My roommate spends all of her time stomping or slamming things around. She's very controlling of her bf that is over every single weekend so I think she just enjoys being in control. I own most everything in the house. I buy most of the cleaning supplies and do most of the cleaning. She uses my dishes, which is ok, but doesn't run the dishwasher so all MY dishes are dirty. I buy the trash can and the bags and am the only one that takes the trash out. She always seems to be moving my things (that aren't in the way) around. She lets the cabinets loudly fall behind her in the kitchen knowing my room is up against it and I'm studying or something. Her bf is over every second of the weekend so I am unable to cook or relax or anything since they overtake everything. 

She's so intense and inconsiderate. I know if I talk to her she'll get ready upset and cry or turn it on me. Any advice on how to react or move forward?

I just want a night of not having her slam shit or her bf not being there. Maybe I'm just being crazy like I always am when I have feelings 🙃

Thanks