As somebody with BPD, my usual method of getting over a breakup was to go on as many dates as possible. And I always made sure I was the one doing the breaking up.

I recently told my ex I need NO contact. We’ve had a tumultuous past with cheating and so many other toxic issues such as suicidal ideation, depression, and lying (not all on my behalf).

For the first time in 8 years, I’m alone. And I feel truly alone. I’ve told myself, no more sleeping around, no more distractions. This is my first time crying during a breakup. I drove past our apartment this morning and I broke down in tears. 

People with BPD, what helps with a breakup? Im living at home with my parents for the first time in a while, I’m leaning on my friends, I’m trying to find my hobbies and myself. 

Love y’all.