When, all of a sudden, you knew something was wrong with YOU, not others? In my longest relationship, we had gone through a lot. I always managed to blame it on him, well, I really thought it was HIS fault. Never mine. He was convinced it was his fault too. At one of my lowest points, I was on the phone with my friend and I just came to this realization, "am I the abusive one?" My friend paused for a bit. Then said, "I don't think so..." but I knew I was. In that moment, I knew it was me. 

I went to therapy shortly after and luckily the therapist invited me to her weekly DBT-like group therapy sessions. Curious about DBT, I looked a bunch of stuff up, came across BPD and was absolutely shocked. It was me. 

What was your aha moment? Mine came at my lowest period. When did yours come?