Hi all. So, as the title indicates, I have BPD and my boyfriend has depression. I also have depression comorbid with my BPD, so it’s all fun. You know how when you’re depressed, often times, nothing makes you happy? Nothing really seems worth it and nothing makes you ~feel~ the way you want to? Yeah, well, my boyfriend just told me that’s how he feels pretty consistently. I totally get that because that’s how I often feel. But, my boyfriend is my FP... So, often, it seems he is the one thing that does make me feel good and make me feel like things are worth it. When we spend time together, it’s like my problems disappear. I asked him if spending time with friends ever helps him, to which he said not really. He said “spending time with you is nice.” I said, “but does it make you feel good?” And he said, “when I’m really depressed, nothing does.” *deep sigh*. It seems so trivial to get this upset over what is a totally normal emotion. He expressed his emotions to me and they’re totally valid and I understand them.. but at the same time, it really spent me into a spiral to hear him essentially say that spending time with me doesn’t make him feel good, in the way that it makes me feel good. It made me feel... rejected. And pretty much all of you with BPD know what feeling rejected does to us. Immediate panic attack and freaking out, all the while I’m trying to be supportive and telling him that I understand and it’s okay. I guess the advice i’m looking for is.. How do you maintain a healthy relationship when you both struggle with mental illness - ESPECIALLY when the symptoms of one’s depression cause you to isolate, thus resulting in the person with BPD feeling rejected and unwanted. TL;DR: My boyfriend’s depression makes him isolate from everyone, but it makes me feel irrationally rejected and horrible about myself and our relationship. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. 