I need some encouragement or stories or even a reality check would be fine. I have been with my partner for 10 years and even in moment where I trust him an intrusive thought or a memory of something he did that triggered me comes up and I spiral. We might end it and after this long I don’t blame him. I don’t want to lose the love of my life but I feel selfish at this point because I genuinely don’t know how to not have this happen ever again. I’m exhausted. I try so hard and still something happens that makes me feel like I need to protect and I attack and blame. I don’t know if it’s possible. If it’s not, I have to let him have a better life. Has anyone successfully trusted their person and how did you do it?