I want to be better for my pwBPD and help more effectively. It’s tough, but she deserves the world and I want to do what I can to be more helpful. 

Just trying to get some insight..
Typically, how long do your splitting episodes last? Are they usually about the same length each time or varies greatly?
How often does it happen and are there specific triggers or are they kinda just random?
When splitting, are there ways to make it better quicker? What support do you look for/need when splitting?