Hello everyone! So, a classic symptom of our disorder, and one that's a struggle for me, is this real difficulty seeing people as just neutral like I am, with good and bad traits combined. I'm reading "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me" right now and it mentions how we tend to almost see people as two versions of themselves, like the "bad" version and the "good" version.

This isn't really majorly negatively impacting my life right now per se, but I noticed that I think of my boyfriend, boss, and parents in this way, and it's getting to be a bit stressful. I KNOW that they're complex, multifaceted people but my brain finds it easier to see them as 'good' (until they do something that hurts me, and then suddenly they're all 'bad'). I've tried making pro-con lists of the people I care about but it feels like a really overly clinical way to address what is an emotional issue, and I'd hate for my loved ones to ever find the lists and be hurt, so I stopped doing this.

I'd love some advice, thank you!