If I am curious about something, or am trying to confirm information he previously gave me, or am looking to clarify something, it's always an "interrogation" according to him.

Sometimes I ask the same questions frequently (a couple times a week) because I don't know if he has changed his mind or his view but just hasn't communicated it to me.

Sometimes he says to me "I just won't tell you anything" because I have reacted poorly in the past to him opening up to me or telling me something. So I don't know what is going on with him and I ask the same questions over again.

If he leaves the house when he doesn't want to talk, he tells me "I don't owe you anything", "You don't deserve an answer", "Why don't you think about it", "Learn your lesson", etc. He tells me to consider how fucking annoying and invalidating it is to get asked the same things over and over again as if it meant nothing when he said it the first time. I get his point. But he doesn't get mine. 

He doesn't give me reassurance when I am anxious and he tells me everything is my issue. I know I have problems and that I make situations worse than they need to be by continuing to ask him questions and by not shutting up when he doesn't want to talk, but I know that this isn't all my fault. 

I may have displayed bad behavior patterns and dysfunctional communication patterns in the past, but he refuses to see that he reacts to those old patterns now as if it is happening in real time, even when I have changed my behaviors and try not to do the same dysfunctional things.