I belong to a group online that's made to find out if guys you are dating are players or not. 

As this day and age, you never know. And I wanted to see if anyone knew him and if he had a partner or had kids because everytime he had taken a photo there were kids toys and stuff in the background and was basically just making sure I wasn't getting myself into hot water because I can't afford to waste time at my age if infact he is a cheater. Which I'm not saying he is, but Id rather be safe then sorry.


I then got told off by admin. Told I need to grow up, shut up, and not to date anyone if I don't have trust because I'm not ready....


I only just started dating this dude so how am I meant to trust him straight away? And why am I being shamed in a group like that? I don't feel I was doing anything wrong or should have been put down. I Just needed to vent my fustrations 🤦