I love my partner so much and we’ve been through a lot of challenges and growth together. He is very loving and understanding, but sometimes when he’s had a hard day or doesn’t feel well and my anxiety is triggered, he can act impatient and frustrated causing my anxiety to worsen. 

I’m improving a lot all the time and am managing my emotions much better than I used to, but I have a lot of childhood trauma re: emotional abuse/neglect that causes some bad reactions when I feel he’s not being kind. He doesn’t call me names or anything abusive at all, but he can use phrases like “you’re overreacting”, “that’s not worth getting upset over, calm down”etc..... 

I’m trying to get him to understand how triggering it is for me to have him act like that or to say certain things. I also was physically abused by an ex, so told him raising his voice causes me to feel triggered, so he stopped doing that... he really is so wonderful, but I just feel that he as a privileged white man with no serious mental health issues, acts like I should be able to handle anything and brush stuff off easily. He doesn’t consider what it REALLY feels like to struggle mentally and emotionally all the time. I know nobody is perfect and everyone is entitled to feeling frustrated sometimes like when he’s short with me, and he’s learning to have more patience but it still hurts sometimes feeling like your partner doesn’t truly “get it”. Does anyone else relate?