Long story short, my partner and FP broke up with me out of the blue a week and a half ago. Heartbroken. 

I thankfully had to go out of town two days later for a (fun) work thing with good work friends. Super good timing because there was lots of distraction, building positive experiences and being very present in the moment all week. I’m now back and while it’s tough I’ve been managing. 

Today he messaged me just saying that he hopes I’m well and the trip was good. Completely out of the blue after saying he didn’t want any contact. I immediately wanted to vomit and spent the day going through a whirlwind of strong emotions. Thankfully, again, I was with a good friend who let me talk but also kept me distracted and we did a whole bunch of fun stuff. 

I’ve come home and just done the Clarifying Priorities worksheet and god damn. Sometimes I actually can’t believe how helpful DBT is and how lucky I am to have found it (and gotten the right diagnosis in general). It made it so simple for me to work out how to respond and when I get wobbly over the next few days (which will inevitably happen) I can just go back to this sheet and remind myself of the facts and what I want to achieve. 

It feels so good to be able to see the progress I’m making, I just wanted to share it somewhere! I’m getting better!


(For those who are interested)
1. Self-Respect: I want to be proud that I looked after myself well and stuck to my truths and goals
2. Relationship: I want them to think that I handled the situation maturely while respecting both our needs
3. Objective: I want to eventually be friendly when around each other