my partner and I have sex a LOT and nobody has ever said anything. we’ve been doin our thing for months. my partner and I were getting super into it last night and I was pretty audible. like.. loud loud. but the apartment buildings have literal cement walls, and of course the door and windows were all shut. out of nowhere, someone comes banging on the door, not knocking, banging, mad af and starts yelling at us really aggressively. I didn’t want to look weak, so I laughed out loud and yelled back “you mad!” then he snapped back with “nobody needs to know y’all are having sex!” and then kept goin on and on with his aggressive shouting. finally I go “alright, alright” and he walks away talking under his breath.

also, I’d like to make it a point I think it’s super interesting he says “nobody needs to know” instead of “nobody needs to hear.” like maybe he’s projecting something?

anyways, my partner was ready to go out there and say something but I stopped him bc my anxiety was peaking like crazy! I care immensely what people think about me (I’m working on that) and people yelling at me and banging on surfaces are huuuuge triggers to my anxiety. I wish I would’ve let my partner say something.

what should I make of this?? should I feel embarrassed? should I not care? I felt so violated by his reaction I don’t even wanna have sex there anymore. I need help on how to cope with this. please and thank you!