I recently found out that I’m pregnant. I’m only 9 weeks, and I decided to keep this to myself seeing as I’m a high risk pregnancy due to the IUD that has since been removed— I was also advised that you shouldn’t start telling people until your second trimester. I told a total of five people, one being my mother, and the rest of them were my siblings, my best friend, and a friend from the internet. I wanted to tell someone that didn’t know me personally because I thought they would be happy for me, and I also thought if things go south... I wouldn’t have to face them seeing as that’s a big possibility. THEY REACTED IN A HORRIFYING AND NEGATIVE WAY. 

Not only did this person violate my privacy by sharing this with someone that I’m no longer friends with, but they used that person to help them argue why I should get an abortion. They mentioned that I’m a high risk, that my baby would most likely have birth defects, how the country (US) is currently too dangerous to bring a baby into, and most importantly, their biggest reason was because I am too mentally unstable. But their exacts words were, “You’re not mentally healthy.” 

As a woman who had just found out that they’re pregnant with their first baby, this is NOT what you want to hear... this is not what ANY pregnant woman wants to hear. To tell someone that they’re mentally unhealthy because of some Sad Girl Tweets, to completely disregard the fact that I’m in therapy and I’m doing better than ever, is a HUGE slap to the face, especially when this person doesn’t personally know you and your daily struggles. 

It hurt, really badly, to receive such an awful message at such a vulnerable point in my life. I’m angry, but mostly hurt. I responded and I’ve seen them blocked them on all social media platforms, but I can’t help myself but to hope they will see their wrongs and apologize. Telling me to break up with someone in the past is one thing, but telling me to have an abortion is a whole other thing. 

I just needed to vent, thank you if you’re reading this.