
to start off, i read giving ur s/o the silent treatment is a form of emotional abuse and can be just as painful as actually arguing n fighting 
which i knew ! and i don’t feel like the thing i do is the silent treatment because my intention is not to hurt my s/o !! it’s to back off and chill out so i can come back and talk to them like normal and avoid conflict if it’s not necessary!! 

ok so here we go.. communication is important, but i don’t see the point in communicating about things that i get angry over if they’re super small n petty, things that totally wouldn’t bother me if i didn’t have bpd !! so instead i’ll stop talking, and i’ll deal with it on my own and come back to my significant other when i’m ready and over it ! 
because i feel as though there’s no point in communicating and trying to fix something that actually isn’t even an issue !! i’m completely aware these things should not bother me or make me upset ??

(( just an example, i get so upset when my s/o mutes me on the phone, suddenly i wont even want to talk anymore ?? even if they’re muting me to pee ? like who the hell would ever get angry over that ?? it’s so stupid ! and not even a big deal ! but i’ll get soooo mad and shut down )

calming down on my own is just what works best for me! i don’t feel like i’m hurting anybody?  but it bothers my s/o A LOT 
and when it’s things that really do matter of course i’ll communicate with my s/o and talk about it once i’m calmed down. im pretty sure this is just typical “ quiet “ borderline behavior but i just need to make sure 

their previous relationship they were emotionally abused and it’s taken them so long to work through it and they’ve come so far i don’t want them to have gone from one abusive person to another and if i can save them from experiencing that shit again , then i’ll do what’s necessary 

( my s/o and i both have bpd and are long distance  ) 
