I’ve been in a relationship for a year and let’s just say logically speaking I shouldn’t be with this guy. He is a great person but his circumstances are just all over the place . He is 30M and has been through a terrible traumatic past and has a emotional dependence on weed and cigarettes. He is extremely hopeless about his future and is on government assistance. The only reason he’s been trying to get his life together is because I’ve been dragging him by his feet to get some qualifications and a job. Even then if I was to leave I know he would stop it all. I 25F on the other hand do have BPD but I’m trying my best to function and get on with life. I go to a great university and I have a part time job and good support system. So you tell me how i ended up in this situation with this guy…. Today he told me he’s getting weed because he can’t sleep and I just feel disappointed because he’s been heavily smoking it for the past 10 years and he promised he would wean himself of it.. he’s also been through sooooo much and he hasn’t addressed any of it. He also lives at home with parents he’s not on good terms with.