Hi, came to this subreddit because maybe there is some helpful guidance, support, or anything to give me hope. I dont use reddit very much, but here goes nothing. 

My wife has been struggling with her mental health her whole life, mostly depression up until the birth of our daughter 10 months ago. Since then its been a huge battle as we experienced what seemed to have been her first manic episode. All of a sudden she started to have issues sleeping, decided to organize the house and decided to start home improvement projects. But in the end, our house became piles of stuff everywhere and half destroyed as she started home improvement projects but never finished. She also has trouble staying at home and wanted to leave the house constantly. We thought this was a build up of prozac she had been taking at elevated levels during her pregnancy, but had not gone down in dosage post-birth. She was taken off prozac and put on seroquel by her pcp as we could not get immediate psychiatric help. 

After about 1.5-2 weeks, the mania seemed to subside and she entered a depression which also wasn't great but this seemed to remind me more of my wife I was used to. We seeked out psychiatric help and she was diagnosed with depression with occaisional anxiety. Postpartum depression was at the center of all the talk between her doctors and therapists considering the recent birth of our daughter. After a couple of weeks, things seemed to ramp up again. This time there were suicidal thoughts mentioned as she quickly went from depression to mania. Much of what occured during the first episode started to repeat, but this time she felt like she could help the whole world as sge "peaked". The meds she was given for anxiety did not seem to do anything. During this period, she also decided to "come out" to me and she let me know that she was 100% sure she was a lesbian and wanted to move forward with divorce. I was absolutely devastated and confused. Some of what she was saying made sense, but a lot of it did not all things considering. 

Fast forward to early January and she came down from her second episode and decided to take back her decision to divorce me and said that she may be bi/pansexual instead. I feel bad for being relieved during her depressive times, but she seemed to be more in control of her thoughts. She went back to her doctors with all this information and was told by her psychiatrist  that the zoloft needed more time to work. As she had been ramping up to a high dosage. Her therapist and obgyn actually thought pmdd bipolar may be more likely. She was put on birth control in conjuction with her max dose of zoloft. We expected to have more time before the next episode, but this came around quicker than expected and last week on Monday, she started to feel mania coming back. She left the house to stay at a friends house and let me know that she was doing this to stay alive for my daughter and I. She does seem to have a night right before her mania where she is awake late into the night or did not sleep well. 

I received a text the next day that she was going to the emergency room. Her friend let me know thatbshe had dialed the hotline at 4am, so they spent the day trying to get in contact with her psychiatrist. When they finally did, he commited her to a local hospital where she was taken early afternoon. She spent the day there where they gave her benedryl to get her to sleep and was moved to a local facility for mental health and addiction where she currently is. It sounds like she was put back on seroquel and medical professionals there do seem to think she is bipolar. Based on calls that have occuted, we can tell she is definitely exhibiting the same mania as before.

Through her stay, she only called me once the second day she was at the facility and quickly told me she was ok, but then had to go and hung up. I have been receiving updates from her friend who my wife desigbated as her person to receive information. I am sad and frustrated that she didnt designate me and has not called. She does call her friend and her mother daily. I have been told by her friend that she is just more comfortable this way so I have not tried to get in contact.

She is due to be released this coming tuesday and I have been a wreck through all of this for months. I have been given a warning at work for my performance and I continue to try to work through this in therapy. I dont know what to expect and how to react when she comes home. I have some help from family and friends with my daughter, but this has been the hardest time of my life. I worry for my daughter as I never thought I'd have to take care of her alone and it's been scary and stressful. I can't help but notice the trend of a night with lack of sleep and also a possible connection to high dosages of prozac and zoloft possibly playing a part in this. Any advice, guidance, kind words, or anything like that would help right now. I try everyday to not feel hopeless and to stay strong for my daughter, but I feel like I'm not holding myself together very well.