So I 26/F have a friend 24/F that has BPD, depression, suicidal tendencies, and PTSD. I am her FP since she doesn’t really talk to any of her other friends and only talks to the two roommates she has. I’ve known her for under a year and to make matters complicated she is in love with me even though I am straight and in a long term LDR with my boyfriend. When I’m with her all the bad things she feels goes away and it was very hard for her when I was away for 2 weeks. She loves me more than her ex and has never loved someone this much before. She is an INFJ if that means anything.

She keeps trying to pay for me in terms of food, alcohol, and expensive gifts and it makes me feel guilty since her pay is very low and I am financially stable. I don’t ask for anything and just try to give her support since I understand that she feels lonely and doesn’t connect with others well.

I plan on moving away (across the country) due to COVID and I am scared and confused on how to break the news to her due to potential consequences. Any advice?