**Easy Timeline:**

12/18- flew in to stay with me

12/26- drove him 800 miles to his home

12/28- he screamed at me

1/03- I sent brief apology message using DBT

1/05- he sent a "I appreciate the  apology, but doesn't change anything, so don't respond, I need space"

1/19- I sent a follow-up message, letting him know, using DBT skills, how he affected me, instead of not saying anything. The ONLY reason I did was because of how much I had bent over backwards doing, letting him give COVID to me, essentially, and keeping him safe, while also driving him, etc.

1/23- Found out I had to have urgent surgery so attempted to text, but he had blocked me

1/25- I emailed him, letting him know I knew he blocked me and if he wants to go his own way, that's fine, but thought he should know I should have surgery, since he told me after he screamed "don't tell me anything unless its an emergency". But also, said it in a non-codependent way. The codependency is nearly gone.

1/26- he called me and said "we are not friends now or in the near future, but I don't know what future holds". Not once, but twice, he called. But, I could hear parts of his heart when we were solid friends coming out, but his anger is consuming him at the moment

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My FP said, "We are not friends now or in the near future, but I don't know what the future holds" after I calmly and normally let him know how his screaming and behaviors affected me over text. He was extremely one-sided and all he cared about was "his-space" and since I stood up to him 3 weeks after he sent me a text saying "don't respond to this message; I need space", he got mad. All I said in the message was that okay, I understand you need space, so respond whenever you would like, but I just need to let you know how I feel about when you screamed at me. DBT therapist approved.

When he had screamed at me, I did not know how to react so I cried. He screamed at me because I was being "sarcastic". This was AFTER I had bought his plane ticket, taken care of him at my home while he was sick, and drove him 800 miles home. At his home, two days later, he blew up at me and I had to drive back that same day.

I always felt like I needed the friendship so much, I blamed myself, but after introspection, he contributed majorly to this incident and I have yet to receive a thank you or an apology, even a month later. He is breaking up with his GF rn, but there is no excuse to scream at anyone.

I care about him AND I do not appreciate how he treated me, even after I apologized. Its all about him right now and I am not saying anything else to him. He will contact me when he wants to.

But, now, the FP is gone and I am just caring about him as another human. I hope he is okay because he has NEVER done this in the past three years. He's forgiven me before, so I am forgiving him, but hope he is okay.

Any suggestions? I am struggling with anger right now because of how badly and spoiled he acted and mad with myself for letting him scream at me and not at least standing up for myself. He screamed at me in his car and it made me extremely uncomfortable. He has never done this before, ever. He has a loving heart and it breaks mine to see him act this way.