I used to have DBTs with a charity for 6 months in 2019 and by the end of the therapy programme, I was living with a girl for roughly 2 months. I firmly believe we were infatuated in love and this was also her first ever romantic relationship. She was v dedicated in our relationship but as the time went I was noticing more I have no romantic feelings for her. And so I explained &amp; ended the relationship. She suffers from anxiety disorder and I remember her doing CBTs with the council therapists(?) at the time if I remember correctly.

The charity provides free support services &amp; facilities to their graduates after 6 months of DBT and they’ve been releasing new ‘mindfulness videos’ on YouTube regularly since global pandemic. But she’s in these videos, almost all of them. Also illustrating DBT exercises to make instagram posts through the charity. I’d like to believe that she’s working close with them since she has her own mental health issues (not BPD however). I’ve relocated to an EU country recently so I’m looking for different help &amp; support here but I don’t get it since the last thing she said after our break up was that I traumatised her. 

I just want to get on with my new life here and continue to get better.  I ignored all updates from the charity cause she’s actively everywhere there. I was constantly told to join these Zoom meetings by the new Programme manager so I mentioned this to her and 3 days later, still got no replies 🤷🏻 

I feel annoyed that she’s lingering in my horizon whether it be intentional or non-intentional. Is this a valid emotion to feel? The issue with this charity is that they give 0 fucks about people who can’t follow up on DBT, especially if it hasn’t worked for them. 

This isn’t relevant to the point but I recall the male therapist getting defensive when I asked for Schema therapy instead of DBT after thorough research.