I am joining a DBT group and my first conversation with the therapist leading it seemed weird. She explained to me first of all that the group will be more “relaxed”. Which I’m okay with. It’s about 12 weeks long. 
I then told her I had BPD and she all of the sudden sounded concerned and started telling me she thinks it may not be the right fit for me because I “clearly need more structure than what her group offers”. I’ve never spoken with her before this, she doesn’t know me or even have a release of information yet to know any of my history. 
When she said that it honestly hurt my feelings. I’ve been trying really hard to find a group. It felt condescending and stigma-fueled. I thought it was a weird thing to say when DBT is specifically made for people with BPD. It made me feel like just another professional who would rather not deal with me or automatically casting me aside as “too much to help”. 

Also, I am completely ok with being in a more “laid back group” which I explained was fine with me. I can do dbt groups as many times as I want. I’d actually prefer a laid back group because I’m recovering from a TBI, which can make anything in my day to day life feel really intense, overwhelming, and strenuous.