I have a friend who has BPD, and although they’re currently taking medication (very rarely actually because they can’t take it with alcohol and they drink most nights) they aren’t in any sort of therapy or counseling and only see their psychiatrist once in a blue moon. They had a fling with someone who quickly broke things off because it was moving too fast and that sent them into a spiral a few weeks ago.

During that time, they were near constantly relying on their friends to keep from doing harm to themselves whether literally or through drinking too much. I live with them and that means that I was pretty much watching them around the clock and letting them vent whenever they needed it.

However they were dissatisfied with any and all advice they were given, convinced no one understood how they felt, and nothing anyone did seemed to help them. At times they even blamed friends for not keeping them from drinking or being available to talk at all times.

I love my friend, and I know they’re the one that has to choose to get help. And it does seem like the past week or so has been better. But I feel like it’s just a matter of time until this happens again, and to be honest, I’m going through so much on my own right now that I know can’t keep being there for them like this.

I really don’t know what to do. Has anyone been in a similar situation?