I sort of managed to function at a decent level until my anxiety and depression took over my life after starting uni. I struggled with it prior to uni but since there wasn't a constant pressure I managed to keep it somewhat under control. Probably also helped that I was living "alone". I'm now finishing my first year post uni and my levels of anxiety and depression are the same as during the course. I live with my partner and I (we) really struggle with keeping the house clean. I get so overwhelmed and I realise that there are certain criterias that needs to be met in order for me to have some energy to clean, e.g not keeping the dirty dishes in the sink, but my partner keeps doing it anyway and I feel further overwhelmed. He does help to clean btw but also not... We are probably equally bad - he also suffers from. Anxiety, add and is also an only child (never really sure what is a result of what - does he not throw stuff in the bin because of add or is it because he is used. To his mom doing it (cuz she does)) 

I last week we had a tidy up together and it felt nice, I asked him if we could please continue to do all the tasks I find the most challenging together but when I asked for help again a few days later he didn't feel like it and all the tiny bits of "energy" I had worked up disappeared.

I'm not sure what I'm asking here, just feeling hopeless and helpless because I feel like the only way I might be able to keep stuff sort of tidy would be by living alone but that's kinda not an option... I feel like a child... (I'm 25 BTW)