Everything I have read about, experienced from the projections and outbursts, etc seem to fit BPD quite classically. However I am not a professional, my GF and I both want to help but she will not accept it.

She thinks we are the issues. Her relationships around her are crumbling one by one, but per her words, they all suck and hate me.

She has extreme episodes followed by episodes of normalcy and everyone she has tagged are defeated and she questions what she even did? 

I know this is tough, but how can we help her get help if she believes she doesn’t need it and it’s everyone else’s fault. 

Thanks for all the help and appreciate the education this sub has provided as well.