I’m 29F and trying to find a partner, and for some reason it makes me pretty anxious and low if a guy is very physical on the first date. I had a date today with a really great guy, I loved talking to him, but after an hour or so he just kept wanting to make out. On a Saturday morning in busy, public places.

I know I could post this in a dating sub, but I feel bad that I feel anxious about it, if that makes sense? It’s normal to want to get physical with people you want to be in a relationship with. I don’t know why it takes me a bit longer. I don’t have any sexual trauma. He wants to meet again this evening, and I’m a bit anxious that it’ll be more of the same. I want to get to know the person and see how we’re going to spend on time together and if we want the same things. Not make out for an hour in the street like we’re teenagers. He was also saying he loves going down on women, and I think that’s implying he wants to fuck quite soon, which I don’t. I don’t know him, lol. This has happened before where sex seems to be expected quite early on, and it makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me for not wanting to too. 

I find it hard to tell if I’m being reasonable or if my anxiety is getting the best of me, because it’s easy to make excuses for yourself to step back and not try. I need to decide what to do later (see him again or not), and both choices feel wrong.

Just had to vent a bit. I don’t know why I’m like this. 

Might post in the dating sub if I’m brave, I just don’t want to look silly for being so timid and unassertive.