I have a close friend who I've known for years. They have this cycle of gaining and losing employment, struggling financially, they have been sober for years but recently are back on the wagon and recently started lashing out at close friends accusing them of a conspiracy that they are intentionally left out. This is genuinely not the case our friend group is close knit and we all try to help one another when someone is struggling. None of us actually have negative feelings towards this person we all just want them to succeed. They believe otherwise. This has been going on for years but they are now at the point where they seem to be feeling very VERY low. Every other word is something negative about themselves and how they don't deserve to feel joy. I've tried to talk her into going to the doctor going to a therapist which they tried for awhile but ended up leaving (they are very VERY stubborn) they are currently unemployed and seem to be on their very last leg... I want to help them but I don't know what else to do. I have ADHD and really struggle having friends this is the one person I really put a lot of energy into besides my own husband and family. Do I call rehab? Suicide hotline? Get them on food stamps? Drag them to a therapist? I am happy to hear any suggestions!

They have been diagnosed with BPD. Today I spent hours arguing I'm losing hope that I'll be able to help.