So my bf just showed me a video about the Heard v. Depp case and asked how I felt about it. But I couldn’t really place it. I expressed to him that it was a mixture of understanding, frustration, embarrassment, annoyance, confusion, and pride. 

He said, that’s progress! In the past I wouldn’t process my emotions and went with the most dominant feeling and didn’t address the others. He said he was proud of me, and that in the past he could easily see me doing the same things as her, and that now he can’t even imagine it 🥹

This moment made me realize how encouraging it is to have a partner that not only tries to understand BPD, but makes a continuous effort to do what he can do, and admit what he can’t. 

A lot of people with BPD ,and therapists even, insists that relying and spending time with your partner can only be codependent and harmful. But it isn’t and it doesn’t have to be. Just my thoughts.