Hello! I recently started gabapentin for chronic pain, but it has made me more anxious about little things (driving, reading people’s expressions, being ignored, sounds). 

My boyfriend pointed this out today during dinner when I asked him why he looks that way, I couldn’t read his expression, and he basically told me that I’ve become a hot mess since starting my new medication and I’m annoying him with my constant anxiousness. I didn’t get super upset and angry, which I normally would, and told him that I’m sorry, I just worry for him. (Also, not knowing how to do hot pot was stressing me out lmao🤪😂)

I am always a sad and anxious person, but my boyfriend doesn’t say much about it. I know since starting gabapentin I’ve been a bit off, but him saying it the way he did was upsetting. I wish he was concerned about my well being rather than annoyed by it. He always overlooks my depression, anxiety, and chronic pain difficulties, I can he doesn’t know how to help and it weighs him down when he tries to help. I know I need more help from him, especially now. 

How do your partners help with your anxiety? How do you communicate when you need a little help?