Hey all. I was diagnosed with BPD recently, but I’m not entirely sure I have had FPs (Favorite Person). I’d like to learn more. I have a few questions. Is the person you’re dating, an ex, or a best friend usually your FP?
 
I’m actually talking (non-platonically) to someone whose ex/best friend is their FP. I’m having a hard time telling the difference how a person with BPD feels towards an FP vs. being in love with someone. It seems very similar.

1) I want to understand better so I can be more supportive of this person.

2) I’d like to be less insecure about it as she has said she no longer has romantic feelings but he is her FP/best friend.

3) I am wondering if I can “handle” someone having an ex as an FP due to jealousy/insecurity. I think if I can understand better it might help.

Thank you in advance for any insight!