I’m dating someone, I’m 26 and he’s 32. I’m trying to make this as healthy as possible, with none of the aforementioned bpd traits getting in the way. It’s taking a lot of hard work. But I don’t know if I’m capable of feeling love without lovebombing, feeling true enamor without obsession. I don’t know how to be in a relationship with someone who isn’t my favorite person. 

TLDR; I hate bpd and I don’t want it to ruin my relationship, but idk if I can feel love