I have trauma with substance abuse in my family so this has been a huge trigger for me in my life. I’m not against recreational drug use at all. If she calls me beforehand or like tells me about her tripping I get this wave of like tension going over my body. I get irritable and uncomfortable when i shouldn’t be? Like we’re fucking adults and I’m feeling so anxious about this little thing and it just shifts my mood for no reason. She doesn’t even smoke often but when she does it gets me anxious for no reason. Any advice? I feel like it’d be really selfish to just ask her to stop yk like she can do whatever with her body why should I even have a say in it.