I've been diagnosed with BPD going on a year now. Of course, BPD magnifies the most important important relationships you have. Outside of God, my wife is the most important. She has done her best to create a safe environment for me, and everything in our lives is open to each other. . .literally everything. I have enough faith in her to know that I will be okay in regards to her being faithful to me most times. BPD does create doubt from time-to-time and that is the nature of the beast. However, because of the past, my mind is geared towards doing everything in my power not to be disrespected. The defining moment in all that bull crap was when my ex-wife flirted with some guy right in front of me at a convenience store. The guy she was flirting with looked me in the eye and smiled. I just stood there humiliated, disrespected and mad because I let that happen! Naturally, I'm completely triggered at convenience stores and always on high alert everywhere. To my wife's credit she DOESN'T flirt back with anybody, but there are a few times where a guy may get a few unnecessary words in. Not harmful, but I just want them to stfu already. I don't want any guy thinking that they have a shot. I don't want any of them to have the satisfaction that one guy had all those years ago. At work I see and know how low-moral guys roll. . .they don't give a damn. I see some married guys flirting with any woman that catches their eye. I don't want any guy at my wife's work (or anywhere) thinking, "Oh, I have a new possibility on my radar". If they have that desire in their head to get close to her I want them to leave dejected, deflated, and embarrassed by being shut down after talking with her. Anybody feel the same, and if so, how do you cope? Thanks in advance!