I’m 25 living with my mom currently. I have depression and a bunch of other diagnoses. Keeping my room tidy is difficult for me. The most difficult thing is keeping my clothes hung up because I don’t have a dresser. Sometimes I do keep it tidy but right now I have had a clothes pile for longer than a week. 

My mom keeps getting annoyed and upset with me about my clothes pile. When I was little and she would be upset about my messiness and I did clean, half the time it wasn’t good enough for her. So I just really hate cleaning, it reminds me of when I was little and even when I did clean she was still upset. She does not get upset anymore when I do clean but I can’t let go of that thought process.

She has insinuated that depression and mental illness is an excuse and I’m just lazy. Idk what to do and I’m so tired of arguing with her. Do I just have to try my best to force myself to keep my room tidy? She is letting me live with her for free so it seems fair and that’s all she really wants from me…