I am (21m) and my partner is (21f), we have been together for almost two years now. My partner was very recently diagnosed with BPD. She was often misdiagnosed with just anxiety and depression which from what I understand are symptoms of BPD and not the root causes. We discovered she had BPD when she decided she would voluntarily go to the Psych Ward. This experience was hard for her but overall paid off as she has been properly diagnosed, has been given new medication, and she has begun taking steps to work towards bettering herself. I have been with her through this whole journey and I have been taking steps to understand BPD to the best of my ability to work with her. 

Before we took her to the ward we had hit kind of a rough patch. I was under the impression she was annoyed by me and we had been having a lot of hard conversations. One that particularly stuck out to me is we got drunk one night and she confessed that she was getting bored in the relationship. She explained that we met during her freshman year of college and she didn't get an opportunity to have the "college experience". She is also bisexual and has limited experience with other women and I know that's something she has expressed interest in. Unfortunately after discussing she couldn't come up with a solution that she was comfortable with. Since her diagnosis, I know a lot of the issues we have been having have been related to her BPD but nonetheless some of those things really hurt to hear. Nowadays I feel she is becoming more frustrated with me and she appears to be less interested in intimacy. I have asked her what things I can work on that bug her or if there is anything she would like to try that could bring the excitement back for us, but she always says it's just how she feels and there's nothing we can do or that she feels the intimate side of our relationship is perfectly fine. She always treasures me that everything is fine, that she still loves me, and that it's all because of her BPD which she is working on. I totally understand some of that but it's extremely emotionally taxing over time.

I'm scared that I'm not enough for her. I love her more than anything in the world and I want to help fix our relationship and help her in her struggle with BPD. It hurts to hear and I worry that she's already feeling this way just a little over a year into our relationship. I don't know how to keep her interested or how to even make progress when we communicate about this issue. We used to have a really strong relationship and she always seemed interested in me but I just don't feel that anymore.