Two months ago I lost 2 long friendships, because I confronted my friend.
I lost a friendship of mine that started from my teen years. I dated him. Ended up marrying his cousin who I have two children with we later divorced. So, we had a far back history.
I feel he got angry and hurt because I confronted him about his actions involving young girls. 
Besides upsetting me, his actions also caused recent CPS investigations on at least two occasions in the last two years. CPS, yes got involved, as well and as law enforcement. But I don't think he was charged with those two incidents.
I have witnessed things myself, As well as other family. 
I started confronting his girlfriend (now wife) about it a year ago. She said she would keep an eye on things. She claimed I was her best friend.
In my opinon of what I saw, and what came out in the form of new and past allegations, things got worse. 
 I saw and was made aware of this man putting himself and young girls, In positions they should not be put in. I personally witnessed teen girls sitting on his lap over and over, hugging, etc. Him being strangely and awkwardly affectionate with a teenage girl him and his wife were "mentoring." I sware to this day I saw him kiss her on the lips. Him his girlfriend at the time and this young girl who he was mentoring we're at my house for a Christmas party, Several people were weirded out by the behavior between the two of them. They seemed weirdly affectionate to each other and she was very physically Bring me to him, and I swear I saw him kiss on the mouth her in a room where they thought no one else could see.
 This really freaked me out bad and upset me a lot I brought it to my husband's attention he said he was weirded out by their interactions at the party but he did not see them Kiss because my husband was in a different room, and he didn't know what to think and didn't want to think anything bad Was really going on. But he said he felt along with others that there was a weird "vibe" between him and The teenage girl .
 I had a direct conversation with his girlfriend and she said She acknowledged that the girl and him were overly affectionate to each other and that she had just had a conversation with the girl about it the other day. She told me she was going to keep an eye on the situation.
 
There have been allegations made, at least a couple legals ones, some just verbal. But the husband and wife discredit them.
I feel, with our country now in the Me 2 Movement, A man has to know that there are certain things and actions you just Just don't do. Especially when it does keep causing issues to come up in pre teen and teenage girls. 
 When I personally confronted him, of course, he was hurt and angry with me. I honestly don't remember everything that was said because I was so upset at the time.  I think because I have "known him long enough to know that he wouldn't do that." I have? REALLY???
His Actions speak louder than his words. 
Other people around me have seen him demonstrate the behaviors that are pretty questionable. 
These girls obviously have their personal reasons to allegate against too. He needs toStop putting everyone in horrible positions.
The people I know that have witnessed what he does and has done, are also well aware of all of the allegations that have EVER come up against this person. Its NOT just once, but excuses are made by family, etc.
 He decided to block me on social media Within 24 hours of me confronting him, because it was easier than to having to man up and talk about it, Say at a different time and potentially work through it with me. 
 Then he retaliated against me, by trying to drive a wedge between my husband and I. It didn't work. 
 Then he and his wife blocked one of my sons on social media And basically banned him from coming to his wedding Instead of having an adult conversation with him. I feel this makes him and his wife both cowards. 
 My son had absolutely nothing to do with anything that went down between The two of them and myself. They honestly upset my son at the time, pretty badly. 
At this point my two sons and myself see him as a cowardly predator who can't and won't face his truths.
One of my sons has told me he is done hearing about all of the allegations and he intends on informing his grandmother who is also this person's aunt that he is just done with everyone en that side of the family because he's tired of the allegations and he intends on telling her everything if she tries to contact him again. He has made up his own mind on the issues he's seen and heard of.
 I'm done. There's never going to be a reconciliation the bridge is burnt.
But I feel the need to walk away with him knowing why I feel this way based on his actions.
I was told this person is afraid that I'm going to let the motorcycle club members in the club we both belong to, know about the allegations, etc. Because if that were to happen several things could happen to him, he could get into a physical altercation with the Members, and or he could be kicked out of the club all together. As they are a social club that is dedicated to helping children. So that's why he did what he did to me in regards to blocking me And telling my husband that him and his wife don't feel comfortable coming out to our house anymore if I'm here. 
I am absolutely ok with that, I don't want them here ever again. But to me that also screams paranoia on so many levels.
I have actually been grieving over the ending of the friendship and relationship.
Though we have known each other for a very long time, it still makes me sad that it can no longer be, that things will not be worked out. 
I cannot just completely walk away from these 2 people. They are still going to be involved in different aspects of my life. My husband has made the choice to remain friends and will continue to hang out with them. I feel that they will unknowingly potentially, sway me from doing some things that make me happy and doing things I enjoy with my husband. Such as going to meetings and rides with the club know that the two of them will be there.
That is bullshit, it shouldn't be that way, but the feelings and emotions are very strong and still raw for me. 
 There are always two sides to every story and this is my side.
On the 25th of November, I sent him a registered certified, return receipt letter. Basically covering most of what I've said here. It is at this point, important to me that he understands exactly where I was coming from and how I feel about everthing that has happened. 
The letter tracking indicates that either no one was home or an authorized person wasn't there to recieve the letter. Which means it went to his local post office. Where he would have to pick it up. I don't believe he will, I'm sure the mail card had the name and or address on it. The letter will probably be sent back to me in 7 days. I told my husband this, and said I will find a way to get it to him, even if I have to drive it there, he just laughed. Honestly, I'm kinda at a loss on what to do now. I still feel the same. I don't know whether I should Just try to wait a week or two and unpack this with a new therapist that I'm starting at, or what.