I had a really good day yesterday. I was not anxious, I didn't come home and cry after work for once, and I sat out on my balcony for a few hours. I was texting my boyfriend and he mentioned a friend was going to stop by.

Suddenly all the good stuff from the rest of the day didn't matter. I was anxious and scared he was lying or that they'd talk shit about me. I realize that's really narcissistic to think and that he wouldn't have told me at all that a friend was coming over if he was lying, there's no way I would've known. His friend didn't even end up coming over and I ended up being grumpy the rest of the night and pestering him like "oh I didn't realize you were drinking, did you drink a lot?"

Today on facebook using the nearby friends feature I noticed he wasn't at work when he normally would be. I sat in complete anxiety and anger wonder why he didn't mention whatever he was doing. When he messaged me this was the conversation that followed

me: "how's work?" (was trying to see what he'd say)

him: "really really busy"

me: "how so?"

him: "helping erik at [other office for company]"

me: (I got a little annoyed) "okay way to tell me"

him: "I'm telling you now so I don't know why you're annoyed."


Now I'm sitting here angry because I doubt he would've told me if I didn't bring it up. He said it's irrelevant to me and doesn't change anything and there's no reason I need to know, which I guess is all true, but to me it is normal and natural to tell people you care about what you're up to. If I was working from home I'd mention it. Am I looking at this the wrong way? We've been together a year. He is generally like this when something comes up. Like if he tells me he went out to get dinner with friends I'll be like "what, why didnt' you mention that when it happened?" and he's like "it doesnt affect you in any way and I'm telling you now."

