i’m engaged to another guy, we have a good relationship despite both of us having serious mental health problems and i do my best to regulate my emotions but he’s brought to light that i take a lot of things personally and it’s the root of a lot of our fights. i don’t have a therapist anymore so i don’t know what to really do in terms of dbt. how do i stop “taking things personally”? i think what he means is the typical shitshow of if he doesn’t say things the exact “right” way sometimes i fly off the handle because i think he’s saying he wants nothing to do with me or implying that there’s something inherently wrong or disgusting about me. it’s a very uncontrolled response from me and i want to learn how to regulate and stop doing it. i don’t want him to stop communicating his feelings to me and i don’t want to hurt him or be abusive because i love him very much but i don’t have professional help right now so this sub is my next best option. does anyone have any advice?