I’ve been out as trans for eight years and I feel like I haven’t improved much when it comes to self-validation or the common things that trigger me (misgendering, deadnaming, etc.) obviously I should be upset by disrespect, but these triggers destroy me like no other aside from abandonment fears. Have any specific DBT skills helped you with these kinds of issues?

Despite having identified solely as a binary trans guy for so long, over the past year or two I’ve been experiencing depersonalization so often that I sometimes feel like I don’t have a gender or I’m not even human/real. It’s odd. But my sexuality changed recently too. Sometimes I feel slightly nonbinary due to this feeling of lack of gender, but I don’t think I’d really explore it socially. 

I’m just wondering what others’ experiences are or if anyone has any advice, especially since I’m going to try to get a job again soon, and I can’t just run away whenever I get upset, even if it’s something unfair like misgendering. The criticism that comes with working is hard to deal with on top of that.