hi! i would really like someone’s input or validation onto this because i’ve been struggling a lot with my self esteem. there is this girl i’ve always been worried about who was affiliated with my ex as good friends, let’s call her bri. bri and my ex “jay” have been friends for over a year and they met online so they have never had any contact. however, they recently got close this march when he found out she was in a similar relationship situation as him and i. ever since then, they became best friends. i was always cautious of their friendship because i didn’t like the idea of them having a lot of similarities, and i couldn’t help but constantly compare myself or think something was wrong with me for another girl to have his attention. i will skip all of the parts, but basically she and i would text and she’d reassure me that he wasn’t cheating. however, i’m not sure why i feel like she has feelings for him. 

when he and i broke up for a while, i noticed he was online on spotify and i caught him listening to an album called, “Jay&lt;3”. my heart instantly broke as it was made by the girl bri. i felt like he was cheating this entire time as i saw the dates of it made. i confronted both him and her and they reassured me that she only made it because she likes giving back with his friends. however, all the songs were slow and romantic and the bio said “you’re an idiot”. she would send me convos of their texts and the contact name had a heart as well, but she took it off. obviously weird and suspicious but i assumed she’d just love him as a good friend. 

after i found out she had OCD, i always kept it to heart. recently she and i followed each other on instagram, but i noticed that every single time i posted, she would as well. i thought i was being insecure or paranoid, until she posted layout photos of herself with the same angles that i’ve taken. it was exactly identical and freaky. she started to change her highlights and her feed identical to mine and i felt really self conscious because of my ex who follows her. 

i remember one day i texted her saying that i didn’t like the idea of my ex following nude accounts or seeing girls in that manner. the same day, she posted a photo of herself with her underwear. 

i’ve been having a really low self esteem and i’ve felt uncomfortable lately seeing this and i’m not sure whether i’m being crazy for feeling like she’s copying me. what could this mean?