My partner is currently going through some rough stuff. Very rough stuff. And i need to be there for her. 

I need to be everything she needs to be. 

How do i not make everything about me? How do i take her feelings into consideration, and not get hurt at perceived slights that don't exist, that mind is making up.

I went into some very black and white thinking earlier, "when one bad thing happens, all the bad things happen", and she accused me of needing her to make me feel better when she was feeling bad, and she was right. 

I wanted reassurance. 

How do i be there for her?