Hello! I’d be really happy to hear from people who suffer(ed) from relationship anxiety and maybe learnt to deal with it or even overcame it. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and it’s a really wonderful relationship. He is absolutely supportive and I feel so safe and loved - and this is the „problem“: for my anxiety being in a „happy, healthy and safe“ relationship is absolutely scary. Because there’s always this extremely painful thought „what if I lose all this! I couldn’t handle this pain“. So I am seeing a therapist and I’m quite familiar with anxiety (the reasons, the symptoms, etc.). I know where it comes from and I know that I really want this relationship and that it’s good for me…but I still suffer from periods of strong anxiety and derealisation. Sometimes I feel depressed because my anxiety tells me that relationships are only pain and sadness. My anxiety is rooted in my childhood experiences. (Unstable and unsecure attachment)…but I’m not running away from my partner and I’m actually facing my „commitment trauma“. 

I would be happy to hear from people who are going through the same or went through the same :)