
Now, before there are any misconceptions, there were no signs, even 2 days prior we bought gifts for our 10 months! 

So to start off I’m 22 she’s 18(both in college) and she has BPD. I have always been a very sentimental person, and have always tried listening and being there whenever I could. We were best friends, friends before we met even. Her parents, friends and family loved me, most importantly, she loved me.

The sex, love, affection, and time together was great! In the beginning everything was great!

We had our issues, mainly with me listening to her speak, however I was getting help and actively trying to help myself. 

She has a therapist at college, but only when it’s in session. So she has no one during her off times. And she sometimes had episodes and dissociated a lot, where she would be in a lot of distress and I would comfort her, and do everything I can to help her. 

To be clear, whenever there was an issue, she wouldn’t bring it up until it was a really big issue, and sometimes it would go over my head. However, after this happened, especially with my own issues, I actively tried to improve on myself, as I wasn’t perfect, but I would never hurt her. 


However, after 10 months, out of nowhere, she ended things. Earlier this week and even in the day, we were fine, nothing wrong at all. 

She explains that she still loves me, but needs to work on herself as she hates herself, and never is her true self(she ‘absorbs’ the emotions of other people, and when they are happy and laughing, she could be too, but not because she shares the same mood). 

During this time, we both were bawling, kept holding, hugging and even kissing each other. 

And I I ask her if there is anything I did, and she says it’s her not me. Which I believe because I asked her at least 30 times. 

And she wants to be friends, after everything we’ve been through! How am I supposed to be okay with that.

Once she leaves, she calls me before bed, asks how I feel, and I respond that I’m not doing so hot I was pretty snappy (which I shouldn’t have been doing not going to lie) and she responds that she isn’t either. And I say I love you, where she replies with I love you too and the call ends. 

Today I text her saying good morning and she blatantly ignores me, posting on social media. Where she replies later with ‘thanks, hope you slept okay too’. 

What gives? Sure I wasn’t perfect, but if it didn’t do anything wrong, why break up with me? I did everything and more I could for this person and it’s over in a short, impulsive decision? I believe this because this week, we were great, having sex, laughing, and more. I feel betrayed. And I still want her back to try and make things work out, because I know it’s possible. 

Any helpful advice? I’m really lost here, as I love this person so much, and I’d do anything to be back with her. I want to be friends and help her through this time, as I believe we can eventually make it work. I can’t move on from her.