My husband has BPD. I love him so much, but sometimes his tendency to cause pain to those who he thinks caused him pain is so hard to deal with. I need help. 

My husband hasn't been working as much lately. Less contracts coming in. Therefor, less money entering our house. So I took more hours at work. He knows they're needed. We barely could afford last month's payments. 

We made plans together and after a few hectic months, I promise him I would make it work but my superior asked me to take a shift Saturday at the last minute. I had to say yes. We're behind on our bills.      

So I told my husband about it and told him we would spend all of Sunday together. Instead of agreeing and be understanding, he started a war.      

He called me unreliable and told me he will never believe my word again. Told me our relationship is failing and it's all my fault. Told me he wants a divorce (he says that a lot, only to go back on his word and tell me how much he loves me)      

He said to me: 'I'm not doing anything Sunday but I won't spent the day with you just to spite you' 

When a loving husband should have been. It's ok I understand. We're gonna spend Sunday together instead. Thanks for working 60 hours a week for us. No!      

Just, him hurting our marriage because he feels rejected. I don't know how to handle it or talk to him. He doesn't understand our situation it seem, and just go into his dark place 