I have struggled with BPD since I was a child due to abuse. I have been going to therapy and really finding my own self, I've made many great and long friendships, I'm very much more independent. I really like this guy and we have been talking for more then 6 months, I'm really scared to tell him i struggle with this mental illness, he is aware that I do get disability for mental illness but he thinks its just about my ADHD. I've read many things about dating people with BPD and it makes me feel like I'm just an awful person, I genuinely want what's best for him. I'm not sure if I should explain to him about  the problems I have. I don't wanna scare him away either though, I FEEL LIKE BPD REALLY DEFINES ME AS A PERSON NOW AND EVERYONE GENUINELY SEES ME AS SOME SELFISH, UN-EMPATHETIC PERSON DUE TO READING INTO MY DISORDER. I've never felt this way about someone, I can be my true self around him but is there any advice on dating when having bpd?