so my roommate is definitely codependent and i think it’s been affecting my mental health negativitly bc i feel like i need to take responsibility for her and idk how to deal with it. i don’t take responsibility for her bc i know it’s unnecessary and she needs to take care herself but i am left feeling guilty and confused about how to be a good friend. 

i have been isolating myself since the beginning of the year (really since 2019 tbh) and so i feel like i don’t know what my friendships should look like anymore and i’m so scared that i’m lying to myself and being selfish. i just struggle with balance and idk how to have boundaries with someone like this but still demonstrate i care. i think i’m doing ok but i’m terrified i’m a bad friend bc i don’t have other friends i see regularly.

anyway idk does anyone relate or have input?? i’m scared i’m blaming someone else for my anxiety but idk how to balance taking responsibility and also acknowledging when someone else is doing stuff wrong