I finally had worked up the courage to talk about my bpd and why I’ve been so distant due to anxiety and that horrid cycle of fear of abandonment leading to abandonment, and then I just keep getting told “oh well everyone is like that” “that’s just normal anxiety”, and like yeah anxiety and everyone is capable of it, but I’m trying to explain the confusing overthought motives in my head  so that maybe someone understands and can just be like “oh. Okay. I can see how that happens. Man I’m sorry your brain thinking does that. That sucks ass, but I still love you. And we’ll just talk and work thru shit even if it’s slow to click.” Or idk …Just ugh.  Other people just not taking the time to understand, ugh it just Dosent help. 😖