Hello I’m 20(M) from the Uk

So me and my barbie both have BPD, I’m usually pretty good at helping and knowing when she’s upset (at least I think I do) but shes been going through some stuff and hasn’t had many good days, I’m not gonna say anything specific but she’s just getting triggered over everything and no matter what good happens the mood stays (I understand that’s just BPD but me and her handle it differently), it doesn’t help that my BPD kicks in and makes things way worse and ruins her day even further.

We talk everything through and heal quick and she reassures me it’s not my fault but everything that goes wrong in her day I feel like I’m to blame because I could of handled it way better,
I don’t really know how to help, I’ve reassured her and told her what she need to hear but I know it’s not enough, I want to help her so badly but she’s just in one of those moods that doesn’t end. I know about it really well obviously and I usually just isolate and let time pass, but for her it’s different, she can isolate but I don’t think it’s healthy for her (i don’t know maybe it is, I’m never actually there so), plus her family doesn’t help sometimes, sometimes they do. 

I don’t live close to her either so it’s impossible to be there for her.

I literally would do anything for her but I feel like my ignorance gets in the way and I make things worse. I wish I could take her pain away from her, I to suffer for her.

# I know you will read this eventually love, please remember I love you and want the best for you. I just feel lost sometimes, like I know I could do better but I don’t know what#