When I was around 11, I was diagnosed with generalised anxiety disorder. But over the years (I'm now 26) I've come to realise that I'm pretty sure it's more than 'just' anxiety. 

I identify with a lot of the feelings that many people with bpd say they have. The intensity of emotion esp. With the constant turnover of FPs, feeling attached at the hip, the push and the pull in relationships, feeling agony over even the thought of separation, feeling paranoid about then cheating on me, feeling discomfort in stability and creating drama to feel more 'secure', a history of not being able/motivated to stick with jobs despite performing extremely well etc.

The thing is that I haven't acted in many ways that people with bpd report. I don't have suicidal ideation or intention, I don't hurt myself (only when I was in my teens), I don't have substance abuse issues (only binge eating, which is now under control) and i don't lie, cheat etc. I know these actions are highly individual though, and everyone's experience is different.

So I guess I identify completely with the emotions especially the feeling like I am dying when I feel uncertainty in my relationship, but I don't demonstrate a lot of the behaviours.

So I'm wondering, for those who were diagnosed later, how did you realise you had bpd? How did you get diagnosed?