so my bf and I have been together for about a year and a half and things have been pretty good but bc we both struggle with mental health issues we can have some uglier moments but we always manage to get through them. Anyways the other day i saw a notification on his phone that one of my friends dmed him on instagram and I asked him what it was about and he told me that she asked him to perform w his band at this event that shes hosting for school which is fine but now im getting worried because he didnt mention this to me until i asked and she never said anything to me either. 

Now i keep getting these intrusive thoughts that hes gonna cheat on me with her and that they have been secretly messaging behind my back and I know that these thoughts could just be irrational but i cant shake them out of my head and I really just wanna tell my bf about these thoughts but i dont want him to think im accusing him of cheating or anything cuz i genuinely dont think he would do that but ugh im just so anxious over this and i dont know why. it feels like my fight or flight got triggered and idk what to do…. i just really dont wanna end up splitting on him about this cuz i let myself ruminate on it too long. 

btw for more context we are both in our 20s