I've always blamed this on me being an introvert, but lately I've noticed that I'm usually very excited when other people ask me to hang out, which has made me feel very guilty towards my bf, because I know he's upset about me rarely wanting to go out with him. 

I told my therapist about this a couple days ago and she has helped me realize that this issue has nothing to do with my boyfriend, but with my parents. Growing up with a narcissistic mom, I hated spending time with my family and stayed in my room as much as possible. My mom would often force me to hang out with her/my family and I would feel uncomfortable the entire time. After moving in with my bf those feelings got triggered again, making me feel like I need to flee to my room as much as possible. 

I'm so relieved that I don't have any subconcious resentment against my bf as I had originally feared, but sadly this doesn't resolve the issue itself. I don't want to make him feel like I'm avoiding him and I hate that he's so sad about us barely going out. 

Does anyone else have the same problem? I would appreciate advice on how to deal with it. :)