I feel like every skills based therapy (which therapy isn't?) contains some form judgment even if it's not said out loud. Like you wouldn't be suffering all this time if you just do this; and most of the decisions you've been taking to cope with this were wrong, come here to show the right way you stupid sh**. And it really makes me uncomfortable, it's like saying I'm the cause (not me being born with Neurodevelopmental disorders that went undiagnosed) in just a nice merciful way.
This makes me think the part of validation in therapy isn't real or kind of hypocrisy or like when someone is going to criticize you and he starts with nice words first so you would accept. It's like the person doesn't really believe the validation he just use it pragmatically as a tool.
Maybe this has something to do with me not being able to differentiate between practical judgments and ethical judgements. I really don't know.