
My husband has had to do everything for the past 10 years  - my mental health was in the toilet from depression, anxiety, panic attacks.  I’d had these challenges since I was a kid but there were big chunks of time / most of the time together - that depression was my only challenge. I mean, the agoraphobia didn’t disappear and there were no large gatherings for me in several years but…

Cooking, cleaning sometimes, shopping, doing all the driving. I became house bound  and I wouldn’t even go out to dinner with him.

I had several major breakthroughs in the last month. The panic attacks are gone???!!! And among them was realizing that he was a caretaker instead of a husband. There’s lots to unpack and he wasn’t a saint when he had an emotional affair, but….

I need to step up and acknowledge what he has gone through, and that I finally realize that. Apologize. Of course my actions were not purposeful, but the result was the same.  That’s part of my healing, and hopefully some of his. 

TL;dr -  I need help knowing how to express gratitude to my husband/caregiver for taking care of me for 10 years. I had no idea the strain he was under. I get it now, and I need to tell him I get it and that I’m sorry.