So this guy is a sex addict or whatever you wanna call it. And since we were kids, he’s been trying to convince me that he was in love with me. He’s brought up marriage and buying a home together but I always thought it was bullshit because he’s military, and they tend to move fast from what I’ve heard. 

Anyway, my pet peeve is lies/dishonesty. Especially lying by omission. For atleast 7 years, he tried to portray himself as a single virginal man that gets no play. I never bought it because for one, he’s attractive. Secondly, he’s literally in the military and extremely in shape. Not to mention extroverted and charismatic.

So I played along with his stories fir a couple of years and denied his advances towards me. Albeit harshly. We had this really awkward period because I got a pretty drunk one night during a low and started talking dirty with him. I felt like our friendship was over after that so I went cold on him. But in reality, he was still there for me and not much changed. 

Anyway, at that point pure friendship could take a lot more than I anticipated. So I began trying to open up more and be genuine about his hyper sexual nature. I told him about all my sexual and romantic conquests and he’s never shared a single conquest with me. 

So he finally opened up. And it was what I expected. His body count is high. I felt revealed because it showed me that my intuition was right and that we’ve established a stronger level of trust. But recently, he’s gone back to being secretive. Not just about his love life. But everything. Especially his feelings. He tries to come off as strong and alpha. Even in his body language.

And it’s hard for me because I’ve known him since he was a small, scrawny boy. I’m sure he’s had to change a lot due to the military. But I feel like due to the bravado he puts on, our emotional connection is vanishing. He’s always been a really strong support system for me. So I feel bad withdrawing from him. 

He comes home in two months and for the past 6 years, we talked about all the things we would do together once he leaves the army. I just have a feeling I’m gonna tense up on him and go cold. And I would rather avoid this at all costs because he is my longest friendship to date.