Question: What should i tell my girlfriend? I have a really good girlfriend that got married in April (but has been with her husband for almost 9 years) She is also 7 months prgenant. They own a hose together and have for te last 5 yrs.... her parents have put a lot of work into their house with upgrades and she thinks that her husband has a drug problem. Now she says that they fight all the time and neither of them are happy. They hardly talk to each other and she wants out but won't leave because she doesn't want him to get anything form the profit of the house. She calls me crying all the time, I don't know what to say to her... any suggetions or has anyone been thorogh something like this?

Answer: Since she is pregnant, she should consider counseling for she and her husband to discuss their relationship. If he is unwilling, or continues to use drugs, this is an unhealthy environment for their child. She could lose the house if he is caught with drugs in the house. She could even lose her child.\n\nAssure her that if she decides to get a divorce, she will not lose everything. I'm not sure what state she is in, but most laws say it must be split 50/50. The laws only count the actual length of the marriage. If she really wants to keep the house, it wouldn't be difficult to have a judge award her the house for she and the child, but she would need to "buy him out" by giving him half the value of the house, or other assets to equal it. It sounds like she has a supportive family, hopefully they can help her through this.\n\nI have a sister of a friend who's been through something similar. She divorced her husband because he used drugs, and pushed her while she was holding their baby. She had him sign off all parental rights to the child, so the child could not be used as leverage for money, etc., and also to ensure that he was in a safe environment. Her parents are the legal guardians if anything happens to her.\n\nIf your friend doesn't want him to get profits from the house out of spite, or because he didn't contribute to the upgrades, she will most likely have to accept it so she can move on with her life and find happiness for she and her baby.\n\nA good lawyer may be able to get her more, but she may have more trouble from her husband for custody, visitation, etc. If he is using drugs, he is unfit. If she believes he is, she should prove him unfit to protect her child.\n\nSorry such bad news, but I hope this helps. Best of luck to all of you.
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