Hi all; been doing lots of BPD reading recently. I’m realizing my partner likely was misdiagnosed with cPTSD and actually has (quiet) BPD. 

Honestly this makes me feel so relieved, like I finally know the best way to support her. Her emotions are not irrational (which is how cPTSD manifests usually—assuming things that aren’t there), they’re just extremely intense forms of rational responses. And it’s not that she has a crush she can’t get over on our friend (we’re poly, it’s ok), it’s that he’s her FP right now and there’s lots of resources for that and ways to build that relationship in a healthy way. 

I was not discounting her feelings entirely before but I definitely felt like I couldn’t understand why even though she knew she was safe now, she was still having such extreme reactions and fears of abandonment that weren’t being resolved with cPTSD style coping and resources. 

I just feel like knowing this and where her reactions and feelings stem from make me so much more able to look towards the right resources to understand where she is coming from and how to be a good partner. I just thought this would be a good place to share.