I have read everything I can about bipolar disorder and I have tried my best to support him. Sometimes I feel like he doesn't try to understand my disorder though. I've had a bad day emotionally and I know I can be impulsive but he said he can't do this anymore and an hour later he's saying he loves me and wants to make it work.

He doesn't seem to realize that him doing that can only exacerbate my symptoms. Sometimes I feel like I don't get the same support I give him. He tells me not to stigmatize him and I try not to. I may sound like I am because of lack of knowledge about bipolar disorder but I feel that it's unfair for him to ask me not to stigmatize him when he seems to do it to me.

Some of the things he's said are super hurtful but I know it's probably because I hear things wrong and over think things but I still think he could be a little more sensitive. He knows I have fear of abandonment and when he breaks up with me and gets back together with me in an hour it almost feels like he's gaslighting me.

He has a lot of female friends which is fine but then he'll say things like "if I wanted to be with someone else they would be here instead of you because trust me, it's really easy." He doesn't seem to understand that that only perpetuates my fear of him cheating because it's like he's saying it would be really easy for him to. But then he wonders why I'm insecure. 

Again, I know I over think but is he also wrong for saying things like that to me? 

TL;DR My boyfriend has bipolar disorder and I have BPD and I feel like he doesn't support me on the same level. He also perpetuates my fear of him cheating by saying if he wanted to be with someone else he would and he could because it's easy. I know I over think but is he also wrong for saying things like that?