My(20f) best friend (20f) have been close to each other for seven years. There were a lot of ups and downs, especially in the last few years before I was diagnosed with Bipolar 2. She was there for me during a lot of bad times, family issues and mood cycling. 

This past weekend I drove a couple hours to visit her at school and I got a hotel for two nights. We made this plan together a month before, and she was going to stay with me in the hotel. The second night she decided to stay at a different friend’s house (someone she goes to school with), and I got upset. I told her I felt like she was being inconsiderate and she agreed and apologized, but it felt sort of halfhearted, and she gave me a lot of reasons why she had to see that friend (she hadn’t seen him for a week but I hadn’t seen her for months). 

Today she told me that for the past year there has been a lot less energy in our conversations and she doesn’t know how to start them. I was diagnosed and medicated one year ago this month. I get where she’s coming from, because I have become less manic, but it’s really starting to feel like that energy was what she liked most about me, and it is kinda breaking my heart. 

She doesn’t ask me about my personal life. She expects me to be excited about everything, and always making plans for big adventures. I know that we’ve grown up, I know we can’t expect the energy we had as kids, but I feel used. Or that the behaviors I don’t have as much of are what matter most about me. 

I care a lot about her, and it feels like she’s forgotten who I am. Has anyone gone through something similar? I could really use advice on this.