Hi fellow redditors. I just celebrated my 20ish birthday today and haven’t felt emotionally stable since the past six years. As a birthday resolution, some of my closest friends told me to develop a new age mentality and that is to stop being sad. They said I was always too emotional. While I can see where they’re coming from, I still think it’s the least helpful thing you can say to a depressed person. Last two days, I cried myself to sleep and then when I woke up I cried again like my tear faucets just sort of broke for no reason. I just couldn’t stop crying about nothing and everything all at once. Until I took my antidepressant and the effect kicks in and the tears instantly stop. So like: it’s not my fault that my brain chemicals are DAMAGED. And that I would need external fixers to chase the big sad away. Say, if you have a broken limb and someone tell you “just stop thinking that you have a broken limb”, would that make your bone tissues magically connect? Same case with depression where our brains are just incapable of producing happy hormones on a natural level, it’s not just something we can help? I wish normal people would be more emphatic to us.