I have this really good friend, we text everyday and see each other at least once a week. He is struggling with depression plus a lot is going on in his life atm; I try to be super supportive, and I know I am because he frequently tells me. I help him with a lot of practical stuff (he doesn't have a car so I bring him everywhere, I listen when he vents (lately almost daily), I'm helping with his relocating and lots of other things). I am really glad that he opened up with me because he's a loner and he was bottling up everything and wasn't speaking to anyone. He is one of the people I care for the most in this world.

The point is, I am also not in a very good place physically and mentally. In therapy I'm working on a pretty baud trauma that happened when I was a teen, and that I've tried to avoid for more than 10 years. Of course now that I'm digging into it, it is very hard and kinda overwhelming: my insomnia got worse, I have emotional crisis in which I just cry myself to sleep, and I'm barely hold it together. Add to everything a very stressful moment at work and a heat wave which is draining me physically. 

Anyway, after a long time (and him being very kind and present) I have opened up with him myself, telling me about my trauma and how I feel at the moment. And here's the thing: his reaction really hurts me. He basically told me that he is so sorry and feels guilty, but he doesn't have the energy to support me now. He tried for a couple of days, then he basically stopped asking and talking about my situation. The last time I tried to tell him I was not okay he replied "it could be worse". And now he is busy with some stuff and stopped texting me. He has barely spoken to me in the last two weeks, except for calling me in the middle of a working day because he needed an urgent lift. 

So, I know he is going through a lot, I know he is sorry that he can't support me and I don't want to add more pressure and stress, but still I have to say I'm a bit heartbroken and feel abandoned and completely isolated. A big part of my trauma is that I feel nobody can understand and help me and that my suffering is not valid; it was really a big step for me to open up with him, and this reaction really hurts. I don't know whether I am right to be mad, if I should be more understanding, if and how I should talk to him...

What do you think?