Hey, so I'm currently struggling with my girlfriend and her BPD. She was diagnosed a while ago after being re-assessed from the Bi-Polar diagnosis she has had for years. We've been together for over 2 years and honestly I'm starting to lose hope. She has two personalities that I've gotten to know well. One side is the most kind, gentle, bubbly person I have ever met (the one I fell in love with) and the other is this incredibly evil entity. When she's triggered and in an "episode" she lashes out and breaks things, screams and says the most hurtful, horrible things to me. The last time we had a fight she said some things that I'm not sure I can ever let go. I don't know what to do to help her when she is triggered and I'm kind of lost. I'm trying my best to understand because I know she had an extremely rough childhood and this all stems from the way she was treated as a child but at what point do you look at yourself and realize you need to make a change? That you can't treat the person who loves you the way you were treated it doesn't make it okay. Basically where I'm at now is do I stay and try to figure it out with her or do I walk away? She always apologizes after these fights and seems to know what she's doing is wrong. She says she wants to make changes and has gotten onto a DBT waitlist and has downloaded some DBT apps. I guess I'm just afraid of it not working and me continuing to get hurt. Is it worth it?