TL;DR  -  girlfriend won’t go to the doctors to get help for anxiety and puts off a lot important tasks such as applying to college, jobs and it’s holding her back personally and important parts of the relationship 

Hi, my girlfriend has suffered from anxiety and maybe depression since she was a teenager, we’ve been dating since we were both 13 (now 21) and living together with other flat mates sharing a small room.

Since finishing high school, I went to college and she came to live with me in the new city I moved to with plans to get a job or apply to college again as she didn’t get in the first time (very competitive course), anyway - she’s since developed an anxiety over applying to college out of fear of rejection as well as the same with applying to jobs due to employment issues in the pandemic (neither her fault). We’ve both talked about her anxiety and agreed that she needs to go to the doctor about it however this has went on for almost a year now (with other things like applying to college going on since we moved 3 years ago). 

This has gone on for about a year now and with the likes of applying to college, since we moved in 2018. Honestly I just feel helpless and her not applying to jobs or college makes it hard for us to move out (our place sucks and her current job is only part time, which was only supposed to be temporary- our plan was to move out a year ago but her not applying to anything got in the way), her anxiety is also preventing her from making friends or practically anything sociable outside of going out for food. She’s had a few panic attacks in stores when I’ve not been there but underplays that it’s not important enough to go to the doctor 

I’m honestly getting fed up with it, I know it sounds horrible but I can’t take the idea that I’m gonna be constantly waiting for her to progress with her life which in turn will keep me behind. I just want her to feel happy and confident and I know that’s obviously not going to change overnight but I just don’t think i can keep going along with it. She’s really great and a wonderful person and I love her so much but the fact she doesn’t wanna help herself sucks so much 

For context, I’m not perfect myself. I was recently diagnosed with adhd and have been Pursuing therapy and started medication to help myself - I also procrastinate everything I do, so I’m not trying to say I’m better in any way, I just want advice on this

Anyway, how can I help her get help without being overly pushy about going to the doctor (like I feel I’ve been the past year)