my best friend who now lives out of state was diagnosed with bpd and is incredibly knowledgeable about mental health in general. however, sometimes his knowledge is a double edged sword in being able to dishing out how to help but not yet being able to receive help. where i struggle and need help is how to help. i've seen several therapists for myself and i keep getting the same advice to take care of myself but that doesn't help me when i'm seeing him suffer.

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\-i've seen him push away friends, family, therapists and other significant people and yet complain that nobody's there for him. 

\-he keeps me informed when he's not feeling safe but then shuts down communication after that part of contact. 

\-when he's not in an episode, i get the feeling that "he's cured" and always seems to be surprised when another episode occurs.  

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any advice would be greatly appreciated.