I have been struggling alone for so long that I’m so self aware of my symptoms it makes me feel retarded that I’m completely aware of how mental I can be and my behaviour but it still doesn’t stop me from doing it or acting certain ways. Anyone here with bpd and a longterm partner, what are some things I can do to better help him understand my illness and to not get defensive about my splitting? Obviously it’s never ok to just lash out at your partner I just don’t know if there’s a way to also reassure him that it’s never personal