Never ask a child if they want to do something if that thing is something that actually needs to happen. “Do you want to put your shoes on now, dear?” is an invitation for the child to tell you that no, they would prefer not to wear shoes ever again and this is a perfect opportunity to delay departure for 15 minutes.
Kamwe kuuliza mtoto kama wanataka kufanya kitu kama kwamba jambo ni kitu ambacho kwa kweli mahitaji ya kutokea. “”Je, unataka kuweka viatu yako juu ya sasa, dear?”” Ni mwaliko kwa mtoto kukuambia kwamba hakuna, wangeweza hawapendi kuvaa viatu milele tena na hii ni fursa nzuri ya kuchelewesha kuondoka kwa muda wa dakika 15.