I was explicitly asked not to give detail as to the event that happened. To give what context I can my roommate (21m) is in the midst of processing some trauma due to his relationship. His partner is handling the situation seemingly okay. Due to the distance between them, it’s difficult for them to give and receive the support they had before school started.

The day the incident happened he drove to see his partner and spent the night there. He came back yesterday still as upset as before. But anger had turned into loathing and I could tell he was internalizing a lot of it. I didn’t see him a whole lot after he came home aside from giving him a hug and helping him look for his key.

Today I saw him for the first time in the day (he works mornings) and he’s hoarse and lethargic.

The few times I did get to talk to him I offered what I could. I’ve been through dark times in my life and didn’t feel like talking to people during those times, for my own processing. I told him that I was here to talk whenever he needed but there was no pressure to as I can understand why he would want to take the time to process.

Overall the situation itself doesn’t concern me, I just don’t know how to move forward with support. I don’t want to push anything out of him but I also want to encourage his openness. I don’t know how to help further. He’s been a close friend of mine since childhood and it’s terrible seeing him this way. What can I do?