I am not too picky about psychiatrists because they are just handing out drugs and most of them have pretty much been dicks, but therapists...I have had very little lucky with.  I have had maybe 20 since I first started getting help, and there was only one that I kind of liked.  I won't lie, I tend to be really snobby.  If I feel like the person is dumber than me or doesn't have a Ph.D I am immediately turned off, although I have given therapists with degrees lower than a Ph.D a chance.  I think the one I liked the most didn't have once, actually.  Can't remember. Also, some have been super judgmental when it didn't seem appropriate.  I saw one woman for years, but I don't even know why - she was so snobby and would take sides.  I brought my boyfriend at the time with me, and we discussed how I was uncomfortable with him looking at porn without me.  Her reaction? That I need to "get over it."  Now that I look back she was was just really unprofessional overall.  I really liked my psychologist I had as a teenager until he went behind my back and sent a letter to my father about all of my problems and that I was "too fixated on boys," even though my doctor knew we were estranged (parents were divorced and he didn't want anything to do with me) and he abused me growing up.  Of course, my dad immediately called me and started reading the letter to me, laughing hysterically the whole time.  Kind of lost all respect for my psych after that.

I tried going to a center in my city that is actually only for people with BPD, but my "therapist" (I don't even think they had a master's?) looked maybe younger than me, and I'm pretty young. She also seemed completely clueless and when she talked it was like she was reading a monologue.  They also required that you go to group therapy in conjunction with your therapist, but the groups were like...45 minutes to an hour, and we would spend the first 20 minutes going around in the circle with everyone complaining about their life, when the main focus of the group was supposed to be DBT teaching and exercises.  Even my psychiatrist heard about it and hated it.  I also felt like I didn't fit in.  I was 27 at the time, and the "young adult" group was for like ages 16-25, while the "adult" group was 26+.  In the young adult group I felt so old with more than half the people being like 17, and in the other group it was mostly people in their 40s-60s.  They said I could be in either, but I didn't like either one....that was a disappointment too, because the place is only for people with BPD, which is hard to find.

Anyway, does anyone have any tips on finding good therapists or have this same problem?  