My boyfriend admitted to feeling trapped. This was followed by saying that he doesn’t want to leave, but even if he did…he can’t. I get it, but it’s still crushing. I want to accept that he IS in this relationship because he wants to be, not out of obligation. But the fear of ‘but maybe’ stacked on top of my own feelings of being a burden is consuming me and pushing me to detach from my relationship. This is also affecting him, as we usually have a very loving and affectionate relationship. 

I’ve been hardcore working on myself (and seeing major results!) and I expect as I continue to heal and better manage my BPD that I’ll feel more secure and he will also feel more secure in knowing that I’m not a ticking time bomb, but I don’t have a clue how to keep this under control until then.