Question: Dating older men with children part 2? we live together.they visit monthly for a weekend.we always do things together with them,go for lunch,dinner,movies,shopping,\ni bake cakes for them.i'm doing what comes naturally when i like or care for someone.i'm very busy as well doing my law degree and for me to take time off of my studies and put my assignments on hold to spend time with them is not buying affection.i dont need to.i wont always have time to do things with them when they are around so i dont want to be persecuted for it if i dont join them for dinner or go out with them when i've got piles of assignments and reading to do not to mention my own problems i have to deal with which my partner is aware of and should be supportive of me and not for him and his kids to put more pressure on me.they seem to make biased judgements about me.there's always two sides to every story but they dont care to hear mine.no one is perfect.a saying goes,if you disrespect or offend a man,you do the same to his woman,and vice versa.

Answer: okay, you obviously have not had any children of your own yet.  What exactly is the age difference between you and his children?  15 is pretty old.  a 15 year old is no longer a child and they have already formed opinions of their own and could very possibly support themselves if ever needed.  So a 15 year old is a young adult.  My brother is 15.  Its a very delicate stage where they want their parents undivided attention, and they are old enough to know how to get it....His daughter IS "HIS daughter" and has been in his life from day one for 15 years.  He undoughtably loves her, and fathers allow their daughters to manipulate them, even more than their sons for the most part.  This girl may feel as though you are her equal (if you are close in age with her) inturn she will not respect you...@ 15 sometimes you don't even respect your parents let alone the chick your dad's dating.....He is going to take her (and the other children's) side over yours every time, probably forever, if he stays with you....i know this sounds harsh, and it is not meant to offend but I'm just telling you how it is.  And I'm 100% sure it has nothing to do with your race @ all.
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