I do not understand this. We can both leave for work happy with each other and feeling connected. She will text and tell me about her day and ask me how mine is going. 

I will respond back commenting on everything she has said; and tell her how things are for me. She doesn't comment on my experiences as I do hers. 

She will get upset if I don't answer her instantly - but even when I do she will sometimes go hours without answering me and when she does it's something totally low effort and rude like "cool".