I’ve noticed that my experiences with splitting on others goes one of two ways. Either I’ll split on someone when negative feelings are stewing and then idealize them again once I’m feeling better... Or, I’ll split on someone and remain that way with that specific person, not caring about them anymore and ceasing to put any effort into the relationship. I don’t want to end up splitting on people who mean a lot to me and, as a result, lose them indefinitely...