Well things finally make sense. I've always suspected I had it, but being a male they've always wanted to say ASPD, bi-polar, etc. 

I had been on heavy benzodiazepine usage for close to the last 10 years and it really changed my 'real' personality.  Things changed big time and then I cold turkey quit and my personality came raging back. Thank gosh I started seeing a therapist in January because of my breakup and the cluster of death withdrawal symptoms.  She just happened to focus on Cluster-B by pure chance as well and she's the BEST therapist I've ever seen and I've seen too many. Here's to learning and growing and getting BETTER.