
I mainly want to pertain my question to self-image and physical appearance.

I have always had a tough time figuring out what kind of style I like when I see so many options of a character that I could be. I can be anyone, which then makes me feel like I’m in the middle of the sea.

I could wear makeup, I could be more tomboy, I could be minimalistic etc. it feels like no matter what I do I cannot find something that fits as me. How can I build an identity based off of everything that already exists?

Sure when you talk about likes &amp; dislikes, it’s easy because I can say I don’t like or like eggplants simply because of the texture or other things, though when it comes to my actually presentation in the world, I feel lost. Don’t know if it’s common with other BPD people, but I’ve always wanted to see the world from third person or at least from an outside perspective to get a sense of reality that’s not through my eyes.

Most of the time I also have no opinion about things, because I don’t care enough to give it value when it comes to myself. 

Anyway, I would really like to know where to start as I don’t have any other options. I feel like someone might say, just pick anything! But knowing me, that would change every week to keep myself interested. How do I establish a clear sense of who I am?