I see so many others who are able to identify and describe various traumas that occurred in early childhood which are thought to be causes of their BPD, but I can’t. I have wonderful parents and can’t think of any examples of them treating me any differently than my siblings (who don’t have BPD). No abuse. No neglect. Heck, my parents didn’t even drink or swear around us as kids! I have amazing childhood memories and home videos. To my knowledge, I didn’t experience anything that would have caused me to have BPD. Yet I do. 

I know you can’t pinpoint all environmental or genetic factors that lead to a disorder, but I feel, I don’t know, out of place? Like I’m supposed to have had something horrible happen when I was young to describe why I am the way I am. Trust me, I am beyond grateful for the upbringing I had. But I feel like a fraud because I can’t relate to most of you in that sense. 

I have been officially diagnosed with BPD through testing and such, so it isn’t just a hunch. Like I know this is how I experience the world. But can anyone else relate? Any others who didn’t experience significant childhood trauma? Thoughts?