My [35M] wife [28F] have been married 2.5 years. She was recently diagnosed with BPD, although the therapist said it's one of the milder cases she's seen. I would categorize our relationship as difficult and pretty high-conflict. I'm very calm and treat her well and with gentleness (she would agree), and she has been very difficult to live with (she would also agree). Her language is harsh and she is often volatile - I never know what is going to make her angry.

Anyway, this therapist is training her in DBT skills. I was wondering if anyone here has gone through DBT and how it helped? How long was it before you saw significant results? Did they last?  What were some things that helped them to last?

Thanks!