Hey everyone, I’ve been stalking the subreddit for a bit because I had a friend who told me they had bipolar and I wanted to get an idea of how that effects their behavior. While now I’m dating her, and am now I’ve kind of developed some concerns as I’ve gotten closer to her.

Currently it’s going untreated. She is scared to take medication because she is afraid it will cause her to become like a zombie. She says while she is manic she is able to see what’s happening and control it.

What concerns me is this. She was in a 6 year relationship with someone who she cheated on twice, and then her boyfriend flipped out on her because she became really good friends with me and he was not ok with that considering her past. So he blew up and she broke up with him, ending their 6 year relationship for good, we soon got together.

Her ex was abusive, raped her, hit her, emotionally abused her, so I can see why she would feel the need to be satisfied outside of the relationship. However I can’t help but wonder if that was the only reason it happened. And how I can be assured she will not be tempted to and or actually cheat on me when she becomes manic again. We have not been together long enough for me to see her that way. She assures me she would never ever do something like that, but reading many of the posts on here make me anxious about it.