I have dealing with a depressive episode for a few weeks now. I am still able to go to work, but when I come home there is no energy left, I just lay in bed or on the couch and binge netflix.
My libido is towards zero right now. My husband starts getting annoyed. All I could do the last few weeks was the 'starfish' (if you know what I mean), if anything; sometimes I can't stand that he touches me at all.
He is busy with his own MI (Asperger's). Now he left me the choice: we either start having sex again or he will look for a sidechick, as he feels that his needs do not matter for me right now.
I fear I might lose him. Would like to give my libido a boost but I don't know how. If he would meet other women this would leave me devastated. 
(We tried an open relationship before, as he wanted to try bdsm/kink stuff that was to much for me. That was leading to the biggest crisis I ever had.)

Tl,dr: Have no libido due to depressive episode. Husband starts getting annoyed, does not want to step back anymore, left me the choice: more sex or open relationship. Both does not work for me right now. How do I escape that situation?