hello! we all know loving someone w BPD isn't easy. A rollercoaster to say the least. I just want to hear from you all how you go about communicating with your SO's who don't have BPD (or people here w/out BPD and how you communicate with your bpd loved one). I struggle tremendously with others' texts, how long it takes my partner to respond, his tone, his clarity. He is such a chilled person whereas I'm so highly strung and reactionary. I keep creating conflicts and instability even though they are the last thing I or my partner needs. I feel like I always make up scenarios in my head and then spiral out of control just because he didn't say good morning or answer a specific question. Obviously it requires a lot of work on my end, but are there things that you both engage in to help keep this fear of abandonment at bay?  Affirming messages, calls, voice messages? And what kind of boundaries help ? Boundaries that don't fuel the malidaptive BPD behaviours and abuse to protect my partner but also things that help me feel calm and validated. I am fearing the whole "favourite person" thing. I don't want that but I do want a healthy, communicative loving relationship. The happy medium is something that I am striving for