I have a new FWB and I like him a lot. It's verging on relationship status and I'm not interested in taking it that way for several reasons, one is that he's leaving next summer and two I'm not over my exFP/exBF. It makes me uncomfortable when he holds my hand or when we're cuddling and he rubs me (the way a boyfriend would).

I asked him point blank to define what we were, not because I wanted a relationship, but because I wanted to know (from him) what we were. I feel like it came across as me being a clingy girl wanting a relationship, when that's not true. I wanted to know if we could see other people. I learned from my exFP/exBF that it's never good to put all your eggs in one basket. 

There are things he does that makes me uncomfortable. I don't exactly hate my appearance, I struggle to even see what I look like, I feel like the mirror and pictures of myself are constantly morphing. 

He tells me I'm sexy all the time. When I was taking off my clothes yesterday, he said that he can't believe how sexy I am and he constantly calls me pretty. If there was no physical reaction on his part, I would think he's just flattering me. This is all I've wanted, right? Why does it feel like he's lying to me? I always think people are lying to me when they compliment me like that. It makes me really uncomfortable. 

He's been with plenty of other women before and he showed me one picture of his ex, who was quite attractive. I think he slightly inflates his repertoire, but he's talented and obviously knows what he's doing. 

I'll remember to not tell him I have BPD or severe body image issues, because anytime I tell someone I care about, about my issues, I feel like they use it as ammunition against me. 

I'm going to pretend to be this confident, sexy woman.

Is there anything else I could do to keep this whole "bad sexy girl (but not mentally ill) facade"?