Hi all. I was recently discarded from my girlfriend after a very intense relationship. I truly thought we would end up together. Would anyone be willing to answer some questions I have (either below or through message)? I’m very confused and hurt, but would like to understand more about BPD. 

A few questions I have:
- my gf broke up with me on a 13 minute phone call to explore her sexuality with a person from the same gender as her. She previously had displayed little signs of being being homosexual. Is this common in the sense that a pwBPD may have a fluid sense of sexuality?

- she told me she loved me at the end of the call but said we needed to break up. Does this mean I have been fully discarded? Why would she say she loves me and then have me say it back?

- she recently wrote a letter to my parents telling them she loves them and that she “didn’t cheat on me.” This is messing with my head. Why a letter to my parents and not me?

I appreciate all of your time. I am not angry, but so hurt and confused. A better understanding of BPD might give me some closure.