I spoke today with my therapist about the idea of me having kids in the future. There are many reasons that scares me, majority of them mental illness related. Something my therapist reminded me of - that I thought might be helpful to share with you all - is that **BPD is not genetic.** 

Having a child does not mean they will be borderline. If I raise them in a selfless way, if I live the life I want to live, if I give my child support at home and make sure they have the same at school, **they will not be grow up to be a borderline adult.** 

The important thing is to make sure you are having a child for **selfless reasons**. Not to have a friend, not to have someone as a caregiver later in life, but in order to give that child a good life.