I’m in a constant state of questioning lately. 

I’m sure many of us can relate to this, but every single romantic partner you’ve had referring to you as their “soulmate” or “love of their life” makes it lose it’s meaning and makes me begin to question every aspect of the relationship. 


How can you tell? I know the sad truth is many of us rarely find long terms partners, and I’m wondering if any of you out there have some insight into how we who suffer with BPD can tell the difference between someone who truly loves us and is a long term partner, as opposed to someone who is just a figment and idealized version of themselves that won’t truly last.

I’ve been struggling heavily, it feels so true, so real, but then again, doesn’t it always? 

He feels true, real. Someone I could see a future with. But the doubt is always there.