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In a way. I mean, this honestly made me feel like a bad bitch.
Like, I'll just be really honest with you. I didn't
know that that that was going on in her mind,
but it just made me feel like a bad I'm like,
wow, I didn't know. I was that cute. I didn't
know that I was that cute that she sweating
over her man. Like, I don't want your man.
I've never wanted your man.
Wouldn't touch your man with a 10 foot pole.
But apparently
I got it like
That.
[Very transgender-ed intro music]
Hey guys, I'ts Kat and t's time for another
episode of True Tea!
I want to thank you guys so much for joining me for another episode of True Tea!
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Anyway, how the hell are
you doing? How have you been since I've seen
you? I've been well. I've been well. I got a
couple of sewing books.
Um, I got this pattern making book by Francesca
Stirlacey.
I'm really excited to dive in
to that book and figure out how to sew. If
you guys don't know, I make most of my clothes.
I made this dress. It's a little tight, it's
a little tight. I've got my, you know, my
quarantine pounds on a bit, but you know,
I figured that I would throw it on and you
know, make a video. Where else am I going?
What else am I doing? You know, I'm drinking
some wine. I'm hanging out at five o'clock
in the morning. I've got full face with makeup  on....
This is quarantine..
Anyway, we're going to be having a conversation about jealousy
in this video. But before we do, I would
highly suggest that you run into your kitchen
and grab yourself something to drink. Personally,
I am drinking some red wine. I've been drinking
this red wine for the past hour or so. Excuse
me, if I'm a little tipsy anyway, let's jump
right into this video after I take a quick
little sip.
So I'm gonna be honest with you guys. I don't
know
Whether or not I should make this video, but
I'm going to make this video because I hadn't
experienced that. I found highly interesting
and highly entertaining, and yes, this is
going to be a little messy. Yes, this is going
to be a little petty, but it really made me
think. And I felt like I would come to you
guys and share with you guys, my thoughts
and my feelings might experiences...
In this video, I wanted to talk about CIS
women who are jealous of trans women. And
I just want to say right away, because I know
that some people are probably going to click
on this video and be real confused. I'm basing
a lot of what I'm going to talk about in this
video on experiences that have had specifically
one experience that I just recently, um, but
I'm not trying, I'm not sitting over here.
You know, I know some trans women get online
and they just, they say all this, they do
all this talking about CIS women. And they
say, talk all this shit. And you know, you're
a man, this and your man that and dah, dah,
dah. Well, but that's not what we're here.
That's not what we're here for. I really just
wanted to talk about the, the, the situations
I've been in, in life where
cis woman have been jealous of me because
to be completely honest with you guys, it's
always really confusing. It's always
really confusing. I've never really understood
when I talked to CIS women and they are jealous
of my dating life or my, the men in my life.
I don't, I don't personally get it. Um, and
that's mostly because I think what a lot of
people don't get is that for most men, I've
not met a man who this isn't the case, but
I'm sure there are other men who exists for
most men. They like transgender women because
they like CIS women, right? And the vast,
vast, vast, vast, vast majority of men who
pursue transgender women are ultimately going
to pick, a cis women at the end of the day,
they're going to ultimately choose a cis woman to fall in love with and to marry and to
dah, dah, dah, dah, overall across the board
men end up choosing CIS women, right?
These men may desire trans women. They may
have curiosity and interest or dah, dah, dah,
but they ultimately usually end up choosing
cis women. So I've never particularly understood
the jealousy that I've observed. Right? I've
never understood it. Now, I will say this
though, right? I was not raised as a ver- as
a young girl being fed all of these ideas
about men being valuable and important, and
the end all be all that defines you. I got
some of that messaging, of course, you know,
because I transitioned so young, but I didn't
transition as like a kid. So it's not like
I digested a lot of that aspect of socialization
where a lot of women mature to feel like men
are their end all be all. And if that man
deviates from the script that you would like
for them, that's a problem. Right? I don't
personally have that experience.
