So my mom basically told me that my problems and trauma don't matter, because I'm not the only one who suffered and "I just focus on the negative side of things", so... my problems don't matter.
I really feel the urge to self harm, really bad. The only thing that's keeping from doing it is a promise that I made to ny gf. The thing is... I don't feel enough for her, specially in this moment, we are arguing a bit, she's talked of how important her ex was (maybe is) and it hurts me (I know that she didn't say those things to hurt me tho)... but I feel like I'm trash to everyone, and I want to self harm. What can I do to not do that? What can I do to calm down my anxiety and sadness? It's been 3 weeks since the last time I did it, I don't want to relapse