Question: How can I get a guy to notice me for anything but my physical appearance? I went through this extreme change a couple weeks ago and I got so many compliments because I am not a tomboy anymore. I was so glad and I thought that it wouldn't take that long to get a guy to notice me because most of the guys around my age are single. Was I ever wrong. The only two guys that gave me a really nice compliment were my best friend and my friend's boyfriend. Now, about a month before my change, I met this guy and I really like him but I saw him on Saturday and again last night and he told my friend that I'm not his type. He doesn't even know anything about me! He is my best friend's boyfriend so I get to see him a lot but I want him to notice me. Someone help me! Don't say strip or sleep with him or anything like that though because he broke up with another one of my friends because she was to 'willing'. You just can't please guys anymore.

Answer: I will be honest with you . . . and not blow smoke up your a**.\n\nUnfortunately . . . guys are initially attracted to a girls physical appearance . . . and not what is inside.  I've dated tomboys before . . . but never stayed long with them . . . because I wasn't physically attracted to them.  They were great conversationalists . . . but for getting Big Jim up . . . it was difficult . . . unless they were nude.\n\nOdds are . . . he has always known you to be that tomboy . . . who hung out with the guys.  And is a great buddy . . . but as a girl friend . . . I don't think so.  To them it may be like dating one of your male friends.\n\nDid your bestfriend's boyfriend's bestfriend . . . seen your new look . . . probably . . . but he still sees you as a buddy . . . not a gf.  What to do . . . honestly I don't know . . . because I don't think going to extremes will help.\n\nMy advice . . . find someone else . . . who is like you . . . but doesn't know about your tomboy past.
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