Hi r/BPD

I’m trying to figure out what I can do to help my wife right now. 

We got into a fight last night and it was bad. I won’t go into details but she was having suicidal ideation pretty hard. We’ve since made up and she isn’t in danger right now I’m just trying to figure out how to give her care after the fact. 

She was talking about how she’s too cowardly to do it any other way than instantaneously. She was running around with a hammer for a while. How she didn’t want to jump off of anything or take any pills in case it didn’t work properly. It was terrifying. 

She called a friend to talk to who eventually said they had to call back. And when they didn’t call back she lost it. She ended up cutting her leg with glass shards before I could stop her. RIP bathroom door. 

Aside from the obvious support and psychiatric help that she needs what can I do to help her the morning after. 

Any of you here that have self harmed what did you wish someone would do or know or ask afterwards? What did you wish your partner would do that would help you feel better when you wake up and realize what you had done to yourself and were sad? 

Please she’s the love of my life and I can’t bear to see her in pain like this. I just want to help somehow and I’m so lost. I can’t comprehend the mindset and so I’m having trouble figuring out what I can even do. 

The wounds weren’t deep, luckily....