So I have high emotions and empathy as someone with BPD, but has anyone else had people who were extremely toxic and abusive to you and your empathy for them shut off? My ex fiancé would threaten my life, self harm in front of me then shove it in my face and blame it on me, etc. and one day he was crying really hard because a family friend attempted suicide and after everything he put me through all I could do was just look at him and I really could not find it in myself to care about what he was feeling. I felt bored. And he had went “you’re not even going to comfort me?” And I think I said no. Anyone else I would’ve tried to help and felt bad for them, but he had done so much I just couldn’t feel anything for him even in the realm of empathy at that point. Has anyone else with BPD experienced this? Maybe it was like an automatic coping mechanism?