So I have been doing a lot of reflection and research and I am near 100% sure that I have BPD, I am going to bring it up to my therapist when I see her in 2 days to see what she thinks. 

If my therapist thinks I have BPD, how should I go about telling my girlfriend? (we’ve been dating for just under 2 years btw) It seems like such a scary thing to have to tell her, and I am really scared as to how she will react. BPD symptoms have caused some issues between us in the past and It just feels really intimidating to tell her that this is how I am going to be forever. So I was just wondering if anyone had any tips on how to tell her, I’m horrified that she might break up with me and honestly my first instinct is just to hide it but that really doesn’t feel right and I also want her to know that these irrational feelings aren’t my fault. 

Just clarifying, the reason my therapist never suspended that I had BPD was because I intentionally avoided talking about any symptoms of it because it felt super embarrassing, but after research and reflection I’ve realized its such a bigger issue than I thought, and it doesn’t matter that it’s embarrassing.