Don’t really know what sub to post this in I’ve put it in others and no one responds with the advice I’m looking for. If this isn’t the right place feel free to remove. I (21M) work at a supermarket with this women (32F) who I find very pretty. I haven’t gotten the courage to talk to her myself because im very quiet and shy and she’s super outgoing and charismatic, the entire staff loves her. I find it very intimidating to be honest. 

At first I thought she was trying to flirt with me but now people tell who I’ve told this have said it’s beyond that and it’s bullying and creepy and borderline harassment. I don’t really know what to do though because whenever she acts like this no one’s around.  

Anyway she always acts in ways towards me that I don’t understand. When I’m having conversations with people and she’s not involved with it she’ll mimic my voice in a high pitched voice while walking by. She also taps me on the shoulder and head when im not looking and acts like she didn’t. I randomly will catch her staring at me and when I look over she’ll just smile at me and look away. The other day there was a staff meeting and on the way out of the room some guy was talking about ropes in reference to some sort of project he’s working on and she whispered to me “you have no idea how bad I want to use those on you” in a super serious voice. 

Now whenever she walks by me she just smiles at me, it kind of feels like it’s in a way where she thinks she has an upper hand on me? She said to me the other day when she walked by “I know you’re thinking about what I said And I love doing this to you, seeing your head spin is so cute, you being uncomfortable makes me happy” then she tapped my nose and walked away. 


The straw that broke the camels back and made me post happened last night. Me and her were closing together and I was in the break room by myself when she came in. I was in a chair next to the vending machine and she came and leaned over me to pay for something and her boobs were right in my face. I had no idea what to do so I just sat there freaking out and having a panic attack and she didn’t move for like 30 seconds. Then she just walked off with this self satisfied look. 

To be honest this kind of freaks me out. I think she’s hot though and I am interested in her but I don’t know if she’s into me or if she’s just trying to fuck with my head. That’s why I feel like maybe calling this harassment isn’t legit cuz I like the way she looks? She doesn’t act like this with anyone else and I haven’t told any of the other staff because she’s adored by everyone and I don’t want to sound weird or like an idiot. Cuz everyone already kind of thinks of me as that shy awkward dude, and they’d think I’m a liar. Anyway what do you guys think of this? Is this harassment????? Should I try and do something?