I need input on this. Like a month ago I was very suicidal and posted on a subreddit. A guy reached out to me and was very nice. I thought it would be just for that night, but he kept talking to me. He told me his name, stuff about himself, and even shared a pic of himself (unprompted). We then started talking on snapchat. We literally talk every single day. We got pretty close. We exchanged NSFW pics and stuff. He said he thought I was beautiful. He’s said I mean a lot to him many times, that he wishes I was there (we’re in different locations), called me his “little princess”, etc. 

Then on Tuesday I find out he briefly dated and got ghosted by a woman who, wait for it, also has bpd. This happened a couple days ago, apparently. He even made a post about it! I was kind like wtf and he kinda just acted like it wasn’t a big deal. Basically said that was surprised I expected anything given we’re on different locations. I was shocked given the stuff he’d said before, all of a sudden like that didn’t mean anything. 

The other thing is, I don’t know how he found out about my bpd, I never told him. When I asked, he said I told him, but that’s not true. I wonder if he’s like a trauma hunter or bpd seeker or something. Find the coincidence rather odd. Like does he lurk on subreddits trying to find vulnerable women/femmes?

Anyway, I’d really like an outside perspective and thoughts. Thanks