So recently I met a girl a work. It took me about a month to approach her. I am a rather shy kind of person. Any way we walk everyday on our lunch break and hit it pretty good. She tells me she has three kids. I am fine with it. One day she told me had a pill addiction, about 2 years ago. Again fine with that. We finally meet up outside of work and hit it off great. The kids are very well behaved, and nice. Fast forward, I interduced her to my friends, family, and some co-workers. She wrote me a letter telling me about some of the things, she had happen to her in the past. Pregnant at a young age, used meth, both parents passed away, some other messed up things. One things she doesn't like is that I drink. That is how her dad passed. 

She wrote me another letter, saying how happy I made her, great for her, and just amazing person to be around. Her and her kids would come over on the weekends and we would spend time together. Every morning we would good morning, I love you, random texts through out the day. Then all of the sudden, things changed. The texts got less and less, she hasn't been to place for more 3 hours in over a month, less and less I love yous. We have talked about our relationship, but every time she seems really uncomfortable. I am in the dark. She really is a sweet person, and want to be with her. Today she didn't show up for work, I text if she was okay. She said yeah just not coming to work. I wished a good day, I love you. Nothing else was said.

Some of my friends have told me I need to get out of the relationship, but I don't want too. I really do love her. It makes me hurt, when she is hurting. It also hurts that they don't come over any more. It seems like it is a struggle to even see her outside of work. I don't know what to do. Any advice would be helpful. Is this type of behavior natural in people with BPD? Sorry for any grammar mistakes, typing this as I walk the track at work. Thanks