I know this is going to sound so stupid. But I’ve (f20) been on social media since I was like 8 years old and Im in a relationship that used to be public (2 years)(m23). My bpd fucked it for me and he goes and deleted our photos together and I did too bc it’s not fair that I show our relationship off but he doesn’t care to validate it or show it off as well. 

Anyways I was fine w that but I’m just upset because he knows how simple shit could be like sorry I wanted to be posted on your story bc 1. I know you don’t really do that 2. I’m your girlfriend and I’m not ugly and can be very photogenic. 3. Wouldn’t you want to show off your girlfriend that you love and appreciate? 

I communicate what I want and how things make me feel but all he says is “I don’t post anyone else. You shouldn’t be surprised that I don’t want to post us”  

Side note: this argument started after we went on a hike and i was the one who tagged him and didn’t even get reposted or anything. His cell service went off so I gave him wifi just for him to get on Instagram and look at videos instead of appreciating the fact that I posted something of us. 

But I’m not even asking him to post me every day or as an actual post I’m literally asking him to post me for 24 fucking hours. It makes me feel so worthless to be in the background of his life and live w him doing his laundry and cooking and basically being a whole ass wife to someone who can’t just satisfy 1 of my wishes. I do sooooo much for this man. All I wanted was something so simple to appreciate the fact that I do the most for him. I don’t even have a ring on my finger for him to treat me like I just won’t get up and leave him. 

He’d rather not say shit to me and not even try to compromise for the girl who does anything and his excuse is always “you live with me I take you everywhere w me, is that not enough?” — it’s not bc all I am here is his fucking servant not like he’s bringing me flowers or doing anything special for me. Lmfao I’m so upset. And he sees nothing wrong w it. 

On top of all of this I’ve been putting in so much effort into controlling my emotions and actually using g my words instead of throwing tantrums and going off the fucking walls. I wish someone was proud of me. I know I’ve put him thru a lot too but he doesn’t realize how much he puts me thru. He knows he makes me feel worthless and doesn’t ever try to fix it.  

tl;dr - upset bc  bf doesn’t try in the relationship anymore. /social media.