I am 21 years old and my ex-girlfriend is 20 years old. Yesterday I learned about the BPD and I have come to the conclusion that my ex-girlfriend could suffer from it. The other week will proceed with the search for a psychologist.  I will tell you a little about the relationship and the main question ...  I was my cousin's best friend. So before the courtship I knew her since childhood. On one occasion with about 12 years something marked me and left me thoughtful. No, no, no, neither me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me, or me. I remembered it. We started being boyfriends two years ago and my cousins ​​and sisters who converted with her told me once and again that I would not risk it, that I would not fall in love with her because I always have the opportunity to have a very seductive and impulsive attitude. more beautiful than my cousin and I think a. Despite all that I fell in love with her for her humility, let's see careless (spontaneously), spontaneity, personality, despite the sometimes, catchy and cloying (she sent me random photos of her face at every moment of the day) It was very detailed. We had a special date when we were one month old since we started dating, on the 21st of every month ... every 21 was special, I am not very precise, but she filled me with letters and beautiful details full of creativity and poetry . Every night at 11:11 I never forgot the message of good night, a very long message that I was sometimes too lazy to read.  😅

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 We have two years of relationship and yesterday my cousin finally confronted me with tests my girlfriend was unfaithful kissing me with a boy after 3 months of being with me (promiscuity), the same boy she insinuated herself to me confess it, is her neighbor winged, very shy and lonely, I confess it scared, I thanked them for revealing the truth. I went to his house and finished with her. He cried and cried but he confessed that he had done it. It is only justified by saying that she is an imbecile without being responsible or emphasizing so much of her action.  At the beginning I noticed certain elements of the illness in her, in high school she confessed that she hurt herself, her father literally caused her emotional abandonment due to her brutal nature, her mother was operated on for a brain tumor and in spite of staying alive. day taking medications, her condition will not allow her to have that role of mother for her.   I could detail more but I think it's enough, I just want to know if I should go ahead in case there is the possibility that this seductive attitude with flirting and a strong impulsiveness have been part of the disease or if she has simply played with my heart. I swear to you that if it were someone else I would have retired and I would have separated myself from his life because it hurts me. But she has shown me day after day that she has the values ​​of monogamy, commitment and the desire to be a mother. Having that sudden behavior of impulsivity is contradicting your mental values ​​and during the moments of impulsivity you forget the damage that can cause me. This contradiction could cause suffering. I know what I'm talking about because I fight against internet pornography and I've lived firsthand that when the reward system of the brain seeks dopamine, the person stops reasoning and the body only seeks to receive that reward, it's like the brain of a addict.  I know that life is not easy for her and that's why being her friend, I want to help her. She could feel like a promiscuous demon and my cousins, my family (for now) and friends can continue to say whore and any other insult denigrate, I do not know how many years she has with this disorder, but if she has an illness I'm going to help! So be your friend, I will help you overcome it even if it takes years.  I ask for your opinion about the situation and any recommendations or information. 