Greetings and welcome to Awakening With Brahma Kumaris.
Sister Shivani is with us. Welcome, Sister.
Om Shanti.
Om Shanti and welcome to Living Values.
Thank you so much.
We were talking about how to change children using our thoughts.
Earlier we had believed about them that they are like that.
It is written in their horoscope itself.
We firmly believe in it and live by it.
That belief versus the vibration which I am giving the child
You are like this, you are like that
When these vibrations reach the child, he starts becoming that way.
My Guru taught us not to call anyone as weak.
Don't tell a child not to go to bank otherwise he will misplace the money. Because he is weak.
You don't do anything, you cannot do. Let him do.
She said don't say such things to anyone.
She said this is the opposite of blessings
She said by saying negative things your vibration will make the child like that.
If we have the right knowledge of our power
Then we will be very careful
What to believe, how to believe, how to interpret, and how to implement.
If we have the right knowledge of our power.
We need to have complete knowledge of our capacity and power.
The weaker we are becoming
The more victim we want to be.
The easier things we are choosing.
It is a very simple thing.
We discussed a few days back that this is Kalyug.
We should not forget it.
It is Kalyug right now.
We cannot blame
This is the potential as of today.
So the questions we have
It is like saying this is summer and this is winter.
Now if we question why am I sweating? Why am I feeling hot?
Because it is summer.
So you will feel hot.
But although it is summer, we will not start living uncomfortably isn't it?
We will look for solutions. We will look for options.
And we will check our power
To see how much power I have to find solutions to cross this season
By making my life comfortable.
We the human souls need to find all solutions isn't it?
Today we are comfortable in every season.
Whether it is Winter, summer, or rainy season.
Mind. Every discovery and every invention have happened only because somebody's mind thought about it.
What did that mind see?
This is the problem. What solution can it have?
What is the reason that science has found all solutions?
To make our life more comfortable.
And they have made our lives more comfortable.
Now the same mind needs to focus on another aspect.
What are the solutions I need to find internally
So that my life becomes comfortable?
God says you souls are so powerful
That when you focused on nature
Which means when the mind concentrated on matter
We have created so many miracles today.
When the mind can focus on matter and create so many miracles
When the mind starts focusing on mind, imagine the number of miracles it can create.
Of course it will.  But what happened in Kalyug is
In Satyug, mind was concentrating on mind.
But in Kalyug, mind is concentrating on matter.
That whenever there is a problem, we look for solutions outside.
Now we have lost the awareness and wisdom to look for solutions inside.
Because Kalyug means body consciousness.
Which means looking for everything outside.
And Satyug means soul consciousness.
Which means looking for everything inside.
Focus was inside in Satyug.
Today we are in a stage where we have all comforts externally.
Now if the soul start focusing inside also
How beautiful my life is going to become.
Comfortable inside and comfortable outside.
You asked why we easily believe all these things like predictions
It is because we are not focusing on the power inside.
When somebody said something externally, we need the checked nor we experimented.
Let us experiment with everything.
Even on this platform of Awakening
Everyday we discuss the spiritual wisdom that we receive from God.
There are lakhs of brothers and sisters who watch this TV program everyday.
There are a lot of souls who do it with a lot of responsibility that
That they have to watch it accurately everyday
Many people note down points in their diary.
Situations in their life are also very difficult.
There are challenges.
But what have they started doing?
They have taken the knowledge, but it is not to be immediately believed upon.
It is to be taken and experimented with.
Never accept anything without experimenting and seeing whether it works or it doesn't work.
Suppose we take a simple point of wisdom
That in every situation we are responsible for our state of mind.
This is just one single point of knowledge.
We have seen that by taking just this one point of knowledge, so many souls
Have created several miracles in their lives.
And miracles means actual miracles.
Couples who were contemplating divorce are getting along so well with each other.
People who were in clinical depression
Some of the wanted to commit suicide
But in clinical depression for many years and taking medicines.
It was right to take medicines
But along with that they were unable to change their thoughts earlier.
