i’m aware of the apparent magnetism there appears to be between pwBPD and those with NPD. i am generally not drawn to overt narcissists. as it stands, the love of my life was firmly footed in cluster a, likely dealing with either spd or high functioning autism. i loved all of the characteristics that leaned towards those disorders; the cold exterior, emotionless affect, brilliance, the extreme neurodivergence… i’ve heard that borderlines are often attracted to other borderlines, but i’ve always found the opposite to be true, personally. in fact i am repelled by overly emotional suitors. is this a theme?