Petulant subtype here. Been working on self esteem and being confident in general, especially around coworkers. There’s one coworker in particular who I have a harder time bonding with. I often feel nervous around her so I try to be overly nice to avoid shame spirals. Whenever I feel confident and give genuine responses, I’m worried I’m too defensive or blunt. Feeling shame from the confidence. Is it one of those things where we may never connect? It’s hard to not dwell on old interactions.