Hi there BPD subreddit! I've been slowly getting to know someone with BPD over the course of about three years now, and it's so clear to me now how very different this disorder is from simply depression/bipolar/whatever else most people assume it's like. How the emotional reactiveness associated with BPD isn't something to get offended by, it's something to be sympathetic towards. I see how people treat my friend when he is triggered, even people who 'know' he has BPD, and I know it's very hard to have sympathy for someone when they are angry and emotional, but those of us who do have that emotional control really should be the ones expected to, you know, *use* that control, and think rationally and remember! 

That is sort of vague-ranting I know. This friend of mine who has BPD, he is someone who I never thought I would be friends with, because when I first was getting to know him I did the stereotypical thing and I felt he was 'too much'. But due to very mingled communities, I came to realize how wonderful he is, and how his BPD self is very very different from his healthy self. And I see how often people blame him for being/acting in ways that are really just his BPD, and don't try to be more understanding and forgiving. And I can see that that's really an unfair burden to put on top of the things you are already struggling with internally. 

I think you (yes, you, any reader!) are super special and working really hard. Even if you don't have control over it, I still think you are doing the best you can do and wish you the best of luck in getting better and better. Baby steps and backwards steps are okay! Just keep going forward when you can and I think you will reach your goals.