Hi Reddit [28M] here. Any ideas how to be passionate about new and old things? 

Backstory:
I went through a bad breakup a couple years ago that really broke me. The only way for me to cope at the time (24M) was to put my head in the sand and just work. 

In my fiscal life I’m doing better then I’ve ever been. I come from poor, but these past couple years have allowed me to buy my own place.

Putting my head down in the sand was amazing fiscally, but I’ve lost any semblance of a social life. I haven’t dated in 4 years. Not even sure how to venture out in the market anymore. When I do get the chance to meet women, I’m like a deer in headlights at this point. I wasn’t like this. Probably for the best right now, I believe that you shouldn’t date until you’re happy with yourself. It would only be unfair to my partner 

I feel like a hamster stuck in the middle class loop right now. 

I guess you could say work is a passion. I’m a programmer, I dream code. No joke, other programmers will understand what I mean lol. It’s unhealthy, and I miss dreaming about other things. 

I feel like I don’t relate with people anymore. 
I feel like all conversations i have with people have become “business”

TLDR: how do I feel for something again? Or how do I find something I’m passionate about?