I have been going through a break up and have been letting my ex have it out with me and shame me and talk to me with judgement in an attempt to listen better. 

But he blocked me after I asked him questions that were important to me without communicating with me that he didn’t want to talk and that he would talk to me later.

I have been super patient, respectful, kind and fucking incredible throughout this time and I’m so fucking proud of myself and knew this was not okay to be treated like this. I am no longer letting him talk to me like this and I no longer feel shame for my part of our toxic relationship. 

I talked to him in a respectful way and a calm way and said “that was not respectful at all to me. I am angry. I understand you’re hurt and upset but I deserve respect and kindness as I’ve been giving you. I’ve still been going above and beyond for you and I deserve better than that. I have been respectful and I have shown you that you can communicate with me that you don’t want to talk and I would respect it. You need to communicate with me and be respectful to me or I will no longer feel comfortable enough to let you borrow my iPad for your main source of entertainment (he doesn’t have a laptop or tv right now and o let him borrow it). There was no need for you to block me because you didn’t want to talk. Just tell me.”.