Weird title but has anyone else felt like they’ve had the experience in relationships where you end up dating abusive/dismissive partners who gaslight and invalidate on the daily, it builds and builds until you snap. Then that’s where you get accused of being abusive?

In my experience I also had partners who would see my boundaries as control. For example, I’m monogamous and always make it clear that’s what I want in relationships. The partner agrees to that, then I find they are inappropriately engaging with other men, i state I’m refusing to tolerate that behaviour but then I get accused of being controlling.