Question: this is a modified question to what i asked earlier.? my girlfriend dumped me last night. we was in a long distance relationship for 8 years. keep in mind that i barely \ntalk to her and she hasnt called me in weeks. her reason for dumping me was that i made her feel unappreciated and\ni strung her along and i decieved her and she has all this anger towards me and all she thinks about is how much i\nhave constantly hurt her. she also said that i cant make her happy anymore and told me to find someone else. but the\nstrange thing is, i am like the nicest guy you could ever meet. i never cheated on her, i was always repectful to her\nnever put my hands on her, was always there for her when she needed help. as recently as 2 months ago she needed\nsome help , so i sent her some money to help her out. i always told her that i loved her and missed her and was workin\nhard to try and save up so we could be together. but she claims that i hurt her soo much???..it dont make sense.\n\nwhen we first met she begged me not to leave her and i didn't.

Answer: The same thing happened to me, however, the answer is pretty much one thing.  Your presence was required.  She needed and wanted you there to be there for her on a daily basis.  I know the whole ordeal and situation with money, but just as money can't buy you love, you can't survive without money.  Unfortunately, the presence of a person on a daily basis is really and very important, and I think she's hurt because neither one of you two has managed to be together for about 8 years and that's a long time.  It's not your fault and it's not her fault, but why so long is a good question to ask.  \n\nThis is what distance and time apart does to people.  Sometimes people have too much time to think and their imagination runs wild.  She is angry, but more at the separation and distance than at you.  Everything has a time and place and in her own way she is saying and telling you that you can't deal with the pain of being apart so long and any longer.  Once again, it's not your fault, it's just the way things are when two people are apart for such a long time.  The bottom line is and was that your presence was required and you couldn't be there for economic reasons.  Trust me, love doesn't care about money.  \n\nYou didn't hurt her, but she was definitely hurt by your absence.  It is just another way of saying that she really, really missed you.  Unfortunately, people can only wait so long to have somebody at their side regardless of how responsible and caring you might have been at a distance.  I know it's hard and it doesn't make sense, but keep in mind that she is blaming you for not being there for her when she physically needed your presence.  Remember, it's not your fault, but those are some of the consequences of time apart and distance.
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