Hi. I've been posting on this sub for a while now and I really appreciate all the support I can get from other people on here. I have, however, noticed that if I bring up some of the more negative traits of BPD e.g. BPD rage, difficulties with my loved ones, etc, I don't really get support, more just judgement.

I notice that those posts are the ones that usually get downvoted and have less comments or comments telling me I'm being manipulative and horrible when I'm actually asking for advice to avoid that kind of behavior so I don't cause that harm to other people.

I don't understand how we can expect anyone else to drop the stigma surrounding BPD if we can't do it ourselves. We know that sometimes borderlines act in manipulative ways but that it's not meant to be that way and is probably entirely subconscious. We know that borderlines struggle with rage and don't feel in control when it happens and yet we're still being made out to be horrible abusive people.

When I post things about these topics I'm looking for advice and support to change my ways, not judgement on how I've already acted and people calling me abusive when I'm literally going out of my way to try and find help (some of us can't get help from medical professionals at the moment).

Idk if anyone else feels the same way about this subreddit but I'm just not sure how we can justify that reaction to each other when we wouldn't like a non-BPD person commenting like that...