I am completely opposite. Girls says im all sweet and stuff and they thought, i'm really looking for a relationship. But, for me. Its not like i dont want to take it seriously i just want to have a light relationship without defining of "mine" to each other. Then i'll got butterflies an often dont go further, once i felt they're stepping up for more. And just kill the fire. (Some would just me that i'm just playing and just using my "looks" but truth be told is ) I dont know because im scared enough of obligation to have a relationship. I did have some symptoms of performance anxiety either if its job related or sports. Because, of some trauma i received during my childhood days. Maybe it could be related ?