And that’s okay. We all love differently, for one. It can be awful as someone with BPD to be hyper-vigilant of your loved ones’ (especially significant other) and how they appear to love. Part of this is seeing their reaction to conflict. 

Very few will feel that BURNING in their flesh, that crushing feeling in their chest, the absolute anguish we feel when arguing with our favorite person. Even if it isn’t that important of an argument, it HURTS. You’ll feel devastated and at times, they don’t even seem to care. 

How could you be feeling so upset, and they’re seemingly normal? Clearly they don’t love you as much as you love them, or even love you at all, right?

Wrong. Let’s be honest, ideally people wouldn’t get as upset over disagreements as we do. Part of being a healthy member of a relationship is not freaking out over disagreements. We’re different, it’s hard, and that’s okay.

This brings me to my title. No, nobody loves you as much as you love them, but that’s actually an inaccurate way to view it. Every human is unique, and loves others the best they know how (assuming they don’t suck). This means your partner’s love for you is unique and special in its own, just as yours for them is. 

It’s hard to not feel like nobody loves as much as we do. But that just isn’t true. We can never know how someone truly feels, but chances are they love you as much as they are able to, even when it doesn’t feel like it. After all, our best isn’t always perfect, as we know…