I don’t really know if this is the right place to post this seeing that I don’t have BPD (i probably did a few years ago though), but i still deal with a lot of the symptoms and I go to DBT so i don’t know where else to ask.

i started talking to someone around a month ago and IMMEDIATELY got a crush on them. i talked to them for hours and i even stayed up until 5 a.m. because i knew they were gonna watch a digital concert and i wanted to watch it with them. i thought about them all day and even my friends noticed that i was crushing on this person after only a day. 

we met online through mutual friends, so we hadn’t met irl. we started talking more and more and called each other almost every day. i asked to meet up multiple times, and even though they seemed interested to meet, they always cancelled and postponed our meet up. 

after that happened i pretty much lost all my interest overnight. we’ve met irl with some friends now, but my feelings are still gone. 

i used to laugh and joke around with inside jokes we had, and now they just irritate me and i find them repetitive and boring. i usually leave them on “delivered” for hour at a time because i forget to text them back, or i’m just not motivated to. we never really call anymore either. 

i honestly don’t know what to do. i do genuinely like this person, i really wish i was able to obsess over them like before. i thought my feelings would return after we met up, but they didn’t.

does anyone know how to deal with this? should i call off the “relationship” or is there still hope that my feelings will return?