Even though it would most definitely explain a lot of my inevitable behaviours within and at the end of relationships, I feel that someone's knowledge of my having BPD would be used as a convenient way of dismissing legitimate concerns and feelings I have (that are not BPD related). I feel a torn over the idea that if I were diagnosed with BPD, and I feel very strongly that I would be (likely quiet borderline"), that the diagnosis wouldn't necessarily be helpful in any social or relationship sense, except to me personally, as a way to help me cope and identify my behaviours. But reading the posts in this sub, it seems a BPD diagnosis is quite often used by others against people with BPD. Is this a fair assessment?