I have an image of who I really am but I think I've been diverting from it for too long. I have irrational amounts of fear and anxiety and I am paralyzed to move in any direction in my life and to commit. This in turn makes me question my core strengths and values. And I'm afraid that if I start to see myself as a lazy and uncapable person my personality solidifies into that. I know that I'm much more and I could be a high achiever when motivated and encouraged and the anxiety is coped with. I'm turning 30 now.  The more time I spend alone and idle the less certain I am about who I really am, whether I am still the person I used to be. How could I be sure of this?