I just wanted to spread a little positivity here. There’s so much negativity towards people with BPD especially regarding relationships. We struggle with certain things more than some people, but that does NOT mean we aren’t deserving of love. We all deserve love, and we are ALL capable of loving and being loved. Though our minds may think differently, we are still human. Not everyone’s going to understand us; likewise, we won’t understand everyone. Not everyone is going to be the one willing to put in the extra work. That doesn’t mean no one will. 

I see so many comments and posts about how people with BPD ruined someone’s life by being in a relationship with them. Yeah, I’ve done some regrettable things in relationships. But the way people talk about us, as if we aren’t humans who also need love, is in my personal opinion totally unacceptable. It’s called a relationship because it’s a relation and connection between more than one person. That other person had the choice to leave at any time. And that person is also a human who is capable of acting poorly and making mistakes. Finally, don’t think that these negative behaviours are limited solely to those who have BPD. Many people lie, many people cheat, many people change their minds without notice, many people deal with depression, etc. People act like you don’t take a risk of dealing with those things with ANYONE you begin to date. 

My point here is, don’t let these negative comments let you feel like you don’t deserve to be loved. We all deserve that ❤️