I take 100mg of Zoloft a day, and 10mg of Adderall twice a day. 
I’m 30 days sober. That’s a huge thing for me and has been really hard, but drinking made my moods extreme and my rage and outbursts where so cruel. My rational was that it numbed me out, but it didn’t really, just made me avoid everything instead. I verbally abused my loved ones while drunk and said some of the most horrible things. Most I don’t remember cause I was drinking to the point of blacking out. 

Quitting drinking has helped my  moods stabilize and my meds seem to help with anxiety and focus. Adderall isn’t helping with impulsivity though and that’s why I was prescribed it. I don’t have the Psychosis side of BPD (I do get paranoid, but it’s for things like my evil ass mom doing some sneaky ass move to manipulate me etc) 
So I don’t need the anti psychotic meds. 

My problem is that my moods, even though better now that I’m not drinking, are still high and low and I react to things that make me feel unwanted, useless or rejected/abandoned.

Do mood stabilizers help with actually balancing out moods and emotions? And what do they feel like? Do they help with impulsivity? And how bad are the side effects? And which one has the best results?