my boyfriend broke up with me today. he told me he needs to focus more on himself, and that we have grown apart from each other and he maybe wasn't ready to start dating when we did. we were together for almost 6 months. 
given I've taken almost a year of DBT, I've learned that yes, it's okay to need space and focus on yourself. he said he still loves me a lot and I'm really important to him, but he felt like it could get toxic between us. 
what I need some support in, is just radically accepting this reality as it is. I don't know why, but it seems really common for BPD people to love so hard, it ends up putting a strain on their relationships. he told me he feels like I'm a bit bossy and I  consumed a lot of his time.  I did not ask for him to dote on me like he did, to put all his concern into me. I was just starting to work on not taking things personally, but I never got the chance because be started to talk to me a lot less often. 
 I know I can get through this and that it will be hard, but I need some kind words right now...