Hi, I'm new to Reddit and I know this isn't the best place to seek such advice but I would just like to speak anonymously about a problem I've had. I'm a week into my comp sci internship in Chicago that I've dreamt about for ages. The company that hired me is also known for a very high return offer rate so I know these are going to be the people I'll work with for years to come. It's the first Friday and everyone is making plans and I wasn't included. I've been really nice and tried to get to know everyone but this is a trend that's affected me everywhere. I always seem to feel left out everywhere I go. I feel isolated away by one member of a group no matter how close I try to get with others. I'm not posting this for validation, but I genuinely want to change and understand what's so fundamentally wrong with me that I can't make really close friends. I hung out with 3 other interns in my group the first night since we all go to the same school and it was really fun, but it seems like in the last four days I've found a way to isolate myself. I don't know what the problem is. I could try being more confident, but if I'm already the guy that people don't like, what help will speaking up do? I just watched some guy basically isolate himself from the group all week and get invited out and I don't understand it. I've been told I come across as a nice guy who pleases everyone, but if I can't even get enough people in my group to want to hang out with me in one of the best cities in the country, that's not the case. If I fix this problem, what if I stop being the nice guy, be myself, and become even more unlikeable? I just want to be happy enough and confident enough in myself to the point where I can create a solid group of friends to be around. Since my freshman year of high school, nights like these have just made me feel inadequate. I'm hoping posting on Reddit and looking for others that have potentially been through the same overthinking phase and overcome it is the worst it gets. I just really want to be able to be confident and myself around this group of people. I'm really struggling with it. Also, please understand that I'll be working with these people for at least the next four years. The thought of not 'pleasing everyone' and being disliked universally is something that really pains me and I'd just like to fix myself. I know I'm the problem because this happens everywhere and I genuinely just want to fix it. If anyone's been through anything similar, please respond and any and all help is much appreciated. I've seen the group talk about others in the group and call them weird and I don't want to be that so I've reverted to trying to stay quiet in my own lane and be nice. If this really isn't the right move, please help me fix this. I'm in this city for over 2 months and if I can't make friends here or at my huge state school, then Idk where I can