Does anyone else hate themselves so much that you just need to hurt yourself as punishment? I hate who I am, I'm ruining my relationship and I don't know how to fix it. My boyfriend always tells me whenever we get into arguments that how I react is selfish and unfair and he doesn't believe that me being unsympathetic, unempathetic and unable to care about his emotions is just me and nothing else. That is who I am. Whenever he says this, I just hate myself so much. I . hate who I am and how angry and emotional I get and how much I overreact to things that I just get this huge urge to self harm because I just feel like I deserve it and use it almost as a punishment and I just hate who I am. I also feel like I want to self harm because I'm too much of a coward to commit suicide. But at the same time I feel like he always makes me feel bad for any negative emotion.  It's as if I can't express feeling negative about anything without him telling me I'm overreacting. Surely I'm allowed to feel negative emotion as well? I'm not always overreacting. I just don't know anymore. I desperately want to self harm but I don't want it to be visible to anyone else, so my family and friends don't find out.