
So when we first started dating, everything was fine. We are neighbors and I’ve always been securely attatched with my other relationships so I wasn’t too concerned about getting into this new one. 3 months in we started having problems with communication and he started showing some anger and defense issues. We tried to work through them and there was a lot of adjustment on our communication and it helped a lot but back in December we took a dip and things got bad. There were some things that happened that caused me to feel unconsidered and it began this spark of anxiety. He also began to pull back on how affectionate he was which is normal as a relationship goes on but it just made the anxiety get worse. It became me making all the effort and still getting hurt all the time and when I would talk to him about it he would just get upset and say he was trying. Eventually again we made it through despite the fact that he lied to me and even admitted that he had gotten to comfortable in the relationship and promised he would do better. He lied to me about vaping btw (he promised me he would tell me if he did it and he hid it from me for a week) but we made up and we have been getting better I just have this anxiety now when it comes to things revolving around him and I don’t know how to help myself. 

TLDR; I have always been securely attatched until I began dating my boyfriend and a string of hurtful things happened between us towards me and now I have almost dehabilitating anxiety around him or when he’s away.