Something I really struggle with as I work on my BPD is seeing family members and friends coping with life so healthily.  I can't understand how they manage crises so well, while I seem to struggle through the smallest things. It seems unfair that my sisters can cope so well and I am a mess. I explained this to my therapist, and she had something that put a positive spin on having BPD. Because we experience emotions (both good and bad) on such a deep level we have an ability to connect with others at a much deeper level. We can have a even more enjoyable life than others because we have the ability to be spontaneous, we can enjoy the happy things more than others. This all is kind of babbling, but I like to hope that after I start healing from my BPD that I will really be able to be happy, maybe even happier than those who I am jealous of now. 