I laughed when I first read about the identity problem side of BPD and thought no way I've always been the same &amp; I'm 100% the real me atleast personality wise but now looking back I've noticed how on many occasions I convinced myself and everyone close to me how I would finish *this* school or join a certain career path or look *this* way etc. I've failed a career 3 times whenever I started even though I had  multiple years planned ahead of the future in my head &amp; started losing all interest after awhile in them. Same with style and looks, first I would dislike certain types of clothes or styles and even automatically avoid being near people who dressed the way I didnt like and convince myself I want to look exactly this way but after a year or two completely different opinions and completely different look again lol. Is this just normal growing or some identity confusion &amp; anyone got advice on how to cope with this because I know deep down looks dont matter but its so hard to change it :( I wish I was just carefree about those small not so important things &amp; found out what I really love in life, stick to it a little longer. I love reading books &amp; have read multiple books to try to self help all this because it could be multiple reasons and of course anxiety and BPD play a big part but damnit nothing works for me