
We got along great when we first met. She was bubbly, talkative, and sweet. We talked for a while and I walked her back to her dorm. She got  more quiet in her room. We hung out a few more times in a group but she was basically silent kept the conversation extremely short. She almost seemed to be avoiding me but sat by me. I think she was tipsy the first night and sober the rest but I know she’s not normally shy to the point of being silent even sober. She pretty much didn’t reply to my text asking to hangout for a while day after I texted and said she didn’t see it. 

We didn’t talk for a while but when I saw her out at a party she was staring at me and seemed interested. When I was near her she gave me a hug and than kinda introduced me to a friend and that’s was it. I saw her again and she was really drunk but also flirting with me a lot. She had her hands on my chest and was really bubbly and social again but the next time I saw her out she seemed to hate me or she pretty much walked away from me and seemed annoyed. But somehow later that same night she walked up to me and seemed super super happy and gave me the biggest hug with her arms around my shoulders. Another time her friend started telling me she liked me and that I should go for her. So when I saw her out she was flirting with me for a long time but eventually pretty much straight up walks away twice (I tried coming back after she kinda walked away). I can’t tell if she’s only interested when drinking. She’s not an alcoholic or anything this is spread out over a while. I’m just lost about what I should think of this.

But basically after a while of this I got tired of it. I feel like it was shyness and not gsmes possibly but it was stressful and hurtful to have someone walk away. I did send her a picture with a girl once and i talked to another girl I was talking to infront of her.. but this was after she’d done all the stuff I wrote above. So I was kind upset and also felt she wasn’t interested.

But than on two separate occasions since all this happened I’ve gotten mass spams of rude texts from her but these were when she was drunk. ( The thing is nothing ever happened between her and I at all. There’s no history. We’ve hugged at social gatherings. I’ve asked her friend about taking the girl to date parties and if the girl might like me or would wanna go with me. But nothing worked out with her and she consistently seemed uninterested so I moved on. She even texted me abt how she didn’t tell her friend She would go to the date party w me. ) So I thought things would be all good between us and fine. But since than she’s clearly really upset. There’s nothing I can really apologize for or talk to her about since nothings happened and there’s nothing to talk about. She repeatedly told me to be honest with her. She told me she hated me, that she’s hotter than me, nicer than me, and better than me. She said I act like a middle schooler and that she’s gonna ruin my life. She was never really this rude before she became close friends with this sassy girl. 

Basically she sent hours of cruel texts. I don’t know if she has BPD but to me this seems like it could be BPD behavior? I have no clue why she acts like this. It just seems very irrational to me. I have no clue how to deal with this or how to respond