 Bit of background I have an insecure attachment style finally realised I was picking the wrong guys – ones who clearly had commitment issues or would disappear for days at a time. I finally went for a guy who’s available, a bit needy and doesn’t disappear. 

However, any time he slightly deviates from his texting habit or slight behaviour change it totally sends me into a panic and every time it’s been fine after. We’ve been dating for 4 months generally feel like it’s been going well. 

We both don’t want to rush into a relationship, but both want one down the line. Both have been in situations where we rushed into a relationship and just want to take the time to really get to know each other and if we are a good fit as we met online. We are exclusive.

I’m not asking so much to analyse his behaviour but how do I stop reacting like this as the anxiety can be so debilitating? I have been in therapy for it and am doing CBT.