So this morning I (f18) mentioned to my mother(f45) whom I live with, that my counselor I've been seeing for the past year  is moving practices and I'll need to start paying a small fee to keep seeing him. Her response to that was that I should start looking for a new counselor instead of following my current counselor to his new practice. Now I must add my current counselor isn't specialized CBT/DBT therapy, however I have a very good bond with him and have made tremendous progress in the last year consistently seeing him. (About 9/12 months ive been seeing my current counselor my mom has been telling I should start DBT instead of who I was seeing) This whole conversation lead to me crying because she got upset when I stared crying due to her invalidating comments. She eventually walked away and told me she's not helping me and I have to figure it out alone. I later texted her trying to explain why I started crying, not attacking her but trying to explain my respone to the conversation. My mom's response was to tell me I am unable to mange my own life and I'm "choosing to not live" her direct words. In her thread of aggressive she tells me all I do is shit on her for saying anything to me and she's done trying to help me at all. After the choosing not to live comment I told her I'm not continuing the conversation but she still had a few things to say, I yet again stated I'm not participating in the conversation and told her I'll figure it out on my own. I guess what I'm getting at is who is in the wrong? Am I wrong for not wanting to start DBT therapy even tho I've previously had negative experiences with it (which she's well aware of) or is she wrong for leaving up all up to me to figure out? I honestly don't know anymore because she constantly gaslights me into thinking I'm just insane because I act the way I do. Am I really choosing not to live? Any opinions are appreciated 
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Ps I want to include my diagnoses as well, back in June 2021 I was diagnosed with BPD, ADHD, ACEs, GAD and social anxiety, Somatic Symptom Disorder and Fibromyialga. My mother if well aware of this diagnosis but does seems to understand the severity of a personality disorder mixed with a chronic pain condition