My friend was diagnosed with BPD last year, i am very aware of the symptoms, actions and everything of BPD. I know they are having an episode right now, but they are targeting me for no reason. They’re nice to my girlfriend and all our other friends but not me. I have resisted not blowing up on them and using their actions back at them because i know that wouldn’t go anywhere and most likely make their episode worse. I care for them but they have been hurting me for a while (about a couple weeks) with different situation after another. They guilted me for not hanging out with them and then wasn’t going to tell me that they wanted to use my car to drive them to a fight. I’m glad i caught it before i went to hang out with them because i do NOT want my car at a fight scene. They keep being passive aggressive towards anything i say and make me feel less than them. They have continually misuse tone indicators when i really need them because i don’t mentally understand tone over text or even in real life. When my little brother got covid, my whole family had to get covid tests and they came out as negative, but they accused me of lying when i was just trying to share happy news. I wasn’t planning on seeing them because i still had to isolate. My girlfriend as been planning me, them her and another friend to move to another city to go to school. My girlfriends parents are the ones who are organizing it all but they decide they want to get more things in the apartment which would make us all pay over $900 a month just for what they want and ALSO being in university. They stepped my girlfriend and i’s boundaries by using her parents money to their advantage and telling us to get jobs, so they can have what they want. It was absolutely disgusting They outright said the R slur multiple times around me and my Neurodivergent friend, my brother has autism so i got really upset when they had no remorse for saying that. they’re the type of person to fight someone over those kinds of things. Besides all these situations they have just been plain rude to just me. 

I decided after all of that i couldn’t take it anymore, i sent them a very nice paragraph explaining that i don’t appreciate the things that they have been doing to me lately. they blew up on me, sending a bunch of paragraphs not agreeing with me and saying i am the problem. I haven’t responded because i need time away and i also think it wouldn’t be a good idea to respond to those texts in that moment. I have been hoping maybe they would understand where i am coming from but instead they have been “subtweeting” me on instagram. 

What do i do??