I went over to a sub that discusses BPD folks to try and gain some insight on how I can improve as a partner, daughter, friend,etc...

I just got so depressed reading all the negative experiences, I feel for those who have been abused, how could I not? I just hate to see nothing positive at all. Everything pwBPD do is vile, evil, insincere, and never self aware. It makes me scared of myself and for the people in my life. Am I a monster? Or will I eventually become one?

The only comfort I have is that I am actively trying to improve, with regular therapy sessions, DBT, meds, resisting my initial impulses before I act. I'm miles away from the person I used to be, but is that enough? My partner also recently got told from an older friend of his who studied psychology that his best advice for dating a pwBPD is "Don't." So, I guess this has all been on my mind.

I don't mean to invalidate anyone's experiences, I just wish there was more than all of these horrible stories and ominous warnings. There is more to BPD than this, deep down I know that. We can truly love, we can care for people, and we can grow.