i absolutely hate when people try to give advice but instead just come of rude. i wish someone could just say ''i understand dude, these are your BPD issues, and you're validated'' . Instead people often say ''dude stop searching for labels'' this often infuriates me and i often engage in suicidal gestures when this happens, i start to feel so angry at myself and how i was born with horrible articulation and how i will never be ''understood'' this than leads to feeling angry at the people around me and i start to feel envious of others who get validation while i try so desperately to feel 'understood', on a side note i often split at most people, the worst part is i find no ambition to ''change'' i feel like this is more of a personality style than disorder for me personally, the only time i feel extreme distress and impairment is when i get attached to somebody or when i am extremely invalidated.