OP: "For the first time in my four years of having therapy I have a male therapist. At first I was really resistant to that, just because I thought it would be weird talking to him about intimate things between my partner of three years and I. I've been seeing this therapist since August 2017, and recently he asked me to email him every day once I'd completed my daily mood tracking cards and food diary (I had issues with completing them, so emailing him was incentive). At first I just emailed him a couple of pictures off the internet that said "done", but then I decided to turn it into a creative exercise (I'm a graphic designer so I gravitate towards that stuff).

But I've noticed that this simple act of emailing him something personal that I've created, every day, has caused me to grow a weird emotional attachment. I keep checking my phone every day constantly to see if he's emailed back. I keep looking out for him when I'm in group (I'm in a four day a week therapy programme). I think about him a lot, but not in THAT way. A friend of mine suggested that maybe he's become an FP (favourite person).

So, I wanted to know, has anyone else FP'd their therapist? What have you done about it? How did you bring it up with them, if at all (especially if they're of the opposite sex)?

NOTE: I've been with my boyfriend for three years and fully intend to marry him. This attachment to my therapist isn't romantic at all. Just bloody annoying."

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UPDATE: This week I was able to bring this subject to my therapy group, and I was really validated in my thoughts and emotions surrounding this thing. I was still being really eaten up with guilt about these thoughts though, because even though they weren't romantic thoughts, I still felt like I was being unfaithful to my partner. So that night I told him how I was feeling, and he was super okay with it. He said, "I'm not surprised you're feeling this way, because I know you've shut yourself off to having any emotional attachments with anyone other than me and your family, so these thoughts are completely normal." And I'm really grateful that he didn't take it the wrong way and that he was so nice about it. I'm still yet to tell my therapist these feelings, but a lot of the anxiety is gone because I really worried about what my partner would think.

Also this week my mind is obsessing a little bit less, and I think I'm moving past putting my therapist on a pedestal. He's still the best therapist I've had, and I'm dreading when I finally have to graduate from the programme because I won't see him as a therapist anymore, but for now things are a little better.