This is a cross post with a derm post but I had 2 moles recently biopsed and I am an Asian female (21) with no history of skin cancer nor had anyone else in my family ever had it. I decided to go to the dermatologist because I watched a tiktok (yes I know, but it really triggered my hypochondria) she said all my moles seemed relatively normal with her dermascope exact for around 4 (I have many moles) I could only get 2 removed at the time and one was a pretty big one on my back and the other was a tiny mole on my shoulder both being darker/bigger than the rest. I had never even thought about those moles. The other moles I have had my whole life and they had never changed (not at least that I have noticed) The ones I had actually been concerned about she said were fine. I felt pretty good after the appointment as she said she wasn’t too concerned and I shouldn’t lose sleep over it. 

I had such bad anxiety I called the office back and she told me “it wasn’t screaming cancer but we just want it biopsed to get a closer look” this still didn’t help my fear, so I called my GP which told me my chances (including my ethnicity, age, etc) was so low I should buy a lottery ticket if I did get it. 

I just can’t help thinking then why do I have moles that need to be biopsed anyway? And the worst part is I keep thinking, what if she missed certain ones or didn’t get a good enough look at the ones I was worried about? 

She even asked me to come back in 3 months to get a check up done, I have heard of people doing yearly or every 6 months but i can’t help thinking does that mean it’s bad since she wants me back in 3? 

This was my first time ever being to a dermatologist and I just have so much fear actually getting any of my moles biopsed. I have not been able to eat or sleep at all because of the fear and I’m desperate for help I just don’t want to feel like this anymore.