I am.  It's all over my family, on both sides.  My mother had BPD and she was neglectful but it was my NPD and BPD father that really screwed me over.  My mom and her sister had been abused by their father and both had it, and my dad's mom had it and so did my dad's sister and her daughter.  Grain of salt, none of these people were ever diagnosed, but all had most or all of the symptoms.  And it has continued, as I have most likely passed it on to my son, now 22 (and I can tell you all the horrible things I did to him that caused it, and pinpoint the genetic emotional sensitivity we both showed at a very young age), although his diagnosis is pending.  Despite 20 years in therapy as an adult,along with anti-depressants and anxiety meds, and very candid and honest accounts of both my childhood traumas and abuse (of which there were many beyond the abusive parents) and my difficulties with relationships with partners and my own son, I was never diagnosed.  In 2014 I had another breakdown and landed back in therapy.  I did my own research and came upon BPD myself, and it explained my entire life and every aspect of myself I hated and why.  I put myself in DBT therapy, paid for out of pocket thanks to shitty health insurance in America, and learned the skills as best as I could afford.  And now I am looking for help for my son.

I'm sure there are many here with BPD parents that are not and will never be self-aware.  But any parents like me that became aware too late and damaged their kids?  I'd love not to be alone on what feels like a lonely journey and one that is three times as hard as just recovering from BPD.  I'm also trying to get my son who hates me to be self-aware to his own mental illness and accept help in order to save his life.  