Let me be upfront. I was abused by an exwBPD and I have mostly fully recovered. For some time I've been running a poetry Instagram page mostly about that issue but spanning out further.

One thing I've noticed that people with BPD or loved ones with it is that there is an increasing trend in romanticizing BPD (much like "ADHD" used to be quirky, now BPD is the new trend for neurotypical people to swoon over.)

I want to be able to help be a voice for the reality of BPD from the perspective of someone who loved someone with it. Given my situation I obviously won't have the great things to say, but one thing I want to implement more is the reality of BPD and be more objective about the situation rather than making it all about myself because one thing many don't understand is that they need to understand why abuse happens. It's not fair to say all BPD individuals are bad people or even that they INTENTIONALLY abuse their loved ones. I'm not sure if that's even the case for myself and maybe I can help.

I want to reach more people obviously. But, I'm posting here because I don't want to be egregious and I genuinely don't want to cash out on my trauma or others. I fully intend to keep posting poetry and I'd love to write a poetry book on this topic but again, I don't want to paint BPD as evil nor do I want to paint specific people even my abuser as truly evil.

How can I market to this crowd without being offensive but maintaining truth? How can I reach more of you and others so I can be a voice out there that knows what you may be going through and not use BPD as a romantic cash grab poetry topic like others may?

Much love all.