My best friend has type 2 bipolar. Her relationship broke down last year and she leaned on me quite heavily during this time. Her mood was really low but it was manageable as she was openly communicating with me.

She has been made remarks before indicating she’s jealous of my other friends and my social life. She lives further away from me and has children whereas I’m single and live in a city so have a busy life (but always have time for her). 

I asked her something about work on a Sunday and she told me she’d quit her job after a fight with her boss. I asked if she need me to come over and she ignored me. She can’t afford not to work so this was a big deal. On the Monday I text her again and got no answer. Tuesday I tried again (FYI I couldnt sleep for worrying) and met a friend after my work for a drink and posted it on Instagram. On the Wednesday my friend put something about work on Insta and I messaged her a cute meme we sent back and forth. I asked how she was and said I was worried “yeah so worried you managed to go out drinking on Tuesday”. Now, it seems either she overreacted and apologised at work or she just lied to me about quitting then ignored my messages. 

I’ve been on eggshells for months and she told me she’s having a really bad time with her mental health. She’s paranoid and for weeks she would only contact me to accuse me of doing something she had no grounds for. 

I was giving her some space which she asks for sometimes (then accuses me of ignoring her) but sent her a message about some event we were going to say it had been cancelled and she blocked me. 

I do think she’ll come back around but does anyone have any tips on how to deal with this? I think not saying anything is causing me anxiety and depression and really affecting my self esteem. I’ve been reading up on bipolar to find as much info as I can and see how much of this behaviour is to be expected and how long these episodes can last.