[speaker001:] do you have any children
[speaker002:] yeah I have two two boys twelve and sixteen
[speaker001:] twelve and sixteen
[speaker002:] um-hum how about you
[speaker001:] well I have three and uh they're five and three and nineteen months
[speaker002:] oh
[speaker001:] so we kind of got a different ball game but uh
[speaker002:] right
[speaker001:] what uh do you feel like you have anytime to spend with them
[speaker002:] well
[speaker001:] they're probably at an age where they don't wanna spend anytime with their parents parents
[speaker002:] that's true you actually of course spend less time with them when they get older but it's of course still really important um
[speaker001:] right
[speaker002:] I have a kind of a fortunate situation I think right now with my sixteen year old um I work two nights a week at a I'm a librarian and I work two nights a week at the senior high school library they keep it open you know for kids to
[speaker001:] oh uh-huh
[speaker002:] do their work and he um and then they the school district hires an aide you know to work for me well my son is my aide
[speaker001:] right sure oh well that's nice
[speaker002:] so two nights a week for four hours we're stuck together and there's usually not very much business I mean some nights it's just real real quiet so
[speaker001:] you're stuck together no I would suspect your nights would be pretty quiet for the most part
[speaker002:] yeah so we I have sort of a captive audience so I really do spend probably more time with him than than most you know but um of course I'm away from my other son those hours too but his dad's at home
[speaker001:] right and so that kind of gives him uh time with his dad then gives him a little bit of that individual time
[speaker002:] pretty much that time yeah that's true yeah but but it is hard once they get that age I mean their friends are the most important thing there is
[speaker001:] right and they want to be able to spend uh
[speaker002:] that's right
[speaker001:] well I've even noticed that with my five year old she started kindergarten this year and
[speaker002:] um-hum
[speaker001:] everyday that she's not at school uh she thinks we need to have someone over and play
[speaker002:] um-hum
[speaker001:] and that kind of yeah it's hard I think uh I find myself getting my little projects going and
[speaker002:] yeah it's kind of hard
[speaker001:] not taking the time that I should I'm more worried about oh I didn't get this done I didn't get the kitchen needs to be cleaned this needs to be done and and I need to remind
[speaker002:] yeah um-hum um-hum
[speaker001:] remind remind myself to slow down and it'll still be there tomorrow but that's kind of hard to do you know you don't see yourself getting
[speaker002:] right yeah that's true yes it is hard to do right yeah well if you're kind of a person that likes things you know organized or neat or you know
[speaker001:] um-hum right
[speaker002:] then I think it that it is hard it's um I think one of the nice things about holidays is that you know it does give you the opportunity to spend more time
[speaker001:] slow down a little bit um-hum
[speaker002:] yeah with family we have we often go to Illinois
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] for Christmas and we're not this year and it's just really nice because we can do you know the things you want to do and
[speaker001:] you can do a lot more than
[speaker002:] yeah just yeah that's right
[speaker001:] than when you travel this is the first year we're staying home too and uh I think it's going to be real quiet but uh that's an opportunity to get out the games and
[speaker002:] yeah right we usually do that my my kids even have already gotten out um my twelve year old got out the Legos which of course he hasn't touched since last summer
[speaker001:] right of course of course
[speaker002:] but you know but every now and then I mean he's got a lot of those technical those hard kind you know and he wants to be an engineer so he still likes all that kind of building stuff and um we have the train and we haven't had that Lego train together for years
[speaker001:] oh yeah
[speaker002:] and um so he sat down and I told him I really wanted him to build the train and we would put it under the tree and that I would keep it together I wouldn't take it apart
[speaker001:] can't wouldn't take it apart after that
[speaker002:] yeah and every year I'd have the Lego train under the tree
[speaker001:] that'd be kind of fun
[speaker002:] and um so he worked on that for the longest time ever since school was out on Friday and um then his sixteen year old brother started helping too you know so you know it was just kind of things like during the normal rat race those kinds of things never happen but um
[speaker001:] right right no no in fact in I think if a people would learn to turn off the TVs and I think that's a lot of the breakdown of the communication
[speaker002:] um-hum yeah yes yeah
[speaker001:] any communication that would take place in a family uh usually people are ending up sitting in front of that
[speaker002:] which is um-hum and there's always a few people in the family that when they stare at it you know they're totally turned off to everything else the rest of
[speaker001:] yes you can't communicate while you're doing that right
[speaker002:] no that's right
[speaker001:] whereas uh I'm the type of person I could not sit sit still well I shouldn't say I could not but be very hard for me to sit down and watch a program all the way through without doing something
[speaker002:] yeah yeah me too yeah I don't watch very much of it at all even to to the extent that sometimes I feel almost embarrassed at work and stuff like that people are
[speaker001:] because they talk so much isn't that the
[speaker002:] yeah they talk about TV shows and I'm huh you know don't you watch that you know it's the best show on I go no but
[speaker001:] you're kind of like what what are you talking about and uh you feel like you're a little bit out of it don't you they need to have a highlight in the newspaper or something tell us what's the