Ok so context, I'm coming off of a really big fight last week with my SO because I failed to keep my need for reassurance and attention in check and he got really frustrated with me. So I've been doing a LOT of journaling and introspection to try and get myself in order so that doesn't happen again and end the relationship.

Anyway I have a really close friend from childhood who has kinda seemed to pick my ex after we broke up even though he's known me twice as long, and I was really upset about that the other night bc that freaking stung.

So onto the victory story. I was starting to get into my usual patterns of being really flighty and like playing up insecurities to get attention from my SO, and then I suddenly like stepped out of myself and just completely saw the entire situation for what it actually was. I immediately said out loud to my SO "hey I'm sorry. I'm not actually feeling insecure about our relationship I'm just really upset about this friendship and my mind is projecting that onto us and assuming you're going to leave me as well." And I just...snapped out of it. I was still upset, obv, but I stopped the pendulum swing into all my relationships and friendships being doomed.

I've never been able to do anything close to that before. I don't think I've ever once caught my spiral before I was in too deep and just had to throw a fit before I could climb out of the hole again.