so i (m19) am very extremely happy with gf (f17) and we’ve been together for almost 2 years but we’ve hit a really rough spot and everyone says it’s because of me because im toxic and that it’s because of my bpd and she’s my fp and i really love her and i don’t want her to leave but everyone keeps telling me im toxic and i don’t mean to be and she said she’s not happy currently because of all the fighting but she’s really bad with communicating and texting back and stuff and i also have really bad anxiety and trust issues and have been cheated on in the past and i just can’t help but think those things and then i ask for a little bit a reassurance and she gets angry and upset because i ask for it all the time and she doesn’t understand splitting and i split in her for the first time a few days ago and i feel awful and i just don’t know what to do
i get really jealous and feel really really lonely when she hangs out with her other friend and the anxiety and overthinking make it worse because i don’t know what’s going to happen to her while she’s out and im just wondering if anyone else had this problem before? any tips on what to do? or how to help her understand?