Okay, I don't currently have a diagnosis of BPD nor am I trying to use this sub as a replacement for a professional opinion.  However, I'm starting to think I may have quiet BPD, one or two family members might have gone undiagnosed as well. 

 I always thought borderline meant "typical" borderline portrayed by the media, but when I read about quiet BPD (specifically, the discouraged subtype) a lot of things started to click.  One of the big things for me was realizing that I do display impulsive and self harm behaviors, it just looks a little different in my case. For example, I tend to compulsively give things away or deny myself what I need.  I once spent several months with my phone taped together, even though I could afford an upgrade, it felt safer to treat myself like garbage than have my needs met.  Another was seeing how manipulative I could be in order to get people to like me (if you've ever seen 27 Dresses, Katherine Heigl's character is basically me in a nutshell).  

There's a lot of other things that I won't mention on here because I'm still processing all of it. It's actually a relief to think maybe I'm not broken, and there's actually a reason why I feel the way I do. I'm trying to learn all I can about this so if anyone with is willing to share what symptoms or life events made them finally seek a diagnosis that would be a huge help.