Partner with BPD has had meltdowns everyday (wants me to cuddle him but I was at school). He refuses to seek help until it reaches an extreme. He somehow still is able to access my phone and look through. I haven't had sleep cuz of him so I pretended to call the cops since he knows I enable his behavior. He goes back in forth toward wanting to fix the relationship and hating me. He calls me a gaslighter and emotionally manipulating him. What can I do?