Hello all,

I've read the rules for this subreddit and just want to confirm one thing before I can make a post.  
Rule 4 States to not ask for diagnoses or ask for medical advice. It also states to not assume that a loved one or friend has BPD or another illness.  
That being said, my (25 male) girlfriend (24 female) of 7 years is exhibiting a good number the BPD traits but both of us can't presently afford to get her in for an official diagnosis. Am I not allowed to ask for relationship advice or feedback on how I'd like to proceed (I really want to make our relationship work) with my girlfriend here under the premise that she could potentially have complex BPD due to her behavior and the traits she's exhibiting?

Thanks in advance!