NON EMERGENCY 
For context: I’ve recently realized and come to terms with the fact that my mom is an emotional abuser and half knows it, and half does it out of trauma response. I now know that I don’t have to tolerate her behaviour even though it comes from a place of hurt, and I need to move out. I have been saving money and not depending on her as much as possible but I work with her because she needed “help in the office” but it feels like she’s trying to trap me. I hopefully have another job opportunity coming up in a few weeks but how do I effectively prepare to leave without causing alarm bells to go off this causing her to do something which will make my move more difficult or impossible? I know I can’t come out of this unscathed but I can’t live in this environment anymore and my brain is trying to kill me. I don’t know how to leave and I need help, im 21 years old but I feel like im 15 bc of how deep this is and how strong her grasp is on me.