[speaker001:] well I was just wondering if you had had any experience with um the care of the elderly
[speaker002:] yes I have in fact uh just a little over just a little less than a year ago uh my mother went to be with the Lord and we cared for her the last uh oh seventeen months of her life here in the at home
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] aside from uh having to uh take her to the hospital and uh you know those times well she was there in the the regular hospital
[speaker001:] right
[speaker002:] and then she was diagnosed having inoperable type of cancer and so the doctor elected to have her uh finish out uh in the hospice program
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] and uh I as far as I'm concerned that is far and above any nursing home because uh she's around her own family you know the the elderly parent in question is around their own family the uh hospice program provides a hospital type bed well it is a hospital bed and all the oxygen stuff and a uh and a visiting nurse at least every other day et cetera et cetera et cetera
[speaker001:] well that's nice
[speaker002:] and it's all taken care of by by uh Medicare uh and uh it it's it's really neat uh and I you know I wouldn't I wouldn't banish uh my old loved one to a to a warehouse
[speaker001:] no
[speaker002:] and that's that's what I basically uh view a nursing home as a warehouse so that's
[speaker001:] it's really sad
[speaker002:] pardon me
[speaker001:] it's really a sad situation
[speaker002:] uh-huh no
[speaker001:] and uh I think a lot of people struggle with
[speaker002:] oh
[speaker001:] uh I guess the problem is that the spouse of whoever you know the parent is
[speaker002:] um-hum
[speaker001:] doesn't always want the in-law living in the house is that right
[speaker002:] right
[speaker001:] well that's really sad
[speaker002:] yeah I know but uh in this case uh spouse and I uh are uh we're are are are uh united in this area because I guess her father her grandfather and grandmother both lived with uh
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] her parents uh their their their golden years to so
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] this isn't like uh uh just one one uh instance in fact uh her uh uh experiences were were invaluable to me
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] uh in fact I don't know if I could have uh held up uh you know without my wife uh helping in this this this case
[speaker001:] right yes well I know when the I remember being a child and my grandmother had had several several strokes and things and that we had my parents tried to keep her in the house and they did for a long time I couldn't tell you how long until she got uh where she had to have complete care
[speaker002:] uh-huh uh-huh
[speaker001:] and just they couldn't you know keep her in the house anymore and it was really hard on everyone that she had to have you know twenty four hour a day care and I don't remember much about it except that there was a nursing home at that time just a block or two from our house
[speaker002:] um-hum um-hum
[speaker001:] and that um they put her there and we all went just constantly until she died
[speaker002:] oh okay
[speaker001:] but it was very hard on everyone to see well you know grandmother be like that and I don't know that you know I don't being so young I don't remember why
[speaker002:] um-hum
[speaker001:] you know what was why she had to go there
[speaker002:] well maybe uh uh well as as you say the the care of of grandmother or was was to such that such mom and dad couldn't handle it
[speaker001:] um-hum well I do remember that she was you know totally incapable of taking care of herself in any way and that that they couldn't they found that they could not you know give her
[speaker002:] oh boy yeah uh-huh
[speaker001:] the hygienic care and everything that she needed
[speaker002:] uh-huh well then then there's almost then there's almost no no uh uh choice left to her then
[speaker001:] no but like you say there is a tendency for people to be abandoned though you know in the nursing home I do remember the other patients there um
[speaker002:] uh-huh
[speaker001:] being real excited when we came to see our own grandmother because they got some interaction with someone
[speaker002:] right in fact just to just to sit and chat with them for five minutes and and be interested in what they have to say regardless of what it is
[speaker001:] um-hum right right and I guess that's hard on people to give give up their lives if they're busy they don't you know it's easy to abandon people because we do have the nursing homes I guess
[speaker002:] um-hum right
[speaker001:] if you can afford them but anyway well I'm glad it worked out good for your family
[speaker002:] and then and oh yeah it did and I was just praised I just praised the Lord that that we were able to uh have uh uh be