so, i’m currently in a long term relationship. obviously the only thing i’ve heard about relationships involving someone with bpd is that they never last. that shit makes me feel so hopeless because, no matter how hard i try i feel like i’m just going to ruin it in the end. i’m scared i’m going to push him away or that he’ll leave when he sees me at my worst. i know he loves me, but i’m so paranoid, have so many trust issues and shut down so easily. things between us are fine and healthy (i think), but i feel that i make things so hard for him. im so scared to lose him and freak out whenever i think he’s upset, which just escalates things more. idk. i just want to hope and believe that i can have he future i want with him, regardless of the standard “it won’t ever work out if they have bpd” 

is it possible?