I happened to stumble upon a post in the nice guy thread and it made me start to think that it is time to get out of this now. I have decided to ask Reddit on how to get out of this.(http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/lmu0d/for_newbies_nice_guy_syndrome_what_it_is_and_why/c2tzdnw) Some of the things I can relate to is that I hate offending anyone ever. I like to keep everything quiet to be polite like not banging my cup on my work table after taking a sip from it even though everyone else does it. This has made me easily offended by people who do that as I think to myself that if I am not banging my cup, you should not to. This has led me to be more uptight and angry which I really want to fix (I am being more awkward and angry towards people I have never met before which is not good for an introvert person like me. I need friends. And I do want to know more people.)
I am a pushover as well. I get easily influenced by my friends. My confidence and self-esteem is also low. I have also become more anxious and nervous around people and how they think about me. I also get easily jealous of people who either look or seem better than I am. I don't know why this persists, these thoughts just randomly stream into my mind. I know I should not be like this but these thoughts and emotions just take over.
I have tried in the past year to improve myself after finding a girl I had a crush on. I took an improvement in the way I dressed, talked and in my posture. Unfortunately, I found out that she has a boyfriend and have moved on from her ever since. I was in a state of depression after finding out for almost a year. I think this might have affected by emotions and self-esteem. However, the qualities above still persist but they are not as bad as they used to be. Now, I feel a bit more comfortable outside but not in the biggest step. I am still nervous around people.
Do you have any tips you can give me to aid me in getting out of this stage of my life. I really want to improve on myself. However, I feel that being the person I am now it will be hard to do anything that includes finding a job, chilling with friends, or getting a girlfriend.
Thanks for taking a read and helping a mate out.
Cheers