I’ve always had GAD and social anxiety and panic attacks, for over 15 years now. With the pandemic and having a new baby my anxiety has only increased, for obvious reasons. My husbands brother &amp; now wife moved where we live about a year ago. While I was pregnant and their children were young (last year) I wasn’t forced to see them so much. Now that our baby is 8 MO my SIL is CONSTANTLY asking to grab coffee, come over, etc. she’s a really shitty mom, mean and condescending to her 1 &amp; 2 year old. My brother in law is lackadaisical and does not watch his kids properly (lets them play in arcades with no shoes, lets them play in retention ponds) basically everything about these 2 gives me anxiety and makes me want to hyperventilate. I’ve explained to my husband multiple times that I don’t agree with their parenting and it makes me want to have a panic attack any time they ask to hang out. They’re children are also ALWAYS sick with fevers, flus (they’re in daycare- even though the wife doesn’t work- she just “can’t handle 2 of them all day”). Also, right before my baby shower she caused a huge fight between us because she asked me to watch her child while she took the other to the ER because she had a 104 degree fever, which I said no because I was pregnant and didn’t want to risk getting sick- she basically told me I’m not family and do nothing for her, yet another reason I can’t stand her and get anxiety just thinking about her. Anyways, I have done everything I can to be safe for my family in this pandemic, I don’t see ANY of my friends, I go nowhere except the grocery store masked and parks with the baby. (Sorry for so much back story just trying to give an understanding) My husband asked today if we could see his brother and kids because the wife is out of town and the brother “knows I don’t like her so if she’s not here maybe we can hang out”. He said he wants our daughter to get to know her cousins. She’s 8 MO. She’s not going to remember them right now. I just want to keep her safe and healthy and these kids are ALWAYS sick, literally every time I’ve seen them. It also makes me anxious to think she obviously tells my BIL I don’t like her and makes me not want to be around them even more. Am I wrong? What do I say or do?