Possible emotional mindset clue: I’ve been told by a few different people during past emotional episodes “You are repeating yourself.” It would snap me momentarily into reality, because I was never *trying* to repeat myself. It’s like my brain was trying to justify my emotional response by repeating a certain phrase or sentence. Or as if I wasn’t feeling “heard” by the other person and thought it would validate me, or that they would eventually “hear” it. It was never a conscious decision, but it only caused the argument to go in a circular pattern and kept it going longer. I’m not sure if this is true for any of you, but I think it’s a good gauge for being in an emotional mindset.