Long story short (nah it’s probably gonna be long anyway oops) I posted in a sub and while most of the comments are fine, there’s are some that are just getting to me.

I’ve posted in this sub a few times (on my alt account) and it’s been fine, yay people like my memes! This time tho I posted smth a bit more raw and vulnerable, a bit personal. Big mistake.

Idk I know I shouldn’t take this shit to heart, but it’s usually such an open, welcoming, wholesome sub and to get shit talked on and downvoted bc I said “you don’t know me or my trauma please don’t tell me I’m acting like a child and that my lifestyle is just some childish rebellion”. 

“Should I wear this shirt that I’ve worn for like a day an a half to an event with my conservative family that might cause a stir even tho no one will say anything to my face they’ll just talk behind my back” “omg you’ve worn it for a day already that’s so gross you’re disgusting” like?? I mentioned several times it clean, I haven’t worn it that much just to leave the house a couple of times and you’re telling me I’m gross and acting like a child? 

In one comment someone said smth along the lines of “just go to see ur dad, maybe wear smth that won’t offend him?” And I said “if it offend my dad it’s bonus points. Fuck him” and I got downvoted, I mentioned IN MY POST that have cut my dad out of my life and he isn’t a good person. 

Idk I’m just feeling all sorts rn I’m just hurt that a sub I felt so welcome in turned around and invalidated me and my experiences and my lifestyle like that. It’s literally a sub for people involved in that lifestyle to varying degrees and they told me that “oh it’s just a phase you’ll grow out of it” m8 this isn’t me being a teenage emo like “it’s not a phase mum gosh” this is adult me finally finding something that makes me feel safe and whole and fulfilled and when I said that their comment was quite frankly offensive bc they’re trying to gatekeep or whatever I get downvoted.

I’m just pissed off and hurt and depressed. I don’t want to go back to that sub anymore now and it makes me feel like I’m such a fake for not being a hardcore follower of this lifestyle like someone who makes their entire personality about it.

Idk it’s like telling someone who isn’t completely vegan that they’re obviously NOT a vegan bc they occasionally eat some animal products and that they shouldn’t even bother unless they’ve shoved chickpeas up their ass everyday for 10 years idk I’m not a vegan

Ps. I don’t want to mention the sub bc you’d see my post from my main account and through my main account you could probably find out who I am and shit and I don’t want to link these two accounts