Is  it ever appropriate for someone w/o bpd to call someone their FP (or  use any of the specific terminology)? I’m trying to actually be able to  put shit i do in words...

So like i exhibit all the behaviors and meet the dx  criteria and am trying to figure out how to refer to shit i do, but  that’s typically what fits best. And don’t worry I’m \*fully aware\* that i  don’t have it, so therefore i probably can’t fully grasp the experience  of a more intense disorder, since i haven’t been dx’ed or anything but i  wanted to know where the line would be drawn and what was appropriate  and not appropriate to say. I did score clinically high for borderline tendencies when I was 16, but I know that's no longer relevant 6 years later.

But like what would be the appropriate term to use in lieu of FP? Because the only other word i  can think of is best friend and like i HAVE a best friend but i also  have like a person i latch onto super intensely and have those emotional  extremes regarding. Yes I’m aware it’s obviously not going to be as  bad, but like, i still need to figure out a way of expressing it.

Additionally, what would be an appropriate term t use in lieu of "splitting" since I do experience that, but obviously would feel it's extremely insensitive to actually call it splitting?

Is it actually just insensitive for me, as someone who doesn't have the disorder, to even experience any of the symptoms at all, let alone most of them?