This is my first BPD post. Does anyone else get really defensive whenever there is a perceived attack? I feel like I'm being attacked whenever I have any sort of confrontation, and an being defensive I usually lash out, and I got so defensive the other night that my girlfriend told me where going to break up for now, or going on a break, which may lead to her breaking up with me if I don't fix how defensive I get and this mentality of me vs. the world.

When this happens with me I'm barely able to see that I'm doing it, and even now I can barely remember how this whole fight even started or what I did wrong. How do I change this? 