Question: Does his carelessness to my cutting means he doesn't care about me? I have been cutting myself for two years now, but unlike my friends or family, who doesn't approve my cutting and tell e not to do it. My boyfriend doesn't seem to care about it at all. I'm not looking for attenion, I do it to cope with my feelings. But I noticed that he's not like the other boyfriends who doesn't like that their girlfriends cut themselves. I asked him once if he likes it or not that I cut. He told me he doesn't know...One day I was having a bad day and told him that I wanted to kill myself. It didn't seem to be a big deal to him. Am I just acting stupid or does my boyfriend not care about me?

Answer: Sometimes people avoid things that they don't know how to deal with. My guess is that your boyfriend is personally shocked by the idea of cutting oneself, that he doesn't really understand it, so he isn't quite sure how he feels about it. Therefore he avoids it. \n\nSome people are so worried about saying the wrong thing that they don't say anything at all. If otherwise your boyfriend is a wonderful person and a supportive boyfriend, I doubt it has anything to do with you. But if he is always disinterested and genuinely shows no concern for you in any aspect, dump that loser and get yourself someone better.\n\nObviously your boyfriend cannot be relied upon as a source of support in terms of SI/suicide. Therefore, you'll have to find someone else. Consider why you told him. Were you looking for support to recover? Psychologists and such can be great resources. Or if you simply want someone to talk to (you personally have to want to stop if you're going to), other friends/close associates can make great listeners. Or call a hotline: 1-800-DONT-CUT. \n\nGood Luck!
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