It’s hard for me to be unbiased and logical about relationships sometimes, so maybe somebody else could grant me some clarity.

I’m with a girl, we aren’t official or anything. She has something too, but I’m not sure what. Maybe bipolar or bpd too. I’ve made other posts about it if you care to look it up because it’s a lot to write. Well she loves attention. 

She just got out of a relationship with a narc, and he messed her up bad so she’s not ready for anything real right now. Well I like her, dare say love her, and we’ve been seeing each other for months. She’s across the country right now for school, but we still FaceTime every day — just not in the last two because she’s been busy so I may just be acting up. 

Well it just seems that we only ever talk when she wants to, and if I don’t respond or say I can’t talk right now she gets mad at me. Yet flip it the other way around, and no such luck. She knows I have bpd, and that I crave affection as well and it just seems she doesn’t put in nearly the same amount of effort as I do. I mean she can’t, she needs to fix herself. I’m having a hard time because she needs her space a lot because of aforementioned abusive relationship, and I’m having also having a hard time figuring out if I’m just tripping on bpd things or if I’m legitimately being used for attention when she needs it.

Any insight would be helpful. I know I can’t possible write out the entire situation, so I may be missing a lot of stuff, but how does this seem like to you guys? 