I have an upstairs neighbor who has been generally loud with his bass-heavy music (he has a subwoofer) and his gaming (on the nights he games, he'll yell randomly throughout the night). I live in NYC. He moved in 2 months ago and immediately started playing bass-heavy music very loudly on a regular basis. After about two weeks of that, I went up to his place and asked him to turn the music down since the music that night was especially loud. He mentioned his bass was turned up and that he would turn it down (which it seemed he did). 

In the weeks since, I've actually noticed an improvement in the noise level compared to those early days and I'm guessing he's making an attempt to be more neighborly and respectful. However, there are still times where he listens to his music loudly for about an hour or shouts during his gaming. Again, this isn't a daily occurrence and happens maybe 3-4 days a week at these short bursts. Sometimes he does this after 10pm but not often.

I'm starting to learn how to cope (headphones) and luckily the noise does not creep into my bedroom (so I haven't lost sleep over this, thankfully) but I'm just wondering what kind of tips you may have for dealing with the anxiety that comes with this. I often find myself on edge when he is home, waiting for the moment he turns on his stereo. I don't want to move because I live in a rent-stabilized apartment in a desirable NYC neighborhood.

For those who have dealt with something similar, what kind of coping mechanisms have you adopted to get used to this? Perhaps it's reframing thinking, meditation, etc?