hey, i noticed that bc of my traumas and bpd, i'm easily co-dependent and i want this vicious circle to end. i feel like people who are emotionally independent are most likely to succeed in life and got everything under control. i want to be that person, i want to be happy, have my life under control and stop procrastinating and blaming my failures and my emptiness on my codependency. i feel alive when i have this specific person in my life and i can't live like that anymore bc now that they're gone i'm more than lost and i don't want to throw my life away bc they don't want me anymore. i need to be independent and feel alive again or at least find some ways to only count on myself so i can never be crushed when someone i like leaves me. please help me.