So we’re together for 12 years and recently realized what we have. First couple of years been great when we were in our early twenties but then my husband triggered my fear of abandonment and after that it went from great to hell. Several years of horrible depression and constant yelling and fighting on daily basis. Eventually I calmed down but now that we also realized that he has ADHD , ive read that people with ADHD seek to provoke their partner for negative outbursts and get adrenaline rush from that. It makes perfect sense to me now. I’ve always gelt like he wants me to get angry and to yell. It’s been extremely difficult. Does anyone have this experience? Does anyone here has an ADHD partner and how do you deal with it?