Question: I've never had a boyfriend. . .now i like this guy but my friend isnt being supportive. what do i do? I think that one of her friends might like him as well. . .(not sure if she does though. . .but she might be defending for her other friend. I wish she was happy for me because this is the first guy that i could see myself with.Shoudl i go after him or back off?

Answer: Well if it were me (not that I'd be looking for a bf) I'd ask myself "Am I looking to start a relationship with this guy OR am I looking for a 3 way relationship with my friend and guy".\n\nI'm assuming you want a 1 on 1 relationship with him. Forget about what your friend wants do whats best for YOU. \n\nYou probably don't want to hear this but honesty is the best policy. I don't think your friend is much of a friend if you have to worry about her plotting against you. Think about what you're saying hon,\n\n "I think that one of her friends might like him as well. . .(not sure if she does though. . .but she might be defending for her other friend" \n\nYou're telling me that your friend is willing to sacrifice your happiness for someone else's, Is that really a friend? If you're saying "wait a sec Rascal I didn't say she IS doing that, I said she MIGHT be" I'll tell you that if a person is a REAL friend you'll never have to 2nd guess them like you are with this person. Luna you know why you said "I wish she was happy for me because this is the first guy that i could see myself with"? Because a friend is SUPOSED to be happy for you when you find something that makes you happy. You know that in your heart.\n\nAfter all that I'm not going to tell you whether your should or shouldn't go after him. I'll tell you to forget everyone else and just decide based on what your heart AND head tell you about this guy. Don't let anyone else decide for you. \n\nThe biggest problem you have is not the guy, it's the people you keep as friends. Spend some time reflecting on what the word friend really means.\n\nGood luck and I wish you happiness no matter which course you take.\n\nRascal
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