It just hurts. Now I don't obsess over her the way I used to, but I still obsess more than I'd like. I've worked really hard to change but she's not very good about openly communicating and there's a lot of push-pull dynamics going on both sides and I can't help but simultaneously feel resentful and hurt all at the same time. So I'm stepping back to try and salvage things but more importantly take care of myself. It just hurts and I needed to whine about it somewhere.  


I'm open to whatever coping skills help you too.