Hi guys, as the title says, is their any good books that have helped you come to terms with your diagnosis or helped understand yourself better?

Is there any selfhelp book on the subject? I've knocked on many doors and can't seem to find anyone who knows how to help someone with BPD. 

I just want to learn how to better manage my emotions (especially anger and sadness) and how to stop feeling like getting into an argument and criticism means rejection.