It's definitely not paranoia. The entire back and forth over the photo demonstrates that editors at Wikipedia/Wikicommons operate completely arbitrarily. First they demand release of the photo under license cc-by-sa-3.0. Once that is given, they demand an additional statement by EPA. Once that statement is given, they find new objections. The main objection agains the photo of Heleen Mees is that it is really nice, almost iconic, and the Wikipedia article of Heleen Mees may for sure not look nice. It must be as damaging to Heleen Mees as possible instead, witness the undue and vicious references to the dismissed charges in the text that you co-edited. Any self-reflection would be appropriate at this point.