DAE need to be the favourite, or at least one of someone's favourites? Not the center of attention, and not in a way that makes you behave badly towards someone if you feel like you aren't their favourite.  If I feel like I might be one of a person's favourite people I feel great, it validates my existence. But then as soon as that idea is challenged I realise I could never possibly be anyone's favourite and I feel crushed and frantic and like they're going to leave me and forget about me because I am not worthy of their time.  And it doesn't have to be a big thing.  Just smiling at someone else when they're sitting with me is an enormous emotional blow and makes me feel like I will never live up to being one of their favourites.

Does that make any sense?