My normal response when someone is mad at me is to panic and either a) try to appease them, by lying or manipulating or b) split and cut them from my life.

I’m in a situation right now where someone I work with is mad at me. I’m trying to not do either of those things because it’s not a healthy reaction. I confronted her and she won’t tell me what I did or why she’s mad, and I’m seriously freaking out. I don’t know how to handle this! It’s so uncomfortable.