Good morning.
I'm Dr. Gregg A. Pizzi
Dr. Gregg A. Pizzi, a psychologist relationship therapist and board certified sex
therapist.
Welcome to PizziPSYC
Today is Thursday, August 27th, 2020 at 9:32 EDT
This is my tenth livestream which occurs on Tuesdays and Thursday
morning around 9:30 a.m.
Sometime in the morning and I do appreciate your participation and
attendance today.
We will be talking about why everything is your fault why everything
that happens to you is your fault and we're going to talk about that
today.
I'm sure you have a lot of questions about that.
That doesn't really sound very kosher or very very nice to a lot of
people.
However, I'm going to explain to you why looking at life as if
everything that happens to you.
Is your fault is the key to peace happiness success both in your
personal life your professional life and your relationship why
everything that happens is your fault coming up next Then followed by
my relationship tip and free gift which I'll explain to you guys in a
little bit.
I'm giving you something away that I find very helpful for those who
are in a relationship and I'll explain that when we get there followed
by our gratitude moment and affirmation as a way of ending our episode
on a positive note, which I like to try to do every time we meet
together, please like and follow my channel  PizziPSYC  and also on
YouTube by the same name, I appreciate all of your support, please
like and comment below if you have any questions and I will be asking
you to participate in the conversation.
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the feeling of Love is the highest frequency that you can emit.
Did you know that?
The feeling of Love is the highest frequency that we can omit this
vibration the greater the love you feel and transmit the greater the
power your harness.
Love is truly the way to anything that you want.
Now is it selfish to want anything that you want depends on your
version or definition of selfish?
I truly believe that as human beings.
We are charged with the responsibility of focusing on ourselves.
If each of us focuses on ourselves and What Makes Us tick what makes
us well taken care of our physical and emotional well-being at all
times.
Then we are better able to be there for others when they need us, but
people often have it the other way around try to do everything for
everyone around them and people-pleasing and get lost with regard to
who they are.
So that's why focusing on yourself and how you feel is the most
powerful thing.
You can do you heard on the airplane every time you you know are
getting ready to take off.
What does the flight attendants say?
What does the flight attendant tell you this is a great example put
your own mask on first in case of an emergency put on your own oxygen
mask first before assisting others.
Okay, some of the great thinkers of the past refer to the Law of
Attraction as the law of love.
If you think about it, you'll understand why if you think unkind
thoughts about somebody else you're going to experience those unkind
thoughts manifested for yourself when we wish ill upon someone else or
when we think something critical about somebody else.
We are the one that ends up feeling bad.
Not them.
So
When we focus on love giving love thinking love and feeling love we're
helping ourselves and we're helping those around us by putting us into
a better place.
You cannot harm another person with your thoughts.
You only harm you.
So if your predominant State of Mind Is Love the law of attraction or
the law of Love responds with the mightiest Force because you're on
the highest frequency possible.
The greater the love you feeling admit the greater the power you are
harnessing.
Unto our main topic of the day everything that happens to you is your
fault.
Now I'm going to put my polling question up in that is.
What's your tendency when good things happen to you?
What do you tend to do?
What's your response when good things happen to you in your life and
the answers are do you tend to take responsibility and give yourself
credit for the good things that happen or do you blame outside in
circumstances cell while I was lucky that's because I had a lot of
help or do you tend to kind of you know phone gnats or neither?
So, you know, please answer the questions in the comments below then
I'll move on to my next question.
So coming back to this idea that everything happens is our own fault.
You have the power to change anything.
Because you are the one who chooses your thoughts and you are the one
who feels your feelings.
The moments that we experience the feelings that we have in the
thoughts that we carry in our mine are completely under our control.
When we take on the idea that everything that happens to us as our
fault, it might sound negative or it might at first sound a little
self-defeating or even depressing but when you go deeper into it and
you listen to what I'm talkin about here what I'm saying?
Is that not only do we have the accountability and ability to change
what's going on from one moment to the next so that if something
happens to us, that's good.
We did it we brought it to us through our thoughts and our actions by
putting ourselves in that position.
Does that mean that when something sucky happens that it's also our
fault I think so.
Yeah now is that going to depress me or is that going to get me down
and blame myself and feel like crap for the rest of my life because I
brought something painful or negative to me know in fact, it's quite
the opposite.
By blaming myself for everything that goes on around me.
It gives me the realization in the freedom to know that that means
that I can change it if there's anything in my life that I don't like
whatever it is.
It's a situation with my physical how my neighbor's maybe I don't like
my neighbors which is not the case here, but no just as a hypothetical
example if I'm not happy with my job.
I'm not a victim of circumstance.
I can change things.
I can change the way I perceive things.
I can change the way I respond to things.
I can simply just change my surroundings and I can also change the way
I process it inside.
So by saying I have the complete faults or that it's my fault what
happened to me?
I'm taking ownership and creating my life.
Charles haanel said he lived from 1855 to 1949.
Charles haanel said remember and this is one of the most difficult as
well as most wonderful statements to Grass.
Remember that no matter what the difficulty is no matter where it is.
No matter who is the detective you have no patient, but yourself.
You have nothing to do but convince yourself of the truth, which you
desire to see manifested.
I think that's so beautiful and Powerful.
That no matter what's going on around us are only problem that we need
to focus on his bus.
