
I’ve been with my girlfriend (26f) for three years and we have an amazing relationship. 95% of the time we had an extremely healthy relationship, apart from her personal problems relating to body image, self worth and fear of abandonment. I have always been there for her regarding these issues as I also deal with depression (completely controlled, doesn’t effect my daily life) so I can relate on some level. She has been really busy with her post grad degree the last couple of months which has led her to feel guilty about not having more time for me. Again and again I reassure her that this is normal and I am also in school so I understand. Nothing is permanent especially when it comes to education. We have talked and talked about this time in our lives as being stressful but she just can’t seem to see anything but what’s happening right now. She broke up with me suddenly over text which was a massive shock. Just a few days before we were together, everything was normal and we were happy. Side note: we have plans to move in together as soon as we can afford to, which should be within the next year. We have also talked about marriage and spending our life together which I know is what we both want. I’ve been reading a lot about BPD and splitting which is what I think is happening here. She had absolutely no reason for breaking up with me apart from her feeling like this busy time is never going to end. I’ll also add that she dealt with trauma as a child and has a history of making rash decisions. Any insight into this situation would be greatly appreciated. I love her and I want to spend my life with her.