recently my fp has been going through a hard time and needs support so, going against advice, i’ve not distanced myself from them - because i keep everything bottled up - i know i won’t hurt them i’ll just hurt myself more but that’s fine with me because their feelings matter more to me, and i always get over it eventually. but my therapist didn’t criticise me like i thought she would, she said she actually wanted to try and see what would happen if i didn’t distance myself because she thinks i would manage myself better and it could actually stop my relationships from falling apart (most of my old friends couldn’t handle me pushing them away when i felt myself become too possessive of them, which effected me in a bad way). 

my therapist doesn’t have bpd and i worry that maybe on this she’s wrong and i just want someone in a similar situations advice, do you think i should continue to distance myself from my fps or just see if i can manage myself?