I cope fine, I haven't had an outburst in months, and if I feel bad enough I will go to the person im jealous over (my best friend) and talk about it without coming at him. I am rational about my thoughts, I know that he does not owe me any kind of abstinance, that him being with other people does not make him care about me less, that he deserves to be happy, etc. But I still get really irrationally upset, starting with a physical reaction, and get weak and give into thinking thoughts over and over. Like, well how did I fail? Why am I not enough? Why doesn't he want me like that (he does! lol), and all of those.

I'm tired of tips on "coping" I did that, now what. How do I get rid of the thoughts?