I was recently diagnosed with bpd, like within the month, after suspecting it for quite a long time and while it is a lot to unpack I'm beginning to pick up on some of the ways it affects my life. Especially in my relationships, although while I am working on myself my environment hasn't changed and all the triggers are still there. By no means do I want anyone in my life to change because of my diagnosis, but how do I get them to consider it when something triggers me or even go about asking them to avoid triggering behaviours?

My sister has told me she's not my therapist when I tried to explain why I was reacting the way I was to something and went on to tell me not to act like having a mental illness is an excuse for everything as well as telling me I won't be getting special treatment for. I definitely don't think it's an excuse for poor behaviour, but I can't really control it most of the time and I don't want special treatment, but I don't want to be continously triggered.

 My partner (also fp) told me he wouldn't drop his entire personality and ignore his mental health for mine, saying my diagnosis doesn't change anything. I never asked him to change or sacrifice his mental health for me, but he does some things that trigger me often. 

How do I get them to be mindful? I'm really unsure how to go about it, and any tips would be helpful. I apologize for any errors I'm a bit shaken up right now. I hope you're all having a good day/night! &lt;3