I have a friend that is pretty unhealthy place right now.   We've been friends for years, and I believe the friendship is worth preserving. 

If I were in a better place I might be able to handle it, but now every time we talk I kind of make things worse 

( I want her to get out of a really abusive living environment, and she says she wants to leave, but won't do anything to actually leave. She feels trapped and I offer to help her but she always has excuses. But ever time we talk she says she wants to leave, and when I offer help she doesn't want to go and gets angry. )


I don't want to lose her friendship for good, but I need space right now.  She probably does too. 

In the past I would make some big, dramatic announcement, and burn the whole thing down. 

I don't want to hurt her more. I don't want to hurt myself. 

How do I distance myself a bit without hurting her (she's in a really sensitive place herself, although she isn't BPD)? 

