I was never officially diagnosed because when I saw my psych, I was 17 but she was convinced I had it. It makes sense if you know who I am, so I accepted it as official. Plus, one of my family members had it. 

Anyway, I was reading another thread of someone's abuse situation and everyone was saying the abuser had "classic BPD". Some were saying it's a "more extreme case" but that doesn't make me feel any better. Especially knowing the family member who had it ended up taking their own life and how I almost did.

I'll admit, sure, the behaviors lined up with that abuser, but I just really wish people would stop assuming people who are abusive = borderline. Is there any way to just, not mentally associate myself with that? Even if I do have BPD? Because I've never acted like that, at least not to that extent.