Posted this on the abusive relationship sub but I didn't get any answers so I was thinking maybe someone here has dealt with the same thing. Also I know the BPD is effecting how I treat the new guy when I get triggers anyway so...
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I got out of a sexually abusive and extremely toxic relationship almost a year ago. I've dated a girl within that time and the flash backs and reminders kind of acted up then but I knew it would be worse when I started talking to a guy who was like my abuser phsyically, as in, way bigger and stronger than me. We're dating now and it's gotten really bad, I'm having dreams about my assault and thinking about my abuser a lot. It's messing up my relationship with the new guy and I keep telling myself that he's not him but it just effects everything... I just don't know who to talk to about this. I just want it to stop. anyone have any advice?