Hello,

I have been dating an amazing girl for 11 months now. I suspect she has BPD. Last august, she lost her brother (who she described as her father figure), and since then has been unstable. 

Last December, she pressured me saying that we cannot continue the relationship without a future, and that if I'm not planning to propose, she would not continue talking to me. So last week I decided to propose. She said that she has to think, because she's not sure about our characters compatibility. When I told her that this was a no, and that I'd rather break up and move-on; she didn't let me go, and said that she didn't say no, that she still loves me, and she was happy to see me. 

I am disoriented and confused. Before proposing, when I used to call her, I found her talking late at night on the phone. She swore and promised that it was her sister, but I still have trust issues. My friends shame me for accepting such a bad situation, because "obviously you're her plan B". 

I really love her, many friends tell me I should break up and move-on and quit, that I deserve better. Anyone who has advice ? 

Any advice from people who have BPD ? 

Thank you,