Hey guyz,

So I have been dating a girl with BPD for a while. She is a great person and I've come to care about her quite deeply.  She comes from a background of a lot of trauma and she has been very honest and open with me about her feelings in the past. I have read a lot about BPD since she told me about it and I notice a lot of people say relationships don't work and that everything will eventually turn sour. I encourage her to go to therapy and make good choices every day and I treat her very well and it is mutual in that sense. 

I can tell she is really idolizing me right now. She see's annoying things I do as far more great than what they really are. Praising every little thing I do, and so on. I like this about her and its nice, a bit excessive but makes me feel valued even though I know it's being greatly aggregated. 

From what I have read, and what she sort of warned me about is this period of devaluing me. Apparently it is coming, and I have no idea what to expect. I am scared to find out, and reading on the internet has not helped me feel very light hearted about what I just maybe got myself into. Was hoping maybe you guys could offer some kind of advice or insight into this. Wish I could just get it over and see exactly what all this means, but instead its just hovering over my head like a ball of impending doom, which really bums me out. I really have grown to love a lot about this girl and I want to be as informed as I can and learn to work with her in a good light and be the most positive impact on her that I can.

No exact goal as to why i'm posting this other than to hear some of your insights with BPD and relationships I guess. I know there is a lot of information already out there, but Reddit is cool so I can ask in my own little way.

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Much love,

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J