You mentioned many unfortunate things in your question, like, how your fellow countrymen are trying somehow to make your life harder. It is quite usual that in small minority communities, someone is trying to control the lives of others. Sometimes, it is wiser to keep a little distance to difficult people.
Ingekuwa mzuri kubaki wapi uko kila kitu ilikuwa sawa. Kwa nyinyi kitu ambayo ilileta badiliko kubwa ni kitu ambayo nyinyi hamkuweza kufanya kitu kama mambo ya nchi ulioishi na kukuwa kama mkimbizi. Kuhama kwenye nchi mpya na kuzoea utamaduni mpya ni badiliko kubwa kwa kila mtu na kuzoea italeta kazi nyingi.