So my girlfriend has BPD. She works in retail so her schedule is all over the place and my work schedule is a 9-5 office job. She mostly works nights, but we make a decent amount of time for each other.

She really loves me and she calls me "her rock" because i make her feel sane and real. The only thing is i cannot always be there for her considering my job and our sometimes opposing schedules. It's hard to constantly text her to calm her down or bring her back from whatever her mindset is because I am at work at a stressful job that i have to pay attention to.

So, my idea is to write her a note to slip into her purse. She has pockets in her purse that she doesn't use, so i was going to slip in a note and wait for her to have a really bad day, and then ill tell her to find the note and read it. What kind of stuff do you think i should say that would help her? What helps bring you back from a bad day or even just makes you feel a little bit better?