I'm trying to start a relationship with my mother again. After I flunked out of college roughly three years ago our relationship completely went to hell and I told myself the emotional trauma wasn't worth it anymore. I'm trying to change things now but I'm not very good being aware of her emotional state. I don't pick up on nonverbal communications very well; things like body language, tone of voice, and voice inflections (Aspergers Syndrome). I've got the patient of a saint but I have a terrible time knowing how someone is feeling unless they explicitly tell me, hence there are difficulties on both sides of the conversation. When we talk, I try to address her feelings first but I can't always do that, and what complicates things further is that she is unaware of my autism diagnosis and our relationship is nowhere close enough for me to tell her. 

EDIT: Seriously? I get downvoted when I'm looking for advice? I'm not a bluntful person by choice.