
My (f20) new driving instructor is amazing but sometimes she also can say hurtful things but I don’t think she means it. 90% of the time she’s encouraging, polite and understanding. I accidentally hit the curb today and I said ‘sorry’ and she said ‘sorry isn’t good enough’ 🥲 although I think this may be a language barrier thing also. 

My desire to be liked by her is so bad that any critique or raising of her voice I can’t even focus on her instructions as my brain is telling me that she hates me/I’m wasting her time/she dreads our lessons etc. it truly feels like the end of the world. This is an issue I just realised is evident in my day to day life. I tend to get extremely jealous of people who seem to be liked by those who I feel don’t like me. While I know I shouldn’t care it doesn’t stop my anxiety. 

With my old instructor I’ve taken a horrendous amount of lessons (on average 2x a week for a YEAR). She was super mean &amp; hurtful with her words/tone. I now realise I have severe driving anxiety which has made the process of getting my licence extremely slow. This is why I changed instructors. 

I’m in the process of getting therapy - please send your advice my way!