To be completely honest &amp; not sugarcoat it: My boyfriend is easily ticked off and threatened, by me specifically. At least, that is how it seems. I can do anything or nothing to make him upset.

Tonight, he was cleaning a dish for me &amp; I noticed some spots still on there. When I asked if he was done, he said yes so I took the bowl and cleaned it more.

He felt very upset &amp; instantly got cold towards me and left the room. When I asked him what was wrong, he said “I just feel constantly rushed by you. You put so much pressure on me”

The worst part, is I know he is projecting these feelings from work onto me. I asked him why he felt rushed &amp; even said “You told me you were done, I just wanted to wash off the rest before using the bowl” and he couldn’t answer and just said “I don’t want to talk to you right now.”

When he does this, it’s extremely triggering to me. Instead of thinking “Wow, what a wuss.” or “Okay weirdo”, I literally just want to break down and cry. It makes me feel like throwing things and breaking things. I feel like I cannot function without being anxious about upsetting others, even my own partner.

It reminds me of my childhood &amp; how my father treated me so much. I have always been the anxious one because I truly feel like I put myself in a position for people to take their anger out on me.

I know there is a lot to unpack, but my question is: how do you handle feeling this triggered? How do you stay calm/in control when someone is making you feel so terribly?