They might be for you. I spent a bit of time writing this out last night and figured I'd show it here too.

1. Reality is relative: Perceptions define our own realities and the realities of others. Often they mesh, sometimes they do not, especially for us borderline folk who have tendencies of paranoia and undesirable "reality tweakers" - accept the realities of others in the context of your own. Accept that others may say things in anger or altered states that they don't necessarily believe when they are more grounded. 

2. Meditate regularly. Quieting your mind is profoundly helpful.

3. The ego will cause you pain, seek out opportunities for ego death.

4. Give up control over / attempting to control other people. Often we have the illusion that we can change people, something which is often false. They can allow themselves to be educated and re-examine their beliefs, but never make the mistake of thinking that this is your choice, not theirs. At the end of the day, we can really only choose whether we want someone in our life - or not. The opposite it also true. Seeing someone you love, whether it be a lover or a friend leave you is immensely painful, but the things we do when we are desperate to keep someone WILL NOT make things better. Leave things on a good note - allowing for a reunion can give you an amazing gift, the return of someone you love and cherish. 

5. Stop and pause before making decisions and especially when responding to criticism and / or attacks. Responding to a text while pissed off and angry will only cause you problems in your life and your relationships. 

6. You have 3 things to balance in any relationship. a) Being right / proving someone else wrong in a situation b) Your relationship with the person and c) yourself, namely your physical, emotional and mental well being (and to a certain degree, your self confidence) - consider these 3 things before acting. You may need to let some people go.

7. Even if the voice in your head has been right in the past about people who were going to betray you, rejection often (and I will stress NOT ALWAYS, see 6) is the result of listening to that voice, not something that is mitigated by listening to it. We're hypersensitive to rejection since this is what we fear the most, unfortunately this also causes many of our problems (including black and white thinking). 

8. Avoid vulnerabilities. Sleep well, eat well. If alcohol / drugs are a problem, avoid them (at the very least, understand their effects when you're high and after that). Alcohol makes you an impulsive idiot, be very careful with it. 

9. Avoid situations where a lack of nuance can be present (texting, email, etc), especially for serious emotional discussions, but also in general. 

10. Learn to set up healthy boundaries. Some people tear you down. Know that you can say no and that other people's behaviours are the result of their own choices (see also 4.)

11. Learn that when you're in the midst of a spiral, nothing you eat, swallow, smoke, snort or inject can really make the pain go away. The hardest thing to do is to stop fighting it and just accept it. If it helps, talk (describe, not judge) about how you're feeling to yourself - recognize where you are mentally and find calm in at least knowing where you are. Sleep isn't a bad idea at times like these. 

12. Watch carb intake. If it feels good now, it will probably have a negative effect later (see also drugs) and a low / no carb diet can help improve mental health (sugar tends to send out emotions swinging more than you think)

13. Try not to judge others. You can walk away from most people in your life. That's all it has to be - hate, scorn, etc are unnecessary. Let others travel their own journey (see also 4.)

14. Try not to judge yourself. If you have fetishes or whatever, great. If you're gay, bi, trans, whatever, awesome. Embrace who you are and try to de-program yourself, especially from harmful religious dogma that does little but encourage self loathing and guilt.

15. Accept loss, with grace if possible. In regards to loss of people (and perhaps in a few other areas), try to live, to a certain degree as the greek stoics did. Try to spend every day with a person as if it could be your last. In the long run, minor stuff and squabbles are just bullshit not even worth mentioning. This is somewhat related to 6.

16. "This too will pass." Remember that when you're overwhelmed with negative emotions. And possibly during positive ones. This isn't a time for mourning and / or panic that the end of good is near, but it is the understanding that our experiences will be, to a certain degree, cyclical. There will be easy times, there will be hard times, but regardless, this is life.

17. Create a "suicide" / "spiral box" if you need help pulling yourself out of really bad situations and / or have highly paranoid / isolationist tendencies.  

18. The past is the past. Even if it's an endless source of pain and regret, it is in the past and nothing you do can change what happened. It's extremely hard, but try to let it go. 

19. The future is undetermined. There is no point worrying about something you can't predict. This doesn't mean "don't prepare".

20. Avoid triggers to anger (for me this is bad cops and stuff like r/bad_cop_no_donut)

21. If you are someone who strives to seek out and even mandate justice, whether this is punishing people for something or fixing inequality, try to moderate this and consider what you can do in a positive manner. Often we tend to go for the "burn the goddamn bridges with napalm" negative approach. Also realize that sometimes there isn't a solution, in which case lighting things on fire is a bad idea. If you are unable to resolve a situation that is personal, do what you can to live well. 

22. Try to live your life so the world is left an overall better place. Life is easier knowing that you do good and you've done good. Make positive change in your community if you can.

23. The hole / the sense of profound emptiness (self worth, self esteem) might never really go away. It's the worst damn part for me and I don't know how to resolve it. Accept this loss and understand that this is just the result of what you're living with. Most importantly don’t internalize it. It's not "you as a thinking entity",  it's just something that the bag of meat you inhabit has. 

24. Find allies that are non-judgmental. Making sure we have someone we can really talk to is super important. 