So, my ex just told me that when he talks to his friends about our relationship they say I was emotionally abusive. I do realize as someone with BPD that I created a lot of the problems in the relationship by over reacting and saying hurtful things. I know that is abusive. But it’s also a mental illness that I’m actively working on. Now I feel like a horrible person who should never date anyone again. Would you call someone with BPD emotionally abusive?