hi all, so i have an issue and I need some advice. I have been with my partner for about a year and 2 months now. If I can sum it up quickly it went amazing to absolutely horrible to pure bliss again - and now I’m worried the cycle might be repeating. At the start we were incredible, then we moved in together and it was the worst ever. don’t get me wrong when we were good it was cool but when we argued (which happened a LOT) it was so toxic. Then we got a new flat after almost not going ahead with it, things went so so good for maybe 3 months. last month I proposed due to how well we were doing and how in love I was. 2 days ago she fell out with me big time because I forgot something at the shop. We broke up for the night yesterday after she didn’t care because of the arguing, then her slamming the door, going on facebook in the middle of my sentence, rolling eyes and closing doors in my face. She has been so angry over the past day and we fell out again because she didn’t have anything to wear and that was basically my fault. I’m starting to feel the same way I did before which was that she just hates me. Maybe someone who has BPD could give me some insight into what’s going on as I cannot go through that again. I love her with all my heart and I do not want to hurt her as I understand this could be out of her control, but I really can’t put myself through that again. One other thing is that she cannot hold down a job. she’s had six since we got together last year. She has hardly had a full wage and is always so angry and upset over money. Again I know that this can be a trait of BPD but it’s putting serious strain on finances and in turn our relationship. Thanks!!