Hey all, hope you’re doing well. I’m hoping to get some advice or what todo:

So I’m currently going through therapy due to childhood trauma, and my family are the people who caused it, some intentionally and some not. However, during this period of therapy I’m going through of working on my childhood. I’ve gotten sober and really enjoying my life (for once) I’ve enrolled in school and getting good grades.

But I’ve made this bubble around me, I don’t want togo family events or funerals, I just want to be left alone. I’d rather not sit in a room with majority of my family who caused me pain, and basically told a little girl she was shit. (They had a lot of resent towards my father) who now, I do hate. 

So when I get text messages from my sister, step mum etc and asking me to come to events and giving me major anxiety because I don’t want togo. Every time my phone goes off and I see a family members name, my heart goes into my chest and my entire day is ruined. 

Like I said, my sister intentionally try and mentally torment me. It was the child hood we had. I care what about think about me still. 

I don’t want to block them or cut them off completely, but I don’t want to give them control of when they can/cannot ruin my day. I’ve considered getting a 2nd phone, however I think my anxiety will reframe from checking it? Please give me advice!