I don’t have BPD but my partner does. Does anyone know why people with BPD tend to pick fights over seemingly small things and then escalate them when frustrated/angry? I don’t know if this is a him thing, or a BPD thing, and I’m trying to differentiate, but he seems incapable of having a mature argument in which both parties stay reasonable, and don’t do anything to escalate. I’m used to talking arguments out, sitting down, and having a conversation about where things go wrong in the communication. But he seems to just want to have a fight. I’m talking specifically about him doing or saying things that he knows are upsetting to get a rise out of me when he is angry, instead of sitting down and talking it out like adults. 

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