i don’t want to go into a lot of detail so i’ll be as simple as i can. i am a submissive individual and am attracted to dominant persons — if you know BDSM terminology, you’ll know where this is going. i am strictly a sub and desire someone who is a dom.

my partner identifies as a switch. to those who don’t know, that means they can be submissive as well as dominant. they have desire to bottom as well as top. 

their desire to bottom is what gets me. it is so, so unattractive to me, and i hate that about myself. i WANT to be okay with this, especially since its not like they’re doing anything wrong, but when its brought up, i emotionally crumble. everytime, without fail. i get overly anxious and uncomfortable and well, turned off.

is it possible to cope with these feelings or is this an incompatility between my partner and i, and remains unfixable? thanks for any input.