I fall into a pit of self-blame whenever something doesn't go as I expected or wanted to. It can be as small as someone not responding in a tone I'm used to them doing. I immediately spiral and think I must've done something wrong, they are going to abandon me, this is it I lost my chances with this person, etc. The spiraling sometimes gets so bad that I even get a fever. 

Any advice on how to silence these thoughts is very much needed.