Hi! I hope everyone here is doing pretty well!

I'll be blunt and say part of this post is to seek validation but another part of it is to just get as objective of an opinion as I can from people who understand the disorder (since I'm not public about it--it's hard to talk to people about it).

So long story short: I recently got promoted at work and somehow that promotion opened the door to a lot of drama at work. 

Some background: mostly everyone at my store gossips, including myself. For some reason or the other, a lot of people like to talk to me about things--like what's going on in their life, their frustrations, their feelings, etc. That's totally okay and I'm happy they feel comfortable enough to do that.

Since I've been promoted, I've picked up on a surge of gossip about me. Whatever--I guess that's to be expected. It hurts a bit but self-care can help bandage that wound. 

The thing I have an issue with is people putting words in my mouth or twisting what I say (e.g., me complimenting the chemistry of two of my coworkers to their faces turned into me apparently telling everyone that one of them was cheating on her boyfriend with the other coworker). 

I've been trying to clear the air with people since (a) I'm a supervisor now and (b) I don't want people to think that badly of me.

I'm noticing though that certain people--especially the heavy gossipers--are only becoming more upset and spitting more vitriol about me as I try to clean up any messes around my name/reputation. They say that I "kiss and tell" (e.g., spread gossip) and I "spread negative energy" when I say things to people like "I heard from multiple people that you're unhappy at our store. Is it true?"

It's hard enough managing my emotions in this type of job and not splitting on my coworkers in the middle of a shift that I'm running. I can't help but feel like I'm being vilified for something that everyone does. I know I'm not completely innocent but now I can't help but feel like everyone's out to get me. I can recognize that's an irrational thought but it still hurts. To make it worse: I'm starting to struggle a bit since obviously my workplace gets stressful and now that I feel a bit uncomfortable around my coworkers, a part of me wants to retreat but I'm sorta stuck as a supervisor. I've tried to retreat a bit only to get a mix of concerned coworkers and other coworkers who call me manipulative. I would never want to hurt anyone but I'm afraid that with more and more messes I have to clean up--it'll get to me and I might just crash.

So for all of you lovely people still reading this, I have two questions:

1.) How do you handle workplace drama as someone with BPD?

2.) Is it wrong to try to clear the air around my name as a supervisor or am I indulging too much into pleasing everyone around me (a trait that helps in my job...but also has ramifications)?

Thanks for your replies! :)