I’ve been seeing this therapist for about 18 months, and we haven’t ever really clicked. I’m insistent on being in person, and according to my mother she was one of the only people we can find who is currently having in person session. (I’m 16, for context). 

I started going because of family issues (my mother was having severe mental health issues, tension with my parents and my dad’s kids from his first marriage, etc.). I feel like, since that’s what I first started talking to my therapist about, we never moved on.

We’re stuck talking about my half siblings and my creepy grandfather and how I feel about those issues, but not about my actual mental health. We’ve barely even touched on my anxiety. It feels like I’m in family therapy for just me, rather than therapy because my mental health is shit. 

I guess what I’m asking, is what to do here. Do I quit this therapist (even tho I definitely need to be in therapy) and try to find someone else, however long that takes? Or do I just go in next week and and say that I’ve got bigger issues than shitty parenting and I think I have depression? I’m not sure how to do that. I’m not even sure if it’s worth it here - I’ve never clicked with her for a variety of reasons (including her breaking my trust and talking to my parents about family issues.)

Anyway. Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated. I’m happy to expand on things if that would help make this more clear.