For the last two months solid Ive been having an unhealthy obsession with a colleague at work to the point that I can't think about anything else. He is constantly on my mind and I dream about him every night. I keep trying to find reasons to talk to him or be with him. Im going out a lot just because he's there and not leaving any event until he does.

I have an SO so I really want to stop having these thoughts. I'm not even sure if i have romantic interest in this person I just like him and I like touching him (like hugging and incedental touches) a lot. But I think we've been touching more than we should and now Im super confused about the nature of the relationship.

Ive just heard about this FP thing and I think this might be that. I want to just have a normal friendship with this person because having him in my life, obession or no, good things have started happening for me and the thought of losing him sucks.

Im wondering if I should talk to him and be honest about some of my feelings (not the obsession, just that i think i might like him but I want to be friends) and establish some actual boundaries? But I'm scared a talk like this will break the spell and kill the friendship dead

Has anyone else been able to pass through obsession into normal friendship?