I seem to have more issues with women than men but without even knowing someone I hate them. I cant even stand hearing someone say their name. I get this built up anger whenever people speak of them. I can’t go to any gatherings or anything if she’s going to be there because I know I will be rude all night and ruin the evening and my anger will grow inside. 
Ive only had 2 interactions with her, one being when she was invited to my home from a roommate and she didnt even acknowledge me but acknowledged my boyfriend instead and the second was at a festival when she came up to me while I was speaking with people and said sorry for not even saying hi when she was there and then asked how to pronounce my name and I responded “whatever” because it annoys me when people ask. 
This is just the most recent hating but theres others from my life (some even 6-8 years ago) that I still can’t stand and hold anger for, it’s like Im holding this grudge for no reason and I can’t stop. I then end up texting my boyfriend about it, saying how Im not liked and he can’t be around me when Im like this and then end up just not talking to him because he doesnt understand and I feel like I cant stop. 
Im not sure if this us related to bpd but it goes along with some other things I do.