I have a “friend” who was friends with my SO. The “friend” and their SO, were so unhealthy to my SO and I’s relationship it was almost quite laughable. I feel really bad now because I suspected the “friend” of having BPD and they have confirmed this through “talks” we’ve had in the past, it took me a while to forgive this individual because the amount of chaos they kept adding to my life. For example, they would make up stories about how I did all these things that I straight up never did, or had no recollection of these things that I supposedly did because they never were done out of malicious intent... but they would believe to their core that I was pretty much the worst person imagineable. When I tried to reach out to them they made up some story and gave my partner an ultimatum basically saying “we love you but we can’t be your friend in you’re with her” I have never once responded to any of the harsh shit they said to and about me. My partner has blocked them from every way imaginable to contact us and honestly life is soooo much easier without these two In it but I can’t help but feel bad. My partner is so over them and doesn’t care one bit to reconcile his 6-8 year friendship with them... but for me, if they’re dealing with BPD, I feel like I should be more understanding and try harder for them. I feel like my partner should try to be more forgiving too but unfortunately this isn’t the first time this has happened with these two. They do it all the time. I want to care for them and help them and also experience the good times we had again, even if they were few and far between, idk I was just wondering if anyone has any advice on dealing with this....it’s sooo hard for us to deal with but it has got to be unimaginably harder for this person going through BPD i wish they could see us as allies and not enemies. I want to be supportive of my friends