[speaker002:] okay what do you think are some current trends in uh the way families spend time together based on what you've seen
[speaker001:] um I I think that it's getting to where they're not spending time together
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] um I think uh like in my situation today on a weekend when couples are supposed to spend time together my husband's been off doing his thing all day today and I've been off doing my thing all day and I haven't seen him since eight o'clock this morning
[speaker002:] really
[speaker001:] so uh
[speaker002:] are you newly married or
[speaker001:] um two years
[speaker002:] yeah yeah same same situation here I've been married about ten months so yeah I can I can I know what you mean
[speaker001:] it's it's really hard hard to find time to spend together when you both work full time and uh you both have hobbies that are different you know if you have hobbies that are the same then you know you can enjoy your hobby together but my husband and I have different hobbies
[speaker002:] yeah is he a hunter and a fisher and all that
[speaker001:] no no he's a record collector and a Hot Wheels collector
[speaker002:] that's wild that's wild
[speaker001:] um so he was off today uh looking at at records
[speaker002:] uh-huh
[speaker001:] so uh and I was off you know doing you know house household type things you know laundry and um did some shopping and stuff
[speaker002:] yeah um um from the people I've talked to I don't know if I should bring this into it but um a lot of the dads said that they would probably choose careers that are more um where they could manage their own schedule
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] and uh they could spend more time with their kids because they look back and you know they're all like um kind of regretful I think
[speaker001:] yeah I I think I think that would be the ideal situation I think that a lot of people like in my case I I do shift work
[speaker002:] uh-huh
[speaker001:] I don't I don't have that choice
[speaker002:] yeah same here
[speaker001:] um I have to be at work at at X hour you know at this at at a certain hour and I can't it's not flexible um it it would be nice to be able to have flexible hours and and maybe after we decide to have kids I I might find a job that has flexible hours I would I hope so anyway um but I would I don't know
[speaker002:] yeah that at TI is that where you work
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] it's really kind of sad some of the people that I work with they like when I worked on second shift um their parent their kids go to school during the day and then they wouldn't see them at night because they would be in you know at work and the kids are going to be in bed
[speaker001:] uh-huh
[speaker002:] and so it was kind of like they see their kids for fifteen minutes and the same with their spouses this relative may work even a weirder shift like weekends or something you know
[speaker001:] yeah
[speaker002:] so it was really sad just you know that a lot of families um have to well you know have to have dual income a lot of people choose to which is fine
[speaker001:] yeah
[speaker002:] but you know then the kids come to suffer
[speaker001:] yeah I ideally it would it would be nice to be able to just have like back in the old days you know back like when when I grew up
[speaker002:] uh-huh huh yeah
[speaker001:] you know the the mom stayed home you know and raised the kids my mom didn't go back to work until I was in junior high school
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] um so she was there pretty much all my you know formative years
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] and that was nice and I liked that and I would hope that I would be able to give that to my kids
[speaker002:] uh
[speaker001:] but I think with the way the future is um economy wise I don't think it's going to be realistic
[speaker002:] I know unfortunately that's probably true um do you think some the the parents spend quality time with their kids are do you think it's more like watching TV and stuff like that not really uh
[speaker001:] I yeah I I think that I think very few spend quality time I think most of the time the kids are usually off watching cartoons or playing video games or stuff stuff like that I think that um
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] um uh most most kids that I see don't really they don't really value quality time
[speaker002:] yeah it's always that way until
[speaker001:] until until they're older and then they look back
[speaker002:] until it's too late yeah it's true um what's what are some other questions they have I'm not sure I know my parents are growing up I guess they never spent much time watching TV in fact I've never seen my mom turn on the TV we didn't really have one very often
[speaker001:] oh really
[speaker002:] yeah and and they spent a lot of time like outside with us and stuff but you know my dad had his own business and it was easier for them to do that but I I don't know it was I guess I didn't realize what a luxury it was at the time
[speaker001:] yeah I I think kids now a days are raised on TV I mean that's that's almost like a surrogate TV is a surrogate parent
[speaker002:] yeah yeah that's a good way to put it
[speaker001:] and not a and not a very good one at that
[speaker002:] yeah pretty good way to put it  if I had kids well if you had kids what kind of things do you hope to do
[speaker001:] um I I hope to of course be able to teach them right from wrong I hope I hope to be able to spend um their growing up years being in the home you know not having to work um and being able to do I I I know a lot of people who who um
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] um I work part-time also and I a lot of people that I work for are mothers that stay home
[speaker002:] uh-huh
[speaker001:] um and they they do a lot of volunteer work and they're real active in the community and um they do a lot of things with their kids that they wouldn't ordinarily be able to do if they were working
[speaker002:] uh-huh
[speaker001:] and I'd I'd like to be able to do that I'd like to be able to stay home and be able to spend time with my kids
[speaker002:] do volunteer work and be in clubs and stuff yeah I agree I hope that happens in my case
[speaker001:] yeah yeah but I think that's for the the few and far between I think that uh probably ninety percent of the of the um parents out there are are probably working parents
[speaker002:] yeah yeah huh
[speaker001:] and I I don't I don't really see that that trend changing much if anything I think there's going to be fewer and fewer uh single income families
[speaker002:] I know yeah and what's sad about that is day cares end up instilling values in your kids
[speaker001:] yeah
[speaker002:] that may not necessarily be consistent with yours
[speaker001:] exactly see I I never I don't even know what day care is really all about because I I never went to a day care center I never I never had that kind of experience
[speaker002:] yeah huh I well I don't even think we had I don't even remember them being around when we were little
[speaker001:] yeah I I see it seems like that's that's a big trend you know in the last ten years day cares have have have popped up and become a lot more um a lot bigger part of of the kids lives
[speaker002:] yeah
[speaker001:] it's like a home away from home for a lot of them
[speaker002:] sure is um well  I guess we could ring this off since we we've exhausted all of our ideas we seem to agree
[speaker001:] yeah I I think yeah I think this is a good closing point
[speaker002:] yeah so
[speaker001:] well it was really nice talking to you
[speaker002:] yeah you too I wish you the best
[speaker001:] thanks you too um bye bye-bye
[speaker002:] okay thanks bye-bye