I (33/F) have BPD and I feel I am picky in terms of men, meaning I am rarely into anyone. However when I am into someone and pursue it, they inevitably turn out to be narcissistic, manipulative, abusive assholes, even when initially they appeared decent. I often come to the realisation too late and get destroyed emotionally. I swear my BPD is a radar for narcs. Is this common? Does anyone else have that problem? I suppose another explanation is that my BPD turns them into that because they realise how vulnerable I am. Do you think it’s a myth that BPDs and narcissists pair up a lot?