Hi,

I am looking for some advice to overcome some anxiety issues. I am in college M(21), and am starting to think I am dealing with some social anxiety issues. I am able to make friends, and talk relatively confident around them (friends with both males and females). When talking to random people I can be short and come off uninterested and it leads me to believe that they feel like I do not want to be friends with them. Before college, I never really noticed any anxiety when talking to people.  I live in a house with 5 people, all which I can talk to and feel normal and comfortable talking to. Last year, I joined a fraternity (my roommates did as well), and outside of the friends that I already knew from freshman year of college, I had a tough time making good friendships like my other friends in my house were able to in this fraternity. Yes, I am still "friends" with them, but it feels like we don't share the same relationships as my friends were able to make with all the new guys. Today, I asked a girl in my class if she wanted to do a group project with me for school, and she said yes. The only reason why I decided to ask this girl was because all semester I've noticed her staring at me during class. I asked her, but the more I kept talking, the more nervous I got. I told her that I would give her my name and email so we could discuss the project more, but as she handed me her notebook I started shaking really bad. I could hardly write my name in good penmanship because of this. Getting the courage to talk to new females in which I have never met with has always been a little difficult, but it has never been this bad. 

I've always been a little shaky when I grab small things out of someone's hand (i.e pen). It has gotten worse because when it does happen, people point it out and makes me feel embarrassed.  

I really want to figure out how to get out of my own head. When I was 13, my own mother passed away in my arms and I'm wondering if this is still haunting me today. 

I am looking to listen to all advice and suggestions. I need to be able to break out of this somehow, and was wondering if anyone else here experiences/experienced the same issues.