I've noticed it more recently and I feel like it's really taking a toll on myself and my relationships. All of the articles I've read say "Try to find the gray area!" And "Try to think of the other side!" but I CANNOT for the life of me figure out how to do that. If I'm looking at someone from a bad perspective and see them as Bad™ I cannot think of their good qualities or any good thing they've ever done for me. My memory isn't that great in the first place but any good thing that they've done is out the window. My partner is amazing and I know that but I've had a few instances where I've hated him so much and I've been so convinced that the relationship is toxic that I've wanted to break up with him, even though realistically I know that that's not what I want at ALL.