Helloooo everyone,

I have a question and was curious, does this happen to anyone else. I find it hard to explain but I'll try my best. Do you ever feel like someone says something to you and it makes you freak out, and the person who says it doesn't see it as a big deal, or understand why you're mad at what they said, but to you it's huge? A good example of this is, one time a now ex boyfriend referred to my friend as "the hot one" when talking about her to his friends. He forgot her name and that was the best description he could come up with (she is very pretty but besides the point). I obviously freaked out and left wherever we were out, whereas he and his friends thought I was overreacting. Another example of this is hanging out with my (current) boyfriend at a big family (his) vacation, we're sitting on the couch together just the two of us, and he goes "I'm going to see what everyone else is doing," and he gets up to leave, without asking me to come. Or another time, he was late to help me move because he stayed at a friend's house until 2 am, and when I said "you're late," he goes, "does it matter?"

Do you ever feel like if people were more sensitive to how their words might affect you, it would heal you? I know people aren't perfect, but. Also, I definitely overreact, but do you feel like if things like the above just weren't said, you wouldn't freak out, and be ok? Anyone?

Also any tips on how to not overreact and just diffuse before telling people what they said bothered you are completelyyyyy welcome.