both my best friend (21f) and i (20f) have BPD, she had mentioned something along the lines of this, that she very rarely felt romantic emotions for her boyfriend unless she felt like she was being abandoned even though she says she loves him. i wish i could explain it better, but as it’s not my POV i’m just taking a shot in the dark here to see if anyone here feels the same. i honestly didn’t really understand when she told me as i also have BPD and i tend to feel very strongly about my partners almost always (putting aside how i’ve felt during certain episodes) and i’m wondering if anyone here feels similarly to her (or me)? is this a common thing?