I have BPD features and my boyfriend has BPD. I think we are both too afraid to say I love you. At least I am, because I've been abandoned and people have told me that they love me and then take it back. One time my boyfriend said that he "likes to give things he draws to people that he loves" and then, trauma response, I just stared blankly. And then he said "...And like". 

Anyway, I'm wondering if it's possible for people with BPD to be too afraid to say I love you instead of sometimes jumping in and saying it very soon.