text: WildWolf's Collection: 2007
  WildWolf's Collection
  Spirit Of Peacefulness
  AKin's Visual Diary
  Satir's Conceptual Framework
  4 Defensive Communication Styles From Virginia Sat...
  Wisdom Quote -- Love
  Fly.. Fly.. Fly.. The Butterfly..
  Ya, Man we were killing time
  I guess nothing can last forever, Ya
  Posted by WildWolf at 6:06 PM 32 comments:
  1) The Family Of Origin's Influence
  Our family of origin, including past generation, has a significant influence on our attitudes and behaviors.
  2) Families As System
  Families are systems and as such seek balance; when that balance is maintained through inappropiate roles, restrictive rules, and/or unrealistic expectations, the members needs will not be met and dysfunction will occur.
  The result of dysfuctional family system is low self esteem and defensive behavior, as the basic drive of human beings is to enhance self esteem and defence against threats to it.
  4) Resources Of The Whole Person
  Each person contains all the resources one needs for growth and healthy functioning.
  5) The Process Approach
  Growth is always possible and is most effectively facilitated by intervening at the level of "process" rather than "content".
  6)The Process Of Change
  The process of change is universal and involves stages.
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  4 Defensive Communication Styles From Virginia Satir
  1) Placating
  When we placate, we disregard our own feelings of worth, hand our power to someone else, and say yes to everything. Placating masquerades as pleasing, a highly acceptable act in most cultures and families. However, Placating differs from a congruent attempt to please. We placate at the expense of self worth. Placating denied our self respect and give people the message that we are not important. We insist on taking the blame for the things that go wrong. We take responsibility even if we have to go to exaggerated lengths to find evidence of our errors.
  Blaming is diametrically opposed to placating, The Blaming stance is an incongruent way of reflecting society's rules that we should stand up for ourselves and not accept excuses, inconvenience, or abuse from anyone. We must not be "weak". To protect ourselves , we harass and accuse other people of circumstances. To Blame is to discount others.
  3) Super Reasonable
  The Super Reasonable pattern of communicating discounts the self and the other person. Being overly reasonable means functioning with respect to context only, most frequently at the level of data and logic. We do not allow ourselves or others to focus on feelings. This reflects society's rule that maturity means not moving, looking, touching or feeling emotions.
  The fourth survival stance is being Irrelevant, commonly confused with being amusing or clownish. The Irrelevant pattern is the antithesis of the Super Reasonable one. When people are Irrelevant, they move continually. This is an attempt to distract people's attention from the issue under discussion. They keep changing their ideas and want to do myraid activities simultaneously.
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  7. Cry with someone. There is more healing than crying alone.
  18. A writer writes : If you want to be a writer, write.
  21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Eat off the Fine China. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
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  Words which come from the heart enter the heart. -- Moses Ibn Ezra, "Shirat Yisrael"
  I may dole out all I possess, or even give my body to be burnt, but if I have no love, I am none the better. -- Jesus
  What is called sympathy, kindness, mercy, goodness, pity, compassion, gentleness, humanity, appreciation, gratefulness, service, -- in reality it is love. -- Pir Inayat Khan
  The Soul is everywhere. It's in the laughter. It's in thetwinkle in the eyes. It's in the touch. It's in the empathy you experience when someone else is hurting. It's in the joy you experience when someone you love is happy. It's in all of that and more. -- John-Roger
  Life without love is like a tree without blossoms or fruit. -- Kahlil Gibran, 1883-1931
  Love is a better master than duty. -- Albert Einstein
  Express love through acknowledgment. Notice the good in those around you and freely comment on it. -- Rev. Mary Manin Morrissey
  When love comes to you, don't refuse it by thinking you are not worthy. You are worthy, or love couldn't come your way. -- John-Roger
  The more efficient a force is, the more silent and the more subtle it is. Love is the subtlest force in the world. -- Lewis Fischer, The Essential Gandhi
  Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude." -- Denis Waitley
  If some people continually evoke a negative response with you, you can put these people in the Light, knowing full well that they are not responsible for your negative response; you are responsible for it. -- John-Roger (Living Love from the Spiritual Heart)
  The whole idea of compassion is based on a keen awareness of the other.... The whole purpose of life is to live by love. -- Thomas Merton
  Becoming free is not changing yourself into someone you think you should be. Becoming free is falling in love with who you are- right now. -- Author Unknown
  Posted by WildWolf at 11:01 PM 1 comment:
  Watch the cartoon "Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles" before?
  New series of Ninja Turtles are under my son's training now. See how many of them.
  Haaa... bad guys, you better watch up!
  These turtles were the surprise in our last visit to Pantai Keracut.
  Go turtle, go, go, go....
  Posted by WildWolf at 1:52 AM 1 comment:
  "Fly, fly, fly, the butterfly.., in the meadow it's flying high, in the garden it's flying low. Fly, fly, fly, the butterfly...."
  My son likes the song, and he keeps on singing whenever he see a butterfly. That's how he learn new stuffs.