So me and my bf have been dating for around 9 months. I'm female to male transgender and he's super supportive of me and we really do love each other and he has been there for me since coming out to my family.  I have mental health issues also (anxiety, ocd, ptsd, ect) and have gotten medicated and dtuff like that.  

His anxiety is so bad and he can't see a psychiatrist bc even calling then makes him too anxious. I've always tried to be there for him when he I'd anxious but last night was the first time where I felt like I had absolutely no idea how to help and am looking for advice on what to do in the future. 

So we wash all of our clothes together and usually will fold them all together too to make it easier. So last night the clothes were finished and I grabbed them out of the dryer. He had said multiple times thay he was tired and I suggested we wait until morning. He insisted it was fine and I eventually dumped the laundry on the floor and he ended up saying he was too tired. I was annoyed bc the pile of clothes in the middle of the room made me anxious bc of my ocd and I wish he woul have said he wasn't up to it before I dumped it. So i started to fold them and then stopped bc I was pretty irritated and didn't feel like doing it all alone. I eventually went in he living room. Like 10 minutes later I went to check on him bc I was worried I had made him anxious and just let him know I wasn't mad at him or anything but just found the situation annoying. I was trying to talk to him bc I could tell he was anxious and he said it didn't matter that I cared and tried to help him so I left the room. 15 minutes later I heard him moving around and went in and found him doing the clothes. I tried to help and he told me not to and I kept trying and he took the clothes out of my hand every time. I tried to talk to him sbt it but he just wasn't communicating. I just sat down on the bed. He was in a pissed off mood and wouldn't talk to me or let me help. (I have autism so I can't read people, so when he doesn't tell me what he's thinking I genuinely have no idea)  later after he was done I tried to talk to him and basically figured out thst he felt anxious abt not folding the clothes so he did it but didn't wsnt me to help bc he felt bad but was too anxious to explain that in the moment. Thus morning I tried to talk to him sbt it and what to do in the future to support him bc I didn't know if I should try to be there or leave him alone and he said he wasn't sure. 

Any advice? When he gets anxious and it is abt stuff thsy I could affect what can I do to make him feel better? I love him so much and hare to hurt him ever and don't wsnt to csuse him anxiety.