no word is off limits in any language context and intent is what really matters having a sincere conversation about race sometimes requires use of the derogatory words used to describe races if she said i dont see why black people use the word nigger and then complain about its use elsewhere thats far different from i think niggers need to stop complaining when other people say nigger since they say it you may not like the bite the word has as any decent person should have that reaction but simply replacing it with nword is pointless in your mind you convert it to nigger or nigga or some other form anyway