About the over reacting and aggressiveness: I have readed that people with BPD (pwbpd) explain in two different ways this: a) they note that they did it after doing it, not in the moment, so they can´t avoid it; or b) they note it while it´s happening, but they can´t stop.

Well, the thing is that every person on the planet can relate to this, myself included (I don´t have BPD), everyone makes this kind of mystakes, and when I, or anyone else do it, I think that I was an asshole in that moment, or that the person that did it was an asshole in that moment. It´s not ok for me or for anyone to ask for respect when behaving like assholes. Everyone should take responsability for his/her actions. Having traumas or anxiety or depression is not same kind of vip pass that allows you to do anything you feel like.

About the paranoia: I understand that sometimes pwbpd feel this, but when you explain to them, again and again, and pwbpd respond with more aggressions, again and again, I don´t know what to think. If you understand (in a "intellectual" way), but you decide to follow your feelings instead of your reasoning, then you are being an asshole on porpouse. If you don´t understand, and continue to believe in the paranoid ideas, and getting aggressive for them, then you are a psychotic and you should be hospitalized to prevent damages to yourself or others.

About the feeling of not being real: Why would you mind about that? In which way would the knowledge of being or not being real would change any aspect of your life?