hi friends. for some background i (23f) was in a relationship for 6 months that ended in june. this breakup sent me into an absolute spiral, and only within the last month have i been feeling better. i was diagnosed with bpd in august, and reflecting back on my last relationship i can see how much my bpd negatively affected things.

in the last week, i started talking to a new guy. not that i want to get ahead of myself or anything, but he is just super awesome and already very committed to me. comparing how this guy is treating me to my ex, i’m realizing my ex also kinda treated me like shit. i really do not want to ruin things with this guy. he has already been very understanding of me not wanting to disclose my childhood trauma type stuff yet and stuff. but in terms of telling him about having bpd, i am terrified. the stigma definitely has me scared, and i don’t really know his understanding of it. 

i’m looking for advice on how to talk about this when entering a new relationship… i don’t plan on disclosing it anytime soon but i want to be prepared for when it comes up. any advice will be so so so appreciated ❤️