My bf is a super social dude and a lot of times he’ll go hang out with friends as soon as he finishes work, meaning I don’t see or hear from him until he comes home close to bedtime.

I’ve hung out with this group of friends with him a lot too, but all we ever do is drink and party. Couple of the dudes always have a handful of random girls with them.

When I find out my bf is hanging out with that circle without me my head goes insane. He’s a really flirty guy but would never cheat; it obviously makes me crazy jealous seeing him talk to another girl, even though I’m always talking to other guys when I’m there with him.

It’s not like I’m not invited either. Sometimes I say I don’t want to go but my head still thinks that, because he’s gone he: doesn’t like me anymore, will find someone better, will cheat on me, that he doesn’t love me, that he’ll never come home, he’s going to break up with me, he’s using me, he only ever pretended to like me.

I try not to listen to the thoughts but it’s obviously really hard and I have anxiety the entire time he’s gone and drink a bunch which makes the thoughts worse. It makes me want to create space between us so I don’t cling like this. Like, I’d rather live alone and be lonely than live with him and still feel alone. It’s such a stupid thought though because in all honesty he’s just living his life and we don’t need to be together 24/7, I know this. And I know he’s not gone an absurd amount of time. It’s just these thoughts and doubts getting in my mind.

Can anyone give me some advice on how to handle this? What to do/how to cope better?