(I posted the same thing in advice)

Ok so I've known my friend for years and we've been super close we are in our early 20s.

recently she's pulled away from me and my anxiety has me thinking that she just wants to leave the friendship. Which is fine, and which is why I have not messaged her. I want to give her the space to freely leave if that's what she needs to do. If I'm no longer the right friend for her that's ok.

A few months ago we talked about texting everyone less and how it was beneficial to not be texting so much for no reason. However, she'd still reach out every couple weeks, and so would I. Everything seemed fine.

Now we haven't talked for a month, since I last reached out, and she cancelled on group plans we had. (I was not the one making the plans). I instantly thought it might be because she found out I'm going but I don't want to jump to conclusions because nothing happened between us.

The reason I'm concerned is that she has mental illnesses and I want to be there for her. This is the time of year things have gone bad for her before and I don't know if I'm making a mistake by not sending a text saying "hey how're things going?"

I've been sleeping pretty bad and been really upset because I truly love and care for her and I don't want to hurt her in any way. She's always been an amazing friend to me when I wasn't well and I'd hate to not return the favor but I don't want to make things worse if she is trying to leave.

As I've said I have anxiety so getting no response would make me upset too.