im really not sure why i do this so please let me know if you relate.

i am very controlling of my home environment. i hate when there is mess and when people put things where they arent supposed to be and when people come into my home.

i hate when i can even hear people in my house.

when these things happen i basically have full fledged meltdowns. 

i live with someone and have had some issues with this. but ive realized that its basically my problem. im not sure why i am so protective of my home. ive lived with even more people before and i had meltdowns (to be fair it was over a longer period of time) because they would leave a mess in the kitchen. 

is that something anyone relates to? is there a reason why this happens? how do you deal with this if you deal with this?