So, I have BPD among other issues but in recent years have largely succeeded in "holding it in" at my professional workplace (or redirecting it against myself). I'm generally more stable these days, and my coworkers/managers generally consider me smart, capable and friendly (maybe because I am terrified of them not liking me and go out of my way to be helpful and nice).

Now, I am up for a promotion - only obstacle would be budget-related, not my skills or value. I would be managing two staff - one yet to be hired (STAFF A) and a current emoloyee (STAFF B) who is smart, extremely nice, a joy to work with and needs very little "managing."

I feel uneasy though - aside from doubts over whether I'm worthy of being a manager, I fear making missteps with these staff, such as -

1. I overshare constantly. What boundaries should I set with staff I supervise? Are mental health treatment and prior addiction issues off the table? I'm technically not fully in recovery but try to leave that out. (Important note - I work at a mental health agency, and STAFF B is also a counselor. Staff are very understanding, but only a handful - and not STAFF A nor B - know about mine).

I really want to be STAFF B'S friend - I know it's a bad idea, but I could use some examples as to why to strengthen my resolve.

2. I'm worried that if I need to correct or coach an employee, I'll hesitate because I am terrified that he/she will be angry at me. And then I'll hate them. But if I'm seen as a pushover, then I've also lost their respect.  Help?

3. Are there other behaviors on my behalf that I should avoid or ones that may be beneficial?

4. What are common work/behavior issues I might face with them, and how can I react appropriately?

5. If promoted, expectations of me will be higher. As I mentioned I don't freak out on others at work, but are there more subtle behaviors I should avoid?

Thanks.