Ok, I am a male in my mid twenties and I’ve been dealing with this issue since I was about 17 (when I first started having sex) basically I have an intense fear of contracting herpes. When I kiss a girl, I will look in the mirror religiously for 2-14 days (that’s how long on average it takes for herpes to show) to make sure nothing appears on my mouth and whenever I get into relationships and the girls want to have sex, I discuss my fear and they assure me they don’t have diseases etc. and I have sex with them then for 2-14 days I look around my mouth to make sure nothing is appearing as I get nervous that maybe they have herpes and don’t know it, or they are lying to me. This fear is crippling me because it’s so draining, I’ve been to doctors multiple times because I felt like I saw something and they just look at me in confusion because there’s nothing there. How do I shake this fear? How do I let this go and trust people? How ?