Hello!

I wasn't sure which subreddit to turn to for advice, but I figured the BPD one would be a good start since I have BPD and part of my hesitation to do anything is because of my BPD. 

My husband and I have been living in this house for about two years, he is active duty so we are due to move next summer. 

However, the house we are renting is managed by a property manager and IMO she is absolutely terrible at her job. 

-When we moved in the fence in the backyard was effed and they said they would fix it. This did not happen for MONTHS, even when part of the fence collapsed into the neighbors yard. 

-There is major water damage under the kitchen sink. My husband had sent an email to the property manager about it and she didn't answer. 

-Told her about our issues with the AC. They never sent someone. 

-Told them about a door that's off the hinges and got "well you guys didn't take care of it." So I'm hiring a handyman.

-There are...black flakes that will come out of the faucets. We just use pitchers that filter water. We know we should have reported it to her but both of our feelings were we really don't want to deal with her. 
 

-During a recent housing inspection she didn't say anything to my face. But I got a letter saying the house was found to be in "deplorable" condition because of "boxes" and an "overaccumulation of stuff" and that there would be a reinspection in 30 days. I have that inspection next week but I'm angry because it's worded like I'm a hoarder and also the last inspection, the property manager just swooped in a week early without prior communication and was rude to me. 

-Theres damage to some trimming and she has said oh you guys haven't fixed it. And then will say don't worry about it. So which is it? 

-She doesn't respond to emails. She has ignored phone calls from my husband before. 

-When the owner of the house has a concern you bet your ass the property manager is calling us. But when we need something or have an issue it's crickets. 

I don't know what to do. I've thought about filing a complaint but I don't want to get kicked out. I looked at filing an ethics complaint but I don't know if I have a leg to stand on and also from what I was reading that includes hearings like court and I'd rather not go through that unless if I absolutely have to. I have moved multiple times in this state because of circumstances with my military service when I was active duty before getting out. I don't think my husband would be on board with filing a complaint because of fear of getting kicked out and also because we leave next summer either way. My husband has rationalized it as she isn't here to cater to us, she works for the owner but we are still tenants of this house, shouldn't our problems be getting fixed? Do I just have a skewed perspective on this? Am I being irrational? Am I just holding onto a grudge? 

I also absolutely refuse to deal with her because of my BPD because I WILL start something. My husband is supposed to be here for the reinspection and I was going to go take a walk because if she says anything and I'm in earshot I'm probably going to freaking blow up. I was thinking if anything, I can be THAT person and post scathing reviews on any and all places that I find her name and the companies name  and also if they host an open house I can tell potential tenants to their faces about my experiences with this property manager. I'm just REALLY frustrated and I know if I have to even talk to her my BPD is going to be off and running. 

I'm really looking for an outside perspective and I would also appreciate any and all advice or if I could be pointed to another sub. 

Thank you for your time and reading this wall of text!