I am in a relationship that has suffered a lot in the past due to my bpd, and since my recent diagnosis I have been trying very hard to act more reasonably and rationally.  I am usually able to calm myself down within a few minutes of feeling a rush of emotions (whether it be anger or paranoia or something else), but I am having trouble preventing myself from starting a fight, even if the fight only goes on for a few minutes before I can realize what I'm doing and reevaluate my feelings and behavior. Does anyone have experience with this/have some methods they use to stop themselves from putting their foot in their mouths before they can deal with their extreme reactions?