Looking for advice on what more I can do to support my wife, who has had a difficult 15 months (involving many Section 136s) to keep her safe. She's fortunate to be doing DBT and is generally able to handle her emotions, but when unexpected trauma triggers happen, these can send her on a spiral for days that she can only seem to manage through binge eating or self-harm, and can escalate to something more serious. It's hard to watch her suffer and not feel like there is more I can be doing to help, or what I can be advising her to try when she's too overwhelmed to think for herself. She's only ever leaned on ineffective, harmful ways of coping with the distress.

I appreciate there is no good, quick answer to this and it's my own anxiety and loneliness from it that pushes me to help more, I guess its just hard to know what's the "right" thing to do. If she asks for space, is she pushing me away to make it easier or testing me to prove I care. 

And long term I want her to be stable enough to do the therapy work for her trauma but when distress is so intolerable for her, I worry about the risks of it.