My (20m) gf (20f) have been together nearly 4 years and we plan to get married and have kids and we’re saving for a house together and our relationship is really wonderful.

Unfortunately, my gf struggles with anxiety, especially social anxiety, and it sometimes prevents us from doing things; either fun things with other people or necessary things like going to the bank, for example. 

Her anxiety is as a result of the trauma following her dad’s heart attack when she was 12 (he survived) and the lack of support from her family ever since. 

How can I help her overcome her anxiety while making sure she never feels like I’m trying to ‘fix’ her and instead just support her? She would not be open to counselling either. 

We have a small event coming up next month that I’d really like to go to with her so perhaps we could aim for that?