DAE have this problem where it's really hard to dismiss your fear of abandonment or suspicion that something has changed in a relationship as just your bpd talking, since you've been right about it so many times before? i'll think "oh im just being paranoid and insecure thinking that my fiancé has feelings for his coworker, he told me he'd never do anything to jeopardize our relationship and im going to try my best to believe him." and then he cheats on me with the coworker. or i'll think "i feel like something has changed recently and my bf doesnt like me as much anymore, but its probably just my bpd so i should ask him for some reassurance" but then he says im right and breaks up with me. how am i supposed to know the difference between "im projecting my insecurities onto the people in my life" and "there is genuinely a problem that im picking up on"? i feel like im really good at reading people which doesnt help. my fears stem from reality, not just from insecurity, and when ive been proven right so many times it's hard to trust any words of reassurance over my own gut feelings. now i just feel like it'd be delusional for me to dismiss them as false.