how do you manage impulses? i'm getting into trouble with substance use and self harm and spending, and i don't want to upset my friends and partner because i can't control myself. "i'm a bad person" is playing in a loop in my head. i'm losing hundreds of dollars, always sick, and guilty as hell. i seem put together but i treat myself like shit. it annoys my partner and friends more than it hurts me. i want to be normal.