my boyfriends bpd/bipolar makes it really hard to love him. because we constantly are in a cycle of him feeling hypersexual towards me or just wanting to be barely friends. i understand that he can't help this, and im very grateful that he openly tells me when he's feeling these ways and when his feelings switch, but i still feel like im not getting what i need in the other half of the relationship. it feels one sided most of the time, and when it doesn't it feels obsessive. i want to find a way for us to have a happy medium, and a way for both of us to get what we want out of this relationship. i would never leave him because of this, because i know how difficult it is. from an outside perspective, our relationship may seem very very toxic, but i know he loves me it's just hard for him to express it or feel it sometimes. i never want to shame him for his mental illnesses, i just want to know what i can do in any way to help him make this a little more normal. if anyone can help me out with this or have been a situation similar, what did you do to help? we have very open communication with each other and are willing to try anything bc we know this is truly neither of our vaults.