Hello all!  I have diagnoses of Major Depression, Social Anxiety Disorder, and "traits" of BPD (my therapist - our couples therapist thinks that I'm full BPD) I'm wondering if there are other men out there who are sex avoidant.  I don't relate to trope of BPD men acting out sexually in risky ways.  I'm more paralyzed in to not wanting to have sex because I'm afraid of being a failure in the bedroom.  Obviously, this is a huge point of contention for my wife and myself.  

Are there other men out there who experience this?  What do you do to help shut off the nervousness and allow yourself to be intimate?