Hey all, hoping people here might be some help, I'm seeing this girl, we've dated on and off for years, she had BPD, and I love her, flaws and all. I recently lost my cool and told her to leave me alone and that I was done with the relationship. It was an over reaction to something very small that I regret, I didn't mean to say that to her, and I really don't want her gone. I was upset and now she won't talk to me. I understand that I really hurt her, and that I said those thing, as I'm supposed to be her support. I feel awful. I just want her to hear me out. But it seems like she's set on ignoring everything I have to say. And refusing to reason with me. 
Can anyone here suggest a way I can calm her down to talk? I know she's hurt and in a bad place mentally, and I'd like to help her out of it so we can have a conversation. 
I hope this makes sense, thanks for any replies.