This idea came from a coincidence. I accidentally walked into a bookstore one day when I was using to deal with me pain. And I picked up a "psychological" book that has a exaggerated title I would never read before. Most of the contents look like they are just second-handed informations copied from professional books, but this one article left me quite a impression. It talks about how people can change their mindset with heroism when they have troubled moments. Like, you can see these troubles as a evil dragons, and if you can defeat them then you become a hero. And the author thinks everyone has a wish deep in the bottom of their heart to become a hero. 

I know this sounds a little bit narcissist and rediculous. But I used to use this kind of method unconsciously a several years ago, when I was more stable. Every time I was having this thought of "oh my I just want to clapse and fuck up everything because I'm so sad" I would talk to myself, "girl, you are not born to be that weak." Then I went to work / not fucked up everything, and I felt like I was a hero indeed. Also if I managed to do it once, I immediately had some confidence on myself. It's a little bit like doing the opposite things in DBT. 

Now I'm using this mindset and DBT skills to quit smoking. It's hard but I want to be my own true hero! 💪