I have gone almost a year without a FP! And I’ve been lonelier, sure, but it’s been so good for me and my independence and I’ve had to push through my anxiety on my own. 

But recently I’ve been getting more involved in social stuff.  The library activities, a support group for anxiety, a lot of local stuff. 

I’ve been cautious to hop around, and not get too close to any one person.  I’ve made some casual friendships that have been going well. 

But recently I met this woman who i get along with really well, we have a lot of the same interests, we both enjoy talking about the same things, and really connect. And I’m starting to go to the FP place. 

Now, I know for some people, having an FP is working out, but it has never worked for me. 

The FP place, for me, is often wondering how they’re doing, imaging all the fun things we’ll do, wanting to only spend time with them, and of course, expecting way too much of them. 

I desperately want to keep this friendship, but I’ve already had one good solid freak-out in front of her.   I handled it pretty well, very little crying, mostly just not talking. I think I can recoup if I back off but I can tell she’s a bit nervous. 

I’m just not sure how to keep her as a friend without getting obsessive and making her bigger in my life than she should be.  

Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thank you so much!!!

