I hope this BPD community is what I think it is.  
My daughter (BPD, 25) and her bf has 2 kids ( under 3) with her. She has one daughter that 5 that lives with her father (my ex).  They live with the bf mother. I live in a 1 bdrm apt.  Housing in this area is scarce. Almost impossible if you have bad credit.

I don't know what happened. I know what my daughter is like but I also know what my daughter's boyfriend's mother is like. I told my daughter not to live with anybody especially not the boyfriend's mother. I told her that she's only looking for someone who will pay her bills the moment that she finds a boyfriend she will kick you out or try to get rid of you.

2 years later the boyfriend's mother found a guy that will live with her to pay her bills. so now she's made it so the kids can't live with her. She's kicking them out January 1st which is in 2 days.

I don't know who to believe but they've decided that they are moving out in two days and they have no place else to move to. I've told them you cannot live with me this place is not big enough for 5 people. On the other hand she cannot kick you out.

it seems like every year I have to go through this. Where they have to move within days. They're not prepared they don't have a place to go to.

It puts a tremendous amount of stress on me. I'm going away in a couple of weeks on a vacation. I'm in the middle of my own divorce. And I'm learning a new position at work. I have a lot of overtime.

am I wrong for telling her that she has to clean up her own mess. She's 25 and she has two kids we both need to find a place to live that they're not living with somebody else and to stop putting everybody else in this position where they have to come in and try and save them?