I'd ask if I'm overreacting but I have BPD, we're always overreacting. anyway, this guy I met in a FB group that I moderate, we started semi flirting and it turned into adding each other and talking more. it's been occasional messaging but nothing too deep yet. he told me he'd date me if he lived closer (he's in New York, I'm in illinois). anyway, he told me he had a gross experience. I asked, kind of jokingly, "did someone else flirt with you?" and he said "sadly yes". understandably, my heart sank. then he tells me "no but seriously, I was cleaning my mouse and it was gross". so he lied. he said he only said yes to the flirting thing to "mess with me" and I was furious. he knows I have BPD, I'm not sure he knows exactly what it entails. I told him it upset me and he apologized, sort of. but I'm not interested in talking to him. not for a while. if ever.