I recently got into a fight with this new guy that I started dating and things are getting pretty serious between us. Rewind to a couple days ago we are laying in bed and he said something that had hurt my feelings, I instantly got defensive and started insulting his appearance and taking huge blows at his self esteem. 

I have noticed that this is something I do in the past and through DBT I have been trying to work through it because I really care about him and no longer want to be an abusive person towards him. 

So we go to bed mad at each other and the next morning I feel terrible. I go to him and apologize for everything. I tell him that he is entitled to his resentment towards me 100%. I guess I feel like this has been a breakthrough for me because in the past I have NEVER admitted that I was wrong and have always defended myself and the hurtful emotional abuse that I had put people through. For once I am really making a change and I feel like I am finally seeing progress in myself and I am PROUD OF MYSELF.