Hey guys I'm still relatively young (30) and very healthy physically, but since I was a teenager I've been constantly afraid that I'll lose or won't be able to obtain an erection for sex. It started with my first girlfriend and I basically ended up avoiding sex and situations that could lead to it. Now many years and several relationships later, I've had ups and downs dealing this this. It's degrading, embarrassing, and the fear feeds itself. Some days my desire is enough to completely block it out and everything works fine, but some days I can't get the thought out of my head and I know I will have a problem.

I just want to be normal and look forward to and enjoy sex EVERY time. I'm generally quite an anxious guy and worry about the small things. I sleep with a bite guard due to clenching/grinding in my sleep. In times of high stress, sleep walking/talking is common. Years ago a doctor thought it was GAD and prescribed sertraline, but I stopped after a day because I felt like it increased my anxiety even worse, and made my orgasm feel completely numb. I've tried therapy and counseling with no success.

How should I go forward in finally helping this once and for all? I want to be confident in myself and enjoy rather than worry. I can't keep having relationships being damaged because of this. Thanks for any advice!!!