Non-BPD here. I initiated a break with my BPD girlfriend two weeks ago, but I did it rashly. We’d been in a stagnant toxic co-dependency for a long time and I had a moment of weakness where I finally felt I had enough and needed some time. I packed up all my things while she was out of the house, I waited for her to get back to tell her we needed to get better and be away for a little while so I could clear my head, and she made me promise it wouldn’t be the end. But as of two days ago, we met up to “talk”, she handed me the rest of my things and told me she changed her mind. But I could tell she still loved and does love me, she didn’t want to let go during our last hug and asked for another before she said goodbye so we ended on a good note aside from the beginning of the talk. I know we both need time to grow so I can better myself and learn more tools and understanding of BPD as a whole to be able to be a better partner for her, and for her to hopefully reflect and acknowledge the work she needs to become better, but I worry she’s gone for good. What are the chances she will change her mind once she’s able to let her emotions out and process everything, and be willing to try again? I love her and want her back in time, but I’m afraid she’ll cut off her emotions towards me and we’ll never be able to try again.