I don't personally know have that same exact
feeling and that same exact way. So in general,
I've been baffled by the experiences I've
had with cis woman where they are threatened
by me, where they are competing with me, because
it just sort of seems frivolous and silly.
at the end of the day.
In this video, I'm going
to be talking about a specific experience
that I recently just had. And the reason why
started by saying that this video is potentially
going to be a little petty is because I have
receipts. And this was such a baffling experience
because I genuinely did not see it coming.
And I thought we would just talk about it.
Let's just talk about it. This is more of
a Storytime video than anything. So let me
take another sip and let me get into this story.
Hopefully you guys are liking it. I don't know..
Hopefully you guys will like it.
So for the sake of, of not putting people
directly on blast, I'm going to make up the
particular hobby in which this was all organized
around. Let's just say sewing, let's just
say sewing. Right. So years ago when I came
to LA, I really wanted to become part of the,
the ...seamstress community. And so I decided
to, um, you know, go to the seamstress events
and, you know, meet the seamstresses or whatever.
And there was this girl who we're going to
call Amanda, right? I met Amanda at one of
the seamstress events and she was a very interesting
seamstress, right? She seemed nice or whatever.
And sometimes I'd see her working on a garment
and I'd be like, Oh my gosh, I love what you're
doing or whatever. We were ever really super,
super close, but it was kind of like, you
seem like a sweetheart, you seem really
positive and fun.
I'm going to be friendly towards you. Right.
And we added each other on Facebook and her
Facebook was....
, do you ever add people
on Facebook? And then you realize that there's
a monologue going on in their head. That is
totally, totally not present in their daily
life. You just, you see their monologue. And
you're like, wow, I had no idea. You were
like that. You know, I'm sure that to some
degree I'm like that. Cause my Facebook can
be a little wild, but this girl was very unassuming,
very quiet, very sort of, yeah. You know,
cutesy, wootsie bo-tootsie in person, but online she's a totally
different person. Now when she would post
on her Facebook feed, when I first met her,
her feed was mostly her complaining about
men. It was mostly her bitching and moaning
about men.
Right. Um, and specifically how hard it was
for her to find one. And she would specifically
look for these men who were also seamstresses.
What are our male seam- Are they seemsters?
How does that work? I don't know. I don't
know what the male version, we're just gonna say seamstress.
Um, she would look for these
guys who were also seamstresses, but they
never seemed interested in her. She is a,
I'll just say woman of color. I'm trying to
not be specific. Cause she's pretty easy to
figure out if you know my community, but,
um, she's a woman of color and she often had
issues with feeling like she was not desired.
Right. Um, and I identify with that because
I'm a black woman and I've also gone through
that. Watch this video up here, where, where
I talk in depth about that sort of experience.
Um, so I kind of, I understood it, but, but
she was definitely one of those people where
she posts so much all the day and, you know,
listen, we all get shitty messages on dating
sites from time to time. But you know, to
some degree, guys, you have to stop giving
these men the energy. You have to stop responding
to all of the shitty dudes who were sending
you messages. I've had to learn that you can't
just always do it because you're going to
get a content for your Facebook page about
it. Like she was just the kind of person where
she would just interact with all of these
shitty dudes. And it would just be like, well,
at a certain point, you're stoking the flame.
Do you know what I mean? You're not quite
cutting it off where you need to cut it off.
And so you're having these shitty exchanges
for that reason. Right. And so she had a lot
of struggles and she had a lot of problems
and she eventually had the great idea to start
a Southern California seamstress group. Right.
Um, and I joined it and I was pretty, pretty
excited. I was going to meet some people who
know how to sew people who were into the same
thing that I was into. Um, and I thought that
that was, I thought it was a really great
group. And honestly, the way that Amanda was
using this group was really, really great.
You know, it was a place where people would
post, you know, sewing memes and their favorite
sewing songs and things. And it was, it was
just a really great sort of community to sort
of belong to. Yeah. Um, and you know, w I
mean, obviously it was a dating community,
so there was a lot of flirting and things
like that.
