This is something that really grinds my gears. I've worked my ass off for two years to be a better person and now it seems like nobody else around me has done anything about their own problems or even acknowledge them. If I see a "normal" person doing a negative behavior repeatedly and then think they're doing nothing wrong I want to hit them with my heavy ass DBT folder. It's like saying not to eat candy while eating candy. Sure, I might have eaten candy every day before I learned how to not to and replaced it with vegetables or some shit like that, but they keep eating candy and not seeing anything wrong with it.