Alright, this one may be an attack against some of you in this very community. 
Reddit is not exactly the best place for pwBPD, in my experience. From the subreddits of people who have been abused by pwBPD demonizing everyone that may have the disorder just because one pwBPD abused them, to people on this subreddit sending me death threats and calling me a lying whore because I was trying to vent- it ain’t always pretty. 
That first example in particular bothers me a lot. I was abused and r*ped by my father, who had NPD and BPD, yet I still have the brain power to realize that he is likely an outlier in the BPD and NPD communities. Why is it so hard for others who were abused by pwBPD or pwNPD to realize that??