However, not all cases of problem behavior had a happy ending like the previous one. At the moment, I am a fifth-grade class teacher again, and I have a little bit of everything in my class, so to speak - integrated, foreign and problem children. This story is not so much my experience as it is about a class that has passed from the first grade to the second, so I am still getting to know the children myself - what are their habits, needs or bad habits. But since I heard that it is a really exceptional class in terms of solving problem behavior, I decided to contact their former class teacher in the first grade and thus continuously inform myself about the situations or rather persistent problems that are part of this, already my class, to be in the picture, so to speak.
This case concerns a boy who currently lives only with his father, as his mother died over a year ago. When this situation arose, of course the teachers, but also the classmates, were really considerate, tolerant and helpful towards him. The teachers did not make excessive demands on him from the beginning, as the boy did not go through a really easy period. Losing a mom hurts at any age, but I think at this age it's hard to explain to a child why mom will never come home. So the boy stayed at home for a while to deal with the team and the teachers took this situation into account and even accepted it to a certain extent.
Attendance problems
However, the problem arose when the boy returned to school after a long time. He used to be inattentive at school, didn't do his homework, didn't listen to the teachers, distracted them and disrupted classes, until finally one day it got to the stage where he stopped going to school altogether. This situation was also resolved with the boy's father, when my colleague informed him about what was happening with his son and tried to find some reasonable way out. Everyone understood the situation that the boy was going through a period when he lost his mother, but it had been long enough for him to be able to fit back into the school environment, so to speak. From the beginning it seemed that the father understood the seriousness of the situation, the boy started going to school again, but he did not last two weeks. The situation was resolved repeatedly with the father, who at first excused his son, but after a while the number of missed classes climbed to an enormous number, when the boy was in danger of having unexcused classes in the fourth grade and was even in danger of repeating the grade. Later it was discovered that the boy, despite the time that had passed, had not come to terms with the loss of his mother at all.
Interview
In the end, although the situation turned for the better, as the boy is currently in the fifth year with me, however, inappropriate behavior in the form of disruptions and failure to complete tasks still persists. I am currently trying to resolve this situation as best I can, but since not only this boy, but also a few of his classmates have a bit of a problem with following the rules and authority, it is not always a cakewalk. However, I firmly believe that after time they will learn to follow the rules that we have agreed upon as a class.
Problém nastal vtedy, keď sa chlapec po dlhšej dobe vrátil naspäť do školy. V škole býval nepozorný, neplnil si úlohy, nepočúval učiteľov, odvrával im a vyrušoval počas hodín, až to nakoniec jedného dňa prišlo do štádia, kedy prestal do školy chodiť úplne.
Chlapec žije už len s otcom, nakoľko mu mama pred vyše rokom zomrela. Keď táto situácia nastala, tak pochopiteľne boli učitelia, ale aj spolužiaci voči nemu naozaj ohľaduplní, tolerantní a nápomocní. Učitelia naňho zo začiatku nevyvíjali prehnané nároky, nakoľko si chlapec neprechádzal naozaj ľahkým obdobím. Prísť o mamu bolí v každom veku, ale myslím, že v tomto veku len ťažko dieťaťu môžeš vysvetliť, že prečo sa už mama nikdy nevráti domov. Takže chlapec ostal aj na istý čas doma, aby sa s tým vysporiadal a učitelia túto situáciu zohľadňovali a do určitej miery aj akceptovali.
Táto situácia sa riešila aj s chlapcovým otcom, kedy ho moja kolegyňa informovala o tom, čo sa deje s jeho synom a snažila sa nájsť nejaké rozumné východisko. Každý chápal situáciu, že si chlapec prechádza obdobím, kedy stratil mamu, avšak bola to už dostatočne dlhá doba na to, aby sa dokázal takpovediac zaradiť naspäť do školského prostredia. Zo začiatku sa zdalo, že otec pochopil vážnosť situácie, chlapec začal opäť chodiť do školy, ale vydržalo mu ani nie dva týždne. Opakovane sa situácia riešila s otcom, ktorý syna najskôr ospravedlňoval, ale po čase sa počet vymeškaných hodín vyšplhal na enormné číslo, kedy hrozilo, že chlapec bude mať v štvrtej triede neospravedlnené hodiny a hrozilo mu dokonca opakovanie ročníka. Neskôr sa teda zistila, že chlapec sa aj napriek obdobiu, ktoré prešlo, so stratou matky vôbec nevyrovnal.
Nakoniec sa situácia síce na dobré obrátila, keďže chlapec je momentálne u mňa v piatom ročníku, avšak, stále pretrváva nevhodné správanie v podobe vyrušovania a neplnenia si úloh. V súčasnosti sa snažím túto situáciu vyriešiť, ako najlepšie viem, ale keďže nielen tento chlapec, ale aj pár ďalších jeho spolužiakov majú tak trošku problém s dodržiavaním pravidiel a autoritou, nie je to vždy prechádzka ružovým sadom. Pevne však verím, že po čase sa naučia dodržiavať pravidlá, na ktorých sme sa spoločne ako trieda dohodli.