I live with my mum and 2 sisters. The kitchen being messy seems to be a big trigger of mine. Coming into the kitchen and finding piles of dishes causes an instant bad mood. When my bf is over I can go from super happy with him to angry bc of the kitchen and dishes. 

I've expressed frustration quite a few times to my mum at the fact that dishes don't get done if I don't do them. She tends to downplay the situation - its just me over reacting; just because I'm in the habit of having a clean kitchen doesn't mean everyone is, etc. 

I have mentioned it to my sisters one on one, the middle one (does some cleaning sometimes when she's home) understands where I'm coming from but it's also not much of an issue for her. 
The youngest doesn't like being told what to do, even our mum isnt sure how to approach her about doing jobs around the house. She mostly stops replying to me if i talk about the cleaning.

This is a big issue for me - I want to move out of home almost entirely because of the kitchen. I dont enjoy the anger it makes me feel and I dont want to feel it every day.

How would anyone approach this? 
Telling my mum does nothing, talking to my sisters doesnt seem to do anything. I can't build the courage to call a "family meeting" to talk about it. Chore sheets haven't worked in the past.



Sorry for the wall of text and potentially bad formatting, am on mobile. 

Not officially diagnosed. However I highly relate to a lot BPD aspects. I'm 20f, have been seeing a counsellor and am waiting to see a psychologist.