Normal does not equal good, desirable, or glamorized. It just means its common with a lot of people here.

It's common for all of us and it's used as a quick way to say "person I'm overly attached to". No one uses it in a "cutesy quirky way". Its just faster than typing out "that one person I'm currently attached to" we will always discuss FPs because its very common with our disorder. Just like mania is common with bipolar people. Just because its talk a lot about in a community regarding mental illness doesnt mean its healthy. It usually means it's not healthy because hello, its associated with a mental illness. NOTHING RELATED TO BPD IS HEALTHY. Just because we talk about it doesn't automatically mean we think it's okay. The fact that we're posting on a subreddit for BPD means we're acknowledging it as unhealthy. 
  
No one here glamorizes this relationship. We all fucking hate how dependent we are. I never EVER encountered a post where someone was glamorizing the term FP. Each post is usually venting how painful it is to have this relationship. If a stranger read posts regarding "FPs" they would be repelled by that idea rather than romanticizing it as something okay. There is literally nothing wrong with talking about it.

Just because it's not an official symptom in the DSM doesn't mean we shouldn't have this trait. People with BPDs are more likely to be comorbid with other disorders. It should be more an open space than just check listing if they only talk about BPD criteria. &amp; Just because it's not "officially" in some book that gets rewritten every few years doesn't mean shit especially since it's painfully obvious many of us experience this. This is normal for people with BPD! Normal for BPDs is usually unhealthy behaviors! We all know that!

I'm gonna cause a shit storm but seriously, we don't have to police people here. This isn't a recovery sub and this is as unhelpful "hey guys, can you stop using the terms B/Ping and C/S because its unhealthy" on /r/edanon. Okay, it's just use a fast term to refer to soemthing in that community that mostly everyone relates to. Its NORMAL in a sense it's very common in that community. Everyone knows it's bad. No one glamorizes their own mental illness. 

Only giving out advice isn't helpful. It's like posting "get therapy" on someone talking about their depression. We know its unhealthy, and we are seeking empathy from others, which is why we are on this specific subreddit. 

I'm done. If you guys were feeling hurt by someone telling you to stop "normalizing" FPs you shouldn't. You should be free to talk about it because that's what the community is for. Again, NO ONE thinks its healthy. No one reads our posts and thinks wow BPD sounds fun!! I want a FP!! 

Okay bye.

Tldr: we can talk freely about FPs because everyone knows its unhealthy