In my life so far I have had 4 major boyfriends, something that has been repeating with all of them since we had broken up has been that they all have shown their true colours to me in terms of their lying and infidelity. It began 3 years ago when the ex from longest ago started flirting quite heavily with me over facebook even though he was in a relationship. I thought it was a little cruel on his current girlfriend, but I just dismissed the flirtation and told him to stop but never told her. Then the year after, the next ex who I had gone out with, had a weird conversation one night with me over facebook, again while he had a girlfriend, where I was upset and just venting to him about certain frustrations in my life (nothing sexy about that) and then he sort of almost admitted to me that he still wanted me but caught himself just in time but instead spread a rumour that *I* was trying to seduce *him* and blocked me. 

Then this year, the 3rd ex tried very very hard to sleep with me again even though he had a girlfriend and we had been broken up for like 5 years... this time, I decided I had had enough and told the girlfriend about his horrid behaviour with screenshots of his messages. Weirdly, instead of thanking me for showing her his true colours, she verbally abused me and called me delusional before blocking me. She stayed with him until I think he eventually found someone else to cheat with and left her. I blocked him off social media and I metaphorically block him in real life. Now, it is beginning to come to my attention that I am at least being used as a control tactic by my more recent ex to create paranoia and gaslighting with his current girlfriend....I think he's telling her all sorts of wonderful stories about how I'm still in love with him and want him back, just to make her 'appreciate' what she has. It's annoying. 

Just wondering if anyone else here has had similar problems of exs trying to cheat with them or use them to fuel their egos in some way? I feel like I'm an easy target in a way because my exs know I'm a bit vulnerable and they seem to know how to get under my skin in terms of going from nice support and flattery and care (which I like) to deviant sexual flirtation very fast without me understanding what's going on. 