Basically I got mad at my s/o for something dumb and instead of saying “i understand” when he vented his frustrations, i fought my ground like i almost always do. he got upset for good reason and said that he wouldn’t be staying in the relationship if i kept acting like this and if i wasn’t even trying to change (which, maybe i don’t want to fully admit to myself, but is kinda true). my mind kind of just want to shut off and not care and continue to do what i’m doing and just brace for impact since my fear of abandonment is kicking in but my heart is telling me to keep trying and not to push the relationship away and to be proactive not reactive but it’s so hard. any advice on what to do or any coping skills? i dont really know how to flag this ):