I've come to realize that I get insanely triggered if my partner has a day off and decides to sleep in. He works as a chef, so we don't often have the same days off. I like to sleep in as well, but have to get up at 11am -  else my whole body hurts. He told me multiple times how he gets more tired if he sleeps over 9h. His body hurts as well. So why sleep in so long? 

The second point thatis triggering is that stuff doesnt get done. I asked him if he could at least clean his garbage that he leaves out from the day before so that I can come home and not be met by empty food containers. I coome home at 1pm... and he usually still sleeps. 

Do you have 1. any idea why this is SO triggering for me? And 2. any idea how to communicate it in a healthy way or ideas how to help him?