So I met a guy on Bumble who doesn’t live in the same state as me (never met in person) about 10 months before I started dating my current boyfriend. The guy and I would send flirtatious snaps before I began dating my boyfriend, but as soon as I told him I was seeing someone we became completely platonic friends (no romantic feelings). There was a time (before I met my boyfriend) where we had sent explicit pictures. He asked me for those a couple times, and honestly I really regret sending them… not sure why I did. After I began dating they were never sent between us again. 

The guy even thought my boyfriend and I were cute and congratulated me. We would just send each other food, pet pictures or friendly snaps sometimes like the sky to keep the snap streak going, very surface level snaps. 

I have not sent the guy a flirty Snapchat since I’ve been dating, and he hasn’t sent one to me. My boyfriend and I have been dating about a year now and we never discussed boundaries until a few weeks ago when my boyfriend saw a snap from the guy and jokingly said, “are you cheating on me”? I told him it was just an old friend. I was caught off guard by that, and was worried if I had told him I had met the guy on Bumble he would assume the worst like I was cheating or something. I could see he was uncomfortable by me Snap-chatting the guy so I deleted my Snapchat account, and told the guy I would not be using Snapchat anymore. So we just don’t talk anymore. My boyfriend was completely fine after that and said of course he trusts me. 

I seriously only ever saw this guy as a friend, never an “ex”, we never even met in person. Really just an acquaintance. I feel really bad cause I kinda in the moment panic told him it was an old friend, which is true… to avoid him getting angry over nothing. Is that okay? I tend to really overthink sometimes, and my mom has told me to let it go. Can I just let this one go? 

Sorry if this is a dumb question, this is my first real relationship and I don’t wanna be a bad person.