I want her to be happy and comfortable with me, or as close to that as her BPD will let her. 

I've done some reading and have been lurking this subreddit for a while, and she's even walked me through her old DBT handbooks. Can I ask questions and talk to people here for advice or is there like a separate reddit or group for that? 

I really, really, really love her. I want her to be as comfortable and secure with dating me. And I want to know how to best help her when things flare up. 

Here's the kicker - I have aspergers. I'm a total social idiot. So I need a lot of help to treat her right and know what to do and what is an ok thing to say or do. It's a challenge but one I'm willing to do for her because I love her.