It's not that he doesn't think there's a problem or that he doesn't want help; he does want to change for the better because depression/anxiety has been a problem for us for years. We discussed this a lot when we finally "officially" got together (LDR). Our history is a long story but the gist is that we've gotten "close" multiple times, only for him to pull away when things get a little serious, we don't talk for months, he eventually apologizes and says he'll change, I accept, we become close again, he leaves, etc. 

Anyways, he just needs to go to the doctor, get prescribed antidepressants (which I'm taking as well), possibly start seeing a therapist and generally get his life more in order. I'm not asking him to get a job or something (although he should), I just want him to take these simple first steps but he is avoiding it due to anxiety. I know it's not an easy task. I dread going to appointments as I hate driving and interacting with people but I still do it because I know it's necessary. When I was extremely depressed over a year ago, I went back on antidepressants I feel that they actually helped. I mean obviously I still feel shitty about myself but I don't feel as if I am completely hopeless and that life has absolutely no meaning anymore. At the time, I felt that I needed to see a therapist but it was very hard to find one that would work with my schedule and insurance. Since I saw improvements with just the medication, I don't feel that need as much so I'm not looking anymore.

So far the only improvements/changes we've made together in regards to mental health are daily walks and going to bed earlier (like, 1AM instead of 3AM, lol). I don't want to pressure or to keep bringing it up so and make him feel bad so I feel like all I can do is wait for him to do it but I don't know how long I can wait because tbh things can't stay like this long term. When I bring it up, he agrees that he should be working on it, or that he will that week, or that he feels bad about not having done anything but because it makes him so anxious he wants to keep avoiding it.

I'm worried about my future (financial/family-wise) and I'm very far behind than where most of my peers are career-wise. I'm currently doing a little part time online work while searching for a job. Other than that, I spend all day on the PC, and I don't feel good about being a degenerate for most of my life. He also spends all his day on the PC and gave up the online job search after like 1 day. This lifestyle obviously isn't going to be sustainable and idk how long it can keep up...