I'm recently diagnosed BPD and have gone through a breakup (about two months ago, now).  I'm trying to meet new people just for the social life - previous to this, all of my friends were my ex-fiances friends.  As I've tried to meet people I'm finding that a lot of times I end up meeting men, chatting with them, etc. and even though I'm completely honest about my diagnosis and needing platonic relationships - I still feel like it's wrong.  Like maybe the male attention is satisfying the same need I've looked for in all of my relationships - to be validated.  On the other hand...I've always enjoyed having friends of the opposite sex...especially because guys tend to be lower maintenance.  Any suggestions or guidelines about how to handle?  Or what's OK and not OK based on the fact that all of this is still fairly fresh for me?