Hello Reddit! I'm a teenage college student with BPD, and would like to ask you all something: do you ever feel the need to constantly feel like a victim?

I had noticed this pattern of mine since middle school, but didn't think much of it until my actual diagnosis. But now I realize... if I can bring up something sad/inconvenient in my life (ex. distant classmate's suicide, grandfather's illness ten years ago, aunt I never speak to getting into a car accident), I invariably will--and will add a ton of exaggeration/will twist the tale to make myself seem as victimized and hurt as possible, to receive as much sympathy as possible. You know, that kind of stuff.

One of my friends (who also has BPD) went as far as to claim to the guy she's dating that she was a victim of child sexual abuse--when she told me in private she's not. When I asked her why, she said that it's the only way she can justify her pattern of promiscuity, substance abuse, and impulsive behavior. 

So, fellow Redditors: can you relate to this at all? Because I'm starting to wonder if we BPD females kinda deserve the reputation we get from other males and the media. 