Long story short, my wife who has BPD and I might be splitting up. One thing I'm most worried about is that I'm fully aware that I'm her FP, and I have been for her entire life (met when she was 10, I was 12). She immediately latched on to me from day one. There's been a lot of struggles back and forth, but I've always been there whenever she wanted me back. I think this time she might have gone just too far and we're past the point of recovery.  I don't hate her. I still love her and I worry about her if and after we break up.

So my question is do you think it's possible to get over losing your FP who has been your FP from 10 until 29? Do you think it's even possible she'd survive it?