I have been very low contact with my parents for just under two years now. My mom will send me a text every once in a while updating me on how she is doing...will throw in a 'How are you?' every once in a while but I never answer back in great detail because I know it's just a formality, she doesn't really care how I am really doing. 

Anyways, I usually don't answer at all, because I have nothing to say. I told her before I moved out that if my parents behaviour towards me didn't change soon, they wouldn't have me in their life and I mean't it. Now that this has come true, they act like they don't understand why. My mom is constantly trying to arrange a get together and I don't feel comfortable with it. Thinking about seeing my parents literally makes me physically ill. 

Someone posted earlier the quote "How we speak to our children becomes their inner voice" and I believe that 100%. My parents called me all sorts of names growing up, my dad would call me lazy, pig, ungrateful, bitch, etc. My mom would also call me a bitch, lazy, etc., all sorts of names I just can't think of any other ones. And guess what? I hate myself, always have. But I don't want to. And I know that if my parents don't try to change their behaviour, they will continue to hurt me even after I've moved out of their place. 

So what do you all think about sending them an article on that sort of topic? Like how you talk to your child becomes their inner voice? I want to highlight for them the reason why I am not speaking to them because they don't seem to get it. My mom seems to think that I just need space and that eventually I will come around. But it's been almost two years and I've had 0 urge to speak with either of them because they make me so angry, especially my dad. I can't even talk about him. He makes me sick. Not only was he emotionally and mentally abusive towards my entire family, he acts that with his coworkers and complete strangers. I have 0 respect for him.