I don't really know how else to say this, but the big, mysterious answer to managing BPD is to do nothing. That's it. That's what I've learned from DBT. From every professional I've spoken with. From how optimal medication has been described to me. The goal is to get us to do nothing. That is the answer.

"My FP hasn't text me back." Do nothing

"Someone just said something that hurt my feelings and I'm angry." Do nothing

"I think my BF is going to leave me." Do nothing

"I want to send someone a wall of text about how they upset me earlier." Do nothing

"I think I'm splitting on someone." Do nothing

"I feel empty inside and need to be impulsive." Do nothing

I'm not even being sarcastic. How many times do you wish you hadn't opened your mouth about the issue? How often was the problem nothing *until* you made it something? Half of our battles are in our heads, and you'd be surprised how much easier life becomes when you choose to be passive. Don't mistake that for weakness. Weakness is biting back at every perceived slight. Weakness is succumbing to your symptoms. Weakness is lashing out, raging, splitting, and spiraling. Our suffering comes from our actions and reactions, rarely our inaction.

I promise you, riding out the emotional wave is less catastrophic than dealing with the aftermath. Next time you feel the need to act out, don't. Be strong. Do nothing.