I’m sure something like this has been posted 1000 times so my apologies for the redundancy. 
I’m looking for ways to regulate myself when I start to go too far with my emotions. My husband is so tolerant of me and my need to constantly make sure he’s okay or not mad or irritated with me. I know work is busy and the holiday time is busy, but when I ask “are you alright?” and the answer is yes, but his voice in unconvincing, I have to ask again to make sure, which obviously just grinds on him. After I do it, I know that I didn’t need to keep asking but I can’t get myself to stop when it’s happening. 
Suggestions? I’ve been looking in to DBT but no resources yet. 