It is not the end of the world if you are BPD and have kids. It doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll pass it down and it doesn’t mean that you’re gonna give your child a complex. 

You can take me and my brother for an example. Our mom was BPD plus a plethora of other acronyms. My brother turned out good. Mentally and physically. I, on the other hand got the short straw. I’m already diagnosed with bipolar 2 and I have a sneaking suspicion I have BPD as well. 

This isn’t meant to sway one way or the other but just to let others know that you can successfully raise children without scarring them. 

Also, there is r/thementalparent for support for the parents that are already here