Hi everyone. I am the (25f) girlfriend of a pwBPD. I’ve been with my person for two years. He was recently diagnosed about a month ago after many months of signs and struggle. Things have been difficult, to say the least. We have been up and extremely down, we’ve shed lots of tears, and we’ve been very close to losing one another for good. My person pushes me away, hard, when he experiences lows… something I have come to understand and accept as part of being in a relationship with him. That’s why I’m writing this. On the majority of posts I see here in this group, many who are struggling with BPD feel like they would just be be better off alone, or are in constant fear that their person will walk away from them because of their diagnosis and what can come with it. I understand that I will never understand, but as a person who is in love with another person, who just so happens to struggle with BPD, I am here to tell you that every single one of you who have written that you shouldn’t be with someone because of your BPD… you deserve better and whoever made you feel you like that never deserved you. I have done countless hours of research on BPD and how I can be a better partner in the ways that my person needs based off of the way he views relationships. I have bought books. I have reached out to groups for myself. I’ve been practicing things in my daily life and so much more. All in order to be a better me, for my partner, in the way that needs it. This is just a reminder that the relationship takes two and just because your partner doesn’t have BPD, doesn’t mean they don’t have work to do to make it work for both of you. The right person will do it. The right person won’t walk away from you. The right person will see you as you, not as your diagnosis. And the right person will do everything they can to make sure they continue loving you the way you need. That is all. I am grateful for all of you in this sub, as you have all been wonderfully supportive since my bf and I have started this journey through BPD, even if you don’t know it.