My family has been trying to determine what’s wrong with our uncle but can’t figure it out. He refuses to see a therapist and we don’t know what to do and could use some help to figure out what exactly he has.

The best way to describe him is an adult in his 40s but with the mind of a child.

He’s never been able to hold down a job of any kind and loves with his grandmother. He spends his days going from one hobby or task to the next whether it’s riding his bike or watching tv.

Family gives him remedial jobs to clean up or whatever at one of their stores and overpays him. He doesn’t actually work but just hangs around constantly try complaining he is bored.

He constantly complains it’s not enough and as soon as he’s given whatever he made for the day, like $50.

He will then immediately go to whatever store is nearby and spend it all on something weird like a huge bottle of shampoo or a gadget, then he forgets all about it.

He will obsess about something like getting some new jeans and bug everyone until someone takes him. If he is bored too long he will start lashing out and screaming at everyone.

It’s not possible to hold a conversation with him because his mind wanders everywhere like a child.

He’s like an adult but with the mind of a very very spoiled child. He is always confused as to why people cannot spend time taking him around to places because they have to work. He doesn’t understand the concept of having to work to pay the bills. This idea is foreign to him and his biggest complaint is hat everyone is always working.

It’s hard to explain but when you talk to him you immediately know there is something wrong. It makes is impossible for him to work and he essentially makes everyone around him stressed because he is constantly complaining or asking for money.

I cannot find a thing online about him or what his condition is - but I am certain as everyone else is that he has some kind of mental illness but we cannot figure out what that is.


If anyone could provide any help or shed some light it would be very much appreciated. My in laws take care of him a lot and they’re getting old and I’m worried he will induce a heart attack or something because of the sheer stress he causes when he complains all day and he’s having an outburst of screaming.

I’ve been told that he had some kind of traumatic experience while in military boootcamp in Korea which is where he’s from. Recently he got into a fight with his grandmother and hopped on a plane to the States where he’s been living who my in laws and making their lives a living hell.

He never stops asking for money or things, people to drive him around and can’t hold attention to anything whatsoever for more than a few hours. He is like a little kid but cannot seem to learn or grasp any concepts of basic things or how the world works even in the simplest sense of people having jobs and bills.

I and all of us is at our wits end.

I am desperate for any help or insight from anyone. Thanks 🙏