i struggle immensely with not being able to stop myself from sending hurtful text messages when i’m in pain. like if my boyfriend says something that triggers a bad response for me i don’t know to not get passive and get upset or show that i’m being hurt. does anyone have any tips or coping skills to not send rude / passive text messages?? the pain just becomes so so overwhelming i need to let it out and express how much it hurts me but it’s not always a good idea and can lead to arguments. how do i stop the impulse ???? i don’t feel strong enough