I want her to know that I love her and am there for her, but I know this often needs to be shown in different ways to people with BPD than to those without BPD. I don't know whether to just give her space and come back to me on her own time (in the past, that's what she's done, but only after a lot of emotional anguish on my part, and probably hers as well) or to just steadily reach out with support, nothing too intense, just a text here and there about something we'd find funny. Not that all people with BPD would react the same way, obviously, but I'm hoping people can shed light on this situation with some of their own experiences and advice. I really just want to help her feel like I am there but also that I am respecting boundaries. I'm afraid the first approach could come off as me abandoning her and the other could smother her. 