Tw physical/mental abuse?
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Hi. I’m not sure if my mother is narcissistic or has borderline (I have BPD as well), but I’m very conflicted with her. She has been attached at my hip since I was born. Babied me my whole life to live vicariously through me. I have memories of her choking me because I didn’t say thank you, I was always tracked, my phone was always checked, etc. When I gained some independence, she pulled back and fought with me. When I turned 18 we fought even worse, my mental health declined greatly and I was hospitalized twice last year. When I was hospitalized the second time, I lost my job at the time and dropped out of college. She told me I’d have to pay $200 a month for rent to live there. So I moved out in with my bf about a month after my 18th birthday. Since then shes been nothing but supportive. And don’t get me wrong, she was supportive about half the time when I lived with her. I haven’t let her meet my boyfriend and it’s been almost a year. She asks to meet him constantly and I don’t know what to do. I feel as if I would introduce them, she would take over. And now I am selling my art at a vendor show this weekend and my bf will be there and she wants to come to see my art stuff. I don’t know if I should be rude and not let her come? Please let me know what you think. I’m pretty lost on my relationship with her. And yes I do already have a therapist. Shes on vacation right now.