Like others here, I find self-compassion difficult. It seems almost silly to me to have that fight in your head - *You're in a bad place, and it's your fault / Hey, you're doing great with what you have* \- so I'd like to be that outside-voice, a friend, that sits with you in the dark to say "fuck you" to all the stuff you've lost, could've had, didn't have. Please feel free to add more, and more specific to yourself, in the comments.

A note: I phrase these in "certain" terms (without "you might have", etc.) because I want it to sound genuine and personal, not a vaguely positive mental-health post. I do try to be generally affirming, however. If only some apply, that is valid, too.

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* I'm sorry that you didn't see the chance, yet, to become the person that you imagined for yourself in the past. You're still a good person now. Your story will give you happiness no matter what happens.
* I'm sorry that you missed something that you really wanted to experience because you had to deal with obstacles you never asked for. It can be crushing.
* I'm sorry that your day-to-day can be hellish, stigmatized, unrelatable. You didn't deserve this.
* I'm sorry that you have so many good things in your head, too, that struggle to surface sometimes. You're still a person with goodness.
* I'm sorry that you didn't get the chance, yet, to be the family-member, role model, mentor, student, employee, partner, or something else important to you and your identity, that you imagined for yourself. You still have the potential, as long as you're alive. You might already be there, in fact.
* I'm sorry that you struggle to remember, focus, learn, work. I know this must be frustrating. 
* I'm sorry that you lost that relationship that you held really dear. It must be really painful.
* I'm sorry that you experienced trauma. I know how it be a strong, hurtful force in your life.
* I'm sorry that you were so young. It's heartbreaking to think about someone just starting to navigate the world be burdened so heavily.
* I'm sorry that you didn't get the treatment you deserved. The system is so broken. It doesn't mean you don't deserve the compassion or care.
* I'm sorry that you had to be so brave. Jumping hurdles to treatment, enduring symptoms, talking about really hard things to talk about, enduring treatment, and the lasting effects of these. You are strong for this, but I know it wasn't a choice. 
* I'm sorry about the healthcare workers that treated you like less than. The psychiatrists, nurses, ER doctors, all of them. Your voice is a good voice. They were supposed to take care of you.
* I'm sorry that your future seems to be shadowed by this stuff. Maybe you can't travel somewhere because you need consistent healthcare, maybe you have to account for your medication when you want to provide a service. Maybe not having a local support system ready is out of the question for that dream job abroad. This is heavy, complicated stuff. You're not lesser-than for not being able to right now.
* I'm sorry that the greater mental-health conversation doesn't seem to include BPD most of the time. It must be frustrating to not see enough support directed at an illness with such a stigmatized history - and present.

You have inherent value. You have good things inside of you. Thanks for being here and reading this.