text: Tales of a Hockey Wife: I am finally in a serious mommy-relationship!
  Recently I have been in a serious mommy-relationship. We meet each Wednesday for coffee, where we discuss everything from our children, our eating habits, current jobs, and anything else that we feel like talking about. Nothing is off-limits, and there seems to be no judgements passed! This is also one of the longest mommy-relationships I have been in...probably because we have finally been in the same city for three seasons (a record!).
  Please don't judge, but I am also involved with another mommy...we have had a mommy-relationship going on for the past three seasons as well. I introduced both of these women to each other, and we have been known to have three-way coffee dates and get-togethers. When we left this last summer for our cottage, those two mommies would get together as well....without me. I admit, reading their Facebook comments back and fourth to each other made me jealous and wish I were with them both.
  Mommy #1, Me, Mommy #2
  But I have a great mommy-relationship back home as well...and we sit at the beach all day drinking from our Copco glasses...chatting about anything and everything! (I miss her during the hockey season!)
  The best part of being in a polygamous mommy-relationship is that all of our husbands enjoy one-another's company...and all of our children are close in age and have developed a friendship as well!
  OK...We are NOT THAT CLOSE!
  Here is a great example of one particular evening...
  My husband had a game...one of the other husbands took his son, my son, and the other couple's son to game. The other husband took his daughter, my daughter, and other couple's daughter to a movie. All three wives went to dinner and to an event.
  When the hockey game was over....all husbands took all of the children to the same house. The men drank beer while they watched a hockey game on TV....and the children all played. The wives got to stay out late!
  Did I mention how fabulous it feels to be in a long-term mommy-relationship with TWO moms?
  I mention this, because last year I wrote a blog-post on mommy-dating. I wrote this post because I was lonely and whenever we move to a new place, the process of finding a new friend is sometimes quite daunting. I thought I would repost Mommy-Dating for those of you who have missed it!
  Now it is your turn. Where do you go to meet available moms? Do you have a great Mommy-Dating story? Please leave a comment and share!
  I would greatly appreciate your help and your vote....
  Stasiayates said...
  Ok, so I have moved 8 times (only twice with kids). I can tell you its different depending on your kids age. When my kids were young, it was a hotbed for stay at home moms. Our gathering place was the community pool. There were between 5-10 moms there daily. We even started a bunko (aka drunko) group. When a few of us (me included) relocated due to hubby jobs, we decided on a yearly girls weekend! That lasted a few years then more people moved (damn jobs!). Where I live now my kids are older so its more about girls I like not girls who I have to hang out with because of the kids. I did discover over the mommy-dating process (and it is a process) I can't stand drama queens! Believe me when you move to a place where people NEVER move (if they do its into the house they grew up in) the high school clique drama queens still exist. Avoid at all cost as it is hazardous to ones sanity!
  I"M SO JEALOUS!!! I want a mommy-relationship! It's hard to make time for girlfriends when there are multitudes of kids, schedules to coordinate, and hubbies who would like some wife-lovin' every now and then. BUT I AM SO JEALOUS of your friendships. I think I've underestimated the importance of "girl time".
  From someone who has moved at least 13 times herself, it gets easier to weed out the rifraf each time. It doesn't sound like you have the stomach for drama queens, so good on ya for making girl time with the ones you want, not the ones who happen to be the parents of your kids' friends. And the idea of an annual girl weekend sounds delicious.
  I have been in a mommy relationship for 21 years with the most incredible 5 women. We met through PTA when my first born was in kindergarden! Thankfully, there were no drama queens involved at our school then! All these years later, some of us still have lunch weekly, we all get together at least monthly and even have a yearly sleepover!!! Like you, our husbands all get along well and some of our kids are still great friend (my daughter has an apt with one of the other daughters now). We even did a family trip to Mexico with them a few years ago. We see each other through tough times, illnesses, deaths of parents, empty nests, weddings and now my son will give us the first grandchild in January. There is absolutely nothing better than good friends who are always there for you! I wish you a long and happy mommy relationship :)
  I am not a mother, a friend of mine asked me to vote for her for the contest and I ended up reading your blog. You are quite funny and even though I do not have children I can relate, I move often find it hard to make female friends. Keep up the great blogging!