So I (21) have been dating my bf (20) for almost a year now, and my feelings have never felt more intense - I am constantly white/black thinking every action of his in my head. I am his first serious girlfriend and I’m not sure if he just doesn’t know how to give love to someone or if I’m demanding too much. 

I love to be around him, I want to be next to him all the time. He likes to be alone and to let off stress from video games, he’s told me us living together counts as hanging out/quality time even when he’s 24/7 in another room gaming. He’ll come see me every 3 hours or so to kiss me on my head and I’ll ask him to lay with me (which he will) but he will lay stiff like a board on top of me for a minute or two then he’ll say he has to get back to his game.

After sex, he goes straight for his phone or sleep. I cry after and I don’t know if that’s dramatic or not. I really like aftercare but when I’ve asked for it he always seems to forget. 

He doesn’t compliment me and his reason for that is so when he does it means a lot more. 

I’ve spoke to him about all of this and how I want to receive love and he says he’ll work on it but, it doesn’t seem like things are changing. He says it’s because he’s forgetful but so am I and yet my head is always racing with things he’s told me so I can show him love properly. 

The most attention I get is when I bring him things, or when I’m about to head to bed he will help me to bed, tuck me in, kiss my head. 

I can’t tell if this is fine and I’m thinking the worst and trying to victimize myself, any input would be nice