I don't have bpd, I'm here because a guy I'm seeing (nothing serious yet, we're just getting to know each other) has it, and I wanted to learn more. Not that I wanna fix him, I just wanna understand him! But now, tbh, I'm feeling paranoid and I'm questioning everything :( . He's a pretty interesting guy but if this is going to hurt him I don't want it! I don't want him to get attached to me cause if things don't work out, it's gonna "destroy" him apparently.... 
Please tell me about your positive/negative experience, I want to know what I'm getting myself into