I’ve been thinking a lot about the flair “justified anger?” And I’m wondering if human beings can really justify an emotion.  That “justification” is a line drawn differently for different people.  For us, the line is drawn so low that so many more things can justify anger, or any emotion for that matter.

We are constantly trying to look into where others have drawn the line and imitate that as best as possible.  It’s rather unmanageable, is it not? Ex. You’re angry over this? Well, you see, in this time and place, it’s not justified, so shove it down somewhere, or apologize for it.

Every human being feels when it is inappropriate at times.  However, this is the marquee of our illness.  It’s the constant fight.  We cannot see the line of justification from our window, it’s in another country.  It’s bizarre to us that others can act the way they act, we are compelled to be upset or sad.

So then, maybe the happiest borderlines are those who simply do not give a shit about this line? It’s a frightening thought, since this person would presumably inflict anger and sadness onto everyone close to them constantly.  I’m by no means this person, but I fantasize about how relaxing it would be to just apologize to nobody for being upset sometimes. 

So then, are we to be this person who imitates others emotional ranges and bears the pain and dissociation that is the price of concealing our own emotions, or are we to be someone who is bears the full range of our emotions, hurting others in the process, but at the benefit of not worrying about having a metaphorical “permission slip” to feel?

Would love to hear your thoughts.