“People with BPD are abusive and manipulative!”

When someone either knows you have BPD or learns your attachment pattern for them, they figure out how easy it is for them to get away with everything. For example, someone who’s your FP figuring out your loyalty to them, and that how no matter how much you lose it, you come crawling back. So they’ll be more relaxed about fucking things up, because it’s not easy for you to just leave the relationship forever. They’ll take advantage of your passion and leave you alone when you’re upset.
Does this happen in every relationship? No. But it’s not uncommon for someone to learn you have a disorder specifically affecting relationships to learn how to work with that. 

As a result of this, I’m conflicted when it comes to telling loved ones about my mental health.