I (22M) have had a crush on a coworker (23F) for a couple of months, and am currently trying to navigate the situation. I’m certainly not planning on mentioning it to her anytime soon (haven’t figured out if she’s single, I’m terrible at reading into things so not sure if she likes me back or is just really friendly and kind and jokes with me because we’re coworkers, not to mention the whole coworker aspect making me unsure whether I should ever mention it to her). Regardless of whether I end up ever mentioning it, I know at the very least it won’t happen for some time, so I’m at a bit of a dilemma.

Because of my BPD I can tend to get really unhealthily obsessive about my crushes (mind you, this is all in my head, not something I act on or that the other person would ever know), and I feel myself really going off the deep end with this one (i.e. I barely know this person and I find myself fantasizing about falling in love with and marrying her, I can’t focus on work because it seems inconsequential compared to her etc.) - this is something I’ve experienced several times in the past, but I’ve never really found a healthy coping mechanism for it.

I’ve been in therapy for a couple years but my next appointment is in 3 weeks and this obsessive fixation has really snowballed in the last week or so, to the point where I barely sleep at night, so I’m trying to figure out a short-term solution until my next appointment. Any advice?