Hello everyone.  This is my first post in this sub.  I was diagnosed with BPD approximately 3 years ago as a result of seeking treatment for a co-morbid disorder of anorexia.  I recently shared with my partner of 6 years that I had bpd, and since then, they had scoured almost every avenue they could find for resources, groups, and other support systems for themselves regarding the disorder.  Unfortunately, as a result of their "research", I find that he is essentially painting me with a broad generalization of the disorder, thinks he now knows everything that there is to know on the subject, and thinks he also knows every move I will make or every thought I will adopt in my head.  He has become controlling because somewhere in his research, he determined that "BPD people need structure and need to be told what to do".  I find myself retaliating more now by self-destructive behaviors, worse now than they have been in the past three years.  I feel like I've lost all sense of humanity now and instead of being a human being with a condition, he is now treating me like the disorder itself.  I'm seeking advice on how to approach him regarding this situation, and if anyone has been through this before, I would appreciate guidance on moving forward.  Thank you.