Background: I'm an American male (26)living in the Philippines with my wife (25) I've been here a little over a year now. Her parents are well off by pinay standards so they take care of us basically. Espicslly since it's hard to work often due to covid. On to the stressors 
So my wife has a couple of different problems at the moment. Firstly she has diabetes and was prescribed insulin and metformin by a doctor. Well after a few weeks her mom decided that my wife was too young for insulin and told her to stop taking it. This was months ago and for a few weeks she was buying the insulin behind her mom's back but then began to stop because our money was running low and she couldn't ask for money since her mom didn't want her to have it. Now it seems like half the time she forgets to take her metformin since she's at the family store at lunch (her doctor told her to take it at lunch). She was also supposed to follow up with that doctor last October but didn't. 
Issue 2. My wife has mental health issues. Like really serious ones. Where meds aren't enough right now. She has an online psychiatrist who has told her a few different times that she should get admitted to s hospital to get everything sorted out. Well her mom says no because she's scared of Covid and I feel like my wife isn't standing up enough for herself. Her psychiatrist also told her to get online therapy and only see the psychiatrist once every 2-3 months because therapy is more important right now. But my wife still hasn't made any therapy appointments. She was doing therapy for s while but then just stopped months ago. 
Then finally the one from today. 2 weeks ago my wife slipped and fell on her elbow. For about a week and a half she was slowly getting better then it stagnated and in my opinion got a little worse again. She also developed a large brusie down her wrist when it started hurting more again. I was texting my mom about it (who used to be a nurse in the US) and she was saying we should get an x-ray just in case. My wife finally made an appointment with a doctor for today and when she got to the hospital her mom called her and told her to leave and just go to work. That she just needs to rest it and that she's fine. Now my wife just got off of work and i was trying to talk to her about trying to convince her mom and going back to the doctor and she doesn't want to anymore. She said she was "just being paranoid" and "it's fine now" even though she still can't move it. Earlier when she told me that her mom made her leave i was panicking and was so anxious i threw up, so i was hoping my wife would understand and at least try to get looked at. 

I just feel like there's all these things that she has going on and she isn't willing to work on any of it. It's stressing me the freak out and i don't know how to handle it. Should I just drop it? But then my brain makes up all these scenarios where the diabetes makes her lose a foot, or her arm just keeps bleeding and she dies or she gets suicidal one day and just ends it all. Am I being weird here? Am I pushing her too much or caring about her business too much? Or is she the one letting me AND herself down?