I am diagnosed with bpd, and always when I read about bpd I see people saying, that people with bpd are abusive and hurtful and manipulative towards others...

I am mostly never hurtful towards my loved ones, at least not intentionally. And when a rare moment happens where I say something hurtful, I immediatly regret it and hate myself and start hurting myself as punishment..

Are there really more people with bpd that are of the type that is hurtful towards others? Or are they just more visible? Or are people just stigmatizig us without reason?