Advice please. My relationship with my fp/boyfriend of 2 years has been extremely turbulent. Partially due to my BPD outbursts (and many other issues) which I've only just started learning how to handle, and partially due to the problems on his side. Some days we are the world's best team, and others I spend in tears ready to break up because we are that badly incompatible. I really struggle to know when things are actually not working because when I'm upset it feels as if it's been that way forever and vice versa. I guess my question is: how as a person with BPD can I know when breaking up with my partner is the right decision? I don't know how to trust my gut and the thought of breaking up terrifies me, but there's this nagging feeling that won't go away.