I've been friends with this person for a little over a year. We grew quite close in the last 6 months, we started having feelings for each other and they backed away and we've always stated we will remain friends no matter what. I knew that they had dealt with depression and other things, we had lengthy conversations and they would talk to me when they were upset or disassociating/derealizing. I did some reading up on those two and saw that it was linked to BDP and I figured they would have told me they had BDP but I'm not mad they didn't.

So when I found out, I immediately looked things up on google. And it seemed to all finally make sense. But I still feel like learning more, I guess I just don't know where to start.

Once I learned about this also, I decided in my head that I'm not leaving them. Like I told them, I'm their friend first and all the other feelings can standby. I've read things on BPD and relationships, I don't want that to happen to us...and I'm not going to jump into anything with them...but please any info to educate me would be so appreciated.