maybe this is a bpd thing, maybe not, but apparently i’m like..super bad at being a friend. 

essentially, my friend was feeling insecure today about her weight and how she isn’t as thin as she used to be in high school.

i was trying to give her advice? maybe a pep talk? looking back, i’m not sure what it was, but i said: “of course you aren’t going to be as thin as you used to be. you’re growing up, that’s what happens.” i also mentioned that she’s lucky that she got weight in her boobs and ass even if it meant some in her stomach area too. 

i also told her that if she felt super insecure, to change her shirt,,, if she wasn’t comfortable in what she was wearing, why wear it?

my friend was talking to her girlfriend on facetime during this, and then her girlfriend proceeded to call me a bad friend. i guess i was saying it in a bitchy way? it didn’t FEEL mean and i still don’t feel like it warrants me being a bad friend??

i told them sorry, if they want emotionally open people maybe i’m not the best one. my friend then said “i only have emotionally repressed friends” so i snapped and told her to make new friends (that ones on me)

anyways. i feel like?? it wasn’t a big deal? but apparently i was being Mean? maybe it’s a tone i didn’t pick up on? does anybody else w bpd feel as if they come across meaner than they intend? am i overthinking this???