Hi!
I'm pretty new to all this since I learned about bpd just a few months ago.. My relationship has been, well, toxic as fuck since the honeymoon phase, so for about a year (we've been together for 2 months). He's not exactly healthy mentally either, but since I've begun freaking out and kicking him out of the house about really small things, he has started blaming everything on me and making me feel like even the more reasonable things I try to talk to him about (such as him not doing the dishes for weeks after already having agreed on a day he will do them), are just all in my head.. Which obviously makes it worse.
He's depressed and has anxiety, which causes him to have trouble taking care of himself mentally and physically, but when I try to tell him it would be really beneficial for not only him but also me, he just ignores it and tries to strawman his way around it or convince me that he's not actually doing that bad, but still uses his mental illness as an excuse as to why he can't ever meet me halfway on anything..
Sometimes I feel like we should break up since we're obviously not the best match and even if I get help for my issues I feel like he doesn't do his part..
Anyway I've propably been rambling enough already so my question is: how would you try to resolve this or is this relationship just doomed.. I don't think I have the strenght to break up with him, I've tried so many times but always end up begging him to come back..
Thanks for reading and any replies would be appreciated.