I'm BPD. My partner is manically bi polar. He talks to me a little stern, because I test his patience and he operates on a very efficient mind set. I get defensive and am sensitive to his tone. I also make accusations about his intentions that I feel are true, but they don't end up being true. We are taking a break right now. I was influenced and manipulated by outside influences to kick him out, after things escalated but essentially the decision was mine. It was the right decision, but I'm not proud of the way I went about it and what I put him through. I think I had a mental breakdown and was manic, burned out and not in the right mindset. Some of the people who influenced me ended up being deceptive, manipulative, two faced and under handed. I am no longer in contact with them after their conniving actions, back stabbing and meddling in my relationship. I broke up with him the day before kicking him out. 

We trigger each other and our issues feed off one another. I regret kicking him out and breaking up with him. We needed to not live together, but ultimately the way I kicked him out took him by surprise and triggered him into a manic episode, where our drama was posted on social media and publicized. My privacy feels violated. I feel violated. I feel like it's all my fault. How do I save our relationship?