TL;DR: Hiya, I think I’m asking if anyone else has noticed that a disruption in their daily routine is a trigger for them? 

Back story: I was diagnosed with BPD at the end of last year after an admission. I also have a few other diagnosis (none particularly relevant except for ASD and ‘OCD like tendencies’). Now I haven’t had a great deal of professional help as of yet but I have done A LOT of self help and I have gotten to a place where I am stable enough to live a fairly fulfilling life. That’s on the one condition however, that my daily routine does NOT get messed with. It has gotten to the point that today after finding out that I couldn’t have what I call my ‘week-end shower’ because I had to stay at my sisters house to look after my nephew, I blew up. I had a massive meltdown. In my mind my entire week was ruined. Then it hit me that I was supposed to start my online study tomorrow and now I couldn’t because I couldn’t incorporate it how I wanted. In my head this meant that I was going to instantly fail and everything was going to shit and my entire life was coming to an end (the feeling we all know I’m sure lmao)

I know this isn’t the healthiest thing, but I need a professionals help to work through it. 

But basically, the point of this post is - I want to know if it’s typical for people with BPD to fixate and obsess over their routine when they finally have one in place? To the point that one small hiccup causes an outburst 10x bigger than the issue at hand. Like I know we all catastrophise to an extent (even those without BPD) but this seems so excessive. I unfortunately can’t find anything online about it, only articles and studies saying how beneficial a structured life can be for BPD. But can this go too far?