My husband and I have been married for 4 years together for 6. The two years before our marriage he was the exact image of a man I always wanted. After our marriage he changed. All of sudden our communication stopped his support for my mental health pulled away. I can admit two years into our marriage after his changes I wasn’t sure he was what I wanted. We separated and I decided after 6 months  apart and his realization of why I left we would be able to work it out. Here we are a year post separation and two more kids and he has gone back to that same person.. i know I have issues I’m bipolar I yell scream cry but I’m actively working on it. But him he dose not have to change he doesn’t have to understand my illness he can just hurt my feelings and put up a defensive. And it confuses me because he convinces me that if I wasn’t the way I am we wouldn’t be so bad... but I feel like I can’t help it but I’m trying and he can’t see that I’m trying