When people talk about red flags, one that I see come up relatively often is when they say stuff like 'sorry for being worthless' or 'I can't do anything right'. Apparently it's emotional manipulation and a sign of narcissism?  


Well, I thought about all the times I've said stuff similar to this and it was never to emotionally manipulate anyone. I can understand why it seems that way, but I was genuinely just saying what I thought was the right thing to say at the time. I was only expressing what I genuinely thought of myself, and if I failed in some way my first response was to always apologise for being worthless. A lot of the time I said it without even thinking.  


I don't understand people. They keep telling mentally ill people to say what's on their mind but when I do I'm manipulative apparently. I'm sorry do I have to know the exact thing to say at any given moment???