Let me start out by saying I (F26) didn’t start driving until a little later than most. I got my permit at 18 and my driver’s license by 19. I’ve been driving for roughly 7 years now, and have always, to some degree, struggled with anxiety while driving.

I always stick to back roads, and even familiar routes sometimes cause moments where I’m close to having a panic attack, although, that’s gotten easier for the most part. I do still struggle a lot with heavy traffic, three lane roads, and highways (specifically with changing lanes, merging, and getting off exit ramps) to the point where I do have full blown panic attacks, because I simply haven’t had the opportunity or support to drive in those areas or on longer trips. My mom (who also has severe driving anxiety) taught me how to drive and we would avoid those areas altogether.

I’ve come to the realization recently that I’d like to move to a bigger city with my partner, and take more opportunities to travel. With this in mind, I realize that I have no choice but to work up to facing my biggest fears of driving in order to achieve my goals and pursue the life I want.

I’ve made an anxiety ladder for exposure therapy, but no one seems to want to go with me on my first few steps to overcome my fear. I feel like the moral support would help, but my partner gets motion sickness, as do my parents, and my friends are all too busy / have different schedules and may not be able to go with me. Does anyone have tips on how to tackle this journey alone? I don’t want my fear to keep holding me back.