Ive talked about this on a few posts on here, but someone recently commented saying I should put this as a thread, so that's what I'm doing. Just an FYI, I'm a 20 year old with BPD, but I've made INSANE progress by acknowledging and doing these things. I'm beyond grateful.

We have addictive personalities. We can get addicted to drugs, alcohol, or even a person. When we watch TV, we may subconsciously (or consciously) associate ourselves with those people because they give us an identity. When they die on TV and we lose them, we feel like we are losing part of ourselves.

To work on this, spend time alone. Meditate. Don't turn to other people or alcohol or drugs. Just enjoy your time alone. The only thing I would give the ok to is weed, because it has really helped me. Do it 4 times per week at most; balance is the key to dealing with BPD. 

Dig deeper into you and why you have BPD. Did you have a toxic parent or authority figure who wouldn't give you attention unless you acted up? We're you molested? Beaten? How did that effect you? Dig deeper into "you". Be mindful of your thoughts and emotions. Don't judge them, just try to figure out why they are there. If you can't then that's okay, just breathe, focus in the breath, and bring yourself back to the present.

Notice how the title says that you can CONTROL. Too often, people in general spend their energy on things they can't control. Instead, focus on what you can control, and that's how you react. Life starts to shift when you do this.

Recognize you are not the voice in your head, you are the presence behind your thoughts. Let's personify the voice in your head (the one you hear when reading this), pretend you are sitting next to each other on a couch watching TV. Now, say that a scene comes on that reminds the person next to you of their ex and they start getting upset and telling you that they are worthless and not good enough. Then the scene changes and they start laughing. Would you take this person's opinion and advice as 100% fact all the time with full conviction? Probably not. Instead, observe your thoughts from that presence behind them. Don't get sucked into them.

Focus on understanding yourself. The more you understand yourself, the more you will accept yourself, and you will eventually love yourself. By doing this, you will naturally empathize with others, perhaps control our mood swings and anger. Either way, this is a great habit to get into. There's a reason why everyone does what they do; you just have to look deeper than the surface. Hurt people hurt, it's usually nothing to do with you if they put you down.

Last but not least, do things you're afraid to do. That doesn't mean jump off a bridge or shoot up heroin because it's scary, but what I'm saying is if you see a girl (or guy) you think is cute, go up and talk to them. Don't spend too much time analyzing the situation, analysis is paralysis. Go to the gym even if it's uncomfortable. It's personal growth and will teach you a lot about yourself. You'll realize you're much more capable than you think. Take cold showers. It's uncomfortable, but your subconscious mind doesn't know the difference between discomfort in a social situation and discomfort through a cold shower. So, it will get comfortable getting uncomfortable. It's kind of a mind hack.

I've done all of these things and I've seen my life change. I want to become a therapist to help people (we're also so damn sensitive that we can pick up on things quickly). Use this "illness" to your advantage, learn and grow from it. Play the hand your dealt. Be the Victor, NOT the victim.

I hope this helps.