white people say nigger to black people i guess it isnt offensive if they are your friend and you didnt mean to intentionally insult them who cares if someone that is mentally challenged is probably haunted by all the people who labeled them retards your intentions doesnt change the meaning or erase the massive history of discrimination behind the word youre just being kind of ignorant the best thing you can do unless youre someone who identifies as a minority is simply just not use the words that are used to discriminate against minorities because you literally dont know how it feels to identify to one of these groups and hear the rhetoric that is used to describe them