Whenever I perceive people to be even somewhat dry, my fight or flight instinct will appear. I hate trying to deal with figuring out whether someones angry at me or not (most times they aren't) or dealing with the thought that they might be annoyed or hurt by something I said, it makes me incredibly anxious and drives me to do stupid things to myself, which is why I generally just cut contact or self-isolate for a good while, to avoid experiencing negative emotions. 

A few hrs ago my friend texted me and their messages were kind of short and dry and I don't want to deal with that at all, I kind of just want to delete their info and move on but I even if right now I'm feeling pretty defensive towards them I know I could feel bad and regretful about it later, not to mention doing that would just be cruel. I literally don't know how to even start answering their text because the feeling of rejection comes up immediately and my anxiety shoots up to the sky. I don't want to ask them if they're mad or annoyed because they're always very honest and I'll just sound incredibly needy and weird for no reason. 

God, how do you usually deal with situations like this?