Question: How I feel my daughters pain? My 15yr grl got in a fight with her BF.Her BF & another grl had a plot to ditch her next year. She was devastated last wkend.The following Mon.they got in a cat fight in PE over PE clothes.The XBF refused to let her dress out & dared her to punch her to get the clothes.My grl did so. The XBF grabbed her face and my grl did it again. Nxt thing the cops are at my door & my girl is cited.The school saw it as mutual combat,(we'll see what happens in court)The thing is my girl has been so hurt by this whole thing.I emailed the mom(no response)My girl emailed her BF(no response)the girls have been teasing my daughter on myspace& my daughter just wants the drama to end.She has even asked me several times,if the mom called me.It hurts me to see her so upset about this.She now has a trust issue."Mom, if you can't trust your BF who can you trust?"-Mom, imagine if your BF's planned to ditch you one day? She feels bad about the fight. She knows its wrong.The other party laughed,yet had her cited!

Answer: I feel your pain also!  Our children just dont understand that when they hurt that we hurt!! I am sooooo sorry that it was her best friend because i know that it can be very hard on a 15 year old when they lose anyone close to them. Im sure that your daughter also confided in this friend and told her alot of things about her life that she wishes that she hadn't now. Tell her to just try to take things one day at a time, but take each day with alot of pride also, If the other girl sees that losing her friendship is bothering her than that will only make matters worse....so tell your daughter to just try to ignore everything they are saying(although I know it is hard!!), but if they see that it is not bothering her at all and that she has no problems making NEW friends then the girl will probably come back begging for her friendship!! And IF she does than your daughter needs to tell her NO because with Friends like that she sure does not need any enemies!!!!  I  dont know if this helps any but just thought i would write something because My 15 year old lost her father last year(in a motorcycle accident) and he was her BEST FRIEND and it was very very devastating. But in her case that is a person that she cant ever get back as a friend or father again. Just please make sure you are There for her Every Day until she gets through it though because sometimes things bother them alot more than they let on!!!  You sound like a wonderful mother with a very deep concern for your daughter!!!! Keep up the good work and just always be there for her.                                Hope it helps a little.
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