Question: Thrown Under the Bus? I have been at this company for less than a year and become friends with Co-Worker A.  I have heard some horrible things about this person, that were not true and were twisted around by someone else that Co-Worker A considers a friend.  So, I got on the topic of gossip in the workplace and metnioned to Co-Worker A that she should be careful of the people she shares personal information with.  I didn't mention how I came across this information, nothing specific.  She immediately goes around and tells people that I told her to be careful, of nobody in particular and asking if they knew or heard anything.  I feel that I was wrong for trying to be a friend and warn her in general, because it isn't a good idea to discuss your personal business at work.  Am I wrong for being upset with her for basically throwing me under the bus?  Either way, I'll keep my mouth shut the next time!!!  Thanks.

Answer: sorry to say Cutegal, some people you can talk to and others you can't.\n\nfor some reason this person feels she need confirmation from others; than herself, there is a lack of something, she is not content with herself; if she is going to trade her personal information for friendship that is a red flag, not only that if she trade her own info, she will trade yours!!! so stay away.\n\nIf she can't take your advice and realize that she have more enemies than friends and that you are actually taking a chance for her, by doing a good deed at work by warning her than she has a problem. she is setting her self up for maddness. I learned you can't talk to certain people about certain things. You have to be aware of the person minds state and be able to perdict, how they would handle it or take it. this person did not find herself yet; she is not comfortable in her skin (not good) obvisiously she didn't learn he lesson, yet. she will get a wake up call , I just hope it doesn't cost anything.\n\nbut this was a lesson for you also, look at it in a positive way, you have just collected another piece of knowlage to add to the wisdom of life.
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