Me and my bestie of 9 years never had any issues that lead to us being apart. A very close and mutual friend of ours got into her life. 


I told her he just wants to date you and he'll do things for it. 


She never believed, she thought I'm just insecure because I'm always overthinking things. 


The friend has been affecting our relationship a lot, we kept having fights due to it, i didn't have any bad blood with the friend. But i always felt this feeling that "This is my bestie, i really like her a lot please go away" ...We werent in love for 8 years except for some on/off things as friends. 


i am 24 now and i had this feeling that I'll ask her out and spend time with her soon (had to move 300miles away). I havent seen her in 3yrs. 


We were talking casually about life, and she told me she'd consider dating the mutual friend but also that she prioritizes her family and does not want any relationship or stress. 


I asked my friend if he likes her cos she considers dating him... he tells me NO because he really appreciates her being a friend. He was my friend for 11 years and hence i didnt mind opening up to him. I told him how much she means to me, i told him i have been wanting to ask her out. i shared and opened up about some of my trauma and things to him, he was very friendly to both of us...


My bestie and I were having issues and we decided to take breaks, try everything that could help. But i kept feeling sad and insecure randomly about things. 


She told me : "i will always be there for you cause you alwahs had my back" 


"you're just overthinkin, i would never forget us...i know that you have abandonment trauma and you should see a doctor" 


...He had been flirting n been lovey to her all this time, he knew we were having issues, he knew how much we fought...He misinterpreted some of my texts i sent her and told her how i want to hurt her mentally and that I'm arguing so that she'll unfriend him...


My friend had been wanting to date her but he hid it from me while i shared and opened up about my feelings and life. He used it all against me, He told me not to worry about things. I trusted him and its been making me cry for 4 months now. 


he asked her out, and when she asked me what she could do, i encouraged her to date him. She was afraid that things will go sour, but i told her she should do it cause she has been wanting to for a while. 


bestie and i were held on by a string. He told her that i love her and will never be happy about them. We had arguments cos of it.


I asked my friend, "i told you that she may consider dating you, why didn't you fell me that you like her when i told you so much to ease it up for you"


he said "i dont care about you, i didnt wanna tell you that i wanna date her"


i tell him "im ur close friend for 11years...shes my bestie...i wish i knew you it all, we have been having issues cause of you. I wish i had an idea of it all, i would've never opened up to you. I wish i knew you're lying when you suggested me things"...


He goes on to tell her that "hes arguing with me, see he can never be happy for us"...


he tells her "i want to study but cause of him i cant focus, let us both block him" 


He tells her about it all, while she fights with me over i shouldnt blame him. He uses her to fight with me everytime, i cant text him or else he tells her how i have been stressinf him out and hes mentally hurt cos of all this. He tells me "i tried to help u, but fuck off" 


I miss my bestie and we are no longer friends...its been 3 months. I cant express her things, she told me shes grateful for everything but she doesnt want more stress. i ask her why cant we talk ever or spend time..but she just cannot do it anymore after one year of issues between us. 


Some of her words that left a scar on me : 


"stop talking, i literally cant do it anymore...its like someone is torturing me"


"my dad(passed away, was mentally challenged)  was a retard and you're the same, i cannot be around you"


"i cannot help you anymore i really cant help you get over things, i wish to never see you again" ...



I cant get over some of the things that happened between us, and i confronted out friend and told him "why couldnt you stop interfering, i wish you didnt lie, i wish you didnt make false misinterpretations ...i wish i could go back in time and kill myself than share my feelings with you"...


He just goes ahead and tells her it all, and is happy with what he did and doesn't care...All of this and i no longer have a way to talk to my bestie...she really dislikes me rn. 


My bestie and I tried to work things out last month, mutually agreeing to forget all the hardships. But he keeps on leeching her and doesnt like that she shares things with me. And now shes no longer there again.


He tells me to stop blaming him, he tells me i shouldn't have trusted him....He tells me i didn't ask you to share your feelings, it was your choice. 



I cant get over it all, she really means a lot to me. It was all so much happier when all of this didnt exist. I wish i could do something...all i feel is depressed