Why is that whenever I look to find helpful info on how I can stay in a healthy mindset when I end a relationship, and add bpd to the search, everything turns into how to "escape" "run" "save youreself" from someone with bpd? Why is it that the person with bpd is always toxic? What if you've come so far and practiced so much in emotion regulation and decide that you really are being disrespected and you are trying to work through your issues and your partner doesn't, you decide to have self respect and hold to your morales and boundaries. You're looking for a way to cope and make sure you don't get emotional and compulsively or impulsively try to get then back if you start to feel certain emotions... and nothing. Where's the help for that? You're trying and everything labeled "toxic" puts you in a down spiral of negative self doubt right away... that's so odd to me and if anyone has USEFUL info on this specific type of situation. Please feel free to share. I'm trying here. No matter what I'll beat this thing. But gawd damn if it doesn't help when you're labeled horrible things and that you're automatically toxic and something to run from.