I'm as open and honest with my therapist as I am with myself, though I do sometimes experience fear of being judged. He is good at reassuring me that honesty is the only way for this to work and that he isn't here to judge me. It is hard to sort through when your internal existence is entirely based on the feeling that everyone you encounter everywhere is judging everything you do harshly and that these judgements are actually important to who you are. 

I told my therapist something that concerns me. That everywhere I go I dress and try to appear in a way that gets men to look at me and fulfills my need to feel important and to have men sexually attracted to me. I never wish to interact with them, in fact if they approach me I am 100% uncomfortable and immediately regretful of going in public. 

My therapist gently suggested, very appropriately within the context of our discussion, basically, what would be the harm in experimenting with different styles of dressing and ways of carrying myself. He inferred that maybe as I build my self worth and build my own style that isn't aimed at looking like a sexual object it might help improve my mental health and my relationships. 

My BPD directly translated that as, and I quote, "Well why don't you stop dressing slutty and maybe your self esteem wouldn't be trash and people would respect you more." 

Despite my maladaptive internal dialog, I was actually able to take this positive criticism. I haven't quite figured out how to apply it yet, but I know it holds value. 

I find it somewhat amusing how that internal voice twist and manipulates everything people say and do around you.