So my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 and a half years and for context we met at university during our music degree. 

I’ve wanted to move out of home for a while since I’m more or less staying with my Mum at her partners house. The town I grew up in is 2 hours away from here and if it weren’t for my boyfriend, I would’ve moved back home ages ago but I’m staying in this city for the time being so he can finish his post grad and I can start mine next year. 

The other reason is his band that he’s been in for the last 5 years. They’re getting off the ground but all the COVID shutdowns haven’t been helpful this year for obvious reasons. 

We’ve started talking about moving out together sometime around August next year. I brought up our finances last night and I asked him “you’ll be having some expenses come up with the band before then, do you think you’ll have enough savings left over to move out?”. His response was “well in all honesty, the band is my priority over moving out so if it gets to August and I don’t have enough saved we’ll just have to push it back.”

I was really taken aback by this and I straight away went to bed before I said anything bad because I didn’t trust that I was reacting with the right emotions. I’ve woken up still very hurt and frustrated by what he said, is that what I’m supposed to feel right now?