When you have come a place where you’re mostly in control of your reactions, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with splitting… can anyone provide a different perspective on this? 

When I observe other relationships were no one has the ability to split, I see that people tend to be walked all over and continue to stay in contact with people who abuse them. And I really can’t understand that. 

To me, splitting is normal reaction in justifiable situations. For me, I notice I allow people chances to give them the benefit of the doubt. If they do something that insults me in regards to how much they know about my life and also all of the things we’ve been through, it really doesn’t hurt me to stop the relationship in it’s tracts…it’s like a final straw thing.

 I even talk to other people about the situation to gain insight. I’m not sure if I just have “yes” men around me but the people who aren’t in my life anymore do not need to be. And I’ve found that every time expectations guilted me to put my pride aside and allow the person back into my life, they’ve hurt me in the worst way again.

TLDR: I guess I’m wondering if anyone is feels like they think their ability to split is more helpful than detrimental. 

I think it’s one the better defense mechanisms some of us received from our terrible childhoods, etc.