I've been in several codependent relationships myself, and have had many friendships and relationships with PwBPD where I loved and adored them more than anything. Often complimenting and validating their feelings. I felt like their hero when I was their shoulder to cry on and the one person they trusted more tham anything. For me feeling needed is what makes me feel loved more than anything.

But eventually I learned that this was an unhealthy, unrealistic way of viewing love and despite it feeling so good at times, at others I'd feel worthless if my person with bpd was unhappy with me or for some other reason. 

I realized eventually that I needed to change something about myself, and am currently in therapy. But I guess I wanted to ask PwBPD 

1.) what does being in a relationship with a codependent feel like and what about a codependent person seemed attractive to you? 

2.) Borderlines are also always codependent, what was the emotional enmeshment like for you guys?

I asked this question on r/codependency but most of the codependents there had been hurt by borderlines so the answered were a bit... negative to say the least. So I thought I'd hop over here to ask you guys directly.