I'm 25 and was diagnosed 4ish years ago. So often I've had to deal with "it happened so long ago why can't you get over it" in regard to my abusive and mind-effing upbringing. And I know not everyone has like, a dev psych background? So maybe it's unfair to expect them to get how our brains are literally wired differently? But I try explaining "it's actually BECAUSE it happened in my childhood that it's so hard to get over. Those were the years that my brain was forming its pathways and view of the world, and addressing it now requires literally rewiring my brain from how it was wired - and solidified - in my literal formative years" and some people just don't seem to get that. There's also the fact that I didn't get to have a childhood - my emotional development stopped at about 3 or 4 and asking me to "just get over it" is like asking someone who's had their legs chopped off why they're not taller. I am actively trying to build myself up but it is a years long process. You can't rewire your brain overnight. And you can't get over a childhood you were never allowed to have. While others were learning what it was to love, to be safe, to develop an identity, I was stuck in fight or flight mode for literal decades.

Is there anything like, scientific, like a paper or an infographic, that expresses this? I'm so sick of explaining it honestly, and worse, having people still not get why I can't just get over it and think differently. I think much differently now than I did just a few years ago. But if they can't recognize that they were privileged to have a loving upbringing and the literal lifetime of advantage that's given them, fuck them honestly (except not fuck them, I want to communicate and preserve my relationships. Lol)