Sorry for the second post in a row. Just have a bunch of questions now that I've been researching this topic. 

So I'm reading about how people who are insecurely attached (which I pretty much assume is most people with BPD) should seek a partner who is securely attached and NOT "avoidant."

I'm wondering, is the best solution to find a partner who is secure/not avoidant, or is the best solution to learn how be with whoever (avoidant or not) but just manage our insecurity in the relationship? 