Hey there. I was recently diagnosed with BPD and started looking for DBT therapists/groups in my area. As you can imagine, the options are limited. Everyone either isn't taking new clients, has a 6 month waiting list, or doesn't take insurance (and I can't afford out of pocket). 
I found ONE person and have been seeing them for a few months and doing group, but it's an hour from where I live, I have to leave work early to get there on time, and it's clear that this person/group and I don't 'click' at all. The group is incredibly uncomfortable, and I truly get more from scouring the book at home than I do sitting in group among two hours of awkward silence. To end, I drive an hour home in the dark, which is a big fear of mine. So the whole experience is very very uncomfortable and unproductive. 

I'm trying to take the positive and grateful approach, but am also realizing that we're just not a good fit. I KNOW I'll get the "part of DBT is overcoming these emotions! You're head isn't in the right place!" response, but it's not that I'm fighting her or don't want to be there, it's more like going on a few dates with someone and realizing "yea they're a good person and all, but we're just not right for each other." I wouldn't keep dating them anyway, even if they were the only single person in my city. If it's not right, it's not right. 

Do I stick with it, despite the unproductively? Do I bail and get on a wait list? Are there any options for remote DBT? 

