I'm going to try to group my thoughts together the best I can. I'm really needing validation after last night.

I was out with two newish friends who just got married and are both in med school. I knew the husband when we were both young, but hadn't seen him for six years and have only met his wife three times in the past month. We were just talking about life stuff so I volunteered the info that I bought a DBT therapy workbook and have been using it.

Male friend: DBT is for people who have borderline personality disorder tho?

Me: well, yeah..

MF: you clearly do not have BPD. 

Wife: yeah, its really obvious when people have it and you don't.

Me: I really don't think you have the authority to assess or label what goes on in *my* head..

MF: does anyone ever tell you you're bipolar?

Me: no.

Wife: yeah, well, then you don't have it because people who do get called bipolar all the time. Why do you *think* you have BPD?

Me: because I've read the symptoms and its a list of things I'm constantly affected by??? ... I was just trying to open up and tell you that I bought a self help book and its been really helping me, but nevermind.

&amp;#x200B;

I'm just so MAD about it. I've been stopping myself from sending MF a really nasty msg since I went home last night. It's already so difficult for my brain to accept that the things that are happening/have happened to me are valid and real and this conversation made me feel so small and horrible. I really don't think I want to hang out with them again. I just need a hug.