I’ve decided to detach myself from my FP, I’ve realized how much emotional pain it’s brought me and how unhealthy it is for the both of us. I’m tired of revolving my life around someone- I know it’s bad to put that responsibility in their hands (they’ve had a very traumatic experience themselves, I’ve always gave them their space when necessary) but how? 
I’m trying to be consistent and not give myself an empty promise- a promise not to rely on a person and being OKAY that they talk to other people, not thinking they’re going to abandon me when they don’t speak to me for a certain amount of time, etc. I want to live a happy life with my best friend, without being emotionally dependent and potentially hurting our relationship due to my insecurities and fears. 

Is this the right option to go with? I’m not in therapy because of financial issues, so I’m really just going off of what advice I’ve received from others and doing my own research.