Backstory: We've known each other 20 years, good friends the whole time, we had a brief romance after her divorce that didn't work. I've been reading as much as I can and trying to be as supportive as I can in the face of the splitting and the verbal outbursts, but it's really really hard. My question is, will there be a benefit, in a few months or years, to my shows of friendship, forgiveness and understanding? Or am I just split for her until I die? (BTW, that last thing actually happened with another really close mutual friend)