Hello all.
I have bpd and ADHD as well as depression and anxiety.

I have a loads of traumas that make everything with abandonment, trust, feeling safe and loved and enough really not fun.
You get the gist of it.


I had a previous relationship of wish I got my daughter, the relationship with that man ended really badly (he kicked us out when she was 4 months old).

Other than that I haven't really had relationships per say, more one night stands or sex friends, stuff like that.


I am now seeing somebody and do not want to be the same fucking mess as Ive always been in relationships. Cause I'm out here trying my best to live life and improve.



I usually tend to obssess over the person (they become my fp and my latest hyperfocus) which is fucking not good cause I kinda disappear and mold myself to whatever I feel like they would like and nothing is genuine. I also get clingy very fast and really sad when it's not going fast enough for me.
It's kinda like I already know I like you a lot can we just skip the dating phase and just yeah thanks.



Here's my question :

How do you all behave like normal people and don't scare people away with your mental things ordering you to change and do this and that, until you develop (or not) something genuine and can relax into the relationship ??

How do you survive the dating phase ? 



:))) Help