If you feel comfortable answering, as your children get older and gain more independence does that translate into feelings of abandonment? Do you ever feel this intense fear that your children are going to abandon you? I know that if I have a child they will be my whole world. My fp i guess. And part of me is reluctant to have children because if anything happened where they might be upset with me or not talk to me, I think I would totally break down and the fear of abandonment would just be too much. I know people talk about how those with BPD shouldn’t have kids all the time, but I can’t help my desire to have some one day. What is your experience??? Thank you ❤️