Is constantly taking jokes etc the wrong way part of bpd? I have ASD as well.

For example

My friend and I were talking about adoption and he said ''I'd rather be with someone who actually loves me rather than someone who'll hate me'' and I took that as ''your baby won't love you''

or

If someone accused you of cheating on something you did well at and you get emotional and upset about it but they say they were only joking.

or
If someone said you were silly for holding a particular view and this upsets you more than it should

I'll also take leaving on read really personal and I asked my friend why they left me on read partly as a joke and partly because I'm confused and they'll feel guilty then I'll feel awful I made them guilty and ill always question myself thinking I'm a terrible person who takes everything the wrong way and I'm not good enough for anyone and constantly afraid of messing things up with them 



Is this part of bpd/ASD? I wish I would learn to take a joke and stop overreacting about everything because then I'll ask them why they said and say they upset me and they'll say its just a joke and I'll feel guilty for making them feel bad?