I don't know if this makes sense to anyone else with BPD but for me it does. I'm not talking about FPs here, either, or like an anti-FP thing as I don't actually hate this person. This is also kind of a personal rant. (Not looking for much advice in handling the situation as I know how to if need be)


At work we have our team leaders which are managers of the department and then we have what I can describe as floor supervisors. One of my floor supervisors just unknowingly can push all the wrong buttons when it comes to my BPD and RSD (from ADHD). 

I know they actually mean well at the end of the day but the way they talk to me is so abrasive and tactless and I feel like it's a little bit misdirected at times, because the shifts I work are also the shifts after one team member not doing their job properly so I'm picking up the slack and copping the criticism for another person.

It's weird though because I'm pretty sure no one else gets the same treatment from this person although I could be wrong, but the other issue is I also have BPD and I just don't cope well with people giving me a "tough love" kind of treatment.

The other weird thing is that one of the first things they mentioned upon meeting me was that I looked like their daughter (who also works here) because I have the same piercings and hair colour. I feel like they're kind of either purposefully or subconsciously micromanaging me through a bit of projection, like I am their child, too. It's very uncomfortable and a sure fire way to trigger my BPD because it's like I'm dealing with my own mother all over again.

I also kind of feel like I'm being micromanaged by them because my work knows I'm autistic and have  ADHD.. but there's literally no one else who makes me feel this way!

I have mentioned some things to my actual team leader and I don't know if anything has been said but every day when I'm going to work when my floor supervisor is on my shift I dread it and try to avoid them as much as possible because there's something new every week that they wanna bring up and with my BPD every day that that happens I feel I'm getting closer and closer to being like "you know what? Just leave me the fuck alone! Please!" 🙄🙄🙄 Ugh it's literally so aggrevating and I don't think it would bother other people as much as it bothers someone with BPD.



Does anyone else have a similar experience? I know part of it is justified but the rage it induces is definitely a reaction from my BPD. Tell me about your people triggers so I don't feel so irrational lol😭