Hi! I (19 F) was diagnosed with BPD at 17 after a suicide attempt. 

The doctor who diagnosed me was wack as hell.... I had only seen him 2 times ever, for about 10 minutes both visits and did not click with him whatsoever. I stopped seeing him promptly.

A few months later I was having an IEP meeting for school when they started reading down my list of diagnoses. “Type 1 diabetes, anxiety, depression...” blah blah and then I hear them read off “Borderline Personality Disorder”. I was shocked. The doctor I mentioned had not told me about this whatsoever- like not a word- and had simply put it on my record after that 2nd (and last) appointment. I believe it was taken off my record a few months after that, when I had begun seeing a new, compatible, and more therapeutic psychiatrist. 

I was so taken a back by the diagnosis...and with absolutely no help/knowledge from the cracked psychiatrist who improperly diagnosed me, I kinda went down a rabbit hole researching BPD. The more I looked into it, the more I related to just about everything except the outbursts/unstable relationship aspect of the condition. 

Well, it’s really been on my mind since a couple years back so I brought it up to my therapist of many years who I recently started seeing again as of this summer. 

When I told her of my concerns, she guaranteed me that A. Diagnosis of BPD is (often) not to be diagnosed until 18 years of age, and B. I do not exhibit outbursts/ moments of lashing out/ etc.

While this made me feel better about certainty of wrongful diagnosis (at the age of 17), I still feel as if it’s not a closed chapter. With having done so much research up until my therapist’s reassurance, I found many many aspects that I relate to, more than any other condition. And I feel truly understood reading through this reddit page. 

I read a bit about Quiet BPD and feel as if that truly fits. My question is, should I bring this up to my therapist? I just talked to my BF about all of this and felt invalidated. I said I think I’ll bring this all up to my therapist again(specifically Quiet BPD), and he said “I don’t see what difference it’d make if you do have it, I think you’ve been obsessive over it. Just keep doing therapy it doesn’t matter” 

I feel like it is worth bringing up. At least for clarity. And if I happen to fit the criteria, I would not only be able to get the appropriate treatment, but a sense of understanding, yano?

To my bf’s point, I guess I’ve been a bit obsessive, but that’s only because I had a bomb dropped on me with the original diagnosis and it’s hard not to ruminate on it. 

Sorry for rambling, and if this is the wrong place for all of this...just a bit lost. Any words of wisdom/ info on Quiet BPD/ encouragement/questions for me would be much appreciated