Me and my friend (who’s a girl) have been friends for almost 3 years now. We’ve been in a relationship twice during this time but have broken up and only recently have I tried getting over her but after getting denied by another girl I found myself coming back. I found it so hard to move on as we were such good friends and also because we live on a small island so we see each other out and about most days and she also lives about a 5 minutes walk away from my house.

Late September last year we went on a school trip for a week so are whole class was living together and during this time everything was fine but as soon as we got back home she stopped meeting me for no reason. She had done this in the past but it only lasted a month and a half and after that everything went back to normal. Ever since we got back from that trip she still arranged to meet me but she never showed up more than once a month. On the days we were supposed to meet she would either not say anything or message me on the day that she’d changed her mind and then almost every single time I’d see her hanging around with her cousin.

I still see her at parties and in the street but when she does see me she’s really nice and at parties all she wants to do is hang around with me but as soon as the party is over she no longer wants to talk to me. We do message each other a lot and once again she’s really nice and caring so we still message each other about our problems but it’s not the same as you can’t comfort each other as much other text. I’m not sure if I am her favourite person but it’s most definitely either me or her cousin. 

I was wondering if anyone could tell me why she does this as I care about her deeply and I miss having my best friend to talk to and share new experiences with