And, you know, I'm a, I'm a bit of a flirt,
you know, I like to flirt. So, you know, I
enjoyed being part of the space for that reason.
Um, and there was this guy in the group we're
going to call him Landon Landon. Landon was
a guy who I had interacted with, um, in the
group a couple of times, Landon is a snazzy
sower. You know, he just makes the most interesting
outfits. He's just got these interesting,
you know, he's just an intre- you know, he puts himself together really well.
Right. Um, and I loved
his sort of aesthetic. I loved his thing.
So you know, he would post these photos of himself
in the group and I would say something positive
about it. And eventually he would send me
a message and he wanted to add me on, on Facebook.
Right. And Landon also ran this karaoke
night and I love karaoke.
Oh my gosh, I love karaoke. Do I miss karaoke!
So I genuinely was like, Oh my gosh, this
guy seems like a really cool guy. Um, and
so I added, and we really only had like one
conversation about where he does karaoke and
it's all the way in West Bumble Fuck. So
it wasn't a place I could go at the time.
And so we stayed, you know, Facebook friends.
And that was that.
As part of this group, Amanda
had tried to put together a seamstress speed
dating event. Right. And I've always been
very open. I'm always very open about who
I am and what I'm into and what I'm this and
what I'm that. And I've posted several times
in the seamstress dating group about me being
polyamorous and having five partners and being
mostly interested in bisexual men. I was very
open about that.
Didn't hide that, put that all out there.
No shame in my game. It is what it is. It's
part of my life, bada Bing, bada, boom. You
can take it or you can leave it, whatever,
whatever, you know what I mean? So
She had invited me to this speed dating event. Right.
And I was kind of like, okay, I like don't
need to go to a speed dating event, but this
seems like it could be cool. It was at this
really cool sewing bar. Um, and I was like,
yeah, like, I'll totally check that out. Right.
And so I remember that it seemed like she
sent me the message on Monday. And then on
Tuesday I got a message from her saying, Oh,
wow, sorry. Um, this is, uh, this is, uh,
an event that doesn't allow polyamorous people.
This is a monogamous people, only event.
Now, listen, girl, I've got too many partners
and too much of a tight schedule to really
like, need to go to this event. I'm not like
this is going to make me sound like such a bitch.
I'm not like some of these people who
are like, I am not very social and I don't
go out. And it's like, I know a lot of people,
I have a lot of friends, right. I don't really
need to go to the, the, the speed dating event.
You know, I don't really, I wouldn't really
get much from it other than a good time and
supporting Amanda and what she's doing. Um,
and so I was kind of like, okay, that's kind
of weird that you're disinviting me, but no 
 big deal. Right.
And we did get into this
really long conversation about it. Cause I
was kind of turned off, honestly, because,
you know, whenever I would mention me being
polyamorous, she would always kind of make
a comment about that polyamory
whenever I'd make a comment about
me being interested in bisexual men, she would
always make a comment about her, not wanting
to date a bisexual man and not wanting to
be polyamorous and not wanting to date a bisexual
man. I personally, personally feel like that's
valid, right? You, you, you, I don't really
like the idea of pressuring women to accept
things they don't want. You don't want to
bi guy. You don't want to poly dude, that's
totally valid. Right. Maybe there are some
things you could potentially unpack about
that, but, uh, you know, it is what it is.
There's no sense in trying to get somebody
to date somebody that they're not interested
in. You know, that's just kinda how I feel
about it at the end of the day. Right? So
anyway, she, um, had dis-invited me and it
really left a poor taste in my mouth.
And, you know, just cause of some of the other
comments that I'd had with her, I just wasn't
really being, I guess, as friendly towards
her. Um, and we'd had a bit of a back and
forth before, but I didn't respond to her
final message to me basically. Um, she sent
me this message at, at, after we had our back
and forth, that was inviting me to the next
speed dating event. And to be completely honest
with you guys, to be totally honest with you
guys, she was, I think she figured out who
I was. We've talked about this before. I'm
not, I'm the kind of YouTuber who's like, um,
do you know who I am? Do you know who I am?
