It’s been almost 2 years since me and my best friend stopped being friends. Over the last few months of our relationship my friend had been spending less and less time with me, while I became more and more jealous of the people she was hanging with, and would blame myself and constantly worry that I wasn’t good enough for her. 

I don’t want to get into the details but I eventually had a big self harm episode over our fallout and she doesn’t want to hang out with me. Her words were essentially she still cares about me but that she’s got her own life to live and she can’t deal with the baggage and attention that I require. 

It’s been 2 years and I still think about her. Almost every other day she pops into my head and I miss her. 

I’ve tried making new friends but things haven’t really been working out. Either there’s no real connection or I’ll become too attached too soon and get clingy, or i’ll second guess myself and worry that I’m becoming too clingy and then distance myself or start idolising the person and then feel hurt when they don’t live up to my expectations ect ect.

Regardless anyone have any advice or tips for how to get over people you still care about who just aren’t in your life ?