so i feel like i need to start pretending to be confident. i see a lot of pple on here talk about how they put on a different personality for people and i don’t do that so maybe that’s why no one ever stays with me. i don’t try to message people to just have a convo because i feel like they don’t want me to (like i met a dude from tinder and hung out w him and he was really cool and yeah we fucked and we aren’t looking for anything serious but idk if it’s weird to want to talk to him when i’m bored?). he hasn’t told me not to talk to him or anything like implying it so i feel like i shouldn’t care? i should message him if i want and if he doesn’t wanna talk to me, then he won’t. right?? i have no idea actually lol. i know that ///i/// personally wouldn’t be annoyed bc someone wanted to talk to me so why should he ? the worst that can happen is i annoy some random dude and we don’t talk anymore, so why am i so scared??? i feel like i come off as a friend. bc i don’t see myself as being someone that someone else could Like? i see myself as a random girl in their life they chat with until they find the girl they like. because that’s how it usually is. but it may be the way i act?? like i need to put myself out there more and flirt and act interested in people? i come off as uninterested because i’m scared they’ll think i’m weird and obsessive if they think i like them, because obvs they wouldnt like me. pretty sure it’s the bpd though because LOGICALLY why would i not be a potential girlfriend/friend for someone? i’m funny and there’s definitely uglier people that have relationships so. if you can’t tell i overthink a lot :b idek if any of this made sense it’s just kinda my current thoughts and was curious if anyone else relates :)