They were just taking medicines continuously.
Now they have taken the spiritual wisdom, experimented with it and got results.
The moment we get result even once
The motivation to experiment for the second time increases.
We experimented for the second time and then third time. Gradually we realised that it works.
Once we say it works, then it should be our belief system.
Anger works was our belief system earlier.
Then we took a new belief system that anger has always caused harm.
It affected our state of mind, our situation, our health, our relationships
All the energies in it are turbulent.
Peace works. Love works. Now experiment.
Initially it seems difficult but we get results.
So when we keep using peace, gradually soul will change its belief.
You mentioned that we read so much on the internet and get information from many platforms.
Even if we take it, it is fine.
After taking we need to contemplate on it.
Apply your wisdom and experience to see whether it suits me or not.
Whether it is right not just outside
Is it right for the soul?
This is very important to check.
While checking we just see whether it is right for the body.
Whether it is right for our way of living.
We need to check whether it is right for soul power.
It is a beautiful line which reminded me of a point which we had heard in childhood.
Even a goldsmith cannot design jewels unless he mixes gold with other metals.
To survive in this world you need to practice mixturity and speak lies
You need to manipulate if you want to run a business.
And this point has reached such unimaginable heights.
If we look at that point.
When we listen to it, we say it works.
We have to do such things today. Just see what happens in government offices to get work done.
The file needs to move, so these things are inevitable. I need permission for my factory on that land...
We give so much logic to ourselves.
When we get such information we say it works and it is right.
And it is true but for what?
It is right only to get work done outside.
That information is right momentarily to get work done externally.
If we take this information and start using it as it is
Work will start getting done outside
But the Karma is wrong, so soul power will keep depleting.
Which means there is profit in the short term
But inside which is long term, there is a loss in energy.
So is it right for me?
Which means even when we do a checking, where should the checking happen?
Whether doing this is right for my soul power.
Not whether doing this is right for my business
Not whether doing this is right for my health
Because today we are eating and drinking a lot of things and saying that it is good for health.
It is not right for soul power
Then it will not give good results for the body in the long run.
A doctor told my son that without non vegetarian food, body cannot be healthy.
I argued a little but then I kept quiet.
Later he said he cannot give medicines without checking blood reports.
My son has turned into non vegetarian recently. His reports show that certain parameters are not right.
In my reports all the parameters were normal.
So my son questioned the doctor by comparing both the reports.
The doctor started giving long explanations.
We take information selectively isn't it.
We take selective information to fit into our comfort zone.
So that we don't have to take responsibility of the change.
We just say it was written somewhere, we read it somewhere.
Lack of personal responsibility.
Due to lack of self-responsibility, Kalyug s intensifying.
Souls are not ready to take personal responsibility.
You mentioned about responsibility of children.
How many parents today remain aware that
That my responsibility towards my children
Includes my vibration which radiate to them.
Are parents putting this on their responsibility list?
My wife took care when my son was to be born. She did Surya Namaskar everyday and did not watch a single movie for 9 months.
She said she did not want to watch even a single scene of violence.
Awareness and attention throughout life
That my responsibility towards my family is
My vibrations will nurture them.
Who is putting this on their responsibility list?
Last time I had confirmed from you that
At some point there was so much negativity within me, and my grandchild was sleeping with me at that time.
And as soon as he woke up, he said he was hurt inside.
When we get this proof
So today we will slightly modify our responsibility list.
That my first responsibility is to take care of this seed here.
The soul is the seed.
Because of the seed is not healthy, then the tree will have some problem somewhere.
When the seed is not healthy, our health will not be fine.
When the seed is not healthy, our relationships will have problems.
When the seed is not healthy, we find it difficult to face issues at work.
If the seed is not healthy, then our relationships, health, and work will all get disturbed.
So my first responsibility towards myself is
To take care of this seed.
It is from this seed that my tree of life gets created.
What is my responsibility towards my relationships?
When we look at our family or children
Let us today put this on our responsibility list
What is my responsibility towards my children?
