Hello there, I would like to ask if anyone knows what happens after the devaluation in quiet bpd. For example, does the person with bpd remember what had triggered it in their head long after it happened. Even if it was something like the non-bpd coming to a gathering a bit later than usual. And if so, would they ever share the real reason as my girl denied everything through texting when saying at first that her spontaneous passive aggressiveness that night didn't have anything to do with me and that I'm not special for her but then changed the reasoning to unrelated and meaningless things that took place around the end of the situation. There were like 5 other people ,including her sister, who didn't receive anything but fake smiles and laughs the whole time while she was clearly (for me at least) suffering inside, meanwhile I was targeted and couldn't even get close to her so I was taking it with a sincere smile from distance. But it continued... let's say it lasted for about 12 hours (from the beginning of the night till 9-10 pm) and it didn't get better at all. After that we were texting a bit but no one mentioned the whole situation. We met a couple of days later (again with other people) and she wasn't even looking at me and still seemed irritated and nervous. Then she would just answer in a careless way to everything I was trying to talk for with her while we were walking. Would she also remember anything from our past experiences as they were so many and the intensity was surely on a high level.