
Me and my boyfriend were making a cake and I started laughing at how he was stirring the cake mix bc he was stirring so slow and then I told him jokingly he’s gotta mix it quicker. Then I messed around and “showed him how to do it”, then gave the bowl back to him to finish the stirring. We both were just messing around he knew I was joking. But then he started stirring slowly AGAIN and I thought it was hilarious bc I thought he was trying to mess with me. So I gave him a hit on the back and laughingly said “stop being like that!😂” then he got really mad and pushed me and my arm bumped the wall. It didn’t feel good but I don’t have a bruise or anything, I was only a foot away from the wall when he pushed me towards it. 

You could tell it was an accident and he felt bad after but It was so sudden what he did. I told him how I was literally joking and have no clue how he got so angry so quick and why he pushed me. He said my hit hurt but Im pretty sure I just lightly spanked him back...And I was laughing and telling him to “stop being dramatic” while doing it so I thought that would indicate to him that it was a joke.

He never pushes me and has never ever hit or punched me or done anything like that. He’s always had lashing out problems and when we get in arguments he loses control of his emotions and turns very defensive and mean BUT he’s never pushed me and definitely not over something so stupid. Is this just going to get worse?  Was me hitting his back too far? Or have any of you done this to someone even though you completely never intended to hurt the other person? 

Does anyone have any perspective for me?

Please help.  I don’t know if I’m being overly sensitive and I don’t have anyone to talk to.