Long post, sorry. Hi. I (19M) am in a relationship with my boyfriend (18M). Been dating for 2.5+ years with minimum issues, and we have great communication and always talk things out, value each other’s feelings and opinions, and overall have very few scuffles. Really, he’s a great guy and I’m lucky to be with him. 
I’m borderline and he’s my FP. It doesn’t cause any major issues (...most of the time, lol) and he knows he’s my FP as well. He’s very supportive of me and tries really hard to work alongside my more extreme symptoms (jealousy, emotional instability, etc), but he himself doesn’t have BPD.
Some of our biggest problems these past years have stemmed from my BPD symptoms, like jealousy and emotional impermanence. I have moments where I have very intense breakdowns over pretty small things, and while we talk things through, I know he can’t understand how I feel. He’s really kind, but I know he can’t put himself in my shoes since he’s not borderline. I feel really bad and annoying asking for extra things like, “I know you’re busy but can you try texting back quicker?” or “Can you invite me to do more things with you?” Because small things like that really matter to me, but seem a little silly to him. 
I’m working on my issues, I promise lol. But at the same time, I really want him to understand where I’m coming from. I don’t want to be seen as some abusive freak who tries to control his boyfriend. I definitely don’t want him of all people to see me that way.
So... Any advice on how I can help him understand my BPD more and what it means for him to be my FP? Like maybe some articles or something, idk? I really have no idea here. I want to try and have clearer communication about it. At the end of the day, I just want him to see my perspective and understand how I feel — To understand that I feel and experience things differently than him and have different needs. Y’know?
TLDR; I’m borderline and my boyfriend isn’t. We don’t always see eye to eye because of this. While I am working on finding better ways to cope, how can I help my boyfriend understand my BPD symptoms, my intense emotions, and what it means for him to be my FP?
Thank you guys if you read/comment.