Okay so I have BPA and Alexithymia, so emotions and intonations are absolute garbage. But I feel like my best friend talks to me in a condescending tone constantly. I wish I could give an example. They emphasize my name with a “uh” on the end. And twitch their head a little to the side. They talk to me like I’m a child, despite knowing for decades that I cannot stand being talked to that way. And by talking to me like a child it’s like instead of “Tommy take out the trash” it’s “well if there wasn’t all that trash it would be CLEAN.” Like an implied “understand?” follows.  And I listen to how they talk to our mutual friends and kids and stuff and it sounds so different. Is it a BPD thing? Right now I’m feeling like I don’t even want to be around them because of the likelihood they will talk to me. I know they love me, I’m just wondering if they don’t realize they are doing it? But when I think that I think it’s probably not normal to speak to just one person differently than all the rest, and feel like it’s justifiable frustration and there is some validity to it being condescending? I don’t know what’s real half the time, so I’m not even saying it’s a real thing.  If it’s a common misperception with BPD, I just want to find a way to fix it. That’s all.