I have been in a relationship most of my adult life. 5 1/2 years. First real relationship. Lived together for 3 years. I have had mental struggles my entire life. Started new career and hit brick wall. Been in a mental rollercoaster for a month.

First real attempt at therapist this weekend. I am starting to narrow my symptoms in the meantime and I feel I fit in the BPD category.

Is it worth healing while in a relationship. I feel a loss of my identity and I never got to find myself before starting this relationship. I almost feel like cutting ties to start fresh and heal on my own, find myself. Love myself.

To make it worse I recently proposed. Does anyone have any relatable stories about being diagnosed/treated while being in a relationship? 