I (F 22) living with BPD am thinking of breaking up with my partner (M 27), though needing advice just in case I am over reacting. 

I suffer from crazy jealousy. I sometimes feel when there is another attractive woman he "flings" himself onto them (at least thats how I perceive it). I am highly sensitive to when he is just being nice or is attracted to someone and is more than nice, though he never needed to continue doing more than just flirt.  

I have made my boundaries really clear that to feel safe I really would not like him to flirt, kiss, or sleep with anyone else. He says that he's fine with not doing the acts of kissing and having sex so to say, but flirting is something I can't take away from him. He then added later that if I put the restriction of not having the freedom to even kiss someone on a night out then it takes away what it means for him to be alive and human. 

I don't want to force change onto him and stop him from freedom but nor do I accept the fact that he could MAYBE flirt, kiss and sleep with people even though I expressed it would hurt me.

Would love to know if I'm over reacting because of my jealous tendencies!!!

Thanks to you all x