I’m a senior college student with anxiety who lives with a couple of great guys. In the past we’d all hang out constantly and still do a lot of activities together. This semester has been weird though.

My schedule doesn’t match up well with my roommates. The two have earlier classes as well as classes together, so as a result they see each other a lot while I don’t. One also now has a girlfriend, so he’s often at her house.

Lately though I’ve just felt left out and my anxiety is trying to tell me they don’t like me anymore. A few times both roommates have ended up hanging out at the gf’s house, and I’be never been invited despite being friends with her too.

I tried to assume it was schedules or just that I wasn’t there when they made plans, but today after an extracurricular they were talking about potentially going again, and I wasn’t acknowledged despite standing there.

This obviously spiraled my anxiety again, but it’s not like these guys have been actively avoiding me or being mean or not wanting to talk. I’m still pretty amicable with them, although I think that I think things have changed. It’s just so frustrating because it’s hard to tell what’s overthinking and what’s real.

My therapist recommends checking in to see if “we’re good”, but that terrifies me in case they think I’m desperate, or worse they say no