Question: I feel as if I have no one....? I moved in September to a new school. I REALLY REALLY didn't want to move, but my parents made me. I had lots of friends, I was popular, and my grades were fantastic. Here I'm a complete outcast. I have little friends. And the friends I do have I don't trust. And here I feel I'm not as close to my family as I was, especially my sister who got a boyfriend and spends close to no time with me. We used to share everything together. Last summer we couldn't name a single time we hadn't been together. Worst of all, my best friend from my old school isn't calling me back anymore. I know it’s been a year, but we have been best friends since preschool. I want to feel accepted and satisfied with my life again. Where do I start?

Answer: Okay so you had to move in September, yeah that is very tough to leave all the things you know and how you would rather stay and always keep things the way they are. In your parents defense they do know best and made the best decision based on whatever their reasons are. So you had to move and now things are not as great as they once were. WHY WHY you ask. Answer: You are not making them as great as you want them to be (when you found out about the move you most likely had poor negative feelings about it and therefore things are really how you feel). You make your life, your happiness, you are completely in charge of that not anyone can make you anything. So really it is up to you. Try signing up for some activities at school that you like (that is always a good way of meeting (note I did not say finding) people who have things in common with you. Keep your grades up, do extra studying, maybe see about getting in with a study group after school. Find a hobby maybe running, working out, puzzles (I reccommend soduku), sewing (cross stich is easy and fun and can be a really cool gift to give) whatever interests you. What I am trying to tell you here is invest in yourself and being friends with you and liking you and making the best of a situation that maybe really is not that great now but if you do that than you will find you don't need friends but you like to have friends. Be patient and learn to make yourself happy and you will not need to have or think you need to have people around who make you happy. Whatever attitude you have towards yourself you will have towards other people and that will be the kind of people you attract. So love you and respect you and those kind of people will be attracted to you and want to be your friends. As for your sister, well if I had a nickle for every friend or sister or whatever that abandoned me when they found a boyfriend, I would be rich. When that relationship ends she will be back (hopefully your busy by then) and she will say I am sorry blah blah, but it will happen again and again. Don't put all your eggs in one basket and make everything about one person and ignore everything else because if that basket happens to fall all your eggs get broke so spread them around a bit. Mostly learn to hang out with your self and be happy for the times when you do get to be alone. Usually when your not looking is when you find things you have been looking for. That goes the same with friends. As for your old best friend if you have not spoke to her in over a year than maybe she has hurt feeling about that or if she just stopped talking to you than maybe write her a letter and appologize or ask why she does not talk to you anymore. Remember you will trully only have 2 best friends in your life and miles, time and distance does not ever change that friendship neither do boyfriends or girlfriends or problems. I hope this helps....Good luck with it all and I will keep you in my prayers.
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