Hi everyone! I’m a longtime lurker of this sub, but this is my first post. 

So pretty much, I (20M) have been dating my girlfriend (22F) for over a year now, I still have not told her that I have BPD. I was diagnosed when I was 16, and it is something that I have come to terms with but I prefer to keep on the quiet side. I was planning on telling her at some point, but when it felt right. We have had our ups and downs like any relationship, with some issues that were probably results of my BPD (oops ¯\_(ツ)_/¯), but it wasn’t anything where I felt confident, comfortable, or needed to tell her. 

Lately we have been having some problems that are 100% me being the clingy, reactive, dramatic person I am. I’ve been keeping this secret from her for so long and I love her so much and I want her to know who I truly am, but I am worried I waited too long. I don’t want to tell her and have her not know who I am anymore, or have her think me keeping this secret from her has ruined the relationship. I just think it would help her understand some of the things I go through and problems I have, but I think I messed this one up. 

Any advice or personal experiences are welcomed, thank you all so much &lt;3