hi! my little sister has bpd and i am just looking for some solutions to make her feel better. we have had an awesome relationship the last couple of years but recently she has been having meltdowns again and throwing things and saying everyone in our family is overwhelming her. i just want to make nice and show her we love her, but sometimes over small regular activities in the house, she has been blaming us and yelling at us. i.e doing the dishes in the same room, not knowing where things are of mine she would like to borrow, and when i go on walks alone without inviting her

in a couple days sadly i wont see her again for half a year because of covid. she is mad at me for asking for an apology after she had a really big meltdown (this is the first time ive ever asked.) 

and i said sorry for giving her a hard time, because this is sort of new. it will feel like a big-ask because she's not used to apologizing after meltdowns and I was hoping we could both start getting into the habit of apologizing. i.e if i set her off I can say sorry, and if she yells or hits she can say sorry

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How can i let her know I still love her and want our relationship to mend again. My sister usually has a cool-down period but she told me she never wanted me talking to her again. it's very confusing because she feels very attacked and the only thing different is i want an apology after she was screaming at me and my other sister when she was frustrated at work.

I have just begun the journey of learning about BPD, any criticisms or help would be much appreciated.