So my girlfriend has ADHD. She lost her keys truck yesterday (still missing). I spenall morning cleaning the main floor to try and find them for her. I watched her sit upstairs as I looked, down stairs as I looked, and then on the main floor as I looked/cleaned.

She asked to borrow my car, which would have made my day not possible.. And got mad, then stormed away from me. Our babysitter (who is a friend of us both) arrived and then she asked me to drop her off somewhere, which would make me late... And I got upset.  I said "what bubo you should be looking for your keys! You haven't looked at all. You sat downstairs, you sat upstairs, and you sat on the main floor while I cleaned all of this to try and help you find them while you did nothing". Conversation ended and I went to work.

Last night she told me she wants me to apologize for belittling her in front of her friend. I said he was a mutual friend and rolled over frustrated. It felt like it was gaslighting. I don't feel like I should apologize and don't know what to do, or if I should just do nothing.

I get she doesn't want to look bad in front of someone else.. But asking me to do her an impossible favour in front of someone did the same thing to me.... I have now spent the whole day feeling like I'm a piece of garbage and flopping between believing I'm in the right and being the bad person here.