So as the title says, I have a friend who’s struggling with pretty bad anxiety. When she has an anxiety attack, she shuts herself off from the world and won’t talk or respond to anybody. 

Me and this girl are interested in each other, but she isn’t wanting anything right now because her anxiety has started getting worse, understandable and that’s fine, but I do really like her, so I just wanted to see if anyone had some advice on how to better understand and help her without coming off strong and triggering her anxiety. 

I myself don’t have anxiety, not to this degree so I don’t have experience with it. Right now I’m trying to be understanding. Recently she used to get a super bad anxiety attack about once a month, but she recently went to see her mom’s family (that she loves), and her dad (that she’s kind of terrified of, growing up he was mentally and emotionally abusive), and since she got back about two weeks ago, she’s had about 3 anxiety attacks, and when she does, she stops texting me, it used to just be at night but lately it’ll be in the middle of the day, and I won’t hear from her until the next day. At that point I’m just worried about her. 

Any tips or advice for things I can do or say to better help her and understand without triggering her anxiety?