Assuming.

Assuming you know what someone either IS thinking and feeling, or what they’re PROBABLY Thinking or feeling. Assuming someone is either absolutely evil or absolutely amazing . 

we take that assumption and assume that it’s TRUE 

Then we emotionally react as if whatever devastating assumption we made is a fact . 

Pay attention to your assumptions and stop yourself in your tracks before you get to
The point of believing your own lie .

This goes hand in hand with imagining different scenarios and reacting to those thoughts as if they were a fact ... 

Getting your thoughts on a leash is EXTREMELY DIFFICULT and takes non stop discipline. We can break these terribly destructive and torturous thought cycles and escape our SELF INDUCED pain . 

I’d also like to point out that we can’t expect the average person to Even BEGIN to understand how excruciating the emotions of a person with bpd are . They simply cannot relate . I would compare the emotions of bpd to the level of pain that one experiences when a loved one literally dies . We can’t let ourselves get hurt by them not understanding something they’ve never experienced. This doesn’t mean they don’t love you and don’t care , most people just don’t know how to react . 

Anyone can change . Takes hard work . Consistency is key . We all know having bpd hurts so much that death sounds beautiful. But the longer we let our thoughts run wild without even trying to build new thought habits , the more destruction our lives will endure . Don’t believe the lies you tell yourself , shut that shit down . 

You got this !!
WE GOT THIS YALL