Hi, person w/o BPD here. I always thought I had it till I started seeking professional help. CPTSD share many of the symptoms with BPD but the phenomenon is entirely different…that's a weird tangent though. The dangers of layman's self-diagnosis should belong to another post.

I (18/F) have a friend (19/M) from college with bona fide BPD who is very emotionally dependent on me. We are now flatmates cause otherwise he'll have to return to his traumatic home. In our "friendship" he seeks closeness in ever-increasing magnitudes rather than, from my past experience of friendships, shared interest and mutual support. He expects closeness in whatever forms, especially touch; spends hours fondling me in ways I'm not comfortable with, while simultaneously stating to be asexual and aromantic. I'm "his favourite thing in the world" and "really important". He "loves me so much" and worry he screwed things up with me on a constant basis.

I can tell his overwhelming affection/idealisation is pathological to a certain degree. I intend to offer support rather than offer emotional prostitution and enable another person's PD. Does anyone have advice for both parties? Do you have similar experiences in a time like this?