I was wondering if people maybe have some coping skills or perspective to share. 

It's been more than a year since my FP broke up with me. The meltdown and breakdowns have left for the most part, which is nice, but somehow I still think about him every day. Better worded; I still obsess over him. I try to stop myself and I avoid him at all costs. I threw away all the social media connected to him, cut all contact months ago &amp; try to focus on "good" things to obsess over (like finding a new job). 

Still, every frikkin day, I can only think about him. I have nightmares about him. And the world doesn't even seem worth it without him. I obsess over the fact that in a few weeks I have a party of a mutual friend where I might see him. Every time someone drops his name my heart jumps (unfortunately he literally has the most common and generic name ever, so that happens a lot). Every time I am traveling on a route that he sometimes took, I inspect every inch of the area so I might see him. I cried so hard when I heard that he moved to a different city nearby. It's so tiring. I don't want this.

Does this get better? How long does it take to get better? What things can make it get better faster? All advice is appreciated. It's been a year and I am so tired.