Hey, Im a person without BPD whose significant other has BPD. Recently I think they split on me? They broke up with me and had gone as far as posting about being single and asking people to hit their line. What caused this is that I canceled plans last minute with a friend i haven’t seen in over a year and live states away. They were only coming down for a weekend and i had plans with my s/o. I cancelled me and my S/o’s plans because my friend had already bought the hotel and had been planning this for months to surprise me. I tried to include my S/o without messing up my friends plans because they weren’t my plans to mess up.

They keep calling me things and saying that they never loved me and ended the relationship without seeing my side of the story. My friend is still very close with my ex and invited him over and he spent the night. I told my partner as soon as i found out. I never knew he would be here.  They wouldn’t believe me and kept throwing accusations at me and blocking me. I was uncomfortable that he was here, and i understand i crossed a boundary but it’s not my plan to cancel. Ive kept my distance from him this entire weekend except for a hand full of times where i would hop into the conversation.

How do i go about this? I can’t tell if it’s splitting and that we might still have a shot, or if she actually hates me. I need help, i see their side and i understand but they won’t see mine and i don’t want to loose them. What can i do? Are they just splitting or do they actually hate me?