There has to be a way to say hey you did —— and it made me feel ——-. And have your feelings acknowledged and validated. With my partner they automatically get mad, get defensive, and rage if I say anything. They def don’t listen or validate my feelings. Any perceived criticism and they go nuts. Is this typical bpd behavior? How can you get your feelings validated with a bpd partner? Tell me if there’s a different way to accomplish this. Because I have a right to say how some mean behavior made me feel. But I never get to.