text: TAG | the cross
  Commitment, Not Love
  I am convinced that commitment, not love, is the basis for marriage. It is the fact that we promised each other before God and not some romantic feeling that keeps us together and keeps us faithful to one another. Our promises, not our feelings, are the foundation of marriage.
  However, it is easier to keep the commitment if you love the person you are living with. The Bible underscores this when it says, "Better is a dinner of herbs where love is, than a stalled ox and hatred therewith" (Proverbs 15:17). This is a teaching by contrast. It says that the worst possible meal (herbs and bitter fruit) in an atmosphere of love, peace, and harmony is better than the best possible meal (a T-bone steak from a crib-fattened steer) in an atmosphere of strife and contention. A good steak with a good fight going on is not only tasteless but will usually give you indigestion.