Hey everyone,

Needing some advice.. 

I’ve struggled with BPD since my early teens but just as of the past few years I’ve really realized how it effects me. I’m in a relationship now for almost four years and I’ve never told my partner I have BPD, in the beginning I was embarrassed to but as time has gone on, I just feel like it’s too late to. Also, he is incredibly understanding so I don’t want him to ever use my BPD as a reason why I say/ do certain things. In general, we have a great relationship but there are times when we argue, usually I’m triggered by something. When we argue I usually say something I don’t mean at all, and I’m just tired of not being able to control what I say and not understanding why I do the things I do. After this for weeks/ months I feel guilty and resent myself for the way I treated him. How should I go about telling my partner I have BPD? Should I? I just don’t want to say something that’s irreversible and does serious damage to the relationship.