I've been learning lots about BPD as of late, due to seemingly bizarre behavior by my recent ex. After another explosive fight (she smashed things, threw stuff at me, and ended with her crying and saying she didn't want to live anymore) she told me she was diagnosed with anxiety and depression years ago.

After researching everything I could on those, I noticed they didn't cover the violent/aggressive stuff. That's the first I ever heard of BPD. I assumed it was a mild disorder because I have ADHD. I can and have learned to function pretty well with it. So after barely researching it, I mentioned it to her. I should not have said that.

Anyway, I'm just curious what made the high functioning members of this community aware they should look into it. It won't help with my ex, pretty sure I'm her trigger now. But still, would like to hear your story.