So my weekend plans got screwed up. I’m currently living in hick-ville out in the country with my Mom. I was supposed to get up to this city this weekend to spend it with a friend from university I’ve sorted started seeing recently. He’s a super cute tall South African guy, we really click well and his accent just does things to me. 

Anyway, he messaged me last night to say he was behind on course assignments and that this weekend was a bad weekend to visit. 

My initial reaction was to say; “Am I not important enough? Am I not hot enough for you? You can make time for me! Just do your assignments on the week” and all sorts of other entitled and crazy nonsense. 

Even though my insides were screaming, and I was shame spiralling like crazy and assuming I could never amount to anything and I should just kill myself; I said “Okay, no worries, I’m disappointed I can’t see you but maybe next weekend?” 

I’m so thankful I just swallowed my emotions... can you imagine if I’d called him a prick and flipped out on him? No way would he want to hang out with me after that. Instead I come across as normal, understanding, and laid back... this is a much better outcome. Nice job “opposite action”! 