Just found out my mums been in a deep depression since we lost her mum over a year ago. She has always been on antidepressants, but since the death she hasn’t gotten over it, and is struggling. Found out from talking to my dad after a complete blow up argument that left me and my sibling crying and shaking from rage at her behaviour. She has a complete personality change when only having a few glasses of wine, becomes obnoxious and mean. She doesn’t drink frequently, couple times a week, but when she does, and she admits, its to feel numb or feel happy etc. ( she denies she’s an alcoholic, I say she is because of this?) 

I don’t know how to help, I can understand now going forward to be careful on what I say, and to shrug off any comments or actions she does, as I know that’s not really my mum. When she’s not drinking she’s the best mum ever, but the change is so black and white, I can only think it’s the depression and alcohol mix to cause this switch in personality? 

Now looking back on some past events, I can understand why she acted that way. Even psychotic moments, walking outside in the middle of the night looking for her mum after she passed. 

I believe she has just started getting professional counselling, but I want her to be able to talk to me about it, and address the reliance on alcohol, which she still denies.