Hi, I'm in a situation where I can't get an official diagnosis, and because of the cruddy household I grew up in, I probably don't know enough about mental health issues, though I approach everything with empathy and try to educate myself whenever I can. I'm definitely not asking for a diagnosis by any means of course (I know thats against the rules and I at least know enough about mental health to know not to go looking for something like that on Reddit, haha), but I've had a few people in my life tell me that BPD is something I should look into, because it sounds like me, including a therapist I started talking to just a couple of weeks ago, a very longterm and a close close very best friend (who is a lot more experienced and learned about mental health issues). I've been doing a lot of research, making sure to cite reputable sources, listening to perspectives of people with bpd, and recording a lot of my feelings to analyze when I'm in a more rational state of mind. It really sounds like me, I've never seen these things I feel and experience so accurately put into the words I couldn't previously find, like a favorite person, and splitting, etc. I'm just afraid of being disrespectful and offensive in using these words, or thinking of myself as someone with BPD, or interacting with the community when I don't have an official diagnosis. I don't want to be problematic or insert myself in a place I don't belong, but at the same time, maybe that problem is entirely in my head, because I don't want to deny myself help and resources and the ability to actually verbalize what I'm feeling and going through just because I can't get a doctor's note right now. I've really never found something that clicks with me in such a way and makes what's going on in my head make so much sense, but I don't want to step on anyones toes either. Does anyone have an opinion on whether I'm allowed to use words like FP, or splitting, or to start looking at myself as someone who may have BPD and to try to start helping myself with that frame of mind? Thank you, and sorry if anything I said in this came off badly! 

TLDR: After a lot of research and conversation I'm 99% confident I have BPD, but is it disrespectful to think that if I don't have a diagnosis?