I am trying to be an understanding older sister to my schizophrenic younger sister but I had enough. I don’t know how much of it is the disease for she is just a total b*txh. She makes degrading comments towards me daily and when I tell her how it hurts me along with she should stop making those hateful comments towards others. It’s been over two years and it’s just continuing with no improvement to better herself.

I understand people have a disease that is difficult to handle but there is a difference to someone who is genuinely trying to battle to get better compared to someone not trying at all. 

I can’t live life for myself which is why in 2022 I am calling it quits to move out on my own. My situation is once my sister was diagnosed she moved in with her boyfriend in Vegas leaving my brother and I behind. She is my sister but not my daughter but in these last years I have been treated absolutely horribly by my schizophrenic sister. My family always calls me “over reacting, dramatic, and many other names”. However they don’t even put one forth of the effort to care for my sister like I myself do and when I ask for help, my brother at Thanksgiving made the comment “you’ll get shot if you act like this”. We had a long family chat after the incident that he needs to help but nothing has changed. 

My schizophrenic sister makes similar comments like this all the time. However unlike my brother when mentioning it hurts he quits. My sister it has been over three years. She pesters me to get what I want even though when I say no she continues for hours on end. I can’t do anything for myself as she wants me to do everything with her and she can’t go to public places on her own. I already lost three years post-university living my life for someone else through depression that enough is enough!

No one is stepping up to help with my sister and I truly think it’s her personality over the disease as I have been on this thread for months and reading about the disease. I am no expert but this is getting borderline obsessive to where I can’t even have my own alone time in my own bedroom without being interrupted by my sister. I recently broke up with my long distance boyfriend and when we would call we got interrupted by her on numerous accounts. I am still heartbroken over it because I can’t just have anything in my life that doesn’t get interrupted by my sister.

I’m not even living life for myself because everything has to do on my sister’s desires. She doesn’t understand the concept of no when I tell her to the point where she makes comments of “you’re a b*txh! You’ll never accomplish anything in life!” and many worse ones. I had enough of this! I’m absolutely broke right now but I am going to figure a way to move out as this is affecting me and my life.

I am expecting to get hate comments saying I need more patience. I have been dealing with this for three years. I have changed so much for trying to making this work but it takes both parties in effort. She is not putting forth the effort and neglecting herself in accepting of the diagnosis. I have seen multiple people come to terms with their diagnosis in this thread and rarely do I see others post about acting in this abusing behavior. But I need my life back.