I totally don't have a type at all

(I am an adult adult, like mid twenties)

One is a professor from undergrad I got close to when I worked in his lab. I've known him for 6 years now. I moved away 3 years ago and he's continued to send me "good morning sunshine" and "good night, hugs and love" text messages almost every day since then. The "sunshine" is ironic, because I am very much not a morning person and he knows this. The first six months or so I would have A Meltdown when he got busy and missed one, but now I don't even really notice and I don't take it personally. I respond some of the time. It's nice to have that consistency and know he hasn't forgotten about me and still cares. 

**BDSM CW**  
The other is much more recent and a very different kind of relationship. With the prof it's 100% platonic and non sexual. The other is a dom I met in the BDSM community. Our relationship isn't primarily sexual, but there's definitely that component to some degree. He has commented on finding me attractive, and when we're actually doing a scene together he'll touch me and kiss my neck and stuff. But it's not about getting off and we don't have sex. 

We met in the spring, but we've started talking more since then, including daily for a month or two. We're now at the point where I get a good morning message (and a reminder to eat and take my meds) and a good night message every day. He calls me "pet" and "little one" and I just want to curl up in his arms and feel safe. 

He's "safe" because he's married so he's not going to fall in love with me or look for me to be his everything, but his wife also knows about all of this and is okay with it and there aren't any secrets. 

God I love that kind of caretaking attention. Like tell me you want to protect me and hold me and call me "sweetie" and all that good shit. Remind me to take my meds and tell me you're proud of me when I tell you about some accomplishment. Tell me you care about me and I'm special to you.