If we could only control others emotions and actions.

Its hard to know what you need to succeed but everyone has their own agency, told a loved one "I can't do this, please leave me alone I'm getting triggered" and then not listening, so you have an outburst only you knew was coming. suddenly I'm the bad guy. I told you that was going to upset me, I couldn't have this conversation right now etc.

But they think they're special and my PD won't affect them, I TOLD YOU TO LEAVE ME ALONE! IM GOING TO HURT YOU AND YOU DONT HEAR ME!! 

feeling an episode about to happen and try to use the STOP skill. But you can't control their response. God how I wish I could just control everyone to protect them from my abuse. 


You tell them, this is triggering, I need space (having the awareness but not yet the skills (or too emotional for skills to be effective) and the best You can do is communicate) fuck it's hard watching someone trigger you when you told them not to, then lash out in anger and hate when you could feel it coming.

Then they play the victim when to you it feels like they're a sadist when you communicated the end result if the situation continues and they don't take you seriously and get hurt.

Then it's on me and I have to experience feeling of anger, hate, shame, guilt, then depression  and suicidality when it all could've been prevented if they had just listened.