So I'm 17 and I've recently been diagnosed with BPD, I had suspicions that I might have had it for a couple of years but I was only actually diagnosed a few weeks ago.
Despite the diagnosis not being a major shock to me I still feel like it's a significant deal being diagnosed with a personality disorder.
Only my intermediate family and two friends know I have it but everyone seems not surprised.
I cant tell if it's because I fit the criteria in their eyes so well or if they are acting this way to keep me calm.
I asked my family is having BPD a big deal and they said 'no dont worry it's not like you have something serious like depression you will get over this phase' 
As a disclaimer I'd like to point out that I dont want people to make a big deal out of it or only see me for the disorder but I feel that I've been put on the other side where I am expected to hide it and act as if it is nothing so others dont know.
I guess what I'm asking is, is it expected that I dont mention it to people outside my family because it isn't significant enough, or, is it because if I did I would be attention seeking?
Like I said I dont want people to act shocked or focus on it but I would like to not feel that it's something to be ashamed of and if someone down the line asks me why I am how I am or why I react the way I do it would be nice to not feel embarrassed to say  'I have bpd contributes to my behaviour'.
The dismissive attitude people have had towards it is making me feel like it's not real like I faked it or even chose to have it.
Does anyone have any thoughts or a similar experience?