I can usually control myself alright, but about once a month I can't and I do something really out there. Like write an eight-page essay about how much he's doing wrong. Or leave without a note when I'm the one who messed up. And blame it on him, when he didn't do anything deserving of that. I don't want to keep hurting him, but in the moment, I can't stop myself, even though I know it's wrong. Anyone have any advice?
I think part of it is not telling him when I'm bothered by something and letting it accumulate.
Please help.