Hello everyone, this may not be exactly the right place to post this so if anyone thinks this will be better in another sub please let me know. I want to state right off the top that I'm not looking for a diagnosis or anything of the sort, I'm more interested in people's personal experience.

My ex-girlfriend has been the victim of an incredibly unfortunate upbringing. Now before I get too far I want to state that she's been diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder and also as being borderline schizophrenic. She's refused to take medication for longer than I've known her due to adverse effects.

With that in mind she's suffered physical, emotional, and sexual abuse as well for most of her life. You may see why I'm not sure if this is necessarily the best place to post this but it's a start for me to understand some things. We found out she was pregnant in the beginning of March and since then her behavior has gotten much more irrational than before.

In an attempt to keep this as short as possible I'll try to provide a quick summation of events. We found out she was pregnant, not long after she admitted to sleeping with her ex while we were separated and it happens to fall within close proximity of the conception date. I expressed my concern about the possibility it might no be mine and she lost it. Immediately after that she left me, insists I was denying that it's mine, and after saying she'd never try to keep me from the baby has flip flopped and threatened me with exactly that a half a dozen times. Now I can't even speak to her without her finding something to take issue with and start conflict.

Her behavior is incredibly irrational, she regresses to a state of mind that I'd never seen with her, it seems as though high stress situations are the trigger and she goes into a defensive state. Ever since the pregnancy began it's like she's flipped a switch and I've got my theories about why.

I suppose my question is what are the effects of these mental disorders in a situation like this? If anyone has experience with trauma and abuse, what lasting effects do they have on a person? For example the person's view on the world, and normal concepts such as love. I'm very loosely familiar with Psychology but I do pick up on quite a few basic concepts.

Sorry this is long, I don't know how to make a tl;dr that explains the situation as thoroughly as I'd like. Thanks you for any input you can give me.


