I feel that in the mornings I have a harder time controlling my emotions, I feel my anxiety is worse and I generally have more cognitive distortions about my partners behavior/feelings about me. Overall I feel very sensitive and defensive. 

The problem is that my partner also has a very hard time in the morning. They sometimes say hurtful things to me and then will later apologize and tell me that it’s not directed at me, but by the time I get the apology the damage feels somewhat done. I feel like my day is shot and my relationship is doomed. 

Their emotions really effect my mine and the morning grumpiness really takes a toll on me and I’m not sure how to approach it. 

In all honesty they put up with a lot from me pretty regularly, so a biting comment first thing in the morning shouldn’t matter so much, but unfortunately it does. It makes me question our whole relationship, if they care for me at all, if I even deserve to be cared for.

Lately it’s making me feel like I would be better off single, but I keep having to remind myself that the good in our relationship outweighs the bad.

Am I overreacting?

This morning they told me to fuck off and later they said it that they had spoken really soft, and they weren’t sure that I heard it until I brought it up, only for me it felt like it was brazen and straight to my face, like they hated me. How do I know if I am wrong?

Bringing this up in therapy next week because it’s been an ongoing issue since we first started dating, but just wondering if anyone has any advice on how to deal with this. Thanks!