I am in desperate need of help. I would like to assist my friend in finding a permanent (or similar) place for someone to stay. Here is the story.

My friend, Nicol, "rescued" his friend Sadie from their abusive parents. Sadie is extremely mentally ill. Nicol invited Sadie to escape to his house, and they now live together, along with Nicol's father.

Nicol's father does not require Sadie to pay any rent. Nicol's father allowed Sadie to stay with them in the hopes that Sadie could escape her abusive family, slowly become more stable, get a job, and move out. (it has been since january, and Sadie has not made ANY PROGRESS, despite constant babying from Nicol)

Sadie is terribly scared of anyone who isn't Nicol. Sadie cannot eat, go to the bathroom, or go near Nicol's father. Sadie cannot go outside or open the curtains due to sensitivity to light. Sadie has hallucinations and delusions, which she recognizes, but does not possess the moderation to dismiss. Sadie feeds into her own delusions, and allows herself to get angry at Nicol. Sadie cannot wear headphones or earplugs or earbuds due to her head being so sensitive she will get headaches if she wears them. Sadie has panic attacks a majority of the day.

Sadie RELIES on Nicol to *convince her to*:

- eat

- sleep

- go to the bathroom

Sadie always says "I want to die" every single day multiple times. Sadie swims in a pool of her own miserable thoughts 24/7 and basically is constantly unstable, hallucinating, and believing her delusions.

These delusions have harmed the relationship between Nicol and Sadie, and now they're simply trying to get along.

While Nicol and Sadie are not good friends anymore, and Sadie often is upset at Nicol, Sadie *REFUSES* to talk to ANYBODY ELSE in the entire world, although she says she is lonely constantly. She often uses Nicol as the "only person she can confide in" and will even tell Nicol how much she dislikes being around him because "he's the only one who she can talk to." Sadie even HATES Nicol's friends (including me) just because he gives them attention.

It's VERY VERY clear that Sadie cannot function, and IS DEPENDENT on Nicol to not starve, to not dehydrate, to get sleep, and to even use the restroom. Sadie is not functional enough to even leave her room without assistance.

Nicol is trying to set up help for Sadie. However, he has a dreading feeling that Sadie will reject the idea. Then he is left with no options but to house this incredibly sick person. Sadie needs MORE help than Nicol can give.

Nicol's mental health has declined NOTICEABLY (I am one of his best friends and I can see this taking an affect on his health over the last few months...) in *direct* correlation with how much of a hassle Sadie is. The ONLY time Nicol gets a break is when she's asleep. Because of this, Nicol's relationships with other people have started to decay, and he struggles more and more with his mental health every day (he tells me via text).

Nicol is speaking with his college counsellor, to try and find help for his friend, and the only thing she came up with was to get Sadie hospitalized. IF sadie says NO (which she often does, sadie will outright refuse change, refuse help, refuse anything in effort to make her feel better, everything comes off as an attack, or ill intentioned)... well, if sadie says no, then Nicol can't force her to go.

Nicol will be STUCK housing her forever because he doesn't want to kick her out, because kicking her out would be sending a hallucinating, nonfunctional mentally ill person who is DEPENDENT on others to survive, out in the street, where she would die, undoubtedly.

My question is: What solutions are there here? If sadie refuses to be hospitalized, nicol is STUCK with her and his mental health and wallet suffers. If sadie's hospitalized there's a chance they'll only keep her until she says she's not suicidal, then release her back to Nicol's house and then she'll refuse to get better, again.

Are there any HOUSING options for Sadie? She MIGHT be able to work , she says. Is there NOWHERE that could get Sadie PERMANENT (until recovered) mental health help, housing, food, etc? Somewhere that's not bad? Somewhere where she can go for a LONG TERM amount of time to GET BETTER so that Nicol can finally live in peace again?

thank you. They are located in California, Sonoma County.

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