[Link to a thread I posted on the aspergers subreddit](https://www.reddit.com/r/aspergers/comments/7ygw7j/im_looking_for_someone_who_could_help_me/)

**TL;DR**

My fp has aspergers, misunderstandings are causing me a lot of pain, I need help from someone with experience with the syndrome to figure out what to do.


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I feel like what I wrote in the aspergers subreddit (linked on top) is a good explanation of the situation. This friendship has been going for over a year. I worked really really hard to earn my friend's trust.

Around November my friend did something that was very hurtful for me. It wasn't the first time I got hurt in this friendship, but I always thought the good times were outweighing the bad times.

That evening it was too much. I don't wish to explain here publicly what happened, but I would be ok with talking about it via instant messages or a voice call. 

Anyway, that night I decided I had to talk to my friend and explain the issues. I did, and I explained I really needed some changes. I wish to believe that there were misunderstandings. Still, I got to the point where I had to say I couldn't continue to be as closely bonded as we were because it was hurting me.

Doing that, really did hurt my friend. I always promised I'd be there and I wouldn't throw the friendship away. And it wasn't my intention to do it, believe me when I say that ending it would've been very painful for me. I didn't even say we'd end it, I was saying that I needed a break and my friend would be welcomed back once they were ready to heed my needs. That still scared my friend on to of hurting them, they right away changed attitude and decided to listen.

We've been trying to rekindle our bond since, we had a few deals, things we'd do for one another. I've been trying my best to do what I promised. I won't say in public if my friend kept the promise, though I assume you can guess it.

And then we get to today and why I got to another breaking point that made me start not one, but two threads asking for help. 

My friend has been spending less and less time with me. Their sleeping schedule is completely fucked up because they stay up all night spending time with other people, which I'd be ok with if it didn't make them be unavailable in the evening when we could be together or worse, when we PLANNED to spend time together.

We had plans for this evening. As soon as they arrived online I started quitting what I was doing to get ready to spend time together. I say "think what you'd like to do, I'll go to the toilet". I arrived to them afk, probably yet again asleep, or regardless not there as we previously decided. I'm going nuts. I REALLY want to fix our friendship, it's SO important to me, but this hurts, and I REALLY need help finding a way to make my friend understand things. Please :(