I’m 23F and my bf is a 36M. We’ve dated two years and within the past six months I’ve gotten a part time job to contribute to our house. He has two tween sons. When I’m not working, the house is clean, and I don’t have any errands to do I like to lay in bed or do activities that are more homebody. I’ve always been like this. Maybe it’s because I started staying inside more and reading books when I was depressed as a kid, but my comfort place is my bedroom. Lately though I’m having a hard time finding comfort here. My bf judges me a lot for staying in bed. He is upset that he has to work long hours and can’t stay home as much as me… but he has to support himself and two kids and I only moved in with him to help him and the kids with cleaning. The house was disgusting before I came. He wants me to do more around the house, do more this, do more that… there’s three other people who live with me who can clean up after themselves and I already told my bf it’s weird he gets upset with me for not organizing his stuff… like he gets mad about a messy desk but the desk is all his stuff. I feel like I can’t let anyone see me in bed or they’ll think bad of me. Whenever someone gets home I hop out of bed and find something to clean/organize. If I chose to stay in bed my bf will have a sour attitude with me and a higher chance he will start an argument… for some reason he keeps blaming me because his kids won’t listen to rules or stick to their groundings. I’m barely around the children, I work evenings. He also argues because I play on my phone. Does anyone else prefer the bed? Does it make me lazy? I feel like a bad person. My bfs attitude probably won’t change anytime soon. He asked me to “suck it up” when he mistreats me because he’s trying to change his attitude and thinks it will take a few months :/ that’s also weird to me. 

TLDR: Is it lazy to stay in bed? Is it acceptable as an adult if you have a job and clean home? Do you get upset with your partner for staying in bed? Do you prefer the bedroom? Share your thoughts