(slight self-harm TW, just a mention.)

I'm still trying to figure out what's wrong with me and I'm not sure if its BPD, but this might help.
My anger isnt violent and I would never hurt anyone. Maybe in the past I would have but I've learned to control impulses, and I'm way too self-aware to make regrettable decisions, but as I understand it, none of that matters to people with anger as a result of BPD. My anger consumes me, makes it hard for me to function and have good relationships. I have hurt myself because of anger but I would never hurt anyone else, emotionally or physically, though sometimes it comes out in passive-aggressive ways.

I have horrible, all-consuming jealousy, anger, and frustration. I've manipulated people because of it in the past, and I'm afraid of manipulating someone again. Every time she talks to someone else I get jealous, every time she talks about things she enjoys I get mad and I actually have no viable reason and I REALLY think there's something wrong with me. no normal person gets this angry at someone they care about for no reason in particular.

I just want to know if anger is always violent (verbally and physically I guess) with this disorder. I want to know if its plausible so I can readily talk to my therapist about it.