I'll try to make this brief as I am seeking more insight from you redditors than detailing this pain &amp; confusion. First true love of my life (in my 30's) was kismet, passionate and amber romance; I met the man I wanted mind, body (including first time I wanted kids) and soul &amp; he emphatically agreed.... until the holidays (no family for him &amp; abusive childhood) when the distance expanded. I'm not perfect and I have my past as does he which we both shared intimately. A rare argument over the phone (we live a few hours apart) escalated to stubborn and visceral hurts on both sides over the next few days. He "dropped me like a food wrapper which he does with anyone who hurts or affronts him". I kept in touch with occasional email or texts and holiday packages. He obtained protective order for 4 years (which he did with woman before me).
Has anyone had similar experiences? Denied closure and made defensive and shamed? How did you cope?
Of note; he has PTSD, ADHD, BPD &amp; h/o depression