I (19F) will make it short.

Never had sexual education or really talked about the topic “sex” with my parents.

Only thing I remember from studies in science class is that condoms have 25% of failure and that pills are the most secure way to not get pregnant. But I’m not sure what pill, because I know there are pills you take for long periods and pills you take the day after.

Moreover I don’t know if the pill of the day after is an abortive pill, I think I heard someone saying this, not sure, though. Not sure even if and when the embryo starts to form, and a lot of pressure from society for religion stuff etc.

Once I told my mom that I wanted to know in case I had a boyfriend and she responded that when the time comes we’ll talk then. You can imagine how that reassured me. Exactly, gave me even more stress, because I FREAKING have NO CLUE, because I heard too many rumors. Neither I am comfortable talking about this with my therapist because she is strongly Catholic (I am a believer too, but in a personal way, because of some trauma I sadly had with church - nothing really serious, if you’re asking, but it certainly marked me for years and made me struggle a lot, physically and mentally😪 - let’s say that I’m a more fundamentalist one, if that make sense, thinking with my own intelligence, as EVERYONE, sincerely, should do in whatsoever circumstance!) and I have this kind of “thinking xenophobia” I call it: fear of diverse opinion on certain things, and even though I am slowly overcoming it, I’m not sure that talking about birth control with her, who got married at 23 and have 5 kids (now she’s 50) will help me.

So basically I have no one who can educate me. I could go to my gynecologist, but, I mean, I neither have a boyfriend, or am liking someone at the moment 😂 so that would not make sense xD it’s just that… I WANT TO KNOW! 

A lot of people even younger than me had their first time or are having it or have sex multiple times, so, at least, I want to know the theory, you know?😂

QUESTION:

So, what I would like to know is if there is an existing way (exluding not having sex, obviously), to be reassured you will NOT getting pregnant if you have a sexual intercourse, and avoiding a consequent abortion.

OPTIONS that make me doubt:

\- CONDOM? Will certainly use it, but WHAT IF it breaks 😱 that 25% is too much for me

\- PILL? Not sure which one is “the abortive one”, which one can make you gain weight etc. I guess there are many types… so, it’s a “mystery” for me

\- WITHOUT PENETRATION? Not only I find it a little sad, I got to be honest xD, but I think it is risky! (if both naked, of course). What would you do then? Do one at a time? WAY SADDER. What would you share then?

\- ANAL? Seems so much painful (and I heard, low key, it is)

\- EXITING BEFORE THE CLIMAX? No wayyy I’m trusting the other person. To expose my conditions THAT much. And moreover there still is possibility that he ejaculated before the climax

\- I know some other methods by name, but they are way too extreme or have higher percentages of failure than condoms

SO, what do you do? From your experiences?   
Thanks in advance! 💓💓🫶🏻