When I was younger, I would often become very angry at many things. People being late - even by just a few minutes - was one thing that used to really set me off. Sudden changes of plans was another. And people not responding/not responding quickly enough was yet another. 

I used to get really angry during break ups, also. I would say really nasty things in a fit of anger, usually in a text message. Really horrible things. This caused a couple of people to stop talking to me, but at the same time those situations were deeply unhealthy anyway. 

I would often feel extreme guilt afterwards and would try to apologise, but it was often too late. I felt extreme shame, too - why couldn't I control myself? Why did I say such nasty things? How embarrassing! Further reinforced by the person not wanting anything to do with me, I'd then self-blame. 

I have since worked very hard, without any therapy, to calm those down. I still feel it inside, but I just wait for it to pass, and don't act out. I do feel guilt still over those incidences, but I have made my peace with my past as best as I could.

While I felt guilt and shame and wanted to work to get that person's trust again, I understand that there is an opposite side to this - those that never apologise, instead, shutting the person out and cutting them off? I've seen a few comments on here that have mentioned that.

I've never experienced that side of it, so I'm curious to hear from people who have done that after a rage, and what it feels like?