My (33m) partner wbpd (32f) was trying to get my attention in Iceland, she said she previously shouted me (I didn't obviously hear this) so the way she said my name, I could tell she was irritated at me and made me feel stupid for looking for her so I said "don't say my name like that" and now it's obviously started a massive argument because she said she wasn't irritated and makes me question everything about myself because I KNOW for a fact she was, but she won't admit it, I said "I don't want you talking to me like that any more" and she diverted to anything and everything else saying it's not her fault I hate my name? I said that's not what I'm saying, it was your irritated TONE, she wouldn't talk to her friends like that .
She even said "I'm perfect me" in the middle of the argument.

We've had many issues like this before where she makes me into the villian, I don't want anyone to be the villian I just want a happy life ....it's not possible is it?