It's amazing to me when I read in the sub about people with BPD who recognize and admit that they have BPD. I am married to a women with BPD who is in 100% denial that she has BPD or even is any part of the terrible problems we have. "Get help", "your pathology", "narcissistic asshole". 4 years of being the target for her blame, rage, manipulation and contempt. She is completely unable/unwilling to apologize because she is the victim. It would give me some hope if she had some recognition of the problem. But nope.