While I know having an identified person, or FP, is a manifestation of bpd stuff, I can honestly say that this person has been good for me. She is very kind and has (probably unknowingly) helped me realize people can truly care for me and want this spend time with me. I’m very grateful to have met her and a platonic relationship on its own is extremely satisfying.  I’d honestly date this girl in an instant but she already had a boyfriend by the time I met her, and I’m also friendly with the guy. Have to work very hard not to come off as clingy and obsessive, especially with a boyfriend in the picture. I could honestly be happy spending all my time with the girl.