With certain co-workers, I don't mind doing small favors like handing them a pen (or any other small favor) if the ask me because I'm a bit closer to the pen. I may even preemptively pass it to them if I know they about to grab the. But with other co-workers, I just feel a seething rage and desire to tell them, "Do it yourself" or "nah" or ignore their request. In spite of having an overwhelming urge to deny their request, I usually resentfully comply and then feel like a trained dog. I know if I deny the request, things could get really tense, and I worry about coming off as petty or immature. I also wonder if I'm making a huge deal about nothing. I just feel like some co-workers abuse the people-pleasing privileges I grant everyone with a gross sense of entitlement. On the surface, this may seem like an easy thing to fix for a minor issue, but I feel stuck in this pattern of behavior due to learned helpless I developed from having caretakers w/BPD, and a bossy older sister. One request by the wrong person who over-asks may upset for the rest of the shift as my resentment against that person builds, and I feel a greater urge to "get even". I worry this is an unhealthy over reactive emotional response akin to quiet BPD.