Hi all, I’m looking to see if anyone has had a similar experience or can offer some insight/tips. 

My fiancée has had chronic self comparison issues to others and it really takes a hold of her leading to anxiety and depression. She has always compared herself to others and never feels good about herself. 

No matter what I do or how I try to help it never seems to make an impact. It has been with her for a very long time, even before our relationship (7years long) so I haven’t been expecting a quick fix or overnight change. 

I just need some perspective on ways I can help her and even change her mindset. I find myself at times sacrificing my happiness in order to help her which is very draining at times. 

For example, everytime I receive a raise at work and tell her she loses it.  She then goes into an emotional wreck about how she isn’t good enough and never will be etc. Its got to a stage now where I am anxious (I have social anxiety anyway) to tell her about any achievements in my life as I am worried about how it will impact her. But at the end of the day she is my partner and if I hold it back from her then it’s also a problem. 

I love her to bits and she is my life. All I want to do is help her and support her. So please, if there is anyone who has can offer advice or experience please leave a comment. 

Thanks in advance!