I think my wife has BPD, I'm reading the book  "I hate you don't leave me", and so far i think it describes her very well. She shows all the symptoms that I have read about online and in the book for BPD.  I get worried about her and I told her I think we need individual and marriage counseling and (she really dislikes counseling) but she is unaware that I think she has BPD.  I have no idea what to do in this situation.