because the word especially the hard r ending ties back into years of slavery nigger is another remnant of slavery and some of the extreme oppression that black people have been put through in this country the only reason that black people say it is because its part of the culture that we had to create since our culture was effectively ruined and stripped from us because of slavery i also wan na point out that its not just white people no other group should be saying it because they dont share the same background that a black person does hope that helps hope it helps you maybe educate another white person with the same question