Hey hope everyone here is having a good day. My best friend has BPD and I love her so much and want the best for her. We've had quite the journey with each other, I liked her at one point and she liked me back but she was too afraid to tell me so she rejected me. Those feelings have been gone for a long time and we did have a bad disagre for quite a long time. She thought I still liked her even though everyone was telling her I didnt anymore. I caught she said some horrible things about me behind my back and we ended having a disagreement for a month. She lost one friend out of it but that friend was very toxic to her. She was abusive to her (me and many people saw it) but my friend wouldnt open to me about it. Her ex friend also told us about my friend having BPD but I was not supposed to know that. She thought it would be a surprise to us if we knew these things but we all knew. We ended up talking out our issues and we went back to being best friends. My friend really struggles opening up and I feel that's where she can run into problems. I've opened up alot about my life to her and where I dont suffer from mental illness, I have learning disabilities and at the age of 22 I suffer from back conditions you usually dont get until your 60. Last night she lost a very close friend of hers. She called me about it and I'm very surprised she let me come over. She had a few shots and wanted to get fucked up to forget about everything but I wouldn't let her. I opened up even more and started to cry because it hurts me knowing how hurt she is but doesnt open up anything to me. The conversation we had last night she said she would work on opening up. Opening up isnt a quick process, it can take a lot of time. What are the best ways about trying to get my friend to open up not about her mental illness because that's up to her if she wants too, but the other stuff going on in life? There are so many people that can relate to her but she's afraid to put herself out there because she has trust issues. I just want the best for her and to be the best friend I can possibly be for her. She has a heart of gold and deserves the best.