Guys I think I have BPD and I think my ex also has BPD. Idk if there is levels to it but I definitely don’t act as narcissistic as a-lot of people here describe their ex’. Maybe I have when I was younger but the pain I have inflicted on myself throughout the years has been enough to open my eyes and want to change. Also I think I have been doing self harm to myself instead of doing it to others. I also noticed I tend to date the “bad boys” because I don’t want to hurt the good ones and in the end I am the one crying and heartbroken. Anyway. I think my recent ex is BPD but extreme because he rushed our relationship, convinced me to move in with him within a month of knowing each other, he was controlling and possessive the whole time, used my money, my car, acted obsessed with me and talked and acted like we were in this relationship till we got old. He was very controlling and possessive but then he could go out and do whatever he wanted. So one night when he was out partying till the next day, I was mad so I packed a bag and I left in the middle of the night and turns my phone off. When I turned my phone back one , he was furious, he made me go back to his place and was very aggressive, broke my phone, tried getting me to send him more money, threatened to hurt me, and then packed my clothes and literally threw me out. By the end of the day he was crying and messaged me to come back home saying he acted like this because he was so attached to me already and he didn’t want to lose me. I agreed to come back by the end of the week because I needed to clear my head. The end of the week came and I gave him a bit of an attitude and he freaked out started calling me names and said not to even bother coming back because he doesn’t want me anymore. As someone with also BPD, this was extremely painful to me; I pleaded with him not to leave me and the more I did the more he didn’t want me. After a few days he was more calm but did still did not want me back and it hurt me so much I had to block him and try to move on. Opinions and suggestions would be great. Thank you