My (21f) ex (28m) has a very obvious bad case of quiet untreated BPD. He’s like 5 months away to being a licensed psych nurse practitioner and he’s absolutely delusional. I have BPD and I did a lot of shit to him when my episodes got really bad. Realistically nothing changed from his life. He didn’t get fired, kicked out of school or apartment, he didn’t lose any friends that weren’t literally my friends to begin with. (He never had his own friends liked to latch onto partners social groups) He lovebombed me badly and committed to me even though I told him I couldn’t do temporary and I had bad childhood abuse issues. The mental health problems started when he began to alternate between getting suicidal then discarding me and violating my boundaries then gaslight me. This is when my bpd got bad and I started to have episodes. I’ve been in therapy for over a month though I recently found out I have a tumor and it triggered an episode. Anyways I’ve talked to mutual friends (apologizing and admitting to lying about something that hurt him) and they all say I’m not delusional. They all watched him tear me down before this. Problem at hand: he genuinely thinks I’m the insane one and he didn’t deserve what I did to him therefore he’s completely innocent and I’m completely evil. He acted this way about all of his ex’s. He’s also reconnected with other discarded ex’s and is even dating another one of his victims who threatened to kill me last summer. I have his parents address and thinking of writing them a letter. I know his parents are triggering to him but they are providing stability for his ex and 2 kids and he needs to stop this cycle before he abuses another person with trauma like mine. He refuses to except that we both are at fault he’s absolutely delusional about his mental health and thinks he’s done nothing wrong. I hate that I sympathize so easily with his psychotic behavior. I know I’ll never get peace but will he ever stop ruining peoples lives? Should I inform his family? His wife and kids deserve real change. I deserve to know that he acknowledges the hurt he put me through. My episode is severely psychotic and I doubt I’ll ever get closure.