I can't wrap my head around it. It's been days it's eating me up and I need to how to handle my situation with my mother in law.

She was against her son's marriage with me. Didn't attend the wedding and didn't let his siblings come either. Only his dad showed up. We had been married for 2 years and she never showed interest in me and pretended I didn't exist (never met me. Hated the gifts I sent to my father in law). She even asked my husband to remarry someone she approves.

But recently after we moved to Europe she started to show interest in me. It was clear to me that since I was the one who got the job abroad and moved us there, I was important to her all of a sudden. I tried to be polite and friendly and let bygones be bygones but a few things triggered me into self defense mode. Such as her saying she was ashamed to show my picture to her relatives because I didn't look beautiful enough. I looked too simple.

After this and few other things, I stopped talking to her altogether on the phone and rarely engage with her. My husband knows how I feel and of course my husband is very supportive of me and disregards what his mother says and stands by me always. But at the end of day she's his mother, and when we go back home to meet our families this week, I'm suppose to meet her and be all polite. 

I feel crying and I haven't been myself for a week now because I can't face someone who throws me back into my depression. My husband wouldn't force me to meet her aside from 1/2 obligatory meetings as his wife. 

But even the thought of those 2 meetings is more than I can handle. I can't handle her fake love. 

I respect her alot as his mother and would do by best to be kind and polite but I can't go out of the way and pretend I love her and enjoy her company as she expects me to. She even now complains I never talk to her on the phone.

How do I take care of myself admist this? And not force myself to please her (because I hate conflict and would rather please than cause a fight)?