We've been married for ten years and have two grade school age kids. My husband has always been very moody and I have noticed how everything is always very black and white for him (either all good or all bad). We can have explosive fights. I have always been so frustrated that he does not often take responsibility for any of his actions but it is usually me who has to apologize before we can move on. He often pretends nothing ever happened at all. 

Recently he told me he thinks he might have BPD. Sone of the symptoms certainly seem to fit but I am no psychologist. He got the name of a psychiatrist but never called and says that he needs to process things in his own time. The trouble is he really needs to work on his temper. I am seeing my younger child have issues with controlling his temper too. I know we are not in any physical danger but there is just a lot of yelling in our house and I don't think it's healthy for the kids. Every time I try to talk to him about doing something to change he doesn't respond. Then after a while he gets angry and just says I'm bitching at him.. is there any hope that he will ever get help on his own? I'm tired of having my feelings hurt because he criticizes me so much over little things. I might be able to learn to live with the criticism and negativity but the anger just might be a deal breaker. 