How do you manage? I’ve (29F) been with my s/o (29M) for 12 years. High school sweethearts. We haven’t faced many challenges however lately has been.. off track. I feel one foot in, one foot out.. I want to spend time with him, then I don’t. Sometimes I just want to be left alone. This is also affecting my career as a Medical Assistant. I’m constantly on autopilot.. “surviving” There are days when I won’t go to work and I’ll lay in bed and cry all day. Or I’ll wake up angry and think “they’ll figure it out” 

I’m being faced with him feeling like I’ve withdrawn from our relationship. “You don’t like doing the things we used to do anymore.” Is it because we’ve grown up together? Am I finally too much for him? We have open communication and he’s aware of my diagnoses/ medication regimen, however he isn’t graceful with forgiveness anymore. Frustrated with my forgetfulness, misplaced items, losing track of thought mid conversation.. it’s overwhelming. He’s even mentioned children- and how he can’t see me with a child when I have a hard time looking after myself. 

Work is about the same too- it’s been brought to my attention to “keep opinions to yourself” that I’m always interrupting conversations that don’t involve me.. I pay too much attention to “things that don’t matter.” I’m always the one that has to “say something.” It’s embarrassing to be told about yourself. 

I’m just looking for advice/ support on how you guys manage relationships at work and home. How to leave work at work. How you mind your business, how you stay present in your relationship.. ways that work to help balance all aspects of life. 

Xoxo, 
Jo