A friend and I were discussing this this morning, and it struck me as a possibility and made sense.

My huge challenge is that I split on inanimate things, like things I'm working on. It's been a never-ending cycle of switching from project to project, interest to interest, etc. and the thought that hit me was "What if I'm actually *avoiding* earning an identity by making sure I don't finish anything?"

There's more evidence in my life to support this idea, which is that, work-wise, I almost never accept a title, and I will make one up in my email signature. If people ever ask me about work, I almost *never* answer that question with something beginning with "I am.." Everything with me is complicated and vague.

It's almost like *having* an identity is a.. what? Like a trap? A cage? Like, if *I* have an identity, I can't be something else later.

Is it like the ultimate "keeping my options open"?