I emailed someone special to me that I had cut off because we had a bad parting where they jabbed at me for having bipolar. In their reply they told me there's no way for us to reconcile and to "work on myself." They gave me this list to guide me:

-Focus power and energy on myself and not other people
-Build my life
-Give up my dogs to get more time and energy to spend on myself
-Move back home to save money (idk if they meant my parent's house or actually my home town) 
-Don't date for 2 years

I am already going to finish college in 3 semesters and have been passing with A's. I am already losing weight that I gained from being on meds and birth control. I have started running. 

I don't even feel manic, I feel depressed or possibly mixed state? I have a hard time telling the difference but a slight depression is definitely there. I have even gone through a med change with my psychiatrist and am suffering the side effects of that to better improve myself. I suspect that new med is why I feel depressed. 

If sitting at home relaxing with my dogs counts as self care then I definitely practice that. (Side note: Why would I ever give my dogs up. Is this just horrible advice overall? Maybe the hyper one... MAYBE. But definitely not both.) I can't move back home because I am in college and starting an internship soon at my main job. Which will hopefully lead to a job offer higher up at my main job. That reminds me, I already work 2 jobs too in addition to college.

I even joined a writing critique group because I have no friends. I have 3 acquaintances from school plus the writing group now. I even went back to church for more structure and stability in my life. I spend more time with my family. I broke up with my boyfriend because I suspected him of being a narcissist.

I thought maybe I could do the Quality of Life chart on myself and see where I am lacking? I don't know? Is there something I'm not seeing that I need to do extra? What does someone mean when they say "work on yourself?" Is that just an insult? This is not the first person to tell me to work on myself. It's like everywhere I turn, friends, family, exes. WORK ON YOURSELF. What does that even mean? Am I not working on myself people????