All my life I’ve only really spoke to my mom’s side of the family, simply due to them living near by in the US, but as I grew up I realized where my mom got her rottenness from. I have extreme social anxiety and it’s something I was never really challenged to push through, as my dad is also an anxious person and tells me it’s best to not have many relationships of any sorts because they distract you. 
  Now I’m in my fourth year of college and I have no friends. Like no joking, I am alone 24/7 and it’s really affecting my mental health. I get that going out and making friends would help, but something I’ve always wanted to do is meet my dad’s side of the family. I’ve had limited interaction w them bc most of them live in Mexico and my dad didn’t invite them over much at all because of my mom. His mom came and lived with us for a bit before she died but other than her and his brother( who I don’t get along with), I never met anyone. I have a lot of cousins and aunts. I found my paternal aunt’s Facebook, and I found out she lives an hour away, and I’ve really wanted to meet and befriend family and be able to also go down to Mexico and visit family there too. Now that I have her phone number, I don’t know how to properly express or ask for this? Like I introduced myself and she said we’d have to meet up sometime but like would it be weird to ask if her kids (who are my age) want to meet me? The fact they are my blood relatives is actually somehow making me more anxious instead of relieving me like I thought and I don’t want to disappoint them or relive the traumas of dealing with my mom’s family disliking me. 
  How should I express my thoughts? Especially because I’ve never met or spoken to them before? Do I ask directly for everyone’s phone number or how do I go about this in the most respectful way?