i just hate when they say it to something that would make me a piece of shit if i got mad. like only a terrible person would be mad about it but they think i would be…. like i get that us with bpd get mad and upset easily but no one understands the reason behind it they always think it’s just the main thing they see. even if i explain it, they don’t listen or just don’t understand i guess??? like no i’m not mad at you because of this tiny thing you did, i’m mad at you because you lied about this tiny thing you did (just an example). i think that’s why we (or just me idk) come off as the crazy gf/bf, people don’t listen or try to understand what ACTUALLY upsets us