Does anyone have experience dating someone with NPD or anyone with NPD traits? Out of nowhere last night my boyfriend of almost a year (the 23rd would have been our 1 year) broke up with me. He said that I was never okay, and that he was uncomfortable and wasn't happy with the relationship. I've been giving him space, I bought his birthday present and already gave it to him, and I've spent so much time and money to see him on weekends. Things were fine and suddenly he just said that we aren't compatible and that he "isn't my teacher" and that I need to learn how to "not rely on others". I havent had a breakdown in over a month and I really thought everything was fine. 
After crying for a while, I looked up NPD relationships in relation to people with Borderline and it described my relationship almost to a T. I loved my boyfriend dearly but he had such social disconnect and an extreme lack of empathy for others, especially me. When I was upset he wouldn't comfort me and he would kick me while I was down, saying that I needed to grow up and he would threaten to leave. I'm still trying to process this all. But if you could share your experiences similar to my own that would be much appreciated. Next week is my birthday, and was supposed to be our one year and I am broken.