It's been over a year since I've seen my mom. She's vaccinated and wanted to visit! I asked her befits she came to NOT CLEAN. She asked what she's supposed to do. I said "Hang out, go for walks, read a book, do a puzzle." Easy, right?

In the first 60 seconds she sees me, she comments on my gray hair. Haven't colored it since Covid. Fair enough. 

We get home and within 15 minutes, she asks my teenage son how much weight he's put on. Kid replies with a witty  remark. Okay, good he's not hurt.

This morning she wants to clean my sons bathroom, the one chore he has. I tell her no, and she gets UPSET. Then gets passive aggressive and asks if it's okay for her to at least brush her teeth. 9.9 Yes, please do. 

So I ask my son to clean his bathroom before playing cards with his grandmother. He has some sour response about how I'm loosing him as a son. Fine, no video games Friday so you'll have lots of time with grandma...

I go downstairs and she's cleaned all my dishes. Ugh. Tomorrow I'll wake up early enough to do that before her. 

Then I see she's sprayed down my whole porch furniture after I told her no yesterday. Including spraying away a perfectly in tact and preserved baby lizard skeleton under the table glass I had kept there. And my son is yelling at me about the dog eating soap water.

So I have a full blown anxiety attack at this point. It's too much. I retreat to my bathroom to splash ample cold water on my face and pace my breathing. I keep doing this till my heart stops pounding. 

I go back downstairs and my mom is giving me attitude. I ask her why, trying to still be calm, and she replies about how nothing she does is good enough. Fuck. Me.

I tell her how I can't handle her coming to my house and changing things or cleaning. She stews in silence, obviously feeling like the victim. 

So here I sit in my room with my corgi, still anxious af, wishing she never came.

TLDNR: My mom is a control freak and gets mad when this makes me anxious.