Hello!
 
I recently reconnected with this guy that I had been friends with years ago and we've both made it very clear we're attracted to each other, we've also hung out and called a lot. This is all great and I'm very happy! But here's my problem: I've been ghosted, manipulated and ab*sed many times, so I have a tendency to believe that he may only want me for sex or attention (even though he's definitely NOT that type of guy). Some days he doesn't want to call because he's tired or just wants alone time, which I fully understand, yet in the back of my head I'm always hearing "he doesn't like you" or "he's lost interest", even though he's made it very clear he likes me and might want to pursue something.

How do I deal with this sort of black/white thinking? I seem to have the rational thoughts, but the anxious and fearsome thoughts always seem to triumph.