A couple weeks ago I wrote how my ex-girlfriend (20) violated the court order between us. I guess she saw some stuff on Facebook that reminded her of me and couldn't help herself.

The police didn't charge her but gave her a stern warning, as well as spoke to her dad about what's gone on between us. I don't think this went over too well, as it essentially exposed my ex as a liar in front of her family after she'd told them elaborate stories about me. 

I know she can't take that happening to her, and I fully expect her to escalate things in the next few months.

Thing is, how do I react to it when it happens? Court orders didn't silence her. Her family refused to confront her when I asked. I've run out of reasonable options.

In the meantime, I've also read alot on here explaining her thought process in regards to obsessing over me. I don't see her as a crazy ex anymore, I see her as a girl that needs professional help. Running to the cops doesn't fix mental illness.

I'd almost be willing to sit in therapy with her for an hour because of the chance it might do more to end her obsession with me compared to frightening her with police intervention.

For those with BPD, whats the best way to confront this without triggering her and making things worse? Will take inbox advice if you're not comfortable publicly replying.



