The Kid (musical)
# The Kid (musical)

The Kid is a musical with a book by Michael Zam, music composed by Andy Monroe and lyrics by Jack Lechner. The comic story concerns an open adoption process by a same-sex couple. It is based on the 1999 non-fiction book by Dan Savage, The Kid: What Happened After My Boyfriend and I Decided to Go Get Pregnant. The protagonist, Dan, is a sex advice columnist who decides to adopt a child with his partner Terry. Throughout the musical the couple encounter difficulties including making the decision to adopt, finding a birth mother, and overcoming apprehension about the adoption process.

The musical premiered on May 10, 2010 Off-Broadway, starring Christopher Sieber as Dan. It received a generally favorable reception and received five Drama Desk Award nominations in 2011, including Outstanding Musical, Outstanding Lyrics and Outstanding Book of a Musical;

## Plot

### Act I

Dan is a gay sex advice columnist ("I'm Asking You"), and his partner is Terry. The two initially become involved in a relationship with each other after bonding over a discussion of Gore Vidal ("Gore Vidal"). In a later scene, Dan attempts to convince Terry to leave a bathroom in a hotel where he locked himself inside after the two have an argument ("Terry..."). The couple meet with other individuals who are looking to become parents and adopt children ("They Hate Us"). Dan composes a satirical letter to potential birth mothers listing entries which should obviously not be included ("If You Give Us Your Baby"). Dan and Terry meet with an adoption counselor named Anne to go over their worries about becoming parents. The adoption counselor tells them, "Man or woman, gay or straight, what you're facing is a long, long wait." The couple decide upon an open adoption process, where they will be able to meet the baby's birth mother. Melissa, a teenager who is pregnant and homeless, selects them as the couple to care for her child ("Her Name Is Melissa"). She describes her life to Dan and Terry ("Spare Changin'").

### Act II

Dan's mother informs him she knew he was gay as a child but did not meddle in his process of becoming a gay adult ("I Knew"). She reassures him during a period of nervousness, telling Dan, "If you think this is scary, wait. Do you know how terrified I was when you first had measles?" Bacchus, the biological father of Melissa's child, appears and becomes involved in the decision regarding the outcome for the baby ("Behind the Wheel"). Dan and Terry worry over whether Melissa will change her mind during the adoption process ("42 Hours"). After the child is born, the couple share the experience of holding their new baby together ("Beautiful"), and all ends happily ("My Kid").

## Background

Production on the musical began in 2005. Zam and Monroe had both previously read Savage's book. Monroe approached Zam and told him he thought the material would make a good musical. Zam and Monroe contacted Lechner, as they wished to have him involved in the musical's production process. In an interview with The New York Times, Zam later commented, "We also wanted to create a musical that was true to the experiences of Dan Savage and his partner, Terry, capture the essence of who they were, without just imposing our own plot and music on their lives. But it was also thrilling to create a show around a person who is not your standard role-model character, who is insightful about his foibles and admits to them and who has all these powerful emotions that we knew – somehow – could be turned into powerful songs."

After Zam, Monroe and Lechner determined an initial plan for developing the musical, Lechner contacted his friend Kate Clinton, who was also a friend of Savage and could make an introduction. The three-member production team met with Savage and convinced him of the merits of developing his book into a musical. Monroe told The Advocate, "Dan has a really good way of framing [adoption by gays] with his own brand of humor. It becomes less of a political piece and more of a human story." Savage gave feedback to the production team, during the adaptation process, providing them with "thousands of words of notes". The work takes the form of a "presentational musical", wherein the character of Dan speaks directly to the audience about his experiences.

## Production

The original production was organized by The New Group and directed by Scott Elliott. Dan was portrayed by Christopher Sieber. Elliott served as the artistic director for The New Group. Elliott observed to The New York Times, "One of the great parts of the book was that it was political without being political, that it tells a story of two guys creating a family without having to shove the politics of that experience in America down audience members' throats. But we were also conscious of the delicacy of turning a popular book, particularly one man's deeply felt memoir, into a piece of theater." Rosie O'Donnell promoted the musical through a discussion titled "The Modern Family: A Discussion of Gay Adoption" that was held by The New Group on April 18, 2010. O'Donnell commented, "I was blown away: here was the first show that really showed what it's like for a gay person who wants to be a parent – but also what it's like for anyone going through this crazy but thrilling process."

