Question: i am confused.. plz gimme some of ur thoughts? Story a bit long though...? Me n my guy r havin some really tough times.. Our wedding is less than 4 weeks n we haven't done any preparation yet.. The marriage is sudden cos my we r havin some problems with both of our parents.. We bought a hse so tat we can stay together and we need to produce the marriage cert b4 we can finalise the deal.. Hence the hasty marriage... My parents are totally unaware of these at all... I feel very bad abt it but the tension between my guy n my dad is too much tat he can't bring himself to talk to my dad abt it, so am I.. Only his mom knows abt these and his mom too are starting to interfere too much in it... The original plan was to do this w/o the parents and now, he's like OK abt his mom chipping in into the marriage issues... I felt quite hurt abt it.. Tried to make him see my point but in the end we always end up arguing abt it..I know very well tat we r not making any right steps or decision here but he can't understand it.. I m beginning to think twice abt it now..

Answer: you should deffinitly just tell your parents. all of you should sit down and discuss it. as for your getting married, marrige is all about compromising. you both think you are right and  neither of you want to give in. you just have to think what is more important to you- him or you being right? sit down and talk with him about how you feel and dont let it turn into an argument. it wont hurt to listen to him and try to agreeabout some things. tell how much it bothered you what he did,. if you dont tell him he will never know and then how can he change? keep in mind that noone is perfect, and even the best of marriges have these fights. if you guys are engaged chances are you love him, and love is not the easiest thing to come by. every bride has second thoughts, if you didnt, it would just be weird. remember, marrige is a two way street, you both have to meet halfway, and sometimes you have to go a little further, just keep on thinking what is more important. winning a stupid argument or your marrige. i hope this helped you. good luck and congradulations!
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