I’ve noticed when i get into relationships i become extremely dependent on the person. Mostly wanting their undecided attention almost 24/7, which is bad. But when I’m with someone, i start to extremely become hyper fixated on caring WAYYYY too much. To the point to where i lose myself by trying to be a constant optimistic person. Tbh i am while I’m by myself but sometimes it’s too hard to do it for others… then i suffer from burnout and push the ones i love away. Normally I’ll do this by saying the worst shit imaginable… 

Once im ready to get back into dating, I’d love to balance things. Has anyone suffered from this and have some advice?