My SO has been interested in learning about BPD after I found out I may have it after some intense fights in our relationships. He’s even read some posts here which makes me feel optimistic about getting better despite all the shame I have from recent events. 

I sought help from a DBT therapist and she feels that I have it, however I haven’t been formally diagnosed. My therapist said my SO is welcome to come with me and he’d like to do that at my next appointment, however I’m feeling nervous and a little anxious since I don’t even know what to focus on or where to begin and I don’t want to end up stressed out during the appointment. My therapist is great and I’ve told her a lot about our relationship and fights/issues. 

Has anyone done this before and have any advice? Should we focus on a specific issue (our destructive fighting pattern and how to stop it) or should we treat it as more of a learning session for him? 

I was thinking maybe I go in for a little on my own and he comes in after or vice versa, or we spend the entire appointment talking about my BPD and learning coping strategies together. I just worry that I might mess something up so any advice would be greatly appreciated!