I feel like I am in a circle of stalking and obsessiveness. I can't handle this situation anymore. Six years ago for two years I worked with someone with BPD, more extreme than me and what concluded out of that was a super intense friendship, with a lot of leading me on (I liked her) and a lot of toxicity. It was not good and the situation hurt and messed me up a lot (I finally learned that two BPD's together, in my case was not good).

We stopped talking four years ago, and whilst I have a part to play in the toxicity previously, she has never stopped stalking me online. I've had my accounts hacked or attempted to be multiple times, I have an IP counter on some of my pages sometimes, that show her looking at my pages everyday multiple times a day four years on. It doesn't matter if the page is private, or literally has nothing on it, it does not stop her looking at it. I could not post for a year, and low and behold she'd still be looking. Every six months their will be a hack, and every year or so when her mental health plummets I will get the police called on me for nothing (the last time was me talking to her trying to stop all of this, which was over a year ago). I've talked to the police myself over her, and whilst they were lovely they basically said there was nothing they could do, as they can't 'prove' it's her. They said she's basically at the point that if a dog shat on her doorstep, she would insinuate that I shat on her doorstep. That's how much she has cast me as the devil reincarnate in her head.

Apart from a few weird statuses directed towards me, and a barrage of adds from her mates, and weird messages from her friends (the messages weren't hateful and I blocked them and I am guessing it was to gain access to my page). She does not speak to me.

The fact I have my own mental health struggles, this inevitably always comes back to make me feel fearful and paranoid and that I then have to check her pages (which I manage to control but...hmph) I can't understand why she is doing this, or how to make her stop.

Any advice would be appreciated before I do my own head in :/