When I was 20 I got pregnant by my 2 year college boyfriend of the same age. We had a good relationship, but when the baby was born he began to deteriorate mentally. One night, something happened and the cops found him and he was involuntarily committed by the courts for about 7 years for a number of different reasons.

While initially I told him I would wait for him to get better, the trauma of going there to see him was just too much and I had to move on with my life. I eventually got his parental rights terminated, met a new man, had 2 more children and my now husband legally adopted my son a few years ago. I still let my ex boyfriends parents visit their grandchildren and they actually babysit all 3 of my kids pretty regularly, however.

Our son is now 10 years old and I got a letter from his bio father saying that he wanted to meet his son and try to be a dad and he also wants parental rights reinstated and even said he WANTED to pay child support (he doesn't make much money, it was just a gesture). I also talked to his parents and they confirm he has been out for three years and has his symptoms under control.

The problem is that my son already has a man to call dad, which he happily does. I feel terrible that the world moved on while he was confined, but im in a great place with my family and I dont think my son needs him in his life. I talked to a lawyer who assured me that there is no way for him to reasonably get parental rights back at this point. My husband and the grandparents are leaving this completely up to me at this point, because they don't want to push me into any decision I'm not comfortable with. So far I have let his note go for 2 weeks without answering it, but I have already written up a draft saying that he should move on because his son is happier without him. But now I feel like TA for making this decision.

For those of you wondering his exact diagnosis was severe schizophrenia and some other minor things. His symptoms are under control now based on all the information I have..