So recently over the past few weeks me and my fiancé have been having an extremely rough time. She has BPD and I am bipolar and qBPD. It’s always been amazing or bad but the past few weeks have been super bad. She took the ring off a couple times and it got very toxic. To be honest we haven’t noticed much intense splitting with myself as I am medicated for the bipolar with mood stabilisers which I feel helps the BPD to a degree, however she does with a vengeance and has said some very very hurtful things to me  so I was struggling to get over it this time. 

We decided to try one more time as we both agreed to actually put the effort in and start DBT. I’ve been very doubtful and pretty negative this week but today she did something really nice and halved me in for a watch I loved. As soon as she did that I was in love again and I feel like she’s the most amazing girl in the entire world. Is this normal for BPD?