My best friend and I are having issues. I asked him questions tonight such as, "what are things you would like out of our friendship" or "how can I prevent you from feeling taxed", and "what boundaries and communication need to be established on my end- while also using I statements". Using all my skills.

He said friendships should run a natural course and there shouldn't have to have "boundaries" and "better communication" established- that it should happen naturally. I get that- friends bond naturally- we do. But also- these things do have to happen- in all relationships. 

He also said I need to get my emotions under control and not blame my BPD- but he knows very well, as I do, that I have been to treatment for a year, don't hardly ever mention it, and just had one recent spell where I cried over the phone- yet pulled that card about getting my emotions under control and not scaring people by crying.

He said, "he should not have to read up on BPD communication"- thus refused to read an article I wanted to send. I explained it was to help him not feel taxed and tired- but still, "I shouldn't have to do that".

I am giving him space- just frustrated because I have tried everything- yet he still won't swallow his pride and at least look at an article on healthy communication. I have read up on his IBS and bullimia- and empathize- and that's all I was asking for, as he does. He expects me to keep my emotions under control 24/7 and thinks treatment fixed me 100%- and I told him it does not work that way. But still, "I am exhausted from you".

I have not really done anything but be a little emotional- and I live 800 miles away. I listen to him about his GF and school all the time- but I just was wanting understanding and he thinks he shouldn't have to work on any communication or anything because it should "all be natural".

Thoughts?