My FP is going through something and I need to be there for him. My problem is that my BPD makes me need him to control my own emotions, something that I am well aware that I cannot do at the moment lest I want him to break down. And he is someone who needs excess amounts of space to process his emotions, something that I do not understand, and I worry that his need for space will trigger the clingy need for space within me. Just that now I know that it’s time for me to return every ounce of support I have received from this relationship. That I need to gather in all my strength, and refuse to add my reactions to his problems. I would love to hear about and know what I should do to support him in his problems. Please please help. And also how to self soothe when he is away dealing with things on his own and I’m left with the uncertainty of not knowing what’s going on in his head. For example, currently he is traveling and I would love to know if he reached safely and I’ve said so, but I’m not sure if he would be in the state of mind to be contacted and hence, I want to give him space but my mind is constantly worrying.