I'm trying to get back on the dating scene but am finding it quite triggering. Having people you speak to for a while ghost on you, meeting people who then say you're too 'full on' wanting to spend time with them, dealing with it constantly bringing up doubt and insecurities within myself and having my head feel like its running amok making assumptions of whats going on and reasoning behind things.

How do you make sure you aren't getting too 'full on' when meeting people?
How do you rationalise things so you're not making lots of negative assumptions?