Hello, 

I'm new here.
I got a friend with I guess bpd.

I've been let down a few times already. So I started to Google and discovered the idealize devalue circle. 

I would like to ask a question about relationships with people with bpd. Is it a common thing to tell loved ones they are important, but then  suddenly disappear? 

I got to hear I'm important I mean a lot to her, that we should meet up, etc but then silence comes in. I'm ignored when I text.

Those acts feel to me like silent treatments. I get hurt by it a lot and I don't know what to do anymore.

I get depressed by it.

I don't understand. 

She tells me I mean a lot but afterwards make me feel like I don't matter.

Is this common? And so, why does it happen? It gets more and more difficult to believe that I mean a thing to her...

Even after our last appointment she texted me to thank me to come by, and that she had such a nice evening with me.

Regards and thanks in advance