I have this issue where two people I’m closest to (a male partner and a female partner) are constantly mad at me for “attention seeking” behavior. I post a lot on social media stories usually pics of myself. I have a tendency to dress up a lot for work, going out, etc. I’m just trying to be myself? 

I get really hurt if I try to make new friends or partners and the feelings aren’t reciprocated. My partners, who I guess are used to being my FPs, get mad and are always saying that I’m obsessed with attention and validation. I had an ex boyfriend who said the same thing. It really just seems like they want me to only obsess over their attention, but at the same time, if I did, then I would be clingy? So I’m not sure what I’m supposed to do? 

When partners get mad at me for making them feel like they aren’t good enough, it makes me avoidant and push them away…What do people want from me?