This weekend my ex externalized a bunch of her insecurities, lackings from the relationship, things she refused to to, anger, Blame, inadequacies and projected them onto me.

For the past several months, I've encouraged her to goto counsoling and that I would pay and join her if she chose. 

She projected a lot of her insecurities onto me as well.

Accused me of internalizing my anger.

She apologized for not being a stronger person for me, that maybe if she was, I could have opened up to her and been stronger.

The thing is, none of the above is true.

She gave up on couples counsoling. She refused to see a therapist when I offered to pay. She never opened up to me. Accused me of not trying.

Anyway, my question is. When projecting things like this, what's really going on? Is this what you really believe? Is this just her way of communicating her pain and insecurities?

What do I do with this? She's someone I care about. She's projected in the past, but never like this. This was very detailed and quite worrying for me to read.

This happened over the weekend, after about 2-3 weeks of NC from her.

Any insight would be greatly appreciated.