My grandma abused my mother both physically and emotionally which in turn made my mother someone unable to give love, resulting in emotional neglect and psychological abuse. During one of our last big fights she mentioned that I grew up to be a horrible and ungrateful person, something that wouldn’t have happened if she had treated me worse (with lots physical abuse). When I confronted her and asked if that would have really been the best and easiest way of raising me instead of giving me just a little bit of love and affection she said “I don’t know. Maybe.”

People who has never met love cannot give love. Too bad I’m in the same fucking boat.