In the past whenever I've had a crush I would become obsessed, be too forward, become emotionally attached to getting messages from them, and cause myself a lot of pain over it.

I've met this guy and I don't know how he feels about me--we kissed at a party a couple weeks ago and I messaged him afterwards, asking to hang out. He didn't respond so I decided to do the healthy thing--let it go. **Not chase after people who don't like me**. I *really* don't want to do that anymore.

Then yesterday he messaged me. He never has messaged me before. He seems kind of interested but I can't really tell. Also people tell me he's the kind of person to get involved with girls, only to leave them. Anyway I just wanted to get this out somewhere. What should I do? Should I respond to him? Flirt? Or just leave it alone and see what happens?

My logic is if he really likes me he'll let me know. I'm **so tired of chasing** after guys only to get hurt every time. And as I'm sure you all know, it's too easy to get attached with BPD.