 

Hey,

I recently met someone that I highly suspect has BPD (I don't want to diagnose people based on my own observations though) and I notice she is doing really bad lately. I kind of talked with her a lot (she opened up really quickly), about her always pushing people away, her parent not being there for her. That she feels so empty, lonely. Eventually, due to reasons, she pushed me away and after that crossed a huge boundary (impulse sexual/alcohol behavior the day after the 'break up'), so I told her not to contact me again (I was having a rough time with a friend diagnosed with cancer, so needed space myself, too). After that, she has been posting sad things on social media about her fucking up her life, and I am really worried and angry at myself for telling her not to contact me.

After all this happened I start looking into what made this situation happen and realized she could very well have BPD. I am quite sure that I am not her FP, and I do not talk with her at this moment, but shit, I DO care about her even though the things she has done. I want to gain knowledge about BPD so I can:

A. help her in case we get in contact again (which we will after the summer break if school starts again) and

B. know more about how I could have handled this situation and do better in the future.

Any books, tips? Help would be greatly appreciated :)