I fought with my mom today. I wanted her help talking through something and she cut me off mid-crisis ramble and told me she'd send me money but that's it. I freaked a little and told her I don't want her money that I just want her to be a parent for a minute and quit dismissing my questions and concerns.

Not surprisingly, she didn't love that and said "don't ever talk to me like that again" as if she could do something to me.

She's always like this, though. Whenever I have something I want or need to talk about I go to her because my grandmother isn't around anymore and also she's my mother, so I feel like she should be the one to receive phonecalls like "my car is making x noise, do you think it's nothing or should I take it to a mechanic?" or just to talk about our days. I'll admit I call a lot but I am a person with a lot of questions and concerns, but since I can remember she's almost always blown me off.

If I ask if I should buy a thing or not, she immediately says no before I'm done talking, or without taking any time to weigh the options with me. If I try to have boring "how's your day" conversations she's always busy watching TV or playing games on the computer. But when she has a crisis I'm always there to answer the phone and listen no matter what I'm doing (I've left dinners to talk to her because she called)

I feel righteous in my belief that she should give me a little bit more than shut up money I didn't ask for. Am I wrong to ask that she take the time to actually help me work through things or am I too demanding?

TLDR; Fought with my mom over me not thinking she's filling her role as parent well enough, but I'm concerned that I might actually be too emotionally demanding and I'm the one that needs to be better.