
A couple years ago I reached out to her a few times on an online dating app but we just never met up. I would keep in touch and I remember messaging her happy birthday and a few messages here and there throughout the year. In the meantime she just slept around until she met up with me 1 year later after I originally messaged her on and off throughout the year she was having meaningless sex and getting dumped. 

She says that she wanted to sleep around but then she also says that she could see a relationship with the 3 guys she slept with in the year she ghosted me, that she could see a relationship but nothing “long term”. So to me that already seems like a lie, if she wanted to just sleep around then she wouldn’t have pictured a relationship with those guys.

She says something in her gut told her I was different and that she didn’t want to fuck things up or fuck me up because she was in a bad place. Her head and heart weren’t ready. She didn’t want a nice guy like me because she was in such a fucked up mental state that she didn’t think she deserved it. 

Honestly that makes it seem worse to me. Like I’m some beta loser nice guy last choice. I hear, I was her fourth choice when she says that. The other guys dumped her and ghosted her so she resorted to me. 

Does that sound like she’s telling the truth or is my scenario the more likely truth ?


TLDR:

- girlfriend slept around a year before we met in person 
- what she says about it just makes me more mad 
- she says she was not ready for a nice guy seems like a lie 
- feel like I’m the last option