Firstly, I'm the one with BPD but she may have it too, all I know is that she's super intense and it's getting really frustrating for me. I met her last year and she seemed cool, chill, easy to talk to and really nice. She had a boyfriend when I first met her and so I didn't really hang out with her a lot, but she was a cool girl and I liked her. Then last December she told me her and her boyfriend split, so of course, I tried to be a good support for her through the break up and gave her encouragement and stuff, thinking she'd get back on her feet and be the kind of girl she was. But pretty much for the past 5 months, hanging out with her has been super frustrating and I kind of hate it. She only talks about herself, and her problems and she talks a lot. She doesn't stop talking. But she shows hardly any interest in me. She always brings up her ex, she seems obsessed with him even though she claims to be over him. She's also come to me with a lot of other personal problems that I can't really deal with, like weird stories about her strict parents, her other friends, other people, her college, she's made herself into this perfect victim of everything in her life and she loads it all on me. Then when she isn't talking about problems, she only talks about make up and how hot actresses are...like she has nothing really else to say, she doesn't seem to be interested in movies, music and her taste is really poor. Anyway, I don't really want to hang out with her anymore because she's very annoying and makes me edgy but she says weird stuff to me, like thanking me for 'being her best friend' and she says she misses me a lot, and that she's glad she has a friend like me...and I know that she doesn't actually have many other close friends, but at the same time, I think it's because her personality is just really unappealing. She also gets jealous super easily, like if I look nice and we hang out at a bar, she sort of tells me that I look too good and she means it in a nice way but she can't hide that she's also intimidated and then sort of ditches me at parties..


She's also mentioned how she's been ditched by friends in the past, and her ex and she holds grudges and gets really really angry (not at me yet, but I've heard she really blows up at people). She's also mentioned suicide and stuff before pretty casually which made me panic at little in my mind.
She's also really naive, like she has an idea of life that a 16 year old would have, like she seems like a teenager and at social events, people kind of back away from her after a few minutes because it's really obvious that she's very immature, and she also talks far too much and doesn't let anyone else hardly speak.


I know she has Aspergers because she told me but she has never gone to counselling or got any help for it and doesn't think it really effects her in any way, though it's obvious it does. I'm mixed between feeling sorry for her and her vulnerability and just kind of feeling sick of her and frustrated. I feel oddly tied to her and I get deep messages from her basically making me feel like she relies on me a lot and would be super upset if I was to stop hanging out with her. But I'm tired of being her counselor, I'm sick of her negativity and bored of her immaturity. I just don't know how to get out of this now though...any suggestions? 