I fall under the category of Quiet BPD and after significant practice have learned, for the most part, how to tame my emotions. However, like most of us with Quiet BPD, this means that the frustration and pain is simply internalized.

 I've recently entered a relationship with someone whom I truly respect and care for and the feeling is mutual. I am so much better in recognizing that my identity shouldn't be wrapped up in my parter's, which I why I feel so ready to take on this relationship. 

The other day I faced the first hurdle in regards to identifying unfounded anger I was experiencing. Needless to say it consumed me for the rest of the night. I didn't act out or even reveal this to him, yet it still made me feel so ashamed. I don't want to fuck this up. 

I obviously need to tell him about my BPD at some point but I'm so nervous. When is the right time to bring this up? I've mentioned by struggle with mental illness but haven't specified what it is. He's an understanding and compassionate person, but I don't know how heavy this might be on someone.