Why? This has just started recently and has never happened before. It's getting to a point where I don't want to ask them anything anymore. I'm a freaking adult and they are treating me like how they did when I was a child during the lowest point my of my life.

I don't even think I ask stupid questions. I just clarify what they said because I didn't catch what they told me. Then they answer me aggressively like I'm an idiot when they mumble under their breath like I'm supposed to have superhuman hearing/telepathy. I don't. Get. It.

I feel like they're constantly trying to break me down, and it's starting to work. For instance, they would ask for my input for a decision but they've doubted me so many times that I genuinely just go "I don't know." Because of this I've begun to doubt myself in all aspects of my life including those few where I used to actually be self-assured.

And this is all a cruel cycle: I do something the way I think is best. Someone yells at me for doing it wrong (whether or not I am wrong). Next time I make sure to ask how to do something as to not get yelled at. They get annoyed with me for asking in the first place because "it's obvious." Self-confidence goes down, which forces me to ask even questions for things I could normally figure out as to not get yelled at again. The questions then get "dumber" which gets them even more annoyed and so on.

All this and the standard gaslighting because my family is way too proud to admit when they're wrong (let alone APOLOGIZE), the hypocrisy that comes with it (ex. getting mad at me when I didn't pay attention to something they said because I'm clearly preoccupied with something, but when they do it to me they're completely justified and I'm just impatient) and assuming the absolute worst about me.

I'm having flashbacks to that awful time in my life where everyone I knew was always criticizing and/or bullying me. I'm reminded why I've become a bitter neurotic perfectionist. But why? Why is it happening again?