Hi guys! I have a girlfriend with BPD. I want to give you guys tips and things to take note of to have a better and more stable relationship with them.

1.Always check upon them.

This could be a simple "how are you feeling" and always remind them to take care of themselves because they always feel genuinely loved by this. After all, they feel that someone genuinely cares for them and it really helps out on what they're feeling.

2.Listen to every word they say and take it seriously.

This is easy to say but it's hard to do. Because you don't know what they're feeling at the moment. Only they can know that. So communication is key to have a better relationship. Not everything's a joke and you should be careful about what you joke about also.

3.Reassurance

What this is, is removing someone's doubts or fears. They really need this and you need to do this every day because people with BPD often are afraid of being alone, rejected, or abandoned by those closest to them, which. can cause a strong feeling of paranoia. That may lead them to constantly seek reassurance. So you have to give them that. You should be the right person to reassure their feelings the right way. You need to make them feel loved, cared and someone's there for them.

4.Always be thoughtful and loving to your gf/bf with BPD.

Whenever they say bad stuff to you, Don't take it personally. Always keep in mind that they sometimes don't mean it. Because it's a Defense Mechanism. They don't want to be hurt so they take it to other things but keep in mind that they really love you and they are really happy for you trying your best to be there for them. It's hard for someone to manage their BPD. It hurts for them. It's hard to see your loved one being hurt. So show love to them. Being thoughtful is really important to be in situations where they go into BPD episodes. Be careful about what you say, Think twice before saying about the thing you're about to say. Think about it like this "Is what I'm about to say gonna hurt her/him? I should be careful on the words I pick to say" This really helps out and it'll help you manage bad situations.

5.If you know you did something bad, Apologize to them the right way.

You could say that you're genuinely sorry, and explain to them what you did was wrong and you are ready to change. Because sometimes, people with BPD always remember what mistakes you did. And they would repeatedly bring it up again. They bring it up again because they get irritated by you not changing your behavior and you should properly say that you're genuinely sorry and you would change your behavior to be a better one.

6.Ask your GF/BF about their experience with BPD.

Every person's BPD is different. They went to different things. They might have other ways of thinking and different kinds of thinking. So the most important thing is that you ask your BF/GF about it. Only you can make it happen. Make him/her proud.

This is my first time helping others out and my grammar is also bad. I apologize for that. But I am doing my best to explain to you guys what you should always do and always to keep in mind. My girlfriend also has BPD and I'm here to give her the support she needs because I love her more than anything. You guys probably too, So you should give them the love they deserve.