I don't want to further feed into the stigma but I really can't relate to most people with BPD and it drives me insane.
Don't get me wrong, I absolutely get where they're coming from and know exactly why they're saying or doing what they're doing. I don't however, understand their actions. Having BPD has absolutely shaped every bit of my existence but I'm a huge advocate for personal responsibility. 

I can't stand when people throw a fit because they got "triggered" when there's no way I could've known their triggers. I'm tired of people using "splitting" and "anger issues" as an excuse to be absolutely horrible to you for like a week and then justify it with a nicely packaged term that describes what they did but doesn't exactly excuse it.

I want people to take more responsibility for their actions. I'm not put together all the time. I'm also an emotional Trainwreck sometimes and there's not a second that goes by without me feeling the excruciating fear, pain and confusion all other people experience. I just know how to keep my mouth shut and not explode on people who did nothing wrong. I'm filled with anger but I go take a minute or an hour to cool down instead of just spewing nonsense.

I take responsibility for my own emotions and acknowledge why I'm feeling what I'm feeling and try to work on that instead of wanting people to change how they live their life or treat me. 

I'm not better that anyone else, mentally. I'm just as a mess as everyone else. I'm just as hurt as everyone else but people look at me and think I have it better just because I'm more "put together" and "less destructive".

I know this will probably get downvoted or someone is gonna think that I'm "humble bragging" or being r/notlikeothergirls or some nonsense like that but I'm just tired of excuses and would love for people to genuinely improve but whenever I give a sound advice that is realistic I'm deemed "mean" and "cruel" just because I say things the way they should be said, truthfully.