Anyone here have a relationship where one person is autistic and one person has BPD? In some ways it works well because I can deal with my partner's BPD in a rational, logical way and compartmentalize it more easily than a NT person typically could but on the other hand, I can't unmask with him in some ways because BPD causes him to be super sensitive and autism causes me to be super blunt lol. We are polar opposites in how we deal with emotions. I think that is helpful in a lot of ways because it's good for a BPD person to not be exposed to a lot of emotion or fluctuating emotions, but also it's hard on both of us when he wants me to be more affectionate and I want him to be more reasonable. It has gotten better over the years, but as you all probably know, people with BPD take personal offense to things that are completely trivial (in a logical sense, anyway). I filter what I say a lot, but it's hard on me to not be able to be myself and express myself with my BPD partner, as an autistic person. How do you manage that dynamic or what helps you cope? As a BPD person or an autistic person.