Me and my friend say ''I love you'' every night on text. However, on call we don't say it because of my controlling family who could hear it.

My friend messaged me asking me if they were right in saying we shouldn't do it on call because of my controlling family, or if they were just imagining it.

I reply asking ''not meant to say what??'' Because for a second, I got confused what they were referring to since they just used ''^'' to point to the ''I love you'' text and I wasnt sure if they were referring to that or another incident.

Once they clear up what they meant, I explained that I would rather it wasny call because of my family questioning it and guessing that we like each other (we do but we are staying friends) and that it gets quite annoying.

Was this gaslighting of me ?