recently i took a break from my best friend after realizing we had a very codependent relationship. i also didn’t feel heard and was constantly disrespected, things always had to go her way, she was always pointing out my flaws and making me feel like a horrible friend when i had forgiven her for much worse. for a while i was overlooking it because despite all this, she was very caring and i wanted her to know someone was there for her through everything despite her abandonment issues as well as drug issues. i felt very empathetic towards her and could see how much she was hurting. i also didn’t know how to properly articulate my emotions, because she is very confrontational and i’m the opposite. since seeing her less, i’ve felt a lot more stable, although i miss her. when we talked she seemed like she was commuted to self improvement. lately she’s been posting about how nobody cares about her, and therefore working on anything is pointless and she should just kill herself, and other things along those lines. of course this is very alarming, and i want to be there for her but i’m afraid if i’m truly there for her things will end up exactly how they were before- there have been different situations in the past where this has happened. how do i encourage her while still keeping my distance? she doesn’t have a good support system right now as most of her friends have either screwed her over or grown tired of her behavior.