I am writing because I have a really big problem with it. This is absolutely not a joke. Perhaps someone has had a similar experience. I don't understand any of this. I have a husband, and yet a deceased member of my husband's family has become my FP for several years. I didn't know this person when he was still alive. I only know this person from photos, homemade movies and stories / anecdotes. Unfortunately, I am totally obsessed with this person, I am fascinated, maybe even "in love". I feel that me and this person would be soul mates.I absolutely can't tell my husband about this. I can't tell the therapist that either. I don't think anyone will understand this. I myself have the impression that I am going crazy. I know that this person is long dead, I will never meet him, etc. And yet I think about him all the time and treat him as my ideal. Omfg. Will it pass over time? (has been going on for several years now and it is getting worse). How do I get rid of these thoughts? This is a nightmare for me, because I damn well miss this person and I imagine him all the time. If you can, advise me, because this obsession is killing me.