After constant romantic and professional rejection I’m (32m) just realizing I have almost no attractive qualities, or at least that traits that are commonly desired by women. And that’s really all I want out of life, to have a partner (and of course that needy mindset makes me more unattractive too).

I used to work out but it never really helped with women so I stopped doing once I realized I wasn’t really doing it for myself. I run occasionally but it doesn’t make me less depressed. I have dated and had some flings and brief relationships but they always dump me. I’ve never really received any compliments besides being “cute.” And obviously that’s not enough. I’m not ambitious. I used to be but that didn’t make me much more attractive either. I used to be hardworking and disciplined but I’m not anymore because none of my hard work has paid off. So the only upshot to hard work for me is that occasionally it takes my mind of things but brings no tangible or financial payoff. I’m not confident, funny, assertive, extroverted, mentally tough, etc. 

The only two things I can think of that I genuinely like about myself are that I’m kind (I try to see the best in people, build them up, and encourage them, polite, etc). Basically just nice guy bullshit but as I’m constantly reminded that’s not special and not enough. I’m smart but in an intellectual, philosophical, contemplative way. Not street smart or smart in a way that will translate into a financially stable career which most women undeniably want from men. 

So the only way to find someone is by acquiring more attractive traits and undertaking the monumental task of changing my personality which will take forever and honestly I don’t want to find love at 40 or 50 or 60. Plus, the changes would all be fake and not true to myself. 

TL:dr I have more negative qualities than positives and need to radically change my personality if I want to be attractive but that will take forever so I probably won’t find love.