I (27) have been with my bf (26) for around 3 years and we're in the process of buying a house together (UK). In fact we should get the keys next week! :) I suffer with anxiety and although I haven't shown it much throughout the process and have worked hard on it and stayed calm, I'm starting to overthink things and the self doubt is sinking in.

"What if people think we're crazy? We haven't lived together before and we're now getting a mortgage - is everyone going to think we're mad? Is it too soon?" 

I don't feel it was rushed as my bf was interested in buying before we even got together. Ive rented several times in the past, and rented a flat with a housemate for 2 years of my and bfs relationship, where he stayed with me often. 

We felt renting would slow the process down and the next step would be buying when we felt the time was right. The pandemic accelerated things as we could save up quicker due to spending less. Several of our friends have done and are doing this and it seems like a pretty normal next step for couples. 

Our parents/family/friends seem excited and didn't share any concerns about it being too soon for us or a bad idea. I just worry about what people think if we have never lived together before and if they think we are impulsive. Even though I am the least impulsive person and often overthink things so much I end up talking myself out of them. Moving in together goes feel like the natural and right thing for us though, and I think it'll be great to settle into a nice routine and do the place up ourselves. 

My bf and I talk about everything and he is aware of my anxiety. He says it's normal to feel a bit nervous about this but to try to focus on the positives and the excitement. I've been a bit unhappy living at home due to a lack of space and too many people/chaos and I feel in the way, though I've been grateful to have had the option to stay there. We have wanted our own space for so long and have worked hard to get there. 

Can anyone share any tips of reducing anxiety when moving in with a partner? Did you live with your partner before buying?