 Hey guys.

I'm currently living abroad in Portugal (moved from Poland) with my fiancee.

I'm  a software engineer, I work at two jobs at the same time (overemployed)  for about 8 hours a day, and I make really good money. The problem is  that the only thing I like spending my time on is sitting at the  computer, which obviously combined with my sitting at the computer work  is not healthy.

I just can't make  sense of it. I know I should probably have some other hobbies, but  playing games or watching videos at my computer feels so pleasant for  me. It seems like a perfect thing to do. I used to do other things, like  hang out with friends, but since we moved and I don't know portugese it  became impossible. Even when it was though, lately I didn't feel like  meeting with anybody, even back in Poland.

I'm  making some decent progress in terms of my health, I lost a lot of  weight recently and I starting working out, so technically I've got the  health issue in control, but still, doing anything else besides what I'm  already doing feels like such a chore. I had a talk with my fiancee and  she pointed out that she feels like I don't like doing anything with  her (and obviously I care for her very much). I don't want it to stay  like this but yeah, honestly I dislike almost all of the things. I hate  beaches, I hate going shopping, I don't like playing board games or  watching movies together or most of the things I can think of. What the  hell is wrong with me? The only time I really feel good is when I have  my alone time in home, but my fiancee deserves better than that.

I  never was very active guy, but back when I was a teenager I used to  hang out with other people a lot and that was something that allowed me  to step back from sitting at the computer and I didn't feel like I need  it. Still, these were other times and when I went to work, started  career and lost my old friends I didn't feel the need to meet any new  ones anymore.

I really want  something to change but I don't know how to do it, or if I even should  do it. Sometimes it gets me thinking if maybe I'm overreacting, since  everyone needs something they like to do. But why for me this is only  one thing and everything else feels so hard and unnecessary? I'm  starting to feel like it's taking a toll on my relationship, so please  give me some advice.