So I’m (26f) in a super new relationship (31m about three months in) and I’m trying to take super good care of it by sorting my emotions before bringing anything I’m bothered by up so I don’t say things I don’t mean or start unnecessary arguments, by forcing myself not to be too clingy, and just being a good support system for him and his son. 

When we were still not official we went to a football game he got tickets for through his work, I was under the impression it would just be us but his female coworker and her son followed us then sat in the same section(because of the tickets) but they were super talkitive and joking around and stuff the whole time and I felt like the third wheel. I brought it up a couple days later when I had time to cool off and explain clearly how it made me feel and he was cool about it and apologized and told me I had nothing to worry about and said he was nervous around me and that’s why it was so easy for him to talk to her like that. 

Skip to now, we’re on night 3 of not having sex after about a week of us doing it every night, yesterday I realized he’s friends with this girl on Facebook, and he’s suddenly going to work on a Saturday tomorrow which he’s never done before(but has talked about the possibility).

He’s a good guy, he’s given me no reason to think he’s cheating, and I have no real reason to be jealous or intimidated by this girl but I’m fucking spiraling. I’m scared to bring any of this up because I don’t want him to think I’m too much or crazy by making a thing out of nothing and connecting dots that aren’t there and leaving me but at the same time I’d love some reassurance.

Idk what to do and it feels like this insecurity and fear of him cheating or abadoning me is setting me, and the healthy relationship I’ve been trying to build, up to implode.