I recently bought a house with my partner and we have moved into together. I was worried about this as we are close but hadn't lived together before this. Even though we have been together over 3 years, he hadn't seen the full effect this disorder has on me until recently. 

Since we moved in together in January, we have been fighting more than usual. It's over what I would consider regular relationship discussions; money, not considering eachother feelings, family drama, etc. 

We had a fight last week and it turned into a splitting episode. It wasn't even a particularly bad fight, he said one thing that upset me and for the next 2 days, I could barely look at him or be in the same room, I didn't even want to go back to our house. I found myself villionizing him, suddenly I couldn't remember the good person he is and I couldn't turn it off, I was clouded by this one incident. I had horrible, constant anxiety and crying fits over that time until the episode died down 2 days later. It was the first time in a while that I had thoughts of suicide.

I could only see him as all bad at the time even though I know that's not how life works and that no one is perfect (myself included). 

I am trying to find a way to cope with these episodes, I feel like I suffer from it for a while before I realize that I am even experiencing splitting. Do any of you feel splitting episodes coming on, do you have coping mechanisms to deal with it? 

Appreciate any insight you may have.