i think there's something wrong with me due to my failed relationships. can someone help? 
i've never done anything with an actual 'intention' or planned out motives. it's been completely arbitrary or done to satisfy my own needs. 

1. i used to make all my boyfriends lose their friends &amp; have them withdraw from family
2. snide comments on their way of living, clothes &amp; appearance
3. silent treatment a lot of the time
4. make them do things for me whenever there was a minor inconvenience or argument e.g, shave their heads bald, make them apologise to me several times &amp; threaten a break up if they don't follow my requests
5. self harm if they spent more time with someone else &amp; show them videos of me so they'd feel guilty
6. lie constantly about my entire life
7. compare them with other people
8. put them down in front of people/ groups
9. abuse them physically 
10. point out their weaknesses during arguments
11. threaten suicide
12. cheat