Hi everyone,

I've posted here before under a different username- before I get started, I just wanted to thank all of you very much for your advice and support. I really appreciate everyone's contribution- it has added some clarity to a difficult situation.

Anyway, I have an ex-friend who, according to my therapist, exhibits classic signs of borderline personality disorder. She is incredibly manipulative- to the point where I seriously start questioning reality. She recently cut me out of her life for a second time, and it's been really difficult. Right before she "blocked" me on her phone, she said the meanest, cruelest thing that anyone has ever said to me. It was incredibly hurtful, because she used something that I am extremely vulnerable about to hurt me. And to make matters worse, she made this remark right before saying "glad you're in a good place! Good luck with everything and goodbye!". To add some context, I had been telling her about what a good day I had just moments before- then she insults me, and makes that remark. Well, if I was in a good place, I certainly wasn't anymore- she was vicious and cruel, and I still have a hard time processing what she said.

The next few days didn't go well- I sent her some text messages that she never answered, stating I was extremely hurt. After awhile, I reached my breaking point and said I was blocking her too. Now keep in mind that I didn't think she was reading these- it was more of a way to give me some closure. But on the off chance I wasn't blocked, I wanted her to know how angry and hurt I was. And I DID block her- for about 2 days. But I just couldn't live with myself and decided that I wasn't going to do that to someone. I did not let her know that I changed my mind. I just left it alone.

Several days later, I get a text message at 2 am. "Are you there?" It had woken me up, and I was a bit disoriented. I replied, and she was shocked. Then she started sending me pictures of her dog. We had a tiny conversation about that, and then she disappeared. I never heard from her again. This was about a week ago.

We never did talk about anything of significance in that brief exchange  (although she did say "I don't know wtf I'm talking to you"), so I sent her a follow-up text several days later, explaining myself, saying I'm never going to block her. Well obviously she never replied, and I'm wondering what in the world all that was about. It has made me sick to think about it- she came back into my life to see if I was still there, and now that she knows I am, she apparently wants nothing to do with me. It really hurts and I'm having a really hard time with this.

I guess I'm here because I'm wondering if this behavior is consistent with what you know to be bpd? If it is, it might actually make me feel better because it would give some structure and context to her behavior, but much more importantly, it might be something she can work on so that she has a happy and fulfilling life. This person means the world to me and she probably always will, but what she is doing to me is very hurtful, and I'm trying to make sense of it. Obviously every situation and person is different, but would she contact me again? Or is she gone for good this time? Is there a cycle to this? I am familiar with the concept of splitting, and I guess she's in a stage where she thinks I'm horrible, worthless, etc. Do people who split ever cycle back to where they want a person back in their life?

Thanks for any advice/help/criticism you may have.
