I’ve met a few people with BPD but recently am taking more time to understand it, especially about the empathy side of things.

Recently I learned that people with BPD are thought to have affective empathy (you can feel someone else’s pain) but not affective empathy (the ability to put yourself into someone else’s shoes). 

So do you feel that you have cognitive empathy? And before you take an action do you consider how what you’re doing might make someone else feel before you do it?

I’ll add definitions to make it easier to understand as well. 

Cognitive empathy:

 - Taking another person's perspective

- Imagining what it's like in another person's shoes

- Understanding someone's feelings

Affective empathy:

- Sharing an emotional experience

- Feeling distress in response to someone's pain

- Experiencing a willingness to help someone