Hi all, 

Partially thanks to subs like that, despite being in my thirties, I'm now realising that others think the same way I do, and there are steps that can be taken to address them.

Like many who have described high functioning anxiety here, I'm very competent in my professional life as I'm diligent, can think ahead and spot issues before they become big issues. 

This is the positive side of the tendency to overthink and over analyse.

But the negatives I'm only now starting to reflect upon are 
- often catastrophising, assuming worst will happen and working from there 
- hyper focus on whatever is making me anxious, trying to analyse the problem every single way in order to he prepared for the worst 
- finding it hard to tell when anxiety and over analysis is useful and valid, or illogical
- avoiding situations or delaying through fear of anxiety, meetings, opportunities. Not learning that when I do these things it always goes fine.
- finding loss of control difficult - such as having to trust a colleague or professional like a lawyer to do something for me. I second guess them, I assume they'll miss the deadline, with no real evidence.
- while enjoying socialising finding it as exhausting as work and needing time to recover. If I see a friend after work it's fun, but I feel like I've not actually relaxed.
- often when doing something I'm just wishing it to be over, so I can get home. Never living in the moment

That was helpful in itself to just reflect on and just type out.

My question therefore is what are your best tips to deal with this sort of anxiety? Also are there any good books or online resources covering this?

 I will seek therapy if it continues, but I am hopeful that I can try to address it myself.

It's particularly the catastrophic thinking that gets to me.