*TO CLARIFY I AM AWARE THAT I CANT COMPLETELY STOP THIS I JUST WANT TIPS TO MAKE THINGS EASIER*

some quick information:
my girlfriend has bpd as well as anxiety, depression and adhd.

she just turned 16 so she can now get professional help for her bpd and will be getting medication and treatment for it soon. 

now, she’s unhealthily obsessed with me and im aware its neither her fault nor mine. her obsession does not affect me in anyway but it does affect her greatly. any small thing i do can cause her to become EXTREMELY upset and anxious, even if its just giving someone else attention or just going into the local town alone etc etc

she doesn’t take this out on me in anyway but she does take it out on herself, it’s becoming too much for her to handle and she’s told me she can’t take it much longer and might have to end the relationship. it hurts me just knowing that im the reason she becomes extremely upset (even if its not my or her fault) and i just want to help her in anyway i can. i don’t want to lose her, i’ve never ever loved someone this much. please help, any advice will be greatly appreciated &lt;3 

ANY advice please, is there anything i or her could do? i really cant lose her :(