I asked my therapists (both psychiatrist &amp; psychologist) early on around support for the caregiver/partner of someone with BPD &amp; didn’t get much help (I guess since they specialize in treating the actual patient). Not sure if “caregiver” is the correct wording here but I’m referring to someone who’s a long term partner or someone with BPD. I’m what’s considered a person who’s high functioning BPD but we still have intense conflicts sometimes regularly then not for long periods of time. These fights take a huge toll on us both. 

A lot of the books I’ve seen out there have been criticized as being victim-blamey. He’s signed up for a caregiver support group but the waitlist is many months long.

We visited a counsellor together who had some understanding of BPD but it was not hugely helpful. My goals are:

-	Help my partner better understand how the mind of someone with BPD works, especially when flooded or during conflict
-	Help him get a better idea of how he can support me in general 
-	Help me get a better idea of how I can support him

It’s been a year since my diagnosis and I feel like it would be useful for him to get a bit more insight as the partner of someone with BPD. We still have really intense conflicts often clustered then not for awhile. He’s specifically said he feels a bit in the dark around how partners can get support &amp; learn.

Any resources or learning experiences welcomed. Thank you 🙏🏻