I pretend to myself and others a lot that i’m over situations and people from my past. but it’s not true at all. things i have done that i regret, almost all of my exes, and negative experiences occupy my mind constantly. i think about people daily that probably very rarely think of me. my first boyfriend that i dated 7 years ago added me on social media recently, which i was shocked by because i always thought he despised me, and now i can’t stop thinking about him and dreaming of him. i don’t even want to be together again, i just don’t get over these things. i want to be friends for some reason, it’s hard for me to let things go and move on when they’ve expired. is this unhealthy? is it “normal”? 