I'm a 42yo female... I was diagnosed with Bipolar II at 21 and then BPD at 40. I have a pretty good life for someone with BPD and I recognize that, but it's hard as hell. I have what my therapist calls "quiet BPD" (anyone else??) and the amount of effort I put into concealing the struggles in my mind is exhausting. Every now and then they burst out until I push them back in again. And lately I have been wondering, does this ever get better? Looking back I started showing signs of BPD at 15... Are there 70 year olds out there with BPD? Do people with BPD really make it that far in life? Or do we all eventually succumb to suicide or addiction or consequences of our poor or impulsive choices?

I so badly would like a "mentor" who has BPD and is 60 or 70 and can tell me, "You CAN live a long, good life with BPD".