The title. My partner and I are currently in a weird situation. I know I have things to deal with on my own (jealousy, anger management, being more in tune with my emotions and communicating them to her) and I've been trying to work on those since we've been on this sort-of break. 

I want advice as to what a healthy relationship with someone with BPD is like. I want to show her that I understand, love, and appreciate her as a person. I understand the core foundation of a relationship is love and compassion in both directions, but what are some tips for allowing those emotions to express themselves, even when things are tense or uncomfortable?

I've been educating myself on BPD and how it affects her mind and thought patterns, and have found myself relating a good bit to what I've uncovered (particularly emotional dysregulation, viewing thoughts/emotions as reality, and a strong fear of abandonment) I don't say this to say I have BPD, but to say I can understand how she thinks, at least a little bit.

What more should I know about BPD relationships? What are the most important things to know about how BPD affects relationships?

I want to make my relationship with her work. She's one of the most important people in my life and I hate the situation we're in right now. I want to live the rest of my life with her, healthily.

Any advice is greatly appreciated.