So when I was 13-17 me and my family had a very hard time getting along. It was them being frustrated at my reckless decision making, inability to plan for the future, disregard for consequences, and pathological lying (all very valid things to be angry at me for) but would consistently sit down and yell at me to a point where I developed a crying response any time anyone raises their voice at me. I would try to explain to them what was wrong and they thought I was just a crazy disobedient teenager until I got my diagnosis of BPD, a panic disorder, and ADHD. They have tried since to be better and speak to me instead of getting mad and assuming the worst, but I’m unable to feel comfortable around them and they bring it up constantly that they want a relationship with me but I feel so uncomfortable that I’m not sure it’s possible. 

Does anyone have experience with this? 

Am I in the right or are they?