This is another area where I'm not sure if it's BPD or autism. I'm 100% not asking for a diagnosis btw, I'm just curious if this is a thing people with BPD can relate to.

I always hear about it being an autism thing to have to mentally work out social situations in your head instead of it just coming naturally. And I feel like I've always had *some* theory of mind issues. But, I was always aware I was extra sensitive and emotional about a lot of things, and that other people weren't nearly as sensitive. So when it comes to trying to figure out what other people are thinking about something, I feel like I have to put it through this filter where I'm thinking of how someone much less emotional would feel - like, ok, take what my initial idea of how they might feel (or how I'd feel), and dial it down to about 50% less emotional/sensitive. Does that make sense?

So with that, and realizing that other people are a lot more nonchalant about a lot of stuff and overthink less... I feel like it makes sense that I have to work things out in social situations (in a way that may be BPD-related, not autism?) Like since I know other people think differently than me in some ways, I have to factor that in and work out what they might be feeling or thinking. And since I'm hypervigilant and anxious, I constantly have a million thoughts running through my head when I'm talking to people - assuming they're thinking negative things, fighting with my mind to convince myself they're not, mentally trying to calm myself down, way overanalyzing things they do or say or how I think they feel, etc. I get overwhelmed by it and my mind gets weighed down and I struggle.


Does anyone else experience this? Do you feel like you mentally work out social situations? Or am I just crazy?