For the last couple of weeks I’ve been trying to change my mindset but something just won’t click. I have 2 questions 

1, I find my stutter funny sometimes. I imagined stuttering during sex and almost laughed. Sometimes I look through the perspective of other people and almost laugh as well. For instance if someone’s leaving the store I work for and I tell them “haaaa-haaa-haaave a good day” it’s kind of funny. But when people give me a weird smile, like on the brim of laughing. I feel offended. But I want to be able to be ok with it. So my question is, since I can clearly tell sometimes my stutter is funny, how can I be ok if someone smirks or laughs at it?

And another thing. Some people I know make fun of people for random things, they don’t mean to devalue them or anything, but they joke about them. For instance at a Mexican restaurant our waiter was about to throw up because he was so drunk, and when he left they said “yo man I almost fell into the kitchen” in a Mexican accent. Another time they had a guy make a cake for them, and the dude is gay. And later on they said “honey, I have extra frosting, guess what we get to do tonight” in a flamboyant accent. They don’t devalue these people when doing it, it’s just a joke but when they’re around these people they don’t see them any different. But if anyone does this with my stutter (like if they talk when I’m not around and I later find out about it) I feel offended. I don’t want to feel this way, I want to be able to be ok with it. But I can’t help but feel devalued when it happens. How can I change this?