Disclosure:
- I have Bipolar 
- Significant~Other has BPD

I trying to seek advice on figuring out how to cope and deal with couple seperation anxiety from different angles.

THE SITUATION:

His has a serious push/pull response;

1. He gets mad and is resentful of me having to go back to my place after visiting him for a week or more.

2. When I express my anxiety about missing him -  he then starts suggesting I'm talking to a large number of guys (20+) .. and I don't miss him.

3. When I protest...he then tries to justify his false claims by using against me my old dating profiles or social apps he has found on my phone that have been deactivated  for a year ....or barely use like Facebook....to amplify his attacks.


I have seperation /rythm triggered response;

1. When we are together there is a schedule and genuine time spent together weeks at a time. I can work from his place.. as  I do work from home in another state. However I must go home from time to time....but my schedule isnt as refine. 

2 When I come home - adjusting is frightening. I'm off schedule, cant sleep well, and he isnt with me~  which gets me  anxious and getting into manic mode ...which is a trigger to head into mania if I can't get a rythm on track..

3. When he responds to my numerous expressing the concern of my well-being to him- he doesn't grasp the gravity of the situation... and accuses me of emotional cheating  on him with other men.  


I'd like any advice how others deal with the push and pull phenomenons?