The musical premiered on May 10, 2010, Off-Broadway in Theatre Row, New York City at the Acorn Theatre. The production ran through May 29, 2010. Dan, Terry and their 12-year-old son DJ attended the premiere. Terry described the experience of watching himself portrayed onstage as "surreal".

## Principal roles and notable performers

| Character | Description | Notable stage performers |
| - | - | - |
| Dan | A journalist and author, who maintains a sex advice column | Christopher Sieber° |
| Terry | Dan's partner and husband | Lucas Steele° |
| Judy | Dan's mother | Jill Eikenberry° |
| Ruth | | Ann Harada° |
| Anne | An adoption counselor who advises Dan and Terry | Susan Blackwell° |
| Susan | | Brooke Sunny Moriber° |
| Melissa | Biological mother of adopted child | Jeannine Frumess° |
| Bacchus | Biological father of adopted child | Michael Wartella° |
| Chad | | Tyler Maynard° |
| Reg | | Kevin Anthony° |
| Josh | | Justin Patterson° |

° denotes original Off-Broadway cast

## Reception

The Kid received a generally favorable reception and was recognized with the 2009 BMI Foundation Jerry Bock Award for Excellence in Musical Theatre, in the category of Best New Musical. Composer Jerry Bock, a Pulitzer Prize and Tony Award recipient, chose the BMI Lehman Engel Musical Theater Workshop-developed musical to receive the award.

The Kid received nominations in 2011 for five Drama Desk Awards including Outstanding Musical, Outstanding Lyrics, and Outstanding Book of a Musical; in addition to nominations for a Lucille Lortel Award and a GLAAD Media Award. It won the 2011 Outer Critics Circle Award in the category of Outstanding New Off-Broadway Musical.

Ben Brantley reviewed the musical for The New York Times, writing that it informs viewers that same-sex couples are similar to everyone else: "This message is transmitted with a consistency and a thoroughness that are rare in contemporary musicals." A review in TheaterMania praised the musical composition, stating that the musical "does a good job capturing the tone of Savage's book, which is filled with irreverent humor, frank talk about sex, and the understandable fears and anxieties that go hand in hand with the anticipation of becoming a parent." Roma Torre reviewed the musical for NY1, observing, "The Kid is aimed at anyone who's ever had a family, lost a family or craved one — which actually means just about all of us. The fact that it's about two gay men attempting to adopt a baby from a homeless teenager doesn't make it any less universal. In fact, it's the details based on true events that give this sweetly clever, somewhat sentimental love story its disarming appeal."

The Star-Ledger noted, "A lot of the jokes are based on the would-be adoptive couple being two men. But the sharp humor is balanced with a sweetness and humanity that makes their emotional experience relatable for everyone." Writing for New York Press, reviewer Mark Peikert was less enthusiastic: "Buttery, salty and ultimately unmemorable, the song-strewn adaptation of sex columnist Dan Savage's book about adopting a child with his boyfriend is a funny, smart and enjoyable musical – as long as it's being performed right in front of you. But once you leave the theater, you'll be hard pressed to remember just what about it you enjoyed."

## Awards

| Year | Award | Organization | Category | Result |
| - | - | - | - | - |
| 2009 | Jerry Bock Award for Excellence in Musical Theatre | BMI Foundation | Best New Musical | Won |
| 2011 | Drama Desk Award | Drama Desk | Outstanding Musical | Nominated |
| 2011 | Drama Desk Award | Drama Desk | Outstanding Actor in a Musical (Christopher Sieber) | Nominated |
| 2011 | Drama Desk Award | Drama Desk | Outstanding Featured Actress in a Musical (Jill Eikenberry) | Nominated |
| 2011 | Drama Desk Award | Drama Desk | Outstanding Lyrics (Jack Lechner) | Nominated |
| 2011 | Drama Desk Award | Drama Desk | Outstanding Book of a Musical (Michael Zam) | Nominated |
| 2011 | Lucille Lortel Awards | The League of Off-Broadway Theatres and Producers | Outstanding Musical | Nominated |
| 2011 | GLAAD Media Awards | Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation | Outstanding New York Theater: Broadway and Off-Broadway | Nominated |
| 2011 | Outer Critics Circle Award | Outer Critics Circle | Outstanding New Off-Broadway Musical | Won |
