So a good friend of mine recently disappeared for around a month, then when they caught word of me getting through a big accomplishment they sent me a message congratulating me, followed by a “we need to talk”, i pressed them and they explained that I had some red flags that were off putting (i was tripping on some things, prob amplified the whole thing), anyway, i agreed as i was in a really bad place that night and i know i have a lot to work on, still. They then said “i wouldve ghosted you if you didn’t respond that way, we’ll talk when the time is right” then they kinda left me hanging.
Now, my concern (as someone with heavy anxiety, abandonment issues, etc) is that they might be thinking of ending our friendship (it is also worth noting that they’ve also been off therapy for quite some time), but i also understand that it is a defense mechanism.
Anyway, i’ve been doing a lot of reflection recently and like i said, i do have a lot to work on and a lot I am willing to work on to better myself as a person - this friendship is one i want to preserve, i want to express that and i want to express that i am willing to put the work in, but i also don’t want to be intrusive and get in their space.
I guess a tl;dr is - a good friend is splitting hardcore on me for (tbh valid) concerns, I want to both show them that i am serious about mending stuff, and also show them how much i value their friendship. Thoughts