When I found the disorder online trying to figure out what the fuck was wrong with me I felt a huge weight lifted off of me. I thought I was suffering from Bipolar II but when I found BPD I immediately identified with everything. 

I know lots of people who receive this diagnosis are resistant to it. Lots of denial. I never experienced that. I found this sub and it further validated my feelings and experience. I had an appointment with my family physician and I brought this up with her and she said usually people with BPD or personality disorders in general do not have that kind of insight which I think is bogus. I spent years on the internet trying to find out why I was always so insecure with myself, my relationships, my identity, etc. Why I was so sensitive, why my moods swings were so quick, within minutes sometimes. So many other things. 

I saw a psychiatrist and she said even though I show lots of BPD symptoms, she can't give me a personality disorder diagnosis because she says it is probably secondary to my chronic depression which I've been dealing with since I was 12. 

I see lots of people on the internet talking about family, friends, etc. who deny having this disorder when they've already been diagnosed with it. I feel the complete opposite. I try not to identify with the disorder but rather it explains my life's course so far. It's an explanation but not an excuse and I can change things for the better if I put in the work.