hi everyone! So I’ve noticed recently that every time I am in a relationship my borderline tendencies and destructive behavior are at an all time high. but when I am single, I am emotionally more stable, I don’t have as much reactions anymore and I’m more at peace with myself. I even doubt that I have borderline personality disorder. I know that when I was a 
teenager I would have BPD symptoms at all times even if I was single. But now that I’m an adult, I noticed that I don’t seem to have as much BPD tendencies when I am single. Do I still have borderline, or am I just coping in a healthy way? does this happen to anyone else?