 My partner who I’m in a semi long-distance relationship with (We do hang out with each other in person still) had a one week long major depressive episode that developed into not talking to anyone for 4 days and during this, I was sending him messages like “I’m here for you” but more indept because I was using SET communication. On Thursday he ended up calling me back to let me know he wanted to talk about something he was not ready to talk about that night so we decided to schedule a talk between us at 11 AM. Slightly after 11AM he called me to let me know he wanted to break up with me. He said he is too mentally ill for it, he can't be romantic because of the disorder, etc. I told him we can slow down if he wants and he doesn't want that. I told him we can take a break and he didn't want that. He said he feels like we rushed into it. Now he also said he was really enjoying it "before" his episode and he wants it to go back to the way it was and wants to keep things the same like they were before his episode. I made it very clear to him that he is in no state of mind making a decision right now since this is the day after an almost 1 week long major depression episode and we should wait until he gets his ETC treatment (He believe therapy doesn't work for him and that why he does ETC) and then we can talk about it. He agreed it would be a good idea. I agreed that I might have pushed romantic stuff on him and I can stop doing that. He sees me as his best friend and special person (which he is aromantic so that's his ideal partner) and I told him you are my best friend and he said "You have other best friends like Tucker" and I told him " I have many best friends but you are my special best friend and the one I want to spend the rest of my life with" which I think really put things in perspective for him. So we were also talking about how today (which was Friday) we were all having company over to watch Love Death and Robots but we want to hang out with each other. I said we can do it tomorrow (which is now today) but then he said " I was going to play magic at the store but I can cancel that if you want to hang out?" (This is why I feel he is still very attached to me) and I told him " No I want you to get some normalcy back in his life and that we can hangout Sunday" which he agreed that's a good idea. Since I know he has issues with emotions I started asking him how certain things feel and expressing I want you to dig deep and tell me the emotion behind it.So I asked him how this conversation make him feel and he said "Good", I asked him how I make him feel and he said " Happy", and then I asked him how does our relationship feel and he said "anxious" which I told him that is a close cousin to fear. So I told him we will keep at this exercise. We ended the conversation on a good note. Last night we had a nice conversation over text about the show and then when I told him good night it was radio silence which is not normal. Today I made the decision not to message him and give him space to see if it helps him and tomorrow if he doesn't want to hangout that is fine as well. I will admit that I am having some issues myself being that I have adult ADHD which I’m trying to get treatment for. Does anyone have any insight, advice or opinions on this matter?  I feel like I need help on this matter. On a side note my grammar isn't great so sorry about that.