Okay so I’m going to try keep this short. This guy that im seeing, FWB situation is also a long time ago ex. We have a quite a few mutual friends but ultimately I could not see him quite easily. But I also don’t want to lose him as a friend. 

So I do care about him deeply. However, he is selfish. Although he’s fun to be around and he’s spontaneous and sometimes the sex is insane. He also makes me feel quite worthless through his selfishness. I’m always accommodating him and letting him cross my boundaries with small comments that aren’t that bad, like “you’re so weird”, “sorry? What was that? I wasn’t listening”, talking over me, never really respecting any decisions I make (I know this is dumb, but he never lets me choose what we watch, I don’t mind watching What he wants, but then he gets irritated if I look at my phone and am not paying attention - bear in mind the stuff we would be watching really doesn’t require much concentration - like snowboarding compilations). 

Anyways, blah blah blah, makes me sad and unstable. I’m aware of my overreactions now but it’s like any time I have a feeling - it’s immediately unwarranted - that confusion of is this real is this not gave me a panic attack last time I saw him. I went and tried to deal with it alone as much as I could. He could see I was upset but we left it at that. He’s also great sometimes and all that jazz - but selfish. As fuck. 

I know it’s not good for me. I know I need to get away from this. So I’m asking how? Emotionally how? And how do I stick with the decision?