Tell me, how the fuck do you stop this. When there's a real event that causes me to split or when i split a person over something they *are* actually doing/did it's MUCH easier to get out of it. I can just go to my list of qualities/good memories about the person to remember what they're really like to begin to stop splitting them.

However... how the fuck do I get my brain to realize that a situation just literally isn't real??? Currently am splitting my boyfriend and when I try to go to my list of his qualities or nice relationship memories I just get even more mad at him for "being about to break up with me" because of how happy the memories are. I don't know how to tell myself this isn't fucking real???? I'm getting so frustrated right now, because (for personal reasons) he's unavailable to talk to which would've almost an instant cure. So idfk what to do to convince myself that this isn't real and i need to STOP being mad at him for a thing HES NOT DOING.

I hate basically knowing it's not real but not like believing it?? Just basically hating my boyfriend over something i know to not be true, but being just physically and mentally unable to believe it.

Literally and support it tips are welcome, please:)