I recently got into a relationship with someone who was an alcoholic and was in a program that would daily check in on him. Well he did amazing for about a little more than a year and they took that into consideration and told him he would no longer be testing and that he was officially done. This was exciting news the only thing is that before the program would end he would express how he looked forward to the day he could relax and have a beer, so leg thing that would raise concern in me. He saw this and he would reassure me that he was different because he learned from his mistakes and he claims to never go back to his old habits. Well the program ended and with this in mind he did what he said he would do and drank a couple of beers with his siblings and by a couple I mean tops 3. I didn’t want to put any input so I didn’t say anything but then the next day I found out he had meet up with some old friends and drank a little bit more again, the next day after that he smoked a little weed and the next day which would be today he drank a beer. Now this is where he saw a facial expression I had unknowingly made and asked me if there was a problem, I didn’t really want to get into it but I did anyways and I expressed my concern about how fast he seemed to be moving on drinking or doing stuff daily even if it was in small quantities. He did not like this and said things like, all I want to do is relax and I can’t even do that without still feeling like I’m being watched/judged. He didn’t understand where I was coming from even though I tried to explain it because he thought that he was different. The whole thing in the end made me feel shitty for even bringing it up. What would u have done?