A (now) ex of mine said those words to me when we were on the verge of breaking up.

Back then I didn’t realise I had BPD. As such I was terrible at understanding its impacts upon myself and our relationship.

We had regular misunderstandings that lead to terrible arguments, that quickly resolved back to passion.

I idolised her, then demonised her.

Now, through therapy, meditation and time, I have come to see my past actions and thoughts through the BPD lens, and have decided to share it.

In this post I deconstruct how BPD impacted the relationship, and what I have learnt from it.

[https://link.medium.com/ikGIx54gmV](https://link.medium.com/ikGIx54gmV)

Has anyone else discovered their diagnosis, started treatment and then applied that knowledge back to understand?