

I’m naturally an anxious person and dating tends to bring out the most vulnerable feelings. I have been struggling to break a pattern of feeling like I’m going to lose the person once I start liking them. 

My pattern goes like this: 

I go out on several dates when I really start falling for someone and they start to express their feelings for me. Soon as I pass this point, I start to obsess over them leaving me or ghosting me. 

Every missed call, every date cancellation, every disappointment turns into feelings of “oh this time they’re going to leave me”. This feeling only goes away once I hear from them and we make plans to see each other or I’m in their company and know everything is fine.

I’m currently working with a therapist but wonder if anyone else experiences this. How did you deal with this or overcome this?