How do you help them? I try my best to be there for them like they are for me, but I'm just not good enough. And I'm not saying I should have the answers and be able to cure them. But they don't even seem to feel like they can talk to me about it. I feel like I'm very empathetic for someone with BPD and I try to listen and not say any platitudes. 

But they just get angry at me because I'm not asking them to talk in the right way. I'm not helpful at all. I try to offer comforts like hugs or holding their hands or nonphysical things like telling them how much they matter to me and others. I offer to just let them vent. 

I feel like it's gotten worse since I told them about my BPD diagnosis. Like maybe they're mad at me for it or don't feel like I understand them anymore or can still be a good friend. I feel like I'm just in this box now and they don't want to overwhelm me. But nothing else has changed except I feel like they don't think of me as a friend anymore. 