My fp is my boyfriend of almost 2 years. I’m constantly struggling with splitting.. and obviously I know I’m splitting because I go through hours or even a whole day of telling myself he’s a horrible person, I wish I never met him, he will always hurt me, this isn’t working out, etc. I know it’s my bpd and not how I actually feel so I don’t act on this and don’t share my thoughts with him. Usually it’s because he’s done something to hurt me, but after I’m done splitting I don’t think my thoughts were warranted. Like I just can’t see him as someone who just made a mistake, or has flaws, but he’s still a good person. It’s so painful to suffer through though until it passes. Then other times I absolutely adore him and think he’s the most amazing person I ever met. Especially when he does things I like. There’s literally no one better than him. I know I’m supposed to try to see him as a whole person, but how? Like rationally I can think about it all I want, but as soon as I split no matter how much I tell myself I’m splitting I can’t stop. Has anyone found a way to stop? Side note: prior to my diagnosis and work on myself I would have already broken up with him. This is progress for me.