First off, I love my bpd boyfriend and I know he's crazy about me too. Even if sometimes his feelings get the best of him. We've been together for 3 years. It's that kind of love where I feel like we share a language nobody else knows.  That being said, being with a bpd person can be challenging. I'm having trouble understanding a behavior of his. Sometimes he'll  straight up ignore questions I ask him but not because he's mad at me.  We had an argument today because he couldn't answer my text. I try to come up with creative ways to get him to open up to me. As a psych nerd I was wondering what jungian arch type he was so I asked him which character he connected with in a show we watch.  When I called him that night I asked again and he ignored me again. I lost my temper and demanded he answer, he then got defensive/aggressive saying that I sounded like buzzfeed. After he cooled off, he told me his whole life he's struggled to answer basic questions like 'what did you do over  your summer vacation' even. I didn't push it, as it didn't feel like we would get anywhere.  he can open up to me just on his terms which can be a rare occasion.  We also aren't intimate sexually that often which I bet is connected.  Is this a symptom of bpd? Or anxiety?  Can any of you help me understand?  