselves well but that's as as close as I've come to them
[speaker002:] yeah yeah no I had just you know read in a uh oh I don't know the the want columns um but I guess when I had thought about it since I've been a single parent for so long that uh you know I wished I had the money for something like that
[speaker001:] um-hum um-hum oh yes
[speaker002:] because of the special um oh I don't know the um the special closeness that bond that's formed versus taking them to a day care where they just they're one of many children
[speaker001:] right
[speaker002:] yeah so that's a that's to me it's extra special
[speaker001:] well the only I think the one good thing about day care of course I'm in the grandchildren age and one of my grandchildren needed the day care because he needed to the other
[speaker002:] um-hum
[speaker001:] uh other uh younger children he needed to learn to share
[speaker002:] sure sure
[speaker001:] he was uh his mother couldn't get two feet from him
[speaker002:] right right
[speaker001:] and uh they're hoping that that helps on that course that may be just the age
[speaker002:] yeah it it could be age but you know I I can never regwet regret uh the children uh going through that day care experience because they learned so many things uh such as responsibility independence
[speaker001:] um-hum um-hum
[speaker002:] uh you know that sharing I mean there are a lot of good things I I know there's a lot of drawbacks to women going back to to work
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] but um I think there was so many positives that that I saw
[speaker001:] yes
[speaker002:] um that I I really didn't have that much guilt about it
[speaker001:] well good good course what really helps is when you know you have to right
[speaker002:] yeah that made it real easy but I I