In my opinion, when I love a man, it is just very hard or even impossible to fathom a flaw in them. So if he cheats on me, then it's not his fault. I remember listening to Hellfire from the Hunchback of Notre Dame, and for some reasons I reimagined the lyrics. Here are some examples "Don't let her fire sears his flesh and blood." "Destroy Esmeralda and let him be mine and mine alone." "He will be mine and she will burn." (Sorry, female readers, I always fear that my man would cheat on me with a woman." Instead of this song being about the lust on a woman, I reimagined this song being about a faithful man who is tempted by a fiend and the wrath against this creature. 

I guess this is a part of the Black and White thinking. He is pure while she is the temptress, the siren, the witch who is everything that is wrong with this relationship who was perfect before her arrival. 

But this doesn't limit to only being cheated on. I once had several crushes, and in my mind, my love was unrequited not because of my crushes, but because of their friends. I quickly demonized their friends into people who were jealous and did not wanted them to be in a relationship, while it was just that my crushes did not love me back.

What about you?