My s/o expressed suicidal thoughts and more to me and we called his doctor who told us to go to the ER to be evaluated. This is after extensive questioning about the options he has. He has been impatient twice in his life years ago and it was a horrible experience for him i.e they didn't care and treated him horribly. I asked many different docs/nurses over the phone what to expect so he felt he had some control and wouldn't feel like a 'prisoner'. No one could give us definitive answers. Finally he spoke to his doctor and I guess she convinced him to go and basically yelled at me to drive him there immediately even though I made it clear he has no intent to harm himself right now. But since he was ok going, we went. He expressed how he didn't want to be dropped off (by me) which I assured him I wasn't. And that's exactly what's happening right now. He checked in, they checked him for weapons, then took him from me without telling us anything. Telling me to go wait in waiting room. When I asked when I can go back there they said to basically go home or if I want I can wait for him to call me but I can't see him. They made me take his phone from him. So ok hospital phone. But this all happened so quickly we didn't even have a chance to say goodbye because we didn't know what was happening. I know this sounds like the norm in a way, but for him this is EXACTLY what he didn't want to happen. We were told we could talk to the docs together to form a plan. THIS could ACTUALLY make him much worse. I feel like shit 'doing this to him' I hope he doesn't think I 'planned this'. Is there anything I can do? All we said to the front desk was very basic not concerning things. I have no one to vent to or ask because he doesn't want anyone knowing. Which I understand. But right now I'm very upset by how this went down. Has anyone ever been in this situation? Either side? Can he say he doesn't want to stay here and they'll let him go?