About 5 or so years ago, I stopped answering my dad's phone calls and emails. I didn't realize until fairly recently that it's not normal to be able to just turn off all feelings towards someone and basically delete them from your life with complete apathy, but now I know that's probably splitting. So really, whatever the answer to this question is it won't change anything, I'm just curious for opinions. 

There were a lot of little things leading up to it (missing recitals, implying I'm less important than his cell phone by saying he couldn't afford gas to come visit me anymore but he had a $150 monthly cell phone plan between him and his wife, trying to take my mom to court to stop paying child support when we were literally basically homeless and living in a friend's basement, etc.) but the moment everything switched off was when I found out he stole at least $10,000 from me, it was my college fund, and then he tried to lie about it and say that I, an 18 year old at the time, was the one who spent the money that I didn't even have access to. 

The worst part is, and this is just a guess my mom and I came up with recently after doing some math, we're like 70% sure he used it for some kind of fertility treatment to have a daughter with his new wife. Apparently they were having trouble conceiving, and his suspicious behaviour surrounding the money and the account (that we're both pretty upset with ourselves in hindsight for not realizing what that meant at the time) matches up with around when she was born. So there's a huge chance he literally stole my future for the sole purpose of replacing me. Like, when I was 15/16 or whatever he just decided I was a lost cause and a failure and pulled the plug and started over.

Also he makes $120,000 a year (and his wife worked too last I checked, idk how much she makes though), and my mom made about $20,000 tops until she got her new job a couple years back, so like. That's also relevant.