I have been seeing him since June. He is really nice, but when I first met him and told him about my diagnosis, he told me point blank that he was totally unfamiliar with BPD. However, my psych recently diagnosed me with major depressive on top of that, so he is kind of more so focusing on that. He told me his method deals with handling the "root of the problem" versus "dealing with diagnoses".

Virtually the only things we have talked about, or rather the only things he has suggested/brought up, is how I need to "find time to relax" and have "me time", but also go out and "find a social network". I am a single mom and he keeps suggesting I get with a group of moms, and pushing church sponsored groups. (I don't mind churches or whatever, but I am not a religious person myself) When I try to talk about how meeting new people is hard because of my identity issues, he just says "Well, just be yourself and I am sure you'll find like minded people".

I can't just be myself, I don't know who she is, haha!

There's a ton of stuff he says and suggests that just doesn't work for me...

It doesn't help that I have had to bring my one year old daughter to all of our sessions for lack of childcare, and he LOVES kids, so half the time he is talking and babbling at her, and gets distracted every time she makes a noise, haha... So we haven't "delved" into anything past surface small talk of "How are things? That sounds stressful. Make some friends", and he refuses to talk about anything deeper or any past trauma or anything.

Anyways, he is really nice and I haven't said anything to him about how I feel like we just aren't working... but I really want to see about seeing someone else, preferably someone who understands or at least has knowledge of BPD. I've never just switched therapists before (usually I just give up and stop going and try again after my next mental breakdown), and he is really nice and I feel bad just bailing on him, but I just leave our sessions let down and feeling like I wasted my time. I am struggling, a LOT, and I really, really need help... and this guy just doesn't seem to understand. 

Has anyone else gone through something similar? How did you handle it? Is it considered rude or uncool to change therapists without notice? Do I just call and ask the scheduler to see if I can see anyone else? Thanks in advance for any insight or advice...