I am bpd, realised I have been diagnosed on and off for 8years.

I am a 26f and he is a 27m...

We have been together for 7 years now and well to be frank I am so bored!!

I love this man to death and I know he loves me so very much, he has planned our life out no lie till death. When it comes to my mental health he understands as much as he can, he is so very supportive. Things have begun to get stale. He works alot of hours, he is a software engineer and also freelancers on the side, (we are sp very lucky that we do not need the money ) I currently dont work as the anxiety side of bpd prohibits it. I don't get alot of time together because of the long hours he works and I actually have to schedule myself in his calendar to spend time with him. I ask for date nights I get scheduled in and we go for a pint to the local, and in bed by 12. It feels like a total cop out if I'm completely honest. (I much prefer a day together) I'm fed up with being over looked. He will happily go out with his work friends, have different experiences with them but if I want to do something it's the safe norm. I'm so bored and fed up with how things have been. 
I have expressed how I feel and he just doesnt get it, he says he makes the time and puts the effort in, what more can he do? I say more and he gets upset/mad.

What can I do? Do I say nothing and just have fun with my girlfriends (Is that not a bit of a crappy relationship)?

I want to have fun and enjoy life with this man, but he can be such a wet blanket. This honestly is maddening.. Am I being bpd?! It is so hard to know. 

TL;DR I love my over half, I want our relationship to last and continue to grow but I am a tad bored am I being BPD?