Not this group, I’ve honestly not really been part of this group. But I’m finding that other groups I’ve been in for BPD are such a turn off.

I’ve seen people completely place all blame on the sufferer. If you confess to a mistake or even do something that’s not quite right, people are FAST to place the blame on the person and scorn them for their symptoms. I’ve not experienced too much stigma in my life but BPD groups can be shocking. I’ve had people yell at me “You’re sick!!!” Gee thanks! Or “Wow, you’re a grown woman.” Duh. I’m emotionally immature, I’m aware that I make mistakes and do things the wrong way. I’m open to constructive criticism but they are so harsh!! 

I just don’t find much support in BPD groups. Symptoms are seen as your fault, they say “Stop playing the victim!” and I’m honestly really tired of people seeing DBT as the end all, be all. And if it doesn’t work for you, it’s your own fault. If you can’t access DBT or other programs, it’s your own fault. You should be willing to commute a couple hours to find a program or therapist. No excuses.

Are all BPDers like this? It’s so discouraging. In other mental health groups, your problems are seen as symptoms, something to work on... but it’s not your fault. It’s understood that you live with a mental illness beyond your control and you are trying to gain control. People help in other groups. But BPD groups for some reason place the blame and the weight of the illness on the person. I had to remove myself from groups because it is so discouraging and unhelpful.

Are all BPD groups like this? What is with BPD groups and being really unaccepting of a persons situation and issues? Anyone else have this experience?