First, I'm trying very hard to change the pieces of myself that somehow hurt other people. 95% of the time I hurt somebody I care about, it's by accident though.

I think maybe it's because I'm used to so much emotional pain but others are not... So when I hurt somebody, it doesn't feel like its any more than the pain I'm used to or how much they hurt me. I'm used to being hurt so much that it doesn't feel fair that everything can hurt me, but anything I do in response is unacceptable or too much for people despite it being the same as I experience most of the time.

Am I making sense? I'm not saying it's acceptable to hurt them the same as you're hurting, but it does distort your perspective.