I feel like I go from relationship to relationship, because I do like having that other person, but I’ve never been single for a long period of time. 

I’ve recently ended things with someone I’ve been chatting to for a few months before we could make it official (thanks panoramic) but I’m still super bummed out cos I really wanted to be with this person. But I can see where therapy is working for me bcos I could recognise traits in them that I knew were toxic and would be detrimental for me so there’s that I guess! 

But how are people with bpd that is like mine happy with their day to day when they’re single? Because when I’m with someone I want to spend all my time talking to them and I think about them a lot, and honestly I get a bit obsessed with them. So i know jumping back into the dating pool would probably be a bad thing while I still have things to work on in therapy, but I’m really scared of my days looking different now that I don’t have a partner. Maybe I’m a bit scared of the prospect of being left to my own devices, and also not having the things that a partner brings (like support, validation, sexy times)!

Just wondering what perspectives other people have on this, I’ll bring it up in therapy but I’m curious what other people who have bpd have to say! X