So I (27F) have made terrible decisions in my late teens/early 20s that negatively impacted me and my family. Mostly to do with needing money from them that they didn’t owe me to help keep me out of too much trouble. I’ve been medicated, talking to a therapist for about two years now (with their financial help to begin with). I’m now in a better place, still working on myself but able to move forward and mend relationships. I currently have an amazing job and am making really good money and making payments back to my parents for being so helpful. Several months ago my dad offered to help me buy a car by co-signing with me. I of course have horrible credit still(working on it) and have never had a newer car. I was very excited and we came up with a plan for a down payment and expenses for me to save up for and transfer to him for safe keeping. A couple weeks pass and we go to a dealership that has the car I want but when we sit in the office to figure out finances he pulls out of co-signing. We of course leave without me purchasing the car and I ask him what happened, his reply was that I should work on my credit more so when I get the car it helps me even more. I understand and I’m sure he’s hesitant with my past of being terrible with money. A week goes by and he buys my sister a new car. I’m happy for her but a little irked yet remind myself of how he’s probably nervous of my old habits still. Another week goes by and he tells me to pick out a car and he will go get it for me. I do. The next week comes a long and he tells me he wants to keep seeing improvements in me before he commits. I said okay and let my self cool down because I was upset from being jerked around. I told him thank you for the offer of still wanting to help but I will figure this out on my own from this point on. My mom and him lost it and told me I was crazy(duh lol). Now I’m not sure if this seems like a big deal to most people but I’m really hurt and feel like I keep getting jerked around and manipulated(they had a lot of rules of what I could or couldn’t do with the car if they were co-signing). I know I’ve fucked up in the past and I don’t blame them for not wanting to financial be on the hook for something with me, just wish they would have thought that through and not gotten my hopes up. Like this stirred something up when it could have never happened in the first place 😔