Not really sure if I'm  borderline but I definitely do have the pattern. My favorite person displayed some ASPD traits. I was willing to put up with it because my FP gave me the attention. FP was definitely manipulating me but I did it right back when I realized it. It was a huge falling out. Made me realize that I probably have a personality disorder and my therapist and I are trying to figure it out. I do have the pattern of destruction as this has happened in my past relationships (although this is the firs time with an ASPD) This has been the worst implosion I've ever experienced.