nigga and nigger are not the same thing trying to equate the two even though they have different meaningsetc is a joke using gay as a synonym for a bad thing is offensive but its your right to say it however you wish just dont do so with company around and you should be fine just like you wont use nigger around a black guy chink around an asian guy dyke around a lesbian and all the other lovely words with negative connotation behind them personally when i think about coming out to someone every time they equate gay as bad for something it makes me seperate myself just a little more from them like they think who i am even if i havent told them is bad and thats because that is exactly what they are doing