Hey everyone, I’m still learning how to use Reddit. I could use some advice though. My (20f) partner (22m) suffers with bipolar disorder. We have been together for 5.5years now, and over time I tend to see how toxic our relationship was and how bad it mentally fucked with me. We also currently have a 6m old son. 

I have a real issue with setting boundaries with him, communicating with him, holding conversations with him, etc. because if the first 3 years we were together (after highschool he really grew up). 

Anyways, lately he’s back to using me as his verbal punching bag when he is having a bad day or gets overwhelmed. He’s not on medication (he self-medicates with dabs) and he’s not in therapy. Atm we can’t afford for him to get additional health care until we move next month. But just these past two days when we speak it’s an argument. Now I will admit, I am not the best person when it comes to reacting. I grew up in a really toxic household and am trying to unlearn everything still. However, yesterday he made a comment to my about buying myself books when he is struggling with $$. He then continued to be rude and act as if I’m never lending him $$, which he rarely pays me back for. Mind you we started the whole your money and my money thing because when we first moved into together he was never willing to help me out with bills or extras. I made $150 weekly at a restaurant and was FT in college. He made 4x what I make, and to this day still does. I left my old job to accommodate to him, and dropped down to a position that absolutely ran me down and had bo real income coming in. With doing so I blew through my savings in 6 months in order to pay my bills and such. After yesterday’s fight and post-talk, he continued to argue with me again today. He was overwhelmed from not having nicotine and he got really snappy towards me for asking him where he was. It turned overall into an argument. He keeps telling me he is going to get treatment when we move, but it’s not for another month and I’m not sure how much more of the daily fighting I can take now that a baby is involved. I guess this was more of a ramble, but I’ve only ever witnessed bipolar disorder and how it affects others. I’ve never experienced a day living with it, so I thought I’d come for some insight from people who have it themselves on what I can do to better manage his mental health issues. 


Just a side note: if you made it to the end I apologize for any rambling that possibly may be involved. I also apologize if this wasn’t the correct subreddit to post in, just trying to gain a little more insight.