Hi I’ll just get right to the point. My gf and I have been together for about a year now and we go to college together. Whenever we drink together at college I have lots of fun and absolutely no problems with being around her. The problem is when we are long distance and she drinks with friends, I just feel super anxious to a nearly unbearable level where unfortunately some things to calm me down are nicotine and alcohol (I know it’s one of the most unhealthy ways to deal with it). I trust her 100% and know that she would never do anything to hurt me and I am not worried about her getting with other guys. I just don’t like to talk to her when she’s drunk and I’m sober which sounds mean and unfair. I understand my thoughts are irrational but they still come back no matter how hard I try to work through them. I guess I’m putting this out here to see if anyone has any advice or tips or own experiences that could help. I really appreciate it. Thank you

(I know this post was a bit all over the place I just would like advice while I’m experiencing these feelings. I’d be happy to clarify anything more about the situation if it would help.)

Thanks again