Fairly confident my husband has BPD as he fits all the symptoms to a T. His psychiatrist agreed it seems very likely. He's had other diagnoses in the past but after reading about this it just makes everything make sense.

So what can I do to help him with his moods? I do my best to encourage him to keep taking at least 1 mood medicine and to go to his Dr, I am doing my best to find him a DBT therapist (which is hard there's only about 3 that take his insurance and none call me back). When he does spiral into a bad mood he hurts himself and gets really angry and lashes out at me and I freeze up and cry bc I truly don't know how to deescalate things. And usually it's me causing it by saying something super trivial (like recently I made a comment about a dinner I made and he went into zombie dissociate mode for a bit then it set off his mood).

I know he wants help and he doesn't really mean any of the things he says in his moods but damn does it hurt. He says he needs me to push him to do things which I've really tried but at the end of the day I can't force him to take medicine or go to the doctor or start working towards his goals. I do my best to encourage him when I have the energy but sometimes I'm just so burnt out from trying to keep my little family together that I don't know what to do.

Does anyone have any advice that works for them to help stay motivated to keep working on themselves? I'd love to have some words of inspiration or coping strategies to share with him.