[speaker002:] well let's see if I can recall all those questions um well first off I have one daughter who's two
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] and the question I think focused primarily on how people spend time with their children and is it adequate
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] I think that's so varied depending on um what what your life is all about you know I I was just about to say priorities but it really has more to do with um the things that influence your life as opposed to just your priorities
[speaker001:] right
[speaker002:] I work as well as um spend as much time as I can with my daughter my husband so
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] it's always a challenge um I think that probably we like to spend our time together doing um recreational things as much as possible
[speaker001:] right
[speaker002:] I mean that's sort of obvious I guess when you have a young child anyway they're not they're not off on their own they're going where you're going
[speaker001:] right
[speaker002:] um so we enjoy things like camping and spending time together on weekends and going for walks and bike rides and things like that
[speaker001:] uh-huh cool I think that's what it's all about that's I the things I remember most when I was growing up were the same that anytime we did something with the family it was boring or something active we rarely went to any movies or and and I'm glad we took that time that we were together to to really spend in communicating and talking with one another and enjoying each other's company
[speaker002:] uh-huh did you have a lot of siblings
[speaker001:] I do I have seven brothers and sisters there's eight of us
[speaker002:] wow
[speaker001:] so it was a challenge you know to find time especially as we got older um to find time to where we all could could do it but it was also a lot of fun it really
[speaker002:] uh-huh uh-huh
[speaker001:] this I think for us it made it that although we didn't spend a whole lot of time together as a complete family
[speaker002:] well that's probably a challenge considering the age span
[speaker001:] yeah well there's a huge age span for example my oldest sister is twenty four and my youngest brother is six so
[speaker002:] yeah oh
[speaker001:] most the activities we did do together were were sports when one of us played in a sporting event it everyone who was available would go to that or once somebody sang in a choir
[speaker002:] oh uh-huh well I would imagine at a certain point too you were probably able to care for each other in in like pseudo parent roles so that you had a chance to
[speaker001:] so I think that's what I remember most yeah yeah and a lot of uh you know that was a big thing I remember when I was growing up that as soon as I could drive my job was to take over mom's car responsibilities and drive everybody all around But that was cool because it gave us a chance to to get to know the other kids and really see how they were like instead of just what they were like at home
[speaker002:] uh-huh uh-huh uh-huh
[speaker001:] which was really neat
[speaker002:] interesting  and my little one wants to talk on the telephone right now she sees me talking
[speaker001:] how old is the little one
[speaker002:] she's two
[speaker001:] oh boy keeps you busy I guess
[speaker002:] pardon me
[speaker001:] I would guess she keeps you pretty busy
[speaker002:] yeah yeah it's it's a it's an age of um extremes to some degree very loving and very sensitive and and yet sometimes just so overwhelmed by the emotions that uh hard to keep them in check
[speaker001:] uh-huh right I can imagine well let's see what else
[speaker002:] but the question of was it enough you know it think that's a really hard thing for people to answer I think that it depends on each individual
[speaker001:] uh-huh yeah I agree a hundred percent
[speaker002:] if you feel as though you're spending enough I mean some people can work full time and feel like they're able to spend enough time with their kids and other people can't imagine how that could be truth
[speaker001:] yeah and I think it's true I think a lot of times people get caught up on the quantity instead of the quality
[speaker002:] uh-huh huh
[speaker001:] and I'd just as spoon soon spend you know thirty minutes with my dad talking and just being with him than I would an hour and a half being at a movie with him
[speaker002:] uh-huh did you have times when you were um like going on a date or having an opportunity to spend one on one with parents given that there were so many siblings did you have much one to one time
[speaker001:] um when I was growing up there wasn't a whole lot most of our one on one was was with other brothers and sisters
[speaker002:] uh-huh
[speaker001:] um more now than ever I I'm home for school right from school right now just for Christmas and I've probably spent more one on one time with my dad since I've been home than I did in the year when I was here
[speaker002:] uh-huh uh-huh
[speaker001:] which was at times that was difficult you know we he made time when we needed it but he's a very very busy person He works his job and a half and he's on the school board and everything so he's he's rarely home
[speaker002:] uh-huh uh-huh
[speaker001:] but when he is he makes sure that it's quality time with us and he wants to you we always knew that that he was there for us if we needed him
[speaker002:] uh-huh that's an important element of a relationship even if it's not always contact
[speaker001:] yeah and I
[speaker002:] must have kept your mom busy
[speaker001:] yeah they they were both run wild there I don't know how they did it
[speaker002:] really it's pretty amazing when you look on so many families some time back that were larger it's very much the unusual today
[speaker001:] uh-huh yeah and I think it's interesting too You know I think to me at least to have a big family is something that I personally will want when I get married
[speaker002:] um-hum um-hum
[speaker001:] just because I I was able to see the what happens with other siblings you know and be a I had to learn to be responsible real quick being the second oldest
[speaker002:] uh-huh oh is that right you were second
[speaker001:] yeah so I got to
[speaker002:] yeah besides the fact that you really uh learn to function in the social system you know it's the family unit is a is a microcosm
[speaker001:] absolutely