I ended a nearly 6 year relationship with my live-in boyfriend about 3 months ago. I have been seeing a guy from work for a couple months now but I feel like I’m settling again which was the whole reason I ended the previous relationship in the first place. I am also emotionally unstable but trying to be a regular person and date. I have a big problem with isolating myself from all friends and family. I also feel like I’m having a bit of an identity crisis as well as starting antidepressant meds. 

The issue at hand is not being able to be straight up with this new guy and tell him I’m just not interested and need to focus on me before getting into another serious relationship. Avoidance is my coping mechanism (not good, I know) and the urge to simply ghost him is overwhelming.. but I know that’s wrong. I hate being ghosted and I know how it feels. 

I don’t have close girl friends to talk to, both my sisters and my mother are very narcissistic and I feel like I can’t trust their relationship advice.. and the only advice I’ve been given is from a co-worker friend who told me to just text him and say “I don’t like you.” Which I would never even consider because that is so rude. Any advice on what I should say being both polite and effective? 

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