So I am friends with a girl I met a few years ago on campus. She has bpd, and I am one of her favourite people. I figured this sub would have the best advice and understanding of our friendship. I have tried my best to love and support her unconditionaly. We have discussed boundaries, and she typically does her best to respect those boundaries.

Last week I learned I have severe anxiety and depression. I started medications and they have been rough. My anxiety is at an all time high,  I am constantly exhausted, my head aches, and I feel nauseous. I know it gets better in another week, but this week is hard. I tried to talk to her since she understands new medications and was ignored. I figured maybe something more cheerful and just casual conversation would be better if she wasn't feeling up to mental health chats and was ignored again. She is posting online about how she wishes people would make plans with her and chat with her. She won't answer me though. It has been over 48 hours since we last chatted, when she told me my anxiety over friends not wanting to be near me was false and sent me some anxiety coping mechanisms to try to help me get through the next week. She had previously communicated she would help me thru this as I have helped her with mental health. Last time she went this long without replying she was angry at me, but she let me know why and we worked it out.

I don't understand what I did wrong or how to approach her about it. I know she is hurting, but she isn't talking to me. I want to be a good friend, and she is a lovely person. I care for her deeply and don't want to hurt her or even accidentally make her feel abandoned. I am so scared and anxious that I have hurt her and don't know what to do. If anyone here has any advice or resources to help us I would greatly appreciate it.