My boyfriend (22M) and I (20F) have been together for about 8 months now. We both live with our parents as we’re still college students and can’t work full time, but plan to move out once we graduate and get better jobs other than retail. The huge downside to him living with his parents is his mother, as she is batshit insane. His mom has a tendency to start fights when she’s bored, and will do stuff on purpose to make people angry so they engage. The fights escalate to the point where all 4 people in the house get involved. These fights always happen when he is not over my house, usually when I’m either working or need to do schoolwork. Because they happen so often, I get filled with dread whenever I get a notification from him that says "so", "uh", or a long sentence because it’s usually him explaining what happened. I have so much anxiety from this to the point where it makes me nauseous. I’m worried that it will get so bad that the police will be involved. My boyfriend is huge, so he could really hurt somebody if he wanted to, and I don’t know how much more he can take. I’ve tried to help my boyfriend with conflict management and he’s stopped a lot of fights by refusing to engage, but his mom knows how to make it very personal and get him angry, usually by insulting me. She has met me once btw, she is too insecure to leave the house and locks herself in her room on the rare occasion I come inside. I hate that he has to deal with her, and he equally feels bad that I get dragged into these fights. I shouldn’t have to feel this sense of impending doom whenever I know my boyfriend is home. I tell him how much anxiety it gives me, but that doesn’t matter because, at the end of the day, he is the one that has to deal with her directly. Right now he is kicked out of his house (until his dad comes home and she plays the victim and says she didn’t mean to) and he will be let inside. This started because she fed his dog wet food that she knows makes him sick "because he likes it", and he shit all over his cage. She refused to let my boyfriend clean it, and then kicked both of them out. I was feeling fine and having a good morning until this happened. Now I feel sick and I’m shaking because my parents won’t let my bf and the dog stay with us (which I understand), so there’s little I can do right now. I know that what he is going through is worse, but he doesn’t panic like I do and he knows the "cycle" of how she fights. I don’t know what to do and I hate feeling this way. Has anyone else had to deal with this kind of situation?