I got out of a 9 year marriage a couple years ago. I've dated twice since. The first time was with another recent divorcee and her ex came after me. There was no confrontation but I got out of town for the weekend, he calmed down and nothing more came of it. Ultimately there wasn't enough spark between the two of us and we split up. Now, in my second dating experience (its been a few weeks), I find out she has an ex who is in jail for a sex offense with whom she has a child and he'll be getting out next year (they'll be sharing custody). After my first experience I can't stop thinking about him coming after me, too. I have a young son and I'm so afraid of putting us in harm's way. Does anyone have any advice for working through this? I really like this girl and I don't want my anxieties to come between us but I'm really struggling to get past them. I feel like a coward and an asshole. I wish I could just say "we'll face this together" and "it'll probably be fine" but I've been burned and really struggle to accept that.