I recently had an interaction with someone that I suspect has BPD based on reading and other experiences. It was a normal conversation that out of nowhere turned into them attacking over a perceived slight. It was a misunderstanding on their part and they accused me of meaning something I did not say. I tried backing off and apologizing but the apology was attacked and more insults were hurled at me. Everything I said, no matter how calm, was twisted and taken as an attack and I was attacked back. I had no idea how to react so I just left. I don't know what the right response was to de-escalate. I was soft...apologetic...validating...it didn't matter. I cannot imagine going off in reply would help. I've had this happen a few times with different family members as well and it's frustrating and causes me great anxiety. What am I meant to do?