So i feel like anxious attachment can definitely go hand in hand with BPD. Does anyone have any advice on how to develop a secure attachment instead? 

In my current relationship i struggle with extreme jealousy, possessiveness, need for control, despair anytime we are apart, constant fear that he's gonna leave, doubting his love/devotion, doubting whether he's a "good" person, etc. It's super toxic and i recognize that &amp; try my best not to act on it. But how can I stop being so anxious?