Hi I’m F (16) and my Brother (21) has completely stopped talking to me because i bleached my hair blonde. i have posted this story once on r/Dysfunctionalfamily but I wanted to post it on here because something is definitely wrong with him. When we went into lockdown I decided to bleach my hair blonde and it actually turned out quite nice. My Brother didn’t like it though... He completely ignores me! like I don’t exist! He said stuff along the lines of i have no self respect, no confidence ect. 

My dad talked to him about why he isn’t talking to me and my Brother said that I’m going through a dark phase right now and we just have to wait til i mess up my life again so everything goes back to normal.

yesterday and today me, my dad and my brother had talk at breakfast. My dad really want to resolve this, I‘m open to talking but my brother keeps wanting to change the subject and pretends he doesn’t hear anything. At one point he said that I am turning into a kind of person that he has always hated and that it’s so hard not being able to recognize his sister anymore. My dad asked if it was because i bleached my hair. My brother said that that’s a “symptom” of it

At the end of the conversation my Dad told us how hard it has been on him that we haven’t been talking and my brother showed no remorse.

I’m open to have a discussion but I don’t know how to approach this. I want to be able to express myself with my appearance and have noone hate me for it!

this can’t be normal!?