I have been seeing a girl for a couple of months.  We never defined a relationship but things have been headed in that direction.  I don't think we are a good fit for each other long term and have determined that we should break things off.  I have had relationships before, been dumped, and mutually broken up.  Never have I been the one to break things off.

Due to family dynamics growing up I have always felt the obligation to put other's feelings first.  Simply put this has always been a significant contributor to my anxiety as I hesitate on any actions that might influence others emotions or judgement of me.

I have wrestled breaking up in person or over the phone.  Both I have baulked at when the opportunity presented itself.  The anxiety overwhelmed me.

Any tips or suggestions to helping overcome the anxiety long enough?  I have thought about even breaking up via text message but I know how that comes off.  I'm torn with hurting her by deferring what needs to be done with the event of actually breaking it off.