Whilst calmly discussing my latest emotional meltdown with my FP, and trying to explain why his asking me "why I'm upset" doesn't go down well, we had the following exchange:

Him: Talking it through like this is far easier and more rational though isn't it?

Me: But I can't do that when I'm right in the middle of it.

Him: Well I'm bloody glad you can now. 

Me: It feels physically painful. It's like if you were on fire and I asked you to explain to me in detail WHY you were on fire instead of trying to put it out. You wouldn't do very well at answering me I'm sure... You'd probably just shout at me "FOR FUCK'S SAKE I'M ON FIRE!"