Hello everyone, I just need someone to talk to and I figured you guys, people who don't know and therefore don't judge me, will be the best for now. 

So, after having quite a dark past year I finally got an apprenticeship at a great shelter. There I met a really great person who I somehow managed to befriend. I am really bad at making new friends and this was the first new reallife relationship I formed in around 10 years (all the others have been online exclusively which was alright but it's simply not the same, at least to me). I am so happy to have her, I can tell her everything and she's always there for me when I need her.

She is very unhappy with how her life is going tho and having a tough time at the workplace which makes her miserable so, understandably, she's thinking about quitting. This is where my terrible feeling is coming in. First of all, I love working with her, second of all I love seeing her as we can talk and I really need people to talk to.. Now I'm scared of loosing her tho as I fear the distance will make us live apart. This has happened to me a few times before and I really don't want to be alone again. On the other hand I don't want her to be happy and I feel like I'm being very selfish when I wish for her to stay only for.. MY happiness?? I really don't want that and seeing her miserable makes me miserable too. But the fear of loosing her makes me even more miserable. This is the reason why I haven't talked to her about it. I don't want her to think I'm selfish or I'm trying to make her feel bad about quitting. I truly don't, I want her to do whatever she feels happy with. 

Also we don't know each other for that long yet, not even a year quite yet so I don't feel like I'm "allowed" to feel that way. My very terrible self esteem is not helping either. I've been struggling with low self worth and self love for my whole life. I know it's not about me and I know I shouldn't waste my time with feeling terrible but I just can't help it. The fact I'm really terrible in certain social interactions doesn't help either. I feel absolutely incapable and like a very bad friend. I don't know how to help myself either.

Do you think it would be a good idea to talk to her about this? Or is it just selfish and unnecessary? I don't think she would be mad or it would change her decision either (at least I don't hope so) but I'm still scared to. I cannot really distract myself either as my main hobby is painting during which I have a lot of time to thing - which is very bad during phases like this - and as I said I don't have any other friends. 

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Thank you guys for reading.