I'm sorry if this is not the correct place to ask. 

So I've been obsessing somewhat over the symptoms. I've been diagnosed with depression, years ago, but am now feeling functional without meds. I work a high paced job with lots of customers, and get along well with my coworkers. I've had the same friends since I was 12 or 13, despite the typical issues arising of crushes or petty fights. 

I'm 23, she's 25. Both female. We clicked like magnets. I admired her so much, I would just watch her in a crowd. So brazen and confidant and passionate. I'm quieter, only speaking when I really have something to say. But her passion can turn to anger, and in her moments of rage or jealousy she comes out with this diagnosis for me. Invalidates my friendships, after charging me with attention seeking from them, accuses me of "rage" myself when I more passive aggressively walk away or say "fine." I tend to become sad instead of angry, she gets mad at me for crying so now I pretend to go outside to smoke and let it out there. Says I've been misdiagnosed because depression and borderline are easily confused. Uses my past of self harm against me. 

I want to know if I have it. So I've read up. I don't feel mood swigs, I feel stable. I don't know what feelings of emptiness are. I've had always had the same sense of my core self. I've never had a one night stand or an addiction, I hate buying things. 

When she's not so mad and I admit to her that she makes me feel insane, she downplays it and says "we're all insane." If I just "get help", she'll stay with me. Makes me feel like no one else would. And what if a professional says I don't have it? Will she accept that? Does she just not want me?

My friends laugh at this, say it's ridiculous, that of course I have my flaws and quirks but it's not a personality disorder I need to worry about. They say she's just wild and unhinged herself. 

Can anyone relate? Is denial this strong? Am I deluding myself? I finally feel fine and functional and like I can cope with depression, and now this. 

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Edit: thanks everybody. I'm going to get outta here before she gets home and go mull this over somewhere else. Guess it wouldn't hurt to call up my counselor for a check up and ask his opinion. 