My boyfriend and I have bpd. I am going through the " needy" cycle I guess and he wants time apart. This is killing me. I would like go know is there a way to detach emotionally? Or limit the intense feeling? I dont want to care as much as I do because it becomes selfish and doesnt allow him time to cool down. Is it possible? I can't see how it is...but maybe someone has insight as to distracting ones self ...? 