Question: WHAT NXT?Will this work out?Serious answers only please...Serious advice pls...? I(I’m a male) told my close female friend how I felt about her and she said we should remain friends.She said it wouldn't feel right going further. \n\nShe said she don't deserve my feelings---meaning??\nSaid she can’t imagine me not being in&#92;part of her life---this mean anything???\n\nWe left on good terms,agreeing to remain friends always.After this happened I went quiet on her for over a week to clear my head!She txt me once asking why I went quiet and also txt my mate asking him. I got bck in touch on Monday and her reply mentioned nothing bout what I said(how I felt about her).\n\nI txt her saying how impt the friendship is to me and apologised if I made her feel uncomfortable and hope that we’re cool.Why hasn’t she txt bck for over a day now??(we’re usually in touch everyday!)I say anything wrong?\n\nWould she be feeling odd??Behave differently towards me??\n\nAnyone been in this situation themselves?If so,what happened?\n\nWhy has she suddenly gone quiet on me??

Answer: I (Being female) have been in this situation, but I played the part of your friend.  It was like the whole world came to an end.  I could not think straight for the best part of two months over it, and even to this day it wofts over me.  \nMy friend and I were so close and he had been the closest to me than anyone I had known.  I shared all the prescious secrets that you normally would not tell a soul, least of all a boyfriend (Dating).  I saw him as a brother it never entered in my mind that he would ever look at me any other way than his little sister.\nWhen he declared he was in love with me, it was worse than finding out your partner had cheated/lied.  Suddenly are relationship so far was a lie, I had been betrayed and left open by the closest thing to me..also it is like the thought of kissing your grandfather (Not normal). \nAlot of men can not help but mix up their feelings, show a man abit of kindness and they want to go out with you.  It is a bit like the men not understanding that not all women go out clubbing to find men, but to dance and have fun..unfortunately due to most men going out for that reason they assume it is the same for women.  But my friend was not any man, he was a best friend.  You end up grieving for the friend you have lost.  Unfortunately, things now can never be the same, never will I beable to trust him and open up to him like before.  \nYou worry that you might give out the wrong signals but don't want to loose the friendship side.  It is very uncomfortable situation and you do not know what to say and feel.  But the last thing you want is for them to hurt.  So you distance yourself alittle and give them space but try to reassure him..hard combination..hard situation.\nI believe just like you she does not know what to say or how to feel..but she will never beable to see you any other way then a friend.\nWhy did you ignore her?  (She even made efforts to get hold of you through another party, so she does care, just not in the way you would like her too)  \nAre you so sure your feelings are confused?\nShe probably thinks that because she does not return your feelings, like most guys, you have backed off.  If I were you I would send her a text message saying simply "Sorry.  I miss you and you are my special friend!" or something similar.  You two need to talk, do not leave it and stay away as did my friend, that is if you can live with her not feeling the same way as you (Those feelings must be disregarded, you must choose between the two). \nGood luck!
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