I work at a medical office and today my boss asked which patient he was supposed to go to next but I had just finished up with another patient so I was a little confused about the flow of the office. I said, "I think it's "JT" but let me double check the schedule". And then my coworker "A" who was doing nothing but routing patients was like oh you're actually going to "JK". He big sighed, rolled his eyes and very loudly said "A, for the rest of the night I'm only asking YOU who I'm supposed to see next"

I didn't like what he said, the tone in which he said and the fact that he asked me about the flow of the office when I feel that I was very clearly doing something else. When I'm the one routing patients he does not ask my other coworkers to help him out so these instances only happen between him and I. 

I got very upset to the point where I had to excuse myself for a moment. I felt angry and stupid and generally just like a piece of shit but I took some deep breaths, smoked a cigarette and said self, he is not calling you stupid. He is not saying you're worthless, this is just a knee jerk emotional reaction to what transpired. The frustration that I feel is valid but I also realized that my coworker and I could've been more communicative with our duties as to avoid this situation. If we both agreed that she would be routing patients and I would be doing front desk work, then I could've told my boss that at 6pm "A" would be routing patients so refer to her if you get confused.

I'm proud of myself for a) Taking a breather, b) working through my feelings and c) realizing my fault/room for improvement in the situation. 

To be honest I still feel kind of gross but that's okay. I know that these are just reactions to a situation that I was unsatisfied with and it has no bearing on my worth, my intelligence or anything of that sort. 

So yeah, it's a process, lol. I feel like a year ago I would've been very passive aggressive and made my coworkers/patients feel uncomfortable after that altercation but I was able to step back and look at things in a somewhat objective matter and that's progress.