So I’m pretty sure my mother is a covert narcissist. She lacks empathy, throughout my whole childhood I felt unsafe and alone. 

Stuff she did/does:


- She never let me feel any negative feelings, would snap at me if I cried or told me I’m overreacting/imagining things

- She never basically gave a shit about anything for example she forgot the fact that I had gotten raped and when confronted about it she said she has her own life to worry about 

- Made me feel unloved and emotionally neglected me as a child

- Accused me of seeking attention when I started self-harming at the age of 11

- Locked me and my sister in dark rooms at the age of 5 as punishment

- Used me as her own therapist, starting when I was around 6

- If you criticise her/ask her to stop a harmful behaviour she has she goes into rage so she never changes and leaves me feeling helpless and like i’m talking to a wall

-  My brother was/is her favorite child and never has to do anything and he’s become really spoiled &amp; entitled, allowed him to treat me like shit 

- Made comments about my weight and criticized just about everything (I developed an eating disorder when I was 14)

It’s just a bit but basically she is not a good mother and I feel really bitter that here she is acting like nothing is wrong and when I got my BPD diagnosis she was like 😮 where did that come from. And she refuses to accept she did anything wrong, she either says she doesn’t remember or gets angry. 

I still love her as she’s my mother and she’s not horrible 24/7 but these things really bother me and it kinda makes me resent her. Anyone else been through something like this and what makes you feel better about it? 

I want to move on, I don’t want to feel angry/bitter about it all the time but I don’t know how... I’m currently living with her btw for at least a year or so, so I have to deal with her somehow