So me and my boyfriend broke up and we got back together around 4 months ago (we were only broken up for 4 days, and then took a month break to reflect). Since then we've been so much healthier, I go to therapy, we communicate etc. The only difference is that before the breakup we'd talk a lot about marriage and now we don't. I feel confident in us still but he wants to make sure our relationship is more stable and we're older before thinking about a big step like that. And I accepted that because it's logical and I know he's still serious about me.

Well today I was a bit anxious so I asked my friend what she thought about it. And she immediately said, he sounds like me, and I definitely don't want to marry my current boyfriend at all, so I say things like that to him to not rock the boat even though I have no plans of marriage,he's probably doing the same to you.

That just made me spiral and overthink. So far I've done things to distract myself and I haven't told him about this when I usually would so I'm proud of myself but I'm still very much anxious and her words still echo in my head. What can I do to keep the thoughts at bay? Right now all my anxiety is telling me is he doesn't want you, he's lying, he's stringing you along, even after years together he won't want to commit to you. I would very much like to be married one day and he knows that, but he also doesn't want to talk about a big step like that right now because we're young and it makes him nervous and he wants to make sure our relationship is stable.