We've been together for over a year. There was a rough patch where she tried dumping me to "save me" from being hurt worse if I stayed, but she ended up wanting to continue trying, to which I said she would need to continue treatment as I didn't want to be in an off again on again relationship. Aside from that we have arguments like any other relationship I've been in, but its been a good relationship and I love her. Marriage and kids are a ways off due to her still being in college and me establishing myself financially, and because neither of us are ready for that step, but it is on the table at least as we've started having more detailed discussions on what we want in life to see if we're compatible. We are as far as life goals go.

I guess my fear or issue is that when I'm on reddit, so many people talk about their ex BPD partners as Satan Incarnate, warning people to get out and run because eventually they'll blink and the otherwise happy relationship becomes a nightmare. I trust that this won't be the case with me and her, but there's always that whisper in the back of my head saying that those people telling me to run probably thought they'd be the exception too. 

Additionally I've heard several say that BPD can be hereditary. I love my girlfriend, but based on the horror stories I've heard, she's the exception in how well she keeps up with getting this treated and I know its probably terrible of me, but it feels cruel to have children knowing full well they'd have to grow up with BPD. In her worse moments, my SO describes it as her own mind working against her and trying to take control and do or say things that she knows she doesn't want to say or do. In my mind it'd be better to adopt but I know many people want children of their own blood.

**Tldr: I guess I'm just asking for advice from happy couples with one SO having BPD? Can it work? How can I make it work? Is it selfish to have kids knowing they may have BPD themselves? I want it to work out but I'd be lying if all the horror stories I've heard haven't left me a little worried**