I may be his FP but I'm not sure and I haven't asked yet. We are extremely close and I'm starting to believe that if I say anything about him or his identity he automatically regards it as truth. That puts a lot of pressure on me to view him in a positive light 24/7 or be extra extra careful approaching conversations where I may unintentionally hurt his feelings.

If I have negative feelings (annoyed or upset) towards him I'll take a minute or talk to him about it until those feelings go away. I try my hardest to have open and honest communication but it sometimes feels like he can't handle it emotionally.

If I didn't think he was funny, smart, attractive, etc then he wouldn't think those things about himself either. Of course you want your friends to think good things about you but if he senses the *tiniest* sign that I *might* think he's not a good person he will melt into a puddle. I love him and enjoy our friendship so much but I can't handle this kind of power dynamic if that's what you'd call it. This may be related to emotion blindness or permanency but even still, I want him to think good things about himself, not just because I said so.

I'm asking here because I'd like to know how other people with bpd navigate this or what would be most helpful for me to do. He mentioned having quiet bpd but he's not sure he has it. He does split but never at/towards me.

Thanksss