27, male, had my fair share of DBT and counseling. I find that a good portion of my negative experience, like you, comes from guilt and self-esteem in terms of my relationships with others. But I learned not to "hold people hostage" with my emotions. Instead it becomes a drama in which the people around me become frustrated with the fact that I am upset or worried about the same issues, and I collapse inward wanting not to bother people. Anyone else like this? Strategies, comments?