My wife has generalized anxiety. As long as triggers aren't around everything is relatively normal and stress free. However one of her triggers is, most unfortunately, largely around the health of other loved ones. Sniffles with our kids, fevers, coughs, all of that triggers her anxiety around them basically getting sick and dieing. 

Her trigger for anxiety likely stems from unresolved issues from finding her grandmother dead when she got home from school around 8 or 9. At least that's my opinion.

I've encouraged her to get professional help but the answer is always "I've tried it doesn't work". So I can't really do anything about that. The issue is she's now obsessed with everyone possibly having Covid yet we don't expose ourselves to anyone with Covid, she tests the kids, herself, and demands I test app the time with at home tests. She tested herself 3 times in a row the other day... She hasn't seen anyone in weeks. I end up giving in to testing demands because it's easier but it would probably be better to reject this but I don't have the energy to fight anymore.

I'm at wits end with the whole thing. It's absolutely exasperating. I find myself so quick to anger nowadays because the prattle, worrying, and everything is constant and incessantly about Covid and the kids or parents possibly getting sick. That's not me, I used to be so patient with everything, but I just don't have it in me to try being patient anymore. We're all vaccinated at this point, and up to date.  Before Covid it was still about illness and an obsession with checking temperatures and worrying over the kids and that they'll be ok. It's just worse now with news about variants of Covid and death plastered everywhere. Data about incredibly low risks once vaccinated don't change anything, because the anxiety is illogical anyway.  

Any input would be appreciated. I know everyone has different triggers but I'm about ready to get a therapist for myself because of this and maybe that is the best action at this point...