Is it cruel to tell your friend what they need to do? About there situation? Their lifestyle? Their mental health? Seeing someone to get help? Their relationships? Because I want to help them I really do but can't help them unless they help themselves 

Like you can give them the best advice you can give and be there for them to comfort them. But you reach this point where you can't keep watching them keep getting hurt or hurting themselves and you just finally spill it all out on what they need to do and then they only brush it aside? 

(I already have anxiety and depression and seeing my friends going through something like that is so hard and it drains me as well) I want them to be okie and help them but I can't keep hearing about the problems that keep repeating themselves and they do nothing about it.