So my mom takes meds for her panic disorder. My sister also has anxiety/depression. Something they have in common. Me and my dad do not. Every time my mom and me get into an argument it’s because she’s comparing me to hers and my sisters relationship or other people. For example, she just had hip surgery on April 1st I wrote to her to let me know if there is anything I can do and that was that. Since then has been Easter and today’s my husband’s birthday (5 days not even a week) She texted me saying I was insensitive never checked in on her doesn’t look like I care...I also have 3 kids all under 3 (if you have kids you know). How do I keep a healthy relationship with her (and if I should) I’m at my whits end. This has gone on my whole life her comparing me to my sister (like I lack emotion and understanding of others) she also dwells on things and tries to get pity parties but never changes anything. Ex: complains about weight but still eats chocolate and not work out or even go on a walk, complains about my dad but doesn’t get a divorce (she’s had an affair) I’ve literally lost respect for her and with children of my own there is a balance of being around toxic attitudes. I’m trying to find that balance of not bring insensitive but looking out for my children’s well being and my own mental health. Like they just suck me down with them. Again I’m not insensitive but what’s the balance of not being dragged down with them? Hearing the same thing on repeat but them taking no action.