I have a very patient and kind friend with whom I am sexually intimate. We also like each other romantically, but for a few reasons we are not officially in a relationship. Though he has given me all the reassurance I could possibly need, small things will put me in a bad mood and I might withdraw slightly, say something baity or bring up the insecurity in an indirect way, when the best thing to do would be for me to tackle the insecurity myself. I am worried that I'm getting too dependent and though part of me wants him to feel bad/make him aware of my insecurity, I don't want to treat him badly or punish him or make him feel bad! I know I can stop myself from doing such things but it's like because I know he'll stay and I'll get away with it, I have become too comfortable subtly acting out. I know when I've said something with impure intentions and I want to stop and treat him well, even when I feel bad. not just when it is easy.  Any advice? 