Curious if anyone can relate..

When someone hurts my feelings, the only thing that makes me feel better is..words of affirmation from a dearly loved one (like my partner) and if not, the only way I ‘feel better’ and get out of my spiral is… the person who hurt me, is now  dead to me. 


***Example from just now: my partner of 16 years, his mother has always been horribly mean to me. I’ve never done anything for to her. When we announced our pregnancy, she hugged me and said “if you ever keep that child away from me, I’ll hunt you down..” (backstory, my partners older brother had a child super young and the babies mother dipped out with the child and now their mother has zero relationship with said child) 

No matter what rude shit my mother in law has done, I never kept our daughter from her. Until tonight, I’m done, had enough. After 16 years, you cannot accept that your son and I are a forever thing, and our 13 year old really doesn’t like you or your racist, bigot of a husband (he says the F word infront of our daughter and my daughters grandma (my mother) and her auntie (my sister) are gay…). 

My mother in law is now dead to me and she will never see our child again. She said some really hurtful shit again, and all my partner did was get mad at me for being hurt and saying “it’s never changed how I’ve felt about you and us”So bye bye, MIL, you’re gone from our life. Have your son, but my daughter and I? You won’t see ever again. That’s how I made myself feel better tonight. **

Just would like to hear thoughts, if anyone else feels this way?