Hi! I’d love to hear ur input, especially if you are in a depression right now. Sounds odd and I’m sorry, but this is the “insider info” I need.

backstory:
I (F 21) have a sister (F21) who is in a deep clinical depression. We’re both freshly divorced out of toxic marriages (2-3 years where one of us was mentally abused, the other severely physically + mentally abused) and for those years we haven’t been able to see eachother, at the demand of our then husbands. We used to be super close as we are twin s.

We’re both out of it now and spend much of our time together. We share a room and plan to start a new education together (we weren’t allowed to study when married by spouses) and everything is going better! Although, even though I feel generally very happy and have a light view on life, my sister is suffering. She even tried to take her own life - unsuccesfully, thank god. She is on anti depressants and generally looks sad. 

I try to be as positive around her at all times - I fail often and argue, but wish to get better. I feel like it helps to stay positive especially when something irritating or bad happens by shifting our focus or saying “it is what it is, fuck it” etc
I make sure to clean the room and told her I would take care of the bills, so she doesn’t have to work.  (She’s been working a job and newly “quit”) Reason for this is she gets overly exhausted just by working 2-3 hours. I know she feels extremely bad for this and has apologized numerous times for not being ablw to “bring something to the table” but i dont agree with this at all! (She helped me get out of the major dept my ex husband left me with btw)
I just want her to focus on herself

Now, I know her too well to know that she holds back asking me for help, and I don’t know how to. Please share the things someone you know has done for you, that helped you in your depression.. I’d really appreciate it!