I was just in a subreddit about abusive partners and reading through the comments on a post of a man with an abusive partner. It was fine up until I came across two (separate) comments stating she must have BPD and is abusing him. I reported it to the subreddit but it’s just hard. I understand there are those of us who have BPD and are abusive people, but it doesn’t mean every manipulative and abusive person has BPD. I hate the new wave of armchair psychologists who read a few symptoms and automatically think they have the ability to diagnose anyone, let alone a stranger on the internet they’ve never met or interacted with. I’m tired of the stigma, I’m tired of the weirdos who had a bad interaction with an ex who they were never told has BPD but blaming it on BPD anyway because it’s easier than just admitting the person they dated was a bad and abusive person without the need of a personality disorder. Sorry this is so long and badly written, I just needed to vent because it’s overwhelming and it really does hurt my feelings to see. It makes me never want to disclose that I have BPD to people out of fear that any time I mess up, it’ll make people point fingers at my PD.