Recently diagnosed with BPD. Still on waiting list for therapy and struggling to cope.

I’m on 20mg of Escitalopram in the morning and 200mg of Trazodone at night. Been on it since May and had a really bad experience with the trazodone last night. I think I took it too early (normally take it at 8pm, took it at around 7). Had a full blown panic attack, felt like I was stoned, room spinning and couldn’t move. Have asked the doctors/psychiatrist to change the medication and they’ve been refusing! 

Episodes are really bad at the moment (rage, lashing out, splitting etc) 

I know medication doesn’t solve BPD but has anyone found any medication that helps ?