-you’re always too upset 
-I’m gonna give you space because you need to center yourself 
-we don’t always have to talk 
-you take too much time to think about what you want to say
-I did not hurt your feelings 
-I am setting a boundary when I tell you that you’re too upset 
-and lastly, he said that we should not move in together because we just “don’t know how to talk” 

That’s the list of things that my boyfriend decided were appropriate to say to someone with BPD. 

I was diagnosed with BPD a year ago. It has been a long and tough journey but I will say I have made many gains and there are small wins every day for me. 

Last night I got into an argument with my boyfriend. Things got a bit heated and there were times I was raising my voice. I feel like I did a relatively good job- most people know here that sifting through what is appropriate to say and what is “too far” is one of the most challenging parts of BPD. My boyfriend is committed to just not having an issue at any given time, and he will go so far as to just say “okay, I understand.” Most times that leaves me with feeling like there is no resolution and that he is just appeasing me.

I know I’m not giving much context here- but I wanted to ask if this sounded like triggers to anyone else. When anyone tells me I am “too much” of something, it’s enough to feel my heart break. We’ve been together for 8 months and I can tell you that I’ve spent an unbelievable amount of time trying to explain BPD to him- and most times it ends with him saying “okay, I understand” 

When is enough, enough? When do I draw the line?