I am a female with BPD raised by a mother with significant BPD issues that centered around a severe mistrust of others and suspiciousness towards everyone including us, her own children.

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve been able to really cut ties with a lot of these mental habits she taught me in regards to assuming the worst about other people. However, the last strings of these paranoia issues still seem to resurface a lot in my romantic relationships with men and it can feel really really disheartening. 

Especially when I’ve chosen people who end up proving the suspicions true sometimes, which further exacerbates the paranoia with the next person.

Does anyone have any encouraging success stories about overcoming an issue like this and what things really seemed to help them? Everything I try to search on the internet for help seems to make it seem somewhat hopeless.

I’m not sure if this is something DBT addresses as well.

Thank you to anyone 🙏🏻