I would like to say i am not bpd. My EX is! Unfortunately he keeps coming into my life in very manipulative ways, through my family and friends. Makes threats towards me to get me to respond to him. I have made it very clear i do not want to be with him anymore or want him in my life, Frankly he's very scary to me. He says all the time he needs "Closure" because he has a fear of abandonment. This.. upon reading up on peoples other posts seems to be a common thing with BPD people. However to the outside world it comes off as scary, why wont this person go away? or move on? is this person a real deal stalker?  etc. I'm hoping you guys and gals can help me with some advice what to do. It can be extremely overwhelming at times when he's messaging my family to upset me into responding to him.