Hey guys. 
Pretty early on I saw some traits in him and kind of expected he wasnt that "easy nice guy" he liked to tell me he was.

He hasnt been very open with me, but now that he sort of is (I think) It's been overwhelming. I agree with him that everything sounds very much like borderline. Ofcourse he will have to wait until therapy to get diagnosed, and we agree on that as well.

I have ptsd, doing therapy, and going in the right direction. Ive gotten help, starting from 10 years ago. 
I know how long these things take. Knowing that he is just starting now (and how difficult the relationship has been so far) I fear Im going to ruin myself again, staying in something somewhat emotional abusive.

Im not posting in bdp_lovedones because I dont find it very constructive, so I hope you can help me on what to do.
How can I be supportive without draining myself?
He has a big tendency to lie. Will that ever stop?
