As per title, just found out my partner has BPD

As someone who suffers from chronic depression and anxiety, I know what its like to have to fight all the time. When I finally started going to therapy, I was amazed at how much I didnt know myself and threw myself into researching the psychology behind all the trauma and coping mechanisms and established knowledge on my mental illness. The process shaped who I am. I dont like judging people and I seek to deepen my knowledge to understand where a person is coming from.

My first instinct when hearing about my partner having BPD was to know more. We are going through a rough patch at the moment with low levels of communication and a lot of confusion regarding her actions. She let slip that she had BPD which I didnt know prior. She has been distant and requested space so I dont know that I can ask her about BPD until shes ready to approach me. I feel I needed to search around elsewhere to better inform myself on this first. 

I want to be prepared for when she is ready, so I can ask how this affects her. Everyone experiences the world differently and I want to be here for her in the best way I can. I want to understand how BPD works psychologically so I dont go in there being unknowingly insensitive because I am ill informed.   

To that end, are there any books or blogs by psychologists I can look into that people recommend? And, to people in this sub who have BPD, what do you find is key to helping you feel comfortable talking about BPD other than someone learning about it? I'm genuinely curious how I can communicate my empathy without feeling like my actions are misunderstood or pushing her away