this definitely isn't only applicable to people with bpd but God i struggle SO HARD with letting go of pictures and conversations. I'm dealing with a breakup that happened in the very beginning of october, and that whole month i found silly excuses to reach out to him every week. finally in the last week of october he told me that us having these small conversations was making it difficult to move on and he didn't want us to turn into something toxic when we ended on pretty good terms with lots of love still between us. Even tho we were broken up, we still had each other on social media and I noticed myself purposely posting things (like going out to dinner, dressing up, partying with friends) because I wanted him to see it. I would constantly go through his social media's and reminisce of conversations we had and would look at old pictures and messages. A couple days ago I realized I was still following him because deep down I had hope that one day we'd be back together so I can't lose contact completely. In the long run holding onto that thought process would've killed me so I unfollowed him on everything and removed him from following me as well. I think i've made progress in that sense but i've been looking at our text thread and even though hes no longer a contact, i can't bring myself to delete the messages.  It feels like after that then officially all of our memories poof gone! I guess i'm posting this because i'd like some encouragement from anyone that's been in my predicament and can say that deleting everything is going to help move along the healing process.