Not sure how common this is, but I’m typically a very empathetic person. I love my family and will adamantly defend my friends from anyone. The people I love are so important to me, but for some reason, this feeling can change in an instant. If a friend does something I deem extremely “disrespectful” to our relationship, I immediately drop them and become apathetic to their feelings. With my ex I was the same way. We were on the rocks and he decided he wanted to leave for another person. I couldn’t control my rage and I said some pretty nasty things and deep down I STILL hate his guts, even if I don’t blame him for leaving. 

It’s like my feelings are always black and white. I either hold someone in a high regard or they’re *nothing* to me. I don’t even realize how ridiculous this is until after I’ve already hurt someone.