I have never, ever, had a friend where we've been able to resolve issues. When I was younger, I cut them off at the first sign of an issue. The last few years, I've tried hard to resolve things with friends but its always ended in a fallout anyway.

But today I waved my friend off to his new city, and despite having been through the ups and downs every relationship has, I know it won't be long before I go to visit!

I'm posting this because holy shit. I am so damn proud of myself that I a) made this friend b) have had fallouts we have resolved c) grown so much from knowing one person. And I am immensely proud of him, too. In the short time we've known each other we've gone through so much shit and we spent his final night in the city reminiscing and thanking each other for having taught ourselves so much.

So folk, for all the years of fallouts, fights and arguments, I want you to know it is possible for you to achieve healthy friendships. Perhaps the most important lesson I've learnt is **that those who want share friendship with you, will put in equally as much work as yourself**. Those friends I previously tried to resolve issues with? Yeah, they were never my friends. 

And yeah, it sure as hell takes a lot of work, pausing, reflection, apologies, stepping back and communication but its freckin possible guys. Its POSSIBLE! And we all deserve to give ourselves the chance of honest and supportive friendships &lt;3