My friend with BPD said they had feelings for me but they couldn't discern whether or not they were real or if the bpd is making them think they have feelings for me when they may not. This had me a little confused. Is this normal of people who have bpd? They even confessed they don't know if they actually had feelings for any of their previous partners because they couldn't distinguish if the feelings were genuine or if the bpd just made them emotionally attracted to that person.

My friend in question didn't feel anything for me the first few months but as we talked more, they said they did but didn't want to tell me because they don't know if it's real.