Since working on Mindfulness and taking control of my BPD issues, I have zero awareness of when paranoia might be justified. Maybe "suspicion" is a better word. I can tell when my BPD-related "suspicions" are off-base 99% of the time, like if I'm making stuff up in my head - as soon as I realize I've been basically building a story in my head about what *could* happen, I can stop and defuse those thoughts.


But say...Okay, here's an example (didn't happen to me, just off the top of my head): Say I saw a text popup on my GF's phone from a number with no contact name and it said something like "Had fun a couple nights ago". I'm at the point of recovering from BPD where I would force myself to not be suspicious, even though it would eat at me, and honestly wouldn't it be acceptable to be suspicious of something like that?


I'm scared I'm either going to be a paranoid freak or a doormat in every single relationship