I started seeing a new psychologist a few days ago and after she heard what I had to say, she asked if I'd like to work on becoming more emotionally independent. I don't know how I had never heard of this term before, but I am DeFinItely emotionally dependent on others in my life, particularly the person I'm seeing (and most other people I was dating at the time). Not so much that I go to him when I'm upset, but if he hasn't replied or something seems off with him, I'm not okay (i.e. jealous, paranoid, obsessive) and find it close to impossible to ignore it and carry on with other things (e.g. work, study or friendships) and often turn to binge drinking to cope with it. I've (finally) learnt from previous experiences to not externalise this most of the time, so THANKfully I don't think he's completely aware of this. On the other hand, as soon as I hear back from him and things seem okay, I switch back to being happy and I can continue on with my life (until I don't hear from him for a while again). I feel obsessed and so useless for being this way... I actually can't remember a time when I wasn't like this when I was completely head over heels for someone. 

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I reeeally hope these new sessions will help me overcome this... Has anyone managed to get over this and what helped? Is it possible when you're dating someone?