Okay, so some background, male, 26, diagnosed BPD about a year ago. In a relationship with a female, 25. We get along well and have a good relationship. We've known each other for over 14 years now and dated a little when we were younger. Now we are in a serious relationship and we don't really have any issues she keeps pointing things out that I need to work on and I'm more than willing to and of course my responses to any criticism......well having BPD you already know how it is. The tiniest criticism feels like someone poured gasoline over you and set you on fire however, I'm doing my best to get through that and most of the time I do really well which brings me to my point....how does one with BPD emotionally mature? Is it possible? I recognize it as the main problem of the disorder and would like to know if it is  possible. I mean my fiance, although she does have her really bad moments (most of the time with a little help from me/an outside source) she's able to get back up again and she serves an an absolute inspiration to me because of that. I just want to be able to have that same type of resolve and yes, I've asked her but she's really bad at explaining things from both an emotional and logical stand point. Tis' why i ask here. Figured actually people that also live with the disorder might have an answer to this overwhelming question.

Tl'dr How da fuk someone with BPD become emotionally mature?