She broke up with me 3 weeks ago because of issues related to my then undiagnosed BPD. It wasn’t angry and there wasn’t any hard feelings other than me being extremely sad about it. I texted her almost a week after asking if she needed help moving. She declined but it was a couple texts back and forth. I just texted her this morning to see how her Christmas was and she’s nice about it but I feel like she’s disinterested and just talking because she feels obligated to.

Since my diagnosis, I’ve been doing noticeably better already with new meds and after reading some books on BPD. I still don’t think I’m ready to date again just yet because I don’t want to sabotage another good thing. I do wish she would take me back though.

I want to thank her for kicking my ass into gear about finally getting my mental health shit straightened out but I don’t know if that would be inappropriate. Are my actions unhealthy? Should I do some things differently?