I’m a diagnosed borderline and I have a query about relationships. Whenever I’m in a relationship I’m happy at the start but then I start to get more and more depressed and begin self harming and acting suicidal, my therapist thinks this is because of the whole pushing them away to make sure they come back thing but I’m not convinced. Like when I’m single I feel so lonely and feel like I need to be in a relationship but when I’m in one i’m not entirely sure i’m happy. does anyone else experience anything like this or have any coping mechanisms or just anything please. 