I'm feeling so terrible right now. I knew I had manipulative tendencies but it was usually just to get my way, and I had never really hurt anyone like this. I didn't want to. I'm 26 and a single lesbian. I started talking to a girl off of an app and to me, it was pretty casual. From the start I could tell I wasn't going to 'like' her like that, we disagree on huge issues like kids, politics, come from really different lives, etc. But I was bored and would flirt with her anyway, never taking it too seriously. I personally just enjoyed the attention and am really lonely. She started telling me she liked me and I lied and told her I liked her too, but I really was just thinking about hooking up with her. We had a really cute date and were drinking and she asked me to be her girlfriend. I panicked, but at the moment we had a great evening and I said yes. That night we had sex. It was her first time with anyone and I knew that. We saw each other a few more times but I knew I needed to end it before it got more serious. I started texting her less and she noticed. But instead of acknowledging that, I just told her that this was too much for me, she was being too needy and I didn't have time for a relationship after all. She started crying and asked how can I take her virginity and then end things so quickly? I told her that's life? We're adults. It has happened to me so many times and I never took sex as a very serious thing, so it really didn't hit me until then that I did something really fucked up to her. I'm very used to one night stands but now that I'm putting myself in the position of someone who waited 28 years to have sex only to be dumped so soon after... Ugh, this poor girl. I've apologized but I don't know what to do. I'm scared an appalled that I could have been so awful to her. I don't know what the point of writing this is.. have you guys ever hurt someone you didn't mean to?