My(F23) fp(F28) is the person I’m in a weird situationship with. I love her, she loves me. But we both have work to do before officially being together. 

But I was wondering if you guys had any advice on this situation. Recently when she’s hanging out w friends over discord she just says she’s hanging out w “just a friend” and doesn’t tell me who. This kind of triggers me because like who the heck is she talking to and why doesn’t she want me to know. 

I press the situation and she feels like I’m interrogating her, which triggers her stuff cause her ex never trusted her and did interrogate her over dumb stuff. Her not telling me triggers stuff for me. 

She says she feels I get upset when she spends a lot of time with one person. But like I don’t get upset over her spending time with friends, I get upset when she spends the day hardly talking to me/leaving me on read/not taking time for me like she used to. Like, play games w your friends all day that’s fine. Just give me an hour or two before bed like we used to do. It’s just the inconsistency of affection that makes me upset. She gets me when she wants. 

Idk I’m kinda venting but also looking for advice too? Because I admittedly get jealous but that’s cause she is a major flirt. That’s just her personality. She’s always been that way. 

Idk aaaaaaaa. I just go from being so angry to sad to depressed to wanting to self harm back to normal once I hear her dumb voice again.