I've been on a rough road with my wife lately, in couples therapy some years back she was diagnosed with BPD, but struggles to acknowledge it despite seeing improvements in her life when she still did DBT. We're on the verge of divorce right now because I'm scared to bring a kid in to this, and she wants kids more than anything in this world, and I can't take that from her, but I came from a broken home, I can't bring a child in to chaos, it's taken me too long to work through the baggage that life brought to me. Last night we got in to it, I looked into her eyes and saw her going through all the very difficult twists and turns her brain takes when she is distressed, I felt horribly sad for not being able to see it til now. I kept thinking, this woman I love dearly cannot understand what is grasping her right now, in her heart she is convinced that I am a destructive force in her life. All her previous relationships have ended in chaotic flames. I realized how much I love her and don't want to lose her. I tried to imagine my life, but without her. I pray her new therapist can get through to her and she will be receptive, I don't want to leave her, but my therapist is telling me that staying right now is only enabling her, I don't want divorce to be her rock bottom. It's not fair to her, it's not fair to us. I'm so sorry for everyone who has to live with this, you are all true warriors in a complicated battle. Thanks for listening.