when some sort of precieved conflict happens with anyone in my circle (intimate partner or friend or family member etc.), it takes a bit of time in my day to actually get past that precieved conflict. but others w/o BPD or w/o experiencing BPD symptoms tend to move on quicker and just 'get over it'.

for example, i just went out to print off one piece of paper with my significant other (we have been dating for over a year now) and when we got there, the system to go through and print was different than I remember. they changed it and this frustrated me. when I get frustrated, it shows. so I will sigh or 'huff and puff'. my bf got frustrated at me 'huffing and puffing' which is something he finds as an 'over reaction'. from my standpoint with my BPD symptoms, when he said "why are you huffing and puffing? there is no reason to be doing that! you are overreacting" that triggered the disappointment factor that somehow me expressing my feelings was disappointing him, yk? from his standpoint, I could see how the situation of loading money onto a copy card for printing off papers is a 'simple task'. but this happens often, and I feel like he doesn't fully understand.. but I also am torn with the feeling that I was just 'overreacting' and I should just 'get over it' yk? he gets over those types of things so quickly, but it triggers my BPD and I sit with this guilt or shame.. which I am currently doing. I feel almost like I shouldn't be feeling how I'm feeling and I'm anxious to even address it to him, because I feel he won't understand. he was chatting normally afterwards and seemed like he was fine. he had moved on.

so I guess I'm wondering if anyone else sits with stuff like this or if it is rather easy to get over it?? and if you do just move past it , how?? or if you address it , again, how???