its not something i personally adhere to all the time depending on my company but what youre saying isnt quite right its a cop out to pretend you can say whatever you want wherever you want just because you dont personally find them offensive because theyre just words words mean things nigger and retard and gay are just words but youre not gon na go around saying that to whoever you please i hope not anyway using those words as insults implies that you think it is insulting to be to those things and in no way does it negate the insult if you use a feminine insult towards a man edit and in a support community its not unusual for the mods to want to limit word usage like that in order to help everyone feel comfortable posting here