I feel like my emotions no matter what they are are always dialed to 100. And especially with negative emotions, the only way I have found that calms them down is talking through them. And I struggle a lot with that and I’m trying to be better and I’ve gotten a lot better but it’s so hard because it feels like it always gets to the point where i’ve talked about how i’m feeling too much and the other person gets to the point where they start to question what they’re doing wrong. And it’s not that they’re doing anything wrong. Its just that I have a lot of confusing feelings that come out of seemingly nowhere sometimes that I need to process and if I don’t talk about them they’ll come out passive aggressively which is toxic so I do need to talk through them but it seems that no matter how many times I try to say “it’s not your fault, i just have these feelings and need to talk through them and there’s nothing wrong with you” sometimes I feel like I’m not doing it right because that message doesn’t seem to get through 100%. and then I feel like an ass for ever bringing anything up because objectively a lot of the feelings are out of proportion to the particular situation and I KNOW that and it’s not the other persons fault. I just wish I knew how to talk things through as often as I need to without making the other person feel like a piece of shit because it is always me not them.