I've been kinda struggling lately with how to determine this. It's about one of my friendships. I know that splitting is sudden, and drifting is over time, but I kind of feel like both is going on. The thing is I still care about them, but they just say one thing and I get so pissed off, but I still care about them. I get irritated, but it's not like I view it as a personal slight against me, so it doesn't feel like splitting. But now my feelings are starting to sort of... drift away too. Maybe it's the days we've spent not talking, when I realized I didn't miss them anymore. 

The things that make me tick have always annoyed me just a tiny bit, but part of friendship is accepting somebody where they are so I've always been able to overlook it in the past, but I can't anymore. I feel like they are constantly in my space, like I can't breathe without them there. I used to want to be with them all the time, and then I started working with my therapist on relationship boundaries and learning what appropriate attachments are. Now I've started to realize I wasn't the only one with a problematic attachment. I guess maybe that's when it all started. 

I don't think I'm really describing it well. Some moments I get so frustrated I just want to cut it off, but if I did I know I would lose a bunch of people close to me. Right now it feels like I'm staying for them, even though I do still care. I don't want to hurt them, and there's a small part that wants to never part, but ultimately... that part has been drowned out. 

It'd be great to have a person to talk to one on one about this I guess. 

Am I splitting or have my feelings really changed? BPD makes it so hard to just know how I feel about others.