Calculating 'attention marks' from this person. 

I catch myself do this constantly. It's like I will assess over and over again if I can get attention from this person, like, what words should I say to get him to response me? What things should I say?  And everyone has a 'calculation point' upon their heads. More means more likely to react, less means less likely to react. 

And not only they have points, but they have aspects, like person A is for talking about animals, person B is for talking about family. But the thing is, you see them very 'technically'. You will say something like, 'Oh! Person A loves animals so he/she can fulfill my needs, or wants of talking about animals! Therefore I can socialize with him!'  but not in a very human way like 'Oh person A like animals, me too! How great is that'.  Then, you might think of preparing animals topics with him, but the fact is, you might just not like animals at all, but just for the sake of socializing.

And the whole mentality behind is 'me' - what do 'I' want, am 'I' fulfilled, and second, how am I going to get myself 'social', yes, prepare some topics! 

Do you feel like this? 