I feel like I’m not fit to be in a relationship because all I do is hurt them over and over. I seem to lack empathy to see their side of arguments and every little fight (which I pick!)  balloons into something huge that I apply to the fate of our relationship, like welp that must mean we’re not supposed to be together if we’d get into such a big fight over something so basic! They have said they walk on eggshells around me which I know is a toxic thing and they said they lack confidence/trust in me coming out of my Red Zone mood swing so they’re constantly on edge wondering if I’m mad. I feel terrible for them because of course it sounds like they are in an abusive relationship... with me.