bpd has thought me to be more understanding of others. bpd has taught me that hurt people hurt people and i shouldnt take it personally if people are cruel to me. 

bpd has taught me that emotional intelligence is very important and is a skill that has been slowly eroded in society

bpd has taught me that when i have a flair up, all it really means is it needs to be counteracted with more self love, self understanding and self awareness.

bpd has forced me to re evaluate what really matters in life instead of accepting trends and information blindly

bpd has taught me that the hiccups and crisis' brought on as of a result of the illness are indeed very painful but really helped with self growth and understanding of the world. 

bpd has taught me it is okay to be different, to see the world differently and that its okay to be more sensitive than others. It has also taught me that some people are not always very emotional (people like my bf) and that its okay, and it does not always mean they are being rude, cruel or mean. Sometimes with bpd it is hard for us to understand that not everyone sees the world the same way, and that the black and white thinking can blind us from that. 

bpd has taught me that positive think and surrounding oneself with positive people and support groups is important. When our inner critic is so vicious for whatever reason it is really hard to understand that seeking out more negativity whether that desire be conscious or unconscious is what the illness wants. i see so many faucets of OCD with BPD, at least in myself. It goes along with the intentional or unintentional self destruction. but realizing this is all OKAY and validating this with shame really helps counteract a downwards spiral.