I have been thinking about posting here for a while. I haven’t because i fee nervous to talk about things. 

When we first started I had no idea he was BPD. I did notice that he had some problems when he would drink alcohol but i attributed that to an addictive personality. Once when we were in public he called me something nasty in front of our friends plus some random people. A friend gave me two beers, one for each of us. He chugged his and when i wouldn’t share mine he began to insult me. I thought this was just blackout drunkenness because he doesn’t remember. 
We are staying in my parents second house temporarily and i frequently find he does not take care about their things. He attributes it to him being Chilean and not having the same materialistic attitude as Americans. I see it as a lack of respect.
There were many times he was grumpy and couldn’t seem to take care of his own actions. Like if he were late for work and i was trying to see if i could help, he would yell and say i was distracting him. 
Recently he cancelled a plan with me and didn’t tell me until last minute. I was supposed to help him at his job. Instead another worker came in unscheduled. It was so last minute that i went anyways because i had booked my day that way and i had already packed the car. When i told him i like to have notice (which he told me he had hours of) he told me that was stupid that i cared about this. 
Today i told him he was hurting me and he continued his action saying he was playing. I got a sunburn and he was rubbing his stubble on it. I said more than one time that hurt me and please stop. 
I am starting to lose hope. 😥
Somebody understands right? Is this something other people have experienced?