So an old friend I met after like 20 years made a passing comment on my childhood, it was intentional and insulting. I have not known this person for the majority of my life. How do people feel comfortable saying something that shames a friend of whom they have not known that well growing up. And when I am taken aback, I never have anything to say. I end up agreeing or laughing it off. But then feel horrible about not saying something back. Of course I dwell on everything we spoke about, trying not to do it.