Been in a 13 yr lOng distance relationship and it's complicated. We're dedicated to each other (or so *I* thought I was) but for the past 5+ years I've had massive anxiety and Everytime I'm anxious, I break up with my partner. It's gotten more frequent and sometimes the anxiety gets so bad I would just ignore him for extended periods of time and it makes me feel better. How do I know if it's the anxiety talking or that the relationship is causing me anxiety?

There's no abuse going on or anything like that. But I'm just unhappy and I don't know if it's me, the relationship or the anxiety. All seem real and genuine. Do I see a future with my partner? Yes, but the frequency and culmination of the anxiety feels as though it's outpacing the history or even future we have. 

Has anyone experience anything similar? Is it me/the anxiety? Is it the relationship? I'm not on any meds and have been able to fend off the anxiety with consistent exercise and hormonal birth control tends to help. The anxiety kicks in when I haven't exercise or the couple days I'm off the pill.