Hey guys, 

this is kind of wierd for me to talk about. I am hoping to get some insight and hopefully be able to make an impact. My girlfriend of three years has always been depressed. we both go to different colleges so it is a long distance relationship (about an hr45 drive). Its taking a major toll on our relationship and it makes it really hard. I’m not a doctor but I would also say she has terrible anxiety and an eating disorder. She has these episodes where she shuts down completely and doesn't say a word, or stress eats a little bit of chocolate, which leads to her convincing herself that she is fat (She runs cross country, defininitely not fat by any standards), and this leads to a big downward spiral. she also frequently lashes out at me. There is always negative self-talk with her, she insists that she is fine so she can just be alone and wallow in her own misery. Anyways, she refuses to tell anyone that she is struggling or try to get even a little bit of help. I am running out of answers. I am not trying to downplay how she is or turn the spotlight onto myself, but it is mentally draining and I just want to be able to make an impact on her for the better, just to help her out. I care about her more than anyone in this world. My question is is there anything that I can do to comfort her or improve her situation in any way?