My marriage has just gotten worse over the years. It feels roommates style on my side. I have talked to him about it and he turns it on me. He blames me and calls me crazy or saying I am sabotaging the marriage. I asked him to be more affectionate since that's my love language he refused. I am not sure what else I could comprise on. I already feel like i lost who I am as a person years ago. Leaving isn't an option because I am scared to leave him alone with out kids for more than a few hours. Can people change or what else could I change?