Hey everyone, 
So I’ve just started seeing someone for the first time in 4 years. I’ve been doing really well I’m my recovery and have eliminated most of not all destructive behaviours. 
But now I’m struggling with managing not splitting/idealising this person. I find it difficult to tell if im just in a neutral state or idolising but I can definitely tell when im splitting. 
I don’t know how to manage this, I figure that this is starting to happen as im afraid of what will happen to me if things go good then go bad and end. I don’t want to get bad again so im so scared to be vulnerable. 
Any advice/experiences/support would be amazing.