Anybody else have such a hard time believing in someone's affection that it takes money for them to prove it?

It sounds and feels messed up. My mother has severe untreated BDP. I feel she has instilled this way of thinking deep in me and I wish I wasn't so shallow.

I guess cause I feel that a man would be willing to give his affection and attention to anyone who'll give him what he wants, whereas he can't give his money to everyone so that somehow makes it more believable and special somehow?

I don't know. Anyone experience something similar?