I (25F) have a lot of personal challenges including depression, anxiety, PTSD, and idiopathic hypersomnia (always tired, no solutions). I have been dating my boyfriend (26M) for almost 4 years now and even though he has no personal experience with mental illness, he does his best to be understanding and helpful when I’m falling apart. 

However, lately I’ve been feeling very insecure in our relationship because I feel like I don’t do even half as much for him as he does for me. He does a majority of the cooking, cleaning, and laundry, especially lately since my mental health has been declining in the last few months. I know that it seems simple for me to contribute more to these things, but it’s hard for me to bring myself to do these things when all I want to do is sleep and distract myself from my depression. I have talked to him about how I’ve been feeling and apologized for not doing more, and while he says he understands, I’m so scared that he’ll leave me because I’m a wreck. 

I’m trying to budget for therapy, but it’s looking like I probably can’t afford it until May. I just don’t know what I can do to feel better and start pulling my weight.