I’m 25 and have bpd. A couple weeks ago my boyfriends mother and I had a small disagreement. She accused me of not being supportive to my bf without knowing the things I do for him. She said I’m not a comprehending person and I took offense to it. It’s now been 2 weeks and although I understand she didn’t know the details of my relationship with my bf, I now view her in such a negative way. I view her as trying to harm me and our relationship. I see her as someone bad that wanted to offend me and hates me. My bf and I are now having problems because I can’t let go of this anger. I break down everywhere whether it’s at home or at work just replaying the things she said to me. I cry so much to the point where I can’t breathe because of how hurt and angry I am. I realize it’s unhealthy to be carrying these negative emotions. I know having bpd causes us to see ppl as all good or bad but I don’t know how to overcome it. It’s like I want to move forward and forgive but I have a voice in my head telling me to still hold on, that she hates me or else she wouldn’t have said what she did. This rollercoaster of emotions is so damaging and I don’t know how to take control. I don’t choose to be angry or cry but my bf thinks I’m being petty and hating his mother for no reason. Idk how to get over this.