The past several weeks I've been in "start a fight over stupid things" mode with my girlfriend, but I've been restraining myself and trying not to get upset over small things (we are both women, currently in an LDR while in grad school). I know it's unwarranted, and it's over small things like her not giving me enough attention (to my standards), or taking too long to respond to texts, or other small things. The thing is, I feel so bad getting annoyed about these things. I feel bad and manipulative when I bring these things up with her, because I know she is trying her best and it's just my extreme emotional sensitivity that's making it feel so bad. 

But I also cannot get over even small things easily. So my annoyance and frustration just keep building because in my head, she isn't acknowledging that she did something "wrong" (which she really didn't)/that I'm upset. Even though I never told her....see how messed up of a cycle this is?

Yesterday something minor happened that felt substantial enough to make me feel comfortable to say "hey, you did this and it hurt me," and her response felt very much like a brush-off. Now it's the next day and I'm still upset, mostly for no reason, just because I'm frustrated and stressed about life during quarantine (plus I'm job hunting right now which is a nightmare) and I'm taking it out on her.

Not really looking for advice, just venting, but if you have any advice I'd take it. I have a therapy appointment on Tuesday so I'll probably bring this up. But hopefully I can figure something out before then. It's just upsetting and frustrating to be able to recognize that my feelings and behaviors are irrational, but not know how to stop them.

TL;DR I'm mad at my girlfriend for no reason, don't want to say anything out of fear of being manipulative, but don't think I can get over it *without* saying anything.