NonBPD looking for insight.

I had been seeing this terrific girl for a few months. Things were good though i felt a lot of push and pull at times, she avoided being physical we never even kissed after months, hated if i complimented her, disinterested body language at random times. Told me she has trust issues and fears emotional intimacy. 

We were out for a day in the city and a day later she left me saying she cant keep wasting my time and money when i can be someone who can give me what i need and i should be with someone more stable who doesnt spend dates lamenting past issues and is so broken. I thought she was great and told her that and that i was fine. She then said theres a lack of spark which i was suprised at after months of seeing eachother. I asked more questions and she kept tearing herself down saying its not normal for someone to have trouble kissing you after months, shes a bitch, theres more fucked up about her than i know, she has a temper, has a room like a hoarders and im dodging a bullet. Id defend her and shed say its a spark thing again. 

Now that last day she shared some things about her sister and father having a temper, poor conflict resolution, mother has learned passive agressive behaviour, sister ignores her over small things. Looked mad when i said she deserves good things and is a good person. Recoiled when i said shes beautiful, told me not to do that. Dodged my kiss at the end saying theres too many people.

Ive read about the fear of getting close, that some people can have physical contact issues, shame in oversharing, feeling inadequate. I just dont know if i messed up or it was always doomed. Did my compliments and being kind in general make her feel worse? I feel awful about it.   Even at the end she said im sweet, kind and have my life together. I reached out after a couple weeks or so and she very coldly stated it was chemistry. Was i split black? Can you split but still say kinds things in the break up?