as we're all aware, people w/ BPD move fast and fall in love fast. to get to the gist of it though, i met a girl off of tinder a few weeks ago after getting out of a bad long term relationship and attempting suicide because of said relationship. 

she's pretty hot and nice / sweet, and we've been talking every day and planning stuff as far as hanging out and whatever [in a safe way, with the pandemic / covid and what not w/ me being a nursing student]

she opened up to me about having BPD one night and was worried i would gtfo / leave, because as we're all aware, BPD is a bit of a taboo thing to talk about and there's often common misconceptions or ableist stigma around it. 

she was happy that i was understanding and completely got it, as she has been struggling a lot with her BPD and doing things like taking meds and what not, and i told her / opened up to her about having BPD myself but that i had been in remission with my BPD for the last few years post DBT and getting on an excellent med and what not.

my BPD had flared up again upon moving in with my apparently abusive [i never saw it, but you never do with abusive relationships, as it goes] now ex-girlfriend, but only because she would innocuously trigger stuff with me and the apparent abuse [a dozen people, including my parents and bestfriend, would corroborate that she was abusing me, but once again, i didn't and don't see it] she was subjecting me to.

mainly, i've been getting a lot of supports in place as far as a social worker / care team go, a new doctor / clinic goes, and therapy post suicide attempt, which is stuff to look forward to, but i'm worried i'm not giving myself enough time to heal from my prior relationship and i'm also worried [and my mom is worried] i'm moving too fast or doing the stereotypical to BPD thing where you fall in love fast. 

curious if anybody has any thoughts of this situation or similar experiences. she's pretty hot &amp; nice / compatible and i can definitely see myself getting into a relationship with her, but i don't want to mess up my recovery and then bestow that upon my potential relationship. 

not sure what the best flair would be for this post as i barely interact with the community + the post mentions a suicide attempt.