I know I have bpd, but even when I display regular emotions such as stress, anxiety, worry, sadness not on an extreme level my partner can’t handle it. I basically have to be okay at all times or I trigger him and he gets angry and irritated with me. Like if I have a bad day I have to be fine or he gets mad for example. It doesn’t matter if I’m not taking things out on him. The thing is we live together, which makes it extra hard to avoid showing him how I’m feeling. Usually if I’m sad about something or need to cry I end up going into the bedroom to just deal with it on my own, because I don’t want him to get mad at me if he sees me crying and then put me down for being upset about something. When I had covid while pregnant this past winter and was laying in bed feeling so sick he couldn’t handle it and was saying things like, “is this how you’re going to act every time you’re sick?” I know his mom had much more severe bpd than me. I guess mine is “high functioning” because I direct most of my pain inwards, but trying to also hide it is so hard. I know I must be triggering him because of his mom and I’m trying to be empathetic about it, but I’m starting to feel like it’s at my own expense at this point. How can I help him feel more comfortable and be considerate of his triggers, but still be able to be me? I sucked it up and pretended to be fine in my last relationship too and it was killing me inside.