I am seeing this guy since 2020 NYE, it was full of up and downs, he lives in another city and we have been travel to see each other.

Until recently I just thought that he didn’t care about me and had my time valuation and devaluation him since I’ve met him, but last month (few weeks after we saw each other), he said that he loves me, like real likes me but is confused in how we would work out because of the distance.

Since I was going to travel to see him anyway I told that we could talk face to face and decide. Since then, he is been teeling me that he loves me, calling me “my love” “dear”, being open with his friends about hos feelings towards me, as if he is willing to go through it!

But if we start something or even before I do have the responsability to tell him, I must protect him and myself, and principally tell him about everything in order to not trigger anything and we work together.

But how do I tell? How do I even explain? And how can I avoid all the stigma and bias? If he reads about BPD on internet it will be terrible because My BPD is very controlled and in a very functional level.