I'm seeing a recurring issue looking back at ppl I loved: I became obsessed with their exes (typically the last 1 right before me). It starts as being jealous and it grows into curiosity, sometimes obsessiveness with time. 

I think I have this problem bcuz the ppl I get involved with like to share a lot about their past relationships (I don't) so immediately that piques my interest. But most importantly, I realize it's a self-esteem issue for me bcuz a part of me will let myself believe that the ex was better than me in this or that way, despite me only knowing limited things about her. But other times I'm just intrigued and feel the need to know more about her even though purportedly there's no longer any contact between her &amp; guy on my side. I'm gonna need to work on that for sure. 🤐

Was wondering if you've had similar experiences.