I definitely have a fear of abandonment as I cling onto my boyfriend for dear life and will barely let him go a day without seeing me. I can't even go a week without being in a relationship with someone. I also get extremely afraid of being left alone and I end up cutting my wrists thinking if anyone loved me then they wouldn't leave me alone like that. I have extreme emotional mood swings. My boyfriend tells me I can go from 0 to 100 in an instant and get triggered by the most insignificant things like someone's tone of voice for example. I love him, want to marry him and have kids one second and the next I think about dumping him, this one time I dumped him and he spent all day hiding in the toilets crying in work. I truly believed he didn't love me and wanted to leave me and I tried so hard to hold back the anger that day, I told myself not to be irrational but it took over me and I hate myself for letting the anger overpower my rationality. It felt like I needed to gain control over the relationship and this was my way of testing if the relationship was secure. (If my boyfriend or friends were to describe me they would say my main emotion is anger.)
I also wouldn't say I feel 'empty' but I feel bored all the time and always look for something that will get rid of the boredom like having sex or eating chocolate or drinking but I wouldn't say I was impulsive...well..apart from last year when I impulsively broke up with my ex and had sex/kissed 5 guys in a week. I feel like the only reason for that level of impulsivity was because I was mixing my heavy alcohol consumption with my antidepressants and the 'bored' feeling inside me had suddenly turned into a massive hole in my chest that I needed to fill somehow. I ended up overdosing because I didn't believe my boyfriend at the time loved me even though there was no evidence he didn't, so it was basically threatened suicide... So I'm not sure if that really counts as an impulsivity symptom as the meds and alcohol were the main things causing me to be like that. I am also in a constant state of depersonalisation and derealisation. 
I am also not sure if I really have an identity disturbance. I have interests, such as I like to sing, I love music, my favourite colour is purple. I have some kind of identity. However, I do experience changes in my personality. Like when I hang out with my boyfriend I will experience a very weird personality change. It's like I've suddenly reverted into a child. I will talk using a different voice, I will act innocent and helpless and have tantrums. I didn't notice this happening for a long time until one of my exes pointed it out. This is a personality I would NEVER show my friends. Sometimes I will be with my boyfriend whilst hanging out with my friends and I will have to alter my personality back to the one I use with my friends where I use my normal voice again and I become more mature and like a 20 year old adult again. And I'm not sure which personality is my real personality. My values, opinions, likes, dislikes don't seem to change so much when it happens though which is why I'm wondering if it is really an identity disturbance? I also have trouble working out whether my memories are real or if I've made them up, if that's any help.
I'm afraid that if I get tested then it will turn out that I am perfectly fine which means there is no solution to this problem. I'm afraid that there will be no solution and hence, no hope in recovering. I can't even get a job because I am so emotionally sensitive.