Me and my boyfriend of almost a year are fighting almost constantly about me not being there to talk to him when he’s upset but when I’m upset he seems to care less. I’ve explicitly told him I’ve been having urged to self harm again &amp;a these fights aren’t helping but he just turns everything around to make him seem like the victim. I don’t want to split on him but that’s what’s been happening then I go into a depression type thing and just want to hurt myself &amp; idk how to stop this 