So my (25,F) SO (25,M) is pissing me tf off lately. We’ve been together for about 7 years and have a 2 year old boy together. We also come from very different cultural background (he’s Mexican and I’m.. idk honestly white American? Idk how to describe myself). 

So today’s Mother’s Day and he did absolutely nothing. No happy Mother’s Day, no thank you, nothing. I get zero recognition for anything. I’ve been stepping up and doing all the laundry and the cleaning and he doesn’t help at all. I used to be really depressed and didn’t help at all It was hard for me to do anything. He cleaned once a week otherwise the house was a mess. 

I work full time, I make all of our sons meals for daycare the night before (due to COVID19 they’re not serving hot lunch for the time being), I do all of our sons laundry and put it away, make all meals for him. I do a lot. And I’m not saying my SO doesn’t do anything. He does just not as much as I do. It’s about 80/20 with me being 80% him being 20. 

I try to do special things for him whenever I can. All I wanted was to feel a little bit appreciated today and got nothing. I’m splitting, being very cold/heartless, dissociating, and now isolating so I don’t feel like an asshole. 

On top of it all, he wants to have this discussion in front of our son while we’re both upset and crying.. NOT okay. I don’t want to argue in front of our son but my SO wants to figure things out in that moment and doesn’t understand that 1. My emotions get out of control and I’m not in wide mind. And 2. It’s not fair for our child to witness this. I don’t know what to do. He knows I’m in DBT and have a very hard time communicating when I’m upset but feels alone/slightly abandoned (this is just me paraphrasing) when I walk away to calm down/use skills. I attempt to explain the skills to him after therapy but I’m so emotionally exhausted after therapy all I can say is- “it was good, learned a lot.”

So in conclusion, today sucks. Thanks for reading if you’ve read this far.