  I’m not so much looking for advice as I would like to start a dialog and conversation. I will preface by saying that I am in a relationship/coparenting with a BPD/PTSD partner.  Me F, He M.  He’s quite a bit older than me and the entirety of his mental health situation took several years to unveil itself. I suppose, my biggest concern about folks with BPD, and especially considering the kind of trauma that is associated with creating such a personality type; is it ever possible to get to a point where they are okay and somewhat confident with themselves?  It appears that a major factor in this disorder is the need to not just be excepted, but to seek out a type of above all else niche that I don’t quite understand. Sometimes I feel like I’m a jerk, and sometimes I feel like he’s a self grandiose egomaniac.  I get at a deep level that he’s trying to overcompensate... even challenge me to prove my love so he “knows” I won’t hurt him. But for a self assured introvert like myself I really find it aggravating, and on top of that the extra crises that are always thrown my way are exhausting.  Maybe I’m not on the right board but I didn’t readily see one specifically about partners with BPD.  I know many people just give up and complain about current BPD partners that make their life hell, or past ones they regret.... or people with BPD ruminate and wonder why they drive their loved ones away. Maybe we can have a conversation that brings understanding to both sides?