One thing I've clearly noticed about the subreddit is that it strictly promotes an ego-dystonic strategy of CHANGING to "cure" the BPD (and more emphasis on the meaning and less on the word choice please). An easy way to get banned from the subreddit is to say something that is sympathetic with the disorder and doesn't see it as a problem. This changing is obviously presented with words that make it seem useful such as "being more healthy" or "learning new skills". But it is really about conformism to society's boundaries, ethics and behavioural norms.

Typically, the ego-syntonic BPD is tossed to psych wards when the "symptoms" are activated. And many people don't leave the hospital alive because of an intensifying ping pong rally dynamic in which the BPD is getting more restricted and doped while in return they keep raging more and more and it goes in loop until the questionable "accidental overdose" in which the patient died under the radar. And then you start thinking "why did a patient die in a psych ward?" they didn't have cancer or anything...

I am not fond of it. Any of it.

Was wondering if someone feels the same and doesn't think that \*I\* need help.

Also, I am wondering if there is a forum somewhere online with people who do not seek to objectively improve themselves (under the mask of DBT's dialectic) and instead develop different mechanisms such as dissociations and hermit lifestyle to deal with life's (or rather, society's) ego threatening "improve/change or be cast out" mentality that blames the "untreated" BPD.

A community that rejects changing but in the same time remains peaceful and doesn't promote the most problematic "symptoms" which are rage outbursts (+potential violence) and in general treating others like shit without any suffecient provocation.

A community which embraces BPD traits such as disregard for (creating) boundaries. Something civilized yet not like in society.

Taking a risk with asking this in a forum with the opposite purpose.