Been with BF for about 3 years. I travel extensively for work. Like 330 days a year and am rarely home. We see each other onc

There have been a few issues with him verbalizing that people are watching him or after him professionally, but nothing serious. 

Earlier this year, BF said he could hear people talking outside the house. It’s my house, the neighborhood is a standard suburb and no one would be outside the house. I wasn’t home so couldn’t check things, but I’d bet a year’s salary no one was there. He installed additional lighting on that side of the hose and I didn’t hear anything further. 

A few weeks ago he said he had a black guy stalking the house and he confronted him. We are located near a corner and lots of people walk the dog, run, bike ride etc and turn around near our house. If the guy was even doing anything, I can only presume it was this. We occasionally have property crime with kids stealing from unlocked cars, but nothing violent. Again, I’d bet this was all in BF’s mind.

In the last three days, BF has said people shone a laser at him from the side yard, bugged my car, bugged his car, have tracking devices on his phone and are listening to his conversations. He’s fled 200 miles away twice in two days, abandoned his beloved dog somewhere, thrown his very expensive phone in some body of water, changed his phone and phone number and turned everything off.

I went through something similar 25 years ago with another SO, but that was a man in his late 20’s with newly diagnosed bipolar disorder with psychotic features.

I have no idea what the hell is going on. Delusions associated with schizophrenia are extraordinarily rare in the elderly and I can’t find even a mention of onset in the 50’s. He is quite convinced these things are happening, the fact that he abandoned his dog tells me how absolutely terrified he is and I don’t have a clue. 

I am 3000 miles away, have no idea where he is and am really at a loss. His family is not in any position to help him and he obviously thinks I’m the one with issues for not believing him.

I can go home to try and get him involuntarily committed once I find him, but he is so mobile right now, I think he’d be gone before I even got there.