My partner and I have fights every now and then. He likes taking a day or so to cool off and I am the complete opposite where if we are arguing I would want to resolve it immediately and not go to bed upset. I fear I am close to pushing too far and may be past his breaking point. I can realize when calm and not having a episode but It’s very hard to do in the moment.

He told me 99% of our fights wouldn’t happen like they do if I just stopped pushing and just let him go to sleep. I struggle with this because I hate feeling bad, it feels like death, and In desperation I want to not feel that way. but I need to stop my behavior immediately or he might be done with me for good. Does anyone have any advice on how do I cope when he is cold to me and wants to go to bed and I am left crying and feeling trapped with my feelings?