Recently I have been thinking about interpersonal relationships (specifically romantic relationships) and BPD—pretty much how tumultuous they are for me and how unstable they make me feel. I have been told by people in the past, not professionals, that the only way I will be able to work through these feelings, which stem from trauma, is to actually be in a romantic relationship and work through them as they arise—has anyone had success with this? 

The point written above doesn’t exactly appeal to me—I would much rather be alone and live a happy-ish life by myself then try to work out all this trauma by placing myself in a relationship with someone; that is terrifying to me. Does anyone else resonate with this? 

Thanks in advance