Hi! I’ve been in a 2 month relationship with my current boyfriend and things are going okay minus my thoughts. I’m really scared that he’s going to break up with me soon.
We’ve been setting boundaries for me because I need clearly-defined ones, and it’s been messing with my mind. He doesn’t like hugging or kissing, and he says he’s uncomfortable with most kinds of touch. He’s also asexual. The problem is that I’m a extremely physically affectionate person and also very not asexual. I’m so scared that he’s going to realize that he’s also aromantic and he’ll leave me, and I can’t bring myself to address these concerns to him out of embarrassment. I can’t leave him first either; it feels impossible for me to do. I like him too much.
He comes from a family that never expressed any type of affection, and the logical side of my brain is telling me that he’s just not used to affection. But the irrational side is telling me that he’s going to abandon me at any second and I know i’m going to spiral into a deep depression if that ever happens.
If anybody could send me any advice or support, it would be much appreciated. Thank you.