I gave my husband a book in the hopes he would understand me and BPD--how his behavior effects me. And what he can and could do to help. And instead of using it productively he is using it as a means to "aha she really is fucked up and it has nothing to do with me" It's as if he is using it against me as proof rather than to help me and US. I am simply hurt and disappointed at what he has highlighted and notated in the book. And it's not why I gave it to him. So, I threw it out... I should have known better. I have a much better book. But fuck it. What's the point? He does not know I threw it out. He loses everything anyway. So, I'll just let him assume he lost this, too. Why add fuel to the fire. 