
I am having a hard time saying no to everyone. Even if it consumes me and my energy, even if I’m exhausted, worst even if I lose myself. 

At work, I do tasks that aren’t even mine or when my superiors ask me to do on behalf of them. 

For my friends, I can’t say no whether they want me to pick them up or drop them elsewhere regardless of what time it is or what I’m up to. Even if they want to go somewhere or do something and I am trying to minimize my expenses, I cant say no. 

I also noticed this thing with my ex. I couldn’t say no to anything he wants even though it doesn’t make me happy or I’m not enjoying, as long as he is (movies we watch or places we go to for example). Or if he’s saying something I don’t like, I just go with it. Like for me, I say everything is fine even though it obviously isn’t. 

I fee like these people would get mad at me or will tag me as unreliable (I know petty) or very unhelpful at all, if I don’t abide by what they want. I don’t like people upset at me, I can’t carry that burden and for sure I’d think about it for days- weeks even- if that happened. My anxiety will go through the roof. 

What can I do, what should I change and how do I handle this? 

Any advice would be helpful and I’d really appreciate it. :(