I’ve been dating for nearly a year. We’re both late 20s. We have fights. It feels like he doesn’t love me enough. I can’t tell if it’s BPD or if it’s real. 
He acts like having a girlfriend is inconvenient. Like hearing about my day or how I feel isn’t worth listening to. He doesn’t involve me in his life, but we live together. I’ve always been alone, so I’m trying to stay with him. He says he wants to be with me, but I don’t feel special to him. We only really kiss/cuddle right before bed or when we’re leaving for work in the morning.   We just had our first anniversary and he didn’t even get me anything special.