is bög somewhat of a slur in english thats what happened to queer queer was like an insult but now queer people use it pretty openly its still meant as an insult sometimes coming from homophobes some people reclaim other slurs like faggot and dyke i think generally if its a word that people use to put gay people down its fine to use it to describe yourself but you wouldnt just use it with any other gay person because they might not feel ok about it