I was told when my boyfriend broke up with me that he felt some of the conversations we have felt emotionally abusive. But I don’t understand. I did everything I could to communicate properly. I always took accountability for when I had an emotional break and cried all over the place. I never yelled at him. I never belittled him. I never raged. But I’m just stuck with this thought of what if I was? I was emotionally abused myself and what if I just continued the cycle and I just can’t see it? I did everything I could? 

I tried looking up tips or some clarity but you know how it is. You look up BPD followed by anything and you find everyone talking about how abusive and disgusting we are as people. I need help.