I used to spend a whole lot of time trying to get my friends to listen when I told them that I felt like our friendships were becoming one sided due to me contacting them and them really only reaching out to me once every 3-6 months usually with something inconsequential like “hey I was thinking of you” with the implication that no they weren’t going to make plans to do anything and if I asked they’d say yes then bail the day of.
Reducing my friendships to an absolute minimum has been somehow a really calming thing for me. I no longer spend most of my day wanting desperately to have them invite me out or anything of the sort. I no longer save stuff either to my phone or irl to show/ give them because I was thinking of them. I just am sitting back and letting it all burn and it’s so freeing. The best thing is they’re starting to send messages like “I miss you” and “it’s been so long let’s do something” and it’s even more liberating to just tell them I’m busy. 
I even stopped spending so much time on dating apps cause people would ghost for literally any slight or none at all and I hated the cycle of abandonment.
I know this isn’t the most healthy thing but I can’t help but share. 