To make them emotionally strong is the first responsibility.
What is my responsibility?
To make that seed strong.
If that seed in my children is strong, then their tree will automatically be beautiful.
We are just happy if the children learn A to Z or 1 to 100.
But emotional health
Because even for ourselves we paid attention only to the tree and not the seed.
So what do we start doing with children also?
We don't pay attention to the seed but try to take care of the tree.
Their studies, their meals, which is also important.
But without nurturing the seed
We are taking care of the tree.
How will it help>
Today even if we give the best food to the child
If we give organic food prepared by ourselves, in a clean environment, with lot of love
But if the soul is week and sensitive
That food will not give the desired benefits.
Because the soul is creating the body isn't it?
Because the biggest influence on our body is of the thoughts created by the soul.
We have seen so many times that every thought affects every cell of the body.
The energy of the soul
Creates an energy body.
From here the thoughts and vibrations are radiating to the body.
So energy body is created.
A body made of energy.
Just like we have this subtle energy body, there is a physical body that we have.
Any blockage in the mind will directly affect this energy body.
And that will there after affect the physical body.
Giving the best food, best exercises, swimming,
All this is very good.
But with that all aspects related to Physical body
Muscles and bones are strengthened
Feeding all the nutrients will take care of the physical body which is very good.
But we need to remember that even if we take accurate care of the physical body
But if the energy body which is inside
If that has pain, fear, anger or any such negative emotions
Which has been created because of this mind
Then the physical body can also not remain healthy for long.
Yes there can be pain in the joints or in the legs.
And that pain won't necessarily begin in old age. Even kids feel it.
Even in children, health will not be prominent.
Show let us take responsibility of the seed, not of the tree.
It is very important.
Let us take responsibility of the seed - our seed.
And nurture the seed in children.
Otherwise in today's generation of children
They have everything. They are intellectually powerful
Socially very powerful.
Physically all facilities.
Emotionally they are very vulnerable.
When the emotional seed is weak, what will it do to the entire tree?
Even in small challenges they will say my relationship is not good.
We don't want to live together anymore.
Slight increase in tasks and they say I feel depressed that I did not meet my targets at work.
Because parents focused on their marks
They focused on the best profession
But they did not focus on making the soul strong.
How was the soul supposed to become strong?
By the vibrations we radiate.
Show our biggest responsibility is to radiate right vibrations.
Our vibrations influence the vibrations of the people at home.
So the quality of my seed is affecting the quality of other seeds.
It has a huge influence.
The quality of me, the seed and when I go to my workplace
The other seeds present there
It will influence their vibrations also.
The quality of me the seed will influence the nature also.
The nature around me gets influenced by my vibration.
How can I not take this as my responsibility?
So important.
If we want to take responsibility of children and family
We just need to take care of one thing.
What is radiating from here throughout the day?
If we just remember this one thing
That what we are radiating is what they are absorbing.
And what they are absorbing is who they are becoming.
What we radiate is what we think, speak, and do.
They are absorbing.
We are doing one thing in front of them and another in their absence.
Thoughts have the highest influence.
When we meet people who think something and speak something else
We can make out in one second because what are we getting from them? Vibration.
So even if they are speaking sweetly we don't feel good.
If a child is slightly violent
And if we scream at the child not to behave that way
It is possible the violent vibrations in us are getting transferred to the child
It is getting transferred.
That soul has carried that sanskar
We also have that sanskar.
We become agitated at times.
And looking at their aggression we get more worried.
It is only adding to the negative energy.
I had not thought about it
We are trying to control their aggression using our aggression.
Yes because we say - Don't do this, don't say that...
We are using fire to extinguish fire, instead of using water.
It will not work. If you try to stop migration using aggression, it will only increase.
Aggression can be stopped only by using peace and love.
And most importantly we should not repeatedly tell the child
Why do you get so angry? Don't get angry. Why are you so angry?...
What are we doing to the Sanskar of anger?
You should not get so angry. Look at other children, they don't get angry like you.
