I recently learned about splitting, and I’m having trouble differentiating between that and the people I have cut out of my life for good reason. Here are some examples of situations where I cut people out— can you tell me if this seems like splitting? 

- I had to leave a group I was a part of due to health reasons. When I told the main organizer, they immediately removed me from the group chat but didn’t respond to my text. I decided they are a terrible person and I don’t want anything to do with them.

- My sister hugged my abusive ex-boyfriend and I told her how much that hurt me. She ghosted me. She also broke up with her bf in a really terrible way. Now I think she is horrible and I hate her so much. 

- I had mutual feelings with a person who lived long-distance from me. We spoke every day and always said we wanted to be with each other. They were in a relationship at the time, but as soon as they broke up they asked me to come visit them. I went and we hooked up and I started asking about what we were going to be, and then they told me they invited me as a friend and they weren’t ready for anything. They said I should just take it easy and we can hook up but that’s it. I was really upset and stopped talking to them.