My FP and I have had a strained relationship for the past year mainly because we haven’t spent a ton of time together. I’ve had this same issue with “friends” before and I feel VERY strongly that if people are truly my friend, they will make time to spend time with me. He always made the excuse that I lived too far away, but we go to the same college. I lived on the other side of campus but it’s maybe a 10 minute drive and I was always willing to come to him, it’s not like I was expecting him to travel for hours to see me. 

Obviously quarantine hit and he moved back home for ~six months. We texted over the summer but I have not actually seen him in six months and in person contact is super important to me. By sheer coincidence we are now living in apartments that are literally across the street from each other and he moved back to town over a week ago. When he found out where I was living he said that he was really excited that we would be living this close and he is excited to be able to spend time together since I would be walking distance from him. So I, I think justifiably, had high hopes that this year was going to be better. I hadn’t heard from him at all after he moved back but I called home a few days ago and my grandma asked how he was doing and I had to be like “I don’t know I haven’t seen him”. After that I reached out and asked when he wanted to hang out. He literally said “hell yeah I want to see you! when are you free?” I gave him my work schedule and we talked a little bit more but then...nothing. He’s been changing the subject and avoiding the idea of actually seeing me. (To be clear, I know for a fact that he has been seeing other friends and going on dates. So it’s not like he’s refusing to see anyone because of the virus.)

At this point, I really just want to be done with him. I really cannot handle being told by someone that they want to spend time with me and then never actually getting to see them. I’ve already asked him to hang out once and gotten nothing from it and quite frankly after the way he treated me all of last year and what he’s said to me over the summer I’ve done more than enough. It’s so obvious to me that he isn’t actually interested in having me in his life and I’m trying not be upset about it but I’m just...numb. I really can’t stoop to reaching out to him more but I still check my phone and always hope that he’s actually reaching out.