I've found that some of the most helpful books for dealing with my BPD have had a 'new age' or spiritual tone to them. While I do read up on dbt skills ~ I've also been reading alot of Eckhart Tolle and I'm surprised by just how much I have mellowed out as a result.

I wouldn't consider myself a spiritual-thinking person and these kind of books wouldn't usually appeal to me at all.. but I can't deny how much they have helped me.

I read 'Buddha and the Borderline' recently and saw similarities in her story. 

Am I alone in finding books like this helpful when dealing with bpd?