how can i explain my bpd diagnosis/symptoms in relation to some of my moods/feelings/behaviors to others without sounding like i'm using it as an excuse? i talked to my kind of former fp today and while explaining that my need for constant reassurance is a huge part of my bpd he told me to stop using it as an excuse for my behaviors and that i can explain my disorder without making excuses for myself. he also had me apologize for my behaviors in our friendship when i was splitting, but he told me to apologize without mentioning the disorder because i chose to do those things and my bpd had nothing to do with my behaviors/thought process/feelings in his opinion. i mean i obviously feel like it played a huge role in my behaviors and thought processes, i know in the end i did choose poor defense mechanisms and coping skills but it's just like...all i've ever known? it was just a weird conversation. another thing that i didn't get was he told me people just want to be given apologies they don't care that you have xyz wrong with you, don't want an explanation, and don't care to understand that part of me because that doesn't help in an apology. 