hey guys, my boyfriend has borderline and anonymously (kind of) I’m looking for some answers or advice. I’m aware that borderline can vary from person to person but maybe someone can word it in a way that resonates-
I’m having a very difficult time with the absence of anything beyond platonic. (He tells me it is because of his bpd and that he swears it’s not because of me or because he’s changed how he feels about he sexually/romantically and still loves me the same if not more and honestly I trust him and believe him but I have a tendency to overthink and over analyze so. 
So when we were dating from the start til about 5 months in it was a consistent clinginess, extremely active sex life, always had to be touching me and constant reassurance verbally that this loving natural would most likely always be present because I’m his “favorite person”. 
It’s going on about three months now that he has even kissed me more than a peck, he does not ever ask for kissing or even hugs anymore. He doesn’t grab my hand or thigh while driving, he doesn’t tell me he loves me first anymore, I don’t get called beautiful or anything sweet. He will not cuddle with me unless I’m the one doing most of the cuddling, when I reach out for him even just a little nudge I can tell it makes him uncomfy but as soon as I question he gets mad I even brought it up because I’m “holding his issues over his head”. Maybe it is also bad communication on my part but I just get curious and am still unsure what all behavior is even excusable to what extent in regards to his mental situation. Whenever he explains it I try my best to not get upset or doubt him. I’m not sure if anyone can give me an answer but how do I address this the best and most neutral way? I love him a lot and just want us to get past this