**TL;DR:** Guy my friend tried to set me up with told me my insecurity and low self-esteem is a turn off to him and probably others. I sobbed after he said that cuz he hardly knows me and felt he could speak about me so negatively. Social interaction is a major issue of mine so when people repeatedly ignore or can't hang out with me and then hang out with others, it feels personal. I'm also not seeing positive effects from therapy so that realization combined with his words was saddening. I want to stop talking to him but I feel it will prove his point that I unnecessarily take everything to heart. Am I overreacting? Has anyone else ever dealt with their friends and family rudely talking about your issues? 


A friend of mine tried to set me up with a guy friend of hers. He and I met and have been talking and trying to hang out with cuz we're both out of school for summer. He's busy since he's a local, works a lot, and most of his friends and family are here. Im not a local, don't have many friends, and only have work going for me right now and I'm not scheduled often so I have more free time than him. 

Any time I ask him to hang out he's usually preoccupied. He asks why I feel bad if he can't hang and I tell him that it just sucks to not have anyone to hang out with and is isolating. He went off on me about how off putting it is that I take everything to heart and seem to get offended if he's unavailable. He told me my insecurity and over/unnecessary apologizing makes him feel like he's walking on eggshells, doesn't want to get to know me and that it probably turns off others. I didn't know what to say except "I'm working on it". He said that was good, apologized for coming off as rude and said it wasn't his intention. Ironically I had told my parents how I'm considering stopping therapy and school because I feel so stagnant and alone and nothing helps. Am I overreacting? I understand this guy has a point but I don't think it was fair of him to say what he said because he doesn't know me well. That if I block him it will prove his point about me overreacting but he still said something incredibly hurtful. Has this happened to anyone else? How did you deal with it, did you tell the person how you felt,  and did anything change for the better?