me hi can i help you customer older white man where are you from me here san diego customer oh he then proceeds to order food customer anyways youre very cute so small and cute thats why i asked where you were from me ok thanks obviously my skin is tan and my hair is dark this person thought i would appreciate the fact that they found me attractive more specifically that my attractiveness stems from my looking foreign or exotic being a lowpaid food service worker i am not in a position to respond all i can do is try to make my point by answering i am from here they never get the hint makes me feel frustrated belittled objectified exotified powerless to respond effectively