I’ve been debating coming here and writing this but I’ve been laying in my bed dwelling on this so I need to do something. 
About a month or so ago my husband and I made the decision to move my (at the time) best friend into our home because she had been hit with some hardship and was faced with being homeless. 
  I have been friends with this girl for over 5 years, I loved and cared about here very much, however, the past year she had distanced herself from me. I could not tell you what I had done wrong, and I honestly (and surprisingly) don’t feel like I did anything because it was like one day we were talking constantly 24/7 then a switch was flipped and I wasn’t wanted around. My messages went unanswered, comments on posts ignored, life events happened that I had to learn about on social media, I was basically just another person to her at this time. During this year she had gotten into a relationship that was extremely toxic, but her being an adult I couldn’t force her out of it so I kinda just had to sit by and hope for the best. 
   Well some things happen and they move together across the country to her dads house, which did not work out because of how her boyfriend treated her. I had heard from her off and on because I had sent her this loooooooooooong message about how I was feeling about her treating me the way she did, and she was apologetic as always, but would soon fall back to her old ways with me, until she desperately needed my help. 
    After getting messages from her sister saying she was threatening to hurt herself, I reached out to her and she told me everything that had happened and how she was done with her bf and how much she missed me and wished she would’ve moved in with me back when she was supposed to (completely different story, bf kept her from moving) and I gave her support by offering to pay for her to come all the way from where she was at to where I was, about 950 miles. I had 200$ in my savings account that I loaned to help her, and guess what! I started hearing from her every single day like I was her best friend again. THEN a few days later she basically says her BF will still be coming with her, she was just lying to her dad so that she can stay at his house until she can get to my place. I am an anxious person and was put on the spot so I unfortunately agreed. 
   Time passes and now they are here! Not gonna lie, I was SOOOOO excited to finally get to be with my best friend that I had been away from for so long. The feeling I guess wasn’t as mutual as I had hoped once they got here. First thing she did when she got here was get online to make sure she made a new friend, and all I heard about was “Abbi this, and Abbi that” (Fake name). Like okay that sucks but whatever I can be okay with it cuz we are adults who have other friends, but then she would sit in my room and smoke up my weed, but then ignore every word I would say to her. And I mean every word. My husband even had to say something because it was so obvious I was being ignored. 
   It’s been about a month now and I’ve grown to absolutely despise her and her bf. Everything they do rubs me the wrong way and sometimes I lash out at them over something small, yk, BPD and all. They claim they are trying to find work but I find it hard to believe because so many places are hiring specifically in my town that if they were trying they’d be working, so not only am I being treated rudely in my house, I’m being treated rudely by people who I’m paying for their livelihood. I’m just so emotionally exhausted I haven’t left my room for 4 days because they are always in the living room. I feel empty and I feel very dark. Not to mention I had lost my FP a couple months prior to this. So thankful for my husband to be my rock but I feel like im slipping further and further into darkness about all of this. 

And I’m sorry if this is jumbled and hard to read I’m not very good at these posts cuz I end up over doing it or whatever and it sounds like a mess or whatever haha 😅 I just needed to really get this off my chest. I left out a lot, but would be willing to further explain to anybody willing and interested in talking.