During covid-19, I would like to take the opportunity to read a book on mindfulness.

My general weaknessed I would like to target are:
- splitting (black and white thinking)
- impulses (wreakless driving, spending sprees, etc)
- criticism (being able to deal with someone judging me without going crazy and angry)
- irrational thinking (being able to think before I act, eg. In relationships)

I would like to find coping mechanisms to think before acting and to ground myself. I have issues with splitting within my relationship, which goes hand-in-hand with my irrational thoughts (like reading between lines that don't exist). I start to become this hateful and mean girlfriend, telling him that I hate him, but I don't mean it. I would like to work on myself and be able to take a step back before I react.

Which has helped you more with my above concerns, CBT or DBT?

Which books are very helpful in learning some coping mechanisms that I can practice?


I need help with self-control and medication alone is not helping me. Thank you anyone who can be of help and understands the struggle of having bpd