ok so today I've been stuck in a pretty bad headspace and I feel like I've kind of identified the basic thought pattern that is the cause of a lot of my anxiety. it goes like this:

1. encounter a relatively trivial choice: x or y
2. one must be bad, the other less bad (or good/less good)
3. safest option is to avoid actively choosing either: what comes, comes.
4. but wait—what about in the case where x = indecision, and y = decisiveness? in that case my not choosing might be the less good thing?
5. infinite loop of anxious paralysis

The result is that I second guess almost everything, including my own instincts, feelings, and thoughts. how do I improve this situation? any advice is appreciated. 

usually just writing the thought loop down helps, but this one feels baked in there in my brain on a pretty fundamental level and I'm starting to see that it's causing a lot of problems.