The story described someone ending their 10+ year friendship after her best friend got married to an abusive guy that was about to go to jail. It mentioned reasons you should end your friendships. It really bothered me because the reasons were common traits of people with mental illnesses, especially one like BPD. I felt the overwhelming desire to respond. I'm not sure if I was in the right or just triggered by my fear of abandonment. Here's the link to the article, and below that is my response.

https://www.elephantjournal.com/2016/05/10-signs-you-need-to-break-up-with-your-best-friend/


"So... Her friend got involved in a toxic, possibly abusive relationship, and she said "nope, drown without me as your friend"? And whole their reasons could be justified, I worry about many individuals with mental illnesses that made don't do these things knowingly. These are not issues that can be easily weighed and decided on. 

I'm not saying you should stay with toxic people. This example seems lousy, though. If your friend names a bad choice (whether it's a bad relationship, drugs and alcohol, or not treating their mental illnesses), your first response should not be too abandon them. Try to talk to them, encourage positive behaviors and choices. And if you must leave them, do so kindly, and (if they are someone you still care about) let them know that you care. 

If it were me, I would tell them if they ever want to find help, I would point them in the right direction and be open to being their friend on the other end. I know after the above relationship I endured, I would have liked to have some of my friends waiting for me after it was over."