I’m really feeling contemplative about the issue of identity. Someone with BPD I’m coming admire kind of seems to support the corroborated idea about BPD’ers leeching their personality and identity from others (paraphrasing). 

Anyhow, now I find myself challenging myself in regards to identity. I have a few ideas: I think the idea that we don’t have authentic-identity is extreme navel-gazing. Typical people don’t much consider this topic, and maybe we shouldn’t either? Every time you meet someone you like and admire it’s natural to fall in-like with their preferences. Sometimes it’s just a matter of exposure no? You meet someone let’s say who likes country music and line dancing 😬 You might be a hip hop enthusiast; However, they take you to a country bar. Maybe you meet some nice folks, you have fun learning the dance moves, and now maybe you like country music. This doesn’t mean you’re absorbing their likes in deferment of your own does it? Doesn’t getting to know new people automatically expose you to a new array of ideas that tickle our fancy? I think this is completely normal typical behaviour that we seem to think is somehow negative.

Identity and personality often get confused. And even in my own rant here, I realize I have used them interchangeably. But there is an overlap often. But I’m curious about the fact that identity is so changeable. Sometimes our values move around as we learn, and this isn’t bad. I’m wondering if we have shifts on/in our continuum of life, as one does, and our continued over analysis of self is just too painfully self-important.

Enjoy the ride, stop the insufferable self-analysis.