white american nonmuslim woman where you from me ville her i am from there too me we should have carpooled into the city together her laughs but i meanti thought you were an immigrant she waits for me to define myself for her anyone who is not native american is an immigrant but thats not what she means she wants the name of a country a box to put me into i say no and she frowns at my not giving her the critical information i walk away she doesnt want to interact with me until she can categorize me i wonder how many strangers have ever walked up to her and demanded a country in the first minute of the conversation i want to scream sorry to disappoint you but i am not your ambassador to the exotic i am a muslimamerican woman who wears a headscarf we are volunteering for a community service project made me feel small annoyed