I just came to the realization with my therapist that I believe my wife is gaslighting me, whether she means to or not. Her father has been doing that to her mother since her and her sister can remember. My anxiety is off the roof. Kinda scared what I should do. 
I really had no idea what it really was until I got 6 hours  deep on here reading and doing online research last night. 
I’m a 33m. Four years sober from alcohol. Diagnosed mild to mod anxiety, adjustment, chronic adult adhd. And the past four years of my life has been unpleasant, to be very kind. 
I Really love her and my children. But the emotional toll is wearing me. My stomach turns and my heart hurts when I even think about what outcomes could happen.