I'm in therapy and on meds for persistent, chronic, treatment-resistant depression and anxiety. I am currently unemployed. My husband is supporting us as a single income family (no children). We are in our 30s. 

My meds take up a majority of his salary (insurance doesn't cover), and our living expenses take up the rest. We have no savings. He is working overtime and is underpaid for the amount of responsibilities he has. However, he cannot afford to switch jobs with us in such a precarious position.

Recently, he has fallen into depression too and has repeatedly expressed wanting to die. We have taken to arguing a lot because he has been very exhausted from work and has no energy to engage with me at all. He has come home and fallen asleep on the couch for weeks straight. We don't sleep in the same room anymore. We don't even talk anymore. We don't feel like a married couple anymore. I know he's at his limit, and doing all this for my sake, but sometimes I feel like a widow, grieving the husband that I have lost. The husband that has become an overworked, exhausted, zombie because of me.

Also, he refuses to seek any kind of help because we literally don't have the money for it. I have offered to cut down on my meds and therapy but he refuses to entertain the idea. 

I have been trying to get back to work but it's been difficult because I cannot sustain my energy levels enough to hold regular work. I keep flaking because try as I absolutely might, I can't get out of bed on the bad days.

We attend free state sponsored couples therapy but the sessions are so infrequent that we aren't getting help as often as we need.

Please help. Me and my depression is killing my husband and I don't know what to do.