I am diagnosed BPD and OCD by two BPD specialists. I have been having a really rough time since being diagnosed (the last year and a half). My family's response is akin to me telling them I have a cold or stubbed my toe. I currently live far away from home.

My Dad is the worst. I think because he's my stable parent I really look to him for guidance and it hurts how ignorant he has chosen to remain regarding my mental health. I have sent him articles to read, he didn't get around to it. I asked him to get a psych evaluation to see where my problems come from biologically. He says there are no psychiatrists in town. I have texted in suicidal fits that I want to die and think of it every day. His response "I feel like that every day". He thinks it's a normal part of life. He says he went through the same thing at my age. It's a tough phase, he says. So it sounds like he's just been suffering in silence and can't imagine it's actually supposed to be any different.

My mom is an alcoholic. She can't make heads or tails of what is happening. She's always made me feel responsible for her emotional well being. She, voice trembling and full of both guilt and self pity, wonders how she will ever be able to help.

My Grandma might be the best. She doesn't fully get how the effects are detrimental (I spare her the details of self harm etc.) but she gets that it is a real lifelong thing. She also seems to believe in the biological component as well as the trauma component. She actually believes that therapy is necessary.

Those of you who have dealt with similar issues, did you manage to help your family members understand? I'm beginning to want to excommunicate my father but he is also my backup financial support. Oh to be well enough to work! :/

tl;dr Family provides little support. Stable parent thinks BPD a phase or normal part of life.