I look at them some times. Just because the stories can be helpful in identifying my own patterns and can serve as a reminder to  always think before I speak and  act. Or to at least try to. 

But it can be hard to read. I totally understand that it is a safe space so I would never comment but some of the things that are said in response to those just asking for advice on things to do to help make things work with someone they love are so hurtful and generalized. Nothing can ever be the fault of the loved one and the pwBPD is always this monster. I don’t believe that’s true. Not to say I do acknowledge how difficult it can be, truly. 

They speak in absolutes like they are actual professionals, and it can get infuriating at times because I truly know in my heart that someone with this condition can genuinely have a lot to offer in a relationship - as long as they acknowledge the illness and strive to better themselves regardless of it. 

I’m mostly just venting out of worry they are right, I’m sure lol. I understand the trauma that can be inflicted by someone else’s condition, as I’m sure many of you do.

I just find it ironic that they claim we live only seeing things in black and white, but then they often paint the condition in the same light? As if all of us are exactly the same, with no grey area. 

I know I can and will be better, and learn to love better, regardless of what the stigma is though, of this I’m sure.

Ugh lol.