Question: How can I stop fighting with my mother without giving in all the way? Recently we've been fighting like everyday or the stupidest things. For instance we are redoing my room (which is rather small) and I have all of this furniture in it which she picked out from when I was a baby. There’s not enough room for all the furniture so the only thing that can really just go into another room is this large antique (and ugly) vanity. The logical thing would be to get rid of it in order to get a much smaller desk but my mother will NOT let me put it in another room- even my father agrees with me. We got into the huge fight over it and of-course she won. \n\nI'm trying to get over it but I just can't. It's so annoying how she wins every single argument we have with threatening to take something away. That was just an example. We fight about what she says (she doesn’t remember saying things and then contradicts herself- mental disorder perhaps? :/ ) and other things along those lines.\n\nI guess I just have to continue doing homework on the floor...\n\nAny advice?

Answer: First off, in an disagreement, keep hold of your temper.  Try to reason with her without raising your voice.   Try to negotiate a compromise.  Before she can threaten you with taking something away, try saying something like, "I would really like to move this vanity somewhere else so that I can make room for a desk.  I know you don't want to, so why don't we make a trade? I'll do something you want in exchange for this favor."  This will demonstrate that you are mature and are considering her feelings and wants too.  It used to work with my mother.
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