- All right, so there's really no easy way
for me to say this, and
I know this is going
to offend some people, but I want you
to look past just the initial response
you may get from this and
actually have a peek at this.
And all I really wanna
say, and the whole purpose
of this video is to just cast some light
on this idea of self-care,
self-love bullshit
that I am seeing so much of.
Now that is not to say
that self-care, self-love,
spending some time on
yourself and giving some love
to yourself is a bad thing.
It's necessary.
It's important, 100%, for
sure, no question about it.
But, I don't have the
exact statistic for this,
but a trend I've been
seeing a lot of my clients,
a lot of the coaches
inside the communities,
a lot of the people inside
the online coach community,
that's like a community of 5000 people,
and I see this trend
of, instead of calling
it procrastination, and just seeing it,
and looking at it for what it is,
"Hey, I'm gonna procrastinate,
"so I'm gonna do some self-care.
"I need some time.
"I need a day.
"I need a week.
"I need a weekend," is insane.
And there's a massive difference
between actual self-care,
like taking care of yourself,
and self-care, procrastination,
putting something off,
not feeling like doing it,
not wanting to do the work.
And it's a never-ending cycle.
I've had clients, and it breaks my heart,
but they have so much potential.
And it's like every
time it gets difficult,
every time it gets tough,
every time there's resistance,
instead of seeing it for what it is.
It's a workout.
It's resistance.
It's getting stronger.
It's building the muscle, the fortitude,
the strength, the
commitment, the dedication.
Instead of seeing it as that.
They see it as, "Oh,
something's not in alignment.
"This is too hard.
"It shouldn't be hard.
"It should be easy.
"I'm not attracting what I'm supposed
"to be attracting.
"Let me take some self-care days."
Days.
I'm not sayin' 10 minutes, 20 minutes,
a walk along the ocean.
I do it all of the time.
I'm stressed.
There's a problem.
Let me go walk the sea
wall for a half hour.
Let me do something I
love to do for half hour,
get away from the problem,
and then come back
with solutions, which usually happens.
I'm talkin' they need days, weekends.
They need to get away.
They need to book a holiday,
spend a ton of money
on booking a holiday,
and then they realize
when they come back, and I've done this,
so I get, and you come back and
you still feel the same way.
It hasn't solved anything.
That procrastination or
hiding procrastinating,
just admit it for what it is.
Just say, "Hey, I'm procrastinating."
That's the first step.
Look at it.
"I'm procrastinating."
Okay, next step.
But hiding it is just, it's gonna lead
to so much more anxiety.
I speak from experience,
and I see people going
through this all of the time.
It's gonna lead to so much more anxiety,
so much more tension, so much more stress
than just effing doing it,
even if you don't feel like it,
even it hurts, doing it.
Because on the other side of that,
A, you can earn your self-care.
You can earn a weekend.
You'll also find that you
don't necessarily even need it.
Like you'll just feel great.
You're doing what you love.
Things are slowly getting into flow.
Things are working out,
but you have to push
that resistance and build some momentum.
So please, please, please try to be
as aware, as real, as
authentic, as open-minded
as you can right now to
am I doing everything
in my power to accomplish the mission?
To get what I want, to
go where I wanna be?
Am I doing the work?
If the answer is no, then I don't,
I truly feel, I truly believe,
without even meeting you,
that you probably don't need any self-care
or self-love days.
You've probably taken enough of those.
Let's put in the work and earn it.
Now if there's little short
windows during your day,
I'm huge on that.
I have the first hour of my day,
I have an hour in the middle of the day,
and I have a good hour
at the end of the day
that is my time.
I fail on it sometimes, but I try to,
as religiously as I can, to stick to that.
I take some time for me every single day,
because it's great, changing my frame,
and changing my reference,
and changing my perspective
on the problems we're
facing, which is many,
and finding solutions to those problems.
But if I just took self-care
when I think I needed it,
I would probably never work.
I'd probably always be on a beach,
or always be traveling somewhere,
or always riding a motorcycle.
You've gotta, you've gotta
push through that resistance.
So that's my challenge to you.
If any of this resonates, leave a comment.
Let me know what you think.
A lot of these comments
get turned into videos,
and by joining the conversation it gives
me ideas of where to take the conversation
and this channel next.
This channel has no agenda
other than just solving
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answering your questions,
helping you out.
So feel free to leave something below
if you feel like this resonates,
if you feel like it helps,
or if you have something
to add to the conversation.
With that said, anything
else, @lucasrubix.
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The podcast is not @lucasrubix,
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When did wanting more
become such a bad thing?
I've always lived my life
with the simple philosophy
that when everyone is
going left, you go right.
When everyone is doing things one way,
you go the other.
You do not conform.
You do not blend in.
You do not blindly follow the masses.
For as long as you stay a sheep,
you will never get what you want.
(lively music)
Now all I'm askin' you is that
you go after that thing you want
with a relentless drive, no matter
what anyone thinks of you,
no matter what the world says to you,
no matter how you feel,
or how tired you may be.
You go after it like
your life depends on it.
(whooshing)
The only question I have for you is are
you willing to do whatever it takes?
(lively music)
