I’m struggling so much right now, I don’t have BPD but my ex does. I’m 80% sure she’s splitting, we where already breaking up for reasons I don’t know, she was planning to come visit my aunt for a couple of days, the day before she was so Ill she said she could only come for one day, then when we got there she said she couldn’t come at all. This upset my aunt who gave her an ultimatum for messing her about. Either you come or it’s friendship over. I tried to explain to my aunt but was trying to stay out of it, I hadn’t planned anything I just drove. Well she ended up having a meltdown screaming and swearing. Mid meltdown her mum prompted her to sign the tenancy separation. I would never have got her to make any decisions while she was so distressed but her mum doesn’t like me. So while she was distressed her mum ran out and told me they’re cancelling the mobility car and now they’re collecting it on Monday. She’s now completely matter of fact and sounds like a robot. I suspect she now hates me and what’s more is going to stop me seeing our dog. 

I love her so fucking much and I’m loosing everything! 

Just needed to vent, support from the other side as it where. I’m probably also sick now blaming her parents or seeing things wrong but I can’t help it.