My friend hasn’t been diagnosed with BPD. I must say that outright but I believe it’s 99.9% likely. She told me this weekend she hasn’t been completely honest with her therapist who said she has CPSTD a few months ago. 

I have suspected for a while that she must be keeping things from him otherwise he would have changed the assessment by now. 

This weekend she let me know for months she has been self harming and cutting herself for relief of her emotions and thoughts. She also admitted this weekend she was planning her suicide. She had thought about it before (which I knew of) but this weekend she was thinking of ways to do it. Even for a couple of days she was purposely not drinking to dehydrate herself. 

Once I went round after she messaged me this she opened up about other experiences that confirmed back to me about my BPD suspicions. She asked me what I thought and I just said it doesn’t sound like CPSTD and she needs to be more honest with her therapist. 

I don’t think it’s my right to let her know my thoughts that she has BPD and another thing is I want to keep her safe. I want a professional to handle letting her know. I don’t want her googling and scaring herself and possibly attempting suicide after reading about it. She may not but given her state of mind I don’t want to chance it. 

Today, I have been trying to encourage her to go along to a mental health centre to get an assessment but she is afraid someone will throw away the key and call her crazy. I have even said to her I will take the day off of work to go with her and support her. I have also let her her know that they won’t throw away the key and she isn’t crazy but I know whatever I say won’t really reassure her. 

Those who have BPD and those who have friends/loved ones do you have any advice in how to encourage them to seek the support they need?