Have you realized what kind of person you’re most drawn to yet? What qualities does your favorite person tend to have? How do you know when you’ve found your new favorite person? How do you know when you’re over an old favorite person? 

How have you tired to/learned to cope with abandonment anxiety from FP (seemingly one of the larger BPD triggers.. at least for me). 

I notice that my favorite person is usually the person who is nice to be but also too mysterious to figure out. The person who I feel is kind of like me in someway but perhaps has more control and a lot more confidence than I do. I notice they are also typically nurturing and softer than the average person and will baby me or at least be gentle with me (even if they aren’t this way with others).