My first boyfriend (we were like 12 and we kissed once lol was not serious, but we're still really good friends) was later diagnosed with BPD. As well as his sister, who I am also really good friends with. My next serious boyfriend had BPD and manic depression. A couple of my friends while I grew up had a lot of the same problems as me which leads me to believe that I either don't know if they are diagnosed or they are just not diagnosed at all, or at least have strong BPD tendencies.

A friend that I just recently got super, super close with has gone through a lot of the same things as me and it's almost like we're the same people, personality wise. We both freak out when either one doesn't answer right away while texting, and we're both just really clingy friends. But we are both aware that we are like this and we know we won't stop talking unless we have a legitimate reason to, so we joke about it after. We are both very scared of abandonment. Although I'm friends and have been in relationships with people like me, I've never met someone SO MUCH like me before I met this person. He's like my twin. It's nuts.

Maybe it's not just BPD people, I also think it's people with mental illness in general. It's obviously because we relate better to each other, but how does that work with BPD? Do they feed off of each other's impulsiveness and clinginess? When I think that someone isn't giving me enough attention to care (usually just paranoid thinking) I push them away to consciously to make it my fault. But when two people are irrationally scared to lose each other, what happens? Have any of you ever been in a situation like that? My serious boyfriend that had BPD was like this too, but before we broke up, he had a bit of an identity change and started doing drugs, which is kind of why we broke up because I didn't want that.