So I’ve met this amazing person and we get along pretty well. They’re a new friend and usually what sucks is anyone who listens and shares their feelings with me I end up developing an attachment to them. 

Here’s the thing though, usually when this happens to me I act on it (usually straight up sexually) 

It’s a problem because I’m ace. I feel like the only reason someone would want me is for sex. I’m decent looking, not the best but not terrible. 

Now this new friend of mine is also ace, and I really enjoy there company and I’ve been getting better emotionally and all but I don’t wanna ruin this friendship by confessing but tbh I like for the person to know my feelings so I can just get the rejection out of the way and we can resume friendship. 

But at the same time I’m worried they will be weirded out about it and no longer talk to me. 

I hate hiding things and if they ask how I feel about them, likely I’ll tell them. 

Also, I’m in an open poly relationship and they know that. They haven’t said anything bad about it and I know it’s not for everyone but I’ve ruined a majority of my friendships by dating some, or having a sexual relationship with others.

Any input? Advice? 

I’m fine with keeping it on the down low because I miss having friends. I have a romantic relationship with my current partner and I adore him as well 

so rejection doesn’t bother me as much as it used to, anyway this vent/whatever  is open to advice