lemme just say, she's the most amazing person I've ever dated, we've been together for a year now and are going to be engaged in a month. she's also neurodivergent, and that's a lot of the reason why our relationship is the only stable one I've had in my life. we have completely different ways of feeling [she's apathetic and I'm hypersensitive] and of processing things, but that's weirdly what really makes us work as a couple, cause our different emotional settings help us deal with each other during bad episodes. 
that being said, there's one thing she doesn't seem to get is that I really need labels for my mental health. I fought teeth and nails to get my BPD, depression and anxiety diagnosis, and the more I research the more I get excited over finding medical terms that explain things I've been going through for my whole life. she keeps reassuring me that I do not need a label for my struggles to be valid, and I understand and appreciate the thought behind that, but the reason I need those labels is partially because I've been invalidated my whole life, and also because it really helps with the constant feeling of being an outcast. 

anyone can relate? 


tldr: I need labels to feel validated and my gf doesn't get it. what's your experience?