[speaker001:] Nancy do you have any children
[speaker002:] yes I have a twelve year old and I've been very lucky I haven't needed child care except for my mom so I've been real lucky I'm a nurse I go to school I mean I go to work early
[speaker001:] oh um-hum
[speaker002:] so my mom comes over in the morning and gets her ready for his school or just hangs by while she gets ready drives her to school then I'm home to pick her up so I'm very very lucky
[speaker001:] well that's nice that is lucky well how old um does a child have to be before you have to you get to stop making arrangements for him I wonder
[speaker002:] well I could do it now but she gets lonely in the morning and I feel better um she has a crazy father out there somewhere that I just don't let her out of my sight so
[speaker001:] um-hum uh-huh well and um it's nice for them not to be alone
[speaker002:] um you never know yeah yeah she feels that way you know and we have a neighbor on the next block that she could always walk over there and go to school with but
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] we just feel better doing it this way so I don't know what day we'll stop we we were about to stop one day this year and then her father called the school and made all kinds of threats and so
[speaker001:] that is a rule oh no
[speaker002:] we didn't stop and so so um you know it you realize that it only takes one second for something to happen so even though she's twelve she's still a kid so
[speaker001:] yes she is
[speaker002:] you got to be careful
[speaker001:] well I'm glad you had that um opportunity to have your mom
[speaker002:] yeah I'm I'm glad too
[speaker001:] well I I have two kids and uh five and six a girl and a boy and um so far I haven't had to make a lot of child care arrangements for them because um
[speaker002:] uh-huh
[speaker001:] I'm at home now full time but um when I was going to school I would go to school a time that my husband wasn't you know when he was at home
[speaker002:] uh-huh yeah
[speaker001:] so that we would just switch back and forth like that but um it's really scary and I would really hate to be in a position to have to find child care
[speaker002:] well I would too because even though a place can look pretty good on the outside we're finding out now that it's not always on the inside and
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] and I I just don't know what I would do if I had to do that I know the hospital that I work in is big hospital and they provide child care and of course they charge for it but at least all the nurses can leave their children and
[speaker001:] no um-hum
[speaker002:] they're always watching them they can eat lunch with them if they feel sick they can call them at work and they run over and check on them and they feel a little better than if they dropped them off somewhere on the way
[speaker001:] um well that's nice
[speaker002:] so yeah it is nice
[speaker001:] and I know that I have um done some babysitting myself and uh when I was in school and needed extra money and I know how I feel how I felt as a provider of child care that even though you're you're taking care of someone else's child and you're forcing yourself to you know treat them equally and you know better usually better than your own um it's not the same and it made me realize that um no one will love your child as much as you and your mother your
[speaker002:] right right well that's right yeah right
[speaker001:] and um the family and no one will look out after them and I just think um so far I think my preference would be rather than to have like a oh a big day care that um what is that like child KinderCare and things like that rather than having one where they would deliver the children to school in a van or something
[speaker002:] right
[speaker001:] I would prefer to have in home care either my own home or a neighbor or something
[speaker002:] yeah yeah just never know I babysat for the little girl next door for a year or so when her parents first got divorced and
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] it it was hard to treat her equally with my child they were the same age and they played together and they were good friends but like you said you tend to go more for the other one's side just because you are responsible and so it it got hard and my daughter got jealous and
[speaker001:] right it is hard
[speaker002:] um it just wasn't the same as when they were just playing as friends because she had to be there every day so I stopped that after a year because it was difficult to balance it so
[speaker001:] no no and I know um when I pick my kids up from school they wanna come home and I and I would hate for them to have be picked up by a day care and be taken to another large group situation
[speaker002:] they do um-hum um-hum I know I know
[speaker001:] so I think uh my preference would be a small small if I had to find day care would be a small someone that I knew
[speaker002:] yeah yeah well I would rather do without some things and I know that some parents they both do have to work but a lot of people where I live are working just because they want bigger and better
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] and I would never do that I never have done it and I just never would do it I would rather do without some things that really aren't very important compared to being with my child when they're growing up so
[speaker001:] no well that's true because even now when they're gone to school it seems like there's just not enough time left over in the day
[speaker002:] no there isn't there isn't any time that's true
[speaker001:] and uh by the time they have to eat and have homework and they want some free time and there's just not enough to time in the day to do anything good quality for them but that's really