Good morning everyone,
I just wanted to share my story, hoping to find some suggestions or support towards a situation I'm really struggling with in the last years.

Five years ago, I met a twenty years old girl in a party that I truly liked - after a small chat with her, I discovered that she had no home of his own, since she has a very troubled relationship with her parents (his father was in prison for things he did to get and her mother gave the blame of the whole "accident" to get daughter).

I was seven years older than her and, at the time, I lived with my mother in a very big house. Me and my mother talked about it and decided to give her the opportunity to move in our house. She became my girlfriend and then our relationship, after two years, slowly fell into brother&amp;sister since we kept loving each other, in a way, even thought we understood that there was no romance anymore between us.

The problem is:
After five years, during which we did everything we could to help her get back to school and tried our best to give emotional and financial support - therapist included - she is still unable to get up from the bed for anything that doesn't involve enjoyable experiences or activism.

Everytime me and my mother try to motivate her to work a little bit on this aspect of her life, especially since our bank account isn't exactly shiny anymore, her depression and frustration spirals out of control, often expressing hate for herself through self-harm, making us feel responsible in the process - sometime blaming me behind my mother's back for not being able to understand how she feels.

My mother is feeling more and more frustrated by this situation and I'm feeling in the middle of many fires, with a very important girl I'm trying to save on one side, my mother who's starting to see her as the main reason why my life is stuck and my own personal guilt for everyone involved.

My strength is failing and after five years I'm slowly starting to feel in a checkmate with every possible solution giving me more harm and discomfort than I can bear...