Look at them, they don't get angry. Only you get angry always.
What are we focusing on, throughout the day?
We need to make one shift. You are such a pure soul.
You completed this task so well.
Just ignore their sanskar of anger as if it is not there.
Actually if you pay attention to their anger, they feel that they can get more attention and that they can get things done using anger.
But if we ignore their anger 10 times, they will feel it is no use getting angry.
We need to bring them on the right path, but with the right energy.
Let us not scold them about their anger.
We need to do it by focusing on their sanskars of purity, love and peace
We need to bring that file to the front.
It's only a shift
And it is not only just for children but for all of us.
This is also our responsibility.
Our responsibility at our workplace and at home
Is not just to get work done by people.
Empowering other souls is our responsibility.
Nurturing other souls is our responsibility.
Even the staff at your home get nurtured by your vibration.
I have a nature that the staff at home
I help them grow and learn new things.
Which means you are focused on their growth.
One type of focus is on their outer growth
Which is very beautiful because they are getting a chance to grow.
But another focus is very subtle and which is going on throughout the day.
Which is the effect of your vibrations on their vibrations.
When I think about their growth
I helped one of them rise from being a waiter to be a secretary to my son.
You created that intention and helped him grow.
And you got the result.
One is the vibration you create towards them.
And the other is your overall vibration.
You can see practically that the more you get empowered
The more you the soul become powerful
The power and vibration of people around you will also accordingly change.
Can you please repeat this?
One is that you created a beautiful thought and intention about that staff member that he should grow.
So that was a specific thought about him.
You had a specific intention and took him in the direction.
So that is your intention towards his outer growth.
And you got the result.
And the other is a growth which happens automatically, even without we creating a specific intention.
And that is because of our vibration
You mentioned the other day that your grandchild got your vibration.
So whatever are our thoughts and vibrations
They will influence the people around us throughout the day.
So the more empowered we remain
The more I the soul feel empowered
The stronger I become spiritually
The pure my vibration becomes
It will influence the vibration of the people around me.
Because energy flows from higher source to a lower source.
So however powerful you are. And even if your negatively powerful
Then even your negative energy will flow to them
Sometime back you had explained a beautiful line
What was the exact line?
Where attention goes, energy flows.
Where energy flows, things will grow.
Which means wherever we have our attention
All our energy will flow to wherever we are focusing.
And where we focus, things will grow there.
Energy keeps increasing.
So we need to remember that our vibrations nurture the people around us.
Can I keep my attention on the soul qualities?
I am love, I am peace, I am knowledge, I am power.
Now if there is a situation where someone said something or if there is a crisis
Earlier we would go back to old thinking patterns
Why did this happen? What happens next? Getting angry was obvious.
Now this thought is needed that I am peace, I am power, I am purity.
If I am peace then there is no possibility of getting angry.
If I am peace, then I had to become peaceful.
The situation was very challenging, but I am peace.
Can you see? If I say the situation was such that I had to obviously get angry
So where attention goes, energy will flow.
And that thing will grow which means the Sanskar of anger will grow.
But if I say although the situation was big, I am peace.
Someone had shared a beautiful line in a satsang
He said I said only love in my shop.
So what am I?
That no matter what situation comes, if we remember just this one line today
I am peace, I am power, I am love.
Which means I have taken responsibility
I become powerful and peaceful
I am powerful and peaceful
And now I face the situation in a powerful and peaceful way.
I don't need to become. I AM.
So what happens is that I the soul, overpower my situation.
I have taken responsibility.
When I the soul, overpower the situation
It means I have taken responsibility of the soul
And because I have overpowered the situation, I have taken responsibility of the situation also.
That it will be fine and I will set it right.
We need to first be stable inside and then take care of everything outside.
If we have to inspire a child to change
We need to first be right
And then we need to take the responsibility to inspire them, to empower themselves.
Energy should go in the right direction - from the seed to the rest of the tree.
Then it will always work.
Thank you so much, Sister.
Om Shanti.
Om Shanti. Thank you.
