In the past I've treated people poorly (mostly verbally or being very argumentative or ghosting them). At the time it seemed perfectly reasonable!! I felt like I was right. Then I was hospitalized for being suicidal, and at all the group therapies they talked about people who are toxic to others...the other patients had toxic people in their lives and were learning to set boundaries. Every time I thought, that sounds like me....I'm the toxic person. I come across as a really nice person, until I tell my husband I hate him, become difficult to those in authority, etc.  It was a big realization for me. It's like I'm 2 people only in the past I didn't know that. I thought I was nice and easy-going. I'm trying really hard to not be that toxic person anymore.