i am not good with communication, but i’ve been trying to change that with my current partner. when i’m in a Mood™, no matter what, it always comes out silence treatment and anger. 

i know i makes things difficult. they told me it is “t a x i n g” to have to ask how i am bc i have a penchant for shutting down and staying quiet. 

but every time that i’ve tried to open up about anything, my partner either makes a joke or say something on the contrary. 

ex. i try to explain that i am feeling insecure about our relationship and that bc of how i am, i need more reassurance than most people might. and all they could muster was “well i do love you so you shouldn’t feel that way” which in my mind seems super insensitive ?? 

even for really minor things for example, we noticed the ash in the air from wildfires and i made some dumb comment like “the world is ending and i still have to worry about school” which doesn’t really mean anything, but he shot back with “you should be grateful, since it’s all online” which again i think misses the point ?? 

i’m not sure if these examples really help or are enough to really decipher anything. it’s hard for me to think clearly, and from what i’ve read, gaslighting sounds much more serious and harsh and my partner isn’t like that; just blunt. 

but tldr; i feel like my partner has a tendency to gloss over what i say when i try to vocalize how i feel and always has something contrary to it and i want to know if this could be considered gaslighting