Nowadays there is something noble about people taking on rescue animals. Often they have suffered abuse or a lot of instability and people know there is more effort in creating a solid foundation and gaining their trust – but the long-term reward is worth it and often these lovely cats / dogs / other are so much more loyal and grateful for their love in the end. It's really lovely to see.

When humans suffer abuse or instability, it's so different. I understand there are some cases where people are not seeking help for themselves and relationships are a one-way effort, or people are just not compatible. All in all, people just aren't seen in the same way? How can mentally BPD folks heal and build better foundations for themselves when society is telling the people around them to RUN AWAY!!!

I wish people wanted to put in at least a tiny bit of extra effort with those who were dealt a shitty card in life the same way they do with animals. A lot of us just need a bit of extra reassurance to know people truly care and aren't going to just run at the first sign of being different.

For those close to me I have so much love to give them as well (given I am recovered for the most part now) but you rarely hear about those examples... I have been spending most of my evenings helping friends spruce up their CVs, cover letters and job applications, dropping off meals (no contact!), helping wherever I can in these challenging times.

Sometimes when you do put in the effort, it pays off in a very loving friendship! Just make sure the person is working to improve themselves and it is a healthy relationship where both sides are making effort – don't drain yourself in the process of trying to rescue someone. Just be there, and be consistent. It can pay off in the long run.