Over in AskWomen thread
[an AskWomen thread](https://np.reddit.com/r/AskWomen/comments/5dpezd/girls_what_things_guys_like_to_do_to_each_other/da6fi9l/?context=3&amp;st=ivp2r7tf&amp;sh=16e79aa2),
 /u/Gizortnik delivers an excellent visualization of emotional boundaries, further discussed in a [bestof thread](https://np.reddit.com/r/bestof/comments/5drxkl/ugizortnik_eloquently_explains_why_men_are/?st=ivphq08c&amp;sh=c32894c1).  I think it's a fascinating and useful analogy.  I'd like to hear what /r/BPD thinks of it, and how it relates to those with BPD.

As a male borderline, I think it helps describe some of my tactics, and why other men find me so bewildering.  My walls shift from day to day, hour to hour, and men used to these interactions don't like that; we're supposed to be consistent.  I also break the rules by throwing grenades instead of bricks. "Your momma!"  "Yeah?  My mom died last year, which you would remember if you were a real friend."

I also think it's a useful tool.  Instead of hearing an insult and thinking "what a dick, how can he think so little of my friend?  Does he think that about me too?  Am I next?" I can recognize the game that is being played for what it is, accept it, and participate or not as I choose.
