My boyfriend and I are long distance right now and he’s been getting increasingly more distant but I couldn’t figure out why. Then I found this sub and realized that 1. I probably have BPD, and 2. I’ve been making him responsible for my anxiety without even realizing it. I thought I was just telling him what I needed from him, but I didn’t realize they weren’t needs at all but rather unjustified anxieties. I tried to make him act a certain way to make my anxiety go away, which is totally unfair to him. 

I apologized today and he thanked me profusely for acknowledging it, and told me he’s done similar things too and it’s okay because we both realized it and grew from it. Things are looking up. 