I don’t know if this is the right place to post this stuff, but I have pretty bad jealousy issues. So me and this girl have made it clear that we’re interested in only each other. But I noticed my friend says things that get me jealous. Like mentioning a guy friend and saying he looks good with his new haircut, or saying another friend is really good at ____. It makes me feel bad about myself— the way she talks about them. Earlier she told me she kept making her guy friend laugh when they were playing a game together. I’m always feeling anxious and insecure that she’ll find them more interesting or attractive than me. How do I overcome this jealousy? How do I stop overthinking stuff like this? For some reason I think she does this on purpose.

Also, we’re long distance. And today I told her I wanted to get flowers delivered to her, but I couldn’t. She then told me about how her sister got flowers delivered to her last year for Valentine’s Day, and how nice it was. It felt like she was trying to make me feel bad for not being able to do that. We’ve been in similar situations like this before, where something doesn’t go as planned, and she emphasizes how it would have been nice or better. I think most of the time I feel like shit for not being a certain way or being able to do all these things for her. 

I know it’s not worth to stress over, but not being enough is always on my mind. How do I stop this?