Let me start by saying this is my first post and I have the best partner. We’ve been married over 5 years and have 3 kids. And he supports me in everything and would never intentionally punish me for having anxiety. 

But alas, I feel punished. I have anxiety and it obviously plays out in the things I say and do. Then he turns cold. 

Just now, I was feeling anxious about things happening at home (birthdays, sick kids, managing all the appointments) so I told him as politely as I could that I would appreciate his help with the minutia of parenting. He said okay. Quickly thereafter, he mentioned he was going to take my car to run an errand because it was already running and I said, “please don’t take my car” because I also wanted to run and errand and I hate driving his car - I always end up forgetting something I need in my own vehicle. He immediately turned cold and wouldn’t say a word. I am left feeling like I ruined his day. 

TLDR: I have anxiety, my partner shuts down. I feel shittier (more anxiety).