As I navigate the horrifying reality of abandonment and divorce I am forced to try and find new things to bring me joy. And I can name a couple...my dogs, science, history. But honestly my interests are always dependent on my partner. 

overwhelmingly what brings me joy is being loved and sharing my life with someone who loves me. I have always adjusted my interests based on my partner. I can love sports or concerts or restaurants or cooking or board games or travel - it’s all fun enough - but what truly brings me joy is being able to enjoy life with another person.

Does anyone else experience this? I dont want to find new hobbies or activities. None of that is fun to me without a partner.