"you're still young" or "you have time"

why whenever someone &lt;25 and complains about being single/never having a relationship, people always have to come in and say shit like this? i don't understand how people are able to navigate life and develop friendships/relationships so easily, especially in their teen years, then turn around and act like the only way for us to do the same is to be super human with 0 flaws who does nothing but self-care 25/8, has strong self esteem and confidence when they had to do nothing but exist with normal social skills (and sometimes not even that, just sheer luck) but get someone to like them back enough to build something with them. 

everyone goes on about toxic relationships or how being young means you don't have your life together... i honestly don't give a shit about any of that and it doesn't even matter. so many people have toxic relationships now and its the norm. i'd much rather be single than have a bf that's a complete asshole and insanely toxic but it seems like having anything is better than being alone especially at 22 and still being stunted by lack of experience. i need experience to grow but being chronically single isn't doing shit for me and i still feel like a loser compared to literal kids/teens. 

it's disheartening and boring to have to work so hard just to barely get by as in going to events to meet new people AND put in effort while its draining to do so but receive 0 reciprocity and a lack of energy every. single time. it's also a trip when others can freely admit to their bf being their "emotional support human" but we're always told we can't show any dependency or else our relationships will be an automatic failure. 

and even on forums you have so many people coming in for help for their partners and no one comes in there to tell them how their partner having depression is a stake in their relationship, its nothing but more help meanwhile for us single people get nothing but "touch grass" or "take a shower" like wow im cured!! like yea going outside helps a bit but the constant of being alone is greater than some 1h mild exhilarated feeling from working out.

**of course being depressed and insecurities can ruin relationships and shouldn't be a sole source of happiness but people aren't perfect and most fucked up people manage to find someone and y'all aren't gonna lie and act as if having someone who isn't obligated to even talk to you like you back and enjoy you as a person doesn't make you feel good and loved.** if it didn't i wouldn't even be posting this..

my bad for this being all over the place but i had to get it out somewhere :/

tldr: bolded but its p long