I’m a F19 with bpd. I was diagnosed recently, a few weeks ago because something serious happened. At that time, a boy that I had been talking for a while on Instagram, helped me a lot with all these issues. We’ve been talking for two and a half months and recently we decided to become a couple. 

He had many problems in his childhood but he’s a person who doesn’t show pain about it. I have gone through a period of constant instability throughout this year that has recently begun to stabilize a bit, so I decided to become a relationship is a good idea.

We have a long distance relationship because he lives 200km away from me but this saturday i will finally meet him. I decided it’s a good idea introduce him to my mother and my older sister. 

My older sister was a victim of domestic abuse and luckily, came out of it. Now, with her current relationship which is healthy, she recommend me that dating someone who has had such serious problems in their past, it is better that they have no relationship with me. And she has given me as an example: when she recently left her toxic relationship she met her current boyfriend, who had a healthy mental health. So they complemented each other a lot because whenever she had a problem, her boyfriend was there to help her.

I don't want to think about it too much because I believe that everyone has problems and within those problems they have moments of stability. But now I see people with BPD having healthy relationships with people who seem to be in good mental health on the internet and I think how people with disorders and people without them, complement each other.

I’m confused.

Can people with BPD have healthy relationships with people with other traumas or mental disorders?

(english is not my first language!!!)