Hi everyone,

I am 43 yo F, diagnosed with BPD in 2019 and I've had two rounds of TMS and currently in my 2nd continuous year of DBT.

There has been progress and setbacks.  Currently in one of those setback phases.  

My husband (together 19 years total) and I have always struggled with sex - I am always willing, and he used to be moreso, until 2015.  Then his desire totally fell off, and all attempts on my end were met with excuses about weight gain or catholic guilt.

Fast forward to last week - he told me he may in fact be asexual.

I have gone into a huge spiral and am spending some time alone, which I hate.  It was one thing to think he could work on the sex piece, but another to hear that I'll likely never have sex again, or I'll have to get divorced from someone I really love.

I feel lost, and sad, and close to suicidal once again.