Hey everyone I hope youre doing well. I am in a relationship with someone who has bpd and we have been dating for three years. We have had a rough past (at times), where I have constantly repeated the same actions and to this day I still repeat them (though a lot less) they still cause my girlfriend to have BPD episodes and depressive episodes. And when she asks for a reason why I acted the way I did I dont give her an answer because I have no idea. I barely understand my emotions or hers and have been having lots of trouble changing to become a person to be understanding of emotions and a better boyfriend of someone with BPD. What ways would you recommend I can make myself better as a person and stop hurting my girlfriend. Please if you know anyone who has overcome this please share this with them, or if you have some advice or a story please leave it below.

Thank you to everyone