Before my diagnosis and understanding my actions, I was a very manipulative person. In the moment, I didn't realize it, but I was very good at getting others to respond to my ploys in the way that I wanted them. After many failed friendships and starting therapy, I realized how my actions were manipulative and could recognize it (for the most part) in the moment. This has helped me actively stop it. 
The only problem is, I'm unsure of the healthiest way. My solution, especially recently, has been avoidance and complete removal from the situation. 

Feeling left out and extremely triggered when hanging out with a group of friends? Have the urge to get all the attention on myself to feel included and wanted, but in a manipulative manner?

 Just fake illness and leave. And now I'm sitting naked in the bathroom, trying all my distress tolerance skills so I don't hurt myself because emotionally I still feel like shit, but at least I didn't make it worse by being manipulative. 