So my girlfriend broke up with me because she decided that romantic affection was too overwhelming and that for her own sake, to take a break, im proud of her for putting herself first (which she rarely does) and I was okay with this until she told me that during this break she wanted to act like nothing had changed besides the fact that i wasn’t allowed to show romantic affection ; “I want it to be like when we were best friends, before we started dating” Since then she’s starting questioning her orientation and might be aromantic. I find a deep connection with romantic feelings and showing and receiving romantic affection is important to me. I expressed my concerns and she said that she still doesn’t really know if she wants a romantic relationship or not, but that she needs me close to her and in her life. She still wants to say i love you and talk all day but i cant do things that are explicitly romantic like writing love letters, which makes me think that out definitions of love are different. A few days of crying later I decide to tell her that until she can figure out if she’s aromantic or not, i need space from her because i can keep hiding something that is so important to me (my romantic connection to her). She understands, and now we are taking a break from each other almost entirely, with much less talking as we work on ourselves and try to figure out our personal needs. All of this is happening right after family issues, a case with my childhood predator, and fighting my MAD (and losing). That being said, how do i stop crying about my girlfriend when i felt like that relationship was the last thing I could count on