I've been lurking in this sub for quite awhile and I've noticed that so many posts deal with relationships. I know relationships are different for us with BPD but I'm mostly thinking about romantic relationships for this post. Just coming out of a REALLY bad pseudo- relationship a few months ago that's lasted on and off through 13 years and having a few insights that I decided I'd share. Yes- we have BPD. Yes- we can be difficult. Yes- we can be hard to love BUT our BPD isn't an excuse to let people walk all over us and treat us like shit. I don't know why it happens (I think maybe because so many of us are empaths and pick up on others' moods easily) but those of us with BPD seem to attract abusive and even narcissistic partners. Damaged people. It's like they have some kind of radar and know we are an "easy target." Too many times I have put up with what really boiled down to straight up mental and psychological abuse because "it must be my fault. I must have done something because I have BPD and push people away." So we keep plugging along in these relationships or with these FPs who KNOW they can do whatever they want and then literally drive us crazy thinking our BPD is at fault. Abuse is NEVER okay. Physical or emotional. No, he's not cheating because you have BPD. No she didn't hit you because you have BPD. No they do t get to play games and give you the silent treatment because you have BPD. I am here to tell you: You are worthy, MORE than worthy of healthy, safe love. With someone who isn't a psychopath. And when you meet the right person for you, they'll heal you and help put together the broken pieces if you just LET THEM. I know it's scary at first and splitting can happen a lot but work through it. You're worthy. STOP letting hurt people hurt you even more. 
If you've read this far, thank you for coming to my Ted Talk. Lol 🤣