I was never able to understand the reason behind my dad’s actions towards his close family. I researched different types of disorders but nothing comes close to what he does, it might seem DID but I don’t feel like that’s the case I might be wrong . I am desperate to understand him and why he is the way he is. I don’t know if this is the right place to help me identify what his disorder is but I will explain some of his traits.

He was physically and verbally abusive. Anger issues/bad temper. (He was physically abused as a child so that’s understandable). He provided no emotional support/words of encouragement. He is jealous of his wife, always puts her down, stopped her from achieving her dreams/goals. He is the greatest critic. He is very educated and smart and if my siblings, mom, or I ask him for a favor, or explain to us something from school for example, he would lose his patience so easily and does not do anything for us from his heart. He was very stingy, left us to starve and never prioritized his family’s needs, and he always speaks negatively of us. He always limited our social interaction with other people and likes to keep us isolated.

BUT he is the EXACT OPPOSITE with every single person who is not his wife or child. Everyone loves him, everyone has this perfect image of him and it is hard for anyone to believe the way he treats his family when I try to explain to anyone. He is extremely generous, spends his money on people left and right and always prioritizes others over his close family. He treats his siblings and mom very very well. He encouraged and supported students to continue with their masters degree, teach them all his experience for free, builds very close bonds with strangers. He  treats his students like they are his sons and neglects his actual children. He does so many favors to people and pleases everyone. He gave away big amounts of money to help out other people instead of helping us. He used to work at a university and he buys breakfast for people even though there is no food at home. He is very secretive and tries to hide all his actions from us, and even lies and denies when faced with the truth .

Those are just some things that are on top of my head. Any help or information from someone experienced is greatly appreciated. Sending out love to everyone.