For a long time, I thought that…I needed to be in a relationship to feel good about myself. And that if I weren’t, it meant that I’m unattractive, ugly, not desirable, etc. But, as I’ve been in relationships throughout it my 20s, made mistakes, and stuck around for men who weren’t worth my time, it recently dawned on me, 27 years into existing on this planet 😂, THAT I DON’T NEED MEN.

As dumb as it may sound, being on Tik Tok and seeing feminist content and learning about social theory is helping me realize how much of a illusion/social construct it is that women need to find a partner, getting married, etc. Because of this pressure, in the past, I ended in relationships where I settled.

But I now realize…what…can a man provide me that I can’t provide for myself? I have a great job, friends and family, I’m working on love myself, I can easily find a guy if I want sex, sex toys exist, and…I enjoy my own company. 

It’s not about finding a relationship, but the right partner and the right relationship. And we shouldn’t settle for less.