Hey awesome ones. Heather here and I
have a question for you. Do you really
schedule the me time for yourself? I
know for a fact that I used to just run
myself ragged and hardly ever take time
for myself. No longer. Now I schedule
it and I'm gonna share that with you in
just a few seconds.
So you're probably thinking to yourself
is this a beauty video?  I actually
think it is, because you know those
stressful days and the days where you're
just like falling into bed and then
maybe you've done so much and there's so
much anxiety that you're not even
sleeping and you're wondering where
those bags go into my eyes and and how
come I'm getting more wrinkles. I
think one of the main things is you're
just not looking after yourself. You're
not taking the time, the so called 'me
time' to really take care of of you. I
would like to thank Carol. She's a
longtime subscriber to our channel and
she reminded me a few weeks ago about
how important it is to have me time. And
I went in my mind.....I'm gonna do a video on that one of these days. So yep it is kind
of a beauty video. So are you a person
that really just tries to be a
superwoman. You know what I mean. Like I
was definitely that person. I was
suffering from migraines.
I was definitely....my adrenaline supply
was being depleted. I was... I
had four kids all under the age of nine
to look after and I said well I can do
the grocery shopping, I can make the
dinners, I did all the laundry for all
six of us uh you know even just thinking
about all those gives me a headache. And
it...I think it has to do with the Susie
homemaker mentality. Do you remember
taking home ecc in school like I do? And
they taught us how to cook and how to
clean and how to...hey I was even sewing
on the buttons and being the seamstress
for the family. And then one day it all
came crashing down. It wasn't bad
enough that I was getting all those
migraines and if you haven't ever had a
migraine I I can't even begin to tell
you how painful they are and mine would
last for days.
And it wasn't even about that. I
think...I don't know...I
would serve dinner for everybody and one of the kids said...I don't like that and I
just went....I said...I went up to Bill
and I said you know what Bill I'm
leaving for a while
and I walked out the door. It was
unbelievable that I, with four kids would
do that and I think Bill thought I was
just gonna go for a walk, but I went to
the city and on the way...I had to take a
train to the city and on the way to the
city I just said to myself I'm going
back into modeling. I can't stand these...I
mean I was really really hurting with it.
I didn't even have a migraine that day
but they had been going on for years
and I went I'm gonna go back into
modeling and I can't take this anymore
and I got to the city. So I get to the
city and I went to take some money out
of the machine.....
this shows you how the universe or God
or whatever you want to call it works,
because I had to take some money out I
thought I better take some cash. I put in
my card to take out some cash and the
machine literally...it didn't eat my card
but it basically said that I didn't even
have a balance left and I was on the
phone....my battery was dying...to the bank.
I'm trying to figure out what had just
happened and I just think it was fate. So
and I said Bill I'm at the city. I don't
know what's happened. I've been on hold
foreve,r my phone is dying and Bill said
stay there he picked one of the
restaurants that he knew I loved right
around the area and he got a sitter.
He got on the train and away he went. And
well he was on his way. I'm getting
really honest with you guys, but I'm sure
that maybe these things happen to you
and you're just not acknowledging them
and you're not making the me time. Anyway back to the story. As I was
waiting for like two hours for him in
this restaurant I started writing down
everything..........
and I had a long list of....you guys don't
do this and when he showed up he you
know he sort of said talk to me.  I
read off the list and then when I was
finished reading on the lit off the list
I I went this isn't your fault. Nothing
here is your fault. So I'm getting kind of
teary eyed because it was so true. It
was all my fault. I was the person who
never delegated. I was the person that
thought that I would could do it all. I
mean I was also the second breadwinner. I
was not a Susie homemaker. I was working
and you know it was one of those things
where I said okay you know what I'm
coming back with you. I know I had credit
cards. I don't know why I didn't even
use those but I just I don't know. I just
knew that that was a sign that I had to
see him again and so I went home and I
changed everything even though my girls
were nine...nine ish. I taught them how to
do their own laundry...they didn't like
that very much but Bill would come
with me to do the grocery shopping and
Bill you still do that right? Oh yeah. All the time he comes grocery shopping.
As a matter of fact just the other day
we had two full carts of grocery
shopping because the kids are coming
home to see us. But everything changed
and and then I wanted to do some
changing about myself. So I really
started thinking you know what can I do
for me and then I thought every night
I'm going to have a long bath and I made
this announcement to everybody.
I said...fortunately there was more than one bathroom in the house. I said look every night I'm
taking a bath. I'm going to be in there
and I don't want anybody knocking on the
door or I lost something or this or that....
I said I'm gonna take a long bath and I
said unless the house is burning down
nobody is allowed to bug me and you know
they were really good.
And I think they saw a different kind of
mom around here with the delegations and
everyone went, oh yeah let's let her
have her time there. So cue the lavender
bath, bubble bath and the soft music and
I even put some candles in there and it
was just...well it still is...every night I
have a bath and it's just so divine and
I just...oh I just sort of let the
world just be out there somewhere and I
just go into my little cocoon. Now you
notice over here that I have one of
those Himalayan salt lamps and I also
have one of those diffusers...that just
depending on my mood sometimes you know
I'll have kind of a lavender scent going
or right now it's called immune. I'm
feeling a little cold coming on so this
eucalyptus and that sort of thing but at
night I'm generally saying my prayers
having the bath. But it's the mornings,
it's the mornings when I'm waking up
that are the really true amazing time
for me and I'm just gonna share it with
you. I do have the most amazing husband
and we've been together now since we met
what 21 years ago Bill and you know
we've been raising four kids and all the
kids are out of the house now and I
guess you can call us empty nesters and
what Bill does every morning to wake me
up he brings me an amazing French
pressed coffee. Puts it beside my bed.
