Many times throughout the day I notice my mind constantly going down memory lane with experiences that were very stressful - most of them having to do with people that gave me alot of anxiety at different times of my life.  Some days its constantly being reminded of bosses/ coworkers that talked down to me alot from a toxic job I had. Other days its constant memories of things terrible things a family member or inlaw said or did to me, or abuse that I've endured. 

I'm actually at a decent place now, Im no longer working at the toxic job or living with abusive family or living with these inlaws. So why do I feel like my mind is constantly bringing it back up and wanting to dwell on it?

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and more importantly is there a mantra, a self talk, or some exercises I can do when these thoughts come to help diminish them? I dont know why I do this and Im tired of dwelling over past things that happened to me and having it ruin my current day.