I'm asking as a man involved with a woman who suffers from BPD. Long story short, she's supposedly unwilling to commit, at least for now, to any sort of romantic arrangement with me because she "likes me too much". It does genuinely seem like she's attracted to me in a lot of the ways that make a relationship desirable, and I know that the chemistry we share whenever we've allowed a more romantic dynamic to happen is real. But despite recurring periods of romance, and an insistence that the closeness we share isn't casual - our default mode is friendship. I've always made my feelings for and desire to be in a relationship with her crystal clear and she's reiterated to me several times that while she does have feelings for me, she's "trying not to do anything stupid" and that any serious relationship she's ever gotten into has been founded on a solid friendship, which is a fact. (Probably worth noting we've only known eachother for 4 months)

She's been open with me about the fact that she crushes on other guys often, and she's had a couple of casual encounters in the time we've known eachother, but I shouldn't worry because I'm in "a different category" - which is an honesty I guess I'm supposed to find comfort in, but don't know if I do. But she also really wants me to meet her friends, which I DO find reassuring. I'm having a hard time fitting all these pieces together into forming a picture that makes sense to me. I want to trust her, more than anything. But it's hard not to feel like I'm being played.

To be clear, I'm not complaining. This is a situation that I've allowed myself to remain in despite the confusion. The struggle is on me. What I'm asking is if the situation falls in line with BPD patterns &amp; behavior, and if there's any insight anyone might be able to offer regarding her angle on me &amp; the situation here. I wholeheartedly appreciate any input!