hey guys. Enjoy the ride as I brief you. Ive (22f) been with my partner (22m) for 2.5 years. This has been my first relationship as i grew up in a mentally and physically abusive, broken household. In the beginning, everything felt safe in the way we both loved each other. that attentiveness &amp; teamwork was something i’ve waited to date for, i believe it comes from the lack of attention or safety as a child. i’m a huger lover, i love to give attention and be playful. However, as time as gone on, that attentiveness has slowly diminished. my anxiety tells me it’s because he doesn’t care for me the same way or maybe i’m not as charming as he once thought. I had found out maybe 4 months into the relationship that he had been w someone from our modeling agency before we met and cut her off immediately after. However, at this time is when I had found out that he had messaged her a flirting snapchat while dating. I can’t get this thought to leave me alone, that maybe he wished to pick her. My issue with myself is that I have never been a jealous type, i’d whisk anyone off that wasn’t all for me without a thought before. I feel CRAZY. If i were to see him texting a girl or overlooking a month ago, i’d stir up a huge fight over it. ridiculous. we’re both grown &amp; i should trust him. Is it the lack of affection ive been seeking from him that is making me pick myself apart wondering if i’m good enough? he always reassures me saying he feels comfortable with me now, &amp; maybe he does feel that way. I just am a give all &amp; i struggle to understand those outside of my own feelings.  ive been working on myself reminding myself what my clinical psychologist neighbor told me, that i can’t have control over everything even tho my anxiety wants me to. i don’t want to lose a great man who really does show love in other ways, what is some techniques or advice i can use to better my current anxieties?