Hi there,

Not sure how this will go down, but I was wondering if I could get some advice from this community?

So here's my story, I became close with someone who I strongly believe has BPD and if I'm being critical of myself,

I'd maybe say I'm perhaps something of a narcissist. Anyway, we text a lot, deep, long conversations, instant replies

and this went on for a few weeks. Our relationship prior to this was playful in a fiery way. We started to meet up 

alone and have deep conversations and really connect. \(Or so I thought\).

Anyway. Something happened, not entirely sure what. I guess I was worried she might think I was texting her too much

so I stopped texting her \(but I would have replied to any text she sent me\). I just thought it fair for me to not

do the majority of the initiating. Anyway, she stopped texting me completely, after a while I text a nice compassionate supportive 

message and got ghosted, she has become very cold to me \(and in fairness some other people so it may not be about me\).

This has been quite a painful separation for me, \(mainly because of the lack of closure\) being ghosted is pretty horific and said person occupies my thoughts

a lot.

But I've since come to realize having her in my life might come with too big of a price so my question is this:

Should I:

A\) Speak with her honestly about this and ask for closure for the end of our friendship.

B\) Attempt to mend the bridge and restore the relationship.

C\) Cut off all contact.

Any thoughts would be really helpful.

Thanks,