
Summary- *My friend takes 48+ hours to reply to a text and says I'm too needy when I ask that she at least acknowledge having received the message. This only started happening after she learned about BPD from her new boyfriend.*

My best friend and I had a significant falling out due to a more complicated situation than just this, but one of the biggest contributing factors was that she wouldn't reply to messages for 48+ hours and then get angry with me when I'd ask her to please just acknowledge that I've even sent something rather than keeping me waiting and wondering if things went through. She said that I was being too needy and had to respect that her life is busy. This was all after she moved in with a new boyfriend who hates people with BPD and openly shames them.

Fast forward to today, we haven't spoken much in about a year, but I asked if I could visit my niece when she is at our mutual friend's place since I haven't seen her in over a year. She hasn't answered me. It's been almost 36 hours, and I'm getting pissed off. It was a weekend, so I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt that she is really busy, but how hard is it to say- really busy + will get back to you when I can?

I guess this is one of those reasons we can't be friends. She sees no error in what she is doing, and I see no error in wanting to be acknowledged within a reasonable time frame. We are still family, but friendship isn't in the cards.

Tempted to text her with a "nvm" but feel like she wins if I do that because she'll just flip out on me again. I feel like an idiot for even asking her. I just miss my niece, and my friend has sent me pictures randomly a couple times over the past year saying how much her daughter misses me, so I thought it was reasonable to ask. *sigh* What an absolutely bullshit situation.