My (25F) gf (20F) and I are long distance. She recently started a job two weeks ago at a animal shelter. Since then she has pulled away even during days off. She used to love being on FT with me when just doing things now I get maybe 2-3 hours a week. She calls me stupid and gets angry whenever I cry or express any problem with how her actions hurt me or try to come up with a solution. She brushes it off saying “do you even know how in person relationships work? They don’t spend this much time together.” 

She has now started working out, dressing up more, and she mentioned a specific person at work a lot before now it’s not so much. She doesn’t say I love you much anymore.

I want to ask if their is someone else but she knows I have BPD and just calls me paranoid while getting mad I would even question her. She basically yells at me and tells me I’m horrible for questioning her and never actually answers anything. Not very reassuring.

She also used to FT on the way to work and back and on breaks now I’m a bother to be there…. I cant even ask for reassurance or she gets mad at me for wanting more than a distracted “I love you most” as she ignores me for TikTok’s, her friend, or her video games. 

I love her and want what we had even three weeks ago.