I need advice pertaining to family members not understanding my anxiety and not being helpful but causing my anxiety to reach a peak I didn’t realize I have. 

I am painted as the wrong one when things are said and I get upset or mad. That I am too sensitive. 

I am supposed to just snap my fingers and get over my trauma. (I wish) I’ve gotten better however disrespect and being rude/mean shouldn’t have an excuse in my opinion. (My reaction to them saying something rude equals them saying I’m too sensitive)

I just feel like I am supposed to cut myself into a new puzzle piece and fit in. While they… just get use to the fact their relative is gay and she married me. 

Do you all have any recommendations on books or advice or anything to help me cope. 

I’m struggling with this and it just seems to get worse the longer it goes. Should I write “never send letters” just to get everything off my chest?

Or should I say something and potentially cause chaos because I see through their bologna?

Or just pretend everything is perfect and they’re perfect and I’m perfect because image is what we aim for. (sarcasm implied heavily) ((but this is what I feel is expected))