**People-pleasing can be the result of trauma. It's called "fawning" -- here's how to recognize it. **

https://letsqueerthingsup.com/2019/06/01/fawning-trauma-response/

For those of us who always seems to be chasing the "wrong" people:

&gt;I sought out the most emotionally inaccessible people, and I threw myself into the pursuit, somehow believing that if I could secure the love and affection of the most unattainable person, it would indisputably prove my worthiness.

I struggle with keeping plans, so this next bit finally made the *why* of that make some sense:

&gt;Which of your friends do you cancel on?

&gt;Personal experience: I had this tendency to bail on friends, partners, acquaintances, whoever, that were the most generous, warm, and emotionally-available.

&gt;I avoided those relationships where love was free and easy. Because it didn’t feel “earned,” so I didn’t feel “worthy.”