Talking with a friend today and she made a good argument for how I am the one who retreats (splits).  I tried to explain that they (my friends and family) started it first and they are the ones who are supposed to come to me and let me know everything is OK.  Perhaps this is unreasonable.

And on my side, I am in just too much pain at that  point to reach back out to them.  I don't know how to have a relationship with some who has wronged me (did they wrong me?  I do believe my family is abusive).  Am I supposed to shrug it off and pretend it didn't bother me.  Am I setting myself up to be a door mat for the rest of my life?

I am still early in recover, perhaps this is in one of the advanced sessions.

Thoughts?