Was finally diagnosed as BPD after having my psych and past therapist work together to compare notes. Helped a lot. I am no longer with the therapist since I had to change insurances and she did not feel fully equipped since she was specialized in CBT/DBT.   


I am having a hard time relating it with some things because there is so much attached to childhood trauma. While I am not saying that my childhood didn't affect me in some ways, it was honestly a very supportive one. My sibling and I were encouraged to talk about our feelings, had consistent nurturing times with both parents on our own or in a group. My mother even had two passes at the beginning of the section of the school year we could turn in when we weren't sick and just needed a mental health day.   


The thing that I think really made it click was a relationship starting at 16 with someone five years older than me that turned into a catastrophic 12 year relationship. By the end, it was the two of us quarantining together out of need, a narcissist and a depressed BPD.   


So, not trying to be the exception to the guideline, but does anyone else have this experience? I just feel like the diagnosis fits so well, but the amount of childhood abuse that is talked about is something I can't connect with.