
I have a problem. Normally I have an extreme amount of empathy for others. But if someone really really does me wrong, I turn on them. But I never let them know. So my ex left me ON my birthday last year, refused my calls, refused to talk about it. My whole day was ruined and I couldn’t even celebrate with my family because I couldn’t stop crying. This wasn’t the first mean thing my ex had done, he had cheated many times, left me for another woman, came back and forth etc but in those rare moments everything was “good”. Now I warned him that once he left, it was over for good but of course he didn’t believe me when I said this. 


I get nostalgic about him sometimes and make plans to meet up etc but then I remember what he did and I cancel. So it looks as if I’m leading him on sending him pics of me then cancel plans at the very last minute. But for me, it’s that I remember what he’s like and get disgusted and turned off. But maybe I am just not conscious of the manipulation I am doing? I tell him I love him and miss him and then go cold. And he falls for it every damn time. And I’m in my head cringing thinking am I doing this on purpose? I have no idea. I originally thought he was the manipulative one but now I don’t understand how he keeps falling for it.