My friend and I are two bridesmades asked to plan a batchelorette before a wedding next month. We both are great friends with the bride to be, been planning for over a month

Unfortunately, as I understand is typical with depression, the girl I need to plan with is notoriously hard to reach. Usually takes 3 calls and texts over 3 or 4 days to get in touch with no response inbetween. I usually get contact once a week on the phone only, unable to commit to the next time to call, unwilling organize a meeting in person

I'd feel awful making desicions without her input. We'd also feel awful failing to have a celebration. I feel awful when I tell her "I'm getting anxious about timing"... but I truthfully am

This has ended up with me organizing nearly everything while "scheduling" a few days for myself to confirm consent about plans with her on the phone. If I didn't, we would not have enough time to make it happen

... I understand depression is hard and completely overwhelming to deal with. But I'm frustrated and, frankly, exhausted being "unable" to move when I'm waiting on her. There is no compromise in scheduling. I feel like a nagging mother calling her 3 or 4 times for responses, only for her to approve, question or shut down ideas with no alternatives. It makes me self concious thinking I'm pushing our friendship apart by having her participate in plans seemingly too overwhelming for her to make and making her feel not good enough to do it on her own... but she acknowledges she wants to make this event happen. It's made me spiteful to her without any aknowledgement of gratitude or leaving flexibility/compromise for myself and I hate that. Now the excitement of planning feels like a chore to me and I'm afraid to suggest extra details for the celebration due to my own fatigue

Wondering about your thoughts with how to deal with this. Things I have tried are in the comments below