I only recently found out I'm borderline, I'm 21 and male and I was talking to someone about an experience I had with a girl recently where I told a girl i had been dating "you're probably gonna find someone better than me" . This person,  who in hindsight I shouldn't have trusted then responded "has anyone ever told you that you sound like a girl?"
I asked why he said "well you're very high maintenance,  it's usually girls who talk about all these feelings and worries about their partner finding someone better"

I hate this shit. She was my first girlfriend,  I was not prepared for how bad my fear of abandonment would be until it happened.  Now to be told this makes me feel worse because nobody gets it