Hi, I'm a 22 year old, not attractive male. I don't have BPD but I know a quiet few people with this condition (I hope that term isn't offending). Two of them, which are very attractive females, started to flirt with me at some point. And with flirting I don't mean smiling at me or making witty comments but telling and texting me pretty explicit stuff. Even to the point of "inviting me over".

Since I'm one of the two men on earth who do not think with their penises I played stupid and made excuses to not to go over. Partly because I couldn't believe that they really want me (as I mentioned I don't play in their league) and partly because I suspected that this could have to do with their condition and therefore they are saying all this to me against their own will. 

They both attempted this several times and became more and more explicit and sometimes even angry over the time. After a while they both gave up and broke up contact with me, which is sad because I really liked them as friends.

The events took place 2 years apart from each other. The females don't know each other and both have a rather heavy form of BPD, one is even unable to work.

I know a few guys with similar experiences so I assume this has to do with BPD but of course I can't be sure.

Here are my Questions:
Is this behavior related to BPD?
Why are they doing this? Do they really want sex?
How should one behave in such situations? Should I always reject them and if yes, how without making them feel bad?

Thanks in advance for your answers. 

**Edit:** Could it be that I somehow triggered this behavior by not flirting with them?(unlike most other men they meet)


