I learned about Check the Facts DBT Skill but it’s confusing because how do I know what’s the real facts and what are the facts I just think are real because I’m splitting? Do you know what I mean? My reality is kind of distorted when I’m splitting. This skill doesn’t seem to be helping me because of this. 

An example is I feel like my partner doesn’t love me because they don’t want to stay in a call with me. In the moment I see that as a fact, but when I’m not splitting I see it is ridiculous. How do I see this as a fact before I start splitting so it doesn’t get worse?