When we go out she gets very pissed at people for every little thing: standing too close to her, brushing up against her, or just breathing and existing. She will cut down their appearance and talk about how ugly/fat someone is or the worst-start a verbal fight with a large man who gets too close to her, stands in her space, doesn’t move his car fast enough etc. these altercations terrify me. I’m afraid she’s going to get me hurt. I ask her to please stop. She says this is me not having her back because I don’t want her to fight people, embarrass me, or endanger me. She says I don’t have her back but I’m trying to save her by being quiet and not becoming confrontational with a stranger who could turn violent. We are both women and I can’t fight off an attacker if she picks on the wrong guy to get nasty with. Is this part of borderline? Thanks for the help here you’ve saved my life. I have been doing this 2 years with no clue she was borderline until the last 2 months. It’s been hell and so confusing. I’ve apologized for so many things that I don’t think I should’ve apologized for and she hasn’t apologized for almost anything. She thinks she’s justified in cussing and raising her voice being nasty to me. I’ve let her get away with it. Is this all borderline?