Just something I’d like to bring up that I’ve noticed. 

A lot of people here seem to think NPD is worse, or ASPD is worse. A lot of times I even see people call their exes narcissists or psychopaths in a derogatory way, when we obviously can’t fully trust you were blameless when you have a disorder yourself. 

There’s a reason these are all clustered into the same group- Cluster B disorders. It’s proven that there are multiple overlaps between all of these disorders, and all share the comorbity of narcissistic traits in one way or another. 

I’m not trying to stir controversy, it’s not even something that can be subjective. I just think a lot of the deep self invalidation and hatred comes from the fact that deep down you also will have stunted cognitive empathy, and will experience narcissistic behaviors while splitting yourself white. The whole”I’m god” “I’m horrible” is unhealthy from both sides of the coin, regardless of how much confidence is praised by society over the lack thereof. 

If you don’t want stigma on BPD, why would you be so insistent on enforcing the stigma around NPD and ASPD? You’re just as capable of abuse as they are, and you’re also just as capable of healing, changing, and living a manageable healthy life with stable relationships. Also, it’s only going to stigmatize BPD more when you insist on war against other disorders. Onlookers see that and rightfully think it’s just typical BPD behavior. 

Isn’t the goal to change what we see as “typical BPD behavior?” That starts with changing that behavior. 

People aren’t stupid, when they see you desperately denying any narcissistic or any ASPD relation whatsoever, it doesn’t change anything when they can do one Google search and see these disorders are all one big family. It’s like Ted Bundy adamantly denying he’s a murderer when the DNA is out the bodies are in the proof is in the pudding. 

There’s absolutely nothing to be ashamed of, only your actions, and your decisions in YOUR life. So own the realities of this disorder, because the facts ultimately say more than your personal worldviews.