Undiagnosed but therapist suggested I have a lot of BPD traits and empathize a lot with this sub. 

So I (19) used a throwaway account on relationship advice asking for advice about my boyfriend. The relationship is great so far and I love him so much. It’s been really good and he is patient with me and I’m really proud of having this healthy relationship. 

So it came to the point I’m having issues with something other than something NOT BPD related. 

I’m very high functioning and I’m very ambitious. I work really hard and I’m always setting goals academically and planning ahead. I’m very involved at school and always seeking out more opportunities. My boyfriend is amazing with emotional support and he’s the kind who will always stay by my side even if things get hard. But he’s not ambitious. He plays video games like up to 10 hours a day and he doesn’t plan for the future and goes with the flow. He doesn’t get involved on campus, etc. He gets out of bed only to get food. 

I just want him to be passionate about something so I can support him reach his goals because it feels like he only supports me. 

I explained this and people called me controlling and manipulative and I know some people with BPD may become manipulative without meaning to and I’m wondering if I’m being that way? I really don’t want to be. 

I’m planning on saying to him something like “i think you have so much potential and i want you to have something you love doing and work towards achieving your goals so i can support you” manipulative?