[This titular thread](https://www.reddit.com/r/BPD/comments/7qal6b/scared_of_unhealthy_fp_ghosting_me/) was posted a good while ago.

I'm very thankful for what the commenter said, which was the god's-honest truth and everything that she needed to hear.

I wish she would have listened to what was said in that thread, and me.

That person was (is .. ?) my wife, and she just recently totally lost her mind--started pulling the "you're controlling and don't give me any privacy" shit (she'd become very strange and distant that day, so I was asking her what she was up to and to communicate with me), as she began again, this week, speaking to this--HORRIBLE, predatory, sociopath. She outwardly (and honestly, I do tend to believe internally) displayed disdain generally towards anything other than purely speaking and discussing her problem(s) to this person in an attempt to purge the negative thoughts she again developed this week after a trauma.

She left our house--against all my wishes, and her better judgment--and he drove her out and coerced her in her state of weak mental health, and familial hardship (brought on by this bullshit in particular--all of which he knew of--she literally broadcasted it 3 times through 3 horribly, dangerously revealing confessional/explanatory songs: Left Right, Don't Leave, Fire--on [her soundcloud](http://soundcloud.com/allysangel). He's a horrible predator--it was truly borderline rape (as far as he could have known, it would have appeared to be).

She defends him--completely delusionally denying his obvious sociopathic, predatory behavior (probably solely for the sake of contradicting me).

At this point, her damaging/overprotective sister who believes everything she says and excuses all of her terrible behavior **would appear to me** (my estimation, as she tends to promote that) to have pushed her, in her vulnerable emotional state, to completely abandon the house and block/delete me on every communication outlet I had with her.

At this point, I'm just sat in the rubble--fairly unsure of what to do. This behavior--so contrary to everything she's every spoken/promised in her rational, normal states--has really left me wondering, am I the bad guy? What's my fault? It's hard to tell myself that I was a good person when these people treat me so terribly.

This isn't perfectly explanatory--I tried to keep it relatively brief, but so much shit has happened this week, and past few months, and past few years--it's a lot to put down. Feel free to ask though. I'm just trying to connect and cope and do what's best--thank you for your support.