It's not that I don't think my s/o doesn't like me, I just need a confirmation that my assumption—that he *does* enjoy being in this relationship—is correct. He is unhappy that I need verbal confirmation because words of affirmation is not his love language. However, I just can't be certain that I'm right, despite him expressing affection through physical touch etc. I'm not sure if it is a BPD thing or an attachment style issue. We have gotten into many conflicts because of this. I am wondering how I can approach this problem; at times I wonder if we're just not built to be together, given that the one thing that I really need is one thing that's the most unnatural and uncomfortable thing for him to do. Even if we're trying to find a compromise, neither of us are fully happy and content with it. I want to with a person who doesn't hold back with telling me how they feel about me and that they care about me. He said that in private, if I were to ask him whether or not he's happy dating me, he would be ok with that, but not in public because people passing by could hear. I'm not sure what to think because I want to be understanding, but I still feel the way I do and wish to hear words of affirmation. If he's not willing to try to meet my needs, is it better for the both of us to not date? Not only because I'll feel insecure or just discontent in general, but also that he'll feel stressed and pressured to do things he'd rather not do. Any help is greatly appreciated!