So basically, my boyfriend knew today was a big day for me.  My boss was coming into town to review my work performance.  I really wanted to be prepared and at work on time to impress my boss.  So I was showered and ready an hour before we have to go.  All i needed to do was brush my teeth and get dressed, basically.  So I tell my bf I wanna leave in an hour (he drives me to work cuz i dont have a car), and he starts pacing around the room, all stressed.  And i asked him what was wrong and he denied he was stressed, but he clearly was.  This stressed me out a lot so i just kept playing video games and smoking weed because he was making me so uncomfortable with his anxious pacing around and just clear body language that he was stressed.  He doesn't end up taking a shower until literally it was time to go.  He gets out of the shower ten minutes after we were supposed to leave.  That's when i realized how late it was and that i still needed to get dressed.  I ended up so late to work and it ruined my night.  My bf basically refused to take responsibility for it, telling me that I'm just "mad at him for existing" and telling me it wasn't his fault i wasn't ready.  But the reason i didnt finish getting ready was because he was acting so weird and it put me on edge.  So i got mad at him for making things so shitty for me right before an important day at work, and he said the reason he was stressed was cuz he was scared i'd act this way... and i'm like, THE REASON I'M ACTING THIS WAY IS BECAUSE OF YOU ACTING SO STRESSED.  I'm just so mad at him, i feel like he made everything about him today.  I feel like he unintentionally sabotaged my big day.  He had no reason to be stressed about anything.  He wasn't the one with a stressful day ahead of him.  It's like instead of supporting me today, he took on MY stress and made everything about the fact that HE was stressed about ME having a big day today.  He's always so busy worrying about me he doesn't end up having the emotional bandwidth to actually be there for me.  But i'm an adult and don't need him to worry about me.  But it's not about me.  it's about him and his delusional thoughts.  He has an anxiety disorder but has never gone on meds for it, even tho he nags me to take my meds every day.  His anxiety is ruining my life and when i try to confront him about it, it's like he's delusional.  He doesn't even realize how unusual his thought processes are.  But he always turns around and accuses me of being unstable when i lose it cuz i can't handle his stress anymore.  i just don't know what to do....  


TLDR:  My bf has an anxiety disorder and i have bpd and idk how much more of this i can take.  his anxiety affects me so much, and he's unable to see how bizarre and unhealthy his thought patterns and behavior is