I have dated a few girls with BPD and have found myself researching different disorders especially this one. I thought it would be good to post here where I can get real insight from people who actually understand BPD. I want to know, do these girls actually feel regret when they hurt someone?  Some people have said yes while others scream, No and that they only say sorry if they can get something from you. I was thinking about it today when sitting around with my family for Thanksgiving. I am ready to meet a nice girl to share my life with. I obviously need someone who is stable as I can't be in a chaotic relationship as I have had a few short lived relationships like that and had to break it off.

I say this because from what I gathered it is almost like there is no empathy towards their targets once angered. It sure as hell isn't a nice feeling to be devalued be someone and than treated so poorly when you are trying to be kind to them. There seems to be no apologies from them either maybe due to fear of humiliation possibly rooted in the way they were treated from an early age. This is very sad disorder and my hearts goes out to those with it but at the same time, I am greatly upset by those also hurt my individuals with the disorder.

My post is to attack those with BPD but try to understand or gain more insight. 