When I get into conflict with let’s say my boss, friend, family member, spouse etc. I have very hard time to manage my feelings or avoid being reactive.

Any thing, big or small, puts me on defensive. I feel the conflict is critical and see myself leaving the company, leaving the spouse, cutting off family members etc.

I can’t let the thing be. I need to solve it immediately. I go through the discussions and my points in my head on repeat. I can’t do anything else. My body goes on flight or fight mode etc.

Does this sound familiar? And if yes, how do you cope with conflicts?