my boyfriend frequently uses my bpd against me. i've been having a very rough few days: constant crying, uncontrollable anger, intensified anxiety and just overall instability. i begged my boyfriend to please be kind to me until i'm a bit more stable but instead, he yelled at me for failing to control my emotions and said that i was "only doing this to get pity from him". 

earlier this morning, we were talking when he tells me that he won't be able to communicate with me until this weekend. i was shocked. i asked for more information and immediately began crying. he said that his friends were worried that my bpd was dragging him down and he needed some space from me. 

i did everything so that i wouldn't impose my struggles onto him. whenever i felt like i might break down, i would try to distance myself but he wouldn't let me do that. he's continue speaking harshly with me, insinuating  that my problems are my own fault. this would only cause me to further descend into a downward emotional spiral.

yes, i'm aware that i'm a burden to be with. and as he pointed out, my problems make me incompatible with almost every potential partner. but he isn't perfect either and it's unfair that he's angry at me for a problem that he causes.