And I like him. Dearly, conversation flows easily, he’s got a good heart, just a really good guy to talk to. 

But.

I like him as a friend. I’m happily married to my own BPD husband and we have a little family together (we have a beautiful cat). My friend knows this, I bring both of them up all the time, but it is painstakingly obvious that he feels more. I don’t know how to let him down easy (not that I believe I can, BPD and all). I’ve never really been in this situation before and I know what it’s like to be there and it sucks. I really like this guy and I want to preserve my friendship with him. What the hell do I do?