Looking for books on BPD on Amazon (even though I hate Amazon but have free 30 days of Prime) and like probably many of you I can be a compulsive shopper, while at the same time being very indecisive, &amp; then highly prone to intense &amp; often immediate regret potentially leading to rage, self hate, &amp; dissociation. So this time I decided to ask Reddit since I somehow just recently discovered how much superior it is to all other social media, especially for niche communities and random stuff. 

Anyway, I'm definitely getting "I Hate You -- Don't Leave Me" since I've seen it mentioned before in BPD groups on FB and it was just published in 2021. The about the author said Jerold J. Kreisman is "leading expert on BPD" so I decided to look up his other book "Sometimes I Act Crazy" and saw it was also about BPD (obviously the about the author section didn't say the full name of the book). Since "Sometimes I Act Crazy" was published in 2006 I was just wondering if it's still worth buying or if "I Hate You -- Don't Leave Me" is basically like an updated version of it. 

Obviously there will be differences, but does one get more or less the same understanding from reading just the more current book or does "Sometimes I Act Crazy" add something, either info or perspective, that "I Hate You -- Don't Leave Me" may either leave out or doesn't go into as much depth or explains differently?

With psychology being an evolving field, and especially the case with BPD, is "Sometimes I Act Crazy" still relevant? Does it say any, or much, stuff that has since been not completely true about us? I did see one thing in the Amazon reviews about them putting "sexual confusion (bisexuality)" as a trait and I can understand the reviewer may be offended by the way it was written, but maybe the intent of the author was different than the way it was read &amp; it needed a paragraph instead of a bullet point. Maybe there is a paragraph on the next page explaining what he meant, idk. 

Anyway this/these books will both be for me and my parents to read. They don't seem to think it's actually serious at all, or it's something I could just brush off and choose not to. I've known since 2018 that I likely had it, but I've likely had it since HS (early 2000s) and definitely by 2008 I had it. I just didn't know about it. I've recently been officially diagnosed since finally getting on my state's health care (which I should've done in 2019) and still I don't think they've even googled it. If they knew that about 70% of people with borderline attempt suicide &amp; about 10% succeed I really doubt they would act so nonchalant about my mental anguish &amp; survival. And that rate goes up for people with other depressive disorders, which I definitely have.

I bought my mom a book in the past titled something like "When Someone You Love Has Mental Illness" and it didn't help at all so who knows if this will make a difference. One time I asked her if she ever even read it and she said she did and she doesn't think it applies to me. I've been diagnosed with at least 5 mental illnesses, so if it doesn't apply to me then I guess I'm not someone she loves. 

Just to get ahead of it since it's a top seller, please nobody suggest "Stop Walking On Eggshells." I read the description &amp; it sounds like it puts all the blame on the person with BPD. My parents don't need help blaming me for ruining things &amp; they don't need to read a book suggesting I may be a narcissistic, manipulative rage monster or whatever. I need them to even just slightly understand what I go through constantly, how serious it is, &amp; maybe have some empathy about it and listen to me about what I need. I've tried to talk to them and it just doesn't work. Maybe if they read it in a book they will believe me that me being suicidal &amp; crippled by my past is not something that can just be ignored away. 

Holy shit that got way longer than I planned and I could probably vent another 6 pages. Anyway should I buy both books or just the newer one. There's a used "Sometimes I Act Crazy" for just over $10 so not like it's a big risk either way, but I am poor.