Ex girlfriend told me today our relationship was "toxic" and "abusive." Even as a person with bpd I know that is not true. She couldn't even give any real examples of anything that would qualify as either of those things. But this seems to be a recurring theme in my life and I can't figure it out. I don't feel like I'm doing anything that out of the ordinary!!! I have a lot of interpersonal struggles and a lot of pain and hurt but I would never push that onto anyone else. But people seem to want to paint me as this fucking villain. It makes it extremely hard for me to naturally progress into any sort of romantic situation. I don't understand how they work. I just don't understand. 