After a psychiatrists visit in which my father took me to and paid for, I was diagnosed with Borderline, my dad is in extreme financial struggle, 80k into student debt with a mid-paying career in an apartment where he has to work 7am to 9pm to afford to have both food, rent and chip at his debt, he cannot afford any therapy or anything to help me beyond this diagnosis.

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My mom lives in a double story suburban home which is completely paid off for, we're very well off and by definition 'upper class' but she is not good to me or the family, she yells as punishment for misbehavior (I am autistic), slaps, gaslights and complains about the bare minimum of parenting, I am a recent adult who lives with her and her husband (her husband is much worse, intense constant anger and alcoholism that he pretends isn't obvious but also needs to have 6 beers a day or else he gets violent), I HAVE to approach my mother about BPD.

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but the last time I approached her about mental illness and health she ended blaming me for 'begging for labels' and saying it doesn't matter what I have. honestly, approaching her to pay for therapy and potential help, maybe even psych ward is my only way out but I just have overwhelming fucking anxiety every time I see her and I can't, I just can't, she hates me, please, anyone, help me.