Whatever it is.
Whatever outcome we want to see it's our doing to create that nobody
else has.
So I think that's so beautiful and I'm looking forward to your answers
to the questions that I have in the pole.
Good morning, Lena.
Good morning.
Do you tend to blame yourself when good things go on in your life or
do you tend to blame outside of circumstances?
Most people tend to know God?
Let me see if I can get this right?
I haven't heard this in a while but
In graduate school for psychology as part of social psychology.
We learned that people have a tendency to there's external locus of
control and there's internal locus of control.
I think people tend to underestimate
Their own doing when it comes to negative circumstances and they
overestimate their own doing their part of it when something good that
happened.
So I think that it's people have a tendency to blame some external
circumstances when things go wrong on the weather or all my car broke
down.
Oh, well, I didn't have a good day at work today because I have this
annoying co-worker in the cube next to me that will you know wouldn't
stop, you know, yapping on the phone or she was texting all day long.
So it was distracting but then when things that happen are good when
things go well as human beings, we have a tendency to over blame
ourselves.
So in that case, okay now it's not the surroundings now, it's me.
Okay.
Oh, you did so great on that project.
Oh, yeah.
I know I'm just so good at this.
So I'm so gifted as opposed to oh, well, maybe you know, maybe you had
a lot of extra help or maybe it was something about your surrounding.
So, you know, my semen beans we have a tendency to focus where we find
it most convenient, but in the end we can choose where we focus.
Our attention do you tend to blame others or external events for
things going well, or do you tend to blame yourself?
Next question?
What's your tendency when bad things happen to you?
What do you tend to do when bad things happen to you?
You tend to blame yourself or you try to figure out what happened
outside of yourself to cause what you know, that may have caused what
happened?
Okay, so in finalizing this issue of taking blame, we are each
creating our lives through our thoughts and feelings.
So you cannot hold yourself responsible for someone else's happiness.
It's impossible for you to be responsible for anybody else other than
yourself because you cannot jump inside someone else and think and
feel for them focused on your joy and be an inspiration to everyone
around you.
All Rights
L, good morning.
Again.
Thank you for your participation you tends to
blame yourself
You blame yourself if something goes right or you blame yourself if
something goes wrong.
I don't think I saw the specific question come up, but you know,
that's always something that we kind of do is if we change depending
on the circumstance.
But I look forward to everybody sharing in there.
Oh, okay.
So you blame yourself as something goes wrong?
All right.
I think a lot of people do that.
We have that tendency, but we also have to blame myself when things go
great.
We have to remember that.
We're attracting what happens to us and around us all the time.
We attract through our words we attract through our Focus will be
attracted the things we say to people we attract our own reality and
create it day in and day out whether we know it or not most of its
unconscious.
So what I'm trying to help you guys do is to become aware and
conscious of the things that you're doing to create your own
situations good and bad even though I don't really believe in good or
bad but he's a pleasant and unpleasant world creating it every moment.
So focused on it on it and make it go the way you want it to go.
moving on to the Daily relationship and sex tip
This is taken from the daily teachings of the secret which is about
the law of attraction.
When you do not treat yourself the same way you expect others to treat
you you can never change the way things are.
When you do not treat yourself the same way you expect others to treat
you you can never change the way things are.
So for your free gift, which I'm offering you guys is my relationship
report card to evaluate the health of your current relationship.
Send me a message by going to my website, which is at www.pgsouth.com.
If you go to my website and scroll to the bottom, there's a blue
button that says message us send me your email and they are and I'll
send you my free relationship report card.
And then when you send me back your answers, I'll scored for you and
give you my feedback.
That's my gift to you in appreciation for your support.
Our gratitude moment for the day.
I'm grateful for the ability to choose my experiences from one moment
to the next throughout the day.
Through the power of my thoughts and improving my selective attention
skills.
I get to control what happens for me.
For this I am grateful and I appreciate my own ability to choose and
create my reality day today.
on our next episode
we're going to talk about how to be a better person after cheating.
how to become a better person but better partner a better spouse a
better boyfriend or girlfriend after cheating
We're all human and despite our efforts to do as best we can in life
which I do believe we all are giving it our best shot on this planet.
Things happen, we make mistakes.
We hurt people without meaning to so we're going to talk about Second
Chances not second chances.
I don't even like that term either but always improving ourselves
always
being better
always trying to
You know become a better person a better partner a better family
member we're going to talk about how you can do that how to improve
how to become a better person after cheating that's on next time now
moving on and getting to the end of our session are affirmation for
the day.
This is a affirmation tip a guidance that I'd like you to think about
as a way that you can create intentionally the type of day that you
want to be happen.
Every night before you go to sleep give sincere.
Thanks for the day.
Then intend your next day to be joyous effortless and wonderful.
Then on waking in the morning confirm your intention that your day is
going to be magnificent.
As you are creating every one of your days if you don't intend your
day in advance, then you're handing it over to the whims and the
energies of mass consciousness.
Don't put your day in the hands of others create your own magnificent
day.
Thank you for your support.
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I'm Dr. Gregg A. Pizzi
Dr. Gregg A. Pizzi
I am a psychologist relationship therapist and board certified sex
therapist based in Miami, Florida.
I appreciate your support and wish you a wonderful day.
Thank you everybody.
