so i understand that splitting can be described as a switch between love/idealization and hate and i was just wondering if my experience sounds like a version of that and what yours is. so when i split i feel like i become cold? like i change completely as a person and go silent and i can’t even bring myself to look at the person and i ignore them completely or i’m short with them and don’t want them near me. i know this is toxic :/ i don’t like when i get like this but it’s almost like when i’m in the moment i can’t get out of it right away? and my thoughts about them are so mean and it’s truly like i resent or dislike them a lot in the moment and then later on it’s like i’m back to wanting them close and being overly affectionate or almost clingy? this happens almost daily when i perceive that maybe they hate me or did something wrong to me so i act really distant? and i start arguments out of nowhere i just wish i had better coping skills. what is your splitting like?