So I'm a male, 22 years old. For the last few months I have been texting with a girl, a good friend of mine (we share a history).

Every time we text my mind goes from obsessing over her to ignoring her. This switch happens randomly.

One moment I'm checking her *last seen* status on Messenger, looking if she's ignoring me. Anxiously waiting for a response. Wondering if I did something wrong perhaps. For example thinking *"Maybe I'm not interesting enough to talk to anymore?".*

Then before I know it I'm suddenly not interested anymore. I just want to ignore her text messages. I wait to text her back until I'm feeling like it. Kind of get avoidant for a few hours. For example thinking *"Meh, why would I even bother texting her"*.

Then suddenly I feel like texting and I'm all over her messages again and obsessing out of my skull.

What the hell is wrong with me? I know "normal people" also have these kind of moments they're not feeling like texting. But I'm usually experiencing it a few times a day. That's definitely not what people define "normal".

The switch from positive to negative can be because of my own thoughts/delusions, *"I get a feeling she's ignoring me, alright, fuck you and your messages"*. But it can also happen completely random. Like some kind of switch in my head.

It's driving me insane. It has happened to every girl I get in touch with frequently.

Does anyone else experience this? Anyone overcome it yet?

I want to be like a normal person, you know. I don't want the opposites, I want to be in-between. Not obsessive, but also not avoidant. I want to be stable.

By the way, this also kind of happens in real life.

1) I really want to interact with the person.

2) I really don't want to interact with the person.

Is it going to be like this for the rest of my life?

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