I ended a relationship with my partner who might have BPD but is undiagnosed. I’m worried about how they are doing and wanted to explain a bit why I had to go no contact at the end. By contacting them I want to let them know 1) what was going on in my head at the time, and it wasn’t that I didn’t care, I was just terrified they were going to commit suicide and it was traumatizing me 2) they are an awesome, beautiful person worthy of love and happiness 3) once things settle down, they (hopefully) choose life and are happy and secure that I would like them to reach out to me. We have been NC (no contact) for about a month.

What I don’t want is to cause more pain than good. For those who are diagnosed BPD would you please tell me what you think? I was their fp. Thank you.