I've (25F) been seeing a psychiatrist for a while now, and we were exploring the possibility of bipolar, but after hearing several descriptions of my emotions and analyzing my rapid mood shifts, I was diagnosed BPD. After reading about it, looking at the symptoms and criteria, it is clear that I meet most of them. I feel in many ways like this makes sense of all the turmoil that I've experienced since the 6th grade. 

At the same time I am incredibly insecure about not meeting all criteria. For instance, 

\- I don't self-harm, I never have and have no intention of doing it. 

\- I've never planned suicide (though I have had times when I think about it and think about the fact that if my life continued on this way, that I could see myself killing myself eventually). 

\- I don't do incredibly impulsive things. I am impulsive, but in a very moderated way.

Overall the criteria for BPD makes sense of hypersensitivity to perceived rejection or abandonment, rapid emotional shifts, splitting, dissociation during stress, hella shifting self-image, anger, chronic emptiness, etc. And I was a highly sensitive child in a highly invalidating, authoritarian household. I experienced a lot of abandonment because my parents deployed in the military away from me quite often. I think it's the right diagnosis, but can't stop feeling insecure about not meeting each criteria. 

TL;DR: I don't fit all symptoms of BPD, but I fit most. I can't stop being insecure about not fitting into the remaining symptoms. 

I'm looking for insight or support on this. Thanks all.