I know this is gonna be controversial but I just hope I dont get bombarded with hate. But imo self harm isnt that big of a deal as long as you're not going super deep. Like it's a coping skill, if it helps you then why stop? It heals, even though it leaves a mark it does help, at least for me. I've only ever regretted self harming if I accidentally went deeper than I though or did it in a poor spot. I dont have plans to stop, but also I dont do it very much anyways - maybe like once a month now since I'm doing well