I am currently in a pretty stable and loving relationship. My SO however is not my FP, nor where they really at any point. I've had a longterm SO until last fall who was my FP for 5 years (I was poly then). Well, now, I am developing feeling for someone in my closer circle (I play DnD with him, he is the DM). And it is getting more intense, like he tells my stuff he doesn't tell his SO, we chat everyday, and last friday I told him about my current mental state (not well) and we talked the whole evening although both of our SOs were also there. It was all kinda harmless, until he and his SO went home and while saying goodnight he hugged me pretty long and kissed me on my cheek quite intensly. Which is not common in my country, just to clarify. And now I am not sure if I should bring it up because I am unsure what exactly happedn and if he remembers (he was very drunk, as were we all, but mostly me and him). It was also not the first time we got wasted together, and it is getting rather unhealthy I think - like we can't casually drin together, it usually escalates.But my main problem is, that he is becoming my FP I think and it is hurting my relationship and I think also his ... I don't want to cut all communication because, well, I like him and I also love my DnD group, which atm gives me so much support and provides so much fun for me. Sooooooooooooo ... anyone has experience with transforming an "almost" FP into a normal friend?  


(edit: corrected typos)