Hi guys! I am wondering if anyone has had any experience dealing with persons with comorbid severe GAD and depression. I recently became involved with someone who falls into this category (unwise, considering I’m moving across the country soon but, ya know, feelings—if that weren’t the case, I could see a future with this person, so exploring the connection was worth the risk to me).

I am a “high functioning” borderline who has many friends with many disorders (NPD, ASPD, bipolar, PDD) and so I thought I was pretty good about understanding and sympathizing. But it almost started to feel like his avoidance of almost everything basically exacerbated my BPD symptoms.

Things were going super well and one day he was just kind of like “yeah I don’t feel anything anymore, but also we can’t be intimate because I might start feeling again, etc.” I couldn’t make sense of it. I really tried. Afterwards it was just “what can I do to prove to you that I’m invested in a friendship?” And yet still dancing around his own feelings.

I have no real understanding of how bad anxiety can get, and so I ask with the best intent: can anyone make sense of this? And does that sound like anxiety or...disinterest (for lack of a better word)? Additionally, should I as someone with BPD just avoid these sorts of relationships in the future? I really feel like it had the potential to be healthy. The patience was there on both sides.

Any clarity is greatly appreciated!