I’ve recently got back into the game with online dating. Found a guy who was good-looking, had a good job, could hold a conversation. We talked, he gave me his number, I got giddy that I was going to have a date in a very long time. After NYE he started taking a very long time to reply, 48 hours or so. I asked him if everything was fine with him and he said he was just sick and busy because he was back at work. After that he pretty much ghosted me. When I didn’t hear anything for 72 hours I unmatched and deleted his number too. I deleted my dating profile because the rejection hit me hard.

A couple of days ago I made a new profile and got back on the app. His profile came up and I swiped right just to see what would happen and we matched again. Well, that’s interesting, I thought. Since women have to send the first message on Bumble I wrote, “So what happened.” An hour or so later I couldn’t see him in my convos anymore so I guess he realized it was me and unmatched. 

I feel so pathetic right now. I could have just swiped left. Fool me twice, shame on me. Rejection and ghosting are so common on dating apps that they shouldn’t matter but at first at least it really shatters my self-esteem and makes all the other things that are going well fade in comparison.