Does anyone here have a fear of intimacy both emotional and physical, and are hesitant towards relationships?  


I'm nonBPD, and went through a confusing break-up where the woman was scared of getting emotionally close "too quick", seemed to avoid physical intimacy including kissing despite saying it was no issue, hated compliments and didnt believe them and despite being a couple for months, she seemed to avoid letting it progress past a point where we clearly were, even though we talked everyday and saw eachother. She left saying i should be with someone more stable, and when i said its okay shes fine, she switched it to no spark but kept telling me im dodging a bullet.  


This behaviour seems so different from what i usually read or hear about with BPD in regards to quick attachment, jealously and moving fast. I know there's a spectrum and i have seen some people speak of the compliment issue and not wanting to drag people down with their diagnosis.  Does anyone here have similar issues and could you shed some light on the behavior and reasoning.  
