He likes short, thick/curvy girls. I know this because my dumbass stalked the crap out of his and his exes social media accounts during the first few months of us dating (we’ve been together for 2 years now). 

I’m the opposite. I’m a tall skinny chick. Curves aren’t a thing for me. I have been my whole life. Working out has improved my looks slightly, but I’m never going to be those adorable and sexy girls he is attracted to. I’m the tallest and skinniest girl he’s ever been with. I get worried that, one day, a girl his type will hit on him, and he’ll cheat/leave me for her.

I’ve honestly talked to him about this once. He looked at me all confused and said “Do you really think I’m THAT shallow? I like you because you’re you. And you already know I find you attractive so why are you that worried?” Wow, damn. He never complains or says anything bad about my appearance. If anything, he constantly complements me, and seems to actually be attracted to my physical body. So why can’t I just accept that?

Whenever I talk to anyone else about this, I get a lot of: “he probably likes you for your appearance AND personality!” type talk. Haha, well, I have BPD. I have episodes that hurt him and our relationship. It’s part of why I feel so damn worried he’ll leave me. My personality is absolute garbage.

Today I was feeling insecure about my looks, but instead of just directly saying that, I said “wow, look at me, I’m so skinny.” He straight up said “yeah you are”, and now my sensitive-ass is feeling hurt. Good job me.