My (29f) husband (27m) and I had an argument over our finances that ended with me crying hysterically and being told by him that he’s sick of my bullshit. The argument started because I had called his sister to vent about my concerns that he just doesn’t care about my mental health, his spending is out of hand and we need to save money to get a car so I can get back to work and so we can move out of his mother’s. I’ve said it to everyone I have talked to and I’ll be the first to admit that I have a spending issue myself, but I’ve been working towards becoming more strict and cracking down on frivolous spending. I can’t talk to him without there being some type of argument, I’m just glad that I don’t resort to physical fighting anymore. It’s been a rough time, but I’ve made a lot of changes the past few years to be more “normal”, but when things become too much, I’m too stressed, or anything, I shut down and want left alone to have my feelings and process stuff on my own. I’m just really hurt by him saying he’s sick of my bullshit (he said he didn’t mean mental health, he meant the way I act in arguments, or how I’ll talk to his sister and his mom or my therapist and he’s always the last to find out. It’s just hard to talk to him because we end up arguing whenever I voice my concerns. I feel like a failure because I can’t be different and because I am trying to communicate healthily, but it always comes back to bite me in the ass. I’m sorry, I’ve written so many posts and have discarded them, because I don’t feel my emotions are viable and my hurt is just me causing it to myself.