i want to start by saying my boyfriend is not abusive. his anger issues stem from his own trauma and mental illness. i’m not asking for advice toward his problem, because he is working on that himself. i am seeking advice for me, for how i can work to be okay with it in the meantime.

i have PTSD and several anxiety disorders as well as BPD, which causes me to have extreme emotions and makes me very rejection-sensitive. when my boyfriend and i get into a spat, he can become very frustrated and cold, and has a tendency to say blunt, hurtful things. 

as an overly sensitive person, they hit hard. he said recently that if i can’t handle his aggression, it will be a problem for us. he didn’t mean it to excuse himself, but as a fact that he is an aggressive person and it is something he has to work on. as such, i need to be able to deal with it for awhile.

i posted here instead of some relationship sub because of the nature of our issue and how it stems from our mental problems. i hope thats okay, and i greatly appreciate any insight or advice! thank you!