Hi so I’ve been feeling a bit of resentment because of this and wanted some help on how I should feel . So my boyfriend is great he’s insanely supportive and is there for me and is very understanding. the only thing is he like limits my alcohol consumption and like never lets me drink and it feels controlling and makes me very angry and feel like I’m being unfairly controlled again like I was when I was a child. The thing is though is before he never cared how much I drank and I would drink a lot around him and he wouldn’t care  . But there were a couple times where after I drank I became pretty mean and symptamic . Either I would cry and become very emotional or I would become kinda aggressive and defensive and nasty. Obviously that is not okay and I can see how that bothered him. But the thing is that only happened a couple of times . I drank around him 100s of times and was totally fine . But I was already in a very struggling place and was very sympomatic so when I drank it enhanced it and made everything come out and I was not pleasant to be around . But now that I’m in a better place I KNOW If I drink I will be okay and better like I’m in a better place now and I know I will not show those behaviors . When I’m in a bad place alcohol enhances that and when I’m in a good place alcohol enhances that and I become more friendly and outgoing and fun . but since I was nasty after drinking those couple of times he now holds me accountable to that forever and never wants me to drink and gets mad at me if I want more then like a shot or two . It feels very controlling and makes me feel resentment because I have suffered so long and I am almost a grown women and makes me frustrated that I can’t just drink like normal people my age. Like he tells me he doesn’t want me ever taking more then two shots because “anymore then that I become nasty” but it’s like it was only a couple times and it won’t happen again and I told him that and he doesn’t believe me . his dad and ex girlfriend are also alcoholics and it has affected him. I understand his reasoning but I can’t help but feel like I will never have freedom and makes me feel angry that I’m a grown women who can’t have fun and drink what/when I want and need to get his permission on how much I can have or he will get upset at me . Technically I could just drink what I want and say fuck what he says but Then he will just get upset with me . Pls help