Ultimately, that is between you, your potential spouse, and, most importantly, God. The only advice we can give is for you to pray to God for wisdom regarding what He would have you do (James 1:5).
Hiyo ni juu yako kuamua na mwanandoa mwenzako, na wa muimu sana ni Mungu. Ushauri pekee tutakao kupa ni kuwa uombe kwa Mungu akupe hekima kuhusu anachokutaka ufanye (Yakobo 1:5).