Hi, I've never actually posted here. I've had my anxiety under manageable control for years now. But I do not like direct confrontations.

Since October a new neighbour across from our yard moved in. Her garden and our garden face each other, and so does our bedrooms.

In February we had our first run in with her. She's obviously not mentally stable, I'm not a doctor and know nothing of her condition but the way she talks and acts means there is no doubt.

She was incredibly frustrated that we played with our dog in the garden for 3 minutes. She proceeded to yank open her  bedroom window, shout obscenities, bark like a dog and smack herself in the face. This happened at noon on a Saturday where you would expect people to be up. My body is by now I full fight or flight mode, but we told her  nice and calmly that she should calm down and we went inside. By now my body is shaking with panic and rage and I try to breathe and calm myself. Cue the bell to the front door, it's her apparently not finished arguing.

I open the door and she starts by shakenly saying we're the only people in this complex that bothers her, she starts raising her voice and I get angry and I tell her I have no intension of discussing this matter further with her and close the door. She starts to scream and shout, crying and stomping. As she pass our garden she continues to shout. Me and my GF are both puzzled and my body is still shaking, to the point where we have to leave home and go somewhere else for a week, because I cannot calm back down in our own home. I feel like I've been violated.

Today we where playing with our 2 year old in the garden at 10.00 am on saturday, we're having a good time, looking for snails and bugs. Apparently this is too loud for her too.. She comes over to our fence, and offers us money to stay out of the garden 1 day a month so she can sleep. Then she offers us money to find somewhere else to live. She asks my SO to come closer, but we ofc. Stay a safe distance from her. When she talks she's more like rambling, crying, breaking down. When we told her we were being completely respectful of our neighbours she started shouting and screaming again. At this point I'm about to implode so I go inside  to write an email complaining to our landlord. While I'm doing this she's gone back to her house, screaming and throwing stuff around inside her house. She looks over the fence and starts trying to shout and talk to our 2 year old daughter. At this time we go inside and have booked a night away from home to get some distance.

Now the real question, how do you calm yourself after something like that ? My body is still in panic mode, hours after the incident. My mind is racing, all the things we should've said, what might she do next etc. Nauseous, feel sick and tired. All because of a 5 minutes confrontation. I feel like we have to tip toe around our own home. I dont like being here.

I'm sorry for the rambling, or if this is even the rigtig place to ask. I would really just love to be alle to cope with these sorta things.