for about a month and a half, my direct supervisor has been icing me out and I’m struggling to cope.

I work in an office. in September, my grandma died in an accident. I got the call at 4pm on a Thursday and told my direct supervisor, who gave me permission to leave early.

I worked remotely the next day. I happened to have the following week scheduled off (had requested the time off a month before), so I wasn’t in the office.

when I got back, my supervisor kept asking me if I’d had fun on my time off, if it was relaxing, if I was feeling refreshed, etc.

he made jokes in a meeting about assigning me an unpleasant project because I’d been on vacation. I dodged his questions as much as I could because I didn’t want to talk about it in front of all my coworkers.

he asked again at the end of the day if I had fun on my vacation, and I told him, “I was at the funeral home looking at urns — I didn’t have any fun last week.”

I said it with a nervous laugh. I wasn’t trying to be mean.

he just said “oh” and left it at that.

I thought he had just forgotten about what happened to my grandma (which I would’ve understood, no problem), but I found out later that he had mentioned her death to other coworkers earlier that day, before I reminded him. so I don’t understand why he was asking those questions.

since then, he hasn’t spoken to me (and ignores me when I say hello), doesn’t look at me and generally acts like I don’t exist.

once a week or so, he brings food into the office (donuts, cookies, etc) and takes the box around to each desk, offering some to whoever sits there. he skips me every time. our desks are right next to each other.

I know it seems like a stupid thing to be upset about.

but being excluded/left out is probably the hardest thing for me to deal with mentally and emotionally. it’s really wearing me down. I don’t know how to fix it, or if I’m overreacting/imagining things.

how do you cope with being (or thinking you’re being) excluded? I’m really struggling.

any advice is appreciated.