21F here. I’ve had anxious thoughts and unnecessary worry since I was in middle/high school. I used to be on Zoloft, but I got off when I felt I was in a good place. I feel a bit more aware of my social anxiety since then.

My boyfriend’s friends are cool and I know they like me, but what makes me anxious is the initial greeting and goodbye — sometimes his friends will go for a “dab” or whatever it’s called and one of them joked that I was bad at it once. I never know if they’re gonna go for some handshake I suck at, fist bump, or nothing at all. I would prefer nothing at all so I don’t even have to think about it, or even a fist bump. Sometimes I’ll even try to make myself look busy or hold something so I don’t have to be approached for a greeting or goodbye.

I know this sounds irrational, but what might help me overcome this? I also feel like if I’m just chillin’ saying nothing then they’ll think I’m mad that we’re hanging out or something - once again because of a comment one of them made, particularly his best friend. I never get mad when we all hang out, but I feel like it’s been a lot lately and I find myself wanting to be alone with him more and I’m finding his friends a little annoying :/