I'm honestly really upset about it. i was abused too. i went through hell and back. it sucked. my parents are terrible people, but I'd never think it's just cause of BPD. their parents are bad people, but not cause of BPD. its demonizing the disorder. sadly BPD only couldve influenced it but they're not abusive cause of the disorder itself. I've been thinking about it for days. I've been crying thinking about what if I'm abusive to my girlfriend cause of BPD. please help.