Once in a while (by a while I mean every few other days) I’d come across the most nonsensical interpretation of what BPD is, and usually, of course, it is to demonize this already stigmatized disorder. 
I won’t go into great details because I really don’t want that post to get any attention but I saw someone make the claim that “borderlines don’t actually fear abandonment” for then to just invalidate out feelings, make us look manipulative and make us an easier target to criticize.
Really?
It is in the diagnostic criteria for a reason. 
The worst part is that the post is doing great and has like 10 awards.
Just because you had a bad experience with a borderline, that doesn’t make you an expert on the matter nor give you the green card to say whatever you want on the disorder.

No. It’s not that you’ve seen “the real side” of borderlines. If you actually did, you would’ve shown sympathy, not drag this disorder to the mud and not generalize a whole community. This disorder is hell to live with.

I understand that feeling hurt can make you angry and distasteful but why the hell are some of you  so pressed about hating on borderlines and spreading misinformation? And why hide it under the guise of “trying to heal” and “moving on”? Your experience with one person isn’t enough for you to fully understand what this disorder entail and certainly it’s not enough for you to be able to make big claims that go against general medical consensus about this disorder. Your experience does not equate decades of research on BPD. And you certainly don’t understand BPD more than someone who has BPD.

But just like in this situation, time and time again, our symptoms are twisted to make us all look evil and manipulative. 
And I’m genuinely tired of it.