That's my alarm...can you believe it. I'm
so lucky and again I I work quite a bit
and I'm still a second breadwinner but that's how I wake up in the morning and Bill
knows it's kind of like the bath time
thing. He just knows there's the coffee
Heather. Allow me to have my time and I don't get
migraines anymore folks, so there you go.
I learned that you know I'm just gonna I
do this...I don't know what it does but it
kind of just moves everything around and
sometimes when I'm doing this on my head
I can almost hear that cracking and that
sort of thing. I do a lot of stretches
and then I just...I guess you can call it
meditating. I just...it's not an ommmm thing. I just listen. I listen and hear if
there's any inspiration. A lot of the
videos that you see are I've got a piece
of paper beside my bed and my oh my gosh
I think I'm gonna write about that and I
think I can do a video about that and
I'm gonna write a script about it and
and make sure that that gets on for the
awesome over 50 people and it's just
it's also a time for gratitude.  I
really sit back before I get up and I
think about all the things that I'm so
fortunate for and well maybe not all of
them I mean that would take a day and a
half but especially some of the recent
things and and then after I've done all
my stretches and everything I'm ready to
hit the day. And let me tell you
something if I miss this time in the
morning I'm just not myself. I'm just
absolutely not. So no matter what time
that is I think one of the big messages
here is it might be a different time of
day for you but just have... this is my little
serenity area right here at the corner
of my bed and you know make sure you've
got a little space for yourself and
maybe some special things that that mean
a lot to you and take that moment to
really listen, to be still...to kind of get
in touch with the universe and get your
attitude of gratitude. So you know
there's something else that happens at
this time as well and I kind of touched
on it a little bit. It's it's the
creative juices start coming out and the
inspiration and you might find in this
quiet still time that you have that that
you say... you know what...like I always
could sing or I always was really really
good in helping people and and you might
find your......I don't want to use the word
true calling because it doesn't have to
be that grand. It could be just something
where you know what...I think I'm gonna
volunteer and and you're fulfilling
something. It's a passion. It's a purpose
inside of you and for me and and Bill -
we found Awesome Over 50 and the idea is
let's just let people know that we
really believe that the next 40 years or
50 years or however long it's going to
be....can be absolutely awesome. It's not
the end of your life it's the beginning
of of each day and and that's what we
came across and I think a lot of it was
just being still and and and listening.
And another thing that Bill and I do and
this is so important....we make a fun list.
Once a year we make a fun list
it's....and I'll put the link to the
fun list up there for you....for all the
seasons,
so in the winter we might be saying hey
you know let's go skiing or in the
springtime let's go see a concert. You
know we went and saw last year...right
Bill....the Eagles and Bon Jovi and well
let me just think of some of the things
we did last year. We went to California and we just did so many
things and and took our four kids and
their boyfriends and girlfriends and had
this amazing dinner all together and
these are things that we plan. We plan
for fun and I think it's a great idea
that part of your me time is also fun
time. And don't forget to have some fun,
have a few laughs. So Bill, behind the
camera there, is also reminding me that a
lot of them have $0 beside them. They
don't cost us a thing. We also put on...go
bike riding three times in the
summertime, go to, go play some cribbage
and and those are the types of things
that don't...go hiking there's some great
parks around where we live and I just
sort of pack a lunch and away we go. So
yeah...you don't have to....it can
still be a fun list on a budget but
you're still having fun. So...so getting
back to this beauty video....yeah I really
do think it's a beauty video. I think
that my skin is softer. I think that you
know yeah I still have wrinkles and
everything but there's a sparkle behind
my eyes because I'm looking after myself
and I really truly believe that if
you're just trying to be that superwoman
- I don't know for your boss for your
kids for your husband for those
friends that you feel you have to live
up to. I'm just gonna say take a step
back. Take a step back and just take some
time for yourself and I think it's
really really important because after
all if you're trying to be all that for
your family especially and your husband
and everybody else...you're probably not
the happiest or the healthiest and you
gotta be happy. So talking about being
happy, another thing I did was I got a
dog. Didn't I Hurricane? I got a dog with
lots and lots of kisses in him and this
little guy...I don't know...he just really
brings down my blood pressure. And one of the reasons Bill and I didn't have a dog
you know for the longest time was Bill
was allergic to dogs and this was a guy
...you've got hair. He's a Yorkie and for some reason Bill's not allergic to him at all
and Bill you absolutely love this guy. Oh
yeah. He walks him three times a day
and we all love our little hurricane and
I know a lot of you out there you love
them too. So you know I think this was
one of my most important videos because
it's it's a message to just take care of
yourself and I really care about
everybody who's you know in this
community of ours. So I know you do too.
I just I just think it's important
that you stop and evaluate.....
really what you're doing to yourself
especially if you're over 50 and start
taking care. And talking about all those
wonderful people, all you subscribers,
you're the reason that we do this and if
you're not a subscriber hey you know
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Hurricane? And by the way this is a
beauty video. Every Friday I do the
beauty and fashion videos and every
Tuesday, travel, fun that sort of thing. So
thank you so long....so much rather for
tagging along with us. We really really
do appreciate it and I guess until next
time, look after yourself,
find that me-time, stay happy and healthy
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