I don’t think this is a personal thing, I think this is just a general rule that this person lives by, and I respect that—I was the one who suggested that she might not be comfortable in this situation in the first place. But it is still a shock and hurts a lot that this friend doesn’t trust me enough to be alone around me. We’ve been on walks together and spent plenty of time 1 on 1 at school. Our friendship is 100% platonic and I would never think of crossing a boundary, and I’ve never felt any attraction to her regardless. It just feels very strange that I’m seen as a potential aggressor; I would be all for her being cautious with people she knows only moderately well, but we know each other about as well as anyone knows us. 

Can any men or women offer some perspective here, or suggestions on how I can cope with the irrational insecurity that I might be abusive at heart?