Hi, I’ve been dx’d for quite a long time and have been in therapy for years. I stopped dating for a long time in order to work and become a better person, and recently decided to start dating again since i feel ready and able. 

I had an awesome first date with someone that I initiated. Based on talking to them, I’m pretty sure this was at least mostly mutual. 

In friendships I usually make the plans and kinda enjoy planning fun things to do. But I’m worried about appearing possessive/manipulative in this case. 

Do other pwBPD get afraid of initiating things in relationships? I’m worried if I keep making plans then they might just be going along with what I’m saying and I’ll be projecting/manipulating that they like me back. BUT I think it’s also rude to have the mindset of “if they don’t make plans then screw them and they must not care about me.”

Any input is appreciated! Have a nice day everyone!