Question: he says mental illness is stopping marriage? I have been with this man for 15 years.We have two children.I have been wanting to get married since we had our 1st child 10 years ago.He has Obcessive Compulsive Disorder.His case is very bad.He will not marry me because he fears change.We have been seeing a counciler for about two years to deal with just living with him.We own the house together and has'nt had a job in 5 years.Nothing seems to work to make his OCD better.I'm very bitter supporting him all these years living with all his rules due to the OCD.And he still won't marry me.I'm very bitter and angry and I can't get past it.I really try.I know deep down I love him,I saw a paper about him from his counciler that he sent to himhe's trying to get disability.It said he fears marrying me cause he thinks something else better might come along.He does'nt know I saw this he has'nt even read it himself yet.Most people who don't know us well think were married.I want to go to church but I feel like a hibacrit .Will God understand???

Answer: Here is the BIGGEST problem with this situation:  You wrote::\n\n"I'm very bitter supporting him all these years living with all his rules due to the OCD.And he still won't marry me."\n\nTHAT MY CHILD IS BEING A HYPOCRIT.  You are angry and resentful and WANT TO GET MARRIED?  What is wrong with you and millions of others???  Is marrying him going to magically fix this?  Hell no!  I would say go to counseling alone and let your therapist talk some sense into you.  You are failing to see that you can't trap people into making you feel better about something.  Make a choice about what you want "FOR THE RIGHT REASONS" not because of your insecurities.   This is absurd and it's what's hugely wrong with the world.  People get married to FIX things and MARRIAGE DOES NOT FIX ANYTHING.  IT PERPETUATES AN ALREADY EXISTING PROBLEM.
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