What Are Some Interesting Questions To Ask
On A 1st Date?
So... got any life regrets?.
my barber, the first time I ever visited him.
Remind me not to take any dating advice from
reddit.
Every first date I’ve had that’s gone
well, I didn’t have to have a prompt of
questions.
Conversation just flowed naturally.
As someone on the spectrum, it’s incredibly
rare for that to happen.
But, as a safety measure, never hurts to ask
about jobs, pets, where they grew up, social
security numbers, dates of birth...(might
want to just stick with the first three, actually).
Ask them what their phone background is, it's
a good way to find out what's important to
them.
Absolutely swear by it.. "what's your favorite
dinosaur?"
shatters the ice with someone that has a sense
of humor.
If it doesn't the person has a chip on their
shoulder and cautious with the advance.
May be a trap.
Do you prefer 5e Fighters to optimize a heavy
weapon, Strength build or a lighter weapon
Dexterity build?
Do you see Charisma as a dump stat or do you
find it useful for social skill challenges?.
More important than having interesting questions
pre-loaded is just asking follow up questions
to things they talk about and showing curiosity
in everyday aspects of their life.
With the "ice breaker" questions being thrown
out in this thread, I think they can be fun
if it's clear you realize you're being kind
of silly by asking them.
But very earnestly asking a date some random
ice breaker question can give off an interview
vibe.
Hypothetically if you accidentally killed
a previous tinder date and had to get rid
of the body, how would you do it?.
What is the airspeed velocity of an unladen
swallow?.
"What's your favorite quote?"
Answers range from an inspirational mantra,
some kinda pop culture reference, a line from
an obscure song, and on and on.
Can tell you a lot about a person by how they
respond.
A good one when you're a couple months into
a relationship.
What's your name?
Ask them what their body count is, if it's
above five, say.
wow, How'd you get away with that?
If you could travel anywhere and to any time
just to witness/experience one event, what
would it be?
It's a cool ice breaker to use in general,
not just on dates but also in group settings.
What’s your passions?
If someone asked me this, I’d end up talking
about things I like, and if I’m talking
about things I like, I’d likely have a positive
association with the company who took interest.
Plus it lets you know whether they geek out
over things you find interesting, intriguing,
or downright horrifying.
These are normal, but important questions.
Ask the most important things now so you don’t
find out later.
-Ask about religion.
If it is religion that is not yours or you’re
not religious, then it won’t work well.
-Ask about their family and what they are
like (and then talk about yours if you can).
-Ask about their point of view on controversial
topics (BLM, LGBTQ+, Liberal v/s Conservative,
Guns, etc).
These things coming up later can instantly
end a relationship.
If I remove the duct tape, are you going to
scream?
I always ask some cool hypotheticals.
‘If you had 3 wishes what would they be’
‘if you were in the Percy Jackson series
which Greek gods would be your parents’
stuff like this lets me know a lot about you
while still being fun.
Lord of the rings or star wars?
Are you into people nerding out about their
passions such as gaming, music, dance or stamps?
So where do my cats sit?
What do you think about shrek?
This is a make or break question and is the
first question you should ask on every first
date.
I like the following two a lot.
What's the best compliment you've ever gotten?
Or
What characteristic do you appreciate most
about yourself?
Both questions are very positive, can trigger
a fun memory/story and you get to learn what
values the other might have.
Who is your first Brooklyn 99 character.
That way you know not to have a second date
if they say "I don't watch it" or, god forbid,
"what's that?".
What is the best siege weapon?
Whats your idea of the perfect crime?
Is there something that you look up, or check
regularly?
If it turns out we're living in a simulation,
would you be surprised?
Bonus: Any of the questions from the Bladerunner
'Voight Kampff' test.
What's in your fridge at home right now?
What colour fedora would you like for the
wedding?
Whisper "Tickle your ass with a feather?"
If they're into it, you're getting lucky tonight.
If not, they'll look shocked and ask "What
did you say?"
You reply "I said 'terribly nasty weather.'
Just trying to make some small talk.
It's been a long time since I've been on a
first date."
No harm done, and now they feel a bit silly
for thinking you suggested the feather thing.
Also, they might start to think about the
feather, so you might still have a shot.
What is your favorite part of your house/apartment.
This is not a typical question, so they won't
have a prepared response ready.
And their answer says a lot about potential
compatibility.
Do you play video games?
If they do not play at least 14 hours a week
they are future/ current serial killers that
you must avoid at all costs.
It's called the FORD method.
Family Occupation Recreation Dreams.
After that if you can't have a conversation
it might not be going well.
What color’s your toothbrush?
Mines red.
Are you a reptilian shapeshifter too?
You ever notice how elbows look like tiny
knees?
Do you like bread?
I like to ask what their favorite movie is
and why it is their favorite movie.
Hey, are you flexible?
No, not like easy going; I mean bendy.
"Tell me about your childhood?
Did you grow up with both parents?"
100% guaranteed therapy session + you get
to deduce whether there is childhood trauma
that might creep up should you consider anything
longterm.
It also has a way to segue the conversation
into so many different directions, etc.
It's a gold nugget.
I’ve always been a fan of “if you’re
stranded on a island and can only take 3 things
what would they be?”
It’s open ended enough to tangent into other
convos and can really tell you a lot about
a person.
It can also help show red flags before hand
- asked a guy I was on a date with this and
all he could think of was his hockey stick-
that was it.
No other things and no deeper meaning other
than he likes hockey.
He ended up being very boring with basically
zero personality (he was SUPER attractive
though) and that was the first red flag of
several.
We went on about 4 dates before I was done.
I think the most important thing is to ask
open questions, let the person speak and the
thing will flow naturally.
When you’re on a long road trip and you
stop for gas, what snacks do you run in and
grab and why?
Typically leads to a harmless but fun discussion.
If necessary, how would you dispose of a body?
Here's one i routinely use when the convo
eventually hits a dry spot.
Tell them you'll play a minigame with them;
give them a choice between two objects and
they have to pick the one they prefer.
Examples like coffee vs tea, hiking vs beach,
winter vs summer, dc vs marvel, star trek
vs star wars, that kind of stuff.
The trick is to ask "why" with their choices,
and you inevitably have your own opinions.
Great ways to get a convo going.
What is your LEAST favorite “anything”?
I usually ask about least favorite foods because
I like food and it gives more opportunity
for conversation.
Honestly just ask questions about them.
Job, interests, family.
And just see where it goes you can’t force
a spark.
If the conversation dont take off and flow
naturally then y’all probably ain’t compatible.
What's your mother's maiden name?
What is the name of your first pet?
What street did you grow up on?
Do you want to play Dungeons & Dragons together?
I always use this to break the ice.
What's your credit card number, the three
digits on the back, and the expiration month
and year?
What are you most proud of?
What's the last thing that made you really
happy?
Back in the day I would ask "what's your favorite
children's song" but now that I have a kid
they assume that I'm asking them to groom
them for mommy duties.
I just know that everyone has favorite kid's
music and it's a lot easier to identify than
"what's your favorite band".
I once asked; "if you could be the owner of
a company without limits, what would it be".
Its a great way to find out what they love,
but also figure out the way your date thinks
about something.
"If you were a gelato or ice cream, what flavour
would you be?"
Are you already in a relationship?
Married?
Jk.
Something interesting to ask about is if they
like roller coasters.
Disneyland, anyone?
