I got out of a 3 year abusive relationship back in 2018. I have noticed that it has really impacted on the person I am today and romantic relationships. 

I came to the realization a couple of months ago and accepted that I have been very angry for a long time. I was really hurt by the things my abuser has said and did. He was mildly physically abusive during arguments and emotionally/mentally abusive regularly and sexually abusive regularly as well. I'm only now starting to acknowledge the damage that it did to me during the relationship and the lasting effects after it. It's scary and overwhelming and makes me feel like a monster.