I figured I had BPD for years, but just got diagnosed. I'm furious and I don't know why, we'll kind of don't. I do know I'm angry at my family for causing this and I'm mad at me for being crazy like they always said I was. I feel pathetic and humiliated and confused. I'm also angry that I told my husband like 5 years ago that I thought I had bpd and was ignored, then his mom that hates me tells him I probably have bpd and suddenly he actually believes it. Ever since she said it he's been reading up on bpd and he's posted in this sub, but when I cried to him that I thought I knew what was wrong with me I got nothing. 

Sorry for ranting. I actually have a question too. My doctor said I could pick between starting dbt or regular therapy first and I said regular therapy because I have so many issues (depression, anxiety, extreme social anxiety, and possibly adhd, plus  past trauma), but now I'm not sure that I made tge right decision. Did you do DBT and did it help at all? What about just sitting and talking to a therapist?