Hello. I (26F) have been with my bf (29M) for two and a half years now. He has been going to therapy a lot before we got together but hasn't been for at least 2yrs now. He's trying to get his life together at the moment, but I feel like he's disregarding his mental health completely and his anxiety has gotten a lot worse. I have mental health issues as well, so I sometimes trigger him with my expression of feelings (crying, being silent for some time) without knowing. We had a conversation before, where I told him it would be great if he could tell me when he feels like it's all getting too much, I'm annoying him or a conversation is getting too serious for him. Sadly he isn't really able to do so, he said when he realizes, it's already to late and he has to flee. At this point I'm at a loss. I love him very much and don't want to leave him over our issues, but I feel like we often can't communicate, because I trigger his anxiety and the conversation is over. 

I really want to ask him how I can help him, but I don't know how to do this without triggering his anxiety! How would you like to be asked how your partner can support you?