This leadership should not be dictatorial, condescending, or patronizing to the wife, but should be in accordance with the example of Christ leading the church. “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word” (Ephesians 5:25-26).
Uongozi huu usiwe wa kihimla, kukandamisa, au shupavu kwa mke, lakini lazima iwe kwa mujibu wa mfano wa Kristo kuongoza kanisa. "Enyi wanaume, wapendeni wake zenu, kama Kristo naye alivyolipenda Kanisa, akajitoa kwa ajili yake; ili makusudi alitakase na kulisafisha kwa maji katika neon" (Waefeso 5:25-26).