sometimes i was so sure the people i was close with, were borderlines, but there are somethings that made me think maybe they're narcissist, such as abuse like verbal abuse, seeking supply (from other BPDs of opposing gender), and it's always about them in regards to all their problems, but as soon as i try to bring in my problem also and garner some empathy from them as i have given them so many times, they get angry and brush it off and seem to discard me. i really wonder if it's bpd or narcisissm.