I’ve been in a respite for a week now and made friends with a woman who is sixty (initially thought she was in her early 70s) and I’m twenty years old. We became close very quickly and I opened up to her about my childhood sexual abuse and she shared her experiences too. We became strongly connected over this and got along so well up until two days ago. For some reason because she has been super nice I’ve started to put my guard up. I can’t tell if I’m splitting and am sad since I was sure this was a tight friendship. She keeps giving me food and won’t take no for an answer (which makes me uncomfortable at times) and keeps calling my phone (she asked to exchange numbers and even gave me her address). I told her I been sober from weed for a month and last night she offered me a joint, which I take responsibility for. But I do feel pressure to always comply and started getting paranoid ideas that she can’t be trusted. She’s also given me a new pair of shoes and says she’s going to get me a perfume. I cant help but find this suspicious. This might all sound silly but it’s making me feel unsafe. Am I overreacting? She’s quite generous with the other people here too, we are just particularly close. I want to set boundaries and I think she’s sensed that, because she told me not to feel weird about her giving me stuff, even though I hadn’t said anything. I really want to figure out why I feel so triggered.