To specify, I have BPD that stems from PTSD caused by childhood trauma. 

My s/o is constantly texting me about how they have (undiagnosed) bpd and, but from what i'm seeing and hearing, it's more of a social anxiety/depression. I feel like I'm gatekeeping and being a bad person, but I'd like to just get through one day without talking about hospitals and meds and doctors. But I can't, and when I do say something, it always becomes some sort of shit show that's my fault. The thing is I couldn't be happier with my relationship, but these certain aspects just aren't working out. I'm scared that I'm going to panic and say something about it and that's going to ruin everything. I don't really know, I felt like I had to talk about it somewhere. 