I will try and make a brief summary to what I am going through, if you need anymore insight then you can check my post history for a very thorough synopsis of details.

My wife has just recently been diagnosed (on 28 November) with BPD and I have been reading everything on the internet from Huffington Post articles to every scholarly article I can find about BPD and relationships.  I love her and she loves me but there was an infidelity and we are trying to reconcile.  I saw the depression kicking in and tried to help, albeit, I failed miserably.  Ultimately the decision was on her but moving forward, how can I conduct myself to help her when she is getting lonely, depressed, or impulsive?  I am not sure what I can do to bring her back when she begins to slip.  I am just looking for any insight from some of you fine people out there who may be able to help a clueless husband.

Thanks so much.