hi. I recently got broken up with by my fp because I was way too clingy and obsessive and anxious. I am going through the absolute hardest heartbreak. An hour ago I was sobbing on the floor praying for him back (I have never prayed a day in my life.) him and I are still friends and we are close with each other but there's some things we need to work on and we agreed on this. He needs me to be more independent, give him space, and respect his boundaries. I need him to stop leaving everytime we get into an argument and I need him to come closer instead of pulling him away. We agreed to work on this. I just want him back so badly. This is a long distance relationship and its been 8 months now. We went from talking every hour of the day to not talking as much and I crave the closeness we used to have. He's the only person in my life. Im not close with my friends anymore and im not close with my parents (I live with them I just turned 18) at all. He told me today that I said some hurtful things in an argument and I didn't even realize it. I apologized and promised to be more conscious of my words when im upset. I will work on this, I didn't even realize it and I never want to hurt him again like that. Do you have any advice on how I can stop getting upset and assuming things and saying things ill regret? Also, im hoping that if im more independent maybe he'll be in love with me again. How do I be more independent? I don't really know how to do that.. I feel like I messed our relationship up so much and its all my fault id do ANYTHING to have a time machine and just go back in time and fix where I went wrong. Can someone please give me advice on this? Thank you I appreciate it. I want to be better.