My ex gf checks a lot of the boxes for QUIET BPD. Internalizes all emotions and cut me off so easily after two years of dating and having the best connection. She also has a lot of depression and so many childhood traumas that she isn’t exactly aware of/healing from. She broke up with me one month ago, but immediately asked me to be friends. If I triggered something in her to abort the relationship, why does she want to be friends so badly? She reached out a few days ago, expressing her love and how much she cares and misses me. Asked me to hangout… then two days later, she asked about hanging out but was much colder towards me about it. Said “I thought it would be nice” and then kept saying “we don’t have to.” At the time, I wasn’t aware that she may have quiet BPD, so I got a little upset and told her she needed to stop using me as an emotional safety net to which she got defensive about. Someone with quiet BPD, please help me understand more. I’m trying to hard to research this as much as I possibly can because I care about her so much…