I'm a YouTuber. I'm a Youtuber! I absolutely
hate when people give me preferential treatment
because I'm a YouTuber, but she would eventually
send me a message
basically giving me, offering me a discount
discounts come to her speed dating event.
And it just kind of felt really kiss assay.
And honestly, if you ever want anything from
me, the, the worst way to do it is to kiss
my ass really is just, just be a great person
and I'll support your shit. Like just, just
be cool and do cool shit. And I'll support
you. Don't kiss my ass. I have the worst reaction
to that. Right? And so it just in general,
I was turned off and I just wasn't really
wanting to be as you know, overwhelmingly
supportive as I was before. Now I know, listen,
Amanda is not very well liked among the seamstress
group, right? When I was supporting her group,
there were a lot of people telling me, Oh
my gosh, you know that girl, she is crazy.
She is crazy.
Now we've talked about rumors before on my
channel, right? I'm not the kind of person
who likes to take rumors at face value. I
am unfortunately the kind of person who needs
to figure it out for myself. I don't want
to just listen to somebody gossip and [mouth noises]
and just agree with it. I want to be able
to form my own opinion. And so I had a positive
relationship with Amanda up to a certain point.
And I had not really had a reason to dismiss
her in the way that so many other people in
the seamstress community have. Right. So I
did a lot of talking to people who were saying,
Hey, you should not support her because of
this, this and that and being like , no, she's fine,
whatever, you know, thank you for the heads
up. But like, you know, I spent a lot of time
defending her, right.
I spent a lot of time basically being like,
she's not a bad person, you know, which I
don't need a pat on the back for, I would
do that for anybody, but that's what I did.
Right. So anyway, I'm not really talking to
her as much. I see her at, you know, the quilters
club. Um, and I say, I always said, hi. I
always hugged her, but it wasn't like, I wasn't
like wanting to hang out with her. It just
wasn't really what I was interested in doing.
Um, you know, cause she just seemed like someone
who didn't like what I, what I did. Right.
And so it is what it is right. Fast forward
a couple of months, Landon starts dating Amanda.
And when I see this happening, I'm like, Oh
my gosh, that's cool. Right. Landon is 
 dating Amanda.
That's, that's great. They're in a relationship.
And I think that's awesome, right? Without
getting into too much detail. Um, there was,
uh, there was a mutiny within the seamstress
group. Some people didn't like the rules.
I mean, it's like if you've ever been in a
Facebook group, this always happens. There's
always some drama that happens with the, so
what is the group? And you know, some people
weren't happy with how much she was censoring
others and dah, dah, dah, dah, dah. And so
long story short, they made their own group.
And I joined the group and I was basically,
I wouldn't say I was playing both sides, but
like, I was like, Hey, I could be in two seamstress
groups. Like there's really no problem with
being part of two seamstress groups for local
Los Angeles people. Like there's really no
reason not to. Right. Especially when one
is more open and the other is more moderated.
Like they're different groups, what's the
point. Right. But Amanda was very upset with
this. Amanda did not like the fact that I,
in many other people went on to support this
other person's group people. She was really
upset. She felt really betrayed. She apparently
had been trying to build a brand around, you
know, So Cal Seamstresses and it just was
like, you know, she, it was a difference of
perspective. It was difference of opinion.
I understood that she felt hurt, but it wasn't
really that deep to me truly. It really wasn't,
you know, your, your feelings are valid, but
I guess it's a Facebook group get over it.
That, that was basically my thought process.
Right. Um, so anyway, I'm in the second group
and I get a message from one of the members
and the message is a screenshot of a message
that she sent to another person about me.
Now I'm going to pull it out and read it to
you guys. And I'm going to censor everything.
So you guys can't see shit, but I'm going
to read those messages to you. Cause I just,
I feel, I feel like doing it right. So she
sent a screenshot of a, uh, a picture of Landon
that I commented on. Landon has a beard and
a fun hat. And I commented something. I don't
even remember exactly what I said, but I said
something nice about his appearance. Right?
