The first piece of advice allowed me to justify destroying my reputation and public image so completely I had to move across the country to get a new start. I wish I took this advice with caveats instead of completely disregarding everyone’s perceptions of me, leading me to ostracize myself from the community that used to love me.

The second piece of advice is just annoying because I can’t trust all my feelings lol, a cornerstone of therapy is you learning that your feelings don’t always point to the truth.