Is this an issue with BPD? I feel like I only really get upset that I upset someone when I got caught doing something they wouldn't have liked in the first place. I don't think about how they would react and only react when they finally do, and I'm not sure if that's unintentionally manipulative as well. 

Even then, I don't really understand the gravity of what I've done, and once I'm done being talked to about those things I go about my day and I never stress about it unless they're REALLY upset. 

Is anyone else like this? Am I broken?