Hi, I wasn't really sure where else to post this.

So, long story short I'm non-binary (they/them) and my dad forced me to tell him. He didn't react well. It's a long story for another post, but what it boils down to is this: I need space away from them. My friend has offered to let me stay with her for some time, but I don't think they'll react well. My mom has a tendency to guilt trip me and my dad doesn't respect the need for time away. In the past whenever I've said "I need time before we can continue this conversation/before I can do something/to cool off", he doesn't respect that and says that it isn't helpful. And that's just when I ask for a few minutes in a separate room. A few days in a separate house? I can only imagine what he might say.

Here's some information that could be important: I'm 20, so I am an adult, but I am not financially independent in the slightest. I'm in school and have never had a job. I have no power in this household and I never will so long as they own everything. And when I say they own everything, I mean everything. I don't even own most of my clothes. I know I could say "I don't need your permission", but in a way I kind of do need their permission because if they so choose, they can take whatever they want away from me. They could stop paying my tuition, they could take my computer, my phone, my clothes. They could tell me if I leave I can never come back, and they know that if I do that I'll have nowhere to go. I haven't finished school and have no work experience. I don't even know how to go about getting a job.

My parents are not understanding people and never have been. They're very stuck in their ways and refuse to see anything outside of what they already think.

What I'm really asking for is all in the title, but there's so much nuance. The best thing I can think of to tell them is "I need space to think and process my emotions, but I can't do that while I'm here". But, like I said, my dad at the very least doesn't do well with that kind of thing.

Thanks to whoever reads this, it means a lot.