My boyfriend just left for our home town and I’m going to see him again in 10 days. 

Before he went away we struggled a lot because I can’t fully support him when he needs me. I really hurt him and he needs me to be close to him and reassure him sometimes, but if I see him struggle or in pain I automatically feel like shit and feel like I don’t deserve him. This usually turns into ME needing reassurance from HIM 🤦🏻‍♀️ (trying to change that!)

I’m going through phases of being okay and then having anxiety now that he’s away and he doesn’t text me frequently (but when he does he says he loves me and is quite sweet). I’m trying not to split and stay CALM. 

Can you guys give me some tips for self-soothing techniques + self-love? I want him to make the best of his vacation and take some time off and be able to take care of myself at the same time. 

Thank you in advance 🖤