It’s something I used to do with my stepsister bc no one ever listened to me and she would always come to me with her problems and not listen to advice and I just found if I got mad at her she would listen instead of just ignoring what I said over and over again.

I got out of that habit, helps that I don’t have contact with my family anymore, but I’m finding that I’m starting to do it again to my bf. I feel awful after doing it but it feels like the only way to get him to listen sometimes and I hate myself for it.

I feel so manipulative and I fucking hate it.