My husband's best friend is in love with
me.
I'm Paul Friedman. I founded The Marriage
Foundation
and let's talk about this and
this is one topic that
realistic practical advice will be the
most useful.
Isn't it true? So
first of all, calling this man
your husband's best friend is inaccurate
because you wouldn't know he was in love
with you, right, unless he told you.
What is he doing? What is he thinking?
How is that being a best friend?
Your loyalty is to your husband.
A best friend's loyalty should be to
their best
friend too so your husband
is imagining that his best friend
is loyal to him and he's not.
You're loyal to your husband. What do you
do
when you discover that your husband's
best friend
is a treacherous sob? You got to let
them know.
You got to let them know. You cannot hold
back.
You cannot contain this. You cannot
hold back just because he may have said
to you, "Now, don't tell
your husband." Then he's including you
in his treachery
and what if he's married and you're
friends.
You have to be a friend to your friend
and say, "Your husband is interested in me
and he said something."
Don't worry about losing this friendship.
It isn't friendship. Don't worry about
exposing him
to your husband because of the drama
it will cause. The drama is much
greater if you don't tell your husband.
Your loyalty to your husband
is critical. Let's put it in reverse.
What if your best friend
was in love with your husband and told
him?
Can you imagine if your husband didn't
tell you?
You can't put anyone ahead of your
husband.
He's the only one who counts. I call it
the sacred space of marriage.
There's just two of you in this
harmonious loving sphere
of love and that's what you should be
doing in your marriage.
You should be building the love, building
the happiness.
You should be feeling increased love and
devotion,
increase happiness every single day
and part of that means you don't let
outward outside influences
get in your way of that. And here
your "husband's best friend"
is laying this on you. Oh my God!
What a terrible human being he is.
Dump him from your Christmas card list,
tell your husband
and don't go near this guy anymore
and that's the advice, and it's
reasonable for you
to take this advice and unreasonable for
you not to.
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There's so much that you can get out of
your marriage.
These kind of things are sort of
outside of the sphere of marriage but
they attack us. It's a crazy world,
but I like to focus on the beauty of
marriage
on what you can do to make your marriage
increasingly happy every single day.
That love -- you should be
floating on it.
Your marriage should be the most amazing
place
in your life and for you and for your
husband
and there's ways to do that and you
ought to learn those ways.
Okay. Blessings to you! Blessings to your
husband
and blessings to your family! Thank you!
God bless!
