When I get home from the job I currently hate, I am stressed and tired and just want to be alone, change clothes, go to the bathroom, and not think for a bit. My spouse, who owns his own business and spends a lot of quality time working happily from home, gets really excited about his work and wants to share it with me, have me read things, and give him feedback. I love him very much, however, again...when I get home, I need a fucking break. We have this pattern: I arrive at home, change, start to zone out playing plants vs zombies on my phone, begin to destress...then he asks me to read, review, or watch something. I try to gently let him know that I do want to do whatever it is he's requesting but that I need some time to relax. He waits a bit, maybe ten minutes and then asks again or says something about it. I feel guilty and agree to do the thing. I try to be kind and considerate, but typically come off annoyed. He gets upset. I get upset. We both feel guilty. I cry. It's a mess. It wouldn't be so bad if I didn't have follow-up emails to write to people I interviewed with for another job...and write a cover letter for yet another job I'm applying for...and touch base with my references. I'm really tired and busy and just need a damn minute to be alone and not think. Why is this so much to ask? Does anyone else have advice on how to stop this terrible behavioral pattern? 