I hope that this post is allowed here because I'm in need of some insight on whether my online friend of 3 years (who we'll call A) is being a bad friend or she's simply still obsessed with her ex (whom I believe is her FP given he's the "only person on my mind", in her words).

Recently she broke up with said Ex (after the 2 of them have known one another for a year or so, dated for 5 months) and she has been miserable. I listened to her talk ab her relationship and how it was her "fault". I did my best to remain non-judgmental and reassure her/etc but it was hard given she was deeply in love (still is) with him. It felt as though she only texted me when she wanted to talk to someone about him as no one else seemed to want to hear about it but I didn't mind initially. However she revealed some time later that he disliked me and was the reason for her pulling away from our friendship. We went from talking regularly to simply checking in with "hey, how are you's?", but the real kick was when I asked how she was I would be left on delivered until the following week. Only recently has she opened up about all of this and spoken to me longer than that.

A few days ago she texted me that she was going to try and be friends with him again and I was upset to see the lengths she goes to for someone who she says hurt her so badly and someone who isolated her from her friends (me included) but when it comes to our friendship she does the bare minimum and is content with that. I was extremely childish in how I worded that and asked her what she even knew ab me besides I am a med student. She named 3 things (I have a cat and a brother and a sister). Needless to say I was even more upset but specifically at "I didn't think to know you past the first year". She and I have been friends for 3 years. I was even more pissed at that and we argued a little wherein she asked for a second chance. We didn't get to speak about that and she returned to the "hey, I hope your days going well" texts. Its been a daily occurrence and she's been at it for 4 days now but it feels hollow. She went above and beyond for her ex while I get one text wishing me a good day and that's it. No resolving anything, no actual conversations, nothing.

I've seen her go above and beyond for everyone else but it doesn't feel like she wants to salvage this friendship, despite her saying she cares. Should I just accept the bare minimum and move on or am I right in feeling less important compared to everyone else?