So a few months ago I started talking to someone, and so far it’s been going really well. I’ve been okay at managing my bpd within the relationship itself, such as fighting the urges to run before they can leave. 

I’m running into the issue now of knowing when I should tell him I have it. We aren’t officially dating, but we are heading in that direction. I feel as though I should tell him before we do start dating so he isn’t blindsided. 

My big fear is he will search it online and see all those awful articles about how people with bpd are monsters in relationships. I haven’t opened my heart to someone in almost 2 years, so this whole thing has been somewhat scary. 

I know if we are meant to workout it will be something he accepts about me, and hopefully will be understanding of. 

Does anyone have any insight or opinions on the matter?