I was in a pretty toxic relationship for almost two years. He made it seem like I asked for a lot when I would ask for just the bare minimum. He told me I was overwhelming and basically made it seem like he was doing bad at school due to my needs. (Even though he love bombed me at the beginning) Therefore, any time my current boyfriend is stressed, I feel a lot of anxiety. My boyfriend let me know that he’s feeling very stressed from work so he might not be “all there” for my needs. The way he said it made me upset, but I focused more on his intent—the fact that he was communicating his needs. However, I feel like he’s so stressed that he’s going to break up with me. I fully know that that feeling stems from my previous trauma because otherwise I feel secure in our relationship. Now I’m dealing with a lot of thoughts because I feel like this is my battle. He’s stressed and the last thing I want to do is make it about me. That’s trauma I have to heal from. So, does anyone have any advice? I’m keeping myself busy and doing a pretty great job at it. But I found myself thinking about it when doing mundane tasks. It’s making me want to pull away and my mind immediately goes to wanting to break up before he breaks up with me. I know that’s my anxiety speaking but I’m struggling. Any advice would be helpful!