i’m trying to figure out if this is a BPD thing or more of an anxiety thing.... an example that comes to my mind is about a week ago, i was hanging out with my boyfriend and my best friend who is a girl was having a party and wanted me to come (we always hang out and smoke/drink together), and a good friend who has been estranged but who i had recently reconnected with invited me to her boyfriends house. both of my friends were constantly messaging me asking me to please come over, but my boyfriend really wanted to stay in. for the life of me i could not discern what I wanted to do in the situation. i debates it for about an hour, texting both of my friends and talking to my boyfriend but what i wanted never got any clearer.  it got so bad that i broke down sobbing because i thought whichever one i chose to do, the other 2 people wouldn’t like me anymore and would never ask me to hang out ever again. anyone have anything similar???