(Just want some wishing of luck rn because it’s really hard) 😭 This is wrong- and he’s trying to smooth talk and confuse me into it-

When we first started communicating over the internet last year, we had mutual friends in my home country and in seperate countries... We got along really well and he basically lied to me that he had no girlfriend. But he does (!)

It hurt when I cornered him as I suspected that someone as caring as him.. surely has someone.. and I cut ties with him then, and blocked him, and he tried finding me on other platforms.

Because we started some cyber entanglement where I was very submissive to whatever he says and asks etc So no means no- I don’t agree with cheating AT ALL
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Long story short he reached out to me again recently even after I changed number and he’s been convincing me to be in touch and says stupid things like, he’ll be with his girlfriend forever but he still cares for me equally etc and doesn’t care this is wrong Etc

&amp; before starting DBT I never knew how to properly exert my needs and get my self-respect across-

And for the fact that idk, I’m broken and he just waltz in my life with his “care” and “dominance”-

But enough is enough, and I’m not going to let him guilt trip me anymore-

I am not a relationship breaker- It is hard to resist-
I drew boundaries yesterday and used the DBT DEAR MAN and FAST-

But he rejected my proposal and I can’t believe we are still “arguing” and he’s convincing me that this is nothing wrong and he cares and all those things and tries to guilttrip me for ghosting him previously :( 

TLDR: I am going to break ties with a former cyber FP I ghosted which I had an entanglement last year before I knew he had a girlfriend (He lied). He found me again and been trying to smooth talk me into starting a cyber affair (and further if I ever return to my home country) etc etc and I tried using my DBT skills yesterday- and it failed BUT I must put this to an end-

DBT has opened my eyes- so does this thread
Unhelpful FPs are unhelpful and we have better self-worth and being submissive to someone dominating is NOT healthy for healing 😭 at least for me- I know some people do do that but I have to be brutal this time.