HI guys! I have BPD, diagnosed, and my girlfriend and i recently broke up. i am completely heart broken, distraught, lonely, i don't know what I am going to do with myself. but there is still hope, she's not gone yet. 

i lost her. i made mistakes. i never cheated, but i made mistakes. many of my choices were selfish, i need her, but i never showed her that i LOVED her. when she was busy or out i would get upset because i missed her and i couldn't handle being alone. this was selfish of me. she could have done a better job taking care of my needs, but i rarely ever sat her down and talked calmly, honestly, and openly with her. 

if you're still in a relationship that you want to maintain, and you have some issues, sit your s/o down and talk about them, rationally. reason with them, try to figure something out. YOU WILL LOSE THIS PERSON IF YOU DON'T. I LOST HER. I DROVE HER AWAY. AND MY HEART HURTS. as harsh as this sounds, YOU WILL DO THE SAME. i always thought i was the exception and i would never hurt her or make her feel unloved or twist her reality around. but i wasn't the exception. and you TRULY, are not either. UNLESS you take a vow on self improvement, a vow to show your deep and HEALTHY love to your s/o. to communicate openly and honestly. if you don't do this. you will lose them. trust me. 

after a recent conversation with her I found out that she still wants to be happy with me, she just doesn't know if she'll ever be able to trust my love for her ever again. she needs time. and i need to improve the way i treat her. being nice and doing nice things IS NOT ENOUGH. it's the important moments. when they need something that clashes with what YOU want, concede. wait a couple days. talk to them about how it made you feel. 

it will take weeks of effort and honest to god self improvement. but i think i can do it. those of you in a relationship. you still have the chance. do it now BEFORE it's too late. please.