 So, I'm currently living in a flat with 4 other guys (age 19) and so far we are 4 months into our 12-month contract of living here.

It's fair to say it's been a pretty bumpy ride so far. What I've come to realise is that being friends with someone is completely different from actually living with them, and I won't lie it's been tough.

To give an example, recently, one of my flatmates (let's call him John) has been complaining about the music level on weekends when "Sam" (who's another flatmate) decides to have people over. Most of the time Sam is either drunk or high and will not listen to John's complaints. Sam and even the other 2 flatmates seem to agree that because it's a weekend and they've all been working 9-5 throughout the weekdays, they have the right to blast DnB on the weekends. It has come to the point where this cycle of the same scenario occurs every weekend, and let's just say John and Sam are not on speaking terms at the moment because of it.

Personally, I believe that there's a valid point to both sides of the argument. But at the moment I can say that the music level is obnoxiously loud (like you would hear in a nightclub), especially the bass. I think that a compromise should be made, where the music should be kept to a respectable level, where it's loud enough to listen to, but not bass boosted enough to literally shake the walls. But at this point, it's pretty much a lost cause between John and Sam. There's no way either of them will have a 1-on-1 conversation to actually try and sort this out, and all John talks about to me is the fact that he's looking forward to moving out, which is honestly sad to hear, seeing as John and Sam have been childhood friends.

So yeah, honestly I'm a bit exhausted from this whole situation, and I'm really battling with myself to think whether or not flatting was worth it. My parents seem to believe that flatting will be a good experience in the long run, and I hope to God they're right. But at the moment, I'm kind of dreading how these last 8 months are gonna pan out, and whether or not ill actually be able to stay sane throughout (seeing as I suffer from anxiety). It also doesn't help that I'm already stressed because of uni, and it seems that 24/7 I have something to constantly worry about. It really feels like I have no way or place to wind down and relax. Honestly considered getting therapy but I don't have the money for it at the moment so I'm hoping Reddit will help me out.

Any thoughts or comments would be much appreciated.

Thank you so much.