I personally thinking tackling the root of our individual issues in conjunction to how we deal with them is incredibly helpful, but I see that so much of what is discussed in this group are the actions, consequences and tools.

What we experienced during our childhood have lead us here. Our philosophy of life which is so influenced by out early experiences have lead us here. I think that exposing ourselves to different philosophies and practicing our lives in accordance to them could be greatly helpful. 

Last semester in University, I was having admittedly the worse time. I had 7 classes plus a mandatory internship, I couldn't sleep enough, I had always an insane amount of work to do and my favorite person broke up with me. However, there was this class I had to take called Professional Ethics in which we explored moral philosophy.It was as it the cosmos had sent this kind professor to change my life upside down.


In a few of our classes we explored many great philosophers but the one that most resonated with me was Seneca.Stoicism and it's focus greatly changed my priorities in life. It is oftentimes described as  "Founded around 300 BC in Athens and can be thought of as an operating system for thriving in high-stress environments."

 In this case we are our own high-stress environments. I highly recommend reading or listening to his letter 13 "on groundless fears" which I'll link to down below.

Read:
https://en.m.wikisource.org/wiki/Moral_letters_to_Lucilius/Letter_13

Listen to: 
https://youtu.be/rgBFVznCr1Q

Isn't it equally important to change our fundamental outlook in life as it is to go therapy or use our workbooks?  
 
Why not change our mentalities from fearing something  will occur to the worse might not occur to what if it occurs? Why does it have so much importance? What is life without the challenges and the knowledge we acquire from having lived through those challenges? 

Whether someone loves you or doesn't love you matter? Why don't we focus our energy on continously  learning how to be lovely people instead? Why don't we focus on learning how to be good friends instead of what we receive from them? I think the tools available are great and extremely helpful but I think it requires more than just the tools and begin focusing on living and building character instead. 

I think that we could all benefit from focusing on the pursuit of knowledge rather than the pursuit of acceptance/love from other people.