

He’s a pretty chill guy. 

We get on well whenever he comes down. He can get suddenly reactive and aggressive. He’s like this in general but he sometimes has these outbursts whenever we tease him for jokes. I guess he gets hurt and tenses up. 

He can become very aggressive all of a sudden. For example, we were at the dinner table one time and finishing up our meals. He’s still eating and I’m standing on his left, facing towards him, behind the chair I was sitting at. I put my dish away and as I’m standing there, I tease him regarding his taste in women and then before I can finish the joke he shoves the chair next to him, the one I’m standing behind, and she he pushes it into me. 

It travels across the floor fast and abruptly. I then get hurt and my mom tries to play it off. Another time would be when he’s just sitting on his phone, whereas the rest of us are playing cards. 

Then, I make a joke and mutter something about “he’s always on his phone” or something like that. Talking about him from across the room. Eventually, he leaves to go outside, sitting on a swing alone, on his phone. 

I follow him a few minutes after to check up on him. I go to sit on the swing next to him but before I can, he gets off the other swings, taking the other one and throwing it at me repeatedly. Then he starts shoving me and telling me to hit him and going by his voice he seems upset. 

I pushed back saying “oh you’re such a tough guy, aren’t you” and then I get upset so I leave the situation and he just seems amused with himself after. I don’t really know how to behave around this guy. He can be so unpredictable and aggressive. 

I remember the other day he was over and I asked why he was sitting like a gremlin on his phone away from us (i think he was shy around my sister’s friend) and then he responds with “shut up fatass” (I am a bit overweight so this hurt a little). Can someone help? I don’t really understand him at all…