Hi

I just recently have learned some details about the paternal part of my family. My grandpa apparently suppressed and forbade all emotions in the parental home. He lied to his children and probably also to his wife that the respective other side does not want to show or accept love, so that mother and children could never experience a loving relationship until the last days. The one child of my grandfather rebelled, grew in his own self-confidence, but was then punished and excluded and has unfortunately found support in a sect. The other child and the mother/wife in the household both suffered from depression almost in the same time: Both diagnosed with bipolar. My grandmother died early, the child, my parent, took their own life. 

Since I currently have some unanswered questions myself, I asked myself whether and how much of it might be hereditary. Or whether not everything followed almost entirely from the behavior by my grandfather. Of course, this is all purely speculative, but it would still interest me. Both did not handle the medication, lithium salts, well. It led rather to a refusal, with my parent in a search in the alternative medicine and religion. It must have been terrible.

I can handle it good so no false shyness of any of your thoughts