Hi r/Anxiety!

I myself do not suffer from anxiety, but my girlfriend suffer from generalized anxiety, which impacts her every day.

We have a specific problem, due to my lease ending soon, I need to move out relatively soon (in 3-4 months). We have decided to move in together, and thus have started looking for apartments. The problem is, anytime we start looking for apartments or talk about the future in any real sense, she gets really anxious and upset, and typically ends up crying. I realize she is fighting a constant battle with anxiety on the inside, and the trigger for her is the “uncertainty” about the future. I know she can’t help it. But after trying to approach this discussion for several months, it is really starting to impede our ability to make life decisions, since we always postpone dealing with it due to her becoming upset. The thing is, at some point we NEED to go through these things. But any time i bring it up, talk about apartment, finances, budgetting or future job/education prospects, she shuts down from anxiety.

I know she wants to move in with me, because we keep talking about it. Fantasizing about it. I am absolutely convinced that she wants to do this with me. The problem is simply, her anxiety is preventing her from having an adult conversation about this. And at some point, we NEED to talk this through and make decisions, we can’t postpone forever. Even though it is a trigger for her.

Again, I realize she isn’t trying to be troublesome. She has a condition, and I need to respect that. It can just be a bit hard for me to relate to her anxiety, since I don’t suffer from it myself.

Therefore, I would love to ideas from this community, regarding how I can approach this issue with her. Maybe I need to go about this another way. 

Furthermore, a bit unrelated, do any of you have resources for partners to people with anxiety? I think I need to educate myself more, so I can better relate to what she is going through, and provide better support.

Edit: She is also in a position of having to move out, so it is also becoming an urgent situation for her