[speaker001:] okay um have you ever had to put one a a family member in a nursing home
[speaker002:] no but we're getting pretty close to it my wife's uh uh stepfather uh is in the hospital right now and hopefully we can pull him out uh back home but we don't know yet
[speaker001:] oh uh-huh oh
[speaker002:] how about yourself
[speaker001:] well my mom is sixty five and she's which I feel is you know quite young still but she's not in the greatest of health and
[speaker002:] uh-huh
[speaker001:] so recently she has been talking a lot about what we would do if we had to put her in a nursing home she's adamant that she does not want to live with any of her children
[speaker002:] uh-huh
[speaker001:] and put that burden on us
[speaker002:] yeah so so is uh so is our uh my my uh my mother's parents
[speaker001:] oh uh-huh
[speaker002:] my family my mother mother and daddy are dead
[speaker001:] uh-huh but their parents are still alive oh my goodness wow oh
[speaker002:] um-hum eighty four and eighty  yeah see eighty four one eighty four year old man that's in the hospital
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] but uh we've been looking into it and uh course nursing homes I think uh you would find that uh you would want uh one close to home
[speaker001:] right
[speaker002:] and one that has a pleasant surrounding
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] and one that has good staff that uh you know will take care of you and treat you you know like a a like an individual
[speaker001:] right
[speaker002:] and uh and look after your every needs I know down here in Texas we've had a lot of problems with nursing homes that uh that don't uh take care of their people
[speaker001:] um-hum oh
[speaker002:] they've gone in they've closed down a lot of them and they put new regulations on some of them you go in you find an old person with a bed sore because they haven't been turned or haven't been cleaned
[speaker001:] oh oh dear
[speaker002:] so uh all of that uh you know I think someone needs to know uh about uh the qualifications of a nursing home
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] and the staff
[speaker001:] now how do you go about finding out things like that you
[speaker002:] well let's assume that uh you wanted to take your mother to a uh nursing home there locally in Ogden I'm sure you've got some that's close by
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] it would it what would be real nice is find one around the corner that you could visit that you could go in and uh talk to the people talk to some of the people's uh uh siblings
[speaker001:] right um-hum oh that's right
[speaker002:] or uh you know children children and uh find out how they like it you know course one of the most important things is is uh can you afford it
[speaker001:] uh-huh well that's true
[speaker002:] and uh down in some small cities here in Texas it's about fifteen hundred dollars a month over here in Dallas it's closer to three thousand if you really wanna get super care you know you can pay anything you want to
[speaker001:] that's right oh my
[speaker002:] course we haven't even mentioned Medicaid uh which and uh which uh would take care of an individual who is destitute
[speaker001:] boy well um-hum uh-huh
[speaker002:] and course there's a lot to be said about uh making a member destitute
[speaker001:] oh well
[speaker002:] as opposed to uh paying for it yourself because the government you know uh provides for a destitute person
[speaker001:] um-hum well that's what my mom's been saying you know she's been just saving her money and not paying a penny of it but she says my little bit of savings will probably pay for a nursing home for maybe a year and then I'll be on Medicaid anyway so she said
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] why don't I go out and and enjoy life while I can and you know when I get to that point of being in a nursing home then maybe Medicaid will just have to take care of me but why don't I just enjoy life now
[speaker002:] yeah well yeah and that's true because uh after the year's gone all of her savings are going to be eaten up and if she owns her house uh I'm not sure about the total rules on the house but I assume that you'd have to sell the house and those proceeds would go to pay for the nursing home
[speaker001:] I think so yes
[speaker002:] and anyway it's while it's unlawful
[speaker001:] um
[speaker002:] there's nothing wrong with a parent gifting everything she has to uh to uh to an individual like uh like like you
[speaker001:] uh-huh uh-huh
[speaker002:] and then uh from there on out uh saving that money uh so that uh you could supplement her income after she goes under Medicaid
[speaker001:] oh
[speaker002:] a lot of people do that
[speaker001:] oh
[speaker002:] and most one of the most important things uh about sending a person to uh the nursing home is is the burial provided for
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] see that should be provided for before she ever goes out of her monies or otherwise you know the the uh the uh the kids have to provide that
[speaker001:] that's right uh-huh
[speaker002:] so uh you know I sure you've thought of all this
[speaker001:] yeah well it's it's kind of a sad thing to think about isn't it
[speaker002:] oh yes it's very sad we had a discussion with her mother who is uh is eighty years old this past weekend and uh
[speaker001:] yeah  hm