Hey everyone! I have a roommate who I became very close friends with a few months ago. We’d hang out all the time and text, but there’s a pattern I’ve kind of noticed. Whenever we start to get pretty close emotionally, she pulls back super hard and will not respond as frequently or want to hang out as much. Instead she’ll hang out in groups or with other people. What she’s told me is that when she’s stressed it’s easier for her to just have the shallow small talk with people rather than ever have to show herself. That aside, yesterday was my birthday, and she was awesome. She brought me food and presents and a personal card which meant so much to me. I texted her how much she meant to me that night (big mistake) and she didn’t take it badly, but just kind of said thanks an moved on. (We’ve had close talks like this before and she’s told me she cares about me). Where I’m at today though is that she’s not really responding to my texts for hours and it’s one word answers when she does and it’s so so hard not to feel like she hates me even though literally 12 hours ago she had done the nicest thing anyone has ever done for me. Clearly she wouldn’t have done so much for my birthday if she didn’t like me, and I know she’s going through stuff of her own at the same time right now but I’m still in. So much pain today