I'm in desperate need of professional help, but also scared because I know that there is a ton of lousy professionals out there, and also a ton of good professionals but that wouldn't work for me right now. I tried therapy in the past for different problems, and although it wasn't bad, I never felt that connection that some people describe having with their therapists, and I never felt like they were "the one". 

I'm doing this because I don't have either the time nor the money to spend on trial and error right now, like I had in the past. I'm truly in the depths of despair. 

Would you guys recommend sending an e-mail? If so, what should I include in it? That could be nice because I can just forward the e-mail to a lot of therapists and be able to analyze how they respond. Maybe calling? Are there any red flags to look out for? How to decide on the approach that I want? Should I set goals beforehand and share them with the professional before deciding on which one? 

Thank you in advance.