We didn’t fight at all throughout our relationship, and I don’t think either of us did anything to hurt each other. They constantly told me how much they loved me, how they would talk about me all the time, we planned a trip together. 

Then, in a matter of a few days, they stopped talking to me and then sat me down to tell me they lost feelings and had been thinking about it “for a while.” They said they knew it wasn’t their BPD and it’s what they actually felt. But we weren’t even dating for that long. I just can’t comprehend how they could go from acting like they were in love with me to describing what they felt as mostly platonic and “the little feelings they had.”

I’m not the best at dealing with someone else’s mental issues since I have some of my own, but I thought we were okay. I’m wondering if I should have done more to help. They expressed that they were in the worst place mentally, but said they hated unsolicited advice and I didn’t know what else I could do except comfort them which I’m not the best at. 

They weren’t going to therapy or taking their meds and could barely eat. I encouraged some baby steps, but wanted to respect their boundaries and realized that it’s my job to support my partner in a relationship, not try to fix them. I didn’t see these problems as obstacles or think any less of them because of their illness. I was in love. I just want to know what I should have done differently. If it would have changed anything.