mom theres nothing wrong with tradition its nice that youre such a feminist but some traditions are just that what about your kids me they can have both of our names or he could change his if we even have kids i dont have to do it mom you dont have to but why wouldnt you want to dont you love him a conversation i had with my mother after announcing my engagement my sister joined in neither of them could provide a real reason for me doing it but my arguments about keeping my records the same not changing my passport etc didnt matter at all i am may in the car made me feel angry furious to the point of wanting to cry