I’m in my early 20’s and have struggled with anxiety for a good portion of the last decade. I have friends, who are pretty close to me, but are unaware about my condition. However, I’ve had maybe one dating experience in that time, and that’s it. 

Obviously this is partly cuz of my anxiety, but another aspect I’ve begun to observe is the fact that I don’t stand out. I’m just a boring, neutral guy with no strong opinions. I’m relatively reserved and clearly don’t command the room, and I’m deathly afraid to have an opinion about things, cuz at the end of it I’m afraid of judgement. 

I’ve also noticed that, even though I might’ve opined about something, if a person doesn’t like or share the same opinion, I backtrack and end up changing my stance. I feel the need to please everyone and not displease anyone with any opinion I have. 

Because of this I feel like I haven’t developed a ‘personality’ yet, and I believe people find me boring. Especially when it comes to dating, I don’t really ‘stand out’. I’m just another boring guy. 

Anyone else experience something similar? And any tips on how to work on this?