With my BPD (I’m not even sure if it’s my BPD) I think I have to leave my relationship. I have broken up with my partner so many times. 

What are some coping mechanisms that allow you to see the truth of reality &amp; not just what my split brain is telling me? How do you tell when you are splitting? How do you tell if your partner is no longer good for you &amp; you need to leave for certain? How do you tell when you are idealizing your relationship? 

If anyone else has any experiences regarding any of these topics please help me by sharing !!