Lately I've been finding that my boyfriend of 3 years has been dodging any flirting that I've been doing with him. It's like when you try and flirt with your crush and they come back with a joke or something similar to diffuse the romantic feelings being tossed toward them. I can't talk to him about it because he always finds a way to make me feel bad for "souring the mood" by bringing things up that are bothering me. Every time I try to talk about things that bother me, he distances himself and says he's "always on edge because he is always upsetting me in some way or another". But isn't communication important in a relationship? It's not like I come to him and accuse him of anything. It's really just me going, "Hey what's been up lately? X has been happening a lot and I want to know how to we can fix it" or "I'm feeling like Y right now because of these things that have been going on". But he even dodges talks because he takes it as me blaming him for something. I don't know what to do. I'm physically and emotionally starved with him sometimes and I really don't know how to approach this subject without him pushing him away even more. I can't stand feeling so unloved and letting him think I'm ok just because I don't want to cause conflict.