I've read through a lot on here and it's really frustrating me to see people with bpd venting about something they have going on, something they are struggling with and then have someone who doesn't have it jump on and give some lengthy explanation. It always starts with an anecdote about how hard it was for them to understand or live with a SO or sibling and how hard they had to work to understand it and how much research they've done.

I have enough people in my life without bpd who I can get a lecture from about how hard it's been for them to deal with me. I appreciate people working to understand where we are coming from, but I think some people need to step back and think if it is their place to comment .....

Of course, it is the right thing to do to understand and to be there for people with and without the disorder dealing with this. But you will never understand fully what we are dealing with. No matter the amount of research or experience you have with people with the disorder, you will (hopefully) never experience it in your own head.

I'm getting kind of side tracked I'm sorry. But before you post some anecdote about how hard it was living with your girlfriend when SHE was going through her diagnosis, maybe leave that part out and just leave the supportive comment.

There are plenty of books, pamphlets, and communities for people DEALING with people who are borderline. I really need somewhere I feel comfortable to talk about my experience with those who have it and not worry about reading another essay on how hard it's been for someone without it.