in my opinion saying this is gay hurts my feelings a hundred times more than the word faggot faggot is a swear word its used to swear regardless of context it also happens that it describes a gay person just like other swear words that describe other things too okay gay as a mean of saying something sucks on the other hand hurts me because there is no hidden signification and its not a swear word this thing is lame and thus can be described as gay which implies being gay is somewhat wrong not okay