Sorry for any spelling or grammar mistakes, rushing through this bc I have a lot of work

What do you do when your negative thoughts are usually right? 

I always can feel a guy lose interest at least a few days before he actually ghosts or admits that he’s no longer interested. 

My therapist tells me to stop catastrophizing. And she’s right, I should stop doing that. But when the worst case happens often in a particular situation, isn’t it just insanity and stupidity to NOT think that it will happen again? 

Like I don’t think this sort of thing is catastrophizing because it happens often and with a predictable pattern. 

For example- I went out with a guy on Wednesday. Went well. I went to his neighborhood, stupid and out of character, but I figured he’d visit me for date two. 

We had said Sunday for date two. On Thursday he let me know his friend from college was visiting and Monday would be better but that he would do Sunday if I couldn’t hang Monday. Me, trying to be accommodating, said sure. Monday it is. 

I’ve had a feeling since Saturday he was gonna ditch me. We didn’t text too much over the weekend as we both had a lot going on. I told him on Thursday I’d follow up w him Sunday to confirm deets about Monday. So I did. No response. I followed up today just saying that I’ll be super busy w work today (which is true) so I wanna plan things from now. He apologized for not getting back to me sooner, saying he had a late night on Saturday has been overtired since. 

That was five hours ago. I texted him back an hour after his “apology” saying “all good, would you prefer to go out for dinner or order in?” (the weather by me is very bad right now). So now four hours later, I can see he read my texts (about 30 min after I sent them no less) asking about dinner but didn’t respond. I know, in my heart of hearts, that he is planning on ditching me. It’s just a matter of it being if he’ll actually say it over text or just never respond. 

How do we deal with things like this? When negative thoughts are right? When we feel it coming on days in advance and we know that it’s going to happen? I knew he would ditch me from Saturday but I’m still holding out hope that we’ll hang tonight, which will make things worse once he inevitably does ghost tn

Thanks!!!!