Is anyone out there actually managing to be in a healthy relationship after a BPD diagnosis?

All my relationships have been extremely unhealthy, and mostly abusive. Even when they've been good, I haven't been in a healthy state treating them as my FP and idealising them etc. I'm scared I'll never find anyone or be able to maintain a good relationship since my diagnosis. I read something about divorce rates being higher for borderlines?

Also, I do date sometimes, how soon do you bring up you have BPD with someone once it starts to get serious? 