My previous therapist referred me to a different place so they could officially diagnose me and begin DBT treatment since she believed I had it and believed that was the best option since she doesn't have the authority to do any official diagnosing. I get to this new place and of course, because it's a new person we have to start all the way from the beginning like I have so many other times (I've been in therapy on and off since I was 6/7 and am now 18). So I try to explain everything without dragging anything on for too long since that's the kind of stuff that I no longer need to work on, I've had years to work through my childhood but she needed my history to properly understand where I'm coming from. 

I told this psychologist that it is important to me to receive the correct diagnoses and that is one of my reasons for therapy and for being here, I find comfort in knowing what I have so I can then further work on it knowing exactly what it is that I'm supposed to be working on. She tells me that she whole-heartedly agrees and that we'll get to that soon enough.

A few sessions later she hands me several pages full of questions for me to answer 1-10, she told me this was to get an idea of where I am and how I am so she can know what areas we need to work on and how to approach the DBT. Another few sessions later (no actual progress yet) she tells me that I definitely have BPD but doesn't think I need the diagnoses because apparently I have gotten this disorder from childhood experiences which makes it an outside thing and not an inside thing? None of this makes any sense to me because in my mind it doesn't matter how I got the disorder, it only matters that I have it now and that it needs to be worked through.

So now because she refuses to diagnose me I've been referred elsewhere again (after a full year of seeing this woman) for a single appointment with a psychiatrist to assess and maybe give me the official diagnoses so I can go to the correct therapy for it.