Hi! im new to reddit and dating someone with bpd, we've been dating for five months! I'm very in love with them, and they are in love with me! I'm their FP and I've been reading as much as i can about bpd and how it works. I know that they react to my emotions and feel the same ones,  and generally put more interest into the things or people that i like. I have autism and am not the best at processing emotions and/or communicating them, but I am really trying. 

Lately we've been getting in arguments and discussions more and more about emotions and feelings. I have a lot of sensory issues and forget to communicate that sometimes. We have talked about what I need to do to make my girlfriend (they/them) feel secure, like reassurance and words of affirmation and maybe small gifts and thoughtful things. But a lot of the time i need clear communications and step by step instructions to properly help and care for someone. Im really asking for any advice, websites, books, links articles. Really just anything to keep our relationship secure. I'm in love with my girlfriend, i want to marry them. Any advice is welcome!! especially if you or someone you know is in an autistic/bpd relationship!