Input/Vent

I feel like I’ve been putting in way more effort into my boyfriend’s and my relationship since we moved in together about 2 months ago. 

I have a very bad habit of being *overly* helpful. Because when I’m helping I’m needed which means I’m not a burden. This also means that I’m starting to feel incredibly burnt out in a relationship I’d like to continue. 

He asks for food, I make it (he told me he didn’t know how to make ramen in the microwave so I had to do it. Which is bullshit, this man is a better cook than me) 

He got high tonight and asked me for two boxes of Mac and Cheese. I made it, and before it was done he just went to our room and fell asleep. 

I initiate any type of sexual activity. And it’s usually a three day process. For example, I suggested we had sex last Saturday, and then continued to suggest it until we finally had sex on Tuesday. (He supposedly wanted to have sex with me, but he doesn’t like to fuck while drunk and said “I’d feel really stupid to miss out on a whole day of drinking just to have sex” lmrao *bro*) 

I felt like he stopped being affectionate when we moved in together (except when he’s drunk). So I brought it up to him. He said he hated that I don’t go to parties with him (he parties 3-5 times a week). So in exchange for physical touch I said I’d go to parties with him. But before we struck that deal he told me “I’m comfortable with you now, so I can’t do that.” 

There’s so so so SO much more, but this is getting long. The thing is, I’ve considered ending it, but I don’t want to. This shift in personality and relationship was just in the last two months and before that we were fucking perfect for each other. And I can’t imagine myself dating anyone else. I love him to death, but this has to stop or I’ll end up making some very poor decisions. 

How do I bring this up to him without:

1. Shutting down before I get my point across

2. Offending him to the point of anger