classmate where are you from me new york i was oblivious this is an innocent enough question at college classmate no where are you really from im stunned i know exactly what he means but i say me california i was born and grew up there he awkwardly struggles to find the pc words i dont help classmate where are your parents from i answer but i wish people would ask outright if at all why do i have to do this dance every time at a liberal arts college in massachussetts made me feel othered