My daughter is 20 years old, and was diagnosed with BPD a few years ago. She lost her mother when she was 13, and has been really traumatized by the experience.  She attended a Mood and Anxiety program in a facility last year, to help with her issues, but the therapy did very little for her (CBT was included)

She can't hold a job, doesn't take responsibility, causes chaos with myself, my wife (I'm remarried, and she's adopted my 2 kids) and my son.  She constantly plays the Victim card.  She used to CUT, but up until a couple of weeks ago she was clean.

Last night I flipped out on her when she got pissed at my wife and I, she said words to the affect of "I don't want to be here, maybe I should just kill myself" I lost my shit. She's pulled this in the past, and we've ALWAYS been VERY supportive of her, this time I snapped.  I told her she has until April 22'nd at 9am to move out.

My kids and myself went through hell when their Mom passed away in '09 and we are damn lucky to have found a person (My current wife) who has been there for us, and helped us through it, but this constant attitude and flair for drama over the past 4 years is causing a huge strain on our mental health.

PLEASE give me some insight on what I'm dealing with here.  her issues are tearing our family apart. I love her to bits, but can't handle it anymore.  What can we do?

Please only constructive posts, and no attacks. This is sincere.  Thanks.
