 (F21) always overthink on dates and absolutely hate dating because of dealing with the nerves.  I start thinking to myself “do I actually like her?  Could I be in a relationship with someone like her?  Am I supposed to be more forward?  Do we actually have chemistry?  Was that thing I did awkward?” to the point where it’s not helpful and my brain gets stuck on it.

I’ve been on a few dates with this pretty girl who I have common interests with, but I’m starting to just feel dread.  I’ve had fun on our dates but the last one I started to have some doubts, especially because it still felt a bit stiff.  She texts me regularly and it makes me overwhelmed.  I don’t know if I actually don’t like her or if I’m just overthinking.  I want to get to know her more but I don’t want to hurt her by misleading her or wasting her time.  She’s actually going away for a month soon though, so maybe that’ll give some time to think.

If I meet a girl at a party or bar, or if it’s a friend or even a good acquaintance, I don’t have this issue.  I have so much confidence in those situations, even if I’m sober lol.  It’s only when I meet someone from dating apps, but because I’m gay and there’s a pandemic, the apps feel like the easiest option.   it really makes me feel bad about myself because it always ends up like this. My anxiety always self-sabotages.