Hello.

I have a question for both people with BPD and those, who are in relationships with people who have BPD.

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Short backstory first:

I don't want to go into too much detail, but I've recently met a wonderful person who later turned out to have BPD

We quickly became very close with each other, started having intimate conversations and seemed to understand each other very well 

One day she told me that she has never been so close to someone and she needed closeness like this a lot. Few days later we had a little disagreement. Or so i thought. I guess it must have triggered something in her

Suddenly she messaged me saying that this relationship doesn't make sense and it will be better to end it. And that she is sorry, but she doesn't have a courage to talk to me about it. We agreed to talk about it in "some time"

I've contacted her a week later. At first she responded very dissmisively, but later apologised and told me that she is ashamed, but she is too scared to talk to me and asked if we could talk when she is ready.

I told her that i care about her so off course i'll give her time and also told here that we shouldn't make decision like this "because it will be better" and that if there is a problem or she has doubts we can always talk and solve it

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So i'm sitting, waiting and wondering if there is anything i can do to help the situation and first of all to help her.

I don't know her for a long time, but(which honestly surprises me) she means a lot to me already.

Never before had I any meaningful contact with a person with BPD, so i decided to ask you guys if maybe you could give me some advice on how can I try to understand her better and maybe help her deal with her fears?