Question: Parents Vs Girl Friend? I love a girl of different religion\nMy parents oppose our marriage due to \n1.Fear of social boycott of our family (including my parents) by society & relatives.\n2.Mental block ness about the other religion girl in the family\nI tried to convince them a lot with by all means but failed.\nMental stress & fear about if I married that girl with out the consent of my parents took toll on my mom’s health.\nCome to learn that together my G F & I do not have any future, as I can’t leave my parents because there is no one to look after them at this stage of life.\nAfter considering the things we decided to discontinue our relationship.\nHowever we are in very much love at this time also.\nWe are still going through the pain of parting….\nEven now also she is very supporting & loving\nHowever some times she feels that I have done injustice to her.\n& She does not know whether she will end loving or hating me for rest of her life\n\nKindly Advice

Answer: It's really your decision, but consider the following:\n\n1. Do not let your parents manipulate you by telling you that by being yourself and being happy, you are making them ill. Be considerate, of course, but they have to deal with their own feelings and mature in life still at their age.\n\n2. Introspect, and make sure that you are not doing this just to be a little rebel. Perhaps your parents have such a tight leash on you that you feel that you have to do something drastic in order to assert your independence as an adult. If this is a large part of your case, you would marry for the wrong reason, and very well have problems down the road.\n\n3. Are you sure that the fact that you are told not to marry her does not make you more interested in her than you would otherwise be? Introspect.\n\n4. If you not marry her, how do you honestly think that you would feel about that decision many years from now? Do you think that you would deeply regret it, or do you think that you would have warm feelings for her but be nonetheless more or less happy with another sweet girl? Be honest with yourself; you are best able to make a good and honest decision.
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