I am a 30 year old woman.  I've been married for a long time.  I'm a successful business owner, and I am pretty much okay with who I am on most days.

My husband tries very, very hard to control my behavior while I am at home.  Telling me I cannot have wine, cannot be left alone for a few hours, should be running errands.  It is very difficult for me to go from being the boss lady with clients and employees that respect me to being treated like a child at home.  This causes me to spend even more time at the office and less time at home.  I have taken to basically working every day of the week.  In part, because I really want financial freedom, but also because I do not like being fucked with at home.

Yesterday, we had what I thought was a successful (long and annoying) talk about what behaviors appear controlling.  I took a nap, and swear within 5 minutes of my waking up, he was telling me that I needed to do our laundry, run to staples, and work on the billing for my office.  I swear I fucking lost it in my mind.  I just kept quiet for a really long time, and he asked me what was wrong, and I knew what it was:

Intense, blind hatred.  An overwhelming thought of rage, like if he pushed me, it would have gotten really out of control.  So I just said it in a cold, calculated voice:

" In this moment I blindly hate you, and hate being your wife".

Him: "I know, it was written all over your face".

The cat is out of the bag..