So it's regarding my mom. I'm honestly not sure if this is just a personality trait or if it's a mental illness, but I feel it's the latter. So the best way I've always described it is she "lives in a perfect, scripted reality where if anything outside of her planned script for the day or week goes different, she goes fucking nuts". It's weird because she'll be nice one minute, then let's say I turn the TV on in the living room for background noise if I'm at her place (she keeps it dead silent in the house), she'll turn it off. Another example would be holidays.

 I'm 20, and live by myself, and with Thanksgiving recently it's a good example. Now I know we all have our family traditions, I love them, but she is obsessively compulsive about them. It's so hard to describe, because trying to describe it to somebody outside the situation really just sounds like it's normal shit but it's not. So by overly compulsive let's say I need to run out to my car or something, and we haven't even started eating yet. She will get irritated with that, and pause everything until I'm back as if I'm holding it up. The tv gets turned off so no background noise, conversations are hard with most of the time family just trying to break her script(like counteract points she makes to what is really the truth about something) Again, outside the script. 

Animals - She's not great with animals, but she's not too bad either. She just got another dog after the last 2 passed away (unreleated to this/natural causes), and when I stopped by at lunch the TV was off again so the dog was just sitting in silence in her room in the kennel. I know this doesn't sound to big of a deal, but even with a dog of my own it doesn't take too much google searching to find out what psychologically fucks with a dog's head. My mom just sees them as objects? I guess. Like it's an animal, that is happy, sad, etc. (Basic emotions.), but that's it. Feed it, walk it, good to go. And like the past dogs, if it's not in her script to have time for a dog at the current moment (I don't even mean being in a rush or working on stuff. Just, "Nows not the time") she completely just gets irritated with it. These aren't as bad as the others, so I'll get back to those.

Extra examples: Lies about basic shit that nobody would really care about( example she says she's going to the store, but instead went somewhere else completely normal), lies to strangers about her life, is compulsive about where people park at her place, is very fake around people when eating out, and overall double faced. She claims that her boyfriend has family weddings she must go to at least once every 2 months, but after about 10 wedding receptions and her boyfriend only having 2 siblings, I'm just curious who the fuck are these people are who are getting married all at, unless she's just lying about those too. Another example is she despises my dad, and if I mention any of his siblings are coming up to visit another switch flips and she freaks out, and doesn't let my little brother see those other family members. Tells them he's at a friend's house or something then just keeps him home (he lives with her)


I don't know.. because at the end of the day, she is my Mom, and I feel bad because part of me wants to be on board with some of the stuff she does like holidays and whatnot, but just the whole "scripted" tone of everything I hate. And its not like I can call her out on certain things, because in her mind it's her way of putting in effort and trying to make a nice family environment.  What do you think?