She regularly flips on me and makes minor inconveniences into big deals that need to be confronted
Didn’t hang the towel properly? Conflict!
Accidentally let the door bang a tiny bit shut? Conflict!
....

It’s really really difficult to deal with
When I do eventually flip back - because it is incredibly hard to handle all the time... it becomes “I have a MH condition!”
But it’s not “ugh I’m sorry for speaking to you like that...” minutes or seconds after doing it, mostly ONLY when I reply in anger - which I know doesn’t help anyone..

I’m not trying to be an arse
But can you offer some advice on managing this 
Also what *really* helped you and what I could recommend to my partner

I suffer with PTSD from my childhood and the way she acts towards me feels so similar to how my mum would act towards me - minus the physical attacks and constant “below the belt” comments and not literally being 24 7 and occasionally apologising

But in the moment my experience feels as if I’m “back there” and it makes me incredibly anxious 

So I don’t know what to do, it’s becoming unbearable and I don’t know if the damage done can ever be undone