Ok first of all just want to say I need all sides don't be nice don't be hateful etc but just be truthful as will I.
This is hard for me to admit but me and my girlfriend have been together since we were 20 years old now she is 30 I'm 34, 2 KIDS 6 AND 7 (ALSO PLEASE MIND MY MISTAKES JUST WANT TO TYPE THIS OUT WHILE I CAN AND HAVE THE TIME AND DRIVE TOO).
Well she has shown me the most amount of love I could ever feel she cooks me dinner washes my clothes puts love notes in my lunch is there for my family when they can be assholes and listens and hears me when things get on top of me at work etc.
She also does these things that I don't even know are good for me but when she does them she does them with so much love and attention and make me think I have the best woman ever ..... but but.....
When we fight she is CRAZYYYYYYYY she will pull her hair punch her head claw at her thighs all because I need to be alone by myself when we fight and argue.
I'll be honest I have said some things that tip her over the edge like your as fucked as your father , you need serious help , you need locking up worse one was you are a drain on the children and we would be happier without you here, she went mental over that and actually hit me.
I hate to say it But I think she is BPD but I also press her bpd buttons which makes me feel better but now she is seeking help I don't want that loving adoring side of her to be toned down .
Please be honest in response I love her and love the way she loves me and I don't want that to change in therapy. 