I have bipolar too, but I was diagnosed 6 years ago and my medication helps a lot. He was diagnosed a couple of months ago and his medication isn't working properly yet. Its been so long that I was undiagnosed that I'm not sure I'm remembering it correctly.
Basically, he said he couldn't deal with someone who's sister has cancer. I was furious, because it was just so cold. But, he was very depressed that day. And he apologised a lot afterwards. Then he said he'd like to stay over the summer and I said yes. That was about 6 weeks. Then he changed it to 4 months without even asking me. But I got my head around it - I love him, and we get along very well. But then he said permanently, and still didn't ask me. I know he's desperate to leave where he lives, but I am not happy to be just a port in a storm. I'm his girlfriend. We should talk about it. Then he said he was randomly coming down this week, and I got all excited, then he strongly implied he wanted to cancel because he could only be here a day and a half (because he randomly agreed to meet his dad for a curry?!) He is coming down end of the week. I just can't decide if he's flakey or if this is just his symptoms showing themselves. I remember being very unreliable and impulsive. Any advice please? I want to be fair