for context; i despise whenever someone is in my room or touches my stuff, my room is my heaven as being the eldest sibling. my room is calm and i can decide whatever happens in it. 

my s/o wanted to help while i was at school and they cleared my room. they put my clothes upstairs in my laundry basket.

it's not the first time they did it and it's not the first time i told them i'm not quite comfortable with that but still thank them. they feel bad afterwards bc i dont want my stuff touched and they argued that when we'll live together we can't be fighting over me not wanting my clothes touched. 

but it happened again and now my clothes is mixed w my family's and i hate it. so i brought it up, saying that i dont like having my clothes left upstairs. they argued saying they need cleaning, granted they're right but they didn't acknowledge my discomfort. 

on one side they're right about the cleaning and we shouldn't be fighting over this but at the same time, i feel like they don't care about my boundaries. i need my own space, need it untouched. it especially pisses me off that they don't ask or warn beforehand, especially when i said that i dont any of my stuff touched. 

and now i'm taking a break from talking to them. i cant be honest about my anger either as they've been emotionally abused all their life. i dont want to trigger them and made them cry. 

tldr: my s/o cleans my room despite me not wanting my room touched at all.