Hello everyone!

(TDLR at the end)

I was recently diagnosed with BPD following intense episodes during lockdown. I'm currently taking anti-depressants and seeing a psychiatrist once a month as well as a psychologist once a week. Understanding what was happening and communicating about it has helped me and my partner a lot, but the situation is still (understandably) taking its toll on him, and so he decided to go see someone on his one.

He chose a psychologist from a list of professionals on one of my country's main BPD association website, thinking that someone familiar with BPD patients would be better suited to understand his own struggles. He came back stunned after a one and a half hour session in which he was basically served a rant worthy of the worst sides of you-know-what-subreddit.

The psychologist started by making a weird distinction between "real" and "fake" BPD patients: the "fake" ones are actually suffering from CPTSD and can be cured of their trauma, while the "real" ones never go through with the therapeutic path she offers (which she herself describes as being hardcore to follow......) and are therefore, in her experience, impossible to cure.

She then proceeded to give him some gruesome examples of what BPD patients are like, apparently insisting heavily on the case of a woman who brought her boyfriend to her lover's place and forced him to wait while she was having sex with the other guy. She even told him how she once met her son's girlfriend, knew right away that she had BPD, and so immediatly worked to convince him of leaving her.

She explained that people with BPD only find relief by making people close to them suffer, and that is why they specifically go for the ones who are too nice and don't know how to stand up for themselves. Funnily enough, this is the complete opposite of my partner's personality, but she somehow kept telling him that he was "weak" and had to run away from evil me. She even went as far as to suggest I was lying about my childhood traumas.

Beside the absolute ridiculousness of her posture and arguments, what worries me is the damage she could be doing to her BPD patients. I wish I could do something about it, but I don't really know what. Any advice?


TDLR: my partner went to see a psychologist referenced by an apparently serious BPD association, but she turned out to be full of prejudice, claiming that BPD patients can't be cured (because they refuse to comply with her hardcore demands as a practitioner), that they only want to hurt you and lie to you, and that if your loved one gets diagnosed, you should just instantly run away, no questions asked. Should I do something about it?