DAE shut down on their significant other when they feel neglected/abandoned emotionally in any way? Like I know I shouldn’t because most of the time the feelings of potential abandonment aren’t even valid. Say for example your partner doesn’t make enough time for you and you feel like you need more time with them. You express this yet they continue to pile extra curricular stuff on to their already busy graduate program. I get sad, but then that translates to me shutting down emotionally when hes around me. I’m not sure why I do it because I am happy to see him when he’s back but when it’s already 8-9pm I just feel like I don’t even wanna be around or talk to him. I’m guessing that’s the all or nothing, black/white mentality? I don’t know. If you struggle with this, how do you deal? Has anyone pinpointed why they do it?