I finally confronted my abuser, nearly ten years later. 



“The Cuomo case has brought up a lot of trauma regarding what you did to me the night of the graduation party. 

I am going to say this once. 

You victimized, humiliated, dehumanized and traumatized me. You sexually assaulted me. You are a horrible excuse of a man. A goddamn disgrace. You did it with such ego—with a fucking smirk on your face. You had no shame. It was like you felt it was your right to assault me. You were my superior, I was vulnerable and I was practically a child. 

After I came forward—you showed no remorse and you learned nothing. You desperately attempted to discredit me by saying that I was drunk, that we were still fb friends and that I subsequently emailed and spoke to you. And you apparently wanted to sue me for defamation? How pathetic. 

Let me break this down for you. I do not have to act a certain way after being sexually assaulted. You do not get to decide how your victim responds to their trauma. 

Sadly, I have been sexually assaulted several times in my life. And each and every time I did not speak up while it was happening. In fact, I have yet to speak up about several of them. That is my prerogative. Each time, I continued on as if nothing happened because that is how my brain processes trauma. That is the nature of trauma. The fucking audacity of you to deny your assault and then attempt to discredit me and victim blame proves that you are a piece of human garbage. You are scum of the earth. So much for your ridiculous “leadership” degree. 

I’m still dealing with the ramifications of your assault. It affects me profoundly to this day. You scarred me for life. 

You are so very, very lucky that I did not go public with this, that I did not press charges and sue you in criminal court. You know what you did. You have to live with that for the rest of your life—and so do I. You’ve had to lie to your wife, you maybe even have had to lie to yourself, but you know what you did. 

Get fucked, Jim.”

Edit: I just sent this to his wife