My BF and i have been together for 5 years, and we were living together for most of it. However, things quickly deteriorated last year, with lots of big arguments etc., so we agreed to live apart for some time &amp; work on the relationship. I was getting frustrated as I had suggested a number of things and he didn't fully commit to them. He wanted to delay couples counselling for a few months (&amp; then, my life got too chaotic). He did increase appointments with his own psychologist for a time, but then went back to 6-monthly, and he didn't read the material I gave him on BPD. A reoccurring argument we have is about my intense moods, how I swing from relatively positive to a very negative mood quite quickly &amp; I take a longer time to shift out of it. As much as I've explained that this is the principle symptom of BPD, he still holds it against me and it's become a broken record. To add to all this, I lost my dad suddenly 2 months ago and I've been completely devastated, locked inside my grief. I told my psychologist I had stopped caring about the relationship. She reminded me that even though time stopped for me when I lost my dad, the world is still going on around me, and there's still issues to be tended to. She reminded me that my relationship is in crisis and she pushed me to think hard about whether I did care. I realised in our session I didn't want the relationship to fall apart, &amp; so she made a bunch of new suggestions. The least intimidating one for him, I thought, was that he come along to one of my sessions with my psychologist. She's a DBT trained psychologist who mainly works with people with BPD, so I thought she could talk to him about the moods &amp; maybe give us some strategies for dealing with them. I was nervous approaching him about it, as he can get a bit defensive/freaked out if I'm saying we have a problem. He has finally accepted that there are problems in our dynamic, which was a breakthrough earlier this year. Anyway, I was relieved that he agreed, and he even agreed to a date &amp; time. He may still get uncomfortable and not come, that's always a possibility. But i thought he wouldn't agree in the first place. So it restored a little bit of hope for me. I thought he was in the mindset that my mental health stuff was all bullshit, but this makes me think maybe he can be open-minded &amp; that he wants to try to make this work, which is the most important part. 