 
Me (F23) and my boyfriend (M22) have been together for almost two years now. We’ve been through a lot together and that includes through me learning about my BPD. When I start splitting, I call them episodes, my emotions are all over the place. Usually I feel like he doesn’t love and/or care about me even if he says he does. Today, when I started feeling myself getting worse I reached out to him for reassurance.  I do this often and most of the time between him telling me he does love me and my own coping skills I can calm down. But today (and more lately) he just sit there next to me and doesn’t say anything past the initial “I love you.” The silence makes my brain go wild and I get really intense thoughts telling me he doesn’t care or love me or want to help or be with me because he isn’t talking to me. When I tell him this is what’s going on in my mind he gets so upset with me and it leads to him using a more stern tone of voice, which I feel triggers me even more, and he ends up needing space from me when I can get myself to calm down. Sometimes this triggers another episode. What can I do so that he doesn’t get upset with me? Is asking for the reassurance wrong of me? Sorry if this is typed out weird I’m not good with words.