Ok so many of you probably already realized this but I just recently understood that I can try to see my BPD as just any other physical illness like diabetes or psoriasis or whatever. It takes the edge off of symptoms and also makes me not spiral into bad stuff. Of course, I am still put in some situations where it's too much and I can't control myself, but thinking like this has helped.

It's like that comic about "If people treated physical illness the way they treat mental illness", but kind of reversed I guess? I treat my mental illnes like a physical illness.

This is *not* to say that people can do this 100% or that you should try it, but I just figured it helped to not make everything feel as hopeless to just see my symptomatic episodes as "flare-ups" of psoriasis or low blood sugar in diabetes instead of this huge monstrous part of my personality (even though it probably is).

Again, *not* saying that "just take your meds and be happy!", but that I am just figuring out how to actually work with it and keep it in check, and that this mindset is really helpful. Like "I'm *not* mad at my partner, I'm ''''only'''' splitting right now". 