Dear all. I genuinely understand that this subreddit is for people with BPD and you want non-judgemental support and a safe outlet, and I really hope this is not out of line, but I have a BPD mother, and she is such a negative force in my life that I am concerned that I am forming a prejudice against BPD, and I would like to try to correct that with stories from you folk. Could you possibly tell me one of your worse points and one of your success stories?





On My Mother, If that is of interest to you: To whom it may concern, my mother does not accept that she is BPD, and refuses to go to therapy. She drinks over half a bottle of vodka or whisky a day and does not take care of her own life. Any taking care of her own life is a hardship, and she expects other people to do it for her, or for it to be easy, but does not recognise the work put in by other people. She is extremely hurtful, mostly verbally, but I left the home after the third time she tried to strangle me in the 1.5 years that I was taking away from my life to try to help her through her rough patch. She genuinely believes that she is supportive of me having a life, but even me wanting to take 30 minutes to have a juice and chat with a friend is "me being irresponsible and abandoning her and my duties." I have grown up with my mother giving me everything, but also controlling my life to an extreme degree, and being horribly emotionally hurtful. Hearing that she "can't believe she gave birth to such an assholish waste of space" is just about my every-day norm. Confronting her with what she does just results in denial and more emotional hurt and even physical violence. I don't want to get into all the things that are wrong with our relationship, but I know BPD isn't always like this. Help me break my prejudice, please. If you happen to have any other tips for me, I'd be happy to have them, but my main motive for posting here is not to seek help with my relationship.