The more detail the better. If you've read my previous posts then I want to reassure you, this isn't some kind of weird self-punishment thing. I just want to understand what it's like to get hit with that kind of loss. My ex never used terms like favorite person and isn't a part of any BPD communities- I don't think she sees the point - but I'm pretty sure I was/am her FP. I kinda figure that her telling me that she thinks about me "probably more often than I should. Constantly" it kinda seals the deal.