Hi fellow borderlines! 

Essentially I was at a bar yesterday night with my friend who is convinced he has bpd without ever having seen a psychiatrist. I am, of course, supporting him in going to a doctor and getting things properly sorted out but he literally found out about the diagnosis a month ago and has already started identifying with it. What I mean by this is that he’s taking the diagnosis extremely lightly and isn’t really realising the weight of a diagnosis such as bpd.

So we went to the pub and as he is (kind of) friends with the guy I’m talking to they had a quick call, and as a reaction to something my friend said “oh well that’s just our bpd”. It usually takes me quite long to tell people about this, I’ve only known this guy for a month AND we’re very early in the dating phases. Since this, I’ve had to explain the whole diagnosis to the guy I’ve been speaking to so he didn’t just google it and see all the stigmatising shit, but now things are just weird, awkward and I’m reasonably sure he’s distancing himself now. Normally I would wait so much longer before telling people about this so I’m incredibly worried and don’t know what to do when someone so new in my life knows about this deeply personal part of me. I wanted him to get to know me before my illness. 

Any thoughts on this? I’ve finally met a great guy and this happens, so I’m not feeling great.