Okay so. Part of my childhood abuse was having to pick up on subtle hints that something needed doing/avoiding like my stepdad would run his finger through some dust somewhere in the house and if no one had cleaned it within the next 24 hours he would hit my younger brothers and I and scream abuse at us. 

So I think I’ve subconsciously had this affect me, for example when my ex would say “oh the washing up needs doing” part of me would panic and I convinced myself he was telling me I need to wash up. 

Even little things like a friend saying something like “oh I’m just really busy today” or “I’ve got a busy week” I assume they mean they don’t want to talk to me, maybe I’d said something to upset them and I’ll distance myself from them to try to rectify it. 
I can’t tell if this is a BPD thing orr if I’m just being ridiculous 🤦🏾‍♀️