I feel like I am a completely self-centred person when I am sober but can have considerate thoughts if I've been drinking or smoking weed.  For example, I will be self-aware that I don't care about what a close family member is feeling but once I have alcohol or some other intoxicating substance I see myself acting like I want to help. When I'm sober I feel horribly uncomfortable when someone has strong emotions like sadness or frustration around me but that feeling almost becomes the opposite when I'm buzzed. Does anyone else have this and do you know why this is? It kind of worries me because I don't want to become an alcoholic or something. I had problems with narcotics when I was 17-23 and I don't want to go down another similar destructive path. Does anyone who can relate have any advice?