I want to get into a relationship! There is this guy at work, we work on the same floor. My colleague said he looks kinda arrogant. He is handsome, tall, always wears black, listens to black metal. There are some flirtatious vibes when we pass by each other. We look at each other longer than normal, and every time I come to the kitchen to have a glass of water I look at his desk and he notices me staring at him. I am scared this is inappropriate. Sometimes I notice him staring at me from a distance. Why do I feel like he is so attractive but might be narcissistic and might hurt me? He looks very insecure. Does the fact that I would be extremely scared to open up to him make me even more interested in him? He is my type of guy, but normally I would hang out with older guys, when I am with older guys I am not afraid to open up to them, be myself, have sex in every possible position and am not scared how I look. I feel like he would not like me after some time, he would 'figure me out'... I would never consider hanging out with him. If someone cheated on me and left me it would be too painful.  

I really liked what Alain de Botton said on falling in love. We fall in love with those who are as crazy as we are, at the same level of craziness, because whenever we have 'normal' partners compared to ourselves we deem those relationships boring.