I’m not quite sure where to post this. My partner of 15 years has incredible high days and bedridden low days. They admit that something is abnormal, but they outright refuse to visit a doctor. This has been getting progressively worse for years.

I’m honestly getting to my wits end. My partner does not have a job, but also does not do any housework. On high days, they’re going on and on about these amazing careers they’re going to start. They talk loudly and happily and want so much love. On low days, they just lay in front of the tv and cry, and just my presence seems to set them off in a fit of rage. It’s about 70% bad days. Almost no in between.

Im not asking for a diagnosis, but does this resemble mania? I’ve never had depression, and without a doctors visit I can’t really be sure what this is. Im debating whether to do some sort of intervention with family to convince my partner to get professional help. I don’t know what else to do and it’s ruining both of our lives.