Your girlfriend is telling you she
wants a open relationship What do
you do
Ok I've decided to construct an
actual response You should break up
with her because if you're resorting
to asking reddit then it's clear
it isn't for you From experience
you can't force a monogamous person
into a polyamory in the same
way you can't force a straight
person to be gay its just
not for you You're gonna resent
her for putting you in the
situation and shes going to resent
you for not understanding You should
end it while you still care
about each other Furthermore open relationships
need to be entered into with
enthusiasm on both parts because as
a polyam person people will be
rude as fuck People will hate
people will make snide remarks and
give their input on your relationship
It is a struggle not one
you should undergo unless you're 100
percent certain in your openness Secondly
you need to be realistic polyamorous
relationship require more communication and trust
than any monogamous relationship do your
girlfriend and you realistically have that
do you want it too Heck
no If you're really sure about
that then you should break up
I say this as someone who's
been in an open relationship for
many years Unlike a lot of
people in this thread I don't
think there's anything inherently wrong with
it but there's also nothing wrong
with not wanting one If you
and your partner don't want the
same type of relationship then it's
unlikely you'll ever really be happy
together either she'll have to settle
for a monogamous relationship that she
doesn't want or you'll have to
settle for a non-monogamous one you
don't want Either way someone's always
unhappy Best to break it off
now so that you can both
move on and find someone whose
desires are more compatible with yours
I had an open relationship with
a girl and it devolved into
a huge thing I didn't think
she'd fuck my brother I guess
it's my fault for getting mad
since we didn't say it was
off limits or anything but I
kinda thought it was a given
Yeah I'm afraid you need a
new brother
Tell her no I'd assume she's
either already cheating or is trying
to hook up with someone else
without being the bad guy I'd
talk to her about that and
if she wants to see other
people then we should just end
it I wouldn't want to see
anyone else and if she truly
loved me she would feel the
same Yeah I spent 7 hours
on the phone talking to her
and she will not change her
mind
Ask my wife if she's also
cool with it
Also just to add in she
cheat back in January on me
She cheated on you in January
and you're still with her Have
some self respect dude DUMP HER
Tell her she can have an
open relationship with the door You
don't get the stability of a
relationship while riding the cock carousel
I'd say I disagree If she
cheats on me or insists on
it I'd break up Honestly Even
if she didn't insist the very
fact that she wants an open
relationship to me is a dealbreaker
'cause that makes it real obvious
that she wants to have sex
with someone other than me That
kinda ruins the whole point of
an exclusive relationship
I'll say this one of my
friends had his long-term girlfriend suddenly
start directly bringing up the idea
of some kind of open relationship
and it turned out that she
very much already had a particular
guy in mind and had in
fact been very open with him
multiple times already obviously without her
boyfriend's knowledge She basically tried to
cover her own ass and get
away with it by trying to
get her boyfriend to either break
up with her and make it
his fault or unknowingly give her
behavior some kind of retroactive OK
I'm not saying the situation you
might be in is the same
but yeesh
You return her for a full
refund or trade in for a
new one Make sure to have
receipt on hand
