Context is that I'm living with my parents. Have been for two years.

Sometimes my mother and I argue, or she triggers me, or occasionally I seem to trigger her. When she's upset she seems to do the whole splitting thing. Total black &amp; white. "We're failures" "You think I'm a horrible person" She's also threatened self-harm before, but not in the past two months or so.

Anybody else have a similar situation? I have encouraged her to see a therapist, and she finally (after like a year and a half) has one. I keep pointing out the all-or-nothing thinking, and today I finally said "I think we have the same problems, mine are worse, or I have additional problems besides them, but we do the same thing." Which was scary, but also holy shit I finally said it but also... how do I get her help? I mean, I get that I can't force her, I'm just so frustrated. It causes me a lot of suffering when she goes into the rejectionary reactionary mode. I am triggered multiple times a day and have physical symptoms from the stress I have been under trying to live with them for the past two years.

I am planning to move out as soon as I can figure out how to do so (given that I barely have a job and have anxieties specifically about holding onto housing) and I think the space will help but.

Anybody else see their own symptoms in their parent(s)? Can one like... catch disordered emotions from one's parents? I guess so, they're the ones raising and influencing your very first experiences of life.