my “ex” and i were together for 5mo+ (in a situationship type situation)(exclusive yet not explicitly dating) and for both it individually was our healthiest relationship for many reasons. at the end it started to get unhealthy and they stopped meeting my needs and we’re unwilling to do so and i came to terms with needing to end the relationship. we both love each other and this has been extremely hard for the both of us to create distance in our lives.
i wanted advice on if no contact is viable for those w bpd and everyone’s experience. or a better alternative to separating, whether that be at a slower gradual pace (or if slower is worse for bpd) 
i would love any advice bc i feel like i’m lost in my own decision and can’t trust my own choice is healthy or not going to make it worse.