Reposted to remove the name of the subreddit 

I’m not even sure if reassurance is the right word. Excuse my writing, my head is a mess right now...

To preface, I (27F) was diagnosed with BPD when I was 18. I’ve had a lot of years of therapy and have learned to deal with and suppress many of my symptoms. 
6 months ago I started dating someone (28f) I met at work, who is also diagnosed with bpd. We’ve been having struggles recently and I know a lot of the ways she reacts to situations is a result of her illness. I’m not sure why I thought this would be helpful and I guess I didn’t fully understand what this anti bpd subreddit would be like,but I basically went to check it out hoping that I’d see people giving support and trying to understand why their loved ones are acting the way they are.
I didn’t realize that it was going to be people basically saying how much anyone with bpd is a monster. My heart broke reading some of those posts cause what those people were describing is exactly the things my girlfriend does, but it’s just people saying that anyone with bpd can’t change and they’re basically heartless. 

I can see it from both ends now cause the things she does truly does hurt me, but having bpd myself I just want to believe these people are wrong and that there is hope. I’m just lost right now and I’m hurt. I literally just feel like I’m falling apart.