TW : MENTION OF SEX


Hi friends! I have recently attached to a new fp, he also has bpd. He claims that he doesn’t really get attachments to people, but he has hung out with me nearly every day since we started talking, which was only about a week ago. Things have also progressed extremely quickly, he has spent several nights at my house and we’ve been super intimate. On our second time hanging out, I got pretty pushy about sleeping together which upset him bc he has trauma  with that. I understand this, but we had already been intimate before so it felt weird to me. I’m doing my best to be understanding and respect his boundaries, but it’s hard because it brings up feelings of being unworthy and not enough for me. To make it worse, he slept with another girl the other night but refused to even entertain the idea with me today. I know it likely is nothing to do with me and I can’t expect him to only be with me at this point, but it’s still extremely triggering for me. I haven’t been pushy since that night, I don’t wanna make him uncomfortable or trigger anything for him. I am understanding of the situation, it just feels weird. Does anyone have some helpful insight?