Hi, this is my first time posting here, because I could use some my advice, since my therapist isn't available right now.

So, as the title says, my partner has recently started working at a new full time job. Before, xey used to work part time, which, even if it did sometimes interfere, gave us enough time to talk.
(For context, it's a long distance relationship.)

Now, as you can imagine, she is my FP, meaning I'm extremely emotionally codependent on xem. I was used to talking to xem pretty much all day; He always did a great job of making me know I'm loved and I could tell xey actually enjoy talking to me.
We used to call as much as possible, sleep on call, etc. etc.

Before she started her new job, we did briefly talk about what it'll mean for our relationship; Xey let me know we won't have many chances to talk while xey're at work, and that I should maybe try talking to other people during that time. (Which did trigger a meltdown &amp; a mild split, but I'm more of a quiet Borderliner, so he never really found out; but it was rough)

Now, with her working all day &amp; being too tired to really talk when xey get home, my fear of abandonment has been going absolutely crazy. We keep changing or dropping plans, I don't get as much validation as I would usually need to know xey won't leave me and my meltdowns &amp; relapses have been getting more frequent again, with no one around to really support me.

Thing is, I'm scared of bringing it up, since he clearly is enjoying his new job, and I really don't want to make xem feel bad about it. I'm glad she found such a good job.
I don't want my stupid overthinking brain to ruin it for xem, but it's been slowly killing me and I don't really know what to do.

Sorry for the long post, I hope some of you have advice.