I’ve had this crush/fp for a while now. I don’t like becoming obsessed with someone, he’s a very busy person, he is not good keeping in touch, and I always felt I wasn’t as important to him as he was to me. I have always been aware this is fair and okay, he doesn’t have to, and I’ve never brought this up to him because he never introduced any other kind of dynamic, he didn’t do anything wrong, there has never been red flags etc. But you know, it still hurt, so I kept my distance, sometimes sending memes, small talk, but tried my best to look for him less, not go for him for comfort (I have a very good support system and he wasn’t one of them, I only went to him because fp). And honestly it worked, I felt a lot calmer about my feelings for him

Recently we talked and he made a joke about thanksgiving being his day, I didn’t get it, he explained that his birthday usually falls on thanksgiving 
I felt so much relief realizing I had forgotten this detail about him, that his bday is coming up, that I don’t feel the need to plan anything. It’s a huge difference from last year

*i wanna say this might not work for everyone or be the best, I wouldn’t encourage or discourage anyone to do the same,just sharing what I did and my progress!!