So….I deal with anxiety and I know that a lot of my experiences, feelings, reactions and behaviors are due to trauma. I have not been diagnosed with BPD but I have a really hard time not being obsessed w/ people i like and I’m just getting to know. I often fall into self-hatred when that obsession isn’t reciprocated. Usually it would end me in reacting super negative either blowing the person up until I get something in return, or just trying to completely push that person away. I’ve been working on my reactions for awhile now, but I can’t stop the self hatred. I know that individuals w/ bpd deal with this in a way and I didn’t know anywhere else to go. As someone w/ bpd how do you deal w/ obsession over people and the negative feelings that come with it?