My boyfriend and I were gonna have wine and cheese on the roof of his apartment for V day. He invited his roommate and roommate’s gf without asking me, which kinda annoyed me but whatever, I didn’t say anything. Anyway, we were on the way home from the store and I found out the roommate was also planning on bringing another friend, and I voiced my annoyance with the situation to my boyfriend. (For context, this is the first time I’ve seen him in three months because of covid &amp; living in other cities, and we’ve spent a lot of time this weekend already with his friends so I kinda just wanted a special thing just for us.) He then snapped at me about how he knows I hate his friends, which isn’t true but I do get very jealous and insecure because they have him all the time and I don’t (also a lot of them are girls and i’m always imagining the worst possible situation or thinking he’s just better off with one of them). 

Anyways I’ve been crying since then and won’t get out of bed and Valentine’s is pretty much ruined. He apologized for snapping and agrees he should’ve asked to invite them, but told me it’s coming from feeling hurt that I’m often critical of his friends. I also think what’s making me more upset is that he’s justified in how he feels and I know I can be so shitty. I am constantly questioning and judging his relationships with his friends because I’m jealous and in another city. He doesn’t understand because he doesn’t have a jealous bone in his body.

Does anyone have advice for dealing with insane jealousy about your FP’s other relationships? I feel like I’m always letting it come between us and that I can’t control it