i've been living with my girlfriend and her mom for about a year now and we've been dating for almost two (our two year anniversary is december 29) and i guess i've grown some kind of dependency on her but at the same time i'm starting to create a sense of  independence in myself through therapy and everything. anyway, her moms been bringing up that she's gonna move in with her boyfriend for months now so we knew it was coming but the plan was that me and my girlfriend would move into an apartment together. it's been stressing me out a lot mainly because her mother seems to not care to help us at all and honestly i feel like it's difficult to do this without her help (we're 19) so i've been asking my parents for help but they're irritating so it's just a big ball of anxiety for me. so i've been telling my girlfriend this and at first she wasn't too stressed but now because i've been talking so much about the things that need to be done she's super stressed so i feel like it's my fault completely. then her and her mom decided (literally two hours ago and without me even being involved) that she should get an apartment near her school and work (on her own). not that the commute for me would be super long but my job is 20 minutes away from there and my school is almost 40. i feel completely discarded because i thought i was supposed to be a part of this too but she said she really needs to start putting herself first and i really do agree with her. i just feel like now i'm forced to go and move back to my house which was a bad environment for me and i know that it's gonna throw me into a downward spiral. so i told her that i want to move out of the house way before she moves into her place and i want to break up because i know that i'm not ready to go through that mentally and ill hold a huge resentment towards her for it because i already feel totally abandoned and forgotten about and i don't want to make her feel like shit because the situation is already a lot on her. she said she doesn't want to break up and really wants to try. i just don't want to be going to her place all the time and then when i can't, feel completely broken. that's a lot to be put on her too and i don't want to do that. i don't want her to end up hating me but at the same time i want her to hate me so that she doesn't have to worry about me and can just forget about me with no problem. idk i just feel like such a huge burden now. it's taking a huge toll on me already and i just know it's gonna stay like that. i'd rather just fall into a depression on my own and not drag her down with me. am i making the right decision? or am i just being dramatic? should i try? i feel like trying it will 1) make it harder to leave and 2) just make her start to hate me because i'll be a terrible girlfriend. i need some advice please. i feel completely broken.