I feel like such a horrible partner but it’s getting to the point where my so’s mental health has taken a huge toll on our relationship. It just doesn’t feel the same anymore but I’m still so, so in love with him. I want to be there for him but it’s literally bringing me down in the process. It’s affecting me.  He talks about how he’s gained weight and will make comments about his depression but he doesn’t do anything to fix it. He lays around all day, plays video games, changes going from his room to his couch, then goes to sleep, isn’t working right now and then repeats the same day over again. 

I haven’t seen him for about 3 weeks because of other issues that have been going on, he is aware he lays around the house all day and just mopes about stuff, but he isn’t doing anything to fix it. 

I’m the type of person who believes that the best way to get your mind off something is to occupy it with something else. Go spend time with a friend. See family. Drive somewhere. Go out. Go to work. Do something. I’m not invalidating his depression but it’s getting to the point, like I said in the title, where I can’t rationalize or reason with him anymore because he just doesn’t make an effort to get up. I personally haven’t even seen him in 3 weeks like I said, and I make him soooo happy. 

I’m not even being selfish here. I’m just saying, when you have hard stuff going on and your mental health is getting worse, you think you would want to go visit people or places that take your mind off of your problems, at least temporarily. 

PSA I am aware that it is hard to get out of bed or do things when you have depression, even little things like showering or brushing your teeth. I feel like an asshole but I also feel extremely grounded in what I’m saying.