Don't take the bait of assumptions of bad faith
I've seen a lot of editors make bad faith assumptions of others, mostly as a method of baiting and gaming the system.  I recommend you get a third party involved when this happens, or at least make a mental note that they're acting from the perspective of assuming bad faith on your part.  They're just trying to escalate conflicts, making the conflicts personal, to create an excuse for their own incivility.  Best to keep cool and calm.