Hello!
I am a mental health provider, who is looking  to get some honest insight on how to best support people with BPD. Specifically, how to best support these individuals in a treatment setting, where the goal is to challenge functioning interfering symptoms and improve quality of life. 

The following, are things I have done for clients with BPD in treatment. I try to take the approach, that I myself might find helpful if I were in their shoes. However, Being that I don’t have BPD I truly don’t know if these approaches are helpful, which is why I am posting here. 

1. Typically, when diagnosing someone with BPD I review criteria with them to see if they feel it fits. If it does, I will then validate their feelings and discuss ways they can start noticing these patterns within their relationships. 
Is this something that would be helpful or does the label make it feel worse? Does the self awareness help when challenging symptoms in the moment or does it cause the opposite affect?

2. After a client has agreed and accepted this dx, I will then bring it up periodically in treatment when said pattern observable presents itself. I will ask the client if they agree and if they do we move on to a DBT skill that could help in the situation. If they don’t agree I listen and validate. 
Is this approach helpful or is there a better way to approach challenging symptoms? 

Constructive feedback is welcome and I hope that all made sense.