I was recently diagnosed with BPD, and it hasn’t been as bad ever as it has in the last year. I went off my antidepressants which I think had a huge effect. I’m in DBT now and seeing a regular therapist, trying to do the work. 
   The problem, though, is my relationship with my boyfriend has become pretty toxic and codependent. Not surprising. Especially considering he has jealousy and anger issues of his own. Over the past month or so things got really bad with us and we ended up breaking up and getting back together a few times and also losing our apartment. He drank too much and the night resulted in violence between him and o other roommates. Of course this is unacceptable and I’m very much aware of this, but I also dont want to leave him over this. 
  I tend to overshare and not be able to hide my emotions at all, so pretty much all of my friends and my parents know what’s going on. I’m currently staying with a good friend of mine while him and I take some space and figure out our living situation. The problem is, no one wants us to be together. Granted, I’ve told them in times of sadness not to let me be with him, so they’re just doing what I asked. 
Maybe I’m being stupid and this will never work. Maybe I really do need to stay away from him and be on my own. But unfortunately when you love someone and you have BPD that isn’t easy. I also feel bad because I’ve gone to them so many times about our issues and now going back feels like I’ve just been wasting their time and being a burden. 
How do I get over them not supporting my relationship? I know they want what’s best for me but I also know I’m probably not going to listen to any of their advice if I’m being realistic. I do wanna work things out, I wanna get better, I want to move back in together. 
BPD in relationships SUCKS!