I didn’t used to set them, and that caused a lot of issues. I’m self aware now, and aware of others, and I do set them. But I usually set them in an explosive manner. I.e. I’ll be very rational and explain my values and boundaries, and if people violate them I will rationally tell them what they did wrong but not cut them off yet. Then I’ll sit and think about it for a long time and work myself up in anger, and cut them off forever.

This is explosive and ends a lot of relationships abruptly. I feel like I should end the relationship if they violate my boundaries though, like through lying or something?

What do you guys do? Thanks