Pfupisa nyaya yacho:  Munyori uye akabatwa chibharo pamusangano akazivisa chikonzero nei ari kukurudzira kuti zvibvumirano zvepabonde zve'hongu zvinoreva hongu' zvive zvokumanikidzirwa mumakoreji munyika yose. MuNew Yorker Amanda Chatel akatsanangura munyaya yake yeYour Tango kuti kugamuchirwa kwomutemo unoti 'hongu unoreva hungu,' uyo unotsanangura kubvumirana so'kubvuma, kuziva, uye kubvumirana nokuzvidira kuita zvepabonde' kunobva kune mumwe nomumwe, inongova nhanho imwe chete mukurwisa tsika dzepabonde dzakapararira munzanga. 'Sechirikadzi yokubatwa chibharo, kana toreva nezvokubvuma ndinonzwa zvakasimba kuti hapana nzvimbo isina kujeka,' akanyora kudaro. 'Zvinosuruvarisa, panguva iyoyo, ndakanga ndiri muduku zvikuru uye ndisina zivo kuti ndizvizive nemhaka yokuti handina kutongotaura chaizvoizvo kuti, "Kwete, ndakanga ndiri mutori rutivi anodisa". Kuita kuti zvinhu zvichinje: Amanda Chatel wokuNew York akatsanangura munyaya yake kuti akabatwa chibharo uye ari kukurudzira kuti mitemo yokuti'hongu inoreva hungu'itenderwe mumatunhu ose enyika. Mutemo unoti 'hongu unoreva hongu,' wakatanga kupfuudzwa muCalifornia muna 2014, ndiwo unotsigira chirevo chekare chokuti 'kwete unoreva kuti kwete.' Mutemo wacho unotaura kuti makoreji ose nemayunivhesiti anotambira rubatsiro rwemari kubva kuCalifornia anofanira kutevedzera zvinodiwa kuti munhu abvumire zvaanenge ataurwa nomutemo, izvo zvinodzokorora kuti kusava nehanya kana kuti kupikisa hazvirevi kubvumirana - pfungwa iyo Amanda akatambura nayo kwemakore akatevera kushungurudzwa kwake pabonde. Amanda akatsanangura kwenguva refu kuti akazvipa mhaka nemhaka yokuti iye 'akava akasimba' uye iye akanga 'adhakwa zvishoma' 'Asi zvino, makore anoverengeka gare gare, ndinoziva, kupfuura nakare kose, kuti mvumo yangu haina kupiwa, uye kwakanga kuri kubatwa chibharo. Kupera kwenyaya,' akanyora kudaro. Amanda akatotaura kuti akanga asingakwanisi kubatanidza shoko rokuti 'kubatwa chibharo' nezvakanga zvaitika kwaari uye panzvimbo pezvo akataura nezvokubatwa chibharo se'vatano yandakanga ndisingadi.' Panguva iyoyo, akati kufanana nevakadzi vakawanda, haana kumbofunga kuenda kumapurisa mushure mekubatwa chibharo, chikanganiso chaakataura kuti 'haazomboiti zvakare.' Maererano nenhamba, mukadzi mumwe chete pavakadzi vashanu anofungidzirwa kuti achabatwa chibharo mukati mebasa rake rokukoreji. Hapana nyadzi: The New Yorker yakanyora kuti akapa mhaka...
Amanda Chatel akatsanangura kuti kugamuchirwa kwemutemo uyu munyika yose inongova nhanho imwe chete mukurwisa tsika yekubata chibharo yakapararira munzanga. Mutemo unoti 'hongu unoreva hongu' unotsanangura kubvumirana so'kubvuma, kuziva, uye kubvumirana nokuzvidira kuita zvepabonde' kunobva kune mumwe nomumwe wokurara naye. Yakapfuudzwa muCalifornia gore rapera, uye vakuru vakuru vehurumende muConnecticut zvino vari kurangarira kugamuchirwa kwechirongwa chakafanana chokuti 'hongu zvinoreva hongu'.