esh yes you made a racist joke i get that the mail order bride joke is a funny putdown of your friend because its like hes desperate enough to pay for a bride but the only way the impoverished wartorn brown people country joke works is to imply that your friend would be a loser if he married someone of a certain ethnicity or from a poor country yes after you apologized the bride shouldve forgiven you yes your friend sucks for not standing up for you more effectively and for not speaking to you for a year