[speaker002:] I don't really know any elderly uh in uh
[speaker001:] no I hello
[speaker002:] homes or anything  care of the elderly I guess is
[speaker001:] yeah I haven't given much thought to it I'm kind of busy raising my kids the only way I can relate to it is I think of my mother taking care of her parents
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] and I remember her running over there every morning to make sure they got dressed and and and fed and cleaned and uh I remember her saying to me I hope don't ever let me do that to you put me in a home because it's it's hellish on the person who has to give the care to a person like that you know these
[speaker002:] they have uh around here they've got these uh they're like uh condos
[speaker001:] um-hum
[speaker002:] uh complexes and they're uh
[speaker001:] oh for senior citizens
[speaker002:] geared to elderly and senior citizens and they have I think uh like a nurse on staff there
[speaker001:] well I don't think yeah I don't think the problem is I mean those condos are like elderly people just living in their own apartments I think the trouble begins when they have more physical problems
[speaker002:] and they take care of some of that kind of thing um-hum
[speaker001:] I mean it's got to be humiliating to have a stranger a nurse or somebody lift you in and out of a bathtub
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] you know because I mean I'm I'm not aged but I'm I'm forty one now and I still feel twenty something and I realize that my body is kind of traitorous and and and changing on me even though I'm not feeling terribly old
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] so I can imagine you you know being eighty and somebody has to dress you and you're probably sitting there thinking my God this is so degrading but your body just won't do it
[speaker002:] yeah  well I don't know I don't I'm not sure that uh this is necessarily true during even if they're eighty you know because you can a lot of people uh maintain their their uh fitness and so forth right on up
[speaker001:] well I I think nowadays people are making that effort to eat right and to be more fit and I think old age is getting older
[speaker002:] yeah that's a definitely uh that's statistically true
[speaker001:] hum are your parents alive
[speaker002:] and my dad's eighty five I think right now eighty five
[speaker001:] do and he fends totally for himself
[speaker002:] yep
[speaker001:] that's wonderful
[speaker002:] he still yeah he was having a little trouble getting his driver's license he lives down in Florida where I was raised but uh
[speaker001:] that's great that looks good for you too you know longevity in the family
[speaker002:] yeah right yeah and my grandmother was lived to a pretty ripe old age too of course she was in a home when she lost you know her her mind went my dad's is still pretty you know pretty well with it
[speaker001:] well I you know my thought is if your mind goes at the same rate your body goes then nobody cares right you know it's like animals when they're stupid what the hell do they know I think if one goes before the other is when you run into trouble
[speaker002:] yeah right I guess yeah well that like that uh what is it uh that disease of the
[speaker001:] Alzheimer's
[speaker002:] yeah oh that'd be awful
[speaker001:] well I I think it that kind of thing is probably awful for everybody around you I think these people don't rightly know what they're doing
[speaker002:] yeah yeah really yeah it's hard to say
[speaker001:] yeah that's true
[speaker002:] I had a friend that got that and he was fairly young I think he was in his like late thirties or forties or something like that
[speaker001:] well is that something that is that something that affects you all the time or do you kind of like wave in and wave out of it
[speaker002:] uh maybe a little lower I don't know I think it does come and go to some extent but it just keeps continually getting worse yeah
[speaker001:] um that doesn't doesn't sound too pleasant
[speaker002:] no it isn't
[speaker001:] well well I you know I talking about what would you look for if you had to put someone in a home I guess uh I don't know I guess a place that has the most activities you know keeping your mind alive even if you couldn't do very much
[speaker002:] um-hum you'd have to go uh I guess you'd have to go kind try and pay them surprise visits and see if you could tell what the atmosphere was like and so forth
[speaker001:] yeah that's that's true
[speaker002:] if they were uh you know seemed to be caring or whether they were just warehousing them
[speaker001:] yeah
[speaker002:] there's a lot of them like that I'm afraid
[speaker001:] well you know you nobody takes care of your own as well as you would I was brought up in in a city where everybody lived in apartment buildings and there wasn't any room to you know wasn't houses there wasn't a room to take in the elderly
[speaker002:] um-hum yeah
[speaker001:] so if and when they couldn't take care of themselves they couldn't move in with you because you had a three room apartment or something so you know that's why they went somewhere else
[speaker002:] where in the city
[speaker001:] uh you know my life's changed now I only