I just don’t think we aren’t supposed to be in eachothers lives because I believe we are trauma bonding. We have NOTHING in common except that we both have a traumatic past. I’ve only known them for 9 months so the sooner the better. I’m trying to be logical about it and not do it abruptly where the other person knows.. I’d rather do it in a methodical way where it’s more like ‘drifting apart due to life’.  Also, the person is kind of ‘in love’ with me... we spent a lot of time together in those 9 months. But they are broken and so am I so I know it isn’t a good situation... like I said, the sooner I drift from them, the better. I’ve tried scaring them off by saying I suffer from a mental illness (that normally seems to do the job based on anecdotal stories) but they have flinched. 

Advice would be great.