hi. i’m (21F) in a relationship with my (22M) boyfriend. we’ve been together for a little over a year now. we’re serious and committed and in love BUT i just started going to a new therapist and i’m exploring what is emotional dysregulation, aka bpd, and i only got triggered by my mother but now it’s seeping into my relationship with him and i just told him today, about a half hour ago, about my emotional dysregulation. he thanked me for letting him know and said he’d do his research. i’m posting here to ask bpd folk—is there more he can do? for those of you in romantic relationships with people who have bpd/emotional dysregulation, what do you do? 
i’m awaiting results from my therapist for this schema questionnaire and i’m also saving up for a full mental evaluation. but signs are really pointing to bpd right now. 
my partner’s mother had a lot of emotional dysregulation and she physically abused him as a child. i don’t want him to be afraid of me, weaponize my condition against me, or stigmatize me. is there more he can do other than research? what should i do? i’m extremely anxious. i always need to know everything but i’m trying not to push him or pick his brain about this. 

thanks.