My husband’s family is going to stay with us for a week during Christmas. The last time someone stayed with us (for 2 days) I had a massive panic attack and I can already feel myself freaking out again.

I am always on edge when other people are in my home. I feel like my space is invaded. I’m worried about cooking and cleaning for so many people, and having enough alone time since our house is small. At the same time I don’t want to be rude or show that I’m struggling. And masking it is so exhausting! 

Plus there is a language barrier with his parents. I don’t always know what they are saying, even though I’m trying to learn. It makes me feel awkward, excluded, and stupid. 

How do you relax when people are staying with you for an extended period of time? I want this to be a positive experience for everyone without my anxiety getting in the way. All tips appreciated!