I had this very short relationship with a girl I am 18 she is 17. It was rather intense and ended on terms of a bad misunderstanding which was fine I accepted it. But I was so obsessed with this girl that like I couldn’t let it go I kept phoning her just to speak to her and coming up with narratives in my head of how I could win her back. I made her a very impressive book which my friends were shocked at it was just drawings and stuff of her favourite movies etc which I had watched in order to make it. I look at it now that I’m over it and I’m like wow this was insane, I mean the relationship was only a month and I hardly knew her before it. The book was really cool though I’m considering asking if she wants to see it still because of the effort but my plan is to burn it after that.

As crazy as it is this feels like the healthiest way I’ve ever handled the loss of a favourite person ever

I tend to believe most behaviours I display in relation to my relationships is because of bpd but I thought I’d just ask if anyone else has done anything similar, like putting lots of time and money into a project or gift to win a favourite person back?