I split on my long term long distance FP for the 4th or 5th time last week. I thought I was getting better because I hadn’t done it in like 10 months but it happened again and I told him I need at least 3 months (but possibly a year or more) away from the relationship to do DBT and not be obsessed. Has anybody here ever purposely taken time away from FP to get your head on strait and then successfully re-entered the relationship without the FP dynamic? How long do you think it takes to be able to normally engage again with a former FP if you’re actively taking steps to improve.