I'm at the tail end of a bpd crisis in which I was worried for my wellbeing for the obvious bpd reasons and sought help. So the good thing is Ive got a referral to a psychologist.

Also a good thing that I didn't end my life because now I can see more clearly the situation that triggered me. 😊

I was raised by a probably narcissistic mother and went straight from that home into another abusive situation. So I think this is why I have trouble seeing when people are toxic/abusive and I should create distance from them.

I was going to share the situation that triggered me but now I'm worried that it might be recognized. But needless to say I've been in a lot of situations  where people treated me badly that a lot of "normal" people wouldn't have let get to that point. Like I can only see all the red flags in retrospect and I can see at the time I felt uneasy or was having anxiety but couldn't identify why.

This will be something to bring up with the new therapist as something to work on. 😊

Do you have trouble seeing red flags?