My FP and I are in a relationship and it’s super supportive and generally really good. He understands my BPD stuff but he also sets good boundaries and it’s probably the healthiest situation I’ve ever been in. 


However, he’s good friends with a girl who flirted with him last night. He showed me the texts and kinda wiggled out of it by joking with her. She’s in a relationship and obviously so is he.

They’re still friends it seems like, which really bothers me. I don’t like that he’s friends with her and the whole thing makes me super uncomfortable.

In the past I’ve been hit on by a lot of people I’m friends with, but he always seemed fine with it or when he was bothered we talked about it. 

I’m struggling to deal with this especially since they’re still going to be friends. I suspect he is attracted to her but I suspect that with almost everyone because just BPD things I guess. 

What is the most reasonable thing to do on this situation? I’m feeling extremely triggered and had to like be alone for a long time last night to process it and not rage at him or her.