most of my previous relationships have been pretty much emotion free, but ive been dating my fp for almost 5 months now and i need some help. 

any tips or ways to spot objectively unhealthy/negative actions of my partner? having bpd, i get upset very easily but more often than not i can convince myself no, them not talking to me for a few hours doesnt mean theyre leaving me, and this mood will pass. so where does the line get drawn for yes, they actually are ignoring/distancing themselves from me and i should bring it up? any advice greatly appreciated.