Disclaimer: 
1. Not directly referring to npd but instead narcissism in general

2.NO offense to anyone here working on narcissistic traits. I appreciate anyone here who is rigorously honest and working through narcism. Not trying to stigmatize anyone but instead seriously analyze the kinds of people I attract. My dilemma is I seem to attract narcissistic men. We usually have an explosive relationship. I usually end up idealizing people who exploit me…it’s BAD 



There’s one ex I dated 3 years ago that I’m having a hard time processing. He stuck around for 6 months and when I inadvertently asked him to show affection he noped out and left. He showed a lot of courtesy when it came to things like showing up on time and communicating intentions. But he had NO interest in being intimate with me. 

He didn’t love bomb me. But I noticed he would bread crumb his affections. Its like I valued the small times I felt validated and held onto them. It sometimes I felt like I was there to validate and have sex with him. 

I do resent him because he brought up another woman while we where together and I’m sensing it might have been a form of triangulation

I felt like there was always this bar of expectations and I couldn’t meet it.

I split on him hard when he left. When he left me he moved onto someone who was everything I was not. It KILLED me

Is it possible that I’m splitting on this person or was this a narcissist?