This is going to be long so bear with me. Also my first time posting to Reddit. 

My brother, who will turn 40 next week, has always been an amazing, stand up guy. He was the most reliable, dependable, understanding, trusting person. He married his high school sweetheart— they’ve been together for over 20 years. They have 2 kids and he used to be the best dad. He’s active in our community, holds an office on the chamber of commerce and city council, coaches the kids’ sports teams, etc. I think you get the picture. 

Some background— our father is an alcoholic. I’m a lot younger so I didn’t see as much of the bad stuff as my brothers did but I do know that they have both seen things that children should never see. My dad is also currently still an alcoholic. There was physical, mental, emotional abuse and all that. Basically, my brother had to grow up a lot faster than he should have. And while my mom has always done the best she can, he did take on more responsibilities than he should have at his age. 

Now recently, he’s a different person. It’s been going on for a couple months but it really all hit the fan a couple weeks ago when he didn’t pick his kids up from practice and my moms house. His wife came home to find him passed out on the ground. He said it was heat stroke but it wasn’t the first time it has happened. 

Since then, he’s gone off the rails. Drinking all day, everyday. I’m not even sure if he’s going to work. He’s accusing his wife of cheating on him, he put his wedding ring in a cup and wrote ‘you win’ on the cup and took off. His kids says that’s not their dad and they are scared to be alone with him. He’s talking like he’s single and like he doesn’t care about anybody, not even his own children. The things he’s doing are literally mind blowing myself and my family. It’s just a completely different person. No exaggeration. 

He doesn’t seem to have any empathy or guilt or shame for how he’s acting. He doesn’t seem to see anything wrong with how he’s acting. I’m just worried about him. Idk if he’s going to hurt himself or anybody around him or what’s going on. I honestly am clueless as to what to do about it. Everyday it seems to be escalating a little more than the previous day. I guess I’m just looking for anybody that may have experienced something similar and can give me some advice as to what myself or my family can do?