Hey everybody. I learned a new thing that MAKES SENSE as to why we seek and act out to get certain emotions/stimulus and it’s NOT our fault!!!!! 

• Object permanence  - best example is if there’s an object or a stim that is usually there and it is out of sight - the feeling of it just never existing again happens. Hence a slight abandonment type feeling but in a differing context. 
(Think - out of sight , out of mind) 

• Emotional Permanence - it is often hard to feel the usual emotions with a person without stimulating those emotions with or from them. So - basically when the stimulation of those emotions isn’t there - you feel like you don’t feel much because these emotions need to be stimulated. 

Theory as to why need for stimulation of emotions: we’ve been so traumatized our brain goes to the autopilot mode and just kinda protect survive until the happy chemicals (people / objects etc) come back in and stimulate. 


*it is NOT our fault! We just have to consciously be aware and informed of how our brains work for us so we can maybe take a small step to Providing a comfort to ourselves. Also - remember - the goal isn’t to go from 100 to 0. It’s to go from 100 down to 99, 98. Let’s practice micro soothing to step down easily. We don’t want to retraumatize our systems !*

Love you all.