So today a good friend of mine and I were supposed to meet up at a bar and watch baseball, have lunch, hangout.  I assumed it'd just be her and I because it was my idea. I'm definitely a planner and not a spur of the moment,  I thought we agreed on details a few days ago. 

It was a few hours before the game and she wasn't answering her texts.  About an hour be before first pitch I said that if I didn't hear from her I was going to go by myself.   I knew other people going to the place I thought we agreed on, so if she bailed I'd just hangout with them.

 I'm not the type of person to force people to hangout with more than 1 person they've never met so the plans were just her and I unless she didn't answer by then.


Anyway right before I left my house she called and said she fells asleep but was going to get ready.  I said "okay well I'll meet you at blah blah bar" she said "well I  was planning on going to yada bar". 

I asked where Yada was.  23 miles away.  The bar I thought we were going is 8 miles. Her and I live close so it's not like the other place was closer to her. 

I said "well I was planning on going to blah blah, it's closer". 

She said "well my friends are waiting at yada".

I said I was just going to go to blah blah.

Later I started thinking though and if I had just gone to the bar she wanted,  I would have been an unfamiliar place, wouldn't have known her friends, and would have been uncomfortable.  It was like she was trying to trick me.  Why not say "hey let's meet up with my friends at this place". 

I'm not bad with meeting new people, honestly. All I ask is to actually be introduced and that you don't just bail for a long period of time because it's awkward.  

I had a friend from work invite me bowling for her birthday once with her friends she didn't introduce me to anyone and then kept clinging to her bf. AWKWARD.   I literally stood outside in a midwestern winter waiting for my ride because it was so awkward. 

Anyway I'm kinda annoyed with my friend and feel like she tried tricking me. But I'm not sure if I'm overreacting because I like a warning when meeting new people and my anxiety causes me to avoid unfamiliar places unless I'm in the mood. 

It would have been a double whammy with no warning.  My friend has anxiety too which is why I don't understand why she tried pulling this.