This is gonna be a long one but I’m going through a complete split and I don’t know what to do. In Nov 2018 my husband was deployed and they stopped in Singapore. I was on the phone with him 90% of the time except for one night where his phone died. I went psycho. I was freaking out because I couldn’t get ahold of him. So I logged into his Facebook (yes we have each other’s passwords) and I saw this girl added him. I went into full panic mode. When I finally got ahold of him he was super sorry and told me the girl was just some “lesbian bartender” he met with his friends at the bar. He didn’t really know why she added him. I’ve been sketched about this honestly for years. He was with his friends the whole night apparently. Well I didn’t believe him. I messaged the girl and asked her what happened and she was all confused. So I told her to delete him pretty much (definitely bad on my part but I was in full psychosis at this point). Well, we let it go. Well, he did but I never got over it. Marriage has been rocky because we’re just both super stubborn people and honestly my BPD has caused a lot of issues for us. Well fast forward to Jan 2021… almost two years later. I get a message from a fake account on Instagram. They’re calling me fat, telling me I’m an insecure bitch, etc. They also told me they fucked my husband in Singapore and referred to a song he wrote like years ago?? Like how would they know that right?? It was really random and my immediate thought was it’s got to be this same girl. They said “you scolded me once over nothing so now I’m gonna hurt you”. Like?? She was the ONLY person I could think of. Well fast forward to today- I know it’s 100% the same chick because I (being the crazy person I am) made a fake account and followed her real account 😅 well turns out SHES FOLLOWING THE FAKE ACCOUNT THAT MESSAGED ME. Like small world or?? No way. So I messaged her ass and she played all dumb. Am I crazy?? Or is that not the weirdest shit ever? So in conclusion, I’m now completely splitting and want nothing to do with my husband because I don’t know WHAT to believe. And he’s mad at me for bringing it up but something in me told me to check today. I wish I wouldn’t have honestly because now he’s being so distant and now I feel so crazy. I have major trust issues and he’s lied to me before about small shit. Never cheating but just looking at girls pictures, etc. I feel so freaking stupid honestly. I don’t know what to believe. Now he’s completely ignoring me and telling me he needs his space when all I want is reassurance but he said I don’t respect him or talk to him nicely. But I just can’t help what comes out sometimes I get so heated and can’t help myself. I’m sorry this is so long but I don’t know what to do.