For context his tiktok account had been hacked, and he’s been trying to get it back. So the text thread went like this 

Me (21f) “Hey did you get your account back” 

Him (22m) “yeah why” 

Me “ why are all your most recent followers girl who ONLY post thirst traps in bikinis” 

Him “I find it weird you’re stalking my tiktok tbh”

Me “I find it weird you’re doing that” 

Him “it was a test to see if you’re stalking you failed”

Me “I’m sure”

Him “I did it knowing you’d say something within 3 days you didn’t even make it to the second day” 

Now I’m not naive, but I do believe it was a test. His tiktok follows were only gamers, memes, YouTubers, and “comedians”. I watch his fyp with him, and never once has a girl like that popped up. With hundreds of male follows, and 5 random unrelated girls at the top, I believe it. For background on my part. I did have some pretty bad obsessive issues with stalking his socials in the past which was about 9/10 months ago. I will admit to that. However, through therapy, and reassurance, it has almost completely stopped. I do check his account periodically especially since it was hacked, to see if the new guy posted. Probably once every 10 days or so. However, I will also say I do this to friends as well (i just never had an actual issue with them) anyways I noticed he got his profile picture back, so I looked deeper into the account, and saw the girls. Our relationship has been going very well, but now I feel disgusted, and betrayed in a way. This is completely out of character for him. I posted this in another sub, and people said i was toxic, so i wanted insight from people who have BPD like me. Does anyone have advice on how to deal with this other than just “leave him”