There are 3 things that I have to work on. 

1.Being less controlling and impulsive (I’m gaining a hold on this a bit more, but every now and then I fumble. I’m constantly trying to be in control or feel as if I ALWAYS have the right answers about things, but I don’t.)

2.Being less annoying / clingy, yet rejecting (I did this a lot with my ex, who I still love dearly. I would run to the door when he came home from work like a lost puppy, and rarely give him anytime to relax and decompress after work. Then when he was ready to provide me with time, I’d shut down.)

3.Being more of an independent adult ( I need to learn how to care for myself more, and develop healthy routines that I can stick too. I’ve quit jobs, school, and gave up great opportunities, because I wasn’t ready. Taking control of my BPD has been the first time ever that I really tried to do something on my own, or strived to work on, but I don’t want to apply all of my energy into just BPD. I want to build the confidence to work and be confident enough to do things that aren’t always fulfilling.  I’m not looking for a dream job, I’m looking for willpower and drive.)

These are my 3  traits that I seem to either lack or reactively resort to. At times they can be nice, even funny, but 9/10 times they’re exhausting on myself and others. I would love to know if there are any exercises, videos, etc.  that I could use to help instill these in me? 


I’m proud of the progress that I’ve made this year with trying to get my BPD under control, but I’m no where near finished. I’m still having bad days, which is part of life, but I’m teaching myself to accept them, not be hard on myself, and try again when the times right. 

I  would greatly appreciate, any information!