Hi everybody, please don’t take this the wrong way. I don’t have BPD, but I’m seeking advice on how to deal with somebody who’s been diagnosed and has developed a real problem with me. 

SO... I slept with somebody a few times. It wasn’t a relationship, and I made it clear from the outset that I never wanted one. She developed a bit of an obsession, sleeping wearing my t-shirt every night, naming her dildo after me, telling her friends, parents and grandparents that we were dating, showering me with gifts and writing me poems. I probably told her ten times that I didn’t want to be in a relationship. Every time I told her, her heart broke like it was the first time I told her. Tears, questions etc., yet the next day she was back in love with me. 

Eventually the message sank in and she became incredibly bitter and desperate for revenge, writing me long hate messages, telling anybody who’d listen that I was an evil person whose been gaslighting her for months, that I’m a person who lies to girls to sleep with them and everything else under the sun. I blocked her on social media two months ago and she hasn’t let up. Can anybody suggest how I can deal with this situation? 

—Side note, a mutual friend of ours (T) worked out that this girl had been logged into T’s Facebook account on her laptop for weeks, reading through T’s and my conversations. There’s nothing bad, but the stalkerish nature of this whole situation has left me feeling really uncomfortable. Is this normal for BPD?