[speaker001:] how old are your kids
[speaker002:] I have two little girls I have um one seven and one five and a half and um I'm divorced I'm just now I'll be divorced this month so I'm pretty much raising my kids myself
[speaker001:] oh yeah oh okay  that's a hard task
[speaker002:] yeah it is but they they're wonderful they turned out wonderful and they're obedient and smart and bright and well adjusted and so I'm blessed
[speaker001:] right um that's that's fantastic yeah um a lot of times well I guess the majority of their of their early growing up years they had a full family right
[speaker002:] um not really because he was in the Marine Corps
[speaker001:] oh so he traveled around a bit and was on duty
[speaker002:] yeah he was gone a lot and and um stuff like that but um
[speaker001:] okay yeah I I find myself comparing it to my sisters because both of them have been divorced um one had one child and the other had three
[speaker002:] um-hum and I have been determined not to ever have them in day care though children have never been in day care never um
[speaker001:] good job
[speaker002:] I uh have always been home with them and then when my husband decided he wanted to be free and uh left I
[speaker001:] that's a euphemism huh that's a euphemism huh
[speaker002:] huh yes and um he I uh prayed and found a way to make money without putting them in day care so I clean houses
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] and um I do it while they're in school and I make my own hours and I'm home when I want to be home and
[speaker001:] right right
[speaker002:] um so I have plenty of time and um we read
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] um quite a bit and um we bicycle we all three of us have bicycles
[speaker001:] yeah great that sounds good sounds like there's some quality time being spent there
[speaker002:] so that's our there's Saturdays and Sundays is is um afternoons are bicycling and um try to go to the park and um
[speaker001:] right it are you calling from the South
[speaker002:] yeah can't you tell
[speaker001:] okay yeah I I noticed a bit of an accent there where about are you calling from
[speaker002:] um East Texas
[speaker001:] oh okay okay
[speaker002:] round Dallas that'd be about the biggest place you know that I'm from and I'm from a small a smaller city though it's not not that big it's big but it's not that big
[speaker001:] right okay uh-huh right but it's warm enough to where you can do that kind of bicycling stuff generally pretty much all year round
[speaker002:] um
[speaker001:] uh for the most part
[speaker002:] pretty much pretty much because we've had pretty weather
[speaker001:] yeah oh that's good
[speaker002:] and um
[speaker001:] not too much rain right
[speaker002:] oh it's been awful lately it's rained a lot
[speaker001:] yeah
[speaker002:] but we we watch TV we watch in in the evenings we sit down and watch TV together um like from six to eight or something like that we watch TV together before they go to bed and um
[speaker001:] yeah um-hum right a lot of people frown on that just on on TV in general but I don't know I I think my own personal opinion is that it it helps to instill a sense of values and moral as long as it could be explained explained and as long as there's good monitoring going on
[speaker002:] um-hum right because my children know what they can watch and what they can't and if they see something that does not
[speaker001:] right
[speaker002:] sound right from the way they've been raised they will say something about it
[speaker001:] um-hum yeah that's good
[speaker002:] so um and I will tell them that's not acceptable behavior that's not right we don't do that so um and we don't watch um
[speaker001:] no right okay
[speaker002:] you know really adult bad you know we watch Cosby Show I mean you know that type of
[speaker001:] sure um yeah well that's that's good family moral type stuff you know which is good great
[speaker002:] right right so we enjoy that and um heavily involved in church and um go to that you know together and
[speaker001:] uh-huh yeah did they see their grandparents often or
[speaker002:] no um because I don't mind are um passed away and my husband's are out of state so they're not they don't they just mainly have me
[speaker001:] oh sorry um-hum yeah well that's that's important for you to be there then for a lot of the time
[speaker002:] you know um-hum
[speaker001:] that's good I my sister my closest sister is the same way in terms of day care pretty much to where she really tries to not have them in day care because you tend to pick up bad habits that way and other other people
[speaker002:] um-hum you do and they're treated um wrongly a lot of times and you don't know it
[speaker001:] right you don't know what kind of moral people are inflicting on your children and things like that so yeah that's a good thing I'm I'm myself am am not married but am beg your pardon
[speaker002:] right right how old are you how old are you
[speaker001:] I'm twenty six
[speaker002:] I'm twenty five
[speaker001:] okay I've kind of devoted myself to school but
[speaker002:] uh-huh
[speaker001:] uh right now I'm I'm getting closer to marriage and things are getting very serious and we're talking about these kind of issues and things so good to hear a viewpoint from someone who is actually in the situation
[speaker002:] um-hum yeah I I think it's important to really think really hard before you get married and before you have kids and and when you make that commitment to stand by it not to a few years later go well
[speaker001:] um yeah