r/askreddit people who have had
friends stab you in the back what is the
story ask two of my friends if they
wanted to live together in college then
one of them asked another person in our
friend group if he wanted to join in as
well then they asked another dot in
another and then once there were too
many people for one apartment they
dropped me out of it no longer friends
with any of them was kind of a wake-up
call though because I definitely gave
way too much of myself to those people
not knowing that I was the most
expendable one it really taught me not
to put others on a pedestal and respect
myself more and has since led to me
developing far more healthy
relationships that bring me a lot of
happiness same thing happened to me at
uni they all were viewing houses behind
my back telling me we were all still
going to live together I found out from
a mutual friend that they had already
found a house share and had plans to
move in the next few weeks not a single
one of them said sorry not sure why they
kept the lie up either all it did was
put me in an awkward position of trying
to find a house last minute it ended up
ok though there were a few people like
me the stragglers who all got together
and we ended up renting a beautiful
newly refurbished bed house never spoke
to those guys again never well made
plans to go see a movie with my friends
for my 16th birthday and planned it
weeks in advance everybody bailed the
day before of but I decided to still go
see the movie ran into my whole group of
friends leaving the movie theater while
buying popcorn damn I feel for yah I had
my 17th birthday and invited my mates to
go get a drink at a bar everyone
accepted but no one came after a few
hours of drinking alone and phones calls
not getting picked up I saw on Instagram
that they were on electro party having a
good time apparently they were pre
gaming without me and spontaneously
decided to go to this event and forgot
about me everyone said sorry but it
still haunts me didn't celebrate my
birthday ever since best friend stopped
talking to me after my dad died took the
whole friend group with him apparently I
was too emotional I was 13 having my
entire friend group walk away from me
when I
in such a shitty place stuck with me
forever this was similar to my
experience as well I lost my father at 9
yo and all but one of my friends ditched
because they didn't know how to deal
with a person in grief I'm still close
with the friend that stayed 21 years
later hope everything is going well now
those are true friends the ones that
stay with you and have your back
unconditionally when you are down in the
dirt the ones that see you in your
weakest and most vulnerable state and
are just there and help you get back on
track unconditionally keep them no
matter what and of course be there for
them in kind should the need ever arise
my mother told me she was sick of being
with dad she told me a bunch of things
he'd done which made her afraid of him
she asked me to tell a few of her close
friends about how she was being treated
because she wanted them to understand
why she was leaving then she decided to
stay with him so she told her friends
that she had no idea what was wrong with
me but they should pray for me because
it looked like I was going through
something
my own mother stabbed me in the back my
father did this to me miserable marriage
hated each other he asked me if he could
move in grudgingly agreed but made it
clear I wouldn't be taking sides cleared
out the spare room ready to go and next
thing he doesn't know what I'm talking
about and I must be experiencing mental
issues both of them are out of my life
now I had one friend I was bullied by
everyone at elementary school because my
friend would be bullied too when they
hung out with me at school we only
played outside of school one day a
popular kid asked to play with me during
recess I was ecstatic until after a
while they said you're not as bad as
friend said you are and that's how I
learned why I was bullied I relate
exclamation mark I had a whole group of
friends in h's who one day out of
nowhere turned against me and brought
the entire year group with them no one
spoke to me were extremely cold for a
good six months
I even got calls from one girl every day
from a blocked number to kill myself
it wasn't until a group project started
in the group said the exact same thing
wow you're really not like how X&Y said
you were they never told me what was
said so
this day I have no idea what the hell
happened there this happened to a friend
of mine we were friends in middle school
but then went to different high schools
we're nerds so we kind of expect abuse
but what he got there was vicious I
started dating a girl from his school
and upon finding out we were friends she
said why are you friends with him he's a
pedophile turns out he was actually not
a pedophile just gay someone spread this
rumor as a hyperbole because he came on
to her brother who's a year younger
people just abandoned all reason and
chose to believe the delicious gossip
weave my husband and I had a friend that
we helped get back on his feet
paid off some tickets he had got his
license reinstated hooked him up with a
solid connection for a reasonable well
running car to replace his beater and
gave him a place to live in a job
automotive repair he decided it was a
better choice to tell all our customers
we were overcharging them spoiler we
weren't and he'd do the jobs cheaper if
they'd bring it to him at his house this
was a short time after he moved out of
our house after never repaying anything
he owed us not that we'd asked broke my
heart
honestly this and past personal
experience is why I don't really help
people who have clearly burned several
bridges to success I fucked the shit out
of my own life and generally was a
bridge burning piece of shit to anyone
who tried to help me and it always put
me back where I started
with no appreciation I appreciate what I
have now more especially since it wasn't
just given to me and I have to sweat for
it I had one friend who honestly wasn't
my favorite person because she was
really manipulative but I never said
anything bad about her I found out that
she had been shit talking me to all of
our mutual friends and telling them all
that I did horrible things that I never
did ended up essentially being pushed
out of that entire friend group and it
ruined a lot of my high school
experience don't worry the thing is with
people like that they don't change
she'll keep doing that to people and
eventually anyone around her long enough
will see the pattern or be victim to it
themselves her talking crap will bite
her in the long run because it burns
bridges and is so badly I'm sorry your
high school experience was ruined high
school is usually pretty terrible
anyways
years ago when I did a Health Sciences
undergraduate degree most of the cohort
was determined to get into Medical
School our medical school program mainly
accepted students from only our
