Hello all, so I'm not new to Reddit (i've gone through a bunch of different accounts, shocking huh?) but I am new to this subreddit. I was diagnosed with BPD about 6 years ago, didn't become aware of the diagnosis until last year, and needless to say life's a constant struggle. Which is mildly infuriating considering that in the grand scheme of things my life is better off than it ever has been....and yet I've been having breakdowns on a weekly or so basis for the last six months or so and it's exhausting. I'm in weekly DBT, which is helping, but I only see my individual therapist like once a month which is not nearly enough therapy for all of this gal's baggage. So over the weekend after one of my worst breakdowns I've ever had with my husband, I thought of an idea..I asked him how he would feel about the two of us giving me an "allowance" for when I go a week without having a breakdown. I think it could be a positive for two reasons; one, I enjoy shopping and frivolous self care things (like pedicures and such), but I can be pretty damn impulsive with my spending habits/shopping and it drives my husband crazy because he's really frugal and responsible with finances (thank goodness for that) so I think have a fixed amount I can spend on this type of stuff weekly would help reign some of that in. And two, I think having something physical and tangible to think about when I'm on the verge of a breakdown to look forward to or work towards might be a good motivator...and as I sit here typing this I realize how childish this all sounds but hey, we gotta try right?

Sorry for the late night ramble, but yeah...does anyone else here have to give themselves an "allowance" to help control spending habits and/or as a means of rewarding yourself for improving?