I'm wondering how many of you here have been blamed by those around you for \*their\* incompetence? Specifically blaming the fact you're borderline? It got me thinking about 'issues with interpersonal relationships' and how much of that is actually down to the diagnosed, or the people they surround themselves with? I suspect it's a little from column A and column B in reality.   


I ask due to having a few people do this with me over the last year. I'm openly borderline. I'm an artist too and raise BPD and general mental health awareness through my art, so in many ways I feel I make myself a target for anyone that fancies taking a pop at me for whatever reason. But the people that have done this to me are two exes and my own BPD mother. With my mum... it's expected, I'm used to it and she's absolutely clueless/in denial to having the condition herself. We no longer talk.  


With the exes it's definitely narcissistic abuse on their part too. But they WILL NOT admit \*any\* fault whatsoever with this, even after they've calmed down. I have been made to sit and think about my own level of narcissism and so-called 'manipulation' and can actually see why people feel this way about us. As someone who is incredibly self aware, I feel I've done a lot more apologising for the fact I'm sick than those around me do for responding badly to the illness. Not only that but I make a very real effort to change my behaviour.  


I'm blamed for their anger. Their lack of patience. The fact they didn't do any homework on BPD in relation to me and trying to maintain a stable ground with me. I'm blamed for the things they say through their temper. I'm lied about. And then my BPD is blamed for the fact they've lied. I'm blamed for their anxiety levels. And in more extreme arguments I've been blamed for the fact they won't go out and live their life - they stopped doing things they enjoyed because I have BPD.   


Sounds stupid, right? But it's real, and I've experienced my fair share of it. I'm just wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences and how you dealt with it?