I just joined here tonight, but one thing I have found myself saying is “I relate to 85% of what most people are saying, HOWEVER, nobody has expressed to a specific point what I go through even despite the same diagnosis”. SO, the difference (from what I’ve read from people so far, and in my mind) is that I know who I am. I know what I want from people (which is usually hardly anything bc I prefer to give, that’s what actually makes me happy). I know myself and how I work and not only that but I am self aware of everything good and bad, I articulate this and etc. to my partner very well, I communicate in exact terms because I know almost everything situationally that will set me off, I live in mostly black and white (“it’s” either too obvious or not obvious at all) etc etc etc. I find that despite the communication and expectations and obvious ground rules I lay out very specifically beforehand when it comes to any type of relationship, I find that when one of these things mentioned is broken, but more importantly IGNORED, I lose my shit. I don’t punch walls, and now that I’m older (only 24) I still hardly ever raise my voice like I did years ago. I’m aware of it all, and so I can be as calm as possible while still trying to hold back and battle my BPD(+) that’s sitting there in the back of my mind and my temper bubbling with every negative word/thought added to the situation, how do you guys deal with the people around you and close to you when they don’t seem to grasp the VERY black and white idealizations you live by? Do you just cut them off and let them know this won’t work? Did they get better do you? Did you get better for them? Mix of both when the right person is involved? Anything would help