I don’t have BPD and I hope you all can help me. I tried another subreddit but further research indicated that this subreddit would be more helpful as I genuinely love and care about my husband.   
We have been married for 10 years. He was diagnosed with BDP and ROCD 2 years ago but never told me.

My husband does not love me though he says he does. He is with me for stability he lacked as a child. Obviously I feel that we both deserve to be with someone who we love. We need to get a divorce.

However he sees differently. He says I am abandoning him and I never loved him if I want to divorce. I do love him and care about him. I don’t want to be condescending but I don’t know how to tell him he will be happier when he divorces me and find someone HE loves? How do I make it clear that I want him to find someone he is in love with? All I want is his happiness.