text: It's important not to treat such contact as a sure sign that your ex wants you back. Although that's still a possibility, you always need to allow your ex the time to come back to you. This is why you don't want to answer all of your ex's calls, emails, or texts. In fact, the more you can ignore you ex during such contact, the better position you're placing yourself in for later on, when it's time to work toward getting back together.
  In an even more drastic case, your ex will extend the offer of "let's be friends". This can mean one of two things, depending upon your situation.
  First, your boyfriend or girlfriend could be using this phrase to let you down easy. They might be giving you the friendship line to bail out of the situation and get away as fast as possible. If you got this line during the breakup speech, this is a definite possibility.
  If your breakup happened already and your ex still wants to be friends with you, there's a good chance they still have strong feelings for you. Your ex still loves you and feels emotionally bonded enough to keep you close to them, just in case they want you back.
  Being friends after someone breaks up with you is a very sticky situation. There are some major traps you can fall into if you're not careful that will eliminate your chances of getting back into a romantic relationship again.
  If you want your ex back, you'll need to learn exactly what to do when the "let's still be friends" speech comes your way.
  Post-breakup, your ex will withdraw from you. That said, he or she will still be looking back to see where you are, what you're up to, and how you're handling the fact that you're no longer together as a couple.
  In many cases it will be difficult for your ex to keep tabs on you - especially if you've been following the no contact rule. In this case, your ex might keep in touch with friends of yours, or mutual friends you developed over the course of your relationship. And if your romance lasted long enough to get close to each other's family? Your ex might even be keeping in touch with family members under the guise of 'still being friends' with them.
  Any time an ex probes your friends or family for information about you, it's because they're insecure about the breakup. They might not be ready to get back together just yet, but they want the comfort of knowing you're still available, and haven't found anyone else. It's a good sign that they still have feelings.
  If you're still in touch with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend, chances are they're going to be very guarded about what they're doing (and who they might be seeing). They'll do this to protect any new fledgling relationships they might have, and to keep you from being unnecessarily jealous over their post-breakup life.
  However, if your ex is very open and honest about how completely single they are? It's because they want YOU to remain single as well. Your boyfriend or girlfriend is making a point of telling you that they're not dating anyone else right now, in hopes that you'll follow the same example. They're keeping the door to a potential reconcilition open, and this is a good indication that they're not yet over the relationship you had together.