As the title states: after quite a bit of research and reading an entire book (I rarely read so this was big for me) I would bet my last dollar my gf has BPD. Like almost every checkbox for symptoms.. irrational anger, abandonment issues, self harm, suicidal thoughts, depression, violent outbursts, difficulty with interpersonal relationships, trouble keeping a job, reckless behavior... I mean all of them. She also has all the life trauma to support it as well. Divorced parents in her early teens, physical abuse from parents and partners, emotional abuse, substance abuse. We have been together for 5 years and probably 4 have been pure chaos. It’s only been the last 6 months or so I learned of BPD and all the lightbulbs went off for me. So I started learning and one day finally had the courage to sit down and discuss it with her. I tried to be gentle and express it from a place of love but she took it as an insult. I know she knows something isn’t quite right in her mind but she refuses to really accept and address it. I’m honestly growing tired of all the chaos and I can’t be more invested in her health than she is. I don’t want to seem to be nagging about her mental health but something has to give. Any advice from folks who’ve been here? What’s the best way to implore a person with BPD to get help without triggering them?