Hi everyone,

First I would like to thank you for reading my post, and secondly I would like to ask for your advice on the particular situation I find myself in.

Long story short: I’ve been with my pwBPD for 13 years and we have 3 children together. As you might imagine there have been many peaks and valleys  but through it all I’ve continued to love my wife completely and without hesitation.

Since the holidays, however, we’ve entered a rather prolonged valley, and I’m doing my best to give her what she needs while we navigate this period.

And this brings me to the crux of my problem; I’m going to Asia for 2 weeks this month and I’m not sure how best to support my wife? I do these trips with friends once a year or so and generally it’s worked out pretty well, but right now my wife seems to be very vulnerable. If I could I would cancel, but it’s not feasible  and she wouldn’t let me anyway.

So I ask you. If your partner were to go halfway across the world for a couple of weeks, how would you like for them to handle it? Is there anything that would make you feel particularly secure and cared for? Have you been in this situation yourself and was there something you wish your partner had done or said?

Any advice is appreciated. I’m very anxious about this trip and I would love some insight into how I might mitigate the distance between us.

Thanks again!