I honestly thought that the pain I felt when I was getting over a toxic relationship was the worst pain I could ever feel, but I was wrong. 

A few months ago, I developed very strong feelings for a man whom I believed felt the same way. We were extremely close and talked extensively about the future. 

Then, one day, he just sort of… decided he didn’t want to be with me, and he stopped having feelings for me. That’s how he tells it, at least.

Like, it’s not just that he thought our relationship wouldn’t work out. He went to bed with deep romantic feelings for me, and he woke up feeling absolutely nothing romantic towards me. 


I have never suffered such a debilitating depressive episode in my life. It’s been a month now, and I’m still struggling every single day because my brain can’t understand how this man could just flip a light switch and stop having feelings for me. 

I am trying my very best to do the bare minimum and to move on, but the depression lingers. 

Does anyone have advice for how to move past this? I don’t know how to feel confident in myself again, and I don’t know how to trust anyone else. 

I just feel so hopeless.