Hey, I got diagnosed with BPD a few months ago after already going to therapy for 3 years. The first few therapists actually assumed I was suffering from bad PTSD, but after thorough testing, it turned out to be BPD. Everything got way worse after my diagnosis and I just couldn't accept it, additionally I am suffering from agoraphobia which basically made me unable to leave the house without having full blown panic attacks and psychosomatic pains.
Last week I collected all my courage and attended a friends Halloween party where I actually met a very nice guy who later asked me on a date. Now I am sitting here panicking about how I should work around my BPD. I never told any friends about it since most of the time they are not around when I have an episode and I also don't want to risk them googling about it and getting overwhelmed. But I am not sure how I should handle this topic when it comes to dating since that person might stick around for a while and I would feel extremely guilty if I didn't tell them right from the beginning what they are getting themselves into and them not having the option to decide if they really want to risk it and me possibly wasting their time.
Additionally I should add that I have a milder form of BPD which often results in people just assuming I'm especially emotional and more dramatic than others, but as I said a possible SO sees more than just the tip of the iceberg. What are your experiences with dating? Do you have any advice on how to approach dating with BPD?