Me and my uBPDw have been together for 12 years. I thought maybe I was the FP but now it seems she has a new or other FP. I've watched her literally mold herself into him and his likes to the point that I don't know if I know who she is right now.  I guess in a way I've been painted black but then again I can't say I know much about the FP thing. 

Can she have two or do I just not exist anymore while he has taken the FP role.