planning to cross post this to other subs to get more varied opinions.

I had always thought that the spoon theory only applied to chronically ill people as that is why it was developed. I have seen some say it can apply to other experiences including mental health. I have been trying to find a good way of explaining to people why there are certain times I feel I should take some space from people (to spare both them and me). if I’m exhausted, have recently had an episode, am extremely stressed, etc, I tend to be worse at my DBT skills and feel more sensitive to criticism and rejection. I know that interacting with me is difficult at these times but it’s difficult to explain. could spoon theory apply to what I am able to handle without having an episode? for example a day with only 1 spoon would mean I can interact with strangers only, a day with 2 means I can do appointments and interact briefly with people in my life, 3 I can go to class but not socialize, 4 I can do low-key activities with close friends, etc etc. (I’m sure the scale seems strange, when I’m in a sensitive headspace strangers are less stressful than loved ones)

I would love any perspectives especially from those who are chronically ill and utilize spoon theory. thank you!