Good afternoon, Reddit! First of all, if you’ve been seeing my posts lately, thank you to everyone who has commented and helped me. I appreciate this platform more than you know. This kind of relates to my last couple of posts, but I have been in a relationship for, let’s just say, 5-6 years in length. It’s a great relationship, we’re in a great place, and I know I want to spend the rest of my life with him.

Sometimes I just struggle to fight off those insecure thoughts, those thoughts telling me I’m not pleasing or satisfying him enough (sexually and non-sexually), despite his reassurances.

Here’s an example: we had a great getaway trip this past weekend for his birthday. We got home on Sunday, back to his place, and I was pretty eager to get home and get ready for the week. He understood this, but I also think he was hoping I would stay. He did nothing to make me feel bad, but I couldn’t help but feel like I had ruined the weekend. What if he had felt better if I had stayed? What if it would have made him happier in our relationship? It’s things like that, when I feel like I’m going against things he wants that I worry.

Any tips would be greatly appreciated.