I've been part of this subreddit for some time now and have mostly been a silent watcher from afar. But I have to admit that, even though I know most of the struggles and have been diagnosed with BPD myself, I find the comments very cruel and insensitive oftentimes. I find myself getting triggered by it and wondered if anyone else has this problem?

For some reason people, with or without BPD, seem to fully go into the stigma of inherently being a cruel, manipulative, and abusive person if you have BPD. If there are books discussed that are written just like that, people agree with the approach and find it suitable to speak with and about pw/BPD in an aggressive way because "otherwise they won't realise they're doing something wrong."

Maybe I'm just different and try my utmost best to not lash out at others, and judging by open interviews of friends and family, it works. I usually direct the outbursts at myself and isolate rather than putting someone else into a bad position. And even if I do get into their face, I always apologise afterwards and discuss what happened. I leave everyone to their free decision to go about their lives and leave if they so wish. Likewise, I am very open with my PD.

As such, I find most of the comments in this subreddit very hard to read. I came here to seek support and got triggered numerous times to the point where I asked my friends if I'm a burden to them, if I'm abusive, manipulative, and hard to deal with. 

Maybe this is just me. And if it is, I'll pull the consequences of removing myself from environments that trigger me. But perhaps I've also only just got to the wrong parts? Or other people feel the same? I'd love to discuss.