I met this dude at the bar last weekend. He was really nice, we kissed, I didn’t go home with him. We’ve been texting and long story short neither of us want a relationship but sex friend would be more than ideal. 

Thing is, I was quite inebriated at the bar. If I predrink I can go out and socialize no problem. But for perhaps obvious reasons I don’t want to be drunk for the sex. But my anxiety is skyrocketing. 

I’m trying to hold myself off from cancelling. The anticipation of the event is ruining this day already, and it’s not even until tomorrow. I don’t want to resort to drinking too much out of fear. But first time sex with a new person is so intimidating. 

Any advice would be appreciated.