I suppose the title explains just about everything, but I’ll go into more detail.

I really find myself having no attraction to someone until I know they’re flirting with me or already like me.  I think in my mind, I really don’t allow myself to even entertain the thought of finding someone attractive or having a crush on them unless I know it could go somewhere.  Otherwise there’s no point and I’m pining over someone I can’t have.  I also have a lot of anxiety about appearing inappropriate or doing or saying something I shouldn’t, so I just don’t even let myself even appear interested in someone until I know they already like me.

The trick is of course no one ever seems to show that sort of interest in me.  Maybe they’re waiting for me to show it, but I really have no reason to until they do.  They don’t even appear as attractive to me unless I know they have interest.

Anyone have any advice on what to do about this situation?  I’m totally confused and don’t know what to do.