I know I can’t get them back but while I was manic I sold half my furniture (the good stuff) to my ex husband and signed over my lease to him (at the time I rationalized that it would allow my son continuity of home). Half of me is actively working on letting it go (I have an apartment and furniture - neither are as nice) and the other half resents him for engaging with me in these negotiations at a time when he felt I wasn’t well enough to parent our kid (I was hospitalized for mania and psychosis). Well enough to make major decisions about housing and money but too sick to parent. Mega dialectical situation I guess - both are valid. BD can be so unfair.