Im trying to figure out if my hot and cold personality is just me or if its a part of BPD? Now this is not a "my way or the highway" situation. More of a (for example) "I'm feeling clingy but he told me i need to back up a bit so now I'm totally distant" (again, just an example) I am doing a lot of self help and personal growth and i know that any part of me that I dont like I can work on and fix, whether its from BPD or not, but sometimes I find it helpful if i know where the problem is coming from.

Im very extreme with everything in my life. With me, there is no in between. My SO always says it, "yup there you go again, from one extreme to the other" its either all or nothing, hot or cold, left or right. And I'm like that with EVERYTHING. my feelings, my actions, my likes/dislikes, everything you can think of, and I'm trying to change that. 

Does anyone else with this disorder deal with this or is it just a personal trait i have?