I was very recently diagnosed with borderline and I just got out of an incredibly abusive relationship with a narcissist. I had my moments for sure, as anyone with BPD would understand. I did split and hold him to a high standard but that 100% amplified by constant emotional abuse. 

I was online searching up if people with BPD can have healthy relationships and literally everything I read and saw by someone who wasn't diagnosed with BPD was: 

\- no they're manipulative as hell 

\- any relationship with them can put you in danger, even your kids (Wtf????)

\- relationships with borderlines are rocky, tumultuous, and draining protect yourself 

I feel so upset seeing that people with BPD have such a terrible reputation online. Anyone in my life would disagree with any and all the sentiments that are online painting us as evil people. But like I'm lowkey worried?? What if I am a difficult person to be with because of BPD? **Why would a healthy person want to sacrifice their mental health to be with me? What if I'm not even that bad but my future partner is scared off when they look into BPD and see how terrible everyone thinks borderlines are?**