Context: I was most taken aback to learn that someone was not who I thought they were. It was more a statement on how I chose to see them, rather anything that was their fault. A good lesson.
Speaker 1: I was disappointed when I realized someone close to me was not who I thought they were.
Speaker 2: Did that person betrayed you in any way?
Speaker 1: Well, in a sense. But to be fair, I may have had my own "vision" of who they were and held them to that standard -- not really seeing them for who they were. I have to accept some responsibility for that, you know?
Speaker 2: Don't be so hard on yourself for being a frien and trust another people.
Speaker 1: I've definitely worked through that! Happily, it hasn't affected my ability to trust -- just inspired me to be more truthful with myself and others ;-)