I met my long-distance FP for the first time last week. He had cut off contact a week leading up to us meeting but unblocked me while I was in his country. 

Looking back it's fairly obvious he wanted to hook up with anyone and not actually spend time with me specifically. I was stupid enough to go along with it. I knew what he was up to while we were together yet I felt guilty for the way I treated him. 

He kept going on and on about how he spent the last of his money to meet me and that he didn't have money to meet me a second night. When I brought up my feelings that he didn't actually want to meet me a second night, he said that he's done. Just like that. Like he got what he wanted and is now using any excuse to leave. 

We were intimate for the first time a few days ago and he casually says he's done when I bring up that I'm not in his country often and he could have borrowed the money to come meet me since we won't meet again for ages. Is it really too much to ask? 

We also had a hypothetical scenario of a trip together and he was unwilling to go 50/50 with the bill because he's assuming I'd have more disposable income than him. I said that's not fair, but he's obviously not willing for this relationship to be on equal grounds. He says it's unfair of me having to spend less of my disposable income (since he's assuming that I'd have more than him). He was unwilling to see things from my perspective. He then pasted something his friend said about me and I'm just... Idk. 

It's true that I didn't treat him properly. But he's obviously manipulating me now, right? He's not willing to discuss or talk about things or see the situation from my perspective. I'm automatically crazy and my perspective is void because I treated him badly in the past and have BPD. 

He's painting me out to be this crazy stalker to his friends yet he willingly meets me. Either he got what he wanted sexually and is purposely using any excuse to end this or he's trying to make me dependant on him for further abuse. What do you guys think? 

I tried to give this a genuine shot, but anytime I show a miniscule of my feelings he threatens to leave. Its almost like he knows the control he has over me and is using the guilt from the way I previously treated him to invalidate all feelings. I can't have an opposing perspective because I'm crazy! 

It's honestly pretty awesome that I've seen this side to him. I'm not willing to be in a relationship where I'm going to pay for everything. 
