pwBPD friend told me about a year and a half ago that she liked me more than a friend, but would like to take it really slow. I was still with my ex at that time, but after breaking up with my ex and taking a year break from everything to clear my head I considered what pwBPD friend said about liking me. She has stated that she is emotionally unavailable and I have stated that I am not just ready for a relationship because my ex has messed me up more than I realized (my ex cheated on me despite being by side nearly every moment).

I ended up really falling in love with her for the good and the bad. There were times when we were chatting for hours on end and there were times when it just felt a bit distant on her end, but it was nothing personal. Before, during, and after my birthday we spent like 10 hours every day with each other just vibing and playing video games like we have done so in the past.

The coming months it seems as if I have unintentionally been overwhelming her and I'm not sure how to interpret it. I have been lurking on this subreddit for a while now and doing my best to research all I could about BPD and everything I can to understand her better as a person when I realized I really fell in love with her.

We have been chatting every day, albeit she has been kind of distant some days and I know it's not personal. She has stated that she needed a few days of no contact now, and I am more than happy to do that if that is what is best for her. I have been constantly reassuring her that if she needed anything then I am right there for her.

My question to this subreddit is, what goes through the process when pwBPD need a few days break?

I am looking for some insight because there is only so much you could learn through the medically diagnosed BPD and the perspectives of this subreddit. I am doing my best to learn more, so any kind of information, experiences or perspectives is appreciated.