I met this guy online at the beginning of October, he's from Canada and I'm in Australia. I went to visit him last week (I was already going to Canada, I just changed my plans around to meet him during my holiday) and we really hit it off and want to try long distance (he wants to move out here eventually).

Main issue is he's bipolar and I'm BPD. I feel like our disorders really clash with each others. He'll fall in to a deep depression and shut me out and I start panicking that he doesn't want or need me anymore, which then causes my self destructive tendencies to rear their ugly head. 

There's only been a couple of clashes in the past two months but they've made me nervous because of our very different ways of coping with our emotions. He needs time to think things through and I need instant reassurance. I've tried so incredibly hard to be patient with him when he needs time/space, but it's agonizing and I feel like there has to be some way I can learn to cope with giving him space without working myself in to crazy panic mode.

Any suggestions or advice on a bipolar/BPD and/or on a long distance relationship would be immensely appreciated.