So I’ve been been dating this girl for about a year now. I’m very much confident that she loves me, and that she loves me back. But there’s been a problem that’s been going on between us. Both of us struggle with depression. It’s our struggle with this that first brought us together. And she’s helped me a lot with it. She helped me get confidence and happiness when I thought I’d never get it again. But it feels like no matter what I try, I can’t get her to get motivation to do anything for herself. I’ve tried so much for well over a year. It hasn’t improved at all. Recently, she told me that she’s losing a lot of weight when she’s already skinny. I tried to reassure her that it’ll be okay, but that she has to eat and exercise. She saw the stress it caused both of us, and she promised to start working out and eating. She didn’t even try to start, even with me constantly trying to remind her. It’s this sort of problem that’s been going on since we got together. She’ll have no motivation to do anything. She doesn’t even have motivation to do things for me, to gift me, to go out of her way for me for anything, and it’s been going on for so long I’m starting to question how much she loves/cares abt me. It’s been too long and I’m lost on what to do. It’s like I bring up to her something that’s been going on, she’ll realize it get upset at herself by it, say she’ll work to be better, then forget abt it by the end of the day, and the process always continues, no matter what. Ik I’m not a perfect boyfriend, but Ik I’m not a bad one. I genuinely care abt her feelings, mental health, everything, and I’ll comfort her, help her with anything, do anything, etc. It’s just that it’s slowly becoming hard to feel bad when she’ll never even try to break this cycle. As her boyfriend, what can I do? I hate to see her like this.

(Thank you so much to whoever actually reads this, I’m sorry if parts of this are hard to understand)