I have a roommate with BPD+Autism. I am on the spectrum as well. When I first got here, they kept offering me everything they had (their possessions, medications, random favors, etc), acted extremely excited to see me, etc. Then we did mushrooms together, and they began to cry because I won’t be living here very long. They asked me if I liked holding hands/wanted a hug/talked about kissing, and even though I’m attracted to them, I politely declined, and regretted it. They describe themselves as aro/ace.

We had an outing, and they said “When we were at the museum, I started having a nice time, but then something in my head slapped my hand and said ‘No! You know what happens when you get close to people.’”

Now, they seem less excited to see me. The flirting is continuing (“Do you eat peanut butter? That’s cute” “You have beautiful eyes” “You’re so powerful”, but I feel extremely anxious around them. I’m extremely rejection sensitive so I’m being as neutral as possible. I know they had very serious issues with the previous roommate who came before me, but don’t know the details.

The biggest kicker is, they share a bed with our other roommate, spends every waking moment with him (yesterday they casually peed in the bathroom together), but insist they’re just unconventional friends. The other roommate is extremely stable and pleasant to be around.

I’m attracted to them, but don’t know how they’d respond if I flirted back. I’m sad because they seem less and less excited to see me, even though the grandiose favors&amp; flirtatious comments continue. They make me feel very, very anxious. I’m only here for 7 more weeks; what should I do?