Both my girlfriend and I struggle with BPD (idk if this is relevant but we've only been together 2 weeks).  I asked her whether she wanted to sleep over and she explained that she isn't ready for that. If she asked me the same question (whether she wanted me to sleep at her house) I'd probably say the same thing... so why do I feel upset that she doesn't want to sleep over, even though I actually understand? I feel upset and scared that she doesnt want to stay over, I feel like this is the beginning of the end if that makes sense... I'm trying to rationalise my thoughts but I'm hoping someone here could maybe help out?