I'm non-binary and my pronouns are he/they. I am 100% sure about that. The problem is how intense my emotions are and how sensitive I am.

I feel like my gender/pronouns are invalid because of my emotions. It doesn't help that BPD is more common in woman.

I love seeing the posts here from men honestly because it reminds me that not only woman can have BPD and that it's possible to experience everything I do while my gender still being completely valid.

Still, it's something I struggle with a lot. I tend to daydream almost constantly and frequently refer to myself (well, a self-insert type character) as she/her despite how wrong it feels. I usually only use they/them while daydreaming, though I will occasionally automatically use he/him and it makes me feel really happy. I didn't even start using my name until recently.

I love the way I feel when people say my name or actually use he/him pronouns for me, and I know I'd feel so much better if I could just do that for myself in my head.

If the intensity of my emotions wasn't bad enough already, them making me even more upset because of gender stuff certainly doesn't help.