Rubber banding is when you overexert one part of yourself to then rebound into your direct counter self. This is my perspective and up to interpretation and debate but just go with me.

We tend to go from so many extremes so often and fro. My experience it's usually a coping mechanism. One based on uncertainty and fear. Yeah, shitty things will always happen. No I'm not your therapist. Life fucking sucks. But what I can tell you is understanding your emotional response is based entirely on uncertain fears will make your life suck. God it makes my life suck.
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That's not what I'm gonna do.
I'm suffering right now but because I'm exposed. And I'm not crying to someone else but I'm showing myself the fear and uncertainty of the world. I'm allowing those solar winds of anxiety hit me. Like really completely destroy me. Cause guess what.. it's my thoughts and they are not someone else's. So I feel the initial flight or flight, then the rage and defensiveness BUT unlike with other people who get the hint and back off I'm still there. And guess what. If you stick around for the whole ride you are going to see who you really are. Scared and looking for love when you are capable of giving it to yourself.


TL;DR 
Deal with your own shit so you can fucking enjoy dealing with life