My best friend is not old enough to find help on their own or pay for therapy. And they also don’t acknowledge that they need professional help, probably because they grew up in a household where they didn’t talk about mental health issues. 

They have stated before that they’re uncomfortable when they have to deal with MY mental health issues, because they don’t really know what to do. 

I’m also worried that they’re being even more so negatively impacted because of my emotional outbursts and problems I’m dealing with. I think I’m amplifying their own issues by being confrontational about their issues, and trying to resolve them, but they don’t know how to because they’re not used to it. 

Their parents don’t really like me either. But it’s gotten so bad that I think I might have to reach out to the more amiable of the two secretly. Is it bad that I’m considering going behind my friend’s back? Their behavior is escalating, but they’re also e x t r e m e l y secretive, and if they find out I contact their parent, they could get really mad and cut me off.