I know it may sound silly but hear me out. BPD &amp; mental struggles are a huge part of my life, wether I like it or not. I experience the world and especially relationships in a very intense way. I mostly feel understood by people who struggle with mental health and rarely do I bond with mentally stable people lol. I just feel that they cannot meet the intensity of my emotions or truly understand me. But in order to have a healthy rs and for it to have any chance of not going south, I NEED a partner with a secure attachment style. But someone like that would never understand the depth of my struggles or needs? I feel like it’s a catch 22. Either be alone or in a toxic rs that’s not  “too” toxic…