I’m a non BPD whose partner of 2 years was diagnosed about 18 months ago. 

A few ups and downs. Now in retrospect it’s been based on his moving in and out of a cycle of something. So again, recently, after three months of bliss, promises, joy, amazing words of commitment and love, he stopped responding to texts. I told him I realised he had “gone” again but I promised we would stick together through these moments. But what is this moment?! 

He hardly speaks to me but when he describes it he says he doesn’t know who he is. Has no feelings. Basically without telling me I think he wants to disappear. It reminds me of depression but is it splitting? Won’t speak to me unless I call and kind of force him to tel me how he is. 

I guess I need to get out of this cycle? I wish I could be there for him when he is well again but it’s like I have another person in the relationship with us and I’m so alone when that other person reads it’s head.