My fiancée and I have been together for 3 years, in that time I have always been good at setting boundaries and helping her through breakdowns and just generally managing when she's having a bad day. But lately it seems like all her breakdowns are directed at me, like when she freaks out she picks on all the slightest things I've done wrong and no matter how small they become the biggest issues in the world and they're all my fault. While she's in the midst of the breakdown anything I say or do her bpd just twists around and turns against me, everything is a lie and I don't really love her and she makes sure I know it. I love this woman with all my heart she means the world to me, I understand the illness that she has, she's working on getting better in therapy and I used to be able to help her though her hard days because I wasn't the target of her bpd if any of that makes any snese at all and things I did that used to help and help me set boundaries with her just seem to make it worse now. Its becoming harder on my mental health to keep up with all of this.