My favorite person attachments were what first brought me to therapy a few years ago and to me, are the most euphoric and wonderful but also the most distressing part of my BPD. Since starting therapy, I’ve increasingly been able to recognize when someone is starting to become an FP for me and work to use strategies to keep the relationship a close but appropriate and not so obsessive one. My current therapist is my FP and I’ve made a ton of progress with her. I’ve recently been able to, for the first time maybe ever, feel a desire to make friends and find a partner and community and to create intimate relationships beyond my FP (who at this moment, is her). Despite this, and maybe it’s just that I don’t have those relationships yet, I often feel like she is still the only one whose care, reassurance, etc. feels like it can fulfill what I’m seeking. Like if I heard the same words from her vs from a friend the ones from her would be so powerful and the ones from a friend would just fall flat. We’ve talked about how maybe I just need to work on building more intimacy in other relationships, and I think that’s true, but I’m also realizing that in the past, even when I’ve had a strong group of friends and a partner, I have still had FP’s and still craved their care specifically. It makes me feel really frustrated that I could potentially put in all of this work to create lots of other close, intimate relationships in my life but that I still might have an FP who I cling to as an anchor. I guess I’m wondering if anyone has learned how to feel fulfilled through other (non FP) relationships and if anyone had ever managed to get their FP relationships to be mild enough where it’s more manageable and you don’t have those periods of obsessing over them and wishing desperately to contact them all the time etc?