I met this absolutely exceptional guy on OKCupid about a week ago, and we hit it off immediately. We’ve been talking on the phone for a few hours every night and are so compatible it’s absurd. 

Last night he told me we should probably just be friends and then see if anything happens because he has a tendency to completely lose interest in people. After I asked more questions he explained that he hadn’t lost interest in me yet but is a little worried about how quickly we’re connecting, and doesn’t want to hurt me if he does lose interest at some point. We had a great conversation after that and ended up video chatting for a few more hours last night. 

It’s only been a week and I’m not trying to tie him down or anything yet, but I could easily see myself falling for this person. I’ve been reading more about BPD trying to find ways I can understand him better so I don’t scare him off completely. Do you have any advice for ways I can support him setting boundaries he feels like he needs, while still pursuing a potential romantic relationship?