long story short, my significant other and FP has been liking photos of other girls on his instagram. i don’t have a big issue with liking things like selfies and innocent photos of the girls he used to be friends with, but i’ve seen his name on the likes of clear thirst traps, like girls in their swimsuits, mirror pics of their asses, and just all around provocative photos. 

i don’t necessarily think he’s cheating on me or would cheat on me so that’s not the issue per-say. it just doesn’t feel good to know that your person saw those photos and intentionally decided to like them, knowing that he has his own girl next to him at all times. i just don’t like the message it sends, to me the message is that he knows these girls and he sees their bodies and he likes them and he also wants those girls to know he likes their bodies because he is taking the time to like the photo, and the message to everyone else is that he doesn’t have a girlfriend that he cares about or likes that much. 

am i overthinking and overreacting about this? it’s been bothering me for months now and i haven’t said anything because i don’t want to cause any arguments and i don’t want to sound insane for talking about stupid instagram likes and getting offended by them. 

i’m just having a hard time differentiating between me being too much bc of my BPD and when my concerns are valid. any advice is helpful