I've recently come to strongly suspect that I have BPD. I've had a PTSD diagnosis for a while, but when I learned about Quiet BPD, I thought that did a lot better job explaining all of the pain I've had all my life and all my trouble getting along with people. 

I asked my therapist if she thought I might have it. At first, she said no, but a month later after having more issues I gave some more reasons why I thought I could have it and she gave me this knowing look, like she was acknowledging what I am saying. She said there is no need to put labels on myself, that I could give my problems that label if it helped me but that I didn't need to. 

I am in the process of going through a DBT workbook with my therapist (this was my idea because I know my problem is with emotional regulation), so I am proceeding with treatment as if it were BPD. 

I guess I'm just confused here because my therapist is leaving it up to me if I want to identify as having BPD or not. I think my therapist was nonverbally agreeing that I did meet the criteria but didn't want to say it? I just don't know what to do. On one hand, identifying as having BPD would help it make sense why I have had so much pain and strife in my life. On the other hand, the idea of having a personality disorder is a really scary thought. I don't think it's something I could really share with anyone given how stigmatized it is, I can see that in other places on reddit they talk about us like we were monsters or something. 

I'd very much appreciate it if any of you had thoughts on the pros or cons of thinking yourself as having BPD. Thank you.