I told my boyfriend about my recent diagnoses but he doesn’t seem to have any interest or care for it? When I told him he just asked how I felt about it and that was the end of the conversation. 

I feel like he doesn’t take it into consideration when I am having my bad days and he doesn’t reassure me or de-escalate situations, rather he escalates them. He’s always told me that his philosophy is that everyone’s responsible for their own happiness which I agree with to an extent but if you’re in a relationship with someone, isn’t it partially your job as well? Otherwise whats the point?

He struggles with depression and when I found that out I researched ways to be more there for him and support him to make sure I could help him which is something that would really help me if he did the same. He isn’t a very open person so it makes it hard to talk about things but it just feels like he doesn’t believe my diagnoses or doesn’t care? 

I know I should talk to him about it but he gets defensive so I would rather know what everyone else thinks before I potentially start a situation between us that isn’t productive or helpful for either of us. 

Am I overreacting or should I not be putting this expectation on him? Is this normal? I don’t know if I should be upset about this or not. I am completely open for being in the wrong here but I just don’t know.