Hello,

My fiancée has BPD, and we've been together for 4 years (were both 17, soon to be 18). I've never really been aware of her condition until this spring, when she was brave enough to tell me. I've been aware since the beginning of her past and most of her issues, but BPD is something that's fairly new to me.

She sometimes has breakdowns and tells me how she hates herself and wants to cut herself. I'm a person who's pretty bad with emotions and don't really know how to handle this properly. I remind her that I love her, I'm there for her, and that it's not her fault, but I feel horrible for not being able to do more than that. She never has breakdowns in front of me, but messages me on the phone.

Is there anything I can do for her/ tell her?