Hey everybody, I wanted y'all's take about my recent "breakup" and if y'all had any advice for me.

We were good, everything happy until a couple months ago.  At that point she started being condescending and starting short arguments that she would then just say she was upset and needed space for a couple days.

One week I decided to surprise her with dinner at the yoga bar she was at.  Done this a couple times before, she loved it.  This time she didn't talk, and after a while told me she was going home and maybe I should go stay at my place that night instead of her place.  I asked her about it the next day and she told me I had disrespected her by taking the decision away from her for me to be there.  That was just out of nowhere.

Later that day she said she was getting the flu and wanted me to come take care of her.  I took care of her for three days, giving her pills, massaging the cramping areas, then holding her until she fell back asleep.  On the third day she wanted to go out with a fever, I said that wasn't a good idea, she said she was going to do it anyway and was I going to join her.  I told her no, I wanted to go home for a bit and sleep but to text me when she was done and I'd come back to take care of her.  I got the text about an hour later saying she was feeling horrible.  I said I'd be right over and she told me she wanted to be alone.  A few days later she tore into me about being sick, I asked her what the deal was, and she said she was sick and overwhelmed and needed to take a step back in the relationship.  I said that was fine and just text me when she was feeling better.

She would text me once a day with random stuff.  I responded when it seemed like she wanted a response.  A week later my friends told me she was telling people I was stalking her.  I texted her asking what was going and nothing.  I ran into her at a bar we frequent a week later and asked what was up with the stuff she was telling people and she started yelling in the bar saying our relationship was over and get over it.

I asked her ex husband what was going on and he said she was diagnosed borderline when they were trying to save their marriage and going to counseling, but she refused the diagnosis and didn't want to go to therapy. Her "best friend" then told me that she had burned all the bridges with her friends before and had claimed other guys had stalked her, though not someone she was seriously dating.  She said they all were hoping a good relationship would help with things.

I'm not entirely sure what to do.  Her new friends hate me, when she runs into me she gives me the absolute worst look like why do I exist.  I miss her and want her to get out of this stage with me and want her to get help if she can.  My contract psychologist told me to stay away if she refuses treatment, and her ex husband said the same.

What do y'all think I should do?  Is there any way to remedy this?