So...amazingly, I met someone off Tinder who actually turned out to be one of the coolest people I've ever met (I know there is idealization going on here too lol). We've hung out about 8 times since the beginning of June and he seems to genuinely like me. I'm really reluctant to open myself up to people but I've been pretty much myself with him and haven't needed to hold back much. I've worked a lot on managing the impulsivity and mood parts of BPD, but I still struggle A LOT with relationships, particularly ones that start becoming romantic. 

He told me last week that he hasn't even met anyone else. After he said that, my fears of vulnerability pretty much disappeared because I really thought that this had potential to blossom into something serious. However, today I went back on Tinder to see what was new and noticed that he updated his profile within the last week. We have been hanging out a bit less but he has been pretty busy (for what I believe are legit reasons) this week. My schedule is a lot more open than his so he knows that I can make time for him. But it feels like sometimes he says we'll hang out (particularly on the weekends), but we never do. And he doesn't text me either. He said he's going to stay home and work today instead of doing what he planned to do (and I was supposed to tag along; when he asked me to tag along, we were also supposed to hang out on Sunday) and now is saying that *"maybe"* we can hang out Sunday instead of him being free. 

I'm starting to panic. I've been ruminating about this for like three hours now. I don't know what to do. Do I bring it up? Is it too early to ask if this has potential to develop into something serious? I don't want to come on full strength because I recognize that this is unhealthy thinking and thought patterns. 

I would really appreciate any feedback or comments. 

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Thank you for your time.