I would have what I call quiet BPD in the way that I try to avoid anyone (other than my boyfriend) seeing the true extent of how bad it can effect me in person. My friends are are all aware, but clued up... probably not, no matter how much I’ve tried to educate them in order to avoid any issues.

I find that whenever one of my semi-shitty friends upsets me, confronting them about it is almost more draining than what actually upset me in the first place. I feel like no matter how valid my upset is, my distress distracts from the true matter, like “oh here insertname goes again with her BPD overreactions”. It’s almost as if my reaction outweighs what was done that upset me in the first place, because they can’t relate to the level of upset I’m feeling over what they would view as a minor issue... purely because it doesn’t effect them like it would someone with BPD. 

I’m just so sick of having a perfectly valid reason to be upset, but because people view my reaction as an overreaction, it takes away my feelings validity:(