Does this have anything to do with appearing selfish because of depression?  I have a friend With a major depression disorder who has never really had a social life. He found a bar two minutes from his house and loves the people there and the vibe I'm happy he found something he loves, but the only time he sees me and our other friends is when it's convenient to what he wants to do which is hang out at the bar even when there's special limited time events he enjoyed going to before he found the bar. I'm so happy he found somewhere he feels safe and accepted but should that get in the way of doing what your friends want to do as well? Special acceptions are other people's birthdays he will be there for that.He is at the bar every day for hours and it's been months. I brought it up to him and he just attacked me and got defensive which may have something to do with his anxiety. I am not the only one who has those feelings. He also can't apologize and disagrees with anything that goes against his views. If someone gets emotional to something he says or jokes about he doesn't seem to consider their feelings, insecurities or have sympathy he just thinks they're wrong. I got a job and it took me saying it three times over two weeks for him to remember and he hasn't asked how its going or if I like it or anything. Some of this may have to do with his struggle with depression or it may not. Everyone handles it differently and I need experienced opinions and thoughts please I've never known another person struggling with depression who has come off as being selfish like this. I'm afraid to express my feelings to him again.