i’ve had quite a lot of people ask me this question especially when it’s very obvious i am struggling, but i have very mixed feelings around it. on one hand i know it’s usually well-intentioned and people generally want to help to feel useful, but at the same time how on earth am i supposed to know what will help me? surely i’d be doing it then?

i really want to have an answer to this or variations of it becuase i want to help other people feel like they’re being helpful but also, it’s not like i don’t need help i just completely struggle to identify what that could look like or analyse the fact i don’t think it’ll work. 

it doesn’t help that i am supremely anxious about reaching out to people and find it hard to hold any conversation properly or respond to texts but i’m trying to work on it 



not entirely sure what this post will achieve but if anyone has advice or has good things to suggest i’m all up for listening