Tonight I got in a fight with my SO over how impulsively I spend my money and how it is frustrating to him because he wants to travel and build a life with me. We're currently living with his family and he is not incorrect... at all. Let's point to the 3,000 dollar credit card debt I got myself into at 18 and thousands of dollars I made at jobs that made me miserable that are just gone. 

However, instead of taking constructive criticism I decided to push his buttons and tell him that he was calling me a failure. Which he did not at any point. Anyway, I'm sitting here still triggered and alternating between seething and my trauma response which is curling up in a ball, covering my head, and crying.

I've been trying to get better at this for years to no avail. Does anyone have any tips concerning this kind of projection when people give you constructive criticism and becoming wise with your money?