TLDR: Close friend (I guess former) continues to punish me for perceived actions while ignoring the undeniable actions of another. Why am I the enemy and he isn’t? Is it just because he’s in her life still and I left her?

I don’t want this to sound like an angry rant. Because I’m genuinely not angry. Not too long ago I was dealing with a false report for sexual assault. Just recently cleared. The length of the investigation was heartbreakingly long (because it was so clear SA didn’t take place) and added to the mental damage. I spent the first few months so angry at her. She’d been dealing with harassment from people making claims on her character about three months in. Once I got word, I broke the protective order put in place to insure her safety. Her roommates was on mission and she hates being alone along. Also has a history with self harm which was my main motivation to say fuck the order. We spoke for about two weeks and during that time she admitted that a third party was actually the one to report me falsely, but also admitted she was compliant out of fear that her life would get more complicated. This was all true based on the report given once it was over. The part where I still beat myself up is that although I only jeopardized myself by telling my command that I broke the order, she still became angry with me and decided to attempt to smear my name and get me in more trouble. Even though nothing actually happened to her. There was no ill intent. Or trouble on her end. Whatsoever. While speaking during those two weeks she confirmed that she was aware that her roommate was at fault for her suffering. He made claims of having intercourse with her to people within our organization (she was married). He would discuss her marital issues along with other things. She KNEW this. And stated that although she couldn’t stand him he was all she had since her marriage fell apart and  me and her had fell out. My obsession with understanding kicks in there. Why am I her enemy? I lost a year of my life to this false report. Why continue to ignore your problematic roommate/friend and paint me as the enemy? I’m willing to acknowledge the hurt I caused her. Because the truth of the matter is I left the friendship not even a week after saying I’d never leave. A report was file two weeks later and that sits with me everyday, but can she really say I’m the bad guy when her closest confidant is the undeniable source of her now tarnished reputation? Like, she straight up apologized for hurting me and acknowledged her inability to trust her roommate moving forward. Yet, we’re here? I don’t understand.