Hi everyone, this is my first time posting here so if I'm doing anything wrong please just let me know.

To give you some background, I met this girl online back in September and instantly hit it off with her. Our sense of humour, taste in music and personalities in general just seemed to click. We used to talk for hours every day, and very early on she told me about her BPD and a couple of traumatic experiences she had had in the past. Obviously I was a little shocked at first but in retrospect I'm glad that she got it out in the open quickly. She's been to therapy in the past and explained to me that she is a "quiet" BPD type (as referenced in [this video](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OE4YuU9pwZU&amp;feature=youtu.be)) and typically has periods of intense emotion followed by periods of very little at all.

I went to visit her in the beginning of November (we live 2000km apart) and I had a great time with her and her friends. However, after I returned home is when I started noticing a change in her behaviour. She started to contribute less in conversations, find excuses to avoid skyping, and just seemed more unhappy in general. After bringing it up with her she confirms that it's to do with her BPD. Apparently it gets always gets worse at this time of year and although things are going very well for her in her personal life, she feels very numb and despondent.

Evidently, this is one of the emotional droughts she warned me about. Things have deteriorated even further so that currently we have a sort of unspoken agreement that it's not enjoyable to talk to each other - she says she feels almost no compulsion to respond to anyone and this is made apparent in her mannerisms. I really can't emphasize enough how distressing this part is - to go from 11 to 0 in such a short space of time has made me constantly question whether it's something I've done or if she's just gone off me. Back when we first met I told her I would support her through her illness. More recently I've assured her that I'm here if she needs me and asked if there is anything I can do to help - she said there wasn't but obviously I can't be 100% sure considering her state of mind.

I guess that what I'm here for is any kind of guidance or pointers as to how I should go on and what I should do to help my girlfriend, if anything. I'm very inexperienced when it comes to close relationships. It really distresses me to think about what things were like only a few weeks ago and what she must be going through on her own without me being able to comfort her in person.

Good on you if you read through all of this and thanks again if you decide to respond.