Hello everyone. My last two relationships have gone down in flames because of my BPD. My last one especially destroyed me because of how strong the connection was. It's been a month since the split. I've been doing DBT and working very hard on myself and I've realized that I've been using other people to fulfill the attention and needs and love that I should be giving myself. I abandon myself for these relationships. So I've decided to take a relationship pause at least until after my tubal surgery at the end of June and then I'll evaluate whether to extend it or not. No dating, no sex, no romance, no relationships other than friends. 

Has anyone ever tried this? Any suggestions? Tbh I want my ex back but either way, with ot without him, I need to be whole. For myself.