what are healthy habits people have implemented when they are feeling super duper alone and their fear of abandonment is at its worst?   


about a year and a half ago I left my abusive partner of 5yrs, that relationship continued due to my obsessive need to be with someone and fear of being alone. I then met someone (about a week later, side note: I can't remember the last time I was properly single...it's a problem), who is super loving and free (they have their own issue etcetc but essentially they showed me what a healthy relationship should look like) but I noticed that I have now normalised the behaviour that I implemented in my old relationship (and the abusive behaviour my father showed a lot of my life) which is quite toxic, abusive and obsessive. I was diagnosed with BPD about 7mth ago now. Throughout these past few years I have become a very jealous and cynical person instead of the freely trusting and loving person I used to be. So anyway getting to the point now, I forced myself to move states (within australia) to break the toxic/abusive habits I have adopted as my own and really focus on healing, mind you this is only for a few months but hopefully will be the break I need to reset the brain, however, I have been having a hard time with feeling deeply alone. Both the guy I was most recently seeing and myself have agreed that space away from each other physically and virtually would be for the best and tbh it's feeling like I am tearing off a limb, I know that might sound like I am exaggerating, but I am seriously grieving something that is still there...guys it's only been like TWO days of not officially talking but goodness, here I am seeking advice. Anything that you guys have found to work please please share &lt;3