Hey everyone. A 'non' here with a question regarding relationship with a pwBPD.

After 3 weeks of being 'the best thing that has ever happened to her' my ex started saying things to me that she knows would hurt me. When i asked her why would she say such things to the person she claims she loves, her response was that she felt unworthy of my love so she wanted me to break up with her as she couldn't do it herself.

My question is what is behind this dynamic? I know you don't know what's in her head of course, but if you had simmilar experiences i hope you can shed some light on this. Do you fear attachment? Do you suddenly stop seeing your partner as perfect and get disappointed? Do you fear abandonment so you push first? Or maybe it's just for the kicks of some drama? ... Or something else?

Thanks.