Anyone else in this boat? My husband and I have been trying to conceive for over two years and, after three specialists, multiple tests and procedures, we were told we will most likely be unable to conceive without IVF. 

We have another appointment to talk about IVF as an option even though I don't really want to do that. As someone who has a history of sexual trauma, I've been finding all of the invasive tests and ultrasounds to be overwhelming for me. Even the timing of sex has been too much at times. 

In addition to all of this, my husband's sister unexpectedly became pregnant with twins which was a blow. I'm happy for them and on the other hand I feel terrible everytime it's mentioned. As someone who's come from an extremely invalidating family, I'm not really able to talk about these experiences with anyone and, despite knowing the struggles, nobody checks in with me to see how I'm doing. It's been a very isolating experience for these two years. My husband has been understanding and patient. I just don't want to put it all on him.

I had talked with someone else who was diagnosed with BPD and trying to conceive. She has since had a baby through IVF. Once she got pregnant, she basically stopped talking to me. I understand that she's busy and at the same time I miss my friend and the support. 

Anyone else going through anything similar?