My SO and I currently have 2 dogs in our care: one is our own and the other is our foster dog. Our dog is 90-95 lbs and our foster dog is 60 lbs. We feed them a high-quality dog food that requires feeding our dog 3 cups a day and our foster dog 2 cups a day, which is a measurement based on their weight.

Less than five minutes ago my SO fed the foster dog half of her food intake for the day, but instead of measuring out a perfect cup he had scooped up a heaping pile; there were pieces of kibble even falling on to the floor. This made me feel annoyed (probably because I am a perfectionist or maybe I have a minor case of OCD) and I asked him why he would feed her a heaping scoop instead of just a perfect cup like the feeding requirements suggest on the label, and he tried to say that there are spaces in between the kibble therefore he needs to compensate or something.

When I argued with him, he literally said this: "I'm not trying to be mean, but do you understand how measurement work?" I wanted to slug him in the face right there. (Yes, that is aggressive and abusive, but sometimes he is just so fucking *condescending*.) No, SO, I don't understand how measurements work because I'm just a stupid woman, right? I'm just a stupid woman with BPD and obviously I don't know nearly as much as this highly intelligent farm-boy who, like me, only has his high school degree. Sure, he may be good be good at math and know his history, but I cannot stand when he talks to me like that. We are equals when it comes to intelligence, because where I lack in mathematics and history lessons, he lacks in the understanding of grammar and psychology.

But, no. I'm inferior. "I've fed a lot of animals before," he says. Right. You've fed *soooo* many animals, therefore it makes sense that you completely ignore the label.

P.S.— I know that this rant is over-dramatic and pointless, but I have BPD so my whole life is basically over-dramatic and pointless. It just feels better to get my feelings out in the open; I may even delete this post soon.