Hi there :),

As in the title, here are the two questions:

Can idealization be experienced as the belief that no one could ever possibly replace that one person you value most? They're the cutest and have the nicest personality. In your mind, no one in the whole wide world will ever come close. It's not necessarily that they're perfect. You recognize that they can't be, because they're human, but they're ideal to you nevertheless. The closest someone can be to your subjective definition of perfection.

About devaluation, can it be almost entirely self-directed? Someone disappoints you but you will hate yourself instead of them. Does anyone experience it that way? I was thinking how that presentation fits the internalizing subtypes of BPD, though I'm not sure how seriously those are taken by the majority of mental health professionals.

Thank you all for your answers in advance. :)