I 19 F used to date a boy two years ago in highschool who is now 18. For context I dumped him the day california went into lockdown, he had gotten violent with me and i saw it as a blessing in disguise that i didn’t have to face him at school for a while. Despite this he puked tweet about me all the time and i thought that after the wound heals he would stop trying to get in contact with me/tweet about me. I don’t have him on anything and he is blocked on all platforms but my friends do send me screenshots of some sketchy tweets he’s made. Tweets where he talks about how much he wants to hurt my current bf and how much he resents me for his life going on a downward spiral/how much he hates me for it. 

Anyways, a few nights ago around 2am I got around 10 calls from an unknown number. I have pretty bad anxiety so this alone was enough to make me nervous. I refused to answer the calls because I know better than to answer a random number. It wasn’t until I got a text from this number saying, “I tried.” I heard a loud car from outside my house but didn’t think much of it because a highschool boy lives on the end of my block and cut the exhaust on his car. It still didn’t sit right with me though. 

I peeked through my kitchen window and there was his car so I knew the calls and texts were from him. The whole using another number to text me isn’t unusual but I never let it bother me too much because the block button is free. I simply texted back “please leave my house or i will call the police this is weird.” He had a history of being violent with me so idk I just sort of went into fight or flight mode. I waited about 40 minutes and he continued to spam text me saying this like “I don’t want to hurt you but..” or “so you don’t even want to see me?” 

I don’t know if I overreacted but I got pictures of the car outside and sent them to my friend before calling them. They told me to call the police and that was the final push of encouragement I needed before finally calling. When I did I let them know of the situation and my address and they let me know a square car would be there shortly. 20 mins pass and he leaves my house and I thought that would just be the end of it seeing as the cop didn’t show up so i figured he wouldn’t be caught. 

I was wrong, I received a call after that the police office had indeed caught him, and he was going to spend the night in jail. I later found out it was on a dui charge and I can’t help but feel guilty that it was my fault he spent the night in jail and will have to pay a fine and get his car from the impound. so, am i in the wrong? Did I act out wrong because I am so anxious or was that rational?