I know, I know, I know. We are NOT manipulative. At all. Just dysregulated. I get that. I’m trying to find a way to explain how bpd makes me “unintentionally” or “indirectly” or “subconsciously” manipulative and can’t think of the right word for it. Looking back through my past I can see areas and times where I was manipulative and had no idea at all I was even doing it. 

I do have adhd and am developmentally delayed (formerly diagnosed with aspergers, now changed to social communication disorder) so that’s probably part of the disconnect but it’s definitely more of the bpd. 

Anyone know what I’m talking about?