So backstory: I've personally never been in a relationship outside of my high school boyfriend that I dated for 6 months. But I've had a lot of "situationships" that lead to me feeling like I was in love and getting my heartbroken and the guy I was in love with like he should get a restraining order. 

I've been through a lot and they've always been really intense. But never being in a relationship and coming up om 30 soon, I feel like I genuinely don't know the difference sometimes. 

Are these classic situations were I am being led on and getting my heartbroken? or am I getting stuck in a cycle of obsession? 

So what's your definition of love vs obsession? How can you tell you are in love with someone or building an obsession?