i've been with my gf for almost two years and i knew she had bpd.

for the most part i've been learning my way around the intense emotions, clingyness, abandonment issues.. i can't seem to handle the self-image issues and it doesn't matter if i or a hundred other people like her and praise her, she still hates herself and what she looks like. all i can do is keep reminding her how great she is even if it doesn't stick.

anyways. so this scenario has happened twice already and it's looking like we're going to be doing it again:

the first time she had just gotten a job and right before her first day, she had a breakdown and went into the hospital. she got out in less than a week and was able to go to work, but the meds they gave her she stopped taking after a month because they made her feel "off." the job itself only lasted a few months before ending so she was unemployed for a couple months and was able to collect unemployment.

cue the second time when she found another job. she made it through training week but after that, right before starting the job, she had another breakdown and went into the hospital for about a week. she got new meds and yet again stopped taking them after a month because they too made her feel "off."

now we're here again. suddenly without warning the beginnings of a breakdown started yesterday, she wants to quit her job, thinking about going back into the hospital again..

in total she has been in the hospital four times so far. every time it's the same thing except now her ex can't/isn't paying for her bills while she's unemployed, she won't get unemployment, and i don't make enough to cover all of it either.

the longer she's unemployed the harder it gets for her to get a job and the more infantile she becomes..

coddling her isn't good for either one of us but pushing her even a little bit seems to make shit a lot worse.

i can't solve her problems for her. i know this. i also love her and don't want to leave.

what can i do?

eta: she is in therapy and goes every week or so, but it's not dbt or anything.