So this is my first post here, but I'm glad I've found this subreddit. I was diagnosed with BPD or at least BPD traits a few months ago. I think it's pretty darn accurate. I don't do everything on the list of symptoms, but I am positive I qualify. Anyway the point is my SO flat out blocks me on a regular basis after we have arguments. It's extremely hard on me, and I try to deal with it as level-headedly as possible, but as you all probably well know, that is extremely difficult to do when faced with overwhelming emotions that come at you like waves. I always end up messaging him multiple times, asking for an eta on when this silent treatment is going to end, or if I have a moment of weakness, I get angry and rant at him, or I just spam him. I've worked hard to avoid doing the latter as much, but I still can't just wait it out without messaging him more than once.

An important thing to mention here is that I have suspected that he has BPD or BPD traits as well. Being diagnosed with it myself, I've had time to come to terms with it and learn about it and how my actions fit into the symptoms of it. I know full well that I am in no way qualified to diagnose him or anyone else, I'm definitely not a professional. I often wonder if my suspicions are valid because I have BPD and that might influence me in some way that I'm unaware of. I try to remind myself that even with BPD, I am a smart and insightful person and my observations are valid. I just want some feedback from someone. What should I do? Who should I ask about him? And most importantly how can I deal with being ignored like this for days in a row by someone I care so much about? I worry that if he does have BPD, I would have to handle the situation in an entirely different way. But I don't know for sure, and I doubt I will know unless he agrees to see a therapist. Is there some universal way of handling him, since I just don't know for sure if he has BPD?