feel free to ask for the others, but the relevant diagnoses i have contributing to this topic are bpd, cptsd, and anxiety.

i am an emotional vampire when it comes to the people i love. i don’t want to be, i hate being overcome with sadness and worry because someone else is having a hard time. it impedes on my own mental health and i need help finding a way to keep the balance.

i don’t want to cut people off and be apathetic; its very important for me to care. but i’m not much help to anyone, including myself, when i’m down in the same dumps they are. obviously christmas is right around the corner, and i’m starting to become a downer on my family because of my sponging. i don’t want to ruin their christmas.

right now my sponging source is this: my boyfriend is having an awful time right now with the holidays and his own family traumas. its been bad the whole month, but the past few days have been just terrible. of course hes allowed to be upset, but i need to figure out how to not be destroyed when he is.

since yesterday i’ve been a wreck, super broken and depressed. i can’t keep living like this forever. i need advice, please please help me