I was told I emotionally abused a church for years.  I've gone through old email correspondences (we communicated mainly online, long story) and what I see is me having valid confusions, my confusion being described as lacking their Spirit...otherwise I wouldn't be confused, me having a breakdown once a month because I was so confused and I'd send an email describing my pain and confusion, them regularly thinking I was accusing them of things (for example, I would share feeling cut off and they'd think I was talking about them but really talking about God....), and my desperate sense over many years that they really didn't understand what was happening to me internally.  

Towards the end, I felt like I would receive contradictory communications from them and I'd point it out.  

In the end they said I heaped abuse on them for years.  That I was trying to destroy their Church.