Hello, I myself do not face these issues but my wife of 12 years was recently diagnosed in early October, I was hoping that someone here might be able to help me understand the thought process or the feelings one goes through while in a manic state with hyper sexuality. We have discussed it between the two of us but she has trouble putting what she feels and thought process into words. Currently she is not on medication but we hope to be with her next doctors visit this coming Monday. 

If anyone would like to help me out I am open to chat here or privately if you prefer. Thank you! 

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If you would like a quick back story, I will make it as short as possible below. I am only going to cover the major event. 

I have been with my wife a total of 12 years. We have two children, one with special needs but high functioning. Two years into our relationship she started working and in the three weeks since she had a job she met a somebody. They worked together a total of 3 times probably less than 2 hours together total and with in a week of meeting this person decided to call off our wedding a week before. Said she had all these feelings for this person, there was such a strong connection ect. She moved out the next day. The following day she slept with this person. Then a few days later another person. Then twice more with the first person. In this time she was also messaging and talking to other men besides these two. Including me. Sending pictures ect. She felt no guilt or shame. She said some really horrible things and would get irrationally upset if I tried to bring her the rest of her things or sell her wedding dress ect. After about 3-4 weeks. We made up... Moved back in together and from there she would cry almost daily and beg me not to leave to work. She thought I was abandoning her. She would hold on to my legs to try and keep me from going some where. Then she got pregnant and that didn't improve the depression and sadness she threatened hurting herself several times locking her self in the bathroom ect. 

Through the years she would have bouts of sever depression and times of being fine and happy. Ect. She is a cutter and does cut when feeling low and hides it from me. She has been a stay at home mother for the last 9years. Both our children are currently in school. 

2nd major event. In October of 2021. Her depression and feelings towards me were becoming extreme. She would text me and i would reply and she would say that i am annoying her. Smothering her. I am always trying to parent her ect. She had been cutting and having major suicidal thoughts. I pushed her to seek help where they admitted her into a group like home setting for a week. While she stayed there she had minimal contact with me and told them how she had been feeling ect. When she got home she felt like a different person. 

Early in October she had started talking to a person who worked at a Convenience store near us. This person has worked at this store for yeas and my wife has been going to this store for years. But all of a sudden in the begging of October they made a connection. They would chit chat a little when she would get a drink. Then she created a fake face book to chat. There weren't a lot of messages and there was no talking besides sexual talk. She sent pics. He sent pics. She went to the group home for that week. As soon as she got out from the group home with in days she messaged he replied they met up and had sex. I had a feeling it was going on I confronted. I got denial ect. Nothing is happening, i don't know this person I barley even talk to him. Another week goes by and I confront again and this get the truth. I kicked her out of the house and in this time period she agreed to try counseling but still maintained contact with this person, and met up one more time. She kept messaging this person behind my back, and another person and another. It was like the first time all over again. 

She is back home now and we are trying to work through things and help her understand what was going on. How could she do these things? Its really not like her. She barley even knew these people up until things escalated. We have discussed it many times, and she did have delusions of running away with these people, they were going to sweep her off her fight and they were going to live happily ever after. She believed she was the most beautiful girl in the world and everybody wanted her. She said incredibly hurtful things and felt no guilt for what she did or said. Not until now about Mid December has it really changed for her. She doesn't remember some of the thing she did or said. She is disgusted with herself. 

I recently showed her the messages she had sent to this person. She was shocked and couldn't believe what she said. How stupid and desperate she sounded. 

I just want to understand and help my wife. I want help keep her from making these horrible decisions. 

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I thought I should add. She does hear voices and see shadows. We are making a list of everything including when she hears something or sees something to right it down to show the doctor how often it happens. 

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Sorry for the long post. I tried to make it short with out leaving anything out. If it mattes there are also issues of abandonment , verbal abuse and molestation when she was a child.