Hello everyone, I have posted here before about my BPD gf, things are good but I have some questions, I'm obviously her FP and my actions affect her greatly, sometimes I will be too emotionally exhausted to give in when she's splitting on me so I will act cool headed and not dramatic, while also being caring and reminding her that I love her, this apparently only makes things worse as she sees it as stonewalling, this has been happening since before I made my other post so none of that is gone, I still think she's an amazing girl.

A concern I have is about stuff like falling asleep, or taking long to reply (altough she has never complained about that one, I feel it might affect her mood) yesterday I fell asleep while she was having dinner with her family and didn't text her good night, she then said that made her sad and she was feeling disappointed (we use emotions wheel) but that she loves me and good night, so she did deal with it pretty well, but it sucks that it even  makes her sad in the first place since for someone like me it's not something that I would really care about, I'm not saying I don't get it or I think it's invalid, what I wanna know is, is there a way to stop stuff like that from hurting her or making her feel bad? how can BPD people here with more progress deal with stuff like this so that it doesn't distress them? again, she took it very well and I'm proud of her, but I wish I didn't make her sad so often with some of the stuff I do/don't do.

Also if anyone has any tips on how to be "better" in a way I would really appreciate it, I know how much being a favorite person means and I really don't wanna hurt or affect this girl in a bad way, I want to be good for her and encourage her to improve.