I met my pwBPD last night, after not seeing each other for a couple weeks, and we had a really good talk. We both agreed that we love each other very much, but that in order for us to be healthy for each other, we need to work on our own issues separately for a while. We agreed to talk in three months. I know it's probably the best thing for both of us, and I couldn't have asked for us to have ended the conversation on a better note. He seems to be making a lot of progress in his therapy, and he said he's starting DBT too next month. He also said he's loving his job. He seems very committed to both. He's not asking me to wait, but that he hopes we can revisit things when we talk in three months. We both hope that. So it's good, but it's also scary. I know it might be the best thing for him especially, but I worry that he'll move on from me, or vice versa. I know that's not a reason to try to stay though. Hopefully if we both work on ourselves, we can come back together in a healthier place. I just thought I'd post this, as I've been on my journey here, and I wanted to thank everyone who's been a support in this and other communities for BPD. Who knows what will happen, but I wanted to share at least one story of a loving, civil separation, and when we speak in three months, I'll know how successful this was. It's been a roller coaster, but I wouldn't take any of it back. It's made me face a lot of my own issues. And who knows, maybe we will both be in places to move forward together later by looking at ourselves now. Has anyone ever taken space while their partner was working through treatment, and had it be a successful experience for the relationship? 