Hi guys. I’m supposed to be getting married to the man of my dreams. I’m Moroccan and he’s Cypriot so we both come from two different cultures. 

He asked me what day his family could come over, and we agreed on Saturday 23rd this month, so obviously I let my parents know. Close to the date he tells me he can’t do it because his mum is busy and so we should rearrange. His dad then called my dad to arrange the meeting and they agreed on the 26th this month (by the way this is the first time our families are meeting). 

Yesterday he told me he had an argument with his mum ( they have a bad relationship and don’t really get on) as she told his dad that she can’t do the 26th because she has a funeral of some sort. I recall him telling me his mum’s friend passed away but that was like a week or two ago. Besides, funerals aren’t all day and she could still come in the evening (they were invited from 6pm anyways).

It feels like to me, that his mother is trying to delay this marriage as much as possible, and isn’t willing to come over. 

I then asked him today why his mother has made no attempt to speak to my mum. He said that it’s because they planned to come over anyways and that we come from two different cultures. I’m my opinion, that isn’t an excuse, it’s basic etiquette to get in touch with the mother of the girl your son is trying to marry. He became defensive and tried saying that I’m implying his mother is rude, but no. I explained that perhaps she didn’t know how Moroccans do things so it’s in her best interest to know so my mum doesn’t feel left out. If I had a daughter who was getting married I would expect the mother of the boy to reach out to me too. 

Anyways, I told him it’s how Moroccans do things and how my family expect it to be, after all not such a big ask. He became upset and told me everything’s getting to him; family, work, and me. 

He’s now turned both work and personal phone off (he’s never done this) and sent me this message: 

“Turning my phone off I ain’t blocking you I just cba for ppl to msg and call or I don’t wanna receive any notifications atm I’m alone and I’d rather be alone like the old days I don’t need or want anybody ngl my mind isn’t ready for this rn I ain’t feeling good or happy”

What do I do. It’s been 3 hours and my anxiety is overwhelming, I can’t think straight nor do I want to tell my parents and make them dislike him and his family. Please help?