absolutely realizing that there was this whole other world that the women in my life experienced and i not only didnt see it i didnt even know it was there once i really listened to the people talking to me it wasnt that hard to value listening to people telling you their experience instead of telling them what their experience is i wouldve happily argued with a person of color over whether racism was real and that there was oppression at play around me in far more complicated ways than any of the stats about pay gap i was citing even touched