I'll explain what I mean by "reflect." I grew up with a BPDf, and have the disorder myself. Whenever I'm hanging out with someone, be it casually, professionally, or romantically, I tend to conform my opinions, thoughts and actions to those which I know will make the other person comfortable, or excited, whatever the situation requires. I guess it was a survival technique growing up, but now that I'm 25, it just amounts to me not being honest with people I care about, never pushing unhealthy people away, and lying about things that I care about. I'm in therapy, and working on it. He defined this tendency to conform myself to others' expectations as "reflecting." It is getting better, but it's still really hard to be "myself" around people all the time. Has anyone else experienced this difficulty? 