My girlfriend. She has BPD, and the challenges both her and my disorders present in our lives is something we’ve decided to take on together. Obviously, first and foremost, these are matters her and I have discussed, but I’m a big believer in reaching out to any resources that good insight may exist in and come from, and I was hoping to find a community here I could post to regarding that. 

I want to keep it as vague and open as possible, as any individual instances that come up or exist in my relationship can be addressed by my girlfriend and myself. Rather, here I was hoping to find some totally general insight like: what might someone you’re with do to better support you if you have BPD? Also though, I do know she struggles with a lot of insecurity and fears that I will leave her, and I’ve found the balance between ‘space giving and not TOO MUCH space giving’ has been tricky to find at times, as it pertains to not setting off insecurity triggers. Really, it’s just that, in spite of what her insecurities may often tell her, I’m not going anywhere. I love this girl and she’s always going to have me. I just want her to know that, and I was curious if anyone had any advice on how I might let her know that in the best way I possibly might be able to. Thanks for taking the time to read.