for example, today at work my manager was observing me from the corner while i was taking peoples orders and im already a very anxious and awkward person and i knew he was going to say something about my communication skills. and he did. he told me that “i’m too shy” and that i need to have conversations with customers. and it made me want to cry so fucking bad like?? i know it’s just work feedback but to me it feels like an actual slap to the face and it makes me feel like a terrible person that should just quit because i suck at social skills. i tried so hard to hold back these tears 🥲.

ive also had other instances in my relationship where my partner wants to be left alone or they speak out about how i did something and they found it annoying or bothered them and i just immediately feel like wow i suck i can’t do anything right and they don’t love me anymore. and i know it’s just because of rejection and being pushed away so that’s why i feel that way even IF they didn’t say any of that stuff. i’m so aware of the fact that i take things soooooooo personally but i somehow cant stop?? lol pls i need advice ):