So, we have 2 kids together, a 3 year old and a 1 year old. We’re both super young, I’m 23, he’s 24. We’ve known each other for nearly 8 years, been together 4 years (the second time). We share everything, we’ve been through a ton of shit together and for the most part we’ve been functional and good. 

Now he wants space, and that’s a major trigger for me (obviously) and I don’t know how to give it. I literally don’t know how to stop. If we didn’t have the kids, I’d just run away and go zero contact, just disappear for a while. But I can’t because responsibilities and shit :/ 

What do I do. How can I give this poor man a break from me? I need to before I completely stuff it up and make the relationship irreparable, if it’s not already. 


I’m undiagnosed because the process where I live is expensive and complicated. But I relate very heavily (not trying ti self-diagnose), and aside from that I have definitely had some massive childhood trauma which I know you guys understand. So I hope this is still okay.