We don't all fit this mold.
As a recently reunited adoptee experiencing a broad range of emotions, I looked to this book to help aid in the healing process. I just did not like the writing style. In this book, Lifton describes the thoughts, feelings, and experiences of a few as being universal. I was looking for validation of my feelings rather than more reasons to become angry and resentful - which is what happened with this book. The final straw for me was reading Lifton's words, "...adoption is abortion after birth." I quickly discovered this book was going to do nothing for me except make me angry and resentful toward others for my "place in life" rather than helping me work through my feelings about MYSELF.If you are looking to get a grip on, and understand, your feelings, you should check out the book "Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self." This book doesn't put ideas in your head, but instead helps you work through the ones you already have, in an easy to read, comforting manner.