I just recently went through a breakup after 7 years together.  Have been feeling obsessive and won't realize the relationship is truly over and I was too needy.  

Spoke with my parents and they said that this is the second worst pain in my life.  I asked what was first and they said my childhood.  

This was such a big breakthrough as my parents are alcoholics and have vehemently denied that they were abusive physically and mentally.  I have always just wanted them to acknowledge what they did to me and today I got that.  

Since this discussion I have felt strangely at peace.  I have always discussed with everyone I've known about the abuse I grew up with and people sympathized but in the back of my mind I always felt like I maybe blew it out of proportion because my parents always denied it.  Today gave me validation.  I still have a long way to go in terms of self worth and learning to live by myself but this helps a lot. 