So my partner has bpd and we are both very much in love. But there’s one thing I really need help with. So like whenever we are in an argument I always make sure to tell them I love them just cause I don’t want them to feel like I stopped loving them just because we disagree rn. And they always reply that even though they haven’t fallen out of love with me that in that moment they don’t love me and they just can’t say it back. And they’ve told me before that if they’re mad at me in the moment they sometimes start to hate me. And they stop hating me after and the love comes back it still hurts to know that my partner doesn’t love me when we are in an argument. (Just so we’re all on the same page I’m not making myself a victim or anything and I understand they can’t control their feelings that doesn’t stop it from hurting ya know and my feelings are valid). While I don’t blame them for it cause like I said it’s not like they can control their feelings or anything and it’s not their fault I still want to know if there are any strategies or ways any of you know to combat this? I understand the answer is probably no cause like said earlier feelings aren’t controllable but just incase there is some way to l manage/stop feelings of hatred coming on when people with bpd are mad and loss of love for the person they’re mad at I’d like to know. If not I’m okay with accepting that but before I do I just want to check. I would just talk to my partner about it but I’m not gonna stress them out about it if turns out nothing can be done. I’d rather just accept it and move on than put that mental strain on them. Okay thanks for reading this I know it’s pretty long.