There's been times I've messed up and it's understandable. It happens a lot with new relationships (both romantic and friendship) and that's whatever. There's times where they've obviously been a manipulative asshole all along and I was ignoring it.

But there's times where I'll meet some friends and everything will be going all right for months. Then for absolutely no apparent reason they'll start to only answer my texts with very short messages, less and less often, then stop entirely. Suddenly people are "too busy" every single second of their life, apparently too busy to even text back. Bringing it up never goes anywhere; either denial or (even worse) "I'm sorry I still want to be friends!!!" but keeps making absolutely no effort to talk or hang out.

Now I know I'm prone to thinking friendships are closer than they really are and I'm also prone to being clingy or overwhelming but I'm not always. Generally while the relationship is stable I'm likeable, under control, and a decent friend. Fuck nobody's perfect. (Side note: my erratic behavior

But maybe I'm really not under control or a decent friend. Maybe I'm doing super rude or problematic shit and not thinking it's a problem. Nobody ever tells me anything so... But if it's bad enough to earn a sudden cut off I think I'd notice something like that. And from virtually every single person I meet? Whhyyyyyyy