So my bpd is triggered right now &amp; I’m hoping to get some perspective. My boyfriend is interested in reconnecting and getting drinks with an old female friend of his this week and it’s massively triggered my insecurity and anxiety. I love &amp; trust my boyfriend, it’s just that I feel threatened by him getting his emotional needs met by another woman and him showing emotional warmth to another woman. It makes me feel less significant and triggers my fear of abandonment.

I don’t want to be like this though &amp; I want our relationship to be based on respecting our autonomy rather than control or co-dependency. And in addition to my bpd being triggered, I’ve never had a bf with female friends that hang out one-on-one before, &amp; I’m not sure what is healthy and normal. Do any of you have words of advice for how to not stress over this? Or some general guidelines for what healthy male-female friendships look like for hetero people? Thanks