I hope this is okay to ask and I can get some advice. (As of right now I am undiagnosed but fairly certain that I have BPD and I have experienced symptoms for quite some time.) Anyway, my boyfriend really seems to struggle with coping with how I am because of this. As you probably would assume I have a severe fear of him abandoning me and I compulsively/obsessively check and ask questions to make sure he still loves me, cares for me etc. What advice could I give him on how to help? If you are in a relationship how does your SO help you specifically during a particularly bad episode?