Basically title, he has become noticeably more distant recently but I am unsure if it is because of a loss of interest or something else. When I say we are "sort of seeing" each other, it's in that awkward in between phase, we were unofficially boyfriends I think at one point, but then my drug addiction got worse and there was a bit of distance put there, understandably, but he didn't like totally up and leave either. We didn't see each other for a month until a week ago, when we were super affectionate in person, totally felt like we were boyfriends. But since then I guess I've kind of become more affectionate in general because I realised how much I had missed him and how I reacted to seeing him, whereas he got a tiny bit more distant, which is weird because he seemed really enthusiastic when we saw each other.  

  

He did mention the other day that he was really sad about something but didn't want to talk about it. So I'm unsure to what extent it could be something like that that's making him more distant. Basically it's that plus the mismatch in person vs online that make me think possibly he's not losing interest. However everything else points towards it being that.  

  

I don't know how to approach the situation, I'm crap at taking hints in general anyway. Last time something similar happened it went totally wrong, we had a conversation where the other guy said to me that he needed a bit more space, this somehow escalated into destroying my life. Sounds like hyperbole but 2 close friends lost, 2 drug addictions, 2 trials (one fair, one mistrial) and a job lost later, I think I can say it did indeed ruin my life. I don't think that would happen with this guy, but I am obviously nervous about the idea of bringing it up. It isn't very elegant and could be quite offputting as it would put him in an awkward position of possibly having to essentially tell me to go away slightly. But the uncertainty is eating me up inside, I just want to know: if I need to calm down a bit and message him less, I can do that, but I don't want to do that if he \*isn't\* losing interest because the amount I'm writing to him is an expression of my interest in him.  

  

...help?