Hi everyone, 
My sister has BPD diagnosis. We have a very strained relationship. We used to be very close but she told me (and every other relative) to stay out of her life after she was suicidal and I tried to get her help. She comes back every once in a while and apologizes then leaves again. It is so hard. I love her and want to be there for her but the lies and blaming everyone else for her problems make it hard. I have finally learned I can no longer call her out when she says something that isn't true or try to explain my side of things because it makes things worse. I feel like I am walking on eggshells and just waiting for her to get mad and disown us again. I don't know what to do. I love her so much and it hurts so bad when she isn't in my life but it hurts when she is in it too.