He has BPD and depression. We got in an argument Friday and he got annoyed saying I was accusing him of something. Won’t go into details. He got really stressed and ended up asking me to leave saying he didn’t know if he wanted to be with me. He was however pretty angry at the time, and said his head really hurt too much to think. I told him I would rather drop it as I wasn’t accusing him of anything just asking about something so as far as I’m concerned that is over with.

Since then he has hardly spoken to me. I left him for a day to give him space. Then asked if he was ok. He said “better than yesterday” but didn’t put any kisses like normal. The next day I asked the same and he said “I’m ok you” this time with kisses. But when I replied then said goodnight and that I love him he ignored me. Until the next day when I asked how he was and the same happened. I replied but was ignored afterwards.

Last night after trying again to ask he goes “struggling but getting through it, you ok?” I said I wasn’t great either and this time I didn’t say night or message him this morning. He ended up replying earlier today then he has previous days but just with “ah okay”. Which I left on read. 

I don’t know what the best thing to do here is. People keep saying I should stop messaging him and let him come to me as he is treating me like crap. But I know abandonment issues are a huge part of BPD, but also he doesn’t reply or read my texts so is there any point? He saves them when he eventually opens them but that’s it. I also sent him a huge message on Facebook saying I was upset because he wasn’t talking to me, but understood he might feel attacked and let him know what he means to me but he hasn’t even read it. I’ve tried saying I miss him/love him several times but nothing.