DAE has managed to find a coping mechanism to respect your SO spaces? I have a hard time giving my boyfriend space to live his own life, and that makes me engage in unhealthy patterns.

For example: he says everything is ok, he wants to hang out with friends and dont want to be texting me while trying to enjoy other people.  I start counting the minutes and hours while go by and then after another meltdown, he will say he is reaching the breaking point, i will apologize and the cycle repeats over and over.  Same applies for anything he is doing while not with me  (We dont live together) 

How do I manage to respect his boundaries? 

I have a life, I'm busy, I just get frozen while waiting for an answer