My BPD girlfriend broke up with me on Thursday night. This wouldn’t be such an issue if we and hadn’t built a life together for three years. Have a newly started career living and working together. And the fact that we are deeply in love and are each others people. And that she hasn’t been treating her BPD or speaking to a professional and skipping every other day of her medication. Or that she doesn’t have any money saved and doesn’t have anywhere to go so wants to continue living and working and living and being in each other’s space 24/7 until she does…

Will be honest, things haven’t been the best. We haven’t been the best to each other and we have not been the best to ourselves. But sure did try to my full potential. But yeah… 

Dealing with the supposed break up is one thing but on Friday, 12 hours post break up, she slept with someone she had claimed was just a friend, and then came home and came clean to me later that afternoon. And that she regretted it and that she wanted to get back together but that she had feelings for the dude. 

She then lied to me about the specifics and said they were no longer in contact and “told me everything”, but just told me everything I wanted to hear. 

I love her more than anything and I know (and she is also blaming it) it is her BPD acting out from lack of treatment but I’ve been begging for months for change and she refuses any form of treatment other than some medication she can self administer incorrectly. 

What should I do?