I don't have an official BPD diagnosis and this may be my NPD traits but does anyone else care about who they're hanging out with? I'm a mid twenties female and I wish I could hang out with the 'popular' women who dress trendy and drink a lot at bars/clubs. I've always put a lot of effort into my appearance and I look conventionally attractive but since I'm on the spectrum, I have difficulty being accepted into friend groups, especially intimidating ones and I really wish I could find a group that likes the same clothes/makeup and drinking like me. I don't know how after college to go about finding women like this since I don't have existing fun friends to go to bars with. I feel like it's too late for me and that I'm doomed bc I have ASD and aren't popular on social media. I have a couple high school friends I hang out with one and one and they are nice decent people so I do want to continue a friendship over the years, but I just leave feeling like I'm not part of a group and tbh they don't really have any friends maybe because they act a bit serious or boring and aren't 'fun'. I've been working on trying to be more vivacious though I have difficulty knowing when to talk/what to say in groups. Does anyone have any experience finding a social group that's into trends and drinking or being accepted into one after college?

tl;dr long to be invited out with a group of women who are into fashion and drinking