I have BPD. 

So, looking back I think I may have an issue w sexual harassment. I get that people w BPD can be more sexual than most - but this is more intense and sinister than just having a lot of sex. 

A part of it is definitely that I want to be close to people physically but the way that I ask seems to be too unrelenting.

I think the ultimate problem is I would back off once I knew the person didn't want to continue, but it took too long for me to understand that in a lot of cases because of my lack of communication skills (or maybe I was deliberately ignoring peoples wishes). 

I would ask the same person multiple times, not realizing that asking constantly was harassment, because I thought their answer might change day-to-day (which tbh sometimes it did). Or I would follow someone to their room to ask, which in retrospect feels creepy but which I thought was perfectly reasonable in the moment because at the time I didnt view my own space as private. It did feel slightly predatory, but not more than seeing someone at a party and watching them while you're getting the nerve to ask them back to your place. Or I would be with someone who was attracted to me but feeling conflicted about continuing, and not stop until there was a hard no.

I think another part of the issue was that if I didn't succeed the first time I'd ask to be friends after and be misunderstood as asking for sex - but then there were ALSO times when I'd ask to be friends and then ask for sex after we were friends, so...wondering if by asking to be friends I was just being manipulative. But in the moment asking I wasnt necessarily thinking 'hehehehe, this is all part of my master plan'... 

Basically I think the harassment was a symptom of not understanding communication, privacy, boundaries and a whole host of other things that may or may not be related to my diagnosis. I just want to understand why I was like that and how I can stop. I don't have a good understanding of my own motives.

The good thing is Im definitely better at it now. :) Just wish I understood myself better so I could prevent it from happening again.