I’m not really sure if this really belongs here, but I’m the FP to someone with BPD. We’ve been best friends since 2014 and there’s been highs and lows. When things are good they’re really really good, but then if I say the wrong thing it all goes bad. 

It’s been hard to deal with as I was only 14 when this started and I didn’t really know how to handle any of it, so I messed up a lot. She’s split on me more times than I can remember. The last time we spoke before today was 1 1/2 years ago and now that she’s back I’m filled with joy, but I’m also really scared. I don’t think I can handle her leaving again, it’s so hard adjusting to not having her around and I usually grow very depressed. 

I try to rationalize accepting her back into my life by telling myself that even if she splits on me tomorrow it’ll have been worth it just to get a little bit of time with her. I know that’s not healthy though, so I really need advice on how to act with her. 

I know being patient is important as well as being careful about what I say to prevent triggering her, but is there anything else I could do? She’s so important to me and I just want our friendship to last. 



