this definitely doesn’t come from every borderline, and it doesn’t come just from reddit. i have had bpd symptoms for years. i tried to confide in people that have been through similar things by posting on this sub. when i first posted, i wasn’t diagnosed. and holy shit. the amount of people that came for me, with “i suggest you stop self diagnosing” or “no, you don’t have it you’re self diagnosing”. i never self diagnosed, i only wanted some reassurance that i wasn’t alone and also i asked for advice on how to start the bpd conversation with my psychiatrist. but now that i’m officially diagnosed i’m apart of the “club”? it’s fucking bullshit. so how about we stop gatekeeping a mental illness that is actually way more common than we think. it’s very hurtful to those that are having the same symptoms as you. imagine if you were them, because that was me a few months ago. i understand that there are people who self diagnose, and those people need some help in the right direction. but for the love of christ stop pushing people away.