I’ve been reading around in this sub and recognize my behaviors to a point. My relationships are unstable and toxic, and I don’t ever quite feel comfortable alone.

Which is weird, because I purposefully isolate myself so I don’t have to deal with relationships. 

So should I just give up on the idea of a good relationship? I get attached way too easily, don’t know how to keep boundaries, and come on way too strong no matter how much I try to control it. 

As a guy these are huge no nos and so ive never experienced success when dating/trying to.

 I just feel like I have to way too many personal issues and that I’ll never be quite good enough for someone healthy and confident. 

So should I just stop trying? I’ve tried to step back and set boundaries and be myself but I just can’t. I don’t know why. I can pretend but it falls apart after a couple weeks...I don’t think I can be with someone healthily. What do I do?