So I was at work today and one my colleagues started talking about her ex-husband and how abusive he was towards her and their children. She was telling me these awful stories about him and then ends it with "...well he has BPD, I don't know what I expected".

Now, she doesn't know I have BPD but a little part of me just sank. Am I really more like her ex than I let myself believe? What if people are telling stories like this about me to their colleagues? 

I don't know, it was just extremely triggering.