"Well screw them so much for the old friendship that's just bullshit." 

That's how my dad talks about his old friends that don't invite him over anymore. He's over 80 and has failed so badly at interpersonal skills that he has just about isolated himself. Divorced my mom, won't talk to siblings etc.

Now I'm wondering how to not pass this on to my own kids. My BPD is not as bad as my dads (undiagnosed of course). But it has still crippled me and led to wild 14-39 year old behaviour. Luckily I wised up just in time to save my marriage and become a better parent to my two sons, 5 and 7.

The 5 year old is not BPD at all, very stable. But the older boy is showing all the traits to various degrees already, and I was abusive to him when he was little unfortunatetly - with my rages and just general BPD stuff towards him and his dad. Now that I'm in DBT and seeing a therapist I want to do my best by him (7 yr old son) and try go heal him from the sprouting BPD I see.

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How would you heel a child from getting BPD???? He has rages, feels alone even when with ppl, acts out because he thinks ppl don't like him even when they do. He could get an ADHD label, but that's not it. I know what has caused it and I know it's third generation BPD (probably 4th because it seems my grandfather also had this as he used to beat my dad etc). I don't want to pass this on.

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He has it both genetically and environmentally already from me so this is about healing that. But how? I have my own idea, but also want to hear yours. **How do you wish you'd been treated as a child?**