Idk if this is my BPD talking, but I feel like my brother’s gf is toxic as hell. She always confuses tf out of him making him feel bad all because she won’t talk about her damn feelings. She’s taking her trust issues out on him and it’s pissing me off because last night I saw him hurt so much and it hurt me too. We were at a zoo, she was at her car and threatened to leave him there for I-don’t-know-what this time. He kept desperately asking what she wanted from him, that he was doing everything she wanted, and he was in *tears.* I’ve never hated someone so much (besides myself) than her in that moment. He keeps going back to her though, today he bought her flowers, and now I’m just worried about him getting hurt again the next time she gets angry and doesn’t explain why. 

Oh, and on our way back home that night she kept playing songs that were about how your bf doesn’t treat you right and doesn’t love you or whatever while we were *all* in the car (luckily she didn’t leave him stranded at the zoo because I wasn’t going to leave without him) and I got even more angry after that because he’s literally showing how much he cares and is doing fucking EVERYTHING she wants yet she still antagonizes him. Wtf??

I’m not trying to diagnose anyone here, but I think she also might have BPD. And it’s made me realize how toxic I was and could be sometimes. I still strongly dislike her and don’t want her anywhere near my brother. I want to hope that she’ll change but I don’t want her constantly hurting my brother for seemingly no reason so as of right now I can’t stand her. But I don’t know if these feelings are justified or if it’s just my BPD stretching things..