Hello new here and looking for some advice my partner has been dealing with “depression” for about 15 years. He has been in therapy for a few years and today we found out that he is being diagnosed as having EUPD. We have an answer but at the same time it has not helped me. I have so much whiplash from his moods and when he gets angry it’s severe. Eg last night he smashed up the kitchen over nothing. He goes into moods over nothing, screams at me, says he feels like he is going to hurt himself then ignores my phone calls, disappears for hours on end. 

I always worry what mood he is going to come home in and feel like I need to walk on eggshells cause any little thing can set him off. He is constantly tormented by his thoughts that I am going to leave him and says I will all the time. He says he trusts me but doesn’t. Screams I don’t understand him. 

I don’t know what I can do to help? I myself suffer from CPTSD and have not been well for 5 years and the anxiety that his behaviour causes is unbearable. 

I love him but what can I do? Please help. X