i’m not saying that mental illness is an excuse for abusive behaviour because it’s not. and i’m not defending amber heard in anyway. but the amount of pw the bpd shaming other pwbpd is not nice. untreated bpd CAN be abusive. we can have toxic behaviours which can be abusive to others. 

bpd looks different to everyone of us. some struggle with other symptoms more than others. yes it is our responsibility to get help so our behaviours don’t hurt other people but i bet alot of us can agree that in some way we have hurt others in the past.