i have bpd and my partner does not… as far as we know. he’s known since we started dating that i have bpd and he accepts it but i told him it’s not a “manic pixie dream girl” kind of thing. oh not to mention we both have drug addiction issues so that’s really the cherry on top. luckily we met each other sober and we’re sober together for a long time with slips here and there. we’ve been together for 2 years now, we’re engaged and we relapsed recently and this is the longest we’ve been getting high (4-5 month). but drugs really just magnify my bpd and even sober there’s been instances when i’m having a mental breakdown and he sits there quiet. i have to beg him to hold me while i cry. sometimes he’s great about that, but some days i don’t think he’s capable of empathy at all. i’m struggling so bad right now last night i was crying and the whole time he’s putting his stuff away and walking around and i told him i feel like dying and he said “oh don’t feel that way”. then i snapped and was like how can you think our relationship is okay or that you still treat me good high when you don’t even notice i’m crying??? and prior to this he’s always asking are you mad at me are you mad at me are you mad at me? and every time i say no it’s not you sorry i’m quiet i’m depressed. same shit this morning are you mad at me are you mad at me? do you hate me? no dude i’m fucking dying inside. and i always reassure him i’m not mad at him and i’m sorry my depression makes it hard for me to show him the love he deserves. like i cant shower i can’t eat… and anyways when i tell him it’s my depression and that i hate myself he says okay i just worry you don’t love me….. like wtf!!!!!???!!?