I’m fairly certain I have BPD — no official diagnosis yet, but I’m working on it (honestly, with how difficult it is to get diagnosed, I’m slightly disappointed you don’t get a certificate of achievement if you do) — and I’m having a bit of trouble understanding what object constancy is with respect to BPD, and whether or not I experience it.

I screwed things up with my FP over 5 months ago, but when we were still together, I remember thinking that, as soon as I wasn’t with her, she was too busy having fun with her real friends to care about me, or even that she was only pretending to care about me so she could laugh about me with her real friends — she was the best person ever, how could she actually be friends with someone like me?

I was off college one day because I was ‘sick’, and I nearly had a heart attack when I got a message from her asking where I was, because I genuinely thought that she wouldn’t waste her time thinking about me.

Does that sound anything like a lack of object constancy?

Cheers.