 
Quick backstory: I’m a quiet borderline. Did DBT and got off all meds after being depressed for years and misdiagnosed. Was doing well, had twins and ended up with Postpartum Depression and Anxiety and had to go back on meds. I’m now starting to feel better. I also have a bit of PTSD from a serious incident involving one of my kids (I believe this may have an impact on my reaction to certain things).

I still struggle with anger. The other day a woman beeped at us to try to get us to turn left when it wasn’t safe (I live in an urban area full of aggressive impatient divers). After we turned she passed us and gave us a dirty look. I lost it! Rage rage rage! I gave her the finger, yelled every bad name I could and was boiling mad. I guess I was mad that she was so impatient that MY family’s safety wasn’t important to her, and this is where the problem lies. Why did I let this enrage me so much? Why did I make it about me?  Part of me wanted to get out of the car and punch her. 

I’ve realized this is part of narcissism which is a trait I hate more than any other. I’m not a selfish person in most senses, but I seem to take stuff so personally like this. I tend not to be a snowflake though, I don’t take everything personally-however there are times like this that I do. I want to understand why. I was bullied badly as a kid. I don’t know if that has something to do with it. I know rationally this woman was just an impatient bitch like 90% of the drivers around here. I would react the same if someone was rude to me in a store-basically if I see someone being a selfish asshole I get extremely angry. When I worked in retail angry customers drove me nuts because I couldn’t get why they felt the need to treat someone like shit over something petty. It made me mad that they felt it was okay to put someone down. I think this stems from me being bullied. 

These people exist and will continue to. Now that I have children I know these people will also target them. I need to learn how to effectively deal with them. I need to learn it’s not about me (again I rationally know this but seem to want to be the victim). 

Please let me know of tips to deal with this. 
Thank you :-)