**TLDR; I'm looking for resources (books, articles, talking points, anything) to validate my anxiety disorder to my mom who does not understand it and invalidates it.**

I had an incident recently with my mom. I was upset about something that's been paining me for months now, and she brushed it off saying "it's not a tragedy". This sent me into a full-fledged panic attack - I was breathing so hard it felt like I was choking when I tried to swallow because my throat was so dry; I had shooting pains down my legs so bad I had to sit down; my eyes were open but I couldn't see anything. She did nothing to help and instead threatened to call 911. 

Luckily my dad rushed over with a glass of water and rubbed my back, helped me stand up and get to my room, got my ativan, stayed with me until it kicked in, and then put me to sleep. Later, my mom doubled down on her stance and said it was "debatable" whether my dad did the right thing by helping me.

After a few days passed, I tried to talk to her about it. She acknowledged that things were different when she was growing up and the tone was very "get over it". She said a few things that upset me and made it clear she does not understand the situation at all. She said she struggles with the fact that I'm "completely debilitated" - which is not true; we don't see each other often because I'm in college so her perception is warped since I'm more likely to have panic or anxiety attacks when I'm home, partially because of her.

She said she'd read about it, but I feel like I should take charge and provide resources myself. I just don't know where to start. **What has helped you get through to loved ones who don't understand your disorder?**