Hi. When I am alone I feel pretty relaxed and grounded. but today I noticed when I was surrounded by other people that talked fast / anxiously / unnecessarily I felt like I had to act that way too. Or I was afraid that I would make them uncomfortable or they would judge me if I didn’t match their vibe.

Why do I feel so responsible for other people’s emotions and why can’t I just be myself.

I also have another problem where I don’t know how to be friendly / send out good vibes without being a people pleaser. And if I just do my own thing without giving a fuck I feel like I come off as a total asshole and there’s no middle ground.

I feel like I’m constantly acting unless I can feel the other person has ‘the vibe’ and then I can just be me without any worry.

should probably be seeing a therapist but I PROCRASTINATE.

thank you for your help