TW: Police, night terrors, confrontation, passive aggression

Background: A couple of nights ago one of (26M) my (30F) roommates had a really awful night terror that resulted in someone calling the police because of the noise disturbance. I had to stop him from running screaming into the night in his underwear. It rattled all three of us (26M, his girlfriend 25F, and me) and things around the apartment have been really tense since.

Last night, I texted 26M (who I was friends with before we were roommates) that he deadass needed to consider going (back) to therapy because that was really scary and I'm like, scared of him now. And he agreed. As far as I was concerned, the elephant in the room had been addressed and he and I were fine. I was even mentally prepared to assist if I needed to. He had (still has) my full support.

25F confronted me about the text message I had sent to "her boyfriend." She said it was inappropriate and not the way to go about it. So my anxiety shoots through the roof because I'm already super activated and on a hair trigger and now she's coming at me about something that needed to be said as a matter of everyone's health and safety.

I asked if 26M was upset about it, and she said no. That it was personal. Ah. Okay.

I stayed calm, present, apologized, and she just kind of sulked away having had the wind taken out of her sails.

I feel nauseous and worn out, but I didn't cry and I didn't fall apart. I think that's progress. And I feel really sad for her that she's taking this out on me instead of addressing the actual problem.