
READ THIS VERY CAREFULLY AND IGNORE THE BOLDED TEXT. AITA for being upset that my boyfriend (19m) ditched me (19 f) for a Lakers game because he was told 2 days before by his family that they were going to see his Grandfather (90 m)? He ditched me to see his Grandfather instead of adhering to the scheduled plan.I told him 2 WEEKS before and even bought a special outfit. He has not seen him in two years, I understand that. But he is a grown man. He said so am not allowed to have feelings over it at all and that I am horrible for saying this. Why does he feel I cannot express my feelings?? He is villainizing me but I think I’m right here??? Famous illness yes, but my test was neg. I added the texts below. He has done this THREE times before might I add. 


I just think it’s pretty shitty like… You are a grown man I asked you weeks before for 3-4 hrs of your time. Then you say it’s fucked up that I want to prevent you from seeing your grandfather? I don’t want to be pinned as manipulative cause it’s not true. The fact that I am being blamed is causing me high anxiety and I kinda just want to break up at this point.

Tldr; IGNORE THE BOLD TEXT IT WAS UNCLEAR! My family invited my boyfriend weeks ago to go to a lakers basketball game. His family told him 2 days ago that they were going to see his Grandfather for Christmas. He says I am horrible for being upset about it. Sorry if it is incoherent I am emotional and a little lost. Please be respectful and let me know if I can clear anything up in a nice way. Covid is not allowed in this community, that is where the confusion is coming from. My other post got deleted. I bought the outfit for him as a Christmas present. He decided to go see his 90 year old grandfather instead of me. Let me know if I can clarify anything else, thanks. We are both 19 if that helps. I am not in ANY way downplaying the covid situation. I literally have severe lupus experiencing a flare as we speak and he has asthma. I just wanted to have fun with my boyfriend and he told me I was not allowed to be upset about the situation at all. It is flaring my anxiety and I don’t understand how he is not on the wrong for this. I am wrong as well for getting upset but why is he getting zero hate for invalidating my feelings? Duality can and should exist. PLEASE read the rules of this community there is a [SPECIFIC REASON](https://share.icloud.com/photos/0c7xXvIypKpKUYNgjk5XMdQsg) I did not explicitly say Covid, as it is against community guidelines. The moderators set that rule for whatever reason. I personally think it is dumb to silence that since it’s a global pandemic. But I also understand that it can be monotonous to always hear about it. I’ve had so many people be disrespectful to me and addressing me as vulgar things in my messages. Saying things like I deserve to die, or that I do not deserve love. Some of you are truly the asshole here. I personally would not speak to anyone this way. You are entitled to your own opinion and so am I. I just wanted some clarification and to add context, but it seems I am not welcome here. [Basketball Texts](https://share.icloud.com/photos/037H8nN01HPlg26XGBvgK59fw)