hi all,


me(23m) and my gf(22f) have been together for 2.5 years and i have supported her ALOT. i have made sure to give much of.my day to be with her and we talk on the phone every night, literally. i make sure she is happy as can be, her wellbeing means alot to me. she has undiagnosed BPD, her doctor suspects she has it and so does the counsellors she has spoken to (they are not allowed to formally diagnose)

however, i notice that she is VERY negative, cannot express her emotions or thoughts most of the time. she can also switch from happy to angry, and alot of the time its either me or her family getting the worst of it. this is only part of it. how can i alleviate some of the negativity she feels? i know its been 3 years, normally i just validate (always) and empathize (if needed) as well as listen, unless she is yelling at me. then it gets bad..