I feel bad that I’m in a new relationship, but I’m still not over my ex. I’ve been dating this new person for almost a year. I do care for him and have a special love where I love him even tho I don’t emotionally rely on him. He’s the first partner I dated that have treated me with so much respect and who isn’t a fp. But I can’t get over my ex and I feel bad that my bf just watches me still trying to heal. Now, I would never go back to my ex. I’m over my ex romantically. But I don’t think I’m over the attachment I had with him as a fp and I’m not over the abuse he inflicted on me. My ex is quite codependent on people that he told me he was going to date his ex again so he won’t get suicidal since I left him. I left him because my needs weren’t getting met, he sexually abused me and he brought out the worst of me when I wanted to get better with my bpd. Dating him made me feel like I was losing my mind and I hated myself bc of my behaviors that were only a reaction to his. I thought I was some jealous obsessive freak but people tell me that it was his fault for breaking my trust so much. In this new relationship, I’m so much calmer that I hardly throw bpd fits and I don’t split as often. But it still sucks that I’m not done healing while I’m in this relationship. My bf says he doesn’t mind and always listens to me. But I can’t help to feel bad that I’m not done healing. I still think about my ex everyday. I can’t get over what he did to me and how he’s going to spread that pain to others