Does anyone have any success breaking the terrible patterns associated with BPD? I continuously get triggered with feelings of abandonment from my partner even though it’s clear he has no intention of hurting me. It’s become so problematic.. My emotions get so high and I lash out and attack him for doing what he did. He gets defensive because he doesn’t think he did anything wrong and it feels so invalidating to me. 

I don’t know how to handle this. It seems like it’s happening more and more frequently now and I feel so insecure in the relationship which makes me more vulnerable to feeling abandonment. 

He has been very receptive of most of my BPD symptoms, but this one is hard for us. Because he feels like this is aimed at him while the others are more general problems. That makes sense. 

Is there anything I can do to stop my abandonment spirals? I don’t intend to go into attack mode but I feel so hurt that I lose sight of the relationship. I really don’t want to wreck it but it seems like it’s going that direction :(