And she says, "Grrr, that Kathryn!!
Landon had a photo up today. And she commented
on about his looks. It's his vampire photo.
And I, and I had commented above it. She is
such a bitch. She snubs me and I've always
been nice to her. So disrespectful. She'd
steal him in a second. If she could."
[The silent sound of my soul gathering itself]
Now I'm going to try to say this in the nicest
way possible without sounding like a total bitch.
Now... I'm not going to say.... that Landon
doesn't have an interesting look because he
certainly does. He certainly does. Indeed
have an interesting look. He's a seamstress,
you know, he's very quirky. He's got, um,
an interesting way of putting himself together.
But... I like men who look like they can throw
me across the room. Men who look like they
could just men who look like they could snap
the in half. They don't always have to actually
physically be able to do that. But I want
them to at least look that way to put it bluntly.
I'm attracted to more traditionally masculine
men. Now we're not going to unpack that you
can watch my toxic masculinity video over
here, but that's what I'm attracted to. I'm
attracted to that kind of guy.
And Landon is a total sweetheart and a snazzy
dresser, but 100% not my type 100%, not my type.
And it was crazy for me to read her,
say, she'd steal her. She'd still him if
she had the chance, because first of all,
baby, I've got five romantic partners. I don't
need a sixth. I mean, I'll take one. If it,
if it's good enough, but I don't need an additional
partner. And I certainly don't want your monogamous
partner that I'm not attracted to. Like, it
was really wild for me to read her saying
that because it just truly did not reflect
reality. Like nothing about what she said
was anything true. You know, there's no part
of me that wanted to steal her man for what,
what would I do with him? What could I sell
him? Like what would I do with him? Do you
know what I mean?
So it was really crazy for me to read this
because I had, first of all, I hadn't really
snubbed her. We had slightly less of a friendly
relationship. I wasn't meaning to her. I wasn't
a bitch to her. I wasn't an asshole. I wasn't,
none of this was true. I had complimented
her partner's outfit and she translated that
into me wanting her man right now. Here's
the thing about her, like right? I said, I
told, I already told you guys Amanda's profile
page is very annoying. Amanda's profile page
is mostly her bitching and moaning. And my
Facebook is a very, my Facebook is one of
the few feeds that I have that is very drama
free. There's not a lot going on. It's not
a lot of bullshit here and there. So I have,
I had Amanda permanently snoozed. I didn't
want to see her, her stuff in my feet.
I want to still be her. Be it be her friend,
but I didn't want to see her stuff in my feet.
I just, I didn't want that. Right. It just
wasn't, it wasn't making me feel happy. It
wasn't making me it wasn't putting me in a
good spot. Right. Um, Landon, I had added
after Amanda, so I saw more of Landon's posts
than I did Amanda's posts. Right. And Landon
is a snazzy dresser with an interesting look.
And so I commented on his stuff and called
MedEd him the way that I would, any one of
my friends who was a snazzy dresser with an
interesting look, do you know what I mean?
So it was so bizarre for me to read these
messages where she's like, totally like creating
this narrative that I want to steal her man
again, what would I do with him? Could I trade
him for some mochi? Like what could I, what
would I do with him? You know what I mean?
And so I got a couple of other messages from
her, so here's another message.
I'm just laughing. Cause it's so funny. It's
so funny. Especially like, like she was convinced
that like her partner was my type because
her partner is a bald white dude and the only
partner that I have posted public flop, public
public as an, on my Facebook and my partner,
I posted public photos with his Victor who
you guys I've told you guys about, he's the
guy who lives in Portland, he's bald and he's
hot. He's like actually really good looking.
So it's not just the ballpark that I'm interested
in. But anyway, she sends his message and
it says, yeah, she is confident. And I think
that's fine, but I know what she's thinking.
She'd still him in a heartbeat if she could.
That's why she circling around him right now.
