im not sure if everyone who has BPD has had the same experience but i notice that those who did tend to have BPD. i think this was when i also began to start invalidating my feeling: i.e. “of course they would treat them much better because they’re a better child than i am,” “i should be grateful that they even put the effort treat me like this (bare minimum).”

i suffer from quiet BPD so most of the pain becomes internalized… having invalidating thoughts after experiencing something emotionally painful has always been my direct response to any sort of situation that mirrors the one i mentioned. im wondering if any of you guys experienced the same kind of thing and if you can relate to the scenario i mentioned.