The title is pretty self explanatory I guess. I've had such a repetitive cycle over the years of friends/partners feeling like they can't talk to me because of my overtly emotional responses to any criticism or feeling of abandonment. Like almost every time a friend/partner says something that makes me feel like they don't want to be around me I want to die. How can I listen to their feelings and be understanding without subconsciously making it about me and my feelings? I've had so many therapists over the years and always tried to fix this issue but nothing seems to work. It's like no matter what I start crying like I'm 8 years old again and my stepdad is telling at me for something I did "wrong" and I'm crying and he's yelling at me not to cry because it's not fair to him. There is such a a parallel between these feelings I have a very hard time discerning when someone is being toxic or not, if that makes sense. Like if I'm told my emotional response is too much, then I feel like That person is being toxic and not letting me react on my own accord. But if every single person in my life has done this to me (family, friends, partners, acquaintances, strangers, everyone.) then clearly I am the problem and need to do something to change how I react to other people having emotions and bad feelings about me. Idk. Even just typing this I'm so self aware and I know that their own feelings are not a direct reflection of me and I should allow them to feel annoyed at me or whatever it may be. I *know* I can get annoyed with people I love sometime. Why must it be the end all if someone feels that way about me?