Question: question about loss of a loved one? my uncle past on last april and my aunt has been very distraught for the last 6 months. to say the least, i am very concerned about her, she hasn't been taking care of herself like she used to, and she says she crys alot.  i know this is all normal for her to be feeling this way, and she told the family (not in so many words)that we need to do more for her.  what else could i do besides visiting her and taking her out?\nshe's making us all feel guilty and this is very upsetting to me because she is a second mom to me.\ni would appreciate any advice

Answer: Hey, I have something that might help.... I was actually thinking of telling you that you could write her a few letters...but then I thought of something I got from my aunt one time when I was in shock over something. As we know, shock is hard to heal. But this letter made me feel much better. You should copy and paste it into Word and print it out for her. Put it into an unsealed envelope with her name on front of the envelope (or whatever you call her) and hand it to her. Trust me, it will work.\n\n\n(insert her name),\n\nPeople come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.\n\nWhen someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.\n\nThey have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.\n\nThen, without any wrong doing on your part or an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.\n\nSometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand.\n\nWhat we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.\n\nWhen people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.\n\nBelieve it! It is real! But...only for a season.\nLIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.\n\nIt is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.\n\n\n[then on the back side of the same paper,  with your own handwriting do this]\n\n(insert her name),\n\nPlease think about this. I know things will brighten up for you. You are [underline "are"] a wonderful person & we all love you so much & want you to be happy!\n\n       Love,\n       (insert your name)
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