Hi! While I dont have BPD, my girlfriend does, and its been a learning process to get through some of the worse bits with her. I'm happy to power through things that might upset me, because I know she's got a thunderstorm going on in her thoughts and emotions near constantly. But, it doesnt stop me from sometimes needing to express an upset. For example, earlier she did laundry- which by itself i would be hella appreciative because I work all the time. The issue was, some of my work clothes were IN the laundry, and I knew they wouldn't be washed in time for me to leave for work on time. I had to pull them out, rinse the detergent off by hand, and dry them immediately. Admittedly, it made me kinda angry, but I hid that until i got into the car. I told her that it meant a lot to me, and I greatly appreciated that she did the laundry, but if she could let me take care of my stuff myself i'd rather that happen. I dont know if it was a perfect approach, and I can tell it upset her/ something about the situation upset her. I dont like that, so I wanted to know if you all had advice on how I can approach things so that it has a minimal chance of her feeling like she's made a huge mistake.