I’m trying to be friends with my ex, we were together for 3 years and he has a new girlfriend. I was really happy that he found someone new and that he seemed happy, but over time he started telling me how possessive she is, and controlling. I snapped and said I wanted to punch her in her fat face, and he was reasonably upset. I don’t know what to do, but I just told him that we can be friends but I never want to hear about her again. All he does is complain and claim he wants to leave her, but then doesn’t. It’s causing me to have violent thoughts, and triggering my self harm thoughts, but I’m trying to fight it all off because I know that I have no control over that situation. It hurts to hear someone I love get hurt and it hurts even more that he pushes me away for being upset for him. Idk I really wish I could just hole myself away forever.