Regarding how to help with my fiancé and his drinking.  Recently he’s started seeing a therapist and is working on his depression. He says they’re going to do a brain scan on him to try and figure out what exactly is going on with him to see what the best course of treatment he needs. 

Well, they theorize he has depression but also a form of schizophrenia, which he is afraid to admit, and I can say I’m a little scared too. His episodes seem to be getting worse, albeit they’re not that regular. However, I just found out that he was drinking again and is hiding it from me. I know this to be true because yesterday he kept making excuses to go outside, and today when I went to take a drink from his water cup he brought in from his car, it tasted strongly of alcohol.  So I waited until he was asleep to check his car, and low and behold, there was a bottle of whiskey in his car. I don’t know how to confront him about it without it blowing up in my face. I try not to bring up things that trigger episode, and drinking is one of those things that trigger it.  Because last tome I asked him about it he accused me of not trusting him and always thinking the worst of him. I love him, and want to be there for him, especially while we figure out this treatment plan, but at the same time I don’t want to be with someone who keeps lying to me and making me feel like an ansshole for thinking he’s lying. 

I want to be there for him, but his last episode was really rough.  Him accusing me from nowhere that everything that’s happening with him is my fault.  And that nothing I’ve done has ever made him happy.  I know that’s just the schizophrenia/depression talking, but hearing that broke something in me. And the worst part is is that he doesn’t even remember saying these things.  I don’t know what to do anymore.