So I have been with my boyfriend for almost 8 years. During which I was diagnosed with depression, anxiety, bpd, etc.

My boyfriend is great most of the time. But then he will tell me how selfish I am and how mean I am to him. But I dont see it? Am I "crazy" ? Am I really what he says? Or is it my BPD coming out and him not liking it and not like having to deal with it? 

Self harm is something I am working on but hearing that makes it so much harder for me....