Hi. 

Basically I've been in a relationship with a girl for 6 months in 2020 and she has BPD for sure. During our relationship she often had these mood swings and we argued a lot, so much that at the end of our relationship I was exhausted and because she lied with some things, I decided to break things off permanently. During those 6 months she often complained about an abandonment fear, depression, eating disorders, mood swings and couldn't really control herself when we argued. She was going to a therapist but after some sessions, she dropped the therapist (she said he couldn't understand her). I couldn't understand what she was going through, and not even now I am not capable of feeling that but this time around I know she isn't ok and I know she most likely has BPD and I want to help her.  I was watching some of her recent photos and the only thing I could read from them was : depression and helplessness. 

When I look back, when we first got together she wasn't fine either (she said she suffered some trauma from older ex's) but right now all I can see is that she is in a worse state.

Now the question arises : What can I do to help her? We haven't spoked for some months and I am really afraid of making things even worse (primum non nocere - first do not harm) . I would really like to see her and help her, and if she doesn't get therapy, to help her get the therapy she needs.