me and my FP (my ex) have always been friends with benefits or dating, so there's always been a sexual component to our relationship/friendship. we've been physically away from each other for nearly a year and have kept up with each other via technology/social media. he is really bad with tech. he hates his phone and only really uses it to talk to me. the sexual component recently started to seriously complicate things so we had a long talk and decided to remain platonic but take a step back from the relationship. he is transferring to a college that happens to be in the same state as i go to school in. we are both really sad (his mom is a christian scientist so he's never been allowed to see a therapist or phsychiatrist and i'm not any kind of professional but it would not surprise me if he also had BPD and i was also his FP) but it's the right decision. i'm fine right now but i know that's temporary, especially if i think too much about him going out and meeting/being intimate with someone. ugh. i'm going to miss him being my best best friend so much like we're still going to talk but we agreed to stop relying on each other for emotional support in the same capacity that we're at right now. i fucking hate change and not being in control and the unknown so this is a perfect storm. any advice for (mostly) mutually breaking away from a FP? and pls don't say find a new one.