My boyfriend likes to tell me that I play the victim card. He's convinced his fiends that I'm manipulative and abusive but still act like he's the awful one. He's called me crazy and useless and says we should just break up because he doesn't even know what he loves about me anymore.

And yet when I try to calmly and respectfully have a conversation about ending our relationship he doesn't want to. Even though I tried breaking up with him he started yelling at me asking what I have done for him. Telling me that I'm only breaking up with him because I can't change and be a better person. Berating me with insults until I break down.

After 4 years with him I can't tell who's the bad guy anymore.

So I called my therapist tonight (*called* because my boyfriend won't allow me to take a bus to go see her) and told her I've been struggling with making the decision to break up with him. I told her everything.

Afterwards, I told her that I am worried I am giving her the wrong story because I might be over exaggerating things and playing the victim, like my boyfriend says.

To which she told me: "let's pretend you *are* playing the victim here. You're doing it for a reason. Because you need help."

No one has ever even considered my side of the story before and just brush me off as the whiny white girl but it feels so good to have her say that. She's now helping me make a plan to leave :)