Hi all,

Does anyone else feel like they’re being emotionally used by loved ones? Whenever friends or family reach out to me it feels like it’s for their benefit. 

For example, a friend that hangs out with me when her best friend isn’t around. The person I’m in love with that is keeping me on a string whenever they “want to talk” or they don’t have plans with current SO they want to meet up. A friend that reaches out whenever they need a drinking buddy and don’t want to go out alone. An ex that pops in and out of my life whenever they have relationship problems. 

I have a ton of love to give. it feels like it’s not being reciprocated, if anything being taken advantage of. I want to believe they all have the best intentions but it’s not adding up. It’s like I’m the situational confidant but I’m not sure if I’m being paranoid. 

How do you decide if it’s them and not you? How do you reach out and tell them you need support too without feeling guilty? Should I say “f it” and just look out for myself from now on? 