I (21F) have a friend (20F). She has been through a lot of traumatic stuff with her family and I have always felt really bad for her. I’ve stuck with her so long even gave a police statement about her dad after he assaulted her. I tried to do whatever I could to make her happy because I felt horrible about what she had to go through. 

We used to be really good friends and she was one of those rare people who I vibe  with instantly. We have been friends for 5 years but she has changed so much since she started dating her boyfriend a year ago.

Her boyfriend is a mess. He spends half his money on weed and all his friends are gangster type people. One of his friends even went to jail for human trafficking. He  also has access to her Snapchat account for some reason. 

There was one time this year when it was her bday and she asked me to go get our nails done. Afterward we were about to go grab food. But her boyfriend told her to come home. He said he had a “surprise” for her bday. It was a new pet fish. Like that couldn’t have waited until after we were done hanging out? I felt hurt that she ditched me for her boyfriend. And he knew she was hanging out with me. I’m 100% sure he was just being possessive and wanted her to come home to him.

As well, she has been using me even before she started dating her current bf. For example, a few years ago I was away at university and struggling with my grades. I had opened up to her about how much the bad grades were effecting me. There was one weekend when I had to study for a physics midterm on Monday. I told her this but she begged me to come home for the weekend so I could hang out with her. Against my better judgement I ended up coming home. I picked her up and she told me drive to her boyfriend’s work. (Different guy this is her now ex). I drove her there and she ended up making out with her bf in the back room while I awkwardly made conversation with his coworkers. We didn’t not end up hanging out and she told me to drive her home after that. 

Now a couple days ago she randomly ghosted me out of no where. Last time I talked to her she asked me if I wanted to adopt her friend’s cat for 2 weeks and I said no because my dad doesn’t like pets and she seemed totally cool with that. Then I told her about a summer job I got in retail and she never responded. 

I checked Saturday and she removed me from Snapchat, and deleted me from Instagram. I tried messaging her on Instagram and it said “seen” but she never responded. She hasn’t responded to my texts either. 

As well I even talked to her sister to ask if my friend is okay. Because she has a history of mental health issues and I wanted to make sure my friend was okay. 

Her sister messaged my friend and said “[my name] is worried about you, she’s wondering why you’re not responding” and my friend just replied “cool”. Her sister called her as well but my friend hung up once she brought up my name. 

I have absolutely no idea what I did wrong. I’m not sure what to do at this point. I’ve done so much for her throughout the years and let her just walk all over me. I don’t deserve to be ghosted like this out of no where. Not sure if it warrants a response or if I should let it go.