My girlfriend was recently diagnosed with BPD, and it explains a lot of the times when she and I get into heated arguments over what seems like the smallest things. She is very religious (Christian) and I am not and I grew up in a more liberal setting. That tends to define our political differences as well. Both when she is acting calmly, and when she is anxious, she will bring up religion or politics, and that ALWAYS leads to us having differences and her being "triggered."

How do you handle these situations? I don't want to lie and just agree with her. She can be very pushy when I say I don't want to talk about it. It's getting to a point where any time religion or politics are brought up (at least once a day), and it's almost guaranteed that she'll get upset with me (and then me with her).