aight, so one of my friends has bpd, and she has been getting worse recently. she is feeling like all her friends are abandoning her, and she doesn't really have anyone to talk to.

my questions are mainly about the fave person stuff. ( i have ADHD and autism, both of which delete my ability to catch social cues, so if i say anything dumb thats why lol.)

anyway, would anyone know a way to tell if im becoming her fave person? if im honest i dont think that i am able/deserve to be that person, i mean i try my best but im just me, i dont think im anything special. if shes thinking of me in that way already/starts doing so im not gonna challenge it, but id like to know. with me (this is probably autism speaking but hey) just being around/interacting with someone is a bit of a display of affection, but if i like someone i stick to them like glue. does BPD have a parallel in that kinda "all or nothing" affection?

what ive been doing is listening to her as much as possible, trying to understand her problems and give solutions, trying to comfort her but also challenging circular, vicious-circle types of thinking. is there anything else i should try and do? she doesnt do hugs and stuff, does anyone know a way to let her know i care but not a hug?

also, i whould probably mention that yes, i like her in a romantic sense. ive asked, she has said no, and im fine with it, im still there to help her in the same capacity.

finally, ill pretty often say that im "here to help in whatever capacity/form you want" is the scope of that statement intimidating for people with bpd? (as in "this person will change how they act to help me, i dont have to change")

finally, is there anything that you would want someone to do for you that nobody ever does, so that i can do it with her and try and help.