
I’m 20 and a male. I feel as though sex is very powerful and you have to be extremely careful who you do it with. I’ve had sex twice and made out with 4 girls. This all happened when I was 19 while at college. I wanted to experiment, but I regret it. I gave the girls lots of power over me by interacting with them sexually. They can realistically say anything about you and you’re forever connected. 

I’m thankful in that I never had drunk sex. I know that there’s a grey area there and people regret things after the fact. I’ve seen false accusations happen to people as well as legitimate accusations. Like what if a girl all the sudden decides that she didn’t like the sex and says you assaulted her? It’s terrifying and I know people say it doesn’t happen but it does. Even having the thought makes you appear guilty in other peoples eyes. The environment at college is horrible and I regret being there so much. I dropped out 8 months ago but I just feel defeated. I sold myself short by kissing around and want a do over. How to accept?