I find that I have a really hard time communicating with my partner because I’m so dominated by the rage. What’s happened is that once things have calmed down and the calamity has stopped, we move on and I have things that are unresolved. Now, I know that my bpd often amplifies my insecurity, makes me paranoid, etc. but if my partner tells me I’m “bpding out” I just lose my damn mind. It’s not a productive reaction and I’m just trying to figure out how to communicate better and what I need during those times. 

I’m looking for people to share what works and what doesn’t as a means to consider them for my own situation. I’m really overwhelmed right now. 

Thank you! 