In our society dwelling on the past, or blaming what’s happening now with you because of your childhood is the worst thing you can do. But I wonder is saying stop dwelling on the past insensitive to people with trauma? Because as much as I would like to “move on” and stop holding on to the past, the past still affects me today in negative ways. I would like to get along with the people who hurt me in the past because they are nice now, but I still feel very uncomfortable and tense around them because my body remembers the fear they placed in me.