I am trying to reply to a girl who ghosted me for a little over a week and then reached out explaining what happened after I asked.

She says sorry for being MIA, she was figuring things out with someone she's been seeing on and off for a bit. He wants to be exclusive with her all of a sudden. She offered to be friends and would understand if I didn't want that.

It's been a day and a half, going on two days that I have been pondering this and experimenting with word choice. It's rather difficult to convey what I want to convey because I was really hurt by how she treated me and I need time to get over it, but I would want to be her friend at some point. I also don't know when I'd reach out to her or when she'd reach out to me or what this would even look like going forward.

I don't want to be her plan B in case her guy who came out of the cobwebs doesn't work out. Maybe she was the flaky one and not him, who knows. But that's irrelevant to this problem solving.

We learned about problem solving in DBT class today. I gave this scenario as an example and we came up with options. The best one was "examine all the things you feel and want to say and then use wise mind to figure it out." I'm not very good with wise mind and this is a really hard conversation to have.

**Here's what I have that I think is decent but could use improvement:**

&gt;I appreciate you getting back to me and letting me know. We all have things going on and such in life so I understand.  
&gt;  
&gt;I enjoyed getting to know you and would have liked to see where things would have gone. It’s good to know I didn’t do anything wrong since I tried my best.  
&gt;  
&gt;I am cool with moving forward as friends since I enjoyed your company; still would go axe throwing with ya and would appreciate your advice with adopting an animal.

**Here's what I think is confusing and needs work (the last paragraph):**

&gt;That said, I do need a little time to process things. But in the meantime, feel free to send me memes and reach out when you’d like to connect again.

How can I convey this dialectical to her without making her feel guilty or confused? Where can I improve what I am trying to say? I may just remove it entirely. I am pretty sure my goal is to communicate my feelings effectively... I forget the rest of what we came up with in class and the therapist sent me the google doc but my gmail account wasn't granted access to it at this moment so I'll find out tomorrow what it says exactly.

edit: my therapist says I can ask her to wait a week or two before connecting with me again?