I (22F) just need to know if anyone else feels the same way about dating that I do, because I feel really alone in my experiences. Basically I'm recovering from BPD, done all my DBT and have transformed my whole life with it. I still feel incredibly lonely and disconnected from everyone else, and it's really affected how I feel about relationships.

Up until about 2 years ago, I had a completely healthy amount of desire for relationships, I went on dates and had mostly positive experiences. I nearly always ended up ghosting the guys I saw (which I hated myself for doing), purely because I got bored. My friends always told me that I had high standards, I also tend to think of people who were interested in me as being pathetic and desperate (because why else would they be interested in me).

I am quite lazy, but in the past 2 years I've completely lost all interest in dating, I still find people attractive but that desire for romantic and physical connection has gone. I'm getting quite sad about it, because I'm definitely far more of a healthy partner than I used to be, plus I'm only young once, this body isn't going to last forever, these are supposed to be the golden years for sex and I'm not having any!!!

I have a lot of trauma surrounding my self-worth and it really affects my confidence, I just really need to know if anyone else feels the same way.