This is small but it helped me feel a bit better. There’s an ongoing underlying debate on Reddit it seems (mostly in *other* subs) that people with BPD cannot have healthy and long lasting relationships. 

Like I said, this is small:

I contacted a therapist who has a podcast and YouTube video which I enjoy, he is incredibly informative and he specializes in couples therapy and also seemed very well versed in personality disorders. 

[This is the question I asked him](https://imgur.com/58wMB7V)

[This was his response ](https://imgur.com/DE2kfUL)

I just know what it’s like to feel hopeless and I hope this kind of helps some of you? I spend a lot of time reading the negativity and stigma toward BPD, and all the people who warn others to stay away and I know how damaging this can be for the general populations view of those with this disorder - but it can also be especially hard for those of us who have it and end up feeling unlovable or that we’d be doing people a favour by staying away from them. I have a strong LTR and I’ve always had hope it would work out even in the worst moments. (I’m the pwBPD)