I've had anxiety most my life due to trauma, and it seems to be impacting my relationship the most. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and I find that I feel overwhelmed when speaking with him. It's not that I don't care what he has to say because I do and I want to show that by being more engaged. When he talks, he tends to speak consistently for 15-20 minutes at a time, and even if it's shorter I find myself immediately getting anxious, checking out and getting stuck in my thoughts (am I nodding enough, don't twitch, make eye contact, smile, should I ask a question, is he mad at me for not speaking enough, DONT FORGET WHAT HES SAYING, etc) I get so overwhelmed because I know he likes engaging conversations and if I don't say much he thinks I don't care, but it's just because I genuinely have no questions or responses, sometimes it's because it's him making factual statements that don't require my opinion (basketball history, basketball shoe history, what his work flow is like, etc) and maybe I just don't have anything to add. Sometimes when I do speak I get anxious by his responses (him correcting the way I speak, or he will just stare until he speaks) and it makes me feel like I'm socializing wrong and then feel like I need a break and recharge. I feel so bad because from his end he's just talking and my end I'm trying to remain active in my head to keep up but end up feeling overwhelmed and burnt out and scared that I'm doing it wrong or not saying the right things or not pleasing him. How can I change this? What tips can I use to help keep a conversation alive. Please help this is something that is daily for me and I just want to be a good girlfriend.