So basically my partner has Bpd and I have possible bpd 

So I was trying to send pictures of my face to relearn self love because I genuinely can’t see my self in the mirror and etc and I’m just trying to relearn that this is me and I’m going to have to love it, and my partner kinda pushes it aside and said it was fine. 
To me that really hurt because when they do the same I make sure to hype them up tell them their perfect and such, I was hoping I was going to get the same attention and energy so it made me feel invalidated. Then they exploded and kinda made me feel like shit and told me I have no respect and that they’ll walk away from the relationship because I asked if they could be more considerate. 

Some back story to lead to the explosion. Few days ago they told me to not push how they feel to get it out of them because they obviously didn’t want to talk about it so I retained that and told them I understand. 
When I had a sever mood drop to news that really stuck me by surprise it really irked me and I told them to leave me alone about because right now I don’t think I want to talk about it and it’s really pissed me off of course and they continued to pester me which mad me kinda ticked off so they hung up and that just was the icing in the cake so when they texted me I was just furious, they wen to bed and I still said goodnight and I loved them, 

Earlier today they told me they felt alone and they were alone because their friends don’t listen or talk to them anymore and so basically I asked them like didn’t you not want to talk to them and this and that and they got upset because I was being logical, In my stance I feel was wrong but I still did it and I apologized and told them I’ll give them time. 

Now were here at the present where I was sending them pictures of my face saying that I need to relearn self love and that I feel ugly and such but this is my face and I’m going to have love it and they just said it’s fine and I told them it’s gross and that I’m trying to relearn self love and that it makes me feel invalidated and that they give me no energy or support and how it didn’t help basically. 
Then exploded and told me I don’t respect them and they’re going to leave and that I never had respect so I don’t know how to show it? 

Then they excused me of exploding because I told them It makes me feel invalidated and they just continued. 
It just made it worse then blamed me for it all even everything else before the pictures thing they just blamed it all on me and took it out on me which I don’t believe  I don’t deserve 

It just makes me feel so stupid and that I can’t express my feelings with out them treating me like dog shit 
How am I supposed feel validated with them loosing their handle then taking everything put on me during their split what do I do in these situations? 

Sorry for making this so long it’s just I’ve got no support at all.