I'm in a 6 month relationship with a 37M, I'm a 25F. I work with him on the same shift, I'm in a department higher than him so I don't have to see him ALL night, but we take breaks and carpool together. This weekend they asked me to work days and as bad as I hate to say this it was like a breath of fresh air. We've been attached at the hip for months and honestly I enjoyed my little break. I still miss him of course but I was going to spend the night with my mom tonight and go back to his apartment tomorrow. I was in a bit of a distant mood but I had some family stuff on my mind. He picked up on it and took it the wrong way. 
He called me 4 times while he was at work last night, about once an hour. The last time I talked to him he was crying his eyes out, and begged me to come home tomorrow so we can "talk about whatever's wrong with us. We'll talk about everything." I told him over and over, dude it has nothing to do with you, we're okay, I want to spend time with my mom and help her around the house.
"Oh, so you're just gonna lie to me like that." What!! Motherfucker why would I lie about somethibg like that!! If we had problems you would know because we PRIDE ourselves on talking everything out. Like people have been pointing stuff out to me - he gets mad when I talk to other men on the shift (it's a small place and only 3 women on my shift speak English, and one of them I avoid like the plague, plus I'm just being friendly and doing my job); he gets mad if I can't take break with him; he gets mad if he sees me cuss or get a little overwhelmed because it's embarrassing to him. I understand his ex is the reason he's like that but in his words, golly bum baby. (He's from Guatemala, and the way he says that is really cute. But anyway!) Plus, I'm the first white girl he's ever dated, and I'm a girly tomboy, really nerdy... There's still just so much about me he doesn't understand yet, and since my work ethic (and thunder thighs) initially attracted him part of me is afraid he's seeing who he wants to see, good or bad, rather than ME. Does that make sense?

I'm not perfect. Hell, I'm on this sub... That should tell you enough. But for transparency's sake, I'll say that I smoke, I cuss, I still smoke pot once in a blue moon, I'm moody under stress, and I have an unhealthy fascination with Animal Crossing. 

Like it's not all bad. He's funny and smarter than he gives himself credit for and handsome to boot. But this little situation has alarmed me. Maybe it's normal and watching my dad call my mom blaring Dwight Yoakam and making suicidal threats made a mark on me. Idk. His childhood was rough too. It's just... Confusing. 

Can anyone relate? Thoughts? 
