Ok am i crazy?

Meand my s/o got into a text fight. Long story short i hope.
My fathers been in the hospital, and was concerned about beong put on a ventilator. he decided to wait a day before having it done. Cause he had only gotten taken off recently and he and i were concerned about how long it would take to get him back off it again.

And the convo was me telling that to my s/o.
Followed by hope hes doing ok, he needs to no be so difficult. Nobody want a tube in there throat.

But apparently didn't mean they are difficult.

That set me off. And my s/o went into defense mode and now im being oversensitive and taking things out of context...

Willing to take advice. But seriously is this just me.