We bo8th messed up today. Equally on both of us. However I'm sat here righting wrongs and taking the blame and she's just say "it's because I have bpd"

I respect her but it's her go to excuse, she never takes responsibility ever if she really hurts me, just slaps "I have bpd" on it like a bandaid.

Worst of all she's not diagnosed, nor has any medical professional ever said it's likely, a close friend of mine has bpd and he says he doubts she does. I wouldn't care about the diagnosis status if it wasn't being treated as an excuse.

I don't have bpd. My therapist said it's a possibility, but I highly doubt it.

At what point can I hold my gf responsibile? at what point is her bpd no longer an excuse?