Read a post earlier today about someone giving up on love because what they want is too obsessive (hope you having a great day ❤️), but it got me wondering if anyone here has noticed a shift in what they want out of love and/or a partner after they managed to truly start loving themselves.

For me, 100% yes. I used to be so unrealistic in what I wanted that it ruined the one and only relationship I ever cared about. Managed to genuinely start loving myself well over a year ago and over time have noticed that as I've learned more about myself and gotten better, what I feel that i want or "need" from a partner has shifted to something way more realistic. I even realized that I actually need some general space regularly because I still need to grow and have time for my own thoughts. The love I have for myself is so real and it's a reached a point where I wanna preserve myself. I don't wanna lose who I am, and what I used to want from a relationship would cause exactly that. 

Essentially, I'm curious to see if there's any link between self love and lowering demands from love interests.