A couple years back, A psychiatrist told me I had "Traits of borderline personality disorder and dysruptive mood dysregulation disorder". I think she said I meet the criteria for BPD and was too young to be diagnosed because i was 12 at the time.  I am now 14 and I am in a long disdance relationship with someone who loves me very dearly and I love him very dearly. He has some problems himself and we have talked about certain fears of mine.  He is very supportive of me and I am very in love and supportive of him. I am so worried i'm going to wind up like the BPD sterotypes of someone who is abusive. I don't want to ruin this relationship because we are so perfect for each other, we just click because of our persoanlities. I have a DBT work book that helps me feel better and understand my stuff so that I do, it obviously doesn't fix everything but its helping.  A lot of people think BPD= evil person, so I'm scared to tell him but I know he probably won't Judge me. One thing that makes it tough is that we are a gay couple and his parents are homophobic. This means he can't got to them for relationship advice or anyone who might tell them he  is dating a guy.  I can get relationship advice fromm my super cool aunt but im not sure if he has anyone he can get advice from, especially since he lives in a small town. basically what I'm looking for is should i tell him I might have BPD right now since I am kind of diagnosed or should I wait till I get a therpiast and they tell me if I even still meet the criteria or if its just other stuff i have causing those symptoms.  I need advice because I don't want to ruin this relationship.  Sorry if this advice post doesn't make any sense or is wierd and rambly.