\*\*This venting session was triggered by coming across one of those "loved ones of someone with BPD" so-called "support" groups, that are really just thinly-veiled hate forums. I understand that some people with BPD can be abusive, and I'm not at all undermining any genuine negative experiences people may have had, but the nasty comments about people with BPD in general really struck a nerve.\*\*

I can't stand people who act as if anyone with BPD is automatically a monster. 

I know that sometimes my behaviour isn't always easy for others to deal with. I know that I sometimes lash out at my loved ones. I know that my mood swings can often be difficult for others to understand. I know that those close to me worry about me trying to kill myself again. I know that they don't understand why I am so self-destructive. I know that my impulsiveness worries them at times. Believe me, I'm well aware of these things, as well as countless others, as I'm sure a lot of us are. 

But the majority of my destructive behaviours are *self*\-destructive. My illness is the result of severe childhood trauma; if this trauma had manifested itself as PTSD instead, nobody would be labelling me a villain. 

I already hate myself, I don't need random people stigmatising my illness or belittling my pain when they haven't even met me. I'm sorry that your ex was a shitty person, but I won't tolerate having your hatred towards them projected onto me. 

Comments about people with BPD being "bad", or "lost causes", or even "evil" are so incredibly damaging and fucked up. Seriously, they're saying such horrible things about people who are already in pain, but people with BPD are the "bad guys"? That's not even the worst of them, I just don't want to go back there and find quotes.

No, I am not "basically the same as a psychopath". I don't exist to ruin your life. Believe me, my illness is infinitely more painful for me than it may be for you. 

I am a human being who just happens to have BPD, which again, resulted from severe trauma. I didn't choose this, and it doesn't make me a "bad" person.