Hello everyone! This is my first post here, long time lurker. In the last 2-3 months, I've been officially diagnosed with BPD. I didn't understand it at first and honestly still didn't really get it until today. I saw my therapist (absolutely remarkable  lady) and gave her the list of all my official diagnosis, the most prominent one being Borderline. We spent most of the session understanding why I am diagnosed with this and coming up with strategies we'll be working on together for me to cope better.  She recommended I read "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me" by Jarold Kreisman (most of you have probably heard of it or read it). When she explained to me the reasoning behind the diagnosis and and how it fits with me, it's like something clicked in my head and I had this sense of relief wash over me. I understand now why I have been the way I am for so many years. Why most of my relationships don't work out, why I have attempted suicide so many times and thankfully survived each attempt, why I feel so intensely then other people do for long periods of time, why life is just much harder to go through. But the part that really got to me was, when I was leaving the session and saying my goodbyes my therapist stopped me before I stepped out the door and said "Before you leave, I just really want you to know that non of this is your fault. The way you are, it is not your fault, okay?". When I got to my car, I cried so hard because I always thought everything bad that has happened to me was all my fault, that I'm like this because of something I did. So I just wanted to say, it's not your fault for having Borderline. But it is your responsibility to not let it define you. We're all in this together. Thank you for letting me share.