A few weeks ago, a good friend of mine confessed his feelings for me. I told him that the feelings were reciprocated, but that I was too afraid to say anything because there is distance between us right now.  We’ve talked every single day since then. Typical shit that you talk about when you want to be with someone. We send each other long ass paragraphs while the other is sleeping. We talk about the shit we are gonna do and see together. He thinks we’re soulmates and that we are meant to be together. He suffers from depression and thinks that I’m the key to his happiness even though I tell him that in order for him to truly be happy he has to find it within himself.  He always says that he hates himself so he doesn’t think he’ll ever find that happiness unless he’s with someone. He’s a really great guy, but, like all of us, he does have his issues and I find myself constantly trying to “fix” him. To the point where I’m not even concerned about the issues I have in my life. I’ve always had a really bad habit of putting people before myself. Before he expressed his feelings for me, everything was going right in my life. I was doing well in college. But now, my anxiety is worse. I’m constantly thinking that he’s lying about everything he’s telling me, that he’s talking to another girl, he has anger issues and after every one of his episodes (it’s usually not even directed towards me or for something I’ve done but I do witness the backlash of whatever has pissed him off) he apologizes to me for it and I always say it’s okay because he told him it’s something that he’s working on and begged me to not give up on him. If he doesn’t message me back immediately I think that I’ve annoyed him or said something stupid and then I get irrationally pissed off and tell myself that I hate him and never want to speak to him again. I tell myself that if he doesn’t text me back within a certain timeframe I will never speak to him again. But then he will text me back like 5 minutes later and I’m suuuper happy again. I’m more concerned about his mental health than my own and I feel like it’s taking a toll on me. I’m not doing any of my schoolwork this semester and I’m sure I’m going to fail but I don’t even care. I mean, I do care but I am not doing anything to change that outcome. I feel like I shouldn’t be in a relationship right now, but I don’t want to disappoint him. I also feel like he needs to get his mental health in order as well, but when I bring it up he kind of just brushes it off as if I didn’t even say anything. How do I go about talking to him about this?