I've (32M) been depressed my whole life basically but for most of it I still had some goals. Now I've lost my career and have nothing else really to motivate me to get out of bed in the morning. I've desperately wanted to be in a relationship my whole life but it hasn't really happened. But since ambition (i.e. ability to make more money) is pretty much an absolutely requirement for women, I don't see it happening unless I figure out what career I want. But I just don't want to do anything. I look at my other friends' careers and none of them sound interesting or like anything I would want to do except to maybe be worthy of love apparently. It's not that I'm lazy. I worked my ass off in school and in my past career but it was because I was motivated and was passionate about it. 

The list of careers that I'm interested in (musician, college professor, making guitars or instruments) have few prospects either because they are low paying or because they are super hard jobs to get. The only thing I really want to do is play music but I make barely any money out of it and it won't provide enough financial stability to please most women. And yes I know people say that's unhealthy and that I should pursue a career that I personally want not to find a partner but in the absence of any career choices that I both find interesting and make a decent living my only really motivation to do them is for a future partner

I don't want to feel like this and I want a career that I love or can at least tolerate but there is nothing that I'm interested in enough put in the work and hours so if that doesn't change I'm going to be alone indefinitely