I never really knew what an FP was until I came across this sub. It’s really interesting and as I read about it I instantly saw myself and understood I’d been doing it all my life. 

I also recognises that there are issues in indulging yourself with these feelings, as they’re not particularly healthy right? At least that’s what I’ve heard. 

My last FP turned out awful and broke me, like really hard. 

There’s a co-worked I’m crushing on really hard, she’s amazing, beautiful, and we have so much in common. 

We’ve actually only met a few times, and that was in a work setting. She recently messaged me after several weeks of lockdown. I felt encouraged and asked her if she’d like to go on a date when I’m back in the city (next week) she said yes, and I think she really likes me. 

So I was just hoping for some advice on how you handle these emotions. I’m definitely feeling intense thoughts of her all day long. I’m really in to her and feel like inside I’m just romanticising things and getting ahead of myself. 

So basically I’m just asking for any tips, advice, anecdotes that can help me to reign myself in and try not to base all my thoughts around her. I’m overthinking a lot and even imaging how devastating things would be if they didn’t work out between us. 

I know a lot of this is irrational, and I’m cognisant of it all. I’m very self aware and slow to act on impulses so I should be ok. I’m confused and nervous and just hoping I don’t jinx myself as I’m convinced I’m cursed. 

How long do people wait before they tell people they date about the idea of an FP? She’s very understanding of mental health conditions so I can’t imagine her being at judgemental, I’d just hate the idea I could accidentally put pressure on and have her ultimately end up leaving me. 

Anyways thank you to this community, you’re all very supportive.