I feel like it’s important for me to build a stable sense of self, figure out how I want my career to go, focus on myself and my mental health before I ever can romantically be linked to anyone.


I don’t know how to break up with him. Oftentimes we enter a cycle of me getting enraged when he denies something (for eg, he denies crossing my sexual boundaries) or when I feel like he’s lying about some things I clearly remember happening yet he says didn’t. 


He’s really tried to support me through all this. Unfortunately I have chronic anxiety and depersonalize and lose memory a lot. I repay him by getting angry and feel like he’s a stranger who’s out to hurt me. 

Some part of me wants to break free from this relationship (despite the soul connection he claims we have) so I can focus on DBT and getting better. 


Any advice on what I should do?