i’m a relatively lonely person and as a result i really only have like two friends and generally didn’t socialize with most people (still don’t) growing up. i think this has contributed pretty negatively to my inability to resolve a lot of my typical bpd actions because i don’t know what actions/behaviors are normal and what is from the bpd.  

it wasn’t until i joined this group and would start to read everyone’s posts that i would feel validated in my diagnosis. still, a lot of this stuff felt normal to me. then my husband started reading and he would say “oh this is weird, you don’t do this?“ and i’d have to nod and laugh a lil cause i do. 

i’m mostly writing this cause i want to make a point of bringing this up at dbt next time i go. i’ve made note that a lot of my little obsessive tendencies are in fact not normal and i’ve become more aware of my irritability (tendencies to split). but more than anything i realize that i suck at differentiating for myself what is normal behavior/thought and what isn’t.

do you all have any specific behaviors/thoughts that you didn’t realize were bpd related?