&gt; [Mods]  ask that you try to be a good listener, empathetic, respectful, and **non-judgmental** in this subreddit.

I'd just like to point out that I see a lot of judgment in this sub and suggest that it might be nice, as a community, if we could be more careful about it. 

In particular I notice that "non judgment" seems to be understood to mean that OP is king and nobody should disagree or judge OP, which is great but non judgment is much more than just not judging the person who is speaking. 

Non judgment is about not judging other people, not judging ourselves and not judging events or people or places or things.  That means that we shouldn't judge people that hurt us; we shouldn't judge other borderlines; we shouldn't judge users who politely disagree with us. 

I see a lot of posts wherein people refer to BPD relationships as "trainwrecks", or OP referring to themselves as "damaged goods" by virtue of the fact they have BPD, and I see a lot of cruel and nasty judgment toward people who stigmatize BPD.  This would not fly in a DBT setting. 

 Personally I find it unfunny and demeaning seeing OP say they want to talk to "other damaged goods".  What an awful judgment to make about the people in this sub.  I understand that it is said with a sense of humor but nonetheless a post like that is not following the non-judgment rule. 

For the most part I find that the non-judgment rule only comes into play here when OP feels attacked.  I think we should try as a community to remember that "non-judgmental stance" disallows *all judgments* and not just the ones that upset us personally.  

Please as a community let's try to withhold *all judgment* and not just use the "non-judgment" rule as a get out of jail free card to say whatever we feel like.  
