My (M 24) fiancé and I (F 25) have been dating for over 2 years. We got engaged a couple months ago. He has ADHD so it’s hard for him to remember to keep in contact with me or update me on plans, etc. because it simply doesn’t even come into his mind/occur to him that he should. Not just with me, with anyone.

He also has a major anxiety disorder and planning big things can really cause him to panic. Planning the proposal caused him major anxiety and he almost didn’t do it. I practically had to talk him into it because I know he wanted to propose, he just literally was overwhelmed with anxiety and barely could do it.

This makes planning our wedding tough because he gets anxious whenever I try to bring it up/never brings it up himself. I bring it up quite often because I’m excited. Is it normal for guys to not bring up their wedding?

I’m just wondering, does this sound like it’s the case of someone with ADHD/anxiety or is he just not that in love with me? I’ve laid it out for him and communicated very clearly that if he doesn’t love me, he needs to let me go so I can find someone who will put in the same effort that I do. But then he breaks down and cries and tells me how he wants to be different it’s just literally his anxiety/the way his brain works.

He is on medication for both his ADHD and anxiety and has started therapy last month so he can finally start to deal with these issues and better cope with his anxiety so that it won’t put a strain on our relationship anymore.

I love him but this relationship is a lot of work. I will put work into it. I just don’t want to be in a relationship where I’m unloved. what do you guys think?