i think it depends on the context and location of you expressing this think of it like this somebody has a really awful disease and it has some disgusting symptoms one of these symptoms is puss oozing out of a wound the time to discuss this symptom would not be at a dinner table youll put everyone off their food so yes i while i agree that it is ok to say the word faggot if you are simply reproducing what somebody else directly said to you i think there are contexts and locations where it is not ok to say it