My ex boyfriend just got a new girlfriend and has been posting everywhere about her. It’s been a week since we broke up. I’m absolutely hurt, but I haven’t cried and have no urge to cry. I warned her about him (insanely abusive in every single way and cheated on me multiple times) but I still feel like garbage.

I keep checking his social media and “pain shopping”. I know it’s bad, but when the urge comes I can’t seem to fight it off. Does anyone else have issues with this? Blocking doesn’t matter, when I’m in that state of mind I will do ANYTHING to see his social media. I feel like I can’t stop fucking looking at it.

He’s targeted girls with BPD before, and he likes being a favorite person, so he’ll try to put himself in that position. It took awhile for him to be mine, but it happened and I got absolutely fucked up. I’m trying to not just jump to another guy, but it’s really hard and I’m struggling. 

How do I deal with this? What has helped all of you? I feel like I need to be away from my phone but one of my main coping mechanisms is talking to a friend, who I can only talk to on the phone because I moved across the country last year. Everything makes my mind go crazy. I feel like this is something I literally can’t escape.