It’s been over two months since I’ve spoken to my ex, someone whom I loved for five years. We only officially dated for a few months, but even when we were just friends, I was in love with him. I couldn’t even think about dating other people. 

I wrote about my process with no contact in previous posts, and I guess this is my last update. 

I made it through the worst of that heartbreak without doing anything stupid. I haven’t reached out to him at alI; I haven’t made impulsive decisions. 

I moved to my new apartment in a new city. I went on a vacation and had so much fun with my family. I’ve been eating healthier and trying to exercise more. 

And now I am actually falling in love. I can’t describe how weird this feels. It’s someone I work with (but we’re at the same level; there’s no inappropriate boss/employee thing happening!), and I’ve known him since March. 

But we didn’t talk that much until the past few weeks, and he’s confessed that he’s been going to embarrassing lengths to try to make me laugh for a while now because he wanted to “impress” me because he thought I was funny and cool. And he is so sweet and so cute, and we have a lot in common.

There’s no extreme baggage with him, something that was always a huge problem with my ex.

I just feel…. happy. Even if nothing happens with this guy, I’m okay with that. I’m proud of myself for how I have handled this heartbreak, and I’m realizing that it’s possible to just date someone without it being some huge, dramatic thing that hurts me. It doesn’t need to be toxic. 

So, if this helps anyone else going through an awful heartbreak, I wanted to share.