Hey! Trying to help my undiagnosed bpd bf whom I love very very much. He's not doing well at all mentally, or physically. He has been on klonopin for many years and is now off. He switched to Xanax (not a good move) and is coming off that too. I truly believe this is a combo of the withdrawal and supressed symptoms so he is basically flipping out on every1. Just looking for insight if a) anyone is on these b) anyone has tried to come off them with bpd and how that was.

His sister seems to have convinced him to go on a mood stabilizer that helps her, but he cant get in with his doctor and even missed his appointment bc he is so nervous/confused/upset. I try to help but bc he was volatile and actually very unsafe with me driving in the car I have to keep my distance now. I am a trigger, even though I haven't done anything but tried to help him. Just trying to gather information here. I'm very concerned. He will likely destroy our relationship completely, but I am most concerned about his wellbeing/his life. Sometimes he does listen to me. Sometimes not. I'd like to know as much as possible so I can give sound advice in his moments of clarity.

Please help. I am desperate. He says its worse than its ever been. But seems to not be able to realize this is the only time hes ever been completely off his meds. He is beyond reason often times lately. He's 46 and alone in his home very isolated.He believes life will always be like this is aches to die. He hates himself. I'm extremely extremely concerned. He is lovely when hes not flipping out, and has so many wonderful qualities. He could be a great blessing to the world if he could heal and I believe he can.