hey y’all. i have found someone new who i am obsessed with. we met online, we talk every day, i love him. my boyfriend of 8 years usually has issues with me talking to men to this degree, but this new friend is very very gay and there’s no chance of anything ever happening between us. but i feel so so bad for having such intense feelings (not romantic) for someone other than my partner. this has happened before with me and other people but it was never reciprocated so i never felt guilty. i don’t know what to do. im being crushed by guilt. im trying to show my boyfriend more affection to make myself feel better but it’s not helping. i just keep feeling like this is emotional cheating somehow even though i’m doing nothing wrong. i have been looking for a friend like him for years and i am so glad i finally found this, but the guilt is really painful. help.