My best friends wife invited my wife to a baby shower - they’re friendly but not that close. She said via text “it’s small and will be mostly family and close friends, you might not know anybody”

My wife says “oh, that’s okay, I’m sure I’ll make friends…”

“Ok, but it’s small and intimate, you don’t have to come if you’re uncomfortable”

My wife says “do you not want me to come?” - in my eyes making it AWKWARD. She has anxiety. 

In my view she’s just prepping her for what is to come and NOT sorta uninviting her?? Which is what my wife is saying and taking offense to. 

I think she’s just giving her a picture/prepping her. And not trying hint at “don’t come”

Thoughts?