So, long story short me and my mom are both anxious and neurotic folks. That seems to be a family thing. She has been doing therapy for more than 15 years, I'm around 6 years. Both of us made significant progress, but still I'm struggling to find a middle ground. I hate that the moment I find peace and stability the small thing can crumble it all. 

The way it's working for me is that I love my mom but in the same time I can be really worried about her. And there's some basis for it: since COVID hit she doesn't have a consistent job, her marriage is unhappy one and there's clearly no future for it. They don't even have property together. So whenever they argue or have a conflict it hits me as I'm getting more worried about her and trying to predict things, how to help and support her, what do so it will not affect my well being. I've been doing this for years and I'm so tired of it.

I do have a great job and already saved good money (still need a few more years), so I was planning to buy a house for her so she could finally settle on her own. But this time hasn't come yet and I also wanna keep learning on how to deal with this extreme worry for her, it takes a toll on me. 

I'm not sure what could be a good way thinking to approach to in this kind of situation. Any advice?