Hi. I've been told by a psychiatrist that they think I might be displaying some signs of BPD so I decided to try seeking help here. Generally speaking, I struggle a lot to keep it together when I get triggered by some past trauma. I've always experienced it the most with partners, basically it gets worse as the person gets closer to me since I let myself be more vulnerable and that triggers more freak outs. During said "freak out" I'd usually subconsciously start switching the tone of the conversation against my partner (even though they never insulted me in the first place) and keep digging a hole under myself even for hours at a time until. I struggle to break out of that cycle, and I want to find a coping mechanism allowing me to find my "moment of clarity" before people are absolutely pissed at me.  

Other than the obvious therapy, is there anything that you guys found helpful with not letting your emotions affect others that dramatically? Did anyone find workbooks helpful to create healthy coping mechanisms?