Does anyone else tire of how media writes about BPD?
Don't get me wrong - it hasn't been all bad press. They've made alot of headway. It was good to see someone like Pete Davidson come out to say he had it. 

But just this week (thanks alot Netflix) I've read articles about Marilyn Monroe having it (yeah no shit), along with Jeffrey Dahmer (thanks for lumping us together with that POS). 

During the Amber Heard/Johnny Depp trial, she was BRIEFLY examined by a psychiatrist, and it was deemed probable. Words like "aggressive", "violent" and "manipulative gaslighter" were thrown around too frequently. 
Before all this, it really didn't help that the two main movies we were associated with were Fatal Attraction and Single White Female. 

I'll admit (although I'm married now), when I dated alot, I always dreaded telling the guy that I had it. I'd be afraid that he'd look it up online and run. It happened more than once. 

But it begs the question - is it the disorder itself that causes the bad press? I also have panic disorder/depression. That doesn't get the same amount of bad press. I get it, though. Those are more internal conflicts. BPD can (not always) be so destructive. Mostly to the sufferers, but also to their loved ones. I mean, I HAVE gaslit/manipulated the hell out of people in the past, been severely addicted to painkillers, been hospitalized for a suicide attempt, was terrified that boyfriends would leave me. It also ruined my first marriage - through my self sabotage.

Emotion dysregulation is at the core of BPD, though. It's not the manipulation or addictions - although these are the first things media often bring up.
It's the chronic feelings of emptiness, never really knowing who you are, the sadness and severe anxiety life throws at you. The frustration you feel when you see  other people do "normal" things with relative ease (new jobs/dating/going away to college), but when you do it - it's extremely hard. 

The best way I've described BPD to my loved ones is although everyone gets emotional, borderliners feel too DEEPLY. Like emotions jacked up on steroids. It makes life very difficult when you feel so intensely much of the time.