Let me start by saying people with BPD are absolutely not inherently manipulative - but that does not mean that sometimes we can’t act manipulatively. Looking back on how I acted before I started recovery, I can 100% notice my toxic behaviours and I’ve actively worked on not being that way anymore. But I know a few people who refuse to accept that sometimes they do act manipulatively and that people are just being cruel to call them out on this because of their diagnosis but sometimes that is simply not the case and it’s frustrating to see them almost reinforce the stereotype. Bpd is not an excuse or a crutch for you to use to justify manipulative behaviour - if you threaten suicide to someone to hurt them or illicit sympathy, that’s manipulation, and no diagnosis makes that okay. And if you accidentally act this way, you HAVE to apologise. Without taking accountability you cannot grow. Rant over