I've started talking to/seeing a new guy for about three weeks now, and my anxiety is starting to spiral. I constantly worry that I'm annoying him, that I've said something wrong/made him mad. I worry that I'm texting too much (even though he texts back and first thing every morning). I worry that the only reason he's still talking to me is to be polite and he doesn't want to hurt my feelings by telling me otherwise - even though we talked about that, and he promised he would tell me flat out if he ever does change his mind.Things got physical the other night (not sex but fooled around), and my anxiety has been worse since. I worry that he just used me, etc. even though he texted immediately after his hockey practice the next morning. 

I can feel myself pulling away a bit. I'm starting to test, and I don't want to do that. Yesterday, I cut the conversation off earlier by telling him I had to work. Today, we've talked but told him I have 300 plus pages to read by Wednesday. He has hockey/he's watching football - I asked him to message me later, and he said he would. Rationally, I know he's busy - and he knows I'm busy. But my stupid BPD fears are creeping in thinking I'll never hear from him again. That he's just fading me out.  I worry that every text message is his last, that he's just waiting to bail. 

The DBT book and therapy says we're allowed to have needs. I've told him I have anxiety, that I can be needy AF, and I have trust issues - he's been super patient so far. But how do I discuss needing direct WORDS and verbal affirmation/confirmation that he likes me, on a regular basis? He said the other day that the fact he's still texting should be a sign - and rationally, it should be.... but I still need the actual words.