Hello! I’ll try to make this quick! 

My friend I’m quite close with has bpd. I don’t know much about BPD and never had someone close to me with it.

I had a month long vacation planned with another friend and invited my BPD friend to come any time to relax, visit me, etc! She was excited and booked her ticket. She didn’t have to pay anything other than the ticket since I already had the Airbnb. 

The day before her flight she gave little hints that just made me have a feeling she was going to cancel last minute. She said “I have a feeling my flights going to get delayed” and it took me asking 3 times for her to answer me when I asked what time she lands. 

The day of her flight she was responding slowly. I asked if she’s sure she wants to come &amp; she said she really wants to! But then I stopped hearing from her. She then ghosted and did not respond and it wasn’t until an hour or so when she was supposed to land that she messaged me she’s been going through it &amp; having panic attacks (I assume because she put off telling me)

I was upset because I was left worrying all day if she was okay or not. Luckily nothing was wrong besides her mental state. 

She said she could come the next day as she rescheduled her flight or could come next weekend. I told her to do whatever will make her feel best and is best for her mental health.
She never said anything after that so def wasn’t coming the next day. 

I asked for her to just let me know by Sunday if she plans on coming next week so I’m not left unsure what to plan for. 
She still never responded. 

It’s now Sunday night and still nothing. I checked in with our mutual friend and she’s been talking to her daily so it’s just me getting ignored. 

Is this something I can blame on BPD as an excuse for her? I don’t want to feel like a crappy friend for being mad at her if this is part of her disorder. . But I feel hurt and frankly feel like this is a relationship ending issue :/ 

Also I’ve been very compassionate and haven’t expressed being angry or mean over this whole issue! Just wanted to make sure that’s noted.