Not only am I starting grad school, I am finally making the decision to move out...with my boyfriend. (Whoo but SCARY!) Although these are great opportunities to create more stability for my future, I am tortured by my anxiety. I’m a loyal person; I never cheated, but I consider myself a commitment phobe. Of course, the underlying issues involve fear of failure, abandonment, unworthiness and infidelity (by the other partner, which I consider to be a form of abandonment). With all these changes going on, although awesome changes, I am swirling in this void of intense fear. I’m afraid I will just runaway from my boyfriend, impulsively drop out of grad school or intentionally create disconnection from my boyfriend so he breaks up with me. I want to overcome these fears, so I can lead a happy, healthy life and power through these challenging but rewarding opportunities. What are some ways y’all cope with commitment/ abandonment issues? What can I do to stop convincing myself I’m too stupid and unworthy of being in grad school? What can I do to stop convincing myself I don’t care about my boyfriend and should runaway? What ways can I control the fear and power through these feelings?