So I just want to share my experience with getting diagnosed and struggling to find a therapist. I self-referred myself to a doctor and explained that I have personality traits and behaviours that I don't think are normal. I want help working out what's up and a shove in the right direction for treatment. So first up I have to do an online test that I answer as honestly as possible, the results of which get sent to my GP. The results come back with 'Obsessive Compulsive Disorder" which I clearly don't have. The next FOUR psychologists I get sent to for assessment all say "you have numerous traits from Cluster B Personality Disorders" including narcissistic tendencies, anti-social behaviour and the usual borderline symptoms minus suicidal tendencies but they're saying it's basically borderline and recommended DBT. So they're concerned about violence and send me to see a psychiatrist to discuss medication and she agrees with the BPD diagnosis and prescribes lithium but due to other health problems decides on sodium valproate. So finally they do some research and find a clinical psychologist who specialises is DBT and off I go to my appointment to start treatment. The first session I discover that my case history is all incorrect and I spend the whole hour giving her my condensed background and the second session she spends telling me that she thinks I need to work on assertiveness and says we'll focus on exercises to help me cope at work. I asked her explicitly "will we be doing DBT in these sessions?" and she said "no, that's more for people with borderline personality disorder" LOL! I said "yeah that's....kind of why I'm here" and she told me that she hasn't seen anything in my behaviour that would suggest I have BPD. OK. I asked her what she would describe as the main symptoms of Borderline and she asked me if I'd ever seen "fatal attraction!!" I said that I struggled with things like not having a secure sense of identity, changing from one thing to another, like switching majors at university like 5 times, before dropping out, chronic insecurity in relationships, crippling jealousy and dependency on partners, explosive outbursts, flying into a rage and smashing things and over reacting, mood swings, self-destructive behaviours, starting fights and screaming at people in the streets etc. She said BPD is a label doctors and psychologists give to patients when they can't decide what's wrong with them and that what I need most is mindfulness meditation to control my mood swings (doesn't SP do that?) and assertiveness training to help me cope with stress etc at work. What the FUCK? So, friends: what do I do now? Go back and ask my GP to recommend another psychologist? I'm almost ready to resign myself to being single for the rest of my life because of how traumatic relationships are and the other assessing psychologists told me that people like me usually end up in prison by now and congratulated me on having done so much reading and trying to get help for myself. I love the mindfulness and yoga aspects but they don't help me when I'm smashing my apartment up in a rage over a text message or because someone said something to me the wrong way. Sorry for the long, unformatted rant but I wanted to share with you guys how frustrating the process of finding treatment has been over the last 18 months. I started this process myself, and despite having seen NINE doctors and psychologists I still haven't had any actual treatment lol. 