Hi guys I wanted to seek some advice for this situation. My mother was diagnosed with delusional disorder originally and later changed to schizophrenia. For almost 10 years now she has been in and out of the hospital, different meds, etc. It’s a repeating cycle. She will go off the meds as soon as she is not legally required to take them. As the law here only allows them to mandate the medication for a year or two (Canada). So the last almost 10 years has been a cycle of her going off the medication, having an episode and being admitted to the hospital and mandated back on the medication and released again. She has never and will not admit she is sick and needs the medication. To her everything she is saying is real. Up until recently she would function quite normal when she was on the medication. But this year it’s different. At the start of last year she quit the medication and had an episode and was admitted to the hospital and then was mandated back on it. Everything seemed until a few weeks ago. But now even though she is on the medication and has been for several months it’s happening again where she is having an episode and it won’t be long until she has to be admitted to the hospital until things get better. My understanding is they are changing the medication every time this cycle happens. They say it’s not available anymore, I think some are trial drugs. I feel horrible for what she has to go through. It can’t be easy on her. It seems so cruel that they are basically playing with her soul. It’s also not easy on our family. The health workers and nurses and doctors really don’t seem to care. To them it’s just a 9-5 and they are no help. So I am unsure if it’s just the wrong medication or if her condition is worsening to where it may not be treatable? 

Now the really complicated part of this is my dad is the one who she blames saying he’s in on some conspiracy to kill her and that he keeps putting her in the hospital. They have been married a very long time. I know he still loves her. But I also know he isn’t in a good state of mind having to continually go through this and be the “bad guy” always. He drinks a lot to deal with it. I am afraid eventually he will want to end his life so he doesn’t have to deal with this. I have suggested a divorce but he isn’t the kind of person to make big decisions. And he will also lose the house, and he required to pay her spousal support. I also know she wouldn’t be able to function on her own. She would not be willing to live in some kind of supervised living nor can we afford that. So I don’t know what would happen to her if they did get a divorce. I don’t really know what I’m looking for here. I don’t know what he can do to make this better. But if you have some suggestions that would be great.