Recently diagnosed with BPD and still very much figuring everything out.  

Am I allowed, or should I tell my FP that they are my FP?

On one hand it seems like the right thing to do.  As I have always been big on being open and honest about mental health, and I feel they kinda deserve to know so that they can better understand what is going on with me in my head.

On the other hand, it seems like a really really huge burden to make someone aware of... like, 'hey by the way, your actions and how you interact with me are going to be held to an unattainable standard, and when you do fail or something goes wrong I will be plunged into a horrendous spiral of self hate and loathing, as well as lash out at you' 

It just seems unfair and morally wrong.  While also seeming kinda necessary to maintain a healthy relationship with my FP?

Any help, advice, resources, or anything would be very very much appreciated.  

Thank you all &lt;3