Hi!
I am not formally diagnosed with BPD but I display most if not all symptoms most days. I was diagnosed with Bipolar Depression which I do not believe I have and the mental Healthcare providers I've spoken to have been reluctant to listen to me explain my actual symptoms. I say all this because I'm trying to take things into my own hands and work towards improving my symptoms.

I bought "The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook" and yesterday, I got to a part in it where you see which symptoms apply to you. One of the symptoms really caught me off guard and I immediately started sobbing when I read it. It said "Speech lacks detail". 

I've always struggled with recalling events or stories all the way through. It's like I bounce around from middle to end to beginning and I can never quite get out something that makes sense all the way through. Sometimes, even just getting a thought from my brain to my mouth is hard. I like to joke that I have a mushy hole in my brain that makes it hard to produce coherent sentences. 
I also tend to tell my husband something thinking I have been very clear, but I have actually been incredibly vague and when he asks for clarification, I usually get irrationally upset and say something to the effect of "you never listen to me". This of course puts a strain on our relationship.

My question to you all is have you experienced this? Do you contribute it to your BPD and how do you handle it?

A little context: my husband is my favorite person and has been since we were 14 (now 26). He gets the brunt of my symptoms and I'm doing everything I can to improve myself for him. Thank you for your help!