My (31f) husband (31m) was diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago by a psychiatrist and was given a prescription. Every three months he has a 10-minute Zoom check in and gets his prescription refilled.

I am not a psychiatrist. I am a behavioral therapist, and often see similarities in my husband and clients. I also see several behaviors that are out of the scope of ADHD that concern me.

We are in marriage counseling. I feel like it is a waste of time and money because my husband sits there and tells bold faces lies. He claims everything is great. We get along so well. Problems? What are those? He makes up stories that could be New York Times bestsellers. And then when I question him about it I’m the one remembering things wrong.

We have a daughter and a son on the way, and my husband is worse than he’s ever been. I go back and forth between being worried, terrified and fed up. I have one foot out the door, but know the kids will still have to deal with him even if I don’t, and I’ll have to deal with their trauma from dealing with him.

So I looked up his psychiatrist and emailed him begging for my husband to be reevaluated. I explained everything I’ve seen and dealt with in great detail. I mentioned the kids and wanting the best for them. And I pushed the send button. Now I’m questioning if it was the right thing to do. Is it within my wifely duties, and how will he react when he finds out? I don’t know. But I didn’t know what else to do.