I can never detach from people I like even if I know they’re abusing me. I just desperately want them to stay in my life because I don’t want to be alone. So I  people please and let them abuse me while I slowly develop resentment towards them. Sometimes I end up exploding, sometimes they just abandon me. I tend to think about the person even after they abandon me, and eventually I try to get back in contact with them. Sometimes I detach myself from them out of fear of being hurt and then I desperately try to get them back into my life (though it never works). This lack of being able to detach is a big causer of stress, anxiety, and depression in my life. I just wish I could detach.