Hello! My brother has BPD. He gets very emotionally very quickly and it can be hard to calm him down without avoiding an hour long spiral first. Our cousin was shot this weekend and I’ve been so afraid to tell him because I know he won’t deal with it well. I’m wondering if any of you would be willing to give me advice on the best way to approach this? 

How would you want to receive this news? What would help minimize the pain? Of course, I know I cannot take the pain away completely but I just want to know how beat to be there with him.

Thank you in advance!