She is the one to initiate 95% of our communication and is constantly texting me, every 2-3 hours at least, I'm basically mostly just replying to her texts and most of the conversation is about her. However, when she gets upset, she tells me that I'm pressuring her by texting too much and expecting her to hang out with me all the time (I call her for drinks once every month or two). She also goes on saying how she doesn't want to be my best friend, even though I never asked for that and I'm the only friend she has. Plus, I have an actual best friend.

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Is she projecting or something? Is she aware that she's not being factual? How do I even respond to this? Do I just ignore the comments and wait until she calms down? Using rational arguments seems to add fuel to the fire. Is she afraid of commitment? I thought BPDs are supposed to be clingy.

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She accused me a couple of times of pretending to be her friend and saying that I'll just end up leaving her like everyone else did. I don't know how to show her that I care without her accusing me that I'm the one being clingy.