Metrosexual has historically been used as a sort of derogatory term for men who are very comfortable with themselves, but now it’s used more indiscriminately to describe a straight man that acts “gay.” big ugh and scoff at that definition because it’s based in the stereotypical “flamboyant” gay man. 

Personally, I am straight, but very homoerotic. This meaning I am attracted to men, but cannot have a romantic relationship with men. Every relationship I’ve been with has been platonically sexual rather than romantic. 

However, people seem to REAAALLY think im gay for some reason. Whether it be because i like painting my nails sparkly blue, because of my long, bleached hair, the way i speak, the way i like to show off my ass in jeans, etc. However, I’ve only been in real romantic relationships with women as it’s impossible for me to feel that way with a man. 

Girls seem to really like me because of this and my personality, but the looks I get are kind of annoying. I currently live in a small town in southeast ohio with my dad and when I go out with my tucked in striped shirt, tech pants that hug my ass (very nicely I must say), and my hair down, I constantly get looks of disgust, most likely due to homophobia of all things. I am not gay, however. 

I am very comfortable with myself and my femininity, but it’s annoying how quick people are to judge sexuality based on appearance and vocal presentation. It’s just another stereotype that perpetuates stigma against gay men. I’ve noticed that my guy friend Austin is the same way and people constantly think were a couple. He also has BPD. 

I was wondering if any other guys here with BPD could identify fully or somewhat with the metrosexual label (yes, ik another label. i hate it too). Anyway, I love you all, stay safe 💖