Does anyone else hate when you are talking to people looking to date but your sre terrified to tell them that you have BPD because of all the stigma?

I'm a good person or I at least try my best to be but everyone thinks I'm abusive the miniute they find out I have BPD, wleven if we have been talking everyday for months the minute BPD is mentioned I'm made to feel like an abusive neglective person..how do you handle thisbwhile dating or getting to know people?