I'm really unhappy in my relationship, crying on the way home from work regularly because I don't want to go home. The times I am happy to go home are usually even worse because my partner will be unhappy with something I've done and I'll feel stupid for being excited or trying to do something special. We have been together almost a decade, and he's my first boyfriend and serious relationship (I dated a girl I was madly in love for a few months before I got together with him, but the relationship was really chaste.) Some days we'll be talking about moving to a new place, getting a dog, starting a family, etc and I'll be really hopeful. Then the next day he gets angry that I yawn while he's talking to me in the morning and I go into a crazy spiral and yell, hurt myself,  and tell him all the negative thoughts I think about him and the the only reason I'm still living here with him is because I love my job here. I understand both of these feelings are "real," but how do I understand if this is splitting or really needing to end the relationship?  His family always acts like I'm crazy when I tell them I want to separate. My mom tells me relationships take work. I'm seeing a psychiatrist next week, but jot a psychologist. Is this something I just have to work out myself/with a professional?