Whenever people get mad at me or even just express discontent, I automatically feel like they hate me and I shut down. If people leave messages unopened too long, I assume the worst and become overly needy. It’s starting to affect my relationships. Although my girlfriend would never say it to my face, I can tell she is becoming frustrated because she doesn’t feel like she is able to communicate any concerns or be unhappy with something I did without constantly reassuring me. I know it’s unfair for her to have to offer me validation constantly, even when she is upset with me. I have been working on getting into a therapist, to find long term coping strategies and ways to get past this but I’m afraid my girlfriend will become too frustrated before I am able to get help and will end up leaving me. I was wondering if anyone suffers from the same sort of feelings and had any tips that I could use in the short term to not get as worked up over those sorts of things as I do not want to lose her. Any help would be greatly appreciated:)