This is my first post. And first and foremost, I do not have a bpd diagnosis, I have had other diagnosis such as major depressive disorder but joining this forum has helped me begin to understand myself. So I see a lot of posts on triggers. I don’t understand fully what all of mine are, but I’m wondering if anyone has experience in being with someone whose expectation is that you are just “normal”. I wish everyday I could be whatever “normal” is - if you are hurt by the person you love how do you get over feeling so hurt or offended by whatever may have hurt you even if the reaction is unwarranted? I have the hardest time walking away because I just want resolution but if I do not get that then my emotions spiral into immense hurt and anger. Some tips would be helpful. There is a clear lack of understanding and my self confidence has been affected quite a bit. In a heated argument a couple weeks ago I was called a “woman” by the woman I’ve been with for 10 years - Yes I’m a male, and yes I cry a ton!!!! Man, did that cut deep. I love this woman, truly I really do. But if our relationship continues down this path I only see failure.