how do you know if you're improving
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development you're into improving
yourself you want to be the best version
of yourself that's too vague that's part
of the problem with trying to improve
yourself to develop yourself and not
really knowing if it's working because
that idea of just improving yourself is
not clear enough not specific enough so
what happens when you start to chunk
this down and get very specific about
where in your life do you want to
improve so being the best version of
yourself okay where in your life do you
want to be a better version or what
would the best version of you look like
and sound like now you can go with that
there's the swish pattern' which is very
effective and uses that concept of using
an image of the ideal you and that could
be very helpful but when you're really
getting down to how do I know that I'm
improving how do I measure this you have
to get specific about where in your life
you want to improve and the areas of you
that you want to improve you you have to
get you have to hone in on that and
chunk that down so it might be your
career so what would be being the best
version of yourself in your career and
what would improvement look like what
would it sound like what would you be
doing differently if I were to watch
that movie of you improving in your
career what would I see what would I
hear this is where you start to get very
specific and when I say specific I'm
talking about connecting with sensory
based experience until you do that it's
very very conceptual and if it's really
conceptual and unclear it's really hard
to measure and it's really hard to know
if you're actually improving once you
can be more specific about the different
areas where you want to improve and I'm
not saying at all that you need to only
have one you can have three four or five
areas of your life where you want to
improve you just need to get more
specific and chunk that down and see it
and hear it like what is the sensory
based experience not just a conceptual I
want to be better or what does better
actually look like so once you have this
specific stone and you know where in
your life you want to improve you know
what that looks like you know what that
sounds like you need to reach down deep
into your unconscious and find out
what's motivating this what is your why
that's a common way of phrasing it what
is your big why to me it's values its
what are your values and for most of us
for most of us this is deeply
unconscious what's really motivating us
a lot of times is very very unconscious
so you want to go in there and ask
yourself with each one of these what's
important to me about improving in this
area or doing this or doing that what's
important to me about this and what is
it what is this going to do for me and
you just keep asking these questions and
you go deeper and deeper and deeper and
then you go to the you would lead you to
these really high level values like
happiness peace joy passion creativity
and when you start doing that and you
start connecting these high level values
of yours to the area of your life to the
activity to what you see in your mind to
what you hear in your mind this just
loads this with so much meaning for you
and it will also get you motivated
you'll want to move in this direction
because it's exciting the idea of
fulfilling your values living your
values this is what pure motivation is
about and once you have a visual and the
auditory and the kinesthetic attached to
all this meaning look out this is when
things start to get really interesting
your life starts to improve rapidly the
next thing you need to do is have a way
to measure your progress if you're not
clear about that if you say well I don't
know how to measure my progress and what
it is that I want or where I want to
improve then you're not very clear about
what you want to improve go back to step
one which is getting clear and getting
specific about what it is that you want
it should be very clear at this at this
stage stage three which is being able to
measure your results so let's say you
want to be the best version of yourself
and the best version of yourself is
someone who is physically healthy well
if you just say something like well I
want to eat better I want to eat
healthier again that's way too vague
what does that actually mean what are
you actually going to eat how many meals
a day are you going to eat or are you
going to track calories what kind of
foods will you be eating that maybe you
weren't you're not eating now
so getting very specific about that it
down to like what how much what do you
want to lose what do you want your blood
pressure to be out what do you want your
cholesterol to be had these are the type
of specifics that I'm talking about when
you're this specific it's easy to
measure you go get your cholesterol your
your your blood sugar your blood
pressure test and see where you're at
right now
talk to your doctor where where it would
be what would be a healthy levels and
all three of these for you between where
you are now and where you want to be
that's how you measure the progress very
very simple if it's weight you weigh
yourself on the scale today you know how
much weight you want to lose and then
you know if I'm weighing yourself daily
or almost daily how to measure your
progress so again with the measuring
your progress and this is essential you
need to have a way to measure your
progress otherwise you don't know if
you're improving like I said being very
specific will make measuring your
progress very very easy and again if you
if you're not sure how to measure the
progress you're not clear enough go back
to step one last but not least is when
do you want this so you want to set sort
of a deadline sort of a timeframe you
got to be careful with this one because
you can if you if you try to squeeze
something in
that is really not going to happen like
it'sit's you would all have to overwhelm
yourself push yourself too hard or
you're not really aware of what it takes
to get the kind of kind of improvement
that you want this can take longer and
then when you initially set out to and
it can feel discouraging if you don't do
it in the time that you set so you want
to set a realistic timeframe and you
also want to have give yourself some
room to breathe on this one if you're if
you're trying to improve in a way that
you've never improved before you're
doing something completely new you're
gonna have to give yourself some room to
breathe on this because it could take
longer and you don't want to discourage
yourself so be realistic about this one
but you want to have some sort of
timeframe some sort of deadline because
otherwise there's no urgency and you're
not likely to do it
so set a timeframe of when you want this
and the other piece that most people
miss on this one is think of an exit
plan and you might be taking an exit
plan why would I want to exit improving
myself and the reason for this is how
long do you want to keep this up
in this area so there's all these
different ways in which you can improve
yourself and all these areas in your
life where that you want to improve if
you only stick to one two or three
you're kind of neglecting other parts of
your life you're neglecting other parts
of you so you want to get you want to
have an idea of how much you want to
improve in a certain area and then know
exactly where that is so maybe it's lose
the twenty pounds well if you lose
twenty pounds and that puts you right at
the weight you want to be and what your
doctor says is healthy you don't want to
keep losing weight you need to stop you
need to exit that plan exit that
strategy and move into a maintenance
plan then the plan then becomes how do I
maintain my weight not how do I lose
more weight so what happens for a lot of
people is they lose they lose the weight
they don't have an exit plan they don't
have a strategy now they know they don't
want to lose any more weight so they
they just kind of let go of a plan they
end up gaining all the way back because
they don't have a plan they don't have a
strategy they just know that they need
to stop losing weight so that's a good
example of exiting
okay I need to stop losing weight
maintenance how do I maintain this
weight how much do I need to eat what do
I need to eat how much do I need to
exercise to just maintain this so the
same goes for every other every area of
your life where you want to improve know
how good you want to get or how much you
want to improve that area and then say
okay at this point I exit and I go into
a maintenance plan at this point I exit
and then I go to this other area of my
life that I need to improve and then go
work on that so have it so know when you
want the improvement you would know when
you want to be how good it is you want
to be or how much you want how much
improved you want to be and then exit
and switch to maintenance plan or go to
another area of your life have something
that there is a have an end point at
some point and then know what you want
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