Hi, could I get advice on this situation? 

My last relationship with my patenter ended around October of 2021? The way it ended was messy and horrible and I wasn’t really doing well for a while after that. I’m currently no longer sad about the relationship, though as much as I would like to convince myself that I’m better, just seeing any picture of my ex sends me into a spiral.

I was talking to my friend about it the other day (he’s also a mutual friend of both of us) and he mentioned that my ex wanted to contact me in the future for “closure” or whatever that means. He also told me I needed to get to the point where I can forgive them and be indifferent when I see them. 

I don’t really know if I have the energy to do that anymore and I’m so worried when I get contacted by them again I’ll have another breakdown.