Posted this in suicidewatch and was told to check with you guys..

I have been "involved" with a 23/M with paranoid personality disorder and depression for approximately 15 months. While he has hinted at being suicidal, when I ask him directly he denies that he is. On "good" days, you wouldn't guess that he experiences either of these psychological conditions. On other days, 1) his depression causes him to withdraw almost entirely, or 2) his paranoia causes him to become suspicious of my intentions and activities with him.

I want to be able to support him to the best of my abilities. Still, when things get tense we do fight; when this happens he can be downright patronizing and hurtful, and he tells me not to talk to him ever again. Days later once things have cooled down, we'll begin talking, he'll tell me he missed me and we both apologize.

Currently, we are in one of the "no talking" periods. I'm so conflicted as to how to address the situation. At times, I am seriously concerned he is suicidal. He did ask me not to speak with him, but I know driving away those who care most is part of being depressed (he's mentioned once or twice that he does this). I feel the way I'm being treated isn't fair, but at the same time I love him dearly and want to be there for him.
I should add, it is his birthday this week and he has demanded I don't talk to him that day at all. Part of me can't help but feel he's pushing me to see if I care enough to talk to him despite him saying not to...

Any guidance would be helpful. Thanks. &lt;3