I was drinking on my medication admittedly behaving in a self destructive manner. Was going through a lot. 

One night when I was partaking in alcohol we got into an argument where I said some hurtful things. Woke up the next day, didn’t remember anything. We talked &amp; he was undoubtedly hurt. I opened up about my substance issues and how much I was struggling. For the past 10 days, his out of town friend has stayed with him. He makes little to no effort to talk to me, even after I ask if he needs space… he said he was fine. 12-13 days later he tells me he isn’t over it &amp; that I hadn’t given him enough space. 

We basically rehashed the entire argument as we did the first time almost a month ago. he decided to not talk to me the rest of the weekend. Another one of his points is that I can’t give a time limit. I know I fucked up but since then, I’ve gotten into counseling and have been trying to prove myself in a way. I don’t know if it’s the BPD talking, or if this is cruel and unusual treatment. Any advice/similar stories is appreciated