"I have to make a joke, I should be sweet but sarcastic, I should bring up at least 3 other topics or questions to ask them or else they'll ghost me"
This is a summed up version of the chaos that runs in my brain when I'm having a text conversation with someone. It's especially bad when I don't know the person, and I'm trying to make an impression. Being ghosted usually ruins my entire day and can sometimes ruin multiple days. I also have a feeling this overcompensation can ruin a conversation, in hindsight. I wish I could just be calm and not feel such an intense need to make an impact out of fear of rejection. 