As the title says, my husband has been talking heavily about the possibility that I might have BPD. I am not angry at the likelihood of actually having BPD. Rather, I am disappointed with my husband's current behavior towards me as we both talk about my mental health.

To give you a little bit of context, there have been several moments throughout our relationship in which I had experienced strong, emotional outbursts that hurt his feelings - and so, while he is currently away from me because of his job (we are in a long-distance relationship now because he is living overseas for the summer) I decided to take more personal responsibility over my own emotions and officially signed a contract to see a licensed mental health professional while my husband is gone. My very first appointment with my new therapist happened last week, and although I am nervous about being vulnerable with my traumatic past and finally receiving a medical diagnosis, I am also willing to try something new in order to improve my marriage with my husband. 

With that being said, I am not looking for advice about seeing a therapist or how to find the right medication for me. Rather, I am interested in hearing more about other people's experiences (either with BPD directly, or taking care of a loved one who has BPD) that also led to tension in their relationships, but how stronger communication happened over time and their connections grew stronger. Right now, my husband and I have argued repetitively over the phone, for the past several days now, because I honestly feel like he is criticizing me more often as "his problem to be fixed" rather than his equal partner  in marriage who needs his unconditional support. I finally decided to go to therapy, and yet - my husband still seems unsatisfied and he continues to talk about my potential BPD symptoms over the phone, when all I want to do is to have a normal conversation with him about our dog, movies, and so forth.

To give a broader picture, my husband has never been physically abusive towards me. I still care about him, and I don't want to "break up" like so many relationship Reddit posts mention in general. I want to improve my communication with my husband, but our relationship being long-distance has been a challenge.

Thoughts? Please?