So a little info I'm 25 F with borderline and the friend is 32 M
Sorry it's long. 


I was upset at a friend bc I thought I heard him talking behind my back. I've never had delusions before and I was not looking to cause trouble so I just left. On Friday (almost a week later) I called him to talk about it and he said he did not say those things and sent me a call log. So I thought jeez what if I am going crazy? And that just kinda left me feeling weird and freaking a little if I was going crazy or not.

He said he was coming home from LA on Friday (I live in San Diego he lives in Carlsbad) and wanted to see if I could come up to where he lives to talk things out. I told him if I was not feeling too tired I would go and see him but I've been having physical health issues that just leave me super tired so after work I just came home and slept.

Today I was doing laundry and about to go out to lunch with my dad when my friend texts me. Saying that he drove down 120 miles for nothing and saying I made him lose $1200 from missing work today. I did not know he came down just to see me and I did not know he missed work to see me. I told him I didn't know but he got mad and said we were over and I wasn't worth losing apparently $4000 a month to come see me. He has never told me he has come home from LA to just see me since he said sometimes he would come home and sometimes not, I thought he came home to take care of stuff at his place or just be away from LA. Then he blamed me for knowing and saying he explained it to me when I swear he did not. I called him out for trying to manipulate me cause I know what I heard because I was sitting in my car listening to him on the freaking phone. There were no loud noises or anything to deter me from hearing him correctly. I've also had guys try to use my borderline to manipulate me in the past like by never talking fault for what they have done and just blamed my borderline for making me crazy when they do something to hurt me or like changing the story to mess with my head and I just didn't want to put up with it anymore so I worked on recognizing it. I've actually had an ex bf say in the past when my friend was off on another tirade that my friend was indeed trying to manipulate me so I'm not going crazy on this. So he ended the friendship and you know what? I am happy with that. I do not need toxic people in my life. I am working on my physical and mental health and trying to build a healthy support system. So hopefully this will be a good thing.