I've been struggling with depression for years after a traumatic event in the past. I started therapy and  taking antidepressants. I've gotten better but I had to switch to a different antidepressant due to side effects. But during the switch, I had a 2 month break from medication due to health insurance issues. I started going downhill again and started having suicidal thoughts again. (Don't worry, I am working on this in therapy)

My partner also struggled with issues during this time (terminal family member) and we both decided to break up. My partner didn't know the severity of my depression but during our last talks with each other, I briefly mentioned that I was struggling with suicidal thoughts. Shortly after our break up, we both agreed to possibly reconsider the relationship. But before we could have our talk, their family member passed. I helped as much as I could (took care of their dog, cleaned their house, bought them food, checked up on them, offered to listen to them, etc.) They expressed gratitude for my help multiple times. They are now back home and reconnecting with friends.

But what's bothering me is that they never once asked me if I was okay. I'm not trying to sound entitled but if my ex-partner previously agreed to reconsider the relationship, doesn't that mean that they should still care about me? Why did they never bother to return the same favor during this time? Is my mental health insignificant to theirs? Did they interpret the fact that I said I was suicidal as a manipulation tactic? Why would they even reconsider the relationship if that was the case? I honestly don't know what to think anymore. 

I initially thought it was because they wanted distance from me while they addressed their grief. If that was the case, it is understandable that they would assume that I would want the same for my mental health issues. So I asked them if they would prefer if I didn't contact them and gave them space. They said no. They are asking to have our talk soon but I honestly don't know anymore. Is it unreasonable to expect them to care about me during my mental health struggles?