Hey, first post I’ve ever made. My older brother 31, has BPD, an ED, and has substance abuse problems. My brother has never held a job longer than 2 weeks and my mom has been supporting him his whole live. My mom has tried everything to get him the long term inpatient help that he needs but all the court stuff she has tried has failed. She also deals with physical and verbal abuse from my brother. Her Al-Non friends told her to try a restraining order because they are fearing for her safety(ngl so am I) and for some reason the court has been able to force her Al-Non sons into a treatment center. Unfortunately, the courts didn’t do shit for my mom in that regard. My mom is also not a native English speaker and things get very confusing for her (I live several hours away and wasn’t here when she first submitted the restraining order and I thought she knew what she was doing. My bad I should’ve explained it more, knowing my mom. :/)

Anyway, my mom and I are afraid of my brother dying out in the streets and not getting the help he needs. I was able to contact a private attorney to see if there is anything we can do (to like force him into a treatment center) but he dismissed me and said he doesn’t handle cases like that. He said to contact the state but the state doesn’t do shit. He does have a therapist but it’s just outpatient and hasn’t been helping him. His therapist has been keeping him from getting DBT for some reason she says that they need to do more evaluations but he’s already been to 6 sessions with her. He desperately needs DBT and I think they’re currently only doing CBT kinda stuff rn.) 

Basically, idk what to do. I wanna protect my older boomer mom (she’s literally crumbling in front of my eyes) from my brother’s abuse but I also know my brother’s splitting/rage is not all his fault. And I can’t even imagine the living hell he has been living in for pm his whole life. Has anyone ever been in this type of situation or has found a way to help their BPD loved one with getting involuntary help? 

Sorry for the shitty grammar and typos. This environment is tough because I grew up with being abused my whole life and was able to move out(I’m the younger sister here) and I just wanna find a way to protect my mom and help my brother.

Thank you and I’m sorry if I end up hurting someone with this post. I’m not trying to demonize ppl with BPD. Truly, I’m not and I’m sorry you have to live with this.