After learning about splitting, I often wonder if it was a contributing factor that my mom would talk negatively about my dad to me when she was mad at him. It was like I would get upset at him with her and it actually put a bad strain on my relationship with my dad for a solid 5 years. I'd go back and forth between having a favorite parent based on how they were acting to each other, my brother, or to me. And to think I have spent 90% of my life thinking that I had a perfect home life growing up lol.