Why do people with BPD seems to run away when their partner or someone close to them experiences tragedy of sadness? It seems that the two people with bpd I have dated ran away when I experienced huge personal loss and tragedy. At the moments I most needed them they dissociated and distanced from me. As if I had the plague. For being sad. And having grief. Why is this? It’s almost like she thought she would catch my sadness from me. So she went ice cold on me. Why do they do this and can they manage to stop it?