my girlfriend(21, BPD) and i (20)have been dating for almost 2 years. i can handle some of her swings (i don’t want to say that and sound insensitive but, yknow, lack of a better word), and sometimes i can’t. i try my best and still mess up, by coming off like i don’t care or just saying the wrong thing, and it’s hard. she gets furious at me when my mom says she can’t sleep over because the house is full with other family, but i still try to sneak her over into my room. that’s caused a bit of a rift between my mom and i. i don’t see that much of my friends anymore because we always hang out and she doesn’t like many of my friends. when i’m at work, she gets upset if i can’t respond to her right away and thinks the worst, that i’m flirting with coworkers or something. i feel like i’m slowly losing friends as i don’t have time for anyone, or anything, else. i can’t really game with my friends anymore either. i’m not saying in perfect, i’ve fucked up in the past and tainted our trust.  it’s a long, long story with some other messy details, but i know that a lot of that trust has been rebuilt. we’re mostly good right now. but i just feel like she’s pushing everyone else out of my life. and i don’t know what to do. when i’m upset at her, i can’t even ignore her because i fear she’ll self harm. she wants to move in together, and i truly do too because i feel like that’d alleviate a lot of her anxieties and worries, but i can’t even save up too much because we go out a lot. i just feel lost and disconnected from a lot of the things and people i once knew.