So, I have very porous boundaries. I let people walk all over me until I explode and the friendship ends.

The problem for me with setting boundaries is that I’m very sensitive and a lot of things bother me. If I was to set a boundary every time something bothered me, they could be transcribed on a scroll that wraps around the earth. 

How do are we to establish objectively reasonable boundaries when, subjectively, everything hurts? My fears of abandonment would be fulfilled and I’d drive everyone away more than I already do.