husbands job right now requires him to be training during weekdays (without coming home at night) and home on weekends. During the week, it goes like this. Initially, i’m happy to have an unusually clean house when he’s gone, have the car to myself, and call the shots on what i do. Then towards the end of the week, i miss him and think about how much i love him. i think this is pretty normal/standard

but the issue is, when he comes home, he’s gotten very little sleep, but it extremely short and irritable with me. this causes a lot of resentment. i feel like the little time we do get to spend together, he spends annoyed at me or i feel like i don’t get any emotional needs met. i just want some physical affection or to talk or hang out together. he wants the opposite, and i get it. so i try to stay out his way and busy myself with friends and chores and such. but friends can’t take the place of my literal husband, and honestly, when he’s hear it makes me feel worse than when he’s gone and i miss him. i just don’t know what to do. i get he works hard long hours but aren’t i an equal partner in this relationship? i shouldn’t have to ignore my own emotional needs ALL the time. like honestly only 1/3 days he’s home where he isn’t crabby and is sweet and loving would be enough for me. 

i know you’re supposed to communicate this stuff and i did. we got into a fight over this and usually i’m a pretty good communicator, but i’d had enough over the last few weeks and had a “mini split” and i don’t know if im being irrational still. how do i get some of my needs met while being sensitive to his? i need to know if there’s anything i can do on my end or if i’m being an insensitive asshole