My brother has BPD. He is in denial of this fact and is refusing to take any real steps to help himself, like meds or therapy. He seems almost content to remain the way he is which, unfortunately for me, is unstable and prone to violent rages. He also self medicates with drugs and alcohol.

ANYWAY, I’m trying to be more understanding about his moods. I recognize that it’s confusing and terrifying for him. The problem is that multiple times a day he’ll have “mini rages” where he’ll snap at me or say something dismissive, rude or aggressive. When that happens, my whole mood is soured and I want to avoid him. I used to demand an apology before we could move on, but sometimes I feel like I’m doing too much and should just ignore some of his behavior, especially when all things considered it wasn’t a huge flip out.

If you were my brother, would you want me to address every single issue? Or am I not being sensitive enough to his issues?

Thank you in advance!