My SO (31F) is suffering from anxiety and depression (not necessarily in that order). Some days are good, some are bad, some are a mix of both.


We're together now 3.5yrs and definitely discuss our near, mid-term and far future together, including some concrete plans (buying a house; adopting pets; and more).


I love her dearly and for a long while I thought and felt that I am capable of being there for her when she needs me. Examples include: simply listen; encourage her to get out of bed (many times she'll be there, doing nothing); advise on well-being activities.


Lately my "battery for empathy" is running low -- probably due to other events in my life. She told me multiple times in the past that she's an adult who should take care of herself, but it pains me to see how she is unable to do so. I'm a strong believer in self-care -- practicing some of it myself -- so I wish to let her simply be. And I trust her regular therapy + dosage of medicine should help.


What can I do to keep my inner charge, enabling me to continue being supportive? And would it ever get better (from her end)?