Hi everyone. I'm (27F) engaged to my very loving and supportive partner (26M) and we have been a couple for almost 8 years. I only finally got a BPD diagnosis last fall and everything suddenly made sense. Before the diagnosis I was still working as hard as possible to improve myself but struggling and fiance often found himself playing the role of therapist. The first few years of our relationship were rough because I was unable to support him in the way he needed. Although I've improved immensely and no longer need him in that role, he is now afraid that I will revert to old ways. Almost 2 months ago he tried to leave me, after we had been engaged for about 2 years. He loves me immensely but is burnt out. 

Since the conversation in which he tried to break up, we are still living together, have gone to couples therapy, communicate openly about issues that need to be worked through and past actions I have forgotten about that I am 100% owning up to. 

Our wedding is supposed to be in August, assuming the virus doesn't prevent that. Despite all of our work, he is still afraid commit to marriage at this point. I know he just needs time but the time we have is running out. This is absolutely torturous for me and I don't know what else I can do.