So I'm in the phase of my life where I'm starting to become more independent, so that probably has a lot to do with what I'm about to say. 

My parents are great parents, but lately, they've become way too overbearing for me to have any semblance of privacy or independence. 

They go through my texts, emails, search histories, and all my phone records at least twice a week. They make the argument that it's "their phone" so they can do whatever they want. While technically true, it feels like bullshit. 

They also really don't like me making new friends. Earlier this year, I really hit it off with three kids I met during science class. I love these girls/guys, they're really nice people, and they really accept me for who I am, even if I don't really know who I am yet. The problem is, they're all on the LGBT spectrum (which, to me at least, is not a problem) but my parents think I'm starting to change to fit in. I am not. I don't truly know who I am, so maybe some of it is an experiment, but I think a good amount of it is just me releasing all the feelings that I have to hide around parents just because I'm changing and they can't really handle it. They don't trust these friends, and they really don't want me to hang out with them. It hurts me that I have to lie to them to be with people that I truly like. We all wanted to join the Gender Sexuality Awareness club at my school, them because they have been in it previously, and me because it might help me figure out where I stand. My parents don't want to me to join, because they don't want me being influenced by other people, which is stupid. 

It feels like they have to be aware and in charge of everything I do, and I need some independence and privacy in my life. 

And, yes, I know it all comes from a place of love and anxiety. I love my parents, don't get me wrong, and I know they're trying to protect me, but it's still a pain in the ass I can't really handle. I've tried to talk to a therapist about this, and my parents didn't listen. They won't stop. I need to figure out what to say.