I’m tired of the few people who keep repeating this adage that bpd people need to fix their relationship because they are the problem and they will regret losing someone special. Not everyone in a relationship with a person suffering from bpd is that “special someone.”
Many of us are stuck in a detrimental relationship because of the fact that we are needy and get too attached to people we don’t really love and never have, even from day one. Many of use have seen the red flags but ignored them because codependence makes us do stupid things. Many of us just need reassurances that we can live our lives independently without a crutch.