How do you maintain a positive energy (or, at least a neutral, stable one) when you’re met with someone who is so upset? (It’s an immediate reaction, not a logic-based one) 


If I’m feeling good, and I try to talk to someone who is upset, it feels IMPOSSIBLE to keep any level of positivity. I immediately get dragged down to when the other person is, and usually, because I sense how quickly the shift happened, I quickly shift to even more frustration- because I get so annoyed that I couldn’t maintain my positive energy 

  — I get upset so often, that when I’m not upset, and I’m met with someone who is upset, and my energy goes down as a result of that, I just get SOOO frustrated with both the other person for being upset, and myself for being unable to maintain my own emotions. (Logically, I know the other person isn’t doing anything wrong by just being upset, but my feelings about it are there regardless)

Example: I’ve been giving in my room, listening to music and havin a chill time just feelin good on my own. Was waiting for my sister to get home so I could ask if she wanted to watch a specific show with me later. When she got home she went to her room, and when I knocked on the door she just went “UUUGH. *mumbles*” so I waited a bit, then knocked again, and in a VERY agitated voice she said “UUGGHHHH!!! I SAID WAIT!!!” I waited a sec and she was like “okay what?????” I opened the door and I before I could even ask my question, I just said “you ruined the vibe so much I don’t even wanna ask anymore” so I left and went back to my room. 

This ALWAYS happens. If I’m ever in a good mood, and interact with someone in a bad mood, it just rubs off on me SO strongly and wrecks my whole vibe and makes me so frustrated that the other person usually starts feeling better before I do. 


So I’ll bring it back around to my main question: 
How do you maintain a positive energy (or, at least a neutral, stable one) when you’re met with someone who is so upset???