Or even social anxiety too. Sounds stupid I know, but I am currently trying to find a girl to talk to who lives near me in nj and every single person I talk to online who has BPD or SAD I feel like completely gets and understands me where we vibe well.

 But any "normal" person I talk with comes off cold and shallow where they don't give a damn. Plus they all seem to live fuller lives compared to me where I don't really have much social experience or travel experience. 

I just want to meet someone who is on the same playing field as me where I don't have to worry about wasting my time if they judge me. What would be the best way to do this?