What about when they can't?

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/stop-walking-eggshells/201409/the-faces-male-borderline-personality-disorder

I understand the legal necessity of not allowing "internet diagnoses" but what about those of us who have tried to find help and can't get it because we're male?

I'm not motivated to go see another therapist because they've been wrong, over and over, and the article I just linked (and several others like it) tells me that there is a likelihood that will continue. Saw a new one last week and within 15 minutes he decided that I was "probably OCD" even though I literally fit ALL of the criteria for BPD with flying colors. I was furious. Sat through several hours of paperwork and other such bullshit, for this guy to dismiss my concerns in minutes.

This is not something that I've just googled and think it fits. I've done extensive research on the subject and tons of introspective evaluation about why I am the way I am, and I know exactly why. In my experience with therapy, they take some time trying to get you to that point: to figure out why you are the way you are. I'm already there, and the causes are obvious and typical for people with BPD. Early childhood abandonment, followed by years of abuse from the remaining parent, self-harm, and suicidal tendencies and attempts.

I've been unable to find the help I need and at this point, it seems very likely the trend will continue.

And I'm not entirely sure why I'm posting this here because I don't exactly think it will be helpful. Impulse, I guess.