I feel like I’m losing my mind. I swear my husband has anger issues but he swears I’m the issue… 

I’m sitting in a locked bathroom now crying contemplating reasons to even keep going because he blew up on me for no reason. We were taking a shower and he said “ I turned the fireplace on so it would be warm out”. I miss heard him as he told me to do it, so I told him I wasn’t going to go out there in the cold to do such. He responded with a comment saying I should of asked what he said before getting mad… first off I was never mad… but he insisted he always does this when he doesn’t understand something. I reminded him of incident last week where he blew up on me not knowing all the facts. Our alarm system was going off (it’s a handmade one not adt or SimpliSafe) so I ran outside to warm him. The man yelled at me for not looking at the display before telling him… I did… he reacted to soon… so I used this as an example in our current situation. I wasn’t even mad about this issue. Well he blew up on me saying I should bring up past things if I can’t talk about them at the time…. I wasn’t even mad about this I was just using it as an example 🤦‍♀️ 

then he proceeds to tell be I’ve been in a bad mood all day… I’ve been gone to a class all day… I wasn’t even around him, and then he saying I’m jealous of him. I ask him what for…. He says his birthday…. Since he bought himself a new phone. He told me he was going to get me one and I asked him jokingly when I was going to get mine the other day and apparently that was a mistake. I have no jealously toward him and could care less if I get a new phone and told him a week earlier I didn’t need one. I feel like I’m losing my mind. I feel like there is no hope for this marriage. I feel like this man is insane and playing kind games with me and trying to blame it on me!