I started in DBT froup therapy yesterday and came in at the end of the intro unit (they're restarting it next week). What they were talking about was healthy boundaries, porous boundaries, and rigid boundaries. I was a bit disappointed in myself that I had NO healthy boundaries, all of the porous ones, and maybe one rigid.

After therapy I went shopping and was talking to my mom on the phone and she started asking me about my FP, who I'm going through some stuff with. I told her I didn't want to discuss it (honestly was trying my best to not think about him or I'd start crying), and she pressed, and I told her no again, and specifically told her I was putting up a healthy boundary by telling her no, and redirected the conversation to discussing what I learned in therapy that day about boundaries.

I got to use it AGAIN today. I'm on a dating app and just matched with someone new. He was nice enough and we exchanged a few pleasantries, then he asked for my number. I told him I'm not comfortable giving it out yet and offered my Instagram messenger instead. He said he doesn't use Social media, and dismissed my boundary and asked for it again as if I hadn't already said no. I gave him the reason why I don't give it out and that we could still talk on the datingHe pressed a third time, and I reiterated my discomfort in giving it out right away and stayed firm with my healthy boundary of saying NO. He stopped messaging after that, but that's okay, because I need people in my life who respect the boundaries that I DO put up.