Does anyone else ask for help in the kindest, gentlest, most sincere way possible, only to be met with cringing, excuses, judgment, and half-apologies: “I’m not sure what you want me to do, sorry you feel that way, there must be some other resources out there, I can’t help you with that, that sounds hard...”?

No matter how I go about it, the result is the same: lots of papers with general information and hotlines, a bit of pity, and then never seeing that “support” person again. 

That’s the last 5 years of my life. 

I was raised to be humble, grateful, to not complain, to have faith and trust. 

But most people just make me feel bad for asking or speaking up. Consolations are empty. They blame me or say it’s a matter of poor choices. They give vague suggestions in a professional manner. All of which leaves me disappointed and mad at myself for making the effort...