I stumbled upon your community today and am wondering if anyone might be able to help me figure how to support someone I care about. My apologies if this is not an appropriate question here, please let me know and I will remove. 

This person does not have a BPD diagnosis but they present with **all** of the symptoms I have read about and they have experienced a host of adverse experiences that I understand can contribute to BPD's presentation. There is concurrent heavy alcohol use - but in hindsight BPD-type behaviour was clear before the alcohol use (perhaps late childhood). They are an adult  now so no one can compel them to treatment, but I am at a loss for how to support them. I am constantly fearful for their life, as are the other 2-3 people aware of the level that this person's self-destructive actions can and does reach. There is no talking to this person about feelings or the prospect of getting professional support - past attempts have ended in violence and general downward spiralling. 

My question to this group is: How would you approach this? Is there anything I or others can do? No step or suggestion is too small (even if it seems obvious to you) because I am truly at a loss. 

 