 Three weeks ago my mother came to me after having watched a YouTube video about BPD and told me she thought she might have it. After reading Borderline Personality Disorder Demystified I have realized that she is a textbook case of long term untreated BPD. She has not been diagnosed yet, but she very clearly has 7 of the 9 symptoms. 
 
 She experiences frequent job changes (like, 5 in the last year kind of frequent) usually due to explosive episodes of anger followed by walkouts. Because of this she also has trouble maintaining consistent housing. She no longer has relationships with most of her family aside from me and my sister. She experiences major depression and despair about her situation but constantly makes excuses for why she can't get help (she doesn't have healthcare, money, etc). 
 
All of that being said, she does want to get help and fix this. She just doesn't know how, and my sister and I are at a loss for how to proceed. I know the first step is educating ourselves about it so I'm reading as much about it as I can. I've even reached out to local therapists to gain some perspective but they are all pretty much booked through January. I've signed up for the class through NEA BPD, but the wait-list is 6 months. I've even attempted to send an email to Friedel directly but his website is not working correctly and won't actually send the message. 

The trouble I'm running into is finding information on individuals who have gone untreated for so long. In the prognosis section of Friedel's book (pg 92) where it talks about long term outcomes, it's like reading my mother's story. She's already at the end. Honestly, at this point I think she would actually make an interesting case study.

Any information or help would be greatly appreciated! I have exhausted all of the resources that I am aware of and am desperate for more help. 

Thanks for reading such a long post.