My spouse of over a decade doesn’t understand the level of anxiety I have.  Being a man I’m supposed to just suck it up.   My spouse (whom I love dearly) often belittles me (not on purpose, I’m not sure if they even realise). They will talk down to me when I mention it or when I have a panic attack.  They don’t seem to care, but only when they come to anxiety and PTSD.  Every other aspect is phenomenal.  I just don’t know what to do.