Hi there everyone,

Long time reader, first time caller here.

I've recently been diagnosed with BPD, after years of being on ineffective anti depressants and little success with regular therapy. I've been wanting to post for a while but have been pretty fearful that my questions might be dumb but here goes.

I was just hoping to know what other individuals with BPD do to sooth the feelings and emotions associated with feeling like their romantic partner/ friends etc. are only pretending to love them?

This feeling for me is probably the most detrimental to my mental state as i know when I'm in an okay space that it's not real, but when the thoughts, feelings or suspicion arises it's so incredibly painful and incredibly difficult to accept the ' yes i love you' or other such comforts. 

What are some strategies to assist in giving these feelings less power? 

Any advice, or insights would be greatly appreciated and respected - just feeling really lost on how to navigate this.