Hey,

i have a friend who has BPD. I don't think anyone knows because she's highly functional.. was never diagnosed but she thinks so herself and after knowing her a while and reading through information i agree. i know none of her other friends know it but i think most suspect that something is off. She once told me that, including me, only 3 people know but i'm not sure if that's a lie and i'm very sure that the other people are not in her life any more. I know it's making her very unhappy and unable to keep relationships.

I talked to her about treatment, i did research, i thought of arguments that might appeal to her, i tried breaking it to her gently, i told her id go with her and try to help her as best as i can but she doesn't want help. She is deathly afraid of going to a psychiatrist. She says she does not want to face whats in her head. She is scared she won't feel any more or something will be missing if she gets treatment. 

So... what made you go? Is there some argument i haven't thought of? What can i say or do for her to consider it? I am kinda at a loss here because i know no one else is going to help her and i don't know what to do any more.

Thank you.