I apologize in advance for text formatting, currently on my phone.

Due to past toxic relationship trauma I realize now that subconsciously i view that sex and love correlate heavily with each other, and my bpd is making it so hard to unlearn it. 

Im in my first and only ever healthy relationship with my middle school sweetheart. He's so kind, patient, loving and understanding; just overall my best friend.
Due to college/mental health stuff/overall stress, we stopped having sex. 

Now being completely honest with myself, I would marry this man in a heartbeat even if we had a sex-free relationship for the rest of our lives. I know logically that he loves me. 

In past relationships, my partners would never show affection or tell me they loved me unless we had sex.  My current boyfriend shows me affection a lot, he reminds me that he loves me and that he's here for me and it makes me feel reassured for awhile. 

But im a very hypersexual person, or at least I used to be. Im self aware in the sense that he can love me and not have sex with me, but to me sex is also something that I can share with the person I love and it makes me feel needed/wanted. I've been feeling really insecure about myself and second guessing if ill be enough for him. This has nothing to do with his actions, for the record. 

I guess I dont really know how to get out of this head space and im asking for advice. I dont want to mess my relationship up and ive been giving myself panic attacks and non stop anxiety about this for months. Im tired. I just want to feel secure with myself for not only me but my relationship. 

If you have any advice, YouTube videos, links or anything it would be so appreciated. Thanks in advance.