regardless of how I feel about it it was behind my back and they kept trying regardless of how even SHE was respectful and considerate of her relationship with her boyfriend now. she was aware of her boundaries and kept in mind her boyfriend’s feelings of contacting and seeing an ex. I totally understand closure and being civil with your ex, I needed that from mine for so long. but I was *drum roll*, single. my codependency is keeping me from leaving, my logic is I’ve been through worse. I’m still hurt and betrayed.