I struggle to not be selfish in relationships. I grew up in a neglectful household. So now, when my boyfriend asks me to do simple things for him, like watch his TV shows he likes or to grab him something or just plain thinking “would he like this”, I struggle to make myself do it. He also is big on having his own space and personal time. I am fully aware of the fact that I’m not making him happy, I want to do these things, I know what the things are that makes him happy, I just struggle to *do* them. I don’t know if it is because the concept of praise almost makes me uncomfortable or that I’m so used to fighting for the other person in the relationship to show me love, or what. 

If anyone has any ideas on why this could be and especially how to fix it, please let me know.