Me M (18) and my wife (18) are going through a lot and have recently separated and are working on things, my actions have been the the bigger cause of this separation by a long shot, but in case we work things out I want to be able to support my wife through her BPD, or just further understand it and when to not take it personally, or when I should hold her accountable, I’m not sure where to start but I want to learn how to be there for her whenever she’s going through something I don’t fully understand and she’s only begun to learn about as well.