I’m not sure what I should’ve tagged this so I used quiet BPD because that’s what I have lol. Anyways I’ve been struggling with defining my sexuality lately and I’m wondering if this is actually an issue with my BPD. I’m a cis woman and I identify as bisexual but I heavily prefer women to the point I’ve been questioning if I even like men at all.

 I have an extreme distrust and paranoia of men that get in the way of me wanting to be with them. I just automatically assume that in general the majority of men are subpar when compared to women. I know logically that this isn’t really true and there are wonderful men and terrible women but I have a hard time convincing myself I could fine a trustworthy, attractive, ambitious, and loyal guy. 

I grew up with an extremely abusive father who treated my mother and me like shit (he’s probably the cause of my bpd lmfao) and I’ve always been cautious with men to not end up in a relationship like that. I think I’m attracted to men though? At least a small amount of them? 

I’m really picky with men especially so I’m just having a hard time figuring out if I’m actually bisexual and these issues are my BPD or if I’m a lesbian experiencing compulsory heterosexuality.