My relationship with my mom is constantly up and down. She’s a narcissist and severely favors my younger brother over me. She also never wants to look bad or wants anyone to dislike her. I moved out recently, and our relationship has gotten better! 

Sunday night I was over there and my brother was mad at my mom. He was mad because his birthday is this weekend and my mom is having a party and he just wanted his friends and family, and my mom invited a bunch of her friends who my brother barely knows, kind of making it about herself (she did the same thing for my 21st birthday). 

Well, today, I called her to talk about something on the phone and I casually asked if my brother was still mad. I got: “He was never mad. Did you tell people he was mad at me or something? You’re a troublemaker. Why would you ask me that? You’re evil. You make me cry.” 

I don’t understand what I did? This made me really upset because I thought moving out would help our relationship. She didn’t change. I don’t want to even go to the party anymore.