Trigger warning: suicidal and self harming friend 


I have been dating my friend with BPD for 2 months and recently she has gotten suicidal thoughts and started self harming again. While we were dating I have gotten emotionally attached to her, it's unhealthy I know. But now I feel like absolute shit, because she is feeling like shit. 

I promised her when we started dating I wouldn't abandon her if she would get in one of these situations and that I would try to stay supporting her. But now she is treating me like a complete stranger, doesn't show any kind of affection like she used to. And when I give her advice or something I get a shitty response back. 

We discussed that I would try to distance myself a little to give her room to recover. But it's so hard. I want to help her but I can't. She has to go trough this herself and survive it with her own motivation. 

Any advice would be welcome. I would appreciate it a lot if I could talk to someone about this.