So I currently have a girlfriend.
We went over boundaries last night, it was amazing, it felt so loving. It was the most loving conversation I’ve ever had in my life.

But also, recently I started noticing some pretty extreme thought patterns surrounding her. Especially when she doesn’t answer messages, doesn’t feel like talking or doesn’t want her camera on while we are calling.

I get upset. And I don’t think that is healthy.

How do I cope with it?  How do I tone down how co dependent I am? How do I learn to stop these thought patterns? And essentially just not have the favorite person complex.
How do I make it go away?