All thoughts on this are greatly appreciated.  So first a little context, although neither of us have ever been to a psychologist I am pretty much certain that we both have BPD. We have both admitted that we have never been closer to someone before and although its sometimes very uncomfortable for her but we are able to talk about our fears, patterns, etc quite often. I have always tried to make her feel more secure, trust herself, and love herself/etc. The main thing is that she feels she doesn't deserve it, although every time we talk I feel like we both move a tiny bit in the right direction, I could be totally wrong though. Right now however because I haven't brought BPD up, it just seems like a total coincidence that we think so alike. The problem is that I want to bring it up because I really want her to feel better, but I can tell that currently she's running away from everything, telling herself everythings okay, etc. She is also in a somewhat new relationship with someone that she's in love with, and I can see it crashing down because of her idealize/devalue cycle and I don't want her to have to deal with that tremendous pain again. My relationship with her has always been quite good because its very difficult for her to reach the point where she devalues me, but Im scared that if I bring up that we may both have BPD she will jump into huge anxiety, sadness, and overall difficulty with facing her pain, emotions, etc. Again, all thoughts on this are greatly appreciated and if Im missing any important information then I will answer it because Im sure I could be missing something. I think it might also be a good idea to mention that after practicing mindfulness and self love practices for the two weeks Ive started to feel really hopeful and feel like im a lot closer to reaching balance specifically in my relationships with people. I know I've made quite a few big assumptions, but for her I know that its always been worse and that her pain runs a lot deeper than mine. I "know" that "everyone has their time to figure themselves out" and Ive read that the best thing to do is just be a good friend, but its difficult when I feel like im the only one who realizes the problem. Thanks for reading, pls help.