How do you know you’re splitting? Are there any warning signs that it’s coming? Do you know what kinda things trigger it? What is it like for you? Like does it vary in intensity? And how long do your splits usually last? 

I was diagnosed a year ago and still to this day I get confused by splitting. And sometimes cannot work out if it’s a split or not because for example, when it’s described as ”love to hate” I often feel like it isn’t intense enough to be described as ‘hate’ ??? Just feels like a strong word at times. I definitely have that idealization&gt;devaluation cycle which is a form of splitting I suppose, but long term. But apart from that, I’m just so unsure so wondering if people could share their own experiences so I can see if I relate, and understand myself a little better…

Lastly, how do you deal with splitting? Especially on your partner. Because I’m worried it’s a permanent/long term thing as it has been in the past. Wondering if there’s anything that helps?