The way I understand it is: confidence, emotional stability and strength are the main things women look for in men.
I have no trouble appearing confident, even when in situations where internally Im not, but I am deeply sensitive and sentimental. I already had many bad dating experiences in my life that were the result of me being too emotional and me needing validation.  Would me needing reassurance be an impossible thing to request considering that would be a deal-breaker in the first place?  As a man I feel as if I need to somehow cure my BPD before I could even date again.  

Do any of you have stories that feature BPD men in relationships that would give me hope?