My mother tells me she has been depressed for a while now (5/6 months). She was open about it from the beginning and I listened whenever she called or wanted to talk about it. The problem is she only ever brings it up after drinking or after an argument. She keeps mentioning that she’s had enough and would be happier if she never woke up. This of course sets alarm bells off and I’ve requested that she seeks profession help for it (this has been going on for a while now and clearly needs to tackle it professionally).       I’m awfully concerned on a couple of parts by all this. Firstly, I get struck down for saying that it seems to correlate heavily for when she’s drinking heavily, and that she needs to reduce or quit drinking. Secondly she seems to leverage it emotionally against me. I want to support her and listen, but there is often an emotional leverage that comes with it (for example, you need to do this for me. You need to do that for me).  Of course I really don’t want to exacerbate her situation, but I also can’t let it start dictating how I live or be used as a weapon for not being compliant with her strange requests.           This is a slightly unusual situation and I hope someone with experience with this can help me help her in a healthy way. But I need to maintain boundaries with regards to this help.