And by circling, she means she really needs,
I commented on a couple of his pictures saying
that his outfit looked nice. Um, and then
she, and then he says, then she says, good
thing. He can't stand poly people. And isn't
into Dick. I mean, she's a woman to me, but
he wouldn't date, but he wouldn't want to
date a trans woman. This girl is having this
whole narrative about me wanting to fuck her
boyfriend, wanting to steal her from her from,
you know, Rami steal him from her. And now
she's talking about my genitals with a stranger
Now, like I said,
He messaged me first. That's not how that,
So it wasn't one of those weird, you know,
there's, if you went through our messages,
I mean, now there's more cause we were talking
about all this shit. But if you went through
our messages, it was the most like not flirtatious
thing ever. It was like, Oh, sure. I'll add
you. Where do you do karaoke? Oh, I did. It
was so normal. The most I did was compliment
his appearance a couple of times. And now
she's talking about me not being fuckable
because I'm polyamorous and transgender
Says
There was never any reason for you to think
I wanted to fuck your man. There was never
any reason. There was literally never a reason.
But now she's talking about my genitals. Now
let me be very clear with you guys. You should
know this by now. You guys know this already.
I don't know why I'm telling you again, but
I'm not interested in having sex with a man.
Who's not interested in trans woman. I'm not
interested in convincing a man that my body
is worth it and worthy. I'm not interested
in a man who is interested in my genitalia.
Let's just start there. I wouldn't want to
date a man who is, you know, into my genitals
either personally, um, at least like that,
you know, um,
You know, but it just was so weird for me
to like read this thing because you know,
for me personally, right while I'm totally
okay with her partner, wan not wanting to
sleep with me because I'm trans, like that's
fine for me. I couldn't help. But parse that.
What she was really saying in that moment
was that I'm not a threat to her because I'm
transgender. I'm not a romantic or sexual
threat to her because I'm trans. Now here's
the fucked up part. And this is what I really,
I w you know, listen, first and foremost,
let's just start right here. I stayed in almost
every video. These men are not worth it. These
men are not worth it, girl. They're there.
They're literally not worth it. Three genuinely
not worth it. Straight. Men are not a price.
They are not worth it. Right. This girl is
in the inbox of some other woman talking shit
about me because of some man who's still my
Facebook friends.
And by the way, she's going toe to toe talking
shit about me,
Me being trans and not being a threat to her
because of some dude, because it's some man,
because of some man that she thinks I want
to fuck. It's crazy how she thinks that I
have five partners and also want to steal
her man like being polyamorous, PSA, being
polyamorous. Doesn't mean I want to fuck your
boyfriend. No, no half y'all boyfriends. Aren't
even cute enough for me to want to fuck. You
know, to begin with half y'all boyfriends
have struggle beards, and they don't have
dad bods. Why would I want to fuck your boyfriend?
You know, now if he has a dad, bod and a beard,
but probably I do want to fuck your boyfriend,
but this guy didn't have that. And I'm not
trying to put people down for having not the
best beard, but the only way you can, you
should really ever be concerned about me wanting
to fuck your man is if he has a dad, bod and
a beard, that's probably the real, I mean,
but even then I respect people's fucking relationships.
You know, if you're in a monogamous relationship,
why would I want to, you know, I'm not in
the, I'm not in the business of stealing people's
man. And that was so crazy. I mean, the weird
thing to me was what about me made her think
that I was like, literally, like, what about
cause like said something nice to your boyfriend?
Cause I said something nice to you boyfriend?
So anyway, I don't have a problem with her boyfriend not being interested in trans women. Right.
But what she was saying again, in that comment
was that I'm not a threat to her. I'm not
a threat to her because I'm transgender and
here's the wild part about it, right? She
said, now we had conversations about this
later because of course I called her ass out.
But she said that, that's what he said. He
told her
That he's not interested in trans women With those words apparently.
The thing, no,
I don't want to mix this woman paranoid at
all. But you know, when I was younger, I had
a lot of men who were married or had a girlfriend
who were interested in doing stuff with me.
They were interested in, in pursuing me.
You know, that's what I learned that men aint shit.
