 

I'm lurking here. I am a 26F and I have BPD myself. Raised by a borderline mother and put into foster care at 8 years old because she straight up just neglected me. Adopted at age 10 by a non BPD mother.

I know I too have BPD but I am no where near as bad as she was. I read lots of self help books and try to practice mindfulness and DBT therapy as much as I can. I listen to podcasts on managing BPD. Most people who know me would never guess that anything was wrong with me. I refrain from all drugs and alcohol because I know these things can aggravate BPD.

My sadness from this sub comes from the fact that maybe someday I would like to be a mother. But after seeing all of this maybe it's just a terrible idea. I do have a loving and supportive and healthy partner and overall our relationship is happy.

I want to believe that I could be a good mother because I am inspired by my own biological mother to be better than her in every way. I want to give a child the childhood I couldn't have.

Does anyone here have BPD and feel they are happy and a successful mother?