Do you feel as an adult with anxiety that your family never prepared you to stand up when something was wrong? Even though your body was screaming to stand up or say your piece? 

In my family, anytime a conflict or misunderstanding got heated with my involvement, I backed down or froze. I was whipped into habits to be quiet or my opinion wasn't worth hearing. I'd be vibrating, not able to say anything at all. 

In adulthood, I find bringing up issues for work is an arduous task not knowing if I'll be berated or shorted for my efforts in noticing.  When friends or others have a conversation, I'm intimidated to jump in not knowing who will try to challenge or shut down my statement.

I'm working on it actively, most times the situation turns out fine and I brought up something noteworthy. 

What I mean to ask is:

Is this normal for anxiety induced inviduals to have issue in conflict resolution from childhood occurances? How can I rewire this from chronic cyclical shame?