I am sick in my home country seeking treatment for a persistent kidney ailment only on my left side.

We're both unemployed but my wife wont come see me through this/airbnb our flat while i'm here trying to figure out why my left shit kidney of ten years suddenly kicked up a fuss when i QUIT drinkin.

Because she has an existing family vacation from feb 16-24 when i havent seen her since before christmas.

Am i being an asshole asking my wife to drop vacation plans and nothing else to be with me while we plan our next steps? What the fuck i'm trying to stay centered but my choices are emotional pain of being away from her or physical pain when i go back to where we live and i couldnt get treatment until i came here to get it. She accused me of timing kidney stones to make her choose. How the fuck