
Let me preface to say, I am so happy in my relationship. I’m 26 and he is 30. We have the most open communication I’ve ever had with someone and I can tell him all about my anxieties and worries and he strives to understand me and just listens. It’s been so amazing to be with him for the past year.

I have this weird thing where my anxiety in relationships usually only gets bad when I’m further into the relationship. My last relationship was about 2 years and it was honestly perfect until at the end I found out he was married to someone else and I never knew. So talk about trust issues.

I was single for 2 years after that to work on myself and go to therapy. I healed quite a lot, but I’m noticing now, a year into this new relationship that I have chronic anxiety when my partner is away from me. 

He’s in Vegas for a guys trip and coming home in a day and a half. Since he’s been gone, which was just a day or so ago, I’ve been fine. I’ve not had any anxiety and felt good and focused at work.

He was at a pool party today and he’s been communicating with me and updating me which is so nice of him. I haven’t been texting him first to allow him space.

He sent me a video of the pool party. Nothing looked weird at all to me - it’s not like there were girls all up near him or anything but for some reason just seeing that video of him in a pool full of random people including women made me extremely jealous and insecure.

How do I fight these feelings? He’s been so great in updating me on what he’s doing, telling me he misses me and all of that but my mind goes to the worst.

For example I don’t necessarily think he’s cheating on me but I constantly wonder if a girl is trying to talk to him, or if he’s drinking and his friends all start talking to a group of girls etc.

I just want to let go and trust fully but I guess my anxieties are just getting the best of me.