so i just got diagnosed about a month ago, and it was about two-three weeks after that i actually got to talk to a professional (my therapist) about my diagnosis because my psychiatrist (the one who put the diagnosis on my sheet) didn’t even tell me that she had diagnosed me with something new. so i started joining facebook groups so i could like interact with other people who have been through/have similar diagnoses as me. anyway, like, i feel like a lot of the bpd groups are just like circle jerks and i don’t see how any progress is made by everyone just saying like “i’m so sorry you did this as a result of your bpd” instead of giving insight on how to correct your behavior or telling you that yes, you can mess up, but that doesn’t mean you can use your disorder to excuse your actions. it’s a matter of learning what toxic/negative behaviors we exhibit and correcting them, right? i just don’t want to fall off the deep end and get into a cycle of glorifying or over-excusing my behavior with the justification of my mental illness. i don’t think it’s fair to ourselves or others around us to act like we’re infallible. am i overreacting with my frustration or are my concerns warranted?