I was told by my fp that i gaslight and manipulate her, but all I did was tell her to not rekindle relationships with someone who almost ruined her life. Another thing I did which she said was gaslighting was that I told her I felt like she didn’t care enough about me because whenever she needed help i dropped everything but when I needed help she wasn’t there for me. My point is does BPD make you manipulative on accident? Or is she wrong?