I’ve been with my SO for a while now and day to day I notice that he has many symptoms of BPD. It took me a while to figure out what he could have but he seems like a textbook case. I’m not trying to diagnose him with anything but he hasn’t seen a psychiatrist to get a proper diagnosis which is what the problem I’m having is.

One problem is that he refuses to acknowledge that he even has something wrong with him. I’ve been really gentle and delicate about bringing up the topic of mental illness with him because I understand it’s a difficult subject to discuss with someone you love and I don’t want him to feel like I’m accusing him of anything. But at this point his issues are becoming really hard for me to deal with as well. I have bipolar disorder and his mental health takes a toll on my mental health too and because of this it’s affected our relationship too. 

He refuses to see a psychiatrist or get therapy for his issues. Firstly because he doesn’t recognize he has anything wrong with him. I feel like deep down he might be dealing with a lot of issues and I love and care about him so I want him to get the help he needs. Not only for me and our relationship but also for himself too. 

I had the talk gently with him numerous times in the past he seems to say that ok he will look into it but he never does. It’s gotten to the point that it’s become really hard for me to deal with and I tend to loose my patience these days. 

Is there anything I can say or do to convince him to get help?