I am in a relationship with a BPD girl. I love her. The first time we met she told me almost her whole life and did not hide her BPD. There was a spark between us from the start. It's been a few months now and I have a growing doubt. Like I said she told me nearly everything on our first date and also on the next dates there was much information she gave me. She told me that she will not go into a relationship with anyone until she feels excepted with her habits and her BPD. I have read a lot and I watched many videos. I was figuring out if I can handle this kind of relationship. At this time we permanently met and I got a glimmer of what will await me. All typical BPD symptoms were there. I then figured out that I am confident to handle it because I truly love her. The first time went very well. Not without problems of course because reading or watching something about BPD can not prepare you 100% but it was fine. She then began to make new rules every day and even telling me totally new personality traits that she never mentioned before. At first, it was like "OK I can handle this too." but it is getting more and more. Now she is beginning to bring up very hard stuff to handle. For instance, she told me yesterday that she is asexual. That was a shock for me because ... well I am not and we were intimate a lot. We talked the whole night and she told me that sex gives her nothing. She would do it for me though. We then together figured out how it could work for us both and we came up with a "solution". Today she comes up with more rules and major cutbacks. The feeling is growing in me that she is lying and making stuff up. I don't know if it is true and if why she is doing that. Does someone have an idea and can help me understand. If somebody has a clue I would also be grateful for advice on how to deal with this situation. I feel that I am coming to my limit. I am thankful for everything.