So I gotta ask, does anyone else feel the lack of sense of self isn't from not knowing who I am but from other people not understanding me? Which causes me to wonder who do they think I am? Who am i, if I don't match with their perception? 
I know I can't care so much but when it causes me issues because a person has the wrong impression, I spiral out over it. I am not fully convinced they are just projecting their own personal thoughts on to me, but I wonder if my intentions were what I want them to be or what am I doing wrong that is causing them to think such things about me. Hopelessness obviously sets in.