Narcisism/BPD is simply diagnostic criteria, I.e a set of behaviours. 

The big scary N/BPD label plays a huge roll in adding mass to the mythos of this person, this human-being in question. It subconsciously elevates or highlights them In our brains wether we like it or not, it stamps a huge glowing flashing red light on them that captures our attention even MORE than their manipulation alone.

We pour our libido, our energy, our life force into the mental image of these people, map them out in our minds out of fear, out of burning love, or out of burning hate. We attempt to understand them, to figure them out, to reinforce our shattered self esteem with a thick armour plating of understanding of WHY. We learn their ways so deeply so as to never be hurt again, hurt by the all mighty N/BPD!!! OoOOoOooOo!!!

We lug this heavy bulky neurotic armour around, these scrawling twisting mental chasms of understandings of a person who even they themselves have no idea who they are! All the wasted Neurons! Every day just burning through our grey and white matter trying to capture what is essentially a paradox of a person…

…and the mythos grows ever more.


They are just human. Uglier than most, but still just human. Remember that :)