Me (30F) &amp; my mom (51F) (who a psychologist I talked to told me she most likely have BPD) have an argument  almost every week or so because she thinks I’m rude, acting like my dad (who she hates), for not always helping her financially, calling my boyfriend and friend racial slurs , and etc… 

Friday, she didn’t like how I answered the phone because I answered “hello?” and asked what she wanted.. because she was playing on the phone being silent and then she hung up on me saying I was rude…and went on a rant on group text with my sister talking about me and my boyfriend who she never met! 

So I blocked her and my sister for my own sanity! I’m so over us being friendly one day and the next days arguments.. she doesn’t care about my accomplishments.. she rolls her eyes and says “mmm” when I address my achievements or what makes me happy.. all she want is me unhappy and my money! 

BUT…..I feel kinda bad tomorrow is Mother’s Day… would you guys go over and visit? I already gave her a gift - $100 which she told me she put towards a bill… or should I just text her ?

The nice me wants to be respectful and visit.. but I don’t want to go through the awkward silent stages after and arguments  plus going over so soon is allowing this to happen all over again :(