I dated this guy for 5 years, missing all of the many red flags. The entire time we dated he claimed he didn’t have emotions and couldn’t love (full on STOP SIGN but I thought I could change him lol). He gaslighted me the entire time we dated and it made me feel crazy. Like he would say something and then a week later contradict the first thing he said and then would deny ever saying it, it happened alllll the time. He was manipulative beyond belief. And I didn’t realize it until after I was out of the relationship. 

We started dating in college and went to different schools. He literally lived with a girl who he was “friends” with that he had previously hooked up with. When I found out and got pissed he insisted I was just dramatic and there was no reason to be upset. I told him I was going to leave him, and he moved out and found his own place. HOWEVER he was pissed that he had to move out and held it over me for months, telling me I was controlling and paranoid. 

After college when we moved in together (I know it’s stupid) things got even worse. He had these terrible mood swings before we moved in together, but afterwards it was just nonstop hurricane. After about 3 months of dealing with this, he reconnected with his ex girlfriend whom he hadn’t spoken to in years (that I knew of). Then he told me he didn’t think our relationship could work out because he thought he was making me unhappy. Everything he did he acted like he wasn’t to blame or he was trying to protect me, when everything was actually about him. Anyways I moved out and blocked him on all devices because I just wanted him completely gone from my life. 

About 3 months after we broke up he started texting me from other numbers telling me he loved me and he was sorry for everything. Which I would just block as well. After about 2 weeks of that he randomly would text me “die”, and he’s been doing it for about a year now.

I don’t know if he’s like a psycho who’s gonna come hunt me down and try and kill me or if it’s just all talk. Anyways yeah any input would be great.