Hello everyone,
this is me Jenna
Ryan with SelfLoveU.
Thank you so much for
joining us again today.
Today I want to talk to you
a little bit about self-care.
Self-care,
things we need to
do for ourselves.
The first aspect of self-care
is going to be nutrition,
physical body.
Taking care of the food that
we put into our bodies
exercising and you
know also health care,
taking care of our health.
One of the things
that I neglected,
one of the many millions
of things I neglected
along the way on
my healing journey
was my health.
Umm, I didn't go to
the doctor enough
I didn't you know,
take care of certain things
I ended up having a
heart attack last year.
Umm, and I didn't even
you know take care
of my body properly.
And although I did work out
and I exercised
and I made sure
"I looked okay"
I wasn't taking care of
the inside of my body.
So, this whole past year
has been a real
awakening for me.
I also realized
during my recovery
that I wasn't
eating properly.
That my therapist was like,
so, so, what are you eating?
And I was like nothing.
And at the moment,
I wasn't fat or anything,
but I realized that
I had been starving myself.
And so, that started
me on my process.
She's like, well,
go get food.
And she said you can go get
those little Fit
Foods in a package
or you know,
from the prepared food place.
At first when she said
it, I was like no.
I'm not going to worry
about nutrition
you know, because it just
slipped in my mind.
It completely was
out of my mind
and,
and then I did it
and I started eating well
and it was really awesome.
And I started going
to that My Fit Foods
and I got more breakfast
lunch and dinner
and I started feeding myself.
And I started healing
because I started
feeding myself food.
And so, since that time
I had a heart attack and then
started eating even
better than ever.
And started cooking
for myself every day
and making smoothies
and working out,
and doing all kinds of
great things for my body.
As I have taken
these little steps,
even though it wasn't
easy in the beginning,
I began to heal
from the inside out
or from the outside in.
So, it's a mirror.
What you manifest
on the outside
is a mirror of what's
going on, on the inside.
If you love yourself,
you're going to take
care of yourself
and that includes
your diet and
your exercise and
your healthcare.
Now, I know that there
are some blocks
to taking care of yourself
and some of that has to do
with just mental health
if you've gone
through trauma.
Sometimes it's hard to even
do anything for yourself.
But when you are on
your healing journey
just remember to
start taking care of
the little things
with your body
one step at a time.
Even if it's just to
make yourself breakfast.
Just one step at
a time, okay.
And then, the second thing
I want to talk about is
getting counseling.
You wanted... That's
part of self-care,
getting counseling.
There shouldn't be a
stigma against counseling.
There's no harm,
no foul for going
to a counselor
to getting help
with your issues.
To getting help with
places where you need
some extra help,
nobody can heal alone.
There's a lot of
generational stuff
that has come down
through the generations
from all of our families
because of the way they
handled children in the past
that all of us are
going to have.
Everybody, I
haven't really met
anyone that doesn't
need counseling.
Unless they're a massive,
they are massive narcissists
who thinks they
know everything
and they're happy and
they don't feel anything.
So, forget those people
I'm not talking about them.
I am talking about
normal people
you and me who need help.
Male or female,
we all need help
and so you need a
good therapist,
you need to pick someone that
you feel comfortable with
that has experience
in the areas
that you particularly
hurt in.
Like, if you're suffering
from narcissistic abuse
you need a therapist who
understands narcissism,
who knows about no contact
and who knows about
gaslighting and knows about
the things narcissists do.
If you've gone through
childhood trauma,
then you need a therapist
who understands
childhood trauma.
If you've had sexual abuse,
you need a therapist who
specializes in sexual abuse.
You need to get someone who
specializes in your issue.
But, you need to get
some counseling,
you need to get
some assistance.
If you cannot afford it then,
you need to do
whatever you can.
I would literally
get a second job
in order to go to counseling,
it's that important.
And you cannot heal all
the way without it.
For many reasons,
I'll do another
video on that.
If you are in a remote place
where you don't have
access to counselors
you know if you're
somewhere in the world
where you don't have
access to counselors.
Then Skype is a great
way to get a therapist.
And I personally, I'm working
with a therapist on Skype
and it's working great
surprised me, but it works
wonderfully well, okay.
And then, another way
that we need to take
care of ourselves
and this is where I'm
really going to focus on
for the video,
is we need to take care
of ourselves emotionally.
