I suffer from very severe OCD and live in a country where assisted suicide has become available to mentally ill/disabled people and am pursuing this avenue with some help from my former psychiatrist and my GP.   


One thing that is bothering me is that I had an intense friendship with a man with quiet BPD who I've been sort of mourning and missing since an abrupt "discard" months ago. I struggled not to repeatedly reach out to him every month, but lately have been doing better with that.  Now I am concerned with what to do in this situation.    


So far only my mother and three other people are aware that I've made this choice and that I'm taking steps to put everything in order while going through the approval process. One of the other three has apparently told their partner (which didn't surprise me too much), but made me start to worry that this is eventually going to reach him before I'm gone. Also, now I'm worrying about how he will feel after I am gone. I have letters written to certain people and goodbye conversations I plan to have, but I can't think of what to do in his case.  


Is it best to not say anything? He seems to be the type who is very indifferent after a discard, so I've been banking on the news just reaching him organically afterwards and him being fine. But, I worry with how much I reached out to him before, he'll think this was somehow his fault, which it isn't at all.