I have BPD, and this is the first FP friendship I’m having where I know I have BPD…if that makes sense. Like before this all of my friendships where I’ve idolized people I didn’t know I had BPD, but now I do.

Do I tell this person? Our friendship is good but is a little on the rocky road right now, and they may know. They’ve helped a lot with my anxiety/depression and being like “yo you need help” and being the first person who’s been there for me, showing patience and time for me. I want to be fair and tell them why I have been dependent/too reliant on them, may have been unfair to them etc etc.

They may already know, but is this something I should bring up? As like a courtesy thing? And if so how does one go about doing that?

Is this a good idea do you think? I don't think they'd be the type of person to then hate me for it, I would guess they would be like thanks for telling me, but also I have BPD, so I could just be assuming all of this. Again, she could know she's given me so much patience and once I asked why she still stays friends with me even when I act like I do and always doubt and am scared she's going to leave me and she always says because she knows she can give me the patience and the friendship that I deserve.

But she could also just be a real good understand friend..heh.

I definitely don't think she'll take it in a bad way, my only thought is like, would it actually help anything? As opposed to her just being like oh this makes sense, cool, and we'd just go back to having tensions. Because she could have left so many times and ignored when I've called her or texted her or been mad at me when I shut her out for fear that she'd leave me so I try to leave her but come back because I can't handle not being  her friend...you know how it goes Lolol