So, I see alot of hate for and advice against telling depressed people to "suck it up" or "happiness is a choice" in any way. Also, people say to "leave depressed people alone." And while I agree that "just be happy" is ignorant and stupid advice. In my experience (most of the last decade has been sad, lonely and hopeless), you do have to decide to be happy. Like, your brain is smart enough to trick you into feeling worthless and sad and hopeless. It's strong enough to go the other way. At some point you have to take that mental step to do something, not necessarily even go to therapy or take meds, but to make an effort to have something to build on. Or to find 1 small thing to motivate you to make things better or view what you have in a better way.
I'm having a hard time because my only good friend is fully pushing me away and honestly, he was my motivation. He made me laugh and think a bit more highly of myself and have a tiny hope for the future. He is lucky in ways that I would kill to be... just the beauty in the mediocracy of an average life is out of my reach (loving parent, friends, decent job, housing, car, relationship).  I want him to see that he can be happy, he has been happy. I don't want to overwhelm him but I know depression doesn't just disappear out of nowhere and I don't know how much I should push. Maybe I'm just weird but my logical brain doesn't disappear when I'm sad and most people it's not like that? lol