Broke up eight months ago after over five years together. I still love her dearly, but she could just not control herself. She still denies having BPD though she qualifies in spades and it destroyed our relationship (and I imagine every other relationship she’s ever had). She acknowledges “her behavior” as being the root of our breakup and says she’s sorry, but doesn’t examine it beyond that. I just feel like she’s never going to accept her condition, and as a result, won’t ever be able to manage it. I am just heartbroken. 