My FP will sometimes have some kind of trouble or problem that they want to be alone to deal with but every time I'm told to go away, give space, etc. I always go full meltdown like I'm a completely worthless pile of crap that nobody cares about even if asked politely and nicely. 

It's so exhausting causing strain on my relationship with them because of that and even when I see I'm doing it, I continue to do it