I'm having a massive fight with my partner and I don't know if I'm being a dick or not. Basically they haven't helped around the house, for like 6 months. I've talked to them, pleaded, begged, told them it was overwhelming and depressing me, but they just kept saying they where too busy or too tired. We both work full time, and I can't keep up with picking up after them. They finnally listened a few days ago and cleaned the kitchen. Now they want to start this huge renovation on the house and I said, I'm not prepared to think about it really until we can at least keep the house is a livable state, I mean it got bad... Then they said that I wasn't giving them the benefit of the doubt and that I was over reacting and not willing to move on, and we ended up in a big fight. Now I'm splitting like crazy and I can't work out if I'm the bad guy :( help?