Sorry for the multiple posts but I am having lots of mental health issues as a partner of someone with BPD. When I wanted a break from the relationship that is when his BPD started getting worse. I still loved him but needed some time. He is sometimes hard to work with and very unforgiving. I am very patient and flexible so I forgive any mistakes he has made. I  made mistakes and he holds onto them as to reasons why he doesn’t trust me. He even blames me for “abandoning” him at the hospital. I know it was a traumatic experience but he was threatening me and himself. I really love him but he wants to end things if I don’t totally commit or if I even talk to my exes since he is scared I might start things with them. I am stuck in between as I really love him. Things would work out if we are codependent and block people our from our lives even my exes but I feel that is just covering what’s wrong. He doesn’t want to go to a counselor or try couples counseling yet. What would you do?