text: Have you taken the time to be there for your spouse? Some of you reading this may be thinking, “He hasn’t taken the time to be a husband, why should I put in any special effort?” “She has rejected me for two weeks. I’m not going to do anything extra around the house for her.” But we do have to put in special effort if we truly want to be there for each other. Marriage is certainly not about keeping score. It is about giving of ourselves freely whenever we have the chance to do so.
  Playing Hide and Seek with God?
  I searched hurriedly to find just the right hiding place. Breathless I hid silently behind the shower curtain in my parents shower. A giggle slipped from my mouth and I quickly cupped my hand to keep it quiet. I could barely hear my friend counting… 6… 7…8 …9… 10! Ready or not, here I come! My heart raced for fear I would be found.
  I’m sure you remember the exhilaration and suspense of playing hide and seek with your friends. Now that I am older, I no longer play this childhood game with my friends or anyone else—or do I?
  The Trigger of Grief
  In the work of recovery, we address the danger of triggers. Its very word itself suggests the power to cause us harm:
  “Something that precipitates a particular event or situation; To set off; initiate; To fire or explode.”
  On one August morning of 2003, I encounter such a trigger. The phone rang. My dad was dead.
  My grief, for the next year and a half, was an alarming, unexpected reality. And each subsequent “anniversary” proves equally tricky also. Both defy what I thought I would – or should – be experiencing.
  After all, coming from an abusive childhood, I didn’t think the loss of this pain-inflicting parent would register as significantly as it did.
  Let it All Go: Hurts, Anger, Resentment, Frustration
  …that if you confess with your mouth Jesus as Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved.Romans 10:9
  Some days I am just tired. Some days I have a difficult time with letting go and giving my worries to God. Some days I have the full confidence I can let God be God and other days I want to wrestle control back into my grip. Do you ever feel this way?
  The Mother-Daughter Tug-of-War
  It’s been said the mother-daughter relationship is the most complicated dynamic around. Therefore, most of us can see why eating disorder behaviors often arise within these relationships. The influential modeling of mother on daughter impacts her beauty values.
  But the issue goes beyond just appearance; the enmeshment creates a tug of war for control and autonomy.
  Reconciliation A Process of Re-Connecting With God
  A PROCESS OF CHANGE
  The word “reconciliation” refers to the process of recognizing that we have the desire to do what is good, but we cannot carry it out and the process of recognizing that it is God who works in you to will and to act according to his good purpose. The bottom line is that it is not our process but God’s process. He can do a much better job of changing something thoroughly and He can adjust everything to His standard.
  Phyical, Spiritual & Sexual Abuse Workshop Transcript #4 (of 4)
  Transcript for Session #1
  Transcript for Session #2
  Transcript for Session #3
  Heavenly Father….
  we thank You for Dvora who has put so much work into this workshop….
  we ask Your mighty blessings upon her and her teachings today….
  open our hearts, spirits and minds to the Biblical truths you would have us learn…..
  Bring healing to everyone who comes here today…..
  in the name of Jesus we pray. Amen.
  Phyical, Spiritual & Sexual Abuse Workshop Transcript #3 (of 4)
  Transcript for Session #1
  Transcript for Session #2
  member #1 member #2 would you like to open us in prayer today?
  member #2 sure
  Gracious God
  thank You for Divora and her willingness to share her journey with us
  we are not made to struggle alone
  and CIR helps with that so much
  bless this time together
  may we leave here with more than we came with
  in Your name
  amen
  Twelve Steps: Feline Resemblance
  He that getteth wisdom loveth his own soul: he that keepeth understanding shall find good.” Proverbs 19:8
  As with most families this time of year, my husband and I commemorate the season with holiday decorations. That décor, however, is threatened by two factors: our cats, Gracie and Glory.
  And, it is in this holiday decoration/feline context where I started thinking about the power of negative consequences.
  The Book of Proverbs is especially loaded with helpful warnings for particular behaviors. It comes down to wisdom versus foolishness, pride versus humility, willingness to learn versus stubbornly and repeatedly making the same poor choices.
  Hear counsel, and receive instruction, that thou mayest be wise in thy latter end. Proverbs 19:20
  Judgments are prepared for scorners, and stripes for the back of fools. Proverbs 19:29
  Like it or not, we live in a cause and effect world. Many of us who battle with addiction, disorder and compulsion have already felt certain unpleasant consequences like lost jobs, wrecked relationships, health issues and excruciating moments of embarrassment.
  Why do people betray me when I tell them my secrets?
  Matthew 24:10 KJV
  And then shall many be offended, and shall betray one another, and shall hate one another.
  Another stop on the road to recovery takes you to the intersection of people and who I said it to. There many warnings signs, directions, instructions and other signpost to consider as you travel the path to self enlightenment. The foundation of this healthy spirit filled life begins with the journey within.
  This journey into self teaches many things about who you are and who you are not. It might be the first time in a long time you realize that some of the things you said in order to belong to the group came back to hurt you and you felt you were betrayed. How did this insane way of getting attention affect you? What can you do to protect yourself in recovery? Addiction and alcoholism are about confusion and deceit. They are based on the smoking glasses and half truths about everything in your life.