What is it that we do seems manipulative to non-bpd? I was discussing about something with my BF last night, I had no intentions of manipulating him yet he felt like I was doing so. Then I cleared him that I'm just speaking my mind, whatever I said is not for my benefits, neither it is made up. I don't know what I did or said that made him think like that and I don't want to make them feel like this again. Do you guys have any suggestions?