Hello I am looking for the best antidepressant for me, of course I'll be going to the psychiatrist but I just want to have an idea of what could be a good option to discuss it with the doctor.

I have clinical depression since age 13 and feel unmotivated and sleepy all day and can't sleep at night. I can't concentrate and pay attention for longer periods of time which is bad since I am a programmer and is making me inefficient and making my work unbearable. I also have social phobia and avoid social situations so it's hard for me to be social as I am afraid of rejection and people overall. I am also very defeatist and negative but I guess this is a normal symptom from depression.

Another thing to mention is that while I don't have a sexual active life I also suffer from premature ejaculation so I though Paroxetine would be a great option since it helps with it and also social anxiety and depression so it would be three birds from one shot but I've also read that is sedative and causes drowsiness which is definitively a no. I already feel too sleepy, tired and unmotivated and is making me unproductive.

Any help is appreciated. I've been living with this condition for so long and want to get out of it once and for all.  Thanks.