

I understand people fear confrontations, but to initially go behind someone’s back about something sucks.  I get this can be subjective given the type of problem it is, but generally communication should be key.  If you’re given a hard time about it initially when you approach the person about the problem, or if the action/words continue to occur, then of course you gotta bring it up safely with someone you trust for your own comfort.  However, if the person is oblivious that there’s a problem and they’re approached by their boss about it or they suddenly have negative rumors spread about them, it’s not cool.