Hey guys, let me know if this doesn't really belong here.  I'm just wondering if any of you have any specific tips or ways of stopping yourself forming (romantic) attachments to people too quickly?  I've just been admitted to a local DBT program, and after a particularly nasty breakup, I've decided to put myself on a relationship ban of sorts, for the year I'll be in DBT.  Basically, I want my next partner to get the best of me, I'm not getting any younger and I cannot afford to alienate partners every few months.  I don't want to miss out on physical intimacy and the pleasure of company of the opposite sex in the meantime, so I've been casually browsing around on Tinder and having a few conversations.  Met up with a guy 10 yrs junior, in the context of a no-strings-attached drinks and chill evening, had a lovely intimate night.  Last night we hung out again and he stayed the night.  Now I'm stuck in a full on obsessive loop thinking about him, re-reading conversations, thinking of his voice and his skin and how I wish he was here.  What. The. Heck.  Is two dates all it takes to get under my skin??  I need some tips or skills I can use to dial this down a little.  I almost feel lovesick, but I know it's absolutely irrational and I want my headspace back.  Any ideas?