Someone the other day told me that it was really odd that I eat the vast majority of my meals alone and tend to not come out of my room unless it's a weekend (I chalked this latter one up to the amount of work I have as an econ major at a seriously challenging school). 

It's not that I don't like people - I'm actually fairly extroverted, and love talking to new people at parties, on the way to class, in class (I'm a bit of a fucking chatter box). But I can't deny that I am, for all purposes, a hell of a loner. I won't talk to people if I could very well be alone. In fact I LOVE being alone, and get extremely cranky and anxious if there's lots of people or noise in my space. People have told me this is very un-BPD, that most people with the disorder constantly need validation and affection and attention. I think my case may be one of needing to maintain control - if I don't talk to people, they can't hate me or judge me, and if I talk on my own times and leave when I feel myself getting bad, I won't be subject to the subsequent emotional hell.

Any other self- or otherwise identified loners? Would love to hear your experiences and perceptions. 