If I’m upset at my partner and worrying about something, by the time I bring myself to talk to him about it I just get upset and mad and accusatory and unhelpful. Like it’s just an attack. And then afterwards I’m like, why didn’t I just communicate and calm down?? Maybe it would’ve ended better. 

I really, REALLY want to change this because it puts his back up and we end up having a huge fight and nothing gets fixed anyway. Is it just me?