   
I will give some tips, link 3 posts and recommend 3 books that I think will help a lot for people who are serious about any kind of relationships with pwBPD

First few warnings and tips.

1. pwBPD will act like he/she hates you, actually, at those moments he/she really hates you, but it isn't because you did something wrong, or he/she hates you personally, its just BPD, so don't take it personally, she will calm down in some time. If you can't keep yourself calm when this happens, I suggest you to give up, because if not now, you will definitely one day and it will hurt her even more.
2. If you become close to a pwBPD, he/she will try pushing you away, the closer you are the worse it will get, so be sure that you can handle it before you get too close. A pwBPD might wish you death and genuinely want it, hate you, wish you to suffer, yes, it is BPD, but he/she is serious, if you don't take her seriously, you will only make it worse, ALWAYS TAKE pwBPD SERIOUSLY.
3. Make sure you are showing your pwBPD that he/she is important for you and you wont leave him/her also that he/she isn't harming you, it doesn't matter if you are just friends or in romantic relationships, you should show your pwBPD validation, say stuff like "You are \_\_\_\_ I like it a lot about you" or simple "I like you", it feels like not everyone with BPD needs it when you talk with them or read about them, but it is, you might seem like a creep or a weirdo, at least you will feel like this sometimes, but it is important. BUT DON"T LIE, SAY IT ONLY IF IT"S THE TRUTH!!!!
4. I already said it, but he/she will be pushing you away, they might even block you.... I don't know what to do in this case, they might not unblock you, so it will be nice if you could find a way to contact them, since they don't have control over thier emotions, they might truly hate you at that moment, but still IT IS BPD, it's might not be BPD, but assume that it is, better be a little annoying than abadon a friend in the time of need.
5. I won't explain about it, since I didn't understood what it means until 3 days ago, so just google "invalidating feelings" and "invalidating opinion", looks like a lot of people who truly care may sometimes invalidate feelings of others just because they don't know what to say.
6. As I already said pwBPD are always serious, if you can't take them seriously all the time, give up, if it's a girl and she will say something like that she will make you touch her and then report to the police, well.... that's fucked but if it offends you, just give up. If you aren't in perfect control over your emotions, I am not sure if you should continue..... You might just make it worse for them...

Second, few post I suggest checking

[https://www.reddit.com/r/BPD/comments/n8f8kc/what\_i\_actually\_mean\_is\_i\_love\_you\_and\_i\_dont/](https://www.reddit.com/r/BPD/comments/n8f8kc/what_i_actually_mean_is_i_love_you_and_i_dont/)

[https://www.reddit.com/r/BPD/comments/n3honj/im\_sorry/](https://www.reddit.com/r/BPD/comments/n3honj/im_sorry/)

[https://www.reddit.com/r/BPD/comments/nh4sfz/please\_i\_just\_need\_to\_know\_theres\_someone\_out/](https://www.reddit.com/r/BPD/comments/nh4sfz/please_i_just_need_to_know_theres_someone_out/)

Read them all, in my opinion they will help you understand better, even tho it's like quantum physics, it's like saying that a single object can be in different places at the same time, it's just impossible to understand, at least with such a shabby explanation.

Also I suggest you getting professional education, if it's reading articles, books or actually getting lessons in universities ( luckily I had someone who studied a little about personalities disorders to ask for the material )

Also I suggest you reading DSM-5, at least the parts about BPD since this is the book that all the universities and courses are taking their material from.

Now time for few books I recommend.

1. Understanding and Treating Borderline Personality Disorder A Guide for Professionals and Families (First book I read, got recommended by a psychologist friend, in my opinion it has priceless information)
2. Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder: How to Keep Out-of-Control Emotions from Destroying Your Relationship (Currently reading, and I find it pretty useful)
3. I Hate You—Don't Leave Me (I haven't read the third one yet, but I heard that it's pretty good.)

You can pretty much understand what they are are about from their names.

I guess that's all I can say, I feel like I am forgetting something.... yeah... there is something... just hope for the best, if you can't keep this hope forever you should give up, because giving up late will only cause more damage... If you stay on reddit and read more stories and experiences of others, you will see that almost all of the relationships are... well.... it is always that either the "healthy" or the pwBPD will end up abusing and using their partner at the end they break up, sometimes it happens after a 2 months, sometimes after 10 years, but at the end both of them say they have been suffering for this time, they were exhausted, abused, disrespected and used, think about it, it might as well happen in your case, if you don't feel like going with it completely and giving your whole life for it, then give up, it will be better for both of you, if you are willing to go through it, well then, Good Luck to you!  


Last thing I want to add, pwBPD might not be good at showing that they likes back, at least it depends on the person, or that they care about you or whatever, it doesn't matter, they might really like you a lot, but just not be able to show it, never push them, never force them, just accept it, if you can't, then you will just make it worse for everyone.

That's pretty much all I can say from my past almost 3 months of friendship, well, I wonder if I will post an updated version of this post or no, well, we will see.  


If you actually read it, then please share your opinion about I really put a lot of effort into this little "research" I have been doing for over 2 months. Hope one day it will help someone.   


Good Luck!!!