My wife just took 20+ pills of Xanax (this is the 3rd time this has happened ever since we have been married) and voluntarily called the ambulance and the next couple days she'll be in a psychiatric ward...I don't know what to do. She has requested it be private and the hospital has locked all access to me, her family and anyone else. 

The reasoning: we got into it, things were said between the two of us, she went home and her parents took my side rather than supporting her behavior (which has been a reoccurring thing). This led her to the actions this morning.  Obviously there's more to this story.. She actually sent me a picture of herself hurting herself and it's truly heartbreaking to me, if only she can see how much it hurts to see that she is suffering. 

I don't really want to get into details but...I'm really concerned about one thing after my wife's wellbeing. 

My infant daughter. 

My wife is a phenomenal mother when she is herself, no one can understand the needs of my child better than her. but when she is going through a manic episode she does not see my daughter, she doesn't see reasoning, logic or anything, she doesnt see how it may affect my daughters mental health as well. Especially at the age where she is grasping and learning new things to say and do every day. 

My wife has yelled, screamed, bang her head on walls, tied bags around her face to suffocate herself which we've all tried stopping. 
While all this is happening my wife forgets that my daughter is present. This has lead to my daughter genuinely being afraid of her screams to the point where she just runs away from her to anybody else that is present. 


I'm so lost and confused and don't know what to do. I want my daughter to be safe and not be an audience to her reoccurring episodes but she refuses to get proper help.