When I tend to see things a certain way (low confidence, negative) the people around me will tend to shut it down and say 'no that didn't happen.' They mean well, but they weren't there and just saying 'no that's wrong' is infuriating. It's like saying 'I got burned by a candle today, it really hurts' and someone saying 'no you didn't and you're not hurt. That didn't happen.'

What's a better way to handle things if you think someone could shift their perspective?