Long story short im 24 and in a loving 1 and a half+ year relationship. There was a time when i really thought i need to perform at my best and not that it didnt happened i also wasnt able to perform at all and ruined the rest of the days too. After every unsuccessful sex i broke down crying. 
Nah my mental is not the strongest so stupid me spiraled it down into a bunch of am i really in love/attracted am i gay etc. went into a 24/7 thinking mode that fried my brain and since then we met 3 times with progressively more crying from me. I just cant function. We gonna meet this weekend and im honest to god really scared. Now she been dealing with my anxiety bullshit for almost 2 months now with no progress. So crying in her shoulder this time too is out of the question. Did anyone ever experience this?