The post about stoicism reminded me of something I struggle with. I agree with a lot of what it said, and I can be a controlling person. I have worked really hard to accept things as they are.

I once read really great advice that you can't *control* things, but you can *influence* things. That has been so meaningful to me because it helps me realize I'm not powerless, but it also reminds me that the burden isn't there to be responsible for certain outcomes, and it's okay to let go sometimes.

For the most part, I'm doing pretty good with this, I think, but I struggle when it comes to activism and advocacy. I am involved with an organization that advocates for people with a specific disability. (I don't want to be too specific because I want to be careful about my identity).

In order to advocate, I have to be pushy and challenge certain institutions. Sometimes I wonder how to reconcile the idea of letting things be as they are, versus trying to push and convince others for change. Sometimes our organization has to get very pushy because we have to ask for laws to be changed, and some of the people we are helping have filed lawsuits and turn to us for advice and support.

It's a duality that messes with my head. Any insight would be helpful. Thank you!