As an fyi, I was diagnosed at 16 with OCD. Usual hand washing, fear of germs, thoughts of death, checking things over and over again, different triggers. Didn’t leave the house for two years. 

It’s well controlled now, but I’m worried now that it’s having an impact of relationships. 

So she was 27 at the time, now 28. I’m 31. We chatted for two months, dated for 3, went on dates but mainly she wanted sex. Had a lot of sex, more than actual going out and doing stuff. She becomes distant, then when we see each other again, she says she wants to see me more. We end up texting a lot as she was always unavailable, either with friends, family, or her guy friend - she would see him more than me. We’re texting a lot, so I tell her how I feel and that I want to see her more. 

Few days later she breaks up with me with a text. Won’t go into detail why. I try and text, call her, everything. At first she ignored me, then she gave me a couple of replies, saying we’ll talk, thanks me for birthday gifts I’d gotten her - before we’d broken up - then she just cuts me off. Two weeks later, she’s in a very public relationship with her “guy friend”, who was seeing a lot when we were together, and even stayed over in his place not long before she ended things.

My problem is, I couldn’t accept that it was over just after a text, even before I knew she was in a new relationship.

I replied to her, she ignored me. Few days later she replies, tells me we’ll talk. She then ignores me again. I call her a day later, she ignores me and cuts off my call. She messages me a few days later thanking me for a birthday present I’d given her before we’d broken up, apologises for ignoring me and says she shuts down and acts weird in situations like this. I tell her she doesn’t have to feel that way and can talk to me to tell me what’s gone on, then send her a voice clip trying to talk her round. She ignores so I tell her I won’t try again.

Except I did, and messaged her happy birthday. She replied and I try and make conversation. She ignores me. I then ask her if she wants her stuff back. She ignores me.

Two weeks later I see she’s in the relationship, so I message her telling her how I felt and that it was right to end things as she wasn’t making time for me. 

I’m bothered that I couldn’t just let go, and it’s making me more concerned that maybe this is my OCD making me obsessed with someone, and that I didn’t actually feel anything for her. I feel like I’ve been set back about 10 years here, worrying whether I acted normal, or whether it was driven by my OCD.