So lately I’ve gotten into the gym, specifically, the bench press. I’ve been aiming to do 40kg for a couple of weeks now and have been upset that I keep failing due to a shoulder injury. My boyfriend today showed me a Snapchat of a girl, who we both know, getting that same achievement. He said “you’ll get it one day, you can’t let her beat you”. I felt honestly pained and asked why he felt the need to show me. I got depressed all of a sudden and he called me toxic. 
I know it was an overreaction, but it’s the only thing I’ve been proud of in years and I’ve literally told him (jokingly I must admit) that my whole self-worth is pretty much based on it now. I just didn’t like being compared and it made me feel like I should just give up on the one thing I genuinely enjoy.