I had a queer friend who got messaged by a bigot not long ago. The individual started saying some disgusting bigoted comments to my friend. I got that individual's contact information and proceeded to berate them and argue with them for about five hours, being extremely hostile in the process and trying to make them feel bad for the bigoted comments they sent to my friend. I ended up feeling really mentally exhausted and uncomfortable for about a week afterwards, as well as guilty.

Everyone in my friend group told me this was unproductive and that people with openly fascist opinions generally don't change easily and we should all just block them. But I still felt this need to go after them. I felt like I just had to, like it was a moral imperative to be vicious in order to defend my friends. I also felt like I could be a distraction to make sure that the bigot's attention was on me rather than my friend

Can anyone else relate to this?