Alright guys, let me start off by saying that I've been with my girlfriend for about a year now. For the most part, things have been doing great. We have our ups and downs, she knows my BPD and although it has caused fights with my unpredictable and overdramatic reactions, she's definitely one that has helped me curb those outbursts. Recently it's been getting more and more difficult for me to stay calm. My emotions and thought process has me going around in circles pondering why I'm ok with being taken advantage of. By that I mean financially. I met this girl, she was working at Big Lots. I liked her, and I knew she had potential so I disregarded how much she made. Now we're living together, been living under the same roof for four months, and money is super tight. I work full time and as a Veteran, I was going to school and that helped with my income. Since the summer has started, I'm left without that and now finding Postmates to be a good fallback for the summer. Since Big Lots, I helped her find a new job where, for a time, she was making double what she ever made at Big Lots. But the thing is, she only makes enough to pay for rent. In total, I only expect her to pay $500 a month. Pitch in for dates here and there but I literally take care of all her expenses - I let her borrow my car, I pay her phone bill, pay for all the monthly debt owed for the stuff we bought for her house, even the majority of the gas that's put in the car. I just found out that she only pulled 20 hours of work last week and honestly, I'm furious. I don't know what to do. Instead of scolding her, I've since opted to ask her what exactly she's looking to do. I absolutely DO NOT want to be with someone who does the bare minimum. It's cool, we all get into slumps, I'll give 6 months of laziness but I feel like her lack of action is something beginning to crumble me. Ive been gaining weight and I've literally asked her on 4 different occasions to go work out with me in the past two weeks. This is also attempting to tailor workouts to her fitting that she said she would enjoy doing. She always has an excuse. When it comes to house cleaning, we split it 50/50. That something that rarely phases me. I even cook for her. But it's when I find out she does only 20 hours and say "I'm doing the dishes, but I'm leaving the bedroom as is because were both responsible for that mess!" It really boils me. I work full time, then go out and attempt to take on 20-30 hours of work to make ends meet and she doesn't want to pull the slack of home cleaning. Again, I'm just really stressed about her lack of motivation and urgency. She definitely chooses comfort over most. 

I guess I'm here to ask, how can I help in developing her sense of self motivation? How can I educate and talk budgeting and goalseeking with someone who 9/10 times wishes to push such a conversation off. I feel like the only way to get through with my needs out of her and what's gotta be done is an intervention with her mom. 