I wrote a [longer post](https://www.reddit.com/r/BPD/comments/g9idhq/how_do_you_separate_your_bpd_from_your_own/), but it might have been too long to get traction. 

I find that I have a high standard for fidelity in romantic relationships. I understand that zealously guarding a relationship against corrosion of the relationship / abandonment is classic BPD. 

Do you find yourself holding a partner (and possibly also yourself) to a standard of fidelity that is abnormally high by modern western standards? How do you distinguish your innate, subjective values from BPD symptoms? 

I would really appreciate your thoughts!