Myself (21F) and my partner (25M) have been together almost 4 years. We share a home together and a 2 year old. I was diagnosed with BPD about 1.5 years into our relationship and had never heard of it before then so was very new to me. I have established my biggest triggers are name calling and being laughed at (stems from childhood trauma). I’ve been EXTREMELY vocal about this to my partner as when someone intentionally laughs at me or calls me a name I get hyper emotional and it just gets messy.



Over the last year or two it feels like my partner is a different person. I feel like he has turned hateful or something. He calls me dramatic and ridiculous every time I’m having an episode and sometimes he even laughs in my face when he says those things and honestly just not being a very supportive partner, Ive been so vocal with him about how much these things trigger me and he continues to do it . When we first met, he was the sweetest, most amazing guy ever. He treated me like I was in a Disney movie and made me feel so loved and appreciated. I’ve blamed my bpd for his actions for so long, thinking maybe I am dramatic or ridiculous and then I just sit here hating myself because I wish I could just live a normal life, but I’m starting to wonder if maybe he is the problem. I’m still learning about my diagnosis and trying to navigate through life with it so I don’t know what to do, how can I be with someone who I have to beg to not call me names , or is he right and I’m just dramatic / ridiculous?