 Me and My girlfriend with BPD have been dating for 3 years. She has been getting help with her symptoms with therapy and a psychiatrist ever since we have been dating. It has been some of the best years of my life with her. I have always been there for her with her attempts and other related issues. We have talked about getting married etc. Recently, I was away for a month for work and she struggled and spent a lot of time with a male friend. He bought her flowers, took her out to eat. When I came back she told me she wanted to break up but stay great friends. Still go to the gym, hang out, etc. I was upset because I still love her and like dating but agreed because we love to spend time with each other. She told me however that while I was gone her male friend asked to kiss her and she didnt but now they are spending time together as friends and she said she is thinking of dating him after she fully gets over the break up and spends some time working on herself. I think she is just loving the fact she is getting attention from another man. It is making me really upset and I told her that it did. She knows its wrong but is still thinking about it. Not really sure how to handle the situation since I still love her.