At 10, I moved in with my grandparents who eventually adopted me and started receiving theraphy and medication for...various things. What my psychologist and therapist had both thought I had for years was bipolar disorder type 2 like my biological father. I was even treated with several medications for it, but I didn't respond as they had hoped. Now that I'm older (just graduated highschool) and worked through my serious trust issues and fear of being insane, I've been a lot more open and I've been told the bipolar diagnosis was inaccurate and they were just unwilling to make the BPD diagnosis so young since most teenagers experience symptoms that fit a few of the criteria, especially due to my abusive childhood. About a month ago, I started to date one of my good friends who has dissociative identity disorder. It's honestly crazy. He's had it since childhood, although the personalities sort of "grew up" with him and didn't start expressing themselves until he was older. He's very good at acting normal in public as most of his personalities will mimic him to not cause any trouble for himself. We've developed hand signs so I know which he is at the time. The ones I met have ranged from hostile towards me to indifferent to immediately loving, but I will generally find myself matching my mood to their personalities and they all tolerate me at the least. Actually, when I slip into a severe mood swing or I want to kill myself or I'm starving myself or I want to hurt myself or I think about doing something reckless or whatever I am, he changes to whatever personality he thinks will be best at handling the situation. It's honestly like having a new boyfriend for each of my moods...each with their own likes, mannerisms, speech patterns, and memories. And it works. So well. I feel so normal. Is it okay for me to feel so normal around him? I've always been told I'm hard to handle, I change too much, I wake up a different person every day, ect. but this guy does, too, in a different way. I guess the point of my post was is it better for two people with personality disorders to date? I think I'll always be "too much" for someone else, and he feels similiar. Around him, I just feel normal. I feel like he's a big brother sometimes rather than a boyfriend with the way he acts, but I really do like this. Can BPD and DID people date each other without a major catastrophic event that I can't handle?