My wife has seen the worst of her anxiety this past couple years. One of her main symptoms is extreme hyperventilating It sucks seeing her go through it and I’ve done a lot of research to help her and some of it works like having her touch water or something hot or ice that makes her remeber reality. However there’s times it gets stronger and I just have to hold her for a while while she fights it. Her dad brothers have passed away one by one in the last year and Everytime one leaves us she thinks of when her dad goes and she starts getting an attack. I just see how she gets while her dad still alive and I use that to remind her she can still see him but I am SOOOO scared of the day that her dad leaves us I don’t know what I’m gonna do I wanna come up with a plan of what to do when the day comes

If someone can give some advice on what to do when my wife’s dad passes and I can help her manage her anxiety? Thank you