I (30F) am an anxious person and have general anxiety in random social situations, worrying about future, etc.That being said, I have an extreme end of the spectrum that I sometimes experience when I have a full blown panic attack, and it is no joke. I’ve probably had around 20 true panic attacks in my life, but they are bad. My actual panic attacks are always triggered from a health related anxiety (woah that’s a weird pang in my stomach… is my heart beating fast?..etc.), and I feel like my body actually gives me the feelings of what death could feel like. My consistent symptoms during a panic attack are: sweating, vision starts to turn into stars and then goes black, ears start ringing and voices/sounds sound like I’m on a airplane high up in the air and my ears haven’t popped yet. From talking with other people, it doesn’t seem like this combo of symptoms happens to everyone… but it is truly a terrifying experience. And I just lay there praying this isn’t the real deal this time. There was even a time with a friend that I ended up having a seizure during the panic attack… the doctors did tests and said they thought it was a fluke…and it could have been, but it freaked me out at how much anxiety can truly impact my body
That said, there have been a few times with my boyfriend (4+ yrs) where I start getting anxiety and feel that I’m on the urge of a panic attack. In these moments, I’m terrified, but I’m logical/rational, but I’m hoping so bad it’s only anxiety and that it doesn’t get to the level I know it can. 
My boyfriend says he gets it, but he absolutely does not. In these moments, he will try to  comfort me but also engage in casual conversation as if nothing is happening.

And no, not in some way to try to distract me. 

Example dialogue:
- Gah I’m feeling anxious. (Starts to escalate)- fuck my hearts beating really fast so you think I’m ok?
- Let me feel.. yes you’re heart is fine
- Start to pace, meditate, stretch, etc. to distract from the anxiety. Feeling doesn’t go away and I start fearing what is to come next. I lay down on the floor “John, John Pleasr grab my hand I’m having a panic attack I’m scared”
- John garbs my hand and comforts me for. A second.. and quickly jumps to asking me what I want for dinner?
- John, I’m having a panic attack please I can’t make conversation  
- What? I’m here rubbing you? You’re fine
- Stop please don’t try to argue with me right Now I’m having major anxiety.. you’re making it worse 
- He goes on to act like he gets it, but he continues to do /say things as if I’m saying I’m nervous for tonight’s school play (sorry it’s a shitty example, I know lol). Like he will be trying to make casual conversation with me while I’m having a panic attack, and will then try to ARGUE with me when I ask him to stop. He just doesn’t get it, and always walks away thinking he was such a good bf during it. And it kind of scares me for future situations 

Anyone else deal with this? How’d you handle it?