Hello, Felicia, 31. I’ve entered the dating world late, a number of reasons, but the main one being a breast reduction surgery I had last summer (large breasts had caused me pain and discomfort most of my life so getting the surgery was a huge relief!) I feel great in my body now and, thus, have been exploring sexually.

I met a guy I really fell hard for after only 2 weeks. I had a bit of a meltdown, after saying we’d be exclusive, that he didn’t text for a few days (he was on a trip back home). When he came back (I was so good and never texted him once!) he was a bit distant which led to me basically demanding he tell me if he still felt interested and he said he wanted to be casual.

I want to continue exploring and dating but it’s so hard when this happens. I’m trying to learn and grow (I know I’m doing both!) but it’s emotionally exhausting!

How have you handled casual dating/relationships? Is it just too hard to broach with the nature of BPD?

On meds and in therapy fwiw.