Hi everyone 

I’ve been doing some deep work on myself and I’ve come to a realisation. 

When I am single I feel happy , confident and free - however when I am in a relationship I feel like my partners trigger a deep self hatred within me towards myself . 

I have a lot of childhood trauma that I am currently working through and I also have BPD . 

I am committed to doing the inner self work and would love to hear any suggestions or tools to help me cultivate more self love towards myself when I am in a relationship . 

My partner and I are currently seeing a wonderful relationship therapist and are both committed to working on ourselves and doing the necessary work .