I'm not sure if it's a BPD thing or just a "me" thing but I've been casually seeing this guy for a couple of weeks but he's really affectionate and wants to chat every day and while it's nice, the only time I feel strongly about someone is when they seem less interested in me than I am in them..

I already told said guy that I don't want anything serious but he still keeps messaging me 24/7 and I'm worried about going on nights out in case he's there because I don't want to feel like I'm tied down to him when the whole reason I ended my year and a half long relationship a couple of months ago was because I wanted to fuck about and not be tied to one person.

I'm now going out tonight and my old FP (a week-long intense casual fling from a month ago) has invited me round to drink. I'm worried that the guy I'm "seeing" is gonna be out later cause tbh I wouldn't be opposed to getting with the guy I'm going to drink with. I still feel really intensely about him even though I know it couldn't amount to anything relationship-wise and I just don't have that with the guy I've been hanging out with recently lol.