I don’t think it’s ableist for someone to say they won’t date someone who’s bipolar. There are many reasons why I am a difficult person to be in a relationship with that the vast majority of the world will never understand or be able to handle. If someone recognizes that they can’t support me through mood swings, hospitalizations and med complications that’s GOOD. Now they won’t waste my time by taking on something they aren’t prepared for. It’s a chronic illness the same as any other. I feel like it’s way more damaging to me personally for someone to waltz in thinking my condition is ~no biggie~ only to freak out and leave later. 

There are many wonderful things about me too but no one is allowed to pick and choose which parts of my life they’re part of. It’s all or nothing.