Hi.

I've posted once or twice in BPD related subs in here. Feel like I may need a lil direction and advice here.

I dont have BPD and I've never dated anyone with BPD. Im currently 'dating' a girl with BPD *when I say dating, I say it loosely. Its been 3 months of meeting up, drinking, having loads of sex with the odd 'getting to know each other' episode.

She told me she had BPD in the first hour of meeting and that she's been in therapy for a while. I couldn't really see signs - until now, here's a few:

• She is (self admittedly) paranoid. 

• Very very ultra sensitive to any facial expression I make that may be, to me, meaningless or any comment that is innocuous. She takes these as insults.

• One minute she is OVERLY affectionate and overly boisterous and the next she seems like I could stink. There's no inebtween.

• She's already tested me. We've went out for a few dates and went away and once or twice - usually when I have been wasted - she will just randomly be talking to another guy at the bar and laughing and joking. Maybe just friendly? Flirting? 

• Once or twice she's lost her temper and it's genuinely fairly scary. The way she storms around and paces at 100mph is anxiety inducing.

She's also incredibly affectionate. Doesn't want me to leave. You know the drill.

I've tried to bring up the conversation of whether we are exclusive. She says she doesn't want to fuck other people and that she doesn't want to pour her heart to me (for fear of rejection I'm guessing?) But she does really like me..

The main thing that gets me is whether she would be trustworthy going forward. She does seem fairly honest. Just some behaviours are a bit odd and I often wonder if I wasn't there, what would.happen..

Can anyone relate to this? Are BPDs - particularly in the dating stage - very quick to jump from partner to partner?