I should state that he was diagnosed with BPD when she was 18, but that diagnosis is questionable. She does have an aunt with it, and a mother with narcissistic PD, so I guess you could say PDs run in the family. 

So she's been dealing with CPS during a custody fight with her mother. Today, based on shitty reporting and a prejudiced judge, she was essentially stripped of parental rights. She's a single mom, who's had more than her fair share of bad luck and a few brushes with the law, but this is a load of crap. Even her mother, the "winner" in the custody battle immediately regretted the judges ruling. 

So she was basically inconsolable when she came to my place, and started to drink. She seemed okay, all things considered, when I left to get some food. When I drive back to my place, I saw a cop car on the street and debris on the street, then looked up to my kitchen window and saw that it was busted out. I went up to my door and was saw a cop who asked if I lived there. I let him in, worried that she was hurt. I found her hiding under the covers in my bed, my entire kitchen smashed, broken glass everywhere, sugar, broken glasses and coffee cup shards all over. My potted plants and frying pans in the middle of the road. 

She was arrested and charged with disorderly conduct. I picked her up a few hours later (she had nowhere else to go, it was that or be arraigned and transported 2 hours away to the nearest empty jail). 

She blamed me for all of it, saying I shouldn't have let the cop in (as if I had a choice), and I should drop her at her car. She was still drunk, and when I told her it was either come back to my place and sleep, or she'd wind up in jail, she flipped out and kicked my windshield until it broke. She even had the nerve to deny that it was broken, and that I was overreacting. 

She's here now, but I can't restrain her here, and she's threatening to leave. I just want to keep her safe, despite all this I don't want anything bad to happen to her, but she's so angry and lashing out at anything she can, and since I'm here, I've got a target on my head. 

I don't know what to do. I don't think this is going to work out, but regardless I just want her to be safe. I can't talk her down when she's raging, I can't reason or comfort her. Today is evidence of what happens when I'm not there to even try. 
