So my fiancé and I have been dating since we were 16 (about 8 years) and we now own a house together and all that stuff. 

Unfortunately, I’ve gained quite a heavy dependence on him emotionally. I know it’s due to my anxiety, but it has gotten to the point where I get really scared if he doesn’t contact me within a few hours of being at work…which further exacerbates my anxiety of being unintentionally abusive or seeming controlling. I’m worried I come off that way.

I just have this reoccurring waking nightmare of him getting in a car accident and me not finding out until later and honestly I can’t even begin to imagine how I would react to that. I feel like, even though I’m young, I would go into cardiac arrest. It’s legit my worst nightmare.

Has anyone else dealt with these obsessive feelings over a loved one? It feels weirdly selfish to have these thoughts, but it drives me crazy.