Have you found a trick to set realistic expectations?
Have you found a trick to separate your own unhealthy expectations from reality? 
Have you found a way to deal with discrepancy between your limitations and your expectations? 

I was fired from my dream job due to low performance (bpd strikes back for the n-th time)🙃, I'm lost now because I discovered I wasn't enough to do what I was preparing myself to do, and now I don't have any dreams or goals.