Example: I got broken up with and decided to unleash my emotions and drain the person so much and so unfairly in the aftermath. I think part of me did so because I knew it meant I wouldn’t hope that he would change his mind later. If we ended on good terms, I would never move on because I would hope and wonder if he would reach out again with a change of heart. And living in that state is horrible, I’d rather sabotage it all and know things are done for good. Otherwise I’m crying all day, fixating, looking into every social media activity, and checking my phone compulsively.