Hello everybody! I am in need of advice regarding my GF of 1 year who has BPD. (We are 25M and 21F)

For background, we started the relationship spending pretty much 24/7 together. We both played the same games and enjoyed playing them together, so we never really had a reason to not be on the phone or together. but this has lead to an eventual dark path with our relationship so far.

In particular we are very different(in mbti standards i am entp and she infp if that helps), i’m a social butterfly, love to make new friends, experience new people, i’m generally outgoing to the strangers we run into, and have no issues slotting into a group. 

She however is very different, she dislikes groups, is very very aggressive towards strangers, gets very upset if the opposite gender even speaks to me.. going as far as to outright bully them. her actions and behaviors can genuinely astonish me at times, but i try to be as empathetic as possible to reason and understand her behaviors as i do love her. 

Now… these things would be far easier to handle if i only had to deal with it in moderation… however, my buggest issue is that i absolutely CANNOT get ANY space, and i need to know how to communicate this to her without causing any sort of melt down. She outright refuses to not be on call with me at all times of the day, and if i interact with other people while we play, the tantrum can be too much for me to handle. I want to make it work but i aM seriously at witts end. 

How do i communicate to my BPD gf that i need more space for this relationship to work? 

(Note: I have tried to communicate this to her, but she has gone as far to text the owner of my company, my family members, ir hurting herself. I am afraid of trying to do anything that may hurt her feelings. what do?)