There's so much stigma... I've never been diagnosed but "accused" of having traits... I fought that idea, felt gaslit, etc. Thanks to the safety of this community I can explore and see that actually I do have traits and I have a FP but knowledge is power and I'm starting therapy and now that I can accept the truth I can learn the right things to do. It's so weird because I have all this knowledge but my attachment system is so screwed up, object Constancy is screwed up, I hate going unconscious with these issues. But now that I'm not living in denial I feel optimistic about treating these things. This is one of the safest bpd communities I've come across. Thanks again!