I work as an aide/afternoon teacher at a daycare/preschool. In the afternoon I am in charge of a class. I have been working in this same room for close to a year. The teacher in this room has not once spoke to me or even knows my name while there are teachers in my other rooms that have always made an effort to make me feel valued in their class. 

The other day I was in the room and the teacher came in to drop off something. We will call her Mrs. Stacy. I had out two toys for the kids. I left to bring a kid to their parent and as I came back, she was talking to the children about me. She knew I was back as we made eye contact and she just kept saying over and over “You guys aren’t supposed to be playing with these. She isn’t supposed to be in these cabinets.” And then one of my kids said “But she got it out for us”. She then responded by basically saying that maybe I just can’t read. I was a little shell shocked because her aide of almost 30 years has always told me that I am allowed to go in those cabinets. I was upset but I chalked it up to miscommunication.

Today we had training and a staff meeting. We were going over the handbook and Mrs. Stacy told our boss during the meeting, in front of everyone, that if it’s labeled Mrs. Stacy, it shouldn’t be touched. I just felt so humiliated because all of my coworkers were there and were aware of the situation. A lot of people are saying that it’s not my fault and that she has MS and her daughter has health issues and that her and her husband constantly argue. They chalk it up to her lashing out. But it’s all I can think about it and it’s honestly just so disheartening because even despite us never communicating, I always talked about how great of a teacher I thought she was and I just really looked up to her overall. I just wish I wasn’t so sensitive about it and I could just turn off my emotions.