I have trauma from childhood to youth (arguably now) of men abusing me and noticed that I react strongly against my boyfriend putting me in gender roles like when I’m the only one who does the cleaning and when he sexualizes me. 

With this, we have not had sex in the past few months… properly… and it is primarily because of me. 

I also came out as not straight in the past month when I realized I felt attraction towards someone. 

So I can’t tell if I’m just being triggered by my boyfriend or if I’m straight up a lesbian. This might sound ludicrous that I’m even lumping my sexual orientation into this but I think it’s a crucial consideration as someone who just newly came out and is unsure about this new not straight world.