We have been together for 11 years and married for 5; we have 2 kids together. 3 years ago, my husband’s anxiety got really bad and he started having anxiety attacks. It has been an uphill battle for him to get consistent treatment, going on and off on therapy or medications. 

Finally, about 6 months ago we had a serious talk and told him this disease is not only affecting him but the whole family, as we have to navigate his mood swings, withdrawal symptoms (from going cold turkey because he forgets to refill his meds or doesn’t care), irritability, etc… he agreed to stick with the meds and a psychiatrist he likes. 

He takes benzodiazepines which make him very sleepy. He can’t watch a movie or sit on the couch without falling asleep. He forgets to do things. We have sex once a month. This has been going on for years. 

I have been very supportive of his condition and possible side effects of the medication but I don’t know how long I can live like this. I am getting tired. I feel like my love for him is slipping away. I feel like my needs or wants don’t even matter because it’s him who is feeling depressed or anxious, it’s him who needs to go to bed and take a 3-hour nap, because I’m healthy I need to be his rock and support our family from falling apart. I don’t know how to cope with this anymore. 
Any advice?