I don’t want to divulge too much about her but she’s a successful mid-30’s director level professional and who runs her own consulting company on the side. She is introverted and comes from a family where they don’t talk about issues. She also has some trauma in her past to add insult to injury. Her current job is pretty stressful and chaotic and she’s having a hard time coping. 

Over the last 6 months, her anxiety has gone from manageable to a fever pitch. She has had 3 separate multi-day meltdowns (should have been hospitalized probably) and is having panic attacks daily. 

She’s trying to find a new therapist but it’s going slowly. I’m a huge loss for how to support her and it’s actively damaging our relationship (5+ years) at this point since I not longer feel like I’m with a person and it seems like I’m a reality anchor for her (less of a partner).

I have a general understanding of anxiety (especially that it is not a rational choice) but really don’t know what to do. Would love some help from those who have anxiety and those who have supported others with. 

TLDR: need advice on how to help someone with anxiety so I don’t make it worse.