We texted each other today. I told her I forgave her that she acted the way she did and that i hoped she would forgive me for acting the way I did.


It went well and we sent some messages back and forth.

After that I slowly suggested that we go out for a drink as friends. Just the two of us. So we could just enjoy ourselves and have a good time. She responded honestly and sincerely.


" I don't want to keep you in limbo"

"You said I was not good to you.And you were right that I acted like a bitch to you."

"I want to do that and I have a good friend in you. And it's not that I don't want to do anything with you. I just don't think it's a good plan right now"


I suggested we just go out after a few weeks among friends to see if we managed to be in each others company this way. She said yes.


I feel dumped. I should be grateful that she was honest but most of all I feel selfish towards her for not wanting to just be a friend and be there for her. I want her to see me as more than just a friend.

Am I starting to become like her and be all or nothing? I'm terrified right now that I'm starting to think in the same pattern that brought me here. 


I just wanna go out, have a good time and have no ulterior motives in the short term. 

I'm stuck between wanting to be there for her and wanting her.

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