Hey guys. So my mom has BPD and thanks to her I have it as well (got diagnosed a while ago). I started therapy and distanced myself from her. I am now in a really healthy relationship with a guy. He is a wonderful kindergartener, gamer, musician and an overall stable and grown up man. We were dating dor 4 months before we decided to officially be a couple. (I wanted to get better at living with bpd and he just got out of a bad relationship). 
My mom called me and said that she has a bad feeling. He waited so long to make it official and he is from another world. 
Yes and thats the point. No, he isn't perfect, no one is, but he is an adult. 
She never had a stable relationship and all her children tend to walk away from her. She doesn't have a job or proper education. She always complains about life but wont do anything about it. 
I am studying to become a social worker and am able to build a healthy life wich she isn't able to do, so why should I take her advice?

I feel like alot of people with BPD experience things like this. And I wanted to share this to remind you (and myself) that we are doing this for us. We are getting better at living with BPD for us, our future and the people we love. 
Please do whats best for you. Keep going. I love all of you💕