We have sex, just not as often as I would like. I know my partner loves me. They tell me everyday, multiple times a day. They're very sweet and wonderful and do little gestures to show their love as well. But I know hypersexuality is a part of BPD and so is not having emotional permanence, so I don't *feel* loved unless we're being physically intimate. We usually cuddle for at least a little every night, but as soon as the cuddling stops I don't feel loved anymore. It's not fair for me to expect them to be avaible for physical intimacy whenever I want. Sometimes they're not in the mood and they don't have the same sex drive as me. I try not to get upset when they turn me down, but it makes me feel like they don't love me. I know it's all in my head, but still very real to me.