I’m (42M) in a one year old relationship with my partner (30F) who has bipolar and BPD. I also have bipolar. We recently started couples counseling this week. My partner holds a lot of anger with me because it took me so long to go to counseling. I thought we could navigate our way through it. She now says the damage is already done and it might be too late. She does not want to go to more counseling sessions. I’m at a loss for what to do at this point. I love her and am willing to do anything in my power to work through our issues. I don’t know why it took me this long to finally make counseling a reality for us. She has suffered a lot of abuse in her life and I don’t want to be something that just causes her more pain. She says things to me like- she’s always miserable, she doesn’t have a choice but to keep trying, and she has nowhere else to go. All these things just make me think she’s on the way out of this relationship. I don’t want her to keep doing this if she ultimately doesn’t want a future with me, and it sure sounds like she doesn’t. Yet there are days where everything is great and she says she does want a future with me and she does want to work through our problems. I’m so confused about how she really feels. I’m torn at what I’m supposed to do here. Am I supposed to keep trying to find a way through? Or am I supposed to stop trying? I don’t know what’s borderline or what’s bipolar or what’s not. She says this has nothing to do with borderline or bipolar. I feel really sad and alone and I just feel like I can’t do anything right or do anything that makes her happy. Any advice would be great.