Hi everyone 
I’m posting here for the first time as me and my girlfriend have been looking at this subreddit for some time(since she was diagnosed with BPD around a month ago) and she’s been battling with her mental health for about 7 years now and we’ve only recently discovered that it’s BPD. I really do want her and I want to help her no matter what the circumstances are, she means everything to me and she’s done way more for me than anyone in my life ever has, she doesn’t deserve anymore toxicity especially after her past relationships, I don’t want to repeat that cycle for her and then she ends up hating me, because I know I’m different to them but I want to make her the happiest person in the world because she’s genuinely amazing.

We are still starting things off but we can tell that there’s something deep that I feel for her but sometimes I say really stupid stuff. I sometimes will say something impulsively without thinking which is something I personally need to work on myself however when I say things that are inconsiderate or when I compare her situation it gets her really angry or because she has BPD she feels everything at once which is very hard for her, she can’t control it and even if she could I would still understand why she’s angry at me, because sometimes I can be an asshole without being aware that I’m being one but I realise what I do is wrong after all the time and instantly regret it  because it is wrong and I would hate it if someone did that to me, I try to correct myself because she deserves that. I don’t want to put her through anything but good memories and happy times and she cares a lot and I do as well because I want to learn and become better for her because I genuinely think she might be my Soulmate which is something other people have mentioned in the past.

I know that BPD makes people think and feel all emotions at once at a really high intensity and that it can affect your mood an attachments so sometimes we talk for a long time just trying to sort things out, I’ve realised that time and space can help her but I sometimes can’t live with myself seeing her in pain and do nothing about it so I have to try and get involved somehow. I also know that she sometimes says things to me she doesn’t mean which is why I never take anything to heart because I know deep down she cares and thinks about me a lot, which is why after a little bit of time and thinking things go back to normal and we are fine again.

I don’t want to keep doing this to her and I’m willing to change and become better for her because she deserves the best and only that.

Does anyone have any advice that could possible help us a little because we are both still learning about BPD and how it affects her.

She’s everything to me and if she’s reading this then hey chica ❤️