Give yourself 10¢ for each you answer yes to

Is this person able to give or do what my emotion is asking for

Is getting my objective more important than my relationship with this person

Will pursuing this feeling help me feel relieved but also self respecting and competent 

Is what Im asking for emotionally appropriate for this relationship 

Do I have the facts to support this feeling 

Is this a good time to ask 

Did something happen in order for me to feel this way 

Is bringing up this emotion going to resolve the emotion 


The less money you have the more likely you should take a step back and reprocess how you feel about the situation causing the emotion. You should have at least 50¢ in order to decide if your feeling is worth acting on (: 

You can even come up with some of your own questions to ask yourself before reacting to your emotion 

This won’t apply to everything....but I’ve found it helps me a whole lot. I keep it on my phone notes so that I can look at it at any given time I need to.