If you decide to enter a relationship &amp; you have bpd, or the person you’re choosing to love has bpd here is what you do:

- You set boundaries. You both ensure you stick to them. If you can’t, you aren’t ready. 

- You both make sure you get your sleep, your food, your basic biological needs met.

- You must both be open with communication. You must let go of your fears to hurt he other person. When the other person says they want you to express your needs, trust that they do.

- Do not speak about your issues too often. As much as your partner may say they want to listen to everything because they love and care for you, in their goodwill, and as much as you may want to do the same for them, don’t. Set a time limit to it

- Realise that your partner may have difficulties communicating their own pain. Do not go into a relationship with a person with bpd if you have trust issues, unless you are willing to trust them. You must let it be. You must let go of inhibitions.

- god this hurts. If they leave, let them leave. Let them. Let them. Let them go because you adore them. Don’t hold any grudges against them. Realise that you loved and you loved fucking hard. And they loved you too. Allow them to find their way, even if it’s without you. 

- Do not hurt them. Never hurt them. Never hurt him.