My working theory is that since our default state is suffering (bummer, right), it’s like aversion therapy, applied very broadly and at a low level. 

For example- maybe I have an aversion to my in-laws (who are genuinely good people and don’t deserve this). It’s not that anything is wrong with them, it’s that when I see them I’m out of my element, have to be ‘on’, don’t have easy access to coping strategies etc. so I associate that stressful feeling with them. 

Thoughts?