it feels like i see people say things like "if you can't do anything about it, why worry?" all the time but it doesn't help me at all. a lot of the time, the most anxiety *comes* from having no control over the problem. it just feels like impending doom and that i can't do anything about it makes it worse.

i don't find this advice helpful and it's hard to believe other people with anxiety disorders would like that to be said to them.