I do not like my job. I work in an advertising agency. It is very stressful with way too many unreasonable requests, deadlines and people I have to deal with. I have resigned but I am worried if I'll face the same problem with the next job I'm joining. In fact, I'm starting to regret joining advertising altogether. I'd love to change careers but I fear the pay cut that might hinder my next goal, which is my own independence, bringing me to my next problem.

I am 30 years old and still live with my parents. This wouldn't be a problem if not for the fact that I live in a strict Asian household and sometimes that my family can be controlling and manipulative when it comes to wanting my own independence. Don't get me wrong, my family has shown me love many times. But, they also panic when I even suggest moving out or travelling on my own. On top of this, I don't think I'm really financially ready to move out yet.

I feel unhappy because sometimes I am lonely and feel behind in life. I get jealous when I see other people who seem to have more friends than me, especially on social media. I long to have big group of friends that I can celebrate birthdays with or go on holiday trips together. My biggest dream would be travelling or spending a long time overseas with friends. 

I've dated around but have never been in a relationship and that's not really a problem since I'm aromantic. But, my family seems to care a lot and often pressure me into finding a boyfriend, as if it's as easy as picking clothes. Plus, I've had some bad experience with men and am not that keen into rushing into relationships.

There are some positive things happening in my life though. Recently took up a side hobby that I really liked and made some new friends. My next job will not be an advertising agency. In fact, it will be on client's side, so I hope it will be less stressful. Am also meeting up with a career coach to discuss a more strategic way to plan my future. I really hope things work out and I am not back to square one like I have been these past few years. What else can I do to get away from this feeling?