 

My mom is sick, she has leukemia and shes bipolar and schizophrenic. All my life, she has been out of control, often causing scenes and fights within our family. She is the oldest daughter of my grandparents, and because of her lifestyle shes always gone to them if she needs money, and until recently, theyve always given it to her.

Three years ago, my grandmother passed away. It hit us all pretty hard, but we were mostly worried about my grandpa. They were married for 57 years and we didnt want him to go "downhill" after losing her. We were all so happy when he found a new girlfriend, even though it was quick, we all just wanted him to have a companion to spend his "golden years" with. She is lovely and they seem so happy. My mother was not happy. She was jealous and angry because "How could he just FORGET my grandmother/mother like that?!".

Well my mother has been living in one of my grandpas properties against everyone's wishes. It is a summer cottage not meant for year round living as it doesnt even have in door plumbing. She didnt want to pay rent anymore, so she found somewhere she could live for free.

One day my mom decided to call the police and report my grandfather because as her "landlord" he should not be letting her live in squalor. She said "He has so much money, and he cant even help his sick daughter?! Please arrest him! This cottage is not up to code!" Well its not up to code to rent out because thats not what it was meant for. It is a summer cottage for a week away, not for permanent living. When he told her that he will not fix it up for her to live in, she told him she wished he was DEAD.

He was heartbroken. He lost his wife, and three of his 5 children, and now one of his only family members wants him dead because he wont pay for her living expenses. Ive dealt with a lot from my mom, and instead of ever helping me shes often hurt me. Ive accepted it and Ive been ok with having a relationship with her as long as we have strict boundaries. But after this....I just cant take it anymore. I know shes sick, but shes using it as an excuse to be an asshole.

Unfortunately theres more. Shes made public posts attacking my grandpas business telling everyone things like, "boycott the gas station so he goes bankrupt" "hes not a real christian because he has a LIVE IN GIRLFRIEND" "hes not my father, my real father is my HEAVENLY FATHER" just....really embarrassing and awful shit that makes me sick to my stomach.

I havent spoken with her in a few months, but she keeps messaging me saying things like " the WBC count has tripled" and " youll regret not talking to me when i die". How can she say this kind of stuff after what shes done to my grandpa? well...shes obviously not well. Its probably a mix of being a spoiled brat/some bipolar tendancies. Shes been tested so many times but she refuses to acknowledge that she is bipolar. she insists that shes just hormonal. None of that even matters. I know that if she doesnt want to get help than she cant be helped.

Ive gotten messages from a few of her friends asking what im doing to help her. She left our hometown because no one would help her anymore. Now shes in a new town scamming whoever she can to get free stuff. My brother is the only one who still talks to her and hes upset with me because I cut her off. Im in a better position financially to help her so I should be the one, not him. Im also 2 years older than him so its supposed to be my job. I dont know? What can I do to help myself and my family stay safe?