So I've had this issue for quite some time now. Whenever I'm particularly upset and I have to request something, like a hug for example, it completely ruins the sentiment behind the action. I've read before that sometimes BPD peeps can tend to expect people to "read their minds" for lack of a better phrase but I have no clue how to work around it. Whenever I have to ask for something, I can never accept it and even if they comply immediately, it feels completely fake, 2-D and like they're only doing it to shut me up. As you can imagine it becomes very difficult to comfort me when I'm upset, especially if the person isn't the most emotionally adept. I feel kind of offended and deeply hurt that I should even have to ask for such things in the first place, then I end up guilt tripping myself for being so "entitled". 

Does anyone else struggle with this? Have you any advice or suggestions to overcome it?

Thanks a bunch in advance for any replies! :)