I've been reading several posts here since I'm interested in other people dealing with the same condition, but I feel a slight disconnect. Most of you seem to be women which I understand this illness mostly affects women, but I can't relate to all the girly stuff. I'm a male combat vet with BPD among other problems. My medications help me react rationally to situations, but I'm not 100%. The ridiculous number of classes the Army forces me to attend seem insulting to me. They just reiterate shit you've heard your whole life and assume you've never made an attempt to better yourself. Even after you make it known that you're diagnosed with serious mental problems and you kick straight to rage when annoyed or can't deal with the extremely high number of problems and writing them down and using breathing exercises doesn't help. I wish I could talk to my psychologist more but it's the fucking army and they have too many patients and you would be lucky to see your psychologist once a week and get in 20-30 min of real discussion time. Instead I end up talking to social workers in classes with 20 other people and a class that feels like it was designed for 5 year olds. In fact the only thing that's helped me besides my medications is knowing part of my diagnosis. Unfortunately my psychologist doesn't share everything with me and it's frustrating. Actually just thinking about what I want from this post I realized I could use a pen pal to just vent to and seek advice from. Preferably female since I get along with girls better or someone who has had success dealing with this disorder within the military. I need to sleep... hopefully I'll have a response or 2 by the time I wake up. 

Update: Thanks for all the replies. I have difficulty keeping contact with even my closest friends and family so I only reached out to 2 people. You all seem like great people and I'm sorry I don't have enough time or energy to keep up with all of you. I read everyone's most recent posts and contacted the person I felt I could relate to most and the one person who seems to have the most experience. 