Me and this guy are talking. We go way back and have a long history. He’s actually the reason I went and got properly diagnosed years ago. We dated for a short time 5 years ago, but with us being young and dumb it just didn’t work. We fell off for a while, but we reconnected and we’ve been best friends for several months now. Recently, feelings have come into the picture. 

We’re both very similar in the sense that we’re mostly depressed, but do get manic every now and then. He’s just started medication and therapy again. I’ve been medicated for a long time, but with my life being extremely stressful and hectic at the moment, me and my NP are figuring out adjustments. 

It seems so perfect, we both feel invincible when we’re together. We say we don’t really know what happiness feels like, but whatever it is we bring each other closer to it. We’ve both been there for each other through our lowest points of our lives. Weird “coincidences.” We both have said we didn’t think we could ever love again after things we’ve both been through, but here we are falling for each other all over again, even harder than the first time. 

My thing is, while we understand each other on a deep level that would be hard to find, we are accepting of each other, and completely comfortable with each other and sharing our deepest darkest thoughts with no fear of judgement, could this also make us incompatible? 

I guess this is more of a fear thing for me. I have never dated someone with a mental illness period, and while I feel like it could be a wonderful thing it could also be a disaster. I don’t even know how to explain it. I guess it’s a “I can’t even handle myself” so I’m scared kind of a thing.

What are your experiences?