I’m not sure if this is the best place to post this, but i feel like its where I can get the best perspective. I have a friend with bpd (who identifies with it quite strongly too) who has a bit of a habit of disappearing when times are tough, and i’ve noticed it happen fairly frequently the past month - now, we’re at a stage where the friendship can get close but that haven’t firmly been established yet (and i do want a close friendship with this person) and given that + the fact that this person is a bit of a loner, i’m not too sure whether i should check on them or not - i do care about this person and want to lend my support, but i also don’t wanna do too much if that makes sense - does this sub think checking up on them is the right call?