* Just to clarify, I’m not asking for any diagnoses as I’ve already kind of figured that part out on my own based on the criteria *

Hi,

I was reading online a couple of months ago and stumbled on BPD and I looked into it. I have been officially diagnosed with anxiety and depression, but I have certain feelings that aren’t explained by either and the testing I did I don’t think screens for BPD. I picked up a copy of the DSM and I fit almost all of the criteria for diagnoses—I have a constantly shifting and unstable sense of self, I get angry very easily and shift moods, I’m extremely impulsive, I always feel empty and like I’m not me but rather someone else looking at me especially when I look at myself, I am a very very reckless driver and reckless spender, I often fear rejection to the point where I don’t even bother with relationships with others even though I desire them, and for almost a year I used to cut myself constantly multiple times per day until I somehow got myself to stop it, and probably more that I’m not thinking about.

What can I do about it? Does therapy actually help or is it just a waste of time? It would be hard for me as I live with my family and I don’t want them to know about this. Any tips from people who’ve had this for a while to know how to deal with it? Thanks