Me (22F) and my boyfriend (22M) have been dating for almost a year now. He has crippling anxiety to the point where he doesn't want to get his GED, he doesn't want to get his driver's license, and he doesn't want to get a job. He doesn't want to go anywhere alone. We are in a long distance relationship so it's not like I am with him all the time and can help him go out and get used to it. 

I try to be encouraging and let him know that he can do it and that these fears are normal but I don't know what else I can do. I try to be calm and nice about it but that doesn't seem to work, but if I am blunt and try to push him to do these things he just retreats into himself and gets upset at me. 

It's getting to the point where he is at an age where he needs to start doing and achieving these things. I can tell that my mom is not happy with the situation and I'm not too fond of it either. I used to have terrible social anxiety until I was pushed to get out and interact with other people. I try to give my boyfriend advice but nothing seems to work.