I just started DBT, but it takes years to overcome this affliction. My SO has endured so many "episodes" (what we call them), that they are having trouble staying. Although I am on the right track to recovery, it may be a little too late for us. They have not started their therapy yet, which is strongly advised. Leaving me is the ultimate fear that is usually a self profiling prophecy with this illness, but I have always left first in previous relationships. I feel like sweating them "free" is an act of love on my part, but in truth I don't want them to leave. Any advice is welcome. Thank you.