Have any of you dealt with this before? Most men I meet use me as an emotional support friend and a "therapist," especially my FP who knows I'll always have a "crush" on. As a result, I get friend zoned and used in other ways instead of hooking up with them. Even though I'm starting to set boundaries, I'd love to get into a relationship or date and not be an armchair therapist to these guys especially if I'm not even getting anything from it. But this keeps happening. I'm not sure if it's because of BPD, but when something consistently occurs, I begin to question the motives.