A couple of months ago I (29M) went back to therapy to treat my BPD. This is the first time I have honestly decided to put DBT into practice in my daily life. As a result, it’s made me cut off friends and old hobbies. For instance, I was very much into the rave/festival scene. I have since stopped talking to any friends associated with or attend any shows. This is partially because when I went to show I felt compelled to partake in drugs and vaping which I told my fiancé (33F) I would stop.

I have narrowed my focus onto my career and my pending marriage. Additionally, it’s made me see that I don’t have very many emotional resources to allocate to people except myself and my fiancé. I basically see anything outside of my career, grad school, engagement, or healthy hobbies as a distraction or unwanted interaction.

My former friends and my family do not agree with my distancing form everyone, but this is the only way I know how to take care of myself and prepare for the future. My fiancee is fully supportive, but she asks me if I think it’s a little extreme and cold. 

Am I wrong for doing this?