Hey all, non here.

I dated someone with BPD for a while (unfortunately was discarded but I understand not all are like that!) and was curious about people with BPD and hobbies.

One of the common threads (thematic threads that is, not reddit threads lol) I've noticed is that those with BPD have a hard time being away from their SO's. That was definitely true in my relationship. We were in almost constant contact and unfortunately when I tried to set boundaries she got upset.

The question I have is this: do those who have BPD tend to have less hobbies? I noticed that it seemed like my ex had many things she liked to do. She was educated in a lot of crafts and enjoyed a lot of artistic endeavors like drawing etc... but during our time she really didn't do any of them. They were talked about but she never seemed to need time to engage in them.

I'm curious because as a non one of the reasons I needed to set boundaries was that I had no time to do activities with friends or things that I just like to do alone (usually art or studying my craft etc...) 