My partner is well aware of my BPD and has been kind enough to do some research on it to understand more of me and how to help. 

But I keep feeling like they guilt trip me. I’m currently not working and they are, so during the day responses are sparse. They got on break and messaged me, to which I was busy grocery shopping not looking at my phone. Before their break ended they said “oh okay have a nice day…” which just makes me feel immense guilt. This has happened multiple times now, and I’ve brought up how this hurts me. 

I said “I’m sorry I was busy grocery shopping for my family which is why I didn’t get to respond.” They in return said “it’s fine have a nice day.” They never use full stops and I barely do.

I understand that it’s their chance to talk to me, but I’m not always available as I help my family a lot. Please let me know if I’m being out of reach or not :(