I've noticed that my BPD symptoms flare up the most in my romantic relationships, and they do so very badly - it's such a destructive chaos for both me and a partner, one that leaves me with so much pain and embarrassment, and it's often just not safe for me.

Of course these things happened to me in friendships and work relationships as well but never in such a severe way. Does anybody have any explanation why it is like that? I imagine it has to do with the closeness but I wonder if anybody has any (bigger) theory about that?