I have a theory that we tend to emotionally imprint on people that unconsciously remind us of unhealthy relationships in the past.   It's an attempt to get it right this time?

My FP is kind of a narcissist and emotionally hard to reach which makes me work even harder for their approval, etc.

I don't know what it would be like to have an FP that is emotionally available to me.

Just wondering if this is similar to other people's experience?