Some of my dearest friends are struggling mentally because of the pandemic. I want to comfort and listen to them, but I'm having a difficult time oversharing or getting off-topic. As of now, I'm trying to give advice, but I feel like this is inappropriate as well :\[. I want to comfort but how do I do this without coming off like a jackass?

(As an FYI, I suspect I am on the spectrum, so I'm not sure if this is BPD related)