I’m going through a slow breakup with my bf of five years and contacted and hung out with a guy the other day I’ve had a huge crush on since I met him two years ago. We fooled around a bit not long after meeting(while bf and I were separated), but I definitely scared him off afterwards with my obsessive behavior (texting and wanting to hang too much, not being able to keep it casual). I want to hang out with him and be friends (maybe a little more than friends), but I don’t want to be obsessive. I want to quiet the part of my brain that fantasizes about him and idealizes him and basically will not just chill. He’s stated before that he’s not interested in a serious relationship (not to me but on his Tinder), so I know it can’t go anywhere, and that’s fine! I don’t need to get into anything serious after just getting out of a five year trauma bond. But some part of my stupid trauma brain won’t accept it. I just want to relax and have a nice, normal time with a smart, attractive guy who’s apparently into me. Any tips?