Despite at first bristling in anger, at his harsh directness at this /insult/ -who me? A child, how dare you compare me to the maturity of a thirteen year old, I began to see the many comparisons not just in the traits of MY personality but certainly of my two ex boyfriends. 

xxxxxx’s complete and utter disregard for the people he abused along the path of getting what he wanted next (selfishness, cruelty, self-righteousness), number twos almost delusional outrage when he couldn’t have his way (overreacting toddlers throwing tempers) and his terrifying change in temperament when he could  (Failure to grasp emotional stability flitting between reality and realities created in the head). My own pathetically desperate seeks for attention and to please, the former which is what we do from the very screaming moment of birth. And as we develop, what most of us mature and outgrow. Upon reflection it makes sense, however much disgust and self hatred that takes to admit. 

His next question was what happened at that age to cause such a problematic stunting. What happened for you?