I’ve been experiencing some hostility with another girl lately. We are not friends and our interactions are extremely limited but, during those interactions there have been snide comments directed at me. It’s clear she doesn’t like me and while I have no desire to befriend someone who I’ve seen as being mean spirited (both to myself and to others), it’s been bothering me. 

My gut is telling me to ignore. To not waste my energy on a virtual stranger that knows nothing about me. But I can’t seem to shake it off.

I know it’s a pretty universal feeling to want to be liked but I think as people with BPD, we really do seek the approval of others in a profound way. In my experience, my sense of self really depends on how others feel about me.

So how do you deal with situations where someone doesn’t like you or has a negative view of you? Is this just something I may need to work on? Having higher self esteem so that things like this don’t bother me anymore?