I know this is a common thing here for most of us. I've gotten a lot better at not being upset about text delays but this one hit me hard for some reason. Here's what happened:
I started dating someone in May. We would text a lot and we still do. But I'm noticing the things that are happening less. Sex is one of them which I'm not ready to talk about at the moment. The other thing is saying goodnight/good morning. I was getting upset about it a week ago and realized I wasn't ever trying to initiate the interaction. So I started being the first one to send a goodnight and good morning. But it hasn't been working out like I hoped. I think I'm usually just too late. He works early and tries to sleep early. So I rationalized that and have been coping. But last night I asked him what he was doing. He said drinking tea and going to bed soon. Asked me if I wanted to discord video chat. I replied yes within 4 minutes of him asking. Then I never got a reply. I tried to be silly about it so last night and hour after I sent my last text I said "goodnight say it back" and he replied this morning "oops I fell asleep goodnight lol". And I read that and felt so sad because I've been upset about it all night and he is just "lol" about it. Which he should be and I know that. Inside my mind I'm demanding an apology and a promise to always tell me goodnight and good morning. I recognize this is bossy and maybe even manipulative? I want to tell him we used to tell each other every day and it makes me sad we don't anymore. But isn't it normal to slow things down? Should I even be upset about that? 
 I recognize where my feelings are coming from and I see that they are irrational. Even so, I feel awful even now. My heart has been racing since last night no matter how much I rationalize it. I'm starting to spiral and think about how pretty soon these thoughts will become more and more intrusive and I'll end up alone again by pushing him away or becoming manipulative or both or worse. I think I should tell him about my feelings to be transparent. He knows I have bpd but not sure how much he understands it. I just don't want him to think I'm being manipulative by telling him. Like I'm just whining to get my way and making a huge deal. I don't want him to feel attacked. I know it's wrong to be sad about not getting enough good morning and good night texts. Hell if someone told me that they were upset at me about that I would think they are being really self-centered. I'm obviously very nervous to say anything but if I don't then the next time it happens I'll just get sadder as if he knows what he's doing. How should I approach him? Should I approach him?