Hey all... I’m not BPD, but I believe my ex is. She meets all the criteria, from early childhood trauma, no father, narcissistic mother, cheating in long-term relationships, impulsivity, rage, etc.

I’m a fairly empathetic person with 10 years of sobriety looking for answers.

We’ve dated 6 times, each time she leaves, she states we have “no chemistry” or that there’s “no spark.” Up to having sex (which has ranged from wildly intense to her not even being present), the relationship is phenomenal. Usually after the third for fourth time being sexually intimate, she pulls away. Then, like clockwork, I get the “no chemistry” talk. In the past, she has come back within weeks of months, but the last break up lasted 3 years before she contacted me.

Has anyone else felt the depletion of chemistry as a way of distancing yourself from your partner.

Thank you all. I have a history dating women with BPD or NPD.