Our people don’t trust us. For as long as they can remember we’ve been up for anything. Or so it seems. Really we just are afraid to say no. So when we begin to heal and start saying the dreaded NO, our people get upset.  They get sad, angry, confused. They may back off and avoid us altogether for a while. We can’t let this stop us from setting limits, and sticking to them.  Just because someone doesn’t understand our journey doesn’t make it invalid. These people are relying on their experience from their own lives.  Nothing more. So take what they say with a grain of salt. Let them be angry. They’ll come around - they love us. They just have been hurt too.