I’ve been seeing someone on and off for a few years now. As I got older my confidence seem to have gotten worse (or didn’t improve) esp after a former partner was not faithful. 

Former partner was also a redditor but I never thought of anything until the end when I found out he spent a lot of money tipping naked girls on some other subreddit. It was a little pathetic cause he presented himself to me (and to the public) that he was a straight cut person who would never do that. He was on Reddit a lot but not as much as this new one, who seems to grab his phone literally the moment he wakes up, even when he just needs to use the restroom at 4am..I really find this odd and I guess I am a little bit paranoid now because of the past.

Of course evidence is important, but I wouldn’t consider going into his phone to check out things (my former partner confessed it to me and the issue wasn’t something I found out on my own). I have been really tempted to check things out, the reason is below.

I spent a lot of time, money, energy into my past relationship without even realizing the person was a cheater and wasn’t even considering me as a long term partner.

I don’t want the same thing to happen to me again although there is a high possibility it’s happening again :(

I just don’t think it is normal to literally be on Your mobile phone every waking moment of your life. If I spent that much time on Reddit, I would not be surprised if I already would be involved or a member of a series of subreddits that I know I shouldn’t be. 

Cutting it short, I am almost resigned to the fact that I know somethings going on, I just don’t know how to access that info. I would need to go thru the persons phone.