This may be just a trauma response and not finding the right people in my life, but I'm struggling with how to be open with my mental health struggles without burdening others.  I want to feel valid in my feelings but it's hard battling society and the need to "get better" all the time

Anyway, I know my depression is slightly disabling where I sometimes can't get my daily activities done, but its not bad to the point where I'm in a major depressive episode like I've had in the past.  Basically, I can go through life, do things I enjoy,  but overall just have this kind of blah outlook on life. I don't want to get on meds because for me, the risk vs benefits don't seem to balance out (sure I can be happy, but at the cost of possibly gaining weight, brain fog, suicidal thoughts, low sex drive, etc). But I want to be able to be open about it. I don't want to live just pretending to be happy, or being "just fine" to everyone.  At the same time, I don't want it to be my only personality traits.  I also have good days and bad days so not every day is going to be hard.

I'm worried with today's society, people won't care. they will just brush it off like "go get a therapist" (I haven't had the best experiences with the several therapists I've gone to).  This might also just be a response to the fact my ex only saw my depression as a burden to him, like he had to take care of me, when really I just wanted him to understand me and know I have days where I might struggle to function. I already feel self conscious about being depressed that I don't want to add extra burden onto others.  But at the same time  I know that there are people that could connect to my story and want to know me as a person who happens to have depression. 

This post feels kind of rabble-y but basically I'm just wondering how to manage being open about what I struggle with without making others feel like they need to put extra care into me. Sure that's kind of on them to not sacrifice themselves at the cost of caring for me bc that's not what I want, but I just want people to know what's going on with me. IDK maybe I shouldn't... people don't really go on about their medical diagnosis so why should I with my diagnosis of depression 🤷🏽‍♀️ at the same time, it makes it hard to connect with people when the only way I know how to be vulnerable is by being open about my mental health. any advice or stories are helpful. I'm just struggling right now with a lot of self doubt and not knowing how to cope