Whenever I'm venting to my mum, i'm usually crying, yelling, speaking with an angry tone or whatever and she'll say some suggestion and i answer with the same emotional charge i started the rant with and she always says "why are you taking it out on me? "Why are you speaking to me rudely?" "Stop yelling at me" and it enrages me so much because i feel she is making it all about her and its fucking not its because im angry and upset and im not suddenly going to calm down just to answer her. I end up always yelling at her saying shit like "Stop making it about you" "you think everything is about you" etc and then we'll storm off.
Am i being selfish? I mean i definitely do get angry and feel she does make it about her when im trynna vent and yes i do reply rudley and aggressively but its because im upset and venting and cant just calm down to answer her and just get angrier the more she says that kinda stuff.
Does this happen to anyone else? Am i being inconsiderate? I feel what i feel but is it unreasonable? Am i in the wrong? Is this a bpd thing? Idk help 