anybody else feel like every psychiatrist is mean to them?

my first one told me i was never going to get married (i was like 15 and just there for panic attacks. she stated this after pointing out my obsessive-compulsive tendencies).
my second one told me it’s fine to be in an abusive relationship and i should just go ahead and be in one
because that seems like what i want.
the third one (i’ve seen her three or four times) went on a long rant yesterday about how i make our appointments last so long and everything is dramatic with me and i’m completely unstable...this was after i came in pretty subdued and told her how glad i was about making progress in dbt. her words were so hurtful (she kept talking, even as i had a panic attack)—and when they come from a medical professional, they’re even worse.

is it just me or is it tough to find a psychiatrist who realizes they can’t make such harsh judgments on a person they’ve only known for a few minutes?