Hi I’m a 21M, and I just had my first sexual experience with a woman roughly 7 days ago. I’m quite an anxious person, and always regret stuff. Anyways, I went out to a club with friends, then went back to my female friends place. We ended up kissing, and I fingered her, she gave me a handjob, no oral. That’s it. A few days later after this my throat started to hurt. I had a mild fever, but now I’m just left with an annoying sore throat. Of course shes said she has no STIs, but is getting tested Wednesday to please my mind. I’m really not too concerned about any other STI besides HIV. I’d prefer I don’t have one (obviously), but at this point my anxious mind starts thinking she could’ve  gave me HIV. I know you can’t get HIV from kissing, and I’ve read that HIV essentially dies when exposed to air, so I know I couldn’t touch her fluids then touch my mouth or her touching my penis with some of her fluid. Also apparently saliva is quite effective at killing HIV pathogens. The only way I could see myself contracting it would be through my fingers. I have no noticeable cuts on my hands but my mind can’t stop. This person obviously isn’t HIV+, but I’m so anxious. I try to think stuff like okay, EVEN IF she was positive (which is so rare), the chances of me getting HIV are so incredibly low, if not impossible.  

I plan to get tested for strep throat etc, and STIs besides HIV, so I can figure out this sickness. I think I might have oral gonorrhoea, not HIV necessarily ‘already’. I can’t recall having a sore throat without a fever at the same time so it’s just weird. Ive only had the sore throat without the fever for around 2 days though. Ill add that my older brother seemingly caught this from me as he had a very slight sore throat. I should’ve known better as an already anxious person that I may have felt this way, but it’s been a very anxiety inducing first experience unfortunately. Maybe I just picked some bug up from the club, but can anyone maybe help ease my mind in regards to this HIV anxiety please? I plan to never do anything like this again at this rate, as it’s just not worth the anxiety lol. Thank you very much.