Everyone here knows the stigma and distrust against those with BPD, even here on reddit with the raised by BPD sub. The question remains however, how do we fight the stigma? The ugly truth is that our disorder does indeed cause overwhelming damagw to our interpersonal relationships, and to the people involved in them. This seems to warrant stigma. And yet, as we all fail to see, the world is not black-and-white, we are not evil, and on the whole most of us struggle to be better people. How then should we approach the world outside of our fellows with BPD? Should we resign ourselves to the shame society brings upon us, accepting it as justified? Should we seek total forgiveness and accomodation instead, given that in many cases the disorder is beyond our control? I imagine that the answer is neither, and that there’s a synthesis between. I’m making this post, however, in order to promote healthy discussion as to the exact nature of the damage we cause. I believe that if we can navigate that damage, than we can finally stop beating ourselves up (unconstructively), and start getting better and being better.


Anyhow, that was a bit of a ramble, what do you all think?