I left my ex about 6 months ago. She has been posting almost nonstop about me being abusive and toxic when she is the one who is a text book narcissist. I well documented our relationship here.

My new gf came to town and we've been going out in the city My ex lives in and im scared im going to see her.

I have been kind of stressed about maybe randomly running into her. It's a big city, so hopefully not, but its still an irrational fear of mine.

I want to also figure out how to get over "caring" what she says about me. I know she will never stop the online torture (she does the same thing about her other exes) but how fo I get to a point where what she does doesn't effect my mental state anymore.

There has already been an instance of her calling my new gf out on tiktok and still trying to have a level of control over me. She knows she can trigger me onto a depressive episode, I just want to try and get to a point where it doesn't matter anymore.