I feel like this community is one of the few places that understand the influence and grasp a FP can have on someone with BPD. It started out great and wonderful. It still is but I would like to not hold onto someone so tightly to the point where I am incapable of making decisions for myself. I want to move on with my life without being terrified of losing and pleasing my FP. How can this be done? Has anyone been successful of this? It isn't an option for this person to be eliminated from my life because it is family but how can I become independent from my FP? 