Content Warning present just to be safe, nothing too drastic should be mentioned in thread itself. Mostly just looking for support in terms of coping mechanisms during a split, and how to deal with the emotional crash afterwards.

So, Im relatively new to the BPD community, having been diagnosed closer to the start of this year. TLDR Ive kept most splitting and quote unquote most external symptoms like lashing out mostly internal, I can expand on this further if needed, Im just not too sure how to explain it right now. Im a little frazzled hence making this post, and a bit new to reddit too, so sorry if anythings a bit off or goes off the rails.

But to make a long story as short as possible, Im looking for assistance in coping mechanisms? Specifically with splitting and wanting to be mad- i always keep the outbursts internalized bc, well, its not really deserved towards the other person, but i dont quite know how to deal with it in a healthy manner. I used to self harm, since it acted as a sort of release for those bottled up emotions, but have since stopped drastic takes that actually leave harm. Ive accidentally scratched myself pretty hard (not enough to break skin) as a way to alleviate that emotional pressure, but tjay just leaves me feeling pretty despondent and on the emotional crash afterwards :(

Im sorry if this doesnt make much sense, I can try and elaborate on anything if needed, but I was just wondering what other sort of ways there was to deal with that sort of build up and need to release?