so, just as a foreword, i have bpd and cptsd. my mom has ptsd. her abuser had both the disorders i have.

my mom hates people with bpd. she just associates that disorder with her abuser. whenever i've even brought up anything even remotely related to bpd she immediately shuts the conversation down.

i know that if she knew i had bpd she would despise me. i would probably get kicked out, if i'm being honest with myself.

and i mean, i empathize with her. her abuser was an asshole, and some of that (not all) was caused by undiagnosed, untreated bpd that she didn't know how to handle. but that doesn't excuse her being ableist to everyone with bpd, you know? some people in your life are gonna have that disorder, whether you like it or not.

i just don't know what to do in this situation, dude.