That may seem like common sense and it may also seem that it's not a huge accomplishment. I feel like as someone with BPD, this is a huge win.

I've known this guy for about a year now. We started talking a lot after we randomly called one night and the conversation lasted 7 hours. We have the same views on almost everything and we had the most amazing and most intellectual conversations. He also struggled with mental illness and it felt good to know that someone understood me.

The biggest issue is how he would randomly ghost me sometimes. I'd always get upset and cry and blame it on myself. It would get to the point where I wouldn't get out of bed or I wouldn't eat and it was really difficult. One night I even had a panic attack and he wouldn't answer the phone to calm me down (the panic attack wasn't related to him, but he's the only person I could openly discuss my mental illness struggles with). He told me that he was too busy and couldn't deal with it. He rarely even saw me in person because he cancelled every time we need plans.

It really sucks and it really hurts because I care about him so much and I wish so badly that it worked out with him. I guess I finally had to do what felt right for me.