Hello everyone.

I have a question about an event that just happened.

Two weeks ago, my mum and I (she is 64 and I'm 32) went to see my grandma in her retirement home. It was the first time we have visited her since she arrived here in mid June.

Here, my mum had a panic attack.. She is known for this and I had to make her breath slowly etc, everything went well after.

Today, I came back here to visit my grandma again and my mum was in the anticipation of another panic attack even before we left her apartment..
Despite this, we get my car, and start to drive to the retirement house, I see she is more and more uncomfortable.
Eventually, we aborted the visit because I k ew she was about to have another attack even before being inside the hospital.

Rather than getting back at her house, I drove I to the country, talking about this and others topics and proposing her that next time we visit my grand mother, we will do it in the exterior of the house. I suspect this attack to happen because of the "ambiance" of the house.

Finally, I get her back at her house.

I feel I should have "push" her to go for the visit rather than getting backwards.. But it allows her to speak a little more..

In another words, I feel I just influenced her too much because it make me very uncomfortable seeing this too.. 

What do you think about this? 

Thanks!