As the title suggests, I am struggling really bad with codependency. 

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I currently have an FP who is amazing. They really support me and make sure to communicate with me when things are wrong. Although we've been friends for two years, we just recently started dating. The relationship is really healthy besides the codependency I have.

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Before we were dating, I had gotten out of a two year relationship six months prior. The relationship was really abusive on both ends. This really fucked me up because she was my everything. Her narcissism made me dependent on her. I lost who I was codependent on essentially. 

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Now I am in a healthy relationship; however, I am thriving while being extremely codependent. Before, I was unable to get out of bed, etc, you know how it is. But now I can do so many more things. Im not better or anything, but Im better than I was. My FP is also very understanding of this. If anything he enjoys the company. He "wants a companion in life."

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What really bothers me is that I can now see the codependence after recently learning what and FP was. I have been in CBT/DBT therapy since I was nine so I know the run around. I also study BPD in university. I use mindfulness, I've tried meditation, new hobbies, etc. but I cant seem to stay occupied for longer than a week or two. Side note: I also suffer from ADHD, Severe Anxiety, OCD, MDD, and obviously attachment issues. 

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My question is- Has anyone found a coping mechanism that was never mentioned to them? Have you found an activity, job, hobby, anything that distracts away from an FP. Like, he literally dropped me off on campus to do work today and I wanted to cry. I didn't but that's obviously not normal.