gtbut it also sounds like you brought up the issue by bring up the nigger conversation no no i have heard that saying too i didnt bring the nigger thing up personally we heard someone white say it in a benign context and it started off that way they sort of attacked him for saying it and we started arguing the point is though that i should have known better than to play along and pretend like they wouldnt be mortally offended i try to avoid it its sad though these are very very important conversations that voters need to have when talking about things like refugees or immigration its so unfortunate that its impossible to engage people about it without being called a racist its just not personally worth it to engage people on it anymore