Question: What do I need to do to help my realtionship- marriage? I have been with my husband for over 4 yrs and it is going down hill. I hate because there are times I think of my ex's. It really sucks. I think I am somewhat still in love but like a little. And I know I do not want to split for my kids and because I do not think we have worked to much on it. Well, I am pretty unhappy in all the aspects of the realtionship-- he is becoming too macho and is always telling me things like you are gaining weight and who in the hell would want someone like you. You know I like romantic guys and he has killed all the desire to be with him. I know I have to because I do not hold my tongue too much-- I say what I have to say. I know I am wrong but he makes me sick-- it is like i can't even stand his presence. And I have tried to work on it. But the more I work on it he starts with stupid comments and attitudes. He tells me I am the best thing you ever had in your life. And I feel like just screaming and letting him have it but he always starts crying.

Answer: hmm this question is actually helping me more than my answer would help you. But I think that taking a break and separating for a bit without getting divorced is a good idea. Then I, just like you, would try really hard to keep working on it, and after getting some more strength - come back and battle some more. But if that still doesnt get through to him - leave him, see if he understands the seriousness of the situation that way
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