i can’t stop invalidating myself and my own feelings, even my therapist brought it up in my individual dbt session the other day. for instance, ill have a really damaging conversation with my mom, and i talk about it in my sessions but end up focusing more on the problems that i caused over how she actually hurts me. i villianize myself to the fullest extent a lot of the time and i dont know how to stop it, i don’t know how to grow as a person if i can’t even validate myself and accept that i can be hurt.