I did this yesterday. I had been ghosted by my FP for 3 weeks. And the whole time I had been riddled with this anxious feeling and extreme down mood. 

I decided that the relationship is over-over. I can reclaim my mind and emotions now.

And I think that my FP deserved it. And maybe they were going through something. But, my being drawn to the kind of people that re-traumatize me is part of my problem. I need people who wouldn't ghost me for 3 weeks, knowing how it would affect me.

I spoke to my psychologist yesterday, too. He said it's not my fault that she ghosted me. It's to do with her mind and decision making process. There's nothing I could do. Feeling ashamed about it,  as if it is my responsibility to not be ghosted, is inappropriate. 

This links back to the childhood abandonment trauma, that I'd been blaming myself the whole time, thinking it's my job to bend over backwards to not be abandoned. That kind of thinking keeps me down, and keeps me with weak boundaries.

That "Good Will Hunting" moment of "it's not your fault" was basically that session. 

I often do this, I end relationships to ease that bad feeling I get. And I don't feel as bad about it or like I want the FP back, since realizing that them ghosting me says nothing about me, has nothing to do with me, is not my fault.