[speaker001:] okay well why don't you start because it said I was suppose to ask you what do you
[speaker002:] do you have any elderly relatives currently in uh in a nursing home now
[speaker001:] yes I do
[speaker002:] do you I have a grandmother she's a hundred and two
[speaker001:] oh my gosh
[speaker002:] she'll be a hundred and three in August
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] and we decided not to put her in a nursing home she lives with my mother and my father who also live here in town and then my sister takes care of her
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] she even though she is a hundred and two she still has all of her faculties
[speaker001:] right
[speaker002:] she still has her snap she takes care of her own business this is the first year that she has gotten weak and actually has to have a little walker but with somebody that needs around the clock care I have seen my family age
[speaker001:] right
[speaker002:] I've seen them in the she's been there ten years now and I have seen them age twenty in the time and and with the expense and everything I think I still think it is worth it if you if you had a good nursing home
[speaker001:] yeah
[speaker002:] and they needed some quality care I would put someone in a nursing home
[speaker001:] right my mother-in-law finally they had to make a family decision there's seven children in my husband's family and fortunately four of them live in the same home town and she has Alzheimer's it was getting where she was getting things dangerous I mean letting strangers in and things like this but they were very fortunate it's a small town and
[speaker002:] um-hum
[speaker001:] she happens to room with one of the doctor's mother's and then she's got a lot of family there and that go and see her all of the time but she really doesn't nobody thought she would adjust but she's adjusted beautifully
[speaker002:] oh well that's good oh that is great
[speaker001:] but then I am also facing my father who is very sick and my mother and father reside in Colorado she's been taking care of him I don't know how much longer this can last and at that point because he requires round the clock he can't do anything without her he doesn't know when to take his medicine and it's really sad and I have thought if something would happen to my mother for uh my brother's are not interested in helping me so I would have to move him down here that way I want to see the nursing home if I have to put him into one you know where I can go see it I I'd be very uncomfortable with him being in Colorado and
[speaker002:] why yeah I'm sure you have got some really good nursing homes around Dallas
[speaker001:] yes and some of them are limited care too where people can do uh like they have apartment styles but that wouldn't work for him I think he's beyond that where if you need help you can get it but basically people kind of have a small apartment and doctor's are available if they need them and allows
[speaker002:] um-hum I I I know a lady that lives in a place similar to that in Austin
[speaker001:] yeah yeah well the only problem with these are that they are very expensive of course I guess all nursing homes there is
[speaker002:] where
[speaker001:] but
[speaker002:] and the bad thing about it before you can get any kind of government help you just practically have we have to be a pauper
[speaker001:] right
[speaker002:] it it takes every penny they want you to spend every dime you have before the government will pay for your your care and that's the sad part about it
[speaker001:] yeah right yeah I see uh yeah and I think a lot of people who do it now in Colorado it's interesting I talked to my mother they allow you sixty five thousand dollars and your car and your home and my mother could make it on that what she probably would do is disburse the money to me and then I would send it back to her so that's probably what would happen
[speaker002:] um-hum I think that's what most people do you just have to give it everything away
[speaker001:] yeah it's unfortunate
[speaker002:] I I I work at a brokerage firm and I have seen so many people that just have to gift you know their belongings as much as they can each year in anticipation of having to move to a nursing home
[speaker001:] right yeah it's frightening and I guess uh I don't know how old you are I'm forty six you know we're the generation moving into this and I don't know how our kids are gonna take care of us
[speaker002:] I can't imagine I'm twenty nine and everybody in my family's always had we don't have any children everybody that has has them later in life so my my mother and my father are in their late sixties
[speaker001:] you know yeah yeah
[speaker002:] so I mean they're not that far away
[speaker001:] right yeah I also fill in my generation a squeeze between looking to having to help my parents and still having to help my son because things are so rough out there job wise and he's still living at home and I don't know how he's ever going to get on his own the way things are
[speaker002:] oh I know
[speaker001:] and so it's kind of squeezed you feel squeezed in the middle of having both generations but it something will have to change as more and more of us get older uh luckily if we could be like your grandmother I uh you know I would love to live to a hundred and two if I were okay
[speaker002:] it but yeah most people aren't
[speaker001:] but you see these people in their seventies yeah most aren't that's the problem
[speaker002:] and that's the bad thing I would hate to have lived so long she lived by herself my grandfather passed away before I was born so she lived by herself up until she was ninety ninety one
[speaker001:] that's incredible
[speaker002:] and just did everything and it but most people aren't like