Has anyone here seen a situation (or been in) a relationship where the two partners both have suspected BPD? I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting, and I (23 F) am starting to think that my ex (25 M) might both have quiet BPD, but coped with it in different ways.

our behaviors are extremely similar, the only difference I’m able to see now is that when extremely overwhelmed, I spiral and become more emotional, where he emotionally shuts down. Is that still a coping mechanism for people with BPD?

What are your thoughts?