I have BPD and I have a new friend that has very strong BPD traits. I'm not trying to diagnose her, I'm just asking what I should do in this situation. 

Sometimes it gets really scary and she will scream and say she wants to kill herself and scream about how we're all trying to steal her husband. It's really triggering for me and I don't know if it's worth it to try to keep being friends. We hung out last night with a group of people and she had another meltdown. I kept having more drinks because I couldn't deal with the situation and I don't like that I felt like I had to do that. 

I can only reccomend therapy for her. And I don't know if its healthy for me to try to stick around. I'm the only one in the group of friends who even tries to talk her down when she's freaking out though. Everyone else just sits there and ignores her. If I try to sit and ignore her it's too triggering for me and feel like I have to talk her through it.

To make it even more complicated she can actually help me get a well paying job here. If I don't take it I have to go back to min wage jobs. But I dont know if it's worth it having to play therapist with someone else when I can barely hold myself together. 