In a "Borderline Personality Disorder: A Clinical Guide" book ( http://www.amazon.com/Borderline-Personality-Disorder-Clinical-Guide/dp/1585623350 ) I found this:

"Kernberg (1967) is responsible for identifying the importance of the Kleinian construct of splitting for BPD. His theory traces splitting to unmitigated anger, initially intended toward still-needed caregivers."

When someone tell about importance of (christian) acceptance ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Acceptance ) toward parents/caregivers, is not it a natural recipe to get rid of splitting?