In the past when I got into an argument I'd just cut people off. You upset me, you go into "the book" and nobody ever comes out of the book. But over the last few years I've been trying to work on myself and not end friendships on a whim. I've started to realise that I have no idea at all how to have disagreements/arguments with people. The ONLY way I can deal with it is to try to ignore whatever happens which means I either pretend nothing is wrong until I eventually snap or I distance myself from that person a lot (without the whole ending the friendship drama thing I used to do) 

I don't even seem to be able to gauge if I should be upset when I get upset or if I'm just being oversensitive so I find myself taking a lot of toxic shit from fear that I'm over reacting. 

Anyone got any tips on how to have a normal disagreement? Sorry if this sounds really silly. 