I have a partner who is bpd. She won’t go to therapy. She thinks a couple self help books are sufficient (absolutely not). One behavior particularly though-she doesn’t let me talk about my health issues. I have a lot of allergic reactions and they’re scary. I manage well with medications and doctor oversight. I stay calm and I don’t keep us from doing things. I go out and I push through even when I am feeling bad. However If I look at the rash on my arm, or mention that I am scared that my throat is tight, or remind her where my epi pen is she gets very irritated and shuts me down. Sometimes explodes on me because she’s sick of hearing about it and she minimizes it saying a rash isn’t that big of a deal and I am blowing it out of proportion! I literally get anaphalactic! So now I try not to to talk to her at all about any of my health problems. I even feel I need to lie when she asks me how are you today. Because I get punished for saying I feel bad. Is this a feature of BPD or is she a damn narcissist? I can maybe do bpd but this sounds more npd….