While I don’t currently have a BPD diagnosis, I did at one point, went through DBT as a young adult, then got rediagnosed years later. I’ve since had tons of therapy, including EMDR and lots of meds. But now I am expecting to receive a BPD diagnosis in the near future. When I learned about quiet BPD it all fit, and my current psych/counselor team seem to be in agreement. 

While as a young adult fear of abandonment manifested in more obvious ways, in more recent years it seemed like I swung to the other end of the spectrum, suddenly I could be done with a person and almost shut off my feelings for them. Is this common with BPD? Can fear of abandonment look like leaving the person before they can leave me and basically ghosting them? Becoming apathetic and almost feeling like they’re a stranger? It’s something about me many people have commented on or noticed over time. 

Thanks in advance for any help/insight on this.