So my friend with BPD had to cut ties with her FP because her FP was constantly hurting her with her acts and so like, also,  her FP has a girlfriend but they stayed as friends after they broke up last year but things got out of control. 

I was very proud when she cut ties and gave a finall conversation with her FP. however she has been in a very big meltdown for 3 days now. She has been taking too many sleeping pills which dont allow her to be functional and is in a very obssessive pessimistic state of mind. 

She keeps saying that nothing will be ok without FP and feels very abandoned , she says that she was expecting that when she cut her off FP would realise everything shes doing wrong and change for her sake . she was expecting for FP to look after her after the final convo and prove my friend that she actually cares for her. "i know its kinda toxic but i want her to come and tell me that she leaves everything for me and youre the msot important person to me and i didnt know how to value u"

Thats not happening, i dont know what else to say, ive tried to give her support and tips to get her distracted , but its like she wants to feel bad. ive told her that im very proud of her for cutting her off and that now everythig will get better. but shes being irrational. her friends are worried for her and she has said that she wants to be hospitalised for a few days . 

I dont know what to say to make her feel better , she has people that love her but shes in a state of mind where she doesnt realise that. its also very complicated bc if you try to help her she starts to think then u also hate her. if u dont comply to her she thinks u hate her and if shes being impulsive doing things, try to stop her, cant handle her and try to give ur self a rest i think shell enter a "see, you also left, you also hate me". i dont know what to do. 

how can me or her friends talk to her with out making her feel attacked, im scared shell do something impulsive