I was diagnosed with BPD 3.5 years ago. I am currently pregnant and married. The only BPD symptom I can't shake is my shifting sense of self. I don't chameleon; however,  IDK what to do with my life. And, in an effort to not chameleon, I'm scared to delve into whatever fad or hobby my friends into. IDK how to define myself without feeling as though I'm being close minded ( black and white thinking or chameleoing ). So, it's like I avoid defining anything values, goals, opinions, etc. My marriage is pretty good. My husband is my rock. But, my inability to define my future career path has gotten in the way of recent communication. I have a bachelor's degree and I want to go for a master's . However,  I'm scared of rejection or failure or more debt or being a stereotypical bpd quitter. But, I want our child to see his mother as a person with a strong sense of self.