TW: Self harm, sucide (not in-depth but it’s slightly touched on)
 

We’ve known each other for about 8-9 years I think. Regardless, for a extremely long time and care for each other a lot. We’re both 14 and turn 15 next year, so we’re still children. 

But ever since fourth grade (in Swedish school, so age 9-10 I guess) she’s been slacking of real hard in her school work. And it’s only gone down hill since that. 

I know that she haven’t had it easy at home. Divorced parents, the parents not having consistent jobs, older sisters who get themselves into trouble and so on. It’s pretty obvious that it’s gonna set a mark in her in one way or another. 

She’s been pretty aggressive and angry during our whole friendship. But I have never seen it as something worrying until now. She can get really angry after awhile and even said some shitty stuff to our other friend, but directly after said sorry to her. 

She has another friend group that seems nice and have similar interests as her. But they bully her, take her stuff, makes fun of her and she gets really upset with it. 

She seems more distant than a few years back and have revealed she has harmed herself in the past but apparently stopped. Maybe it’s just my worry mind but it felt like I saw some scars a couple days ago. But I don’t know since she’s always wearing big shirts. 

It’s other things such as depressing jokes, she doesn’t eat at lunch, have said she hated her body in the past and other. 

I’m really worried about her. I care for her a lot and have sometimes thinks that she will be gone one day. You know, sucide. I struggle about some things too, anxiety and depression. And I’m afraid to ask her about her problems. 

We’re entering gymnasiet (idk what to call it in English, but it’s between the ages of 16-19). So it’s 2 years left until we choose or next step in life. Many friends lose contact after the switch and I’m afraid we’re gonna do that too. 

I not sure what she’s struggling with but I want to help her. And I don’t want to leave her as she is right now. How can I help her?