I have a good relationship with my parents but i get so extremely anxious if i have to tell them im going somewhere. Im 21 and in college and my parents dont even need me to ask for permission anymore but like i want to tell them im going somewhere but its so hard for me to do for some reason. 

This also happens if I wanna ship things to my house that i buy with my own money, for some reason i have to feel secretive and sneak the box into my room even though my parents dont care what i buy.  

I have talked to them about it before and theyve just replied saying something like “dont be afraid ur allowed to do all that” (but if i could just not be afraid I wouldn’t make this post lol) 

The reason i can think of is that i was fairly sheltered as a kid/teen and had to beg for small things to go to a friends house or let me drive a car after i got my license etc...  so i guess that stuck w me. 

But im just frustrated that i still feel this way even though the problem no longer exists. I feel like im still holding on to resentment towards my parents about past issues that have been worked on and its not fair to them. 

TLDR anyway i am afraid to tell my parents things that i am 100% sure will not make them mad and would like some advice to try on how to overcome this