Im a (34m).... Its been 3 years since I left my ex-gf who had BPD. I feel like she was my soulmate, I think about her almost everyday. Its funny because in a way she had the mental health issue but Im the one suffering. Like a victom of an abusive relationship. I loved, I gave, I tried. I put 1000% into understanding, helping, and bieng patient with her. Every inch of my hesrt was taken. This would be 5 paragraphs long if I described everything that slowly chipped away our relationship but a few key things were the steady negative comments, never bieng good enough, the emotional affairs (possible physical one) she was having. It had beat me down over 4 years. I hope her the best and wish I knew how she was doing but I will not put myself back into that. It hurts too much. Was it this hard for anyone one else to move forward after a break up with someone who had BPD?. I have dated again but I dont feel nearly the same connection... I feel the woman I should be seeking out is one who had an ex-partner with BPD. It takes a really kind, patient and an amazing soul to be with someone who has had BPD.