Just had a very hard session with my therapist where she made me realize that the way my parents deal with my anxiety makes my stress worse which is making me sick. 
I need to have a very difficult conversation with them outlining new boundaries such as, I no longer want dads advice about how to deal with my anxiety, they need to respect that I’m not always going to be okay and to leave me alone when I need it. I also can no longer be a sounding board for there own troubles. I k own they’re going to get defensive and try to deny it but I’m becoming ill to the point of missing work. Things have to changed.