This isn’t some thought of mine though, I’ve thought about it for a long time, and all of her behavior matches. I’ve learned I can bring the best out of us when I try, but it’s really hard not to bring out the worst. I had quiet borderline and have done this dissociative thing since I was young and once I stopped I act just like her, but not doing that dissociative thing is hard sometimes and once I got to this petulant borderline (which I didn’t know the difference until I started wondering) I realized I was acting just like her, and it would sometimes make me feel bad but not intense guilt, I’d just reflect on the times where I didn’t really think she had anything because I’ve known her for a long time. And her worrying about what everyone’s thinking, panic attacks (she calls them mental breakdowns) and a lot of what she calls overthinking, and basically just fits the diagnosis.. I’ve tried to tell her our minds work the same but she knows I have problems and sometimes she gets defensive.. I always try to reassure her that it’s not because of that and that we should see it as a good thing but she can’t really see it that way cause she doesn’t wanna think she has problems. What should I do? Today was a very bad argument on something I said to someone awhile ago and when I’m sad she feeds off of it for anger.. It makes me sad because I know we’re the same and there’s an easier solution. How should I approach it?