Dating this person for a few months - not long - but they speak often of ‘triggers’ and having problems with anxiety, anger, racing thoughts. I am not an expert on BPD but someone trying to understand it and the behaviours/processes. 

We went to her sister’s house and she blew up at me because she perceived my mood to be ‘off’. She ranted to her sister how miserable I’d been, then turned to me and asked me to leave. I left. I’d not been doing anything while this was going on; I’d been sitting on the sofa. 

She broke up with me after that; she’s broken up with me before because of anger, and come back after a period of time. Anyway. We had a phone call, she asked for a few days to calm down. 

I left it a week and contacted her today. 

I messaged her asking her how she was feeling. She just replied with “I told you not to message me” - I replied that I was just worried, and left it at that. She hasn’t responded. I had left t a few days as she’d asked, but hey.

She isn’t attending university, and seems to have withdrawn. I’m obviously quite hurt at all of this; but at the same time, I’d like to know whether this sort of uncontrollable anger and isolation is something that is common amongst people with BPD?

What should I really do, in this situation? It’s likely that she will come to university and avoid me (she’s done that before) but I care about her and want to resolve this, but right now I feel as if she hates me - even though a mere few days ago she was madly in love with me.

