I’ve went abroad for a PhD already 5 years ago, and since I moved I haven’t been able to control my BPD. I lost my support network, and it hasn’t been easy to make friends, since I’m in a research environment where everyone is really stressed, and you’re not supposed to have emotions. 

One of the biggest obstacles is that my work is in English and I don’t speak the country’s language, so I can’t join group therapy. Also, so far all my therapists here were not really helping. They ended up just saying, “if you hate it here so much just finish the PhD and go back home”. I haven’t been to therapy for a couple months and things are pretty much getting out of control, which means I stop being able to go to work and start considering quitting the PhD. 

Has anyone here managed to do something like this? Do I have a chance in getting better here? How many therapists have you tried before finding the right fit for you?