i have diagnosed BPD. my SO and i have been in a relationship for 6 years. i recently realized i have been mirroring them our whole relationship and have no sense of self.

i want to be independent and work through my BPD symptoms alone, but i don’t want to lose them. we have a great relationship but i feel like they are enabling my behaviors and i am not growing.

if we break up i feel like i can focus on overcoming this and being my best self. then again, i am scared to be alone.

can i please have some advice? thank you.