Question: My dad and i do not get along what do i to have to do to have a good father and daughter relationship? I really hate my dad because he teases me about watching too much T.V, i can't help it if i like T.V i just love watching my favourite T.V shows and movies, the main reason why he teases me is because all the things i watch he thinks is rubbish, even my mum thinks so but she doesn't give nasty comments i don't want to hear like my dad does, all i want my dad to do is to leave me and my T.V alone and no comments as well he always likes to ebbarras me in front of my friends when having sleep overs, he walks in and says "So what's this rubbish your wathing?" and every time i say something to defend myself dad thinks i'm giving him cheek! i mean what am i suppose to do? just sit there and let him throw nasty comments in my face!! no i wont i will get up and say to my dad "Dad shut up I said it once and i will say it again stop it with the comments!" I'll bet i will get in trouble after that! but i will feel good after doing it my dad needs a really good spanking does everyone agree with me

Answer: One of my professors in college stated to me:"if you want to see a change in others...you might start with yourself"\n\nDon't REACT to situations(unless you have to run for your life, etc), but think first. \n\nMaybe ask him why he does not respect what you are watching(but DON'T raise your voice), ask him softly(like a woman). Tell him you want a better relationship with the only father you have, and ask him also what does he think that could be done to bring you closer. Maybe include your mother in on this. Sometimes it is the child who becomes the teacher. Start somewhere with small bites...try to make a joke when adversity strikes, or even smile. It disarms the other person, and calms the situation.
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