But you know,
A lot of these men are not going to be honest
with you about their interest in trans women.
They're not going to be honest with you, especially
when they know that they, that they're going
to lose an opportunity to date you. If they
are now, these men should be honest.
They absolutely should. But the point that I'm
making is that a lot of these men are not
going to talk to you. Like I said, early on,
she does not want to date
bisexual men.
You know, I, I'm fairly convinced that he's
not interested in trans woman. I'm fairly
convinced, but knowing what he knows of her,
why would he mention that he wants to sleep
with this trans woman who he's not ever going
to have the chance of dating or fucking, especially
in a pandemic. You know what I mean? Like
why would he say, yeah, I think she's attractive?
It just leads me to believe that maybe he
is interested in me and maybe he was like
saying things. I don't know, but I just don't
get it right. If you're in a monogamous relationship
at like that, why are you concerned about
him wanting to fuck me? It doesn't really
make a lot of sense. You know what I mean?
It's not really a sensible position. Right?
Um, but I'll just circle back to say, these
men ain't worth it.
These are not worth it. You know, like the
crazy part about this for me was I had no
idea. She felt this way. I had no idea that
she felt this way. And it was really strange
for me to read because it'd be one thing.
If I was flirting and listen, I'm a flirt,
you know, I am a flirt, you know, but when
I see people that are in a relationship, I
respect that. Especially when I know that
it's not an open relationship, I'm not going
to flirt with somebody knowing that they are
in a monogamous relationship. Like that's
just not who I am. That's not my personality.
That's not what I do. But you know, the thing
is too, she also had an issue with me being
poly because of course what she started doing
is she would message these men who were flirting
with me and this seamstress group.
And they would S and she would tell them,
she would tell them, Oh, you know, she has
five partners. Oh, you know, she's doing this.
Oh, you know, she's doing that. And they would
withdraw interest from, for me. And of course,
none of those men were worth, you know, they
can't sew for shit. So I'm not mad at, you
know, I'm not really mad about that, but she
does have an issue with polyamorous folk,
which makes me, which makes her kissing my
ass and trying to get me to come to her speed
dating event, even worse. Right. She's got
these issues with me that really don't have
anything to do with me. I've always been honest
about who I am. I've always put who I am,
who I am out there.
It's a little confusing. It's a, it's a little
confusing. It was very bizarre. It was very,
very bizarre for me. Um, I've never really
been privy that privy to a woman talking about
me in that way. Cause , listen guys.
Like I like myself. I think I'm cute. I think
I'm badass. I think I'm cool as fuck. But
like I don't have this self image of myself
where I am just this amazing person worthy
of being envied. You know, I don't really
get it. I don't personally understand it.
To be honest with you. And I've dealt with
women, always saying these things, cis women
always saying these things to me of like,
Oh my gosh, I'm so jealous of this. Oh my
gosh. I'm so jealous. And listen, y'all know
me already. I don't take that. I like when
I hear someone say anything vaguely positive
about me, I'm like, you're lying.
You know what I mean? And not because I don't
believe that they're there. People can't say
positive things about me, but because it just
always seems disingenuine, you know? But in
a way, in a way, yeah, I'm in a way, I mean,
this honestly made me feel like a bad bitch.
Like, I'll just be really honest with you.
I didn't know that that that was going on
in her mind, but it just made me feel like
a ba- I'm like, wow. I didn't know. I was
that cute. I didn't know that I was that cute.
That she's sweating over her man. Like, I
don't want your man. I've never wanted your
man. Wouldn't touch your man with a 10 foot pole.
But apparently I got it like that. You
know, apparently I really do got it. I like
that. I didn't know all that. I didn't know.
I didn't know. I didn't know mean I had suspicion,
but I didn't know. Do you know what I mean?
I didn't know that I got it like that. I didn't
know that, like I was so confident, so sexy.
And this is somebody who sees me at the club
all the time and I'm always, I mean, yeah,
the, yes, the, the, the sewing club and I
always go and I, listen, I'm not going to
no sewing club looking for no, man, I'm going
there for men to leave me alone. You know
what I mean? Like that, I love going to the
sewing club because I can sew solo on my own.
