I’m just wondering about this because my girlfriend with BPD has this friend (who also has BPD) that she texts every day. She talks to him about the majority of our arguments, sends him screenshots of our text arguments, etc. In fact, she doesn’t really talk about me at all outside of our fights.

Other than that, they talk every day about things going on in their lives, things they’re excited about, worried about, the bad things, good things (besides pretty much anything to do with me, apparently). They send a ton of long messages to each other and I’ve even seen hearts in them. 

I’ve talked to her about this because I was really worried about it, she said I have absolutely nothing to be worried about because he’s bi and has been with a man for about ten years. She says they’re emotional support for one another and she talks to him about a lot mental health things she doesn’t want to talk to me about because she feels like she can’t come to me... 

I guess I’m wondering if it sounds like this guy is her favorite person rather than me?