Just seeing if anyone else out there has had relationships with a narcissist. I got into a rabbit hole of watching videos about BPD and then clicked on one about NPD, where it finally all made sense. I thought my ex boyfriend of 3 years was just abusive but he actually showed all the traits and characteristics of NPD. Then after doing some more research I learned that it is very common for people with BPD to fall for someone with NPD. Just very interesting to see that apparently I am not the only one. It also gave me closure somewhat to be able to explain why my ex behaved and treated me the way he did.