Hello, this is my first post here.
Today I had therapy (it was my sixth meeting with this therapist) and I am really frustrated now. She really hurt me but couldn't understand it, but I would like to hear some other opinions. She said she wants to talk about communication because I miss understand her often and explained to me a communication model. I agreed that I often take things personally and often hear criticism. Then she asked, if this could also would have been the case in my childhood with my mother. If my mom maybe didn't mean the things she said and did as bad as I thought and maybe I just interpreted them bad. This really hurt me, because I felt doubted at. My mom said really really toxic and hurt full things to me and she knows it. Yes I have the problem that I missunterstood things today, but it doesn't feel fair to use this fact to doubt my childhood perception. Also, she said children have the choice in taking the things personally or not. What??? Which child says oh yes my mother, the closest person, tells my how bad I am and what a burden I am, but hey I am a nice and worthy person??
My therapist could absolutely not understand why those things hurt me and said that I just take everything personally and she has the feeling that she always needs to thing about what she is going to say to me (what she doesn't) and is not in the mood to do that.

Can anyone understand why this hurt me?