She: moved temporarily in with me when the lockdown started, not knowing how long it would take. She started to work from home. She doesn't like her job, but didn't dare to quit in these crazy times. Now the whole house is associated with the stress from work for her. It's also an old house, which doesn't help when you're also on neatness and cleaning.

Me: The last ten years I've never felt at home somewhere. If I wanted peace I went to my parents/childhood home. Due to family problems, I lost that as well. Luckily I found this place in the meantime, which after a lot of time and energy finally feels like a place where I can relax. 

And here we are, one of the last things in my life that makes me feel calm is causing my SO to have panic attacks.