I finally cut him off. I’ve let him string me along for 8 months and I’ve learned my lesson: I will NEVER date another coworker.

I fell head over heels for my coworker. When we first started dating, time was never an issue for us. We would stay up late just to go for a drive, we texted 24/7. He initiated 90% of our hangouts and he would always call me first.

I should have known from the start, when I first asked him what we were it was like pulling teeth. Not once did he say “I like you, I want you to be my girlfriend”.

For months he has come up with every excuse you can think of for his behaviour. “I have past relationship trauma”, “ I’m not good at dating”.

Four months ago he started working a lot. He stopped texting, stopped hanging out. I tried to be supportive because it was only suppose to be for a month. Gradually that time got extended. I told him I needed an end date but he couldn’t give me one so I ended things.

I started getting mixed signals, because every time he sees me at work he charms me. He makes so many promises—- he’s going to take me out soon, he wants to take me on a vacation. 

I have told him multiple times, “ if you don’t want to date me please just tell me.” Not once has he been straight forward about what he wants.

He told me last week that when he quits the job we’re currently working at we can be together. I asked him if this is what he’s been waiting for the whole time, I told him that really hurts me. He denied it but I think I have my answer. 

Yesterday he told me he was booking time off to celebrate his roommates birthday.

I believed him for so long, I thought that I was the problem. I thought that I was asking for too much. Now I know in my heart that the problem isn’t that he doesn’t have time. When we first started dating he didn’t have time either, he chooses not to make time for me. 

I’m going crazy. I blocked his number finally but I’m so scared I’m going to go back. Every time I distance myself he ropes me back in.