I have no clue what to do.  I'm the spouse of someone who checked themselves to an inpatient facility recently.  The last year has just been a spiral downward of anxiety for her.  Seems like we tried a ton of medication none has worked.  It got to be too much and so she asked to go somewhere.  I supported that no problem.  We have a good life relatively speaking, we love each other, are happy, 5 kids all pretty young.  There is no specific traumatic event that triggered this(although 5 kids is definitely hard).  We've both led pretty good lives.  We have supportive friends, family.

We've dealt with her mild anxiety and depression our whole relationship.  I research it, I understand it.  I say the right things, and am completely supportive.  It has ebbed and flowed over time, but this next level

Since checking herself in 11 days ago, things have only gotten worse, which I quite frankly didn't think was possible. They've tried several new medications, none have been remotely effective.  All I wanted in this world was for her to have some relief.  I have no clue what to do for her.  I know that the answer has got to be out there, but I don't know what that answer is.  She is in such anguish almost every second of every day I can't stand the thought knowing she's in there by herself.

Do we stay the course?  Do we try to find somewhere else for her to go?  We have money.  I would spend every cent if it meant getting her relief sooner.  I know there's a ton of medicines to try, but I certainly didn't think they could make things worse when she already seems to be at rock bottom.  I'm at a loss.  I just want some relief for her