I am NOTORIOUS for all or nothing thinking. Either I'm so needy (in my mind) that I won't remotely ask for ANY of my needs to be met. 
Conversely, I can be persistent about asking my needs met and I it has been called being needy before by multiple people.....but y'all know how some people will gaslight you into thinking your needy when it's a legitimate need they just don't feel like meeting


I definitely am -trying- to me in moderation, but like HOW do I recognize if I am being needy or have a valid need that needs to be met?