DAE know how to combat this? I haven’t been cheated on before but I’m still occasionally paralyzed by this fear. My partner is a great guy, but he has lied to me which has made my trust with him pretty shaky. Also the fear that he’s cheating on me isn’t constant, sometimes I genuinely believe that he would never do that to me but other times I get super anxious by some of his behavior. I found a condom in his car in the glove compartment a couple months back (we don’t use condoms and have been together for a year. i’ve also been in the glove compartment countless times) and that made my paranoia substantially worse. I still flip flop back and forth whether I believe him (he said it was old) or not. 

I was with him yesterday and his phone kept going off a lot. As of lately, every time we hang out now he’s on his phone a lot and is always texting someone. I’ve expressed to him that I would prefer him to be on his phone less when we’re together but nothing’s really changed. Every time his phone lit up (which was a LOT) anxiety rushed through my body. 

I just want to stop feeling this way!! I can’t even tell if my anxiety is rational or irrational.

Tips?