My daughter has received a diagnosis of BPD. She has also been diagnosed as opiate addicted and is now taking an opiate replacement. I have a really hard time dealing with what seems to me like punishing behaviour. There will be some small slight or instance of me being insensitive and she will freeze me out and refuse to speak with me. I got angry with her last night because I have been worried and reached out and inexplicably she was mad and wouldn't speak to me. It seems that the only way to get her talking again is to get angry at her but that seems wrong and feels manipulative because I think she responds because it triggers her fear of abandonment. The problem is that it gets her talking again and we can usually iron out the problem and it gives me the opportunity to address her fears and concerns and offer her support. What is a healthier way to get her talking when she's angry for something she thinks I've done (usually she thinks I've judged or rejected or abandoned her)?