Emotional mess right now. So please be kind. 
My husband and I have both diagnosed borderline personality disorder. (Hurray for this combination).

This morning on the way to the train my new skirt got stuck in my bicycle chain and I was crying and trying to get out without ruining it even more. 

We were already late cause my husband has most of the times a pretty short time period planned for commuting and he told me 20 minutes before we would have to catch the train that he wants to get this train. From our flat it takes between 15 and 18 minutes to the train station and since we had a pretty hard fight when we missed the train he wanted to take once because of me I am always afraid to not make it on time. 
So I did not take the time to knot the skirt shorter or change what I was wearing. 

When it got stuck he just said something like “Well it is to long for bicycling” which wasn’t helping at all. 
He insisted that he thought it was funny and I was even more hurt. I explained calmly why I did not change and that this comment was not helpful. 

Instead of calming me down or apologizing he ignored me and when we were at the train station he wanted to talk to me again. I said he should catch his train instead cause he did not want to before and he did. We phoned a bit and all seemed fine. 

He did not once asked how I was or if I was better over the day but it was fine by me cause he often don’t seem to care. 

When we were both home from work he still ignored the issue and wanted to go outside. I was not happy and said that I did not care what we do and got out with him. I was not mean or anything to him, I was just not bubbly. 
Then he got pissed at me for not saying what I wanted to do and all exploded again cause his brain said that it was his fault that my skirt ripped, what I never said. 

He told me several times that it was all my fault and I would have been mean to him and then he wanted to end the fight. 
Since he did not care before I did not want end it without an excuse for blaming me and then ignoring me cause I was sad about my own mistake. 

Now we are sitting awkwardly in our neighborhood and getting stared at, not talking to each other / he trying to excuse himself. But I can’t forgive him for ignoring me and hurting me on purpose cause he was pissed about me being sad. 


TLDR: massive fights happen when two people with borderline collide
