Hello,

Like many of you I'm sure, I struggle hugely with uncertainty. Right now, I'm at a point in my life where I am about to leave university, meaning I have no idea where in the country I will be, where my boyfriend will be, what our lives will look like etc. It's currently sending my anxiety through the roof! Any talk of the future and him talking about jobs makes me want to crawl under a rock in denial. More generally, I struggle with uncertainty, but a lot of it focuses around my relationship (probably due to the ROCD), but I also have fears generally - will i enjoy my job? will I make friends? will I be miserable?

How can I learn to live with this uncertainty of life? My current strategies are a) try not to think about it and avoid thinking about it as much as possible b) try to plan for things I can't plan for yet (.e.g. ask my boyfriend where he thinks he'll end up - he has no idea as he hasn't got any job offers yet). Neither strategy is useful. Does anyone have any tips they've learnt along the way, of how to cope better with periods of uncertainty, or any books/resources they would recommend for me? This is a skill I know I need to learn.

tl;dr tips for learning to cope with uncertainty