Hi all, my wife and I married at 20 (we both agree that wasn’t the right move) but we were very religious at the time. 
On paper it all works. We have numerous ways we match/align. But after 17+ years of marriage, with problems at the onset, we have spent years in counseling and are seemingly at the end. 
I was diagnosed with BP2 this year and while that provided some hope to improve with medication, the trust isn’t there anymore. 
We have two younger children. They’re beautiful, perfect, and we are crushed to think about what we will do to them by splitting because we are generally very good at keeping our issues from them. 
I cannot tell if I’m over it because of stress/BP/trauma, etc or if this is the end. 

TL;DR to you know if a marriage with kids is over or if you are just misguided by your condition?