I'm with my wife since 7 years now. We have multiple things in commons, and multiple things not in common. However, there are two very sensitive subjects that trigger in me an adrenalin rush and I struggle to keep calm and respond correctly.

Not sure that it's relevant for this discussion to expose the subjects that cause my discomfort. However, whenever I hear her talking about those subjects, my HR goes up and I immediately want to go away from the discussion. She's mad at me because she thinks I overact and I should not act like that. She would like soooo much that we could have a discussion on this subject. I'm unable to rationally decide if I'm wrong reacting like that or she is wrong to continue talking about those subject to me, knowing that I don't feel good when those subject comes into the discussion.

Don't known what I expect from this post. Maybe just to see if some other can relate ?