This is a huge problem for me, so I was wondering if any of you also have this problem. 

I know that it is quite common for people with borderline to be flirty and adventurous with sex. I was that way before I met my partner of 9 years, but the problem is that I still have the tendency to flirt with other guys. 

I don't flirt in an obvious way, but I give certain guys attention, both by giving them a shoulder to lean on/be somebody that listens to them, but also by giving them hugs and be touchy in other ways. I behave that way when I'm at a party. When I am in a regular setting, I try to get guys attention by positioning in a certain way, being cute, interesting and whatnot. 

I don't like this about myself, and I never expect or want anything to happen. I just long for the closeness. 

And not that I am blaming my boyfriend in any way, but he is not the most emotional guy, so when I meet somebody that is willing to talk on a deeper level, I think that I get immediately drawn to that. Same with girls btw. 

I have been actively been holding myself back, but these behaviors still creep out.

Do you have the same problem? How do you manage it? Please help, and please be kind. I know that I'm a shitty person.