[speaker001:] um I don't I I am only twenty eight and I haven't had much experience with nursing homes I don't I have never visited any I don't think I've ever even been in one have you
[speaker002:] um actually I have um I've I've been in them but um just visiting and um we used to go when we're like in in our teenagers we'd go on Sundays and visit you know the older people but um I have a elderly grandmother that lives with us
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] and she's lived with us for like five years so I kind of know how it is to have to decide if you wanna put somebody in a rest home or um like we I mean we've had those discussions you know about should we put her in or because she's pretty senile and
[speaker001:] and it takes it takes a lot of care like twenty four hours a day someone has to be well like there's someone in my my fiance's family his grandmother too and they're
[speaker002:] yeah it's really
[speaker001:] that his her son his uncle whatever you know anyway he he has he recently retired and so he's the one who she moved in with when she had a stroke and and all the other children um are working or whatever they're all my parent's age and uh so he's got you know his retirement though is really twenty four hours a day they have a
[speaker002:] um-hum
[speaker001:] day care two days a week they call it senior citizen day care but she goes to the senior citizen center
[speaker002:] oh really
[speaker001:] so she he gets a break two days a week but it's only for like two or three hours at a time
[speaker002:] um-hum
[speaker001:] and you know just you see a lot of things like you you know was always a great golfer and wanted to play golf when he retired and you know that a lot of the things he thought he would do when he retired he's not able to do now
[speaker002:] right
[speaker001:] but he refuses to consider any other I I don't know yeah and is that how your parents feel or
[speaker002:] to put her in a rest home um well see it's more of my grandma that feels that way she says that when her husband died that he said
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] oh that my uncle had said that he would never have put her in a rest home so it's kind of uh I don't know I don't think my parents would but she is getting pretty bad like she has to have like a little toilet right by her bed it's and my mom has to take care of her pretty much so
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] it gets I don't know it's it's a hard decision but I don't think I would do it to my parents personally
[speaker001:] I know at this I know I feel like I would never do that with my parents either you know but I I really feel bad for the people I see that not very I'm not really really experienced but like I said just have that one family and that's really so bad for the guy who his whole life is different now and than he thought it would be but
[speaker002:] when he retired
[speaker001:] yeah and he's got you know seven brothers and sisters and and uh he's the one because he's the one that doesn't going to work everyday and that she moved in with when she needed to move in with someone and
[speaker002:] yeah and it's worked out good for us just because my uncle and my and my mom switch off like we have her for three months and then he has her for three months
[speaker001:] I can't say much oh well that's great that's a good idea we ought to
[speaker002:] so that that works out good
[speaker001:] yeah and maybe when the other brothers and sisters retire or whatever I don't know what they're gonna do it's really not my family it's my fiance's so I don't I can't say much but I always feel like I would never put my parents in either and I wonder I'm gonna be the only
[speaker002:] um-hum
[speaker001:] sibling that isn't gonna have children so if my parents do need to live with someone it'll probably be with me because all my brothers and sisters will be having teenagers around and everything to care for
[speaker002:] really
[speaker001:] you know and I'm I that's fine with me my fiancee I both figure that's what's we're gonna end up with both of the parents or whoever if it you know what I mean we feel like it's our responsibility and I feel like I would never put them in a home
[speaker002:] uh-huh
[speaker001:] but I wonder how much you know if one of us is gonna have to quit work someday or retire early or something you think about it and
[speaker002:] um-hum
[speaker001:] it's really I don't know this country kind of takes the worst care of the elderly of any other country and
[speaker002:] you think I I I'm not really familiar with how other countries
[speaker001:] it's really more of a um like a respect issue and that the older the older people in other countries that I've been to seem to really have a lot more respect for the elderly people and and they really seen as wise and and in this country nobody really
[speaker002:] they're seen as senile
[speaker001:] yeah nobody really pays attention and they oh the old timer made with the old way and nobody respects the traditions and you know it's I I'm not saying that I do either but you know it's just funny and and we really don't have any they don't have social security and everything really isn't that much for
[speaker002:] right um-hum
[speaker001:] elderly people to live on you know even if they're in good health it's incredible they don't have any they don't get special treatment and maybe they should you know because we're all gonna get old someday
[speaker002:] right um-hum I know
[speaker001:] so it's a it's kind of depressing topic though how old are you
[speaker002:] um I'm twenty
[speaker001:] so it is yeah and it must be rough for you too to see your grandmother
[speaker002:] yeah it's it really is but and she she drives us crazy