My SO and I will be celebrating our 1 year in a week. I love him to death. He means absolutely everything to me, but lately, I’ve noticed that it’s been taking over my life. I feel that I am 100x more dependent on him then he is on me. If I could, I would talk with him all hours of the day, but he is not the same way. When he goes a while without responding to my texts, or he responds a little dry, I automatically assume the worst and that he isn’t into me anymore, or that I’m annoying him, and then I bombard him with questions as to what’s wrong, did I do something, etc. 

It definitely takes a toll on our relationship. It’s gotten to a point where I cannot stop thinking about him. Constantly, every minute of the day I am thinking about him or I am checking to see if he texted me back, and I feel it’s reached a point where I am doing it obsessively. I try to set boundaries for myself but it’s very difficult to follow them sometimes. I know this sounds creepy, or clingy of me, and I know and acknowledge that I can definitely be clingy sometimes. I hate projecting my insecurities onto him, but I find myself doing it constantly, and I am terrified of ruining our relationship because of it. And at the same time he just does not understand. I wish I could stick him in my head for a day so he can know how I feel. 

I do not want this anymore. I obviously love my boyfriend, but I hate how dependent on him I feel. I feel like it takes over my life, and every minute of the day I am consumed by the thought of him leaving me, or something like that. If anyone has any advice or absolutely anything on what I can do, I need it. Thank you in advance.