Hi, I’m a 23yo female and still getting diagnosed.

So the situation is that I’ve been seeing this girl for a while, but it quickly became very chaotic and tense. We weren’t officially together, but I started to get jealous and angry. One time we had a fight and she decided to change our situation from romantic to friendship. It hurt me a lot, even tho I wanted to change it before too.

My emotions got out of control, sadness took over, I hurt myself once and got back on therapy (but it’s only been one meeting).

During weekend we hang out with some of her friends and she got really drunk. We kissed, but I don’t think she remembers that. The next day I saw her on tinder and today she told me that she saw some gorgeous girl. It made me extremely sad in a second and I feel so bad I want to hurt myself again (but I’m not gonna do it).

What to do in this situation? How do you cope in moments like this? Should I tell her not to talk to me about things like that? 

I don’t know if I can be her friend, because it hurts so much, but at the same time I can’t imagine just letting her go.