I’ve always had female counselors and I’ve never had this problem with them. I recently joined a local dual diagnosis IOP treatment program and one of the counselors is male. I’ve had about 12 sessions and I started having individual meetings with him as well. I’ve become extremely jealous when he offers praise or appears to favor other members of the group and I’ve noticed myself liking him a lot more than I’ve ever liked a therapist before. Like I flirt with him and I get irritated when he talks about his wife. I haven’t mentioned any of this to him but maybe I should. We’re working on my borderline symptoms in individual therapy. I’m bi and I have a girlfriend but I sometimes find myself wanting a boyfriend. Me and my girlfriend have been struggling a little bit lately. Has anyone else felt this way before?