Dating when you have BPD is so frustrating! I have been talking to a new guy for a month..hes amazing. We text all the time and have FaceTime dates regularly. He even planned an in-person date to see me on Valentines Day (my city has been locked down since December so we weren’t able to see each other prior). He seems so eager to talk to me and showers me with compliments...he’s checking off all the boxes. This past week however, I cant shake the feeling that I should end things with him, even before I go on our date. He has done NOTHING to justify me wanting to end things so why do I keep having these intrusive thoughts? I just want to go on this date and have a good time and honestly give this person a chance, but I cant turn off my nagging brain. I dont think hes necessarily the issue here, its me feeling like I am not good enough for him and that theres no way something like this could work out for me. Perhaps he will think I am not pretty enough irl, or find me not interesting because we talked too much prior to our first in-person date. 
I just feel so anxious and self conscious all of a sudden..its frustrating because this anxiety was not here before. And I know if i keep up this pattern of stressing about it, it will push me away from him. 
He is such an amazing guy and deserves a girl that is stable and can treat him right. I am trying so hard not to hurt him and act like I have in past relationships. 
Is it even possible to have a healthy relationship w bpd? Does anyone know how to turn off these thoughts? I feel like I am trying to ruin something before it even has the opportunity to be good/bad. Thats not fair to me or to him.