I made an analogy for this but I’m bad at wording things. So think of it as 2 children learning to ride a bike, the first child had a good start as they’re being guided by a parent, they gradually get better with guidance from the parent and eventually are pushed forward and can ride the bike on their own. The other child doesn’t have the guidance, you get on the bike and fall, scrape your knees. After a little while it gets infected and then your legs get amputated and your left this way for the rest of your life just watching the other children living their happy lives. That’s how i see it, if you had a good start in life then you’ll most likely have a bright future, if you had a bad start/upbringing it’s only going to snowball in most cases, and in our case that’s the mental disorder we’re left with for the rest of our life because of abuse none of us asked for. It doesn’t make you stronger and nobody can see how unfair the world is but you.