No one will talk to me. No one will interact
with me and I could go out to, you know, the
sewing, the patio and we can talk and have
fun and be friendly. Like I don't ....
do you know what I mean?
Like I'm not in that space. I mean, I was
obviously in the dating group to date, but like,
I wasn't interacting with her or the people
around her because I want the fuck them. Like,
it's not who I am as a person. So it was really
bizarre. It was really, really, really, really,
really, really bizarre right now. I don't
want to feed into... listen. I really do hate
when I, you know, CIS women think that they're
better than me. I, I do. I do, because it's
just, it's just the gross. But you know, I
don't, I don't understand. I mean, I don't
know how this is going to sound, but I just,
I don't understand being threatened by me
personally. I don't understand being threatened
by a trans woman now, I guess I do when you're
in this state of fear and concern that someone's
going to, you know, ultimately like a trans
woman more than they like us, cis woman,
I get that.
But again, the what, what what's been shown
to me over and over again is that most of
these men end up dating and marrying cis
woman that's who they will always prefer.
That's what that's, that's what will probably
always be the case. There's a very strong,
there's a very small minority of men who want
trans women as wives, do they exist? Yes,
definitely. I know men who are married to
trans women, I've got several trans girlfriends
who are married right now. It does happen.
It does exist, but you have infinitely more
options, infinitely more options. And so it's
bizarre for me, for you to look at a trans
girl and to feel threatened. It's very weird
to me. It's very, very strange. And I guess
it's kind of feeds into just general issues
that I've seen around,
you know, how cis women react to trans women as romantic competitors.
You know, like it's weird to me, but you know,
again, I wasn't raised with that endless sort
of narrative of, if you don't find a man you're
not valid, you know, so I can sit here and
say, I'm valid without a man. And I can, I
can, you know, I could do bad all by myself,
but you know, I don't totally know what's
going on in her mind. I don't understand why
me saying that her, her partner had a cool
outfit. What's such a threat that would cause
her to talk about my genitals. You know, talk
about me as like this unfuckable person, right?
Truth is her man probably does want to fuck
me, but like, we're not going to unpack that
now. Like I said, we're still Facebook friends,
you know, not that that necessarily means
anything, but I guess, you know, it seems
like she needs to talk to him.
It seems like that's a conversation that they
need to have. Right. That seems like something
that they need to talk about with each other.
I don't know why I had to be brought into
it because he could have literally, I mean,
they can have literally deaded the situation
if he, if they had a conversation and the
conversation concluded that he wants her and
only her, but the truth is this is a girl
that's been insecure ever since I've known her.
She's been insecure about everything
all the time. Ever since she started posting
all those, those messages on her Facebook
page, she's insecure, she's insecure and it
sucks. So she took it out on me. But again,
it just made me feel like a bad bitch, so...
lesson learned, I guess.
So I don't know if this video was something
I should have made, but I wanted to just tell
you guys that story. Cause it was really funny
to me and I just, I feel like sharing it with
you guys, the sewing community. It can be
a little bit much sometimes. Cause some people
are so immature and just high school, high
school, high school. Like I literally felt
like I was in high school. Oh my gosh. Like
gur- ah, some people just, they, they never,
they never go beyond that. They never go beyond
high school. So I can't relate. Anyway, on
that note, I will see you guys next week.
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it. All of the cool kids are doing it, you
know? And I'm not saying that like you can
do what you want. I'm all about you having
the right to choose. I'm all about you being
able to figure out whether or not this is
something that you would like to do. You know,
I don't want to pressure you into anything,
but I will say
All the cool kids are doing it,
They just are, they are, you know, and
I don't want for you to look foolish. You
know, I don't want for you to put yourself
in a position where you're not being as cool
as you are. I know you're cool. I really,
I know you're cool, but they don't know. You're
cool. Um, so I'm just saying, if you care,
that's how you become. Cool. Anyway, I will
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