a little back story...not great at writing this stuff so please bare with me.

I was diagnosed with BPD about 3 years ago and have seemed treatment sense for it off and on, occasionally giving up on a therapist or just deciding to stop. I was arrested for DUI this past April, through the court process it was stated that i need to go to a inpatient rehab facility for alcoholism. I refused and was dropped from the pretrial diversion program i was in. I did at the recommendation of my attorney enter into a highly respected out patient recovery program in the town I'm from. I spent 5 or so months in this program and successfully was sober for 3 months before i relapsed (this happened within the last month). During this relapse i lost my job as a result of drinking on the job and it was decided by myself and along with my IOP group that inpatient is in fact a good option for me, and the process is underway to get into a publicly funded facility (sense i lost my job and insurance) that will be about a month so its kinda useless to look for any decent job so in an attempt to stay busy along with odd jobs i can pick up I'm spending a lot of time at coffee shops studying alcoholism and general interests. One of the things I started digging into the last couple of days is my diagnosis of BPD. When i was first diagnosed i agreed and thought it made a lot of sense but i must admit i didn't do a lot of looking at how it affected me and what exactly it meant. 

In this process of digging into BPD (I'm reading several books (("I hate you- don't leave me" and "Borderline personality demystified"))as well as several good sources I've found through the books.) I am finding a lot of the things that I do can be better explained as a symptom of BPD over a symptom of alcoholism. (yes a part of me is convinced i don't have a problem and don't need IOP, but thats not what this is about). 

The therapist who runs the IOP group I'm in has been told i was diagnosed with BPD, the more i read into BPD the more i feel like he might not know exactly what that means. I have been trying to schedule appointments 1 on 1 with him and he keeps saying he will text me some dates and he has yet to do so. I am growing increasingly disappointed with his reliability and want to express this to him. I feel like he needs to be better educated on BPD but don't exactly know how to approach him on the subject. I really don't know exactly what I'm looking for in posting about this but i feel like i needed to vent. 

I guess for the sake of it I'll ask some more specific questions hopefully someone will have some inside into. 

1) Has anyone of you who suffers from BPD entered into treatment for substance abuse, how has it been helpful for you? 
A big part of me feels like I have yet to really address BPD in an appropriate way and I feel like entering in patient treatment without doing that will only be a waist of time. 
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