my gf and i have been together for almost 4 years. her and i both recently found out that we both have BPD last year. i know it sounds weird, but ever since i’ve been learning more about this disorder it scares me for our relationship. she’s literally the only person that matters to me and if i don’t have this relationship then there’s nothing to live for. i don’t normally come onto here, but i really need to know if there’s hope for two people with bpd to have a long lasting relationship?


i’ve been looking to start therapy. we’re planning on getting married next year, but it all seems so scary. i need to know that we’ll both be okay. my episodes have gotten bad. i’m more of the problem than anything and i hate myself for it. i get frustrated with her over minuscule things. i’ve been working on it and she’s understanding of it. she’s been toxic to me in ways too, but she’s less extreme than me. i’ve said hurtful things to her. i’ve threaten to leave her multiple times. she’s cheated on me and has said hurtful things about me too. we’re both toxic and we’re both aware of it, but we both refuse to leave each other. we’re both obsessed with each other, yet we argue almost all the time and it’s so mentally draining. i can’t say that our relationship is the best. there’s so much that we both need to work on and we’re both aware of it. so my question is... if we get help and try to get through this will there be hope for our relationship?