i love her very much. as today is valentine's day, she posted me on her instagram story. not even 5 minutes had past when she asked me why i haven't made a story post about her. i told her i was going to but I'm at work and have to make phone calls. she said didn't believe me. she also told me that i should have told her that i eventually would post her. i understand the reasoning behind this, but i can't do this every time. i understand that dating someone with bpd means that you have to learn how to soothe when it's needed, but doesn't there have to be a boundary somewhere? my therapist told me that i people please, and i just feel like me coddling her like this is just making that worse. She then told me that she has a personality disorder and i told her that she's using it as an excuse to evade responsibility. Disorders are supposed to be explanations for behaviors, not excuses. I'm looking for advice, what should I do?