So, my husband and I got married in October. And we’ve had the talk early into our relationship of “hey, I want you to know I struggle with my mental illness as it is really severe and if you don’t want me to lean on you or if it’s too much let me know please.” But the whole time he has been more than understanding. He loves me so much and is so accommodating of all of my issues.. ( I can’t grocery shop alone and still have panic attacks with him at the store, too anxious to drive, PTSD nightmares, flash backs, mood swings, and just my general mental health journey..) I am always worried I am a bad wife because I cannot return what he does for me and I just can’t keep up as much as I should.
 I just think he deserves better. And I constantly think “we’ll just work harder if you’re not enough.” But it’s too much and I can’t handle it. Every time I tell him how inadequate I feel, that he deserves better, that I worry he will get tired of me some day, he just reassures me and says “no, I love you and I appriciate what you can do and I don’t mind that you need help.” 

I guess what I am asking is what do y’all think? How do you work past your anxieties of being a good Husband/Wife/Partner?