Hi everyone!  (*Text dump warning*)

As some background info, I've (22F) have lurked on this sub since my BPD diagnosis in Fall 2018.  I've had to deal with some traumatic experiences including a toxic ex husband who used me for a green card and made me feel like I was crazy when I caught him cheating.  I took a whole year since, focusing on myself, grounding myself, and putting myself into a healthier mental space.  I'm now in a new and better environment with a great support group, working 2 internships, finishing up my last semester of college and living my best life.  I casually dated, but never fully gave into my emotions because those partners weren't ready.  Then 3 months ago, I met a new partner who literally swept me off my feet.  

Unlike previously, this man was the one taking the initiative and showing his commitment and affection right off the bat.  He has been more than accepting about my past and diagnosis (though I don't think he fully understands BPD yet) and accepts me for me.  I once mentioned how no one has ever bought me flowers, so he now brings me flowers (even if it's a wildflower from outside) almost every time he sees me.  We've already taken some trips that last a few days, and I've met his friends and family that love me.  Our communication, and love languages are incredibly strong and healthy too - the healthiest relationship I've been in to date.  He's even mentioned before that I'm probably the first girl tmlhat he's been able to envision marrying - an idea that his mother fully supports.  And I can envision it too.

Where the issue comes in though, is me.  I helped my boyfriend get a new and better job, so he recently put in his two weeks.  As a result, his current part time job has scheduled him so much that I wasn't able to see him in person for a week when we previously met maybe every 2-3 days.  And when he does start his new job, it's full time from Thur-Mon 10-7PM and he wants to workout until 9 PM (because he's a bodybuilder).  Now, I don't want to seem needy but for some reason, I cried right after he left my place.  I'm scared of becoming so attached that I lose all the independence I had developed over the years.  The last thing I want to do, is become as unhealthly codependent like I was with my ex.  I thought I made such progress, but I feel as though I might be slipping.  I just really want this to work out while also supporting both of our personal goals/careers.  If there are any tips to help me stay sane and keep this a healthy relationship, please let me know.