Hi all - my daughter is 18. A decade of "anxiety/ depression/ADHD". Treated with all the usual kids regimes - Vyvanse, Ritalin, Strattera, Zoloft, Prozac, Lexapro, intuniv - none have worked at all.  Psychiatrist says next step is Venlafaxine which I am uneasy about.. 
She has diazepam which she refuses to take.

Daughter is s perfectionist who is deeply criticism and rejection sensitive. Her issues are too much for her peers so she is largely alone with this. 

She finished school last year and got into uni but she can't go, her mind is too chaotic at the moment. As a compromise, we agreed that she would do two hours per week of Japanese for the year.  This starts tomorrow via Zoom. Note that she was the top student in Japanese in her school year so she is competent.

She is freaking out and crying in her room because she hasn't been sent the textbooks, people are going to laugh at her, she doesn't know the kanji etc etc 

I get she is anxious. But how much giving in do I have to do?  This is a small class over zoom. While I agree that I "don't know who they will be !!!" I'm fairly sure they will not laugh at her or do anything nasty.

I am not asking her to work a paid job. She will not work.a job for the same reason, terrified of looking stupid.  All I ask is that she do these two hours of Japanese per week and then she has to attend about six hours a week or therapy and that's it.  

Should I let her not go do Japanese?  What should i be doing to support her to make it easier with her anxiety? I dont have anxiety and always fall into the trap of saying don't worry.