So I broke up with my boyfriend and blocked him just before the new year because I was having one of my moments. I blocked him maybe three or four days later and apologized profusely, saying that I really didn’t want to end things, that I was sorry &amp; that I overreacted. But he didn’t respond to me for about a day and a half, and I thought that I had really done it this time.

He finally responded and said that he still loved me but that things needed to change with the relationship. He said he didn’t know if maybe spending some time apart or slowing things down might be a good idea, but things needed to get fixed.

I told him that I was talking to my therapist and trying to get some ideas on how to figure out what started setting me off. Because things were fine in the early days of our relationship. But then a couple months in I started to get these little insecurities thinking that I wasn’t good enough for him... it’s gotten progressively worse over the last year. So my therapist wanted me to try to go back and figure out if there was anything that he had said that possibly triggered these feelings. I didn’t tell him that she was implying it could be him causing this, which I know it is him causing it (not intentionally, but still). I just told him that she was trying to help me manage my outbursts.

But now I’m sitting here about to freak out over his choice of words saying “slow it back down”. I really don’t think he’s gonna want us to take a break but I don’t know what he meant by slow it back down. Like just go back to being friends and not have a romance?

This is the kind of thing that irritates me so much with him is that he’ll say something and not be completely clear about what he means. And then I’ll sit there over analyzing it and driving myself nuts. And sometimes when I ask him about what he meant, He just kind of dismisses it because he doesn’t think it’s a big deal. But to me it’s a big deal because I need to know his meaning behind things.

It’s so hard to interpret tone and intention with emails. Because you can’t see body language, you can’t hear the sound of their voice to know if they’re being sarcastic or funny or sincere.

So I am trying to not flip out and ask him what he means by slowing things down and then go off on a tangent about how we’ve gone too far to go back to being just friends. Being just friends would crush me more than us taking a short break. I can’t do that. My heart is too invested