I was diagnosed with BPD a month ago and also got sober a month ago. Currently in rehab. As I get sober and read about BPD more and more I'm agreeing with my psychiatrist and therapist that I have it. It explains so much of how I interact with women, friends , family and myself. SO before I went to rehab I was with someone and I've been talking to her again the past few weeks. I'm definitely feeling crazy about her and showing signs of bpd in the relationship not even being around her. Is it better to work on myself right now early in this process or should I try to work on these symptoms now and try to work through it because I do really care about her and she does really care about me? Anyone with experience in this? how long did you guys wait after your diagnosis ? Were you already in a relationship? Do you think your diagnosis made it better or worse? If you self diagnosed please do not respond. 