Hey there- hope this is ok to post in here. I’ve recently had some bad gut feelings about a relationship I’m in and I’ve been told to trust them from my therapist and friends. I can’t tell you exactly what the feeling was but just that something wasn’t right in our relationship. My boyfriend has been showing signs of BPD and has been through a lot of trauma in his life. He has said he feels like everyone in his life leaves. I love this man and can see a long life with him, but he is the type that doesn’t believe in therapy and that life will go on.

I am looking for advice in this situation because I don’t want to leave him, but I can’t stay in a relationship that isn’t healthy. How can I help him or talk to him in a way he will understand my concerns? I am not even going to mention BPD because that is not my job or position to do so.

Thank you for any advice.