the word nigger is a symbol of the discrimination that black people have faced and to an extent still do black people use it as a form of defiance against the discrimination while nonblacks dont use it to demonstrate they understand the complaints black people have unfortunately i think the situation youve described gets in a damned if you do damned if you dont problem clearly some people will take the view that the person isnt holding to the understanding described above while others will take clumsy censorship as a symbol of nonblacks not really knowing what to do about integrating black culture