Hi everyone. Never posted here before but I’m looking for some help. My wife just had a massive anxiety attack, trouble breathing, gasping, pacing around unable to keep still, sobbing, the works! She took a small dose of Valium prior to the attack preemptively as she felt weird like something was about to happen but this didn’t work, usually it takes the edge off and she rests a bit and she is fine. I tried to help with controlled breathing, holding her and being supportive but I felt really helpless and couldn’t seem to help in anyway. The attack went on for about 30mins at which point she said she needed to see her mother who lives 5 mins away. She has been with her mother  for about 30mins and she informs me that she is much calmer and has stopped crying but that is all I know.

What should I do when she gets home? Anyone who has had this happen to them what did you want most, what helped post-attack the most? I know to be supportive etc, I’ve fed the kids and they’re bathed ready for bed, dinner is warm in the oven all the “normal things” are taken care of so that’s not something she has to worry about. I just want to help her the most when she is most fragile.

Thanks for any advice.