Things I've tried so far include: A pros and cons list. Talking with a friend about the issues in the relationship. Remembering as many of the bad times as I could and writing in my journal about some of them. Meditating consciously on radical acceptance. Going out on a couple of dates with other women.

But it's like no matter what I try, the second I'm alone and sitting with my feelings, the unbearable, obsessive thoughts about this person return. It's getting in the way of completing my therapy assignment, applying for work, and enjoying my usual hobby. They want nothing to do with me, which fair or unfair, is something I can't change.