My cousin and I used to live in the same house in my childhood. He is about 10 years older than me, and got diagnosed at college, where I was too young to be told the details of his condition, so my parents just cut him off from my life without telling me why (he moved long before that so it was easy to cut him off of my life since he no longer lives with us) but yeah, I asked my cousin about his condition three years ago, and he told me the details, unlike my parents who always resorted to things like "like your aunt"....I didn't even know what my aunt had so that doesn't answer me. Anyhow, I live in another country now, but I want to be there for him and support him if possible. I got his phone number from FB but I haven't contacted him yet since I read some BPD people who say they are better off not contacting anyone? Would contacting my cousin do him more harm than benefit?