I met a guy a few months back and it’s been great. I know he is a little emotionally unstable as well, though I don’t think he is borderline. 

This weekend he has been doing nothing but being negative. I tried to cheer him up a bit, but he just still seems really down. I figured maybe a little alone time would be better, but he insisted I see him and it was half and half. It felt like he was being condescending a bit and then he even had the nerve to call me annoying and say he couldn’t put up with me “but I’m beautiful so that’s why.” He was also drinking. This morning was alright too, then I was going to see him today.

I just had a rough day and then he was being really sad again in text and then started with the condescending messages again. I told him maybe we should just be alone because we are both in moods and then he lost it and told me he was crying and waiting all day to see me and that I don’t care about him at all, then went straight to “im done talking to you for the night.” I decided to stay home after that because it now feels overwhelming and I don’t like it.

Im spiraling and want to go show up at his front door, but I don’t think I deserve to get treated like this either. What do i do? This isn’t normal right? Also, im like 30+ and he’s older than me by a few years. It’s not a good look, imo.