Ive seen that the most important thing you can do if you’re in a relationship with someone with bpd is to let them know that you are there for them and to learn as much as you can about the illness and what it puts them through. Honestly, I could probably teach a graduate level course on BPD with the amount of information I’ve learned to try and better understand what she’s going through.


Ive been talking to/going on dates with a girl with bpd for about 9 months now. We’ve both let each other know how strongly we feel about each other multiple times, but she is afraid of a relationship because of past experiences and the idea of something she does potentially hurting me. 


This past week, after talking to one of my friends who also has BPD about the situation, I decided I would tell her all of my feelings for her. I tried setting up a time to speak on the phone with her on Monday, and she said “sure I’ll call after work”. Towards the end of her shift, I sent her a “get home safe” type text which she unfortunately did not even open until Wednesday. I asked my friend for advice and she said that it might even be a good idea to send a voice message because this is something better done with voice rather than text.
So Yesterday, I told her how much I like her and care about her, how much I’ve learned about what she’s going through, how much she means to me, and how ill always be there for her. My friend with BPD let me know that this all might be overwhelming for her and that she may not respond, but that I should do it anyway because it’s important to do and show her how strongly I truly feel about her. 


Fast forward to today, and my friend was unfortunately right with her not responding. She opened the message and I’m unsure if she listened to the voice message. I have a strong feeling that I overwhelmed her with my messages, regardless of if she listened or not, and I was wondering how to proceed.


I really care about this girl. She is incredible in every way and when we’re together, everything just feels so easy and so right. What more can I do?