u/sb_9323 look guys I need support as I am so emotionally damaged after this I feel like a former shell of myself and am depressed.                                                      


8 months ago I started dating a female who was 33and BIPOLAR . I'm 25 she had to children she used to be a alcoholic and tried to commit suicide when she was having her second child she says she was raped and non of her family talk to her her story was that her sister's husband tried to have sex with her only person that does is her mum who is a really odd woman and seems really dark 



This was my first real relationship I met this girl on POF a dating website and we hit it off straight away within the first day off meeting her we were inseparable within the first 2 weeks we were official and in the first 2 months I met her children her mum... she said her ex was so abusive towards her he would do things like kick her out of the car at random places tell her he wants her to have sex with randoms on the street so he can watch and really strange other things and that she needs someone to be a a father figure for her kids it really touched me and felt like I needed to help her so she asked me to move in with her within 2 months rent free I told her I could help her so we made a deal she would pay rent etc I would give money for other stuff I was giving her 600$ a week 

My close family and my friends I told were telling me that it's not normal for this to happen and we're worried about me I told her that I wasn't sure I could do this and it was the right decision but she said that I was the love of her life and I was the one and we would get married and have kids then started the isolation she kept telling me my family wasn't any good for me and that make me miserable when my family has always been there through me I was in a really hard place I felt like I had to pick her or my family if I ever went out with friends she would say what are you doing if I went to see my family it was how long are you going to be so eventually I didn't want to upset her so I isolated myself 


Then starts the triangulation getting phone calls from her ex her getting flowers from a co worker who she claims was creepy talking about men non stop not telling me she was married all these red flags not to mention getting a knock on the door from her exs mum asking for all his stuff back when I asked her why she had all her exs stuff she said he owed her money come to find out she threw his ass  out the same day she met me what a head fuck 



Another thing is I don't remember the last time she put her hand in her pocket to pay for shit I was always buying her kids toys clothes I bought appliances for the house washing machines Eminem concert trip to coast Pandora rings bracelets you name it I treated her like a fucking queen and never asked for shit 


Now this is when it took a turn for the worst when we came back from Eminem a letter came in the mail saying she owes Centrelink 3 years of child support I asked her what that's about because she has 50/50 care with her baby daddy not her ex apparently from what I've heard is she's blackmailed him saying you don't have to pay child support but I'm taking all the Centrelink benefits for 100% care this is when she turned into a different person starting acting like a psycho saying please don't leave me when I never once said I would she wanted me to sign papers for de facto for her kids I said no because of the situation and because we had only been dating 6 months after that it's like I was trash she started withdrawing from sex said I haven't done anything for her started disappearing for hours on end no explanation wouldn't answer her calls when all I did was be there for her but once I set up boundaries she didn't like it so she comes home one day and starts accusing me of being mentally ill and yelling at me saying I need to go get help and she said I'm a psycho and basically dumped my ass I've never been mentally ill and no one has ever told me or suspected I am I've never been so confused in my life or been head fucked like this it felt like my brain was in fog when all I did was help someone with everything I got I lost my family friends money everything to this girl so I've gone to see counsellors and psych and they say I could be dealing with a bpd /NPD I never knew what that was but now it all makes sense the projecting of the ilnnes and everything I actually felt crazy for a while thankyou for listening I've been keeping this to myself for 3 months now I never got any closure or to say bye to the kids that's what hurts the most 💔