I don't get a response from a friend and sometimes I tend to go into a spiral.   I will then analyze my past actions and think about what it is I said (occasionally in the past I would behave in an agro and passive way because I might take something someone said personally). In the present, I wonder "oh maybe I shouldn't have snapped that one time, and oh maybe I didn't seem as welcoming the other time we hung out." I have a lot going on in my home life, so sometimes I don't consider how I might be coming off as aggressive when really that's my love language when I can't communicate. Recently I have become lost in my thoughts and some days I am able to uplift myself. While other days I seem to take on spiraling thoughts when someone responds to a text of another friend and not mine. Why am I feeling unconfident and doubtful in myself over small incidences that I know are not an issue? What Can I do you guys, And I really need some advice? I used to carry the load easily a few years back, but now juggling verbal abuse from a family member while reaching out to friends causes me to resort to self-hate, doubt, and feed into other insecurities. Why do I constantly distort my perceptions?