I’m sorry for the rant but this drives me fucking nuts. I completely understand that living with a borderline can be hell, and dating one can be even worse. Still, they way people refer to sufferers of BPD gets under my skin so bad. They talk about us like we’re some sort of curse or plague. The articles rarely focus on understanding and helping a partner with BPD. Instead it’s usually a few paragraphs of someone bemoaning the fact that they have a “crazy girlfriend” in their life. I can’t shake the feeling that they all desperately want to be the true victim.  It always seems like the author jots down the DSMV criteria for BPD and then just completely slams people with the illness without really delving into anything else.“Take your life back!” is one of my personal favorites. They do know they can walk away.. right? I can’t easily walk away from BPD. 

or:

“6 million people have BPD and greatly affect the lives of 30 million others.” Like I’m some sort of disease.

Or the way they describe being in a relationship with a borderline as getting “trapped.” 

“They’re all drama.”

“Sometimes they can even stalk you.”

“Relationships usually cannot be salvaged.” 

“Free yourself from a relationship with a borderline.” 

All of these and more anger me to absolutely no fucking end. We are not demons and believe it or not, it’s not our life’s goal to make you miserable. And if you’re going to spend your night writing a half-baked article because you’re still bitter about that one borderline you dated in college, at least make it an insightful one. Choke on a dick. 

Link to the article that started fueled this rant - http://www.barryherbach.com/blog/psychology/does-your-girlfriend-suffer-from-borderline-personality-disorder/