Hey Reddit. If you saw my last post, you know I was looking for some tips on how to “impress” my boyfriend for his birthday (we went on a weekend trip to a cabin). We had a GREAT time, had GREAT sex. The only problem is me and my overthinking. I can’t stop viewing sex as almost like checking a box. Like an example would be: “he mentioned wanting me on top more. Maybe I should hop on top” - even if it’s not what I’m feeling in the moment. I never do anything I don’t want to do or am not comfortable with, but I want to get more in-tune with what I feel like doing. After sex, I find myself always asking if I did okay and even when he says yes, I can’t stop overthinking and wondering if I could have done something better. I’m not a pro, I’m not a porn star, and I know my man doesn’t expect that - but isn’t that secretly what he wants? I don’t want to ruin my relationship, and I want to enjoy sex more.