I think it’s part of my bpd that I’m jealous and stuff. I usually worry that they are still in love with their ex. My current partner had all of them on social media and saw them occasionally and interacted with them (about a year in to ours He deleted them cos it was bothering me) but he would make comments like ‘you can’t get over someone unless you forget about them completely’ 
He maintains he was over them way before he met me and that he wouldn’t be in a new relationship if he wasn’t but it makes no sense to me. People are always saying things like ‘out of sight out of mind’ or ‘you never get over your first love’ stuff like that so it makes me think he’s lying. And those comments trigger me because it’s like well they don’t love me then. 
When I break up I tend to block and delete the person and turn my attentions to something new. I tend to get over people pretty fast. One guy took longer but I wasn’t like longing to get back together or anything or in distress about it. I just stopped seeing him in that way. 

Do people really get hooked on people for years even if they weren’t together that long, and they’ve met other people? 
I barely remember my ‘first loves’ name half the time and have to really think to remember what about them I liked. 
But with his I feel like they are a constant threat, that he isn’t over them and I’m just a replacement. Is this bpd messing or is it just a fact of life? 

The fact his ex cheated on him and he still spoke to her as if they were friends confuses the hell out of me. I would ghost them so bad if it were me, but I get that other people are different...
It just gives me so much anxiety. Why?? 

I’ve not known about my bpd for very long so it’s kind of new to me.
