I (22f) have been in a relationship for almost two years now. And it’s been absolutely amazing. I feel so happy and the communication, and consistency and everything. It’s been absolutely amazing and we are so happy and have so much in common. 

I just can’t help the random paranoid thoughts and anxiety that builds up; And I think the fact that my relationship is so good is what’s feeding into my anxiety. 

I can see the slight distress my partner gets when I ask him questions ( as politely as I can). And I understand why it would distress him. I don’t yell, or read through his messages and I don’t freak out. 

The system I have now is just asking him politely questions about what I’m paranoid about or what’s causing me anxiety. He answers and reassure me. It usta only happen maybe 1 every 2-3 months. But it’s been happening every 2-3 weeks now. 

I wish I could find a way to calm my paranoia and anxiety. And just enjoy my healthy and happy relationship with the person I enjoy.