People accuse us of being too judgemental or hypervigilant, and yeah sometimes that's true. Fair enough. But at the same time, anytime anyone hears you have BPD, it's like they label you as worthless. Society turns it's back on us just like the people who gave us BPD.

People with this disorder can be awful and toxic. But the same is true for MANY mental diseases and disorders. It doesn't mean everyone who has that disease belongs in the trash. We don't literally have the same synonymous personality and we all will handle our crazy intense emotions differently. 

So yeah, I have issues, but at least I don't "cancel" abuse victims just because they have the capacity to be awful. EVERYONE has the capacity to be awful. And when you tell someone to ditch their bpd partner because "they're all crazy anyway", then you're the awful judgemental one here.