[speaker001:] okay I think we're all set there hopefully
[speaker002:] well uh care of the elderly is something that is hitting pretty close to home at me uh right now my father-in-law has uh been diagnosed with terminal cancer and my mother-in-law is in a wheel chair so this is something that I've been thinking quite a bit about lately and uh I'm I feel pretty strongly and the rest of my family does that is long as someone is able to care for uh someone else that they shouldn't be put in a home but there's there's a very hard question of of what happens when someone isn't able to provide that care for themselves um in the case of my mother-in-law she's not able to to bathe herself but she's sharp as a tack at this point and what sort of facilities are available for that person it's hard because you think of a home and you're really thinking of of uh old people left somewhere to uh you know fairly forgotten and that's that's that's a hard thing and I'm sure not all of them are like that
[speaker001:] well unfortunately that's the typical picture though
[speaker002:] yeah  so it's it's very hard to find a facility that would allow uh allow someone of fair degree of autonomy in their life but yet would still be there to help provide some of the basic services
[speaker001:] is your mother-in-law currently uh living in a nursing home or anything
[speaker002:] no she's not um she's still at home and her son has has moved back into the house uh which which was not as inconvenient as it sounds because uh um my father-in-law and my brother-in-law have a dental lab in the basement so he was working out of the house anyway uh so it it's a little less uh it's it's not all that inconvenient for him but the rest of the kids are scattered uh throughout the northeast and he doesn't want to feel that he's uh he's going to be completely responsible for this only because he happens to live right there with with my in-laws
[speaker001:] have you guys thought about the financial burden of caring for your mother-in-law as far as putting her in a nursing home down the road
[speaker002:] that that has we've all thought about that fortunately uh that doesn't seem to be a big problem but that we there's some thought that has to be given to to uh to the property for instance they have about four three or four acres in Connecticut and what no one wants to see is uh that land having to be sold off simply to keep her in a in a nursing home what we'd like to do is uh find the sort of place where I try described before where she'd be able to have uh a place of her own but yet also have someone come in a couple of times a day to help her with various various things and have someone there in case she falls or something
[speaker001:] well my mother my grandmother is in a place similar to that where she has emergency buttons throughout the throughout the house or actually the apartment
[speaker002:] um-hum
[speaker001:] and she's about eighty one and she lives she has her own little area for gardening and so forth it's in the housing authority up here
[speaker002:] um-hum
[speaker001:] and it's
[speaker002:] that's great
[speaker001:] when she first moved up here she ended up living in uh tall apartment building a complex that was very similar to a hospital
[speaker002:] um-hum
[speaker001:] a very negative feeling when you walked in the building
[speaker002:] right
[speaker001:] and now she's been very fortunate in that she's almost almost like living in a small home
[speaker002:] that's that's great
[speaker001:] and she she still has an a large maintenance staff take care of the place look after her
[speaker002:] provide uh
[speaker001:] basic busing services and travel
[speaker002:] um-hum
[speaker001:] uh
[speaker002:] I'm hoping that the trend is toward places like that
[speaker001:] as
[speaker002:] the population in America uh lives for a longer period of time uh I I guess thirty years ago when when you were that age and you weren't able to really care for yourself you really weren't going to uh you know be around that much longer and so the level of care required was was different but now people are are living longer and can uh can have injury