Looking at our relationship from a rational/objective point of view, I trust my s/o fully and I know that we have a good relationship. But when I’m not with him, or he’s not giving me attention, I begin to worry so much. I find myself questioning whether he likes me, or wants to be with me. Sometimes I even question his loyalty. When we’re apart I constantly check my phone for a reply from him. And usually this worry will develop into a full panic and crying episode.

The part that gets me though, is that I can also think about it logically and know that my worries aren’t true. He shows me constantly that he does care for me, and want to be with me. But because of the conflicting feelings, I end up feeling emotionally drained.

I’m also so aware of how this could end up having a negative effect on our relationship. Especially since we live together the majority of the time, and he frequently sees these panics/cries in person. When that happens it normally leads to a conversation where he’s clearly confused, and concerned about me. While I’ve tried to explain to him the thoughts that go through my head, and how I know they’re not true, I worry that he’ll eventually get tired of it (understandably so). At the moment he’s extremely understanding and expresses that he just wants me to be okay, even if that takes time and help. But how long can that really last?

I guess what I’m wondering is, does anyone have advice for how to deal with your s/o also being your FP? Is there a way to move away from them being your FP without ending the relationship or cutting contact?

Also: I should add, I know that things won’t just improve on their own - and I am hoping to start therapy soon