My partner and I have been struggling with a lot of lifestyle changes I think. I’ve been struggling most recently with devaluing our relationship and I’m not used to this particular thing. He’s moved a bit further so I went from seeing him everyday to twice a week and possibly more if he feels like or is able to do so. He’s also dealing with a shift change. From working nights to working days. I’ve started a new job working a lot of hours and started therapy as well. We have more to our relationship of course but I’m not going to go into detail about that. I ask for a lot of reassurance and I know he can’t always get that but I start devaluing after some hours of not hearing from him or not getting the reassurance I would like. My devaluing is like despising the dynamics of how our relationship has changed and not wanting it while hating the devaluation because I know that I do want the relationship and I love him so much and want to make things work with him. I just need help with this. I’m struggling with devaluing. How do I make it stop?