Hi all, non BPD woman wondering whether I should try to reconnect with a friend who has BPD. It is of course a long story but I was really close with him on and off for a couple years and I still miss him intensely.   
When we were friends some years ago, I noticed it seemed he would pick a fight and cut me off if I was getting too emotionally close. Then we would see each other again and he would act like nothing had happened. At the time I didn't know he had BPD and I think my rejection issues were really triggered by his behavior, and I admit to being catty at times, because I was upset at how he treated me and refused to discuss our issues. However, this is probably typical, but when we were good we were really good. That was one of the most FUN friendships I ever had, and I did and still do truly care for him. I think eventually all the rejection got to me and we drifted apart around the same time he moved across the country, presumably to get away from his family. This was about 5-6 years ago.   


I guess the reason why I want to reconnect is a) I really miss him still and b) he used to talk to me about friends he had left behind and no longer talked to and he seemed so sad about them. I guess I don't want to be one of those friendships he is sad about. I want him to know that I still care about him and I miss him, regardless of whether or not we talk much in the future. I don't really want to start up another cycle of being friends and being cut off but I am more secure these days and I think I could stop taking it personally.   
I am a little worried that he doesn't WANT to hear from me. Not sure how I would know.   


Anyways, any advice or input would be nice. Thank you!

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