
Pleasing people just isn't pleasing people anymore

I'm 21F and have been somewhat of a perfectionist most of my life. I always tried my best to get good grades and not get in trouble. Looking back I was definitely way too rigid as a result of an untreated anxiety disorder. 

As an adult where grades and 'good behavior' aren't as important, I've turned to chronic people pleasing to the point where it's actively harming my relationships. I'll say everything is my fault when my partner is upset even if it has nothing to do with me. I apologize for everything to the point where the word 'sorry' is virtually meaningless and I  break down at the thought of potentially failing or ruining others perception of me. 

I'm just sick of being a slave to pleasing people. It can be beneficial at times but this is just getting extreme. If anyone has experienced anything similar and overcame it please share tips.