I joined the subreddit because I really wanted to find some REAL help and understanding from real people who love with people with BPD but it turns out the whole reddit is extremely negative and it just makes me feel shitty. (I don't have BPD but my boyfriend has it and I love him so much that i want to know the best ways to communicate with him and to understand the reason he does certain things) Its very stigmatizing against people with BPD. I know it can be frustrating dealing with people who have BPD but its insane just how overrun that subreddit is with just negativity and people bashing and making every person with BPD look like complete monsters. I can only imagine how hurtful it would be for someone who has BPD to come across this subreddit. That makes me feel like people with BPD are undeserving of love and happiness, unlike everyone else. Everyone has their issues and I know that someone suffering with this has just as much right to happiness and love as everyone else. It may be hard for them but they are ultimately broken people who need more care and less stigma. My boyfriend is a very sweet and caring person and he is deserving of all of that! Whether he has bad habits of how he treats people or whatever but he trying to get better. These are the same people think that the psychiatric world can fix people with mental illness quicker than preparing a fast food meal, and they should be cured with just therapy and medication but everyone isn't that lucky and there are a lot of doctors out there that don't give a shit about you if you're suffering from mental illness. A lot of doctors just want a quick buck and could care less.  The page is not helping get rid of the stigma and its supposed to be for the LOVED ONES of people suffering from BPD but it sounds like a fucking abuse survivor subreddit. Not everyone who suffers this is abusive. So I'm just confused why it's so negative and why they can't just talk about something other than abuse and the negativity that comes with BPD. Then when I say something to them, they all just say their ranting. But their rants are very negative and very stigmatizing to people with BPD. And all that talk about the negativity of BPD and people who are abusive who happen to have BPD is not helping break the stigma and ultimately is keeping people who suffer with this from getting the help the deserve because people just want to throw them in a box labeled "abusive" and "neglectful towards anyone's feelings". Its just horrible. If they really loved these people in their lives suffering with this, then you really should not be adding to the stigma that already causes them so much suffering. Go talk in a group chat offline where people can't see all of the negative posts because it's only fueling the stigma to see towards people with BPD, which is the opposite of helping their situation.
This is my rant on that subreddit