My boyfriend (29M) and I (27F) have been dating for a little over a year and have moved into our first apartment together a few days ago. While we're not completely set up yet, we're slowly working through it.

We are understandably not in the jolliest of moods. I'm still getting used to not living with my mother for the first time since the college dorm days, and this is my boyfriend's first time living on his own as well. Important furniture still hasn't arrived, we're both working from home... but I think despite it all, I'm adjusting a little better than I thought I would. I'm so-so.

I'm worried about how my boyfriend is adjusting. I'm surprised actually, because he's more independent than I am; despite living with his parents, he was doing most things for himself anyway (laundry, food shopping, cooking, etc), so I figured by having our own place, he would have slid into the routine easier. But it's the opposite.

He's barely eaten anything since we arrived, has been withdrawn from me, and has no energy because he hasn't been sleeping well (part of it is my fault--apparently, I snore and never knew). When I asked him if he was okay, he told me it's just anxiety and he needs time to adjust, but it still didn't sit right with me. He's been spending a lot of time alone and his whole demeanor is just *stiff.* I mean, he's not an energetic person to begin with, but even trying to give him a hug today--stiff as a board. I'm giving him his space right now since that's what his body language is telling me he wants, but it's kind of making me feel rejected. I'm probably selfish for even thinking that way. And while he's always had anxiety, I feel like it's spiraling at the time we need each other most.

Yes, I realize it's only been a few days and I should be patient, but is this kind of anxiety normal with moving? Or am I overreacting just because I feel differently?