So I'm going to try to phrase this post a little differently in the hopes that I'll get a different response than normal. Hell, if I don't maybe I'll get good practice in doing what I'm struggling with. I'm looking for validation that it's ok to do something and some help with how to do it. I have a very hard time expressing when something is not helpful. I have a lot of trauma, treatment resistant depression and have been suicidal a lot lately. I don't like reaching out to support groups when it's really bad because you all don't really know me so how could you possibly help? And it's not liking I'm building a relationship with the people who are commenting like I would with friends and family. But I rarely do reach out to them because when they're not helpful I don't know what to say. What I normally do is just say thanks because I know they're trying to help, but they really aren't. Sometimes what they say just makes it worse. But I feel bad saying it's not helping. I feel like they will feel bad and I myself feel bad because I feel like not being able to be helped is a personal failing. It just confirms how hopeless and helpless and worthless I am. I don't know how to express something is not helpful or that something else would be more helpful without making the person feel like what they're doing is wrong or like they aren't good enough. But if send someone a paragraph about what I'm struggling with and get "I get that" one more time I feel like I'm going to lose my mind 😅