Can someone please help me work through this. 

My best friend told me that she was breaking up with her boyfriend last week. They've been dating for 7 years. Their relationship is very toxic. They break up and get back together every other month and I am not exaggerating this. So, my friend comes to me and vents whenever she's having a crises. Which, I understand. But what bothers me, is she never makes time for our friendship because she's always with him. And in the past I have had to cut her out because i literally feel like she uses me and doesn't know what it means to be a friend. She texts me whenever she's down and says she misses me when she realizes that she doesn't make time for any of her friends and feels alone. I am not the only friend of hers who has had to distance themesleves from her. Anyway, this is how our conversation went today and I honestly feel like raging at her because she treats me like I am disposable and doesn't understand what it means to be a friend. 

Friend: "BOYFRIEND" just called off our engagement 

Me: Well you said you were done with being with him the other day? So is this a bad thing or are you just shocked? 

Friend: yea it is a bad thing 

Me: But I thought you said you were breaking up with him the other day..Im sorry I am just confused because on one hand you said you were done and now you’re shocked that he’s calling off the engagement? There’s just a disconnect from what you told me and this? I feel like you’re just in shock. But maybe this is a good thing considering that you told me you don't want to be with him?

Friend: yea 

Me: Idk, I feel like you don't know what you want. And I think you need to really think this stuff through cause its not healthy and you’ve been going back and forth for a minute.

Friend: Yea 

Me: Well.. what are you going to do to try and resolve this because it's not healthy for him to be calling things off unless he is serious.

Friend: i don’t really feel like answering questions i was just letting you know and keeping you in the loop. yeah that’s what i told him . he treated this engagement like a joke so i guess it’s good it’s over . 

Me: Okay well when you reach out to someone about something important, usually people ask questions because they care. I think you just tell me things because you want to vent. That’s fine. I won’t give you my input or ask questions.

Friend: i don’t mind your input - answering questions while i’m crying hysterically isn’t something i can do sanely

Me: I understand 


HONESTLY I AM SO ANNOYED. She always does this to me. 


WHAT SHOULD I DO. 