
So I’ve seen countless shrinks and only one ever said BPD, more than one other shrink has laughed at that diagnosis; I’m usually assessed as high anxiety, self esteem issues, minor depression, tendency towards overuse of (formerly) alcohol and (these days) dispensary weed. 

My anxiety got really bad at the start of the pandemic, a combo of Celexa, therapy, exercise, meditation and breathwork have me holding it together pretty well, maybe a little engine rattle. So I require some greater than average degree of mental health maintenance. 

My wife feels like I do have it, although sometimes I feel like she may hold on to that idea in part as something she sometimes uses (maybe without full awareness) in an attempt to create favorable  power dynamics in the relationship.

All other shrinks have told me I’m a pretty nice guy. 

I’ve been successful in terms of long enduring romantic relationships

I’ve only been fired once as an adult.

I am not an abuser of women.

I’ve never had a DUI or been arrested.
So like all that doesn’t sound like how people have mostly viewed  “BPD” since the eighties

I am an overly sensitive person. If my wife wants me in the doghouse over let’s say something I would stipulate to it being a big fuckup, if that comes along with a feeling of she is abruptly revoking all  affection for a while, it’s like a storm of emergency hits my brain and it feels really unbearable even though I know deep down this won’t outlast 72hrs.

So unsure what to understand, would appreciate your assessment.

Does the more novel term, EUPD, embrace some  new ideas about the disorder?