not sure where the appropriate subreddit would be to post this, but i’d figured here as i think more people could possibly relate and be able to help...

my bpd, for reference, heavily affects my identity, how i perceive myself, and how i express myself; finding who i am is... hard... 

i need help with decluttering my clothes, which is an odd thing to ask, but it’s something that i’ve been struggling a lot with for years. i have more clothes than i know what to do with, and people often call me a hoarder for it—it’s true. i know i don’t wear most of it, but i keep so much of it because i have no sense of self. i completely lack an identity of my own and often go through so many phases trying to find it. they each feel right to me in the moment, but with mood swings, change of interests, and differing seasons, i find myself trying other styles.

i put a lot of my identity into how i present myself; it’s my main form of self-expression and how i interact with others as i am a bit timid personality wise. it doesn’t help that most of my styles border on extremes, and is almost never “basic,” so a lot of what i own are very different compared to each other: this makes getting rid of clothes hard because there’s no in-between, and even if i don’t like one particular style now, i know i will revert back to it. 

i know this is probably so silly, and i don’t even know if this is the right place to ask this, but it’s really weighing me down. my space feels as cluttered as my mind, and i desperately want a fresh start.