I know most MI’s do but my therapist believes otherwise.

We’ve gone over a possible BPD diagnosis and while she sees the disorder in me, she said I may still not have it because I’m “easy to work with”. She told me how BPD people are traditionally very intense and hard to work with, but I had believed these to be stereotypes of the classic borderline. I’ve seen many BPD people say they’ve been turned down by psychs immediately for the diagnosis alone afraid of them being “difficult”. 

I know this can be true for many but isn’t there a spectrum for the disorder? I know there’s a pretty cut-and-dry criteria for certain illnesses but MI’s present so differently in everyone. My symptoms are intense enough, and interferes with my life extremely, so the simple fact of me being “easy to work with” shouldn’t put me off a possible diagnosis... right?