as someone with mental illness myself i do understand that someone can have all the support in the world and still not wanna get better… i know the onus is on the sufferer to get better. but it’s so different to actually see someone you love, not just yourself, suffering with mental illness. he is in so much pain everyday and doesn’t feel like he can or even deserves to feel better. he beats himself up for having so much anxiety and i try to debunk all his negative self talk but i don’t think it gets to him at all. i hug him at least once everyday, i talk with him to distract him, me and my other family help with housework, and in general i try to show him that he is important and loved. i know he has so much mental turmoil but i feel terrible seeing him not moving and barely eating every day because he feels so shitty. are there any ways i can encourage him more? make him feel more loved? i asked him this actually and all he said is that he wants me to keep being me. which was nice, but i feel like he said that out of his aversion to asking for help, as well as his shame surrounding his condition. i know i can’t magically make him feel better but i want to be more supportive yet he won’t tell me how to be, because he feels ashamed. :(