I’m starting to finally realize I need to vocalize how I feel in my relationship, that my needs are important too, even if I’m scared of upsetting my wife. There’s something in particular that is consuming all of my thoughts lately. The problem is, my wife is going through a lot at work and it seems to be getting worse every day. But the more I hold this in, the worse it also gets every day. Like many of us here, I tend to do things all the way in one direction, and am not good at finding middle grounds. So I’m afraid that I will communicate this to her at the worst time. It’s taken a lot for me to be ready to finally talk about it, but if she is already going through a lot every day, how do I know when to bring it up? How do I find my self respect but also not make her already fucked up day worse?