Not that I ever want to use my BPD as "an excuse", but I do wish that when you tell people you have it, that they'd do their research before they decide to stick around. I know I'm not easy to deal with at the best of times, but so many of our arguments could be avoided if he actually just went "this is her abandonment issues playing up" rather than accusing me of trying to be controlling. Or if I'm hibernating in bed, wallowing in a dark hole. Jump in next to me and cuddle my dark n twistys,  rather than yelling at me to get up and stop being lazy.