Hey everyone! 

I'm a non and someone who has always been fascinated with psychology and how our minds work. I have OCD and learned about bpd after I was split black from my ex. It really explained so much for me learning about everything. I've studied a lot about dissociation and how abuse is often at the root of that, and really want to dedicate my life to helping people with abuse/trauma history (I am one as well). 

A main question I have, and I'm sure it's different for everyone because I know bpd is as diverse as everything else, but do you find that you tend to split someone black when things are stable and finally feeling normal? I main thing with me and my ex was that our relationship kind of began with both of us stressed out and just trying to make things work, often trying to do extravagant dates or whatever we could to de-stress. Once we moved in together though and she realized that I was here for her and there to comfort her, not going anywhere, I suppose maybe that's when the engulfment feeling takes over? What is your experience? 

I hope to learn more! Thanks for listening :) 