This is my first post here. I hope there are a few trans/nonbinary folks here... Or at least folks who are open to this. I'm an assigned male who lives as an nonbinary fem and my BPD is bringing up a lot of stuff.

I transitioned almost three years ago and I've been struggling with being myself in relationships with men. I just want to be whatever they want me to be. It makes me feel so good to mould myself into the person I think they want me to be... In the moment, at least. I'm so sensitive to what other men want, I feel sometimes like I don't have an actual persona or core person. This leads to dysphoria and some bad coping behaviours from me. I want to be true to myself and to the men I date, but I can't seem to do it.

I guess I'm just asking if anyone can relate to this and if you wonderful folks could off some support/guidance.