I think I might be in an emotionally abusive relationship, but I’m not sure what to do. I’m constantly doubting myself as I’m not sure whether this is caused by his actions and comments, by my reactions, or a combination of both. After some of my friends overheard the way he spoke to me on the phone the other day, they are trying to convince me that it’s can’t possibly just be me, as his comments were completely unprovoked. However, when I’ve tried to talk to my parents about it, they try and play it off like it’s my fault as I haven’t always been the best partner (especially before I found out I had BPD and didn’t feel like I had as much control over my emotions and reactions to things as I do now). The challenge is that they don’t see the way he treats me when we are alone, so they don’t even have the full story. 

Does anyone have any advice? I unfortunately don’t have a therapist or anything to talk to about this right now, but I’m in the process of trying to set up something.