Hi, 22 female.
3 years ago I had a nasty breakup from a poly relationship with my best friend at the time. I was in love with her, but she turned into a really abusive person.

Part of me justifies it by saying “We were young, we had issues” but I know that is not fully true.

There is a huge list of things she did that were worst than I could’ve imagined after the breakup. Those terrible things didn’t stop until a year ago.

Well, she recently popped back into my life. She started posting in Facebook groups I am in. It is clear she’s wanting my attention with the things she is posting, and honestly, I want to give it to her.

My healthy friends want me to forget she exists and ignore her attempts. My therapist agrees with them, and says I would be opening a door to toxicity but reaching out to her.

But I want her to know I am sorry. I am so sorry for the pain I caused her that would make her do these things. I want to be on good terms with her. I want to stop fearing her.

My friends are wanting me to forget someone who changed my life (in a lot of good ways and bad)

I am so scared to make the wrong choice. But she is human, and I want her to know someone cares. That someone is me.