I was asking for advice about an argument I got in with my boyfriend about how he treats me differently when he's had a bad day. I didn't go to /r/relationships because I know how they treat borderlines in there. So I went to another sub. It wasn't any better. 

The TL;DR is: Boyfriend was tired, I wanted to talk, nothing serious just talk. He chose sleeping in on Tuesday over seeing me. I got sad. I JOKINGLY called him a lazy asshole. He knew it was a joke and was not offended. I am continually frustrated with how he has been treating me differently when he's tired or had a bad day.

All I did was ask my boyfriend to come over and I got called manipulative and a lot of other terrible things. I will never ask any sub besides the mental health related ones for advice. I just wanted advice on how we can help our communication. They said I was the problem just because I have BPD.