I never had a dad growing up and my only paternal figure was an asshole and I just don’t care about men’s opinions of me in general, so that’s that. But maternal figures I’ve always had a problem with. 

My mom always wanted to be my friend and never parented me. She would come into my room 25 times a day to see what I was doing but just asked me if I ever watched a show I was obsessed with as a teen. She wasn’t a smart woman and I resented her then and continue to now. Now whenever she asks me a question about what I’m doing or if I’ve seen something or like something I just get annoyed. Why does she care? It’s not her problem or business and if I want to share something about myself I will without her prying. I know she just cares but it feels like she never did in the past so what’s changed? I know she really hasn’t so I don’t think it’s that. But now my boyfriend has a mom who does care and knows everything about him and comes over every Sunday and cooks and hangs out with us and I try not to resent her but I do. I lost my job due to COVID and she’s constantly on my back about getting a new one as if I’m not trying but then will make comments like “I’m glad all of us still have jobs” as if I’m not there. I don’t know how to not resent her and dislike her because I want to have a healthy relationship with her for my boyfriends sake. She’s not a band person - just a type of mom I’m not used to. But I’ve noticed I have this problem with all moms. I want so hard to have a mom that’s perfect I judge all these women for not being the mom I want. I have no idea what to do.