hi all, I have been dating my gf for about nearly a year now and a recent argument made me realise that a lot of the turbulent arguments are escalated by her BPD. during arguments I often have to call her out for her tone when speaking to me, sometimes even during a normal non argumentative conversation. she can be very rude sometimes in the things she says and the ways she says them. I am struggling to not be hurt by it even tho I know she doesn't mean it in such a rude way. our recent argument was about her crossing a boundary I had set in place that she had forgotten about and now she wants more space this week and is feeling very little emotion currently. she also says that I rely on her for reassurance too much which is caused by one of my past trauma's but I do understand why that can be hard on her. I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions of what I can do or if you have had similar situations and how you made it work? thank you in advance