If you have BPD and pushed someone away did they ever come back and offer to help you?  How did it work out?  I heard stories that some people with BPD may be expecting to see how much the other person cares and want to see if they will return to them and offer to help.  Not all of us are aware of what the problem could be.  Some of you are open about BPD and that is very good.  Others may keep it secret out of fear.  Some people with BPD might not even know they have it.  I think if someone really loves or cares for someone they will help them when they are in pain.