Im going to get hate for this but thats ok, i might be wrong. Bpd gets a bad rep because people with bpd who have bad coping mechanisms do shitty shitty things, i was guilty of this and still am at times. We abandon people for seemingly no reason as far as their concerned, we are on top of the world now but 10 mins later we wanna kill ourselves,  etc. A lot of our bpd driven behaviour is not fair to other people and if you dont know how to check yourself you will come off as a piece of garbage a lot of the time. We are NOT at fault for how we feel, even when we split, but we are responsible for how we act, just because we feel or want to feel a certain way it doesn't mean we have to act accordingly to such feelings. This is easier said than done. Its our problems, its our responsibility to deal with them without hurting other people and its not always easy, you have to be careful  about what you say and do but it is possible to go about your day without proving the haters right. Stop seeking validation like and take responsibility for your actions. Im half way through a book that im finding surprisingly helpful with all of this, titled "The subtle art of not giving a fuck".. i have no idea if any of this makes sense to you but hopefully it will. Hope i dont come off as an insensitive pos.