I am worried for them, but I am not sure what to do. I feel like a bad girlfriend, even though they said them stepping back was not a reflection of me. They seem to still want to talk to me and keep in contact. We are both first year college students and are dealing with mental health challenges. They are diagnosed with BPD and talked to me about having fear of abandonment. I struggle with fear of abandonment as well, but I don't have BPD. When they talked about their issue they had with their friends and fear of abandonment, I felt horrible because I didn't know what to say. I forgot what they said even though I was listening(I am not good at remembering verbal information, since I'm autistic). I feel bad because they said the relationship felt one-sided. They give me emotional support and I don't give them as much, that doesn't mean I don't care though. I wish I could support them more, and I wish I was good at giving emotional support. I really want to see them in a good place and I care about them. I know some of the stuff they are going through in this relationship is due to BPD, but I'm scared I'll lose them and they'll leave. I have relationship anxiety and I don't want to lose them because of this. I want to work through this with them. I wish I knew how to help them more. I'm emotionally unavailable right now because of mental health challenges. Every day is hard to get through and I find I don't have the energy to be supportive. I feel like a shitty person. I love my partner a lot and they said they still loved me after we talked. It's just that the conversations about feelings are uncomfortable for me and I want to work through that. I felt I was put on the spot when my partner asked me for my input on that situation. I can't come up with the right words to say and I don't want to lose them.