So i’ve (18f) been dating my boyfriend (18m) for almost two years now but my insecurities are now damaging the relationship. I grew up with just my dad and he was very emotionally abusive and my mom passed away when i was 13. I’ve always had anxiety and was diagnosed with gad. 
But lately i’ve been having severe anxiety every time my bf even mentions another female or jokes about his exs or literally anything that even as a joke confirms my own insecurities(about me not being good enough)- it makes me feel like my life is slipping out of my control. I am having panic attacks daily about feeling like i’m worthless or tht he will leave me. i understand that this is NOT his fault and it’s something that i need to work on. I’ve communicated with him that what he’s saying is hurtful even though i know it’s not his intention. he’s been nice but i still keep the majority of my feelings from him just because i it’s not his job to be my therapist and i’ve already put so much stress on him as it is, and he’s communicated that there is only so much he can do for my anxiety. also he hasn’t done anything that would make me worried (like he’s never cheated or lied to me) but i just get so scared, and mentally i return to the same place i was after my mom died. it’s really hard and i need help on how i can get over my insecurities about myself.