i’ve read lots about how other people with bpd experience the “unstable identity” symptom, but one thing i haven’t found much on is how a borderline person’s feeling of not knowing who they are bleeds into identifying their sexuality and gender.

i publicly identify as queer and trans with friends and close family, but i’ve questioned my logic behind them over and over since i landed on those labels more than a decade ago.

even with things like sexuality and gender that are so personal and important, i feel a general disconnect to, similar to the rest of my identity. something about each label (and the life behind it) obviously pulls me to identify accordingly, but there’s a constant questioning going on in the back of my mind and i’m often left insecure about how i identify when it comes to sexuality and gender. i consistently come back to the worry that i’m essentially appropriating something that isn’t mine, because i don’t feel like a real, individual entity with my own opinions or wants.

obviously, this continuously stresses me out :^) and i was wondering if anyone can relate, because i honestly feel super shitty at times interacting with other queer and trans people. i just feel like a fake whenever it comes to identifying myself in any way at all.