One thing that I think that's great for a lot of people my age or younger in the current climate is that everyone appears to be confident in themselves.  

A lot of my friends go out and dress really well or a little provocatively, and they seem to own it and feel great about themselves.  That seems to be the norm for a lot of people on different kinds of social media as well.  I don't really look at stuff like TikTok or Instagram that often, but I see a lot of people basically showing themselves off and "thirst trapping" others in ways that seems to make themselves feel great.

It's awesome that people are able to do that, but at the same time it makes me feel awful about myself.

Maybe I feel like I have an average amount of confidence.  I know that I do really well in my career, with my hobbies, and with many other things.  But I'm realistic enough to know that I have very little to offer in terms of being conventionally attractive as a thirty year old male.  Even though I work out regularly, take care of myself, dress in a way that I am happy with and all of that, I still have a base level of attractiveness that is probably less than average for most people.  I've just always had to accept that.

When I look at how people carry themselves both in person and in social media, it's kind of a reminder that I can never own that type of value.  If I faked any kind of confidence in that area, it would be inauthentic and I feel like people would sense that and see right through me.

It's honestly a little depressing on some levels and in some ways to see so many others confidently looking good and know from a practical and realistic level I can never authentically have that.  I try not to let it weigh on me, but I'd be lying if I said it didn't at some level.

Does anyone have any recommendations on how to get around this problem?  I really am struggling to deal with it and could really use some advice.