Have you ever seen that meme about how, if you hate someone enough, you’ll be pissed off by the thought of them eating chips in the corner of the room? That’s my everyday with my significant other. Any little thing he does that upsets me ignites rage - I’m holding a million grudges against him. Talking to him about the things that upset me helps a little bit, but I can’t seem to forgive him even when he apologizes. I feel obsessed with every time he’s ever hurt my feelings or said/did something insensitive. He’s just human, and he’s making human-sized mistakes. He is a wonderful, patient person, and he always empathizes with my hurt feelings. But every time he upsets me, I cycle through a very long list of things he has said/done that bothered me throughout our relationship, even when we’ve already talked about them and he’s already apologized. 

These grudges are destroying any closeness and good feelings I have towards him. What should I do?