No official diagnosis of BPD but I suspect I have BPD tendencies. Hard to be in relationships because I feel like people are always itching to leave, which from what I understand is a hallmark of this diagnosis. I get defensive, I shut down, but nowadays I don't cut ties like I used to so easily, now that I'm more aware of my pattern. 

What have you done in the past to make your relationship work?  How do you get past that hurdle of fear, and actually trust the person that they might actually love you?