My girlfriend (f29) has BPD and it has got out of control, I really don’t know how to handle it. Damned if I do and damned if I don’t.

Let’s take this week for example…

She has gone on a break to her dads to give us some space. This week we have spoke multiple times and text almost every hour of the day (32 messages sent from me today in conversation and multiple calls) but still I’m apparently not interested and don’t want to talk to her.

Today I said to her I would be going to the gym then to the spa area. This evening I done exactly that and spent two hours there. Obviously, she couldn’t get a hold of me and therefore I came out to multiple missed calls, messages and now a argument because I apparently took too long there.

I can’t see what I’ve done wrong?