Hi all! I am looking for some advice on maintaining and continuing to grow my friendship with my roommate who has BPD. We have lived together for many years and have talked a lot about her BPD and manic depression. About a month ago, her boyfriend left for a 3 month motorcycle road trip with his father. Since then, she has continued to work full time (very proud of her for this! it is a big step for her to keep to this schedule. she has been on disability for many years and this is the first time she's been back to full time work since I've known her) but our friendship has become strained in a number of ways. She picks fights with me (I sometimes feel like a lightning rod for her emotional overflow), is super critical about small things like a single hair in the bathtub drain, and she has started to (not sure exactly how to characterize this behavior) be in my space: I'll start to make dinner in our kitchen and she'll choose that as the time to clean the fridge, take out the trash, wash counter tops (while I am prepping a meal on them). I'll be getting ready for work and that will be when she decides to take a long shower. I'll be on the phone and that will be the time when she wants to discuss rearranging the living room. I have been establishing and keeping good boundaries, mostly by just staying busy myself and giving her plenty of room. What are some good ways to remain supportive without fueling her illness? How can I be a good roommate during this time that is especially difficult for my friend? 