I've noticed that making art helps me a lot with my BPD. I feel calmer, more solid, and like I can do one thing right. Last night was a bad night, and my bf pointed out I am in an abusive relationship with myself. So the goal is for me to be kinder to myself. So, as hard as it was, instead of self harming this morning, I am painting. I still get horribly mean thoughts, but im working to tell myself "I am not my thoughts, I am not my feelings."