Question: This is something I need help with ladies? I apologize, but this is sort of a long story, so please bear with me.\n\nI have known this lady for some time now, we recently about a couple months ago reallly started to hang out and talk more. Over the two month span I believe we gained interest in one another, but never have openly admitted it. Then two weeks ago, she approached me and told me that she liked me and that for right now we should stay friends and see how things progress. I was accused of being reserved, and rightfully so. I asked her out to the movies last week, and she said yes, so that was good. She then the other night, she called me because she was upset with something, so I listened and did my best to be genuine about it. In that same conversation, I told her that fear has made me reserved (due to a bad relationship in the past) and that I felt that the fear of us being more had subsided. I then told her I am ready when she is, so now she is thinking on it. There's more....

Answer: Don't let the past dictate your future.  If you can't tell someone how you feel then the relationship(whether friends or more than that) is not healthy.  If there are insecurities because of the past then you aren't being fair to this person, basing your feelings and insecurities on someone who came before gives no room to someone new.
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