I’m living with a partner who has BPD. They mostly have it under control with meds and self-care techniques. I’m doing what I can to educate myself on their needs and how best communicate with them. 

However, I can’t shake the concern I have of how they will conduct themselves in an emergency. For instance, if they start crying because they accidentally forgot one thing at the store then how well will they handle something as heavy as an emergency, like a natural disaster? 

I also feel it is important to discuss emergency planning with them since they have habits like leaving the stove on overnight or leaving the coffee pot on when they leave for the day so they’ll have hot coffee when they get home. I can’t be here all the time to go behind them and make sure you they aren’t doing things like burning down the house. They don’t have basic emergency items like spare food, basic medical supplies, etc. 

I want to discuss various emergency plans (e.g., natural disaster, fire) and jointly building emergency kits/planning but I worry about upsetting them. 

Any suggestions for how to frame this subject in a non-upsetting way? I want them to be safe and prepared but I don’t know how best to help them do those things yet. 

Thank you in advance for your advice!