This is not a post to slander any one of you. I truly feel for all of you with whatever you guys are going through emotionally. I myself am not a normal person and have MANY MANY issues I have to work on. I just thought I’d let you know I’m sick and tired of people labeling you guys as animals. I will never know what each and every one of you goes through but none of you deserve to be labeled as BPD and “not capable of relationships.” 
I have talked to my psychiatrist and therapist about the way people labeled “BPD” folks and both say they see this all the time. Online and offline. Breakups suck regardless. 

I recently went through a breakup with my ex gf who was diagnosed with BPD co morbid NPD. She told me towards the end and showed me a DBT workbook. I never got closure and looked online for answers on hurtful insults,silent treatment, reasons for silent treatment etc. defiantly the most hurtful breakup I’ve ever experience so far but therapy helps a lot. 

What I really want to emphasize is that we all have our issues. many people who are victims of these relationships start to rant online about their partners hurtful behavior. I have to admit I was part of that crew until I realized nobody is born this way. Nobody chooses to act like that. I forgive my ex’s stuff that had hurt my feelings and silent treatment. I appreciate every single one you who seek treatment or want to change. I have changed for the better. I’ve read the DSM 5 front to back and countless books about it to try and inform myself for what was coming. I ended it between us because I wanted her to work on her mental health with whatever she was dealing with and for her to repair her and her fathers relationship. That is what is most important to me and thought that was the right thing. 

Regardless, I wish all of you a great year and continue to believe in yourself. Things take time. Therapy takes time. Time heals all. Everyone on this planet had a disorder(s) of some kind. Nobody is perfect. ❤️😀