Good evening, people of the/bpd subreddit. This situation is still raw and new to me, so be gentle.

I just broke up with my boyfriend. I feel that my BPD contributed to the breakup. Things were going well at first. I had great conversations with him both online and irl. I met him once, and our date went well.

As I started to "love" him, my fondness for him because an overwhelming obsession and fear of abandonment. I was desperate to please him. But my desperation just repelled him.

I see this pattern with all my partners. I'm considering DBT therapy. I can't regulate emotionally by myself. Besides DBT therapy, what else do you recommend?