And I do not want to. It seems men are attracted to the crazy girl with bpd. Even when I'm minding my business. 
That said, I'm naive and usually end up trying a relationship and getting dumped in 4 weeks because im overbearing ... 

I text way too damn much. And he dumped me because of it. 
So anyway 

Can anyone give me some good tips and ideas of how I can stop doing this? Before I used to isolate and I cant really do that anymore. I want to live my life for myself and not be consumed by the FP. (When it isnt a lover, I have a core group of friends that understands me and lifts me up in a healthy manner so I'm lucky) 
I cant afford DBT or CBT anymore. I live in a rural area, and even the sliding scale doctors are very expensive a visit.

So any coping tips, tricks etc to keep from spiraling and attaching to someone again? I agree this behavior is toxic and I want to do all in my power to change it.

TIA