My crush and I confessed our mutual interest about a month ago. About a week in, he’d send me “good morning, beautiful” texts, text me goodnight and during the day. 

Early on he shared that he suffers from depression and anxiety. 

He used to be very chatty by text, responsive and the conversation would flow back and forth easily. He always replies to me though now he’ll answer a question but not say anything more to keep the conversation going. He’s like that in person too — sometimes not paying much attention to me, other times he’s more “present.”

But It took us 2 or 3 weeks just to hug. He was actually evasive about it! I told him I sometimes don’t know if he wants me or not and he said “it’s not a question of want, that’s for sure.”

When we’re not together he’ll tell me he misses me, misses kissing me, how pretty I am, etc. 

Some people will say HJNTIY but idk if the problem is something else. 

Our text conversations used to be very “heated” but we tried to slow things down a bit until he finds a new place to live, as his housing situation is not good and has worsened lately. He still lives with his ex (they split up a long time ago and his FB relationship status is single) and his son. 

He’s not having much luck finding a place, as he is in addiction recovery and his past “indiscretions” still haunt him. 

Just a few days ago we both said we want to see what we can build together and don’t want it to be over. But I haven’t heard from him since Thursday. I feel like I’m chasing him if I initiate contact most of the time. Maybe he’s just stressed about his home situation?

We haven’t had sex yet just kissed. 

Yeah there are red flags, I know. But I don’t get the feelings he’s a liar, psycho or a player. 

TLDR: crush gives mixed signals.