How do you not ruin a relationship when the slightest thing goes wrong? Yesterday my boyfriend told me about some things he was upset about and it put me into a spiral. I’ve already been in a spiral lately so i took the confrontation pretty badly. I tried not to show that I was sad he brought things up though. 

Now all I can think about is the relationship ending. I’m walking on eggshells around him terrified to do something wrong and make him leave me. He knows I’m bipolar and have bpd but I know it gets too intense sometimes. I just had a manic episode and I changed my meds. He told me I was getting scary and how I was so demanding was creeping him out. I wish I could stop. I’m trying to stop. What are you guys’ coping mechanisms when this stuff happens? How do I stay hopeful and not split? I feel like I’m splitting going back and forth between the relationship being good and then me sabotaging it due to my bpd