She said no.  It was date 3 for us and it was the first woman I really felt good about pursuing in years.  I am terrible at reading body language, or at least I always second guess myself and fear being pushy..so I normally do nothing.  I could tell something was off this date, but convinced myself it was just my anxiety again.  Turns out I was actually correct this time I guess.  After I asked she said she wasn't feeling the chemistry.  

I am actually relieved I asked to kiss her.  Sucks being rejected, but I don't have my normal anxiety of: -what if I did this or that-, -if only I was more confident-, etc.  At least I know now.  Some people think it's strange to ask first, but this is the only way I see forward to get past this end-of-date anxiety, or more general goodbye anxiety, that has crippled me my whole dating life.  

I am a 30 year old man and have always waited for the woman to make the move first.  This becomes a big probably when the other half is also waiting and expecting the man to make the move. Sure, sometimes a woman has pulled me in or asked me back to hear place, but that is really rare.  Really, just thinking about when to make that decision with people I'm planning to meet, whether a first date or fourth date, causes me to become an anxious disaster.  

This is only the second time I have asked someone directly first, both times I have been rejected, but the post date anxiety has been much lower after these dates.  Maybe because the regret doesn't exist in these cases.

Anyway, just wanted to vent that a bit.  Maybe some can relate.