Been having issues with my FP/bf of 5 years. We live together. I feel like I used to be his partner in crime and we’d do everything together. I felt really secure in our relationship. These last few weeks out of nowhere he’s giving me 5% of that effort.  Like to the point where he doesn’t even send me a text or go out of his way to say hi to me in the house. Doesn’t wanna have meals together. He’s so distant. 

He suggested I move out a week ago. I told him that I will if that’s what he truly wants but that’s not what I want and I’m shocked he feels that way. It seemed to have come out of nowhere.

He has his own stresses going on right now, but I don’t know how he has energy to spend with other people. But when he comes home his energy for me feels next to 0. He hasn’t hugged or kissed me in weeks, texted me any memes, had any meals together, anything. All normal stuff we used to do. 

I’m not scared of cheating, I think my partner may be asexual. He’s also 43 and the least sexually interested person I’ve met. 

But I just don’t know why I’m being treated like this. I feel like I deserve better and it’s time to move on. But I’ve never successfully left a FP. I just feel so hurt and sad. 

I’m supposed meeting a friend for lunch today and I’ve never met her IRL before. I feel like I’m going to be a crying mess and I’m trying to pull myself together to see normal and happy. But my heart hurts so much.