My fiancé often says how much he needs and wants me and always breaks down whenever we spend time together and I need to go back home (we are 150 miles apart currently). I can see why “neediness” would be off-putting to people, but I love that my fiancé is like that. 95% of the time, he responds back to my texts within 5 - 10 minutes. Since we became serious last year, he’s never gone a day or even an hour without texting me. And just a FYI, he’s never been aggressive or demanded I speak to him if I am not online for a while. Instead, he just says sweet things like “I miss you so much baby” or “I can’t stop thinking about you,” etc. I really do love it. Even though he has said he always wants to talk to me, he also always respects when I want space and gives me it and says, “I’ll always be here for you. Take care.” He’s very happy with me and I’m happy with him. He wants to be physically intimate with me a lot too, which I also love. I have felt very insecure and worried in all of my previous relationships except this one. My BPD traits haven’t been as bad in this relationship like they were in others. I’m working to get better through therapy and even though he doesn’t understand BPD, he doesn’t take it personally when I split sometimes and when I feel guilty afterwards, he says “it’s okay, baby. I know you don’t mean the things you say during an episode. I love you.” This isn’t to say I’m not going to get more therapy and not commit to getting better because I absolutely am and do not want to hurt him through the hurtful things I’ve said before a few times anymore. I love this man dearly and want to be a good wife to him.