[speaker001:] what are some of the things that you do with them
[speaker002:] well my oldest son is eleven and he is really into sports and my little girl just started sports anyway my oldest son he plays baseball right now and he's a pitcher on his team and he's doing really well and we go to all the ball games and everything and his dad's a scoutmaster and so he's a scout in the troop and they spend a lot of troop time together doing scouting things
[speaker001:] wow
[speaker002:] uh my little girl she's seven and and just got through with soccer and so we would we'd have to split time and my husband would go one place and I'd go the other place but we one or the other would be at the games
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] and then I have a four year old and we spend time here at home I read to him and things like that as a matter of fact one thing our family does is we try to uh go to the library and everybody gets books and then I we get one book that we read together like story at the end of the day just before they go to bed and then I have a brand new baby and uh
[speaker001:] oh
[speaker002:] she takes a lot of time so I guess that's the time I spend with her feeding her diapering her you know that kind of stuff rocking her
[speaker001:] oh my well you have two boys and two girls don't you
[speaker002:] yeah came out even
[speaker001:] well yes oh well it sounds like really sounds like you do wonderful things uh in fact uh I don't know uh enough families who do what you're doing now
[speaker002:] a lot of families don't have that option
[speaker001:] well um I think a lot of families don't but I think a lot of families do and don't exercise it
[speaker002:] yeah yeah
[speaker001:] uh sometimes I feel that acquiring things becomes uh so important and instead of uh just putting in your time in those early years
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] uh I I've seen it quite a bit with uh as you can tell probably know I'm older than you I have two only they're both uh away from home and uh
[speaker002:] uh-huh
[speaker001:] they they engaged in the sports activities and it was interesting though our son really never wanted us to go we wanted to go because we had moved around quite a bit and that's a wonderful way to meet friends too other families
[speaker002:] oh uh-huh
[speaker001:] but he was a little shy about our going
[speaker002:] uh-huh
[speaker001:] but we did maybe every other game
[speaker002:] well I get up there and yell and everything I'm a yeller and my poor son he says it's okay as long as I don't call him honey
[speaker001:] yes
[speaker002:] as long as I don't say go honey
[speaker001:] well when you said he was a pitcher I think oh gosh that is so hard on mothers
[speaker002:] well it's it's um tense gets real tense sometimes
[speaker001:] well being uh and I think other people uh tend to not uh remember that that is a child
[speaker002:] yeah yeah it can be that way that's really true and you have to try and remember that too especially when they're littler this year we're kind of on a winning team
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] and we we beat a team rather profoundly and you can't help but feel bad but we had our years when they were growing up that we were beaten real soundly too
[speaker001:] sure
[speaker002:] so you know um I guess it's all in the age and as you grow up and you get better and
[speaker001:] and they should they need to have that uh feeling of accomplishment also
[speaker002:] yeah yeah I think one thing like you were saying is we need to remember that it they're just kids though this is not the pros or any big time thing we need to remember they're children
[speaker001:] um-hum well I had friends whose uh son played basketball and uh he was on a team for two years and maybe got into uh two or three games both uh during the seasons for a minute or two
[speaker002:] oh no
[speaker001:] and I just think that is so terrible
[speaker002:] yeah yeah
[speaker001:] unbelievable I don't know how a coach could even do that
[speaker002:] I know that here in Plano we have regular basketball and that's what my child plays during the basketball season and then they have what they call classic and the best players play and the ones that are just barely new sit on the bench most of the time they play a little bit just like what you just said
[speaker001:] um-hum  um-hum
[speaker002:] and and I we just don't want our boy to do that you know
[speaker001:] no no well and I think after he gets older and if everybody knows that that uh they're willing to when the son gets very good and they want to get on one a little bit more high powered team then he can excel
[speaker002:] right
[speaker001:] or if he wants to bid his buy his time a little bit sitting on the bench until he comes of age maybe another year or something
[speaker002:] yeah yeah
[speaker001:] but I think they certainly have to know what kind of team they're getting on
[speaker002:] right
[speaker001:] well I love to hear about your reading too so many mothers and fathers don't uh uh take their children to the library I used to have a bookmobile that came by our house
[speaker002:] oh that's great
[speaker001:] it was wonderful and we could take as many books as we wanted to
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] they didn't come but about every two weeks and so you know you can go through a lot of books really
[speaker002:] um well that's a good amount of time two weeks
[speaker001:] yeah uh-huh so it was just really wonderful so
[speaker002:] oh that sounds great you know I used to read to them and now my two oldest can read to me every so often and that's really been fun too that they read to me
[speaker001:] yes there was an experiment here well I don't guess it was an experiment it was just a project in uh one of the schools here in Charlotte one of the elementary schools uh where the kids uh didn't watch television for a couple of weeks
[speaker002:] uh-huh uh-huh
[speaker001:] and uh there was a lot of cooperation I think uh among the parents and children with this and many that they interviewed afterwards said no they really didn't didn't miss it they they got kind of used to it and it was okay
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] so
[speaker002:] yeah and they say when you don't watch TV as much you're more creative and and imaginative in your own mind of games to play and things to do
[speaker001:] well of course
[speaker002:] instead of just being entertained all the time
[speaker001:] um-hum yeah I worry about the couch potato uh
[speaker002:] yeah syndrome
[speaker001:] yes well Clarisse it's been very enjoyable talking to you
[speaker002:] yeah oh Terry I just appreciate you too
[speaker001:] oh thank you so much
[speaker002:] thanks have a good day
[speaker001:] you too bye
[speaker002:] okay bye-bye