I am having an issue with my wife (likely pwBPD) currently, in that she very clearly has many BPD symptoms and even her father, my therapist, and others have noticed these things and suggested she seek professional help. However, as i'm sure you all know, there is an intense struggle in her mind to accept it and seek help, she denies that anything is wrong and gets mad at me when I suggest BPD, saying that by suggesting she has BPD I am "calling her names". I don't try and diagnose it as I am obviously not a professional, but I have received professional opinions and the overwhelming consensus is BPD and/or BP. My question to you all is: what eventually convinced you that you had BPD or what helped get you to a therapist?