Is this a symptom of her BPD? It’s almost as if she can’t handle seeing someone with something she doesn’t have, that she needs to have what someone else has, if not better than what they have. 

My friend has started buying the same random things I buy off Amazon.. she will literally always notice if there’s some sort of new kitchen gadget or household item, and ask where it’s from. She then gets it for herself… 

If we go shopping together ( I now bo longer want to).. she will see what I’m buying or what I have tried on and grab the same thing… literally went to a boutique and tried on a dress, loved it, she saw it on me and asked the woman if there was more in the back just so she could also buy the same dress. 

We have now shown up or hung out together and she’s wearing the same exact color leggings I’m wearing.. or now wearing a top I always wear… now making me not want to wear things because im tired of us “matching” or wearing the same things. It’s just weird. 

It’s a bummer because it’s nice to be able to have a girls day and shop with a friend… but not when they copy everything you do. 

My only resolution to this is no longer shopping with her… but this doesn’t stop her friend noticing im wearing some new sandals and noticing the brand then purchasing them herself. 

Also let me add, she is a compulsive shopper/ hoarder.. so it’s also driving me a little crazy that she is constantly buying more things because she sees someone has something she doesn’t.. but will literally have 20 pairs of something else similar at home. 

I try and remind her when she’s being impulsive and shopping that, “ you have the same thing at home” or “you already have 20 pairs of sunglasses at home, do you really need a new pair?”… because it’s gotten to the point, I’m not trying to just go along with the way her brain works and condone these impulsive/ hoarding behaviors… 

Anyone have any input? Any friends hear dealing the the same? Or anything here with bpd do this and what are your thoughts