I made a decision 7 years ago that one of my best friends was very angry about. She was furious and cut me out of her life. Essentially, she fully cut me out for 4 years, and then in the past 3 years every 9 or 12 months we’ll see each other in odd situations (she last minute invited me to her 30th birthday gathering and it was just me, her, her boyfriend, and a friend). For background, she told me over the years that she had loved me more than anyone else she ever knew. There has been some behavior on her part I am finding very difficult to understand. She keeps acting and speaking in ways that are completely contradictory to each other. She’ll tell me she "wants me to move to her city - she wants me there” and when I move there a month later, she blocks my number and doesn’t respond to any of my reaching out. Last time I saw her she put her cat in my lap and said “best friend meet best friend” yet every time I’ve reached out to try and establish contact over the past 7 years she has completely ignored me. When I last saw her she said she was upset that I didn’t invite her to my birthday party when she literally has completely ignored me and not responded to any of my requests to meet for 7 years. The time before when I saw her she said I said all the things she had been dreaming about me saying for years even though I had already said them before many times. If this pattern were simply something that lasted a few months, I would understand and think it was just conflicted feelings, but 7 years of this just seems like it can’t be that anymore, and the completely contradictory actions and apparent unawareness of them is very confusing to me. Is this some kind of splitting? I’m genuinely confused and trying to understand it from a psychological perspective.