My girlfriend has depression and BPD. Her weekdays consist mainly of sleeping, gaming, and watching TV. I work every day to provide for her and her son. One complete week, next with 3 days off(which we use to have quality family time/date nights). Some days are really good, as of late(past few days) she's been doing household chores while I'm gone, feeding the kiddo, etc. And I remind her how proud of her I am constantly when she shows initiative, because I truly am proud of her. But most days consist of me getting off a hard day's work, doing the household chores, store trips, feeding them both, then going to sleep. All of this leaving me with maybe 2 hours a day to just unwind. Sex is hit-or-miss, ik her drive is very low and mine is extremely high. I initiate it 99% of the time, only once has she ever, but we get at it a few times a month(3, 4 times at most). She's going to therapy and on medication (which she just started recently). I've found writings on how alone she feels, yet I try my hardest day in-and-out to make her life as comfortable as possible. And I won't lie, it does kinda hurt. When shes in a "slump", she'll become extremely disinterested in everything, irritable, angry, and downright lazy. She has my complete trust when it comes to my heart, money, etc. yet something inside me still thinks that she's just "settling". That she enjoys the comfort of being taken care of more-so than me. She'll show brief glimpses of true love towards me, yet those don't last. I always remind her how much I truly love her, because I do love her. And on her good days I can tell that she loves me just as much. Even if she has trouble showing it. I could make a whole list of all the things I genuinely love about her, but her psyche can make a lot of days completely unbearable. I don't see myself leaving her any time soon, nor do I want to, we're well past the "honeymoon phase" by months yet I still show her massive amounts of affection and care. Because I believe she deserves it. I guess I just posted this to vent a lil' bit and find some people in the same boat as me. Any questions, comments, concerns would be greatly appreciated.