DAE find themselves assuming instead of communicating with their significant others? It’s been a big flaw of mine. I get lost in my head, I think I know what my lover is thinking. The hard part is sometimes I feel like I can read his mind, but other times I am completely off. And when I am off it causes issues because I am already upset and accusing before I even broach the subject. And from the SO’s position, that is extremely unfair.

Something I’ve been doing lately is repeating a “mantra” to myself - Ask, Communicate, Trust. Balls up and ask is the first and most hard part for me when I feel like this. Communicating why I feel the way I do is the next difficult step but the hardest is to trust once I have an answer. But as I do it more and more I feel like it has helped me. I get clarification, I feel less negative and I let it go because I’m with someone who I need to trust and I got my answers.

Obviously every situation won’t be perfect, maybe the SO gets defensive from a bad day or whatever. But most times I get to push myself to be more adult about my interactions and get better results in the long run. 

Idk, food for thought if native struggled with assuming. I know I do lol