I have two partners who are both close. My one partner I live with I have been with for 3 years, and they’ve been my FP for that exact amount of time. We’ve been open since 2 months into our relationship, which really strained some parts of it and really tested my BPD symptoms, but with a lot of therapy on both sides we worked it out and I found I actually really love being open, because I can go have fun with other people if I do choose, even though my partner will always be my favorite. 

Recently someone I’ve admired for years decided to meet up with me. We hit it off right away and have now been seeing each other intimately for 3 months, things have been going so well, and we already both said I love yous. 

Naturally, now my new partner is my FP. Which is awesome, but it made me stop sharing so much or being excited to share with my long time partner. 

Was wondering if there are any fellow BPD havers who also are either in an open relationship or are polyam, and what their experience is like with FP shifting and keeping your bonds strong with people.