Yes, this is stemming from the sub for BPD loved ones. I hate that forum, it's depressing. It's pretty much a safe space for people to talk shit and dehumanize people with BPD and it's literally almost every post. I have found NOTHING positive on there so far. Seems like a lot of blaming going on, in my opinion. The diagnosis sometimes gives people the implied right to invalidate out feelings and blame us for everything.

Also, want to point out that most of these people were dealing with someone who was not in any type of therapy or treatment and was completely out of control. Most of us on the BPD sub ARE working to gain control of our lives. That's a really big difference.

Anyway, I just wanted to point out that plenty of people who DON'T have BPD are known as the "crazy ex". I hate that BPD is like the "crazy ex" label.

There are tons of poeple who lie, cheat, steal, abuse, whatever you can think of, and not all of them have BPD. There are people, like my father, who do those things just because they're an asshole and don't care about other people.

So stop blaming every bad fucking relationship on BPD!!!