I’m a 35 y/o female and my husband (who is currently awaiting a therapy session) has decided he needs space and has moved in with his brother. We have two young children aged 4 and 6 and I’m left to not only care for them but to try and deal with my own anxiety as well. My husband has assured me it isn’t me that’s the problem, but isn’t happy generally.  He is still going to be helping out with school runs and bedtime every other night, which is good.

I hate making this sound like it’s about me, as it’s not - but I just feel so useless right now and trying to work out if we are even going to be in a marriage anymore. I already suffer with stress and anxiety which has resulted on me being on antidepressants and I do so much for our children already, it might sound like small things but it’s the little things like, making packed lunches, sorting school clothes, knowing what practice our children have after school etc - those are the things that I need to be thinking about daily as his brain is not allowing him to think otherwise. If I argue I will push him away, so now have to just allow this separation to have some hope for the future. I have been signed off work with stress and my employer has been amazing, saying they are there to assist in any way they can. 

If anyone has any advice on how to deal with this, it would be really appreciated. I just worry about the kids catching on to the situation and how I am meant to explain this to them too. 

Thank you