Things in my relationship are more stable and good -
Work is same old but manageable -
Been hanging out with friends which is fun - 

So why does someone who treated me like absolute shite in the past have to message out the blue and just compromise all of that. 

Its someone i slept with once but they were so toxic with suicide threats, speaking to me like utter crap, manipulative the works. 

 Not spoken to them for years but a message out the blue has really shook me up, i feel violated in a way as its like things are good i'm sort of happy - stay the fuck away past and don't try ruin this for me. :(