So I have my meltdowns, my high anxiety moments (far too many), my moments when something random from the past or something that meant nothing pops in my head and makes me feel like I'm nothing or bad. I started deep breathing because the psyches always push that right? I was doing it wrong. My super smart, super sweet son told me that if your stomach doesnt go our further than your chest when you deep breath, you're stress breathing and triggering fight or flight response in your brain. We were running and he noticed that I breath wrong. When I thought about it, I realized that this means that in those moments when I'm trying to calm down, I'm being counterproductive. 

**Belly has to go out further than your chest,  5 seconds in, 8 seconds out