I am starting a relationship with an amazing guy. I keep going from idealization to fear of him never being able to settle down. I am able to pull myself back away from idealization because, I’m able to talk openly about it. The future thoughts not so much. I’m really trying to go with the flow of this relationship but, the abandonment issues keep flaring up. I logically feel that if it doesn’t work out I know we will have a blast while together. Just would like to know how others here deal with not becoming overwhelmed with thoughts and fears of the future.