First post here! While getting told I have BPD it all made sense in the moment, and when I have breakdowns I can see the correlation but sometimes when I’m in a good mood I don’t understand why my therapist thinks I have it. I think one of the biggest things that makes me question it is about the fp. I have had very unhealthy attachments to countless people in my life, for as long as I can remember. And there has never been a time where I have been without a person I wasn’t obsessed with. 

But when I see all these things on Reddit and TikTok about favorite persons I second guess my entire diagnosis. I was researching fps and while my current obsession is with one of my coworkers (and has been for almost a year now), yes I do breakdown when they don’t text or call me back, when I thought I was going to see them but then they don’t come to work, or when they say the slightest thing criticizing or pointing out a flaw, I know that it’s unrealistic to expect them to text me all day. I may think about them every day and fantasize being with her but I’m not constantly trying to be in contact with her because I know she has another job and is busy most times. Is this normal of an fp relationship?? 

Sorry I’ve just been in my head so much these past few days switching back and forth from agreeing thinking yes I do have bpd to being completely confused by everything. And I know you guys aren’t able to tell me what’s what based on this one post but I guess I’d just appreciate some input.