I was clinically diagnosed almost exactly a year ago, and while knowing I have BPD feels incredibly freeing (in the sense that I have a language for how I’m feeling), the simple fact I have it seems to really screw with my relationships. It’s bad enough having BPD and constantly worrying that a person secretly hates you or is only with you out of sympathy, but every time I feel comfortable enough with a person to disclose that I have BPD they immediately research it and decide my entire personality is now that list of symptoms, completely erasing everything that came before that. My last girlfriend told me my BPD made her scared I would hurt her, even though I’d never even gotten angry with her before. I firmly believe it’s important to communicate about something like BPD with your partner and not hide it, but every time I disclose it, it seems to make things worse. DAE experience this?