I never experienced my mom making unwanted comments about my weight up until about two years ago. I was at my lowest point, I had just went through a breakup, I lost my beloved fur baby, and also was admitted to the psych ward for the first time ever. There I was diagnosed with BPD and prescribed anti psychotic meds. Over time I started to notice this abrupt change in weight, I went from a size 4 in jeans to 10, my face was so chunky that people would notice. Thats where these "motherly" remarks would come in. My mom would always say things such as "holy cow you need to stop binging on so much food or else you're gonna end up being as fat as (rebel Wilson) for example. "you shouldn't have gotten that bob haircut because you were too fat for that." "those jeans make you look fat." and that's the thing... I never had an issue with my gaining some extra weight (I'm fine with adding curves) until she gradually made me believe I was truly disgusting. Fast forward to this day, I have lost a total of 25 lbs and I look and feel great. I even get compliments each time I go out and see friends. Today however, my mom said to me wow you look so skinny just now. And I asked annoyed, "you mean in a bad way right?" yes you shouldn't lose more weight or else you'll be tooo skinny.

You really can't make people happy. I thought I looked good..... Idk what the problem is. Now I'm back to feeling insecure and back to square one.