(CW: Suicide mention, farther down)

So I (medically recognized BPD, self-dx NPD) have a friend that was recently diagnosed (like a month or two ago) with BPD. I would like to say that they are 15, so diagnosis at their age is rarer. They now use it as a "reason" for treating other people horribly by saying "oh I had an episode" without specifying the kind of episode. They have a victim complex and so they literally don't listen when someone tells them how they hurt the people around them. Most of their actions can't be explained by their BPD either, but if you call them out on anything that could even be minimally related to their BPD, they will call you ableist.

We (my friends and I) are a tad bit worried about them attempting suicide if we all cut contact. Since I already have cut contact, have low empathy, and know the thought pattern that they would go through if they were to attempt, I am much less concerned about them.

Since we both have BPD, with it manifesting in similar but slightly different ways, I feel like I have some insight into their thoughts. Mainly in terms of how they'll react and their thought patterns. I'm also more comfortable confronting them I think because their guilt-tripping doesn't work (at all or as well) on me.

I really do want to help them by giving them resources and advice. I've started working on my own BPD and oh my god it has helped me so much, but my advice for my journey isn't as applicable to them in terms of BPD.

If anybody has any advice for how to help them or what advice or resources I can give them or even just your own journey. My friends and I want to help them understand and help them be a bit of a better person but we don't really know what to do.

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(TLDR: Friend with BPD has a victim complex, and my friends and I want to simultaneously help them get better and get them to understand the weight of their actions. HELP)