Hi fellow sufferers of BPD, I've recently been doing a lot of research into the neuroscience behind the lack of emotional control linked to BPD and found significant evidence suggesting that the fear center of our crazy brains, the amygdala, contains an excess of grey matter while the control center, the anterior cingulate cortex, lacks it thus leading to the over stimulation of one and the under stimulation of the other. 

It is my belief that DBT and other cognitive behavioural therapies used to treat BPD are essentially ways of training these centers of the brain. Since most of us have been subjected to trauma in childhood, our brains did not get the opportunity to fully develop emotional control while perhaps our fear centers were over stimulated. This is all conjecture, but it seems to make sense when looking at the evidence. Here is a link to a reliable study: https://www.nimh.nih.gov/news/science-news/2008/emotion-regulating-circuit-weakened-in-borderline-personality-disorder.shtml

In order to combat the 'weakness' of the anterior cingulate cortex, it must be stimulated and trained so that it becomes more stable. I know that meditation and exercise are often thrown around as cure-alls, but if you look at various studies, they show that the anterior cingulate cortex is activated and strengthened in such activities; your brain is essentially training itself to endure stress and manage your emotions with more control. 

Here is link documenting the activation of the anterior cingulate cortex in meditation and effective ways of increasing its activation: http://www.forbes.com/sites/quora/2017/01/18/neuroscience-meditation-is-a-great-workout-for-your-brain/#6b17646660a0

And here is an article referring to the amygdala's role in emotional stress: https://www.elsevier.com/about/press-releases/research-and-journals/learning-to-turn-down-your-amygdala-can-modify-your-emotions

A link referring to the activation of the anterior cingulate cortex in exercise: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/24815213

If you're going to exercise, I would really recommend high intensity interval training: just search HIIT into youtube and you'll find loads of videos guides. It's a tougher, more fun and more mentally/physically rewarding form of exercise compared to low intensity training.

I would also recommend stimulating brain games like n-back or the stroop effect, both of which can be downloaded for free on apple appstore; these are great for training the brain and for meditative purposes and have also even been shown to improve IQ.

Please take that leap of faith and try both these mental and physical exercises; I know it's difficult to validate such practice from the myopic perspective of BPD, but change is really really in your own hands; we must act dependently in order to develop to dependence.. it is that very lack of dependence we feel, which we were unfortunate enough not to have developed in childhood, that must develop itself now. This philosophy underpins all cognitive behavioural therapy and it makes sense as it reflects the training which MUST take place in your brain too in order to recover; always stay rational and be reminded of the neuroscience - the brain is just like a muscle and must be trained to combat weakness.  

I know these things really require a leap of faith; I was suicidal a few years ago but things have improved so much since then and relationships have stabilised while I also have become finally able to form concrete life goals and begin to achieve them. Each month, using these exercises I have managed to take more and more control of my emotions and my life choices. 

Good luck and let me know how it goes! The future is bright guys :D Big love to you all, peace x

p.s Also, just out of curiosity, I was wondering if any of you guys are: 
1) Left-handed
2) Ex-Christian or still, or used to be part of a religious family/community
3) Are the youngest sibling in your family.

p.s.s I realise in hindsight that this was a pretty shitty, click-baity and inappropriate title and I guess that stems from a desire that people will see this and at least feel a little sense of hope so apologies for that. 

Thanks and again, best of luck!
