i have a girlfriend with bpd and our relationship isn’t always stable. we’ve been together for 2 years and 2 months. her parents lived in alert for around 5 years and her parents moved to back to ontario because work got slow for her stepdad and she wanted to stay with me in alberta. she ended up having second thoughts and is now moving back because she was getting extremely depressed. she wasn’t eating, showering, leaving my room, or basically doing anything. my plan is to move to ontario in january after i save some money to be able to live comfortably at her house without feeling like i’m free loading (helping out/ paying rent) my concerns are that her mom might dislike me as things have been rough with her in alberta and she would call or text her mom about our arguments and what not. is it a stupid idea to move across canada? (i’m madly in love with her and her and i want to make this work) 

another thing... i’m not good at making decisions this is what i made this post. anyt response will help.