So I have this coworker who has a huge crush on me. I tried to ignore him, hoping he’d get the hint, but he didn’t and I eventually got up the nerve to tell him I simply wasn’t interested. He didn’t stop though, and he kept trying to get me to spend time with him alone and texting me cutesy things at all hours of the day. I never ever responded to any of this but he just kept at it.

I told him last night that he needed to stop, that he was making me so uncomfortable I no longer want to come to work and if he doesn’t stop I’ll go to a supervisor. He said he’d stop and avoided me for the rest of the night.

Which brings me to tonight. I’m at work right now, he’s here too, it’s extremely uncomfortable and I’m starting to feel horribly guilty and mean. I’m a bit angry with him, I feel very disrespected. I asked politely to stop, and he didn’t, so I felt I had to get meaner to be taken seriously. But on the other hand I feel like it’s my fault, if I’d been more assertive from the get go maybe things wouldn’t have gone on this long. I’m just so bad at this relationship crap. 

I don’t know what to do. Part of me wants to explain myself to him. I want to tell him I don’t hate him, I’m just upset. I want to tell him why I felt so disrespected. I want to tell him he doesn’t need to be afraid of me, just don’t be trying to get me when I told you no, no amount of attention is going to change my mind.

Uhg.