I’m interested to see what others have to say about this, because it’s sort of one of those things my doubt latches on to to tell me I don’t actually have BPD. Basically, I have what I’d call a relatively healthy, committed, long term relationship. The relationship itself is not unstable. We don’t fight, we dont argue. I sometimes snap or get passive aggressive when I’m feeling trapped or threatened in some way (usually nothing to do with my partner’s actions, just from triggers of mine). The main issue with our relationship is that I get triggered more easily from his actions/things I interpret from him, and once that happens I get overly scared, passive aggressive, or go catatonic. 

I’m definitely what you’d call “quiet” borderline. Basically, the instability of my relationship is mostly within me and not seen in how my partner and I interact. I guess I’m looking for comments, input, or if you see this as still being part of the whole unstable relationship thing. 

Thank you for reading 🌸