from time to time i call my white middle age middle class father nigger and he genuinely does not know how to respond im not american though so the word isnt half as stigmatized here it does serve to confuse in as much as a racist word can be used appropriately or correctly there really arent many opportunities for its use dont embarrass yourself when youre a fucking hiphop fan by avoiding saying the nword completely not being racist is slightly more complex than avoiding saying the words the awkward politeness chasteness even around other races that does not really respect them at all is an issue and its pretty hard to explain to someone exactly what they are doing wrong