I never knew I had BPD. I just thought that being afraid of abandonment, being impulsive and having bad relationships was just a result of a bad childhood. I learned it's BPD and I have a person in my life that I love so much and I don't want to ruin it. I'm  21 and hes 20 and we've sat down and discussed children, moving, marriage, etc. I am certain that if he's the person I settle with I'd be totally okay with it. Does BPD in relationships get better? I don't want to lose him.