Hi! I have BPD and know that I split on people but usually don't recognize it. Last night I caught myself as it started to happen. My FP has a new girlfriend and has been, understandably, spending all of his time with her. I'm happy for them both, but have really been struggling with abandonment. Last night, for no real reason, I could almost feel the downward spiral of thoughts and emotions. All the way down to "I hate you, fuck you, bye." Instead of trying to suppress these feelings, I sat there with them. I was able to see that this wasn't the case and everything I had just felt and thought was invalid. It felt like a little win and frankly I need it.