I have a boyfriend who I have no intention whatsoever of leaving, but we've been together a long time and we're in a bit of a slump (physically and emotionally). So, I was out one night and started drunkenly talking up a lesbian and told her I was a lesbian as well and took her number. For a month we've been talking and texting every day all day. We've exchanged a million I love you's, talk about getting married, have great sex (when my bf isn't around), and she's completely opened up to me in ways she has never done with anyone else. It feels SO GOOD to be loved so much by her, and I really love talking to her, but what started as a little ego boost got WAYYYY OUT OF HAND and now I don't know how to stop without hurting her.

I'm a huge asshole. I wasn't thinking about how this would all play out. My bf just thinks that we're friends and vice versa. I don't know how to fix this without hurting her. I am so incredibly disappointed in myself for letting my constant need for approval turn into something so manipulative and awful.

I don't know what to do.