I have noticed when I feel a situation is out of control I solicit feedback from MULTIPLE family, friends, and coworkers. I literally wasted my whole day trying to stop obsessing over a situation I am frustrated about. I take all the various opinions and feedback and try to piece together my own thoughts. I don't trust my own thoughts/opinions so I seek others and surely they are more valid than my own because I can't be objective. This consumes so much of my time and energy. I keep reviewing the situation and feedback I get. I never reach a conclusion I never feel better, I just feel overwhelmed. I think me asking the same question of people around me frustrates them too. It's like riding a carousel from hell.