My mother fits almost all criteria for bpd (I am not a psychiatrist though so idk) though she has no problems with abandoning someone else quickly or disowning them. 

When I was younger I said she was manipulative and she kicked me out of the house, in the following weeks it was as if I did not exist at all. She would end friendships suddenly, think friends and family members are against her in some way. 

I’m still very confused by this, I have ended friendships very suddenly before when I was really depressed because my pride was hurt and I feared explicit rejection, could this be what it is?