My boyfriend has BPD, I do not. I fell madly in love with him, super loyal, and super good to him. I've stuck around through a lot of hard stuff with him and worked with him. I'm co-dependant. We used to be extremely close spending tons of time together, no walls between us. We were hoping for this to be a long term relationship. Everything was great before but now not so much. We hardly see each other now. I think he shifted to another one of his friends being his FP since they are always hanging out now. He says he still cares about me more than anyone he's ever cared about and recently told me he needs me... He says he still loves me... but yet he just makes up excuses to avoid spending time with me (including obvious lies) more than once a week for a couple of hours. He suffers from depression and recently told me "I'm going through some stuff" but would not say what and "I don't care about you, I once did, but not anymore! but I don't care about anyone else either, not even myself!"

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He gets very upset if I say anything that alludes to us no longer being as close as we used to be. When we spend time together it's just like old times... intimate, sex, romantic hugging, conversation, etc. Lately also fighting though because I'm breaking down under the pressure of hardly ever seeing him.  He says we are "friends" and isn't ready for a relationship currently. So I guess we broke up? He says he's not romantic or sexual with anyone else. He's been talking about potential marriage some day. All this messes with my head because I hardly even see him anymore and we are just "friends" now. Two hours a week is practically nothing and he spends more time in a day with his friends than me in a month now.

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Anyway, does anyone have any idea from their experience on what all this means or what I can do to improve things? Am I devalued? Are things broken permanently? I am clueless as to what to do. I've asked him what he wants and he has no answers.