Hi there my fellow anxiety sufferers.

Do I have pretty severe public speaking related anxiety.  If I do speak- I freeze up a bit, am awkward, (verbal diarrhea) don't have the right words and then I obsess over how stupid I seemed, how I could have said smtg offensive, wrong whatever.   How do you break this cycle?  What helps?! Do you have books you'd recommend?  I tried DARE and like it in principle but it seems focused on panic attacks and not rumination.  I tried talk therapy but after a few months realized I was feeling worse.  Above all else how do you just let it go?  I keep telling myself others are too focused on self to sit arnd and think abt how dumb I am but my brain won't let that idea stick for long.

Signed- sincerely spinning wheels. Help!