This is such a vicious cycle. My BF texted me "You need to organize your stuff, it looks like shit." I didn't answer right away, so a couple minutes later he sent "hello". I'm at work and reading that felt mad or at least a little aggressive to me, so I asked if he was mad at me. He proceeded to tell me how it's my fault the room we live in is messy when my stuff, while disorganized, only takes up 1/6 of the room at most. I can't do anything about it while I'm at work and it just felt so negative. Now he IS mad because of me thinking me was mad. DAE do this? How the hell am I supposed to fix this uncomfortable feeling? 