I've been posting a lot on here lately about the same subject matter (ex boyfriend talk). It's been helpful hearing people's thoughts. It's a process of learning and getting over things that helps to post on here.

Today, I started researching more about disorders. I read more into the difference of borderline and narcissistic...and realized that my ex matched up with NPD. So, I started reading more and the mismatched puzzle pieces started matching up. It makes sense now why we have so many misunderstandings. I hope other BPD people can get something from this too. 

First off, the two disorders have similar traits. Abandonment issues, neediness, attention seeking. But, here's the difference:
I read a good comparison about BPD people being a water well and the water is emotion. We overflow with it. We don't know what to do with this extra emotion. 
NPD people have an empty well. They don't feel much emotion at all..they have a lack of empathy. The narcissist loves attention and the BPD loves to give it. Both types obviously love attention, but for different reasons. BPD need it bc we lack confidence...NPD need to feed their already big ego.

At first, these relationships seem fine. But once the narcassist's well is full from the borderline's attention...they've had enough and need attention from someone else. BPD people get abandoned more often by these types. We get upset...and the NPD doesn't care...they need attention from more than one person. So they cheat, BPD find out...feel betrayed...cry...feel depressed...NPD doesn't empathisize so they leave. Even more pain for the BPD person.

I guess it's a confusing mix.  I would rather be BPD and have overflowing love to offer than not have any emotion. But, then again...it would be nice to have a break and be a NPD for just a little while when you don't have any care at all for anything but yourself. 
