My girlfriend suffers from BPD and quite possibly PTSD as well. I try to he as understanding as I can l, as I'm not neurotypical myself, but at what point is an abusive relationship no longer excusable to mental illness? I've dealt with so much manipulation, crying, anger, and desperation, and I've tried to write it off as her being sick because I don't believe in bad/mean people. Some people are just sick. I just need help knowing if I'm letting this go too far. Examples of issues include:

- Not allowing me to sleep
- Lying to police in attempt to have me arrested
- Guilt based manipulation
- Gaslighting
- Extreme paranoia of infidelity
- Attemps to turn me against friends/family
- Attempt to break my phone
- Attemps to overpower me to take things from my pockets
- Trying to talk down about of anything I do/want to do that don't involve her
- (On one occasion) Physical harm

I moved to my sisters house indefinitely to heal and recover, but now that I'm away, I feel so much safer that I'm starting to fear going back too much. Hopefully some people who carry the same burden could offer some insight? I know I can't just excuse everything but there has to be a line, right?

She's currently in therapy and on medication