So I've been reading self help books and watching videos and while I don't fully agree with a lot of motivational speakers as they sometimes get people into delusional thinking, especially those that talk about the Law of Attraction (not that I completely disagree with the hermetic principles), I feel like they have helped me get over my victim mentality especially after having dealt with some serious backlash from my negative thinking patterns. Another thing that has helped me so much is writing blogs about my experiences and the thoughts I've had.