When I first met my husband he had some "quirks". Four years later after a stressful incident in his life, it was like he became a different person. After many years he was finally diagnosed with bipolar disorder (type II) and BPD as well.

We both have traumatic backgrounds (child abuse). I have PTSD and anxiety so I'm not perfect by any means, but our marriage has suffered immensely because of his behavior and I am at a point where I am considering leaving. Could you guys help answer some questions from your point of view? I know everyone's different but if I could get some kind of glimpse into what it's like to live with BPD it would help me understand. Traditional marriage or relationship counseling has not been effective for us.

* Impulsive over-sexual behavior: what's going through your head, if you have experienced this before? What is the motivation?
* Moods: How often do you "swing"? If you are happy, how long does the happiness last?
* Perception: Do you perceive most people in a negative light or does it depend? Or not at all?
* Lying/manipulative behavior: Is this done on purpose with intent? Or is it done without realization? Do you feel remorse?
* Insincerity: Do you have issues with insincerity in certain moods, and can you tell when you're insincere?
* "Swinging" from over-empathetic to completely cold, emotionless behavior: does this happen often? Is there a trigger?
* Acting emotionally or physically abusive or controlling: obviously not everyone does this and BPD does not equal abusive behavior! But sometimes due to his BPD moods, my husband will act in ways that are abusive or controlling. When he is "out of the fog" he is apologetic and says it was impulsive and rooted in panic/fear. If you have ever experienced this, do you understand why?  


Thanks for all and any insight!