I have to say, I am struggling in my relationship. My partner has BPD too with more internalised symptoms. We both struggle with vulnerability and speaking feelings. I am very emotional, they are the opposite (disconnected and internalised) and sometimes it causes meltdowns. We love each other very much and we were friends for a long time (7 years) before we got together. We are also in couples counselling with a counsellor who specialises in DBT, the problem with that is my partner is highly intelligent and knows exactly what to say to get the desired result. Not taking any responsibility for their own actions and placing a majority of responsibility on my shoulders. I feel attacked and I'm not very stable at this time, which causes more personal problems for myself as I feel I've failed because I've worked so hard to get to stability and now I am losing it. Does anyone have any advice or am I really just the problem? 