My wife has pretty bad anxiety. She doesn’t have insurance so refuses to go to a psychiatrist but we do go to couples therapy and we talk about there some. She like absolutely has to be doing something she deems productive. I want to help so bad but don’t know how, if I try to beat her to the punch by cleaning the house and she says she appreciates it but doesn’t take that opportunity to rest or relax and moves on to some other outlier task. If we’re cleaning together she always has a list of chores for both of us to accomplish. And I feel like she won’t relax because then she over thinks so it’s not restful. I just want her to rest and be at peace and I have no idea how to accomplish that.