I read a post in here from someone saying they hate platitudes or empty words offered by others.  Coming from a non pwbpd who has been dating a pwbpd for about 2 years now, I am sure I have failed at this on some level. I do my best not to offer empty concern or platitudes but like I said I’m sure I’ve fucked it up a few times.  I genuinely care deeply and want to listen to their feelings and thoughts no matter how fucked up or different they may be.  So, my question to any one who is a pwbpd, what exact words or things do you actually find comforting or helpful when you’re in a downward spiral or going through a bad phase?  And what is most annoying or triggering if someone is trying to offer support?

I’d love to know as an outsider.  I don’t ever intend to make my partner or anyone feel worse or like I’m placating, offering empty words. Thanks in advance for taking time to answer or read this!!