I’m unsure about having bpd but I’m aware that splitting is a common occurrence. I tend to think in “all or nothing” terms but I’m not sure if what I experience would qualify as splitting. If someone does something to upset me, I’ll often disregard it immediately afterwards. It’s not until later, when I’m reflecting alone, that I become angry and decide confront the person. It’s often confusing to them because prior to that point, I’d be acting normal and friendly. I tend to take a long time to make my mind up (I have analysis paralysis). I don’t react until every detail is weighed against the others and the jury has spoken in my head. I wish I could just instantaneously react but I would rather not do without the extra time to contemplate. If this isn’t indicative of bpd (which I do show other symptoms of), OCD was another concern. I’m wondering which pathology this behaviour is likely to stem from.