My husband is a “mind over body” type of person. I have been on Lamictal for 3 years now and it has been a life saver for me. I know that my experiences are not his, but I told him how much I have benefited from it and maybe he should give it a shot since all of his other efforts and methods haven’t worked out and it is affecting our relationship. 

He gets highly manic very frequently so he will stay up everyday till 6am and gets very very irritable. One day we got into an intense argument and called me to tell me “I’m just saying goodbye, I left cash under the rug for you” and hung up. Wouldn’t answer my calls so I had to call his mom and tell her to please call him since I know he would talk and listen to her. Fast forward, he tells me it’s because he was going to get a bus to another state and start a new life. This really hurt me. 

I told him after a few days that I really need him to be on meds and therapy. He tried Depakote but hated the symptoms and quit after 3 days. I can’t take his behavior anymore. It was enough for me to leave for 3 days and stay with my parents so that he can feel what it would be like if we broke up. He said after that it was a wake up call for him. 

After a few days of trying to do the things he said he would do, he goes back to doing the things he did before. I told him again that this is an example as to why I need him on medication. 

He says the only reason he’s going to do it is for me, but that he hates the idea of it and it feels like I am trying to control him and harm his body with toxic chemicals because “you don’t give a fuck about what happens to me, you’re just selfish because it’ll help you, not me”

Idk man I feel bad for telling him over and over again but I really honestly don’t know what other option there is. I just needed to vent and see if I did something wrong, but I know that this is just a snippet of our relationship and it might be hard to give advice without knowing the full extent of what goes on, but hopefully this information is enough to give some advice or any opinion. Im at a limit. It’s hard enough that I am bipolar and now I feel like I’m expected to fix him when I struggle with my issues as well.