text: October 6, 2005|JUNE HALL I HEAR YA
  Dear June: For the past couple of years, I have been feeling extremely guilty. I'm married to a man that I love but I'm not in love with him. I married him for his money. Money can't buy love and I don't ever want him to know the truth behind our marriage. I've found someone that I do love. He has so much personality and he energizes me. My husband doesn't, but I don't want a divorce. I love my lifestyle and I don't want to hurt my husband. What should I do in this situation? -- No Name, No City
  Dear No Name: Guilt is exactly what you should be feeling. So, at least you got the emotion right. The sad part is that your poor husband probably adores you. How sad is that? In this situation you need to do the right thing. You've made a commitment and vows to a man that you've already broken. Actually, you violated those commitments and vows when you married him for the wrong reason. The right thing would be to follow through on being a devoted wife and forget this other man. Find a way to get energized by your husband. I guess for you that would be thinking of his money. The alternative is to go ahead and divorce him. Eventually, something is going to happen to make your husband realize the truth. Why delay it? Still, those are your options and the choice is yours.
  Dear June: My best friend and I are in high school and her parents have decided to get a divorce. She never saw them fight until recently and it's over custody. It's pretty bad and she wants to help. They are not really talking to her so she doesn't know what to do. She asked me, but I was too young when my parents divorced. We thought you could help. What should she do? -- Wanting to Help in Fort Lauderdale
  Dear Wanting: It's only normal to want to help, but this is actually something her parents need to work out together. What may alleviate some of her stress is to talk with them individually to let them know what she's feeling and that she wants to help. If they realize the concern they are causing by their behavior, they may calm down and behave more rationally. In any event, divorce is stressful. She should talk to her guidance counselor who should be able to give her additional support.