Forgive me if this isn't the place for these types of questions - but I am seeking advice.

My girlfriend has BPD. We have been together two years, and she has been getting help. I have noticed major improvements since she began therapy.

When something triggers her sometimes her reaction is to withdraw from me, stop talking, get moody - occasionally lashing out. This might sound harsh, and I don't mean it to but - her reaction is similar to how a child would react.

Do any of you have similar reactions? What is the best way for me to react?

I have a tendency to just ignore her. I don't want to feed into her reaction, and I don't want her to think that acting that way is okay - because she can come off as incredibly disrespectful and childish. That being said, after those moments have passed we always make up.

Is ignoring those behaviors in the moment okay? Or is there something I should be doing / saying to help her snap out of it? From my view the things that trigger her seem miniscule -- I do understand that in her mind their not miniscule and I never get angry or yell at her for how she acts.

But do I explain that her actions are hurting me? Or do I just keep letting it go, and hope that someday she'll get to a place where she understands and is able to -- as harsh as this sounds -- grow up.

If I sound like a horrible person, I am sorry. I love her so much, and I try to have as much patience as I can. I just want her to be happy, and I want to be as best as I can for her without enabling bad behaviors.