This sounds bad but I cannot see myself taking in and being the caregiver once my parents pass away. My older sibling has severe mental health problems that I think are OCD and some mood disorder. The person constantly blames and yells and every single day tells us how sad and depressed they are which then leads to them raising their voice. They get stuck on the same worries and ideas. They don't want medication which I think would at least help stabilize their mood but at the same time I can't say it helps either due to them still being sad while they were on it. Last time the person was off meds, it got very bad and started making verbal threats of hurting us. But to be clear, at first when the person was off meds last time and this time, there was a period of elevated mood where they seem to be ok and actually seemed better, and then after a while, they start to feel extremely bad all over again. We have been trying to be supportive and non judgmental and would gladly work with their mental health team but the person doesn't even want to allow us permission to communicate back and forth with them. I have left messages (voicemails) over the past few years to the person's psychiatrist just to let them know how they were on certain meds. Due to this person being an adult, the system in the U.S prevents us from I think really being involved with his team to try to help. At the moment this person is starting to feel sad everyday again. I think this person has OCD, Generalized Anxiety, Mood Disorder (maybe bipolar?), Chronic depression, Maybe Also borderline personality disorder as well. This person sees a therapist but also not sure how often. We all don't really bring up meds or therapy anymore because this person gets upset. Anyways, this person seems to begin everyday with how bad they feel about their live and then their thinking gets distorted into making them feel like they should have already high paying job and family and then blames family around them by lashing out and being disrespectful. This happens every day now again. Very tired and burnt out. What happens when parents pass away? We have small family of just me and my sibling and our parents who are old. This person (sibling) also has gambling addiction and is in denial. Does have 1 person from team that calls and has mentioned in the past that they can help with housing (this person struggling also mentioned that they didn't really want to live in that). We are always kept in the dark and its very frustrating on top of feeling tired and burnt out. I also feel like part of the reason I don't want to be a caretaker is because I'm already feeling the affects of all this on my own mental well-being. When school is done in a few weeks, I plan on going over a plan with my own therapist and prob maybe NAMI website.