So a lot of my recovery coincided with a move to a different place. Most people who've met me in the last few years haven't experienced my BPD related behavior. I also started taking psychology and counseling classes at the local CC during this time. Profs would often talk about BPD in super stigmatizing ways, so I have brought up in multiple contexts that I have it and have been blown off by  professors and classmates.

The worst time happened a year ago with this one professor (also a counselor) who teaches addictions counseling. Addicts are a super super stigmatized population, so you think he would know better. Anyways, he said that people with BPD are the only people he refuses to work with because they are dangerous as clients and are incapable of change. He urged people in the class to avoid BPD clients as well. I went up to him after class and told him that that was pretty stigmatizing and outdated information. I also shared that I had BPD and had seen a lot of improvement with DBT. He straight up told me that I had been misdiagnosed and that there was no way I had BPD.  He went on to list all of my positive attributes (stable, focused, empathetic, etc.) and how that doesn't fit with BPD.

Keep in mind that though I had taken a few classes with him, he had never interacted with me outside of an academic setting. I was insistent and he offered to refer me to a psychiatrist who could properly diagnose me. I gave up on the conversation, moved on, and tried my best to get through the semester. 

Anyways, I sent him a thank you email a few days ago because he recommended me for a job that helped me get into grad school. He was very congratulatory and nice and at the end of the email said AGAIN that he was confident that I did not have BPD and hoped that I was not holding on to that diagnosis. I'm very angry because I feel like it invalidates everything I've been through. I also know that it doesn't matter and that I don't have to interact with him ever again, but it drives me up the wall for some reason.