So I go to the same college as this girl, I figured out that she has BPD from her friends when some shit hit the fan. I told her I had feelings for her and she told me a while later that she just wanted to be friends, I was calm about it and said ok and then she seemed mad that I didn't really care that much but I was just hiding my disappointment. I think she was pushing me away because she was afraid of letting someone in. Time passes and she's been popping up a lot more in my life, sometimes she messages me randomly. She found herself on my side of our college campus and randomly messaged me to borrow a hoodie. I gave her the hoodie, her pupils were very dilated when she came to my room. She thanked me over text, started snapping for a bit, the next morning she goes back to leaving me on read. I think I like this girl and I understand why she's doing what she's doing but I haven't a clue how to deal with the situation. Every time I focus on myself because she hurts me (I have BPD so it really hurts) she gets closer again and does something to win my trust back. Then she acts like I don't matter at all and gives me the cold shoulder. I've tried to be there when I see she's having a shitty day or if she needs something just as a friend. But as soon as I take an objective view of things and put my feelings aside she triggers me somehow. I'm getting good at managing my emotions so I'm fairly level this time but it still hurts me a lot. I understand BPD manifests differently in Men than Women. A female perspective would be really nice. She's returning my hoodie later tonight but she's been so up and down to me that it's going to be hard for me not to show how upset I am with her. Sending me pictures in my hoodie and all that shit. Any perspective's appreciated, thanks