I don’t even think it’s intentional.  My last relationship my ex kept so many things from me. I would go through his phone to find him talking to other girls. I kept checking his phone finding stuff every time I did. I found all sorts of things he was lying to me about including cheating.  During this relationship I was selling nudes. Which my partner knew about and he was okay with. I’ve been selling for about two years now. The relationship I’m in currently is not comfortable with that and I want to promise him so bad that I won’t do it anymore. I don’t enjoy any aspect of it besides the money at the end. The rest makes me feel disgusting. So I really felt like I could just stop. I lost my job and have had no money, and instead of telling my partner I need to to have some kind of income- I did it behind his back and was too afraid to tell him even though I had multiple opportunities. We’ve had a lot of arguments about this before which is why I just told him I’d stop in the first place. And it made me scared to tell him. He ended up finding out by checking my phone. And now I’m afraid I’m just like my ex. 