Don't get me wrong, BPD has wreaked a lot of havoc in my life. I'm constantly having an identity crisis, I've lost a lot of people I've cared about due to my BPD, and I'm constantly going from feeling like I'm on molly to being numb to being a tiny ball of rage for THE SMALLEST REASONS. That being said, I think it's easy to forget that there ARE perks, almost superpowers, that come with having BPD. 

For one, we're social chameleons! We can adapt to any social environment and get along with any kind of person from any kind of background. Many great actors have or have been speculated to have BPD. 

We're real life Ramona Flowers - manic pixie dream girls. People find us enticing. We're unpredictable, spontaneous. What everyone wishes they could be. We have this star-like quality that I think we tend to forget about because we're always so self critical.  

SUPER UNPOPULAR OPINION - I think my BPD makes me an amazing lover / partner. Some may think that my ability to change and mold into my partner's ideal is problematic, but why? I don't see it as having a lack of identity, but rather as having a FLUID identity. We can go with the flow, we're like water in that we will take the shape of whatever you put us in. As long as you find a GOOD PERSON (not a manipulative narcissist) and adopt coping mechanisms that work for you it's possible to avoid devaluing your partner. Right now I'm in an incredibly loving, passionate relationship where both me and my partner's needs are met. I screencap texts of him validating me so that if I start to freak out when he takes a while to respond to me I'm reminded that he's not going anywhere and my mind is playing cruel tricks on me. Also, I feel like individuals with BPD are amazing in bed. We're passionate, creative, &amp; people pleasers. As long as we establish boundaries and avoid selfish lovers, these qualities can be very positive. Just make sure you aren't pushing yourself to do things you aren't comfortable with for the sake of your partner and check in with yourself regularly. Am I enjoying this? Is this making me feel bad about myself? 

My BPD is becoming more and more manageable by the day. The more I meditate, workout, do yoga, invest in myself, find hobbies I love (even if I grow bored of them quickly - that's ok u guys) the better my mental state becomes. Of course sometimes I slip but that's OKAY. Don't be so hard on yourself! Progress isn't an entirely upward slope you guys :) 

Questions, comments, concerns?