competitive undergraduate course due to
subject prerequisites we all knew each
other and were friendly hanging out
together in forming study groups many of
my friends were great
we shared tips resources practiced exams
and interviews together but there were a
handful who really wanted to get into
Medical School and since the program
ranks applicants mainly based on
undergraduate results the better your
friends perform the lower your ranking
is for selection so near application
time some of us would head off to the
university library to borrow out
textbooks to find chapters or page
numbers that the lecturer mentioned
would be on the exam and they would be
ripped out you'd go and find another
library copy of the textbook and that
page would be ripped out to all of them
totally removed in a hurry I didn't
believe that someone from our cohort did
it until interview practice began
students began obtaining copies of the
questions from previous years in lying
when others asked if they had it
I saw someone give a terrible awful
interview answer and the other student
would give them glowing feedback and
inform them they should say that
word-for-word during the interview it
was a shit show and a lot of
relationships fell apart or were never
the same again I had a best friend that
I knew for 16 years she got pregnant and
her parents tried to kick her out her
parents wanted her to get an abortion
but she refused one of our HS friends
told me someone should push her down a
flight of stairs so she can miscarry I
told her that's a very bad idea and
defended my best friend the next day the
principal came by my class to ask me if
I could attend a meeting about something
important if I didn't attend I was going
to be expelled when I arrived to the
meeting our shared friend claimed I was
going to shove my best friend down
flights of stairs so she can miscarry my
best friend believed her we stopped
talking after that holy shit that is
heartbreaking and I'm pista for you
had a good butt of mine who's the
Godfather of my son living with me and
my wife I travel a lot for work and was
out of the country for about six months
in the Middle East came back and found
out she was pregnant with twins and that
they weren't mine best friend for eight
years started sleeping with my
girlfriend later wife a week after I
introduced them took six years after my
son was born to find out they would meet
up a few times a month was a chance he
wasn't mine luckily he us how are there
so many guys out here with the same
story about their best friends
I'm so sorry that kind of betrayal is
worse than a spouse cheating with a
Rondo because then at least you have
your best friend's shoulder to cry on a
quiet girl I made friends with would
only sit with me in class just so she
can go snitch about me to my ex friends
she would literally sit next to me for
one or two classes randomly then go sit
with them later I called her out on it
after she came to sit next to me and
told her why do you even bother sitting
with me when we both know you're just
trying to get shit to talk about me with
them when I come back from the bathroom
you better go sit somewhere else I was
usually very quiet and that was the
first time I stood up for myself
I booked a table for six people to watch
a sports event at a bar I tell them so
all five friends say ok we will be there
no one shows up or even has the decency
call or text that they were not coming
similar thing happened to me a couple
years back I hosted a little Halloween
party at my place for 4 friends and even
though it was a month in the making all
of them flaked I don't know about you
but that really took the wind out of my
sails and I haven't hosted any get
together since sadface friend told me
they weren't doing anything for their
birthday on the day of their birthday
photos appeared on Facebook of them out
with the rest of our friends they're not
my friends anymore I had a guy that I
was kind of seeing I was going to take
him to a Japanese restaurant for his
birthday he told me he couldn't do
dinner because he was having dinner with
his family so we went to breakfast
instead later that day he posted about
having dinner with his girlfriend
I hoped out of that situation real quick
just completely ghosted him
friend only listened to me to tell all
of my secrets and spread rumors about me
fun times
sounds like my mom been very good
friends for over two years their
roommate moved out and they asked me if
I want to move into their spare room I
was very happy to live with my good
friends and I did everything I could to
be the best roommate possible after
three weeks they found another source of
income and kicked me out first they
offered to help me find another
accommodation but the next day they
changed their mind and just told me to
leave by the end of the month it was
seven days until the end of the month
they didn't spoke to me ever since when
we met somewhere in town they acted like
they'd never seen me before I have no
fucking idea what I did wrong in seventh
grade she wrote a 10 page letter on all
the reasons I should kill myself and had
all but one of my friends signed an
agreement after I confided in her that I
felt like something was wrong with me
early undiagnosed depression
go figure the day she gave it to me was
arguably the worst day of my life at the
point because my parents told my sister
and I that they were considering divorce
and my grandmother died had a similar
experience in primary school equivalent
to elementary was in a group of friends
and this particular person hated me and
started to spread rumors about me wrote
a letter that basically cut me off the
group and was ordered not to talk to the
group because the other friends had
signed the letter and they're the seed
of depression grew I had some friends
who were always talking crap about me
found out from another good friend and
one day it came to school in my
brand-new jeans that costed around 150
euros and they put glue on my chair
while I was in the bathroom I sat on it
I asked which one of them did it none of
them said a word we went to the
principal's office and these paws had
the balls to say that I put it there to
get them in trouble
their parents were called and I earned
around 200 euros and a new pair of jeans
told a friend a secret in high school I
suffer from major depression and social
anxiety don't tell anyone
I am seeing a therapist that took a lot
for me to say I was making progress
friend proxy did to tell the entire
class people thought I was crazy that's
high school
I stopped being friends with the few
friends I had I was more alone I
graduated high school with zero friends
thanks don't worry though in college I
blossomed into a bearded man with no
fears life has been swell ever since
yeah high school was a shit show for me
too
whole lot of shitty people backstabbing
just pettiness so many of these stories
are from high school bullshit it's not
at all surprising thanks for watching
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