after i turned i began sharing more with my parents i spent my college years and s hiding my experience as an asianamerican but i saw how much distance that created part of it stems from cultural differences between the philippines and the us being gay in the philippines is less hostile than in the us another aspect is growing up conditioned to defer to a certain race while trampling mine as was the norm when my parents immigrated in the late s now i share much more of my life as they have a white soninlaw weve grown closer because of it