Today my therapist was shown a snippet of my diary in which I wrote down that I had been splitting on my boyfriend at the time. She asked me what I thought splitting was, and I told her that I saw it as the moments where I disregard and hate someone, see them as nothing and like I don't need them or want them (and that they feel the same way towards me), usually because they did something that upset me. She said that this was untrue, and that the splitting definition is actually where you manipulate another person and act differently towards them to get what you want. She then told me to stop reading things on internet forums because they are full of rubbish.

I'm not really sure what to even call my "splitting" now. I go from hate, to love, over and over again. I don't know. Any advice?