Anyone else ever feel this way and how do you deal with it? Like you just watch things happen for everyone else and you're trying to make them happen for yourself but they don't? You're told things will get better if you just do XYZ or that you're so great, you just need ABC to happen and to be patient /positive/or some other cliché? It could be getting into a relationship, getting a job, making, friend's, etc. Do you have certain coping mechanisms that help this negative thought and feeling? How long before you stop trying as hard (or at all) since your efforts go nowhere?? 

Part of my depression is insecurity and isolation. I'm often excluded or overlooked for things which makes me feel like people don't actually appreciate the traits *they claim* are good in me or want to be around me. It happens in school, at work, with friendships, in dating...I'm always told to "just be myself" or to "put yourself out there". I'm told to keep trying, to be social (I'm in several clubs and work part time), to be kind (I'm told I'm nice, caring, polite), to apply for this or that job (I'm always great candidate for something but never receive the role). 

Guys will express interest in me then tell me that they don't want anything serious or that they just got out of a relationship and then a month later be going out with someone. Friends will claim they love my personality and then never invite me to hangouts or reach out to me (I *always* text first). When is enough enough?? Rejection and unfairness are a part of life but watching everyone else succeed while I fail but am trying just as hard as they are is exhausting. How long before I just give up because not having something at all is so much worse than constantly getting my hopes up. Any advice is appreciated!