ANYONEEE THAT SAYS YOU CANT CONTROL HOW YOU FEEL BUT CAN CONTROL HOW YOU ACT IS WRONg !!!

Yes you can control some reaction or behavior with a lot of therapy and a lot of work but it is not easy and it won’t happen overnight and it’s not bullet proof 

The entire point of a mental disorder like BpD is LOSS OF CONTROL ! You CANNOTTT controle most reaction! Borderline is a disorder on the spectrum of psychosis and neurosis ! You have to work extremely hard to controle behavior !

Anyone with BpD who say they can control all their action either have a verrry extremely quiet BPD or are simply lying about the disorder for attention !!? Or they have yearrrrssssss of work and therapy but most of those people understand how actually hard it is to gain control during an episode 

Most people with BpD will have outburst where they blackout / lose controle and even cant remember what happened after

Psychotic episode in BPD are common 

It’s NOT AN EXCUSE ! In the sense you can’t use it as a free pass to do or say anything ! But it is an explanation of why. Someone might react a certain way !

Anyone saying “ you can controle how you act” are simple hella ableist I’m tired of this narrative coming from neurotypical or quiet BpD people ….. 


Some of us with sever BpD have black out so intense we faint , Ive had moment where I woke up in hospital and didn’t remember what I did the last 24:00 because I blacked out completely!!! 

Would you tell someone with depression to just “ control their crying “ to just “ control how they react to sadness “ would you tell someone in a wheelchair to just “ try harder to walk “ 


Of course not !!!! So many people here claim To have BPD yet are so quick to judge as soon as they see the actual bad , destructive side of the illness !! 


Yess you can control some action but not without A LOT OF HARD WORK and it won’t happen over night …. 

No it’s not an excuse or a free pass to say anything without consequences but it is an EXPLANATION of someone’s behavior as long as you take responsibility and accept the consequences of your action !!! 

Now I remember why I stopped following this page … ableism , fake diagnoses , judgment to anything different ….. fuck that