so i have a best friend (they go by they/them please respect that) and we’ve been friends for 8 years, we met online but have always always been close aka calling everyday and texting all the time etc. i have another very close friend and i introduced them and started like setting them up in a way and he really liked them and they felt the same. It’s probably also important to mention that he lives in the same place as me so when they vist they can see him too. At first i was really happy because i could tell he made them happy and them being happy made me happy- however they recently came to vist me after 4 years of being apart and i was more than happy for them to have time with him as it just makes sense; but certain thing have started to really get to me, before they came down i noticed we had less and less time just us on the phone as they always wanted to talk to him and this made me feel very abandoned, When they arrived it seems like they are constantly texting him all the time with everything that we are doing. i get they don’t see him much but i have a girlfriend and me and her don’t text through everything i do with them however i think the thing that REALLY gets to me is that we sorted out times for them to have some alone time around him house which i was perfectly fine with- we set out times that they would go and come back and it was all good but every single time they go it’s always changing last minute and it really throws me off and makes me frustrated everytime and i get that i shouldn’t be as some of the time the time change is hardly different but it just makes me feel like they don’t even want to come come back and then i get really upset because i think they are just leaving me, and then everytime i get upset they stop responding and then i get in my head even more and like i kinda get it but also they have always say that they will support me with my BPD; but it feels like they don’t try they just leave me. i know this is just me and i know how i’m acting but i can’t help but feeling completely left behind and the fact that they went today and promised they would be home earlier just to change the time again really got to me, and the worst part is i’m constantly scared that they might just be lying to me so they can stay longer which is fine i just wish they would tell me. aside from this our friendship is so healthy and we always communicate and i will always say sorry when im in the wrong which i have done now it’s just so hard and i hate feeling like i’m just second best. i don’t know why this makes me so depressed, does anyone know how to help? thanks.