i’ve been diagnosed with bpd &amp; unspecified bipolar disorder (20/F) for about a year, in that time i went through a phase of being extremely emotionally reactive, i think bc it was new to me &amp; i felt bad abt myself…or maybe i was just more aware? idk. either way i met this guy (19/M) and he was so emotionally closed off but said he liked me but it never felt that way. i ended up kissing someone else, he ended things, i ended up in a mental hospital by choice bc i was scared of what happened last time i went through a breakup, regretted that bc that hospital sucks, signed AMA and went to jail a week later bc of other issues with him (neither one of us were harmed) after summer we went back to college and immediately got back together. we both apologized for our mistakes last semester &amp; it’s been good so far. i’m much more stable now, like to the point where i question if i have bpd. then he informed me he believes he has autism. i’m not one for self diagnosing, but i am pretty sure he is right. when we argue he gets very personal on subjects that aren’t really about me or are not a big deal without meaning to (eg. i didn’t want the same pizza i always order and i joked with his roommates &amp; that caused a big issue that ended with me crying in the bathroom). both of us keep friendships for a long time, but he’s never been with anyone romantically before me and i’ve never been with someone more than 2 months, but we are both young. our 2 month anniversary is tomorrow so i am pretty excited about that, although we have our issues this is by far the healthiest relationship i’ve been in. we have fairly frequent arguments but we communicate well and it’s usually over in 30 min and we tell each other we love each other. does anyone have any experience with this diagnostic pairing? like how can i help make the arguments less frequent? we live in washington where therapy is literally impossible to get in (been trying for a year and i’m on every waitlist that will take my insurance) so i don’t know where to ask for help. i really want this to last &amp; i think it can but sometimes it is very difficult to get through those arguments