I have noticed a pattern in two people with BPD. They both hide from validating our relationship (in the most general meaning of the term). Why is that? Do you recognize that in yourself?

For me, the ambiguity and non-commitment (on a most basic level) is very painful.

I happen to be in a very self-critical mode right now, but I don't see how I am at fault. Is there a way to make direct communication more comfortable for the person with BPD?

I have needs too. And once in a while, I need to be seen.