Broke up with my ex who is diagnosed with BPD, PTSD and has a history of self-harm (and er.. worse). I've gone through this sub and it further validates her behaviour on social media. We haven't been talking but the reason we broke up was because she claims she does not want to hurt me time after time. However I can see she's in pain right now. Been posting a lot of whisper quotes, last night she posted a clip of the song Cups - where the song goes "will you miss me when I'm gone" along with a caption that says I love you mum/ dad etc- which she later deleted.  Yes, I stalked her enough to notice these little details. Again, I know she's in pain. Also, she's diagnosed with cancer (once she asked me why hadn't I asked about her condition- when I have done so).   


She did it all, deactivated her social media then reactivating back again, deleting old Instagram posts (most recently she deleted all except one that says "I appreciate those who check up on me" - which she deleted hours later), posts memes on her Facebook (which she removed me after).. However we're still connected on Instagram and she still views my stories. Wished her a happy new year which she replied along with an emoji (thought that was friendly) hence I asked how have things been- got ignored there.   


Any advice? Not to much on the relationship. We started off as good friends and I have done my share of helping her heal from her wounds and breakdowns- she has sent me photos of her cutting herself back then. Just wondering how can I help this poor girl. During our time together as partners we tried to solve this part by part but she's a bit on the stubborn side. Unfortunately she pulled the plug too early. I'm more of a listener type hence she enjoyed the company but whenever I spoke up she'll say 'dont be my psychiatrist". If it helps, her birthday's coming up next month. Appreciate any input.