I recognise people with cluster B disorders can be abusive, especially when they are not self-aware or don’t want to change. But the sheer amount of hatred aimed at us makes me simultaneously angry (at them) and repulsed by myself.
I’ve seen some truly horrible shit written about people with hpd and bpd. Funny how no one calls people out for that. It’s like we were fair game 🤷‍♀️.     

What bothers me the most is that:  
a) people seem to deny us the right to personhood, as if we were the personification of ALL the diagnostic criteria and we all were like that abusive ex someone was with; and  
b) the fact that people armchair diagnose based on the criteria listed in Wiki or articles that often paint people with PDs in a bad light (like that one journalist who literally listed signs of an abusive partner as BPD criteria) and distort what the diagnosis means. I’ve seen people posting about their abusive parents and people immediately going, “oh, they have bpd” when there either weren’t enough details to speculate or that person didn’t exhibit the behaviours typical of people with bpd.  
I know people are coping with their abuse that way but honestly, it’s so horrible and ableist.
I think the worst instance of this that I saw was when an abuse victim (herself dxed as having npd) wrote a post about narcs and someone *respectfully* disagreed and assured the writer that they love their blog and mean no offence, to which someone replied “typical narc: they make you feel horrible and gaslight you by saying they love you” which is... wtf?   
Honestly, that’s what I fear the most: people gaslighting me by trying to portray perfectly normal behaviours as being due to my illness and abusive. Which would, naturally, end up with me feeling guilty because I have difficulties with objective analysis when it comes to things like that.        
Ok, I’m done. Wish I could say the same about googling shit like that as a way to self-harm.

