I recently left my GF with BPD. If she gets treatment then perhaps we’ll not be ex’s. I also need treatment too for my codependency and possible PTSD (nothing to do with her!).

Anyhow, I just want to say that reading through questions on Quora and watching videos on YouTube I’m disgusted by the arm chair psychologists making videos and offering opinions and most importantly “advice” for people whom have been left by someone with ‘undiagnosed BPD’! I say ‘left’ because they all seem to have been left! Very easy to say that someone has BPD because they left you. All I can say is we’ve all been left. I was left by an ex-wife for another man after being together since we were 16 after nearly 20 years, I do not believe she had BPD. Don’t really care what she had, if anything, it was a deal breaker whether I had a choice in it or not. 

I met someone who was diagnosed with BPD whom I truly love, however it has not worked so far and I decided it needed to end until both her and myself are in a better place should it ever happen.

I’m just so annoyed by people talking about people with BPD like they are monsters! Look dudes (and it’s mainly dudes) someone hurt you and left you, doesn’t mean they have BPD. Maybe save the Internet space for people that either have BPD or have been with people with actual diagnosed BPD to offer advice for partners or people that have exited relationships.

BPD is certainly a serious mental or perhaps more appropriately an emotional condition. But it does not warrant the kind of hatred I’ve seen on the internet.

Downvote me or whatever you like I don’t care, I will never subscribe to the fact that BPD sufferers are evil people. If you’re healthy emotionally then you can walk away quite quickly, if you don’t then you have your own issues to deal with, so go deal with them and stop making videos on YouTube and writing Quora comments!!!

Again, down vote me, don’t care!!!!!!