So a lot of people here post asking for advice or support. I think it's great that we can help each other through our problems. But it can be a bit dispiriting seeing how much everyone is struggling.

So today I decided to post about something good that's happened! I was only diagnosed with bpd a few weeks ago. When I first told my boyfriend and gave him some reading material, he actually took it super badly. He has issues with his temper and when I send him a page on how he can help me, he disagrees with the first one straight off.

Basically the advice was that when I get angry about something and start kicking off, stay calm and try to listen to why I'm upset or angry and try to understand what it was that started me spiralling, even if he disagrees he shouldn't tell me my emotions are wrong.

We almost broke up. He said if I shouted or snapped at him, as an adult, he would do it back. End of story. It was awful. I was so upset. We somehow managed to make up, but never managed to finish the discussion or come to any kind of agreement on how to handle my bpd now that we know that's why I'm neurotic.

Fast forward to this week. I've bitten his head off over pathetic shit multiple times and every time he has said he's sorry he upset me and he'll try not to do it again. He's not snapped back once. He's been calm and patient and listened to why I'm upset. And a few hours later I've turned around and said I'm sorry I shouted, it wasn't fair. I couldn't control it, and thank you. We are getting on so much better, not fighting like we were before the big one, and i feel like he's finally accepting just because something wouldn't upset him, doesn't mean it won't upset me. Things are looking so much better now with him! I'm really happy and I think finding out my diagnosis, despite the rocky start, has made us stronger and happier. And because of the lack of arguments with him, all of the other areas of my life have become so much easier to manage! I haven't wanted to cut myself in over a week, nor felt suicidal. This is a massive step for me!! I just wanted to share a positive for a change!

It would be nice to read more good things that have happened recently BECAUSE of your bpd or because of your diagnosises to cheer us all up! Anyone got any other stories??