I've been infatuated/obsessed with this woman that I've never dated (and 0 chance that I can) for two years now. All the usual things - time, distance, space - haven't worked. I haven't seen or contacted her in a year, but I still feel stuck. 

I've now been recently dating a woman who is great. But I still can't help but (internally) compare her to my unrequited crush. I compare every potential love interest to her - nobody even comes close. Although I like the woman I'm dating, I don't feel the same (probably unhealthy) rush of obsession and excitement with her, that I do when I think about my unrequited crush. 

How can I move on from my unhealthy infatuation? Should I just wait for the intensity of feeling to develop in my new relationship - will it develop over time? Will I ever feel these same intense feelings in a mutual relationship? :(