I’m 21F and live with my boyfriend on a seperate house on his mom’s property in upstate NY (hudson valley). She just told us yesterday that she plans to list the house in around 6 months or so. I’ve spent the past 24 hours crying and researching every state around and looking at Zillow. I just started to figure my life out after being extremely agoraphobic. Not even 3 weeks ago my therapist switched me to biweekly because i’ve been doing so well. I started to instacart a month ago in order to get myself a little bit used to working but I am not ready for a 40 hour scheduled job, but I don’t have a choice. My boyfriend and I have 3 cats, a golden retriever, and many other small pets. Renting is expensive up here and there’s no way we’d find something where we can keep them and we will not part with them, they’re family. My bf is about to be 26, so moving away doesn’t scare him too much but it petrifies me. I’m still so young. My entire family, friends, his entire family, everything i’ve ever known is here. I feel too young to be a home owner, but I wish I could afford a home here so I don’t have to leave everything behind. We’re looking at homes under $200,000. We could afford something down south, but I can’t stop crying because I don’t want to be that far away. But every surrounding state is so expensive. Ny, nj, pa, ct. Even Maryland and Delaware don’t seem like viable options. I have no idea what the taxes will be like in any of these states. I’m not ready for this. I just need somebody to give me some sort of advice that’s going to ease my mind. I’m usually asleep by 12 and its 3am, i’ve been crying and researching for hours.