Hey all. Hope you’re doing well today.

I know Rule 4 states that I cannot ask for a diagnosis from this sub, and I understand the reasoning behind that. So, instead, I’m here to share some symptoms I’m experiencing with depression that share similarities to BPD symptoms, and I’d like your guys’ opinion on whether or not they are significant enough to mention to my therapist.

I’ll try to keep this concise.

A video popped up in my YouTube recommended. It was an interview with a lady who had BPD, and in that video, she shared her everyday experience with it, and some of the symptoms she experienced. I was disturbed to find out just how much her symptoms resonated with me—I literally could say I’ve experienced *all* of them. In was in that video I learned about the name “splitting,” which so accurately described how I irrationally viewed others and either saw them as best friends or total enemies. She touched on dissociation which I’ve been dealing with for a few years now all the time. I resonated with how she said her emotions could not be regulated, and how she would intentionally sabatoge relationships with friends and family. Impulsivity...lack of self-identity...self-harm...

But I am conflicted because I feel like these things could just be byproducts of my depression, and me being “overly sensitive.” There seems to be a lot of overlap between depression and BPD, and it appears that most people with BPD experience depression as well. However, I feel like people would never describe me as a person who is unstable or exhibits BPD symtpoms. They would just describe me as emotional and depressed.

I had a girlfriend with BPD. I have seen the disorder and tried to “fix her” and mend her. I have nowhere near as much anxiety as she does, and I am not as emotionally unstable as she is (I am not emotionally stable, but my emotions don’t swing as drastically). I definitely do not exhibit BPD like she does, but I still feel as if I have a lot in common with the symptoms.

Anyway, I’ll cut it short here. Should I mention this stuff to my therapist and even mention “BPD,” or are these symptoms most likely coming from my depression? My therapist is well-versed in both CBT and dialectical therapy, so I guess it couldn’t hurt, but *I don’t want to sound like I am vying for a diagnosis, especially since I don’t experience BPD as strongly as others who are suffering.* Is it possible this is just my depression?

Thank you for yours guys’ help. :-)