My bf of a year brought up that he rarely hears me apologize, he blamed that on bpd...as he does a lot of other things 🙄. I do things to correct mistakes instead of just apologizing. I grew up that way. 
Today's instance was when i got home from work I immediately laid down. I've been exhausted from either my growing depression  (almost 2 years since mom died suddenly), or thyroid not being treated correctly. He came downstairs saying that it must be nice to just go to sleep to avoid feeling guilty for not taking responsibility, and left to clean out the car.  You can imagine the NEW guilt that left me and the SI that I completed. 
I cleaned up the house, his messes,  left him notes. Started writing in my journal and he got home and the beginning happened, that he rarely hears me apologize. 

I always attributed it to the way I was raised. My parents rarely apologized. My brother didn't. We weren't affectionate.  