I know how exhausting certain conversations can be for some people but i’ve been asking him to have a conversation with me just so I can have closure. I know closure is overrated but it would really help me heal. I’ve been having a lot of difficulty staying away from him ever since I found out he’s been dating someone secretly after not telling me. He’s really good at manipulating me (lol) with sob stories and Idk what it is, it always ends with me apologizing to him. Anyways, a few days ago we decided to stay friends but I ended up snapping and blocking him on everything except text where I sent him a we need to talk text to which he replied “not now, i’m not in the headspace for it”. This was three days ago and I feel like i’m going to explode but I don’t want to send him a long letter because it seems pathetic and i’ll never know if he read it or just deleted it. I even told him it’s taking a huge mental toll on me and he refuses to respond because, well he sucks. I keep splitting  about him, idealizing him one second and hating him the other. Not sure how to get him to converse without having to send a default letter.