My significant other was diagnosed with BPD after a suicide attempt a couple of years ago. She is a terrific person and I love her with all my heart but it has been very difficult as you can imagine. I have a history of mental illness in my family so I am more able to understand treatment and how important it is. I have empathy for her I truly do. However, we have young twin children and they are starting to notice. She was physical recently and threw something at me that I had to duck to not get struck by. I have been able to make changes to give her more time for treatment and all that and reduce stressors around the house but it has helped very little I feel. She is in DBT group and individual and also sees another therapist. She is trying very hard and like I said I love her with all my heart but I can't allow it to spill into my children's lives. I know that's not possible but mitigation is all I can hope for.

Can someone give me some insight or just some kind words maybe? I don't want to make it seem as if I am judging BPD or people with it because I'm truly not. My family members have had serious mental health issues so I understand the struggle. I will never be able to understand BPD because I don't have it.