A few months ago I was quite bored with my lack of social life due to isolating myself after the break up of an 8 year relationship. I spent the best part of 12 months isolating myself but eventually had the idea to set up a club night in my hometown that specialised in the music I like, with the intention of meeting like minded people and hopefully start dating again.  

I contacted the biggest venue in the local area and asked if they fancied putting on a rock and metal night once a month and they agreed right away, I was dumbfounded, I never expected that the first venue and my first choice would actually say yes.

I spent the next 3 months putting together a DJ team of some of my oldest friends that had a varied taste in metal sub genres and assembled them to DJ our first night.

We had 3 successful months of events before the trouble started.

Another old "friend" had become the new events manager for the venue and so I invited him into our group chat to better liaise with the venue, he proceeds to call a meeting in the venue on a day they weren't open.  

Now this new events manager is someone I've worked with in the past, we put on a night 9 years ago in a similar fashion in a different venue. One night the money tin vanished, the nights takings were gone, it was over £500, disappeared. The next tuesday, three days later he started posting on facebook about his brand new PS4, this guy was on sickness benefit and getting his housing paid for and therefore broke as fuck, there's no way he could have afforded a PS4 shortly after release without that £500. So I don't really trust the guy.

So we have this meeting at the venue with the new events manager, and he basically puts it to us that my night be taken in house and the venue would pay us a wage for doing the DJing, rather than us take entrance money on the door. We agreed to this fairly quickly as it seemed like a good deal.

The next day I received a private message from the events manager, informing me that I was being barred from the venue. Based on a rumour that I was a "cocaine dealer". 

For the record, I wish I was a coke dealer, maybe I wouldn't be as fucking skint all the time!

So without evidence the events manager informs me that the decision comes from "higher up" and apologises and says there's nothing he can do. 

I realised that such allegations, whoever had made them will probably follow me to the next venue if I try to move the event and so i felt my position was untenable. 

The rest of MY team decided that they were ok with me leaving, and went ahead and had their first event without me last night, not one of them wanted to follow me elsewhere to try again in a different venue. 

Not one of them have messaged me after I left the group chat, I messaged one of my oldest and closest friends who I had begged and built up to be able to DJ for me, and we chatted a little, then there was silence from him for like 3 weeks. I messaged him asking if me leaving the event really had affected our friendship, after he previously assured me it wouldn't, he responded with a very snotty message about having a life to lead (spent on his sofa watching netflix all day) and that it wasn't anything to do with the event. that was 2 weeks ago, I still haven't heard from him. 

I've basically been abandoned by most of my oldest and most trusted friends and it hurts like fuck. 

Sorry for the long post, It's a lot that I need to get off my chest.