Hello, this is my first post so sorry if they're are any mistakes. 
I have BPD and ADHD, I'm in therapy and take medications for my illnesses. I've been lurking on reddit for a few weeks and the one thing I've noticed a lot are the posts I've seen there have been people who think we are attention-seeking, manipulative, lying, abusive a*******. we aren't all like that, just because you met a someone like that with BPD doesn't mean you should paint us with the same brush. Another thing that annoys me is that apparently BPD is 'lifelong', its not if you're wondering how I know this well my psychiatrist told me, it takes a lot of work and recovering and sorting through a long list of issues but it can be done. Also, just because you were with someone who refused treatment doesn't mean rest of us do, we work hard to manage our condition and its take a lot of work to do. You talk about BPD as if we are possessed by demons, I mean come on seriously, that's just ridiculous. Don't condemn someone just because of the illness we have, everyone is different, BPD doesn't affect everyone the same way which goes for all mental illnesses by the way. Also who made you the expert in BPD, do you have the qualifications to tell me how BPD works, to tell me who I am? I am not abusive, I don't lie, I don't manipulate, I don't seek attention, I hate being the centre of the attention, I didn't like at my own wedding and I was the bride. I'm in a stable relationship, I've been in a relationship for 4 years, married for 1, so we can have stable relationships, it takes work and commitment but we can do it. My point is we aren't all the same, we have our own unique qualities, we are human.