Splitting is one of my least favourite symptoms of bpd. I just feel so mean and afterwards always a deep sense of shame (another hated symptom of mine) But splitting is an inevitable part of it and is something I'm working through with DBT. I am finding that I mostly split on my partner or myself. Something that is really helping is when my partner realises I'm splitting and asks me if I am. He   
 really recognises the signs even before I can. When I'm told that I might be, I find it easier to "snap out of."  What are some techniques that help you "unsplit" or see the grey rather than everything as black and white. Also, what are some signals to look out for while you are splitting? I really struggle to realise I am unless someone points it out for me !