My roommate is going through a lot right now, and he struggle with depression. He will random send me texts that about how incredibly depressed he is and say things like "I can't take it" and "idk what to do" or "I'm having panic attacks" etc. Not recently but a couple times before he has said he wanted to die. 

I also struggle with a lot of mental health issues. But I'm doing pretty well with medication. But talking to people is one of the main things I struggle with. I don't know how to help, i dont know what to say to him. I'm almost never home and am in the process of moving out so I'm not really there to help. He won't seek professional help, he says he's depressed because of certain things that are happening, but keeps insisting he doesn't have *actual* depression. He'll be good for a few days and then randomly go off the deep end.

I just say things like "I'm here if you need to talk" or "is there anything I can do to help" and "I'm really sorry you're going through this" etc. I'm not good at talking to people, let alone comforting someone who's in crisis. I've offered to talk but he never wants to talk about it. I even offered to pay for a Cerebral subscription for him, that's what I use and they have helped me. But he declines that too. I know this sounds crazy but as an intense empath I really mentally take his depression on as my responsibility to help and I can't and it's really starting to actually affect me too, which stresses me out, then I feel guilty for being stressed by someone who is asking me for help. Which just snowballs and I'm really at a loss of what to do.