I don't even know how to articulate this but i find its hard navigating having a partner who suffers from self harm and Depression. I feel like since they're dating me in this state they aren't in the best place to truly pick out what they deserve rather than settle for me for an unhealthy reason but beyond that there are other things that i experience, this is in everything but what I can articulate at the moment. 

**Shame**

I think I am an understanding and patient person but i am still to scared to open up to family about this relationship and the impact its having on me and what i can do to move forward because these things aren't common in our culture. 

**Self Blame**

I don't know i feel like because she still feels these emotions of loneliness and disdain that i am failing as a boyfriend, Its probably a very childish thought but i use it put myself down often.  I am too scared that if I say the wrong thing i might offend her and make her feel guilt and worse than she does or if i don't say anything she might think I don't care about her feelings when simply put I don't know how to respond to the topic of Self harm because I don't understand it neither am I a therapist.

Honestly idk I wasn't prepared for this kind of thing, I just don't want to be the catalyst for a tragic conclusion of this love story.