I work in marketing, and the specific industry I’m in is very fast paced. I’m good at what I do and have worked my way into a senior position. However, my current boss is very oldschool and very emotionally cold. He regularly rips into my coworkers and people we work with, and isn’t phased whatsoever. There’s a long history of people leaving because of his pompous and volatile behavior. 
This job pays very well and allows me to support my wife &amp; kids in the way I’ve always dreamed. But I have severe anxiety, and the extreme workload combined with his volatile attitude make most days a living nightmare for me. The way to survive in our office is to stay off his radar, but I work directly next to him and interact with him all day. He’s given me off the charts performance evaluations, but on the flipside says hurtful things on occasion. Last week it was about the way I dress. He said to me, “you’re not the bass player in a band anymore, dress the part”. I dress the same as our VP and other senior staff, and certainly not the way I dressed when I played in a band. But it’s a good example of the off the cuff hurtful comments he makes 24/7 to everyone. It’s nothing too extreme, but it certainly sends my anxiety into overdrive. I’m trying to figure out if I should stay and manage the anxiett, or keep searching for a healthier work environment. Would love to hear feedback on this!