so I started talking to a girl about two months ago. things were going amazing. though all the sudden she tells me that she isn't ready for a relationship as its too much for her, so she breaks up with me. she has BPD and she's struggled with bad relationships in the past. could this be her BPD? I want to be there for her and everything she needs. I don't know what I should do because I really like her and want to be with her. 

also I believe I could have BPD. I seem to fit every one of the 9 criteria and almost every symptom of it. for a while I didn't think I could until I looked up the causes of BPD and found out that if you grow up with a family member with a serious mental health condition that you can develop it. my sister has bi-polar disorder. I know I can't self diagnose and am wondering if this is cause for concern enough for me to see a therapist/psychiatrist