I texted a friend of mine if she wanted to hang out this week. No answer till Thursday. I got more and more anxious and angry about it. I had a dream about sending a passive aggressive text and getting back an arrogant hurtful answer. I thought this is not where I want this to go.

Instead I texted that it seems like she is busy. that i understand because she is moving soon. but that I´m not okay with her ignoring texts like that. i did not say anything to "make her answer" or "make her apologize" or to get a certain outcome. Just communicated that it made me uncomfortable and gave her the benefit of the doubt.

She answered in a longer voice memo, explaining how much is going on in her life but also acknowledging that she could and should have send a quick note. asked me how I was doing and that we could hang out once she is done moving.

I know i will get into situations like this again and I tend to obsess about this particular friend. I don´t have one FP but many people with the potential for me to put them on a pedestal. But I am glad I did something that helped ME get out of the discomfort decently and cope in a healthy way communicating my boundaries.

I listened to my dream guys! Because it showed me what would happen if I would keep showing down my anger and hurt till I can only react impulsively and hurt my friendship or myself by not saying anything.