I know for some of us with BPD we go the extra mile to get validation from others. It’s really hard for me to not seek validation outside of my relationship. my boyfriend doesn’t find me attractive and he has no problem telling me that I’m disgusting because of my past and that’s his excuse for not touching me. He doesn’t want much to do with me sexually, he is older than me and not as interested in sex as I am. I’m having a really hard time stopping my urge to chat and flirt with men online and I’m wondering if others with BPD also struggle with this as well.