I’ve been reading through this forum the past few days seeking insight into what it’s like to have BPD. My mom has it and it’s caused her a lot of distress throughout her life.

As a little girl, I didn’t understand where here rageful episodes came from. They scared me, but I also had immense empathy for her.

Now I’m nearly 30 and my mom has made little to no progress. She has traumatized my little sister in much worse ways than me and I am angry about it. My sister deserves better. I probably did too.

Anyways, I’m at the point where I’ve been distancing myself from my mom because I take moral issue with the fact she’s never sought help, despite harming all of her loved ones (and she’s started raging on random strangers much more frequently too). 

I’ve had to work on many issues (anorexia, anxious attachment, anxiety) in my life and I have. I’ve put the work. I’ve sought out the resources. Why can’t she do the same?

I understand she has a mental illness. I guess I’m just wondering what others with BPD would reccomend I do to help/love her going forward without being dishonest or enabling toxic behavior.