*Mentions of Self-harm*


My friend has BPD, and she has been struggling with her disorders for a long time now.

She exited a relationship not too long ago, she was the one being broken off. I felt real bad for her, but she took it to great lengths about what she feels like. It was that she felt worthless, nothing without him and wanted to harm herself or worse. It disheartened  me, to her, I was the only man she talked a lot about this stuff. 

I love her a lot but I don't know how to really deal with this. Hell, I was going to ask her out at some point but I didn't want her to suffer because I plan on leaving to join the military at some point soon.

I just don't know what to do. She believes she is undeserving of love. I told her she deserves love, I told her I have hope for everyone and that I love her very much. She got a new boyfriend, but it was a pretty much instant rebound in which I know won't last. It has gotten to that point that I notice a pattern.

I'm trying my best to care for her, but she will not accept any type of reassurance. She only blames herself, even when she got cheated on. It destroys me.

She thinks everyone she gets into a relationship is her one true love, then it ends after a few months and it is a trainwreck. She is gone to many therapists, and therapy schools so thats out of the question. 

I think she has Bipolar 1, BPD, DID, ADHD, and I think a bit more. She said people always abandon her, but I absolutely refuse to abandon someone I truly care about.

I just don't really know what I should say, so I thought this was the best place.