For context, I’m F and we are both in our mid 20s.

I matched with him on Hinge about 2 months ago but he only responded after a month because he took a break from apps. Immediately, we hit it off, exchanged numbers and started texting. Met up a week later for a coffee and chat, and a proper dinner date the next day. He’s never been in a relationship or dated anyone before so things were a little slow, but we told each other how much we like each other about 3 weeks ago. I really really like him and he really really likes me too. 

Since then, it’s been going great, but recently, I’ve been overthinking everything, reading too much into our texts and the frequency of his responses, over-analysing every interaction, and crying over the fact that I’m behaving so neurotically and can’t seem to control my emotions. We were having a nice phone conversation yesterday and I very nervously and awkwardly asked him if he would now consider us boyfriend and girlfriend. He said yes, I giggled, everything seemed cute and wholesome, but then my stupid brain kicked into overdrive—what if I pushed him? What if I’m coming on too strong? What if he decided it’s too much for him? What if I like him way more than he likes me? 

I then sent him a text, alongside other non-related messages, asking him if we are moving at an ok pace. He didn’t acknowledge that text but replied to all the others. Immediately, I panic. I send him a longer text requesting his thoughts on my question, and apologising profusely for disturbing his revision (he’s got exams coming up for his job). He’s read this text but not responded. I’m now scared he’ll think I’m a big, emotional, overthinking distraction and break things off. 

Please could anyone help me with this? I’m stuck in this cycle of self sabotage and overthinking and it’s ruining my mental well-being. I really fancy this dude and I just don’t want to fuck things up. Thank you in advance for reading.