Do any of you have any experience or advice to provide with regard to controlling myself from pushing my partner away?

He's told me that he's unhappy in the relationship when I am confrontational and irritable and angry, but that he is happy when I'm happy, and wishes it could remain that way. I wish for that too -- I hate having episodes and being out of control. I just want to get better from this.

Can anyone provide any advice?

Thanks.