How do I explain to my boyfriend that when I split it really has nothing to do with him? Like when I split I make it his problem and I project everything onto him and then once I come back to normal I apologize over and over again and try to explain to him that it’s not his fault and that those hurtful things I didn’t mean and they came from a place of hurt from when I was a child. I love this man so much and it hurts me a lot when I hurt him when I split. I just want to get him to understand it’s not his fault it’s me.