I (f17) went into a residential and inpatient hospital for a ED for 2-3 months, and while there I was diagnosed with bpd, and suspected to have ADHD. I'll be honest, I didn't get out through recovery but through emotionally manipulating my health team there. We made a deal that I could leave without the typical requirement to finish my meals on the condition I'd go home, make my own team there (doctor, dietitian, psychiatrist, therapist) who would find a good mental health residential for me, since I was up to weight but my poor mental health was getting in the way of my recovery. My psychiatrist and therapist are the same doctor and the one making the main decisions in my team. He said, without really getting to know me first or hear out why I was supposed to go to residential, off the batt said he didn't think it'd be necessary without any explanation as to why or how he made that decision. I brushed it off because I didn't really want to go back to any sort of res anyways. But, four days ago after meeting him for a emergency appointment after having a mental breakdown and attacking my mom's boyfriend during a argument, when my mom brought up herself about the prior plans to send me to res and why (the reason was that I was out of control and supposedly because of my bpd and not knowing how to keep myself in check) he said that he doesn't think I have bpd and that they inpatient care team's entire diagnoses on needing to go to res, possibly having ADHD, and having bpd was wrong. He hadn't met with me as a therapist for more than two months, once a week yet everytime I talk about a concern of unhealthy behavior that wasn't safe to me or people around me he brushes it off and tries to find some way to rationalize, normalize, or excuse it. 

I'm honestly concerned on whether I should keep going to him, but at the same time I don't want someone who will actually bother me into having the care I need. I don't like that he treats everything I do like it's not a big deal and that most of his sessions are just lectures from a book. There aren't any other people available for me to see in my area, he was the only one who could take me in as a patient so there's not much I can do. I'm just annoyed and I don't want to feel like I'll get to the point of running away and skipping meeting with him because it's a waste of money to do so.