A little backstory... I was diagnosed with BPD during my late teens, but have been told that was a misdiagnoses. I’m starting to wonder if that’s not the case. My symptoms totally match up with what I have read.... I have issues with friendships, I’m paranoid about people, I self harmed at one time, I feel like I have no identify and often wonder who I truly am etc. etc. I am emotionally charged all the time and on the defense. I have trauma history too. Anyway, The main problem I have is discarding people or not wanting to be around people because I feel they have failed my expectations or that they will just leave anyway or not be what I want. Is this a common problem? 