So this past week I’ve been dealing with perhaps one of the heaviest things life. Knowing that I already have depression, PTSD and other mental health problems too, I came here to ask some questions about emotional regulation. This is directed at people who have succeeded with their emotional balance, and evety advice is appreciated.

1. How do I deal with feelings that make me remember things? For example, I’m now dealing with the loss of a family member, and when in daily life I’m aware that they’re now in the past life, sometimes the realization of “They’re gone.” comes to my mind with a wave of sadness. What do I do about it? I tell myself “Yes, we can’t do anything about it. Brush it off.” and try not to let it linger in my mind. Sometimes I distract myself. I don’t let the feeling stay in my mind for more than a couple of minutes because after that, conflicting emotions of regret, grief, and others come in full force. What do I do?

2. Is it okay if I distract myself by engaging in activities? When I’m in a quiet place, my minds is on depressive mode. I remember all the bad things that had happened to me, this is partly because of my PTSD. So I try to be in crowded places or try to distract myself to not let my mind in depressive mode. Is this okay? I literally can’t stand my mind.

These are my two main questions. These are the two things I struggle the most. When I realized that certains things trigger my negative emotions, I did the best to cut those things out in my mind. For example, I don’t listen to slow music. Is this okay? Avoiding triggers?