I'm pretty new to all this - I am unsure when I started developing BPD, or if I've even got it, but a lot of stuff has been helpful so I figure the answers might close enough.

When I first met my current partner, who also has BPD, she immediately became my FP, and I became hers. Long story short I really didn't value it, we barely set boundaries but we always had pretty good communication.

A lot has happened and 2 years passed, I'm no longer her FP but she's still my FP. I feel so lonely, I hurt myself constantly comparing myself to her new FP and I don't know where to go from here.