My boyfriend suffers from anxiety and it’s been at an all time high lately. A few years before I met him, he told me how his anxiety got so bad that he tried to kill himself one night. I’m scared it’s getting to that point again. The issue that’s causing his anxiety at he moment isn’t easily “fixable” and he made some comments to me saying that we have to figure out a solution cause he can’t keep dealing with it (I.e. panic attacks)

He’s been self-harming (not cutting, but he’ll scratch his arms and hands, dig his nails into his arms, punch his wrists, etc.) it’s really worrying me. 

At my request, he began talking to his former therapist again. I was so happy, even though I knew nothing would change overnight. Come to find out that he met with him twice and isn’t planning on it again because “he can’t fix my problems, and this anxiety will only go away once there’s a solution.” I told him at least he can’t help with ways to cope in the meantime, and he just said “there is no ‘meantime,’ we have to figure this issue out asap.” He said all the therapist will do is put him on medication again and he doesn’t want that. I’m at a loss. 

Basically, he told me we need to figure this current issue out by tomorrow or else it’ll just get worse and he’s scared it’ll get to the point it got to before. “Figuring out” this issue isn’t possible unless he comes to terms with a decision I made that I can’t back out of. I know he isn’t just magically going to come to terms with it so idk what to do.