Hi everyone, my youngest brother now 25 has been diagnosed a few months ago, but refused for a long time to take medicine or see a shrink. Loves to drink and smoke weed, he’s always angry - is however taking meds now. He refuses to let us (family) help him. He’s had jobs that lasted from 3 days to max 3 weeks, he thinks my(our)parents are enslaving him, and wants his freedom from them (to be independent). 

We all live in Brazil, but go to Europe every year, here he can earn a good living on any job, if he could hold it. My parents went back to Brazil today, he has a flight booked for tomorrow - if he goes he’ll have his own apartment in exchange of being sober, continue taking meds and by March next year he could come back and get a job if he was feeling better. 

He’s making my mom’s life a misery, she won’t stop doing everything for him - he calls her his secretary - and earlier today said he didn’t give a damn about her or anyone really, and hiding while showing his tongue afterwards. 

Should I forcefully put him in a plane, let him try and get his freedom? How did my mom act - continue helping or let him do his choices and risk getting worse?