Disclaimer: I can research about his work on the internet or ask my therapist about this, which I did, but they are not enough. I have explored this subreddit and people seem to be getting answers and emotional support the internet or therapists may not provide the same way :)

Warning: Mention of sexual harassment 

Okay where do I start?
I was diagnosed with ADHD-PI and Generalized Anxiety Disorder. 
Everything was going well. Still, I was left with social/emotional issues that have existed for as long as I can remember. Meaning, I have a lot of trouble maintaining relationships, my perception of people close to me are extremely unstable and fluctuate all the time, I jump to conclusions about people’s intentions towards me, I quickly get attached to a new admirable person in my life- and detach just as quickly (splitting?), and so much more.

I talked to my therapist about these issues and they seemed reluctant to diagnose me with BPD. They didn’t say it like that; they mentioned it could be BPD but it could also be a developmental phase about discovering what I want in relationships. 

However, one thing that contradicted that idea was when I mentioned a 6-year obsession I had with a romantic interest. This person felt absolutely nothing towards me and thus took advantage of my deep attachment to them by sexually harassing me. I knew it was wrong, yet I let them take advantage of me for months. I was so attached and obsessed that I feared their abandonment had I reported them. Eventually, I had to report because people found out, and unsurprisingly that person disappeared a year after they began harassing me. I was still subconsciously obsessed with them for years until I dug up my emotions again 2 years ago. I think I’m still attached, but in a more mature way if that makes sense. I tried to compensate for their absence by becoming addicted to validation and attention from strangers- think dating apps and jumping from one person to another (romantically). My self-esteem was and still is very low. 

My therapist felt more uncertain at this point. I’m aware that BPD is tricky to diagnose and kinda stigmatized. I’m just not sure exactly what it is that I’m feeling and I’m asking for explanations, counter-arguments and suggestions on how to deal with these issues. 

Thank you :)