This particular post isn’t counting significant others because my situation is quite different. She was a best friend I fell fast and hard for over the course of almost 4 years (we graduated college together, started our professions together, spent a whole summer seeing each other almost every day). But through therapy and my diagnoses and learning more about what I’m going through from both professionals and non I am very certain I truly just had an unhealthy attachment issue. 
I wanted her to be mine but not romantically. I just had the constant craving to see her. 

We’ve gotten much better but are very distant now (friendly, but distant) A very far cry from what we used to be. It was only just recently she began confiding in me again like “old times” and of course that has ignited a slew of old feelings and thoughts and tendencies.

I’ll be leaving to work at a new job after summer (yes, it is primarily to take myself out of the situation I’m in now of seeing her every day. While better, it’s still very painful). 

I guess my question to y’all is if you were ever able to move passed the downfalls that come with being obsessed with a FP and develop a healthy relationship again? 
I know I’m ultimately the one who knows what’s best for me. But seeking comfort in similar situations ❤️