Warning: Terrible analogy that uses Dyscalculia (because I thought it made more sense to use an actual disorder for an analogy rather than a made up one) 

Imagine you were born in the past and you had dyscalculia. Except nobody, including yourself, knew you had it. You, of course, know you are struggling with math but you're not sure why. Everyone else dismisses you and tells you to just study harder. You study and study and study and try and try and try. Constantly studying and trying is hard and mentally exhausting. The more effort you put in, the more stupid and hopeless you feel. So sometimes you stop. Sometimes you just give up because constantly trying is so draining. But then when you stop trying you still feel stupid. You try to reach out to others to see if other people can relate. But either you get ignored, get told you're lazy and just don't want to try, or people try to relate to you but they don't. The people who are trying to relate to you mean well, but because they have no frame of reference of what you're actually experiencing they can't actually understand or accurately interpret what you're saying, leaving you constantly misinterpreted. You feel alone, isolated, and crazy. Every time you mention your feelings or struggles you get shut down, criticized, ignored, or given suggestions to do what you are ALREADY doing and have been doing your whole life. You feel trapped. There's no way out. You wonder why you can't be like everyone else. 

Now, in this scenario, imagine math is language and communication. Therefore, you cannot correctly communicate with others. So you've always been an outcast. You've always struggled to connect with others even though you so desperately want to. Everyone else can sense that something is wrong with you which causes them to ostracize you. But what they think is wrong with you isn't dyscalculia because they have no idea of the existence of it at this point in time. They think that you're just anxious and depressed and that once you get over your anxiety and depression, you'll be normal and be able to fit in and be a part of society. But you're only anxious and depressed BECAUSE you're abnormal. It's not the other way around. They tell you that no one will ever love you until you overcome your anxiety and depression. And NO MATTER what you try to tell them about yourself, they don't believe that you struggle with math. They don't believe that's a real thing and so they just tell you to just be confident and focus on self love and everything will fall into place. I can't love myself into being good at math, but I'm tired of explaining that to people. I'm tired of living in a world in which I cannot function normally.