I’d like to tell you a story cause I’d like to have a tip about it... It’s not too long that I’m in a relationship with a person the is psychologically and emotively unstable... since the beginning it wasn’t easy, with highs and lows, when it was low it was maniac, with treats and also with physical violence... Now he’s under meds and followed by a psychiatrist, but on the other hand, I can’t neither define myself as a saint... after few months, I’ve started to feel him distant, and that it was cause of my attitude, I was attacking him verbally about small things as I couldn’t find balance with him. The situation now is reversed, I’m the one that is attacking him and leading the situation to the instability. We’ve been through too much in the last months and I’m trying to help him, but I have to admit that I’m not able to do it, cause I’ve realized that I have my own problems, beside the ones that I have with him (the same pattern of relationships that I always have, where I turn myself in worse version of me and I start to think more about myself and at the person that I have on my side).
I really don’t know what to do in this situation to bring back the relationship or to improve myself. I’ve been alone for years before him and I thought that I’ve learnt what was better for me and now seems that the most I’m going ahead and the worst I get... At the first meeting with the psychiatrist they diagnosed him a mood disorder, at the second a split personality... I’ve tried to ask for help to the mental health department, but I that they are not available for a meeting at the moment... I thought to look for a private psychologist at this point, cause I feel like I’ve caused this situation, but I don’t know to manage it.