When you have BPD, you constantly question your own feelings, thoughts and behaviours to make sure that you are doing the right thing and what is true to yourself. Or at least, that's my experience of it. Part of that is being honest and open with the people close to me and telling them that I have BPD. 

Unfortunately, I'm sure having turbulent relationships isn't unknown to us, and sometimes I feel as though telling the relevant friend, family member or partner that you have it can be risky, especially if you're like me and find it hard to make good judgments about people. I've been worried that a few people have basically used my BPD to gaslight me (gaslighting, for people who don't know, "is a form of psychological manipulation that seeks to sow seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or in members, making them question their own memory, perception, and sanity"). When I'm upset about something, I've had a few people insinuate that it's my BPD that's to blame rather than their actions, and then it becomes so much harder to figure out whether I'm being fair or not.

Has anyone else had this experience? I at first thought it might be swayed by the circumstances in which you tell the relevant person you've got BPD, but I think it's a pretty pervasive issue.