My husband (35m) is undiagnosed bipolar. He has had ups and down our entire marriage (6 years). We used to travel for work, as we moved around he had friends that he worked with and he always seemed happy. We have 3 kids. On off days if he was at home he laid around a lot and acted tired but if a friend called to do something he’d all the sudden be happy and ready to go. We are now stationary as he decided he wanted to settle down. The first month he was happy but now he is depressed unless he is at work. He doesn’t want to spend time with me or the kids and always says that I am “the reason no one wants to be his friend anymore” which isn’t true bc I have never got in the way of his friendships. We do not have a babysitter so date night is non existent for us, but our sex life is great. He and I are fine but his depression is killing me. My kids are starting to notice and keep asking me what’s wrong. Is there a certain type of personality disorder that someone is depressed unless they are with friends? Are we just not the family for him? I am confused and don’t know if maybe me leaving will lead him on the road to being happy again?