I hate a lot of things my SO does because they trigger certain thoughts that make me deeply uncomfortable. The littlest things can convince me that they're cheating on me, they never liked me at all, they're trying to trick me into doing something. The problem is that they're totally normal things that I can't ask them to stop doing. I don't want to make them change her behavior because I have irrational thoughts. Any advice for how to talk about these things without implying that I want her to act a specific way around me?