I love my partner and my boyfriend. Both who also have bpd. I was the last of our group to find out I had bpd because it's very repressed and I've been handling all of my mental health alone anyway for the past 20 yrs. Just chocked it up to me being dramatic and exaggerating. None of my feeling were important so especially not the big ones etc etc 

But dating two people with bpd that's more expressed/overt, means I definitely don't get to talk though my bpd. B3causw I'll just trigger theirs more. 
I cant be upset they got snappy or I perceived rejection Because they'll have a panic attack or cry and I'll have to take care of them 
I cant ever show how hurt I am when they insult me or get cold or shut down because I said one thing wrong and I'm the bad guy 
My bpd isn't as bad in the sense as I can handle it alone. 
But I handle all my issues alone 
And I handle all of their issue too.

I wouldn't trade either of then for the world but I just wish I could have bad days, I could fuck up and be forgiven or be human. I have to be their ideas on perfect because I'm their favorite person. And if I'm not perfect then their whole worlds go to shit.