I (19f) and my boyfriend (18NB) have been dating for over a year now. They have BPD and I’ve been nothing but supportive of course and I don’t see it as a downside at all. I just want to know better how to accommodate him. 

All of the stuff I’ve looked up online unfortunately has either been weirdly negative/stigmatizing or vague and confusing (I have autism and struggle to understand some things). 

They’ve told me before that I was their favorite person, and I know from research that that’s a big deal for people with BPD, and we’ve talked at length about how to be healthy about their obsessive tendencies (they don’t bother me at all; I find them endearing, we just don’t want things to get unhealthy). 

We have unfortunately hit a few roadblocks with them getting into certain moods and I haven’t been the best at handling it, though after every time we’ve discussed it and resolved it with cuddles and apologies. Our relationship is amazing, I just want to improve it. 

They’ve just done so amazingly with accommodating my autism and severe anxiety and I was hoping this was the right community to reach out to. I truly believe they’re my soulmate, and I want to be as perfect for them as they are for me. Thanks in advance.