I tend to wallow in my emotions so much that I get physically sick and/or act on them in ways I regret after. For example I’ve started developing bad relationship anxiety, and get caught in vicious emotional cycles of jealousy, low self esteem, and resentment toward my bf when he hasn’t done anything that really warrants such reactions. I try to contain it and not burden him with my thoughts but sometimes I can’t hide it and he knows something is wrong and I just breakdown about my insecurities with him. He reassures me and it’s fine but then something else will happen that will trigger those feelings again. When he’s not around sometimes I lay in bed all day ruminating and not eating and then maybe eventually something snaps me out of it and I move on. 

Or I’ll sometimes fixate on something I want and I can’t stop thinking about it until I get it or a new fixation comes out. For example earlier this year I really wanted a dog and I spent hours everyday looking for dogs until I finally got one. I didn’t need one but I just really really wanted one. (Don’t worry she is well taken care of, I wouldn’t have gotten if I knew I couldn’t take care of her). I couldn’t focus on anything else until I got her. 

Now I’m fixating on moving when my lease ends and I spend hours and hours looking for places obsessing over new rentals when realistically I won’t be able to move for another few months. If I stop looking I don’t feel like doing anything else and then just end up ruminating on thoughts until it turns into anxiety. Sometimes I think I do it to avoid having anxious relationship thoughts. 

Does anyone have any tips to stop overthinking and to control my impulses?