my girlfriend of almost two years has BPD and i love them so very much, it makes my heart ache to see how tired and fatigued they are from lack of sleep and they really don't deserve it. :(

they say it's been pretty bad lately because their mind won't stop cycling through all the reasons why they're a shitty partner and how they're gaslighting me into staying with them or manipulating me into loving them (especially if it's a nightmare about me leaving them or cheating on them), more so lately: their current episode has been taking place for much longer than usual, and it really hurts me to see how much it weighs on them.

do you have a similar experience with insomnia related to that? have you found a way to manage to sleep despite all that mental noise?

they can't afford therapy right now (at least not the amount they need) because their work hours suck and they spend a lot of their money on family bills, so that's definitely a drawback. i just want my baby to sleep and get some rest. :'(

(ps. i genuinely don't understand people who demonize you? my girlfriend may be the only pwBPD i know personally but they're the sweetest most romantic, affectionate, loving and attentive person i've ever met, and i am so happy to be theirs. it really makes me wonder whether people who hate you even have their heads screwed on right because ??? how could you blindly hate someone who is inherently suffering constantly AND while they're "abusing" you? is it that hard to communicate and talk things through? 🙄 in any case, i hope you all have a wonderful day, because you are wonderful people and you deserve lots of good things ❤️)