I know that he means well, but I think it’s incredibly difficult for him to understand why I do the things I do (self harm, binge drinking, hyper sexuality, attachment issues, etc etc) especially because he’s the most neurotypical person I’ve ever met. Also, the fact that I’m female doesn’t help, since it creates more of an empathy barrier (if that makes sense). I get that my actions are my responsibility, but it’s only because my brain is just so damn loud sometimes and sometimes the only way I can feel any better is by acting on my (usually bad) impulses. I KNOW that I need to take responsibility for things that I’ve done and I do it every single day! I’ve tried explaining it to him but it was when I was going through an “episode” so I don’t think I got my point across very well. I told him to maybe do some research and he said “I’ve accepted that I’ll never understand,” basically saying he’s not going to bother with researching it because there’s no point. what can I say to him next time it comes up, or next time he tries turning my arguments against me and making me feel terrible about myself? 

it’s especially hard because he truly is a good guy, just misguided. 