"Transactional/rule-based values rob you of the trust, intimacy, and love necessary to remain an emotionally healthy and happy human being. This is because, when you view all relationships and actions as a means to an end, you will suspect an ulterior motive in everything that happens and everything anyone ever does to you."

That was written [here.](https://markmanson.net/how-to-grow-up)

This really helped me understand myself a shit ton more. I find that the dude who writes the articles on the site, Mark Manson, has a good way of putting things into a realistic perspective without being a pessimistic pos. Hope you all can also take something from this and enjoy it like I did!