basically i am not in treatment for bpd and i have never been to therapy or anything like that so my bpd is quite out of control but i never like.. i never wanted to help myself? i’ve always just wanted others to help me without trying to make a conscious effort on improving myself. i’ve just now had a major epiphany that i need to wake up, and i need to start trying to help myself before i can expect anyone to help me or pick up the pieces of my meltdowns. i need to do it for MYSELF. this may sound obvious to some and i’ve always known that i’ll never improve unless i try in the back of my mind but it’s not until now after i caused my boyfriend a lot of pain because of something i did, that i need to open my eyes and wake up. i’ve truly had a wake up call. i’ve had enough of bpd controlling my life. i’m turning over a new leaf, i know it will be hard and i won’t always be successful but i want to try because i want to see my boyfriend happy. because he deserves better than this, so i’m going to get better for him. does anyone know any good self help books specifically for bpd? or any recommendations for activities i can do to help myself? thanks a lot, i’m looking forward to this new chapter in my life