My family love telling me “don’t get yourself in a state” and “try not to worry”  “don’t get all funny in the head” whenever I have a legitimate concern over something. It’s almost like a running thing to casually belittle my feelings because I have anxiety. Yesterday I had a dr appointment where I was referred for an urgent ultrasound and the doctor literally told me there was a chance it “could be sinister” and I called my mum and sister straight after and they both said these things to me. The funny part is I was completely calm and shocked myself at how well I handled the situation. They didn’t even wait to see whether I was panicking they just assumed I’d “get myself in a state”. I get where they are coming from but it is SO unhelpful like what am I supposed to do with that? I can’t turn my feelings off and any normal person would worry FFS. If it was them that had been told that by a dr I would not react like that, it seemed so insensitive to me and made me feel like I couldn’t express my feelings the way someone without anxiety would be given space to.