So I'm not diagnosed with anything but I relate to some of the traits and find the advice on this sub useful. 

Tried to post something in said sub, as my mum shows some traits of bpd. I wanted to get some advice in relation to this from people who have been through something similar, was banned instantly. 

Later realised that you will be banned instantly and permanently if you have bpd, traits of bpd or if the mod thinks you show signs of bpd. Wtaf. 

Also so many of the posts are from people who are just diagnosing their parents with disorders, and then judging them for having these 'disorders' that they are clearly not qualified to diagnose. Don't get me wrong they've clearly been abused but this is just plain weird to me. It undermines genuine diagnoses of complex disorders, which cannot be self-diagnosed, let alone be decided on by other unqualified individuals based on just observing how someone else interacts with them.

I get wanting a safe space but spreading the rethoric that all pwbdp are bad is damaging not only for people with bpd, but also for victim's of abuse, even if that abuse has been inflicted by someone with bpd. It's not healthy to completely shun out a group of people with a disorder regardless of if each individual with bpd abusive or not. Banning people who talk about abusing others in the past, or who try and justify abuse, fair enough, but this just plain weird to me. 

Also pretty much everyone learns traits from the people who raised them, that's why bpd is often passed on, it's likely most of the people raised by a borderline are, at least in part, that way inclined themselves. 

Anyway, rant over lol, just pissed me off.