I made a post the other week about my relationship issues. Long story short, my partner (of 5 years) has crohns and depression. Both of which make him miss a good amount of work and require lots of emotional support from me. I've grown to resent him and have told him I need him to become more independent because I just can't give him the support he needs without breaking down myself. 

So last week we had a big talk/fight/almost break up and got everything out on the table. We've had mini versions of this before "you did this that bothered me" "oh I love you I will change" next day, no change. Sure, change can't happen quickly, but it's just gotten to the point where I'm not sure if any change is possible and it's making me feel like a chump for still being in this relationship. 

I thought maybe the reason I was feeling so negatively about him was because I was putting all my positive thinking into my new FP/secondary partner. But some time away (like just hanging out as friends for the past week and not secondaries) has made me realize that they have nothing to do with how I'm feeling towards my primary. 

I don't know what to do anymore. Am I just being a bitch for not being able to be there 100% for his crohns and depression? Can things get better? 