SPOILERS AHEAD!!!

I just got back from the new star Wars movie and I noticed so much prevalence with Kylo Ren and BPD. His impulsive behaviors, his need for unlimited power to feel good enough (that is his validation), his quick and sudden mood changes, the way he feels abandoned by those he loves, how he so calmly got into Rey's head because he is so skilled at manipulation, it's like you can see his inner child. Then when Rey healed him and left, he switched to the light side, and it makes me think about how when we get somebody who genuinely cares about us and helps us heal and how that can help calm our symptoms, or even begin to deteriorate our BPD itself. We have to take responsibility for our healing and our emotions, and that's what Kylo Ren did after he was healed. He realized he's strong enough to fight the "evil" within him. Our symptoms can be used to our advantage, they are often destructive though due to our belief that we're bad. For example, use your mirroring ability to deeply understand others. Use your manipulation to help others see the good in themselves and in others. These are tools that are neither good or bad, they just "are".

Another thing I quickly wanted to point out, when Rey electrocuted that ship that she thought Chewbacca was on, the electricity came out because she was resisting the darkness within her. She thought she had to be "all good" (which nobody is) and therefore when he shadow side started to peak it's head, she resisted it out of fear. But we need to embrace our darker side, everybody has toxic traits, everyone has a darker side. By doing this, we can use our symptoms and other aspects we resist or don't love to our advantage. Dark energy is creative energy.