I’ve been putting all my focus on how to be “normal” around my FP. Thinking before I speak, trying to manage arguments without blowing up or getting paranoid that he’s conspiring against me etc. I’m just trying to stay calm. And I realized I was getting a lot of attention from him when our relationship was bad. All the fights created this emotional entanglement between us. And now that things are more quiet and healthy I feel like we aren’t close and it makes me want his attention. And I really know that’s unhealthy but I’m not sure what to do. How do I get his attention in a healthy beneficial way? Or do I just not do that and try to learn to be okay without it? 