DISCLAIMER I am not formally diagnosed my therapist just thinks I have traits especially in terms of interpersonal relationships and emotional regulation and this sub is helpful bc i relate a lot lol. 

Okay so here's the scene; i have this online friend that I met early this year, we've had our ups and downs mainly because im obsessed with him and he just wants to be friends. Ive accepted that we'll probably just be friends for the long run but recently i feel like he's getting more and more distant with me, taking hours to respond to my messages and just being generally uninterested when he does. a couple days ago i called him out on this but let's just say I wasn't using wise mind at the time and it felt very antagonistic. today he ignored me for 10 hours and then just essentially went "whoops sorry lol guess i forgot abt u" so i just didn't respond which is unlike me (bc again i'm obsessed) and he noticed this because he sent me a "goodnight :)" 

basically what i want to try to get across is

1. i understand he's busy and can't always talk to me, but he needs to communicate this better because im constantly paranoid that he'll just stop talking to me/leave me. literally all i want is a "sorry im not feeling that great rn bear w me on the replies" or a "with friends rn then gunna have so me time,  don't expect a response in the next 8-10 hours". 

2. i need him to understand how anxious he makes me, i can't keep checking my phone every 2 minutes bc we went from a normal flowing convo to him suddenly not responding for 3 hours. i can't keep making up situations where he hates me and wants to leave but doesn't know how 

basically what im trying to say is should i say this to him or just leave it ? i don't want to sound crazy especially as ive literally already said something like this before (albeit i wasn't being very nice when i said it and i probably didn't explain it very well as i was very panicked).