My(f 25)  partner (m36) is shutting me out.
 
( I’ve been diagnosed with BPD, SAD, MDD while he’s been diagnosed with PDD and GAD. so lol together we’re quite a match. )

 He’s requesting emotional and physical space away from me. I’m not allowed to ask about his feelings or talk to him about what he’s feeling. 

“No talking about me unless I bring it up. I mean my feelings or whatever.” 

It’s feeling a bit difficult to not take it as a slight against me and our relationship. 

I’m not sure how to navigate that or if that’s a boundary a person in a relationship should put on their partner. It’s making me feel small and like a burden. Something he has to protect himself from. It’s feeling like he doesn’t feel safe around me and it’s making me panic. 

He stated that he’s locking me out and asking for the space because he doesn’t feel like articulating his thoughts and feelings into words all the time. 

It’s making me uncomfortable but I’m not sure how to navigate it. I don’t know how to casually be around him while knowing that I can’t ask why his brow is furrowed. I don’t know if I’m over-reacting and I should just pretend everything is normal. 

I understand that I ask about his feelings all the time and I get that it can be exhausting.
However, I need to feel like I’m in an equal partnership. 

What do i do?