I know, I know. Struggle builds character, it adds spice to your personality, etc. 
But, I can’t help but wonder, what if I never went through the trauma that I did? 
I would currently consider myself pretty accomplished. I’m in med school at 18, have a tight knit social group, and have done a lot of things I should be proud of.
But I can’t help but think of “what if’s”. Every time I would have a particularly nurturing teacher, or meet an extremely well-balanced person, I’ll always think, if you were my [mom/dad/in my life/whatever], how much different would my life would be? If I’ve accomplished this much in my current situation, where the hell would I be by now if I grew up in “normal” circumstances? An astrophysicist? Brain surgeon? 
It’s not good to be bitter or resentful, especially about circumstances that can’t be changed. I know how important it is to practice gratitude. Things could have been a lot worse. And sure, you can argue that a good family doesn’t necessarily equate to success and stability, but you have to admit it still gives you a better chance.
I’m just saying... where would the world be if we all took actions to become the healthy parents that broken kids today yearn for? Trippy to think about.