My partner and i currently aren't in good terms. I was a d*** when drunk last night. She has every right to be mad with my actions. So my safety blanket is gone. She typically is a sense of reassurance and comfort for me. So , when one of the few things that helps mitigates my anxiety is now a source of additional stress I am struggling. It then makes me behave selfishly as I cannot help her in the way she needs which is typically space. I never do well when we have contention,  I literally cannot relax until everything is sorted. Do you guys suffer with the same?