Does anyone get told they're exhausting? How do you stop? How do you stop being toxic? How do you be healthy towards someone?

[https://imgur.com/a/Ihom6We](https://imgur.com/a/Ihom6We) \- screenshots here for context. If you don't want to look at them you don't have to, just may give some background context.

I was getting on well with someone from fetlife for about a week now. I opened up after a few days and mentioned my history of emotionally abusing/harassing/stalking/manipulating/guilting people  (I felt I had to be honest) and so on. Then yesterday it got to the point where it was too much for them and they wanted things to be slower/less intense/nicer \[see pictures 1 and 2\]. 

Today I decided to google questions to get to know someone better , so that the pace could be a lot slower and we could just enjoy learning about each other. But now I got told it's too exhausting talking to me and yeah \[see pictures 3 and 4\].

How do I stop being so exhausting for everyone? I thought I was doing a good thing by trying to ask questions to get to know the person better, as that's what they mentioned they wanted. I did listen. NB:I didn't share the screenshots to victimise myself and make the other person the bad person (if anything, they're the one in the right, since ALL my interactions are like this and don't last long at all\].

 I just want some practical advice on how I could maybe improve? I thought the questions were a good step forward as I listened to what her worries were yesterday, but clearly it wasn't a step in the right direction and now they don't want any more communication with me. I want to be healthy towards SOMEONE but I'm finding it so difficult. Getting sick of being blocked by everyone I talk to.

Again, please no horrible comments .