[speaker002:] think about what nursing home
[speaker001:] well my parents were both in them
[speaker002:] uh-huh
[speaker001:] and my father-in-law and it's a tough decision to make
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] because boy it really confines the uh the people
[speaker002:] um-hum
[speaker001:] and uh usually they don't care for it and kind of put you on a guilt trip
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] but uh have you had any experience with them
[speaker002:] well uh this my grandmother in fact uh has a personal care home and she keeps a couple of elderly ladies in her home
[speaker001:] yeah
[speaker002:] and uh I live I live with her and so uh it's it's uh my mother also does the same thing and uh it's uh I think the quality of care they get is a a lot better uh
[speaker001:] yeah
[speaker002:] and a lot more personal but uh
[speaker001:] but it's still still not like home
[speaker002:] no but uh I think it's uh quite a bit better than than a nursing home I I've just seen
[speaker001:] right
[speaker002:] people just go down hill when they uh go into a nursing home
[speaker001:] yeah
[speaker002:] that seems to be uh
[speaker001:] but uh you know and it's hard to really know what kind of a home is run
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] unless you really know someone that's in there
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] and  you have to kind of take that with a grain of salt too
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] that uh yeah they may say it's real bad uh just because they don't like it in there
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] whereas it's you know usually pretty good uh uh the one my father-in-law was in had uh oh God entertainment every afternoon of some you know bingo or cards or whatever
[speaker002:] uh-huh well that's good
[speaker001:] yeah and uh and it's easy to check out the meals you know just go up there during uh meal time if you can stand it
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] because they don't eat that too well
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] and uh go uh always you always have to check it for cleanliness too
[speaker002:] I'm sorry what was that
[speaker001:] well you have to make sure they're clean
[speaker002:] oh yeah
[speaker001:] and they just had a incident in uh Dallas here
[speaker002:] um-hum
[speaker001:] where the guy's suing the nursing home he came in at ten in the morning check on his mom
[speaker002:] um-hum
[speaker001:] and she was sick and uh went up to the front desk and said what's wrong with my mom and they said what is she sick we didn't know that and here she died two hours later
[speaker002:] uh oh
[speaker001:] yeah so you know and well there's an awful lot of variables in them
[speaker002:] yeah yeah I've seen some good ones and uh I've seen some uh my other grandmother was in one and it was I guess they it wasn't too bad but she uh she was a good way away from her family and uh kind of by herself there and it was it I didn't really like going there at all it was it was not a pleasant experience but uh I think there're some good ones out there's some here in Atlanta that are closing down it's
[speaker001:] oh
[speaker002:] apparently a shaky business right now
[speaker001:] well I think Medicare and Medicaid payments are uh kind of tightening up on it
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] but uh you know in some of them some of them try so darn hard but caring for an elderly person who might be forgetful
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] is ever ending
[speaker002:] yeah it is uh one of the ladies my grandmother has is apparently showing some signs of Alzheimer's and uh she'll my grandmother'll put her to bed and uh she'll get up you know anywhere from five to ten times and wonder where the bedroom is and you know that kind of thing so
[speaker001:] well it's around the clock care
[speaker002:] yeah it uh it takes a lot of patience
[speaker001:] yeah an awful lot
[speaker002:] but
[speaker001:] and and gentleness too
[speaker002:] yeah she she's she's pretty good with them though she does a real good job and uh oh I you know I would I would probably throw up my hands and quit but she just you know turn around put her put her back to bed
[speaker001:] yeah
[speaker002:] you know which is good so I I hope I can provide that kind of care for my grandmother you know she's still going pretty strong but uh uh I I don't think I would wanna turn her over to a nursing home I I'd like to be in and I think that's the position of a lot of people but they can't afford it you know
[speaker001:] costs a bunch my mother-in-law is uh eighty two and we'd probably put her in the same home that