Whakarāpopototia te tuhinga:  E waru tau a Kim Sears e tatari ana ki te tono a Andy Murray, i whakaae a Mariah Carey ki te tono marena a Nick Cannon i muri i te marama kotahi. Ko te roa o te wā e marena ai koe, he mea takitahi, engari ki te mea kei te pirangi tētahi ki te haere ki runga i te huarahi, ā, kāore te tangata tuarua i te whakaaro ki te haere ki reira, he mārama he pātai e hiahia ana kia whakautua. Ko te noho ki tētahi tangata e whakamahi ana i a koe hei tūāwhiotanga tae noa ki te taenga mai o tōna "aroha tūturu" ehara i te mea hauora; ko te noho ki tētahi tangata e aroha ana ki a koe, engari kāore e hiahia ana ki te marena mō ngā take tika, he tino rerekē. E whakaatu ana a Tracey Cox i ngā tohu hei titiro atu ki te whakatau mēnā ko tō hoa 'te kotahi' Engari me pēhea koe e mōhio ai ko wai e tū ana mō te pai ake, ko wai hoki e pono ana, ahakoa he pōhēhē te marena? E whitu ngā pātai matua hei whakaaroaro, e ai ki ngā kaiāwhina whanaungatanga - ā, e rua me ui koe ki a koe anō. Ko te 1. He aha ō rātau hītori o mua me ō rātau hononga? He maha nga wa e whakamahia ana hei rerenga korero engari ko te 'Kaore au e whakapono ki te umanga o te marena - he 'pepa noa iho' te maarama mena i runga i nga wheako o mua. Ka taea e tētahi faaipoiporaa kua hinga i mua te whakawehi i te tangata ki te mahi anō. Mēnā he mārena kino i mau i ngā mātua o tō hoa, he kino te mahi ki a rātou anō, he tino pouri hoki, kāore i te miharo kāore rātou i te hiahia ki te whai i ō rātau tapuwae. Ehara i te mea e wehi ana rātau ki te marena, engari e wehi ana rātau kia mutu i roto i te whakarere kino, mamae. E hari ana rānei rātau ki te kōrero mō te faaipoiporaa ahakoa kāore rātau i te harikoa ki te mahi i te reira? Mēnā kāore e taea e koe te noho ki raro, me te whai i tētahi kōrerorero tuwhera, pono ki tētahi e arohaina ana e koe mō tētahi mea e hira ana ki a koe, kaua rawa koe e marena ki a ia. Mēnā kāore te hoa i te kōrero noa iho i te kaupapa, e whakaatu ana i te tino kore o te hiahia ki a koe me ō whakaaro ehara i te tohu nui mō tētahi hononga hauora, wā roa. Ko te 2. Ka taea e rātau te whakamārama ki a koe i te take e kore ai rātau e hiahia? He haki whero nui mēnā ko tā rātau whakautu ki te pātai "He aha koe e kore ai e hiahia ki te marena ki a au?" he "E kore au e mōhio". I te nuinga o te wā e rua ngā mea e tupu ana. Ko rātau...
E whakaatu ana te tohunga ki te sex me pēhea te whakamutu mēnā kei te whakamahia koe e tētahi hei 'whakapare'a' Ka whakamārama i ngā pātai e rua hei pātai māu mō te take he mea nui te faaipoiporaa ki a koe. Ka tūtohu kia ui atu ki te hoa he aha i kore ai rātau e hiahia ki te taunahatanga. Pānuitia ētahi atu o ngā whakaaro o Tracey i traceycox.com.