Im trying to figure out why do I hate when my SO is sad, lays in bed sad..like i just wanna be brutally honest and say to them to get up and stop wasting time (i know it sounds very bad), i do try to soothe them irl and stuff but still feel the frustration. Its maybe like a form of ruining my plans with them? Idk, its like a selfish way i wish they are always happy and in the mood (because of me, cuz i see my self as a life sufferor).

I do have huge empathy and these are just mixed intense feelings