Hello everyone, 

I'm here seeking advice and would love to know what options I have to:

1. Help my sister get a job and stick to it (She's quit every job she's had and hasn't worked in over 6 months)
2. Get her proper help because my parent's are old and the level of care they can provide is waning. She also refuses to heed the advice of her doctors.
3. Keep the toxic boyfriend out of her life. She's expressed multiple times that she's wanted to break up with him and they've taken "breaks", but he keeps squirming his way back into her life.  The last time she had a boyfriend who did this to her was when she had her first suicide attempt.   


Some backstory if you'd like to read it.

My 29 y/o sister has BPD. She lives with our parents, doesn't work, has a therapist and a psychiatrist but refuses to heed their advice. She has a history of alcohol abuse, suicide attempts, multiple hospitalizations and smokes a copious amount of weed (like several ounces a year. Not sure if her doctors are actually aware of this or not). At this point I'm pretty sure she isn't taking any medication. She has a toxic, manipulative edgelord for a boyfriend, who's family is also toxic. After 4 years of dating he refuses to say, "I love you," back to her. The BF and his family have convinced my sister that she doesn't need to work and can just live on disability for the rest of her life, subverting all the efforts my parents and I have made to help her make her way in the world.  Any attempts I make to encourage her to try and work or support herself are countered with cynical Rick and Morty quotes (a lot of this cynicism is heavily fostered by her BF too). Oh and he's 33 and also doesn't work. I literally feel like I've lost my sister to this jerk and his family.