Last year my girlfriend and a friend went to Portland. I thought it suspicious that this old friend appeared out of nowhere. Originally I was invited on this trip and then I was not. Apparently the reason for the trip was a bachelorette party as her friend was soon getting married. Having had some major issues with her drinking in the past she promised that she would drink responsibly, although I knew that likely wouldn’t be the case, just hoped. 

The first two nights she did in fact drink responsibly. The last night however it became obvious through text that she was hammered. She was texting me about marriage and kids and I was being short, on a bike ride coping with the disappointment that she broke her promise. She FaceTimed me around 9:40 pm seemed in a very good mood and told me they were just going to hangout at their Airbnb. She stopped responding at around 10:40 pm no goodnight or anything.

I noticed she checked her Instagram at 9 am but didn’t text or call me until noon saying she went back to sleep. When we talked she asked if I still loved her and proceeded to get hammered again. I picked her up from the airport and when she first saw me there was this look on her face, I can’t explain it but she looked like a kicked dog. 

We get back to my place and I was suspect and asked to go through her phone, she agreed. I saw that around 9pm that night she was texting a guy she used to date, talking about stealing his hoodie and saying he should fly to Portland etc. I took pictures on my phone of the texts so she couldn’t argue and she was drunk sleeping. I woke her up and showed her the screenshots. During this conversation which quickly eroded into her crying and yelling it slipped out that two guys from bumble friends went to their Airbnb.

I asked to see the bumble conversation she said her friend did it. She said she’d try and get the messages which her friend supposedly wouldn’t provide her because she was home with her fiancé. She claimed they played kick the can she got too drunk, went in her room, passed out, and the door was locked. I didn’t believe it because she sleeps 8 hours even drunk and sleeping until noon suggests otherwise.

Then it turns out one of the guys had ecstasy which was her reasoning for inviting two and not one guys over. She said she just wanted to do the drugs. Okay, that would make some sense. Haven’t done ecstasy in over a decade and have never drank and done it I don’t know if it would still keep you up all night.

She had a scrape on her side that she says she got from falling drunk while changing in the closet. My first thought was why change in a closet? Then she said she might have fell in her bathroom. My thought to that was how do you get a scrape clothed or being 5’2 on your side like that. I dismissed rugburn because I have never seen a burn on someone’s side from sex.

A few months ago the story changed. Now she was in her room with the guy doing the ecstasy. My question to that was, why do you have to be in a room with a guy to take a pill. She still claims she changed in the closet, but now because the guy was in the room and that she may/may not have changed in front of them. She also changed that she didn’t pass out and he may of left around 3. She says being browned out drunk and her poor memory makes her uncertain of all these details. To this day she says nothing happened and I won’t to believe her but can’t help but think these are all lies.

After giving her an ultimatum she wanted to have sex. We did and she said her vagina hurt and to use lube. Her explanation was that the stress of our fight and being super dehydrated from drinking was why her body hurt. Suspicious, but I don’t have a vagina.

She has never sat me down and done due diligence to tell me in detail, consistently, the story. 

Her friend supposedly wanted just her to go to cheat on her fiancé with a penpal. Her friend when I later asked matched her original story to the T. Which my gf new about meaning they were in communication about it.

No matter what angle I tried or the obvious damage to me this event caused the only thing consistent is that she says nothing happened. 

How would someone go about getting closure or the truth? Do you guys think something did or did not happen?

I also consider that she didn’t leave. For about 7 months I mentioned it or asked about it. She says she puts up with it because it was shady on her part and understandable. I don’t think someone would tolerate insinuations to their character like that.