I just read a really helpful quote on a Facebook page and I thought it might be helpful 

'If you understand how frequently people cope by projecting, you would learn to take absolutely nothing personally' (I dont know who said it, it was on a meme)

I know it's so much easier said than done, but one thing I learned in therapy is most of the time, the way you are treated by others is from a projection of their own issues.

I suffer from anxiety and most of it stems from my sense of self worth, so reading things like this is a good reminder that I am not always the problem. I can definitely acknowledge my own toxic traits but its helpful to know that everyone has issues and they tend to take it out on others.

I hope this helps!