This happened throughout my life. From time to time when I experienced a depressive episode it sometimes happened to be during a family gathering or when they contacted me via phone/video chat. And I repeatedly hear this from them “you should sound more upbeat when you picked up the phone from me” “it’s the holidays and you should be happy”. I know that my family loves me and I am grateful. And it is common in my culture for kids to show respect for the elders in all forms. But I really don’t like how they dismissed my mental needs like that. I don’t think they know me at all