I’m august my GF split me.  Went from working on our relationship to ice cold and distant over 2 weeks.  She called me on Aug 18 to say we weren’t going to go out as planned, and in fact that she needed “at least 3 to 6 months of no contact.”   

There was no explanation or discussion.  We spoke not at all about whether this meant it was over.  Or if not, what each of our expectations should be.  (She did send me two brief emails right after. One, the day after, wishing me a happy b day (ouch) and another a week later about some concert tickets I had bought her). 

So as we’re coming up to the 3 month mark I’m doing everything I can to move on.  I want this relationship over. 

But unlike a “normal” relationship, if we are done - it would be the weirdest, less “resolved” break up I’ve been in.  No discussion or communication that “this just didn’t work and we both need to move on.”

I hate the idea of sitting around, later this month - and in December- as the holidays approach - that I may actually hear from her.  Or that I may not.  It’s a mind f*ck. 

In a “normal” relationship I’d write her a letter. To clarify that regardless of her desires - we need to move on and I would ask her not to contact me.  

But that just seems to be inviting engagement.  Inviting trouble.  If she’s seeing someone else, I don’t want to know.  I don’t want to know anything.  I just want to have this over and know it’s over.  From both of our sides. 

I suppose I have to be comfortable that the only “closure” I’ll get is in my own bead??  And to just not reach out to her.  And only deal w it if she later does reach out to me?