Hey guys,

  
As the title suggests, i'm looking for help or tips on how to help someone with anxiety.  
My boyfriend (27 m) has GAD and PTSD and I (24 m) have BPD and our relationship isn't that stable for the past 2 years, sadly, but i want to make it better. He's worrying too much, can't relax, can't sleep very well, he feels himself attacked by whatever i say and if i try to tell him that he misunderstood me or try to elaborate, he comes with a "no, you're projecting, i didn't do anything, i'm perfectly fine, you need help, because you have BPD and you're abusive" sentence or he just doesn't want to talk about anything when it gets serious, he always says that it's too much for him to handle mentally and has no capacity anymore.  
I understand that i've been a lot to deal with in the past and i am accountable for these reactions, but as a partner all i can do is listen to him, try to help as much as i can, but somehow i can't believe, that my symtoms are so bad that everytime (and i mean literally everytime) something happens my disorder gets the blame.  


I guess what i'm trying to ask is, how can i help him see, that he isn't as stable as he thinks he is? His living situation is not that great right now, hence he has anxiety over that subject too, but he promised as long as it's cleared, he wants to do trauma therapy and then CBT.  
What can i do to help him until then? I honestly feel like i'm walking on the eggshells with him and he doesn't believe that either. Any tips?  


Thank You.