I was diagnosed 4 years ago and before my family could understand what was going on, most of them checked out/ were angry with me. 

Fortunately my mom is compassionate and empathetic naturally (yes I am very blessed and grateful) and so she took it upon herself to join a support group, read books (Loving Someone with BPD by Shari Y. Manning, Walking on Eggshells by Paul T. Mason &amp; Ms Randi Kreger) and just did research to better understand the illness. 

Our relationship has improved immensely and she has also helped my dad and siblings better understand me as well. 

As someone with BPD who works hard everyday to be a better sister, daughter, partner, friend, etc. and I'm sure most of us with BPD do the same because we, just as much as our loved ones, want to feel and act normal, for a lack of better term.

I'm just wondering if any family/friends of someone who has BPD have considered also doing some work to better understand and support us. Of course it's not expected or required since you yourself don't have the illness. But for myself, my mom wanting to take the time to learn about the illness and how to support/cope has made me feel incredibly worthy of love, and honestly motivated me to continue to work on myself daily. 

I think we often feel like nobody will ever want to be with us or love us because it's "just too much" and "not worth it". The proper support can provoke more positive thoughts.

I just want to start an open dialogue for those who know people with BPD and if you've ever considered it or if you would be willing to, if asked.