Our relationship is quite new, only 3 months, and I have known about their struggle with BDP for the last month. They have recently started DBT with their therapist and after each session it seems like they are making progress.

I have done some of my own research on BDP and I think I have gotten a better understanding of it. But recently I have found that our relationship has gotten to the point where I am considering breaking things off or going no contact because things have started getting really bad, but I am hesitant to do that as shes only just begun her therapy and I want to give her that chance to improve before I give up on her.

I have no idea how to properly support her when she is having a breakdown, I have asked her what she needs and she has told me that she needs to be reassured that I am not going to leave her and that I still care for her, but in the case of one of her breakdowns she becomes really hostile and agressive and I dont get the chance to give her the support she has asked for.

Please any advice or new perspectives will be helpful, I just cannot decide what to do and I feel like I'm stuck in a never-ending cycle of being happy with her and then being extremely upset or worried about her. Feel free to ask me to clarify anything, and my apologies if anything is insensitive regarding this topic.