I’m dating a girl who is suspected to have — and I believe in the process of being diagnosed with — borderline personality disorder. I love her a lot, and I enjoy the time we spend together. I feel as if I can’t be happy without her, and so I want to make her happy too. I don’t want to accidentally trigger avoidable splits; I don’t want that at all because I really do love and care about her. She sometimes feels the need to isolate herself from everyone which furthers my fear of losing her, and I’ve cried many times over this. She often comes back early specifically for me, but I feel bad knowing I’m preventing her from isolating AND that I could trigger her when I’m around her, even though I always tell her I love her and do my best to show it… She was abused badly in childhood, and is 18 now. I’m 20. I just don’t know how to make things easier for her to stay with me since that’s what I want since I don’t know her triggers? I refuse to lose her; I always contact her when this is going on, and she returns. I’ve tried researching BPD so I know the basics… For what it’s worth, she’s also diagnosed autistic and I have suspected autism.