I've been dating my boyfriend for 18 months. I've been on disability for 20 months now, primarily because of my bpd, but I also have a chronic pain condition.

My bf dropped out of uni In January. One of his sisters blamed me instantly because 6 months before I met my bf I did the same.

My bf has let his life spiral of control. He's broke, he's got no money. He's not going back to uni this year despite promising everyone he will. He won't get enough in benefits to pay for his car insurance and phone. He's not found a job.

I'm stuck because honestly... I get it. It's hard. But I don't know how to help. I want him to feel safe with me. I don't want him to feel the same pressure his family are giving him. But I think I've now done a disservice to him.

If I hadn't met him he'd probably still be at uni. His family are always asking me, not him, what he's gonna do with his life. I suspect that his family are beginning to turn against me. His parents are slowly beginning to get colder.

I don't know what to do anymore