Hello,

This is my first post on here, (I’ve mostly been a lurker), but I’ve come to a difficult point in my self-realization process. 

I’ve been working with my therapist, but we have other pressing things we’ve been speaking about lately. Basically, this is me asking for advice (I suppose..). As many with BPD know and experience, the craving to be close with everyone but also being afraid of abandonment is SUPER overwhelming. And a lot of the time, when gaining this closeness, I struggle with setting clear boundaries. I also don’t necessarily choose the greatest people to be close too. 

How have any of you 1.) set clear boundaries without feeling like a prick and 2.) avoided getting close to the wrong people? 

I feel like my brain/body attaches and creates FP’s way too easily and then I scare them away. But I am afraid of being alone so I continue to search out friendships, good or bad. 

Any advice on how to combat this? TIA :)