My partner has BPD, I’ve also been diagnosed with PTSD from being raised by a narcissist. So as you can imagine our relationship can get pretty toxic at times. He hasn’t had any therapy or anything but is starting to come to terms with having BPD. 

I just want to some advice of how I can make life easier for him? It’s a bit difficult at times because he’ll use some manipulation tactics that my mother has used which can trigger my PTSD but once I’m having an episode he is very empathetic and understands what he did/said is wrong. He will do anything for me and our kids and has the biggest loving heart but I see him struggle with himself a hell of a lot. I can see how much he hates himself and thinks people don’t like him (including me). He has quite bad abandonment issues, he thinks one day he’ll come home and I won’t be here (which will never happen). His temper and how quickly he can fly off the handle is becoming a real issue, is there anything I can do to help this? I try and talk calmly and tell him it’s just his BPD and not anger from what is actually going on but I don’t think that actually helps.