Hey guys,

I'm struggling a bit right now because I sense myself developing another favorite person. I broke things of with only other one last year. Do you guys notice that you build attachments to the same type of people as favorite persons?

I've noticed that I go for sexual partners that also want to be friends. Theyre into drinking and drugs. They also have mental issues of their own (first one was pretty narcisistic and this other dude says he has bipolar. )

Also, do y'all have any advice on how to check in with reality when it comes to these people? I definitely idealize the shit outta them and don't the bad. I take a few days away from this guy and I started being very distant but when he hits me up it's straight manic happy. Most of the time theres a lot of bad traits to see.  Thanks for the help, I just really want to avoid it the best that I can.