Hello! I haven’t been diagnosed with bpd, but I’m aware that I share many of the traits of bpd and it’s starting to become destructive. I have barely made an appointment to see a therapist, which I know I will seek her advice mostly. 


But as for now, I am in a really rough place with my girlfriend. I don’t want to lose her, but the way I’m acting is unhealthy for her and both of us and we acknowledged that. She wants me to talk to her when I feel upset, but of course my sadness/anger towards her comes from my heavy attachment and wanting her to be perfect for me, it feels awful to tell that to a person, especially someone who is trying very hard to understand you. 


I’ve tried to google any sort of relationship exercise or anything that can help me truly talk to her immediately (instead of bottling it all up and exploding), but I wanted more insight from other people with bpd or even partners of people with bpd. 


If you have any sort of experience or advice on how you worked with your partner through this, please let me know!!! Thank you!