We need to take care of
ourselves emotionally.
So, doing all the
work involved in
therapy and recovery and
healing from whatever
childhood wounding
occurred to us,
whatever kind of shaming,
whatever kind of toxic shame
came into our lives.
We also need to take care
of ourselves, our minds,
we need to take care
of our self-talk,
how we talk to ourselves,
what we're saying
to ourselves
and we need to make
sure that we heal
from the wounds
that were inflicted
upon us in childhood
as well as what is
happening to us right now.
We need to care for
how we live our lives.
Which means we do not allow
our inner child, ourselves
to be bamboozled,
to be ran over by others.
We don't allow ourselves
to be abused.
We don't cut ourselves.
We don't over feed ourselves.
We don't drink too much.
We don't do things
that are destructive
to our bodies.
We need to take
care of ourselves.
We do things that
are constructive
that are building
ourselves up
instead of tearing
ourselves down.
And the only way you
can do this is by
one day at a time
going through the
healing journey.
Going through the
healing process
because before you finish,
before you get healed,
you don't feel like doing
anything for yourself
I know that feeling.
I know the feeling
very, very well,
where you don't want to
do anything for yourself
because you just
don't feel like it.
You don't know why,
you don't care, you
just want to watch TV
and drink a beer or whatever.
Umm,
I understand that feeling.
But, once you begin
to get free,
once you start doing
some emotional work
and counseling
and eating right
and making yourself
put one foot in
front of the other
and going for a walk.
And doing things
and making friends
and protecting yourself
from people who are
abusive towards you
and who are out to
exploit you and use you.
Then you will begin to
get stronger and stronger
and you'll begin to want to
take care of yourself
a little more
and a little more.
So, as you get healed...
This is what's
happening with me.
So, as I've been
getting healing,
I'll get healing
and then I'll
take care of myself
a little more
and then I take care of
myself a little more
it gives me a little
more self-esteem
so, I'll take care of
myself a little more.
Then I'll take care of myself
a little more and
a little more.
And as I go back and do
the core shame work,
which I'm going to
talk about that
pretty soon in a video,
toxic shame, core shame work.
Once, every time I go
back and do some of that.
I obviously have a lot
because I've done this before
but I'm back doing it again.
Every time I do
that I get freedom.
I get an immense
sense of freedom
and an understanding
of my beauty
and my work and my value.
And there is nothing
like that in the world.
Whenever you do your
core shame work
and begin to work on yourself
and begin to find out
the truth about yourself.
There's nothing like
the freedom of knowing
who you truly are,
and knowing what
you truly deserve.
And that causes you to
take even more steps
to take care of yourself.
To take care of
your nutrition,
to read books that
are valuable.
To let yourself laugh
to connect with
your inner child,
to make wonderful friends,
to get rid of friends
that are harmful to you.
To protect yourself,
to listen to your heart,
to set boundaries,
to break up with people
that are bad for you,
to shut the door to
past relationships
that don't work,
those kinds of things.
As you begin to do
the core shame work.
As you begin to take
care of yourself.
As you get counseling
and stuff like that.
Then you will begin
to really feel amazing
and then you will
be able to take
better care of yourself
and you will soar like
a beautiful phoenix
in the sky.
And I wish everybody luck.
Thank you all so
much for sending me
all these wonderful emails.
I read them love them.
Whenever I get an email
from one of you that says,
you know,
your story. And
then you come to me
and tell me the things that
I know I've said
online on my channel,
it blows me away
and it makes me
feel amazing that
you guys are really using
this stuff to heal.
Because Lord knows,
it did not come easy, ahh!
Anyway, but I do
love your emails.
If you come to my fan
page on SelfLoveU,
just go SelfLoveU on Facebook
you can send me
an email there,
I get those.
You can leave me a comment.
You can ask for
my email address
I will give that to you
would love to hear
from you guys.
I don't charge a thing,
I'm not doing this
to become famous.
I'm not doing this
for any money.
I'm just doing this
to share my journey
and it really feels
good to share it,
and it really feels
good to know that
someone can use it.
And so, that's
why I'm doing it
and maybe someday
I'll sell a book
or something.
But anyway, thank
you so much.
You guys thank you so
much for everything
and good luck in your journey
take care of yourselves.
I'm Jenna Ryan SelfLoveU,
talk to you soon.
