I suspect that my girlfriend may have BPD, she’s had a history of depression, anxiety, and suicide attempts the past few years. She’s been showing every sign of BPD. She’s compulsive, irritable, self destructive, and insecure about her looks and personality. I try to help her and talk to her as much as possible but she doesn’t seem to want help. Everyday she just pushing me more and more away from her. She does apologize for her actions and she reassures me that she does love me and she doesn’t mean what she says or does but she refuses to get help or to tell anyone. She claims that her mom won’t care about what she says or she’ll get in trouble for opening up to her mom or asking for help. She lives with her parents still and she’s still a minor (17) so she can’t really get help without getting her parents involved, so I’m just stuck as to what to do. I love her from the bottom of my heart and I want to make this relationship work, but I have no idea what to do. I feel powerless.  That’s why I’ve come to r/BPD for advice. Thanks.