hi everyone. i got into a pretty bad accident this past sunday and it's just really thrown me for a loop.

to start off, this whole year has kind of been a lot. i cut ties with my abusive mother in march, got broken up with by the love of my life in april (he was having mental health issues but we stayed friends), got really bad covid in may, lost my housing in june, and then as i was moving my last load of things to my new house a drunk driver ran a stop sign and hit my car, sending me into another parked car. my car is totalled and i have serious nerve damage which has put me out of work for the next two weeks and has me in physical therapy 3x a week for the next month and a half. i've also got pretty bad ptsd from the accident as i was very close to losing my life.

among these major things there have been many minor issues- huge vet bills for my elderly dog, things are crazy at work since three people of our already small team were let go, put $1,000 into repairs on my car two weeks before the accident- i feel like i've been pushed down over and over and over the past three months with barely a second to catch my breath or recover. i've really tried to be flexible and keep a positive attitude and outlook but i'm really hitting a threshold of what i can endure.

at the beginning of june i very unintentionally met somebody and became close with him. he's really funny and sweet and we have a lot of fun and laughter together which has been so nice to kind of counterbalance all the stress and trauma i've endured lately.

however, since the accident he keeps offering to help me unpack (i'm on bedrest in my room with everything i own still in boxes and i've been instructed not to lift anything more than 10lbs), but instead of helping he'll just sleep for hours or try to initiate intimacy but i'm in so much pain that i'm just really not in the mood. he's also offered to let me use his car but with my injuries and very fresh ptsd i don't feel able to drive. he's just been very passive while also saying he wants to be here for me and help in whatever ways he can.

because of these reasons i've been putting some distance between us. before the accident we had a really nice dynamic but now i'm just frustrated when he's around because i don't have the energy to fully engage with him and he doesn't know how to act now. i've tried to give him gentle guidance of what would be helpful and meaningful (like bringing me groceries or helping me organize my things or just listening and being there for support when i talk about everything) but he has yet to actually do any of that. i kind of want to end things with him because of how poorly he's handled this whole situation and how much energy it's taking for me to just communicate my needs and boundaries with him. i feel like i don't even have the energy to take care of myself but there are so many things requiring my time and attention with insurance and moving and updating places of my address, so i'm doing the bare minimum but that's it. i feel like i'm drowning. i guess i just wanted to vent but if any of you have suggestions on how i can deal with things, it would be much appreciated.