So I am back with my SO after breaking up with them. They were going to join the military in a few months, and it was a new relationship (1 month). I wasn't sure if I could do long distance so I ended things. But I realized in the 2-3 days we were broken up that I'd like to try to stay in contact with them regardless. 

So we're together again, and of course things feel different a week later. They feel more distant. I asked them and they said the ideal was gone so they're trying to figure things out.  This crushed me because I keep thinking back to how things used to be how close and affectionate they were, to now. They insist they still like me. There's a marked difference in them, though.   


Not only that, but while they were over at my place a few days ago, when I walked in on them in my room, they were on my bed on their phone. They visibly jumped and I could see them exit out of an app and clear their app history. I didn't remark on it at the time, but they jumped up and started asking me what was wrong. I was thinking and they could see that, but they didn't volunteer anything. 

In my experience, that means there's something shady going on. I intend to ask them about it but I just needed some feedback and outside thoughts.