Personally, I have never turned on a FP, however, my FP's have seriously used me in the past. I can not stand up to them, and my last FP was talking seriously, in a pre-mediated manner of killing me. I have yet to bring this up to my therapist because it sounds so stupid that I put up with that behavior.

When I have recovered from a break up, I'm fine.  but now i am dating and have a more casual partner, I find myself yearning for a FP, I know it's not good for me. and I don't want it "really" but I miss having someone completely to focus on, and make them my whole world, and  them of me.

I can tell myself how unhealthy it is, distract myself, and reach out to a group of people instead of attaching myself to just one, and it works in the sense that I don't develop a FP.

However, it doesn't change the longing I have. I try to accept this longing, but it's too painful to accept or be mindful of, only distraction works, but I can't keep distracting myself.