I recently read a post here about being responsible for your own feelings, and I have heard words like thatseveral times from therapists. When I asked mine she refused to answer it in a meaningful way (like just substituting “accountable”).

So, I don’t know what anyone really means. The best I can tell, “responsible” is just I well hidden “should” statement, the kind CBT / ACT / DBT therapies discourage, so it seems hypocritical to lean on “responsible.” As in “don’t buy into *those* should statements, but buy into *these* should statements.”

Another way to ask this question: let’s say I am responsible, what is the difference? I seene reason for it to change how I act or anyone else acts. Like, “ok, but I still can’t do the things I enjoy, so what’s the difference?”