So my girlfriend was recently diagnosed with BPD. I’ve been trying so hard to deal with how she acts but I can’t help but feel like she’s using the google definition to her advantage to do what she pleases. She wasn’t this way a year ago. Is it normal for someone with BPD to act out when you don’t do something for them? Ex./ If I don’t do the dishes within a time frame she wants it done, it’s hell and sometimes it gets to the point where she’s saying the relationship isn’t going to work. She claims I don’t care but I’ve done nothing but try to learn how to not make her mad. All I’ve gotten out of it is that I have to just deal with her treating me poorly or leave. That’s the options she gives me. I’m honestly just stuck. My whole life I’ve been taught not to deal with people disrespecting me but now I’m supposed to be okay with it.. 
HELP