I’m not sure if this is the right place to post this but I hope someone can give me some perspective here. 

My partner and I have been arguing a lot lately because I feel like she doesn’t understand my mental health issues and the processors involved with them (I have been diagnosed with cptsd, bpd and adhd). 

I genuinely don’t feel comfortable talking about my struggles that come along with these disorders, every time I open up to her and ask for support, she will say something along the lines of “you are in control you just give into your impulses” or “you just need to unlearn your ptsd triggers and not give into them” 

I understand that she is trying to resolve my problem by telling me to think rationally about the situation but it’s easier said then done, and then I get pretty heated because I feel like she lacks empathy especially in these moments when I’m triggered, for example I’ll get started making dinner by doing dishes and food prep, she will stare at me while I do this task and this is a very specific trigger for me because my father would do similar things and then it would lead to psychical and verbal abuse from him. 

I request her to please tone it down with the staring and judgment as it sends me into an episode. 

This is just one example of the many things she does that triggers either my cptsd or bpd. 

I’m not sure if this is me overanalysing the situation or if this is abusive behaviour on her part, any insight would be greatly appreciated. Thank you, take care.