Im just asking regarding this. I made a post about something similar in a different subreddit and someone brought to my attention my mom is being abusive in the fact that she is not wanting to allow me to be independent. Some things she has helped with before but I also feel the amount she helps stifles my growth, e.g. she wants control over my post secondary school accounts to view my marks and pay tuition for me.

I'm going to be living back home and working for a few years to pay off loans but I absolutely CANNOT stand it there because when we disagree, we get into yelling arguments and she's so loud and obnoxious and constantly bitches at my Dad over everything too. "Why isn't supper made? You know I've had a long day and was coming home late!" But yelling.

I dunno. I accept that financially I want to pay off my loans before I move out... Probably... because I'll pay them off faster then I can just leave the country, but that doesn't make her very happy at all. She says I can't do it (move to a new country) and took it as a joke. Even though that's a 5-7 year projection I'm planning for. Not instantaneous.

Anyone else experience this? Is this abuse?