My Husband convinced me to meet his new friend's spouse since we are both diagnosed with anxiety, the same age (24) and have absolutely no friends. He told me over text that they have BPD, and is a transgender man. I completely accepted them and reassured them that it made no difference to me, as I'm extremely empathetic and understanding, and I still wanted to meet them. He ended up staying at my house for 3 hours while our husbands played video games. I think the conversation went very well and we talked almost the whole time and I respected his pronouns. For some reason I feel like I made him feel uncomfortable at some points. There were times he would stop talking and look away fast after I said something. But then immediately make eye contact again and kept the conversation going. I really like him and would like to hang out again. Is there any advice on what not to say to someone with BPD? Anything specific that triggers someone with BPD? And how do I tell if they felt comfortable around me? I want to learn what not to do next time we're together.  I genuinely like him a lot and I don't want to mess this up because of my ignorance.