I (20M) have BPD and I feel my symptoms getting worse by the day. I started going to therapy because of my drug abuse habits. Been clean for 2 months now, and feeling better (however now I wanna crash it everyday and just get high and calm).
I’m in a relationship (18F) for about 7months after knowing her for 4years and talking everyday for more than year and a half.
I don’t know how to deal with my anxiety and fear of abandonment. I try to do everything for her, but my fears take the best of me most of the times.
I don’t feel comfortable with her going clubbing and be with friends.
I tried to establish boundaries, what I feel comfortable and what not. (Clubbing imo is a singles activity, I’m not ok with her going alone. However I said that going out with friends it’s ok and I can manage it).
But it seems like she can’t respect my boundaries and understand me. She says that I have to get over BPD and don’t look much in to it… but we know things aren’t this easy

Any advice. Anyone her knows how to deal with boundaries and maintaining a healthy relationship?