Me and my girlfriend are very much in love. We’re late 20s. Both professionals in mental health. We’re about to move in together. 

She has BPD &amp; PTSD, I am autistic, ADHD and possibly Bipolar 2. We have a great relationship. We work well together. We’ve seen our lows and our highs. There’s no abuse. There’s pragmatism and empathy and communication which is what we both need.

Yet I’m scared because I let myself get consumed with what others think. Thinking we can’t adopt, thinking we can’t get life insurance, live abroad, see the world, worrying that if we have children we’ll have social services on our back because of diagnosis alone (I incidentally am a social worker). Thinking (knowing) a certain half of my family will be extremely judgemental - they’ve been subtly homophobic and told me I need “a stable person” in the past. My girlfriend is as stable and happy as she’s ever been.

We’ve talked a bit about it all. It’s not baseless worrying because of stigma, but it’s worrying nonetheless. I feel guilty for putting the weight of it on her, when emotions are already difficult for both of us. I don’t want this to eat away at out relationship. Has anyone dealt with similar?