I (24M) started seeing my psychologist since 2014 for anxiety, depression, and coming to terms with my sexual orientation. Been seeing her on and off for the past few years. A few months ago I was also diagnosed with ADHD when I sought help from a psychiatrist through my doctor, because I felt/got the vibe that my psychologist didn’t think I had ADHD. Meds have been helping, and my partner has noticed significant improvement. 

My psychologist also has BPD and ADHD clients. Regarding BPD, we discussed my concerns surrounding abandonment, relationships with others, etc. We also went through the DSM in which she mentioned I had traits but not the diagnoses. 

Part of me wants to get a second opinion about BPD, but I feel conflicted as it might be seen as a sign that I do not trust/believe my psychologist (already feel that way with the ADHD diagnosis). How should I address this with my psychologist or psychiatrist? Should I talk to my doctor instead? What at your experiences? TIA.