Hello, 
Not sure if this is the correct place but I feel that any minute I will explode. I'm having very conflicted feelings connected with supporting depressed friend and I would like na advice on what to do with IT. My friend Is struggling with depression for around 5 years on and off. She changed her job to do what she wants, took cats in, takes medication, goes to therapy. Nothing helps. IT does not help that she recently devorced her husband and Is broke due to huge morgage. She Is really suffering. Yet she Is also often inconsiderate with me, cancells every second meeting, borrowed money and did not give back and often when I want to talk abt. something important for me, she just switches off and plays with cats for example. I AM trying to help her for long time already. It involves prioritizing her over my rest very often, coming to her apartament just to kick her out of the bed and make her eat, taking mental burden, making last minute changes to plans and going through the whole city because she needs company. And then when I come she is basically fully concentrating on cats. I tried to talk to her saying how this feels and she was very sorry. She tries hard now but today she again cancelled last minute. I know she is sick. But I feel like I grow more and more resentful and have no idea what to do about IT. I also feel that she is basically following her hobby and does not take more work but then she expects that I will borrow her money. I know how unfair I AM because she cannot work more now but ... I have more and more impression that she just likes this state on some level. I do not want to lose a friend but I will if I will not get over these feelings soon.