I’m two months into a relationship with this girl and I definitely wouldn’t say our relationship has intensely sped up in comparison to “normal relationships” because of idealization. There’s been a lot of aspects including her helping me come out and both of us knowing every single dark part of our pasts and sharing a lot of the same experiences, and basically I just care about her and know she’s the one. Her mother calls me from time to time because she loves me and both of our friend groups say we’re going to get married. But as someone with severe anxiety and ocd tendencies, there’s not a day that goes by where my head tells me she’s going to split on me and leave. So I just want some reassurance and facts from you guys since you experience it. When was the first time you first split on your partner in your relationship? Do you know when your splitting? Like is there a way that she’ll know it’s happening and give me a heads up so I’m aware? How long do the splitting episodes typically last? Thank you so much for your help. I really care about her so much, and I have this constant fear of her leaving me and it tortures me on the daily. I can’t tell her about this fear either, because I did once and it really triggered her and made her cry and go to a bad place because she blamed herself for having BPD and being a bad person. It broke my heart. 