I didn’t really know where to post this. I guess this subreddit fits the most. I feel the most comfortable posting here. 

My boyfriend has a way lower sex drive than me. Which, I’ve accepted and I’m not looking to “change him” at all. At this point we probably have sex around once or twice a week. Which,,, I KNOW may seem like a lot or a good amount but it almost feels like pulling teeth to have sex. 

It has to be under certain circumstances. Usually right in the morning if we both have a day off but that RARELY happens anymore. 

I’ve gotten to the point that I’ll ask for him to touch me which takes SO much effort from me because I have to swallow all my pride. He acts very... casual about it. Like it’s just another thing to do. I don’t really feel desired. Or wanted. We very rarely have sex because he just wants it so bad. Which hurts. 

I always respect when he says no but I feel so fucking manipulative because it almost always makes me spiral. I feel like he doesn’t want me. He doesn’t think I’m attractive. I know it’s irrational but why can’t he just WANT me?? 

We’ve had a couple talks about it but I don’t think he understands that a lot of my validation is tied to how wanted I feel?? Which isn’t his fault. This turned into an emotion dump. Sorry. 