**Full disclosure, I have not been diagnosed, but I am in no way requesting a diagnosis in this post**

Ive been lurking a while and feel like I can relate to almost everyone on here in one way or another.  I've already learned a lot of stuff that has actually been helping me so even if I end up not having BPD I've at least started the process of understanding myself better.  I do have a few questions though.

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**1)**  Regarding Splitting:  I don't find myself splitting with *people* very often, but I have a history of changing hobbies and interests quite often and typically when I'm moving away from one, for whatever reason (wasn't very good, couldn't afford it, got bored, etc), I resign myself to completely avoiding it and convincing myself its not worth doing, no matter how badly I may have wanted to pursue it in the past.  Is this a normal form of splitting?  And if so, does anyone have advice on preventing it or reducing its impact?  This aspect of my thinking has really had a dramatic impact on my life over the years.

**2)**  How do I seek a diagnosis (of whatever might actually be wrong with me) without letting my assumtions drive conversations?  I intend to see someone soon, but I don't want to lead them away from a proper diagnosis just because I find myself relating to BPD so much.  Self diagnosing is not a great thing to do, but I didn't even know about BPD until recently and when I found out everything seemed to click.  I just want to get the *right* help, you know?  

I have other questions but maybe I should just leave it at that for now.  Thanks in advance for any tips.