Hi! So Im not diagnosed with bdp but I share some traits. Also I have a bdp exboyfriend and have been reading up on the subject for a looong time. 

Reading peoples resentment to everyone(!!) with bdp is wild to me. Its 2017. Mental health awarness has come a long way but not really. 

I am truly sad to hear about the stereotypes of bdp manipulators, liers, cheaters and violent aggression. This doesnt go for all. We hear those stories over and over again from those who need support (for good reason) but with such a scary stigma, the quiet bdp's will stay quiet, probably with alot of shame. 

I used to say "I will never date a bdp again" but I was uninformed and hurt. I know now that its about the individual, not the diagnosis. 

Hugs to you all - empathic, overthinking, loving people that I know you are.