text: Be assertive, not aggressive, in expressing yourself. Assertiveness requires speaking in an effective, calm way towards a goal. It may help if you practice your response out loud before delivering it.
  Make positive statements. Make a few positive statements to say to yourself when your anger is triggered. They will remind you that you can choose your behavior instead of reacting automatically. For example, you might say: “I can take care of my own needs” or “I am able to make good choices.” Use these examples or develop your own personal mantra.
  In conclusion, anger ignites us and brings us energy. And this is why it is SO incredibly important to welcome! The energy of anger helps direct our lives because it is a force. It is the body’s way of saying, ‘Hey! Pay attention!’ The trouble we can get into when we bring the experience labeled as anger, into relationship with others is that it can be negatively expressed.